As a man and as a father you do everything in your power to reestablish that relationship. At the end of the day she is a child and it's our responsibility to guide them and not just fall back and let them stray away. Don't expect the child to take the lead in a situation like this. Make the most of the time you have with her. They grow up fast. You want to look back and say as a man I did everything in my power to make it work. I did everything in my power to lead & guide her. Peace ✌️ and blessings bro.!
My boy is 19. Many dads know exactly what you’re experiencing. We continue to be the bigger person knowing we may not get recognition but doing right is all we know.
Thanks for the vid and my daughter is in middle school and we are already beefing and I’m noticing changes. Teenagers are something else just make sure you don’t say anything that will hurt her
Hold your head man, it's tough. I would reach out to her mom and ask her to step in just like she asked you to step in between the situation with her and your daughter. Your daughter may be down to reconnect if a 3rd person is involved that let's her save face. Also these teens nowadays are too busy dating and having fun, she's probably not thinking much of the situation....Oh and Happy belated, as men I'm learning the "Happy Birthdays" are optional and rare, no matter how much we provide lol. Have a good one.
Feel you bruh. I have an 18yr son old that just graduated HS, and a 16 yr old daughter. Unfortunately they mostly grew up without me because of a nasty break up with their mom. Their mom was from a different country and when we split...she split with my kids to Mexico. Started a new life without me...I should have fought harder and refused to be denied access to my kids, but mentally and emotionally I was unequipped to deal with the situation..Simply put, I was too weak at the time and I failed. Very difficult thing to admit. I recently reconnected with them about a year and a half ago, and my daughter wants nothing to do with me..I began sending money once a week to them both, and she still has said word ZERO to me. Not even a text. My son communicates with me as HE sees fit, which is hardly ever, and seems to want nothing to do with me either. Everyone likes money, so he communicates with me just as much as he feels he needs to in order to keep the money coming. The bare minimum. It hurts, but I'm sure I hurt him alot all the years I wasn't there with no explanation. I accept alot of the blame for my absence but I didn't do it all by myself. Their mother is also responsible, but obviously they ain't hearing it. I've resolved myself to play the long game...but it's tough when I feel like they don't know the whole story and I'd just alienate them by bashing their mom who is their everything. Hang in bruh....
I’ve been through the same situation for years and actually still going through as my daughter became and adult recently. Sometimes it gets better and sometimes it won’t just depends on if both parents can meet at common ground and work together to create a resolution to coparent better That’s just my opinion I’m not sure!
I understand the situation I’m going through the same thing sort of .. I appreciate you talking about it at least I know I’m not the only one going through that.
I have 3 grown daughters and 1 grown son 50 yrs young. Parenting didn’t come with a book. At that age it’s a lot of emotions going on and add a boyfriend or girlfriend in the mix you’re bound to have a fall out. And they don’t end at the teenage yrs. It probably is a smart idea to separate yourself from what goes on where she lives with her mom. I can completely understand your hurt. Sometimes it’s best to take a step back and cool off. She may never apologize for whatever she said but maybe soon y’all can get to a place to where y’all can calmly discuss the issue and respect. Mine have made me at times wish I could jump through the phone. They be in such a rush to be “grown” til they start getting g these grown folks responsibilities. I’ve had to block numbers cause I’m NOT tolerating disrespect. Y’all will be back fine soon but when you’re going through it, it’s hurtful and sucks. Don’t let it get to you too bad!
Hey man, HOLD YOUR GROUND!!! Let her reach out to you. If you reach out to her, she will only see weakness. I haven't spoken to my 24 year old daughter in 2.5 months. I'm good with it. She needs to reach out. She needs to internalize, figure it out, and contact me. Most people think I'm harsh, but I'm good with it, for now.
@@mcqueeninvestments5191you don’t order people how to deal with their kids you give advice. you don’t even know what happened and your using all caps. ignorant, from a 24 year old man
@@mcqueeninvestments5191That's not ego. Kids out here killing their parents. No way Im chasing a disrespectful person period. Whether its your child or not. These kids out here killing their parents. You can't be begging anyone to be in your life, and these kids are entitled. Don't chase her. After you reach out to have a discussion, and the child doesn't respond with respect, and the Mother is supporting the disrespect. In that situation pull back. Because these laws are not on our side as men. You have to move strategically. All this you the man crap is for the birds. Being a man is taking care of yourself. These girls grow up to be these women.
She is young and inexperienced in dealing with life situations. She still needs her dad. It’s ok to let some time past to let her cool off and internalize what has happened and mature from it. You don’t want 2 weeks to turn into 2 years or even longer. Every daughter needs their father, make amends before it too late
I am the sole parent of my 16-year-old daughter, as her mother is not involved in her life. I understand the challenges you may be facing, but as a parent, it is important to always take the high road. Our children did not choose to be here, and we must always be prepared to put their needs first. God forbid we receive the dreaded phone call that no parent ever wants to receive, we will wish we had handled things differently.
Im in the same boat bruh. My daughter 16. All she do is listen to her mom since we divorced. Exwife cheated so i bounced. Got divorced and in her eyes, my daughter said i broke up the family. I haven't spoken to her in 8 months. She got a BF which i never allowed if i was still there. However, nothing uou can do but live your life big homie. She living hers so why not you? She need to reach out when she ready. He the adults. We cant lower ourselves and apologize when we did nothing wrong. We the parents!!
Man, heavy is the head that wears the crown. I have a 16 year old son, I'm a father, and the emotions, feelings and ways they are trying to express themselves are complicated right now, regardless of right or wrong. They are still trying to understand emotion and how to deal with situations. And for you, its a dad and his daughter.; I have a daughter as well, much younger. Let time heal these wounds brother. Also, I'm sure she is circling thoughts about it as well. A lot of children (I say this with no disrespect to any reader) believe they are "grown"/"mature" around these ages, and we as parents can coach/advise, truthfully, only to the best of our ability. Its ultimately up to them to apply it. This is within reason though, some things as parents we can't just allow or tolerate....... It'll get better -
if you hasvent had your kids in your household its hard to get thge same respect as the parent the child lives with thats why ive always structured me n kids relationship to be in same house n just deal with the mom regardless until kids are older so my kids will always respect my words and imo your best thing to do is be in your kids life everyday no matter what if somethjing were to happen to her youll feel foolish for trying to be tuff and hold out for the upper hand the more your in her life (not just money)the better chance shell respect your opinions and suggestions although there are exceptions where some kids are just demons just tryin to help
Mr. Rob, from a lady who has a great relationship with father. U CANNOT LEAVE HER ALONE. AS A FATHER U HAVE TO TAKE INITIATIVE UNTIL AGE 25. Because that 1st HEARTBREAK is a Mother. She needs ur validation from a male perspective with no strings attached which equals HER FATHER. TRUST ME. PLEASE. Otherwise she will have to deal with this world with a teenage brain, which can turn into an emotional mess. KEEP REACHING OUT NO MATTER WHAT HER ATTITUDE. TRUST.U need to make her believe UR the BEST dude out there. Then she will NOT put up with NONSENSE at all or either for a long period of time. Trust me. I know.😊
Man yall gotta learn how to get straight to the point. I got recommended this video and 2 minutes into the video you ain’t start the title yet. Clicked off
As a man and as a father you do everything in your power to reestablish that relationship. At the end of the day she is a child and it's our responsibility to guide them and not just fall back and let them stray away. Don't expect the child to take the lead in a situation like this. Make the most of the time you have with her. They grow up fast. You want to look back and say as a man I did everything in my power to make it work. I did everything in my power to lead & guide her. Peace ✌️ and blessings bro.!
Hey Fam, New sub from NJ. Love the transparency of this. No call on your born day hits different.
Thanks for the sub
Hold your ground, these kids got to learn, one way or the other.
My boy is 19. Many dads know exactly what you’re experiencing. We continue to be the bigger person knowing we may not get recognition but doing right is all we know.
Peace brother I going through a similar situation with my almost 19-year-old daughter. So I need to hear this .
Thanks for the vid and my daughter is in middle school and we are already beefing and I’m noticing changes. Teenagers are something else just make sure you don’t say anything that will hurt her
Hold your head man, it's tough. I would reach out to her mom and ask her to step in just like she asked you to step in between the situation with her and your daughter. Your daughter may be down to reconnect if a 3rd person is involved that let's her save face. Also these teens nowadays are too busy dating and having fun, she's probably not thinking much of the situation....Oh and Happy belated, as men I'm learning the "Happy Birthdays" are optional and rare, no matter how much we provide lol. Have a good one.
Have to remove our emotions when dealing with our children. Yes its hard, but its our duty as men
Feel you bruh. I have an 18yr son old that just graduated HS, and a 16 yr old daughter. Unfortunately they mostly grew up without me because of a nasty break up with their mom. Their mom was from a different country and when we split...she split with my kids to Mexico. Started a new life without me...I should have fought harder and refused to be denied access to my kids, but mentally and emotionally I was unequipped to deal with the situation..Simply put, I was too weak at the time and I failed. Very difficult thing to admit. I recently reconnected with them about a year and a half ago, and my daughter wants nothing to do with me..I began sending money once a week to them both, and she still has said word ZERO to me. Not even a text. My son communicates with me as HE sees fit, which is hardly ever, and seems to want nothing to do with me either. Everyone likes money, so he communicates with me just as much as he feels he needs to in order to keep the money coming. The bare minimum. It hurts, but I'm sure I hurt him alot all the years I wasn't there with no explanation. I accept alot of the blame for my absence but I didn't do it all by myself. Their mother is also responsible, but obviously they ain't hearing it. I've resolved myself to play the long game...but it's tough when I feel like they don't know the whole story and I'd just alienate them by bashing their mom who is their everything. Hang in bruh....
You shouldn't have to fight to see your kids. That's on the mother.
I’ve been through the same situation for years and actually still going through as my daughter became and adult recently. Sometimes it gets better and sometimes it won’t just depends on if both parents can meet at common ground and work together to create a resolution to coparent better That’s just my opinion I’m not sure!
Keep your veins on ice and live your life. Put yourself first
I understand the situation I’m going through the same thing sort of .. I appreciate you talking about it at least I know I’m not the only one going through that.
I have 3 grown daughters and 1 grown son 50 yrs young. Parenting didn’t come with a book. At that age it’s a lot of emotions going on and add a boyfriend or girlfriend in the mix you’re bound to have a fall out. And they don’t end at the teenage yrs. It probably is a smart idea to separate yourself from what goes on where she lives with her mom. I can completely understand your hurt. Sometimes it’s best to take a step back and cool off. She may never apologize for whatever she said but maybe soon y’all can get to a place to where y’all can calmly discuss the issue and respect. Mine have made me at times wish I could jump through the phone. They be in such a rush to be “grown” til they start getting g these grown folks responsibilities. I’ve had to block numbers cause I’m NOT tolerating disrespect. Y’all will be back fine soon but when you’re going through it, it’s hurtful and sucks. Don’t let it get to you too bad!
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Hey man, HOLD YOUR GROUND!!! Let her reach out to you. If you reach out to her, she will only see weakness. I haven't spoken to my 24 year old daughter in 2.5 months. I'm good with it. She needs to reach out. She needs to internalize, figure it out, and contact me. Most people think I'm harsh, but I'm good with it, for now.
Nah that's wack, YOU are the PARENT, swallow your pride and ego and reach out to YOUR child.
@@mcqueeninvestments5191you don’t order people how to deal with their kids you give advice. you don’t even know what happened and your using all caps. ignorant, from a 24 year old man
@@mcqueeninvestments5191That's not ego. Kids out here killing their parents. No way Im chasing a disrespectful person period. Whether its your child or not. These kids out here killing their parents. You can't be begging anyone to be in your life, and these kids are entitled. Don't chase her. After you reach out to have a discussion, and the child doesn't respond with respect, and the Mother is supporting the disrespect. In that situation pull back. Because these laws are not on our side as men. You have to move strategically. All this you the man crap is for the birds. Being a man is taking care of yourself. These girls grow up to be these women.
She is young and inexperienced in dealing with life situations. She still needs her dad. It’s ok to let some time past to let her cool off and internalize what has happened and mature from it. You don’t want 2 weeks to turn into 2 years or even longer. Every daughter needs their father, make amends before it too late
@@BigE507 I hope you dont have kids this mindset is toxic
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I am the sole parent of my 16-year-old daughter, as her mother is not involved in her life. I understand the challenges you may be facing, but as a parent, it is important to always take the high road. Our children did not choose to be here, and we must always be prepared to put their needs first. God forbid we receive the dreaded phone call that no parent ever wants to receive, we will wish we had handled things differently.
Im in the same boat bruh. My daughter 16. All she do is listen to her mom since we divorced. Exwife cheated so i bounced. Got divorced and in her eyes, my daughter said i broke up the family. I haven't spoken to her in 8 months. She got a BF which i never allowed if i was still there. However, nothing uou can do but live your life big homie. She living hers so why not you? She need to reach out when she ready. He the adults. We cant lower ourselves and apologize when we did nothing wrong. We the parents!!
Man, heavy is the head that wears the crown. I have a 16 year old son, I'm a father, and the emotions, feelings and ways they are trying to express themselves are complicated right now, regardless of right or wrong. They are still trying to understand emotion and how to deal with situations. And for you, its a dad and his daughter.; I have a daughter as well, much younger. Let time heal these wounds brother. Also, I'm sure she is circling thoughts about it as well. A lot of children (I say this with no disrespect to any reader) believe they are "grown"/"mature" around these ages, and we as parents can coach/advise, truthfully, only to the best of our ability. Its ultimately up to them to apply it. This is within reason though, some things as parents we can't just allow or tolerate....... It'll get better -
Bro I have a 17 year old!!! I'm going thru the same shit, the exact things you stated🫡
just suscribed to you og
This is a common occurrence we just don’t have these dialogues
if you hasvent had your kids in your household its hard to get thge same respect as the parent the child lives with thats why ive always structured me n kids relationship to be in same house n just deal with the mom regardless until kids are older so my kids will always respect my words and imo your best thing to do is be in your kids life everyday no matter what if somethjing were to happen to her youll feel foolish for trying to be tuff and hold out for the upper hand the more your in her life (not just money)the better chance shell respect your opinions and suggestions although there are exceptions where some kids are just demons just tryin to help
Mr. Rob, from a lady who has a great relationship with father. U CANNOT LEAVE HER ALONE. AS A FATHER U HAVE TO TAKE INITIATIVE UNTIL AGE 25. Because that 1st HEARTBREAK is a Mother. She needs ur validation from a male perspective with no strings attached which equals HER FATHER. TRUST ME. PLEASE. Otherwise she will have to deal with this world with a teenage brain, which can turn into an emotional mess. KEEP REACHING OUT NO MATTER WHAT HER ATTITUDE. TRUST.U need to make her believe UR the BEST dude out there. Then she will NOT put up with NONSENSE at all or either for a long period of time. Trust me. I know.😊
Keyword. Teenage:/
Man yall gotta learn how to get straight to the point. I got recommended this video and 2 minutes into the video you ain’t start the title yet. Clicked off
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