I feel like Adrienne was trying to say that her dad was a good father but not a good husband so she has a hard time separating the two roles so that’s why she doesn’t have the best relationship with him. Maybe? He probably did something bad to Adrienne’s mom like abused her physically so that’s why she can’t ever forget nor forgive him. She loves her mom way too much.
I was thinking the same thing. Maybe because she's on live television there was just certain details she didn't feel comfortable discussing or she perhaps truly couldn't remember some action from the past by him.
She had domestic violence from his dad... that's why she was trying to say it in the best way possible. She was trying to excuse him... maybe he did this because of this or this... she needs apologies from him. He has to show truly regret about what he did so she can finally heal from that pain that's more than physical. Domestic violence hurts in the soul.
It's a great Maya Angelou quote that she apparently used to say to Oprah all the time. And Oprah has shared it a lot over the years and called it one of the greatest lessons she ever learned in life. It's definitely a good one.
Believe it or not. All the pain and hurt depression en Anxiety brings with.. it will only make you stronger. The moment that you realise this, thats the moment you will overcome allot of what you are struggeling with. I go true the same, but i really believe that everything is for a reason, and that it will only make me stronger and happier IF i learn from it and accept it. Trust in your self and your power. And in god!!
Same. I've been struggling to forgive my mother AND father for YEARS!! I'm 28 and still am finally at the place to learn forgiveness and to know that parents are just people at the end of the day. Parents are your souls vessel into this world. And they were who they were before you were. Now putting things into perspective. I can no longer judge or be purely enraged with either of them any longer.
I wish Loni would talk more about her life. I feel like I could really relate to her alot if she opened up more, especially as a fellow project kid still working their way out of the hood. 🙏This segment. 😥
I felt the same. I remember dreading the weekends because it meant food was going to be a struggle. Lunch at school was definitely helpful for our family. I've been blessed enough to get out of the projects myself. I have to say that I used to be ashamed of having grown up in the projects but now I am proud of where I came from. Cockroaches in the mop bucket and having to deficate in a coffee can and empty it next to the side of our row because our toilet was broken and they would charge us for any repairs they needed to do to the apartment and clearly that wasn't an option, picking through public trash cans as kids for cans and bottles so our mom could buy bread...all that stuff has made me stronger as a person and taught me about what is important in life and how important that is to teach those things to my children.
I love how Loni told Adrienne that she was helping people by talking about her issues. As soon as she did and the camera showed a cross-section of the audience @9:05/9:06, there was a guy in the audience crying and wiping tears from his face. She was helping him reflect on his own life! just amazing!
I can't believe I'm just seeing this because I struggle with this but towards my mother , and it was a message I needed to hear for sure . I am balling .
U spoke to me loni...i was just speeding today and the cop got on the side of me n nicely told me to slow down..no tickets or nothin thank God..then i get home n watch this...message. Ill take heed
T Y lmao why you just wanna start something 😑 I’m always speeding too but I’m white. God. Why do people have to assign race to EVERY. LITTLE. THING. Stfu.
L Ol maybe because most black people don’t have good experiences with cops so they’re more cautious and shocked when they see a good cop?? Sometimes every little thing is related to race, idiot.
I love how Jeanie handled this given her past❤️❤️❤️❤️ love her so much. I just have a question though, how tf did they find traumatic memories in mice? Like what😂
Loni, you really spoke to me. In late november, I came across what i thought was a car accident and got off to help. When i walked over to the group of people, there was a young boy on the floor bleeding out and i quickly realized that none of the people surrounding him were his family or friends. It was all strangers that had pulled over to help. We stayed with him until the ambulance came and tried our best to stop the bleeding but we couldn't tell where it was coming from. we tried to just keep him still and i will never forget, he kept trying to get up for some reason. He was in shock but we were trying to get him to talk and i remember he told us his name and that he was 14. He was just a kid. The paramedics got there and took him and told us that it was a good sign that he was able to give them his name and age as well. He was talking and breathing when they took him so we were hopeful. He passed away en route to the hospital. He had lost too much blood. I had never seen that much blood in one place before. The police assumed it was a hit and run at first, but after an investigation, it was ruled to be a singular vehicle accident. the singular vehicle being the boys bicycle. He apparently hit a crack while riding his bike and went over the bicycle, lacerating his femoral artery with the brake and handlebar. It was a complete freak accident. I'm in contact with the family til this day and I drop off flowers at the crash site every once in a while. I always say a little prayer while driving by there and i have a photo of him that his family gave me at the funeral hung up in my room. I will never forget him, or his face, or that night. It reminded me how fragile life is but if i could just get the actual picture of the accident out of my head, it would make sleeping at night a little easier. thank you for sharing your story loni. I really want more girl talk episode that dive into deeper things like this. please please _please_ make some deeper girl talks
Wow - that must have been incredibly traumatizing... That would have been a horrifying and deeply disturbing situation for anyone to go through. The shock & trauma of seeing something like that had to have shaken you up something fierce, and my heart sincerely goes out to. With that said, can I just tell you Megan, that as a mother of two children myself (one of which happens to be a 14 year old boy as well) I would have been so grateful that God had put someone like you there in that moment to help my child in such a horrific and terrifying circumstance. The fact that you've stayed in touch with that boy's family speaks volumes about what a kind hearted person you are, and I'm SURE that you being there in that moment and especially being there after the fact - has had to have been a tremendous amount of comfort and solace to his parents. Traumatic situations like that are incredibly hard to properly process, let alone fully get through - in fact, it can rarely be done without the help and support of a good therapist. I'm sending you my thoughts and prayers - I can only imagine how harrowing that memory must be. God Bless You.
This is a very touching story and sad at the same time = It brings tears to my eyes = I pray that U will find peace and to know that U did everything that U could for him = U also touched my heart when U Mention that U attend his funeral and that U got a picture from his family = Ur story is also also helping people = Thank U for Sharing
Kelley Broussard thank you so much for your response. i'm sorry it just seeing it now. it gives me peace to know that another mother would have been thankful for me to have been there. i have healed a lot after this, and even saved a woman's life after a hit and run outside my house (similar situation, much better outcome). traumatizing experience but at least i served a purpose to positively impact someone's life in some way. god bless you and thank you for your support ❤️
Me and my dad too. We don't talk about anything hardly and when we are alone it's a little awkward. I love my dad but there is a weird, disconnected vibe to our relationship.
I know this show is called "the Real" and it's not like other topics of discussion haven't been real, but this conversation got real ReaL! There was such vulnerability, transparency, and honest reflection. No humor to break the awkwardness, just genuine expression. Perhaps my favorite to date!
My heart goes out to Adrienne because we are on the same boat. I love my dad so much, he's an amazing man but he's done some things that I would I could forget and see him in the light that I used to. I've tried talking to him, but he is a real "sweep it under the rug" kind of guy and he just doesn't seem to know how to be honest when I do try and talk to him so, it's something I have to deal with and find a way to work through on my own but I know I'll never see him in the same light again.
Maybe we should stop commenting on Adrienne’s daddy issues. She is being very open about where her love of older men comes from. We don’t really need to explore that further.
Tamara’s last words hit home. He’s just loving you the way he knows how to. I too grew up with a dad who was a bit older. There wasn’t any real connection between him and I. He was a bit old school so it was hard to communicate and have a mutual understanding between us to. Nevertheless, he always made sure that I had a roof over my head, stressed the importance of education, and had clean clothes on my back.
I think it would be childhood traumas for me. Unsure if this plays a part in my anxiety as an adult at times now but I know physiologically that our childhood traumas play a HUGE part in our adult life no matter if you remember it vividly or not.
Yes it does love sorry you went through I went through a traumatic childhood as well still recovering as an adult with Gods help I will make it, so will you God bless
Ziomara M-V it’s all a part of the journey. I’m honestly grateful for it all. I thank God everyday for where I am and where I’m going and thanks for the encouragement sweetheart. Blessings to you all 😊✨
Loni, you have just moved steps away from that memory. Keep talking about it and you will release him from your memory. It was not your job to save him, but for your words to save lives from a different perspective. God bless you.
Love how real and raw Adrienne was here... God will heal your pain in Jesus’ name Adrienne. Continue to honour and love your Dad and ask God for the conversation you need to have with your Dad to happen. This really touched me...
I would like to erase everything that caused my depression... yes some memories make you a stronger person. But for me they’ve made me weaker emotionally and mentally.
Watching this after knowing Jeanie is a victim of child molestation/abuse and seeing it on her face. That’s deep, you really never know what people go through
He was a great man who loved his children and wife unconditionally. I was being stubborn and we fought then a couple days later he was gone. I never had a chance to apologize.
Such an EMOTIONAL episode, really brings back those really dark bad memories that I just want to erase but cant, this episode brought tears to my eyes, not something that I want to mention on social media especially when it has to do with RAPE, Its not something women like talking about, although it happened 10 years ago still to this day haunts me😣😣😢😭😢😭
Charity Ik this is an old comment but I have the same habit as an adult and No one ever abused me or anything but it was mostly being yelled at. Apparently it's called dissociation when as adult, I zone out when someone raises their voice at me or I flinch whilst having a breakdown. Idk if that will ever change!
I love these women! They are so inspiring and helpful and help our lives so much!! As my mom left my dad, I don't have a female figure in my life. These inspiring women are MY female figures. Keep doing what you do best!!! ♥
I literally love this show so much. I’m currently battling depression and anxiety and I’ve become a loner. By choice on the daily I talk to no one at all. But through watching this show I’ve become balanced. Love you guys
Adrienne really spoke to me when she was talking about her dad. My older sister has a really good relationship with our dad and most of the time I want a piece of that action. At this point it’s been really hard to open up to him. My father and I are very emotional and we together have never been emotional with one another. When I speak to him I put on this brave face like nothing is wrong, there is so much more I want to say and I don’t even know where to begin.
I totally get Adrienne’s point. Sometimes you just wish you hadn’t seen certain moments, because at times it can completely diminish the best aspects of a person. Especially when it happens during your impressionable years! I have that same story and other family will say let it go it happened so long ago but I just can’t and that memory lives on forever!
Such a deep question. Every response from these women touched me in such an emotional way, in different ways too. I appreciate these ladies sharing their real life stories and what they went through in a time in their lives. ❤️
OMG 😭 THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORIES LADIES, IM SOBBING. Adrienne, I’ve been the same way with my mom all my life all my life. We’ve always been more like acquaintances than mother and daughter. Thank you A, for helping me move towards the first step with my mother. Te Quiero ♥️. Loni!! I was in a car accident 5 years ago that almost killed me...it was a long recovery. I still sometimes wish I could take that memory away, but it’s taught me so much. THANK YOU Jeannie!!! Your words are life changing always. Tamara, my cancer sister..THIS IS THE BEST TALKSHOW on the internet. Thank you ladies ♥️💫
This got deep so quick! I really hope Adrienne and her dad can overcome the emotional walls that they built around each other, hope Loni can recover from the PTSD that comes with seeing someone die in front of you
Awww man...it was really nice to see Adrianne cry and get emotional about her personal life. I can totally relate to how she feels and what’s she’s saying. It was really touching. Such a nice episode. So much realness 💕💓💕
This was a beautiful episode. I loved everyone’s ability to be open and non-judgemental. Reading the comments on this post is really eye opening. Most people would erase a childhood memory or trauma. My parents were functioning alcoholics. They were able to maintain their jobs but as soon as they would get home everyday they would get blackout drunk. They became physically abusive to each other (never to us) but me and my siblings had to see and intervene in the verbal and physical altercations every single night. Cops were often involved. They were very emotionally neglectful and they could never remember the trauma they put us through the next morning. It was a living hell. I did not have a normal family environment. I never had friends over and my parents never went to any of my school functions. I was also the baby in the family, 4 years younger than my sibling so when it came to me they were very absent and checked out as parents. It has emotionally scarred me to this day because during the day I have a good relationship with my mother when she is sober but it’s a Dr. Jekyll Mr. Hyde situation where they became different people. My father has passed on from a brain injury. He was drunk and fell stumbling down the road. I never got closure with him. I hope one day to have an open and honest conversation with my mom about the way I was raised and get some closure because it always feels like the elephant in the room. If you read this thank you for taking the time to listen to my story. Have a good day.
Londonlocgirl Londonlocgirl the thing is: where does the hair in the bun come from? Because nothing is being pulled from the front and in the back it is all there. I know it’s not really her hair but that is some surrealist weave concept 🥴
I already have a terrible memory 🙄 but through the good, the bad, the UGLY (watching my father die in front of me, domestic violence, being taken away from my parents as a child etc) I wouldn’t want to erase anything.. it’s all helped/helping me grow 💕 thank you ladies for speaking on this topic. Well wishes, positive push-through vibes to everyone in the comments.
I love when the shows are emotional like this it’s always nice to see their struggles too we are all human and no one is perfect. I love watching the real it always puts me in a great place and listening to these intelligent ladies speak on their walks on life is so inspiring
This was an amazing girl chat! I have several childhood and adult traumas that still affect me to this day causing anxiety and depression. But if I can erase one memory, it will be probably when I was 7 years old, my dog had puppies. Most of them died from Parvo disease, one got run over by a car and the last one, my favorite one, Bololoy....I remember him dying in the dog house, he was white, staring at me and made this wailing puppy dying sound...then my dad, without thinking that I would be horrified (this was in the Phillipines), dug a hole in the yard, and with that same shovel pick up Bololoy and walked past me while I was on the steps....so I was 7 completely horrified and watched my last puppy's dead body on top of a shovel on his way to a hole in the front yard.....I'm a grown adult now in my 30s and have never had a dog ever since....we've had family pets and dogs but I've never had my own ever again and probably never will....
😭😢😢I love animals so much but I can understand your position. Even if you don't have your own pet, is it difficult for you to play with them if you visit a pet store?
@@TheRetroWoman80 I can play with them. I just can't have my own pet because when it dies, it's too sad for me. I just don't want to put myself in that position ever again.
@@udeleon Oh ok. I know love, that is serious pain just like it would be for any human you love and lose. They are some lovely adorable beings. Just keep loving them and dealing with them in the happiest way that you can for your well being😊😊
This show gets real! Such bravery for these ladies who could choose to hide behind a celebrity facade but instead choose to be vulnerable for the sake of their own healing but also someone else who needed to witness this and know they are not facing life matters alone in this world. I commend such selfless vulnerability❤️
Adrienne you just touched me with this... I feel the exact same way about my father and we're a lot like you and your dad. But ever since the divorce with my mom and him and everything I witnessed and how he treated me and my siblings during that time I still have this hurt inside of me it's been there for almost 11years now and I can't cope with it. I don't know how to talk to people anymore... I feel lost at times and I know I need to get this off my chest but I don't know how
Watching u girls struggling to explain ur past makes me cry cos I'm the same and still struggling with my past. Each time when I remember if feels like yesterday 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Oh yeah i know this old. But rewatching this segment made me relate to Adrienne and her rocky relationship with her father. My dad is a good man but there are moments that he is angry and frustrated for god knows what reason. Those moments made me develop anxiety and i also probably have some depression due to other things i won't get into. And i am the same way this is probably the reason why i don't really talk to him much. Unless if he needs help on something. Nowadays i do try to have a conversation with him. Before he would lecture me always because he didn't know how to speak with his children. Yes i understand he is doing the best he could to be a father but he's gotta have to listen to me. This is why im afraid that we will buttheads again. So i totally get where A is coming from.
ik that they were there to witness something that they can change and advocate for to make a difference in the real world...simply warning others to slow down or advocating for health and safety or spreading awareness about trafficking... can really make a difference and God chose you to be the tool of spreading that message....
I understand Adrienne so much. papi left us when I was 1. but he was 19 so now that I'm at that age I understand him a little more but like she said, there are some things I wish I didn't see so i would hold it against him. and i love my dad so much, we are so alike.
I feel like there some moments in my life that I don’t want to forget necessarily but I just don’t want to remember ! Like I can forgive & sometimes want to forget but sometimes the situations we go through affect us in either s positive or negative way & im grateful for both because I’m the person I am because of them
Oh my god when Loni spoke about the DJ. I got chills! 5 years ago as me and my husband where about to go to sleep we heard a car going about 100 mph in a 25mph area and then a second later we heard a big crash. We looked at each other and got up fast and got in the car. He kept asking me if that was a good idea and I told him yesss bc what if that individual needed help. As we passed the curve (unless you live around, you know that that curve is there but if you don’t or your under the influence you can easily crash or something) First thing we saw was the car all in pieces against the big tree. I got close as my husband turned the high beams on and I will never forget that scene. I panicked, that adrenaline rush, then on stop sobbing, I could not believe I was seeing a dead man. I wanted to cry but it wouldn’t come out. I just kept sobbing uncontrollably. Husband called 911 . Nobody around came out since most people that lived around where elderly people. Something I will never forget
I can't thank Adrienne enough for sharing her parental scarring memories. I have some too and I tend to just bury them deep down, which leaves me with trauma I face when it comes to romantic relationships. As a father, I would love to dream of a man that loved and cared for my mother, but it's almost as if I have to look for a man who is the complete opposite which is hard to do when all you've ever known is your father.
My life has been traumatic af & I'm amazed I'm still here & it has made me incredibly appreciative. For the longest time I've wanted to erase all of it, but it truly made me a stronger person.
I know Adrienne did not provide many details, but I get it. I have the same type of relationship with my dad currently and for the past several years, but I still hold him in my highest regard.
I feel what Lonnie has been through. I work as a medic and I came up on an accident one day where a man was ejected from a vehicle... and then run over by a semi truck. And there was nothing I could do at that point. His body was in pieces across a 50ft stretch of highway. And I’ll never forget those images. Every single time I pass that stretch of road in my city. I think of him. And his family. ❤️ I will never ever forget what I saw that day
This is probably my favourite clip from The Real, no doubt. I felt the raw emotion. And I applaud you guys for showing us your vulnerable sides. Authenticity
Y’all got me crying for real I literally have the same problem with my father so I understand. I’m exactly like my father and it made us butt heads throughout my life. We finally now are working through our relationship, and it’s getting better but you both have to put in the work. It really isn’t easy at all. Tamera said it right in the end there, “he was doing the best he could, and loving you the way he knew how.”My father made mistakes, but it can get better! ❤️ hope Adrienne can work things out with hers too. Dealing with that pain is rough and raw. Sometimes the ones who are supposed to love you the most can hurt you the most!
Yeeeeasssssss Adrienne! I felt that 100% and I don’t like my dad and I would put him on blast. I’m so glad I’m not a TV host. I don’t like talking about that subject either. My mom was an amazing person that deserved soooo much better.
Adrienne reminded me of a quote: “Your healing lies in the places where you refuse to go.”
Word!
Damn I love this quote
Love this quote ❤
I feel like Adrienne was trying to say that her dad was a good father but not a good husband so she has a hard time separating the two roles so that’s why she doesn’t have the best relationship with him. Maybe? He probably did something bad to Adrienne’s mom like abused her physically so that’s why she can’t ever forget nor forgive him. She loves her mom way too much.
I was thinking the same thing. Maybe because she's on live television there was just certain details she didn't feel comfortable discussing or she perhaps truly couldn't remember some action from the past by him.
U r right I felt the same.
She had domestic violence from his dad... that's why she was trying to say it in the best way possible. She was trying to excuse him... maybe he did this because of this or this... she needs apologies from him. He has to show truly regret about what he did so she can finally heal from that pain that's more than physical. Domestic violence hurts in the soul.
jotam J or to her
jotam J I agree jotam j
I love when Adrienne says "if someone shows you who they are, believe them" 🙂
I Can't help think that she is talking about Kiely and the Williams Family 3LW
troy bowman I thought she was taking about Lenny
It's a great Maya Angelou quote that she apparently used to say to Oprah all the time. And Oprah has shared it a lot over the years and called it one of the greatest lessons she ever learned in life. It's definitely a good one.
A Maya Angleou quote
I would erase away the memories that caused me to have anxiety and depression
Believe it or not. All the pain and hurt depression en Anxiety brings with.. it will only make you stronger. The moment that you realise this, thats the moment you will overcome allot of what you are struggeling with. I go true the same, but i really believe that everything is for a reason, and that it will only make me stronger and happier IF i learn from it and accept it. Trust in your self and your power. And in god!!
Same except school is the cause and I can't escape school
Same
I pray that God helps you anxiety and depression can really hurt us but you can do it God bless
Me too!
Adrienne doesn’t get emotional a lot on this show and this was beautiful to see.
Michelle P *YES, exactly* 🥺🤗
I could NEVER EVER relate more to Adrienne on her father situation 😣
Same. I've been struggling to forgive my mother AND father for YEARS!! I'm 28 and still am finally at the place to learn forgiveness and to know that parents are just people at the end of the day. Parents are your souls vessel into this world. And they were who they were before you were. Now putting things into perspective. I can no longer judge or be purely enraged with either of them any longer.
Me too
SAME HERE. same exact feelings, i’d like them to dig deeper. i wanna heal and reach out to my dad. he’s amazing
Same.
Same we used to be close but ever sense I moved out our whole dynamic changed
I wish Loni would talk more about her life. I feel like I could really relate to her alot if she opened up more, especially as a fellow project kid still working their way out of the hood. 🙏This segment. 😥
SlayAnna I absolutely agree!!!!
Same here
I felt the same. I remember dreading the weekends because it meant food was going to be a struggle. Lunch at school was definitely helpful for our family. I've been blessed enough to get out of the projects myself. I have to say that I used to be ashamed of having grown up in the projects but now I am proud of where I came from. Cockroaches in the mop bucket and having to deficate in a coffee can and empty it next to the side of our row because our toilet was broken and they would charge us for any repairs they needed to do to the apartment and clearly that wasn't an option, picking through public trash cans as kids for cans and bottles so our mom could buy bread...all that stuff has made me stronger as a person and taught me about what is important in life and how important that is to teach those things to my children.
And you know why she doesn't because people would pick it apart
I never cry but when Loni cries, I cry 😭
I love how Loni told Adrienne that she was helping people by talking about her issues. As soon as she did and the camera showed a cross-section of the audience @9:05/9:06, there was a guy in the audience crying and wiping tears from his face. She was helping him reflect on his own life! just amazing!
Yes
I can't believe I'm just seeing this because I struggle with this but towards my mother , and it was a message I needed to hear for sure . I am balling .
@@isaalva me too never really could’ve put it words , it was something very internal
@@isaalva OMG SAME .. struck way to close to home
U spoke to me loni...i was just speeding today and the cop got on the side of me n nicely told me to slow down..no tickets or nothin thank God..then i get home n watch this...message. Ill take heed
T Y lmao why you just wanna start something 😑 I’m always speeding too but I’m white. God. Why do people have to assign race to EVERY. LITTLE. THING. Stfu.
God bless prayers and blessings!
God will reveal it ti you! And im sire the driver can NEVER forvgive him or herself again either. You never want to be in either situation. Take heed.
L Ol maybe because most black people don’t have good experiences with cops so they’re more cautious and shocked when they see a good cop?? Sometimes every little thing is related to race, idiot.
A E exactly
Although it's an old girl chat, I love how its a longer video than the typical 2.30 min clip Post more full videos, please
Yesss please!!!!!
Amen
I love how Jeanie handled this given her past❤️❤️❤️❤️ love her so much. I just have a question though, how tf did they find traumatic memories in mice? Like what😂
Adrienne feels guilty for taking her mom’s side in her parents’ issue. Forgive yourself, Adrienne! You didn’t know better
Loni, you really spoke to me. In late november, I came across what i thought was a car accident and got off to help. When i walked over to the group of people, there was a young boy on the floor bleeding out and i quickly realized that none of the people surrounding him were his family or friends. It was all strangers that had pulled over to help. We stayed with him until the ambulance came and tried our best to stop the bleeding but we couldn't tell where it was coming from. we tried to just keep him still and i will never forget, he kept trying to get up for some reason. He was in shock but we were trying to get him to talk and i remember he told us his name and that he was 14. He was just a kid. The paramedics got there and took him and told us that it was a good sign that he was able to give them his name and age as well. He was talking and breathing when they took him so we were hopeful. He passed away en route to the hospital. He had lost too much blood. I had never seen that much blood in one place before. The police assumed it was a hit and run at first, but after an investigation, it was ruled to be a singular vehicle accident. the singular vehicle being the boys bicycle. He apparently hit a crack while riding his bike and went over the bicycle, lacerating his femoral artery with the brake and handlebar. It was a complete freak accident. I'm in contact with the family til this day and I drop off flowers at the crash site every once in a while. I always say a little prayer while driving by there and i have a photo of him that his family gave me at the funeral hung up in my room. I will never forget him, or his face, or that night. It reminded me how fragile life is but if i could just get the actual picture of the accident out of my head, it would make sleeping at night a little easier. thank you for sharing your story loni. I really want more girl talk episode that dive into deeper things like this. please please _please_ make some deeper girl talks
Wow - that must have been incredibly traumatizing... That would have been a horrifying and deeply disturbing situation for anyone to go through. The shock & trauma of seeing something like that had to have shaken you up something fierce, and my heart sincerely goes out to. With that said, can I just tell you Megan, that as a mother of two children myself (one of which happens to be a 14 year old boy as well) I would have been so grateful that God had put someone like you there in that moment to help my child in such a horrific and terrifying circumstance. The fact that you've stayed in touch with that boy's family speaks volumes about what a kind hearted person you are, and I'm SURE that you being there in that moment and especially being there after the fact - has had to have been a tremendous amount of comfort and solace to his parents. Traumatic situations like that are incredibly hard to properly process, let alone fully get through - in fact, it can rarely be done without the help and support of a good therapist. I'm sending you my thoughts and prayers - I can only imagine how harrowing that memory must be. God Bless You.
This is a very touching story and sad at the same time = It brings tears to my eyes = I pray that U will find peace and to know that U did everything that U could for him = U also touched my heart when U Mention that U attend his funeral and that U got a picture from his family = Ur story is also also helping people = Thank U for Sharing
Kelley Broussard thank you so much for your response. i'm sorry it just seeing it now. it gives me peace to know that another mother would have been thankful for me to have been there. i have healed a lot after this, and even saved a woman's life after a hit and run outside my house (similar situation, much better outcome). traumatizing experience but at least i served a purpose to positively impact someone's life in some way. god bless you and thank you for your support ❤️
Dee C thank you for your response. i have found a lot of peace since i posted that. i still have his picture. thank you for your prayers ❤️
Adrienne 's relationship with her dad sounds exactly like mine -_-
Clayton Derby it’s like that with me and my mom. We are so much alike it’s hard to talk to each other because we’ll disagree or argue.
@@ashtonwilk3758 samee i would want to delete memoriesof my toxic af fam ..
Me and my dad too. We don't talk about anything hardly and when we are alone it's a little awkward. I love my dad but there is a weird, disconnected vibe to our relationship.
@@user-my8uf1yh5m same
This was very emotional and deep. I hope that Adrienne can talk to her dad one day.
I feel Adrienne 100% on this, I know exactly what she's saying.
I know this show is called "the Real" and it's not like other topics of discussion haven't been real, but this conversation got real ReaL! There was such vulnerability, transparency, and honest reflection. No humor to break the awkwardness, just genuine expression. Perhaps my favorite to date!
My heart goes out to Adrienne because we are on the same boat. I love my dad so much, he's an amazing man but he's done some things that I would I could forget and see him in the light that I used to. I've tried talking to him, but he is a real "sweep it under the rug" kind of guy and he just doesn't seem to know how to be honest when I do try and talk to him so, it's something I have to deal with and find a way to work through on my own but I know I'll never see him in the same light again.
Kae Rochelle same here girl
Kae Rochelle you said it perfectly
Maybe we should stop commenting on Adrienne’s daddy issues. She is being very open about where her love of older men comes from. We don’t really need to explore that further.
Tamara’s last words hit home. He’s just loving you the way he knows how to. I too grew up with a dad who was a bit older. There wasn’t any real connection between him and I. He was a bit old school so it was hard to communicate and have a mutual understanding between us to. Nevertheless, he always made sure that I had a roof over my head, stressed the importance of education, and had clean clothes on my back.
I. Would erase my childhood molestions....my diagnosed ptsd has made my life HELL since the memories hunted me since age 6
I am praying for you and that GOD heals you
I'm sorry to hear that
Im so sorry❤️
akos ua me too 🤦🏾♀️
akos ua same❤️
I think it would be childhood traumas for me. Unsure if this plays a part in my anxiety as an adult at times now but I know physiologically that our childhood traumas play a HUGE part in our adult life no matter if you remember it vividly or not.
The Thirty Journey I feel the same way. Also, some adult bad decisions that I made, I would like to erase.😶
Yeah I have a few memories that I would like to forget.
Yes it does love sorry you went through I went through a traumatic childhood as well still recovering as an adult with Gods help I will make it, so will you God bless
Ziomara M-V it’s all a part of the journey. I’m honestly grateful for it all. I thank God everyday for where I am and where I’m going and thanks for the encouragement sweetheart. Blessings to you all 😊✨
I can relate because for me it doesn't feel that long ago!
Loni, you have just moved steps away from that memory. Keep talking about it and you will release him from your memory. It was not your job to save him, but for your words to save lives from a different perspective. God bless you.
Love how real and raw Adrienne was here... God will heal your pain in Jesus’ name Adrienne. Continue to honour and love your Dad and ask God for the conversation you need to have with your Dad to happen. This really touched me...
Adrienne really spoke well here. Loved what she said about memories are there for us to learn in this life journey!!
I would like to erase everything that caused my depression... yes some memories make you a stronger person. But for me they’ve made me weaker emotionally and mentally.
If that's the case, I'd basically have no memories. I've always had depression
Same here!
Watching this after knowing Jeanie is a victim of child molestation/abuse and seeing it on her face. That’s deep, you really never know what people go through
I'm such an emotional butterfly. Cried my eyes out. Could relate to Adrienne & Jeannie's stories.
I would erase the last conversation I had with my dad... He died thinking I hated him.
Tabbi Sowden I am so sorry
He was a great man who loved his children and wife unconditionally. I was being stubborn and we fought then a couple days later he was gone. I never had a chance to apologize.
Tabbi Sowden there is a part of him that knew that you do not hate him and that you were just being stubborn.
One thing about parents they understand kids are emotional and never hold it against their kids.
I’m so sorry! I think he knew you didn’t hate him, parents know our true feelings!
Adrienne never gets emotional Awee babe ❤️❤️
Such an EMOTIONAL episode, really brings back those really dark bad memories that I just want to erase but cant, this episode brought tears to my eyes, not something that I want to mention on social media especially when it has to do with RAPE, Its not something women like talking about, although it happened 10 years ago still to this day haunts me😣😣😢😭😢😭
I bet it does. Hugs😚 You have a right not to air it all. I wish continued healing, love and growth in your life journey!
🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️❤️
I wouldn't want to erase a memory everything that happens to you good or bad teaches you something
My thing is when our minds black out trauma our bodies never forget.
Vtomorra True. Learned that the hard way.
i agree..and it creates a disconnection between your mind and your body
that leads to more confusion and stress in my opinion
Is that why i flinch
@@charity9660 its possible
Charity Ik this is an old comment but I have the same habit as an adult and No one ever abused me or anything but it was mostly being yelled at. Apparently it's called dissociation when as adult, I zone out when someone raises their voice at me or I flinch whilst having a breakdown. Idk if that will ever change!
I love Loni she’s the best such a sweet heart
This was one of the most powerful moments that I've witnessed on the real.
yep. No molestation, no deadbeat Dad. The rest i can live with but if i can get rid of that... please, Lord !
Sam Eym Bless you❤️
I love these women! They are so inspiring and helpful and help our lives so much!! As my mom left my dad, I don't have a female figure in my life. These inspiring women are MY female figures. Keep doing what you do best!!! ♥
I literally love this show so much. I’m currently battling depression and anxiety and I’ve become a loner. By choice on the daily I talk to no one at all. But through watching this show I’ve become balanced. Love you guys
Tam is so sweet and always listens and gives good advice
I miss this kind of vulnerability and rawness. I miss the old The Real Daytime 💔💔💔
Adrienne is such a beautiful person. I can totally relate.
Adrienne really spoke to me when she was talking about her dad. My older sister has a really good relationship with our dad and most of the time I want a piece of that action. At this point it’s been really hard to open up to him. My father and I are very emotional and we together have never been emotional with one another. When I speak to him I put on this brave face like nothing is wrong, there is so much more I want to say and I don’t even know where to begin.
I love Tamera, but that hair...
I keep wondering what's the use of that bun
I totally get Adrienne’s point. Sometimes you just wish you hadn’t seen certain moments, because at times it can completely diminish the best aspects of a person. Especially when it happens during your impressionable years! I have that same story and other family will say let it go it happened so long ago but I just can’t and that memory lives on forever!
I love seeing Loni so vulnerable. I learn from her ❤️
Such a deep question. Every response from these women touched me in such an emotional way, in different ways too. I appreciate these ladies sharing their real life stories and what they went through in a time in their lives. ❤️
OMG 😭 THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORIES LADIES, IM SOBBING. Adrienne, I’ve been the same way with my mom all my life all my life. We’ve always been more like acquaintances than mother and daughter. Thank you A, for helping me move towards the first step with my mother. Te Quiero ♥️. Loni!! I was in a car accident 5 years ago that almost killed me...it was a long recovery. I still sometimes wish I could take that memory away, but it’s taught me so much. THANK YOU Jeannie!!! Your words are life changing always. Tamara, my cancer sister..THIS IS THE BEST TALKSHOW on the internet. Thank you ladies ♥️💫
Just keep getting busy in prayer. That's the way to push through the pain. painful tears.
Thank you Adrienne you helped me. Hope one day I can have this conversation with my dad .
This got deep so quick! I really hope Adrienne and her dad can overcome the emotional walls that they built around each other, hope Loni can recover from the PTSD that comes with seeing someone die in front of you
This was the deepest I've seen them ALL go, at once. 😥🙏💕
Listen, I never cry when others cry... especially people I don’t know personally.... but my girl Loni, gets me everytime... I love you Loni
Awww man...it was really nice to see Adrianne cry and get emotional about her personal life. I can totally relate to how she feels and what’s she’s saying. It was really touching.
Such a nice episode. So much realness 💕💓💕
Loni made me cry today. Similar childhood here. We got this Loni!!
This was a beautiful episode. I loved everyone’s ability to be open and non-judgemental.
Reading the comments on this post is really eye opening. Most people would erase a childhood memory or trauma. My parents were functioning alcoholics. They were able to maintain their jobs but as soon as they would get home everyday they would get blackout drunk. They became physically abusive to each other (never to us) but me and my siblings had to see and intervene in the verbal and physical altercations every single night. Cops were often involved. They were very emotionally neglectful and they could never remember the trauma they put us through the next morning. It was a living hell. I did not have a normal family environment. I never had friends over and my parents never went to any of my school functions. I was also the baby in the family, 4 years younger than my sibling so when it came to me they were very absent and checked out as parents. It has emotionally scarred me to this day because during the day I have a good relationship with my mother when she is sober but it’s a Dr. Jekyll Mr. Hyde situation where they became different people.
My father has passed on from a brain injury. He was drunk and fell stumbling down the road. I never got closure with him. I hope one day to have an open and honest conversation with my mom about the way I was raised and get some closure because it always feels like the elephant in the room.
If you read this thank you for taking the time to listen to my story. Have a good day.
I am so sorry Loni, that you saw that. But that just shows what a warm person u are.
Aww Adrienne making me run a river here 😢
I’m definitely going through what Adrienne is going through 😞
Habit developed at a young age. Anxiety panic attacks, bullied in school like I wish I can go back and erase these things.
Loni you have the biggest purest heart and I relate to what Adrienne’s saying
WHY AM I CRYING TOO😩
You helped me Adrienne. Thank you.
Tamara’s hair makes no sense
verysmartname I’m Dead 😂😭
But it's true stuck a bun in the middle of nowhere!👀🙄 why??🤔
Londonlocgirl Londonlocgirl the thing is: where does the hair in the bun come from? Because nothing is being pulled from the front and in the back it is all there. I know it’s not really her hair but that is some surrealist weave concept 🥴
I was looking for q comment like this. It really is out of the blue on her head.
Lmaooooo I was just saying this. Why didn’t any of the women let her know she looks cray 😂 love her though
I already have a terrible memory 🙄 but through the good, the bad, the UGLY (watching my father die in front of me, domestic violence, being taken away from my parents as a child etc) I wouldn’t want to erase anything.. it’s all helped/helping me grow 💕 thank you ladies for speaking on this topic. Well wishes, positive push-through vibes to everyone in the comments.
I'm very upset that those things happened to you but I am also so happy you didn't get defeated by your life circumstances. Good for you love!
I love when the shows are emotional like this it’s always nice to see their struggles too we are all human and no one is perfect. I love watching the real it always puts me in a great place and listening to these intelligent ladies speak on their walks on life is so inspiring
Wow Loni...you were so deep in this segment. I appreciate that
This episode got real deep. Much love to all you ladies for sharing with us! ♥️
This is my favourite episode. It's so real and it makes me so emotional! And it's so relatable it just breaks my heart
Am✋ I the only one who gets like super excited when I hear "who's ready for some girl chat"❤❤❤❤❤❤❤.
That one bun on Tamera's head is giving me anxiety. It looks like it would fall off.
Damien Garbutt lmao!!
someone had to say it🤣🤣
This was an amazing girl chat! I have several childhood and adult traumas that still affect me to this day causing anxiety and depression. But if I can erase one memory, it will be probably when I was 7 years old, my dog had puppies. Most of them died from Parvo disease, one got run over by a car and the last one, my favorite one, Bololoy....I remember him dying in the dog house, he was white, staring at me and made this wailing puppy dying sound...then my dad, without thinking that I would be horrified (this was in the Phillipines), dug a hole in the yard, and with that same shovel pick up Bololoy and walked past me while I was on the steps....so I was 7 completely horrified and watched my last puppy's dead body on top of a shovel on his way to a hole in the front yard.....I'm a grown adult now in my 30s and have never had a dog ever since....we've had family pets and dogs but I've never had my own ever again and probably never will....
😭😢😢I love animals so much but I can understand your position. Even if you don't have your own pet, is it difficult for you to play with them if you visit a pet store?
@@TheRetroWoman80 I can play with them. I just can't have my own pet because when it dies, it's too sad for me. I just don't want to put myself in that position ever again.
@@udeleon Oh ok. I know love, that is serious pain just like it would be for any human you love and lose. They are some lovely adorable beings. Just keep loving them and dealing with them in the happiest way that you can for your well being😊😊
This show gets real! Such bravery for these ladies who could choose to hide behind a celebrity facade but instead choose to be vulnerable for the sake of their own healing but also someone else who needed to witness this and know they are not facing life matters alone in this world. I commend such selfless vulnerability❤️
Adrienne you just touched me with this... I feel the exact same way about my father and we're a lot like you and your dad. But ever since the divorce with my mom and him and everything I witnessed and how he treated me and my siblings during that time I still have this hurt inside of me it's been there for almost 11years now and I can't cope with it. I don't know how to talk to people anymore... I feel lost at times and I know I need to get this off my chest but I don't know how
I love that they help each other realize things. It makes you a better person.
These women are so very vulnerable and kind.
Watching u girls struggling to explain ur past makes me cry cos I'm the same and still struggling with my past. Each time when I remember if feels like yesterday 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
😭😭loni the pain
Oh yeah i know this old. But rewatching this segment made me relate to Adrienne and her rocky relationship with her father. My dad is a good man but there are moments that he is angry and frustrated for god knows what reason. Those moments made me develop anxiety and i also probably have some depression due to other things i won't get into. And i am the same way this is probably the reason why i don't really talk to him much. Unless if he needs help on something. Nowadays i do try to have a conversation with him. Before he would lecture me always because he didn't know how to speak with his children. Yes i understand he is doing the best he could to be a father but he's gotta have to listen to me. This is why im afraid that we will buttheads again. So i totally get where A is coming from.
I would erase the memories of the Trauma that caused my depression.
These women are so strong for having these conversations for the world to see i love this
As soon as Adrienne started talking I had a deja vu. I think she talked about that part before.
ik that they were there to witness something that they can change and advocate for to make a difference in the real world...simply warning others to slow down or advocating for health and safety or spreading awareness about trafficking... can really make a difference and God chose you to be the tool of spreading that message....
I understand Adrienne so much. papi left us when I was 1. but he was 19 so now that I'm at that age I understand him a little more but like she said, there are some things I wish I didn't see so i would hold it against him. and i love my dad so much, we are so alike.
They each shared such vulnerable parts of themselves man. I appreciate that. I felt that.
I would love to erase memories of my crazy ex, however I am glad that I learned early in the relationship that everyone isn't as sane as you think.
You can say that again! So many people wearing those masks out there, so deceptive.
I feel like there some moments in my life that I don’t want to forget necessarily but I just don’t want to remember ! Like I can forgive & sometimes want to forget but sometimes the situations we go through affect us in either s positive or negative way & im grateful for both because I’m the person I am because of them
Oh my god when Loni spoke about the DJ. I got chills! 5 years ago as me and my husband where about to go to sleep we heard a car going about 100 mph in a 25mph area and then a second later we heard a big crash. We looked at each other and got up fast and got in the car. He kept asking me if that was a good idea and I told him yesss bc what if that individual needed help. As we passed the curve (unless you live around, you know that that curve is there but if you don’t or your under the influence you can easily crash or something) First thing we saw was the car all in pieces against the big tree. I got close as my husband turned the high beams on and I will never forget that scene. I panicked, that adrenaline rush, then on stop sobbing, I could not believe I was seeing a dead man. I wanted to cry but it wouldn’t come out. I just kept sobbing uncontrollably. Husband called 911 . Nobody around came out since most people that lived around where elderly people. Something I will never forget
Amazing girl talk session. God bless you for having discussions like this.
I can't thank Adrienne enough for sharing her parental scarring memories. I have some too and I tend to just bury them deep down, which leaves me with trauma I face when it comes to romantic relationships. As a father, I would love to dream of a man that loved and cared for my mother, but it's almost as if I have to look for a man who is the complete opposite which is hard to do when all you've ever known is your father.
Tamera, there is something atop your head.
😂😂😂
My life has been traumatic af & I'm amazed I'm still here & it has made me incredibly appreciative. For the longest time I've wanted to erase all of it, but it truly made me a stronger person.
I know Adrienne did not provide many details, but I get it. I have the same type of relationship with my dad currently and for the past several years, but I still hold him in my highest regard.
Loni is so human its beautiful to listen to her always
I relate to Adrienne's story since I need to learn to be better with my father and to build a better relationship in a more open and healthy way.
I feel what Lonnie has been through.
I work as a medic and I came up on an accident one day where a man was ejected from a vehicle... and then run over by a semi truck. And there was nothing I could do at that point. His body was in pieces across a 50ft stretch of highway. And I’ll never forget those images. Every single time I pass that stretch of road in my city. I think of him. And his family. ❤️
I will never ever forget what I saw that day
This is probably my favourite clip from The Real, no doubt. I felt the raw emotion. And I applaud you guys for showing us your vulnerable sides. Authenticity
Y’all got me crying for real I literally have the same problem with my father so I understand. I’m exactly like my father and it made us butt heads throughout my life. We finally now are working through our relationship, and it’s getting better but you both have to put in the work. It really isn’t easy at all. Tamera said it right in the end there, “he was doing the best he could, and loving you the way he knew how.”My father made mistakes, but it can get better! ❤️ hope Adrienne can work things out with hers too. Dealing with that pain is rough and raw. Sometimes the ones who are supposed to love you the most can hurt you the most!
Yeeeeasssssss Adrienne! I felt that 100% and I don’t like my dad and I would put him on blast. I’m so glad I’m not a TV host. I don’t like talking about that subject either. My mom was an amazing person that deserved soooo much better.
Adrienne is me❤️omg she is literally speaking from my mind.
These memories of possible harm to her never allow my mind to be at ease. This is the kind of system I have!!!