Story 6: As Kratos once said "Do not mistake my silence as lack of grief." losing things can be overwhelming to the point where all you can do is be strong about it. However if this guy blantanly tells you something that would mean that the situation wasn't that much of a big deal then that's a different situation.
Yeah, I can relate to a degree with how I went through some stages of depression. Maybe the guy isn't even ready to process the loss of his unborn child just after losing his beloved pet and he just can't cope, he's just distracting himself from the cruel reality. Gaming can be a good distraction, but only for a short while because frustration builds up as you can't really get joy from it in this situation, the grief is still there and you just postpone the processing of it.
I think The answer for The 4th story is Just get some partnet counselor and a psychologist for his boyfriend, mental health can be a thing that could break their relationship if not being cared with importance
If I had a kid theres no way I'd leave them at a public pool expecting the life guard to watch them. With as many kids there are at pools during the Summer its well beyond negligence to expect a young adult watching all those kids while making sure no one is drowning
@@JohnWilliams-cr2sz I mean being a life guard isn't a service job, its a preventive job that requires special training. So honestly lifeguards are closer to being security than they are to being babysitters
My mom, has never expected anyone to do this, who in their right mind would? Their lifeguards, not babysitters, even my 5 year old brother understands that
I agree with you on this based on personal experience, my husband is the same acts like he is not bothered but I know inside he is hurting as much as I am
But also he might not feel connected to this baby. She didn’t actually say how far along she was in the pregnancy? She might have only been 12 weeks along so he doesn’t feel the same connection or see it as a baby yet, but still is being supportive to her. My partner didn’t cry when I had miscarriages and I had gotten angry with him the first time, but he said that because he couldn’t feel it growing or bond with it that he didn’t feel any connection with them being so early along (all before 13 weeks). But with our son he is very loving and caring and would do anything for him.
I just looked this story up. She was only 10 weeks pregnant. At this point it looks like a jellybean and I up understand why the partner felt no connection. Early miscarriages are very common and effect the woman far more because of hormones.
For story 6: I am overall very in touch with my emotions. I am not afraid to cry even with silly stuff like cute or sad movies but when dealing with death I handle it completely differently. For a while I'll feel like Im okay until eventually it'll hit me like a ton of bricks.
Story 1: Can this 5 year old even swim? Even if she had swimming lessons, 5 years olds don't really have much strength to swim very long yet. Super dangerous to leave a young kid alone at a pool.
I am remembering the mother that took her son to the pool I was lifeguarding at years ago and proceeded to put so many floatation devices on the kid he could have been a floatation device for others. I watched him float in the pool like that bouncing DVD player logo, and he never hit a corner.
Story 1. Life guards are there to watch everyone in the pool or place of water to make sure if there is an emergency they can help. Its the parents responsibility to be there with their kids. It's not a daycare.
the thing about being a lifeguard is that your job is to prevent someone from doing anything dangerous by the water no matter if it's the pool or the beach. if anyone dies, their responsible for neglection. parent's can't expect them to 'do their jobs' while watching thousands on the beach at the same time.
Or put a sign there: "accepting babysitting, $10000 per hour, counting every minute", and have your girlfriend, girl-Friends, sisters, at least 1 be ready for the job 🤣🤣🤣
I worked at an indoor mini golf place in a mall and I have had many parents attempt to leave their children there while they shop at other stores. I always tell the parents before they pay that someone needs to stay in the area to watch them as I am not a babysitter. They would always get annoyed, but there was litterally a written rule stating so and all rules must be followed. Also, there would be birthday parties where over twelve kids would be dropped off and only one parent to watch them, we eventually made a rule stating at least three adults must be there to help out after several kids got into arguments over who got to play in what area, keep in mind there would be children as young as 2 and as old as 12 there at once.
story 2 i'd give him a chance um if you wanna get married get a prenup, this will circumvent him not wanting to get married. i don't blame him for not wanting to get married it's a huge money sink and it's generally not worth it lots of people divorce shortly after. it's like the concept of marriage puts on a whole new dimension of stress that rips people apart, so a prenup will definitely ease alot of stress, nothing wrong with a safety net. anyway sounds like it's too early in the relationship to be thinking of marriage, should have given him the heads up you were looking for a new place, you don't have to listen to his wants and stuff since it's your place, but nobody likes to feel left out in the process of a new big decision. he sounds very needy, but seems like you do alot of activities with only your wants maybe op should plan to make activities they both like or talk with to try some things op likes and then try stuff the boyfriend likes. Any way go to couple couseling don't listen to your mom, she may want what she thinks is best for you, but that doesn't mean it IS the best for you.
I think they both need to sit down and have a conversation together on so many things. She picks everything but then he just storms off right in the middle of it all like when they are with her family on vacation. Both have fault in this. But I think she may have fair amount of fault cause she mentions about patience like the dessert example. How long is she taking to pick out a dessert? There are other questions I would ask her to get more details out of her that she may be leaving out like how long they have been dating, how old is she, etc. But before getting married they need to iron out what is going on and find middle ground going forward. I'm not huge into people living together but I've seen too many times where it was probably better then getting married for many people. Prenup is worth nothing if she can't get her relationship right first before the marriage.
About the grief one. Honestly it's diferent on the person. I had to grief my Great Grandma who i was attached more and it was really sad... thou, i didn't show any sad emotion, and went to play games again the same day. The one who was more affected was my mom, who she was like a mother for her. Even happen the same at the next year where my grandpa (her dad) died as well. But for him, even i had the same, my mom didn't feel the same as my great grandma, even if was only a year already. Why? because she didn't feel attached to her dad more than my great grandma and my great grandpa who i couldn't meet because he died 2 years before i born (mainly because my grandma abandon her when she was a baby).
For story 6 it could be that he is still depressed over the dog but after the case with the unborn child he thinks he needs to pull himself together for the OP to help her
He's absolutely right they could have easily called child protective services and have the child taken away or the kid could have been easily kidnapped
Absolutely love these videos Jerk!! You inspired me to start a reddit read channel of my own. Hopefully it can be as successful as yours oneday 🙌. Keep up the great work man!!
Psychologically men do get attached to their kid through interaction, also it may be he's overwhelmed or in shock, perhaps he's bottling it up to stay strong for you
Story 6. I looked it up, she was only 10 weeks pregnant and early miscarriages are very common. They don’t affect males much because they aren’t actually experiencing the pregnancy, can’t bond with the baby and often the woman has only just found out she is pregnant or only finds out by having the miscarriage.
As a guy that has been in a similar situation, I can say this is very much a possibility. I would even wager that it's common for men to not have much of a bond period until the birth. The woman has every right to grieve, as did mine, but try not to read too much into it if the guy isn't grieving as well.
Exactly, and I'm glad there's at least some people mentioning that. I roomed with a friend and his wife for a couple of months, helped them fix their marriage by being a mediator, and I was good friends with both of them. They already have a son, but the wife wanted another. She was super stocked to find out that she was pregnant, basically as soon as it would pop up on a test (she'd been taking them often). When it turned out to be a miscarriage, she was distraught, and her husband and I took some time to let her grieve, went in the living room and played video games for the rest of the day. He made her dinner, we all went to bed, and then tomorrow comes. Husband comes to me, and mentions that the wife is upset with him, wife comes to me later, mentioning that the husband is heartless, and didn't feel hardly any grief from the miscarriage. I try to explain to her that yes, he had been excited for the baby, but guys often aren't nearly as attached to the child before birth, but majorly before you can even tell. She seemed to think I was heartless too, at the time, but we ran into each other again a couple weeks ago, she mentioned that she understood now, and thanked me for trying to not only diffuse the situation, but also being honest with her, and informed me that she was once again pregnant. I'm hoping this next one turns out better for them.
Its not like it was a baby born dead or anything dramatic. I mean, im a female and i dont get it. She was told from the begining the baby wouldnt live i dont get it
For my despressed boyfriend story I highly suggest for both him and you to seek counseling as well as having him get therapy. I myself have been is a somewhat similar situation with myself like the boyfriend but I feel as though I am so much better and a better person to be around after seeing a therapist. That’s my honest opinion but I’ll leave it up to you to decide. I get it therapy is expensive and also it’s scary to open up as well but again that’s just my person opinion of how to make it healthier and better.
Relating to the husband no showing grief for the lost of their child, when my lover lost their grandfather for two years they acted happy and perfectly fine, they said that they were ok too, only for me to find out on the third year they had been broken by the lost and because their family was grieving they felt they should be supportive, mind you, they were 15-18 when this happened, they even became suicidal as they ignored their own mental health in favor of keeping the spirits in their home high. So trust me, he may not look like it, but he truly may be grieving, and I recommend talking it out with him and making sure, because I made the mistake of only seeing my lover's smile and thinking they were fine, when really they were broken, suicidal, and hurting, but just hid it so well...
2nd story. My friends had similar relationship. Start include your bf into your decisions and let him decide some stuff on his own. If you keep going like this he will back out nnd let you decide everything but will be unhappy and will eventually snap. Maybe let him do few bigger decisions before asking him bbout wedding so he can really feel like partner.
Story 6. Many men grieve in different ways. Especially in front of their significant other. As men we feel like we need to be a rock. So we can make sure that we remain strong for our loved ones. Even in times of grief.
Serious drinking problems are a thing that needs to be addressed. No one should be continuing to use the excuse i Of being drunk to be a horrible person. This person needs to put the bottle down or expect to be alone in the future.
Story #6 is give him some room and space, he'll grieve on his own terms. I can say this because I lost my stepdad four years ago and I wouldn't cry or even grieve until I broke down completely and just sat in my own room playing video games.
The baby dying one is something that I do. It is hard for me to show strong emotion and find it hard not to laugh at death and it is just a coping mechanism and could be his coping mechanism
The depressed boyfriend needs medication or an adjustment of his medication. My husband is the same way. You have to come up with a plan when he's down. I usually just do my own thing until he comes out of it
@@ersyadiaz Bah, it's totally safe to download these questionable files from this popup. This Nigerian prince sent me a FREE Antivirus for $300 even! And all I had to do was send out this file to everyone on my contacts list! 😂😂😂 Edit: Did I miss any scams?
That Antivirus scam, I damn near fell for the same thing. Called the number and everything. Thankfully I watch scammer payback videos and the steps they gave me Immediately had my spidey senses tingling. ALWAYS look at the Entire email, Especially who the actual sender is.
I just make sure to keep track of what I pay for. I mainly get phone calls in which case I either play along and screw with them or go ---- pd, then time how long before they just go nope and hang up.
Story 4: Tell him to get off social media, if it gets him depression social media would be the causation of his own addiction, if that guy gets off that then he couldn't be depressed anymore.
Story 4: I understand him as i also have plenty of depression episodes, but his mistake was to enter a relationship since clearly his issues are not worked out yet. And to start a relationship when you yourself are not 100% is a recipe for failure. Advice dont enter a relationship when you're not 100% yourself because you will make your significant other miserable.
My mother almost fell for a scam me and my lil bro kept on telling her it was a scam but she kept on saying it wasn't a scam it's not a scam while she was on call and even when the Indian guy was trying to connect to her computer she asked me and my brother how to do it. She got really mad at us and only when he asked for gift cards she realized it was a scam and we were right from the start.
S5: OP said she was Team No-Kids until her mom died. If BF was okay with that, how excited was he when she got pregnant? It could be that he supported through miscarriage on the outside, but inside felt like they’d dodged a bullet. Just a thought.
11:00 wow... I'm that boyfriend xD I don't care about anything, if I'm in a phase like that. You could burn my stuff, I wouldn't care... After and before, I just hate when I'm like this. I'm on medication, but I rly don't know, if I ever lose these depressive phase. BTW, I worked on me. My longest depressive phase was half a year, nearly lost my apartment. Now I have them for a few days every other month, so it's getting better over the years...
i'm also a person who doesn't have his emotions got out on face easily so i'm looking like i don't care, but in reality i have emptiness in the head because thinking rate is fading away, playing games for e.g. is just a tool to make time pass faster.
I don't know what kind of antivirus that last person was using, but typically when your antivirus is about to run out and needs renewed, it will let you know ahead of time that it's about to run out by popping up on your screen (at least the one I use does). If you get an antivirus thing in your email, and they connect you to someone to help you, you already know it's a scam. Especially if they tell you not to tell anyone, or ask you to be able to see your computer screen or need to take control of your computer. If they tell you that you need to do any of these things, write down the phone number you contacted them from and report it to whoever can look into it, but most importantly, never give them any personal information and be careful about what you say. In fact, just hang up with them as soon as they give any red flags. (Back a few years ago scammers used to call people fraudulently claiming that they were in debt or something along those lines and they would record your responses so that they could later make a phony call to your bank to move stuff out of your bank account. So never say confirmatory words like 'yes' or 'that's me'.)
second story are you really sure he is impatient or i dont he knows what to do and when to do it. like he has a strict work flow in his head. like i think a trip to a psychiatrist would help sort this out.
Story 2: Dump him Story 3: Dump him, the drinking is not going away unless he want's to change. Letting it slide might put the OP in danger later. Story 4: Tell him to seek help. Story 6: maybe he is keeping it all in to stayed strong for the OP Story 7: Yeah I got the same email scam also, but the one thing that made me realize it was a scam was that it was saying my Norton subscription just got renewed, but I'm not using Norton at all. First off for these types of scam, NEVER call, email or anything of the sort to contact that is in the notice. Instead go through the official site by opening up a new tab and going there directly and logging in there and checking your account. Google the official site if you don't know it, don't copy and paste off of that notice either that is just going to the scammers directly if you do. On the official you will see that there was zero activity at all. Then just delete that notice and pat yourself on the back for not falling for it.
I don't know about the second story like bro he literally left his girlfriend while they went kayaking yeah he came back but how long did it take for him to come back and where did he leave her because if she's in the middle of the woods with low population of people are going to already tell you that that's dangerous ASF because you don't know what animals could be stalking you
2nd story is intresting first i thought the guy was bieng a jerk but the op (gf) keft talking bro almost all of the things that she said was his negativ just makes me feel like its all about her think she is a jerk 100% she talks about times he did something like left her but she never gave context why she just looked at the negativ
Yeah like the whole spending too much time selecting a dessert. How much time did you spend? Because if you stood there mauling it over for more than 5min, 10min at the absolute maximum, you're out of line for expecting patience. Being indecisive to that degree is problematic.
I think she may be the "jerk" or perhaps these two are not good fit. I agree with the whole dessert thing. It does sound like he does put up with lot. Her choices on vacations or what she is doing. I do wonder how old she is.
OP from the second story sounds inconsiderate and a bit selfish, it seems like the boyfriend has been putting up with a lot and she's just been doing what she wants then blaming him when he gets frustrated, also thinking you're ready for marriage when you don't even discuss something as huge as buying a new place with the SO you've been with for years is absurd, both of them need to sit down and have a long talk about compromises and consideration
in story 1 i am actually 13 and go to the pool alone by bicycle its not that big if a deal if you know swimming or have a coach with you idk what the fuss is about.... but the way karen talked to the op is unacceptable
Look I understand you messed up and got scammed but honestly that's on you. They can call me and email me anything they want if I know that I never set anything like that up then there's no reason to believe I owe them anything. It's truly that simple.
Just want to make a clarification for the OP in story number six: 14:53 although us men aren’t physically carrying a baby, we are technically carrying them, and we pass them on to a woman, to fully carry them the rest of the 9 months. But in all honesty: I truly am sorry for your loss.
To the OP in story number two: *4:26* if your boyfriend doesn’t want to get married, then that should be a sign that he doesn’t want to take his life to the next level and that you should just stick with your mom and sisters and dump him. If you don’t feel happy not married, then leave him.
I audibly laughed and story 3 she out here saying that she seen a couple of red flags about her boyfriend but nothing to break up with him about and in the same breath it said oh yeah he has somewhat of a drinking problem and when he drinks he gets violent and aggressive but he also has started fights while he was intoxicated and I'm just sitting here like b**** that is a red flag to break up with someone over or at least tell them to go to an AAA meeting and and to try to help them with their drinking problem and you know what I'm going to say it if he doesn't fix his drinking problem break up with him break up with him because sooner or later he's going to get aggressive and violent with you while he's under the influence and punch you in the face this is how domestic abuse happens and if you don't want it to have it over your head that the cops shot him because of his violence and aggression because they will shoot him if he poses threat to them or they're a risk to the general population they're not trying to kill but sometimes it happens and the only way for you to stop that is either to leave him or to tell him go get help and if he doesn't want to get help leave him it's that simple
Story 2: that guy sounds just like me 🤣🤣🤣 dont wanna get married, very impatient I mean cmon people need to do shit fast whats wrong with making smell decisions slow
Story 6: As Kratos once said "Do not mistake my silence as lack of grief." losing things can be overwhelming to the point where all you can do is be strong about it. However if this guy blantanly tells you something that would mean that the situation wasn't that much of a big deal then that's a different situation.
Yeah, I can relate to a degree with how I went through some stages of depression. Maybe the guy isn't even ready to process the loss of his unborn child just after losing his beloved pet and he just can't cope, he's just distracting himself from the cruel reality. Gaming can be a good distraction, but only for a short while because frustration builds up as you can't really get joy from it in this situation, the grief is still there and you just postpone the processing of it.
Well said
I agree, i was the same with the passing of my father. He died back in 2015, when i was 14.
@@FrostTheRedeemed your now 21 damn life's fast
Playing video games can provide a distraction to dire situations
I think The answer for The 4th story is Just get some partnet counselor and a psychologist for his boyfriend, mental health can be a thing that could break their relationship if not being cared with importance
Ugg, I was a lifeguard for about 15 years, the amount of times I had to deal with parents who thought I was a babysitter was so aggravating.
If I had a kid theres no way I'd leave them at a public pool expecting the life guard to watch them. With as many kids there are at pools during the Summer its well beyond negligence to expect a young adult watching all those kids while making sure no one is drowning
@@sean_mccadden You would be the type of parent we would like.
@@JohnWilliams-cr2sz I mean being a life guard isn't a service job, its a preventive job that requires special training. So honestly lifeguards are closer to being security than they are to being babysitters
My mom, has never expected anyone to do this, who in their right mind would? Their lifeguards, not babysitters, even my 5 year old brother understands that
Really makes me question the iq of a Karen, maybe like 20?10?
Story 6: I think he is putting on an act to be her rock so she can get through this tragedy.
I agree with you on this based on personal experience, my husband is the same acts like he is not bothered but I know inside he is hurting as much as I am
But also he might not feel connected to this baby. She didn’t actually say how far along she was in the pregnancy? She might have only been 12 weeks along so he doesn’t feel the same connection or see it as a baby yet, but still is being supportive to her.
My partner didn’t cry when I had miscarriages and I had gotten angry with him the first time, but he said that because he couldn’t feel it growing or bond with it that he didn’t feel any connection with them being so early along (all before 13 weeks). But with our son he is very loving and caring and would do anything for him.
I just looked this story up. She was only 10 weeks pregnant. At this point it looks like a jellybean and I up understand why the partner felt no connection. Early miscarriages are very common and effect the woman far more because of hormones.
For story 6: I am overall very in touch with my emotions. I am not afraid to cry even with silly stuff like cute or sad movies but when dealing with death I handle it completely differently. For a while I'll feel like Im okay until eventually it'll hit me like a ton of bricks.
Oh man just today I watched Mark Rober's videos about the scammers, and here is a story about one getting scammed!
Story 1: Can this 5 year old even swim? Even if she had swimming lessons, 5 years olds don't really have much strength to swim very long yet. Super dangerous to leave a young kid alone at a pool.
My little brother is 5 and he can swim pretty well.
I am remembering the mother that took her son to the pool I was lifeguarding at years ago and proceeded to put so many floatation devices on the kid he could have been a floatation device for others. I watched him float in the pool like that bouncing DVD player logo, and he never hit a corner.
I feel bad for the last story. It hits home for me.
Story 1. Life guards are there to watch everyone in the pool or place of water to make sure if there is an emergency they can help. Its the parents responsibility to be there with their kids. It's not a daycare.
I love the fact that you guys are uploading new story s so fast
the thing about being a lifeguard is that your job is to prevent someone from doing anything dangerous by the water no matter if it's the pool or the beach. if anyone dies, their responsible for neglection. parent's can't expect them to 'do their jobs' while watching thousands on the beach at the same time.
Bro what? That not your job why does she think that your job?
the last story make me even happier when I see Jim Browning, Scammer Payback and others mess with scammers
As a lifeguard I've had *many* parents just see me as glorified babysitting and it pisses me off so much
If they was me I would have child services on speed dial 😂 if they wanna play that trick on you, you gotta have the proper reaction 😂
Or put a sign there: "accepting babysitting, $10000 per hour, counting every minute", and have your girlfriend, girl-Friends, sisters, at least 1 be ready for the job 🤣🤣🤣
I worked at an indoor mini golf place in a mall and I have had many parents attempt to leave their children there while they shop at other stores. I always tell the parents before they pay that someone needs to stay in the area to watch them as I am not a babysitter. They would always get annoyed, but there was litterally a written rule stating so and all rules must be followed. Also, there would be birthday parties where over twelve kids would be dropped off and only one parent to watch them, we eventually made a rule stating at least three adults must be there to help out after several kids got into arguments over who got to play in what area, keep in mind there would be children as young as 2 and as old as 12 there at once.
I love these stories.
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story 2 i'd give him a chance um if you wanna get married get a prenup, this will circumvent him not wanting to get married. i don't blame him for not wanting to get married it's a huge money sink and it's generally not worth it lots of people divorce shortly after. it's like the concept of marriage puts on a whole new dimension of stress that rips people apart, so a prenup will definitely ease alot of stress, nothing wrong with a safety net. anyway sounds like it's too early in the relationship to be thinking of marriage, should have given him the heads up you were looking for a new place, you don't have to listen to his wants and stuff since it's your place, but nobody likes to feel left out in the process of a new big decision. he sounds very needy, but seems like you do alot of activities with only your wants maybe op should plan to make activities they both like or talk with to try some things op likes and then try stuff the boyfriend likes. Any way go to couple couseling don't listen to your mom, she may want what she thinks is best for you, but that doesn't mean it IS the best for you.
I think they both need to sit down and have a conversation together on so many things. She picks everything but then he just storms off right in the middle of it all like when they are with her family on vacation. Both have fault in this. But I think she may have fair amount of fault cause she mentions about patience like the dessert example. How long is she taking to pick out a dessert? There are other questions I would ask her to get more details out of her that she may be leaving out like how long they have been dating, how old is she, etc. But before getting married they need to iron out what is going on and find middle ground going forward. I'm not huge into people living together but I've seen too many times where it was probably better then getting married for many people. Prenup is worth nothing if she can't get her relationship right first before the marriage.
About the grief one. Honestly it's diferent on the person. I had to grief my Great Grandma who i was attached more and it was really sad... thou, i didn't show any sad emotion, and went to play games again the same day. The one who was more affected was my mom, who she was like a mother for her.
Even happen the same at the next year where my grandpa (her dad) died as well. But for him, even i had the same, my mom didn't feel the same as my great grandma, even if was only a year already. Why? because she didn't feel attached to her dad more than my great grandma and my great grandpa who i couldn't meet because he died 2 years before i born (mainly because my grandma abandon her when she was a baby).
For story 6 it could be that he is still depressed over the dog but after the case with the unborn child he thinks he needs to pull himself together for the OP to help her
He's absolutely right they could have easily called child protective services and have the child taken away or the kid could have been easily kidnapped
Men handle emotions differently...we bottle that shit until we break or kill something.
Absolutely love these videos Jerk!!
You inspired me to start a reddit read channel of my own. Hopefully it can be as successful as yours oneday 🙌. Keep up the great work man!!
Psychologically men do get attached to their kid through interaction, also it may be he's overwhelmed or in shock, perhaps he's bottling it up to stay strong for you
Story 6. I looked it up, she was only 10 weeks pregnant and early miscarriages are very common. They don’t affect males much because they aren’t actually experiencing the pregnancy, can’t bond with the baby and often the woman has only just found out she is pregnant or only finds out by having the miscarriage.
As a guy that has been in a similar situation, I can say this is very much a possibility. I would even wager that it's common for men to not have much of a bond period until the birth. The woman has every right to grieve, as did mine, but try not to read too much into it if the guy isn't grieving as well.
Exactly, and I'm glad there's at least some people mentioning that. I roomed with a friend and his wife for a couple of months, helped them fix their marriage by being a mediator, and I was good friends with both of them. They already have a son, but the wife wanted another. She was super stocked to find out that she was pregnant, basically as soon as it would pop up on a test (she'd been taking them often). When it turned out to be a miscarriage, she was distraught, and her husband and I took some time to let her grieve, went in the living room and played video games for the rest of the day. He made her dinner, we all went to bed, and then tomorrow comes. Husband comes to me, and mentions that the wife is upset with him, wife comes to me later, mentioning that the husband is heartless, and didn't feel hardly any grief from the miscarriage. I try to explain to her that yes, he had been excited for the baby, but guys often aren't nearly as attached to the child before birth, but majorly before you can even tell. She seemed to think I was heartless too, at the time, but we ran into each other again a couple weeks ago, she mentioned that she understood now, and thanked me for trying to not only diffuse the situation, but also being honest with her, and informed me that she was once again pregnant. I'm hoping this next one turns out better for them.
Its not like it was a baby born dead or anything dramatic. I mean, im a female and i dont get it. She was told from the begining the baby wouldnt live i dont get it
Story #6 - the husband is just trying to be strong for the OP because he thinks that if he breaksdown then there would be no one to comfort the OP.
“He’s just always staring at his phone all the time.”
*my parents when I look at my phone for 5 seconds:*
Bottom Line: If you can't agree then then the relationship is not going to work.
For my despressed boyfriend story I highly suggest for both him and you to seek counseling as well as having him get therapy. I myself have been is a somewhat similar situation with myself like the boyfriend but I feel as though I am so much better and a better person to be around after seeing a therapist. That’s my honest opinion but I’ll leave it up to you to decide. I get it therapy is expensive and also it’s scary to open up as well but again that’s just my person opinion of how to make it healthier and better.
Honey you can't fix him, let him go.
Relating to the husband no showing grief for the lost of their child, when my lover lost their grandfather for two years they acted happy and perfectly fine, they said that they were ok too, only for me to find out on the third year they had been broken by the lost and because their family was grieving they felt they should be supportive, mind you, they were 15-18 when this happened, they even became suicidal as they ignored their own mental health in favor of keeping the spirits in their home high. So trust me, he may not look like it, but he truly may be grieving, and I recommend talking it out with him and making sure, because I made the mistake of only seeing my lover's smile and thinking they were fine, when really they were broken, suicidal, and hurting, but just hid it so well...
2nd story. My friends had similar relationship. Start include your bf into your decisions and let him decide some stuff on his own. If you keep going like this he will back out nnd let you decide everything but will be unhappy and will eventually snap. Maybe let him do few bigger decisions before asking him bbout wedding so he can really feel like partner.
Story 6. Many men grieve in different ways. Especially in front of their significant other. As men we feel like we need to be a rock. So we can make sure that we remain strong for our loved ones. Even in times of grief.
Serious drinking problems are a thing that needs to be addressed. No one should be continuing to use the excuse i
Of being drunk to be a horrible person. This person needs to put the bottle down or expect to be alone in the future.
Story #6 is give him some room and space, he'll grieve on his own terms. I can say this because I lost my stepdad four years ago and I wouldn't cry or even grieve until I broke down completely and just sat in my own room playing video games.
The baby dying one is something that I do. It is hard for me to show strong emotion and find it hard not to laugh at death and it is just a coping mechanism and could be his coping mechanism
The depressed boyfriend needs medication or an adjustment of his medication. My husband is the same way. You have to come up with a plan when he's down. I usually just do my own thing until he comes out of it
I think for the kid one it’s that he feels like he has to be strong for u and is botteling up his feelings for u
The boyfriend that ruined her birthday party. Leave it immediately! He is simply an abusive jerk who’s true colors come out when he’s drunk!
Quick side fact: You don't need any Anti-virus besides the Windows Defender
you forgot to mention common sense, which is not so common anymore in these days.
@@ersyadiaz Bah, it's totally safe to download these questionable files from this popup. This Nigerian prince sent me a FREE Antivirus for $300 even! And all I had to do was send out this file to everyone on my contacts list! 😂😂😂
Edit: Did I miss any scams?
Story 2 I think you should both talk to each other
That Antivirus scam, I damn near fell for the same thing. Called the number and everything. Thankfully I watch scammer payback videos and the steps they gave me Immediately had my spidey senses tingling. ALWAYS look at the Entire email, Especially who the actual sender is.
I just make sure to keep track of what I pay for. I mainly get phone calls in which case I either play along and screw with them or go ---- pd, then time how long before they just go nope and hang up.
Problem with a drunk boyfriend???
He's no problem if he doesn't drink. Just make sure it stays that way.
Story 4: Tell him to get off social media, if it gets him depression social media would be the causation of his own addiction, if that guy gets off that then he couldn't be depressed anymore.
Story 4: I understand him as i also have plenty of depression episodes, but his mistake was to enter a relationship since clearly his issues are not worked out yet. And to start a relationship when you yourself are not 100% is a recipe for failure. Advice dont enter a relationship when you're not 100% yourself because you will make your significant other miserable.
My mother almost fell for a scam me and my lil bro kept on telling her it was a scam but she kept on saying it wasn't a scam it's not a scam while she was on call and even when the Indian guy was trying to connect to her computer she asked me and my brother how to do it. She got really mad at us and only when he asked for gift cards she realized it was a scam and we were right from the start.
S5: OP said she was Team No-Kids until her mom died. If BF was okay with that, how excited was he when she got pregnant? It could be that he supported through miscarriage on the outside, but inside felt like they’d dodged a bullet. Just a thought.
I wanna see AITJ stories again!!!! They are soooo good!
Btw love what you're doing guys, keep it up!
I think the guy is focused on trying to put on a strong front for his wife as she grieves for their unborn child. It is very common.
Last story; how the hell do people fall for these obvious scams
11:00 wow...
I'm that boyfriend xD
I don't care about anything, if I'm in a phase like that.
You could burn my stuff, I wouldn't care...
After and before, I just hate when I'm like this.
I'm on medication, but I rly don't know, if I ever lose these depressive phase.
BTW, I worked on me. My longest depressive phase was half a year, nearly lost my apartment. Now I have them for a few days every other month, so it's getting better over the years...
Story 4 sounds like seasonal depression. He should get some therapy
12:48
bro that voice change
The first story the bad mother should check out the mother who was arrested for leavening there 6 year old daughter at the park for 6 hours
i'm also a person who doesn't have his emotions got out on face easily so i'm looking like i don't care, but in reality i have emptiness in the head because thinking rate is fading away, playing games for e.g. is just a tool to make time pass faster.
Sometimes I wonder if
these Karen’s are even human
That's the kid that goes missing and ends up a toy for some pervert or killer
Hey, you just put the kids in the pool and he called CPS to pick them up
I don't know what kind of antivirus that last person was using, but typically when your antivirus is about to run out and needs renewed, it will let you know ahead of time that it's about to run out by popping up on your screen (at least the one I use does). If you get an antivirus thing in your email, and they connect you to someone to help you, you already know it's a scam. Especially if they tell you not to tell anyone, or ask you to be able to see your computer screen or need to take control of your computer. If they tell you that you need to do any of these things, write down the phone number you contacted them from and report it to whoever can look into it, but most importantly, never give them any personal information and be careful about what you say. In fact, just hang up with them as soon as they give any red flags.
(Back a few years ago scammers used to call people fraudulently claiming that they were in debt or something along those lines and they would record your responses so that they could later make a phony call to your bank to move stuff out of your bank account. So never say confirmatory words like 'yes' or 'that's me'.)
Depressed bf: Waits when he comes back to normal, and suggest therapy and a depression treatment.
In the 6th story the dude is trying to avoid the faft hus child died it a bad way of coping but it works i do it
second story
are you really sure he is impatient or i dont he knows what to do and when to do it.
like he has a strict work flow in his head.
like i think a trip to a psychiatrist would help sort this out.
Story 2: Dump him
Story 3: Dump him, the drinking is not going away unless he want's to change. Letting it slide might put the OP in danger later.
Story 4: Tell him to seek help.
Story 6: maybe he is keeping it all in to stayed strong for the OP
Story 7: Yeah I got the same email scam also, but the one thing that made me realize it was a scam was that it was saying my Norton subscription just got renewed, but I'm not using Norton at all. First off for these types of scam, NEVER call, email or anything of the sort to contact that is in the notice. Instead go through the official site by opening up a new tab and going there directly and logging in there and checking your account. Google the official site if you don't know it, don't copy and paste off of that notice either that is just going to the scammers directly if you do. On the official you will see that there was zero activity at all. Then just delete that notice and pat yourself on the back for not falling for it.
In Story 2 the op is the asshole in my opinion. I can understand the boyfriends perspective and she always is the one who gets what they want
Marriage isn't Worth it at all anymore
The depressed boyfriend... He needs medical and psychological help.
Last story: restart your computer and then uninstall teamviewer immediately so they can't gain access again
Oh fuck a relatable one
Me who uses my phone more than normal hours everyday:- no depresoooo
first story she almost was right, other than leaving her child
The boyfriend on the 4º story sounds to have some bipolar or borderline issue, he should sick for help
Yess!
I feel like I’ve heard the first story on the RUclips channel Moar.
can you put longer story, instead of lots of short story
I don't know about the second story like bro he literally left his girlfriend while they went kayaking yeah he came back but how long did it take for him to come back and where did he leave her because if she's in the middle of the woods with low population of people are going to already tell you that that's dangerous ASF because you don't know what animals could be stalking you
2nd story is intresting first i thought the guy was bieng a jerk but the op (gf) keft talking bro almost all of the things that she said was his negativ just makes me feel like its all about her think she is a jerk 100% she talks about times he did something like left her but she never gave context why she just looked at the negativ
Yeah like the whole spending too much time selecting a dessert. How much time did you spend? Because if you stood there mauling it over for more than 5min, 10min at the absolute maximum, you're out of line for expecting patience. Being indecisive to that degree is problematic.
I think she may be the "jerk" or perhaps these two are not good fit. I agree with the whole dessert thing. It does sound like he does put up with lot. Her choices on vacations or what she is doing. I do wonder how old she is.
story 4: my bf has depression, but let's make it about me.
OP from the second story sounds inconsiderate and a bit selfish, it seems like the boyfriend has been putting up with a lot and she's just been doing what she wants then blaming him when he gets frustrated, also thinking you're ready for marriage when you don't even discuss something as huge as buying a new place with the SO you've been with for years is absurd, both of them need to sit down and have a long talk about compromises and consideration
Story 4, i think the bf might have a personality disorder or bipolar
Last story, it was definitely an Indian scammer
story 1: A Catholic priest would gladly help
This is alot of stories. Like, have he ever released a vid with 6+ stories?
Am I the Jerk? has a 10 hour video that came out late 2021 or very early 2022. It’s soooooo good! 🥰
in story 1 i am actually 13 and go to the pool alone by bicycle its not that big if a deal if you know swimming or have a coach with you idk what the fuss is about.... but the way karen talked to the op is unacceptable
the child was 5, not 13
Look I understand you messed up and got scammed but honestly that's on you. They can call me and email me anything they want if I know that I never set anything like that up then there's no reason to believe I owe them anything. It's truly that simple.
hi streak
Just want to make a clarification for the OP in story number six: 14:53 although us men aren’t physically carrying a baby, we are technically carrying them, and we pass them on to a woman, to fully carry them the rest of the 9 months. But in all honesty: I truly am sorry for your loss.
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To the OP in story number two: *4:26* if your boyfriend doesn’t want to get married, then that should be a sign that he doesn’t want to take his life to the next level and that you should just stick with your mom and sisters and dump him. If you don’t feel happy not married, then leave him.
17:40 mostly scammers are in india
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I audibly laughed and story 3 she out here saying that she seen a couple of red flags about her boyfriend but nothing to break up with him about and in the same breath it said oh yeah he has somewhat of a drinking problem and when he drinks he gets violent and aggressive but he also has started fights while he was intoxicated and I'm just sitting here like b**** that is a red flag to break up with someone over or at least tell them to go to an AAA meeting and and to try to help them with their drinking problem and you know what I'm going to say it if he doesn't fix his drinking problem break up with him break up with him because sooner or later he's going to get aggressive and violent with you while he's under the influence and punch you in the face this is how domestic abuse happens and if you don't want it to have it over your head that the cops shot him because of his violence and aggression because they will shoot him if he poses threat to them or they're a risk to the general population they're not trying to kill but sometimes it happens and the only way for you to stop that is either to leave him or to tell him go get help and if he doesn't want to get help leave him it's that simple
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I hear j browning
Story 2: that guy sounds just like me 🤣🤣🤣 dont wanna get married, very impatient I mean cmon people need to do shit fast whats wrong with making smell decisions slow
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nobody cares. He's looking for people that will comment other things on his videos and he doesn't care who was first or last
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