Tyler Perry & the Business of Selling Stuggle Love to Black Women
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In Arab and Hispanic cultures, there is a saying: "When hunger comes through the door, love goes out the window." We *CANNOT* sustain ourselves off of love *ALONE* , ladies.
AMEN!
It's because of the hyper-romanticized ideal of love. I grew up with traditional men and their love language was provision. Sure, as a young girl being fed all the romantic stuff, I thought, well, they're not too in their feelings and talking talking talking....I want a man that expresses his love verbally but now looking back at my granda and father's love language, I kinda prefer it. Those men saw what needed to be done and did it for their families. They took pride in keeping food on the table and spending money in their wives' purses. My mom worked at her small business and dad still sent her money monthly. Same with my granda.
I've dated someone that was vocal about love...bla bla bla...love love love... but the actions didn't match those words. Love is a verb for me now. If you love, you would do what needs to be done. You can't be saying you love me and be fine with me paying all the bills while you pay just the electric bills.
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Love can’t pay a light bill, gas bill, phone bill, rent or put food on the table. Dating just for love in 2023, is crazy as hell 😂
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He sold the most unhinged scenarios to black women. He’s a true menace !!!!
Absolutely! A case study needs to be done on the impact of his toxic "art" form.
I used to say the only good that came of his movies is black actresses had work. At this point I would rather they be unemployed.
@@mynameispeaches Like for real !!!! Being unemployed sometimes is a blessing if it what working means 💀
@@teamfrank9666his art form is call bafoonery minus the amusement
Exactly. TP has always been a menace. These dudes stay on code defending their own 🗑️. I’m happy BW are starting to recognize this.
They will protect their own while throwing BW (their mother, daughters, wives, etc etc) under the bus.
I love how in the same week that this went viral, there was another video of a white couple that went viral where the man said he paid 35k for his wife's ring and he still thinks that 35k wasn't enough and she deserves more...yet we're told to settle for a paid light bill😹🤦🏾♀️we can't make this up
WAKE IT UP! You’re right. And then another video of a black couple interviewed by the same guy went viral and guess what? Another dusty narrative where the woman is settling with her live-in dusty when he doesn’t even think she deserves a $1.5k engagement ring nor does he see the value in marriage 🤦🏿♀️
We can’t make this stuff up. The mindset disparity between BM and their male counterparts of different races is very telling.
Also, he looked like he was in his mid 20s but were told black men trying is enough???? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The woman wasn’t white but brown girl. No one is told to settle other than black woman.
I think they were south asian, like Pakistani/Indian couple
@@yaziyeff2413 y’all always make stuff up to fear monger and make men with money villains lol.
Y'all remember Tyler's movie Acrimony when that woman worked like a dog and her husband did nothing to contribute. Then Tyler turned that character into mental case, bitter, angry & unhinged black woman for being abused, betrayed and used like a work mule. He wrote that character to punish black women for not remaining loyal to ride or die cause on the rare case that he finally becomes successful. This man is diabolical and sinister.
That character was indeed a ride or die for 15+ years.
He does the same thing on his show Sistas with Karen and Zac
Blame Gen X. Gen X black women made Tyler perry popular and black male worship popular. Gen X black women literally ruined the chances of younger black women from having choice because Gen X black women dominate black female media and told anyone who was listening (or not) that nothing but a black man will do.
I keep seeing the word *sinister* paired with his name...he's been duping black women for over a decade.
Yeah that was a fkd up story when it comes to the dutiful wife. She got the chit end of the stick.
My husband and I both make >100K. I was stopped at work today by a black security guard who asked me what I thought of the black man and the black woman. I immediately knew what he was getting at. I pretended to need more clarity to the question and deflected the same question back to him in a different way. You know black men just want to speak their piece anyway so it didn’t take long for him to spew the nonsense about the government kicking the BM out of the house and how BW think they are “up here” and trying to be the man. Then came the speech about how we need each other and BM can only talk to a BW. I didn’t say much but on this I did ask him So who can BW talk to? He was stumped on that one for a minute. He also asked me if I knew “the hierarchy”. I swear. This man has no clue who he is talking to (or maybe he did hence why he questioned me). I’m 52 years old and have had their number since the 80’s.
My opinion nothing good ever comes of announcing your high standards. Just date the men who qualify and pass on the ones who don’t. No explanations or apologies.
Amen
Yes.
Exactly. I've never done struggle. I just observe the bw around me and hope one day they realize they deserve better.
Spot on ❤.
@@caramelspice7244 the older generations (which I am part of) gets blamed for struggle love. I guess some of that is deserved. But I had a 26 year old black co worker who is deep into “black love” and sympmathizing with what black men are “going through”. I just had to bite my tongue. My mom was a LS preference and she was another one for that. Meanwhile the minute I clocked where women my shade stood with them, I expanded my options. I dunno. I am not wired to like people who don’t like me. It’s really that simple.
Even Disney got in on the struggle love narrative with Princess and the Frog
Literally...yet other races were sold the idea of love through their princesses🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I just told someone this. The prince was a high value broke man. He was only surviving on his name. Tiana was the hardworking hustler
I also want to say that, I think in 2024 Disney is making an original African Disney princess story....BUT she is a warrior princess 🤦🏿♀️
@@2023Mermaidwow SOOOO original 🙄😒
I'm a fiction writer and I am taking it upon my self to write stories with feminine black women! Damsels in distress and all, cos if I can't find it I'll just have to create it.
Tyler Perry has always portrayed BW in a negative light in his movies so I’m not surprised that he said this. Quite frankly I’m beyond annoyed because everyone else is allowed to have standards but BW. We’re always expected to settle for less than what we deserve and I’m glad that times are changing. This generation of BW are rejecting the idea of struggle love and I’m all the way here for it ❤️
TP’s narrative will not go quietly. We’re barely out of the era where successful BW were told to give felons a chance. Now it’s just the underemployed. I strongly echo Christie’s sentiment of being proud of us. We have to fight against not only BM peddling this poison but the male identified BW.
This bum made his fortune making fun of black women and portraying us as fat, masculine and unhinged. When will we learn that black female dollars are important? Cut these people off. Why don't they tell these black bums to up their game?!? Look... Him, Iyanla and all these people promoting struggle love can go pound salt.
Our peers arent black men. That is the bottomline.
He especially portrays successful, career BW in a negative light.
@@DarlingEbony yep 💯
I stopped watching his movies because of this 😏
They always want black
Women to settle for less it’s absolutely ridiculous a billionaire has no business telling us this
While simultaneously shaming us for not choosing better🤦🏽♀️
Sitting in his mansion, and leaning back on luxury pillows all funded by primarily Black women saying we should take what we can get and let a man pay the light bill while we (bw) pay the mortgage 😮and “other stuff.” Because bw being shamed and brainwashed into lowering our standards has worked out so well. They don’t do this and offer this advice to any other group of women. They know better.
A billionaire who built his wealth from black women
An unmarried billionaire at that.
@@vegannn7178-Nothing comes close to a woman who said, he created Madea to sustain Tyler.
Let’s give Chrissie some praise for ALWAYS being ahead of the curve. She was speaking on colorism for years and now it’s a topic all over YT. Chrissie pivoted to hypergamy and dating advice for DSBW years ago and “soft life” was the THING last year. Chrissie foresaw a bunch of KS clones popping up eventually and now we have a black billionaire making the shift because they see how convo and money is made by talking down on BW. Look, I’ve been supporting for years now and I’m just stating what I’ve observed 🤷🏾♂️
She’s 100% a trendsetter haha
@@fatimah230definitely a trendsetter. She’s been doing Gods work out here for us
We only have each other to protect ourselves from this mad ass, colorist ass, racist ass world ! Chrissie always wanted the best for us
Agreed. Chrissie has always been ahead of the curve. ❤❤❤. Go Chrissie.
Chrissie got A LOT OF heat. I supported her when most people was giving her flack. She woke me up long ago
This conversation is tired and embarrassing. My husband asked if Black men were embarrassed by the community’s low standards for them and asked why hasn’t anyone suggested that Black men step their game up? The coddling and perpetual victimhood is ridiculous. Great video Chrissie!
Frankly, I see this as the rhetoric of a defeated ppl. Only ppl who know they can't hack it encourage this kind of foolishness. For ppl who know their worth and want to achieve, settling isn't an option.
Wish these Black men would just admit they've lost the fight, are satisfied with where they're stuck, and leave the rest of us Black women alone.
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The BM who tells BM step it up doesn’t get the following and air time like the ones who like to claim victim hood.
That tells us BM only want to hear what they want to hear
@@MattRomPsalms meanwhile telling successful BW how they need to make adjustments somehow gets all the traction.
I get you're point but here is the problem, as long as black women continue to entertain, sleep with, and procreate with these clowns there is no incentive for bm to step their game up.
I saw a TikTok that pointed out how weird it was for Tyler to speak on this topic in the first place. You don’t see other media company CEOs talking about women’s dating standards. Where’s the CEO of Disney and Netflix talking about women’s dating standards on a public platform?
I think because the movies/shows he creates are filled with relationship content.
I have a theory. He said “black women are now making more money”, right?? If you’re making more money, you are going to be conscious, right, especially bw? Since we are realizing our counterparts aren’t equal to us, we are not falling for struggle anymore. What does Tyler make? Struggle content. He can’t push something out to people who don’t absorb it anymore. He’s trying to do some reverse manipulation tactic, so he can get his main supporters (bw) back and he can finally become a trillionaire 🤭.
I also think that he still sees himself as an everyday black man, he was homeless, so he could relate to the guy in this scenario I guess. A lot of them keep that victim mentality.
It’s the way Blackistan works .. no matter how high earning or “upper echelon” one is supposed to be, they will always stoop low to keep the hamster wheel running. There has to be a permanent underclass
So pretty much, he said:
Dear BW,
Most BM are poor.
If I didn’t mock you on TV, I’d be poor like them.
Please accept them unconditionally.
That could’ve me.
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😂😂😂 facts!
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Wow!! This comment!
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Swear you and I are the only ones I’ve seen point out how Tyler Perry has made BILLIONS off of selling black women “I can do bad all by myself” movie propaganda and now he’s telling them the complete opposite. There’s something so deeply sinister about that. The dude is a grifter.
no, he has always sold struggle love. the rich man was always evil or violent while the poor blue collar man has a heart of gold lol
A lot of bm sold us that. It was all in the music in the 2000s and seen as a good thing. Now those same bm use it against us like they weren’t just encouraging it not to long ago
@@munaali840 multiple things can be true at the same time.
To be honest a lot of black cinema do this. Which is why i really cant get into a lot of Black movies.
@@sexychobit86 completely true. My comment isn’t to limit WHO is telling the story. I kept it to this one anecdote because that’s what’s everyone’s talking about rn.
In TP movies, the THEME is that the BW forgive the most egregious, long-term abuse and this is sold as one-sided religious virtue.
And this is 100% against Scripture but BM twist the Bible to manipulate BW.
This is a very African thing
“Growing up, I didn't identify with black culture … I didn't like Tyler Perry movies.” - Zoe Kravitz
And that’s why they don’t want us marrying up. If we have daughters like Zoe, Tyler won’t have an audience.
Never liked his movies either lol
Zoe is not black but she said a whole lot most definitely THAT'S THE REAL REASON. We've been asking him to change his setup for a minute and he doesn't like that he doesn't want to hire people with new stories to tell he wants to tell the same f****** humdrum bull 💩
Well then ladies, for those of us who want kids; let's birth and raise some "no struggle love, soft life having "Zoeys, and starve out evil bastards like Tyler Perry, rich or poor.😆.
The Zoey I have has four legs and takes no 💩.
@@deej5608isn’t she Afro Latina ? She sure phenotypically looks it
What's interesting is that Zoe's mom was known for being a cast of a show that portrayed the Black American family in the BEST light & she did not grow up or go to school with many black children.... It was generally among white kids/suburban areas if I'm not mistaken. I assume many of these combinations had an effect on her mindset.
There is data that there is an uptick in Domestic Violence when a woman makes more. She also has to do more with maintaining the household as it relates to cooking and cleaning.
I was in 1 of those relationships but I didn't do any housework
I was in one of those as a Black man.
She used and tried to abuse me because she thought I was her Mitch.
I actually quit my job to take some training to get into my field. Mind you I was still paying the rent while she was paying the smaller bills.
I eventually seen that she didn’t deserve the stability my job was going to provide.
I was out of a job for 8 months, 1 month was just waiting to start my job.
I was making $79k before my hiatus and started right back at $75k.
I left 3 months later, I stopping paying bills for almost a month.
Her attitude was the exact reason I left. If she would of been supportive and not a (B)itch.
It put a big small on my face when I hit that $95k like 2 years later🎉🎉🎉
Itscwht, she has to be very careful, on who she dates and marries
Its built in men to provide..or he'll have low self worth
Those women die prematurely too
@@PD-qu8dqand you’re still in the comments reminiscing about what could’ve been and how much you have your $$ together now.. sounds like you’re fishing for empathy.. just be content with being alone
I learned my lesson to NEVER settle after I loaned my ex ( then boyfriend ) money to pay his rent after he lost his job and he turned around and cheated on me with his “ best friend “ and he never paid me back. Now I found a better man who makes more and people got mad when I said I would never settle for a man who makes less than me ever again.
I got a better one for you, I absolutely no longer put “do not date men who don’t have it all together” because when I did, he eventually got a job later on making 100K place, and then said he wanted to explore his options. So all the times I was around, helped out, dealt with the little amount of dates, etc meant absolutely nothing. The same women men swear they hate when they are broke are the same women that get all their attention and money when they finally get on. Never tf again.
I never understood women like that. I have NEVER paid any bills for any man. If a man can't pay his own bills, I'm out. Why do women date men like this? Don't you have bills of your own? Is he paying your bills?
@@yougotgamesonyourphone6947 so true these men don’t actually want the women who have low standards those women aren’t these men’s fantasy women, but they just want for black women to stay desperate with low standards so that if they need to they’ll always be able to use those low standard having black women for money and easy access to sex, a place to stay, a car, someone who’ll cook and clean, etc. all for them to enjoy for free.
@Princess-ep5hi it’s a shame black women are conditioned from a young age to date men that have little to nothing or are unemployed and unable to pay their rent. Most of the time these n*ggas lose their jobs because they’re not good employees and a lot of them will willingly quit a job when they know they got women who’ll take care of them who’s money they can fall back on. The fact that most of these men aren’t ashamed of asking their women for money and on the contrary actually adamantly will ask their women for money is very telling.
And in addition to not paying these n*ggas rent black women need to stop dating men who have female “best friends” because 99% of the time they’re screwing those women or have screwed them before at some point.
That dude was using you for money while he used that money on the other women he was sleeping with. He likely had his female “bestie” often at his place and that’s likely the only reason he wasn’t living with you to begin with because most of the time these dusties will move in with black women so that they don’t have to pay rent on their own and either go 50/50 or make less and be taken care of by black women who already have their own place & money. But that dusty wanted privacy so that he could cheat, and literally cheated in the place that you gave him rent money for.
And that’s what black women need to understand is that when you give men money they’ll use it to go spend it on other women.
MEN need to be working..harder than women..
It keeps them out of trouble
Hi Chrissie, I hope you know that the shift we see now of black women denouncing struggle love is YOUR influence.
You weren't the only one but you played a huge role. Take pride in that🤗
Absolutely ❤
I concur ❤
Especially us mocha chocolate women . Thank you❤
Poverty doesn't always equal kindness and wealth doesn't always equal malice.
True Statement 👍🏾
It seems like the rich men treat their women better
Yet, that's the ONLY advice he gave Black women.
Usually when it poverty people will be highly competitive and sometimes back stabbing to others in poverty because they are all trying to get out of it. So I don’t know where that “broke men are kinder” mentality comes from…
@@tiredoftheworld4834 This! All of this!
What troubles me more that that the sister didn't check him....
Like?? 💀
Yes!
He’s her boss. It’s doubtful that she would. Also probably why he chose her platform to say it on.
@@tresboujaygood point
I said that too, like I would've ended that interview
All I hear is “He’s a good man Savanna!” 😂😂😂 Don’t “He’s a good man Savanna “ Me!
😂😂 same
Like Miss Venus loves to say.
@@ninawestlake5005 Who is that is she on RUclips?
BW, we have done our part; we have marched and begged for protection; we have coddled, raised, housed and financed these dusties. We've done enough! We've dance that old dance before.
It's a new day. We are trying something new now! Are we not allowed to move on from something that no longer works?
Are we not allowed to course correct?
How many times are they gonna insult us?
Humiliate us? Abandon us and their children before we say enough?
We are now opening up our options and trying a new way. We deserve this. We deserve peace.
True. It time to stop entertaining the dusty ones. Yup, stop dating them, sleeping with them. Don't even think about marrying them and having children with them. Don't let them move in talking about how they will do better with the help of you.
If more black women started doing this, I bet these black men attitudes would change.
Honestly,it never worked for Black Women. Never!!!!
@@thatgirlkells5505Today is a new day and the tide is turning. Watch the BC population in the next 5-10 years. I know of more BW dating non BM. The tide is turning.
I'm your 86th thumbs up. Enough is enough!
The Exodus isn't black americans leaving for Africa, the true Exodus needs to be bw walking away from bm.
Tyler Perry had a child with a model, several years ago. He was wealthy and successful when his son was born. The mother of his son probably doesn’t work unless she wants to. Notice how he didn’t have any oow children and a beautiful girlfriend/beard when he was broke and homeless. He couldn’t access certain women without the money and capital to do so. He needs to sit all the way down.
And that’s the tea sis. Btw idk if you’re into nyc vlogs but if so, you might like mine. Swing by, take a peek and stick around if you like. I’d be sooo grateful. 🙏
Thank you! He knew that no woman was going to deal with him and his crossdressing unless he was making bank. So to suggest that black woman suffer through low black male options when the woman he married didn't, is completely messed up.
Is he still with her? I think they broke up.
@@Truthteller978I doubt he was ever with her. She was his broodmare. A highly paid one at that. They probably used IVF so he could be sure the child was a boy.
Always a parodoxe, lol.
A man having money is a BYPRODUCT of him having desirable qualities: industriousness, ambition, vision, strategy, critical thinking, discipline, commitment. A broke man doesn’t likely have these qualities. Women NEED to look for money!!! Thank you Chrissie for continuing to lead these conversations!!!
This.👌🏽
This is exactly right
Unfortunately, having money isn't an indicator of good character, but the other qualities are a general byproduct, and depends on how exactly he makes money(ex. integrity)
since when does having lots of money mean integrity & good character??
@@tikifreaky5204 since when does being broke mean integrity & good character??
Let’s not forget that traumatic show he had called Ruthless. Black Girls that played teenagers and black women were showed getting raped, taken advantage of, abused, etc. I was definitely forced to come to the conclusion that this man loves depicting black women in a devastating, traumatic way. I was definitely over him and his movies and shows. It’s sad because he has the ability to make shows and movies especially, showing black women being in successful relationships/ marriages…but instead does the opposite. It’s sad
I have never watched that show but TP 🧻, and his good friend Mr. Daniels are good for dragging the bw down.
Never watched it
@@phalynwilliams4119 Yup. Can't stand anything Lee Daniels makes! 🤮🤮
@@greenbyrd3665 , One time when Lee Daniels was being interviewed by Oprah (I think). A bw from the audience asked him why are bw in his films 🎥 are so degraded? He answered the question with a very degrading response. SMH. Cancel TP 🧻 and his 💩 friend. They are no better then the late not so great Kevin Samuels.
yes. and its terrible bc its REALLY how he feels about black women, since he doesn't have any other writers.
MY MOTHER'S ASHES ARE SPINNING IN HER URN. What a wonderful time to be a black woman.❤❤❤ THANK YOU GOD....black ladies and girls are waking up. Thank you Tyler "Toto" Perry for finally pulling back CURTAIN. We are done... bye 😂😂
He sure did..now it's up to BW, to boycott..
@@kathleenking47heck yea....we should boo him out that closet him and kittenheels was in. I'm sicko demonic bm talkin chit cause they h8t they momma and all bw. He's a coward. He knows it too, that's why he be ki$$n wm a$$. F him and his drag character 🤨
Not spinning in the urn😂
A wonderful time indeed 😎 I’m proud of us
Didn't Wendy Williams and Mary J Blige try this and now they are paying alimony
I know so many black women personally aunties etc that have all married down nearly all their marriages ended in divorce it never works marriages where either the man earns more or they're on equal playing field are statistically more successful
@@Model_Roe facts
Nicki up next. Nicki has very low self esteem
Wendy is also paying with her sanity.
@@chickychic4644 indeed
My dad always told me “ men spend money on things they really want , shoes , cars , a woman. I can do bad all by myself like TP said, I rather do it alone that’s it!!. I’m not struggling with no man . Crazy a guy asked me on a coffee date I blocked him here’s why, 😂
Please read :I saw this as a child I was at least 6 my brothers use to do that to girls they ain’t want. But the girls who had standards they got 5 star restaurants , clothes , jewelry etc eventually the But before they made it official them ladies made them work for it HARD , BUT my older brothers ran through the girls that went on “coffee dates “, “blockbuster Movie dates” , “gym dates “, “walk through the park dates” . That stuck with me and I never been on a coffee date in my life cause of it 😂
🤨 you blocked someone because they asked you on a coffee date? Not everyone who suggest a coffee date is broke.
@@Las645She wasn't saying the guy was broke. She is saying he didn't want anything serious with her, hence the cheap coffee date. She is saying that from watching her brother's, she believes if he actually wanted something serious with her then he would have put more effort in/done more.
@@tweetybirddeeexactly what she said
I am so proud of you for blocking the coffee date dusty. Never low ball yourself.
I remember on an Oprah show in the early to mid 2000s where this young college educated black man said he had a three tier dating system for women. For Top tier women, he'd lock a Friday night or Saturday night date down by calling them on Monday or Tues to make sure they would be available! He said these types of women would more than likely already have a date if he didn't call at least 5 or 6 days before. Middle tier women he would start calling Wednesday or Thursday for a Friday or Saturday night date because he knew there was less competition for them from other men. Bottom tier women he'd call the day of or an hour before he wanted to go out because he knew they'd more than likely be available or would always be available! The audience seemed a little uncomfortable and even shocked that he'd say it out loud on tv, but he smiled through his whole explanation and did not stutter! I imagine that a lot of men might handle their dating life like they wouldn't admit it, especially on tv!
I know I’m not a black woman, but honestly it’s really sad to see that when black women want stability it is seen as a bad thing. You are NOT a gold digger or a bad woman for wanting a better future for yourself and/ your children.
Look at Latin, Turkish, and Asian (Korean, Chinese, Indian.. etc) soap operas/dramas. I can only count on my hands how many of them talk about struggle love. If anything, they all just point out that if you do decide to go through struggle love then you’re gonna end up having to pay in the future. Instead they all point out about marrying up, or finding a partner as equally motivated as you. Not saying marrying up is always better, but it makes me so annoyed how in American culture it is seen as a bad thing to want a man to be financially stable.
Men that can’t provide or want to make money off from you are the only ones worried about you not wanting to settle for dusties.
It’s a push for blk people to be the permanent underclass. BW breeding with unstable (financially and emotionally) BM = continued poverty and dysfunction for the blk “community”.
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All those cultures are highly conservative and aren’t a win either. Yes, those women are provided for but look at what they have give up to receive. No reproductive rights, no right sexual expression, wage inequality and financial coercion. Women as a whole should be working to abolish these things. No glamorizing it.
Thank u❤
YES KDRAMAS!! When I started watching them, it raised my standards so much. They were a breath of fresh air from mediocre films Western media was producing.
Notice how he said ESPECIALLY black women. “Honor” can’t pay the damn bills! And they always call women gold diggers!
Who's the gold digger now? Then men shouldn't date. This narrative in today's economy is not going to work. Women are not going to do this. If men can't love, this whole discussion is null and void.
He was very dismissive and snarky when referencing BW who have “a list”. As if the very idea was laughable. And I was not pleased with the female interviewer who sat there co signing. She missed the memo.
@@mynameispeaches The female co-host is going to sit there and agree because he is providing her bread and butter. That same co-host recently published a video about how to obtain the soft life. If black women stop consuming Tyler's content, she will need to find other opportunities.
Women of other races don’t settle for less, so why should BW? He’s weird unless he’s just selling the struggle love propaganda.
Ladies don't lower your standards even once you get married. I told my husband I'm not giving birth to another child until he makes more money. Now he is switching careers to make more money.
AS YOU SHOULD QUEEN! AS YOU SHOULD! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
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Yess state what you want and advocate for yourself! I love that!! 👏🏾
Why even have another child period? Especially if you dont want one. Yall got life messed up.
What would you do assuming you found out he was cheating?
Women aren’t even his preference. He could never have our best interests in mind.
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Don’t listen to XYs.
They're his audience. That's why he feels he has a right to speak to them. He also has Black women with a 'struggle love mentality,' supporting him. He doesn't want to lose that support.
I was JUST GONNA ASK THIS!!! I'm pretty sure he's on the other team, but can't "admit" it bc he's deep in Christianity
Al said "stop complaining about a man that contributes 20% in the relationship" that's very telling and I wish black women would listen to these men and their actions 🙆🙆
I am confused on who was/is complaining. BW have said what they wanted and if someone doesn't meet that then they would just move on. I don't hear complaints from BW on this.
@@yzma6142 no he wasn’t saying to leave the man he was saying to stop complaining and keep dealing with the man and be okay with him only contributing 20% to the bills
@@dblr4931 I think many black women are still complaining about black men and still having these conversations about how black men aren’t measuring up but there is also many black women who aren’t complaining anymore and have moved on and that’s what everybody seems to now be complaining about the fact that many black women are no longer complaining and have actually upped their standards and that’s what these people are mad about
My heart really goes out to the BW who are hellbent on “Black Love.” The odds are not in their Favor, and when it seemingly is, it’s Hell on Earth, taking Years off her life…if not the Catalyst of her Demise 💯💔
It depends on where you're located I'm from the Caribbean and in my country there is less self hatred among black men and you'll see a lot more high earning black men with dark skinned black women I think it's only really in the States you have this anti black women hatred among black men
@@Model_Roeas a girl in South Africa...trust me, we have a few of those here..I've spoken and had guy friends who were super colourist against Dark skinned women (I'm dark skinned btw) and one who dated a white girl who dumped him for a white guy but still had the audacity to shit on black girls TO ME..Obviously I dropped these guys but it does exist here in Africa...and in West Africa colourism is very prominent hence why they have the highest numbers of bleaching..and West african men (sometimes women but mostly older women) are very colourist despite being dark their damn self
It’s the hellbent part though like rigid. I remember thinking that way, but when you know better and over analyze the data and circumstances, you just HAVE to do better!
@@kheriphillip878 Right, done walked away from suitable Men bc they were Other! 🤦🏽♀️ What really spared Me, though, was being a Sapiosexual. Attraction to Intelligence and Morality eliminates A LOT of Candidates off rip 😮💨
@@shewhowrites101That eliminated so many bandits!
It’s crazy how they change their narrative when they date snow bunnies, all of a sudden they HAVE to provide ! What they ask BW to do they would never ask a woman of another race to do it.
Yup, and all of a sudden marriage is mandatory!
Tyler Perry hates successful BW. In every Tyler Perry movie that I have seen, the successful BW is humbled or needs to humble herself to find love and contentment. Janet Jackson's character in "For Colored Girls..." she was a portrayed as a biatch and her husband was gay. She was humbled by her husband giving her HIV. In "Daddy's Little Girls", Gabriel Union's character was portrayed the same way and ended up having to date down to finally find love. And "Acrimony" (as several other people mentioned) really showed his hatred for BW and ended it with the character suffering because she just didn't hold on long enough for the struggle bandit. He hates successful BW. It's clear as day in what he writes.
Exactly 💯 it's so clear based on the movies & TV shows that he has.
Instead of telling BM to step up and improve themselves, Tyler is telling BW to accept less and continue to shoulder the financial burden in relationships while still taking care of the household. 🙄 He has a vested interest in BW being mules because he became a billionaire from selling struggle love stories to us. Alphabet men like Al Reynolds, Funky Dineva, & Tyler Perry have no business telling straight BW how to date. Al Reynolds is taking it personally because that was the dynamic in his marriage to Star Jones.
Dr. Heavenly definitely triggered Al. He was projecting and having a mini meltdown.
Al was married to a woman?😧I hope she's OK now.
@@teamfrank9666 He was married to Star Jones
@@teamfrank9666 Star Jones is okay now. She is re-married to a Latino judge, has a stepson she adores, and runs Divorce Court.
@@islandgirl8067I was about to say, he seemed a little addicted to boys to me, if you know what I mean….
Knowing what I know now…I’ll never again look at black tv series and movies the same.
Same
PREACH CHRISSIE! What does Tyler even mean at the beginning when he said “honor the house”??? Who or what is being honored when the burden of providing falls on the black woman??? Then he has the audacity to laugh at the notion of black women wanting to be taken care of??? Plus the interviewer in the video agreeing and laughing along with him…. Ugh…😢 Just atrocious. These dudes are never doing the best they can, because they want black women as a permanent maid, in a permanent underclass position. I am not accepting that narrative at all!
BLACK WOMEN WE DESERVE THE ABSOLUTE BEST! 💖💖💖
Great video Chrissie!!! 🩷💜🩷💜🩷
Fully agree with this! ❤🎉
Not on my watch! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
TP IS. A FOOL! Honor your house by doing your duty which is the protection and provision of your wife and family. It’s like they’re dumb smh.
I’m so glad you spoke on this cause it’s been driving me crazy. No other group of people promote this lifestyle. No other group of men tell their women to be okay with this behavior. It’s always “black women make too much so they have to take what they can get” but no one’s telling the black men to level up to be equal to or greater than their counterparts
That's odd...when the man was the sole breadwinner you guys had issues with it....didnt you guys ask for equality??
@@nedumnwanze4120 who the fuck is you guys? I’m a black woman. White women fought for the right to work
If all he can pay is a light bill, then he needs to by “secure in himself” _by himself._
Chrissie you don’t play. You know how to read these black men, in such a classy way.
And they hate her for it. When I recited Chrissie's BM's sentiments on this black guy..whew he was triggered and called me all kinds of names 😂😂😂 A hit dog will holler and ended the argument that he proved my point lmao
@@Ms.MD7 wow I hope this happened to you online and that it wasn’t some fool who actually started calling you names in real life, if so that’s awful but honestly it doesn’t surprise me because it’s no secret that these men are truly unhinged
If you lay it all out, Perry and black men are essentially saying the same thing: Black men must be given credit for anything good that happens even when they co tribute nothing, and black women must always take the blame for everything else…including the failures of black men.
Mmmm..nah. I’ll stay single, thanks.
Marriage was not initially made for love. It was made for wealthy families to come together and gain additional generational wealth.
Wealth coming together, not a BW carrying a broke nicca on her back!
Yes Marriage was created for love. Wealthy people didn’t make marriage God made marriage. Wealthy people pervert marriage for their own purposes.
Exactly! Marriage is a business contract. Two powerful families coming together.
@@reffa2858Looked down upon by who? It was good enough for royalty…
There’s a difference in saying that a certain practice is not for you and actually looking down on it. Why would anyone look down on someone with an arranged marriage that survived and may have even blossomed into love. That is strength. If you are trying to say there are possible cons to an arranged marriage, that’s different.
But that’s besides the point. The point is that marriage was never as spiritual and emotional as we make it out to be. The government banks on you marrying and they track it with paperwork. They tax you as such, no matter how in love or religious you may be. It will always be business, if not to you, then the government.
@@kelliecook736 Arranged marriages have been looked down upon by most modern societies for a long time now. The reason is because a large chunk of them would pair a very… (clears throat) “underdeveloped” girl with a very “developed” male, if you catch my drift 👀.
The idea of arranged marriages isn’t inherently bad, and could actually have many benefits in out more modernized societies. It’s just that they still give majority of people an ick because of how they were practiced during the times they were most popular. Also the fact that the few cultures that still practice them in large still have that problematic age gap issue, doesn’t help. 😓
Edit: Also wanted to add that many of those arranged royal unions were incestuous 😅.
So us BW who worked hard to start businesses, getting degrees, moving up in our chosen careers and we should SETTLE for someone beneath us CONSIDERABLY financially? GTFoH ! A huge income disparity is NOT OK. This doesn't apply when mitigating circumstances happen .
Thank you. When I think of how hard I had to work to get what I have, seeing a man resting comfortably under me is a total turn off.
This is literally a big part of why blk people have not economically progressed in society. They don’t want blk people do rise above being the underclass so they tell BW to risk their lives and economic stability and date less stable/ poorer BM….
Erm, why is any level headed black woman taking advice from misogynistic gay black men? Funky Dineva & Al Reynolds need to be ignored when they comment on matters which do not affect them. When/if they announce their engagement, I may watch their vlog, other than that...
As for Dr Heavenly? I have no words!
Erm, why is any level headed black woman taking advice from misogynistic gay black men? Funky Dineva & Al Reynolds need to be ignored when they comment on matters which do not affect them. When/if they announce their engagement, I may watch their vlog, other than that...
As for Dr Heavenly? I have no words!
I remember the, "you can only be the white man's side chick" conversation. Right when Scandal was popping. 10 years later and I see sista's married to white men!
@ineedhoez And let’s also point out that Fitz (the name of the white man who had Kerry Washington’s character Olivia Pope as his mistress on the scandal tv show) absolutely wanted to marry Liv and he tried to several times, they were even engaged at one point and he was going to make her his wife and the First Lady of the U.S. but ultimately in the end she didn’t wanna marry him and didn’t actually want that life for herself but that’s the ONLY reason it didn’t happen because Fitz was 10000% in love with her and was always trying to marry her. So even if people try to use that show as some type of supposed evidence to show that the white man will only have black women as a mistress, if they actually watched the show they’d know that wasn’t true.
The street is saying that he hates his mother and that’s why he made black women suffer in his movies. I can definitely see that !
Tyler Perry does not like black people much less black women look at all the trash movies he puts out he's the last person to be speaking on this topic
OR, his mama could have been one of those self sacrificing, 'struggling with any man is better than having no man,' mammies we all know about. The "papa was a rolling stone" song was prevalent in the South. And despite that, many women took these men in to live with them. She probably was the strong one in the family. He was also taken advantage of (if you know what I mean) by a man. Some people just grow up with the same mentality and standards their parents have.
@@sheritownsend5359 his parents were married and his father was very physically abusive to him, and to his mother. I think he blames his mother for allowing his father to abuse him. And yea he was also molested by different people both male and female throughout his childhood. So there’s definitely a lot of trauma a likely anger and resentment within him. Honestly idk why he thinks he can give advice to bw about relationships when he’s in his 40s isn’t married and never has been married, made a woman a baby momma and has a son out of wedlock with her. He clearly has issues with women and needs to deal with those issues and stop peddling nonsense to bw.
Most men are NOT comfortable with women making more money… they eventually take out their wrath in the worst way possible. Why do they like to lie… if it works for some couples, great, but those are usually outliers.
They love making the outliers/exceptions the rule🤦🏽♀️
@niratomas579 They sure do and I HATE when they do that! 😤
Tyler tries to divorce money from the necessities and opportunities it provides in order to make it seem like a more shallow dating criteria than it actually is. For most BW partner choice is the difference between neighborhood safety, food quality and lifestyle. These things effect happiness no matter how much he tries to use his movies to convince us it doesn’t. I just can’t believe a whole billionaire told BW not to worry about money while being chauffeured back to his 100 million dollar mansion 😂
Chrissie you are not making an impact only in America but in Africa too. I learnt how to love my skin through your videos n im so confident now. I have learnt alot of things from you thank you. I wish u come on line more often, youtube is boring without you❤
I am from Africa as well and Chrissie has also helped me alot I've been on her channel since 2018....I've always loved my skin because I saw how my mom embraced her skin but I had issues embracing my hair in its natural state and right now I am at waist length in its natural state, I learned how to choose better when it came to men, gained my confidence through her advice of loosing weight together with her femininity content and last but not least to understand the true nature of a man....I've noticed black women in the western world have similar issues to the women in our world I honestly thought we were different but briefly analyzing we actually have similar issues so you can go anywhere in the world but you'll eventually find out that black people have similar dynamics
@@cebile1493I’ve notice the same thing. My African mother was real with me when she let out some info on African men. There are some differences but major similarities in certain ways
Holy crap, that statistic showing that light skinned women marry at more than twice the rate of dark skinned women is wild.
Don't be envy light skinned women because we're all getting the same black man. To be successful you have to have a support system, a father who loved you and thought you and confidence or it will turn out like every other woman. You'll be surprised how many other groups of women are watching these videos. Not because they're just dating black men but because they're running into the same issues with a lot of different men.
@@phenitagomes1292 I don't envy anyone, I'm just surprised because I've only ever seen marriage rates broken down by race, and people placing the blame on black people/culture. Turns out it's much more about colorism than race.
@@coffeenut6124righttttt she was about to P R O J E C T like a MF🤌🏾👌🏾🥴🙄🤦🏾♀️😂😂😂😂😂😂 likeeeee girllll Nobody’s envious of you yellow broads😬🫠🤷🏾♀️😂😂😂
I'm really curious to know how they determine who was considered light-skinned and whether they included biracial and multiracial women as well. I find that these types of studies provide misleading results when there are no context provided for the data fields being studied.
@@dahliaherrod4301 I was wondering that too. Like maybe some biracial women are raised and socialized differently by a non-black parent? Or are more likely to live in a different neighborhood?
He had to add the Madea voice in there. Can't escape it Tyler I wonder why😏
That’s what I noticed the most. It was a caricature of BW. He’s set on marketing the “struggle love” narrative to promote his movies.
@Stylishheart101 it's sickening and now it's makes me question the actors behind the scenes. They profit off of it 😔
How can he take you to dinner if all he can afford is the damn light bill?? Did y’all hear that 😂😂😂
Exactly like what the fuck is he even talking about ??
Notice, he said every now and then. Like when?
And why is he in a relationship if he can’t even take care of himself. If he can’t afford a light bill how can he afford to live. You shouldn’t even date for you can’t even support yourself
Black women NEED and I do mean NEED to date outside of their race and open their options. It's become ridiculous at this point.
That’s not a good solution either. More than 70% of straight non-blk men vote conservative. Can’t have a relationship with someone actively working to take away our rights as women.
Or simply stay childless and single. We don’t have to be attached to any man. I think more BW that don’t see marriage to a financially stable man feasible to them need to keep their wombs on lock and just do them. Adopt in your 40s-50s when you are more stable and knowledgeable if you really want kids.
@@eridanijay4886🎯
@@eridanijay4886 only most women, black women included, don’t want that. Most of us want to be partnered. And if you’re choosing to stay single, quite frankly, just adopt pets. Stop gambling with little human lives.
@@nenyeo6090Good Men are still out here. Learn to cooperate with realistic standards. You don’t have to “settle” for trash. But don’t let these broken, Black Man haters poison your approach.
I’m at the point where I’m constantly losing interest in most bm because they just work so hard to stay weak while I’m out here trying my best to better myself for myself.
I’m at the nearest end part of the thinnest string. I honestly just feel neutral towards them. I don’t care. This situation honestly just stretched my eyes to the back of my head. Not just opened them..and seeing how this slightly relates to my real life, I feel nauseous.
@@manonfireletsdrowsehim3205 because they have no integrity and will CONTINUE to throw you under the bus for snow. Literally and figuratively. Get your tools up no one has your back 🤷♀️🔨🪓.
You are absolutely on point Chrissie. Thank you for directing black women especially dark-skinned women in the right direction. ❤ I'm tired of the narrative. Black women don't believe the hype you deserve better. Don't settle. No sway hypergamy is way! Hopefully more black women see the truth and get off the ship. These responses give me hope.
Do they realise that they are defining a loser? He doesn't have to have a job or any attractive qualities/requirements in order to get an amazing black woman that has a great job and can afford a mortgage? So the woman must be okay with a loser?
These men think that all they have to bring to the table is d*ck and we’re supposed to be ok with that.
But let it be a successful black man he won’t be pushed to date women who are overweight and unattractive.
I’m not listening to a BILLIONAIRE tell me to settle for anything, especially nothing concerning finances.💀💀💀
!!! This lmao I was looking for someone on the comments saying that
So easy to say that when you're very priviliged and a have a lot of money, it's alway them having this type of discourse always
Let people have money !
Ohhh, Chrissie you went deep. I never deep dived into Tyler's films and its messages. All of them are about struggle come to think of it. Also, no one is telling these bm to settle for average or below looking women. Can't have it both ways. And like you said, we've been settling for the guy that can only pay the light bill. It hasn't worked out for us.
That's the irony of it.
@Lissette121 yep you hit the nail on the head these men don’t have to settle at all they’re not settling for looks, when they push this date down narrative it’s for their complete benefit so that they won’t have to settle in any way, they still get beautiful women, who’ll still end up doing the traditional domestic things women do like cook, cleaning, tending to the children, while also playing the traditional role of men by paying all or most of the bills and providing for these men’s dusty behinds, and that’s why they keep pushing this agenda to black women because if black women listen to them then they get way more out of the deal than black women and they don’t have to do much of anything.
Don't waver black woman & keep your standards high❤
I’m so glad I’ve been dating out since my mid 20’s. I’ve had problems, but money was NEVER one of them.
Even a comedian that is just getting his name out there in terms of popularity used his standup set to tell black women not to settle. He was using his limited platform to speak up for us and encourage us not to date potential but to date a man who already has himself together, and not to make excuses for them or ignore red flags for any man. That’s why it’s even more disappointing to see Tyler saying this; with his large platform and many black women who support him, he should have been the one telling us not to settle but to aim high in every aspect. How sadly ironic.
What’s the comedian’s name?
@@Coco_xoxo-Yes, I want to know as well.
Would you please tell us his name?
His name is Comedian RonG
@@Coco_xoxo ruclips.net/video/-Bw7yCsfZs0/видео.html
Tyler is a trip. The quality of his shows and movies told me a long time ago he doesnt respect black people. .
We let it slide with his stage Plays back in the day because the low budget worked then...
But now, he is the king of giving black people the bare minimum while making a PROFIT
And he thought denigrating us would get him into white spaces, he still hasn’t done that because no one has respect for him.
Yes the writing sucked. His movie characters were SO one dimensional. Just extreme
Tyler has become so attached to the character he plays he feels he is a woman.
I’m swirling and we’re getting married next year. I’m not saying white men or men of other races are better/the answer. I’m just saying don’t let them scare you into staying with BM only. I’ve also enjoyed women of other races being like, “Tyler Perry has lost his damn mind. Don’t date a broke man.” 😂😂😂
White man are richer is the right word
20% of the bills?! The bar is beyond low😂
At this point I've come to the conclusion that Black men as a collective have just given up trying to fight their oppressors. And because of that they expect Black women to settle, because they've accepted their status in society. Its really sad.
It’s been like this since integration. They’re literally lapdogs for WS at this point. Always seeking to further alienate, humiliate, and disenfranchise BW. They’re 100% fine with being the underclass and want BW to accept the abuse, degeneracy, and poverty silently.
That’s why they are okay with bashing us because they believe it we’ll help them merge into WS 🤦🏾♀️
They are complete faliures. They don’t have a patriarchy that works 😅
You don't have to, go where you want to
It's not so much the money, but it's the MINDSET. If a man doesn't want to better himself and his earning power, then that says something about his mindset.
IT SURE DO!
Exactly!
PREACH!!!
I’ll never take dating advice from a man cosplaying a bw for entertainment & money
Just wanted to add to the conversation that the movies Stomp the Yard and Drumline both had the same theme of the upwardly mobile BW choosing the lower class BM from the hood, and that these weren't Tyler Perry movies.
In these films, the lower class BM is chosen either because he seemingly has more emotional intelligence than the more upwardly mobile guy (in Stomp the Yard, the upwardly mobile guy is an aspiring lawyer who's father is also a lawyer, but he gets ditched after proposing to Meagan Good's character because he can't guess her favorite color), and/or because he's a standout at what he does (Columbus Short's dancing in Stomp the Yard; Nick Cannon's drumming in Drumline).
Ditching the upwardly mobile guy, or choosing the guy from the hood with a good heart, is a pervasive theme in Black movies, and apparently, a favorite fantasy of BM scriptwriters in general.
Definitely true!
So true and that is why I hate alot black movies as an adult. Young I didn't pay attention to the struggle love and settling for us BW.
@@thetruesoulofanaquarius9302 Don't feel alone. For a long time I didn't pay attention to it either. I'm very thankful for the many brilliant BW content creators like Chrissie who help expand our ability to see the social dynamics we live in.
Thank you for making this point.
I don't know if Drumline is a good example though. From what I remember of the film the character that Nick Cannon plays does go through a major character development during the second and third act.
We see him progress from an immature and prideful man who was unwilling to humble himself to properly learn his craft to a skilled musician who is able to maintain good friendships and navigate college. If he were to stay on that track then I could see why the female lead chose to stay with him. I do think you made a good point with the Stomp The Yard critique though.
Chrissie i was just saying this regarding DDG and Halle!! So many black women are defending ddg. Not because of any other reason except that watching a goddess like Halle lower her standards for an unsuccessful goblin like DDG makes them feel less stupid about their own baby daddy goblins. Some black women are agreeing with tyler perry simply because misery loves company.
Secondly, i grew up in the ghetto (newark, nj) during the crack epidemic. Im here to tell u, dusty broke men from the hood do not have hearts of gold like damn aladdin. Some of yall watched that movie too many times and youre delusional. If i could tell you the amount of dusty inflicted violence i witnessed before the age of 13 yall would stop listening to these tyler perry dust sermons and come to your senses. Poverty doesnt equal a good heart and youre literally crazy if you think so. Im so grateful my mom moved us out of the hood. I went to a good college, married a fantastic man who makes enough money for me to stay home and do whatever tf i want and not have to pay any bills. Thats something a dust goblin could never do for me
Aladdin didn’t even have a good heart-HE LIED TO JASMINE 🐸 but nobody ready for that conversation
I love that for you ❤
@@user-kg4mh7pz7h lol Aladdin did have a good heart though he lied but he did it bcus he was trying to impress Jasmin 😅
"There's never a requirement for BM"...That part.
Perhaps they wholeheartedly believe BM are not capable of anything..which is so sad.
So glad you did a video on this Chrissy; Say NO to struggle love ladies..
Please do, ladies. Def say no to struggle love. It’s not about making the most money but he should be SHOWING DRIVE & AMBITION & with things he’s putting together to show he’s serious about taking care of you and the family you’ll create.
There’s a saying: NEVER take advice from a broke person if you want to be rich.
Here we have rich, successful people giving BAD advice about relationships. 🤔 This sure is starting to feel like a mass effort of insidious intent to slow the rise of BW/BP out of poverty.
Do what's Most Benificial for YOU! A WORD!
Period point blank
In an Ebony article I read in the mid 80s about colorism, it was called being "colorstruck" back then, a beautiful dark-skinned black woman said she overheard a conversation her father was having with his male friend about her and her two younger sisters. He said "I'm going to make sure my oldest girl gets a good education because she's gonna have a harder time finding a husband to care of her because she's darker than her sisters!" She was shocked at what he said but she knew he loved her and he said it because he felt that's how men are. But as she got older she did laugh at the fact that both her younger lighter skinned sisters married before she did, both in their twenties. She actually didn't get married until she was 34!
ATTENTION:
As of 2020, the median salary for black men in the 30-39 age group is $34,000 while the median salary for Asian men is $78,100. The median salary for black women is just $2,600 less than that of black men. This is bad! (please note median is not the same as 'average').
Technically, median is an average. It's a type of average/measure of central tendency, just as mean and mode are other types of averages.
and they have these athletes on crazy wages propping up their average numbers
I understand what you're saying, but the everyday person uses the word "average" and not "mean." A response to your comment could be the following: "median is not the same as mean."@@prayerpower1585
Exactly! Median salaries are what we are supposed to look at when discussing salary. Not average. Don't let them fool you!@@munaali840
@@munaali840 That would skew the mean, but it would not skew the median. To me, $2,600 less per year is not much of a difference, but that's just me. I wonder what the interquartile range is, and the mean and standard deviation.
Someone I know of is married to a Portuguese man. She's black. He just built her a freaking huge house. Ladies, do not settle.
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Perry should use his studio and make movies to promote and teach men especially black men to be better father, sons, friends and husbands.
We’ve been hearing this from him through interviews and his cinema for years, black women are tired and the ship has sailed
No dating or marrying down! Find someone regardless of race who share your values, can bring some real coins to the table and can think, keep your standards high and have boundaries.
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The CDC (Centers for Disease Control) said over 10 years ago, black men are the best fathers in the United States 💯👈🏾
@@j.daniels1548 so, many more case studies have been written about the struggles of many black men in relation to employment and other life factors. the point is Perry’s comments pertaining to black women dating options, I suggested he should use his platform for other purposes instead of poor dating advice
Accomplished black women have been dating and marrying below class and status for 30 years now, back in the 90s people were telling black women to date down if they wanted a man
Black men regardless of socioeconomic status can date and marry whomever they want
We are TIRED of being told who we have to be with … we want to be left alone to make our own love choices across class like black men can, stop with the gaslighting and propaganda, shut up Perry and others and go live your life.
@@j.daniels1548huh! That's interesting. I wonder why the CDC was conducting a study on fatherhood. I would also be really curious to know what criteria they use to judge fatherhood in the type of study that was conducted. For example was this self-reporting and how many participants were included in the study.
Yes, it's hard to get a high paying job, but if women are able to do it despite the barriers of sexism and childrearing, what's men's excuse? Yes a lot of the factory and coal mining jobs are gone, but that's been the case for decades, time for these dudes to think up a new plan and go get a nursing degree. I'm sorry, but unless you're a full time caretaker raising children and caring for a disabled elder, you better be able to work a full time job and pay at least half. No one is obligated to take on an adult dependent who simply doesn't feel like pulling their weight because they'd rather take advantage of someone else instead.
I clicked SO FAST!! I’m in the middle of lifting weights and I was like “CHRISSIE!” Love you Chrissie ❤❤
Tyler’s comment might just be the best thing he’s EVER done for black women!! He started an internet wide conversation that black women needed to have/hear on a grand scale. I’m so excited by our responses and now our sentiments will reach a wider and younger black women and girls audience. I’m LOVING this for us. Thank you Madea!
Preach on this good sunday afternoon, COME ON PASTAH! 😂❤
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And Lobster! 💃🏿
Another well articulated piece Chrissie. Put this one down in the archives as one of your best work.
This is why I'll stay a loyal supporter of your work.
Missing you in the conversations but I get it, some of these topics we over here has grown pass.
Much love Chrissie.
Y'know, I married a good man back in the 70s. He was unemployed until we got married, but he joined the army & had a dishonorable discharge for theft, & fighting. But he loved me. Then he got a job, stole about $8k from his employer & was sentenced to 9yrs hard labor, but he's still a good man because he only beat the kids on school days. When he was released from prison in the 80s, he seemed a bit strange, thinner, had sores all over him but he was still a good man because he had no where else to go.
He died in the hospital a good man & I died at home of AIDS related complications in 1985.
This is my aunt's story about how she accepted less than the bare minimum & it literally took her life. Slowly. She was my grandparents only daughter & they were heartbroken. It wasn't supposed to be that way for her, & it shouldn't be that way for anyone else
Wow. Very eye opening. Sorry about your Aunt. May she RIP.
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Wow!
May your aunt RIP.
People forget...
The term "A good man" is subjective.
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Not only have I seen BW speaking up, but I’ve been seeing non black women call Tyler Perry out as well. He’s that down bad.
I started my level up late... After 30 but I'm doing the work. Black men could do the same but they won't because the world will continue to cape for them and their short comings. If they wanted more they would do more like we do.
never too late! I started after 40 and met an amazing man who spoils and adores me and pays all the bills and wants to get married!
I been married for ten years..,that struggle love is exhausting and draining. And still, there is NO GUARANTEE that he will respect that.
Most times men want you to put on more so they can do the bare minimum.
Thank you for saying this. It is getting old, I’m pushing back and focusing on me and my self improvement.
The light bill bros just need to go ahead and join the passport bros. Get somebody else to do it.
Passport bros need to realize no matter where they go they are going to have to provide for their woman. Women overseas have the same standards as well. Especially in Africa. It’s all about money at the end of the day if a man wants a significant other. 🤷🏽♀️
This is me thinking out loud, but as a 28-year-old black woman who moved back in with my parents after being financially irresponsible while living with a black man I completely agree with your sentiments about following whatever path best assist you in becoming who you want to be. I thought that being the breadwinner while making the man feel like a man would somehow push him to be a better man, but it actually made him more of a child, and eventually emasculated him. Today I have to ask myself the question of what do I have to do now to get where I want to be? And the answer is simple save as much money as possible to move out ,finish college (I have a semester or two left), believe below my means, and look my best for maximum confidence. I have decided that I’m really going to send to the next five years around myself, and my progression rather than focusing on how I can be appealing or attractive to the other sex because I really do believe that a lot of the issues arise in this type of conversation due to the fact that so many individuals come from lack and a mail center point of view versus just being happy with yourself and your future
YOU GOT THIS! From the sound of it, you learned your lesson, and you left that trifling man without being baby trapped! MAY YOUR BLESSINGS BE BOUNTIFUL!
@@schmaelepaulection1431thank you thank you thank you, I’ve been committing my time to watching all of chrissies videos and honestly just becoming the woman of my dreams
You're definitely still on the right track.
You’re on track now love. Prioritize your achievements and what you need to do for yourself. If a man above your level happens upon you while you’re doin that great. But never prioritize them over yourself ever again!
@@Babykeiks78 point blank period! I made the mistake of getting distracted and derailed but I’m the main character in my own story. It’s hard to seize the noise but I my list of goals and review them every morning and night. I really do appreciate your encouragement and wish you all nothing but absolute abundance and prosperity
The pool is real small when a successful black women is looking for an equally successful black man. I have honestly been looking outside my race. I can't wait for you and your potential to rise to the occasion. Black women, stop waiting!
What I have come to *love* about our situation is that BW have ALL of the leverage. No one told BM to sit for generations on the bench, leaving the providing, protecting, advocating, and uplifting to the women. The ONE benefit of BM doing nothing for us and BW doing EVERYTHING for them is that BW hold 100% of the cards. BW don't need to wait for BM to agree or understand. There's no benefit for BW if we continue in the way we always have, and there's nothing BM can withhold from us if we try something new.
It's time for BM to get left behind.
Yes Chrissie! JUST SAY IT!!!!! Date outside your race. They never want to say it in these panels.
Well said, Chrissie. 👏🏾
This is why women especially black women should always open their options and go for swirling !!
Funny thing is, my options have ALWAYS been open. Ever since I was a teenager. I’ve always been interested in non-BM. It’s actually the opposite for me because BM were never an option.
ATP: Why are we trusting material from a man who is allegedly “suspect” 👀
this
That 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 part☕️☕️☕️!!
An entire industry focused on making BW settle instead of showing BM they need to do better. It’s so sad.
If you are a BW still subscribed to Funky, Fox Soul or support misogynoir celebrities(Tyler Perry)., ask yourself why; how do these type people enhance or elevate your life as a BW? If you can't find sound discernment as an answer, just STOP, and go find spaces that enrich and encourage your goals in life.❤️👑
Exactly. His comments and behavior regarding the Bailey ladies was it for me. No longer watch.
@@thatgirlkells5505 what did Tyler say about Chloe & Halle? I haven’t heard anything about it
It's HILARIOUS that BM are saying they should be provided for but BW are being told not to want a provider. 😂 To think we used to fall for this! The BW defending Tyler Perry are in the minority. I'm so proud of us for putting our foot down! 🙌🏾