Watching this, all I could think about was the sorrow of Xanthe (sp?), who at just 16 is unloved to the point where she has to go to the hospital for a head injury and doesn't tell anyone. When she does, they don't believe her. The contempt that her own mom had for her was so disappointing.
Xanthe looks tired from carrying so much doubt about her family and her place in the home. She's so sad and I imagine she feels like a dead weight in the house. She deserves to be loved.
Where did u hear she's 16? Because she is out drinking alcohol you have to be 18 in the UK to go clubbing and drinking alcohol...would also make her mother like 33...
I've never seen kids scream at each other and their parents with such vitriol before. It was pure rage coming from that little boy. Structure and discipline are necessary, but maybe the kids need to be listened to, as well.
I think you're dead right. The rage, language and name calling is very concerning - either there's some real frustration issues going on there or they are mimicking what they see.
It is a gorgeous, perfectly proportioned pony. I'm glad that it gets proper care when the non mom is gone. Edit : I was truly infatuated when I saw it at the beginning. It looks like a perfect little horse, absolutely beautiful.
personally i never likeds sauce. just ketchup. even now as adult i dont make sauces, i dont like wet food. spaghetti with minced meat was my favourite food as kid. If i was lucky they did not make any or took off plain minced meat for me and then added the sauce. also like dont americans eat plain macaroni with cheese and nothing else? that's almost as worse imo. where's the protein?
I wish Red would've kept the sticker chart, because Spike really did seem to love it, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to reward a child for good behavior, since it's just a basic human need that we're more motivated to do better if there's positive feedback/results as opposed to being criticized constantly and not seeing anything come from it
i am so super positive towards him that i dont think he needed it...looking back i was annoyed that dan jumped ship on our home beliefs so quickly while i was away
yeah. and i think thats why kids (as adults) like video games. you get colours and rewards. as a kid i played runescape which was super grindy game, but seeing level up was so rewarding. i think that sticker system could work the same way.
@@milkymoo8252 he was indeed well behaved for 99.9% of the time so his outbursts are not a reflection of the whole person...hes in his 20s now and very happy!
Thanks very much,it was actually fun to film and we are in touch with the pinchin family still to this day!i no longer work in fashion but dan keeps the brand going.my dad died in 2013 and I had to declutter his hoarded home,people started to ask me to do theirs too and a business helping hoarders was born called mother clutter
I fully understand not wanting to follow the crowd & not wanting to another dairy cow!! But when she said she had a problem with respect I instantly thought wow, you should be desexed & not allowed to raise anything!!
So someone makes a statement and they should be sterilised? You sound reasonable. Maybe she should have therapy before being forced to have her ovaries removed?
ouch this a little nazi-ish...i just couldnt say that to ANYONE even hitler himself,forced steralisation because i said i had issues with respect?i grew up in a VERY violent home and so respect is a hard subject as i had to deal with a parenting style with forced respect instilled through fear.if thats your parenting style then that is indeed your choice but i know from experience it doesnt make for a happy home.
The bahaviour of those kids considering their mum is meant to be quite regimented (with rewards) was disgusting! I am a mum of 6 and mine have never and would never behave like that! Especially for somebody else. I often doubt myself as a mum but watching these has made me realise every Mother and father parent differently and i dont do a bad job AT ALL.
Felt sorry for the kid who screamed he hadnt had his tea, hes used to his routine...if my kids never had proper food with knife and fork (no matter how much they ate) they would say i havent eaten...they used to eating proper meals
Those kids are way too old for that tantrum behaviour...probably the routine was too much for them so they started bugging once they saw the opportunity but that isnt normal
When i was a little kid i loved being carried from wherever i had fallen asleep to bed. I would do it on purpose. To me it seems like a similar thing. The kids obviously miss their dad and they like the interaction. The young boy is probably faking being asleep so he can be carried up by his dad
To be fair the farm dad probably ownshis own business and it's not so much his a workaholic as its essential or there is no business, no money, no house, no food.
thanks!thats funny you say that as they called us 'the series where they all got along!'..still in touch with them now and we've met up since a few times,pure respect for nadine and her family x
so its super hard from my viewpoint as i am close to both of them.this means i know both of their view points very well and i then have to keep it all to myself!
I think the little boy in the disciplined family reacted like that also because he did not have a real father figure, which is hugely difficult for a little boy growing up. I also think he missed his mum a lot. I was so sad to se the relationship between the stepfather and Xanthe, she is ignored by both her mum and him, and is given no chance to improve because always feels like the bad kid. If you are constantly screamed at and being considered like the untrustworthy one and the bad one then that's exactly how you'll turn out.
OMG!thanks sooooooo much for this comment...we are all still in touch,we both actually did learn an awful lot from the experience!....the production team called us 'the ones that got along',we were the first ever mums to want to hug eachother when we were at the table meeting afterwards!
Dan is an absolute rubbish, he gives me the creeps. i dont understand how could he heve such passionate hate for a kid. He also claims his stepdaughter doesn't care about them enough to do things around the house but they dont require it from their kids
This is the first episode I see where nobody is nasty or dumb! I think in both house with rules was proven to be better than without rules (who would've thought that 😉).
I don’t think jealousy was ever an issue between us.yes we had problems as does any family with teenagers but we are now best friends.xanthe has a successful career after going to uni.
@@MotherClutter sometimes they stitch clips together that leave an impression that is negative, even if it's a minute percentage of interactions which may be overwhelmingly positive but spiking viewers emotions sells so the truth can go to hell. I am remarking on the selection of snippets sewn together in this to suggest this was a key theme of the relationship, which promotes the notion here of an exclusionary dynamic, I will admit I have no clue about the vast intricacies of your bond beyond this clip but it is nice to hear that things are much better for you both because it's heartbreaking thinking one of the closest bonds any two humans can have, isn't being celebrated when it's such a blessing to have one another to enjoy.
@@Spookystoriesbylia lordy she is certainly not boring!she felt under pressure with the camera there thats all,she still to this day hates having her photo taken
That was one of the better Wife Swaps ever produced. When OLD (2009) shows are shown, some comments made aren’t taking that into account, writing nonsense 🙄!
yes!things have moved on!dan and i are now 53,still together and moved to newcastle in lockdown to get our dream house.Xanthe is now 35 and has done a business degree and her masters,now has her long awaited desk job (she never wanted to live my life of variable wages as a self employed worker!),spike is 19 (still a fantastic human being!) and has just finished 6th form college,then he went to work at camp america,is now planning travelling whilst working with me and my new decluttering business..NEWS we also had queenie in 2012 who is now 12 and has just started secondary school...kids all get along great,life is good!
The little boy, Harry really has concerning anger issues & is far too violent for a boy his age . . . . . he's going to be a nightmare in the years to come
Thats great to hear I know these programmes edit thousands of hours of footage to cherry-pick specific moments, so all to be taken lightly - TV companies can be very cruel sometimes in their efforts for viewers I hope Harry is appreciative to have family around him, and goes through each day with a big smile on his face 'Life is Good'
why on earth would you allow a small child to scream and shout right next to a horse no hat no nothing good thing that horse didnt spook its a no no as i would not allow it near my horse.
so here is the funny and hugely happy end to the story...lily the middle daughter is now one of the top UK jockeys,she is AMAZING!i'm so proud (week long mum) every time i see she's won yet another race...google her lily pinchin.
@@bernice-um2gb as its a family business this wasnt particularly kind..BUT we shut the shop way before covid as the lanlords were just pushing and pushing the rents up so we moved online,dan's still making item,s that are selling now on etsy but now i work in mental health,i fell out if love with fashion
Wow hell No. That child would b brought to his father an left for him to deal with .... Hatred an this kind of behavior is disgusting. Its embarrassing an shameful that. This little boy has to act this way for attention.... 😢
i think he was missing his mum and actually most of the time he behaved well but he had little control of his emotions when he didnt get his way BUT hes grown into a wonderful adult,now in his 20s!
@@rebeccarudkin5606 so the good news is that change is possible,things got a lot better for them after the show and they are still together so childhood romances can last forever!
I had my first at 15 and the mother that used being a young mum for an excuse to emotionally neglect her own child is disgusting. I would do anything for my children, even when I was 15
Oh my that lil boy has quite an attitude!!! Kids learn real easy how parents treat one another and they learn more from the same sex parent so seeing that dad takes advantage of the mother... it's not surprising to see how the cold behaves to the mother figure!!
its not in my nature to shout and scream,i see losing my temper as a weakness.i was brought up in an extremely violent scary household,never wanted to bring that to my kids,tried my best
@@MotherClutter did I say u have to shout scream and be violent ? What part of what I said was that? I said put ut foot down..which means be authoritative and be the one in charge and not get walked all over...how does that mean getting violent or shouting?...
8:56 "just feel like all I done is stuff for other people" uh hello that's what being a perents is. 13:30 kids complaining because he didn't get tea (food) how shit of a mother do you have to be that you don't feed your kids, especially when the husband/partner is working. The red lady then said at 13:30 what she fed the kids, packet of crisps grapes and sandwiches etc, what kind of food is that, meals are sopposed to be wholesome and homly and nutritious and hot/warm, not a bland tesco meal deal discription. That red lady had a guilty lying face of selfishness and not giving a dam. that child was talking about tea/food from the start of episode. Perents are sopposed to be Raising them and teaching kids about life. She even said tea (dinner) is not important, that is just selfish, kids have a right to be fed and not have to go to the kitchen to make food when they are young. That's like a abusive childhood. If my kids said to me I didn't fed them when they were young i would be heartbroken, and ashamed. Later in the episode at 15:07 the daughter talks about her mom (red lady) how she feels emotionally ignored and how her mom would get angry if she wanted to talk or have some attention. The red lady clearly is a crap mother who just wants to live HER own life uninterrupted. What a selfish cow.
i am called lisa...i always hated that there were 4 other lisa's in my year at school,seemed basic so i went out of my way to name my kids with unusual names,my choice and spike who is now 19 has always liked his name...we also now have queenie who is 12 (what do you think of that?!haha)
@MotherClutter i remember your episode andd how lovely Spike was and i love your kids names ❤ you did well to keep your cool with harry. I had my son a couple of years after this and he didnt ha e any rules because i had a helicopter mother and i was a child from hell and he was really good and i think its because he didnt have anything to rebel against and we had open communication. I cant believ Spikes 19! Hope you're all doing well love from Scotland
Red having to handle those kids reminded me of my dog as a puppy that I'm going to have to put down too soon. Doggo is still a spunky pumpkin; she will trot away extra fast so you have to chase her, but wont actually run...
I couldn't believe when that mum with red hair refused the sticker chart.? It was fun and working, her son loved it. It's like she was jealous because the idea didn't come from her.smh
not true at all...they are both the two closest people in my life,i hear fully from both of them their opinions of the other,as a lot of parents with a new partner i have to be diplomatic to move forward without starting constant battles
@@LionelWayne-je4vv 15 years on they get on just fine,we christmas together we holiday together..xanthe is unrecognisable in this footage,she is a 35 year old confident boss lady type now,tells me what to do and how to do it!haha
I've had my share of freaky clothes in my youth, but Red's family are just very strange and I can't fathom why they would wear them now they are mature 😂😂😂😂
Agreed.I would never present myself in public with the choices Red has made, much less as a mother! Children learn what they live and my opinion is such lack of structure, decency the future doesn’t bode well for children missing out on these basic childhood learning opportunities. It restricts the child’s opportunities. Most of us have done things we would now do differently having grown up but there are others who seem to be in an arrested state of development and never grow up to meet their potential. I get the impression individuals retaining such very immature behaviors can’t really be enjoying their lives, the red woman said without flinching how she would have to give up “me” time and admits she is selfish. I thought parents always sacrificed for their children. The other dad she said “You are selfish you admitted as much” and at least he had the maturity and mind set to say he draws the line when it is affecting the children. That is the way decent people would react. But there will always be those who whine and complain when their own children end up in trouble its everyone elses fault. No one would give the help he or she required! Isn’t that primarily why we have parents? We depend on our parents for much longer than most mammals, tells me children arent able to make adult like decisions until they are at least 18 years old give or take.
Ive always remebered this episode andd i was brought up like the "posh family" and my brother and i were little shxts so i brought my son up with no rules and hes done really well for himself and jas always been well behaved. I think its because theres nothing to rebel against and he talks to me about everything and now hes grown we're great friends.
Gives millions of people mental breakdowns, like some jobs do except this “job” you cant leave, you can’t take holidays, and you hope for a little 🤗 here nd there just to say thanks for providing “perfect house, outfits, x3 meals, school run and meetings, club drop offs and ect)..,, yet a parent makes one mistake has a breakdown and called toxic… after 20+ years off doing it unproblematic. 😂❤
Watching this, all I could think about was the sorrow of Xanthe (sp?), who at just 16 is unloved to the point where she has to go to the hospital for a head injury and doesn't tell anyone. When she does, they don't believe her. The contempt that her own mom had for her was so disappointing.
Xanthe looks tired from carrying so much doubt about her family and her place in the home. She's so sad and I imagine she feels like a dead weight in the house.
She deserves to be loved.
Xanthippe, it was a philosopher's (Socrates?) nagging wife's name.
Where did u hear she's 16? Because she is out drinking alcohol you have to be 18 in the UK to go clubbing and drinking alcohol...would also make her mother like 33...
Sorry but when did that happen? Must have missed it ?
@@tashaax1993xanimalloverx 33:24
I've never seen kids scream at each other and their parents with such vitriol before. It was pure rage coming from that little boy. Structure and discipline are necessary, but maybe the kids need to be listened to, as well.
It's really interesting to see the so-called structured family are the children who are so nasty
I think it's just pure frustration and being told what and how every moment of the day!
Wonder how he is now?
Well said
The behaviour is appalling
I think you're dead right. The rage, language and name calling is very concerning - either there's some real frustration issues going on there or they are mimicking what they see.
Funny the way thing's go the kid with no rules is so well behaved and the one with rules is a complete little Bursted
It's what we don't see when the cameras aren't there he's telling us loud n clear.
He might have ADHD 😂😂😂 like me!
@@kay44422 he was actually really good fun!yes he had melt downs but he was actually a nice kid
@@milkymoo8252 yes its best not to jump to conclusions about 'bad' behaviour,....youre 100% right
@milkymoo8252 ADHD just an other label to excuse being a brat
I feel sorry for the horse…
Me too!
It is a gorgeous, perfectly proportioned pony. I'm glad that it gets proper care when the non mom is gone.
Edit : I was truly infatuated when I saw it at the beginning. It looks like a perfect little horse, absolutely beautiful.
8:35 DID SHE ACTUALLY GIVE THEM KIDS PLAIN SPAGHETTI WITH NO SAUCE?!?!?! 😢😢😢😢
They probably shed for it as my daughter loves, lives, loes plain spaghetti ❤😂
Im 52 and i still LOVE plain spagetti@milkymoo8252
thats my kids favourite meal...cheese on the side but not touching,haha
personally i never likeds sauce. just ketchup. even now as adult i dont make sauces, i dont like wet food. spaghetti with minced meat was my favourite food as kid. If i was lucky they did not make any or took off plain minced meat for me and then added the sauce. also like dont americans eat plain macaroni with cheese and nothing else? that's almost as worse imo. where's the protein?
After watching this, I'm so grateful to be single for 4 years now, phew!!😂
I wish Red would've kept the sticker chart, because Spike really did seem to love it, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to reward a child for good behavior, since it's just a basic human need that we're more motivated to do better if there's positive feedback/results as opposed to being criticized constantly and not seeing anything come from it
I can't imagine not being there for my child's birthday.
He probably wet the bed cos he was so tired and didn't wake up when his bladder was full.
i am so super positive towards him that i dont think he needed it...looking back i was annoyed that dan jumped ship on our home beliefs so quickly while i was away
yeah. and i think thats why kids (as adults) like video games. you get colours and rewards. as a kid i played runescape which was super grindy game, but seeing level up was so rewarding. i think that sticker system could work the same way.
Is anyone else getting Ab Fab vibes from that photo shoot? 😂
Yesss in France !
10000000%
It's rediclous 😂😂😂
i'll take that!love ab fab!
Absolutely lmao IT’S LA COIX
You would think that boy with the horse would have acted better with the stricter family but he’s a wee brat
I don't I think these children are put into a situation they don't want and being filmed.
Pure anger and hatred coming from that little boy! Spoiled little upstart!
He's my spirit animal, leave off.
@@ChaseOakley-rw2lx 😂😂😂😂😂😂 mine too!
@@ChaseOakley-rw2lx he certainly should be allowed to vent,at least he wont be walked all over haha
@@milkymoo8252 nothing wrong with trying to get our own way,we are all only human!
@@MotherClutter said like an amazing mother, thanknyou😍
I really like both families seems though that Red is the one who find the changes most difficult
cant argue with that...my late life adhd diagnosis explains a lot!
the dad looks like chris ingham lol ifykyk xx
Danielle, you're the best at this genre. Absolutely love your analyses. Much love to you, beautiful. xXx ❤
Those kids are horrific 😢 spike was a little sweetheart ❤ xxx
spike is 19 now,still an amazing human being!
I think it's a form of abuse to put children in this position. They are put into a situation of not their making. No wonder they react that way
She looked like edina monsoon in the photoshoot
i'm happy with that!
I’d be embarrassed if that was my little boy behaving like that! 😮
He's just being himself, tho. 😂😂😂
@@milkymoo8252 he was indeed well behaved for 99.9% of the time so his outbursts are not a reflection of the whole person...hes in his 20s now and very happy!
@@MotherClutter no he wasn’t 😂😂😂 is he very happy he was made to go on wife swap?
I'm so glad not to be a child
All of them are lovely but Red is my favourite.
Thanks very much,it was actually fun to film and we are in touch with the pinchin family still to this day!i no longer work in fashion but dan keeps the brand going.my dad died in 2013 and I had to declutter his hoarded home,people started to ask me to do theirs too and a business helping hoarders was born called mother clutter
So far the most wholesome episode i have seen
What an awesome episode.
THANKYOU for the positivity!
Wonder if the shop still exists?
I need to go to Reds store! I love everything different and unusual! ❤
I fully understand not wanting to follow the crowd & not wanting to another dairy cow!! But when she said she had a problem with respect I instantly thought wow, you should be desexed & not allowed to raise anything!!
idk about desexed lmao chill
So someone makes a statement and they should be sterilised? You sound reasonable. Maybe she should have therapy before being forced to have her ovaries removed?
ouch this a little nazi-ish...i just couldnt say that to ANYONE even hitler himself,forced steralisation because i said i had issues with respect?i grew up in a VERY violent home and so respect is a hard subject as i had to deal with a parenting style with forced respect instilled through fear.if thats your parenting style then that is indeed your choice but i know from experience it doesnt make for a happy home.
that's a nice pony
they will be pleased to read this...lily pinchin is now one of the most succesful uk jockeys google her,shes AMAZING!
Honey g
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
i'm older than honey g so if anything shes a copy of me haha
The bahaviour of those kids considering their mum is meant to be quite regimented (with rewards) was disgusting! I am a mum of 6 and mine have never and would never behave like that! Especially for somebody else. I often doubt myself as a mum but watching these has made me realise every Mother and father parent differently and i dont do a bad job AT ALL.
Maybe they do stunts or somthing lol.
That youth’s gay. That’s why he married a bird who looks and carries herself like a bloke.
He married sue pollard 😂
Felt sorry for the kid who screamed he hadnt had his tea, hes used to his routine...if my kids never had proper food with knife and fork (no matter how much they ate) they would say i havent eaten...they used to eating proper meals
i wasnt there to feed spike so he got a 'dads special' haha
Is that Red Mutha store still open????
Those kids are way too old for that tantrum behaviour...probably the routine was too much for them so they started bugging once they saw the opportunity but that isnt normal
The little boy from the rules family is out of control and a horrible little brat
Trying to avoid parenting because of pushback. Its not supposed to to be easy.. this us child neglect
When i was a little kid i loved being carried from wherever i had fallen asleep to bed. I would do it on purpose. To me it seems like a similar thing. The kids obviously miss their dad and they like the interaction. The young boy is probably faking being asleep so he can be carried up by his dad
Oh a dog is barking 🎉😂
they were nice when i met them!
Jimmy Savile has purple hair
lordy at least i dont have his habits!
Seen so many eps not one functioning family yet...see Prof Sam Vaknin RUclips amazing insights in "13 types of mentally ill family"...
What is a Mutha ?
me!
Crisps is an annoying word...
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To be fair the farm dad probably ownshis own business and it's not so much his a workaholic as its essential or there is no business, no money, no house, no food.
darren is indeed a VERY hard worker and was actually lots of fun to be with!
Narrator - It's 9 o'clock, huge clock on the wall - 8:25
still got it!
To me, I feel red was literally lazy by not having boundaries for her children and letting spike rule the roost!
i have adhd so saying i'm lazy is the last thing anyone who meets me ever saysspike turned out great btw,a lovely human being
How can you say that when her partner is basically the head of household, and has wedged himself in between her and her daughter’s relationship?
@@MotherClutter Good for you. 👏🏻👍🏻. You’re so polite to the rude ones. I could with a bit of your calm ❤️❤️
Both families were actually pleasant and it was great they both learned from eachother
thanks!thats funny you say that as they called us 'the series where they all got along!'..still in touch with them now and we've met up since a few times,pure respect for nadine and her family x
@@MotherClutteraw I love to hear that. Hope you’re all doing well❤️
It seems that red really didnt like her fella and daughter spending time together or getting on
Wonder why? Maybe she's jealous they'd get on. 😢
@@milkymoo8252 no not at all,its complicated
so its super hard from my viewpoint as i am close to both of them.this means i know both of their view points very well and i then have to keep it all to myself!
@MotherClutter aww I'm so sorry for being presumptive ❣️
@@milkymoo8252 no it was just complex as all relationships are
'They don't believe in rules' yeah because as adults we don't have to deal with rules...
i'm kind of a rebel in that way for sure
I think the little boy in the disciplined family reacted like that also because he did not have a real father figure, which is hugely difficult for a little boy growing up. I also think he missed his mum a lot. I was so sad to se the relationship between the stepfather and Xanthe, she is ignored by both her mum and him, and is given no chance to improve because always feels like the bad kid. If you are constantly screamed at and being considered like the untrustworthy one and the bad one then that's exactly how you'll turn out.
the good news is that it just shows that any problems can be resolved...all good now!
I loved Loved loved this episode everyone came out better and appreciating one another so much more.Well done both families❤❤❤❤
OMG!thanks sooooooo much for this comment...we are all still in touch,we both actually did learn an awful lot from the experience!....the production team called us 'the ones that got along',we were the first ever mums to want to hug eachother when we were at the table meeting afterwards!
Dan is an absolute rubbish, he gives me the creeps. i dont understand how could he heve such passionate hate for a kid. He also claims his stepdaughter doesn't care about them enough to do things around the house but they dont require it from their kids
This is the first episode I see where nobody is nasty or dumb! I think in both house with rules was proven to be better than without rules (who would've thought that 😉).
The mum is jealous of her own daughter Xanthe. I hope she has her own family that loves her.
I don’t think jealousy was ever an issue between us.yes we had problems as does any family with teenagers but we are now best friends.xanthe has a successful career after going to uni.
@@MotherClutter sometimes they stitch clips together that leave an impression that is negative, even if it's a minute percentage of interactions which may be overwhelmingly positive but spiking viewers emotions sells so the truth can go to hell. I am remarking on the selection of snippets sewn together in this to suggest this was a key theme of the relationship, which promotes the notion here of an exclusionary dynamic, I will admit I have no clue about the vast intricacies of your bond beyond this clip but it is nice to hear that things are much better for you both because it's heartbreaking thinking one of the closest bonds any two humans can have, isn't being celebrated when it's such a blessing to have one another to enjoy.
That young lady Xanthe seems as though shes in her 40s. Bless her.
😂 and ur definition of in your 40's is bs. I'm 41 and not this this boring
@@Spookystoriesbylia lordy she is certainly not boring!she felt under pressure with the camera there thats all,she still to this day hates having her photo taken
she was 19 at the time,felt kinda oppressed by the cameras and without me there to back her up
That was one of the better Wife Swaps ever produced. When OLD (2009) shows are shown, some comments made aren’t taking that into account, writing nonsense 🙄!
yes!things have moved on!dan and i are now 53,still together and moved to newcastle in lockdown to get our dream house.Xanthe is now 35 and has done a business degree and her masters,now has her long awaited desk job (she never wanted to live my life of variable wages as a self employed worker!),spike is 19 (still a fantastic human being!) and has just finished 6th form college,then he went to work at camp america,is now planning travelling whilst working with me and my new decluttering business..NEWS we also had queenie in 2012 who is now 12 and has just started secondary school...kids all get along great,life is good!
The little boy, Harry really has concerning anger issues & is far too violent for a boy his age . . . . . he's going to be a nightmare in the years to come
good news is he wasnt a nightmare,isnt a nightmare,hes in his 20s and a perfectly happy human being!
@@MotherClutter - Obviously, that's great to hear.
I wish him all the best, and a lifetime filled with happiness and love
@@golic7123 aw thaats nice...they are a we are a very close family still x
Thats great to hear
I know these programmes edit thousands of hours of footage to cherry-pick specific moments, so all to be taken lightly - TV companies can be very cruel sometimes in their efforts for viewers
I hope Harry is appreciative to have family around him, and goes through each day with a big smile on his face
'Life is Good'
I fund that hard to believe.He is a totally nightmare and should not have been around animals. What a horrible brat
why on earth would you allow a small child to scream and shout right next to a horse no hat no nothing good thing that horse didnt spook its a no no as i would not allow it near my horse.
The horse was so calm as if he was thinking “I’m use to this sh**”
so here is the funny and hugely happy end to the story...lily the middle daughter is now one of the top UK jockeys,she is AMAZING!i'm so proud (week long mum) every time i see she's won yet another race...google her lily pinchin.
@@tylerstgeorge8714 Are you a successful jockey now?? 😂😂👍🏻
Bullshit he didn’t get her message 🙄 she just needs to save up some money and move out
😂 fashion??
Red mother 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 how they pay he rent for shop selling that shit 🤣
not for everyone i understand i guess an antidote to fast fashion..more about recycling really
I like that they found their niche.
Those clothes are absolutely ridiculous
😂😂😂😂 hopefully covid shut them down 😂
Since this is an ancient episode it's probably been shut down long ago
Very patsy & eddie gone wrong
omg i'm so glad to read this...NEVER BORING thats me!
@@bernice-um2gb as its a family business this wasnt particularly kind..BUT we shut the shop way before covid as the lanlords were just pushing and pushing the rents up so we moved online,dan's still making item,s that are selling now on etsy but now i work in mental health,i fell out if love with fashion
the red mutha dads face during the photoshoot was cracking me up.
Awful children , no manners and rude , be so embarrassed if they were mine 😡
theyve all turned out great to be honest so there is hope for everyone...they are all loved and succesful
@@michaelmorris6897 What a terribly judgemental and mean comment. Totally unnecessary!! You should have literally ‘refrained from commenting’.
Wow hell No. That child would b brought to his father an left for him to deal with .... Hatred an this kind of behavior is disgusting. Its embarrassing an shameful that. This little boy has to act this way for attention.... 😢
Exactly!!! Those kids need both parents!
But did u notice once the dad got involved he stopped the bad behavior....
Awful behaviour
i think he was missing his mum and actually most of the time he behaved well but he had little control of his emotions when he didnt get his way BUT hes grown into a wonderful adult,now in his 20s!
@@rebeccarudkin5606 so the good news is that change is possible,things got a lot better for them after the show and they are still together so childhood romances can last forever!
How can u be selfish like her whwn u have children? Don't have children.
I had my first at 15 and the mother that used being a young mum for an excuse to emotionally neglect her own child is disgusting. I would do anything for my children, even when I was 15
i make no excuses,it is what it is...we are BFF'S now which i'm eternally grateful for x
@@MotherClutter you’re a truly awesome human being. I hope you see this someday ❣️
Wish red was more open to change.
Oh my that lil boy has quite an attitude!!! Kids learn real easy how parents treat one another and they learn more from the same sex parent so seeing that dad takes advantage of the mother... it's not surprising to see how the cold behaves to the mother figure!!
Proves just cause u can have kids doesn't mean u should ......some ppl are not fit .
This show proper confirms my views that pro-creating is cruel not love
Red realised when u have unruly kids u need to put ur foot down lol
its not in my nature to shout and scream,i see losing my temper as a weakness.i was brought up in an extremely violent scary household,never wanted to bring that to my kids,tried my best
@@MotherClutter did I say u have to shout scream and be violent ? What part of what I said was that? I said put ut foot down..which means be authoritative and be the one in charge and not get walked all over...how does that mean getting violent or shouting?...
@@tashaax1993xanimalloverx crossed wires
@@MotherClutter You were doing a great job and now the proof is in the pudding. Well done you 👍🏻
8:56 "just feel like all I done is stuff for other people" uh hello that's what being a perents is. 13:30 kids complaining because he didn't get tea (food) how shit of a mother do you have to be that you don't feed your kids, especially when the husband/partner is working. The red lady then said at 13:30 what she fed the kids, packet of crisps grapes and sandwiches etc, what kind of food is that, meals are sopposed to be wholesome and homly and nutritious and hot/warm, not a bland tesco meal deal discription. That red lady had a guilty lying face of selfishness and not giving a dam. that child was talking about tea/food from the start of episode.
Perents are sopposed to be Raising them and teaching kids about life. She even said tea (dinner) is not important, that is just selfish, kids have a right to be fed and not have to go to the kitchen to make food when they are young. That's like a abusive childhood. If my kids said to me I didn't fed them when they were young i would be heartbroken, and ashamed.
Later in the episode at 15:07 the daughter talks about her mom (red lady) how she feels emotionally ignored and how her mom would get angry if she wanted to talk or have some attention. The red lady clearly is a crap mother who just wants to live HER own life uninterrupted. What a selfish cow.
ID RATHER WATCH LITTLE BRITAIN
Xanthe, ill be your mum xx 😢
My god l loved wife swap ❤
we loved appearing on it!
Who would call their kid Spike?.
That's okay for a dog or cat not a child.
Um duh it's for a human male to not just stupid dogs.
i am called lisa...i always hated that there were 4 other lisa's in my year at school,seemed basic so i went out of my way to name my kids with unusual names,my choice and spike who is now 19 has always liked his name...we also now have queenie who is 12 (what do you think of that?!haha)
@MotherClutter i remember your episode andd how lovely Spike was and i love your kids names ❤ you did well to keep your cool with harry. I had my son a couple of years after this and he didnt ha e any rules because i had a helicopter mother and i was a child from hell and he was really good and i think its because he didnt have anything to rebel against and we had open communication. I cant believ Spikes 19! Hope you're all doing well love from Scotland
@@MotherClutter I’m loving you at this stage… 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻❤️
I know its not nice but brits really age terribly, the teenage daughter already looks like she's 36
Red having to handle those kids reminded me of my dog as a puppy that I'm going to have to put down too soon. Doggo is still a spunky pumpkin; she will trot away extra fast so you have to chase her, but wont actually run...
Thank you so much for your video.
thank YOU for writing something positive!
Both families were good on this one ❤
this eps been well creasing
we aim to entertain!haha
I couldn't believe when that mum with red hair refused the sticker chart.? It was fun and working, her son loved it. It's like she was jealous because the idea didn't come from her.smh
The audio on this video is not very clear. it's a bit muffled
😂 it's from 2009
Red almost seems jealous that her husband and her daughter his stepdaughter might become friends
not true at all...they are both the two closest people in my life,i hear fully from both of them their opinions of the other,as a lot of parents with a new partner i have to be diplomatic to move forward without starting constant battles
@@MotherClutter Well I hope they continued doing their once a week lunch date I had a stepfather who never tried to get along so .
@@LionelWayne-je4vv 15 years on they get on just fine,we christmas together we holiday together..xanthe is unrecognisable in this footage,she is a 35 year old confident
boss lady type now,tells me what to do and how to do it!haha
Lovely to hear x@@MotherClutter
I've had my share of freaky clothes in my youth, but Red's family are just very strange and I can't fathom why they would wear them now they are mature 😂😂😂😂
I think the clothes are absolutely awful but there’s plenty weird people around their shops still going but it’s online now I’m surprised tbh
Agreed.I would never present myself in public with the choices Red has made, much less as a mother! Children learn what they live and my opinion is such lack of structure, decency the future doesn’t bode well for children missing out on these basic childhood learning opportunities. It restricts the child’s opportunities. Most of us have done things we would now do differently having grown up but there are others who seem to be in an arrested state of development and never grow up to meet their potential. I get the impression individuals retaining such very immature behaviors can’t really be enjoying their lives, the red woman said without flinching how she would have to give up “me” time and admits she is selfish. I thought parents always sacrificed for their children. The other dad she said “You are selfish you admitted as much” and at least he had the maturity and mind set to say he draws the line when it is affecting the children. That is the way decent people would react. But there will always be those who whine and complain when their own children end up in trouble its everyone elses fault. No one would give the help he or she required! Isn’t that primarily why we have parents? We depend on our parents for much longer than most mammals, tells me children arent able to make adult like decisions until they are at least 18 years old give or take.
You do know this was filmed in 2008 ?
And mature ? They are probably 32 years old ! 😂😂😂
She seems like she dresses solely for attention and to be able to say she is inappropriate rather then because she likes the outfits.
It was 2009 😂 and they have a store with those clothes so it made sense
Wayne and wayanetta 😂😂😂
Ive always remebered this episode andd i was brought up like the "posh family" and my brother and i were little shxts so i brought my son up with no rules and hes done really well for himself and jas always been well behaved. I think its because theres nothing to rebel against and he talks to me about everything and now hes grown we're great friends.
Lol... Grant Hill...
He pays for the house your sleeping in . That's why he don't do house work , house work and kids are easy to deal with .
Hahaha did you watch the program? Did dealing with housework, the kids, the farm and the BnB guests seem easy to you?
@candicem9651 it seems like a breeze to people who have never done it before.
@@kittylynne607ow dear… feminazis in da house
Gives millions of people mental breakdowns, like some jobs do except this “job” you cant leave, you can’t take holidays, and you hope for a little 🤗 here nd there just to say thanks for providing “perfect house, outfits, x3 meals, school run and meetings, club drop offs and ect)..,, yet a parent makes one mistake has a breakdown and called toxic… after 20+ years off doing it unproblematic. 😂❤
Did you see the kids? Delusional saying they were easy to deal with. They were a nightmare.