I'm 37 and still single my dude. Being in a relationship doesn't define people. It can be rough at times but I would rather be single than be in an unhappy relationship.
you look younger than 27 nick! your relationship status doesn’t define you, you are exactly where you’re supposed to be. everything will work out, we just gotta let life do its thing yk? computers crash, things fall apart, the best we can do is just breathe and move on. you are amazing and you should be proud of yourself. we love you nick, love yourself just as much 💛.
I’m gonna be so for real, I think you’re one of the cutest asmrtists on RUclips and I keep coming back. I love your videos, and you are going to find your person❤
Turned 30 this year and I’ve been single since I was 21. I enjoy being alone and coming home to decompress (I’m a teacher) I tell my friends and family if I end up alone it’s not a bad thing but all that matters is that I’m happy (I am) and that a relationship is a add on. Enjoyed ur vid! Your voice is so soothing and ur super cute 🤙🏼💙
aw thanks! And thank you for sharing your story. I think it's incredible you find comfort in being alone and you enjoy that. It's inspiring, maybe I can work on that!
I was married at 25, divorced at 30, and basically not what anyone was looking for until 40, and I do believe at this point I’ve heard and eventually walked away from almost every platitude people ever had for me about why it does or doesn’t happen. That’s not to say I was desperate to date the entire time, there was a long stretch of years where I was more satisfied to not be looking. And at that point I realized I really can’t stand the narrative that once you love yourself, someone will love you, love will come when you’re ready or improved or what have you. Love doesn’t have to be earned. It should be protected once given, not betrayed, and relationships are still work in the sense that they’re a series of conscious choices about protecting and nurturing the love you have, but people don’t have to become something more or have a perfect sense of self to be worthy of love. Some of the most lovable people I know are also some of the most self-loathing people I know. One needs to be accountable for one’s actions and mental health efforts for sure, but a perfected sense of self isn’t a requirement, and if the other person needs you to already be at the end of your journey toward your goals rather than walking that path alongside you, they may be a bit too conditional with their love. A partner grows with you rather than needing you to be an ideal version of you. Being demi, queer identifying, and fluid also throw a lot of obstacles into the mix, it’s like dating on hard mode. My particular curse involves not having sexual feelings for someone until they’ve known me long enough that any interest they may have had is gone. It really narrows the dating pool quite a lot. There are, however, a whole lot of different people in the world, and someone who will click with you is there somewhere. 💙
wow. I really needed to hear this thank you. You are so wise beyond your years wow. Tbh I think reading this I realized that maybe I am the one a little too conditional with love. You are so right about its not something earn its something protected once given... Thank you for illuminating this... Love is abundant. As regards to your own journey, I know those things might make it feel like it hinders you... but it actually helps deepen your connections, because once you find someone that clicks in that way for you, oh how wonderfully deep a connection will be.... I'm curious how we can curate that with connection with ourselves too. Like how can we "marry" ourselves.. and really allow our own selves to live that relationship with ourselves. Your openness and authenticity inspire me. Thank you for being open and sharing. 🐝💛 stay in touch with your journey please xx
Firstly, you do not need to explain to anyone why you’re single at 27 (or at any other age for that matter). Your worth is not derived from being in a relationship. It’s derived from being your full authentic self and living your life the way you want to live it. Secondly, you’re gorgeous. Seriously. You have a real Ramon Novarro quality to you. If you don’t know who that is, look it up. If you wanted a partner tomorrow, you could have one. The reason you don’t have one is because you have standards. Standards are a good thing. Standards keep us safe. Standards protect our mental health. Never lower your standards. Lastly, spend your time as a single person getting to know yourself better. Your greatest love affair should be with yourself. I don’t mean that in a narcissistic way. What I mean is, how can you expect someone else to love you if you don’t love yourself already? 🤔 Anyway, that’s my two cents. Either I’m a genius or I’m an idiot. One of the two. 🤷♂️ Love everything that you do! 🎥
Aw I love ya Brendon thank you for all of this good sir. I didn’t really think of it like that but you’re hitting a chord for sure. I really appreciate you 🙏🏻🐝
@@coltthestarsheriff3544I hope he doesn’t turn his channel into a religious channel once he hits 100k and then proceed to delete all of his content after telling everyone he wouldn’t because people got upset with him.
I've also struggled with the feeling that I'm not a presentable enough person for a potential partner to be proud of and let me tell you that no amount of accomplishments in your life will make that feeling go away. Your future lover will be proud to be with you because you're a kind and loving person, not because you have your shit together. Very few people have their shit together.
aw I love you. It's so true, it just feels like it shouldn't be like that lol but I think life- like you said- is full of fuck ups and just dirty messes... its just who will you do those things with... and at the end of the day, there can be joy to do it solo too 🐝 thanks for commenting friend 💛
I definitely relate to a lot of what you've said though and it's nice to know you're not alone when (all love to everyone else) it feels like a lot of the gay dating scene doesn't match my goals or expectations for dating . That said, sometimes the best periods of life are the ones where you focus on different forms of love beyond romantic! having time off from dating to focus on friends, family and self-improvement can be incredibly fulfilling and prepare you to be able to love (romantically) even better and more fully in the future :)
I love this perspective! Thanks for sharing! 🐝 I think that's what attracts me to art tbh. The main themes I love to discover is love and how we recieve that through other forms besides romantic... It's everywhere we just need to appreciate it more. Thanks so much for this comment I really appreciate you taking the time to reach out. It means A LOT 💛
hey i just wanted to say thanks so much for sharing this with such openness and vulnerability:) while i’m only just soon turning 20 i had 2 really serious and painful relationships, one got to me proposing but things went downhill quickly after that, and i’ve resonated with pretty much everything you listed but above all the subconscious fear of being hurt. i say keep up the high standards cause i doubt that could hurt us more than letting every tom dick and harry in, you know? sending love!!
so so true! I want to apologize for not responding sooner friend, I've been on a bit of a break, but WOW I really appreciate this comment, it means a lot knowing this resonated with you. I'm so sorry you had those experiences, but hopefully things will swing up. And yeah I think you're right, better to keep looking out for the right people. 🐝
Let me tell you about what it is to date as an autistic 24 year-old : really flipping hard. Gay dating in my country (France) is still very much appearance and sex oriented, and the lack of strong open LGBT+ communities leads to most queer people being isolated, with dating apps as the only option. Adding the widespread misinformation, stigma and prejudice related to mental health with which my country has a serious issue, you can guess how it makes the whole thing a lot shittier
ugh I totally can bet. It's such a different journey than with just straight relationships, we kind of need to carve our own journey. You got this, stand proud and be weird and authentic... it'll help make it clear who really belongs beside you... it's just scary and that's what I feel too. Thank you for opening up I appreciate you 🐝💛
🩵 The right people are out when you feel ready to be fully and transparently you. I’m a very shy person just a year older than you, and found my person last year. I’ve never felt more adored and seen. It was worth the wait
Ah Im so glad you found someone but more importantly feel seen and adored. I think I’m in the process of allowing myself to sink in a bit more and not run away. It’s so strange tho haha almost like I’m learning that value. Hopefully I’ll find that too!
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I'm 37 and still single my dude. Being in a relationship doesn't define people. It can be rough at times but I would rather be single than be in an unhappy relationship.
that's real. I also agree, I think its a good time to discover some things
Keep coping
Love you Nick. You are exactly where you are supposed to be. 27 is still so young. You are a gem and you deserve to be adored and valued as such.
💛 so appreciate you raya 🐝 also look at ur bee!! 🐝🙏🏻
This guy is like my secret tunnel of trying to sleep, but getting weirdly engaged in the conversation.
you look younger than 27 nick! your relationship status doesn’t define you, you are exactly where you’re supposed to be. everything will work out, we just gotta let life do its thing yk? computers crash, things fall apart, the best we can do is just breathe and move on. you are amazing and you should be proud of yourself. we love you nick, love yourself just as much 💛.
so much love to you Charlotte thank you! 🐝💛 you're so right
We out here in the trenches alongside you my man, the 20’s are insane 💀
Ha aight glad I’m not solo - yeah it’s wild out here
I’m gonna be so for real, I think you’re one of the cutest asmrtists on RUclips and I keep coming back. I love your videos, and you are going to find your person❤
Aw made my day haha thank you!
"transparency is love" is such a good quote - your time is coming, my friend. Proud of you for sharing 💙
thank you so much friend. I so appreciate this comment 🐝💛
How and when to signal people you like them that way, without looking predatory or needy. Eternal struggle.
RIGHT? But it must be done otherwise nothing like happens
@@nicksrambleasmr sometimes I'm successful, sometimes I'm not for various reasons, from shyness to obliviousness, but life goes on.
Turned 30 this year and I’ve been single since I was 21. I enjoy being alone and coming home to decompress (I’m a teacher) I tell my friends and family if I end up alone it’s not a bad thing but all that matters is that I’m happy (I am) and that a relationship is a add on. Enjoyed ur vid! Your voice is so soothing and ur super cute 🤙🏼💙
aw thanks! And thank you for sharing your story. I think it's incredible you find comfort in being alone and you enjoy that. It's inspiring, maybe I can work on that!
I was married at 25, divorced at 30, and basically not what anyone was looking for until 40, and I do believe at this point I’ve heard and eventually walked away from almost every platitude people ever had for me about why it does or doesn’t happen. That’s not to say I was desperate to date the entire time, there was a long stretch of years where I was more satisfied to not be looking. And at that point I realized I really can’t stand the narrative that once you love yourself, someone will love you, love will come when you’re ready or improved or what have you. Love doesn’t have to be earned. It should be protected once given, not betrayed, and relationships are still work in the sense that they’re a series of conscious choices about protecting and nurturing the love you have, but people don’t have to become something more or have a perfect sense of self to be worthy of love. Some of the most lovable people I know are also some of the most self-loathing people I know. One needs to be accountable for one’s actions and mental health efforts for sure, but a perfected sense of self isn’t a requirement, and if the other person needs you to already be at the end of your journey toward your goals rather than walking that path alongside you, they may be a bit too conditional with their love. A partner grows with you rather than needing you to be an ideal version of you.
Being demi, queer identifying, and fluid also throw a lot of obstacles into the mix, it’s like dating on hard mode. My particular curse involves not having sexual feelings for someone until they’ve known me long enough that any interest they may have had is gone. It really narrows the dating pool quite a lot. There are, however, a whole lot of different people in the world, and someone who will click with you is there somewhere. 💙
wow. I really needed to hear this thank you. You are so wise beyond your years wow. Tbh I think reading this I realized that maybe I am the one a little too conditional with love. You are so right about its not something earn its something protected once given... Thank you for illuminating this... Love is abundant.
As regards to your own journey, I know those things might make it feel like it hinders you... but it actually helps deepen your connections, because once you find someone that clicks in that way for you, oh how wonderfully deep a connection will be.... I'm curious how we can curate that with connection with ourselves too. Like how can we "marry" ourselves.. and really allow our own selves to live that relationship with ourselves.
Your openness and authenticity inspire me. Thank you for being open and sharing. 🐝💛 stay in touch with your journey please xx
Firstly, you do not need to explain to anyone why you’re single at 27 (or at any other age for that matter). Your worth is not derived from being in a relationship. It’s derived from being your full authentic self and living your life the way you want to live it. Secondly, you’re gorgeous. Seriously. You have a real Ramon Novarro quality to you. If you don’t know who that is, look it up. If you wanted a partner tomorrow, you could have one. The reason you don’t have one is because you have standards. Standards are a good thing. Standards keep us safe. Standards protect our mental health. Never lower your standards. Lastly, spend your time as a single person getting to know yourself better. Your greatest love affair should be with yourself. I don’t mean that in a narcissistic way. What I mean is, how can you expect someone else to love you if you don’t love yourself already? 🤔 Anyway, that’s my two cents. Either I’m a genius or I’m an idiot. One of the two. 🤷♂️ Love everything that you do! 🎥
Aw I love ya Brendon thank you for all of this good sir. I didn’t really think of it like that but you’re hitting a chord for sure. I really appreciate you 🙏🏻🐝
He reminds me of Outdoosman ASMR, only a bit older.
@@coltthestarsheriff3544I hope he doesn’t turn his channel into a religious channel once he hits 100k and then proceed to delete all of his content after telling everyone he wouldn’t because people got upset with him.
@HauntingAsmr i hope that too. Ans it's sad, Outdoorsman had some good quality ASMR, it made me sleep like a baby.
@@coltthestarsheriff3544 omg ikr he was so good at it!!!
I identified with absolutely everything you said, it's great to see people with the same mindset as me.
I'm so glad it resonated and I'm not the only one 💛🐝
I've also struggled with the feeling that I'm not a presentable enough person for a potential partner to be proud of and let me tell you that no amount of accomplishments in your life will make that feeling go away. Your future lover will be proud to be with you because you're a kind and loving person, not because you have your shit together. Very few people have their shit together.
aw I love you. It's so true, it just feels like it shouldn't be like that lol but I think life- like you said- is full of fuck ups and just dirty messes... its just who will you do those things with... and at the end of the day, there can be joy to do it solo too 🐝 thanks for commenting friend 💛
Me personally I live for love, it's my only purpose and joy in life. Love always comes to me because I NEED it and I CRAVE it like nothing else❤
Ily nick ❤❤❤❤ I’m in the same boat here but these days, I’m finding joy and value in my friendships more than anything and that’s ok too
aw I love you Alyssa!! 💛 Lets catch up soon!!
I definitely relate to a lot of what you've said though and it's nice to know you're not alone when (all love to everyone else) it feels like a lot of the gay dating scene doesn't match my goals or expectations for dating . That said, sometimes the best periods of life are the ones where you focus on different forms of love beyond romantic! having time off from dating to focus on friends, family and self-improvement can be incredibly fulfilling and prepare you to be able to love (romantically) even better and more fully in the future :)
I love this perspective! Thanks for sharing! 🐝 I think that's what attracts me to art tbh. The main themes I love to discover is love and how we recieve that through other forms besides romantic... It's everywhere we just need to appreciate it more. Thanks so much for this comment I really appreciate you taking the time to reach out. It means A LOT 💛
hey i just wanted to say thanks so much for sharing this with such openness and vulnerability:) while i’m only just soon turning 20 i had 2 really serious and painful relationships, one got to me proposing but things went downhill quickly after that, and i’ve resonated with pretty much everything you listed but above all the subconscious fear of being hurt. i say keep up the high standards cause i doubt that could hurt us more than letting every tom dick and harry in, you know? sending love!!
so so true! I want to apologize for not responding sooner friend, I've been on a bit of a break, but WOW I really appreciate this comment, it means a lot knowing this resonated with you. I'm so sorry you had those experiences, but hopefully things will swing up. And yeah I think you're right, better to keep looking out for the right people. 🐝
Let me tell you about what it is to date as an autistic 24 year-old : really flipping hard. Gay dating in my country (France) is still very much appearance and sex oriented, and the lack of strong open LGBT+ communities leads to most queer people being isolated, with dating apps as the only option. Adding the widespread misinformation, stigma and prejudice related to mental health with which my country has a serious issue, you can guess how it makes the whole thing a lot shittier
ugh I totally can bet. It's such a different journey than with just straight relationships, we kind of need to carve our own journey. You got this, stand proud and be weird and authentic... it'll help make it clear who really belongs beside you... it's just scary and that's what I feel too. Thank you for opening up I appreciate you 🐝💛
I'm 25 and I feel is so hard for us Demi to date, everybody I know seems to be sex on the first date kind of people
totally. yeah it's wild out there. we got this tho
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We love demi representation !!! If I ever did that, I think I'd hqve a heart attack!!!
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💙As long as you don't get into the 40+ club, you're fine!
Haha aight I got some time then 🫣
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🩵 The right people are out when you feel ready to be fully and transparently you. I’m a very shy person just a year older than you, and found my person last year. I’ve never felt more adored and seen. It was worth the wait
Ah Im so glad you found someone but more importantly feel seen and adored. I think I’m in the process of allowing myself to sink in a bit more and not run away. It’s so strange tho haha almost like I’m learning that value. Hopefully I’ll find that too!