I totally agree with what's been said. How do I do this with a very hyperactive were she gets aggressive and we can't contain her to that smaller space to help them regulate. She would run out of the house if we didnt deadlock the door.
How old is your child if under 10ish think about a soft hold if she is being violent. Face her away from you and wrap your arms around her and repeat I love you and this will pass. My job is to not let you hurt yourself or others. I love you no matter what. It is so hard. I'm sorry I know how you feel.
@@Kevin.Grindel thank you. We do try this. She doesn't like us to touch her when she is in the frame of mind. But we do say what you say when we step away and out of the room if she is in there.
My son threw a lot of tantrum when he was 4. I just let him do it and stay calm (secretly thinking it’s cute) and let him know we heading home now since he’s throwing a tantrum. If the tantrum happens inside the home i just said “ok im gonna clean the house you can talk to me whenever you are ready.” NEVER give in, stay calm & firm. He is 10 now no more tantrum but he will try to manipulate me into getting his way. I just let him play it out and at the end i say “hey buddy you been fishing me all day and the answer is still NO.” 😂 he is very a loving and sensitive child.
I think that they really need to come up with a new term other than "deeply feeling children" as that is one hell of a phrasing issue. Setting that aside, it sounds silly. So, creepy sounding or silly...
Keep it simple: Cause and Reaction. That simple it is. Front door. Feelings are consequences. Not feeling anything is also a consequence, a result. You speak about parenting in an immature level, as though parents are saints only. Not even touching on passive agressive behaviour. Though, most of the reactions of kids are a result of much worse , behind closed doors. All the blame and or focus on the kids. Kids are very good mirrors. If a parent fears a kid, is just because the kid fears the parent. That simple it is.
"That simple it is" Clearly this comment is coming from a doctor in children's behavior. Forget what the actual doctor in the video says, we should listen to you and your wise advice
@@jackcarlos Dr. Becky Kennedy explained a correlation. I agree with her conclusion. Not only, but also have respect and certain admiration of how she mediates between parents and children. We just used different words. Same Opinion. We differ about the Titel´s Description : "Deeply Feeling Kids". These are just kids who are alive yet. The less the kids are able to feel, the more dead they are. That simple it is
@@jackcarlos On average, do children need more doctors, excuse me, doctrins, or do they need ... what they ever need, also on average ? And yes, this is what Dr. Kennedy conclusion was. Thanks to her for the correct Approach, where such is needed. Appreciate her.
PS 1: Explosions happen as a result of abuse, too long accumulated and not expressed, inhibited by fear or because of shock, very bad surprise, provoking, deliberate salt on wounds. PS 2: Digital Media Parenting and its mega, giga Influence is another unaddressed ´´Biggi ´´. Who is the predominant ´´parent´´ of the over spoiled children nowadays? Printing the characters not only of the next generations. PS 3: Yet, whom did you say is first, parents or kids ? In the same manner concerning Feelings. That simple it is
This is such terrible advice. Children only understand authority in context of and adult and themselves. Use corporal punishments on your children. You are to reign in there emotions to simulate the real world which will not be so gracious to sit your child down when he road rages or some other deviant anti social behavior. The lesson in the real world often costs them their life. The lesson in the home is a sore bottom. Stop being so weak.
@@danielnaberhaus5337 That is the exception, not the norm. If the father is bad in that household then the likelihood is that the mother is bad as well which means the child won the negative lottery.
We have a toddler and dad has so much power with him. They play and the joy he has is amazing but at the same time when dad says NO, my boy stops in his tracks and really listens. Not saying I don’t play with him or say NO but it is a different thing with daddy.
There's also an argument for these kids to have ADHD/ADD and this specific yupe of tantrum is called ODD (oppositional defiance disorder). Please interview DR Russell Barkley @andrew huberman
Yeah. Life is simple. Nothing in this world is unless you using looking at it with low resolution. Lol. Kids and pets are not mirrors. Wouldn't that be nice.
@@mindflow82 Kids and pet are not mirrors only. That is clear without saying, to a healthy person, of course. They are the more accurate mirrors. Indicating that we live in an interaktive world... There is influence, especially when beings are in a dependent tender age. Whether you admit or not. Does not change reality. We all reflect, whether we want or not. Impossible , not to. We can adjust the dosage to some extend, when grown ups. We do reflect our surroundings. Fact. And yes, every being hast own initial soul, own character in development. Kids and pets are the more accurate mirrors because they are able to reflect preciser according to the influence. Not hardened, not twisted, not cruel , etc ... Give good, get good. Give bad, get bad ( english language ). Adults are often divergent, nuances, to the extremes even
I'm very distinctly remember wanting rules as a kid. I even pretended I had some! From an early age and even into my teen years I was disappointed I wanted rules and structure. I did whatever I want as a teenager linked up with other kids with parents just as bad as mine made poor choices, and it took a lot of self taught course correction.
I wish she could talk about her relationship with her son, when he felt like she wasn’t giving him enough time. She is always talking and doing interviews, that I wonder how she fixed her time with her son.
Why do they need to be So Reactive as to Need CONTROL Rather than Communication You dont want them to be feel UnSafe Its not Intellectual... Unless you are looking to Outside Influences Yay. REAL little Peoples....Happily Able to Feel. And be All of the 7 Senses. Know Thyself. INNER SENSE Connected. Inner Sense. Innocence Always Enough 😊😊😊 Blessings Professor
Love this clip and identify with the info. Much appreciation for the point of view. 🐾
I totally agree with what's been said.
How do I do this with a very hyperactive were she gets aggressive and we can't contain her to that smaller space to help them regulate. She would run out of the house if we didnt deadlock the door.
How old is your child if under 10ish think about a soft hold if she is being violent. Face her away from you and wrap your arms around her and repeat I love you and this will pass. My job is to not let you hurt yourself or others. I love you no matter what. It is so hard. I'm sorry I know how you feel.
@@Kevin.Grindel thank you.
We do try this. She doesn't like us to touch her when she is in the frame of mind. But we do say what you say when we step away and out of the room if she is in there.
My son threw a lot of tantrum when he was 4. I just let him do it and stay calm (secretly thinking it’s cute) and let him know we heading home now since he’s throwing a tantrum. If the tantrum happens inside the home i just said “ok im gonna clean the house you can talk to me whenever you are ready.” NEVER give in, stay calm & firm.
He is 10 now no more tantrum but he will try to manipulate me into getting his way. I just let him play it out and at the end i say “hey buddy you been fishing me all day and the answer is still NO.” 😂 he is very a loving and sensitive child.
Did you comment this before you listened to the video? 😂
Elaine Aron introduced the concept of a "highly sensitive person" or HSP, which Dr. Becky uses as a deeply feeling kid.
😂😂😂😂 More euphemism to make us all feel better about bad kids.
I was a good child , who is afraid of her mother at 48 years old. Yes. There is trama
hey doctor, please change the thumbnail its very misleading without context
I think that they really need to come up with a new term other than "deeply feeling children" as that is one hell of a phrasing issue. Setting that aside, it sounds silly. So, creepy sounding or silly...
On the other hand, children have to feel deep as they are learning )
Agreed. It's entitlement 101.
Simplify it. Know Thyself Inner Sense Know Thyself Limitless. Could be Habit-forming 😊😊😊
Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) already exists, why not use it.
Or maybe use "emotionally reactive kids", as that seems to be the core of the problem they're getting at.
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People are too soft these days that’s why.
Keep it simple: Cause and Reaction. That simple it is. Front door. Feelings are consequences. Not feeling anything is also a consequence, a result. You speak about parenting in an immature level, as though parents are saints only. Not even touching on passive agressive behaviour. Though, most of the reactions of kids are a result of much worse , behind closed doors. All the blame and or focus on the kids. Kids are very good mirrors. If a parent fears a kid, is just because the kid fears the parent. That simple it is.
"That simple it is"
Clearly this comment is coming from a doctor in children's behavior. Forget what the actual doctor in the video says, we should listen to you and your wise advice
@@jackcarlos Dr. Becky Kennedy explained a correlation. I agree with her conclusion. Not only, but also have respect and certain admiration of how she mediates between parents and children. We just used different words. Same Opinion.
We differ about the Titel´s Description : "Deeply Feeling Kids". These are just kids who are alive yet. The less the kids are able to feel, the more dead they are. That simple it is
@@jackcarlos On average, do children need more doctors, excuse me, doctrins, or do they need ... what they ever need, also on average ? And yes, this is what Dr. Kennedy conclusion was. Thanks to her for the correct Approach, where such is needed. Appreciate her.
PS 1: Explosions happen as a result of abuse, too long accumulated and not expressed, inhibited by fear or because of shock, very bad surprise, provoking, deliberate salt on wounds.
PS 2: Digital Media Parenting and its mega, giga Influence is another unaddressed ´´Biggi ´´. Who is the predominant ´´parent´´ of the over spoiled children nowadays? Printing the characters not only of the next generations. PS 3: Yet, whom did you say is first, parents or kids ? In the same manner concerning Feelings. That simple it is
ps 4 : some children have their own room ! WAAAW
PS 5: some text editing, again
This is such terrible advice. Children only understand authority in context of and adult and themselves. Use corporal punishments on your children. You are to reign in there emotions to simulate the real world which will not be so gracious to sit your child down when he road rages or some other deviant anti social behavior. The lesson in the real world often costs them their life. The lesson in the home is a sore bottom. Stop being so weak.
Speaking as a male raised by a single mother my advice is to be married. The biological father in the home is crucial for multiple reasons.
What if your dad is a hothead and teaches the kid to be angry? Or is an enabler?
@@danielnaberhaus5337 That is the exception, not the norm. If the father is bad in that household then the likelihood is that the mother is bad as well which means the child won the negative lottery.
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We have a toddler and dad has so much power with him. They play and the joy he has is amazing but at the same time when dad says NO, my boy stops in his tracks and really listens. Not saying I don’t play with him or say NO but it is a different thing with daddy.
Unless the father is a narcissist who undermines the authority of the mother.
I just love this guests content and hadn't heard about her until your podcast. Just pure gold!
There's also an argument for these kids to have ADHD/ADD and this specific yupe of tantrum is called ODD (oppositional defiance disorder). Please interview DR Russell Barkley @andrew huberman
Just sent this to all 4 my kids and hopefully they will receive a nugget or two as they raise mi nietos! 🙏🏽💗🕊️
Very misleading thumbnail, most kids throw tantrums, its not like its a special kind. You can tell andrews not a parent😅
Kids are the more accurate mirrors. Pets also. That simple it is.
Yeah. Life is simple. Nothing in this world is unless you using looking at it with low resolution. Lol. Kids and pets are not mirrors. Wouldn't that be nice.
@@mindflow82 Kids and pet are not mirrors only. That is clear without saying, to a healthy person, of course. They are the more accurate mirrors. Indicating that we live in an interaktive world... There is influence, especially when beings are in a dependent tender age. Whether you admit or not. Does not change reality. We all reflect, whether we want or not. Impossible , not to. We can adjust the dosage to some extend, when grown ups. We do reflect our surroundings. Fact. And yes, every being hast own initial soul, own character in development. Kids and pets are the more accurate mirrors because they are able to reflect preciser according to the influence. Not hardened, not twisted, not cruel , etc ... Give good, get good. Give bad, get bad ( english language ). Adults are often divergent, nuances, to the extremes even
I'm very distinctly remember wanting rules as a kid. I even pretended I had some! From an early age and even into my teen years I was disappointed I wanted rules and structure. I did whatever I want as a teenager linked up with other kids with parents just as bad as mine made poor choices, and it took a lot of self taught course correction.
The thumbnail misspelled tantrum
*Tantrums
I wish she could talk about her relationship with her son, when he felt like she wasn’t giving him enough time. She is always talking and doing interviews, that I wonder how she fixed her time with her son.
Loved it, thank you
Why do they need to be So Reactive as to Need CONTROL
Rather than Communication
You dont want them to be feel UnSafe
Its not Intellectual... Unless you are looking to Outside Influences
Yay. REAL little Peoples....Happily Able to Feel.
And be All of the 7 Senses. Know Thyself. INNER SENSE
Connected. Inner Sense. Innocence
Always Enough 😊😊😊
Blessings Professor
She’s rebranding Highly sensitive person.
Two narcissists. You're perfect for each other. Gross.
What are you even on about?