I'm a very private person & there's nothing wrong with that. You have a right to feel safe. Glad you guys are finally settled & your furbaby's doing better. 🖤💜🌙
In reference to the condo tour: I understand that safety is the number one priority. I have seen people do condo tours where they are basically just showing the specific rooms and don't walk through the layout of the house. If you aren't giving people the idea of the blueprint then it should be pretty safe!
Totally understand being protective of your location!! There are virtual mailboxes that are sort of like a PO Box, but you choose any of their available addresses in any state you want, and then they can screen and forward the mail to you. They are a little more pricey than PO Boxes, but it's just something to think about. Way safer than having a PO Box that can clue the creeps into your general location.
Aw I'm so sorry moving didn't go the way you hoped it would 🥺 I've been down the same road before and it's hard not to beat yourself up over the money and effort and STRESS for nothing. But I'll tell you the same thing I tell myself- you had to try in order to find out it wasn't for you. You had to leave to realize you belonged right where you were. By leaving you gave yourself the ability to appreciate the midwest and learned the grass wasn't greener anywhere else, and that ability to be content and grateful for where you are is worth everything you lost to get it
Seeing you on the verge of tears for some of these questions was heart breaking. I relate to a lot of things you said in this video, I hope you start feeling better soon 🤍
You're the very, very, VERY best. I'm so happy to hear you're doing well, and hope nothing but the absolute best for you. You're an incredible example!
I totally understand what you went through with moving. I also grew up in the Midwest and then lived in Savannah for my undergrad. Then I got an opportunity to move to Oregon for grad school and I was like "Great, a blue state and they'll be more liberal and while it's more white people, at least they're liberal". I was in for a rude awakening when I realized that anything that's not a major city in the PNW, it's just conservative central and the lack of diversity compared to Savannah and the south in general is so huge. I'm glad you were able to move back to the Midwest and are feeling better mentally!
I love your opinion about the question about having kids. I feel the absolute same and get so much crap from people for having the same opinion as you. There are sooooo many kids that need a loving home. ❤
I'm sorry the move didn't work out. I grew up in New England and I live in Texas now. Culture shock! I totally know what you mean about the country vs city. I'm so grateful that we live in a suburb outside the diverse city that is also rather diverse and open. My family is a huge mix of things that aren't very accepted in red areas so it was essential for us to find a town that was diverse and mainly aligned with our values.
I feel you so much about the pet thing! I worry CONSTANTLY about my cat when I'm away and I can't turn it off! I agree, it really affects your ability to enjoy things. And the thought of losing a pet.. I miss when I was a kid and able to love and enjoy the cat I had then while being just oblivious to the thought that she'd die one day. It's just too real when you're a grown up
You have no idea, you remind me of myself! I'm turning 51 tomorrow, but I still hear all of things you're going through, and I was absolutely the same at your age. Exactly! I just want you to know, you are completely killing it, and doing amazing. Everything you've been through, as bad as they suck, are meant to be and leading you exactly where you need to be!! And...I would love to see a condo tour. That place looks so awesome❤
I have come full circle-- born in Taylor Mi,,,moved all around Tayor---sold bought homes, recession hit,,bankruptcy ...my husband and I are now 61 and moved back to Taylor Mi and we finially feel at Home ---and happy---not much money--but happy--- that is everything---you are so insightful and down to earth---glad to have found you, blessings....
I feel like I've gone through a very similar moving situation. My husband and I had both lived in one state our entire lives, and we decided to move to a different state, thinking it would be the best thing for our future. WELP. It was not, we absolutely hate it here and it's been a nightmare. We've decided to move back to where we came from, but we've been stuck in an apartment lease for a year, and have a couple weeks left before we move back. But boy, it has taken a toll on our mental health. It sucks. BUT I actually don't regret it because I have this new appreciation for my home state that I didn't have before, and I'm so excited to go back home.
I just wanted to let you know my 5 year old is obsessed with your hair videos. She just fell asleep watching a rainbow hair video 🌈 Glad you are feeling better back in the Midwest!
Oh WOW hon, I thought you'd just moved to 1 state, into an apartment, then into a condo in the same city. I'm sorry, moving is very stressful, especially when there's an emotional necessity for the move.
My heart goes out to you ❤. Sometimes we don’t make the right decision, but we can make the decision right. One thing I have learnt is that “home” is not the physical building or the things in it, it’s the people around me: my partner, my dog, my neighbours and my friends who live nearby. I feel for you with the mental health and eating struggles too: I am in a big depression pit right now and I’ve just starting getting treatment for addictive eating which has cause 40kg/90lbs of weight gain in my adult life which I keep gaining and losing.
Being someone in Michigan I 100% know how you feel about wanting to be around like minded people, I moved out west and it was almost culture shock with how kind people were
i commented this on the video where you mentioned getting a part time job but i really do recommend it - working at a gym!! whether it’s front desk or the juice bar or management, i’ve worked at a couple gyms and the people are always so nice, plus free gym membership!!! it’s so worth it, especially working at a high-end place that i would never be able to afford otherwise. plus it kinda motivates you to workout because you’re already at the gym lol just bring some sneakers and bam!
I have problems with food as well but I haven't got a diagnosis yet. But I do know I have body dysmorphia. It sucks bad. Your really brave for being so open about it!
Thank you for sharing this ❤️ I think that everybody needs to move away from home at some point in their life. They either realize how much they appreciate their roots or realize that it was the right choice to leave! Both are super important and then you don't have to wonder anymore if you have been making the right choice. It really gives you perspective.
I want to say regarding your video where you said you didn't feel like you were a good cat mom because you are constantly moving. I want to say that you are a great cat mom and I want to say that they love you as much as you love them. You never gave up on them and I know they will never give up on you. You gave them a loving home and no matter where they go with you, it will be home as long as you're there with them. I can tell you every time they are in a video even though it's for a short amount of time they are always so chill and so happy. That tells me you are doing a great job and they feel comfortable around you.
As someone in the Midwest in a tiny town, I get it. My hope is always that I come across like minded people. Reality is people suck even in the city. I am sorry you tried to make a huge change to be disappointed. You are awesome and deserve awesome people around you. I am in Indiana and when I tell you most people around me do not align with my values at all but I do have a tribe of folks that are amazing. College towns are usually a little better. I wish you luck and hopefully you have some friends close by because that always helps my friends are spread out but we keep in touch weekly. ❤️
Oh girl, I just want to give you a hug. So just take this as a big 'ol virtual hug ok. PS, over a decade ago I moved 1k+ miles away, also from Midwest to South, and I am in a city, but I understand its hard, so much harder than I thought anything would be. Also, you have been such an inspiration to me to do my own hair, so literally because of you I've been living my best purple hair life for about a year now.
I had no idea you struggled with an ed (for good reason, I understand the privacy), thank you for sharing with us! I have issues with binge eating as well and it is really hard, especially during stressful times. Sending love your way! 💕✨
I live in MO and when I was 21 I moved to Massachusetts. Was the worst decision in so many ways. But when I moved back I fell into a job where I met my now husband. I wouldn’t have him or my 2 girls if I hadn’t made that big mistake. Love you, you’re not alone ❤
The perks of being a wallflower and twilight are my favorites also ❤ Thank you for being vulnerable about your struggles. I have always loved your content. You are so fucking cool. 🤟🏼
1. I feel you on moving away from the only home you've ever known. I was born & raised in Florida for 28 years then decided to move up North. Been up here 5 years now, hardest thing I've had to go through. I've only made 2 friends in that time, but I do have an awesome online community as well. I'm glad you were able to move back home
Oh man - some things you said really rang true. I live in a small town in the midwest. There is one stylist in the salon I go to that does "weird" hair colorings. I have to call in weeks in advance just to make sure I can book with her when i get my hair done. Whenever I go in to get mine done - there's always a parade of folks either giving me the sideeye or a parade of folks checking out the hair noone has seen done before... that's really hard for me as a hardcore introvert... but I am so glad for that one stylist that has a passion for what I call the fun hair styles. I don't even go all over vibrant - but I love my blues/purples/teals.
So glad you're feeling better! I feel the same about my living space. I prefer small, with 2 bathrooms. Larger spaces just don't feel as homey. I have learned that it takes about 3 months for anywhere to feel like home, and I've moved a lot.
@AkaAislinn PS if you want a toned down version of wearable Patchouli oil, try the Auric Blends roll on oil called Egyptian Goddess (or their one called Love). You'll love it!!
I’ve been waiting to have so many updates on moving I absolutely loved vlogmas from you so have just hoped and prayed it went amazing, I’m so sorry it didn’t but it’s so lovely to see you at peace and content with life now. You’re amazing and I’m so happy you’re happy and safe! I would be so happy to see a house tour but only if you’re comfortable! I love your home, life content! It’s my fav 🥹🫶🏼
I struggle with binge eating disorder and bulimia. It's been a lifelong journey but I'm always making progress. It's hard but you are amazing and just know that you are so, so beautiful inside and out. Self love is the foundation for growth and you truly seem like such a kind person. Wishing you the best, you are capable and worthy and even the bumps in the road are a learning experience
Have you ever thought about getting a manufactured home? Like a mobile home, but they’ve come a long way! You can get a little land so you have a bit of room and the manufactured home company will come put your house down on it! I’ve seen some awesome 3 bedroom 2 baths! I hope you find everything you’re looking for asap!
I never really had any hobbies except for makeup, hair and fashion, but I recently started crocheting and I can’t stop. I’ll sit for hours straight haha. So I really recommend trying it out - there are so many great youtube tutorials and inspo on pinterest for alt clothes and stuff to do.
Thank you for sharing so much today with us, I really appreciate this video! It sounded heartbreaking when you talked about your time down in the south, this kind of remorse just hits different and comes with so much regret and doubts. But as my follower-collegues already said, you HAD to move in order to get to the mindset you have now and in order to grow. You are now way different than the you from six months ago, that's great! Recover well from this moving and "house-divorcing", I wish you all the weird energy to get back on your feet, rainbow queen! \o / The world is full of your supporters, even though they might not live all in your area! Looking forward for more weird and heartwarming content! 💙💜💚
I screamed when I saw the palette!🌈 I'm SO going to get that when it comes out - you have amazing fashion taste and your makeup is always on point! Congrats on the collab and I can't wait until it releases!
Totally feel you on the house size thing. My husband and I moved to a 2000k+ sq ft house with another couple and it was waaaaaay too big. Don’t even get me started on the cost of utilities every month. Cleaning was so annoying, the amount of stuff we collected afterwards made moving a nightmare etc etc blah blah blah. We moved into a place afterwards that was half the size and we’re so much happier. I’ll never wish for a house that’s too large for me ever again
I’m not from the Midwest, but what you said about home really resonated with me. I’ve lived in three different states and one other country since I moved away for college and no matter where I was, there has always been a part of me that missed my home state. I’m sorry the move didn’t work out like you hoped, but kudos to you for being brave enough to try it and to admit you weren’t happy. There’s a quote that I love which goes, “don’t cling to a mistake just because you spent a lot of time making it.” I’m so sorry you had such a hard time, but I’m glad you’re back home and doing better. Plus, now you know for sure you don’t want to live anywhere else, and you don’t have to spend your whole life wondering. ❤
My bucket list item was seeing the Northern Lights. My husband and I went to Norway in February. It was AMAZING! We saw the lights a number of times. We were lucky enough to see them with the naked eye one night. I cried. I cried when we could only capture them with a camara. And I cried because I missed my dog so much.
Watching you adulting makes me feel a lot less nervous about being a young adult. We all struggle, and being an adult doesn’t come with a manual. I love your new tattoos, I’m proud of you and look up to you.
44+ minutes.. my friend had time today ❤ congrats on the new space I am so sorry you had to go through that I stress eat a lot in the winter because I have seasonal depression and being from Ohio I understand wanting to get out of that Midwest living but I always feared have that exact same thing can it's definitely hard because I'm a black woman its hard feeling I'm welcomed in Ohio outside of my neighborhood
Sorry to hear you’re feeling bad about yourself :( I’m in the same boat - lost a bunch of weight, gained it all back during an abusive relationship, now I’m having a hard time getting motivated to work out and I hate that did it to myself again. Question - how does the weight loss/gain affect your tattoos? I recently got a half sleeve and I’m kinda worried it will get warped when I lose weight.
Girl, same same same on constantly thinking about my cats when I go out of town. It stresses me out so bad! But I will always have cats even with the hardship of dealing with their deaths bc they bring me immense joy.
I wish you all the best on your ED journey ❤ for me cognitive behavioural therapy really helped both with maintaining a stable weight but also with all the emotions surrounding food and how i used food as a coping mechanism.
I have moved a ton for work, so many different types of houses, and I agree that 1500-1700 sq feet is just right to me. Some places just feel more like home than others. There is one place I loved and I still mourn/grieve the loss of that place, so I understand the deep sadness. But it does get better, just like all grief. And now I am in a house/home I love very much that feels close to that perfect one. Until the next move … but I’m changing jobs soon so I’ll be able to settle down.
I live about an hour outside of Atlanta now and it feels a hell of a lot different from an hour outside of Nashville (where I used to live). My county (Newton) is also a blue county so that helps I’m sure. I’m sorry you didn’t find what you were looking for!☹️ I’d love it if you did some more travel vlogs. Take a trip to California!💚
I’m from Iowa, living in Florida and I really really miss it. I miss my family, the small cities. Thankfully, there’s always likeminded people you can find if you look in the safe places ❤
Wow, the best part of you is that you don't want your own kids. But you would prefer to save other orphans and there are so many kids out there that needs love and your heart is a 💎
“A select few are a little psycho” (queue nervous smile/laugh) 😂😂 I am from MN and moved to AZ so I get that drastic change can be hard. Glad you found your happy place.
Man, this was really emotional to watch. I'm glad you're doing better and looking at lessons learned, but I just hope things get way better soon. You so deserve happiness and comfort and peace. We love you, thank you for sharing what you do share with us. 🖤
I do agree that you have to live in a city when it comes to the south. As a native Californian, the same thing applies. The popular vote is actually red in CA (only the electoral college votes blue bc they're all coming from San Francisco & why people assume CA is a blue state) The cities closer to Oregon & the middle of the state (cities like Fresno, Bakersfield, etc) have the same small town vibe
as someone who moved across the country last year, i cannot imagine the stress of moving out of state a second time so soon! im so sorry. not even including the mental stress, address changing alone is a nightmare
Yesss I would love to see a condo tour!! During your moving series you showed some of the decor stuff you found at like dollar tree so a video on decorating or DIY home decor would be really fun to watch
Girl!!! You are a fighter! Being able to move that long distance twice in the same year. I think most suburbs around any city, of any state......maybe with the exception of California, idk cuz I never lived there.....are going to have their pockets of conservative constituents that have a hard time opening up to new ideas. I hope you just find a place that when you step outdoors, makes you smile.
I would be into bits and pieces. People have been able to find a RUclipsrs home just by local landmarks and inside snippets of their home. I would say be on the safer side and just show things like your studio or if you do a cool room sure super proud of!
I was convinced you would go to Colorado and was slightly shocked when I realized you must be closer to Savannah. So sorry that it was a painful journey but the growth has to be an amazing feeling.
I feel you on the moving! I actually did the same thing moved from Iowa to Tennessee then to Colorado and it's finally my new home away from home 8 years later but nothing beats my hometown in Iowa! I dream about it still hah love you and thanks for sharing! I hope you make some friends if not we are here for you! ❤🤩😇
We relate so much on so many things, I wish I could find friends like you. I'm really sorry to hear that you've been struggling with your weight, I've yoyoed with my weight and struggled with food for the same amount of time as you, I know it doesn't mean much, but I think you're beautiful at all weights and I think you're even more beautiful when I've seen you without makeup and just completely natural. I'm happy that things have gotten better for you recently
Please do a house tour! I am currently revamping my home and we have similar styles. I'd love to see what you did and where you got stuff. But also just want to see your new place and how everyone is settling in :D
I went from Ohio to North Carolina and then back to Ohio and you’re so right about the Midwest. It’s just the best!! I love it here and want to be nowhere else. I hope you’re close to friends again and that you’re happier than ever! You deserve it.
As someone who has dealt with weight issues, whether it be binge eating or just yo-yoing between numbers on the scale, what's helped me the most was just accepting that my disorder or unhealthy habits, whatever they may be, are totally normal. While I do strive to take care of my body through much healthier eating habbits and exercise, I dont tell myself I'll never eat a donut, or ice cream, or a cheeseburer ever again. This mindset will torment you, telling yourself you can't enjoy alcohol, or high calories foods ever again is like a shackle on your own happiness. My perspective is not to be my own enabler and ignoring all the consequences of my own health, however I'm also not encouraging myself to be obsessive and unrelentlessly rigid of how I live my own life. The key for me was just telling myself that there will be times that I can enjoy myself and I can enjoy life, even if I gain weight or wake up hungover as long as I can balance myself and not lose control of my guilty pleasures. Changing the subject, thank you very much for sharing yourself and being open, it's not easy to put yourself out there on the level you do. It's because of your content I took my first step into coloring and styling my own hair. I had been interested for a long time, but way too intimidated to color or cut my own hair, even more so because I'm a guy and I was paranoid about what others would think. It wasn't until I found your channel that I finally found someone who I could understand that allowed my dreams a solid foundation to build upon. I would watch hours and hours of your videos, taking notes all along the way. What was once just curiosity ended up becoming one of my favorite hobbies, I even met my current girlfriend because we bonded over hair aesthetics, so yeah, under the chance encounter you see this message I just wanted to clarify your content means a lot to your community, so many doors opened for me just because I randomly found your channel one day. Thank you for your hard work and dedication.
I live in Indiana and I honestly love it very much. I recently moved to an even smaller town than the one I was born in, but I’m having such a hard time with depression because there really isn’t anyone in town for us. But I keep reminding myself that I still love the country and our privacy and it’s worth it for my children. I appreciate you speaking out about binge eating, too. I gained 50+ pounds, recently lost 25ish but I’m struggling with falling back into those damn habits that make me hate myself so much. Seriously, I love your ability to share even when you’re worried about your privacy.
Thank you for your openness in this video! As someone from the midwest who is currently living in the south I totally get it. I hope I can move back someday.
I’m sorry the move didn’t work out for you I feel like wherever you are you just have to find like people ❤ hope you feel better and your channel helps me feel better ❤
I would love to see a house tour! I want to see your style and you decorate! I loved your moving series and decorating, you should do more of it with doing up the new place!:) xx
We bought our 1800 sq ft house in 1996. April 4th will make 26 years we have lived in this house...we bought it for around $295k... It's now worth $1.1 million dollars, just due to LOCATION ‼️ Good luck in finding a house. I mean that whole heartedly 💕💗❣️ I have heard things are much better in the mainland❣️ 💞 ALOHA FROM HAWAI'I 💞🌹 LYSSA 🌹
I love that you moved back to the Midwest as a lifelong Midwesterner myself I always love to follow content creators in the Midwest. I get it, we have some bullshit but in general the energy is what I need to thrive. Thankfully i live in a very liberal area though. Also, have you ever listened to the podcast maintenance phase? It's been really helpful for me in terms of learning to have a less judgmental relationship with my own body.
First, love you and I'm glad you're in a better spot now! Of course we want a tour if you wanna share, totally understand wanting to keep personal stuff private. Dunno if this has been answered previously but what happened to our 'stay weird' send off? I miss tapping my fingers and saying it with you lol
I live in the PNW, and I tend to overeat frequently, especially with SADD. So, I went to a naturopath, and using Rodhiola Rosea with Ashwagndha has helped me sooo much and given me more energy than my anxiety and depression meds.
Hey so this is totally unsolicited advice lol (and I’m nowhere near my goal). But I decided to abandon a lot of my old “rules” around food because I tend to be a binger as well. I lost 25 2 years ago and then gained like 35 lol. This was because i went on a really strict diet. And at the time it was my life and i was like “I’d rather diet than workout blah blah.” So now i am basically doing the opposite. I’ve had to tell myself to snack so I don’t get so hungry that I inhale my meals at the end of the day or make “bad” choices (usually sweet stuff for me lol). I eat carbs, I make sure I’m fed throughout the day, and I work out 3x/week doing 90% lifting and barely any cardio (because I hate long stints of cardio). Through all this I’m less restricted and less guilty. I add in healthy eating habits when i can like eating more clean protein but sometimes that doesn’t happen and it’s ok. I’m in it for the long haul this time around. Basically… if you can figure out what makes you feel good, what’s sustainable enough that you can say “I can do this for a year or more,” it will probably stick. The guilt around food is such a shitty feeling so I’d just say try to make it be less about guilt and more about balance. Not saying it’s easy but I feel like my brain is healing from the idea of thinking of foods being bad and I can never have them again. And because of that I actually have more self control because I’m not eating stuff like I’m never going to see it again. Again… just feeling like we’re in a really similar situation so I just felt like talking about what’s helping me. I tend to hate when people give advice and I know you’re smart and you’ve done it before. But also wishing you the best and hoping you find what works for YOU and makes you feel good! Not what other people say is the “right” method. ❤
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MORE THAN I ALREADY DID!! BAD OMENS IS LITERALLY MY FAVORITE BAND. I JUST DID MEET AND GREET AND AM SEEING THEM FOR THE 5TH TIME THIS SEPTEMBER. Your tattoos look amazing!!
Hey Aislinn 😊 I’m from the Midwest too, Michigan actually & if you’ve never been, The Upper Peninsula is one of the most beautiful places & you’re able to see the Northern Lights up there quite frequently-haha just throwing that out there if you can’t travel further to see them :) xoxo Hang in there with the move, I always think everything happens for a reason, you’re where you are right now in this moment for something, even if it doesn’t seem clear right now. Sending love ❤
I'm a very private person & there's nothing wrong with that. You have a right to feel safe. Glad you guys are finally settled & your furbaby's doing better. 🖤💜🌙
In reference to the condo tour: I understand that safety is the number one priority. I have seen people do condo tours where they are basically just showing the specific rooms and don't walk through the layout of the house. If you aren't giving people the idea of the blueprint then it should be pretty safe!
Totally understand being protective of your location!! There are virtual mailboxes that are sort of like a PO Box, but you choose any of their available addresses in any state you want, and then they can screen and forward the mail to you. They are a little more pricey than PO Boxes, but it's just something to think about. Way safer than having a PO Box that can clue the creeps into your general location.
I had no idea this existed! That’s so cool 🥰
IKR?! I learned about it from a TikTok the other day!
Aw I'm so sorry moving didn't go the way you hoped it would 🥺 I've been down the same road before and it's hard not to beat yourself up over the money and effort and STRESS for nothing. But I'll tell you the same thing I tell myself- you had to try in order to find out it wasn't for you. You had to leave to realize you belonged right where you were. By leaving you gave yourself the ability to appreciate the midwest and learned the grass wasn't greener anywhere else, and that ability to be content and grateful for where you are is worth everything you lost to get it
100% 🖤
Seeing you on the verge of tears for some of these questions was heart breaking. I relate to a lot of things you said in this video, I hope you start feeling better soon 🤍
You're the very, very, VERY best. I'm so happy to hear you're doing well, and hope nothing but the absolute best for you. You're an incredible example!
I’m in a conservative county so I always remind myself I’m balancing out the vote!! I def feel that rn.
Yes! If every liberal person just moved away there will never be change in those areas 🖤
I appreciate you helping to balance the votes. I honestly aspire to do this as well.
I totally understand what you went through with moving. I also grew up in the Midwest and then lived in Savannah for my undergrad. Then I got an opportunity to move to Oregon for grad school and I was like "Great, a blue state and they'll be more liberal and while it's more white people, at least they're liberal". I was in for a rude awakening when I realized that anything that's not a major city in the PNW, it's just conservative central and the lack of diversity compared to Savannah and the south in general is so huge. I'm glad you were able to move back to the Midwest and are feeling better mentally!
I love your opinion about the question about having kids. I feel the absolute same and get so much crap from people for having the same opinion as you. There are sooooo many kids that need a loving home. ❤
I'm sorry the move didn't work out. I grew up in New England and I live in Texas now. Culture shock! I totally know what you mean about the country vs city. I'm so grateful that we live in a suburb outside the diverse city that is also rather diverse and open. My family is a huge mix of things that aren't very accepted in red areas so it was essential for us to find a town that was diverse and mainly aligned with our values.
I feel you so much about the pet thing! I worry CONSTANTLY about my cat when I'm away and I can't turn it off! I agree, it really affects your ability to enjoy things. And the thought of losing a pet.. I miss when I was a kid and able to love and enjoy the cat I had then while being just oblivious to the thought that she'd die one day. It's just too real when you're a grown up
You have no idea, you remind me of myself! I'm turning 51 tomorrow, but I still hear all of things you're going through, and I was absolutely the same at your age. Exactly! I just want you to know, you are completely killing it, and doing amazing. Everything you've been through, as bad as they suck, are meant to be and leading you exactly where you need to be!! And...I would love to see a condo tour. That place looks so awesome❤
I have come full circle-- born in Taylor Mi,,,moved all around Tayor---sold bought homes, recession hit,,bankruptcy ...my husband and I are now 61 and moved back to Taylor Mi and we finially feel at Home ---and happy---not much money--but happy--- that is everything---you are so insightful and down to earth---glad to have found you, blessings....
I feel like I've gone through a very similar moving situation. My husband and I had both lived in one state our entire lives, and we decided to move to a different state, thinking it would be the best thing for our future. WELP. It was not, we absolutely hate it here and it's been a nightmare. We've decided to move back to where we came from, but we've been stuck in an apartment lease for a year, and have a couple weeks left before we move back. But boy, it has taken a toll on our mental health. It sucks. BUT I actually don't regret it because I have this new appreciation for my home state that I didn't have before, and I'm so excited to go back home.
I’m so sorry you also had to go through that, the knowledge we gain is definitely necessary. I can’t wait for you to move back home 🖤
I just wanted to let you know my 5 year old is obsessed with your hair videos. She just fell asleep watching a rainbow hair video 🌈 Glad you are feeling better back in the Midwest!
Oh WOW hon, I thought you'd just moved to 1 state, into an apartment, then into a condo in the same city. I'm sorry, moving is very stressful, especially when there's an emotional necessity for the move.
My heart goes out to you ❤. Sometimes we don’t make the right decision, but we can make the decision right. One thing I have learnt is that “home” is not the physical building or the things in it, it’s the people around me: my partner, my dog, my neighbours and my friends who live nearby. I feel for you with the mental health and eating struggles too: I am in a big depression pit right now and I’ve just starting getting treatment for addictive eating which has cause 40kg/90lbs of weight gain in my adult life which I keep gaining and losing.
I think you're so brave! You were able to see how unhappy moving away made you and you self corrected. .Many people can't do that. So hugs to you 🖤
Being someone in Michigan I 100% know how you feel about wanting to be around like minded people, I moved out west and it was almost culture shock with how kind people were
But you are right about the Midwest having something special, I moved back as well, it has a way of making you love it and want to stay lol
i commented this on the video where you mentioned getting a part time job but i really do recommend it - working at a gym!! whether it’s front desk or the juice bar or management, i’ve worked at a couple gyms and the people are always so nice, plus free gym membership!!! it’s so worth it, especially working at a high-end place that i would never be able to afford otherwise. plus it kinda motivates you to workout because you’re already at the gym lol just bring some sneakers and bam!
I have problems with food as well but I haven't got a diagnosis yet. But I do know I have body dysmorphia. It sucks bad. Your really brave for being so open about it!
Omg hearing the cry in your voice broke my heart ❤ hope you feel safe and at home where you at right now
The South is TOXIC. I'm trapped in a suburb in TX and it's absolutely the worst. I'm so glad you're back home and feeling better. 🖤🖤🖤
Thank you for sharing this ❤️ I think that everybody needs to move away from home at some point in their life. They either realize how much they appreciate their roots or realize that it was the right choice to leave! Both are super important and then you don't have to wonder anymore if you have been making the right choice. It really gives you perspective.
I would DIE if you came out with a makeup palette 😍🥰🥰🥰
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@@AkaAislinn 😱😱 ☠️ 🥰🥰🥰
I’m 52 and have never regretted not having kids. I’ve never in my life had the urge to have any. 💗🇦🇺
I want to say regarding your video where you said you didn't feel like you were a good cat mom because you are constantly moving. I want to say that you are a great cat mom and I want to say that they love you as much as you love them. You never gave up on them and I know they will never give up on you. You gave them a loving home and no matter where they go with you, it will be home as long as you're there with them. I can tell you every time they are in a video even though it's for a short amount of time they are always so chill and so happy. That tells me you are doing a great job and they feel comfortable around you.
I’m literally crying. Thank you so much 🥺😭
As someone in the Midwest in a tiny town, I get it. My hope is always that I come across like minded people. Reality is people suck even in the city. I am sorry you tried to make a huge change to be disappointed. You are awesome and deserve awesome people around you. I am in Indiana and when I tell you most people around me do not align with my values at all but I do have a tribe of folks that are amazing. College towns are usually a little better. I wish you luck and hopefully you have some friends close by because that always helps my friends are spread out but we keep in touch weekly. ❤️
Indiana girl right here!!! I like it. Home sweet home.
Oh girl, I just want to give you a hug. So just take this as a big 'ol virtual hug ok.
PS, over a decade ago I moved 1k+ miles away, also from Midwest to South, and I am in a city, but I understand its hard, so much harder than I thought anything would be.
Also, you have been such an inspiration to me to do my own hair, so literally because of you I've been living my best purple hair life for about a year now.
I had no idea you struggled with an ed (for good reason, I understand the privacy), thank you for sharing with us! I have issues with binge eating as well and it is really hard, especially during stressful times. Sending love your way! 💕✨
I live in MO and when I was 21 I moved to Massachusetts. Was the worst decision in so many ways. But when I moved back I fell into a job where I met my now husband. I wouldn’t have him or my 2 girls if I hadn’t made that big mistake. Love you, you’re not alone ❤
You will not regret seeing Bad Omens live. They sound so good
I can not wait 😭😭
I saw them last year and my life has never been the same since 😍
The perks of being a wallflower and twilight are my favorites also ❤ Thank you for being vulnerable about your struggles. I have always loved your content. You are so fucking cool. 🤟🏼
1. I feel you on moving away from the only home you've ever known. I was born & raised in Florida for 28 years then decided to move up North. Been up here 5 years now, hardest thing I've had to go through. I've only made 2 friends in that time, but I do have an awesome online community as well. I'm glad you were able to move back home
Oh man - some things you said really rang true. I live in a small town in the midwest. There is one stylist in the salon I go to that does "weird" hair colorings. I have to call in weeks in advance just to make sure I can book with her when i get my hair done. Whenever I go in to get mine done - there's always a parade of folks either giving me the sideeye or a parade of folks checking out the hair noone has seen done before... that's really hard for me as a hardcore introvert... but I am so glad for that one stylist that has a passion for what I call the fun hair styles. I don't even go all over vibrant - but I love my blues/purples/teals.
So glad you're feeling better! I feel the same about my living space. I prefer small, with 2 bathrooms. Larger spaces just don't feel as homey. I have learned that it takes about 3 months for anywhere to feel like home, and I've moved a lot.
You are such a beautiful human being. Inside and out!
Thank you 😭
@AkaAislinn PS if you want a toned down version of wearable Patchouli oil, try the Auric Blends roll on oil called Egyptian Goddess (or their one called Love). You'll love it!!
I’ve been waiting to have so many updates on moving I absolutely loved vlogmas from you so have just hoped and prayed it went amazing, I’m so sorry it didn’t but it’s so lovely to see you at peace and content with life now. You’re amazing and I’m so happy you’re happy and safe! I would be so happy to see a house tour but only if you’re comfortable! I love your home, life content! It’s my fav 🥹🫶🏼
I struggle with binge eating disorder and bulimia. It's been a lifelong journey but I'm always making progress. It's hard but you are amazing and just know that you are so, so beautiful inside and out. Self love is the foundation for growth and you truly seem like such a kind person. Wishing you the best, you are capable and worthy and even the bumps in the road are a learning experience
Have you ever thought about getting a manufactured home? Like a mobile home, but they’ve come a long way! You can get a little land so you have a bit of room and the manufactured home company will come put your house down on it! I’ve seen some awesome 3 bedroom 2 baths! I hope you find everything you’re looking for asap!
I never really had any hobbies except for makeup, hair and fashion, but I recently started crocheting and I can’t stop. I’ll sit for hours straight haha. So I really recommend trying it out - there are so many great youtube tutorials and inspo on pinterest for alt clothes and stuff to do.
Oh you have been through so much! I love you and am glad you are doing better. I miss the mountains and think about them all the time.
Thank you for sharing so much today with us, I really appreciate this video! It sounded heartbreaking when you talked about your time down in the south, this kind of remorse just hits different and comes with so much regret and doubts. But as my follower-collegues already said, you HAD to move in order to get to the mindset you have now and in order to grow. You are now way different than the you from six months ago, that's great!
Recover well from this moving and "house-divorcing", I wish you all the weird energy to get back on your feet, rainbow queen! \o /
The world is full of your supporters, even though they might not live all in your area!
Looking forward for more weird and heartwarming content! 💙💜💚
I screamed when I saw the palette!🌈 I'm SO going to get that when it comes out - you have amazing fashion taste and your makeup is always on point! Congrats on the collab and I can't wait until it releases!
Totally feel you on the house size thing. My husband and I moved to a 2000k+ sq ft house with another couple and it was waaaaaay too big. Don’t even get me started on the cost of utilities every month. Cleaning was so annoying, the amount of stuff we collected afterwards made moving a nightmare etc etc blah blah blah. We moved into a place afterwards that was half the size and we’re so much happier. I’ll never wish for a house that’s too large for me ever again
I’m not from the Midwest, but what you said about home really resonated with me. I’ve lived in three different states and one other country since I moved away for college and no matter where I was, there has always been a part of me that missed my home state. I’m sorry the move didn’t work out like you hoped, but kudos to you for being brave enough to try it and to admit you weren’t happy.
There’s a quote that I love which goes, “don’t cling to a mistake just because you spent a lot of time making it.” I’m so sorry you had such a hard time, but I’m glad you’re back home and doing better. Plus, now you know for sure you don’t want to live anywhere else, and you don’t have to spend your whole life wondering. ❤
My bucket list item was seeing the Northern Lights. My husband and I went to Norway in February. It was AMAZING! We saw the lights a number of times. We were lucky enough to see them with the naked eye one night. I cried. I cried when we could only capture them with a camara. And I cried because I missed my dog so much.
Watching you adulting makes me feel a lot less nervous about being a young adult. We all struggle, and being an adult doesn’t come with a manual. I love your new tattoos, I’m proud of you and look up to you.
44+ minutes.. my friend had time today ❤ congrats on the new space
I am so sorry you had to go through that I stress eat a lot in the winter because I have seasonal depression and being from Ohio I understand wanting to get out of that Midwest living but I always feared have that exact same thing can it's definitely hard because I'm a black woman its hard feeling I'm welcomed in Ohio outside of my neighborhood
I can not even imagine how that would feel 🖤 I’m sorry
Sorry to hear you’re feeling bad about yourself :( I’m in the same boat - lost a bunch of weight, gained it all back during an abusive relationship, now I’m having a hard time getting motivated to work out and I hate that did it to myself again. Question - how does the weight loss/gain affect your tattoos? I recently got a half sleeve and I’m kinda worried it will get warped when I lose weight.
Doesn’t affect it much! If you lost a shit ton of weight it would affect if more but I have never noticed them becoming different 🖤
@@AkaAislinn thank you!
Girl, same same same on constantly thinking about my cats when I go out of town. It stresses me out so bad! But I will always have cats even with the hardship of dealing with their deaths bc they bring me immense joy.
I wish you all the best on your ED journey ❤ for me cognitive behavioural therapy really helped both with maintaining a stable weight but also with all the emotions surrounding food and how i used food as a coping mechanism.
I have moved a ton for work, so many different types of houses, and I agree that 1500-1700 sq feet is just right to me. Some places just feel more like home than others. There is one place I loved and I still mourn/grieve the loss of that place, so I understand the deep sadness. But it does get better, just like all grief. And now I am in a house/home I love very much that feels close to that perfect one. Until the next move … but I’m changing jobs soon so I’ll be able to settle down.
I live about an hour outside of Atlanta now and it feels a hell of a lot different from an hour outside of Nashville (where I used to live). My county (Newton) is also a blue county so that helps I’m sure. I’m sorry you didn’t find what you were looking for!☹️ I’d love it if you did some more travel vlogs. Take a trip to California!💚
I’m from Iowa, living in Florida and I really really miss it. I miss my family, the small cities. Thankfully, there’s always likeminded people you can find if you look in the safe places ❤
Wow, the best part of you is that you don't want your own kids. But you would prefer to save other orphans and there are so many kids out there that needs love and your heart is a 💎
“A select few are a little psycho” (queue nervous smile/laugh) 😂😂 I am from MN and moved to AZ so I get that drastic change can be hard. Glad you found your happy place.
Man, this was really emotional to watch. I'm glad you're doing better and looking at lessons learned, but I just hope things get way better soon. You so deserve happiness and comfort and peace. We love you, thank you for sharing what you do share with us. 🖤
I do agree that you have to live in a city when it comes to the south.
As a native Californian, the same thing applies. The popular vote is actually red in CA (only the electoral college votes blue bc they're all coming from San Francisco & why people assume CA is a blue state)
The cities closer to Oregon & the middle of the state (cities like Fresno, Bakersfield, etc) have the same small town vibe
as someone who moved across the country last year, i cannot imagine the stress of moving out of state a second time so soon! im so sorry. not even including the mental stress, address changing alone is a nightmare
Yesss I would love to see a condo tour!! During your moving series you showed some of the decor stuff you found at like dollar tree so a video on decorating or DIY home decor would be really fun to watch
Girl!!! You are a fighter! Being able to move that long distance twice in the same year. I think most suburbs around any city, of any state......maybe with the exception of California, idk cuz I never lived there.....are going to have their pockets of conservative constituents that have a hard time opening up to new ideas. I hope you just find a place that when you step outdoors, makes you smile.
Thank you so much 🖤
I would be into bits and pieces. People have been able to find a RUclipsrs home just by local landmarks and inside snippets of their home. I would say be on the safer side and just show things like your studio or if you do a cool room sure super proud of!
I feel you with the culture shock. I moved from Germany to California. It is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.
Thanks for sharing Aislinn. You are loved and supported never forget that! We are hear to listen and love you no matter what! ❤
Northern Lights is #1 on my bucket list too!
We love you exactly as you are Aislinn 💞🌈
I was convinced you would go to Colorado and was slightly shocked when I realized you must be closer to Savannah. So sorry that it was a painful journey but the growth has to be an amazing feeling.
I feel you on the moving! I actually did the same thing moved from Iowa to Tennessee then to Colorado and it's finally my new home away from home 8 years later but nothing beats my hometown in Iowa! I dream about it still hah love you and thanks for sharing! I hope you make some friends if not we are here for you! ❤🤩😇
We relate so much on so many things, I wish I could find friends like you. I'm really sorry to hear that you've been struggling with your weight, I've yoyoed with my weight and struggled with food for the same amount of time as you, I know it doesn't mean much, but I think you're beautiful at all weights and I think you're even more beautiful when I've seen you without makeup and just completely natural. I'm happy that things have gotten better for you recently
My fave types of videos. Having such a rough couple days and this is what I needed 🥹
Please do a house tour! I am currently revamping my home and we have similar styles. I'd love to see what you did and where you got stuff. But also just want to see your new place and how everyone is settling in :D
So pumped for your upload. Love these kinds of videos. Also curious how your brother and mom has been. Miss their content with you.
Also DEFINITELY would love a condo tour so we can see your esthetic!
I wish I could film more with them but they both live very far away from me 🖤
@@AkaAislinn oh I understand completely. Hope they are all doing okay.
I went from Ohio to North Carolina and then back to Ohio and you’re so right about the Midwest. It’s just the best!! I love it here and want to be nowhere else. I hope you’re close to friends again and that you’re happier than ever! You deserve it.
You are such a great part of youtube...I just adore you!
Colorado is actually the best for your values and it has the Midwest feels as well. It's just a bit more expensive.
I would love to see a house tour, but also I respect your wishes on wanting to keep your private life private!
As someone who has dealt with weight issues, whether it be binge eating or just yo-yoing between numbers on the scale, what's helped me the most was just accepting that my disorder or unhealthy habits, whatever they may be, are totally normal. While I do strive to take care of my body through much healthier eating habbits and exercise, I dont tell myself I'll never eat a donut, or ice cream, or a cheeseburer ever again. This mindset will torment you, telling yourself you can't enjoy alcohol, or high calories foods ever again is like a shackle on your own happiness. My perspective is not to be my own enabler and ignoring all the consequences of my own health, however I'm also not encouraging myself to be obsessive and unrelentlessly rigid of how I live my own life. The key for me was just telling myself that there will be times that I can enjoy myself and I can enjoy life, even if I gain weight or wake up hungover as long as I can balance myself and not lose control of my guilty pleasures.
Changing the subject, thank you very much for sharing yourself and being open, it's not easy to put yourself out there on the level you do. It's because of your content I took my first step into coloring and styling my own hair. I had been interested for a long time, but way too intimidated to color or cut my own hair, even more so because I'm a guy and I was paranoid about what others would think. It wasn't until I found your channel that I finally found someone who I could understand that allowed my dreams a solid foundation to build upon. I would watch hours and hours of your videos, taking notes all along the way. What was once just curiosity ended up becoming one of my favorite hobbies, I even met my current girlfriend because we bonded over hair aesthetics, so yeah, under the chance encounter you see this message I just wanted to clarify your content means a lot to your community, so many doors opened for me just because I randomly found your channel one day. Thank you for your hard work and dedication.
I live in Indiana and I honestly love it very much. I recently moved to an even smaller town than the one I was born in, but I’m having such a hard time with depression because there really isn’t anyone in town for us. But I keep reminding myself that I still love the country and our privacy and it’s worth it for my children.
I appreciate you speaking out about binge eating, too. I gained 50+ pounds, recently lost 25ish but I’m struggling with falling back into those damn habits that make me hate myself so much. Seriously, I love your ability to share even when you’re worried about your privacy.
Thank you for your openness in this video!
As someone from the midwest who is currently living in the south I totally get it.
I hope I can move back someday.
I’m sorry the move didn’t work out for you I feel like wherever you are you just have to find like people ❤ hope you feel better and your channel helps me feel better ❤
I would love to see a house tour! I want to see your style and you decorate! I loved your moving series and decorating, you should do more of it with doing up the new place!:) xx
I would love a house tour, but not at the expense of your feeling of safety, so whatever you decide is OK by me! Love ya lady!!
Condo tour yes please! So sorry moving south sucked for you 🖤 that's a bummer but glad your back in the area that makes you happy and feel like "home"
We bought our 1800 sq ft house in 1996. April 4th will make 26 years we have lived in this house...we bought it for around $295k... It's now worth $1.1 million dollars, just due to LOCATION ‼️ Good luck in finding a house. I mean that whole heartedly 💕💗❣️ I have heard things are much better in the mainland❣️ 💞 ALOHA FROM HAWAI'I 💞🌹 LYSSA 🌹
id love to see a tour, i suppose you can show the parts you'd like to
I love that you moved back to the Midwest as a lifelong Midwesterner myself I always love to follow content creators in the Midwest. I get it, we have some bullshit but in general the energy is what I need to thrive. Thankfully i live in a very liberal area though. Also, have you ever listened to the podcast maintenance phase? It's been really helpful for me in terms of learning to have a less judgmental relationship with my own body.
I’m so obsessed with this hair on you! it compliments your skin so well
Hi there! Thank you for your honesty and this Q&A - so great I couldn’t stop watching! You’re wise and love that you open up to your community! Lysm
First, love you and I'm glad you're in a better spot now! Of course we want a tour if you wanna share, totally understand wanting to keep personal stuff private. Dunno if this has been answered previously but what happened to our 'stay weird' send off? I miss tapping my fingers and saying it with you lol
Thanks for opening up and sharing your life. I understand about the home situation.. ❤u!! Ps you have a friend right here!!
Thanks so much for sharing. And setting boundaries. You're amazing. ❤
I live in the PNW, and I tend to overeat frequently, especially with SADD. So, I went to a naturopath, and using Rodhiola Rosea with Ashwagndha has helped me sooo much and given me more energy than my anxiety and depression meds.
Hey so this is totally unsolicited advice lol (and I’m nowhere near my goal). But I decided to abandon a lot of my old “rules” around food because I tend to be a binger as well. I lost 25 2 years ago and then gained like 35 lol. This was because i went on a really strict diet. And at the time it was my life and i was like “I’d rather diet than workout blah blah.” So now i am basically doing the opposite. I’ve had to tell myself to snack so I don’t get so hungry that I inhale my meals at the end of the day or make “bad” choices (usually sweet stuff for me lol). I eat carbs, I make sure I’m fed throughout the day, and I work out 3x/week doing 90% lifting and barely any cardio (because I hate long stints of cardio). Through all this I’m less restricted and less guilty. I add in healthy eating habits when i can like eating more clean protein but sometimes that doesn’t happen and it’s ok. I’m in it for the long haul this time around. Basically… if you can figure out what makes you feel good, what’s sustainable enough that you can say “I can do this for a year or more,” it will probably stick. The guilt around food is such a shitty feeling so I’d just say try to make it be less about guilt and more about balance. Not saying it’s easy but I feel like my brain is healing from the idea of thinking of foods being bad and I can never have them again. And because of that I actually have more self control because I’m not eating stuff like I’m never going to see it again.
Again… just feeling like we’re in a really similar situation so I just felt like talking about what’s helping me. I tend to hate when people give advice and I know you’re smart and you’ve done it before. But also wishing you the best and hoping you find what works for YOU and makes you feel good! Not what other people say is the “right” method. ❤
So happy to hear you feel at home now 🖤
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MORE THAN I ALREADY DID!! BAD OMENS IS LITERALLY MY FAVORITE BAND. I JUST DID MEET AND GREET AND AM SEEING THEM FOR THE 5TH TIME THIS SEPTEMBER.
Your tattoos look amazing!!
you look so beautiful right here (always do but I love this look!)
You are amazing and I love all of your content. I always look forward to watching you! Thank you for sharing ❤
Hey Aislinn 😊 I’m from the Midwest too, Michigan actually & if you’ve never been, The Upper Peninsula is one of the most beautiful places & you’re able to see the Northern Lights up there quite frequently-haha just throwing that out there if you can’t travel further to see them :) xoxo Hang in there with the move, I always think everything happens for a reason, you’re where you are right now in this moment for something, even if it doesn’t seem clear right now. Sending love ❤
I also have a binge eating disorder. It makes me feel like crap too because I worked hard for years to lose weight to just gain it back.