Being too clingy is one of my red flags as well. I feel like personal space is really important in a relationship or if you’re in a talking stage. It gives you and your partner time to miss each other.
It depends. My husband seemed clingy but he was just serious and intentional about making me his wife. I know dating now is alot harder than 15 years ago but don't write off all men too soon 🤗
My friend always used the saying… ‘there’s truth in a joke’. Disrespect is disrespect… no 2 ways ab it. A judgy guy many times, sadly has had past issues with abuse or he may have ‘standards’.
i think i saw a video a long time ago depicting ways a man can turn out to be physically abusive and it starts off with harmless “jokes” disrespecting her and then it escalated in him pushing the girl in a ice skating rink because he got too mad until it was full on very bad physical abuse! and you just laugh it off as a joke at first but it is something to look out for and call out if you feel disrespected in any way
A judgy guy w/standards, may very well be a Spiritual man… still… he’s not the judge… God is. @essyboo, I agree, abuse can start off in baby steps… and if parents don’t “nip it in the bud”, such as boys beating up their sisters… they may grow up hitting, abusing their women.
A judgy man may be a Spiritual man but it’s not his place to judge. Good point. Some abusers abuse from what happened to them, others may have hit their sisters + that’s where parents need to step in from the door… from day one.
i'm 19 and I've never been on a date, honestly I think the fear of sitting down and talking face to face scares me and I'm also afraid of men in every way LOLLL My God, I didn't expect so many people here, but it's good to know that I'm not alone, sisters. I turned 20 and I'm still the same, but without rushing things. I hope you overcome your fear of men LOL and be happy
Awwww you’re so young… always remember safety first.. who cares if you hurt anyone’s feelings… safety first!!!!! Wait at least 3 months before going to his house
@@Mikirono23a lot of girls send long ass in depth paragraphs to their girlfriends when texting. So it’s not a totally foreign feeling to do it with a guy too
Men who randomly bring up their ex & talk badly about her. Men who listen to red pill content. Men who talk about how expensive things are. Men who say women look better without makeup instead of complimenting how beautiful his date looks🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩!!!!!!! But more importantly. Men who plan the date in advance. Men who bring flowers. Men who express genuine interest in getting to know me. Men who smell incredible ✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅ btw. Loveeee the final look 😍😍 & the men over 30 statement about rushing is so true LOL!
I fully agree, but why does men taking about how expensive things are mean he's a red flag. I've never been on a date (I'm still in high school) so idk
@@raiinyy776 from PERSONAL experience, my last ex did this all the time. come to find out, he was broke... and he was mostly broke because he was spending all his money on a video game. its not a bad thing to call out if something is expensive by means of it not being worth the value its being sold for, but if he talks about just any and everything being expensive, he probably has some financial issues or some kind. its hard to explain/describe, but if he does it CONSTANTLY, then it is an issue.
Somebody on tiktok said she doesn't talk otp/text men every day who she's "just dating" because it creates a level of emotional intimacy for her that is unsustainable esp. if they never get together. And that clicked for me. I cannot invest 3-5 hours of my day (outside of an actual date) with you and not get caught up emotionally. So my rule is when it's time to be official, you can get my time.
But people are different. Some people are more extroverted and emotionally aware. There is someone for everyone and one theory is hard to apply to so many different personalities. This idea makes sense but how do you build with anyone emotionally or decide who deserves your time if you don't put in any to make it grow for future steps? There just has to be a balance depending on if your personality seems to match theirs. Especially because first dates are a bit awkward and it takes investigation to decide if the next dates are feasible. Long but my opinion on this. I'm 30 and dating was hard when I was overthinking it. Now I'm going to be married because I found someone online, didn't overthink, and once I understood our personalities matched and our conversation styles did (which doesn't take too long) , I put in the effort and fell in love❤
- A man that is overly attached to his mom and relies on her to do basic things for him - A man that needs to be touching/kissing you all the fucking time, like can't we just talk? - A man that doesn't even notice you are uncomfortable in a situation if you don't voice it.
@@modernstylehomes7535 thanks for the concern, but it’s not about advice. I just love this kinda content from Tea and hopefully my comment will inspire her to do more.
You look beautiful. Personally I have no experience with men ‘cause dating scares me a lot so i tend to be really closed off. Hope your date night went well
she didn't explain why, but gworls, never let a man pick you up for a first date cuz you don't know him. PERIOD. Plain and simple. He could seem like a nice guy over text or whatever, but he could end up kidnapping you, or taking you to his house or just somewhere where you might not feel comfortable, because he might have ulterior motives (I know that sounded very intense, but it's VERY possible). He is driving, in HIS car, meaning HE has the power in that situation (another reason why if you do end up having a man pick you up on a first date, just take a few seconds to make sure the child lock on ur door isn't on, incase you need to jump out if he's being weird)
When dating, I look for guys who I talk with most of the days, mixtures of calls and text. It is not everyone’s thing, but someone who can easily go over half a week shows me lack of effort or that he is trying to keep up with a roster. When we are in some form of routine of communication, instead of that here & there method, I am more comfortable making plans to see them in my free time because I feel like that is someone who is not only highly responsive when they think they’re going to see me, that they still care to know me on days we both work.
Best advice I got very early give a relationship 3 months to figure out whether on not you want to be with each other if they not sure at the end then move on to the next and most of all let God guide your heart and the right relationship will happen
girl you look so cute and classy 🤍 I loved this kinda video im 17 so I feel like I learnt a lot too. its soo important and I love when girls know their worth
You are such a mature thoughtful young lady. Being in my 70's you provided such insight about dating in the 21st century. It was quite illuminating and refreshing to hear your perspective which I truly appreciated. It demonstrates how women's thinking has evolved over the decades. Your level headedness speaks volumes. I applaud you 👏 and good luck 🍀.
I am so happy to be out of the dating scene. I've been on so many dates that it no longer gave me anxiety nor was it something that was really something to look forward to. For reference, where I live, there are an abundance of single people as well. But I never had the same mindset of wanting someone who wanted nothing to do with me unless we were together. My fiance and I moved extremely quickly and two years flew by in a blink of an eye. Maybe the mindset you're talking about is for people who would like more casual dating? Like I know for a fact I'd be devastated talking to someone for a year before it became official. I understand it's different strokes for different folks though
I agree with you on the ghosting. Also on the saving a bunch of questions for an in person date, so you have stuff to talk about. And I also have a black simple dress that’s my first date “uniform” so it’s easy
girl you don’t gatekeep anything!! thank you for including the links to everything in the description and for being a good example on how i should value myself as a young woman! i’m graduating hs next week so i really needed this reminder of how people are and how to preserve myself but also be able to put myself out there.
Just allow things to flow naturally. Don’t over think it or over analyze. Remember everyone is different. If you want to know something just ask that person directly. Don’t assume anything. Also pay attention to actions and not words. Plus avoid taking advice from people who are failing at relationships. Last tip, don’t expect treatment from someone you are not 16:13 willing to give as well. For example, if you are expecting an expensive date, ask yourself if you would be willing to do the same for that person. That’s my advice. *I have been married 14 years, and we just allowed everything to happen naturally. I feel this generation over complicates things by making list and sweating the small things. Remember people are human , not objects. There is no such thing as a perfect person, but there is someone perfect for you. Don’t allow a check list to make you miss out on something good.
I think when you meet the right person, even if you’re moving fast, it’ll feel right. But if they’re moving fast and you think it’s questionable trust your gut! Also I think it’s less awkward when you save all the questions for face to face because if you know everything before the date it’s like taking the mystique and fun away. (Side note: I’m gonna test Angel share next time I’m in Sephora)
@@ssafiyah4960 not all the time, but yea. Maybe sometimes. My parents were married within 9 months of meeting. And they’ve been together since 1980. Really just depends on the two people and where they are in life and what they’re looking for.
@@ssafiyah4960 yes men were very different back in the days, misogynistic, very very homophobic (more homophobic then than now) but that doesn’t mean anything. all men are different. so like the person said, if y’all are moving fast, it’ll feel right if it IS right
@@JUS2324 lol I'm talking about men who wants to go fast without our approbation. It's a red flag. Y'all don't understand I shouldn't waste my time commenting here
Do you think it’s a concern if two people have been dating for several months but still have not tried the whole talk on the phone situation? The dating/hang outs still happen along with the texting though … 🫣
I wholeheartedly agree with you. Talking on the phone and texting is the lowest form of communication. So much can be misconstrued, especially when you’re just getting to know someone.
I think men in their 30s are just not dating to date, they’re dating to marry. They’re more experienced, further along in life etc… So they’re gonna take it more serious than someone in their 20. That said, like you said love bombing and moving too fast is still very much a thing.. so of course vet them out properly. Love this video, beautiful as always ♥️
Age doesn’t mean anything with a man hun. That only applies to women. I feel like you’re in a dangerous bubble if you think 30 yr old men are mature & experienced & are dating to marry.
Yes, I can second that. I used to think the same thing and date men in there 30s but I learned very quickly that they are still doing the same things and still have the mindset of a 20yr old when it comes to dating. Don’t look at the age of a man, study his actions that is the only true way you can know he is ready for marriage.
Hey Tea,I have been watching your content for a while and lately I feel like we've been seeing more of your personality lately like in this video and it's so cool to me and super enjoyable. ❤
when i met my bf he literally called me every day just to check if im fine or sum and we really had great talks so imo it depends on th person youre trynna date
when I was 25 I was dating a 33 year old teacher and he was such a flirt and I didn't know his mom would come over and do his laundry on weekends LOL! There are some childish 30 + year olds out there so not all older men are in a rush to get serious. I am sure you will get a hold of that one good man in your life tea 💕 I met the loml a year later and we're 6 years strong (who is a year older than me) and we got married! it'll happen for you✨
What I love about your make up routine is that your brows are huge (like me) you just make them look natural so that takes the pressure off when I follow your routine if that makes sense. Love your videos 🫶🏽
Be careful because I think your beauty scares men that's what causes the control narcissist issues.. they think your to good for them so they try to reverse the embarrassment.. it's crazy but being beautiful is not safe with men especially if you got seductive sex appeal they'll usually move fast and crash everything so just get a long distance relationship and slowly make it official.
i could spend all day just watching Tea glam up and talking BTW agree with everything u said abt dating i dnt even have expectations anymore on men lol
I hope you have a great Date Tea! ☺️ Everyone has standards. Be honest & follow your heart. If you feel something is off or you're not into them. Don't set up a 2nd Date or agree to a 2nd Date. Respectfully reject them. Be sure to have some type of protection at all times. Try going out of your norm for Dates. Doing that will allow you to see how a Person is. Regardless of age, be you, & always be a Lady. 😁
Loved this video and learnt a lot from what you had to share... also loved seeing your personality a bit more. can totally relate with your experience of dating 30+ year old men, been in two relationships with these older men and they definitely rushed things and were somewhat controlling, like I had minimal authority in the relationship. considering these relationships didn't last I'm definitely putting more caution on older guys. Definitely going to be using the statement you mentioned on how to communicate to a guy that you'd prefer slowing things down. really wish I had done this before. but anyway we live and learn I guess. thank you so much for this video, looking forward to seeing more similar content for sure!
I’m early 30s and whenever I date guys my age or even a few years older they all behave like 20 something guys. Extremely immature and emotionally unavailable. I hate it here so now I’m just single not trying at the moment. I think the guys older than you are def trying to live bomb you cause you’re very beautiful, soft spoken and young they want they to lock you in make you unavailable to other men so they don’t have competition. Keep listening to your intuition it’ll never fail you. Hope your 1st date was amazing and fun.
I love this girl. Sorry to say but I have been seeing her thumbnail and just thought " another pretty girl on youtube? shocker" but she's beautiful all around.
You're so pretty and that outfit is perfect! Cute, comfy, simple! Right now, I unfortunately result to online dating cause I never meet anyone while I'm out and about and we typically meet up at a park or something so it's super casual, which I don't mind, that's one less thing to stress about when we're both dressed down but I'm starting to miss a nice date night out with a little more effort. I just turned 37 though and I recently lost about 20lbs with another 30 or so to go so I'm admittedly self conscious about dating while I'm trying to lose weight. Since a lot of men online are all about the healthy lifestyle and gym life with a bunch of pics and/or vids of them lifting, it sometimes feel like the physical is the most important thing so I will typically swipe left on those shirtless gym bro profiles in hopes of someone who highlights other hobbies they enjoy that I find interesting or enjoy myself like riding horses or tinkering with their jeep or car. Hopefully, I can meet someone more organically soon🤞🏾🤞🏾
Omg I agree on 30+ year olds moving so fast! I feel like they act like we should have some type of loyalty to each other when we’ve only started dating 😭 it’s so different
Really enjoyed the video & dating talk/advice! I love the concept of a dating uniform & you look stunning & im definitely picking all those items up asap 😂
Very Important! I would suggest don’t drink on a date so you’re aware of what’s going on and you aren’t in a vulnerable state . A lot of men are drinkers and that’s their go to on dates is getting their date to drink!!
I prefer texting during the day in bursts over phone calls.Nothing too crazy, but I like consistent communication and talking. Phone calls every day or multiple during the day is a red flag for me.
This was so interesting. I also was one of those people who hated being on the phone if I didn't know someone. My current bf of a year used to ask me to FT and I would ghost him after because I would be so uncomfortable on the phone. But after I met him on our first date, we were on FT every day after that nonstop and I loved talking to him. He soon became the only person I spoke to lol but also we were semi long distance so we still FT all the time.
I watched this and this is AMAZING also if ur cleaning a beauty blender DONT USE DISH SOAP after I did it my skin got tiny Lil bumps and were SO ITCHY instead use a soft skincare item like that's for masks u make custom or something BUT DONT USE THE CLAY MASK ONES
New subscriber. Love the energy. I see she does not upload regularly. I've been waiting on a follow up video 🙏 I just hope all is well. A man could lose his mind the way she showed up looking on that date. Girl you are STUNNING you should have a bodyguard 😅
@@TeaRenee Girl yes. I hope you read this 😆 but let me tell you. I'm older than you but I so enjoy your channel it helps me tune into my soft feminine side after going through some HARD times & MAN you are light years ahead of most. I am SO glad you dodged that bullet... Do not look back. You stick to your guns & respect your boundaries so absolutely beautifully. I wish you all the best 🥰 I know your mom is so proud of the woman you're becoming. Never EVER sacrifice a thing, you can and will have it all!! 💛 Much love
had to subscribed when you pulled out angel share. best scent ever. i can't justify the price so i have an arab perfume with the same notes but has a boozier base.
Being too clingy is one of my red flags as well. I feel like personal space is really important in a relationship or if you’re in a talking stage. It gives you and your partner time to miss each other.
It depends. My husband seemed clingy but he was just serious and intentional about making me his wife. I know dating now is alot harder than 15 years ago but don't write off all men too soon 🤗
@@Sm84641EXAAAAACTLY
My friend always used the saying… ‘there’s truth in a joke’. Disrespect is disrespect… no 2 ways ab it.
A judgy guy many times, sadly has had past issues with abuse or he may have ‘standards’.
A judgy dude is insecure about himself and projects onto others
i think i saw a video a long time ago depicting ways a man can turn out to be physically abusive and it starts off with harmless “jokes” disrespecting her and then it escalated in him pushing the girl in a ice skating rink because he got too mad until it was full on very bad physical abuse! and you just laugh it off as a joke at first but it is something to look out for and call out if you feel disrespected in any way
A judgy guy w/standards, may very well be a Spiritual man… still… he’s not the judge… God is.
@essyboo, I agree, abuse can start off in baby steps… and if parents don’t “nip it in the bud”, such as boys beating up their sisters… they may grow up hitting, abusing their women.
A judgy man may be a Spiritual man but it’s not his place to judge. Good point. Some abusers abuse from what happened to them, others may have hit their sisters + that’s where parents need to step in from the door… from day one.
i'm 19 and I've never been on a date, honestly I think the fear of sitting down and talking face to face scares me and I'm also afraid of men in every way LOLLL
My God, I didn't expect so many people here, but it's good to know that I'm not alone, sisters. I turned 20 and I'm still the same, but without rushing things. I hope you overcome your fear of men LOL and be happy
Might have to be friends with them first
I was that way too. I am still am scared of men at 28 but not as much. I only bother with one's worth my time
I am 20 and same 😂. I don't even know any boy at all in real life. Don't know how it feels when they're near. Kind of scared of them as well
Awwww you’re so young… always remember safety first.. who cares if you hurt anyone’s feelings… safety first!!!!! Wait at least 3 months before going to his house
@@supposedlyhuman frr why is it so scary like whyyyy
I agree, be intentional when dating! And yes I hate being on the phone all day, just let me know when are we linking up.
dont call just text me! pleaseee I cant stand it lol
@@TeaRenee but to get to know someone texting is bad
@@TeaReneesame and so many guys always want to be on the phone or ft instead of texting 😩
As a woman, I hate texting. Texting is for small convos only. Who about to be writing long paragraphs and constantly on the watch on their phone?
@@Mikirono23a lot of girls send long ass in depth paragraphs to their girlfriends when texting. So it’s not a totally foreign feeling to do it with a guy too
Men who randomly bring up their ex & talk badly about her. Men who listen to red pill content. Men who talk about how expensive things are. Men who say women look better without makeup instead of complimenting how beautiful his date looks🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩 🚩!!!!!!! But more importantly. Men who plan the date in advance. Men who bring flowers. Men who express genuine interest in getting to know me. Men who smell incredible ✅✅✅✅✅✅✅✅ btw. Loveeee the final look 😍😍 & the men over 30 statement about rushing is so true LOL!
I agree
I fully agree, but why does men taking about how expensive things are mean he's a red flag. I've never been on a date (I'm still in high school) so idk
@@raiinyy776I’m also wondering
@@raiinyy776 from PERSONAL experience, my last ex did this all the time. come to find out, he was broke... and he was mostly broke because he was spending all his money on a video game. its not a bad thing to call out if something is expensive by means of it not being worth the value its being sold for, but if he talks about just any and everything being expensive, he probably has some financial issues or some kind. its hard to explain/describe, but if he does it CONSTANTLY, then it is an issue.
@@m1ssb1mbette ohhh, i see. yeah, constantly yapping abt it and not doing anything makes sense
Somebody on tiktok said she doesn't talk otp/text men every day who she's "just dating" because it creates a level of emotional intimacy for her that is unsustainable esp. if they never get together. And that clicked for me. I cannot invest 3-5 hours of my day (outside of an actual date) with you and not get caught up emotionally. So my rule is when it's time to be official, you can get my time.
When they're clingy texting and calling every time and very fast in the beginning, they ghost and disappear very fast
From experience, that’s true, get latched as if we kissed and have barely got together but have 100 hours work of conversation
@@ssafiyah4960 exactly! It’s really a game to see how much time you’re willing to sacrifice. They have to know you’re busy and your time is important.
But people are different. Some people are more extroverted and emotionally aware. There is someone for everyone and one theory is hard to apply to so many different personalities. This idea makes sense but how do you build with anyone emotionally or decide who deserves your time if you don't put in any to make it grow for future steps? There just has to be a balance depending on if your personality seems to match theirs. Especially because first dates are a bit awkward and it takes investigation to decide if the next dates are feasible.
Long but my opinion on this. I'm 30 and dating was hard when I was overthinking it. Now I'm going to be married because I found someone online, didn't overthink, and once I understood our personalities matched and our conversation styles did (which doesn't take too long) , I put in the effort and fell in love❤
Let's factor in the failures and not dwell in them. Let's love our soft girl era and fall in love 💕
Don’t let your guard down because he’s 30+. It doesn’t make him a man. All the rules still apply.
a word!!!
This is so true. Just because someone is older doesn’t mean they’re mentally mature!
- A man that is overly attached to his mom and relies on her to do basic things for him
- A man that needs to be touching/kissing you all the fucking time, like can't we just talk?
- A man that doesn't even notice you are uncomfortable in a situation if you don't voice it.
I need a Tea Renee dating series...tips and tricks and how to stay centered in your grind/work while making time to put yourself out there.
you don’t need advice from every influencer. You just need to believe in yourself and have standards.
@@modernstylehomes7535 thanks for the concern, but it’s not about advice. I just love this kinda content from Tea and hopefully my comment will inspire her to do more.
You look beautiful. Personally I have no experience with men ‘cause dating scares me a lot so i tend to be really closed off. Hope your date night went well
i def understand this, take your time dont force anything! dating will always be there so put yourself first ❤️
she didn't explain why, but gworls, never let a man pick you up for a first date cuz you don't know him. PERIOD. Plain and simple. He could seem like a nice guy over text or whatever, but he could end up kidnapping you, or taking you to his house or just somewhere where you might not feel comfortable, because he might have ulterior motives (I know that sounded very intense, but it's VERY possible). He is driving, in HIS car, meaning HE has the power in that situation (another reason why if you do end up having a man pick you up on a first date, just take a few seconds to make sure the child lock on ur door isn't on, incase you need to jump out if he's being weird)
When dating, I look for guys who I talk with most of the days, mixtures of calls and text. It is not everyone’s thing, but someone who can easily go over half a week shows me lack of effort or that he is trying to keep up with a roster. When we are in some form of routine of communication, instead of that here & there method, I am more comfortable making plans to see them in my free time because I feel like that is someone who is not only highly responsive when they think they’re going to see me, that they still care to know me on days we both work.
awe i love that!!! i'm the oldest daughter tooooo
Best advice I got very early give a relationship 3 months to figure out whether on not you want to be with each other if they not sure at the end then move on to the next and most of all let God guide your heart and the right relationship will happen
girl you look so cute and classy 🤍 I loved this kinda video im 17 so I feel like I learnt a lot too. its soo important and I love when girls know their worth
I’m the oldest daughter so watching u made me feel like watching an older sister for a bit 🥹
You are such a mature thoughtful young lady. Being in my 70's you provided such insight about dating in the 21st century. It was quite illuminating and refreshing to hear your perspective which I truly appreciated. It demonstrates how women's thinking has evolved over the decades. Your level headedness speaks volumes. I applaud you 👏 and good luck 🍀.
You said sth that I could relate to “ at first you think oh he’s the one for me till you are like oh! I don’t see this going anywhere” real!
How did it went??? did you liked him?? you deserve the best girlyy!!! love your personality
Like we wanna knowwwww
bahahahhaha thank you sweetness, it was a good time tbh but we'll SEE I'll keep yall updated
@@TeaReneeand???
I am so happy to be out of the dating scene. I've been on so many dates that it no longer gave me anxiety nor was it something that was really something to look forward to. For reference, where I live, there are an abundance of single people as well. But I never had the same mindset of wanting someone who wanted nothing to do with me unless we were together. My fiance and I moved extremely quickly and two years flew by in a blink of an eye. Maybe the mindset you're talking about is for people who would like more casual dating? Like I know for a fact I'd be devastated talking to someone for a year before it became official. I understand it's different strokes for different folks though
so gorgeous
Thanks angel
I agree with you on the ghosting. Also on the saving a bunch of questions for an in person date, so you have stuff to talk about. And I also have a black simple dress that’s my first date “uniform” so it’s easy
Sometimes it’s scary rejecting a man. These men are crazy nowadays. I give out a google number instead of my real number lol
Ugh so true. I've been using Google number since age 20. Tea, please remember this tip!
Crazy
so smart I'm gonna start doing this! i just give my number to avoid the drama and block them later 🤣
Girl what's a Google number?
google number ? and if they call ur number in front you ?
girl you don’t gatekeep anything!! thank you for including the links to everything in the description and for being a good example on how i should value myself as a young woman! i’m graduating hs next week so i really needed this reminder of how people are and how to preserve myself but also be able to put myself out there.
Just allow things to flow naturally. Don’t over think it or over analyze. Remember everyone is different. If you want to know something just ask that person directly. Don’t assume anything. Also pay attention to actions and not words. Plus avoid taking advice from people who are failing at relationships. Last tip, don’t expect treatment from someone you are not 16:13 willing to give as well. For example, if you are expecting an expensive date, ask yourself if you would be willing to do the same for that person. That’s my advice.
*I have been married 14 years, and we just allowed everything to happen naturally. I feel this generation over complicates things by making list and sweating the small things. Remember people are human , not objects. There is no such thing as a perfect person, but there is someone perfect for you. Don’t allow a check list to make you miss out on something good.
I think when you meet the right person, even if you’re moving fast, it’ll feel right. But if they’re moving fast and you think it’s questionable trust your gut! Also I think it’s less awkward when you save all the questions for face to face because if you know everything before the date it’s like taking the mystique and fun away. (Side note: I’m gonna test Angel share next time I’m in Sephora)
If they move fast they disappear fast
@@ssafiyah4960 not all the time, but yea. Maybe sometimes. My parents were married within 9 months of meeting. And they’ve been together since 1980. Really just depends on the two people and where they are in life and what they’re looking for.
@@Imanixo2 yeah men were different back in the days, but I'm talking about dating nowadays in 2024
@@ssafiyah4960 yes men were very different back in the days, misogynistic, very very homophobic (more homophobic then than now) but that doesn’t mean anything. all men are different. so like the person said, if y’all are moving fast, it’ll feel right if it IS right
@@JUS2324 lol I'm talking about men who wants to go fast without our approbation. It's a red flag. Y'all don't understand I shouldn't waste my time commenting here
I legit don’t like being on the phone unless I’m completely comfortable 😂
SAME it's so awkward to me & then idk how to end the call 🤣
Do you think it’s a concern if two people have been dating for several months but still have not tried the whole talk on the phone situation? The dating/hang outs still happen along with the texting though … 🫣
But wouldn't it be more awkward in person if you feel like it's awkward on the phone?
I wholeheartedly agree with you. Talking on the phone and texting is the lowest form of communication. So much can be misconstrued, especially when you’re just getting to know someone.
This is my first time in the channel and I loved you! The make up. the tips, everything 10/10
I love this type of personal content… you are so beautiful and talented and you have a great personality ILY
I hope it went well !! You looked beautiful as always ❤love this video idea!
it was fun hehe, thank you i'm glad you liked it
I think men in their 30s are just not dating to date, they’re dating to marry. They’re more experienced, further along in life etc… So they’re gonna take it more serious than someone in their 20. That said, like you said love bombing and moving too fast is still very much a thing.. so of course vet them out properly. Love this video, beautiful as always ♥️
Sorry to pop your bubble even these 30 year olds are just as bad
@@accessdenied5262 lmaoo
@@accessdenied5262agreeeeed. 30’s men are horrible
Age doesn’t mean anything with a man hun. That only applies to women. I feel like you’re in a dangerous bubble if you think 30 yr old men are mature & experienced & are dating to marry.
Yes, I can second that. I used to think the same thing and date men in there 30s but I learned very quickly that they are still doing the same things and still have the mindset of a 20yr old when it comes to dating. Don’t look at the age of a man, study his actions that is the only true way you can know he is ready for marriage.
Hey Tea,I have been watching your content for a while and lately I feel like we've been seeing more of your personality lately like in this video and it's so cool to me and super enjoyable. ❤
you’re so pretty and down to earth! hope your date went well❤
when i met my bf he literally called me every day just to check if im fine or sum and we really had great talks so imo it depends on th person youre trynna date
That lip combo is so pretty
Didn’t think you could possibly get any prettier but here we are 😍
Had to re-comment I accidentally deleted 💕
Thanks for sharing all these moments with us!
as someone who has never dated i loved watching this
this felt like a ft call😂😂i was geeked for you, but please do more of these🥰
You looked stunning! Aaaand, how did it go? Was he worth your special occasion perfume? 🥰🤭👀
Age doesn't matter they all need to grow up!!!
omg YES LOL
I just found her channel and I already love it, she has a very gentle and elegant vibe 🩷
when I was 25 I was dating a 33 year old teacher and he was such a flirt and I didn't know his mom would come over and do his laundry on weekends LOL! There are some childish 30 + year olds out there so not all older men are in a rush to get serious. I am sure you will get a hold of that one good man in your life tea 💕 I met the loml a year later and we're 6 years strong (who is a year older than me) and we got married! it'll happen for you✨
My immediate “nope” is if they start talking about money/investments 🚩🚩🚩🚩
What I love about your make up routine is that your brows are huge (like me) you just make them look natural so that takes the pressure off when I follow your routine if that makes sense. Love your videos 🫶🏽
The above 30 men one is def true for me (and a lot of people I've talked to as well)
Be careful because I think your beauty scares men that's what causes the control narcissist issues.. they think your to good for them so they try to reverse the embarrassment.. it's crazy but being beautiful is not safe with men especially if you got seductive sex appeal they'll usually move fast and crash everything so just get a long distance relationship and slowly make it official.
Thank you so much for advising ladies never let a guy pick you up!! So true!! And you look beautiful, hope you find the right man for you 💕❤
i could spend all day just watching Tea glam up and talking
BTW agree with everything u said abt dating
i dnt even have expectations anymore on men lol
I hope you have a great Date Tea! ☺️ Everyone has standards. Be honest & follow your heart. If you feel something is off or you're not into them. Don't set up a 2nd Date or agree to a 2nd Date. Respectfully reject them. Be sure to have some type of protection at all times. Try going out of your norm for Dates. Doing that will allow you to see how a Person is. Regardless of age, be you, & always be a Lady. 😁
Miss Girl, let me just say that you are so pretty!! ❤
Missed you girl. The hair cut is soo beautiful. ❤
I am totally with you on the "alpha" thing. I feel like, if you gotta say that, you not what you think you are.
I just love your video T… please keep them coming. So refreshing!!!❤❤❤
That Youth the the People cleanser is the businesssss oh my god. That and their superfood moisturizer had my skin looking brand new.
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That eye makeup is holy moly crazy ❤ I lie you didn’t even do your eye makeup yet you just have beautiful eyes
Loved this video and learnt a lot from what you had to share... also loved seeing your personality a bit more. can totally relate with your experience of dating 30+ year old men, been in two relationships with these older men and they definitely rushed things and were somewhat controlling, like I had minimal authority in the relationship. considering these relationships didn't last I'm definitely putting more caution on older guys. Definitely going to be using the statement you mentioned on how to communicate to a guy that you'd prefer slowing things down. really wish I had done this before. but anyway we live and learn I guess. thank you so much for this video, looking forward to seeing more similar content for sure!
6:22 love that !!!! Next girl!
I’m early 30s and whenever I date guys my age or even a few years older they all behave like 20 something guys. Extremely immature and emotionally unavailable. I hate it here so now I’m just single not trying at the moment. I think the guys older than you are def trying to live bomb you cause you’re very beautiful, soft spoken and young they want they to lock you in make you unavailable to other men so they don’t have competition. Keep listening to your intuition it’ll never fail you. Hope your 1st date was amazing and fun.
Girl you are stunning, and I cannot stop admiring your nose ring, I've been looking for a dainty simple one like that everywhere!
I love the idea of a "date uniform"
You and ayra starr have a striking resemblance
this was such a nice and comfortable video to watch. you are looking so good!!
her skin is so fineeee
you have such a great personality! this literally felt like a fun facetime call
You gave really good advice!
You look so stunning, just like a doll! ❤😊 Loved the makeup look and how you talked about boundaries (especially when talking to someone new)
I love this girl. Sorry to say but I have been seeing her thumbnail and just thought " another pretty girl on youtube? shocker" but she's beautiful all around.
You're so pretty and that outfit is perfect! Cute, comfy, simple! Right now, I unfortunately result to online dating cause I never meet anyone while I'm out and about and we typically meet up at a park or something so it's super casual, which I don't mind, that's one less thing to stress about when we're both dressed down but I'm starting to miss a nice date night out with a little more effort. I just turned 37 though and I recently lost about 20lbs with another 30 or so to go so I'm admittedly self conscious about dating while I'm trying to lose weight. Since a lot of men online are all about the healthy lifestyle and gym life with a bunch of pics and/or vids of them lifting, it sometimes feel like the physical is the most important thing so I will typically swipe left on those shirtless gym bro profiles in hopes of someone who highlights other hobbies they enjoy that I find interesting or enjoy myself like riding horses or tinkering with their jeep or car. Hopefully, I can meet someone more organically soon🤞🏾🤞🏾
I find your videos very calming
Rewatching for like the 10th time because you are genuinely one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen❤❤
I love your vibe, such a pretty soul
The makeup is beautiful and you are gorgeous! Thank you for all the tips, really helpful 💞
I don’t even like being on the phone 24/7 with my closest friends much less a man..no thanks
Yeah the 24/7 days have gone down to 24 seconds unless it’s literally a call ‘for a good reason’.
EXACTLY
THIS
Omg I agree on 30+ year olds moving so fast! I feel like they act like we should have some type of loyalty to each other when we’ve only started dating 😭 it’s so different
Love!! your beautiful natural makeup. I love!! your natural makeup.
that hourglass lip gloss is sooo niceee y’all need to try it out 😫🫶🏼0:48
I saw the thumbnail and clicked instantly. I love your makeup style so much I have to recreate this. Thanks for sharing! ❤️
This is such good big sis advice! Thank you for all the knowledge!
Really enjoyed the video & dating talk/advice! I love the concept of a dating uniform & you look stunning & im definitely picking all those items up asap 😂
Very Important! I would suggest don’t drink on a date so you’re aware of what’s going on and you aren’t in a vulnerable state . A lot of men are drinkers and that’s their go to on dates is getting their date to drink!!
This is off topic but the way you do your makeup is how I want mine 😩
Loved your vibe so much!
If he’s that much of a stranger, u need a ‘dummy phone’ in addition to ur real ‘tracker’ phone 😊
Great conversation! But all emotions are controllable! ❤
You look so pretty pudd!
thank you bby!
I prefer texting during the day in bursts over phone calls.Nothing too crazy, but I like consistent communication and talking. Phone calls every day or multiple during the day is a red flag for me.
the intro is so real😭😭 you’re gorgeous bae keep shining
OMG girl you have the most beautiful eyes!
This was so interesting. I also was one of those people who hated being on the phone if I didn't know someone. My current bf of a year used to ask me to FT and I would ghost him after because I would be so uncomfortable on the phone. But after I met him on our first date, we were on FT every day after that nonstop and I loved talking to him. He soon became the only person I spoke to lol but also we were semi long distance so we still FT all the time.
Can we please get a prom makeup and prep inspired video! I literally can’t do makeup for my life. And you eatttt ❤
I watched this and this is AMAZING also if ur cleaning a beauty blender DONT USE DISH SOAP after I did it my skin got tiny Lil bumps and were SO ITCHY instead use a soft skincare item like that's for masks u make custom or something BUT DONT USE THE CLAY MASK ONES
New subscriber. Love the energy. I see she does not upload regularly. I've been waiting on a follow up video 🙏 I just hope all is well. A man could lose his mind the way she showed up looking on that date. Girl you are STUNNING you should have a bodyguard 😅
lol thank you!!! the update is live now 🫣
@@TeaRenee Girl yes. I hope you read this 😆 but let me tell you. I'm older than you but I so enjoy your channel it helps me tune into my soft feminine side after going through some HARD times & MAN you are light years ahead of most. I am SO glad you dodged that bullet... Do not look back. You stick to your guns & respect your boundaries so absolutely beautifully. I wish you all the best 🥰 I know your mom is so proud of the woman you're becoming. Never EVER sacrifice a thing, you can and will have it all!! 💛 Much love
girl youre so prettyyy
You inspired me to make a list 🤭 no luck with dating now, but setting my boundaries + expectations in advance
had to subscribed when you pulled out angel share. best scent ever. i can't justify the price so i have an arab perfume with the same notes but has a boozier base.
YAAAYY new videoooo :))
Edit: hope it went well!!💕
You look so good omgg!!
I too feel like someone wanting to call me all the time and we just started dating I think they are trying to keep tabs on me. And it’s kinda weird
first time watching your video and the first clip got me saying " damn shes gorgeous!" out loud