I think there is not a better speaker on psychological health than Dr. Ramani. A true master of her profession, she is so intelligent and speaks with such eloquence in a way that is understandable to anyone. This was a great talk by her and she delivers some information that goes beyond eating. Excellent.
I follow Dr Ramani’s Narcissist series but this is the first time I’ve seen this video on the eating book. I bought the book on my kindle and I’m looking forward to reading it. Such a phenomenal woman. She’s incredibly bright and so “real”. I’m grateful to have found her! 🙏
I was ashamed to say that myself but not discounting her intellect i found her in her heavyer self sexually atractive but was ashamed to say so im glad you brought it up
So true stayed in marriage for his kids more than myself, and in the end when he was done, so were they.🤦🏻♀️. Never set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
thank you for sharing this! I was with a man who immediately made me a 'mother figure' for his children, and this became a powerful hook that bound me to him. if I had given up myself to 'stay for them', I don't know if I could have made their lives much better, as I was in a compromised position just being with him! we can't make a solid structure from a faulty foundation!
Agreed! If you watch some of her other work you learn that she wouldn't appreciate being called charismatic. 😉 Typically charismatic people give her the creeps. 😄
Regina Mikkonen truth sister!😉 Even before I heard the good Doctor say it, from watching previous stuff, I started to realize that these charming, charismatic people were likely a much bigger threat than I had ever understood in my past. I would love to see her put together something specifically aimed at educating teens on how to spot cluster B personalities, especially NPD. If I had understood 25 years ago what I understand now...
It's very difficult to hear but worth putting your face to the speaker. I love Dr. Ramani Durvasula. She's so kind and courageous and vulnerable and authentic and brilliant. And she's so pretty (with or without makeup) and a beautiful person! Thank you for following your instincts finally, Ramani, and following the path that led you to do this.
“One big ticket decision where they did not follow instinct in the name of their stake holders and it was the biggest mistake of their life” that hit deeply
Being called fat as a kid because I was the tallest in my class, so my clothing size number was greater, impacted my entire adulthood. Size 9 dress at 5’ 11’ is NOT fat, but after a few good years, when the guys hit their growth spurt and I wasn’t the tallest anymore, and only in high school & university, I eventually succumbed to the belief that I was fat and became fat and am still fat 20 years later, although I eat healthier than most people I know. Parents can be so cruel and the effects are long lasting and hard to shed. Never mind being raised by a covert narc mother, then marrying one, which is why I ended up at this video in the first place. She has so much to share that I can relate with!
Dr. Ramani looks fantastic after her weight loss. It makes her face smaller with her eyes looking bigger. She is so smart! I'm so glad she chose psychology instead of finance.
@@josephinebrevig8748 I used to listen to her a lot until she jumped on the bandwagon & started talking about politics. The political garbage was everywhere, so, I stopped listening to her, then.
This is gold, for me anyway. I have a babygirl and I kept offering the spoon. Not till the bowl was empty but still It didn't even feel good, but I thought otherwise she wouldn't het enough nutrients. This makes me realize that 1 I don't have to be so insecure and 2 fear is a bad coach
I don't enforce the clean plate at all. My daughter is a master grazer. While very annoying when trying to avoid food borne illness, I just threw some press and seal on my subscription list. Whatever.
Dr.Ramani you look so well balanced. I am so happy for you. I will be buying your book I am in a transition point in my life as well. I am trying to to get back to my independent self. The woman I was before I married a Narc who brought a stepson Narc and his birth mother into my peace filled life. Also I will be getting a dog as now my daughter is 34 Very balanced And my stepson is still living in his mothers basement and blaming everyone for his chaos also he is now diagnosed as Psychopathic with boarderline personality disorder. He is someone I never want to see again. I will be closing on a home 6/26/2020 my Independence Day
I’m 30, I’m on $115,000 a year, clean plate club BMI, 23. Getting a divorce, on antidepressants, they work, I’m happy. Been on keto diet, it works! Work with people with mental illness. University degree. This Dr is AMAZING!!!!
great! Probably the use of willpower in the mornings is one of my diet "secrets"... just packing healthy low calorie food in the morning and taking with me. But no money to buy sth at lunchtime. So I end up eating my healthy food, even if I have cravings in the afternoon as I don't have a choice.
Very low volume. I'm hoping I can hear it better on my laptop. And I hate things in my ears. The answer is not "get your ears checked." That's gaslighting. Saying it's low volume is just the truth - no need to deny give instructions on how to make it better. Agree and move on. Why yes, yes it is. That is true. "Lie in bed with the phone close to your ear" is admitting yes, it's low volume but before that you say no, it's not. Gaslighting. Watch her tons of videos.
Wow, I love the idea of making the food difficult or time-consuming to access and then doing the apple test and asking the FLABS questions. I was never overweight until I quit smoking in my later twenties but a babysitter I'd had at age 3 once wrote a poem about me and in the poem she wrote that when I was bored toddler, I wanted a cookie, so I've always known that I eat when bored. I would like to stop doing that. I will begin implementing those three techniques TODAY! Thank you!
I had the finish your plate rule as a kid and how I coped was saving what I was most excited abt eating last as a "reward" and I still eat that way today. Its such a struggle to turn it off, especially at restaurants where the portions served are massive, but I'm still trying to finish my plate.
It's common amongst all historically poor societies to really push the "clean plate club" and other forms of guilting family members into eating. We see this in some Indian families, some Chinese families, African American families, Eastern Europe, etc etc. Our grandparents never had enough so they fight to make sure we eat more and more and more, which can end up being very damaging
I absolutely loved this video. I learned a lot and it was a illuminating moment, to learn about mindfulness and about listening to no one but yourself and to learn that eating healthy and making healthy choices is not an easy task for other people as well. I kept thinking that maybe I struggle more with food and what I eat or don't eat than other people, and maybe that's not true.
Discover her channel on RUclips over the lockdown. Please subscribe to her Channel. She's a gem for this world. Just absolutely love her. Her kindness, compassion and authenticity shines so much light. She's one of a kind.
"you know what's best for you; you always have" (8:16). . . not being in touch with our instincts with food is connected with being out of touch with our instincts in other aspects of our lives also. . . "doubt is the one thing that throws us off our instincts more than anything. . .in fact, self-doubt is one of the core symptoms in many mental illnesses like anxiety and depression" (31:20)
I am listening and reading negative comments. Consider the work this Amazing Dr has put in finding out everything regarding narcissism. Because she knows people are going down the tubes trying to survive. I have read endless comments where people have said she saved their lives. People this is long hard emotional study and learning. I'm going to go back and listen again to the eating part of this video. I had to express my disappointment that she has been attacked by weight.
Robert Sekulski is brilliant, I’m so grateful to be able to listen to these videos, they are so informative and helpful in self development. The problem is there are too many choices. If you don’t have the junk food in the house you automatically reach for healthy choices. Thank you.
We all know that we use food for the wrong reasons, WHAT ARE WE SUPPOSED TO DO INSTEAD? I was listening to Gabor Mate and he said we aren’t supposed to let our crap get so bad that we have to engage in addictive behaviors. I eat to escape because I don’t drink or do anything people normally escape into, but I don’t know what else to do.
another great read,actually a classic to my way of thinking,is "the 3 faces of love" by Charles Hauck. Speaks directly to how people react to change and "countermoves" to restore status quo and how to overcome. There comes a point where we stop discussing and move to action "boycotting" and this is when others react. Unless you are Jesus, Gandhi or Mother Theresa,or the likes,no one respects the martyr(well maybe after they're gone..lol)
Idk if I like all the vegetables or I think it is good for me to eat them all no matter what. But, there is something behind my all-okay food habit. I feel like I needed validation since early childhood. And that's I can eat the worst if vegetables. That has turned the debate now to 'what's the best way to eat'.
Oh wow I’m at the point in the interview where you’re talking about how your house was like a 7-Eleven😂… along those lines, I always had a candy drawer. I just didn’t know where to put all the stuff from Easter Halloween Christmas etc. so I dedicated a drawer in my kitchen. The kids grew up knowing candy was at their disposal. It took away the mystique and they rarely ever even went in there. And when they did they asked first and never overindulged. A total accidentally brilliant discovery 😂🙏🏻😊
Like Dr. Durvasula but trying to listen at this volume is exhausting. I'll try again on a third device another day, but it is counterproductive to record at a volume so inaccessible.
I read 5 books on anorexia. DYING TO PLEASE by Avis Rumney was incredible. When my personality was forming, it was made very clear that we would not receive love unless we looked trim and pretty. Of course, I don't believe that anymore, but healthy living is a part of my personality. Ive learned not to starve myself anymore. It's a good thing. Life is good.
I super appreciate this woman's perspectives & find them spot-on. I do think that she may be missing that "Are you sure?" can be an effort to be more respectful in case someone is failing to give their self permission, in many social situations, but she's right that it can be damaging in its effect. :-) i don't say it from a mindless or pushy place, and it's /definitely/ not because i distrust my friends' instincts... it's because i distrust their self-love.
One addendum to intuitive eating, is neurodivergent people often struggle with it. I have ADHD, and will often completely forget to eat until I'm STARVING and then either can't eat much cause I feel sick from hunger or gorge myself on everything and feel sick. I generally don't reach my needed calorie goal to not continuously drop weight if I don't consciously force myself to eat. I also have digestive issues that make eating often unappealing. Generally I think intuitive eating is good, but remembering general health guidelines is good.
Working through your emotions helps only with food addiction, but with any addiction, I think. Whether it's food, alcohol, or smoking - they all have the power to numb extremely uncomfortable emotions by intensely high short-term pleasure.
Mann loving hearing another area of life from your talks. This is scary. We were not told stories in youth. Lotsa food yes. But no stores. Thank you for your work.
Simple solution that works for me: Get enough sleep. When you haven't had enough, your brain mistakenly thinks you need to eat. If you get enough sleep, you won't even think about food when you get up. The difference is massive. In modern society, people are short of sleep. That's where the overweight tendency comes from. Another thing: Compress the bulk of your food intake each day into a small range of hours. It gives your stomach 'time off'. I have found this has reduced how much food my stomach can take. Also beware being the Eater Of Last Resort in your household, the person who finishes off food that would otherwise expire and end up in the bin. In order to avoid the sinful feeling of wasting food, you will end up over-eating. Beware: This is my guess. It is what works for me.
I grew up in a country where, at some point, all the shelves in the shops were empty and the government distributed food coupons but there was very little food on the market in general. I would not have dreamt about leaving something on my plate, not only because of "the hungry Etiopian children" but mainly because I knew how much time my mum had spent in the queues to get anything to eat. That respect for food has stayed with me until today; I buy frugally, I hardly ever throw away anything edible and I am still skinny :-) So, it goes to show that not every child who emptied the plate to make the mother happy automatically becomes an obese adult with a problematic relationship with food.
She’s great - this is the beauty of America. She has adapted so well to the culture that she is in tuned with its ails. She needs to have a conversation with dr Peterson!!!
blueskythinking83 Yes, I agree. She was either born in America or came at a very young age because she doesn't have an accent plus her way of speech and mannerisms are very American.
My father was given food instead of apologies as a love substitute..develped comfort eating and obesity..I inherited a weird relationship with food surprised?Old vid but timely for men
Well yeah if you know someone who has had a significant amount of weight and has lost it you are more interested. I'm interested in wanting to get my hands on this book myself automatically since I understand that it's out. It's not like Katie Hopkins who just says eat less and move more - who purposely stuffed her face to gain the weight to prove a point. It's life - and the struggles that have contributed to weight gain. Not I'm going to stuff myself and now watch me loose it. Anyone would want a relatable authentic person to be interested in hearing about their diet and weight loss journey
I have student loans for college for a degree I never wanted. If I don't have the degree "I'm wasting my life."I'm married to a narcissist because I am in my 40's and "need to settle down" "forgive and forget " meaning allow people to get away with what they do to you. That's a "good girl." Well I now have to get used to everyone else being disappointed in me at times instead of me being disappointed in me all the time . And God is helping me. Seriously, Jesus Christ has changed my life. You can heal. Ask God to help you. God bless all in Jesus name Amen
It's so nice to see Ramani's now living her retirement dream of letting the grey hair out and allowing a little extra weight to settle. I bet she didn't think she'd have 750k RUclips subscribers by then! 1:30:00
I didn’t have stories in my house no bedtime stories, my brother and I put ourselves to bed. There was no breakfast (we were not poor) money for lunch and dinner was if my mother was in the mood which was very little. When I got my first job at 12 I could buy food and same with my bother. Buying food felt like taking care of myself. At my first real job I opened my bottom draw and my coworker was alarmed at all the (healthy) food I had stashed. I think eating is taking care of myself - oh yes I do remember one night my mother at my bedside and telling her I was hungry and she said if I waited 20 mins the pain goes away. Again we were not poor - my mother was just massively self consumed. When I deny myself food it feels like I’m neglecting myself and it’s not true. I have a lot of work to do 🤔
I could listen to this woman talk for hours. Brilliant
Agreed! She is phenomenal!
Agree! She speaks with so much passion, compassion and knowledge 👌🏼
Michael Jarjour I agree, her voice is so therapeutic xxx
Me toooo!!!
She has a RUclips!
I think there is not a better speaker on psychological health than Dr. Ramani. A true master of her profession, she is so intelligent and speaks with such eloquence in a way that is understandable to anyone. This was a great talk by her and she delivers some information that goes beyond eating. Excellent.
High class.
Can you help me Dr.RAMANI ??
Couldn't agree more!
Iam v sorry to agree to disagree...I see soe ill...
I follow Dr Ramani’s Narcissist series but this is the first time I’ve seen this video on the eating book. I bought the book on my kindle and I’m looking forward to reading it. Such a phenomenal woman. She’s incredibly bright and so “real”. I’m grateful to have found her! 🙏
she’s a victim of narcissistic abuse. never feels good enough.
Same here. I had nooo idea that she speaks about this topic/issue too :OOO
"At the end of it they not gonna throw you a parade because you did everything they asked you to"
Obession of perfectionism.
so true, the 'thank you' I did receive was very unsatisfying, and didn't come anywhere close to making up for the cost I had incurred to please them!
She is intelligent, smart , pleasant and damn so beautiful
Extremely beautiful
I was ashamed to say that myself but not discounting her intellect i found her in her heavyer self sexually atractive but was ashamed to say so im glad you brought it up
@Optimus Phoenix Prime only 1/3 if you are full
Living authentically is the key to Joy.
@@countdamoney8128 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
So true stayed in marriage for his kids more than myself, and in the end when he was done, so were they.🤦🏻♀️. Never set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.
Never be a full-time psychiatrist to your partner . Be reciprocal.
Never marry a psychologist 🤣🤣🤣...plumbers and leaky pipes.
thank you for sharing this! I was with a man who immediately made me a 'mother figure' for his children, and this became a powerful hook that bound me to him. if I had given up myself to 'stay for them', I don't know if I could have made their lives much better, as I was in a compromised position just being with him! we can't make a solid structure from a faulty foundation!
So incredibly odd seeing this title after watching Dr. Ramani talking about narcissism for the past year and half!!😳😳
Okurrrr
Enjoyed every minute of this profound yet so simple speech. She is such a great speaker, so charismatic and intelligent
Agreed! If you watch some of her other work you learn that she wouldn't appreciate being called charismatic. 😉 Typically charismatic people give her the creeps. 😄
@@laurielamarche815 We know " something" about, charismatic's!
Regina Mikkonen truth sister!😉 Even before I heard the good Doctor say it, from watching previous stuff, I started to realize that these charming, charismatic people were likely a much bigger threat than I had ever understood in my past. I would love to see her put together something specifically aimed at educating teens on how to spot cluster B personalities, especially NPD. If I had understood 25 years ago what I understand now...
@@laurielamarche815 me too! If I had understand! When I was younger I had he'll of a time coping with all the shit those narcs put on me! Now I now!
maybe we can say "warm, vibrant, engaging, personable" in place of 'charismatic' - which has a performance quality to it.
It's very difficult to hear but worth putting your face to the speaker. I love Dr. Ramani Durvasula. She's so kind and courageous and vulnerable and authentic and brilliant. And she's so pretty (with or without makeup) and a beautiful person! Thank you for following your instincts finally, Ramani, and following the path that led you to do this.
I'm so glad she ditched the need to be "Hollywood" and just be herself. Her smart is her smart.
This woman is highly intelligent, caring and beautiful. I love her.
“One big ticket decision where they did not follow instinct in the name of their stake holders and it was the biggest mistake of their life” that hit deeply
Being called fat as a kid because I was the tallest in my class, so my clothing size number was greater, impacted my entire adulthood.
Size 9 dress at 5’ 11’ is NOT fat, but after a few good years, when the guys hit their growth spurt and I wasn’t the tallest anymore, and only in high school & university, I eventually succumbed to the belief that I was fat and became fat and am still fat 20 years later, although I eat healthier than most people I know. Parents can be so cruel and the effects are long lasting and hard to shed.
Never mind being raised by a covert narc mother, then marrying one, which is why I ended up at this video in the first place.
She has so much to share that I can relate with!
My story. Except im only 5'3'' and now almost obese
Over the year, she has done tons of videos. I'm sure you are aware but wanted to make sure. Healing is awesome.
Now this woman is the wonder! Wow you are PRACTICAL, have a crush on your intellect..!
She can literally talk for hours and every single second of it is interesting and meaningful
such a captivating speaker. litterly see this same comment everywhere
Couldn't agree more. I follow her on RUclips. She's changing, saving lives, literally.
My dream to meet Dr. Ramani and talk with her, she is an intelligent, kind and genuine person.
This is the video that made me realize you shouldn’t feel a little sick from eating so much after each meal
Dr. Ramani looks fantastic after her weight loss. It makes her face smaller with her eyes looking bigger. She is so smart! I'm so glad she chose psychology instead of finance.
@@LiveFaustDieJung couldn't agree with you more. Her beauty within, her intellect is what i am drawn to.
She's not this size any more. She's bigger. That's not what defines her. She's still beautiful in my eyes. She's such a treasure for this world.
@@josephinebrevig8748 She is a beautiful person with a beautiful soul. I bet she still wears the same size earrings she wore in high school. ;)
@@josephinebrevig8748 I used to listen to her a lot until she jumped on the bandwagon & started talking about politics. The political garbage was everywhere, so, I stopped listening to her, then.
I could look at and listen to her hours on end!
I have listened to her hours on end and yes, she is very expressive. In later videos, I love how she rolls her eyes. And ditched the Hollywood crap.
It’s a delight to listen to Dr. Ramani. She knows psychology and uses its intelligently . More power to her !
This lady is so smart, and so down to earth.
I love listening to her.
This is gold, for me anyway. I have a babygirl and I kept offering the spoon. Not till the bowl was empty but still It didn't even feel good, but I thought otherwise she wouldn't het enough nutrients. This makes me realize that 1 I don't have to be so insecure and 2 fear is a bad coach
God what a wonderful person she is.
Warm & genuine. Intelligent & articulate. What a treasure Dr. Ramani is!
Couldn't agree more.
You look gorgeous doc , love this video
I’m only 18 minutes in...I have always loved you Dr Ramani but wow a whole new level of love and respect! So grateful to have found your work/channel!
Agree 💯 . Makes me so sad when parents (9/10) force their children’s eating habits.
I don't enforce the clean plate at all. My daughter is a master grazer. While very annoying when trying to avoid food borne illness, I just threw some press and seal on my subscription list. Whatever.
Seeing her talk about her diet and eating habits.. man. It really never gets easier 😥
nice I'm trying to change my relationship with food
This woman and her book are amazing. This is an "everyone" read, whether you;ve struggled with food or not (but especially if you have!)
Dr.Ramani you look so well balanced. I am so happy for you. I will be buying your book I am in a transition point in my life as well. I am trying to to get back to my independent self. The woman I was before I married a Narc who brought a stepson Narc and his birth mother into my peace filled life. Also I will be getting a dog as now my daughter is 34 Very balanced And my stepson is still living in his mothers basement and blaming everyone for his chaos also he is now diagnosed as Psychopathic with boarderline personality disorder. He is someone I never want to see again. I will be closing on a home 6/26/2020 my Independence Day
I’m 30, I’m on $115,000 a year, clean plate club BMI, 23.
Getting a divorce, on antidepressants, they work, I’m happy.
Been on keto diet, it works!
Work with people with mental illness.
University degree.
This Dr is AMAZING!!!!
How are things a year later? How are you?
Please follow her on RUclips. She is truly a treasure.
Never do we hear the psychology behind what to eat! I love this! Thanks so much for the information and I plan to use it. Amazing!
Love this woman!
"You made me walk through fire asshole! We're done!" That's awesome LOL
great! Probably the use of willpower in the mornings is one of my diet "secrets"... just packing healthy low calorie food in the morning and taking with me. But no money to buy sth at lunchtime. So I end up eating my healthy food, even if I have cravings in the afternoon as I don't have a choice.
Dr Ramani has such a gift for reaching her audience.
volume of speakers is very low. I can hardly hear them
assertyourself try headphones
Leah Lopes Not convenient, sorry
Get an ear check, at my low qual phone it's quite clear just lie in bed and put phone close to ear
Me too I had to put on headphones and turn it up. Might be damaging my hearing lol
Very low volume. I'm hoping I can hear it better on my laptop. And I hate things in my ears. The answer is not "get your ears checked." That's gaslighting. Saying it's low volume is just the truth - no need to deny give instructions on how to make it better. Agree and move on. Why yes, yes it is. That is true. "Lie in bed with the phone close to your ear" is admitting yes, it's low volume but before that you say no, it's not. Gaslighting. Watch her tons of videos.
Wow, I love the idea of making the food difficult or time-consuming to access and then doing the apple test and asking the FLABS questions. I was never overweight until I quit smoking in my later twenties but a babysitter I'd had at age 3 once wrote a poem about me and in the poem she wrote that when I was bored toddler, I wanted a cookie, so I've always known that I eat when bored. I would like to stop doing that. I will begin implementing those three techniques TODAY! Thank you!
Just found this video with Dr. Ramani. What a treasure of a find. Brilliant information. ❤️
An absolute mind opener! I love this woman, she's truly inspiring! Thank you so much for your insight!!
I like that Rama & Sita story :)
She explains it better than most. She shares some details I have not heard.
24:55 love the way you handled that situation! Great content Dr. Ramani.
We need a Ramani for every centuries, beautiful..
I had the finish your plate rule as a kid and how I coped was saving what I was most excited abt eating last as a "reward" and I still eat that way today. Its such a struggle to turn it off, especially at restaurants where the portions served are massive, but I'm still trying to finish my plate.
It's common amongst all historically poor societies to really push the "clean plate club" and other forms of guilting family members into eating. We see this in some Indian families, some Chinese families, African American families, Eastern Europe, etc etc. Our grandparents never had enough so they fight to make sure we eat more and more and more, which can end up being very damaging
Indian society was historically poor? Definitely not before white Colonialists destroyed our traditional agrarian systems. Read before you talk
I absolutely loved this video. I learned a lot and it was a illuminating moment, to learn about mindfulness and about listening to no one but yourself and to learn that eating healthy and making healthy choices is not an easy task for other people as well. I kept thinking that maybe I struggle more with food and what I eat or don't eat than other people, and maybe that's not true.
Discover her channel on RUclips over the lockdown. Please subscribe to her Channel. She's a gem for this world. Just absolutely love her. Her kindness, compassion and authenticity shines so much light. She's one of a kind.
Dr. Ramani Durvasula is so great..thank you so much.
Powerful message! Beautiful delivery and smile, so warm. Love Dr. Ramani
Thank you Dr. Ramani, I continue to learn from you. Keep up the good work!
Many wonderful take home points! Thank you Dr Ramani. ❤️
I love Dr Ramani! She has a lot of empathy and really know how to make situations relatable! This was most interesting!
Thank you Dr Romani, I have been listening to you for months. You literally saved my life. God bless you❤️
Very good session class course. I love it!
"you know what's best for you; you always have" (8:16). . . not being in touch with our instincts with food is connected with being out of touch with our instincts in other aspects of our lives also. . . "doubt is the one thing that throws us off our instincts more than anything. . .in fact, self-doubt is one of the core symptoms in many mental illnesses like anxiety and depression" (31:20)
Wow Dr. Ramini is amazing!
I am listening and reading negative comments. Consider the work this Amazing Dr has put in finding out everything regarding narcissism. Because she knows people are going down the tubes trying to survive. I have read endless comments where people have said she saved their lives. People this is long hard emotional study and learning. I'm going to go back and listen again to the eating part of this video. I had to express my disappointment that she has been attacked by weight.
Robert Sekulski is brilliant, I’m so grateful to be able to listen to these videos, they are so informative and helpful in self development. The problem is there are too many choices. If you don’t have the junk food in the house you automatically reach for healthy choices. Thank you.
She's my fav mental health doctor but think there's better advice out there on binge eating disorders
You look like a different person. Even your presentation is amazing. Excellent. And thank you for all you do for us.
She is bery relateable and easy to be around. I like her very much. Good teacher.
Love your honesty
You are an inspiration Dr. Ramani . ❤️
Love you so much Dr Ramani 💗💗
We all know that we use food for the wrong reasons, WHAT ARE WE SUPPOSED TO DO INSTEAD? I was listening to Gabor Mate and he said we aren’t supposed to let our crap get so bad that we have to engage in addictive behaviors. I eat to escape because I don’t drink or do anything people normally escape into, but I don’t know what else to do.
Dr.R sure has gone a long way in mastering her trade.
Thankx so much Gr8 tips🤗
another great read,actually a classic to my way of thinking,is "the 3 faces of love" by Charles Hauck. Speaks directly to how people react to change and "countermoves" to restore status quo and how to overcome. There comes a point where we stop discussing and move to action "boycotting" and this is when others react. Unless you are Jesus, Gandhi or Mother Theresa,or the likes,no one respects the martyr(well maybe after they're gone..lol)
really enjoyed Dr Ramani's honesty about her relationship with food
Idk if I like all the vegetables or I think it is good for me to eat them all no matter what. But, there is something behind my all-okay food habit.
I feel like I needed validation since early childhood. And that's I can eat the worst if vegetables.
That has turned the debate now to 'what's the best way to eat'.
Oh wow I’m at the point in the interview where you’re talking about how your house was like a 7-Eleven😂… along those lines, I always had a candy drawer. I just didn’t know where to put all the stuff from Easter Halloween Christmas etc. so I dedicated a drawer in my kitchen. The kids grew up knowing candy was at their disposal. It took away the mystique and they rarely ever even went in there. And when they did they asked first and never overindulged. A total accidentally brilliant discovery 😂🙏🏻😊
Like Dr. Durvasula but trying to listen at this volume is exhausting. I'll try again on a third device another day, but it is counterproductive to record at a volume so inaccessible.
Use an external speaker which has its own amplifier, like a Bluetooth speaker.
She is so young and cute in this
I absolutely love her and her brilliant personality and knowledge
Perfect diagnosis and capability
I read 5 books on anorexia. DYING TO PLEASE by Avis Rumney was incredible. When my personality was forming, it was made very clear that we would not receive love unless we looked trim and pretty. Of course, I don't believe that anymore, but healthy living is a part of my personality. Ive learned not to starve myself anymore. It's a good thing. Life is good.
Gold!!!!!
Omg Dr. Ramani! I have never seen your videos from this time and you’re so beautiful always
That's what my mother used to tell me and my brother. 'Clean your plate. Children are starving in India'
Your wonderful keep going .
I super appreciate this woman's perspectives & find them spot-on.
I do think that she may be missing that "Are you sure?" can be an effort to be more respectful in case someone is failing to give their self permission, in many social situations, but she's right that it can be damaging in its effect. :-) i don't say it from a mindless or pushy place, and it's /definitely/ not because i distrust my friends' instincts... it's because i distrust their self-love.
One addendum to intuitive eating, is neurodivergent people often struggle with it. I have ADHD, and will often completely forget to eat until I'm STARVING and then either can't eat much cause I feel sick from hunger or gorge myself on everything and feel sick. I generally don't reach my needed calorie goal to not continuously drop weight if I don't consciously force myself to eat. I also have digestive issues that make eating often unappealing. Generally I think intuitive eating is good, but remembering general health guidelines is good.
Sounds like a medication issue affecting you...
Perhaps?
I need this Harry Houdini lock!!
Working through your emotions helps only with food addiction, but with any addiction, I think. Whether it's food, alcohol, or smoking - they all have the power to numb extremely uncomfortable emotions by intensely high short-term pleasure.
So hard to leave our addictions…. Seems like it’s impossible. What are we missing that the addiction is filling? Self love? Revelation? Realization? 😢
Mann loving hearing another area of life from your talks.
This is scary. We were not told stories in youth. Lotsa food yes. But no stores.
Thank you for your work.
I am from the clean plate club....sucks! I am older and still battle with finishing my plate!
I want to read your books. Dr. Ramani. My father did not have a weight problem and he never cleaned his plate.
Simple solution that works for me: Get enough sleep. When you haven't had enough, your brain mistakenly thinks you need to eat. If you get enough sleep, you won't even think about food when you get up. The difference is massive. In modern society, people are short of sleep. That's where the overweight tendency comes from.
Another thing: Compress the bulk of your food intake each day into a small range of hours. It gives your stomach 'time off'. I have found this has reduced how much food my stomach can take.
Also beware being the Eater Of Last Resort in your household, the person who finishes off food that would otherwise expire and end up in the bin. In order to avoid the sinful feeling of wasting food, you will end up over-eating.
Beware: This is my guess. It is what works for me.
I grew up in a country where, at some point, all the shelves in the shops were empty and the government distributed food coupons but there was very little food on the market in general. I would not have dreamt about leaving something on my plate, not only because of "the hungry Etiopian children" but mainly because I knew how much time my mum had spent in the queues to get anything to eat. That respect for food has stayed with me until today; I buy frugally, I hardly ever throw away anything edible and I am still skinny :-) So, it goes to show that not every child who emptied the plate to make the mother happy automatically becomes an obese adult with a problematic relationship with food.
I’ve been watching Doctor Ramini for years! She is wonderful!! ❤️
Holy Crap (sorry) I need this book.
You look amazing u a on point wow am I have leen so much from u
if you're quoting Ramayana, you may as well quote the one who said: it's better o do one's swadhrma, than someone else's dharma.
She’s great - this is the beauty of America. She has adapted so well to the culture that she is in tuned with its ails. She needs to have a conversation with dr Peterson!!!
Dr. Peterson is a hack. She is far above that Chopra wannabe
they have so much in common it’s funny you drew such a harsh distinction between them
I think she's American. There was no need to adapt to their ways
blueskythinking83 Yes, I agree. She was either born in America or came at a very young age because she doesn't have an accent plus her way of speech and mannerisms are very American.
My father was given food instead of apologies as a love substitute..develped comfort eating and obesity..I inherited a weird relationship with food surprised?Old vid but timely for men
I meant me typo
I think it was originally called "Spidee-senses" back before the adaptations of the comics.
Well yeah if you know someone who has had a significant amount of weight and has lost it you are more interested. I'm interested in wanting to get my hands on this book myself automatically since I understand that it's out.
It's not like Katie Hopkins who just says eat less and move more - who purposely stuffed her face to gain the weight to prove a point. It's life - and the struggles that have contributed to weight gain. Not I'm going to stuff myself and now watch me loose it. Anyone would want a relatable authentic person to be interested in hearing about their diet and weight loss journey
I have student loans for college for a degree I never wanted. If I don't have the degree "I'm wasting my life."I'm married to a narcissist because I am in my 40's and "need to settle down" "forgive and forget " meaning allow people to get away with what they do to you. That's a "good girl." Well I now have to get used to everyone else being disappointed in me at times instead of me being disappointed in me all the time . And God is helping me. Seriously, Jesus Christ has changed my life. You can heal. Ask God to help you. God bless all in Jesus name Amen
You are an amazing, inspiring woman. I appreciate you so much. God bless you.
It's so nice to see Ramani's now living her retirement dream of letting the grey hair out and allowing a little extra weight to settle. I bet she didn't think she'd have 750k RUclips subscribers by then! 1:30:00
I didn’t have stories in my house no bedtime stories, my brother and I put ourselves to bed. There was no breakfast (we were not poor) money for lunch and dinner was if my mother was in the mood which was very little. When I got my first job at 12 I could buy food and same with my bother. Buying food felt like taking care of myself. At my first real job I opened my bottom draw and my coworker was alarmed at all the (healthy) food I had stashed. I think eating is taking care of myself - oh yes I do remember one night my mother at my bedside and telling her I was hungry and she said if I waited 20 mins the pain goes away. Again we were not poor - my mother was just massively self consumed. When I deny myself food it feels like I’m neglecting myself and it’s not true. I have a lot of work to do 🤔