There's no such thing as unconditional love for a man. As men...we're only loved for what we can provide. That's all...the moment we can't give something...we're cast aside.
Yeah, I've seen that. My father and I worked on a unit to make it handicapped accessible for a man who'd had a stroke. His wife started boinking my dad within a week, the man drooling in the wheelchair parked in the living room. Her new provider. Somehow it became all about rescuing her from cruel fate and healing her trauma.
Even when we go above and beyond, even when we through our actions proove how needed we are, are we wanted at all? No, not enough to be kept around, not enough to be brought/gotten back
Agree. But we're men, we're used to it, and we can handle it. Welcome to life. If you're good, you'll be hated, it just goes with the territory. I'm not saying we shouldn't be good, just that people who aren't won't like it. But being good isn't about what others think. We all need to understand that the opinions of others are irrelevant. It's what you think of yourself and what you do with your life that matters. Be a good man, understand that it's not easy, but nothing of value is ever obtained through ease.
I love when guys start to make the same statements that females say, like how she has to take care of him so he can be a stay at home wife.. Think it is Drizzle Drizzle movement...
My mom asked me after my divorce in 2013: "You wanted to be married more than life itself. Why was that?" I answered: "Because I never wanted to be alone anymore. But the truth is; I was never more alone than when I was married." 😔
I was married for 7 years. I never felt alone until then. My divorce came through on my 40th birthday. I went full Monk Mode until then. For those who don't know, there are three Monk Mode levels. There are: I. Monk Mode II. Ghost III. Hermit OR if Spiritual, it is Esoteric Hermit I was on Level 2 Ghost, but due to my Fathers illness ( passed away from Stomach Cancer & Alzheimers ) 18 months ago. I now look after my mother who has Parkinson's and her dementia is increasing and she will NOT take her meds. I am not whining, just, simply explaining. As conversations with my mum are Groundhog Day, that is, it's the same conversations day in and day out. Monk Mode Helps me cope and adjust. I am alone, not lonely. Meditation and prayer as observing my faults, greatly assists me.
@@FrostedSeagull Same here, Level 3 Monk Mode here. Mine was cos of absent father and schizophrenic mother. I tried dating many years back and she was a clever, nice girl, healthy family. We stay in touch for 7 years but always felt I was holding her back and now she is married to another wonderful guy. I have to stay single if not its hard to stay sane taking care of my mom whenever her episodes erupts ever 1-2 days. Females nowadays live too privileged lives to even understand how a common man on the street live through their daily life. At least luckily I didn't officially dated, didn't wasted much money on females, never left much painful memories for her. Now I am too used to the single minimalist life for 16 years, it's hard to go back to date woman that might not even match up to that sweet girl I used to like. Can cook, never probed too much about my life, understanding, street smart, follows my advice to reject a crazy guy, likes kids, became a kind teacher, date an average engineer and have a happy marriage.
After a twenty five year marriage,my wife decided she wanted to leave. She was asked what did he do,she said he did nothing wrong in fact he was funny,loving and a great dad to our kids. After five years of being single,lonely and not trusting women anymore, I decided to meet quality people,go fishing,hiking and get in great shape and love life like it was intended. The other day she called and said she missed me and she wanted to come back home. I simply said…and who are you.
That is very apt. I just got divorced and could already ask 'who are you?' before the paperwork was filed. It's like females hit a certain age range and become what they were always going to become, and that was not whom I got married to. What she metamorphized into was this miserable and ugly person. I had moved out of state seven months prior and could watch in real time through these online court settlement sessions as the miserable ugliness on her inside was seeping to her outside. Our last Zoom meeting was mid November and she looked more ragged and miserable than I've ever seen her. She'd obviously packed on (yet) another 40#. Her new Perm ("self-care") looked so out of place sitting on top of that heap 'o' mess, it looked like a wig. Probably was. I didn't really want to look at her but it didn't take more than a glace to see that it was like putting whipped cream on a dog turd Sundae. Hm. How could this be? I had moved out of state seven months prior, so everything should be just the way she wanted it, everything should be great once I was gone! Hm. What's her excuse for looking so wretched and miserable now? It's an unsolvd mystery, yet surely it's somehow my fault and others fault as well. Not hers. She won't accept responsibility unless she has an epiphany one day called being an adult - in mind, not simply by age.
Lots of men actually find traditional girls in Mexico without even looking for a partner. They are much better at valuing men many claim especially American men. This is just what I hear never actually been yet but considering it. 🙏
We DO NOT SUFFER. WE CAN BE ALONE. Women can't. Women require attention, drama, and validation to give their lives meaning. For a man our life is defined by our pupose, our work. We aren't suffering.
While I agree with your sentiment, a lot of men are genuinely suffering. I have several reasons. Children stolen from me through the joke of a fucking legal system. Falsely accused of things I've never done. My most fundamental property rights have been absolutely shit on. Ex-wife exploited me for tens of thousands of dollars. Also I've been dealing with severe chronic pain post-surgery for nearly 12 years. So yeah, my life is pretty much absolute shit, even though I still have plenty to be thankful for. I'm done being shit on though.
@@TrevorSullivan We are build to endure loneliness. Yes we feel better when loved, but can a nowadays woman really love a man? I'm unsure we are more than walking wallets.
@@TrevorSullivan I hear you Trevor but my kids are now aware of what went on between me and their mum. My daughter still has limited contact but my son now lives with me and refuses any contact with his mother. The lies are hurtful but I thanked my ex for telling lies to my friends about me.........I now know who the real/loyal ones are. I too lost half of everything but the resulting peace and happiness are worth every penny. I didn't get to see my kids grow up from the ages of, my son 10 and my daughter 12 and I'll never get that back but the bigger picture is I'm happier and better off than ever. Dust yourself off and get your head up fella! Take care.
@@stoptheworldiwannagetoff4780 thanks I appreciate your concern. I'm doing quite well for myself, for the most part, despite all the setbacks. My severe health problems make life extremely challenging to live. Functioning at a basic, human level, on a daily basis, is quite hard for me. I'm glad to hear you have a good relationship with your son!
Men play by rules, women don't. As I said when going through my divorce, ecpect the unexpected, in other word's if I was going to do the right thing it was expected that she would do the opisite.
Men will learn to play within the rules. Women will learn they can change the rules as they see fit to suit themselves. I am compelled to edit your comment's spelling and grammar by writing: "Expect", "In other words", and "opposite". Because I am ruled by the drive for fine tuning.
I also worry for my son his first girlfriend just left him and well he is taking better than I did. He said she was delusional and said they needed a break. He also says he isn't worried because he has alot of options with young crazy girls in college. I never went to college but I can only imagine! Hope he isn't alone for too long. I have heard college is the best for making friends and girlfriends. I also told him do not call the ex if your still interested wait until she calls!
@@vapeking466 yeah you know, his main goal going to college should be about learning and getting ready to enter the workforce as well equipped as possible, not worrying if he is "alone for too long" or simply making friends. I'm sure he is socialble and can form mutually beneficial relationships, anyways.
About 2 years ago, a female coworker gave me thee first hug I've had in 20 years… it hit hard. If I were to "show my emotions" about the legitimate hurt, I would be denigrated about that; the only emotion men are allowed to have is anger… and even *that* is disregarded with _"Oh, you shouldn't be angry about X"_ and _"He made me feel unsafe."_ - To be honest, society/women would discard men for the offense of being human.
I still remember a female classmate hugging me out of the blue back in HS. She was always nice to me -- even when we were younger. I guess she thought I could use one. She was among the popular girls -- who were generally nicer than the less popular ones, ironically enough. It has been more than 30 years but I'll never forget that rare kindness. I can count on one hand the females who hugged me outside of those in my family. Frankly, I wouldn't trust it from most of them anyway -- not then and not now. I learned in my early 20s to never reveal a weakness to a female. Lived and learned. Only your bros understand your pain as a man. Females have no clue about true loneliness -- not until they're post-35 anyway... but by then they're delusional if they're still alone. From what I've seen, they're barely human. They'll do the worst to those they call "friend" and have no guilt or shame at all. A man will torture himself for certain mistakes. I've never seen a vvoman spend much time regretting anything. Best policy: don't associate with any of them in any way but purely business. Be polite, but keep it pushing.
Men really need to learn to be alone. It’s the best thing we can do for ourselves. If we can learn to be alone and happy. No one can take that away from us.
I live in a city and ive never seen a homeless woman...only men...we have 16 organizations for counseling, 13 of which do not accept new patients, the other 3 are female only, female only facilities, by law, have to facilitate women's need no matter what. Idk, feels like sexism against men to me...they're shutting down the male homeless shelter behind my house but their affiliate female shelter still receives state funding because, women...idk...feels like society is actively pushing men down...
Mate I been single for Decades but not alone that much. I got a few good friends & help out my oldies. Travel the world ,have way too many hobbies. Mate get out there & have good times. That's what I do, drama & debt free
Look up "Nora Vincent--woman disguised as a man" and "Cassie Jaye--The Red Pill". Both looked into men's issues and were honest enough to say men's issues need more attention.
I have seen transsexuals on RUclips who were born a man but now are trans women. They claim life is much much easier as a women even in just day to day life. 💯
Didn’t she have a mental breakdown and ultimately unalive herself from the stress of being a man? I kind of remember that it’s been a while since I’ve seen the expose on it.
@@rorythompson6527 I heard of a woman who went on a dating app as a joke pretending to be a man and she was shocked by the treatment she got. I'm telling women to do that so they'll understand men.
Men who lie to women and manipulate them. Were first lied to and manipulated by a women at one point in their life. Women create the men they complain about.
The red pill existed before any of us were aware of it or gave it a name. It's called the Truth and it's reality as it is -- not reality as we wish it were.
Who, in a woman's life, is more important to her than her husband? Her boss? Her pastor? Her professors? Her mechanic?... her cats? Be honest he's at the the bottom.
I was once a young man, I found I did not fit. Young women wanted others that could impregnate them. But most of the men, young women found, left them holding the bag. They rightfully used lawyers without regard for the man they were involved with. At that point, I stayed away. I was fortunate to see both sides. Men got wrapped into the mold that young women were pure. As a young man, I was more than willing to devote myself for a young woman (that was pure) that wanted to have a family, but it never worked out (never could find that pureness that we were led to believe). I never considered promiscuous women. Most women I knew wanted body counts and child support for the ones that got caught drilling where they had no business. I never wanted to pay for someone else's misguided night out. Smart women realized this, I hope. They don't want society to pay for their moments of lust to cover for them in the form of welfare, child support and govt funded abortions.
Women and society, in general, taught me that as a man, I am nothing more than a disposable work horse. I learned through these experiences that I am better off alone, and now, at age 43, I trust and believe no one.
I am a French speaker from Quebec, Canada, I listen to you several times and if I may I will make the comment that you seem to be a magnificent woman not only by your eyes which emanate gentleness but also your empathy which particularly touches me. , thx
they self-oppress and jump ship to any cause that promises power. Its why feminists are now cheering for interest groups just because they hate white western men even though they view European Women as less then dirt.
My last relationship was all about her. Her home. Her kid. Her medical problems. Her issues. It was not about us. In the end she cheated. I thought I had a good one.
I'm a 26 yo Mexican and also happens I'm 5'4 feet tall brown skin and the whole Méxican stereotype I fully introduce my appearance to write how viciously brotal western society treats the average and bellow average men. In my country (Of course Mèxico) I lived my teenage beautiful years; the girlfriends, the friends and fights and all the teenage package and when I turned 18 I also lived my early adulthood with girlfriends and people who hated me and also loved me. Nowadays I have nice experiences with women and some good old friends. If I have been born in a western country I would be considered a subhuman and treated like invisible garbage by all. The experiences had back then I the ones I still having I wouldn't change for absolutely nothing. I hope the lost souls who read this y eventually find PEACE in their lonely lifes. I truly hope so!
Dear Erin, thank you for you highly intelligent channel. You are truly a good woman. I will continue to support your channel. God bless you. Please go on sweetie.
On the "alone" thing! “If you're going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery--isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you'll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.” ― Charles Bukowski, What Matters Most is How Well You Walk Through the Fire
I am a married man of 40 years. Men ask me where did I find such a good wife. I reply "On a remote Island in the Pacific waters". In our neighborhood single men refuse to even date. They treat my wife with great respect. Some ask her to repair their clothing which she does. Like you my wife see's things for what they are. She now understands why I went on a search half way around the world for a woman like her. Keep up the good work!
I am invisible to my "wife". Every conversation is shut down by her and talks to me only when she wants something: a meal or to fix something. Intimacy? Lol.
Women like that make me glad to be unmarried. Even Bible says it's better to be stuck on the corner of a roof than to be married to a contentious woman
I'm thinking that a shift from a primarily rural, agrarian peasant culture in the West over the last 400 years, culminating in the Industrial Revolution and it's aftermath, has been a key piece in this seemingly unsolvable puzzle. The often brutal truths of human existence, eked out before electricity, indoor plumbing, central heating, automobiles, trains, planes, ready-made foods, ready-made apparel, medical care and so forth, have been largely lost to both men and women today. For me growing up on a farm sort of initiated me into a harsh reality, as a kid watching a beloved cow or calf die, seeing nitty gritty details of things as they are. The men worked, the women worked, the kids worked, we all worked and scraped and sweated together to make life work. I find great therapy in my life with horses. They are truly honest creatures and will respond honestly to stimuli. If I wish to cultivate a friendship with them I must also be honest and predictable in my interactions with them. I believe a horse has the ability to sacrifice. Exactly how or why this ability exists I cannot say, but I firmly believe it to be so. They will "Try" for their master far beyond what a human employee would do. Almost daily I witness little "miracles" and find myself overwhelmed at their generosity and obedience. Pulling with all of their might moving enormous loads...for what? Because I ask them to, no whip, no yelling, no noticeable effort on my part except a little "kiss" and adjustment of rein. Day after day, going beyond, doing more, trying harder, asking nothing in return but kindness, care, affection and good rations. No human has ever done the like without demanding something more. Any good horseman who is worth their salt will admit to having wet eyes from time to time when they have witnessed "magnificence", sacrifice, from their horse/horses, simply because they asked. Magnificence cannot be forced by sheer effort or willpower. It is a gift they give us, as friends are wont to do to those they love. Herein lies, I feel, a key to the unsolvable puzzle of our times.
I understand your relationship with horses. What they really want is to join up with you. I've been a student of Buck Brannaman and Monty Roberts for years. If you can get to joining up with your horse, it is the most honest relationship you'll ever have. They'll do for you like no one or nothing else. All because you've joined up with them.
Dear Erin, Our boys, men and fathers won't go anywhere unless women come back to their femininity and nurturing roles, with intelligence of how to be the best housewife. That's why I think you should consider having some episodes about children, and how their innocense is being vanquished by the woke institutions.
Erin, as an estranged father living with MS, I’m so grateful of the voice you give to men and the example you set to all people living with this harsh condition. Keep your chin up and keep doing what you do. From the UK.
Im alone and very touch deprived 😢 I put everything I had into the last relationship. Told her good morning beautiful every morning for 2 1/2 years, touched her, hugged her, kissed her every chance I had. Opened the car door etc. etc. It appears to have drove her away unfortunately. Now I'm alone in the house I bought for her.
You are not alone. I've done similarly for 3 years just to be dumped, maybe most women nowadays no longer value intimacy out of boredom sadly. We should focus on building ourselves more as top priority rather than focusing on a woman.
If men have problems, they become juicy targets for women to prove their innate superiority. It does not matter if the man’s problems were not of his own making.
DaDavis1954 you have my condolences. My wife Tristie passed on 3 years ago. I agree it’s hard, I’m just glad she is with Christ and in best shape ever in her life.
You are amazing with seeing what's going on. Thank you. I have been married 3 times and gave 100 percent only to get it torn from me. There are good women i just missed them. Or got the wrong one.
A point of interest. Before computers companies were pretty much run by executive secretary's. Yes there were men in charge every one of them had an executive secretary who ensured all things were in order and done in a timely fashion at least up until the late 80's.
A genuine thank you for standing up for us. I am SO tired of this insane war between sexes. All of us had a man and a woman for parents, can't choose what we are born, many have opposite sex children, siblings, and yet some choose to blindly (and I do mean blindly) hate an entire group of people. Sure some have horrific experiences with narcissists of opposite sex, then channel this pain into hate and do not let go, not realizing such intense negativity will destroy them. They judge by a few bad experiences they maybe had, or simply heard about and then willingly and even eagerly choose to hate billions of people they truly do not know and not even seen, or met. This goes far deeper than most realize, it is a carefully planned agenda to divide, disable, destroy, confuse, control and conquer. It is not so much a war between sexes, as it is a war against humanity and our Creator. We are all brothers and sisters created by the same force, meant to Love each other, instead, more and more are choosing hate... "Anyone who hates a brother, or sister is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness. They do not know where they are going, because the darkness has blinded them." (1 John 2:11) "Anyone who hates a brother, or sister is a murderer and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him." (1 John 3:15)
Thank you for saying it! I was engaged once for nine months, but cought her sleeping with her own stepsister and lying to me about it. That was in my late 20's, I'll be 54 next month and I never got engaged again.
There needs to be lawyers, activist groups and organizations to stand up to protect men who are in this new mens movement, because many people, business etc . Will discriminat
I was born in a narcissistic family, in my search to peace and happiness every time making the wrong choices. The effect where strange health issues and in the end half of my brain was infected and stopped working. After two weeks not aware of the world opens my eyes and had to start at zero. Despite my support to all kind of people only 4 old colleagues supported me because in the past I had supported them. For a men nobody is there and you need to do everything alone. I am part of the 2% who where able to become functional again but it was a tough job and still working on it for already 3 years. At a certain moment some ladies visited me but the only reason was to look for things they liked. But my decision for the first time in my life was to put myself in nr 1 because I needed all energy available and to many people just sucking that energy and in return only negative energy. Lesson , as a men better alone because to many people just come to suck your energy, happiness and money
When I was training for my career as a personal support worker and later an educator, protection of the client's dignity was a highlighted topic throughout instruction. What stuck out is the forms that abuse can take. These include. Physical Mental Verbal S3xual Financial Spiritual And even Neglect. In today's age of technology and social media we can also add. Online and social abuse to this list as well. The kicker is that someone only needs to perform an act that falls into any one of these criteria and can be performed by anyone regardless of gender, race, orientation, spiritual beliefs, or political alignment. A good example is to say if a woman divorced her husband under no fault of the husband. One could site financial, spiritual, and emotional abuse done to the husband, then after the divorce is filed the husband could face stigmatization and destruction of his reputation if he can not afford alimony or child support and goes to prison. And because he's in prison, he now has a criminal record, which denied him opportunities in life. And there is social abuse. But of course, morality is nonexistent today.
That is so not true. Karma doesn’t exist. If karma existed, why does it seem like the generous and good people get screwed over while evil people get away with everything and get what they want?
That’s not a thing when you’re dealing with women. You’ll get crap no matter how you act unless it’s her telling you how to act. But then you’ll still do it wrong.
Even if a man is in a relationship, he is still alone but he doesn't want to admit it because as soon as she gets bored or finds someone financially more viable they will walk away from their man as if they never knew him.
I am alone but I’m not lonely I will never put myself through that stressful situation again..I’m done.. I’m at peace..I have my artwork and my guitar to keep me company.
Like many others have said, men don’t get unconditional love. The only time I have ever received it was because thankfully I had a Father who loved me. My mother and sister didn’t. No woman I’ve ever been with has done it. No friends have ever given it. I give it, but it’s always abused. I won’t give it anymore.
🥰 Wow! Brilliant! That's everything I have wanted to say and been trying to say for 16 years. Since I was 34. 😂 I love the analogy of men running in 2 feet of mud. Love it.
Exactly. I am so tired of that in the workplace. She can say something about a man. And it's ALWAYS some twist on normal common sense and / or work ethic that the woman spins into he has a bad attitude or is creepy, or he's not conforming, etc.. But god forbid the man utters one word about her poor work ethic. We are being forced tremendously to level down in the workplace to accommodate them. And NOTHING good comes out of making men bored. Nothing
@@mosecollins5072 Yeah, I just had that. Company christmas party. "You work too much". Of course it came from the one who looks like the arrogant career girl.
Men learned early in life that out concerns are for us to take care of and that we’re the last and first line of defense. Nobody needs to feel sorry for us. Thanks.
I became 100% disabled in 2008. After losing my job I never realized how lonely you can be. You lose friends and coworkers. I can go weeks without talking to people. I am lucky I have a great wife who is a nurse. But watching her have tons of friends and me having zero has become miserable.
I am currently going through a family crisis. I had to heal my mother, think outside the box and solve problems on my own and I've never been more alone and miserable in my life. The good news is my mother healing is working and we are slowing getting out of our nightmare. But what was very obvious to me is how everyone wanted to bring us down and I no one helped us. The UK is Evil.
Just don't tell people that you are. No matter how much of a catch you objectively are, it just doesn't sit well with another person to have to be told by the source. I'm sure you are a cool guy, though.
The army taught me to control my emotions, harness them, and focus them to benefit me the best. women chose 4B and feminism, which I fully support, which frees up my time, energy, resources to be used on things that actually interest me.
And still are and always will. Which is why I have given up and moved on. Arguing with a narcissist is meaningless. From all the bad feelings a man can choose nowadays loneliness is the least depressing.
What you will find going forward is more men bailing from society, which will be devastating for the economy. Imagine shortages in areas that keep society rolling, like diesel mechanics. What most people fail to understand is when there is a shortage of diesel mechanics, that means fewer goods will be transported as time to repair trucks will take much longer, also affecting the price for goods as the cost for qualified diesel mechanics will skyrocket. Even I have bailed early from the workforce at the age of 49. I'm done with the corporate nonsense.
Being alone feels miserable the first couple years but once you embrace it and learn to use the loneliness as peace you don’t want anyone to interfere with it. I’ve been at peace for over a decade now and I would never willingly invite chaos into my life to disturb my peace. Being alone is seen as a curse by a lot of people but I see it as a blessing. It’s a chance to achieve the peace so many people want. It’s a chance to become who you want to be. It’s a chance to accomplish everything you wish to accomplish.
I'm a single middle-aged man. No one cares about me but I'm ok with that. I have friends but they have families who take priority and rightly so. They'd do so much for me but I know and accept that if I became a burden, they'd walk away. I'm effectively travelling through life without a safety net and I'm virtually invisible, but that's ok. I'm going to be star dust before too long anyway. In the grand scheme of things I don't matter...none of us do. Eventually we are all forgotten.
I have never felt more alone and frightened than when I was in a marriage with a toxic violent woman , while I was fighting a crippling tumour strangling my spinal cord in my neck . I was even accused of beating her by her father as he had seen the extensive bruising on her forearms where I had been holding her to prevent her hitting me .
You are absolutely right about the government being able to quickly start drafting people at any time. Also, it's quite clear that the draft never really ended, because if it did, then people would not be required to register for it. I used "Leo" (the AI chat feature) in the Firefox browser to ask if men still had to register for the draft. Below is what it told me: "In the United States, the Selective Service System requires all male U.S. citizens between the ages of 18 and 25 to register for the draft..." These senseless wars, such as the illegitimate Iraq war, remind me of Dwight Eisenhower's (a five-star general in WWII) warning about the military/industrial complex. His warnings were legitimate. It looks to me that the people running the USA are planning on keeping wars going as long as they can. And that must be why there is still a draft.
As little boys we were already raised with the idea that we were on our own. That exposing our pains and anxieties would give off weakness signals, so we learned to bottle them up. But lately we’ve been tired of those insufferable, entitled brats saying “men are good for nothing”, “men are useless”, “men have it too easy”. So some of us got fed and started exposing men’s problems. So we have our part of responsibility, not speaking up for so long. Don’t know… we didn’t need women to speak up about their problems for us to be aware of them; seems we’re not on par regarding empathy. Another myth debunked? Seems to me, especially with the mocking reactions, especially when the first men took the courage to speak up. Because yeah, as a man who was told to zip it and bottle it up all his life, opening up about our problems is as fearful to us as body count revelation is to modern women.
I've had a couple of short relationships since my divorce 14 years ago, (didn't last long because they wanted to be my boss), and for the vast majority of that time I've been alone. After the horror story of my marriage the peace and quiet is a thing to behold. I've always been a bit of a loner so 'loneliness' is something I don't relate to.
The suffering we do is alone, but we get the peace we want also by being by ourselves. We can be alone without being lonely, most of the time at least. Trusting women and take that gamble, has to be a real good one out of the current pool
At 62, I haven't had anything to do with "women" for a couple of decades. And before that, it was very few and far between. Each "relationship" was more of a really hard lesson, than anything else. The "love" was always based on my willingness to allow myself to be used and manipulated. Although loneliness is painful, it is far less painful than the lessons were.
Married for 30 years, never felt more alone in my life. I’ve been alone for 12 years and I’ve never felt happier. It’s not what I wanted. It’s what happened.
Yes, I agree, men are suffering alone. Only now we men are choosing not to increase our suffering by having a woman around. Sad but true.
Just about to say the same..
It's a funny thing that when a man hasn't anything on earth to worry about, he goes off and gets married.
--Robert Frost
True true !!!
💯 🎯 tired of it.
All I can think about when I envision getting close physically and emotionally is the switch up, the abuse, the torment..no thanks
There's no such thing as unconditional love for a man. As men...we're only loved for what we can provide. That's all...the moment we can't give something...we're cast aside.
Agree with this one.
Yeah, I've seen that. My father and I worked on a unit to make it handicapped accessible for a man who'd had a stroke. His wife started boinking my dad within a week, the man drooling in the wheelchair parked in the living room. Her new provider. Somehow it became all about rescuing her from cruel fate and healing her trauma.
Even when we go above and beyond, even when we through our actions proove how needed we are, are we wanted at all? No, not enough to be kept around, not enough to be brought/gotten back
Agree. But we're men, we're used to it, and we can handle it. Welcome to life. If you're good, you'll be hated, it just goes with the territory. I'm not saying we shouldn't be good, just that people who aren't won't like it. But being good isn't about what others think. We all need to understand that the opinions of others are irrelevant. It's what you think of yourself and what you do with your life that matters. Be a good man, understand that it's not easy, but nothing of value is ever obtained through ease.
@@paulmadsen51 Couldn't agree more.
Men are starting to push back on being mistreated.
We’re going to win because we run everything.
I love when guys start to make the same statements that females say, like how she has to take care of him so he can be a stay at home wife.. Think it is Drizzle Drizzle movement...
How about they start paying to take us on dates to see our content and to sleep with us lol
How about they pay for us and our homies to go out lol
Not really
I never been more alone than i was in a toxic relationship..
Exactly, men are better off than in toxic relationships.
My mom asked me after my divorce in 2013: "You wanted to be married more than life itself. Why was that?" I answered: "Because I never wanted to be alone anymore. But the truth is; I was never more alone than when I was married." 😔
Yes
I was married for 7 years. I never felt alone until then.
My divorce came through on my 40th birthday.
I went full Monk Mode until then.
For those who don't know, there are three Monk Mode levels. There are:
I. Monk Mode
II. Ghost
III. Hermit OR if Spiritual, it is
Esoteric Hermit
I was on Level 2 Ghost, but due to my Fathers illness ( passed away from Stomach Cancer & Alzheimers ) 18 months ago.
I now look after my mother who has Parkinson's and her dementia is increasing and she will NOT take her meds.
I am not whining, just, simply explaining.
As conversations with my mum are Groundhog Day, that is, it's the same conversations day in and day out.
Monk Mode
Helps me cope and adjust.
I am alone, not lonely.
Meditation and prayer as observing my faults, greatly assists me.
@@FrostedSeagull Same here, Level 3 Monk Mode here. Mine was cos of absent father and schizophrenic mother. I tried dating many years back and she was a clever, nice girl, healthy family. We stay in touch for 7 years but always felt I was holding her back and now she is married to another wonderful guy. I have to stay single if not its hard to stay sane taking care of my mom whenever her episodes erupts ever 1-2 days. Females nowadays live too privileged lives to even understand how a common man on the street live through their daily life. At least luckily I didn't officially dated, didn't wasted much money on females, never left much painful memories for her. Now I am too used to the single minimalist life for 16 years, it's hard to go back to date woman that might not even match up to that sweet girl I used to like.
Can cook, never probed too much about my life, understanding, street smart, follows my advice to reject a crazy guy, likes kids, became a kind teacher, date an average engineer and have a happy marriage.
After a twenty five year marriage,my wife decided she wanted to leave. She was asked what did he do,she said he did nothing wrong in fact he was funny,loving and a great dad to our kids. After five years of being single,lonely and not trusting women anymore, I decided to meet quality people,go fishing,hiking and get in great shape and love life like it was intended. The other day she called and said she missed me and she wanted to come back home. I simply said…and who are you.
😂😂
Good for You Man.
I wouldn’t take anyone back who treated ya like dirt.
Good job man... She wanted her freedom and threw away the relationship... She can enjoy her freedom!!! Do not be her ATM/Doormat!!!
That is very apt. I just got divorced and could already ask 'who are you?' before the paperwork was filed. It's like females hit a certain age range and become what they were always going to become, and that was not whom I got married to. What she metamorphized into was this miserable and ugly person.
I had moved out of state seven months prior and could watch in real time through these online court settlement sessions as the miserable ugliness on her inside was seeping to her outside. Our last Zoom meeting was mid November and she looked more ragged and miserable than I've ever seen her.
She'd obviously packed on (yet) another 40#. Her new Perm ("self-care") looked so out of place sitting on top of that heap 'o' mess, it looked like a wig. Probably was. I didn't really want to look at her but it didn't take more than a glace to see that it was like putting whipped cream on a dog turd Sundae.
Hm. How could this be? I had moved out of state seven months prior, so everything should be just the way she wanted it, everything should be great once I was gone! Hm. What's her excuse for looking so wretched and miserable now? It's an unsolvd mystery, yet surely it's somehow my fault and others fault as well. Not hers. She won't accept responsibility unless she has an epiphany one day called being an adult - in mind, not simply by age.
Almost the same here. And I said no as well. Might be homeless after we finally settle everything but I don’t care. I can’t go back.
I don't mind being ignored by women as long as I get to have peace and no drama
How dare you!
Amen.
In the desert under the lone mesquite tree with a trusty pup.
Women can have the Grizzly Bear.
Shhh bro do not not tell are secrets!!! Let them think we hate being alone and the silent treatment hurts us.... LOL
Packing up the RV, the jeep and the dirt bike and headed to Mexico at 56 years old. Better off alone and retired on a beach.
Same at 56, but Thailand for me.
Pick me up on the way in west tx
Lots of men actually find traditional girls in Mexico without even looking for a partner. They are much better at valuing men many claim especially American men. This is just what I hear never actually been yet but considering it. 🙏
We DO NOT SUFFER. WE CAN BE ALONE. Women can't. Women require attention, drama, and validation to give their lives meaning. For a man our life is defined by our pupose, our work. We aren't suffering.
While I agree with your sentiment, a lot of men are genuinely suffering. I have several reasons. Children stolen from me through the joke of a fucking legal system. Falsely accused of things I've never done. My most fundamental property rights have been absolutely shit on. Ex-wife exploited me for tens of thousands of dollars. Also I've been dealing with severe chronic pain post-surgery for nearly 12 years. So yeah, my life is pretty much absolute shit, even though I still have plenty to be thankful for. I'm done being shit on though.
@@TrevorSullivan We are build to endure loneliness. Yes we feel better when loved, but can a nowadays woman really love a man? I'm unsure we are more than walking wallets.
@@TrevorSullivan I hear you Trevor but my kids are now aware of what went on between me and their mum. My daughter still has limited contact but my son now lives with me and refuses any contact with his mother. The lies are hurtful but I thanked my ex for telling lies to my friends about me.........I now know who the real/loyal ones are. I too lost half of everything but the resulting peace and happiness are worth every penny. I didn't get to see my kids grow up from the ages of, my son 10 and my daughter 12 and I'll never get that back but the bigger picture is I'm happier and better off than ever. Dust yourself off and get your head up fella! Take care.
I have been alone all my life im 38 LOL
@@stoptheworldiwannagetoff4780 thanks I appreciate your concern. I'm doing quite well for myself, for the most part, despite all the setbacks. My severe health problems make life extremely challenging to live. Functioning at a basic, human level, on a daily basis, is quite hard for me. I'm glad to hear you have a good relationship with your son!
Men have learned to not show emotion (for the most part). Sharing vulnerabilities and emotional pain usually gets us punished.
Men play by rules, women don't. As I said when going through my divorce, ecpect the unexpected, in other word's if I was going to do the right thing it was expected that she would do the opisite.
Growing up all my little sister did was cheat at board games.
Men will learn to play within the rules. Women will learn they can change the rules as they see fit to suit themselves.
I am compelled to edit your comment's spelling and grammar by writing: "Expect", "In other words", and "opposite". Because I am ruled by the drive for fine tuning.
Prepare for unforeseen consequences.
I worry about the young men and boys growing up and forming their self-view while hearing nothing but hate.
There are thousands of examples every day in prisons and emergency rooms of destroyed young men.
you're worried about the wrong things. i'm more worried about them feeling hopeless & killing themselves, while you're worried about andrew tate smh
I also worry for my son his first girlfriend just left him and well he is taking better than I did. He said she was delusional and said they needed a break. He also says he isn't worried because he has alot of options with young crazy girls in college. I never went to college but I can only imagine! Hope he isn't alone for too long. I have heard college is the best for making friends and girlfriends. I also told him do not call the ex if your still interested wait until she calls!
@@asdfxcvbn746 What? Tate?Where did he mention Tate?
@@vapeking466 yeah you know, his main goal going to college should be about learning and getting ready to enter the workforce as well equipped as possible, not worrying if he is "alone for too long" or simply making friends. I'm sure he is socialble and can form mutually beneficial relationships, anyways.
The world is different fir men. I'm almost 39, and still running on compliments I got when I was 16....
brah you got compliments at 16. I'm jealous :D Lol more power to you man.
Same, man, same. 35 here, last compliment I recieved was in High School.
I'm 37, I'm like compliments? What's that? Not one date in all these years.
Time waits for No one, no one at all. We only get one chance to get things right, we've All FAILED.
Men can run on compliments decades old, women can't or won't not sure.
About 2 years ago, a female coworker gave me thee first hug I've had in 20 years… it hit hard.
If I were to "show my emotions" about the legitimate hurt, I would be denigrated about that; the only emotion men are allowed to have is anger… and even *that* is disregarded with _"Oh, you shouldn't be angry about X"_ and _"He made me feel unsafe."_ - To be honest, society/women would discard men for the offense of being human.
Be happy, feminism has freed men from their misandry. We are FREE from the burden of what was.
that's the game bruh. They want to turn you into a machine.
I still remember a female classmate hugging me out of the blue back in HS. She was always nice to me -- even when we were younger. I guess she thought I could use one. She was among the popular girls -- who were generally nicer than the less popular ones, ironically enough.
It has been more than 30 years but I'll never forget that rare kindness. I can count on one hand the females who hugged me outside of those in my family. Frankly, I wouldn't trust it from most of them anyway -- not then and not now.
I learned in my early 20s to never reveal a weakness to a female. Lived and learned.
Only your bros understand your pain as a man. Females have no clue about true loneliness -- not until they're post-35 anyway... but by then they're delusional if they're still alone.
From what I've seen, they're barely human. They'll do the worst to those they call "friend" and have no guilt or shame at all. A man will torture himself for certain mistakes. I've never seen a vvoman spend much time regretting anything.
Best policy: don't associate with any of them in any way but purely business. Be polite, but keep it pushing.
Men really need to learn to be alone. It’s the best thing we can do for ourselves. If we can learn to be alone and happy. No one can take that away from us.
Good comment
Being alone is easy as a man. Learning how to handle being around people is the challange. It is nearly impossible especially around women.
We men suffer much more than women. 😢😢😢 Especially if our kindness is used against us.
I live in a city and ive never seen a homeless woman...only men...we have 16 organizations for counseling, 13 of which do not accept new patients, the other 3 are female only, female only facilities, by law, have to facilitate women's need no matter what. Idk, feels like sexism against men to me...they're shutting down the male homeless shelter behind my house but their affiliate female shelter still receives state funding because, women...idk...feels like society is actively pushing men down...
This same sadistic behavior from women was going on in the early 70s minus the internet of course.
Way before that it was happening since ancient times. It's just with the internet. Women's evil has been exposed.
And there dhor
Dourters ar doing the same horrible
Dourters do the same
I'm alone 24/7.
Me to
Mate I been single for Decades but not alone that much. I got a few good friends & help out my oldies. Travel the world ,have way too many hobbies. Mate get out there & have good times. That's what I do, drama & debt free
me to
Look up "Nora Vincent--woman disguised as a man" and "Cassie Jaye--The Red Pill".
Both looked into men's issues and were honest enough to say men's issues need more attention.
Great example 👍 at least she tried to understand men's issues. Rip Nora
I have seen transsexuals on RUclips who were born a man but now are trans women. They claim life is much much easier as a women even in just day to day life. 💯
Nora was a real one.
Didn’t she have a mental breakdown and ultimately unalive herself from the stress of being a man? I kind of remember that it’s been a while since I’ve seen the expose on it.
@@rorythompson6527 I heard of a woman who went on a dating app as a joke pretending to be a man and she was shocked by the treatment she got. I'm telling women to do that so they'll understand men.
The women who mistreated a man for the first time, were the creators of the Red Pill, the men only transmitted their experiences
Men who lie to women and manipulate them. Were first lied to and manipulated by a women at one point in their life. Women create the men they complain about.
The red pill existed before any of us were aware of it or gave it a name. It's called the Truth and it's reality as it is -- not reality as we wish it were.
A lot of times - those are called Mothers
Who, in a woman's life, is more important to her than her husband? Her boss? Her pastor? Her professors? Her mechanic?... her cats? Be honest he's at the the bottom.
She's probably more willing to be obedient to her male boss and maybe even sleep with him if he's attractive than her actual husband.
Did someone say cats??
We've been called toxic for years. What do people think is going to happen.
I was once a young man, I found I did not fit. Young women wanted others that could impregnate them. But most of the men, young women found, left them holding the bag. They rightfully used lawyers without regard for the man they were involved with. At that point, I stayed away. I was fortunate to see both sides.
Men got wrapped into the mold that young women were pure. As a young man, I was more than willing to devote myself for a young woman (that was pure) that wanted to have a family, but it never worked out (never could find that pureness that we were led to believe). I never considered promiscuous women. Most women I knew wanted body counts and child support for the ones that got caught drilling where they had no business. I never wanted to pay for someone else's misguided night out. Smart women realized this, I hope. They don't want society to pay for their moments of lust to cover for them in the form of welfare, child support and govt funded abortions.
Women and society, in general, taught me that as a man, I am nothing more than a disposable work horse. I learned through these experiences that I am better off alone, and now, at age 43, I trust and believe no one.
I am a French speaker from Quebec, Canada, I listen to you several times and if I may I will make the comment that you seem to be a magnificent woman not only by your eyes which emanate gentleness but also your empathy which particularly touches me. , thx
Amen,
White women saying they’re oppressed will always baffle me.
they self-oppress and jump ship to any cause that promises power. Its why feminists are now cheering for interest groups just because they hate white western men even though they view European Women as less then dirt.
Don't be baffled by B/S & LIES. Far better to walk away & never look back
Pretty much
My last relationship was all about her. Her home. Her kid. Her medical problems. Her issues. It was not about us. In the end she cheated. I thought I had a good one.
I sincerely hope you never meet a 'bad one'. Let's say that.
My ex wife said she stayed so long because i made more money.
Women don't love men, like a man loves a woman. They only care for the resources or how it makes her 'feeeeel'. It's a tough pill to swallow
Wow, true love! 😢
Typical
I'm a 26 yo Mexican and also happens I'm 5'4 feet tall brown skin and the whole Méxican stereotype
I fully introduce my appearance to write how viciously brotal western society treats the average and bellow average men.
In my country (Of course Mèxico)
I lived my teenage beautiful years; the girlfriends, the friends and fights and all the teenage package and when I turned 18 I also lived my early adulthood with girlfriends and people who hated me and also loved me.
Nowadays I have nice experiences with women and some good old friends.
If I have been born in a western country I would be considered a subhuman and treated like invisible garbage by all.
The experiences had back then I the ones I still having I wouldn't change for absolutely nothing.
I hope the lost souls who read this y eventually find PEACE in their lonely lifes. I truly hope so!
same here in Asia, where the women here prefer expats and so-called "work wives" and ""work husbands"
Dear Erin, thank you for you highly intelligent channel. You are truly a good woman. I will continue to support your channel. God bless you. Please go on sweetie.
On the "alone" thing!
“If you're going to try, go all the way. Otherwise, don't even start. This could mean losing girlfriends, wives, relatives and maybe even your mind. It could mean not eating for three or four days. It could mean freezing on a park bench. It could mean jail. It could mean derision. It could mean mockery--isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it. And, you'll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you're going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It's the only good fight there is.”
― Charles Bukowski, What Matters Most is How Well You Walk Through the Fire
This.. This right here is where its at
@@wonderland7493 AWAY from the inversion and MOKING we can become ANYTHING left or right wing WE are the BIRD!!
@@wonderland7493 Go listen to "Henry Rollins - I know you" !
I am a married man of 40 years. Men ask me where did I find such a good wife. I reply "On a remote Island in the Pacific waters". In our neighborhood single men refuse to even date. They treat my wife with great respect. Some ask her to repair their clothing which she does. Like you my wife see's things for what they are. She now understands why I went on a search half way around the world for a woman like her. Keep up the good work!
Not all girls are bad, though this croud here would disagree
I am invisible to my "wife". Every conversation is shut down by her and talks to me only when she wants something: a meal or to fix something. Intimacy? Lol.
You mean she talks “at” you, not “to” you right?
Sounds like you need to divorce
Women like that make me glad to be unmarried. Even Bible says it's better to be stuck on the corner of a roof than to be married to a contentious woman
We, as men, don't need to victimize ourselves to survive; it's not our nature.
I'm thinking that a shift from a primarily rural, agrarian peasant culture in the West over the last 400 years, culminating in the Industrial Revolution and it's aftermath, has been a key piece in this seemingly unsolvable puzzle. The often brutal truths of human existence, eked out before electricity, indoor plumbing, central heating, automobiles, trains, planes, ready-made foods, ready-made apparel, medical care and so forth, have been largely lost to both men and women today.
For me growing up on a farm sort of initiated me into a harsh reality, as a kid watching a beloved cow or calf die, seeing nitty gritty details of things as they are. The men worked, the women worked, the kids worked, we all worked and scraped and sweated together to make life work.
I find great therapy in my life with horses. They are truly honest creatures and will respond honestly to stimuli. If I wish to cultivate a friendship with them I must also be honest and predictable in my interactions with them. I believe a horse has the ability to sacrifice. Exactly how or why this ability exists I cannot say, but I firmly believe it to be so. They will "Try" for their master far beyond what a human employee would do. Almost daily I witness little "miracles" and find myself overwhelmed at their generosity and obedience. Pulling with all of their might moving enormous loads...for what? Because I ask them to, no whip, no yelling, no noticeable effort on my part except a little "kiss" and adjustment of rein. Day after day, going beyond, doing more, trying harder, asking nothing in return but kindness, care, affection and good rations. No human has ever done the like without demanding something more. Any good horseman who is worth their salt will admit to having wet eyes from time to time when they have witnessed "magnificence", sacrifice, from their horse/horses, simply because they asked. Magnificence cannot be forced by sheer effort or willpower. It is a gift they give us, as friends are wont to do to those they love. Herein lies, I feel, a key to the unsolvable puzzle of our times.
I understand your relationship with horses. What they really want is to join up with you. I've been a student of Buck Brannaman and Monty Roberts for years. If you can get to joining up with your horse, it is the most honest relationship you'll ever have. They'll do for you like no one or nothing else. All because you've joined up with them.
@@WardDorrity Yes, I have tried to incorporate Monty Robert's teaching, since learning about his methods 20 years ago.
Truer words never spoken! I bred,raised and raced Harness Horses. Unconditional love and loyalty!
Dear Erin,
Our boys, men and fathers won't go anywhere unless women come back to their femininity and nurturing roles, with intelligence of how to be the best housewife.
That's why I think you should consider having some episodes about children, and how their innocense is being vanquished by the woke institutions.
Erin, as an estranged father living with MS, I’m so grateful of the voice you give to men and the example you set to all people living with this harsh condition. Keep your chin up and keep doing what you do. From the UK.
Always sad and lonely women will never understand😢
glad be able catch this one live :) hope everyone has a good weekend. Enjoy the little things guys. Protect your peace
Im alone and very touch deprived 😢 I put everything I had into the last relationship. Told her good morning beautiful every morning for 2 1/2 years, touched her, hugged her, kissed her every chance I had. Opened the car door etc. etc. It appears to have drove her away unfortunately. Now I'm alone in the house I bought for her.
I did that to a woman I really liked,. she told me she hated it, so I've never done that again ever.
She let you keep your house?
@@somedandy7694 We were engaged.
You are not alone. I've done similarly for 3 years just to be dumped, maybe most women nowadays no longer value intimacy out of boredom sadly. We should focus on building ourselves more as top priority rather than focusing on a woman.
@junjieoyan4800 I agree 👍 I've let it take away my confidence and positive outlook on life and I should never have let that happen.
I don't talk about my problems anymore because the reactions have been really nasty usually.
I don't because it's none of their business, and if I did. I wouldn't care about their traitorous responses.
@Rahab84 Amen
If men have problems, they become juicy targets for women to prove their innate superiority. It does not matter if the man’s problems were not of his own making.
This will be hard-hitting for a lot of us. Thank you in advance. (R.I.P. Cathy).
Who's Cathy?
Who’s Cathy ?
@@Marcus_MG42 My wife, who passed eight years ago.
@@JosephJonathan-gl4mh My wife, who passed eight years ago.
DaDavis1954 you have my condolences. My wife Tristie passed on 3 years ago. I agree it’s hard, I’m just glad she is with Christ and in best shape ever in her life.
You are amazing with seeing what's going on. Thank you. I have been married 3 times and gave 100 percent only to get it torn from me. There are good women i just missed them. Or got the wrong one.
Respect for trying a few times and not giving up immediately. After a 15 year marriage, I am just starting my journey.
I was not familiar with the Time Mag article. I appreciate you mentioning it. I’ll check it out. Thank you much.
I accepted this fact since age 12
Dogs are awesome they love you unconditionally as long as you feed them :))
A point of interest. Before computers companies were pretty much run by executive secretary's. Yes there were men in charge every one of them had an executive secretary who ensured all things were in order and done in a timely fashion at least up until the late 80's.
Woof
I prefer cats because I like their independence
Patriarchy was invebted to protect women from them self
Yeah, like Lily Phillips.
@@Rick_Cleland who is that?
A genuine thank you for standing up for us. I am SO tired of this insane war between sexes. All of us had a man and a woman for parents, can't choose what we are born, many have opposite sex children, siblings, and yet some choose to blindly (and I do mean blindly) hate an entire group of people. Sure some have horrific experiences with narcissists of opposite sex, then channel this pain into hate and do not let go, not realizing such intense negativity will destroy them. They judge by a few bad experiences they maybe had, or simply heard about and then willingly and even eagerly choose to hate billions of people they truly do not know and not even seen, or met. This goes far deeper than most realize, it is a carefully planned agenda to divide, disable, destroy, confuse, control and conquer. It is not so much a war between sexes, as it is a war against humanity and our Creator. We are all brothers and sisters created by the same force, meant to Love each other, instead, more and more are choosing hate...
"Anyone who hates a brother, or sister is in the darkness and walks around in the darkness. They do not know where they are going, because the darkness has blinded them." (1 John 2:11)
"Anyone who hates a brother, or sister is a murderer and you know that no murderer has eternal life residing in him." (1 John 3:15)
"I've always been a man hater"... then why get into a relationship with one?!
The mind... boggles 🤯
There's a saying that goes simply. I wish you luck in your struggles and the ones you never talk about.
It’s been a tough ten years…
Thank you for saying it! I was engaged once for nine months, but cought her sleeping with her own stepsister and lying to me about it. That was in my late 20's, I'll be 54 next month and I never got engaged again.
Well that’s what I’ve never heard before. Good gracious! I’m so sorry.
There needs to be lawyers, activist groups and organizations to stand up to protect men who are in this new mens movement, because many people, business etc . Will discriminat
You're always popular in our minds, Erin. Thank you for what you do. It means a lot. 🙏
It is always good to see and hear you Erin. God bless you overthere.🙏
- Henrik from 🇩🇰
I was born in a narcissistic family, in my search to peace and happiness every time making the wrong choices. The effect where strange health issues and in the end half of my brain was infected and stopped working. After two weeks not aware of the world opens my eyes and had to start at zero. Despite my support to all kind of people only 4 old colleagues supported me because in the past I had supported them. For a men nobody is there and you need to do everything alone. I am part of the 2% who where able to become functional again but it was a tough job and still working on it for already 3 years. At a certain moment some ladies visited me but the only reason was to look for things they liked. But my decision for the first time in my life was to put myself in nr 1 because I needed all energy available and to many people just sucking that energy and in return only negative energy. Lesson , as a men better alone because to many people just come to suck your energy, happiness and money
When I was training for my career as a personal support worker and later an educator, protection of the client's dignity was a highlighted topic throughout instruction. What stuck out is the forms that abuse can take. These include.
Physical
Mental
Verbal
S3xual
Financial
Spiritual
And even Neglect.
In today's age of technology and social media we can also add.
Online and social abuse to this list as well.
The kicker is that someone only needs to perform an act that falls into any one of these criteria and can be performed by anyone regardless of gender, race, orientation, spiritual beliefs, or political alignment.
A good example is to say if a woman divorced her husband under no fault of the husband. One could site financial, spiritual, and emotional abuse done to the husband, then after the divorce is filed the husband could face stigmatization and destruction of his reputation if he can not afford alimony or child support and goes to prison. And because he's in prison, he now has a criminal record, which denied him opportunities in life. And there is social abuse. But of course, morality is nonexistent today.
I haven't read a newspaper in decades.
You act crappy, you get crap. Work on yourselves, women are secondary. stay hydrated
That is so not true. Karma doesn’t exist. If karma existed, why does it seem like the generous and good people get screwed over while evil people get away with everything and get what they want?
That’s not a thing when you’re dealing with women. You’ll get crap no matter how you act unless it’s her telling you how to act. But then you’ll still do it wrong.
Exactly
Robin Williams said something like - the worst fate is not being alone, but being with someone and feeling alone!!
Even if a man is in a relationship, he is still alone but he doesn't want to admit it because as soon as she gets bored or finds someone financially more viable they will walk away from their man as if they never knew him.
It takes a lot less time to tear things down than to build things up.
Your better off alone because you can be in a crowd but still be alone.
I am alone but I’m not lonely I will never put myself through that stressful situation again..I’m done.. I’m at peace..I have my artwork and my guitar to keep me company.
Like many others have said, men don’t get unconditional love. The only time I have ever received it was because thankfully I had a Father who loved me. My mother and sister didn’t. No woman I’ve ever been with has done it. No friends have ever given it.
I give it, but it’s always abused. I won’t give it anymore.
🥰 Wow! Brilliant! That's everything I have wanted to say and been trying to say for 16 years. Since I was 34. 😂 I love the analogy of men running in 2 feet of mud. Love it.
Exactly. I am so tired of that in the workplace. She can say something about a man. And it's ALWAYS some twist on normal common sense and / or work ethic that the woman spins into he has a bad attitude or is creepy, or he's not conforming, etc.. But god forbid the man utters one word about her poor work ethic. We are being forced tremendously to level down in the workplace to accommodate them. And NOTHING good comes out of making men bored. Nothing
I've worked with women who complained that I work too fast or too much and that they couldnt keep up. Quite literally forced to level down.
@@mosecollins5072 Yeah, I just had that. Company christmas party. "You work too much". Of course it came from the one who looks like the arrogant career girl.
We love you, too! Thank you for speaking about somthing we are, more or less, not aloud to do without being called a misogynist.
Men learned early in life that out concerns are for us to take care of and that we’re the last and first line of defense. Nobody needs to feel sorry for us. Thanks.
I became 100% disabled in 2008. After losing my job I never realized how lonely you can be. You lose friends and coworkers. I can go weeks without talking to people. I am lucky I have a great wife who is a nurse. But watching her have tons of friends and me having zero has become miserable.
Concentrate on the quality of friends rather than the quantity
@ that’s the thing. Meeting people is very hard where I live. I have the desire. So keep trying.
May God bless You brother
I am currently going through a family crisis. I had to heal my mother, think outside the box and solve problems on my own and I've never been more alone and miserable in my life. The good news is my mother healing is working and we are slowing getting out of our nightmare. But what was very obvious to me is how everyone wanted to bring us down and I no one helped us. The UK is Evil.
Having a GF or wife hasn't even been a thought for years. All modesty aside, I would be quite a catch but, no thanks.
Just don't tell people that you are. No matter how much of a catch you objectively are, it just doesn't sit well with another person to have to be told by the source. I'm sure you are a cool guy, though.
@@ACapedBaldyHe made his point effectively. You actually sound like a woman, with your judgementalism.
The army taught me to control my emotions, harness them, and focus them to benefit me the best.
women chose 4B and feminism, which I fully support, which frees up my time, energy, resources to be used on things that actually interest me.
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Outstanding! Carry on old soldier!
MEN are waking up...RIP Adam the first MAN
I'm glad to see it's finally being addressed maybe now can start turning it around.
And still are and always will. Which is why I have given up and moved on. Arguing with a narcissist is meaningless. From all the bad feelings a man can choose nowadays loneliness is the least depressing.
Excellent video Thanks for doing it! 🤗 🙏
What you will find going forward is more men bailing from society, which will be devastating for the economy. Imagine shortages in areas that keep society rolling, like diesel mechanics. What most people fail to understand is when there is a shortage of diesel mechanics, that means fewer goods will be transported as time to repair trucks will take much longer, also affecting the price for goods as the cost for qualified diesel mechanics will skyrocket.
Even I have bailed early from the workforce at the age of 49. I'm done with the corporate nonsense.
No every women I have dated was terrible and a unloyal person
Being alone feels miserable the first couple years but once you embrace it and learn to use the loneliness as peace you don’t want anyone to interfere with it. I’ve been at peace for over a decade now and I would never willingly invite chaos into my life to disturb my peace. Being alone is seen as a curse by a lot of people but I see it as a blessing. It’s a chance to achieve the peace so many people want. It’s a chance to become who you want to be. It’s a chance to accomplish everything you wish to accomplish.
I was never more alone than when I was married.
Approximately 90% of Only-fans users are lonely, married men - a very eye-opening stat.
@@Tinadajo - Agreed.
Thank you for bringing this issue to light.
So You are AWARE. ---> 06:06 . That's really refreshing. I've been aware since the run up to Gulf War 2.
I'm a single middle-aged man. No one cares about me but I'm ok with that. I have friends but they have families who take priority and rightly so. They'd do so much for me but I know and accept that if I became a burden, they'd walk away. I'm effectively travelling through life without a safety net and I'm virtually invisible, but that's ok. I'm going to be star dust before too long anyway. In the grand scheme of things I don't matter...none of us do. Eventually we are all forgotten.
You matter. God doesn’t forget you. This world is taken over by evil because we have the freedom to sin. But there is more after this world. ❤️
@@FarfromEden I'm not religious.
we are listening to your thoughts cause they are pure
I have never felt more alone and frightened than when I was in a marriage with a toxic violent woman , while I was fighting a crippling tumour strangling my spinal cord in my neck . I was even accused of beating her by her father as he had seen the extensive bruising on her forearms where I had been holding her to prevent her hitting me .
For the algorithm, you have a wholesome vibe about you 😁
You are absolutely right about the government being able to quickly start drafting people at any time. Also, it's quite clear that the draft never really ended, because if it did, then people would not be required to register for it.
I used "Leo" (the AI chat feature) in the Firefox browser to ask if men still had to register for the draft. Below is what it told me:
"In the United States, the Selective Service System requires all male U.S. citizens between the ages of 18 and 25 to register for the draft..."
These senseless wars, such as the illegitimate Iraq war, remind me of Dwight Eisenhower's (a five-star general in WWII) warning about the military/industrial complex. His warnings were legitimate. It looks to me that the people running the USA are planning on keeping wars going as long as they can. And that must be why there is still a draft.
As little boys we were already raised with the idea that we were on our own.
That exposing our pains and anxieties would give off weakness signals, so we learned to bottle them up.
But lately we’ve been tired of those insufferable, entitled brats saying “men are good for nothing”, “men are useless”, “men have it too easy”.
So some of us got fed and started exposing men’s problems.
So we have our part of responsibility, not speaking up for so long.
Don’t know… we didn’t need women to speak up about their problems for us to be aware of them; seems we’re not on par regarding empathy.
Another myth debunked?
Seems to me, especially with the mocking reactions, especially when the first men took the courage to speak up.
Because yeah, as a man who was told to zip it and bottle it up all his life, opening up about our problems is as fearful to us as body count revelation is to modern women.
Keep revealing the truth. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
I've had a couple of short relationships since my divorce 14 years ago, (didn't last long because they wanted to be my boss), and for the vast majority of that time I've been alone. After the horror story of my marriage the peace and quiet is a thing to behold. I've always been a bit of a loner so 'loneliness' is something I don't relate to.
Erin - "If you would know who rules over you, first find out who you are not allowed to criticise," - Voltaire
The suffering we do is alone, but we get the peace we want also by being by ourselves. We can be alone without being lonely, most of the time at least. Trusting women and take that gamble, has to be a real good one out of the current pool
Women should ask "how many Viet Kong did it take to make the USA give up and RUN AWAY!!! We are as they WERE!!!
All the “sit com” tv shows in the 80’s and 90’s were all about broke down families. Every single one had a broken family, except cosby show.
At 62, I haven't had anything to do with "women" for a couple of decades. And before that, it was very few and far between. Each "relationship" was more of a really hard lesson, than anything else. The "love" was always based on my willingness to allow myself to be used and manipulated. Although loneliness is painful, it is far less painful than the lessons were.
The thing is there are some thing that effects everything. My father refused to stop drinking and smoking pot to save his marriage.
Interestingly, male employers are not hiring women because of being sued.
Married for 30 years, never felt more alone in my life. I’ve been alone for 12 years and I’ve never felt happier. It’s not what I wanted. It’s what happened.
With these “journalists “ - “Men are being left behind, women most affected” 😂😂😂😂
Ive just gone through a divorce. Normal guy. I felt i was on trial for murder. Nightmare 😢