It’s not a game. It’s just being aware. Men pursue what they want. They don’t like it handed to them. They want to earn it. When a guy is not acting in a way that expresses wanting to please you- He’s simply not in it with you and will never be. Even if he begrudgingly hangs around to have some comfort. With the right guy, you’re not ignoring him, you’re at peace with it being his choice to pursue you or not. And you’re allowing him to give you his effort. And the express happiness and gratitude for him showing up as a willing and invested man when he does those things to show his commitment to you. Because it’s still his choice to commit to you.
I don't feel at all that he's saying to ignore men. I actually feel like it's more like, be so whole, so complete and happy by yourself that the guy is a great perk in your life. When he goes out of his way a little bit to please you, be pleased, but have a life FIRST.
I was definitely enlightened. I have always given SO much to my men in relationships and I certainly didn't know that this would be a turn off. No wonder I always end up being taken advantage of!!! Thank you Dr. Gray!
@Autumn Forest Maybe you could provide some insight and help demystify for us men, one of the most confusing and confounding mysteries we have. Drumroll.......... The *"rocket science"* of female sexuality???? (I totally understand if you feel uncomfortable replying to any of the Q's below. However I figured it doesn't hurt to try and ask!) Thanks 1. Do women crave as intensely & viscerally to LOOK at, and touch, the male body (Ex: forearms, shoulders, hands, muscles etc.) in the same manner we may hunger for the female body? 2. When a woman sees a man in a well tailored suit does it trigger "sexual longing", in the same way a female showing skin (sexually) might cause in men? 3. Is sexual excitement binary (similar to us men; we are either not thinking about sexual excitement, or we have been triggered and now have to consciously address it, either by squashing it or......) or does it have many stages like 1-10 ladder, similar to an all day slow simmer? 4. For Females the primary motivation for sexual contact is borne out of? A) Emotional Intimacy & mental connection B) Curiosity, adventure & pleasure C) Desire for satiation (Orgasm). *I do understand that women differ from one another, as well as throughout the month it may vary, but a rough outline would still be really helpful .* Thanks for reading through the Q's. Hope you share some of your insight and thoughts. Wishing you a happy, healthy, and fulfilling year....
I pretended to be getting carsick when my ex-husband would drive dangerously. He would slow down if he thought I was going to vomit in his precious BMW.
Conclusion: men are like eggs. Woman have to be totally balanced and have a total balanced speech in order to keep man close to her. If not the egg "runs". where is THE MAN on this planet?
Just be honest and communicate like you aren't hiding something! We allow communication for free. I don't like the concept of paying so I added personals to my site. Life is short, be happy or wish you had!
re the back seat driving, it is so true... I never complained, but when my husband would drive so fast it scared me, if I would grab the handle, that was feedback he didn't appreciate even so!
Wow the whole driving thing is a revelation. As a woman, I don't see "slow down" as unsolicited advice, I see it as "can't you tell you're driving too fast and I'm uncomfortable, slow down!" and his answer should be "sorry, I didn't realise, but now that you point it out Ill slow down. And I'm sorry I made you uncomfortable". Do we really have to do that whole routine where he doesn't get his ego bruised and you have to pretend to appreciate him for something he should be doing without even being told? Fortunately I'm single so I don't have to worry about it! The more I watch these videos, the more I'm glad I'm single! Life is sooo much easier.
He seems like a covert narcissist, he wanted to control and women act in a certain ways as a standard ways as to his liking. I m sure some men are similar but those won’t be the one for me
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Totaly stupid,unfair for women(but maybe this is the sad reality)."go to the man that you don't like so much so you could be a problem for him and he''ll bond with you". I got sad seeing these videos.
Hmm. I found that Saudi Arabia example.... problematic.. unempathic. Its like telling someone whos forebaers were slaves, about the great time you had under the hospiitality of a slavenation.
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Gosh John,you kind of make men out to be baby boos,that we always have to pet their ego and god forbid that we hurt their egos.Wah Wah Wah! But I do love you otherwise
Why do you call JGray "Doctor" ? He's never got ANY University degree, at least from a real University (and not a diploma mill) ! He's only a bookwriter whose claims are very controversial !
I just meant : 1) the guy is NOT entitled to call himself a Doctor 2) what he claims are HIS ideas and are not scientifically based 3) His speech is very conservative. If that makes sense to you, ok with me but he should be more humble and not pretend to be what he is not ! In a sense, he's kind of a guru, which can be harmful to some.
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So ignoring men
is a challenge to them. So when do the games end and we actually be ourselves with each other. Authentically.
Why men love bitches
When we’re in the grave. 😅
Exactly…
It’s not a game. It’s just being aware. Men pursue what they want. They don’t like it handed to them. They want to earn it. When a guy is not acting in a way that expresses wanting to please you- He’s simply not in it with you and will never be. Even if he begrudgingly hangs around to have some comfort. With the right guy, you’re not ignoring him, you’re at peace with it being his choice to pursue you or not. And you’re allowing him to give you his effort. And the express happiness and gratitude for him showing up as a willing and invested man when he does those things to show his commitment to you. Because it’s still his choice to commit to you.
I don't feel at all that he's saying to ignore men. I actually feel like it's more like, be so whole, so complete and happy by yourself that the guy is a great perk in your life. When he goes out of his way a little bit to please you, be pleased, but have a life FIRST.
I was definitely enlightened. I have always given SO much to my men in relationships and I certainly didn't know that this would be a turn off. No wonder I always end up being taken advantage of!!! Thank you Dr. Gray!
So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
Honey .. you're not alone ❤️ am glad you are healing ❤️
😂😂😂
I think that goes beyond a romantic relationship between a man and a woman. Givers are taken for granted. Only the wise will understand their value.
Giving too much
John Gray is a genius! I feel like he’s saving me from messing up my new relationship.Thank you for sharing this interview.
So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
@Autumn Forest
Maybe you could provide some insight and help demystify for us men, one of the most confusing and confounding mysteries we have.
Drumroll..........
The *"rocket science"* of female sexuality????
(I totally understand if you feel uncomfortable replying to any of the Q's below.
However I figured it doesn't hurt to try and ask!) Thanks
1. Do women crave as intensely & viscerally to LOOK at, and touch, the male body (Ex: forearms, shoulders, hands, muscles etc.) in the same manner we may hunger for the female body?
2. When a woman sees a man in a well tailored suit does it trigger "sexual longing", in the same way a female showing skin (sexually) might cause in men?
3. Is sexual excitement binary (similar to us men; we are either not thinking about sexual excitement, or we have been triggered and now have to consciously address it, either by squashing it or......) or does it have many stages like 1-10 ladder, similar to an all day slow simmer?
4. For Females the primary motivation for sexual contact is borne out of? A) Emotional Intimacy & mental connection B) Curiosity, adventure & pleasure C) Desire for satiation (Orgasm).
*I do understand that women differ from one another, as well as throughout the month it may vary, but a rough outline would still be really helpful .*
Thanks for reading through the Q's.
Hope you share some of your insight and thoughts.
Wishing you a happy, healthy, and fulfilling year....
@@pierrecamusRead the book "Come As You Are' by Emily Nagoski.
I feel in the long run for me personally it is so much more less stressful to remain single.
He is so incredibly knowledgeable on this subject!!👏👏
I love John Grays advice and I LOVE his humor!!!!!!♥️
I think same applied for woman also.Hyperactive dialogues and unwanted advices are biggest turnoff for woman also.
I hate when men talk too much. I thought "strong and silent" was a man thing. Are there no more men?
I pretended to be getting carsick when my ex-husband would drive dangerously. He would slow down if he thought I was going to vomit in his precious BMW.
🤣🤣
i love that
Queen 😂
Clever👊🏻💡
Clever, but sad.
Conclusion: men are like eggs. Woman have to be totally balanced and have a total balanced speech in order to keep man close to her. If not the egg "runs". where is THE MAN on this planet?
This was a great video thank you!
Just be honest and communicate like you aren't hiding something! We allow communication for free. I don't like the concept of paying so I added personals to my site. Life is short, be happy or wish you had!
re the back seat driving, it is so true... I never complained, but when my husband would drive so fast it scared me, if I would grab the handle, that was feedback he didn't appreciate even so!
Excellent video to get rid of crappy men👊🏻
It's not the intention.......but yes it I'd be 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
Wow the whole driving thing is a revelation. As a woman, I don't see "slow down" as unsolicited advice, I see it as "can't you tell you're driving too fast and I'm uncomfortable, slow down!" and his answer should be "sorry, I didn't realise, but now that you point it out Ill slow down. And I'm sorry I made you uncomfortable". Do we really have to do that whole routine where he doesn't get his ego bruised and you have to pretend to appreciate him for something he should be doing without even being told? Fortunately I'm single so I don't have to worry about it! The more I watch these videos, the more I'm glad I'm single! Life is sooo much easier.
Lol I think if you’re asking if you have to do this every time you’re missing the point a little bit
You are single because you feel superior to all men. Despite the overwhelming evidence.
@@jackdeniston59 Well since you don't actually know me you wouldn't know
This was wonderful insight , thank you Both for sharing, John is filled with incredible wisdom, the way he puts things is wonderful….very Grateful
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I like going fast in cars and bikes and I really want a motorcycle so when my man gets a car I want that engine loud and the car to be fast
“Rather then make Men wrong”- says HE who spews lectures making women wrong.
Love John Grey! Such a great conversation!
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Kind. Appreciate.
Listen. Solution. Change.
Women love sports🏈 🏀 too!
Love you Dr. Gray!!!!
He seems like a covert narcissist, he wanted to control and women act in a certain ways as a standard ways as to his liking. I m sure some men are similar but those won’t be the one for me
I need an equal partner in behavior where we help each other church taught. M arr
I love John, he's a little annoying and repetitive but always wise. Carl Jung and him should make a baby and it be me.
One guy actually tested me on the being late thing...I failed and said were late.
Does this hold true with daughters and sisters?
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Totaly stupid,unfair for women(but maybe this is the sad reality)."go to the man that you don't like so much so you could be a problem for him and he''ll bond with you". I got sad seeing these videos.
Do you want to be “smart” or do you want results ?
@@shanti888 Just get a less neanderthal partner
Thank you 💕
So glad you liked the video and great to have you as part of our community! 😊
What Are Your Favorite Points, Top Questions Or Answer To The Question From The Video? 🤔
Is this question a challenge?
I had a relationship with a man who swung back and forth between boss and baby!🤪 there was no winning or pleasing in the situation.
🎯💙🖤💜🖤excellent.
These scenarios are not exclusive to dating. Just be nice.
Hmm. I found that Saudi Arabia example.... problematic.. unempathic. Its like telling someone whos forebaers were slaves, about the great time you had under the hospiitality of a slavenation.
What about when he complains a lot?
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Leave! Who the heck needs that?
Stay single .Better off.you only get ripped off.I know i have been there.
TL DR men hate nagging.
Everybody hates nagging!
B.S. Big time.
She has narrow vision
Who does?
Gosh John,you kind of make men out to be baby boos,that we always have to pet their ego and god forbid that we hurt their egos.Wah Wah Wah!
But I do love you otherwise
Why do you call JGray "Doctor" ? He's never got ANY University degree, at least from a real University (and not a diploma mill) ! He's only a bookwriter whose claims are very controversial !
so we are to pay only stuffed shirts with phony college degrees.. He has street smarts that conformist paper holders may never grasp
I just meant : 1) the guy is NOT entitled to call himself a Doctor 2) what he claims are HIS ideas and are not scientifically based 3) His speech is very conservative.
If that makes sense to you, ok with me but he should be more humble and not pretend to be what he is not ! In a sense, he's kind of a guru, which can be harmful to some.
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Really? Don’t speak just grab the handle?! Oooof. I’m going to stay single haha
Women used to behave that way back days now we are more vocal.. we can’t apply this these days.:.