In LA Homeless people everywhere, capturing streets, shitting here and there throwing poops on people. Stealing food aand money, forcefully trying to statch your stuffs.
@@Blitzkers99 in 3rd world countries ,ghetto people actually have jobs and contribute to society despite living in similar conditions as homeless of LA.
That is VERY accurate. Well, at least the L.A part. Those few times I was in New York, I actually found the people BOTH politely nice AND legitimately helpful.
No that’s the culture of those who get things done, East coast is the home of the immigrants!! They talk to you the way they grew up! Everything started on the East and on the West they are just entitled fakers!! It’s a lot worse to pass somebody by when they need help instead of being helped but with tough love! My immigrant grandparents embody exactly that kind of mind set and they are amazing!
I've lived in the west coast my entire life and I always tell my mom " I'm gonna do it but I should at least be able to complain about it!!" I think I'm in the wrong coast😆
I live in the eastern US and I always took our way of talking when offering help as a way to downplay our kind actions so the recipient doesn't feel like a charity case or something. We help others because it's the right thing to do and it feels good. Not to feel high and mighty or to get a pat on the back. That's the way I've always taken it at least.
As a guy from Jersey, I can attest. I was 19, on the side of the road with a flat tire and had an old white dude pull over and say “i’ve never seen a mexican struggle so hard change a tire my f-ing life. (I’m Peruvian🤣) and I responded, “get your saggy balls over here, pops and help out”. We both laughed and he proceeded to help me get my spare tire on.
As a NYer, this is dead on accurate. I’ve encountered situations such as an old man crossing the street slowly during rush hour. I legit thought, “look at this old bastard taking his time, better hold up traffic so he can get to the other side safe”.
As a Bostonian I have done this exact thing. I was driving home from work in my truck full of tools and I see some jack ass in a Mercedes on the side of I 93 causing a massive traffic jam. I stop to help the guy. Winds up being my friend Peter, his wife and his young son. He has no jack or tire iron in his car. So I asked him wtf is wrong with u, called him a tard, changed his tire and sent him on his way
@@thegrapeescape87 if you don't curse nobody trusts you. "Apryl B, yeah. They cool ppl, but they don't cuss. They're f*ckin Amish or some sh*t. Idk. I don't trust em"
NY here, today I came across a French family that was looking for a way to get to the statue of liberty, I heard them asking someone for directions and he didn't know so I did what every NY does, stepped into their conversation without introducing myself, gave them the exact directions without even giving eye contact then walked away before they could say thank you.
Plenty of fake people in the East It speaks to the prejudice of the East That someone would make a joke like this and be understood! By no means Are all my friends from the East prejudice Or fake But they will speak of it candidly it's no secret
FREE lessons. With a threat of how they better not find in that situation again, yet if they do..you're getting charged in some way. Food. Money. Doesn't matter
Whoa now..verbal ABUSE?? not spouting platitudes or verbally coddling adults or stating the obvious is a far cry from verbal abuse. Thought I can see how that type of mindset would take being asked how they got their flat or that they should watch to learn for next time as "being insulted the whole time". Would you really rather someone stop to tell you that your situation sucks just to walk away from it? (That's what I meant by stating the obvious)
In Eastern Europe they are nice and kind, will help you fix your flat tire and give you some fresh bread. After they leave you realise your car is gone.
Yes bit her in the West, most of our flat tires happen in the middle of nowhere. You and the possible few around you are hours away from anything. You have it changed before someone arrives
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What made me laugh is when I went to New York I asked a guy how to get to the subway and he said, "F*cking tourists everywhere. You don't have a phone? Stop the one guy who has a place to be" and then proceeded to walk me less than a yard from the subway and said, "This is as far as I can go." Like he didn't just walk me all the way there 😂 San Diego, even the barista at a coffee shop was shady af
I'm from Tennessee and I swear there is always some good Ole boy, in a pickup, driving around just looking to fix tires and pull people out of ditches. Never fails, just wait about 30 minutes or so, they'll be there. 💯
Then you got the South out in my truck I got what it takes to jump a vehicle, get in your locked door if you lock your keys, jack and stands along with a tow strap just in case someone needs help🤷♂️ down here help could be an hr away atleast
Followed by a, “relax I’m just bustin’ ya balls!” Lol it’s a NY/NJ art form and the better you are at it the more respect you have within your circle of friends. Can always spot a fellow NYer anywhere on Earth by how bad they bust balls!
Jersey girl here🙋🏾♀️ …it’s worse if you’re also from a Caribbean family. You’ll be insulted for not knowing how to change your tire, THEN insulted your car choices, financial literacy, then shopping habits…..which all led up to this moment of having a flat tire. All while changing your tire….. “thanks dad🙄”
And in the South, by the time ol boy got your tire fixed, you'd have 3 sets of directions, 2 new fishin spots to check out, and an open invite to dinner.
Originally from the East Coast, but grew up in the lower Midwest. What I've noticed is that whether or not someone will help you often has more to do with their socioeconomic class than it does location. In my experience, some of the best helpers tend to drive old beaters and rusted out pickup trucks. When you're stuck on a lonely highway at 3am, old Jim Bob will wake up his buddy at the junk yard to help find you a working alternator to get you home. His buddy will even help install it without charge. Those of us who have experienced strife have more practical empathy for those in need. We express solidarity through action.
People can be extremely kind! Just look at the aftermath of the San Francisco fire, where you had spontaneous free soup kitchens set up throughout the city by citizens without any direction.
In the South, people will make small talk with you forever before they get down to business. In the Northeast, they'll do the business first and then, if they have time, they'll make some small talk.
In the South the stranger helps you change your tire, they're nice to you, then you get invited over for supper after you have an hour long conversation on the side of the road about the local town gossip.
Just what I was gonna say: In the South, the people are BOTH kind to you AND nice. they say polite things ("Aw... that's a bit of bad luck on that tire.") WHILE they are changing said tire for you. :-)
I grew up on the east coast but took that asshole-negative energy with me to the mountains. People complain that the way I talk to them makes them feel stupid and I'm like good.That's the intended goal. I'll help you with whatever you need but I'm going to make you feel like an idiot the entire time so you dont fuck up again
I live in NJ and this is totally true. I was at the beach this summer and 2 teenagers could not figure out how to put up their beach umbrella and some dad comes up to them yelling “Jesus Christ I’m getting tired of watching you two struggle give me this shit” and gave them an aggressive but helpful tutorial on how to do the umbrella. And that is a totally normal interaction no one was fazed lol. We may come across as rough and gruff but it’s always honest and well intended.
You aint lying girly. I'm from Jersey too and people always gotta break balls before helping out. I do it all the time especially if I'm helping a friend.
I'm a native New Yorker who moved to the SF bay area suburbs when I was in my late 30's. What would creep me out about Californians is how, unprompted, they would start sharing the most intimate details of their lives while standing in a checkout line. Then the next day if you saw them they would act like you had never met. Creepy AF.
OMFG. I'm from Baltimore and now live in Seattle. Still haven't found 1 friend in 2 years. They are soooo...I don't even know the word for it, but, I'm with you. If Baltimore wasn't so fucking raggedy, I would move back. I miss being around real, genuine ppl.
Moved from Cali to PA 10 years ago. This is too true lmao. I've had semi truckers stop to change my tire before I could get out the car but grunt when I said thanks on the east coast. In Cali I remember one time my grandma needing help with the groceries when I was young and no one helped her until she dropped something and they came to only pick up what she dropped .
Idk if it's just me but alot of Washington's have a stand-offish vibe most of the time like if you try to talk to a stranger about something in a store in the awkward silence most people here just look at you or ignore you like wtf is that a stranger talking to me or even if it's something that happened on the street with your nabor some people are like haha don't talk to me I'm not here 😁
Just wave back. If you don't its suspicious. In the South, we generally wave to everyone. The further you get into the rural areas the more waving there is. At some point, when you get deep enough into redneck territory we even wave to oncoming traffic. I have no idea who they are, but we wave to each other. If 2 redneck dudes meet in oncoming traffic they usually throw up the 1 finger wave. Jeep drivers are weird and either wave with 2 fingers or their whole hand. If you drive a lifted truck you generally wave to other trucks like yours. We don't wave to Prius drivers though.
As someone originally from Minnesota but who has lived in San Francisco for many years, my experience has been that strangers are, on the whole, very friendly in Calfornia, but it’s sort of skin deep. It’s much harder here to make real friends. Of course this is a generalization, nothing is 100%. I have experienced-repeatedly-in New York City, strangers going out their way to help me in one way or another. Perhaps quickly and even brusquely, but still helped, unasked. One time a woman-and at night, too-saw me struggling with a very heavy piece of luggage on a street in Brooklyn. She insisted on helping me to carry it for two blocks. I was astounded. That would be much, much less likely to happen in SF. Of course I also have had dramatic encounters with criminals and lunatics in NYC, but both NYC and SF are cities of extremes.
I was working in West Los Angeles. A woman's car stalled in the middle of the road. The only people who pushed her car were Mexican construction workers.
mom in hospital only the minorities were nice to her, Spanish etc whites were nasty.. the minorities were beyond compasionate.. they humbled me.. thank you
Yoooo. This is mad accurate. Reminds me of the line in house...."would you prefer a doctor that ignores you while you get better or holds your hand while you die?"
Except it’s accuracy only equates to Boston to Philly as East Coast, and California as West Coast. Everywhere else people are just generally nice and caring in both commiseration and action.
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you poor soul, out of one terrible place and into another. Try Florida or Ohio, both very good places to live. Especially in Ohio's rural/suburban areas (basically all of it)
@@Exis247 what person willingly lives in Florida or Ohio? Florida is basically a swampy penis half underwater and drugged out and Ohio is just drugged out and cold.
I live on the East Coast and have family on the West Coast. I can confirm. Over there, it's like feeling the vibes they send you. Over it's like get f out the way, I'll do it for ya. There's like so much of a rush that you don't even know wtf just happened, but somehow, you're better off in your current predicament. 😂
I was in New York for four months and they were my favourite people I've ever met. Most people in New York are real, blunt and straight to the point. No fake "how are you?" just direct. I loved it.
Totally not what i experienced when i was there helping out after SANDY. They absolutely loved and respected the help genuinely. But the men were a fuckin joke. It was a whole city of worthless millennials
I'm from SoCal. It's rare in California to have someone come over and help you. I was changing my flat tire at a gas station, I was having a difficult time. Mexican guy seen me struggling, and offered to change it for me. He didn't say much and he didn't charge me a dime. Shook my hand and wished me well.
I think a lot of people don't help because it can be a setup or they simply don't know how to help. If I see someone that needs help, I help. It's good to always keep basic tools with you.
This is true. My nephew's car broke down in Chattanooga on the way to Texas when he was changing bases. His alternator went out and he was trying to change it on the side of the road. Two good old boys pulled over to help him and it turns out between the two of them they had over sixty years of mechanic experience. Probably more experience than any local shop he could have went to.
Although technically eastern, you're still in southern territory there so you'll get that kinda service. Wouldn't be super surprised if food or alcohol came into the equation lol
But it's still awesome. ❤️ Actually better. Chicago here. I like the honesty with the help. Plus, if you're comfortable enough to call me out. I call you friend. 😁 That's what friends do. No BS. Truth is best
And a southerner would not only stop and help you change your tire they'd ask if you need prayer and offer to take you home for dinner! Go southern hospitality!!
You'll wake up the next morning in their guest room with a belly full of greens and cornbread and engaged to their daughter with their uncle officiating the wedding in a cowboy hat.
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I feel like she described Californians vs New Yorkers 😂😂 “Yeah that sucks good luck friend” Vs “How did you not see that big ass pot hole? Move let me do it”
Especially if you are blocking a lane on the West Side Highway. Move over so I can fix this shit and get you out of my way, FFS. And during rush hour you had to pull this shit? The fuck is the matter with you? Swear to God...
As a native New Yorker I have to say this. If you're in Manhattan visiting and you are lost a local will drag you by the arm and get you where you need to be. We don't have time to explain the directions to you. We are not rude we are in a rush!
I wouldn't think that so much rude as efficient and maybe not a people person 🤣🤣💀 and I'm southern. But tbf southerners tell the worst directions ever.
This is so true … when I first moved to nyc I took the train and had like 3 suitcases, it was pretty late at night and there were some stairs; a guy helped me carry a couple suitcases up the stairs (I didn’t ask him to do it)but he kinda looked bothered to do it It’s like people are stressed out with the city life, but they can relate to everyday struggles and they are very empathetic.
As a New Yorker 😂 I know Dude definitely sensed that you were new to the city and it was late at night on the subway… The attitude was our way of showing kindness 😂
This is so fucking true. First time I went to NY, I took the train from the airport going to stay at West End Ave around 82nd / 86th street. Conductor didn't announce that the train stops around that area and the door's about to close... there's this angry looking black woman whom you didn't wanna mess with and I was with my friend and we were like oh no we missed it, she asked us where were going and said 82/86 and she's like this train dont stop there and opened the doors, stopped the train and scolded the conductor for not announcing. And she helped us which train to take and we were so grateful and everyone else helped us with our luggage and she was like FUCK THIS SHIT FUCKING CONDUCTOR DIDNT ANNOUNCE AND YALL ARE ABOUT TO OVERSHOOT YER FUCKING STOP. We was so scared and was so grateful all we ever said was Thanks so much and bowed. I love NY and I love New Yorkers.
This is very true, NYC kindness is seeing a mom struggling to carry a stroller up the subway stairs, helping to pick it up, and then walking away without another word.
As a Texan who visited NYC just last week, and have LA in the past... this is absolutely true. In NYC people look unapproachable but if you ask them a question they give you all their attention and make sure you understand before you walk away. Like they've been hoping all day that someone will talk to them. That was surprising to me.
Growing up and living in jersey my whole life we are the same as NYC New Yorkers in that sense. We look unapproachable cause we don’t want to be the poor sucker roped into giving someone directions. We might even look visibly irritated but those will be the best god damn directions you’ll ever receive if we haven’t offered to personally take you there 😂😂😂
Absolutely true. I love talking to New Yorkers in NYC. Particularly on the street and asking questions. They’re great! Across the board. They’re honest. I had some similar experiences in shops. Fun conversation. Present. They look you in the eye when you talk with them. I found the opposite to be true in over 30+ years living in L.A. No eye contact. Poor communication skills. Looking away. Too afraid and or angry to have a conversation or help. Out to lunch. Such a drag.
genuinely, I think part of it is the way the cities are built. Eastern cities are generally a lot older and I think they encourage a lot more community than the super spread out cities of the West Coast, so everybody's a bit more insular but the proximity to diverse neighborhoods means you're generally more accepting of outsiders even if you're still somewhat suspicious. this is in contrast to somewhere like LA, where neighborhoods are split up by super highways and you basically only talk to people in your income bracket and demographic. I can't say anything about texas because I don't know what the hell is going on in houston. I feel like that's mostly a highway junction with some houses.
Yes! New Yorker here and I’ve been told many times I look unapproachable and mean. But if people ever come up and asked a question I almost always help out. I’ve even walked people to their destination if it was too hard to describe. I’d probably be shooting the shit with them and teasing them the whole time but I’ll get ya where you need to go
This is absolute facts. True story. On South Dakota Ave in DC, I see fly past me in his truck. By the time I get to the next light, I seen dude crash into a tree on the side of the road. Car has thick black smoke and a small fire coming from the engine. Car is about to burst in flames any minute. These 2 guys get out their car and another guy who was sitting on him porch nearby go over to him and do some jaws of life shit and get his bent driver side door open and carry him around the block and sit with him until the ambulance arrives. He obviously very concussed. But as soon as they realize he’s aight, the proceeds to cook/roast and curse this guy until the ambulance arrives lol. “Wtf is wrong wit u slim?” It was one of the most almost tragic then funniest things I’ve ever seen lol.
I’m from Boston, and that is spot on! We’re not saying it to be mean either, just to make a little fun of you so you laugh at the predicament you got yourself in.
"You fk8n idiot! You don't know how to change a tire? Here, pay attention I'm only gonna do this once" _proceeds to change your tire and gives you his tire iron and a free spare tire_
@Behead Democratics No it's true. I tell Democrats they're fucking stupid all the time and then post multiple sources proving their bullshit beliefs wrong so they'll make better life choices.
Not necessarily I had a guy flag me down here on the East Coast to tell me I had a flat then told me to pull over He then helped me change it Kind, nice guys, hearted people still exist. It turns out he was a truck driver
"Im going to complain but I'll still do it" its out of midwest love and its the best conversations at the end. Its your world and im just passing through
In Texas, everyone will call you sir or ma'am. They will definitely help you when you need it. When I first came to Texas it was really difficult to get used to this having grown up in California. In California people will call you dude or or something else. Instead of helping you they'll just take pictures of you and your problem then post them on social media. Have to say living in Texas has been a breath of fresh air. People are kind, helpful and very nice
@@FH-cn3mg In Texas we definitely were. I agree. You can still find that attitude out in the rural places and smaller towns, HOWEVER - the worst of the changes are in places like Dallas, Houston and Austin. Oddly enough - they are all solidly blue counties and cities. Maybe there's a connection there?
I was thinking the same thing. I’ve jumpstarted cars, changed tires, pulled people out of ditches while laughing and joking around with them the whole time… Oklahoma / Missouri
Being a military brat growing up I grew up partially on the east coast and partially on the west coast. Two completely different worlds. On the east coast if someone has a problem with you they say it to your face and you deal with it, but on the west coast they tell everyone else around you they have a problem with you and deal with it behind your back. When I first moved to the west coast I was called confrontational, I had to learn the way of the land.
I was born and raised in Brooklyn and this is exactly what I have been talking about for years living in Colorado , I swear passive aggressiveness at its finest! I have literally lost jobs and almost gone to jail behind the The way they throw boulders and then hide their hands in almost every situation, it is truly crazy, a person will literally make an appointment with you not cancel, not say they’re going to be late, not show, and if you bring it up and ask what happened, ohhh you’re making a big deal out of nothing … that is the norm and this is in a business situation
Yeah. I was always a very shy kid on the northeast coast. Now I live in Utah and they think I'm a slobbering lunatic. As in "hi, I've never been here before, where should I park to pick up my stuff?" is literally threatening. Smiling unironically and being appreciative and not passive-aggressive might get you blown or killed at any moment. (My favorite secret is that Utah definitely falls in the west coast sphere and they are the snowiest flakes of all.)
@@sgtigereye Ive lived in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, and North Carolina but gotta say, when I visited the west coast for a few months, I thought people were generally pretty good?
I feel like because the West Coast is full of so many characters and personas while on the East Coast everybody pretty much dealing with the same shit lmao
this is why i love being from the south. we’ve got super fun accents and everyone knows a southerner will help you. i blew a tire on the highway here in texas and a random man pulled over to change it for me. he said “i’ve got 3 daughters your age and i would never want them to be stranded without help.” i cried and hugged him because i was so thankful.
That is completely accurate when my car broke down on the freeway and I was visibly pregnant in California .. I got out and tried to push my car to the off ramp so I can just roll down the exit .. people drove by and honked and and kept right on going .. in New Jersey, I fell asleep on the subway once .. I woke up and didn't know what state I was in .. this lady called me every type of moron in the book as held my hand and caught the subway all the way back to Jersey with me! 🙄
I’ve seen people in LA literally get outta their car and help push a disabled car to the side of the road…I guess it also depends where in CA specific La where your at
As someone from Pennsylvania I can tell you this is true. I will help you change your tire but I definitely won't be happy about it. I won't leave you to suffer though.
@@SpaceAce1993 hah good luck out there,, taking shit is normal and a show of affection with most males, it's when he's overly polite you have to think he just don't like you,
NYC (Brooklyn) born and raised, and this is accurate. We arent friendly but folks will definitely help you out... as long as you aren't asking for money 🤣
Back before cellphones my mom tells this story that she got a flat tire in NJ and pulled over into the breakdown lane. It was a rental car and she was there for business. Someone pulled over and shouted her down for being parked there: "We drive in this fuckin' lane, lady!" but helped her change the tire and got her back on the road because that was the way to make everyone safe again.
When I was a kid in ky it was me, my mom and sister- we were little. It was raining hard and in the parking lot my mom's car got stuck in a pot hole that she couldn't see bc that area was covered in water. A man and his teenage son got out of their car in the pouring rain and lifted my mom's car and pushed it out of the pot hole. I'll never forget the selflessness and kindness of these strangers.
@@thegrapeescape87 My Dad pulled over in a torrential downpour, in the pitch-black nighttime to help a lady change her flat tire. We were on the freeway during rush hour. He was pissed when he got back into the car because she didn't even say thank you. His clothes were stuck to his body because they were so drenched.
@@dee_dee_place That's horrible! I remember looking out the back window, the guys wife pulled up with dry clothes and the dad and his son were taking off their soaking wet clothes at their trunk. I will always be grateful and to this day, about 18 years later, I still randomly think of those guys and include them in my prayers. I'm sorry your dad wasn't shown the gratitude he deserved!
Its funny seeing all you womens story. Cause if you let this generation of women tell it, all these men that helped you guys are out to use and kill you guys lol.
My NYC friend explained: they’re all in a big hurry, so they’re pissed if you slow down the crowd, but there’s always someone there to help if you need it
Hmmm weird then that no one helped the lady who was sexually assaulted on the subway while three New Yorkers just recorded it on their cellphones. Stop the cap.
@@giantsfan185 What about the recent paramedic lady who was randomly stabbed on the sidewalk and the perp just runs off while people continue walking by her laying there dying. Stop the cap.
@@christovelasquez9595 Weird that you think helping someone who's broke down on the side of the road is the same as getting into a physical altercation with a deranged individual. Not saying that people shouldn't have intervened, but there's a few variables that you failed to include...like getting locked up by the DA or sued by the perpetrator...or maybe getting killed, yourself. People are fearful of being good Samaritans because in today's society no good deed goes unpunished.
@@christovelasquez9595 I wasn’t there for those events, but I watched my dad get pickpocketed on a trip to NYC. Some dudes on the street tackled the thief and held him until NYPD arrived
This seems pretty accurate. Getting your feelings hurt while being stuffed with good food by the same people who hurt your feelings, because they are aggressively concerned, sums up the experience.
Haha, that reminds me of an experience I had working construction for this italian guy. So we did some work for this latino family on their house, poor area of town, you could tell they didn't have much money. A week later we come back to finish up, and my boss and the family end up arguing over the amount, or getting paid or something. I couldn't understand half of it because I speak neither spanish nor italian, lol. Well I guess they finally work it out, because the next thing you know their feeding all of us, passing out bowls of rice and beans. I wasn't hungry (just had lunch), and it was the most dry, bland rice and beans I've ever had, but you know, I'm trying to finish it because I'm in someone else's house and they've just given us food and it would be rude to reject it. Such a weird experience though.
@Lamar Thomas lol it's better than Los Angeles...they just drive by and ignore you. ( I live in L.A. County) people don't even care if you have a kid with you to help people..(in different scenarios)
@Britt Hi Britt, Sorry To Hear That People Don't See The Need To Help One Another in Times Of Need, That's tragic and sad at the Same Time. I have to Stop Romanticizing how Nice it Would Be To Visit California or Just Don't Get A Flat Tire or Ever Needs Help When I Do Visit... 😫 🙃 😩 😕 🤔
Lol I live in nyc and work as a package handler, the amount of times people help me with the door or pick up dropped packages or even chase me down to give me packages I might have dropped is surprising and wholesome ❤. If I’m lost I know someone is willing to help me find where I’m going. Even if I look like I need a hand someone is always ready to offer
I bet they never said" you fucking idiot you dropped this fucking package. If it was my package I would have to crack ya fucking head." She forced it with the swearing & disrespect. Only assholes talk like that & they're on both coast
As a born and raised New Yorker I can vouch that I’ve yelled at people and helped them at the same time. And I have strangers help me and make fun of me too 😂 it’s how we show our love. Too much mushy ish and people with think your soft
@@zellerized I think you missed her point. A lot of it is just east coast sense of humor. We tend to have a sarcastic sense of humor that's really honest. But it's all done in love as she said.
Honestly, a lot of this can be explained by car culture. People in California drive everywhere, you don't really interact with anyone. You are cut off from the world. So there's really no sense of community, especially for the transplants. It's just a bunch of isolated apartments where people walk to their car, drive to where they need to go, and drive back to their apartment. If anything, you see other people as an annoyance because they mean more traffic.
Midwest: Ope, you got a flat! Let me squeeze right past ya and get you back on the road! *cue small talk the entire time until you know his niece’s birthday*
I heard it this way “ people in NYC will grab the front end of a stroller with a mom struggling to go down a flight of subway stairs, help her carry the stroller down and storm off without saying a word to the mother or looking at her. People in LA will look the mom in the eyes, smile and move out her way as to not bump into her or the stroller but no one will actually help her down the stairs.” I don’t need you to move out of my way, I need you to help me!
@@JoeBidensDroolBib I would've freaked out if you offered lmao would think you're a weirdo, whats wrong with you because no one is ever that nice here S. California. So much so, that when someone is kind I automatically know they're not from here!
When I lived in California I would go on walks. I said good morning to some random lady. She literally stopped me and asked me where I was from. I said "Ohio". She then told me not to let California ruin me as a person. Good times, good times.
@@fadedcrayon4764 my brother said hes staying here in Seattle because it's peaceful. He said he has PTSD from growing up in Ohio and all his friends are dead or in jail. I hope u live in a better area
“In New York, no one is nice until you get to know them. In LA, everyone is nice until you get to know them” greatest quote from another on here.
perfectly stated!
In LA
Homeless people everywhere, capturing streets, shitting here and there throwing poops on people. Stealing food aand money, forcefully trying to statch your stuffs.
@@Blitzkers99 in 3rd world countries ,ghetto people actually have jobs and contribute to society despite living in similar conditions as homeless of LA.
That is VERY accurate. Well, at least the L.A part.
Those few times I was in New York, I actually found the people BOTH politely nice AND legitimately helpful.
@@Blitzkers99 All the California people are nice to the homeless, but they won't help them, they just leave them on the street.
The definition of “I’ll help but I’m gonna complain the whole time” 😂
No that’s the culture of those who get things done, East coast is the home of the immigrants!! They talk to you the way they grew up! Everything started on the East and on the West they are just entitled fakers!! It’s a lot worse to pass somebody by when they need help instead of being helped but with tough love! My immigrant grandparents embody exactly that kind of mind set and they are amazing!
I've lived in the west coast my entire life and I always tell my mom " I'm gonna do it but I should at least be able to complain about it!!" I think I'm in the wrong coast😆
Truth
While I help you, you'll know I'm helping you lol
as an east coast, I relate but never realized
Actions speak louder than words. I’ll take the kindness of actions over the nice sweet nothings of words.
That is a fact
aww your a republican, nice
I just hate that anyone would have to choose.
Here in the South everyone is both Kind and Nice!
Indeed 🎶
@@saremy127 what's this have to do with political sides?
A nice person will tell you what you want to hear, but a kind person tells you what you need to hear.
I like the kind person
Well said, Beautiful and perfect.
Best comment i have ever seen! 👏
I prefer kindness over niceness. A person can fake being nice, but they cannot fake being kind.
W quote
Facts. I might be a dick but will always lend a helping hand
Me too
Even if they aren't faking it, how is someone being nice helpful?
@@SidPil by fixing ur flat I got things to do dummy 🤣
I live in the eastern US and I always took our way of talking when offering help as a way to downplay our kind actions so the recipient doesn't feel like a charity case or something. We help others because it's the right thing to do and it feels good. Not to feel high and mighty or to get a pat on the back. That's the way I've always taken it at least.
Same here, it’s also just treating people like actual people rather than treating them like toddlers or something
i love the way you explained this 🙌
This here is one wise fuckin' bean boy.
Yep I just say ok and thank you so much 😆
That makes sense ❤
Northern Canadians: " Oh you got a flat tire eh? Well here, you can have my wife and kids"
Hahahahahah
I'm dead 🤣😂💀
🤣🤣🤣
Lmao!!
I do not want them
As a guy from Jersey, I can attest. I was 19, on the side of the road with a flat tire and had an old white dude pull over and say “i’ve never seen a mexican struggle so hard change a tire my f-ing life. (I’m Peruvian🤣) and I responded, “get your saggy balls over here, pops and help out”. We both laughed and he proceeded to help me get my spare tire on.
🤣👨🏻🦳
Haha
😂😂😂
That’s great 😂
HAHAHAHAHAHA that is gold
As a NYer, this is dead on accurate. I’ve encountered situations such as an old man crossing the street slowly during rush hour. I legit thought, “look at this old bastard taking his time, better hold up traffic so he can get to the other side safe”.
Why are we like this? 🤣😭
We might bitter, but we’re not animals!
I have the same mentality when I order BEC really fast but let the elderly take their time ordering 😭
As a Bostonian I have done this exact thing. I was driving home from work in my truck full of tools and I see some jack ass in a Mercedes on the side of I 93 causing a massive traffic jam. I stop to help the guy. Winds up being my friend Peter, his wife and his young son. He has no jack or tire iron in his car. So I asked him wtf is wrong with u, called him a tard, changed his tire and sent him on his way
After reading "NYer" I read your next words as "this is dead ASS accurate" off instinct.
"This f*ckin guy" a formal Boston greeting
Italian too
Yup
I never used curse words until I moved to Massachusetts, now it's part of my everyday language 😂
@@thegrapeescape87 if you don't curse nobody trusts you. "Apryl B, yeah. They cool ppl, but they don't cuss. They're f*ckin Amish or some sh*t. Idk. I don't trust em"
Oh it’s true as fuck
im from boston. I constantly use ‘this fuckin’ guy’. That is a stereotype i live up to
“I gotta help this fuckin old man” has actually come across my mind
damn, if this isnt fucking accurate
Lol definitely said that a time or two
Holy fuck I’ve said this
Lmaooooo this is exactly my attitude
Ahaha! me too. I got to get the hell off the East Coast, I'm going back west 😂
NY here, today I came across a French family that was looking for a way to get to the statue of liberty, I heard them asking someone for directions and he didn't know so I did what every NY does, stepped into their conversation without introducing myself, gave them the exact directions without even giving eye contact then walked away before they could say thank you.
This is how we keep the culture alive thank you.
you need a cookie for that?
Exactly!!
@@dongandres3253i’ll have a chocolate chip
Lol oh shit. I do this all the time. Signed a girl from Cali with a New Yorker mother
Well like they say: "Fake friends talk shit behind your back; Real friends talk shit to your face."
Plenty of fake people in the East It speaks to the prejudice of the East That someone would make a joke like this and be understood! By no means Are all my friends from the East prejudice Or fake But they will speak of it candidly it's no secret
"The true friend stabs you in the front." -Oscar Wilde
"New Yorkers will stab you in the front, Californians will stab you in the back" truer word never said by a homeless guy in Berkeley
Guess living in hell on earth will do that to you. Can't understand why anyone would want to live in a city.
In that case, in Miami, you get stabbed in the front and the back.
@@Elemental1331 both from a guy on fentanyl and bath salts at once
Shoutout to Big Berk hope he's doing well now
@@Elemental1331 in Miami you get shot with a glock if you try & knife someone
“Move over idiot, didn’t your dad show you how to do this?” Proceeds to give you a lesson while insulting you and your dad 😂
FREE lessons. With a threat of how they better not find in that situation again, yet if they do..you're getting charged in some way. Food. Money. Doesn't matter
End result, something learned and tire changed. Cali result, move into broken down car, live on side of road, become fentanyl addict.
Better than being sympathetic but doing nothing to help at all...
In other words ruthless
Sounds like my moms side of the family. They’re all from New York
“What the fuck is wrong with you?” Is pretty much Boston’s slogan. And 9/10 times it’s playful and endearing. It’s a unique flavor of kindness.
If you look this up in the dictionary, there is a picture of Bill Burr 😂
Meanwhile, in the Midwest, "Oop. You got a flat tire? Well here, let me give you one of mine."
*ope
i allready have a flat tire i dont need another one
Why do you have a flat tire to give me lol
Tires of different bolt patterns. Can't just give a tire to someone
@@garysimmons3166 sometime if you luck
We recognize that everyone needs help sometimes, but don’t expect us to be happy about it
Yes ...
Then don't help
@@Nutzac bad take.
@@Jackbarrany so you think its ok to have no choice but to take verbal abuse just to get help. That's a bad take
Whoa now..verbal ABUSE?? not spouting platitudes or verbally coddling adults or stating the obvious is a far cry from verbal abuse. Thought I can see how that type of mindset would take being asked how they got their flat or that they should watch to learn for next time as "being insulted the whole time". Would you really rather someone stop to tell you that your situation sucks just to walk away from it? (That's what I meant by stating the obvious)
NYC friends will cuss you out and pass you in line if you’re slow, but you tell ‘em you’re alone this Christmas and you’re not anymore
NYC friend here with a banging Coquito recipe 😂
Spread love it’s the Brooklyn Way
Exactly, we don't have time for stupidity but we aren't gonna let someone suffer if we can help lmao
yall need to stop, y'all some rude, disrespectful heathens, ill change my own tire...talk to me like that again, we fightin'!!!
Yes facts
In Eastern Europe they are nice and kind, will help you fix your flat tire and give you some fresh bread. After they leave you realise your car is gone.
LOL!
😆😆😆
You got me 😂
Omg 😂
So true
“How the f*ck did you get this far. Goddamn it, let me help you out.”
“Oh sh*t that looks bad. Good luck mate!”
Pfft "mate" not really a word most of us use but close enough 👍
@@SherriLyle80s We use it all man..
Yes bit her in the West, most of our flat tires happen in the middle of nowhere. You and the possible few around you are hours away from anything. You have it changed before someone arrives
“It’s more of a get the fuck out of the way you’re slowing me down. You got a tire iron in ya trunk?”
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What made me laugh is when I went to New York I asked a guy how to get to the subway and he said, "F*cking tourists everywhere. You don't have a phone? Stop the one guy who has a place to be" and then proceeded to walk me less than a yard from the subway and said, "This is as far as I can go." Like he didn't just walk me all the way there 😂
San Diego, even the barista at a coffee shop was shady af
🤣
That's a total video game NPC dialog. You must continue the adventure on your own past the safe zone where he must turn back.
@@Ymesgeno touch grass
@@elsikpych No
I live in San Diego it’s beautiful but what you said about the people is so true
I'm from Tennessee and I swear there is always some good Ole boy, in a pickup, driving around just looking to fix tires and pull people out of ditches. Never fails, just wait about 30 minutes or so, they'll be there. 💯
😅So true
I just can’t help it I like changing tires and pulling vehicles out of stuck situations 😊
Then you got the South out in my truck I got what it takes to jump a vehicle, get in your locked door if you lock your keys, jack and stands along with a tow strap just in case someone needs help🤷♂️ down here help could be an hr away atleast
😂😂😂😂
...and don't get in their way. The good ol' boy lives for this.
In the south, they change your tire, get you a meal, and tell everyone how sad it is you don’t have a man to do that sort of thing for you 😂
🤣🤣🤣
Im from the south. I'm glad I've picked up the east coast west attitude. Southern people are pathetic!
😂😂😂
Southerns are so English but so Latin at the same time. That second half of ur comment is so true. Southerns got their collectivism from somewhere
They were faker in the south 😅
I'll take true kindness over niceness, ANY TIME.
Me too
It's tough love and it's important. I'd rather hear how I screwed up while getting help fixing it than be told it's okay with no support.
@@riffbw yeah that's it.
New Yoorrk XP
Go live in California then, according to this goof
“This dumb piece of shit”….predates most kind gestures. All love ❤️
Followed by a, “relax I’m just bustin’ ya balls!” Lol it’s a NY/NJ art form and the better you are at it the more respect you have within your circle of friends. Can always spot a fellow NYer anywhere on Earth by how bad they bust balls!
@@Antmoney333 I’m glad to be born and raised in NY lol this is FACTS
@@devinmurps4915 so is Alabama south coast no we don't have a coast so we are south inert lol
Or "this fuckin' guy"
I worked in salon owed by Italians. All day I would hear "va fangool" ,😂😂😂 even from the grandma 😂😂😂 the best place I ever worked at
This is so true
My way of wording: “In New York, no one is nice until you get to know them. In LA, everyone is nice until you get to know them”
Yikes
👌
This is 100% accurate like I live in new York and I'm a complete asshole til you get to know me then I'm the sweetest person lol
Daaaammmmmnnnnnnn
Wow 🤣🤣🤣
Jersey girl here🙋🏾♀️ …it’s worse if you’re also from a Caribbean family. You’ll be insulted for not knowing how to change your tire, THEN insulted your car choices, financial literacy, then shopping habits…..which all led up to this moment of having a flat tire. All while changing your tire….. “thanks dad🙄”
Ya' dun' know!!! 😆😆😆😆
West Indian family:
"Das' why ya' nuh' have nuh' man, true ya' can't change ya' tiya'!! LMAOOOO!!!! 💯💯💯💯
And in the South, by the time ol boy got your tire fixed, you'd have 3 sets of directions, 2 new fishin spots to check out, and an open invite to dinner.
Same here ... in the south of Taiwan in a city named Tainan
yep
And a "Tell your mama I said 'hey'.
Yep! And 9/10 you knew who helped ya
I had to remind these here viewers that she speaks of us southern folks.
Originally from the East Coast, but grew up in the lower Midwest. What I've noticed is that whether or not someone will help you often has more to do with their socioeconomic class than it does location. In my experience, some of the best helpers tend to drive old beaters and rusted out pickup trucks. When you're stuck on a lonely highway at 3am, old Jim Bob will wake up his buddy at the junk yard to help find you a working alternator to get you home. His buddy will even help install it without charge. Those of us who have experienced strife have more practical empathy for those in need. We express solidarity through action.
good ol Jimbob 🥰
@@peterpop-off his buddy is cool too
It's called working class solidarity 💪 ❤️
Which country????
People can be extremely kind! Just look at the aftermath of the San Francisco fire, where you had spontaneous free soup kitchens set up throughout the city by citizens without any direction.
As an east coast boy myself, I have never been described and complimented so genuinely
100% we will pull you out the mud and talk 💩 the entire time, friend or strangers
Why wouldn’t you want to be kind and nice though? That’s kinda just half assing it in my opinion
@@SLPpanthers42 because we’re not fake
@@SLPpanthers42 tough love that’s all it is
@@SLPpanthers42 In Kansas City, we just say Ope, u fucked up didntcha, while we fix your tire 💀
In the South, people will make small talk with you forever before they get down to business. In the Northeast, they'll do the business first and then, if they have time, they'll make some small talk.
Thereya go
In the South the stranger helps you change your tire, they're nice to you, then you get invited over for supper after you have an hour long conversation on the side of the road about the local town gossip.
Yes, someone truck will always stop to help you in the South. It really doesn't matter what color you are.
Just what I was gonna say: In the South, the people are BOTH kind to you AND nice. they say polite things ("Aw... that's a bit of bad luck on that tire.") WHILE they are changing said tire for you. :-)
Loved your comment. It cracked me up too.
lol and don't forget the obligatory "bless your heart" when you do something dumb :-D
Exactly! Must be a souther gentleman right here cause you know.
I'm from the East Coast and I cannot explain how many times I've helped my brother do something while calling him an "Absolute dumbfuck of a person"
My personal favorite is
“Infinite monkeys typing for an infinite amount of time, couldn’t think up someone dumber than you”
This is me. but I just call them dumbasses 🤣 "move dumbass I'll get it in 2 point 5 seconds." 😂
Ohioan here, told my sister she could hide her own Easter eggs and still not find em..
I told her this when I was putting her grill back together...
I grew up on the east coast but took that asshole-negative energy with me to the mountains. People complain that the way I talk to them makes them feel stupid and I'm like good.That's the intended goal. I'll help you with whatever you need but I'm going to make you feel like an idiot the entire time so you dont fuck up again
@@ChaotiX1 we sometimes used commercial lingo as well.😂"Now what'd you'd do that for?" (👋smack* ) "Could'a had a v8" 😂
In Georgia, I've heard "look at this dumbass, got a flat tire. Let's go help 'em."
😂😂😂 I've said it myself
Californian are 100% nice definitely
Where was that dumbass at might been able to help the dumb f$$$
Right?
I'm in GA also and so true
East coast the only place where someone will cuss you out in traffic, but hold the door for you and proceed to ask you how you're making out 😂
Right!!!! LMAOOOO!!! 💯💯💯💯
"You worthless fu**, how are you doing?"- any crew working trades
🤣🤣🤣. That shit is funny and true
Joey Diaz
yoooo 😂😂😂
Yep, can confirm
Iii
I live in NJ and this is totally true. I was at the beach this summer and 2 teenagers could not figure out how to put up their beach umbrella and some dad comes up to them yelling “Jesus Christ I’m getting tired of watching you two struggle give me this shit” and gave them an aggressive but helpful tutorial on how to do the umbrella. And that is a totally normal interaction no one was fazed lol. We may come across as rough and gruff but it’s always honest and well intended.
😂😂😂😂😂
No that guy was just a asshole
😂
You aint lying girly. I'm from Jersey too and people always gotta break balls before helping out. I do it all the time especially if I'm helping a friend.
Very true !
I'm a native New Yorker who moved to the SF bay area suburbs when I was in my late 30's. What would creep me out about Californians is how, unprompted, they would start sharing the most intimate details of their lives while standing in a checkout line. Then the next day if you saw them they would act like you had never met. Creepy AF.
yea cause they're all wacked out on drugs
It’s California, the origins of those that can’t even figure out way at gender they truly are. 🤷🏼♂️
😂😂😂
OMFG. I'm from Baltimore and now live in Seattle. Still haven't found 1 friend in 2 years. They are soooo...I don't even know the word for it, but, I'm with you. If Baltimore wasn't so fucking raggedy, I would move back. I miss being around real, genuine ppl.
East coaster in Bay Area here. Yeah it’s like they get offended if you were to bring the conversation up like you broke into their house.
Moved from Cali to PA 10 years ago. This is too true lmao. I've had semi truckers stop to change my tire before I could get out the car but grunt when I said thanks on the east coast. In Cali I remember one time my grandma needing help with the groceries when I was young and no one helped her until she dropped something and they came to only pick up what she dropped .
East Coast: rudely polite
West Coast: politely rude
Facts in two words done right
Yes! Well put.
Spot on!
I prefer rudely polite
Idk if it's just me but alot of Washington's have a stand-offish vibe most of the time like if you try to talk to a stranger about something in a store in the awkward silence most people here just look at you or ignore you like wtf is that a stranger talking to me or even if it's something that happened on the street with your nabor some people are like haha don't talk to me I'm not here 😁
midwest - “i’m so sorry you got a flat”
as they are changing it for you
I detect no lies..Midwest born and proud
yep! so true.
I've seen that happen many times
1000% true.
From the Midwest. So proud, Keep it up my Midwest friends.
I never had anyone stop and help me in when I lived in Indiana for years. No one helped anyone.
New Jersey is where I hall from , and I moved to central florida. All my new neighbors started waving at me , made me nervous
🤣🤣🤣🤣
I feel you brother 😂 moved from Philly to Nebraska
LMAO...
Sounds like north Florida
Just wave back. If you don't its suspicious. In the South, we generally wave to everyone. The further you get into the rural areas the more waving there is. At some point, when you get deep enough into redneck territory we even wave to oncoming traffic. I have no idea who they are, but we wave to each other.
If 2 redneck dudes meet in oncoming traffic they usually throw up the 1 finger wave. Jeep drivers are weird and either wave with 2 fingers or their whole hand. If you drive a lifted truck you generally wave to other trucks like yours. We don't wave to Prius drivers though.
As someone originally from Minnesota but who has lived in San Francisco for many years, my experience has been that strangers are, on the whole, very friendly in Calfornia, but it’s sort of skin deep. It’s much harder here to make real friends. Of course this is a generalization, nothing is 100%. I have experienced-repeatedly-in New York City, strangers going out their way to help me in one way or another. Perhaps quickly and even brusquely, but still helped, unasked. One time a woman-and at night, too-saw me struggling with a very heavy piece of luggage on a street in Brooklyn. She insisted on helping me to carry it for two blocks. I was astounded. That would be much, much less likely to happen in SF. Of course I also have had dramatic encounters with criminals and lunatics in NYC, but both NYC and SF are cities of extremes.
It would happen in SF. A lot of New Yorkers live here. :)
I was working in West Los Angeles. A woman's car stalled in the middle of the road. The only people who pushed her car were Mexican construction workers.
mom in hospital only the minorities were nice to her, Spanish etc whites were nasty.. the minorities were beyond compasionate.. they humbled me.. thank you
Always
Those are the real locals actually
Always. Especially the paisas. 💚
Maybe they’re paranoid and just want to mind they business
Yoooo. This is mad accurate. Reminds me of the line in house...."would you prefer a doctor that ignores you while you get better or holds your hand while you die?"
Dr House
The worst is the one who ignores you while you die.
damn idk, the second one I guess
I'll take neither.😥
@@ladyfox825 so you'd like a doctor that ignores you while you die?
I am from New Jersey, living in California. This is spot on accurate.
hey fellow Jersey girl 😊
Except it’s accuracy only equates to Boston to Philly as East Coast, and California as West Coast. Everywhere else people are just generally nice and caring in both commiseration and action.
The Bible is truth. Please take your salvation seriously. If you haven’t already, please read at least three books of the Bible, Genesis Mathew and one book you chose yourself. As you do this, you must remember to put Jesus Christ’s teachings into action in your life. That’s the key that makes it all click. Start with forgiveness. Parents are easiest. They’ve loved you. Look inside for those grievances you still cling onto and truly let them go. Forgive genuinely from within. Doing that shows God something important. It’s an act of faith and love. Please, break down before Jesus Christ and ask for forgiveness. It’s not too late. God loves you.
you poor soul, out of one terrible place and into another. Try Florida or Ohio, both very good places to live. Especially in Ohio's rural/suburban areas (basically all of it)
@@Exis247 what person willingly lives in Florida or Ohio? Florida is basically a swampy penis half underwater and drugged out and Ohio is just drugged out and cold.
I live on the East Coast and have family on the West Coast. I can confirm. Over there, it's like feeling the vibes they send you. Over it's like get f out the way, I'll do it for ya. There's like so much of a rush that you don't even know wtf just happened, but somehow, you're better off in your current predicament. 😂
In Georgia, this conversation starts with a "y'all aight?" And ends by both of you figuring out how you're related and setting up a day to cookout.
On Mary had a little lamb even if they look different than me
One ticket to Georgia please
@@mamad4551 amen to that!
This!! But also they could help change your flat then steal your car in certain parts of Atlanta. 😬😅😂
No lies
I was in New York for four months and they were my favourite people I've ever met. Most people in New York are real, blunt and straight to the point. No fake "how are you?" just direct. I loved it.
Welcome to New York! I love it here😁🤣
that's what happens when you lose your soul. gb ny
Totally not what i experienced when i was there helping out after SANDY. They absolutely loved and respected the help genuinely. But the men were a fuckin joke. It was a whole city of worthless millennials
Ya direct to rudeness and disrespect. Also watch out for the subway,might get shoved on the tracks or robbed
I went to New York and a homeless man had shit smeared on his face and started yelling gibberish at me. Very nice people! 👍
I'm from SoCal. It's rare in California to have someone come over and help you. I was changing my flat tire at a gas station, I was having a difficult time. Mexican guy seen me struggling, and offered to change it for me. He didn't say much and he didn't charge me a dime. Shook my hand and wished me well.
Same I live in SoCal too and when I was a kid my Gma and I got a flat on the freeway and someone stopped and helped her change the tire.
Why would he charge you?
That’s weird bc up in Norcal we help each other out all the time
@@stimihendrix3404 Thinking the same thing because I'm from Norcal and have experienced the same as you have.
I think a lot of people don't help because it can be a setup or they simply don't know how to help. If I see someone that needs help, I help. It's good to always keep basic tools with you.
This is true. My nephew's car broke down in Chattanooga on the way to Texas when he was changing bases. His alternator went out and he was trying to change it on the side of the road.
Two good old boys pulled over to help him and it turns out between the two of them they had over sixty years of mechanic experience. Probably more experience than any local shop he could have went to.
Although technically eastern, you're still in southern territory there so you'll get that kinda service. Wouldn't be super surprised if food or alcohol came into the equation lol
As a New Yorker this sounds just like me especially when I’m running late and I have to help somebody in public.
It sounds like Philly too
But it's still awesome. ❤️ Actually better. Chicago here. I like the honesty with the help. Plus, if you're comfortable enough to call me out. I call you friend. 😁 That's what friends do. No BS. Truth is best
Bullshit!
And a southerner would not only stop and help you change your tire they'd ask if you need prayer and offer to take you home for dinner! Go southern hospitality!!
You'll wake up the next morning in their guest room with a belly full of greens and cornbread and engaged to their daughter with their uncle officiating the wedding in a cowboy hat.
@@MattsCrazyArt I'm not sure if that's a compliment or a insult, but here's what I'll say either way, the fella got here realized how much he loved how genuine the people were and he fell in love with the beautiful conservative country girl that treated him with respect and he didn't want to go back to the liberal women who say they don't need a man, so Matt if your single and can't find a sweet wife that will treat you the way a man should be treated just come to the south you just might find you like it as well... God .counrty . Family
Depends on who you are
@@MattsCrazyArt man, the south sounds like a dream😂😂
Yeah, while they mutter "bless your heart" under their breaths.
I feel like she described Californians vs New Yorkers 😂😂 “Yeah that sucks good luck friend” Vs “How did you not see that big ass pot hole? Move let me do it”
California: sorry bestie💖
As someone from one of the most forgotten parts of that maggot-infested apple, yep.
Especially if you are blocking a lane on the West Side Highway.
Move over so I can fix this shit and get you out of my way, FFS. And during rush hour you had to pull this shit? The fuck is the matter with you? Swear to God...
as someone whos lived in nyc all my life now cali this is exactly what its like
Facts youn beat me to it
Am I the only that can hear Bill Burr saying that shii? "Aww christ lady, you gotta f***ing flat tire? What, you can't change that shii?! Move over"
As a native New Yorker I have to say this. If you're in Manhattan visiting and you are lost a local will drag you by the arm and get you where you need to be. We don't have time to explain the directions to you. We are not rude we are in a rush!
😂😂
Sucks
Excuses, I come fro. A bigger city and people are not rude
I co-sign this statement and did it the other day in the city....damn tourists 😂
I wouldn't think that so much rude as efficient and maybe not a people person 🤣🤣💀 and I'm southern. But tbf southerners tell the worst directions ever.
This is so true … when I first moved to nyc I took the train and had like 3 suitcases, it was pretty late at night and there were some stairs; a guy helped me carry a couple suitcases up the stairs (I didn’t ask him to do it)but he kinda looked bothered to do it
It’s like people are stressed out with the city life, but they can relate to everyday struggles and they are very empathetic.
Underrated insightful comment.
That was a really endearing way to state that.
very true statement
“stressed out with city life”
Meanwhile most people sticking to the city can’t imagine living anywhere else, lmao
It’s a dilemma
As a New Yorker 😂 I know Dude definitely sensed that you were new to the city and it was late at night on the subway… The attitude was our way of showing kindness 😂
Midwest: “Op, your tire is flat? Here, you can have my car. Watch out for deer!”
lmaoooo
Ope, you dropped my wallet. Here ya go, sir
Lmao being from Wisconsin. The accuracy is unreal 😂
Geez louise look at that flat tire
Lmfao!!!!
This is so fucking true. First time I went to NY, I took the train from the airport going to stay at West End Ave around 82nd / 86th street. Conductor didn't announce that the train stops around that area and the door's about to close... there's this angry looking black woman whom you didn't wanna mess with and I was with my friend and we were like oh no we missed it, she asked us where were going and said 82/86 and she's like this train dont stop there and opened the doors, stopped the train and scolded the conductor for not announcing. And she helped us which train to take and we were so grateful and everyone else helped us with our luggage and she was like FUCK THIS SHIT FUCKING CONDUCTOR DIDNT ANNOUNCE AND YALL ARE ABOUT TO OVERSHOOT YER FUCKING STOP. We was so scared and was so grateful all we ever said was Thanks so much and bowed. I love NY and I love New Yorkers.
This is very true, NYC kindness is seeing a mom struggling to carry a stroller up the subway stairs, helping to pick it up, and then walking away without another word.
🤣🤣😂 good one
Deadass
So true. I've done this plenty of times myself!
My caption to that being captured on a video clip would be....
"Like a Boss" 😁
“Move! I’ll do it, fuck”
🤣
😂😂
ny know lmap
....what kind of idiot driver are you, watch and learn....
Thank you very much! You are savior. While in my mind "Dick Head!"
As a Texan who visited NYC just last week, and have LA in the past... this is absolutely true. In NYC people look unapproachable but if you ask them a question they give you all their attention and make sure you understand before you walk away. Like they've been hoping all day that someone will talk to them. That was surprising to me.
Growing up and living in jersey my whole life we are the same as NYC New Yorkers in that sense. We look unapproachable cause we don’t want to be the poor sucker roped into giving someone directions. We might even look visibly irritated but those will be the best god damn directions you’ll ever receive if we haven’t offered to personally take you there 😂😂😂
@@guedrini2045 where in Jersey you from
Absolutely true. I love talking to New Yorkers in NYC. Particularly on the street and asking questions. They’re great! Across the board. They’re honest. I had some similar experiences in shops. Fun conversation. Present. They look you in the eye when you talk with them. I found the opposite to be true in over 30+ years living in L.A. No eye contact. Poor communication skills. Looking away. Too afraid and or angry to have a conversation or help. Out to lunch. Such a drag.
genuinely, I think part of it is the way the cities are built. Eastern cities are generally a lot older and I think they encourage a lot more community than the super spread out cities of the West Coast, so everybody's a bit more insular but the proximity to diverse neighborhoods means you're generally more accepting of outsiders even if you're still somewhat suspicious.
this is in contrast to somewhere like LA, where neighborhoods are split up by super highways and you basically only talk to people in your income bracket and demographic.
I can't say anything about texas because I don't know what the hell is going on in houston. I feel like that's mostly a highway junction with some houses.
Yes! New Yorker here and I’ve been told many times I look unapproachable and mean. But if people ever come up and asked a question I almost always help out. I’ve even walked people to their destination if it was too hard to describe. I’d probably be shooting the shit with them and teasing them the whole time but I’ll get ya where you need to go
This is absolute facts. True story. On South Dakota Ave in DC, I see fly past me in his truck. By the time I get to the next light, I seen dude crash into a tree on the side of the road. Car has thick black smoke and a small fire coming from the engine. Car is about to burst in flames any minute. These 2 guys get out their car and another guy who was sitting on him porch nearby go over to him and do some jaws of life shit and get his bent driver side door open and carry him around the block and sit with him until the ambulance arrives. He obviously very concussed. But as soon as they realize he’s aight, the proceeds to cook/roast and curse this guy until the ambulance arrives lol. “Wtf is wrong wit u slim?” It was one of the most almost tragic then funniest things I’ve ever seen lol.
I picture Bill Burr just roasting me as he teaches me how to change my flat tire.
Win win
Fr! Ramsey screaming : you a fucking idiot sandwich while upgrading your restaurant lol
I’m from Boston, and that is spot on! We’re not saying it to be mean either, just to make a little fun of you so you laugh at the predicament you got yourself in.
"You fk8n idiot! You don't know how to change a tire? Here, pay attention I'm only gonna do this once"
_proceeds to change your tire and gives you his tire iron and a free spare tire_
And one would be happy to learn from him . Fucking love that guy since his Dave Chappelle days💪💪💪🍄🍄🍄
As an East Coaster, I definitely have experienced the helpful stranger who curses at you.
Absolutely. I live in Mass and it is very true
@Behead Democratics No it's true. I tell Democrats they're fucking stupid all the time and then post multiple sources proving their bullshit beliefs wrong so they'll make better life choices.
Not necessarily
I had a guy flag me down here on the East Coast to tell me I had a flat then told me to pull over
He then helped me change it
Kind, nice guys, hearted people still exist. It turns out he was a truck driver
I can say that this is true of people in my area in Virginia
Yep, totally!
Yes that’s accurate, east coast ish all day 😂 “damn you stupid” while buying you gas and bringing you back to your car 3 miles away
"Man, that suuucks 😔✌️" I'm from California and I died. That's
exactly what it's like.
Gotta be an adult and do it yo self. Or be insulted one can’t handle responsibility. Lol
same here
@@420Darkstar666 you help people,thts a good thing
hi died... *I'M DAD *
No cuz changing that tired could’ve costed me 2 hrs which equals $30. Call AAA.
"Im going to complain but I'll still do it" its out of midwest love and its the best conversations at the end. Its your world and im just passing through
In Texas, everyone will call you sir or ma'am. They will definitely help you when you need it. When I first came to Texas it was really difficult to get used to this having grown up in California. In California people will call you dude or or something else. Instead of helping you they'll just take pictures of you and your problem then post them on social media. Have to say living in Texas has been a breath of fresh air. People are kind, helpful and very nice
Yes! Thanks for appreciating Texas culture and people! And please, please, please don't vote California politics in Texas.
We try but man have I seen a shift since I was a kid. It's still there but we were friendlier in the 90s it seems to me.
@@FH-cn3mg In Texas we definitely were. I agree. You can still find that attitude out in the rural places and smaller towns, HOWEVER - the worst of the changes are in places like Dallas, Houston and Austin.
Oddly enough - they are all solidly blue counties and cities. Maybe there's a connection there?
Totally agree, Texans are all kindness and niceness until you mess with them. Remember, don't mess with Texas! ⭐
Don't be fooled! Every time a Texan says "well, bless your heart", they're telling you to f*** off!
I just love how the blk ones are like THE most wild ones.
Meanwhile me a mid-westerner: Why aren't you both nice and kind?
Everyone else: What are you, some kind of serial killer?
Kansas: I've changed tires, pushed cars and given rides to get gas all while maintaining a good attitude....
What are you some kind of serial killer?
Wisconsin, with the highest serial killers per capita: Yes.
I was thinking the same thing. I’ve jumpstarted cars, changed tires, pulled people out of ditches while laughing and joking around with them the whole time… Oklahoma / Missouri
Sometimes
Well …. A lot of em do come from the Midwest lmao
Being a military brat growing up I grew up partially on the east coast and partially on the west coast. Two completely different worlds. On the east coast if someone has a problem with you they say it to your face and you deal with it, but on the west coast they tell everyone else around you they have a problem with you and deal with it behind your back.
When I first moved to the west coast I was called confrontational, I had to learn the way of the land.
I was born and raised in Brooklyn and this is exactly what I have been talking about for years living in Colorado , I swear passive aggressiveness at its finest! I have literally lost jobs and almost gone to jail behind the The way they throw boulders and then hide their hands in almost every situation, it is truly crazy, a person will literally make an appointment with you not cancel, not say they’re going to be late, not show, and if you bring it up and ask what happened, ohhh you’re making a big deal out of nothing … that is the norm and this is in a business situation
Where do people come to with this crap lol what a ridiculous generalization.
@@Butcho22 I am guessing you are from the west coast
Yeah. I was always a very shy kid on the northeast coast. Now I live in Utah and they think I'm a slobbering lunatic. As in "hi, I've never been here before, where should I park to pick up my stuff?" is literally threatening. Smiling unironically and being appreciative and not passive-aggressive might get you blown or killed at any moment. (My favorite secret is that Utah definitely falls in the west coast sphere and they are the snowiest flakes of all.)
@@sgtigereye Ive lived in New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, and North Carolina but gotta say, when I visited the west coast for a few months, I thought people were generally pretty good?
She got her tire changed, and she needed her feelings hurt so she'll be motivated to learn to be independent, it's called tough love
Tough love works best !
I feel like the west coast is beta AF, if you can't fix your own tires
This is why Cuclifornian is so weak af getting rid off illegals.
Precisely!!
@@hotpopcorncake look at your profile pic, you can’t call anyone a beta😂
I feel like because the West Coast is full of so many characters and personas while on the East Coast everybody pretty much dealing with the same shit lmao
It's like that saying "there are good people who are not nice and nice people who are not good"
I'm not a nice person in general, but I try to be a good one
Could it also be like a person is faking to be nice or even good so that they could be appraised and appreciated by others?!
yup left coast communism is a hell of a drug
@@mattjack3983 that’s all that matters
this is why i love being from the south. we’ve got super fun accents and everyone knows a southerner will help you. i blew a tire on the highway here in texas and a random man pulled over to change it for me. he said “i’ve got 3 daughters your age and i would never want them to be stranded without help.” i cried and hugged him because i was so thankful.
Yep!!! That's Texas
I love you southerners!!! Y’all so nice!
Yes! West Virginia girl here. We take care of each other like that too!
That's the real Texas. Not the nonsense mainstream media will have people believing
I got spit on in the south just for looking at someone. Fuck you mean???
That is completely accurate when my car broke down on the freeway and I was visibly pregnant in California .. I got out and tried to push my car to the off ramp so I can just roll down the exit .. people drove by and honked and and kept right on going .. in New Jersey, I fell asleep on the subway once .. I woke up and didn't know what state I was in .. this lady called me every type of moron in the book as held my hand and caught the subway all the way back to Jersey with me! 🙄
W
I’ve seen people in LA literally get outta their car and help push a disabled car to the side of the road…I guess it also depends where in CA specific La where your at
@@ThunderKat2012 don’t hulk out on me but maybe it was just to get them out of the way
@@ThunderKat2012 LA people always help! I agree with you. I’ve seen it with my own eyes many times
😂🤣😂🤣
As someone from Pennsylvania I can tell you this is true. I will help you change your tire but I definitely won't be happy about it. I won't leave you to suffer though.
Very true sentiment. And folks seem to not understand that Kindness and Niceness are not the same thing.
Yeah that’s accurate, born in Philly and now living in Arizona lol
The word nice means Ignorant. So your right they aren't the same word.
Literally my boyfriend, he talks so much shit but he is the only one to actually show up and help when people call.
That’s the only kind of people who are allowed to talk shit
PROBABLY A KEEPER
It’s called abuse honey
@@SpaceAce1993 hah good luck out there,, taking shit is normal and a show of affection with most males, it's when he's overly polite you have to think he just don't like you,
@@josephmckee3605 you’re wishing me good luck? 🤣
NYC (Brooklyn) born and raised, and this is accurate. We arent friendly but folks will definitely help you out... as long as you aren't asking for money 🤣
Lmfaooo this is so true!! We talk so much shit to each other but also looking out for each other at the same time.
Back before cellphones my mom tells this story that she got a flat tire in NJ and pulled over into the breakdown lane. It was a rental car and she was there for business. Someone pulled over and shouted her down for being parked there: "We drive in this fuckin' lane, lady!" but helped her change the tire and got her back on the road because that was the way to make everyone safe again.
When I was a kid in ky it was me, my mom and sister- we were little. It was raining hard and in the parking lot my mom's car got stuck in a pot hole that she couldn't see bc that area was covered in water. A man and his teenage son got out of their car in the pouring rain and lifted my mom's car and pushed it out of the pot hole. I'll never forget the selflessness and kindness of these strangers.
@@thegrapeescape87 My Dad pulled over in a torrential downpour, in the pitch-black nighttime to help a lady change her flat tire. We were on the freeway during rush hour. He was pissed when he got back into the car because she didn't even say thank you. His clothes were stuck to his body because they were so drenched.
@@dee_dee_place That's horrible! I remember looking out the back window, the guys wife pulled up with dry clothes and the dad and his son were taking off their soaking wet clothes at their trunk. I will always be grateful and to this day, about 18 years later, I still randomly think of those guys and include them in my prayers. I'm sorry your dad wasn't shown the gratitude he deserved!
Its funny seeing all you womens story. Cause if you let this generation of women tell it, all these men that helped you guys are out to use and kill you guys lol.
West coast: Love and prayers.
East coast: Hold my beer.
"Hold my beer" is more like it. Insults? Not often true.
Beautifully said.
West coast flats are rare lol eastcoast potholes are more common than well paved roads lol
@@RichSoundsGM as a recent west coast transplant, no lol. The roads are consistently terrible here. East coast potholes don't last long.
@@dustindownard12809 ive been in massachusset for over 15 years and lived in arizona and vegas .. the potholes def last a lot longer
My NYC friend explained: they’re all in a big hurry, so they’re pissed if you slow down the crowd, but there’s always someone there to help if you need it
As someone who has worked in NYC, I can tell you that you're spot on.
Hmmm weird then that no one helped the lady who was sexually assaulted on the subway while three New Yorkers just recorded it on their cellphones. Stop the cap.
@@giantsfan185 What about the recent paramedic lady who was randomly stabbed on the sidewalk and the perp just runs off while people continue walking by her laying there dying. Stop the cap.
@@christovelasquez9595
Weird that you think helping someone who's broke down on the side of the road is the same as getting into a physical altercation with a deranged individual.
Not saying that people shouldn't have intervened, but there's a few variables that you failed to include...like getting locked up by the DA or sued by the perpetrator...or maybe getting killed, yourself. People are fearful of being good Samaritans because in today's society no good deed goes unpunished.
@@christovelasquez9595 I wasn’t there for those events, but I watched my dad get pickpocketed on a trip to NYC. Some dudes on the street tackled the thief and held him until NYPD arrived
In Canada, a passerby apologizes to someone with a flat tire
"ey, you got a fokin flat tire? What the hell is wrong with you why don't you be more careful jeez.." *changes your tire for you*
They even have the heavy duty jack and tools in their trunk
I don’t think anyone in New York has talked like this since the 60’s-80’s max
@@nulolove Ehhh. My partner's entire family talks like that, though not as dramatic, of course.
Wrong east coast I REPEAT WRONG EASY COAST no tea here it’s in the bay good sir now fook off
"Learn to do it your own fuckin self, I ain't helping your sorry ass next time!"
*Proceeds to help next time. And the time after that.*
This seems pretty accurate. Getting your feelings hurt while being stuffed with good food by the same people who hurt your feelings, because they are aggressively concerned, sums up the experience.
Haha, that reminds me of an experience I had working construction for this italian guy. So we did some work for this latino family on their house, poor area of town, you could tell they didn't have much money.
A week later we come back to finish up, and my boss and the family end up arguing over the amount, or getting paid or something. I couldn't understand half of it because I speak neither spanish nor italian, lol.
Well I guess they finally work it out, because the next thing you know their feeding all of us, passing out bowls of rice and beans. I wasn't hungry (just had lunch), and it was the most dry, bland rice and beans I've ever had, but you know, I'm trying to finish it because I'm in someone else's house and they've just given us food and it would be rude to reject it.
Such a weird experience though.
Tell me you have an Italian family without tell me you have an Italian family LOL
I'm from the east coast, New York, and this is absolutely accurate lmaoooo! We're gonna' tell you about yourself but we're still gonna' help you too.
TRUTH
Soooo True, I think people are idiots when I see somebody with A flat, but I Will 100 percent help them for Free... I from the NEW York😅😅😮
@Lamar Thomas lol it's better than Los Angeles...they just drive by and ignore you. ( I live in L.A. County) people don't even care if you have a kid with you to help people..(in different scenarios)
@Britt Hi Britt, Sorry To Hear That People Don't See The Need To Help One Another in Times Of Need, That's tragic and sad at the Same Time. I have to Stop Romanticizing how Nice it Would Be To Visit California or Just Don't Get A Flat Tire or Ever Needs Help When I Do Visit... 😫 🙃 😩 😕 🤔
Lmao I'm from Philly and I can confirm we will talk shit the entire time 😂
Wow I never found a better analogy for my Nigerian relatives they are kind but not nice. 😂
I lived in California, now I live in Connecticut and I have tears from laughing at how accurate this is.
I'm from California, and now live in
Connecticut.
Same
I grew up in CT and now live in California and yep, this is true shit
I also just moved to Connecticut and laughed my ass off @ this!!
youre cap dead ass
Holy cow! Ive never thought about it like that, but after hearing someone point it out its so true.
This is so real. I guess I’m more comfortable on the West coast because I’d prefer to not be verbally abused and can handle myself.
Lol I live in nyc and work as a package handler, the amount of times people help me with the door or pick up dropped packages or even chase me down to give me packages I might have dropped is surprising and wholesome ❤. If I’m lost I know someone is willing to help me find where I’m going. Even if I look like I need a hand someone is always ready to offer
same case when I lived on long island and where i live now in Massachusetts
Doesn't sound like you're very good at your job. Lmao jk just had to, good share though.
That’s sweet. Still a shithole.
@@nomaddennis2126 🤣
I bet they never said" you fucking idiot you dropped this fucking package. If it was my package I would have to crack ya fucking head." She forced it with the swearing & disrespect. Only assholes talk like that & they're on both coast
I lived in California and the only people who came to help me when I really needed help with my car were two Mexican wonderful men!❤
They were thinking "ooo mama chupa mi pito ye"
I've seen this porn before 👍
Mexican people are the best same with Balkan people
We've learned to leave libetard whaamen the fuck alone or be accused of phony harrassment and rape charges.
If you were a man, they might not have wasted their time.
As a born and raised New Yorker I can vouch that I’ve yelled at people and helped them at the same time. And I have strangers help me and make fun of me too 😂 it’s how we show our love. Too much mushy ish and people with think your soft
Instead it makes you look weak.
@@zellerized I think you missed her point. A lot of it is just east coast sense of humor. We tend to have a sarcastic sense of humor that's really honest. But it's all done in love as she said.
@@zellerized / Sit down, JO!
@@Oldfarmlady / Yes! Aptly stated.
Honestly, a lot of this can be explained by car culture. People in California drive everywhere, you don't really interact with anyone. You are cut off from the world. So there's really no sense of community, especially for the transplants. It's just a bunch of isolated apartments where people walk to their car, drive to where they need to go, and drive back to their apartment. If anything, you see other people as an annoyance because they mean more traffic.
my fellow urbanist
Midwest: Ope, you got a flat! Let me squeeze right past ya and get you back on the road! *cue small talk the entire time until you know his niece’s birthday*
And invited to it 🤣
Idk why read this in a Midwest accent 🤦🏾♀️🤣🤣
This! I was just thinking, good thing I'm in the Midwest. We're kind and nice lol
Tells your folks I says hi!
I heard it this way “ people in NYC will grab the front end of a stroller with a mom struggling to go down a flight of subway stairs, help her carry the stroller down and storm off without saying a word to the mother or looking at her. People in LA will look the mom in the eyes, smile and move out her way as to not bump into her or the stroller but no one will actually help her down the stairs.” I don’t need you to move out of my way, I need you to help me!
So true
It’s because the woman in California would sue your ass for touching the stroller without permission
@@JoeBidensDroolBib I would've freaked out if you offered lmao would think you're a weirdo, whats wrong with you because no one is ever that nice here S. California. So much so, that when someone is kind I automatically know they're not from here!
Yeah I agree! Thinking of your example I'd much rather live around people in NYC
As a person living in NYC this is so true 😂
When I lived in California I would go on walks. I said good morning to some random lady. She literally stopped me and asked me where I was from. I said "Ohio". She then told me not to let California ruin me as a person. Good times, good times.
Ohio.... everyone leaves Ohio lol
@@deelee4639 I moved back because it's affordable lol
@@fadedcrayon4764 my brother said hes staying here in Seattle because it's peaceful. He said he has PTSD from growing up in Ohio and all his friends are dead or in jail. I hope u live in a better area
@@deelee4639 that's most small towns. I live in a city
Now we tell ex-Californians not to ruin Texas.