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Reekay, I’ve never heard a better description of what destroyed my 15 year marriage with five children. Like your friend, I did not believe in divorce and endured the inquisition, false accusations, and even slander to pastors and friends that I was cheating when that was the furthest thing from my mind having five kids and a wife to take care of with a full-time job. I was even grilled by two assistant pastors that she had convinced who tried to get me to confess as well when there was absolutely no evidence, no guilt. I even went out of my way to avoid speaking to any woman. she convinced herself to the point that she went to a lawyer and filed for separation. At that point, the marriage was forced to end in divorce. it was a mental illness. It’s a shame my kids had to go through that because of imaginary confabulations. There was no escaping it like you described. it was torment. I have remained single for 16 years and now my kids are grown and all understand that their mom had a deep problem and I had never been guilty of her accusations. so I have a good relationship with them. 🤷🏼♂️ so this is a good warning to anybody dating someone with this issue -RUN AWAY! I implore you.
Jealousy is based in insecurity. The person doesn't feel good enough and believes you deserve better and it's only a matter of time before you discover this. Or, they've had someone betray them in the past and they haven't healed from the trauma. They can't bear that pain blindsiding them again so they accuse to feel like they have some control.
Jealousy is usually caused by the lack of trust in your partner. If you do not trust your partner then the relationship will fail even if the lack of trust is unfounded.
Reekay, I’m positive you know my ex, even the narrative of the questions is spot on. You can’t win with a person like this. They wear you down till you give up. Logic doesn’t work with them.
Thanks Reekay, great perspectives! In my little world, I lump jealousy, hate, greed, anger, and everything that's not healthy for me into what I perceive as negative emotions. I try my best just to not go there, and as a result, I can live my life with my piece of mind, and a positive attitude. If someone near me has any of these negative traits, I steer clear of them, and don't even consider a friendship with them. Surrounding myself with generally positive people really helps to encourage the good life I want.
A more accurate term to use instead of "jealous" might be "insecure" or "possessive". We say "jealous" to coddle their feelings, but it really is "insecurity" and means that there is something wrong with them that they need to work on and fix.
Jealousy is rooted in low self esteem, distrust and an unreasonable spirit and is 100% toxic to a relationship. Many woman cannot understand that a casual look amounts to nothing to most men. Unfortunately many men have roving eyes and bring doubt into the relationship. Some women are so insecure that they cannot overcome jealousy and cannot maintain a healthy relationship. As Always, May God Bless you and yours! 😇
Mine said that her Grandmother and cousins confirmed that I was looking at her Mom in my casual look during karaoke her mom is still younger than me. I had to describe to her that her mom can't have kids and I coughed up all the criteria that she fit when I'd set out to find a filipina. I guess that that fixed the problem as there was never a problem since, but when we were at the mall she was very quiet always because there were so many well-to-do filipinas walking around giving her looks. Were they hotter than my wife? no, not really. It's all about attitude and my wife's attitude is far superior than these filipinas I see out and about but she sure does get jealous.
I dated a woman like this for a few months. I was busy starting my business working from the moment I woke up to the moment I fell asleep for *years*. I gave her two chances to question my honor on the third time I told her it was over. I would have ended it on the first accusation, but the same honor couldn't let me drop someone in case I was misunderstanding her. Like they say, once is an accident, twice is a coincidence, three times is a pattern.
It does get old verrrryyyyy fast. I had an ex nearly this bad (yes, a Filipina). Every woman in the store "You were looking at her!!!!", "Who?", "Don't act dumb, you know who I'm talking about!!!"... Once, she accused me of checking out her good friend, who was quite attractive. I literally looked at them talking, and said "Hi" as I walked through the room and left. Wow, it was world war 3 for a week. I tested her once...We went to a different friend's house, and this friend is not attractive at all, quite overweight, etc. While they were talking for 40 minutes, I spent the entire time looking at that friend's legs, looking at her up and down, rarely taking my eyes off her. My ex did not even notice, and never said a word about it. So...every attractive woman I'm "Checking out" while the unattrative ones I'm behaving even though I stare at them lol. Whew, glad that's over.
I also had a GF like that for a few months, years ago. She is today well past the 40s, and still alone. I guess she will end up alone for the rest of her days. I think these "Serial Jelaous" people have a mental condition, and should seek help from a specialist.
My ex-wife, whom I reconnected with after 20 years of not communicating, told me that she had been very jealous of me because of me being a mechanical genius and so good at building anything, repairing anything, or being the best prototype machinist where I worked. She was trying to compete with me and thought that she couldn't, so she left. Funny thing is that after we reconnected, she was trying to compete again. It didn't work out.
Jealousy can pop up for the craziest reasons sometimes. My asawa of 22 years had been away for a few days at the beach resort she owns about an hour and a half from Davao in Pantucan, Davao de Oro. When she got back, she happened to see some of what she called, vagina hairs on the toilet after she had used it. She quizzed me about it, suggesting that I had a 'visitor' in our condo. She felt kind of embarrassed when I reminded her that she had public hair around her vagina and that I have pubic hair too.
Jealousy comes from insecurity. ALL women are insecure- to varying degrees at different times. The inquisition is control and/ or boredom. I smell narcissism and/ or histrionic coping strategies. Either way I don't have time for middle school girl games. PS It's NOT that they don't want to lose YOU, they don't want to lose CONTROL OF YOU.
3:00 - the reason why his wife is doing this actually - is because she wants him to do something that makes her feel that jealousy. I had the same issue with my ex and I didn't understood not until we break up and she confessed to me. She would start to feel jealousy "out of nowhere" like - i saw how you looked at this girl. And I was like - huh? What girl? I didn't even notice her. So it really was created in her mind from a thin air. Because of that I tried to be even more carefull so she wont feel something like it. And it made it so much worse. Because the actual reason was that she didn't feel the jealousy and she wanted to. She wanted to know other women want me, that I want and can choose some other girl, that I can potentially cheat. But I was boring, not doing that or not even give a hints of that. I am more than sure, that your friend from the story in the beginning of the video is having the same situation.
Woman speak is a mystery wrapped in a conundrum betwixt an enigma: “hey do you think I look fat in this dress”? ANY ANSWER YOU GIVE GETS YOU THE VIRTUAL FIRING-SQUAD !
Dr. Reekay...I know i've been out of the dating game for a while...But I can't believe that there are women like that...First time a woman bugs me about where and what I'm doing...The game will be over and I will move on..especially if they think I'm cheating...Man oh man...This will not last in my life...Don't Doubt me..!!
15:58 - trusting a woman is like trusting your car. If you do not control it, repair, handle and most importantly don't know how to drive in a first place - trust wont help you. Period. The very guys that blindly trust their girlfriends, letting them go on a girls trips or going on a walk with a male friend - are the first ones who will be cheated on or raise someone elses child for years! I know everyone wants to believe in that trust thingy, but read my first sentence.
I had this with a Filipina. Completely irrational and intolerable. Broke up after the 3rd inquisition. Will not be in a relationship where there is no trust.
I find it so hard that Filipina girls love drama 🎭 even if they are loyal and very loving ! It’s like Fire and Water 💦. The culture needs to be adjusted. They are very jealous but in PH phone is life so how do you trust? 😅
Unless you do something that makes Filipina jealous but once they trust you jealousy is never a problem. You’re meeting the wrong girls if you can’t trust them with their phones. Once in a while try to evaluate yourself as well why and what’s the reason they are jealous from there you can reflect if it’s valid or not. Sometimes guys is the problem especially those who doesn’t know what they want that way you’re confusing the girl.
@@Lifebeyondthesea I trust her, we been together over 2 years. I had to tone down the all day video chats, office, car, home, sleeping, lost myself! because it became overwhelming and we had to adjust to it. That's when all the fights and drama started. But, it's better now. I would like to be there full time in like 5-6 years planning now. I can relate to what your saying. I think I got lucky the first time. The family is great. My 3rd trip is coming up.
This is a mental problem most likely caused by bad experiences. It's not something I can fix. The jealous person needs to recognize it as a problem and work on fixing themselves. For me, it's a red flag precursor to future problems that I'm simply not going to deal with. I'll have the conversation once. I won't be nice about it. Next time it happens, she's history. I'm not a psychologist, and I don't have time to waste on dead-end bvllshit.
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Reekay, I’ve never heard a better description of what destroyed my 15 year marriage with five children. Like your friend, I did not believe in divorce and endured the inquisition, false accusations, and even slander to pastors and friends that I was cheating when that was the furthest thing from my mind having five kids and a wife to take care of with a full-time job. I was even grilled by two assistant pastors that she had convinced who tried to get me to confess as well when there was absolutely no evidence, no guilt. I even went out of my way to avoid speaking to any woman. she convinced herself to the point that she went to a lawyer and filed for separation. At that point, the marriage was forced to end in divorce. it was a mental illness. It’s a shame my kids had to go through that because of imaginary confabulations. There was no escaping it like you described. it was torment. I have remained single for 16 years and now my kids are grown and all understand that their mom had a deep problem and I had never been guilty of her accusations. so I have a good relationship with them. 🤷🏼♂️ so this is a good warning to anybody dating someone with this issue -RUN AWAY! I implore you.
I think overly jealous people are projecting their own guilt. They are usually up to no good And think you are too.
extreme Jealousy has to a cluster B personality disorder similar to Narcissism. It's untreatable !
Do you have any kids? No? Walk away from jealousy. Enough said.
The best thing is to confess your undying love for the cashier you just met.
😅😅😅 wake up outside the pearly gates.
Jealousy is based in insecurity. The person doesn't feel good enough and believes you deserve better and it's only a matter of time before you discover this. Or, they've had someone betray them in the past and they haven't healed from the trauma. They can't bear that pain blindsiding them again so they accuse to feel like they have some control.
Jealousy is usually caused by the lack of trust in your partner. If you do not trust your partner then the relationship will fail even if the lack of trust is unfounded.
Relationships are trust, if there is no trust then there is no relationship.
Shakespeare's Othello calls jealousy "the green eyed monster", which ultimately led to his destruction.
Reekay, I’m positive you know my ex, even the narrative of the questions is spot on. You can’t win with a person like this. They wear you down till you give up. Logic doesn’t work with them.
Thanks Reekay, great perspectives! In my little world, I lump jealousy, hate, greed, anger, and everything that's not healthy for me into what I perceive as negative emotions. I try my best just to not go there, and as a result, I can live my life with my piece of mind, and a positive attitude. If someone near me has any of these negative traits, I steer clear of them, and don't even consider a friendship with them. Surrounding myself with generally positive people really helps to encourage the good life I want.
I feel exhausted just listening to this. lol Grateful for my self awareness. Peace ☮
A more accurate term to use instead of "jealous" might be "insecure" or "possessive".
We say "jealous" to coddle their feelings, but it really is "insecurity" and means that there is something wrong with them that they need to work on and fix.
Jealousy is rooted in low self esteem, distrust and an unreasonable spirit and is 100% toxic to a relationship.
Many woman cannot understand that a casual look amounts to nothing to most men. Unfortunately many men have roving eyes and bring doubt into the relationship.
Some women are so insecure that they cannot overcome jealousy and cannot maintain a healthy relationship.
As Always, May God Bless you and yours! 😇
Mine said that her Grandmother and cousins confirmed that I was looking at her Mom in my casual look during karaoke her mom is still younger than me. I had to describe to her that her mom can't have kids and I coughed up all the criteria that she fit when I'd set out to find a filipina. I guess that that fixed the problem as there was never a problem since, but when we were at the mall she was very quiet always because there were so many well-to-do filipinas walking around giving her looks. Were they hotter than my wife? no, not really. It's all about attitude and my wife's attitude is far superior than these filipinas I see out and about but she sure does get jealous.
I dated a woman like this for a few months. I was busy starting my business working from the moment I woke up to the moment I fell asleep for *years*. I gave her two chances to question my honor on the third time I told her it was over. I would have ended it on the first accusation, but the same honor couldn't let me drop someone in case I was misunderstanding her. Like they say, once is an accident, twice is a coincidence, three times is a pattern.
i've done the same.. 3-strikes rule. it's fair.
It does get old verrrryyyyy fast. I had an ex nearly this bad (yes, a Filipina). Every woman in the store "You were looking at her!!!!", "Who?", "Don't act dumb, you know who I'm talking about!!!"... Once, she accused me of checking out her good friend, who was quite attractive. I literally looked at them talking, and said "Hi" as I walked through the room and left. Wow, it was world war 3 for a week.
I tested her once...We went to a different friend's house, and this friend is not attractive at all, quite overweight, etc. While they were talking for 40 minutes, I spent the entire time looking at that friend's legs, looking at her up and down, rarely taking my eyes off her. My ex did not even notice, and never said a word about it. So...every attractive woman I'm "Checking out" while the unattrative ones I'm behaving even though I stare at them lol.
Whew, glad that's over.
You are now one of my favorite tubers! Second video of yours as your content is intelligent and applies to anyone anywhere!
thanks! i appreciate it.
Wow. I could never deal with this. Just too much!
Good video Reekay
I also had a GF like that for a few months, years ago. She is today well past the 40s, and still alone. I guess she will end up alone for the rest of her days. I think these "Serial Jelaous" people have a mental condition, and should seek help from a specialist.
My ex-wife, whom I reconnected with after 20 years of not communicating, told me that she had been very jealous of me because of me being a mechanical genius and so good at building anything, repairing anything, or being the best prototype machinist where I worked. She was trying to compete with me and thought that she couldn't, so she left.
Funny thing is that after we reconnected, she was trying to compete again. It didn't work out.
Why did I picture her doing the Rocky training montage before making breakfast? 😅😅😅
Agreed!
Jealousy can pop up for the craziest reasons sometimes. My asawa of 22 years had been away for a few days at the beach resort she owns about an hour and a half from Davao in Pantucan, Davao de Oro. When she got back, she happened to see some of what she called, vagina hairs on the toilet after she had used it. She quizzed me about it, suggesting that I had a 'visitor' in our condo. She felt kind of embarrassed when I reminded her that she had public hair around her vagina and that I have pubic hair too.
1 Cor 13...LOVE is NOT jealous
Jealousy comes from insecurity.
ALL women are insecure- to varying degrees at different times.
The inquisition is control and/ or boredom.
I smell narcissism and/ or histrionic coping strategies.
Either way I don't have time for middle school girl games.
PS
It's NOT that they don't want to lose YOU, they don't want to lose CONTROL OF YOU.
Easy. Don’t deal with it. Grow up or hit the road.
3:00 - the reason why his wife is doing this actually - is because she wants him to do something that makes her feel that jealousy. I had the same issue with my ex and I didn't understood not until we break up and she confessed to me. She would start to feel jealousy "out of nowhere" like - i saw how you looked at this girl. And I was like - huh? What girl? I didn't even notice her. So it really was created in her mind from a thin air. Because of that I tried to be even more carefull so she wont feel something like it. And it made it so much worse. Because the actual reason was that she didn't feel the jealousy and she wanted to. She wanted to know other women want me, that I want and can choose some other girl, that I can potentially cheat. But I was boring, not doing that or not even give a hints of that. I am more than sure, that your friend from the story in the beginning of the video is having the same situation.
Woman speak is a mystery wrapped in a conundrum betwixt an enigma: “hey do you think I look fat in this dress”? ANY ANSWER YOU GIVE GETS YOU THE VIRTUAL FIRING-SQUAD !
No, it's not the dress.
Dr. Reekay...I know i've been out of the dating game for a while...But I can't believe that there are women like that...First time a woman bugs me about where and what I'm doing...The game will be over and I will move on..especially if they think I'm cheating...Man oh man...This will not last in my life...Don't Doubt me..!!
Very well explained, thank you for the insights.
Glad it was helpful!
15:58 - trusting a woman is like trusting your car. If you do not control it, repair, handle and most importantly don't know how to drive in a first place - trust wont help you. Period. The very guys that blindly trust their girlfriends, letting them go on a girls trips or going on a walk with a male friend - are the first ones who will be cheated on or raise someone elses child for years! I know everyone wants to believe in that trust thingy, but read my first sentence.
My Filipina GF is extremely jealous. She thinks someone will "take me away from her." I think she will feel more secure as time goes on.
That's like a woman saying she's a little pregnant. 😅
"that's how it starts"...yah Filipina gf of mine extremely jealous, killed the relationship
I had this with a Filipina. Completely irrational and intolerable.
Broke up after the 3rd inquisition.
Will not be in a relationship where there is no trust.
Sometimes it is better to rent than to own …
Thank you.
Is he a doofy? A woman with THAT type of behavior will delete you.
How about enjoying your golden years without being chained to a bad marriage in the Phils?
that is always an option.
I find it so hard that Filipina girls love drama 🎭 even if they are loyal and very loving ! It’s like Fire and Water 💦. The culture needs to be adjusted. They are very jealous but in PH phone is life so how do you trust? 😅
Unless you do something that makes Filipina jealous but once they trust you jealousy is never a problem. You’re meeting the wrong girls if you can’t trust them with their phones. Once in a while try to evaluate yourself as well why and what’s the reason they are jealous from there you can reflect if it’s valid or not. Sometimes guys is the problem especially those who doesn’t know what they want that way you’re confusing the girl.
you look for consistency over time. a trustworthy person is consistent about it. a cheater will be found out with time.
@@Lifebeyondthesea I trust her, we been together over 2 years. I had to tone down the all day video chats, office, car, home, sleeping, lost myself! because it became overwhelming and we had to adjust to it. That's when all the fights and drama started. But, it's better now. I would like to be there full time in like 5-6 years planning now. I can relate to what your saying. I think I got lucky the first time. The family is great. My 3rd trip is coming up.
Just left Joan because of her carry in no limits to her 1:33
This is a mental problem most likely caused by bad experiences. It's not something I can fix. The jealous person needs to recognize it as a problem and work on fixing themselves. For me, it's a red flag precursor to future problems that I'm simply not going to deal with. I'll have the conversation once. I won't be nice about it. Next time it happens, she's history. I'm not a psychologist, and I don't have time to waste on dead-end bvllshit.
It is a "disease".
i doubt any woman "caught jealousy" from a dirty toilet seat or sharing a jealousy-infected drinking cup.
@@LifebeyondtheseaDis-ease as in uneasiness of the mind.