The Dangerous Side Of Tom Cruise’s Charisma
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- The Dangerous Side Of Tom Cruise’s Charisma
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Here, we try to look into the dangerous side of Tom Cruise's charisma. Tom Cruise is known as one of the most charismatic celebrities in Hollywood. When Rolling Stone writer and author Neil Strauss met him, he described him as “the perfect specimen” who has “a natural ability to remain dominant in any social situation without seeming to exert any effort.”
As amazing as that sounds, that kind of superhuman charisma does have a dangerous downside. And it’s both of those things that we’re going to explore in this video: the specific behaviors that make Tom Cruise such a dominant social force. And the potential cost of being so charismatic. Below are the ones that make him so charismatic.
0:36 Tom Cruise commands his physical space as in The Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon
2:20 He genuinely smiles all the time and with other celebrities
2:53 He mentions the name of the person he's talking to as in this NBC interview
3:37 Tom Cruise keeps eye contact and in Oprah as well
4:28 His talent in conversation also shows when he leans in when talking
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Charisma on Command hey... Can you do a breakdown of charisma on Asian celebrity? Example Jackson from Got7? You should check him out...
My dad does something similar to Tom with his absolute belief, but my dad does it arrogantly, his views are rock solid, he doesn’t believe he is right, he thinks that what ever he believes is right. This small difference makes my dad seem like an arrogant ass, his view or no view, his way or no way. Tom doesn’t force his views on others, he talks about how it is to him, not how it is period. My dad also almost never changes his beliefs, no matter how flimsy his reasons are and how solid the reasons of his opposition are. He simply has this ‘I’m always right’ attitude and it makes it impossible to work with him if he has a different answer to a problem than you do.
I found what you said about charismatic conviction and its contradiction between being open to change absolutely fascinating. You worded it very well. Unfortunately I would hasten to say that the majority do side based on someones conviction alone rather than facts. I would like to see your opinions on the "positives" that come with being more open minded to change and being wrong sometimes. It seems to be a lost art now to have humility.
Tom Cruise is a decent honest person it shows. When your that honest you can be as charismatic as you want there is no danger in being yourself, there is only danger in not being yourself & and not being true to yourself.
I don't think self-doubt is important in order to change one of my healthy skepticism
I was an extra on Tarzan. It was lunch and we had queued up at the hot plate out on the lot.
Tom came round speaking to the extras and looking at the set up (he was about to do a film and assume looking on what companies to use).
He stood in the queue rather than go to the VIP area in the main building. Got his food and literally sat in the dirt with us Belgian soldiers. He chatted, asked questions but nothing about filming other than "do you get treated ok"
To me he was genuinely a good man.
I think it probably is a challenge to live a "normal" life as a super famous actor or artist. Tom has an ability to speak to any person in a room and it seems like he is genuinly a good man, so when given the opportunity to interract and talk to people like normal he will take it. He wants to live life to it's fullest and you don't do so by only sticking to the same kind of people all the time. Hanging out with extras is a great way for him to have a normal conversation as it is quite litterally close to his workplace.
Anyone can come across 'genuinely' good. Just like Ted Bundy or Bill Cosby - and that's not saying much in his favor...
@@waterbaby8360 so what would you prefer when speaking on someone's character? To come across as genuinely horrible? Would that make them a "good person"?
So, everyone was looking at him and listening to him. He was the center of attention. Sounds narcissistic to me.
@@geographicoddity9444 where on earth do you get that from??? I bet you think the girl behind the supermarket checkout is a narcissist too? "Theyve all got to queue up to speak to me and I'll be the center of their attention... ha ha ha (evil laugh!)"
Scientology is the dangerous side of Tom Cruise
Is Islam the dangerous side of Ice Cube?
stell bell like you
Scientology is to religion as Kardashians are to famous people.
absolutely
I don't know why people think ISIS is Islam :(
His best character is Tom Cruise. He appears to have been playing it his entire life.
Very well put and spot on! It's literally the Cult of personality.., having been in that one so long.
He was great in Tropic Thunder and Magnolia.
I think a lot of truth in this. And if you look at pictures of him as a child and a teenager he looks nothing like Tom Cruise.
Tom Cruise has been cultivated by Tom Cruise.
i like Born 4th July..Cocktail
that is majic of ennegram 3
I don’t understand why some people have so much resentment towards him. Everything he says makes sense to me. I understand why he gets pissed off in those situations and I understand when he’s excited and acts crazy. He doesn’t confine his emotions and pretend to be something he’s not. What you see is what you get! Everyone I know who’s ever met him, tells me he’s a super empathetic and genuine person. Even towards strangers. He’s always been a role of inspiration on so many levels. He’s a doer and a go getter. He does most if not all of his own stunts. He’s incredibly professional, in fantastic shape for his age and hard working with no ego whatsoever. He’s movies are great! And he’s bloody success really talks for itself. But at the end of the day - he’s also a human being. And with that one vulnerable life, he’s managed to achieve more than most of us ever will. Have some respect. If you judge him - it really says more about you than him.
you just answered your own question darling... they are envious, jealous, intimidated, and insecure, and he, well he is just Tom!
Finally some people get it. Really appreciate your comment man. I never understood the hate. This guy is an inspiration to all of us . I personally adore and admire him and wish I could be in a movie with him. His movies and interviews gave me a ray of hope in my tough times. Tom is my life saver. People just literally hate for no reason just a miserable bunch of people who hates their own life gets jealous of Tom lol.
Totally agree! Really well hearticulated. Seems like an amazing and authentic soul to me.
because he's an evil self-centered scumbag who abandoned his own daughter because she's not in the same cult as he is....he dumped his first wife after 3 years because he wanted to bang kidman and then ledt her becuse she didnt buy into his evil cult. this 3rd wife left him for the same reason - his evil cult. ....oh and lets not forget that he uses people and treats them like garbage - if you had a critical mind and read a thing or two, you would know that he and david miscavige treat the people beneath them in their cult like slaves while they live like kings. you are simply another pathetic sheep who looks up to powerful evil people. im glad Im not you.
@@sojournstar pathetic simp
Tom cruise would be a great actor to play Ted Bundy
True
Totally agree
Or Wink Dickerson .
What a missed opportunity.
I hope he gets to play a psychopath one day.
Too old tho
One could say he is constantly on Cruise control... ok, I’ll leave now.
Roberto Carlos No you can stay. your joke wasnt funny
nice one
Next time I will think: what would Tom Cruise do in my situation?
Perfect pun. Well done.
IM_ROBBY aaaahhhh
I’m gonna use that joke
Tom-Morow
Tom is an actor. I’m sure that a lot of his smiles in public are simply just good acting.
That’s true. Except that applies to all of us a lot of the time.
Great acting
Absolutely. And people say he’s not that good. They’re very wrong. I believe whenever he’s in a public setting he’s acting. I think he sees it much more as a business than most would think and he’s extremely successful at it. His box office is proof of that .
We all act in public. We act friendlier. We act agreeable or we act tough. We're all actors.
And he's a VERY good actor.
When I lean in to touch people around me, showing them my wide grin, and call them by their name I get a restraining order
Same here 😂😂
Love it! Even before the pandemic, I learned through experience that when people get too close and have this wide grin and act like they are your best friend, you get uncomfortable because you know they want something from you. In many cases, he wants people to think he is so wonderful and he wants people to watch his movies. I don't know how he lives with himself after abandoning his own daughter.
lol! fuckme! Not gonna lye, I´ve watched this vdd several times. n....I still... dont know exactly wht I feel about it, bc...apart from not agreeing tht mental health IS indeed much real, n to be taken very seriously, n also, for being an Atheist myself.......I do c /find, sooo many traces of Me in it. whit all of this said: I find myself quite.....confused. 🤔
To be fair, they never told you their name...
@Everything Of Indian Cinema. I am well aware of what Scientology does to its members family in many cases. That does not excuse a man from abandoning his daughter and acting like he is the good guy.
If three intelligent women leave you and one tries to keep your child from you, yeah, can’t be that good a guy. Tom Cruise should get an Oscar for playing Tom Cruise.
Nicole Kidman is not that "normal".... he's a lot less creepy than she is.
What a brilliant observation you had. Made me think that if he was so good at having charisma then he would have kept the interest of these women but instead they fled. Makes you wonder if he is nothing but a big fraud.
you are right@@2202Winterful , and that is why you are successful and rich by society's standards and he is not
Smh...
bluestrife28 Well said. 😂
Scientologists are trained to look you directly in the eye and not wander all over the room.He is well trained.
Scott Moyer how do you know the ways of scientology ? Btw, John Travolta is also a scientologist and he dosen't behave like that (I guess)
Delirex
So you joined because it's controversial
@@max8784 If he's only 15 then he probably joined because his parents did.
Swaggerjack Productions
Maybe your right
@@max8784 Or he was abducted 🤷😁
I'm instantly put off when someone says my name repeatedly because it seems unnatural in alot of situations and a basic tip for social situations that comes off disingenuous
Why this channel can’t see it?
totally agree. it feels like the one doing it is just trying to shut me up and looking down at me
How many movies and millions have you made to call someone whom has ‘done it’ ingenious! Your bank balance is ingenious...sorry but true.
I KNOW right, one of my friends constantly does it and it's so annoying I feel like banging my (or hers) head on the walls !!
I find it extremely irritating for strangers to use my name especially when they use it repetedly.(assaulting)
Which is scarier is that Christian bale based his performance of Patrick Bateman on an interview with cruise
underrated comment
Thats a very Chritian Bale thing to do lol
I always saw the film American Psycho as a black comedy,the scene of Patrick Bateman in the rain coat,about to hack Jared Leto’s character to death, was hilarious,as he gives a critique on 80s band Genesis 😃
@@peterroberts7684 I agree. It is brutal, but hilarious how he is so serious about Huey Lewis and The News.
@@nomiddlenamenmn427 Ofc it's Huey Lewis And the News
Suddenly everyone in the comments is a psychologist
Most people do not like Tom mostly saying “there’s just something off about him”.
DeepVibes HAHAHAH
@@TheOlzee That includes people in Hollywood who know him.
Tom knows “the history of psychiatry”,🙄
People learn easily nothing wrong with that
Tom Cruise was coached on how to handle people by Scientology instructions and drilling. This is why he takes control.
It’s because he’s a narcissist, they have great charisma
It just looks to me like he's constantly acting /playing a character. I really wonder if he's like that all the time or just when he is around people he needs to show that too.
Looks like Scientology got something right. That's what you're implying, anyway.
He’s level 9. That’s why he’s so fun
Lawrence
Nah, he is naturally like that.
Tom is a very VERY good actor and he knows it, he understands psychology and body language he knows how to make someone feel uncomfortable, angry, infatuated, happy he has mastered being a puppeteer a leader an idol even non human
Watching him always makes me feel a little ...uneasy. He draws me in but with the sensation of being around someone very manipulating and, honestly, potentially dangerous. He is so gifted and, in my opinion, very attractive and interesting, but his behaviour in most interviews also makes me feel slightly uncomfortable
Couldn't have said it better myself. Somewhere on a subconscious level he feels like a _predator_ , a very attractive predator who knows what they're doing; like a deadly beautiful carnivorous plant, drawing you in, to potentially slash you at any moment. That's how I feel when I watch him, the "real"(is it though?..) him.
Yup, I agree. He gives off the vibe that “I’m the dominant and in control one, and you need to listen to me or it won’t be good for you”
Because you're empty-headed and watch TMZ.
@@ChristopherGuilday that's why I love him
I feel a lot more uncomfortable being around Commie Trump --- he gives off a pedo creep vibe in everything he does
Well, he can touch anybody because he _is_ Tom Cruise.
You're unlikely to be as receptive if a complete stranger touches you.
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The effects that our communication has on people is much stronger and more influential than our initial perceptions.
Tru
If he touched my boob, I would be fine with it
I think human touch is important for building connection in most cases. I don’t necessarily see it as a sexual thing; although it can be, but so could eye contact i’d argue.
Just touching someone’s back and asking them to do something for you is a way to help soften your favor for them as opposed to making it seem like a demand. Most importantly, it’s the way you touch. You also need to make sure to look at them in the eyes, and not to dart yours around, making yourself reveal your nervousness.
If you feel nervous while touching somebody, then yes, you’re going to make them feel creeped out. They may not say so but they are.
My friend work for tom Cruise she said his kindness is unbelievable like a saint ( she’s catholic) she said he care and respect and love everyone without pretentious...😮
Everyone who has ever worked with him say he's a nice guy.
Pure psychopath
@@tiaaaron3278 it's all an act
@@SRBOMBONICA86 Keep telling yourself that...
@manisha ghimire Do you stalk his family or something?
I used to work for a guy same age as me in college doing landscaping. Super confident charismatic guy. I remember he would pat us on the head and shoulder telling us good job in a fatherly sort of way. I learned in my sociology class that this was a dominance move and told this to him. He didnt believe me until I asked him if he patted his dad on the head or if his dad patted him on the head and then he got it lol.
Ah yes.
Subtly implying you're superior to someone else.
Many people do it unintentionally, though.
Compare with something like a fist bump/high 5 or handshake which puts people on the same level.
I'm a sociable, confident guy and I pat people on the shoulder. I see it as a friendly rather than dominant thing. Patting people on the head though.. that's just condescending!?
You often see Commie Trump patting his sycophants on the head --- he tries to be an alpha but comes across as a creepy pedo
@@jonbob9872 I swear to god I do it too, but never in a way like tryna dominate or anything but only Pat to those who i really care in my heart like best friends or someone doing me a big favour it more like I want them to know that I’m close to them they matter to me by touching them unconsciously in physical tap or touch. Could be misinterpreted by others!
I think we all love Tom Cruise for the roles and personality he portrays in movies, and that's what we love, not his real life role.
Tell that to Kpop, Kdrama stans. It's all about beauty and cheesy things.
How would we be able to separate his work from who he is? People think Tom is intense but he’s not as intense as my Grandfather was or my son Gunner. However Tom wants loyalty in unreasonable ways. Cutting my ex out of pictures like my children did to pictures of me with them that were sent to them when I no longer had custody when they were 4, 6, 8 is ridiculous. If I ever see Will Ferrell I will fan girl up because of his Ricky Bobby, but also because he’s a comedic giant. The irony is there would be no Ricky Bobby without Days of Thunder in the first place. It’s misplaced jealousy. I don’t always want to know what Tom Cruise did last night or that he probably flew to FL and is there today.
I don't love Tom Cruise. I judge a man on how well he treats his children. He's no father to Suri.
It also helps that he's insanely attractive. A friend of mine met him some years back and she said it was like he stared into her soul. It was a short convo and he was a real sweetheart, but she was taken aback by how intense he was. I'm not sure an everyday person could get away with what he does and not seem a bit overwhelming.
yeah, but he's also very controlling in a bad way, I know katie holmes was scared to leave him, not because he was so good to her, or because he was so loving, but I seem to remember she was generally scared for her life and he child's life.
i avoid people like him like the plauge, they're very kind until you give them what they want, then they expect it and treat you like crap, then they demand it and treat you like a slave.
he had work done especially on the teeth, sure helped. pretty sure a lot of people are creeped out by tom cruise. actor christian bale even said he took his inspiration from tom cruise before his american psycho movie.
Marshmallowmann I'm almost 100% sure if Christian Bale wasn't an actor he'd be a serial killer, so he's got his nerve 😄
Weird, cause I think he's hideous. Hamster cheeks, huge nose, tiny tiny dude, facial expressions like he's about to pop an artery... not that I'm a prize, but he's certainly not pretty enough to forgive all the abuse in his church that he openly enables by standing by them.
you know what kind of people are reknown for this kind of intense charisma and superficial kindness? Psychopaths. Im pretty sure Tom cruise is one of them
Fun fact: Christian Bale modelled his character Patrick Bateman in Psycho off of Tom Cruise, he said that he saw Cruise on Letterman one night and noticed had an intense friendliness with nothing behind the eyes
PrototypeNinja16 I read that Too! Far out
I heard he molded that character off ofhis lawyer.
Tom Cruise always maintains that eye contact, which is quite scary since it's like staring into nothing.
hes short and hates it
Napoleon complex?
Tom is a talented actor. Tom is also painfully handsome. AND he's aggressive. He exudes this 'the world is my oyster' attitude. I would find that entire combo extremely intimidating.
Too short
@@melissawells5779 Hahaha. Thank god he has a fault.
I wouldn't. I'd love it...
@@melissawells5779 you wish you can get him but he is to high for you
It's his eyes, they're always dominating and coveretly threatening.
Exactly! He´s got the charm, glee and aggressive dominance of a psychopath. He's behavior triggers a feeling of disgust in me. I am a psychologist and I've met several og his type.
@@PippiPippi98765 To say that Tom Cruise is a narcissist is like to say that the Sun is hot.
So what would you say about The Rock. He looks more dangerous lmao
scorpio rising
Nothing wrong with being dominate if a woman acted the same way you would call it empowering. Stop trying to turn men into feminine creatures
Tom: touches something
Charisma on command: well you see when Tom is doing that he is actually using the astral plain to access a nearby persons subconscious to make them submit to his will
haha that's funny. yes, this is woo-ish. btw it's spelled plane when referring to a surface.
Camouflage Jumpsuit wait no I think you’ve got it mixed up plain is for a surface like a grass plain and plane is for airplane
👏😂Good one
@@vilmospalik1480its plane i think
Ah don't say the its scary
Tom: "Nobody walks away from tiny Tom Cruise!"
Stewie: "Yeah except for all three of your wives."
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Mr Bones yy
Lyricsamillion and still at the end of the day his movies bring billions and how about south Park??? Not so much.
That was from Family Guy.
Notes 📝
- Great smile that seems very genuine
- Touches objects and people in a relaxed, controlled, dominating but comforting way
- Good eye contact
- Tone of decisiveness, and downward inflection in tone often
- Says peoples' names often when talking to them to hold their attention
- Takes up the space around him
I most remember when Nicole Kidman said something along the lines of you can talk to that man for years and still never really know him. I think that’s a huge revelation from someone as real as Nic. I’ve grown up with Nicole, as an Australian I’ve watched her grow up from a 16 year old, and since she married Keith Urban, I’ve seen a confidence I never saw when she was with Tom. Just my opinion but, there it is.
She's no saint lmao.
I've heard some really creepy things about Nic and the family she comes from
@@lukebuchwald9252 maybe that's HER family but not her? lol
Hmm
I believe that!
I'll take keanu reeves charisma over tom cruise any day...
He's oddly submissive sometimes tho
Reddit moment
@Phillip1310 let le stop u right there its not the religion itself that causes all those its just extremist with their misunderstandings and there are extremists in every group both religious and non religious.... What religion are u?(u dont have to answer)
Adelaide McMillan Tom cruise is very genuine bruh shut up
Phillip1310 But while religion created bad people, it also help create good people. for example Matin Luther King .jr, he was a baptist minister and he headed the Southern Christian Leadership Conference. How about Abraham Lincoln, who grew up in a highly religious Baptist family. How about Mahatma Gandhi who is a Hindu. There are more people who grew up with religion and turn out to be good people, religion is not the cause, the extremists are.
I don't care what people say about Cruise, I think he's fascinating and I love watching him being interviewed.
But that fascination that he excerts is pure manipulation. If he where to be your boyfriend (assuming you're a woman) then he'll likely be extremely toxic and controlling but in a way that even YOU might not notice. He's an avid chess master at life, but isn't so much because he has an "energetic possitive charisma" (as Dwayne Johnson who you can still RELATE to) but most likely he's an undiagnosed psychopath. Kind of like the dude in the movie American Psycho but without the urge to kill, just to exploit people and command you're the boss every time.
@@nicolassalazar457 He's most likely like that because of Scientology. He is so far up the Emotional Tone Scale and he has such a strong belief in himself that this gives him his air of confidence.
His behavior reeks of ulterior motive. Always made me uneasy
I thing its Psychopathy. It just looks like that way, but without the killing part.
@@JohannRosario1 More like a Sociopath because the guy is social
His ulterior motive is to make people want to watch his movies.
I honestly don't know why some people hate on him so much. He's a movie star. Very talented, attractive and successful. I'm
Sure he's no more a monster than other movie stars. If you dig deep enough on anyone you'll find things you don't like. He is human like the rest of us. I think many people are just jealous.
do some research on his evil cult and the way he treats all the women in his life and his kid. dont be so ignorant.
Repeating someone's name repeatedly during conversation comes off as creepy to me. It feels weird, and out of place. It feels like the person is consciously trying to manipulate the other party.
They are.. they are making you more comfortable with them and adding a personal touch to the encounter.
*+Joey Akrouche*
They're clearly not making me more comfortable...
Obviously. ..and I like chocolate more than vanilla.
It's still subjective in nature.
....wha?... 🤔
It's also a condescending thing to do. "Maybe we should do it this way John."
Tom Cruise is one of the most energetic people I've ever seen.
I tried to smile like Tom Cruise but ended up looking like female Magoo.
don't give up hope - you just need more Cruise Energy Field Power! You will get there one day lol.
Hahaha what is magoo
Never was a fan but now I think he is scary. He knows where the bodies are buried oh yes he does. Hey Tom and Dave:where is Shelley?
Man, I think you should definetly make a video on Johnny Depp style of charisma.
That would be a very short video lol
Drink lots of wine
So charismatic they changed the main character into a drunk to match his personality.
I don't know, from what I have wached on his interviews in talk shows people in general and women in special love him even though I don't think he's good looking or with a lot of muscles.
I've known people with his kind of vibe and they wore not good looking but still got lots of women and friends.
I still think it would make and awesome video.
Thiago Silva Johnny Depp was a very good looking man when he was younger. And not everyone needs muscles
How about the charisma of psychopaths?
golahka OMG! Great idea! Thank would be nice too!!
Isn't that this video?
gayerest. No, I don't think Tom Cruise is a psychopath. Psychopaths have no empathy and do horrible things to get what they want, with out caring how it affects others. Like Ted Bundy.
dude Ted bundy even tried to be a Hannibal lector and try to be a consulting criminal for the police. that is him trying to reframe and remain in control!
Do you mean sociopath?
just found this video and channel and this is some really great stuff! Thank you so much for this!
Tom Cruise is the embodiment of what people mean when they say that someone has “movie star genetics”. He’s able too get into shape and look amazing as soon as one of his roles needs him too, even at the age of 60. He’s got great looks, with no physical features that would be considered as ugly or off putting. And he looks like he could be in his mid to late 40s despite being over a decade older than 49.
If it was confirmed that a famous person was actually a robot or an alien in disguise but they won’t tell us who it is then I would definitely guess Tom Cruise because he’s literally the closest thing the being a perfect human in terms of physicality
Ahhh no, Keanu Reeves is, the man is perfect. Plus he's known as the nicest, kindest person in Hollywood. Suffered great loss ( pregnant wife in car accident) which always changes a person. I have suffered great loss too ( a child, a mother's dread) and reading what Keanu said about great grief was v comforting. As he says, it never ends, somehow you just try to learn to deal with it. He doesn't do the 'only go out with Hollywood stunners' or models etc. His partner now is a libarian of average looks and well into her 50s. What a great man...
@@ingridclare7411Keanu is no where near Tom cruise's stardom lmao. It's not even close. Tom is literally the biggest star in the world
I see Scientology when I look at Tom Cruise.
@Erik Flores lol! Are you Tom Cruise by any chance?
Oh yeah about that, can somebody give me a good explanation of scie ntology? Googled it but I still dont get it
My mother used to beat me with a pillowcase full of batteries
Me too!
@@franciscogonzalez1110 A mediocre science fiction writer turned his last work into a cult that mixed aliens and self-help and targeted celebrities for reach and the IRS for finances. It's not very relevant anymore, but once in a while someone escapes it (like Tom Cruise's exes) and we find out just a little bit more of its sickest sides: how it keeps its grasp in people, and the abuses of power it enables.
There's no question to my mind that Cruise is an intelligent psychopath. Still, gotta love him.
bıind probably a sociopath no?
@@arthursneyers6626 Depends on your definition, I consider sociopaths to be "made" instead of "born", and "hot" instead of "cold". Sociopaths ruin their lives with impulsive decisions (violence, gambling, etc.), but Cruise is almost always in control.
Why do you still gotta love him?
@@biiind why do you love him?
Србомбоница are you high right now? Do you get nervous?
This is the first video I watched on this channel. Subscribed.
The only reason I did that was that it takes a very very depth-filled mind to realize the contradiction that this kind of charisma/confidence makes you philosophically stunted/closed.
EXCELLENT observation my friend. I still haven't found the answer.
If anyone does please share it. Would be a great great help for my mental piece.
He seems controlling though. Not true charisma, but like he’s trying to control everybody and every situation around him at any given time. Also, seems entitled. If you aren’t automatically receptive/submissive to him, they’ll be hell to pay. There’s a blankness behind it all, he’s wearing a mask. It’s creepy.
That’s why Christian Bale based his performance in American Psycho off of him
Does Tom Cruise,have a whole Nietzschean Will to Power thing going on???well,for sure,but he has built a successful franchise,namely himself..p.s.,We All have a dark side,and sometimes your dark side is needed to deal with difficult situations ,Mr Nice guy is usually crushed by life..p.s. I think Christian Bale was projecting,I mean what are the two most well known characters he has played???,Patrick Bateman,a serial killer Stock Broker,and The Dark Knight ,a hooded anti hero fascist ,don’t get me wrong,I love both those films,but Christian Bale is also known for his meltdowns,and being a difficult personality ..
I find him to be menacing. There's a hard emptiness behind his eyes.
Remember thats not even his real name
This is great, Charlie. Discussing the price we have to sometimes pay for charisma is fascinating. Looking forward for more videos like that.
It's a difficult job and role, but we charismatic people of the world are privileged to do it. If we, the charismatic of the world did not exist, the world could never be saved. We, the charismatics of the world are to be salt and light in a world of darkness and decay.
Tom Cruise can be a good example of how sociopaths can be, not saying he is though, not at all, but he doesn't exhibit any sign of introspecton and openness, I feel like he would not be very charismatic to me in the sense of me trying to be that much in his company, he would exhaust me with superficiality, I would need some genuine warmth from a someone. It is a stereotype that this is the ideal charisma, I prefer almost the opposite as a charisma, for me who is more charismatic and genuine from celebrities outside of the film screen is for example Sean Connery, Jeff Bridges, Meg Tilly, Sean Young, Richard Gere, Chuck Norris, Kurt Russell or Ed Harris. Ironically usually not mega big stars.
I like your comment about liking people, when you feel emotionally connected through warmth.
But i have to tell you that from what i‘ve heard, Sean Young is unbearable as a person.
But i understand your idea anyway.
Tom hanks, Sandra bullock, Paul bettany, etc
Ha! People that met him in person would disagree. Ironically, Tom isn't "big star" anymnore, because Hollyweird is SJW; Tom isn't "fake" that way. He just had the foresight to do his thing without being influenced by evil Hollyweird. You should respect that. Chuck good minus religion.
Yeah true. Roseanne Barr seems like a nice lady, and Woody Harleson seems like a decent chap. Tom Cruise comes off like an intense control freak though.
Really enjoyed this vid. Thanks for putting this content together. Super helpful.
I think analysing people so much and making effort to be likable causes unnecessary anxiety. I think we should learn the fundamentals of dealing with people (eg be kind, show interest, etc) and be ourselves.
ong just be yourself. the right people for you will come eventually.
Whoah this channel did a clever job breaking down charismatic conviction, while hinting at the blatant narcissism and psychopathy behind these cases without directly calling it out. Interesting approach!
He might be a psycho but what I really like about him is just how much care and attention he gives to the things he's working on. Seems like he works on his hobbies,projects,work etc. untill he does it to his fullest potential. A lot of us could learn from that. Just to have more passion and care for the things we do.
Tom is bigger than life, and some peoples lives are spent being angry over what other people have, that they don't have. Funny, most of those people never even try, or quit when it gets a little tough, and this is another reason those type of people don't warm up to, or dislike Tom. All I can say is, he is a great inspiring teacher, if one was to just open their eyes. He is way beyond any religion or practise, he walks 2 inches above the ground in his own right, and yet, he never thinks or acts, like he is above anyone.
Absolutely 100%. Most people don't even try to be successful and yet they complain about being poor and are cynical about rich people.
Actually I'd find it creepy, someone assuming they can invade your boundaries to the extent that he does.
He's too assertive for no good reason, when being assertive isn't called for. Makes you wonder why?
He's not though
@@huskiehuskerson5300 Agreed. He's direct and confident. He gives the impression of being very comfortable in his skin.
Sigrun Agreed, couldn't have put it better. Takes a keen eye and a willing mind to look beyond the surface, always.
@@annamack5823 no he's a control freak.
I met this incredible being at a premiere. I waited for hours with my kids. When he stood in front of me i have never felt anything like it. He had so much presence, so much charisma, but also so humble. He listened to everything i said. He told me i had a beautiful family and i have pics of him pointing and smiling at my kids. He patted my little one on the head twice and i have a pic of him smiling and touching me on the arm while he intently listened to me. Meeting Tom cruise was a lifelong dream and it was the best and most explosive moment i have ever experienced. He is so gracious, giving of his time and it is like a drug.. You just want to be near him over and over again. He is an incredibly giving and kind person and i am so humbled that he game me his time.. I will never forget it. My 2 year old named her black baby "Tom" after him, she takes him everywhere.. They get excited every time they see Tom cruises picture :) He is an exceptional spirit.
Archaeopteryx winter You're so lucky. Your children are smarter than the haters because they can tell if he's genuine person or not.
T L Vomit...
Archaeopteryx winter her back baby? Why so specific
I love this comment. I can sense his spirit by your description. Lol
hahah thanks! He is full of spirit and charisma.
I just wanna really stress out one thing about this channel, that is underestimated. What really lets this channel stick out of all the other "life advice / charisma" channels is the summary in the decriptions. I can't thank you enough for doing that, because by that, once you have finished a new video, you can quickly come back to an older topic video and quickly remind yourself what were the key points of it or just jump to the position in the video you wanted to. This is not valued enough. Particularly for hard to grasp topics and long videos (like they are the normality in this genre on YT) this is almost obligatory! THANK YOU!
I'm glad you use it that way! Didn't know if those descriptions we're getting any love, but we'll keep it up :-)
I was hoping you guys would read this, because I kinda sensed that you weren't noticing that there are people who REALLY appreciate that little extra step! Favorite Channel! Thanks for helping me out in my life so often and for teaching me things that are hard to find mentors for in the real world (unless you point to them like Mr. Cruise). Keep up the great work, can't thank you enough.
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I am not sure I totally understand but it does remind me of nightly news. I mostly watch TV news because my wife likes it. She doesn't do the WEB much, she's more old school than I am, and I am older, sixty five. What kind of drives me crazy about TV news is they blurt out some headline and show a minute of footage, then they're done, you're just let there hanging. You really have to fill in a lot of gaps. Then they'll say that's all they got for now, and will let you know more later. Of which almost never occurs. Besides making room for Ads I think they're scared to death of getting sued.
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I Really learned a lot about communication.
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tom is great at faking authenticity, most people don’t notice that he is always acting even in his personal life, it’s almost like Tom can’t turn it off, This is why his personal relationships go so poorly. overtime people will sense non authentic energy. He deeply cares what people think otherwise he wouldn’t put a lifetime of practice into influencing people off-camera
You are 100%.................
...incorrect
He’s a psychopath
Yeah that's true show business
The Dangerous Side Of Tom Cruise...Scientology
Catastrophe Cause he's not all there
Catastrophe Cause lol..well said ..
Erik Flores I agree it’s not like scientology is on the rise! I think the dangerous thing is his weird view on mental health. It’s dangerous to speak so horribly about mental health! if someone is Listening to those interviews about drugs and electric shock they could believe what he is saying and not get the help they need.
Correction: The dangerous side of Scientology - Tom Cruise.
6:35 If you want to skip the huge introduction to the main theme and just hear the "Dangerous Side Of Tom Cruise’s Charisma" here you go..
You're welcome :)
Tom Cruise has always been one of my fave action actors since Mission Impossible came out in the 90's. He does seem out of his mind in a way though.
I just watched his old Australian channel interview around the time of War of the world's movie release (the clip of privilege life) and i felt intimidated, the way he was taking the interviewers name (Peter) while talking to him showed him taking control. I saw glimpses of Homelander in him. He is definitely powerful and scary
I too felt that Cruise could be a dangerous man if he didn't get his own way on anything, including interviews.
Don't be absurd, the interviewer was being rude and intrusive and Tom got upset. No need to read more into that
He is not scary just because he tells a v intrusive reporter to back off. He was actually polite about it.
Overly charismatic people scare me. That attitude usually hides something dark.
ya in a movie
OJ Simpson!!!!
thats just with psychopaths doesnt seem like a psychopath to me might be wrong
True.
Biking Potato what about excessively happy people..... are you ok with them.
I immediately HATE when a person says my name during conversation. Like it's unnecessary and no it doesn't make me like you more
With me I suppose it depends on the person, and if I pick up some manipulative vibe. Some people (like me) might be doing it with new peeps to help them burn their name into memory. I hate forgetting names.
M. N. Yup. And we know what they’re doing. It comes off rather phony.
I agree with you in terms of conversation, but I think that saying the name is vital when saying goodbye for the first time. This demonstrates that you still remember their name, and will continue to do so once you walk away.
So are you gonna like me. I dont remember people name and face after talking to them. I seldom remember people names and face if I only talk to them once. Oh I forgot, I dont even ask peoples names. 😂
@@g.j shit I'm the same I always forget the name of people, the one I Know I repeat so so many times during conversation ,like with my mom , I keep repeating mom
I agree with what people say about him. He seems to be acting 24/7
He’s a psychopath it’s his superficial charm
I always knew that “the Cruise effect” was a real and powerful thing, but I had no idea how to analyze it. Superb job.
Hate it when strangers use my name intensly in conversation, feels soo agressive. Like doorsalesmen or telemarketing..
yeah, me too, but Tom wasn't at your door selling something, he's interviewing for a movie. He's not a stranger. No stranger danger here.
Haha.. 😁 Yeah, I suppose thats not the same, and hes just building familiarity and connection. Like the salesmen, just more wanted since the reporter surely wants the same thing. But with strangers there is no excuse, I really really hate it. Makes my skin crawl, and I want to slap them away from my intimate sone.. Boundaries..
I bet that doesn't really happen to you. Really, when your name is used "intensely" wth does that mean? It's spoken dramatically? hahaha Cmon, everyone hates tekemarketing callers.
I agree. It is like they are trying to remind you of who you are.
I am utterly convinced of my self doubt
@8:52. YES! we want the other video :D. Great analysis.
Is he crazy? I wouldn't doubt it. Is he a legendary actor who can get me interested in a movie just by hearing that he's in it? Hell yeah.
Your breakdowns are amazing Charlie! :) #Believe
love you Evan #believe
One great RUclipsr to another!
Thank you so much, Evan! :D
And your channel is amazing too Evan
Evan Carmichael I second that 🙂 in a low charismatic tone hehe
is it just me, or making eye contact while talking is polite. and smiling is very positive bonus about a person
This was a really intersting video. Different format...i like it!
You are just brilliant! I love your insights!
I really wish to see the EXACT same kind of attitude, body language, expression, and behavior coming from someone who is ugly and poor, rather than someone who is rich and attractive. I would REALLY like to hear how much of it is still "charisma and determination" and how much of it becomes "creepy and aggressive".
Of course, the famous example is how Han Solo(Harrison Ford) comes on to Leia in Star Wars, almost trapping her against the wall. If an ugly person did something like that he would be lucky to escape with just a lawsuit :)
I'm sure those women he married simply could not take being controlled by Tom, who seems like he's incapable of backing down from even a simple argument.
I have dated a man like Tom Cruise minus the exorbitant amounts of money & fame. He was extremely charming & charismatic, good looking, & successful. I knew him for years as my friend, coworker, & mentor before we ever started dating. Once I was spending all this time with him day in & day out, I saw the terrible come out of him. He was extremely controlling, unpredictable, & empty. He put on this Mr. Do-gooder persona to all the people he comes in contact with every day. he was extremely well liked in out community. he was known as "the helpful guy". He would come fix your car, put up your fence, & babysit your kids. But when we were behind closed doors, & no one else was around, be became a completely different person. He could go from being a warm & loving person to being cold & abusive in seconds. I was afraid to even speak out against him in any way, or even have a different option than him or else I would be berated & violently yelled at for 45 minutes or more. These people are truly chilling. I got out of there eventually & ran far far away.
@SugaryPhoenixxx that’s sad. glad you’re fine now.
SugaryPhoenixxx Hey hope you’re fine. I wouldn’t want my sister to go through that.
I remember him jumping on the couch. I was watching that episode when it first aired. I found it delightful, and was genuinely shocked when everyone concluded "get a load of crazy Tom". Stop being so mature.
Is it only me or Shahrukh Khan and Tom cruise are so similar. Right from body language, style, smile, charisma, Humour. Dere presence itself can make people go in a Aww.
A stimulant habit that you consume before going out in public can make these kinds of people act very much alike.
Tom: "Matt. matt. Matt......matt, mattMattMATTmattmatt"
Matt: "isn't that enough?"
tomschrauwen i know right i thought that too😂
Obviously... he put the instances where he mentioned his name, it doesn't mean he said them in the same sentence..
ofcourse i know that. i'm not retarded
Matt, you have to understand this
When he does that, it is so condescending and so scientologist!
People who seem to want to dominate every space they're in and casually exert posession over objects that don't belong to them set me on edge. It's not so bad on screen but when you're next to them... Sometimes it's like uh oh, alarm bells.
Even if he's a nice guy, it's hard to get past it.
I absolutely agree with this.
Love the way Tom says, he likes being a father...it's such an affectionate thing to say.
A truly true person
Evidence to the contrary:
His 10-years-long continuing and conscious disconnection from his daughter Suri, after her mom Katie Holmes escaped with her from their marriage and Scientology.
Great analysis, very on point.
Do the breakdown of Frank Underwood! That would be interesting. Like if you think so :)
Eugene Bogdanovich That would be interesting
yeah man
yeah man
It's Claire's turn
Yes!
Eugene Bogdanovich do it. But I doubt if he was like that when he was in the military school
When he keeps repeating Matt's name, Matt says, "Isn't that enough?" 😂😂😂
A clear and clever analysis of a person who has studied and applies learnt behaviour to win people over. Subtext and subliminal messages and gestures. And along with his passion and conviction to scientology is SCARY.
I have learned from being a career military man that I can make anyone believe ANYTHING. It’s the art of manipulation of another person’s emotions. I strive to get the other person to like me and when that happens, their hooked.
Please do one on Queen Elizabeth. At any given moment she is transmitting as little information as possible which is a rarity and an anomaly. The discipline and training required for that is super human.
Wow, that's a good idea!
We need Cersei, littlefinger and John Snow breakdowns!!Wonderful video as usual❤
Yes make more vids on Tom , he’s an enigma .. 💚
This poem of mine is about Tom.
I am the author of this poem.
His ebony hair
Long and wavy,
And gleam in the eye...
As if crystalline.
And when he looks at somebody,
And in his eyes there is fear,
Leaves one wondering
What does he feel?
And when he looks at somebody,
And in his eyes there is glow,
Leaves one wondering
What does he know?
"If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, yet make allowance for their doubting too"
He's charismatic for sure, but I don't think he's absolutely convinced that he's right. I think you're confusing his confidence for narcissism.
Narcissist people are more convinced that their need justifies anything and feel no moral obligation at all. Religious people are all convinced that they are right, that doesn't make them all narcistic.
xxlCortez hm I agree with you to some extent but it doesn’t stop them from having narsasistic (don’t know how to spell it) features a lot of them do.
@@sarahcummins3851 I just said not all.
if you believe somebody else beside you can't be right than you are narcissistic
Banraku M You also have to stand by your opinion and have conviction or you will be swayed easily by everyone's opinion.
I see a guy that loves life...more power to him.
He's a handsome millionaire. Why wouldn't he love life?
Bill there are many millionaires that hated life and killed themselves. Money is not all.
He loves controlling life and not just for himself
If he loves life, then he wouldn't need to control and abuse the women he hires to marry him under contract. I like his work, but he's a good actor because he's been pretending to be human his entire life. He is one of those people who need to actively practice to fit with human behaviour because he's empty inside. Just like Ted Bundy. But that doesn't make him a serial killer, it just makes him a psychopath, more like Wall Street executives.
A would love to have Tom do a video on scientology and hear his thoughts and opinions on certain subjects. ♥️🤔
I have been told I smile too much, but if it's good for Cruise and I add expansiveness to it, it might work for me. Thanks for the tip.
It's very aggressive and calculated nothing this guy does is natural or genuine he plays the crowd very well
People who are not sensitive, would follow him and defame those who see through him.
The perfect dictator!
An absolute psychopat
Yes. But the sheer fact you can see that makes you in the minority. Most people can't pin down what it is.
Alejandra Rosales How does someone get away with it for so long. Damn. I think he has bought into his own act and believes in it completely. It's a religion of self.
Could just be confidence
I couldn’t give a damn how charismatic Tom Cruise is. I used to think he was awesome until I researched Scientology. Tom acts like he’s so appalled by psychology & and kids on adderal, ( I agree with that). But he has no problem using Scientologists to do everything for him with little to no pay! He needs a new decked out trailer, no problem! And he’s not paying a dime! Members are being abused, beaten and over worked! If they try to leave the cult, they are shunned, losing family and friends! Tom has isolated his kids from Nicole Kidman & hasn’t seen his daughter Suri in years! If Scientology is so awesome, why can’t he keep his family together? He’s so used to being treated like a king within this cult, that he can’t see or refuses to see the truth. I’ve lost all respect for him.
His first adopted daughter didn't even have him at her wedding. Great father?
I enjoyed your vid charisma on command
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I've always felt unnerved by Tom Cruise. He's VERY artificial. I liked his movies quite a bit, but his abuse of members of the cult of Scientology has finally put a nail in the coffin. He's just too bizarre and arrogant. He even claims to have cured his dyslexia. Which isn't even possible.
Superficial charm
Tom's whole shtick seems to be very studied and practiced. He is always acting.
So if he is a cluster B PD that would make sense because there is no there, there. It's all an act and there is nothing real about them. They have the superficial charm and are always in performance. Cluster B is also called the "drama cluster", because they love drama and which is perfect for him as an actor and these people act all the time. Scott Peck called them the people of the lie because there is nothing real about them. He definitely has that superficial charm though.
He also has no problem apparently taking advantage of all the scientologist workers who are poor(sea org.), to do work for him and is treated like royalty in the "church",which he must love as a narc.
@@brianwalsh1401 I think he's just weird some with some narcissistic tendencies. I'm thinking OC, but not to the point of PD.
I don't take this stuff seriously, we're just speculating.
I often find repeated use of my name in conversation to be aggressive and offensive in a way I struggle to pinpoint or explain. Does anyone else have this instinctive hackles up reaction or am I just odd?
Tom over does using someone’s name and it feels utterly controlling and manipulative
Yes! To me it feels slithery.
I don't think you are the only one, but in the same way you never loose focus on what he is saying.
It's manipulative and creepy!!!
It makes me feel like I'm on a used car sales lot.
He is kind of scary but at the same time extremely charming.. weird. I just feel weird when I watch him
Scary? I am not afraid of him at all. But I must say that in my opinion he is dismal but he often smile a lot. However he look like a warm and interesting person.