No, don’t feel that way it’s the women being too picky and being too critical of men. Trust me, it’s not you, brother. 👍🏻 so don’t feel down. Literally everyone I know is going through the exact same thing.
100% agree. I used every excuse not to go out. No transportation, "I'm busy making money" and "This city is just boring". Now I just borrow my grandmother's car and I'm finding out that I was missing out on so much. Don't just sit inside and rot guys. Find a way
Dude Denmo this came at a perfect time. I turn 27 in a few months and for far too long I’ve been a recluse always in my office just working on my business and smoking too much weed. I definitely relate to a lot of what you said and I’m working my ass off to finally be more social and put myself out there more. Thank you for the vid, man.
Today I felt so fucking lonely and sad. This video was all I needed to hear, I have to make a change, cause you described my current life (all day in my room waiting for someone to call me)
I was going to sit in my eoom and watch youtube this friday night but i watched this video and went out and danced and talked to bunch of people instead. Thanks Denmo.
Did u go with friends or by yourself cause I wanna go out and do stuff but I don’t have anyone to do that with so then the cycle of being lonely continues and i don’t wanna go out to parties or clubs alone so I can’t find friends so then I’m still alone 😂 like it’s a bad cycle
bro your video are absolute honest and gold. All the young men in the world need to watch your video. i am going go pass this video to next generation, my sons
Your videos en general are pretty good. But this one? The first part, the analysis of the loneliness.. is so spot on. It's actually brilliant, and i feel you improvised it. That can only mean it's genuine because you have lived this hell. So many of us have been there in silence. Just listening to it can bring so much self understanding that that alone can be a massive help. Now time for me to continue the video with the strategies.
Certified banger! You are absolutely correct. You are your own worst enemy. I am a little lonely aswell atm, mainly cuz I can't get away from home to meet people and friends except on schooldays cuz I don't have any form of transportation (no bus, no driving license cuz underage. Only a few more months left though!).
Hey man you're really helping me at times, I download some of your talks as Mp3s and listen to them whenever I feel like shutting myself in. Can't ignore the truth when it's right here 👍
After Sophomore year in high school I moved schools to a private school. I tried to make some friends but got ignored and it was bad. Ever since I changed a lot as a person, I was really quiet and shy, I couldn’t get myself to socialize at all. I went back to public school because it was so easy to be with the people you made friends with when it was easy. I believe I cannot take rejection very well and when I do, I isolate myself and get into all sorts of addictions and that’s been happening since 2019. It’s been a downward spiral of depression and social anxiety and mental illness. I’d hate to be this guy right now. I don’t wish this on my worst enemy, I have A LOT to work on myself or else I’m afraid I will off myself if I don’t get out there and open up. It’s that serious for me..
This is my fault as I used my victim mentality as an excuse to isolate myself and waste my life away and to hurt my mental health. I had opportunities to change my life around but I wasted it away with video games and drugs. Do not be like me.
Now this is my only opportunity to change myself now that I’m 26, I have a new job and it requires a lot of socializing. It’s either go all in or be a loser
You can also reverse this wisdom and see that some of us aren't actually lonely were just alone a lot. And sometimes that can feel good too. People can be pretty toxic to be around so being alone can be a good choice for some of us.
I approach women every weekend (for about a year now), and they either are in a relationship already or just not interested. I have gotten a few numbers this year, but they never respond to my message. I think maybe my problem is that when i approach them, i ask very generic questions. Should i try asking very random questions to girls when i approach them?
@ananiasford Thanks for the advice! I do feel like I'm still a bit "stiff" when I talk to women. I talk to women often and I do have a decent amount of guy friends, but when I talk to people, my voice isn't really energetic and I keep mixing up words sometimes, so idk how to improve on that.
No. I could not disagree with this more! 😅 A lot of it has to do with women being too picky and having higher standards than ever before. I hate the burst your bubble, but literally all my friends have been talking about this NONSTOP! So it’s not that uncommon. Literally every single one of my male friends cannot get a date to save their life. And that’s across the board. Regardless of how attractive people are. I do agree with you though that you allow yourself to be alone but when every guy I know putting 110% effort to not be alone and they’re still having these issues, then we have a problem. So it’s not just men deciding to be alone or choosing to be alone. It’s women really contributing to the problem. And I never seen men have this much of a problem in my entire life EVER!
I have to agree, I live in Manchester in the UK, a city with a metro population of just over 2 million people, the downtown/city centre area is teeming with thousands of people, there are women everywhere, but I feel ubiquitously ignored and invisible, and I am not an extremely ugly guy either. I found it easier before covid and had a couple of long term relationships, but now I just feel completely invisible and feel lime I never measure up or even feel seen, I just feel rejected by default. Im in shape and have good style but still feel invisible and as if I have no right to try and make connections with these women as they never bother with me at all, and there are nearly a million of them in the city I live in, which is the 2nd biggest urban area by population in the UK.
@@rjflores438 thank you. I’m glad somebody agrees with me and isn’t gonna just listen to this guy’s depressing rant, encouraging men that they’re the problem. 👍🏻
@@rjflores438 and it’s across the board on every age level, teenagers all the way up to older men in their late 60s! So it’s not just men being the problem!
@@rjflores438why don’t you actually be sociable and likeable, instead of having a victim mentality. I can understand that but your not helping yourself by saying that lol. Get up and speak to women rather than assuming
@@fhaileeeee Fr bro what I'm sayin. Just from the way they're typing and replying, I can tell they clearly aren't very cheery, kinda gives off a snobby vibe with the "agrees with me and isn't gonna just listen to this guys depressing rant" like brother YOU clicked on this video. I don't know bro, I'd hate to be him
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In the beginning I thought ughhh im so lonely on this journey.. but now I realize that even though I’m alone I’m not really lonely..
No, don’t feel that way it’s the women being too picky and being too critical of men. Trust me, it’s not you, brother. 👍🏻 so don’t feel down. Literally everyone I know is going through the exact same thing.
Bro I literally had that same realization yesterday 🤝
fair enough king
This advice is as good as it gets if you take action your life will be good
100% agree. I used every excuse not to go out. No transportation, "I'm busy making money" and "This city is just boring". Now I just borrow my grandmother's car and I'm finding out that I was missing out on so much. Don't just sit inside and rot guys. Find a way
Why grandmother's car?
Dude Denmo this came at a perfect time. I turn 27 in a few months and for far too long I’ve been a recluse always in my office just working on my business and smoking too much weed. I definitely relate to a lot of what you said and I’m working my ass off to finally be more social and put myself out there more. Thank you for the vid, man.
glad this helped you my brother
Today I felt so fucking lonely and sad. This video was all I needed to hear, I have to make a change, cause you described my current life (all day in my room waiting for someone to call me)
gotchu brother
I was going to sit in my eoom and watch youtube this friday night but i watched this video and went out and danced and talked to bunch of people instead. Thanks Denmo.
Did u go with friends or by yourself cause I wanna go out and do stuff but I don’t have anyone to do that with so then the cycle of being lonely continues and i don’t wanna go out to parties or clubs alone so I can’t find friends so then I’m still alone 😂 like it’s a bad cycle
@bobbyjoe1984 I went by myself. I also have no friends In the area.
You just gotta go. No one else cares that you are alone
This is very relatable and much needed for people in this day and age with the advent of social media and the internet
I've approached 25 women since last week, this shit is so fun. Rejection is really not that bad lol. We gotta be proactive brothas
how did you beat that anxiety.. i couldn't do it man
Denmo you have made me get out of my comfort zone and I started talking to 1 person a day each week
bro your video are absolute honest and gold. All the young men in the world need to watch your video. i am going go pass this video to next generation, my sons
I love you Denmo. Thank you for making this fire vid:)
Honest, real life video. I like the emphasis on actions, not pink castles in imagination. Thank you!
Your videos en general are pretty good. But this one?
The first part, the analysis of the loneliness.. is so spot on. It's actually brilliant, and i feel you improvised it.
That can only mean it's genuine because you have lived this hell. So many of us have been there in silence.
Just listening to it can bring so much self understanding that that alone can be a massive help.
Now time for me to continue the video with the strategies.
thanks for the videos man.
gotchu sir
Certified banger! You are absolutely correct. You are your own worst enemy. I am a little lonely aswell atm, mainly cuz I can't get away from home to meet people and friends except on schooldays cuz I don't have any form of transportation (no bus, no driving license cuz underage. Only a few more months left though!).
Hey man you're really helping me at times,
I download some of your talks as Mp3s and listen to them whenever I feel like shutting myself in. Can't ignore the truth when it's right here 👍
I have a Men's community in Ontario. We build cabins in the woods, hike, fish, camp and make money.
Amazing, I've taken so much from this,,
Thank you✌️
Not all hero’s wear capes
Great advice my guy! I can attest that cold turkey works fantastic.
hell yeah
Thank YOU for that from France ;-)
Pretty chill ngl.
After Sophomore year in high school I moved schools to a private school. I tried to make some friends but got ignored and it was bad. Ever since I changed a lot as a person, I was really quiet and shy, I couldn’t get myself to socialize at all. I went back to public school because it was so easy to be with the people you made friends with when it was easy.
I believe I cannot take rejection very well and when I do, I isolate myself and get into all sorts of addictions and that’s been happening since 2019. It’s been a downward spiral of depression and social anxiety and mental illness. I’d hate to be this guy right now. I don’t wish this on my worst enemy, I have A LOT to work on myself or else I’m afraid I will off myself if I don’t get out there and open up. It’s that serious for me..
This is my fault as I used my victim mentality as an excuse to isolate myself and waste my life away and to hurt my mental health. I had opportunities to change my life around but I wasted it away with video games and drugs. Do not be like me.
Now this is my only opportunity to change myself now that I’m 26, I have a new job and it requires a lot of socializing. It’s either go all in or be a loser
Yes denmo
You can also reverse this wisdom and see that some of us aren't actually lonely were just alone a lot. And sometimes that can feel good too. People can be pretty toxic to be around so being alone can be a good choice for some of us.
I feel so lonely bro.
It seems like this video is describing somebody that is lonely and clinically depressed vs. just being lonely.
Brilliant
Makes much sense
I approach women every weekend (for about a year now), and they either are in a relationship already or just not interested. I have gotten a few numbers this year, but they never respond to my message.
I think maybe my problem is that when i approach them, i ask very generic questions. Should i try asking very random questions to girls when i approach them?
Yes. Say whatever stupid shit comes to mind. It's more likely your vibe though. Try to entertain YOURSELF and she'll follow along
@ananiasford Thanks for the advice! I do feel like I'm still a bit "stiff" when I talk to women. I talk to women often and I do have a decent amount of guy friends, but when I talk to people, my voice isn't really energetic and I keep mixing up words sometimes, so idk how to improve on that.
@johndong4754 you don't need to be energetic, just be comfortable. Again, try to entertain yourself, don't worry about how the girl sees you .
@@ananiasford Okay thanks!
@@johndong4754 happy Halloween dude
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Going to the cubicle office three days a week still counts as all the socializing you need right? Asking for a friend.
Yeah I always go to my cubicle when I feel like socializing. It's my go to!! You're good brother 👍
better than nothing man
Tired of life man..
As lonely as the genetic code allows me to be
No. I could not disagree with this more! 😅 A lot of it has to do with women being too picky and having higher standards than ever before. I hate the burst your bubble, but literally all my friends have been talking about this NONSTOP! So it’s not that uncommon. Literally every single one of my male friends cannot get a date to save their life. And that’s across the board. Regardless of how attractive people are. I do agree with you though that you allow yourself to be alone but when every guy I know putting 110% effort to not be alone and they’re still having these issues, then we have a problem. So it’s not just men deciding to be alone or choosing to be alone. It’s women really contributing to the problem. And I never seen men have this much of a problem in my entire life EVER!
I have to agree, I live in Manchester in the UK, a city with a metro population of just over 2 million people, the downtown/city centre area is teeming with thousands of people, there are women everywhere, but I feel ubiquitously ignored and invisible, and I am not an extremely ugly guy either. I found it easier before covid and had a couple of long term relationships, but now I just feel completely invisible and feel lime I never measure up or even feel seen, I just feel rejected by default. Im in shape and have good style but still feel invisible and as if I have no right to try and make connections with these women as they never bother with me at all, and there are nearly a million of them in the city I live in, which is the 2nd biggest urban area by population in the UK.
@@rjflores438 thank you. I’m glad somebody agrees with me and isn’t gonna just listen to this guy’s depressing rant, encouraging men that they’re the problem. 👍🏻
@@rjflores438 and it’s across the board on every age level, teenagers all the way up to older men in their late 60s! So it’s not just men being the problem!
@@rjflores438why don’t you actually be sociable and likeable, instead of having a victim mentality. I can understand that but your not helping yourself by saying that lol. Get up and speak to women rather than assuming
@@fhaileeeee Fr bro what I'm sayin. Just from the way they're typing and replying, I can tell they clearly aren't very cheery, kinda gives off a snobby vibe with the "agrees with me and isn't gonna just listen to this guys depressing rant" like brother YOU clicked on this video. I don't know bro, I'd hate to be him