Divorce is the worst pain I've ever had to endure. Acceptance of what happened, forgiveness for your ex, and faith in the future have helped me. Faith in God helps tremendously as well.
2 years later and this is saving my life. Thank you. Divorce is really tough. Probably the toughest thing I’ve done. Never been closer to suicide than now.
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
I hear you man. Check out my other video about 3 quick tips to getting over divorce quicker. I give exactly that, practical advice on how to do that. Let me know what you think
You really have to try to focus on what's on the other side of the hurricane. My entire life that I had planned is gone. I should have been promoted to SFC in the US Army, I was supposed to get my 5th consecutive good conduct medal, I would had been reenlisted by a General who reenlisted me as a Major the first time, a Lieutenant Colonel second time, and now he's a Brigadier General. Instead I have been demoted, after my Retention Control Point date, and have started clearing out of the army. The RCP policies have changed, but I don't think I'm saving my career, nor retirement. So, I've had to plan to go to school and be working for Elon Musk in about 5 years, making at least $200k a year, and I have a little invested, maybe good someday, maybe not, I don't know, but it seems like it will be good after about 10 years. I'm going to buy a used older BMW or something really nice. It'll have some miles on it, but still in good shape. It will look expensive even though it won't be, but that will make me feel much better, when we're leaving the courtroom and she sees me getting into that car and instantly sees that I'm better off without her. Get a pilot's license if you can, or do something you love, make all of your future plans, specifically for yourself.
Wish my wife lots of luck navigating a single life at the age of 62. When sex is not there for 20 years why continue. I live in Vegas. Sell the house ,get my condo and my Tesla.
I divorced 6 years ago... it has been a status quo none of us had moved on to anybody. Now she has moved on... and i feel like the whole shit is starting all over again. or as if without this part it has never been over, I have never been through her without this step. I fear that this will never be ove, now facing that I will be forced to watch what they will do together with my children... Its is killing me. how will I ever be over her???
Sorry to hear what you are going through. It sounds like you haven't moved on. I think you know the answer... you need to mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually move on. This is the best thing for you, period. It will be the best thing for her and for your kids if you have kids.
yes. I must admit that I havent moved on.... I have to face it... How can I move on when everey week I am around them to pick up ,/ drop the kids? Is there a technic to get over this in this situation? i am thinking about leaving my children... just for my own sanity. Its a total trap...@@Mensdivorceplaybook
Keep in touch with you kids, travel ,do what makes you happy, travel and do not get into another relationship. At the age of 68 my wife and are divorcing. I am ok with it. Starting to navigate my third chapter
You have to focus on you! Do what you want! You’re free!! If you’re in you’re late 30s and 40s it’s better, as long as you focus on yourself, money, the women will come, just don’t but do not commit. The women will follow. Focus on you’re health and beauty. Hit the gym, have a goal.
23 years of marriage gone. I was in love, she was so important to me, but I am starting to cope, I go to the gym, started repelling, spent time with my 21 year old. Some days are good, some days I cry all dam day, and miss my life.I want calm.Thanks for your knowledge in this.
@@jvas33 Thank you for that, what a wonderful analogy, It is so very true! I have stopped trying to figure out why I am am sad, when the emotions come to the surface. I try to focus on now.
Me too. I have good days. And bad days. I cry. I was with her for 16 years. She seems like she's dealing with it fine while I'm hurting. I don't understand
Appreciate your video. Went thru a legal separation three months ago. I found prayer helps for me, talking to a higher power - really helps. Also, listening to podcasts like yours while I am doing chores or working out, drowns my negative thoughts away and at the same time gets educated and entertained. But quiet time is absolutely important
Really helpful only 13 days ago i divorced my wife who was doing all the bad things she could i will follow your instructions i have downloaded it will watch it for 5 to 10 times more thanks bro all the way from Pakistan
Man thank you so much for this video my wife asked 8 days ago for a divorce and I am in the dumps, thought everything was going well in the marriage. 💔🤦🏻
I saw a video that said 160,000 men have committed suicide due to divorce issues. That's more than the Vietnam war, Korean war, and Desert storm combined. Get help if you need it, make solid plans that work for you, and see what is beyond the storm of the divorce. See something that you love on the otherside, and just focus on that. Things will get difficult, but remember to refocus your thoughts to something, that is worth having fir yourself after the storm passes. I'm not out of this yet, but I have some solid plans to really make something of what I have left of this life.
@@Mensdivorceplaybook thank you! Really can’t accept the fact that I m getting divorced with a person who I thought to spend the rest of my life with! Thoughts keep distracting and I m falling into depression!
@@gunjasoni Depending on how fresh it is, that’s normal and understandable. Essentially you’ll go through a grieving process. It’s necessary and not wise to try to avoid. Eventually you’ll decide you want to feel better
Two years going, and your advice is the best I've come across yet !! Thanks
Thanks man! Glad it was helpful
Divorce is the worst pain I've ever had to endure. Acceptance of what happened, forgiveness for your ex, and faith in the future have helped me. Faith in God helps tremendously as well.
Good stuff
Don’t let her live in your head rent free!
True!!!
2 years later and this is saving my life. Thank you. Divorce is really tough. Probably the toughest thing I’ve done. Never been closer to suicide than now.
Sometimes you think you're on the verge of a breakdown when really you're on the verge of a breakthrough.
@@Mensdivorceplaybook Thank you for the words of wisdom 🙏🏼. Working on myself to be a better overall man.
@@kpzza That's the best medicine. Best of luck!
I'm right there with you brother... I'm at day two.. and feel like I might die from grief.
Be easy brother. 20yrs together just recently divorced. It’s gonna be okay.
A meditation “rep” (like working a muscle) is acknowledging a thought, letting it pass, then refocusing on your breathing.
I like it William
Glad to be of service.
@@williampowell3378 I always appreciate positivity online
Good content, needed this ,appreciate it man, All the best to you🇯🇲
Thanks for chiming in, glad I could help
Trying to turn my failure to reset opportunity. Thanka for your greatly helpful advice
My pleasure, glad it helped
Awesome videos, goin through separation this def helps, like the touch on meditation 🧘♀️
Thanks Joseph, best of luck to you
Awesome video! Thanks man
Glad I can help
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
That’s what women do.
That’s was great man
Thanks, hope it helped
Watch your thoughts…that’s where the pain lives.
Choose Happiness
Bingo!
Unfortunately i have been through this before Unfortunately and it's no easier especially since this time there's two beautiful little girls involved.
Best of luck to you brother
It’s tough to “let it go” when you invested 35 years into her. Everyone gives that advice but nobody gives any practical advice how to do that.
I hear you man. Check out my other video about 3 quick tips to getting over divorce quicker. I give exactly that, practical advice on how to do that. Let me know what you think
You really have to try to focus on what's on the other side of the hurricane.
My entire life that I had planned is gone.
I should have been promoted to SFC in the US Army, I was supposed to get my 5th consecutive good conduct medal, I would had been reenlisted by a General who reenlisted me as a Major the first time, a Lieutenant Colonel second time, and now he's a Brigadier General.
Instead I have been demoted, after my Retention Control Point date, and have started clearing out of the army.
The RCP policies have changed, but I don't think I'm saving my career, nor retirement.
So, I've had to plan to go to school and be working for Elon Musk in about 5 years, making at least $200k a year, and I have a little invested, maybe good someday, maybe not, I don't know, but it seems like it will be good after about 10 years.
I'm going to buy a used older BMW or something really nice. It'll have some miles on it, but still in good shape. It will look expensive even though it won't be, but that will make me feel much better, when we're leaving the courtroom and she sees me getting into that car and instantly sees that I'm better off without her.
Get a pilot's license if you can, or do something you love, make all of your future plans, specifically for yourself.
I have learnt to never marry again
Wish my wife lots of luck navigating a single life at the age of 62. When sex is not there for 20 years why continue. I live in Vegas. Sell the house ,get my condo and my Tesla.
I divorced 6 years ago... it has been a status quo none of us had moved on to anybody. Now she has moved on... and i feel like the whole shit is starting all over again. or as if without this part it has never been over, I have never been through her without this step. I fear that this will never be ove, now facing that I will be forced to watch what they will do together with my children... Its is killing me. how will I ever be over her???
Sorry to hear what you are going through. It sounds like you haven't moved on. I think you know the answer... you need to mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually move on. This is the best thing for you, period. It will be the best thing for her and for your kids if you have kids.
yes. I must admit that I havent moved on.... I have to face it... How can I move on when everey week I am around them to pick up ,/ drop the kids? Is there a technic to get over this in this situation? i am thinking about leaving my children... just for my own sanity. Its a total trap...@@Mensdivorceplaybook
Keep in touch with you kids, travel ,do what makes you happy, travel and do not get into another relationship. At the age of 68 my wife and are divorcing. I am ok with it. Starting to navigate my third chapter
The timing of this is spectacular. Going through a separation right now. Thank you so much!
I'm glad I could help. Check out some of the other videos I've made.
You have to focus on you! Do what you want! You’re free!! If you’re in you’re late 30s and 40s it’s better, as long as you focus on yourself, money, the women will come, just don’t but do not commit. The women will follow. Focus on you’re health and beauty. Hit the gym, have a goal.
Yes sir!
23 years of marriage gone. I was in love, she was so important to me, but I am starting to cope, I go to the gym, started repelling, spent time with my 21 year old.
Some days are good, some days I cry all dam day, and miss my life.I want calm.Thanks for your knowledge in this.
Thanks for commenting. Things will continue to improve
Grief is love with nowhere to go.
@@jvas33 Thank you for that, what a wonderful analogy, It is so very true!
I have stopped trying to figure out why I am am sad, when the emotions come to the surface. I try to focus on now.
Me too. I have good days. And bad days. I cry. I was with her for 16 years. She seems like she's dealing with it fine while I'm hurting. I don't understand
Me too and the ex wives seem all to have moved on in no time leaving us behind
Appreciate your video. Went thru a legal separation three months ago. I found prayer helps for me, talking to a higher power - really helps. Also, listening to podcasts like yours while I am doing chores or working out, drowns my negative thoughts away and at the same time gets educated and entertained. But quiet time is absolutely important
Hey @Abel, thanks for chiming in. Best of luck to you
Dude, you have no idea how much positive encouragement this amazing video has given me.. THANK YOU sir THANK YOU SO DAMN MUCH
Happy to hear it! Thanks for commenting
Great advice. Going through it currently and having a hard time with it all but your video really helped! Thank you
Glad to hear I could help
I don't write comment much if ever. But, I really needed this video. If I had any $ left I send it to you. Thanks
🙏🏼 I'm glad I could help
Meditation is lack of action and wasting time. Make a plan with realistic goals and use that time to work towards those goals.
Maybe you should make a video
What heard was get your self worth back and have fun
I think that could only help
My wife divorced me now I live in my car with my dog
Keep your head up, it will get better
Same...and jobless
You are saving my life sir ! Thank you
Glad I could be of help
In pain - I'm really struggling.
Feel for you, it will improve
On a Sunday morning I accepted my reality Ann’s found this video to get out of this slump! Thank you
Glad I could help, best of luck brother
Excellent and appreciated. You seem normal and have gone through crap yourself. Thanks for posting.
Thanks David, and yes sir
Really helpful only 13 days ago i divorced my wife who was doing all the bad things she could i will follow your instructions i have downloaded it will watch it for 5 to 10 times more thanks bro all the way from Pakistan
Thanks Yasir, hope it helps. Best of luck!
Man thank you so much for this video my wife asked 8 days ago for a divorce and I am in the dumps, thought everything was going well in the marriage. 💔🤦🏻
Sorry to hear you got blind sided, glad to hear you found my video to be helpful
I saw a video that said 160,000 men have committed suicide due to divorce issues.
That's more than the Vietnam war, Korean war, and Desert storm combined.
Get help if you need it, make solid plans that work for you, and see what is beyond the storm of the divorce. See something that you love on the otherside, and just focus on that.
Things will get difficult, but remember to refocus your thoughts to something, that is worth having fir yourself after the storm passes.
I'm not out of this yet, but I have some solid plans to really make something of what I have left of this life.
Great point. I used the love of my child as my inspiration to be healthy and a better man on the other side. Thanks for the comment
Absolutely, it's so important to focus on something positive, especially in such horrible times.
@@brendonadams9330 Did you check out my other videos like the "3 tips"?
Damn, she took your whole house...got you living in the swamps of florida lmmfao 🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Thank you, helpful. Feeling depressed right now.
Thanks for commenting. Hang in there, it will get better. Check out my other videos. Hope it helps
Just got the news this morning and boy does it hurt thanks for this video
Sorry to hear it. Glad I could potentially help
Thank you so much for this! Going through a divorce process right now don’t know where to do anymore and what to do with my life!
Better times are coming. You have a chance to start over and create a new life. One that is much better than the one you had been living. Best of luck
@@Mensdivorceplaybook thank you! Really can’t accept the fact that I m getting divorced with a person who I thought to spend the rest of my life with! Thoughts keep distracting and I m falling into depression!
@@gunjasoni Depending on how fresh it is, that’s normal and understandable. Essentially you’ll go through a grieving process. It’s necessary and not wise to try to avoid. Eventually you’ll decide you want to feel better
Needed this today great advice thank you!
Glad I could help! Check out my other videos too
Just signed divorce papers yesterday on our 13 year anniversary.
Best of luck to you
Me too.
Very helpful. Thanks a million for this.
My pleasure Tobias, glad it helped
Just what I needed to hear this morning. Very helpful. Thanks
Awesome, thanks for sharing
Thank you
My pleasure, hope it helped
Thanks
My pleasure. Best of luck
Very practical, beyond boundaries, big thanks from Pakistan!
My pleasure, glad I can help