The graph that changed my life: STOP chasing ‘better’ and START getting REAL
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This video might be the most important thing we can talk about. We're talking about your dark side. Now, I don't mean dark as in evil-we're not talking about blood rituals hooded in a forest where we're chanting. I mean the dark side that we all have within us. It's the reason you self-sabotage your goals, it's the reason you push good people away in relationships, and it's the reason that's holding you back from making the amount of money you want. The good news is that once you know this chart that we're talking about in this video, change can happen really fast for you.
We're keeping it really simple and real, so without further ado, I'll explain this chart. We'll apply it to you in several areas such as money, relationships, happiness, and then I'll give you the solution of how to fix this. I do want to give credit to Sam Ovens, where I picked up this chart from for the first time, and it changed my life. Here we have a basic oscillation chart, and you'll notice right here there's negative 1, 2, and 3, and then there's positive 1, 2, and 3. This represents your life, gaining +3, minus +3, gaining +2, minus +2, +1, minus one. Well, what does that net out to? It nets out to zero, as if you didn't have any of the positives because they're wiped out by some of the negatives. This is the cycle that controls your life, and this part right here is what is known as your dark side, or you can use the word your shadow side-the parts of you that are holding you back or self-sabotaging. And until you recognize this cycle, it's going to run your life.
To kick this off, when I was 25, I was struggling financially, and it wasn't that I didn't work. I was working three jobs in college at once. I'd been working unofficially since I was 12 and got caught shoplifting Red Bulls wearing eyeliner and a My Chemical Romance shirt-thought I was really punk rock, story for another time. Parents like, "We're not paying for this, dude." I had to get a job and work as a golf caddy, carrying rich people's clubs and watching them throw fits when they missed the ball and break a club-it was real-life Happy Gilmore. "Son of a b, why didn't you just go home? Are you too good for your home?" So, I added up all the jobs because I was like, "Dude, I've been working since I was 12 years old, how do I have not a single dollar to show for this?" And I realized this lesson: I would make money, and then bills would come up, and then I would make some money, and I would spend it. I would make some money and find a way to spend it, and that netted out to $0. And that pattern
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You guys diggin the chart vids? Having a ton of fun making them for you. Got FOUR more already scheduled for you. Monday mornings at 7:15AM! Here's our new one... We're talking about your dark side. It's the reason you self-sabotage your goals, it's the reason you push good people away in relationships, and it's the reason that's holding you back from making the amount of money you want. Get the 11 questions to change your life now (free gift for youtube subs): www.clarkkegley.com/free-questions
Love the wholistic approach; seeing the wholeness between the highs and lows. Thank you for this amazing video @clarkkegley
This is the first time I have ever watched you, and I love the flow of it, and the chart is great. I watched it twice. Sent it to my friend who is a therapist, she will love it, and going to have my husband watch it with me. We have come a long way with meditation, and I have been working through self awareness but this visual is super helpful reference for me to recenter through out the day when needed.
The Dark Side about not Making Timestamps!
00:00 Intro
01:00 Dark Side
03:00 Not making Timestamps, pushing Viewers away and not making that Money
07:00 Solution - Making Timestamps
great explanation, thank you!!
I describe personal growth as trying to fill a bucket with holes in it, you just want more water to keep it full, rather than closing the holes...
I realized something around the time you released this video. All we really need for this world to prosper is to get real. Really, really real. We need to learn how to relax, all of us. How to be sincere instead of serious.
Absolutely nailed it with removing things from your life. Once I started to simplify every area of my life, life got a whole lot more simple. We're brainwashed into more, more, more. Trust me, it's all about less, less, less.😉
Many Blessings To Everyone, Rockweilers Rock!
My DARK Side had to learn to sit in the back seat, 471 Days O Sobriety fer this Irish man!❤
Well done! Quit last year myself. It's still a struggle but getting better. Especially when I saw the reasons why I drank.
Law of attraction works when you do the work, and face your shadow and clear those blocks. You can't just skip that step and manifest anything, it's called preparing your vessel. All these things coincide with each other.
Wait..we’re NOT talking about blood rituals? I’m out.
This 👏🏻
Yes however you can get in the trap of always needing to “clear” blocks or limitations. Lately I’ve focused on one thing … BEING. Because a lifetime of doing and clearing still left me miserable 😖 so now I AM. And it’s brought me peace 🕊️
This was great! I find that when I’m self-sabotaging, if I stop and ask myself WHY am I doing this right now, I am usually able to recognize the trigger and step away from it. Being aware of those triggers takes work but it’s worth it.
one of the most helpful things i noticed is iv been learning and not trying to accomplish something
do to learn dont learn to do
The binge after the workout is "moral liscensing." This chart really brought it home for me. Especially consuming your gains like the ouroborous. Thanks!
Identify the patterns so you can make things better. Have the courage to address the elephant in the room and things will become easier. Awesome video.
This chart reminds me that we are like energy up and down. Good days vs bad days. We hope the downs are not that often, hope we stay centered and get to taste the highs. Stay Uncommon!
❤❤❤Love this, as this is where I'm at currently. Just going through the cycles. This came up in my feed this morning as I started my morning pages and writing out my dark sides. Imagine that. Thanks Clarke 🙏
I have always felt like I'm a potato in a chip factory that fell off the belt into the gears and I'm just stuck tumbling around while I watch all the other potatoes on the belt moving along in life. I think that is exactly what you drew but as a chart!! Thank you!!!
Love this analogy I can relate
I was imagining a hamster on its wheel but your imagery is more unique 😊
You were among a few that encouraged me to work on myself and after a year of self-help sometimes i focus too much on the down turns. This video made me see the progress made and acknowledge how my life changed for good over the time. Thanks Clark, your videos are always useful to me!
I always call the 2nd type of stuck . . ."The Treadmill Syndrome" . . .exerting a lot of energy, but you're not going anywhere...It just drains the life out of you...
🙌 great analogy
I can never stick with a new habit for even a few days. I feel that's why I'm stuck. It's way easier to stop a bad habit than to start a good one.
We could shake hands on this🤝there most be a way out of it
@@krehulka5211 right? There must be a way....
Beliefs are a big part of it. When I started Believing I could do things as well as celebrating Tiny accomplishments things changed for me. If you have a Belief that Doesn't Serve You Why Have It? Those words changed my life.
@@m.k.9405 I had a bad habit of being bad at habits until I learned about habit stacking. The main point for me is to build a new habit when I'm already up off my butt to do something else that's pretty routine. The one I'm most proud of is getting the dishes caught up immediately after eating breakfast and then I take a caffeinated beverage break. Try to pair a new habit with one that's already established and follow it with some type of harmless reward.
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Excellent! Thank you!
Loved this! Just discovered you and loving your content! Thank you ❤
I have had this concept called self destruction and I never understood what to do or where I was going exactly. I also tried to figure it out, but man thank you honestly mate you really cleared all the information for me.
Thank you for this! I'm grateful for your wonderful delivery of such valuable information. I appreciate your mention of being vulnerable and raw. I believe being vulnerable in the way you talk about it
is having courage. 😊 Aware and curious are two wonderful solutions!
This is by far the BEST explanation I've heard about this concept! My cousin and I are constantly discussing shadow work, and she always says "your reality is you, pushed out into the universe," which has always bothered me because it doesn't address those unwanted outcomes, especially after putting in tons of work to produce a different set of outcomes. I guess the little nerd in me just needed a chart. 😂 Thank you!!
Facing the dark side is about being honest with yourself - what are the issues and problems that are holding you back? It's rare when someone faces their dark side and is willing to proactively work on it, because most people just don't. I want to lose weight, but I know that my habits are holding me back. I would fast, but then I wouldn't eat healthy food. I see this a lot in people, they work hard but then they let loose and everything goes back to zero.
Ur videos r super amazing and helpful and realistic and easy to understand and apply them in real life.. thankyou
Thank you for this!💕
Definitely applicable to fat loss and getting in shape too, more days of progress than setbacks and minimizing their magnitude 🔥😊
You seem like someone who's genuinely looking for true healing and fulfilment, you're also pretty smart and I appreciate you sharing what worked and what didn't work for you.
Apart from all the stigma around religion or beliefs, have you given the Quran a read before? Curious to hear your understanding from it.
Love the charts! This was really clear and helpful. Thank you so much for sharing this explanantion.
Love the energy on this one
The pyramid of achievement is build, sell invest.
Thank you Clark I really needed this....🙏❤️
First one to zee Clark's every video ❤❤
like the charts. great post
Another great video! And with your penchant for black clothes, you should get a black GSD too! 😂
MUCHAS GRACIAS CLARK, DESDE ESPAÑA
The simplest explanation that I've ever heard that is related to the dark side.
Great video! ❤
Gamifying my life changed my life. Dare to be Exceptional, Dare to be Uncommon!
Sam ovean everywhere damnnn
Valuable Video.. But not for everyone.. (I mean, you've to go through some tough times to understand this!)
Btw Love your content!
Idk about 3:24 I feel like that quote should be “it’s about the money you spend,” bc how much you make is important. It is hard survive off of a minimum wage job
My boy put me on to this when he was explaining trade analysis. Market could be going up or down. Either way u making money
The Mountain is You by Brianna Wiest is essential reading.
As a dog owner myself, I'm always checking my shoes if I smell something or it feels like a lump on the bottom of my shoe lol.
Shalom
My new boss took away all my flexibility and has me on a very strict schedule. I have been trying to think positive with daily affirmations and changing mindset but something he does or if he doesn't share necessary information with me always brings me back down and I keep getting mad/sad. I can't get out of this cycle.
Aware, curious.
Are my thoughts useful, how do they behave.
Is this out of my control, what can I do about it.
These are identifying the problem, not the solution. Still looking.
i stuck on both sides like first stuck watching a lot of videos but I don't take any action and I also stuck like a snack I will improve and leave after some time.
Yeah, I totally understand this pattern, I work and earn money and then when I check my account balance I find that my wife has spent it all! Weird!
you talk about the growth chart is not going up and up when you zoom in its have a lot of ups and downs. right I understand that
Love from India 💕
Vanisa Lua in here on the clip I know him. i watch a lot of there videos about money and buz
Truuuuuuue!!
Clark I've done shadow work for years but I have a question about pineal. Mind if I ask it here?
I love a good graph. 😂😂😂
Dark side of owning shepherds and wearing black! 😂
Hey Clark , very good video . I can do better editing in your videos which can help you to get more engagement in your videos . Pls lmk what do you think ?
Does this anything to do with Entropy? Just curious 🤔🤔🤔
INVESTING & knowing how to / what to do, bad advice, and it goes on 5 years I learned from it.
Puppy!
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Bravo, Clark. I found your explanations (and visuals) on point, simple but accurate. Very helpful. Thank you for making and sharing! ❤
thsi video is realted to me but hard to understanding
I think by now there are at least 100 graphs and chart which changed your life 🤣
Hello ❤
can you say : I'M BATMAN
funny thing's your name is Clark
In contrast to your ☀️ sign being the outer appearance your moon 🌙 sign is considered to be your truer self you don’t show the world, mine is Scorpio. Well that’s just one of the most mysterious and dark signs to have there especially with Gemini in my sun ☀️ and mercury and others, it’s like I have two forces opposing against each other and still MORE THAN NORMAL
I feel this so much. Cap sun, Scorpio moon, Gemini rising. It feels like I’m constantly battling myself and I really struggle finding the balance between my two sides.
Just go to the forest and be.
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HAPPY GIMORE IS AN iconic movie Ben stiller as the “you’re in my world now granny” in the nursing home is in other movies too it’s legendary comedy.
I’ll teach you something way better than this:
Throughout the day, narrate what you do at the 3rd person.
You’ll be surprised how much that brings awareness on stupid self sabotaging behaviours and what is behind them.
It works because it disengages the ego. Lookup psych term called “fusion” .. you want to go in the opposite direction.
Thank me later.
I worked early too and still have nothing
Maybe you spend too much time commenting on YT videos? I think you have six or seven comments on this one video? No brain filter?
Watching all these fake guru's video but what have you achieved from it
Stop watching self improvement content n go really get it bro
Dude, you have obviously never owned a St. Bernard, lol
At this point, you're just copying.
Hate doesn’t provide you to be a student
@@Funsize11111 Julie, It's not hate, you can find creators who have already taught these topics in detail there's no point in ruining the idea of the concept by uploading short clickbaity videos. Tell me, how much has your life changed after watching his videos?
I’d make them spikes not ovals/phallic shapes
Ok I figured this out I had saved 10K by age 17. So idk if that’s my issue
the stuck snake🥲
Synchronistic
what is the purpose of saving money if we don't spend it in a good way?
Great question
Problem is not spending but identifiing good way and buing sh… you do not need :)
What am I going to wear color ??? lol you sound like me. Thank you Clark 🖤🖤🖤
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Thanks a lot for this video, it really helped me understand some important things that I needed
I love you Clark this is soooo good
Ok I think I’m beyond this session I am an advanced learner. I learn from mistakes without guidance I have the ability to take advantage of toxic situations by learning from myself and those around me.