Preventing suicide in the construction industry | Vince Hafeli | TEDxAberystwyth

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  • Опубликовано: 15 окт 2024

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  • @wuyattakeita3883
    @wuyattakeita3883 4 месяца назад +2

    Everyone needs a support system, even the toughest of us all.

    • @josievannorman
      @josievannorman 3 месяца назад

      Sometimes even especially the toughest of us 💙

  • @StarfireStarleena
    @StarfireStarleena 3 месяца назад +1

    It's really crazy to hear how pervasive mental health issues are in the construction industry. Hopefully more discourse like this will make a difference.

    • @vincehafeli9691
      @vincehafeli9691 3 месяца назад

      Thank you for watching and learning.

  • @remigradilenga4121
    @remigradilenga4121 3 месяца назад +1

    The raw honesty in this talk is truly commendable. It's a reminder that mental health should be treated with the same urgency as physical health and I appreciate that

  • @undeadmerlinisalivenow
    @undeadmerlinisalivenow 3 месяца назад +1

    I appreciate his emphasis on compassion and empathy when addressing mental health issues. We all have a role to play in supporting each other

    • @julestempest
      @julestempest 3 месяца назад +1

      I think so too, and the more we can support one another maybe the better it gets on an overall societal level

  • @mateomardenson3022
    @mateomardenson3022 3 месяца назад +1

    The vulnerability is super inspiring, we love to see it 💪🏼

  • @TracieJLee
    @TracieJLee 3 месяца назад +1

    You are a good man Vince, we feel you...

  • @ThePackHunter
    @ThePackHunter 3 месяца назад +1

    This has made me rethink how we handle mental health in the workplace. It's time to support our colleagues better and create a more understanding environment.

  • @JValence
    @JValence 5 месяцев назад +1

    heartbreaking to hear Vince's story but it's so important for him to have shared. It opens up the conversation.

  • @thereallyfatcat
    @thereallyfatcat 6 месяцев назад +1

    Education and conversation are key to changing the narrative. Important talk.

  • @jeanetteward
    @jeanetteward 3 месяца назад +1

    It's heartbreaking to hear about the personal losses the speaker endured. We need to ensure that no one feels like they have to suffer in silence.

  • @deepfocus1540
    @deepfocus1540 3 месяца назад +1

    Agreed! Construction workers are the backbone of our society, and their well-being matters. Time for the industry to step up and echo this sentiment.

    • @vincehafeli9691
      @vincehafeli9691 3 месяца назад +1

      Thank you for your support.

    • @deepfocus1540
      @deepfocus1540 3 месяца назад

      @@vincehafeli9691 great message man, keep going... its important

  • @farahjuniper9214
    @farahjuniper9214 4 месяца назад +1

    Wow this had me from the get go, being reminded that we often forget the human element in construction... I'm so guilty of this I don't think I've ever really thought about how taxing being in this industry would be

  • @cyruslandon
    @cyruslandon 5 месяцев назад +1

    I just want to thank him for his courage in doing this, believe me for a bloke this is not easy to do.

  • @janiceglanders
    @janiceglanders 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you Vince, this is such a valuable contribution towards breaking the stigma 💜

  • @iamsamfemia
    @iamsamfemia 3 месяца назад +1

    This has really challenged my perception of what a workplace is responsible for. Like it makes sense that the physical safety is such a priority on construction sites but I never thought that companies could be held accountable for the mental health aspect as well

    • @josievannorman
      @josievannorman 3 месяца назад

      I'm not sure they can be "held accountable" in terms of people suing them or anything along those lines but they definitely could be providing a lot more support

  • @ameliasands
    @ameliasands 5 месяцев назад +1

    Mental health needs to be a safety priority too. Glad Vince highlighted this.

    • @josievannorman
      @josievannorman 3 месяца назад

      I don't know how they would manage it as a safety priority the way they do physical health but there are so many things that could be put in place to just offer some mental health support

  • @harperleigh1709
    @harperleigh1709 6 месяцев назад +1

    Mate, your story's like a blockbuster script. Life threw you some plot twists, but you're the hero pulling through. Big respect for sharing the real deal.

  • @jujurocker
    @jujurocker 5 месяцев назад +1

    Vince's personal story adds so much weight to his message. Truly impactful.

  • @oo_eddie_oo4204
    @oo_eddie_oo4204 8 месяцев назад +1

    Your honesty about the societal pressure in construction is refreshing. It's time we talk about the mental health challenges in tough industries, it seems like there's so much more than what we know of

    • @mintylava4123
      @mintylava4123 8 месяцев назад

      I agree, I think unless you're in that particular industry it can be really hard to understand the struggles that go with it

  • @ZigWagon
    @ZigWagon 5 месяцев назад +1

    Vince's message is powerful: being a good listener can save lives. It's a simple yet profound takeaway. We often underestimate the power of just being there for someone. Kudos to him for bringing this to light.

    • @themostofall4250
      @themostofall4250 4 месяца назад

      definitely, such good advice for anyone.

  • @izayahmayson
    @izayahmayson 5 месяцев назад +1

    Man I had tears in my eyes for so much of this talk. Mental health matters in _every_ industry, and construction is no exception.

    • @themostofall4250
      @themostofall4250 4 месяца назад

      arguably it should have the most focus considering it's mostly men who work in it

  • @kenfletcher1306
    @kenfletcher1306 7 месяцев назад +2

    The emphasis on the importance of difficult conversations is spot-on. It's not about solving everything in one talk, but about opening up those channels of communication so that everything _can_ be talked about freely.

  • @carolinechery
    @carolinechery 5 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you, Vince, for being a voice for those who need it most.

  • @erikdangor
    @erikdangor 4 месяца назад +1

    Breaking the silence on a topic like this, by a guy directly involved/impacted is pretty impressive. Hopefully by initiating these conversations we could help to save lives.

    • @themostofall4250
      @themostofall4250 4 месяца назад

      yeah, it's huge. here's hoping the industry pays attention

    • @julestempest
      @julestempest 3 месяца назад

      I think so too, if we can just keep the discussion going and normalize things a bit more there's no telling how much or who it could help

  • @mintylava4123
    @mintylava4123 8 месяцев назад +1

    Dude, your story hit me hard. Life can be a rollercoaster, but sharing your struggles is like throwing a lifeline to others. Keep spreading the positive vibes!

  • @riverjaspartile
    @riverjaspartile 4 месяца назад +1

    silence can be so loud when it comes to mental health. glad Vince is speaking up...

    • @josievannorman
      @josievannorman 3 месяца назад

      Same, if everyone just spoke on what they were actually feeling the world would be such a different place

  • @luisasanchez5532
    @luisasanchez5532 5 месяцев назад

    More leaders need to open up like this and be honest about mental health. It can't be just this guy whose had an experience like that.

  • @BlingHive
    @BlingHive 5 месяцев назад

    really moved by Vince's story. It's high time we prioritize mental health in every industry.

  • @bonniehavel
    @bonniehavel 5 месяцев назад

    Thank you for shedding light on the silent struggles many face. Let's create environments where people feel safe to share their burdens and seek support.

  • @giovanni-is-here
    @giovanni-is-here 6 месяцев назад

    This is something that's happening everywhere, so there are conversations we need to have more often

  • @annmerrychristmas
    @annmerrychristmas 3 месяца назад

    I'm not even in construction and this talk makes me want to support my teams mental health in better ways. A wake-up call for all industries I think.

  • @katyabradova
    @katyabradova 7 месяцев назад

    Okay I was choked up from the moment he talked about reading those goodbye letters to his most valuable employees. That is so emotionally intense and I can't imagine having those just sitting in your desk drawer in preparation.

  • @ehsaankumer
    @ehsaankumer 6 месяцев назад

    As someone who's lost loved ones to suicide, this resonated deeply with me. It's time to break the stigma and prioritize mental well-being - for everyone

  • @sandralewandowski
    @sandralewandowski 7 месяцев назад

    Acknowledging that you don't have to 'fix' everything but just be there is a crucial insight. Thanks for sharing.

  • @alanpotsypotts
    @alanpotsypotts 3 месяца назад

    This talk made me realize the importance of being there for others, even when it's uncomfortable

    • @vincehafeli9691
      @vincehafeli9691 3 месяца назад

      Thank you for taking something away.

  • @keithpotter7366
    @keithpotter7366 9 месяцев назад +1

    heavy stuff, but spot on. good to know someone is doing the right thing.

  • @ElegantEye
    @ElegantEye 3 месяца назад

    Yup this rings pretty true for me, it's incredibly rare to hear about mental health in male-dominated industries.

  • @justanormalboyreallynormal
    @justanormalboyreallynormal 5 месяцев назад

    It's inspiring to see someone from the industry step up and address the mental health stigma, I think conversations like these can truly save lives.

    • @vincehafeli9691
      @vincehafeli9691 5 месяцев назад

      We begin with one conversation at a time. Thank you.

  • @sofiatclara
    @sofiatclara 4 месяца назад

    Feeling incredibly moved by Vince's message. Suicide prevention shouldn't be a niche topic.

    • @vincehafeli9691
      @vincehafeli9691 3 месяца назад

      Thank you for watching and learning.

  • @nataschaweiss
    @nataschaweiss 3 месяца назад

    This talk brought up so many important points about the stigma around mental health. Let's work towards a culture where expressing vulnerability is seen as a strength and an opportunity to strengthen bonds

  • @chesterwatson2387
    @chesterwatson2387 6 месяцев назад

    I never realized the extent of mental health issues in the construction industry. It's time for companies to step up and support their workers beyond just safety protocols.

  • @yannicarliso
    @yannicarliso 6 месяцев назад

    Vince's bravery in sharing his personal journey is remarkable. It really puts into perspective the silent battles many in the construction industry face. It's a wake-up call for leadership at all levels to foster open dialogues around mental health.

    • @RantrumDiva
      @RantrumDiva 5 месяцев назад

      Absolutely. It's amazing for him to have spoken out like that

  • @gerdefrederick
    @gerdefrederick 5 месяцев назад

    Addressing mental health in the construction industry is long overdue

  • @_mama_tea_6590
    @_mama_tea_6590 5 месяцев назад +1

    My husband worked with a man who was the loveliest, funniest, most charming, God loving person I'd ever known. He would come for dinner on Friday nights. We had him over one night and he left with a smile, hugged me and said he'd see me next week. We never saw him again and I still just can't understand it

    • @julestempest
      @julestempest 3 месяца назад

      that's really sad. I think the never knowing why part is the hardest

  • @rinanoshinikov
    @rinanoshinikov 7 месяцев назад

    I can't believe the social pressure in construction is so intense. Your call to educate leaders and change the narrative is a game-changer. Way to break those stereotypes!

  • @KozomoBlur
    @KozomoBlur 7 месяцев назад

    I can't believe the suicide rates in the construction industry are so high! This is such a vital call for change. We need more leaders to get on board with addressing these issues.

  • @agcocoa
    @agcocoa 4 месяца назад

    What he went through is a testament to the human spirit. He has endured so much but pushed through the dark night of the soul and is now using his experience and pain to create a better world for those in his same position. Incredible.

  • @melrobertsreal
    @melrobertsreal 4 месяца назад

    I think we all have a role to play in creating supportive and compassionate work environments, for a lot of us that can be done by just being supportive and compassionate at work.

  • @themarybasse
    @themarybasse 8 месяцев назад

    The call for education and awareness in leadership is spot on, sharing!!

    • @mintylava4123
      @mintylava4123 8 месяцев назад

      Absolutely, imaging how much better it would be coming in to an environment where those in charge prioritized this

  • @SixtySecondsOrLess
    @SixtySecondsOrLess 6 месяцев назад

    I think something that's understated is a lot of the time our work dynamic/relationships are making up so much of our social interactions.

  • @arianaasherton
    @arianaasherton 2 месяца назад

    Ending the stigma around mental health starts with conversations like these. Let's commit to being more compassionate and understanding in our daily interactions, because you never know whose in need of some compassion

  • @caligsimpson
    @caligsimpson 7 месяцев назад

    The part about asking directly if someone is suicidal is bold but necessary. It's time we break free from outdated stigmas. Kudos for pushing it.

  • @shastahasta4563
    @shastahasta4563 9 месяцев назад

    Powerful reminder for leaders. Safety talks shouldn't just be about physical well-being; mental health is equally vital.

    • @geraldemery1417
      @geraldemery1417 9 месяцев назад

      Unfortunately not many people who set the rules think that way.

    • @bobbywie
      @bobbywie 9 месяцев назад

      I think so too, just because you can't the detrimental impact a job is having doesn't mean it isn't there

  • @peoplepower100
    @peoplepower100 8 месяцев назад

    I think there's something really powerful about acknowledging that you don't know how to help someone whose feeling suicidal, but that you're still _there_ and willing/wanting to listen to them. It's not always about having the answers for someone but just that willingness can do wonders to make a person feel seen.

    • @jasminelovell
      @jasminelovell 8 месяцев назад

      💯💯 the rare times I've opened up to someone and they've been like "I know exactly how you feel you need to do xyz..." It just has the opposite effect where I actually am just mad at them? Like, no, you don't know exactly how I feel and that won't work for me... even if it's solid advice lol I don't know what's wrong with me

  • @skyec8562
    @skyec8562 4 месяца назад

    His words are a beacon of light for anyone who may be battling their own inner demons. Amen and God Bless

  • @TooChatForYou
    @TooChatForYou 6 месяцев назад +1

    My husband has worked in retail for as long as I've known him and the other day he said something really interesting about how as a manager he needs to be so many things all at once, and one of the things he listed was counsellor. I was so struck by it because yea he's a compassionate person but he's not qualified for that!! It just made me think how many people are struggling in workplaces and turning to the wrong people for help and support. From the sounds of things this is an industry where those in management might not even be willing to lend an empathetic ear.

    • @ElisendaPliego
      @ElisendaPliego 6 месяцев назад

      This makes me think of Ron, thanks for sending

    • @DeriviaGraham
      @DeriviaGraham 6 месяцев назад

      I know why you found this and shared it, bless you.

    • @MelahHolland
      @MelahHolland 6 месяцев назад

      Corporations don't spend the money needed to keep their employees safe

    • @RaquelFontirroig
      @RaquelFontirroig 6 месяцев назад

      I know so many people in HR that arent able to do the job because they have enough training.

    • @CynthisDorsey
      @CynthisDorsey 6 месяцев назад

      Love you shared this on our group.

  • @dino1416
    @dino1416 6 месяцев назад

    This is a powerful reminder that behind every tough exterior, there might be someone silently struggling. Let's normalize conversations about mental health in the workplace

  • @miatta6299
    @miatta6299 6 месяцев назад

    I appreciate the honesty in this talk. Mental health is such a big topic and honestly I don't know how men cope, especially in industries like construction where the pressure to be tough and strong at all times is so much more amplified than normal spaces.

  • @shannonpscofield
    @shannonpscofield 5 месяцев назад

    It’s crucial we start these tough conversations at work. Great talk!

    • @RantrumDiva
      @RantrumDiva 5 месяцев назад

      Yeah at work and also outside of it. Like if you socialize with the people you work with you should make more of an effort to be aware of what's going on in their lives

  • @glennhamilton3rd
    @glennhamilton3rd 6 месяцев назад

    I've been saying for _years_ that mental health should be included with OH&S and I only have experience in hospitality. It would be incredible to see the construction industry take a lead on the issue and from the sounds of things it's also where it's most needed

  • @imanitruez
    @imanitruez 8 месяцев назад

    Yeahh this is pretty heavy stuff... Thanks for keeping it real. Mental health's a tough game, and it's about time we start talking about it without the judgment.

    • @simonoshlor
      @simonoshlor 8 месяцев назад

      💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @therealbellasantarosa
    @therealbellasantarosa 8 месяцев назад

    The loss of your family members in '89 hit hard. Your strength to keep going and face the world is commendable. Thanks for the real talk on dealing with pain.

    • @mintylava4123
      @mintylava4123 8 месяцев назад

      Yeah it was a pretty brutaI part of the story...

    • @kenfletcher1306
      @kenfletcher1306 7 месяцев назад

      I don't mean any offence here but I think calling how he dealt with the situation "strength" perpetuates a lot of stereotypes around how men need to act. He's even said that the way he mishandled all that grief contributed to the suicidal thoughts.

    • @vincehafeli9691
      @vincehafeli9691 3 месяца назад

      @@kenfletcher1306 I absolutely did deal with it wrong. I should have talked with someone. Anyone. I didn't need to be a "man", I should have acknowledged that I needed support.

  • @aylamorris
    @aylamorris 7 месяцев назад

    Life is a tough game, and you've proven to be a real MVP by overcoming those challenges. Your strength is commendable.

  • @rangatvespaldy
    @rangatvespaldy 7 месяцев назад

    Your closing words on the power of listening hit home. Sometimes, just being there and listening can make a huge difference.

  • @fredbrodersen2734
    @fredbrodersen2734 3 месяца назад

    Sharing this for sure

  • @rubylcharlotte
    @rubylcharlotte 7 месяцев назад

    The part about not being allowed to express feelings at work is sadly relatable. I work in disabilities and healthcare and it can be a lot but there's this pressure to just stay positive that's honestly kind of toxic and definitely leads to burnout

  • @the-coffee-lover
    @the-coffee-lover 5 месяцев назад

    The most important things are rarely discussed, like how we feel.....

  • @IHaveDenverSoul
    @IHaveDenverSoul 7 месяцев назад

    The analogy about showing up with physical pain versus emotional pain is striking. We need to treat mental health with the same urgency. Great point!

  • @kiarakillian
    @kiarakillian 8 месяцев назад

    Gosh I hope we see change across sectors moving forward, there are way too many lives lost already.

  • @conradthelegendwhite
    @conradthelegendwhite 6 месяцев назад

    This is a great step in the right direction, well done

  • @omarputal
    @omarputal 6 месяцев назад

    This talk made me realize how much we need to change the culture around discussing mental health. It's not a sign of weakness; it's a sign of strength to ask for help because resilience isn't about just copping it over and over, it's about knowing your limits and protecting yourself.

    • @julestempest
      @julestempest 3 месяца назад

      I love that take and yes knowing your limits is crucial and also setting the boundaries accordingly

  • @thephilosopher59
    @thephilosopher59 5 месяцев назад

    Your doing great work here! The mental health stats are recently climbing dramatically year on year, and in male dominated industries, or even in families, being able to express emotion in a heartfelt and respectful way requires a huge shift in communication leadership. Its not so much about being strong, as accepting the vulnerability within us and knowing when its time to speak, stand up, create change or leave. I read that anger is the expression released when your soulfulness is violated, the hurt is deep inside and misunderstood. That's very hard to release when the doors are closed.

    • @vincehafeli9691
      @vincehafeli9691 5 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your support and kind words.

  • @chantalbrovic
    @chantalbrovic 8 месяцев назад

    Powerful reminder, that even the strongest in society can be taken down by mental health issues.

    • @WormholeHaven
      @WormholeHaven 8 месяцев назад

      The way you've worded that, it comes across pretty harshly

    • @jasminelovell
      @jasminelovell 8 месяцев назад

      @@WormholeHaven does it? I think it sounds pretty standard

  • @haileypattern7666
    @haileypattern7666 4 месяца назад

    Learning about the proper way to ask someone if they're svicidal and how to offer support was really helpful, thank you

    • @vincehafeli9691
      @vincehafeli9691 4 месяца назад

      Thank you for watching and sharing the video.

  • @frasernicholson8509
    @frasernicholson8509 9 месяцев назад

    His experience with suicidal thoughts mirrors mine. Asking someone if they're okay can be a lifeline. It's time to break the silence, ask the hard questions, and save lives.

  • @sadfacesforall
    @sadfacesforall 8 месяцев назад

    Sending you lots of love and strength! Your vulnerability is a beautiful thing. We need more people like you breaking the stigma around mental health 💖

    • @simonoshlor
      @simonoshlor 8 месяцев назад

      I agree, it's really refreshing to hear this kind of chat from a man

    • @jasminelovell
      @jasminelovell 8 месяцев назад

      Yessss we have to normalize in order to move forward and imrpove

  • @AzimuthMindspace
    @AzimuthMindspace 7 месяцев назад

    I was watching another talk about depression and this woman was a therapist talking about how suicide ideation is so common pretty much everyone thinks about it and I was kind of blown away to be honest. I personally hadn't realized it was such a common thought pattern and now hearing about this?? Geez it's time for a change

    • @kenfletcher1306
      @kenfletcher1306 7 месяцев назад

      Wow that is a bit concerning isn't it?

  • @makiweshter
    @makiweshter 8 месяцев назад

    I think it takes a lot of strength to open up like this. Personally I couldn't imagine being so candid about my mental health even with close friends let alone a room full of strangers.

    • @rapid-transit
      @rapid-transit 8 месяцев назад

      That's not a good sign dude. You should find someone you can be honest with - even if it's just a therapist

    • @jasminelovell
      @jasminelovell 8 месяцев назад

      I get what you mean but part of me feels like doing it in a room full of strangers would somehow be easier? The room full of strangers is far less likely to ask questions and judge you lol

    • @jasminelovell
      @jasminelovell 8 месяцев назад

      @@rapid-transit Nahhh I get where he's coming from and I agree it takes a lot of strength

  • @rapid-transit
    @rapid-transit 8 месяцев назад

    His childhood sounds like a dream with all the camping, boats and horses... very different to how I grew up in the inner city but then the challenges faced later in life are so intense. Life definitely is so full of twists and turns you can never take anything for granted or think that someone has it "easier" than you do

    • @sadfacesforall
      @sadfacesforall 8 месяцев назад

      Yess! It's easy to get into a mindset of thinking you have it worse than everyone else and then slowly your empathy wears off... not a good look!!

    • @AzimuthMindspace
      @AzimuthMindspace 7 месяцев назад

      Yeah absolutely not, you never know what's happening behind the scenes for someone

  • @geraldemery1417
    @geraldemery1417 9 месяцев назад

    I love the idea of mental health being included in safety conversations. With stats like the one around the 5:40 mark it is indeed an occupational hazard.

    • @frasernicholson8509
      @frasernicholson8509 9 месяцев назад

      It could really help change the stigma if it was normalized in that way.

    • @newcenturyboy
      @newcenturyboy 9 месяцев назад

      absolutely. we need to stop separating mental and physical health so much

    • @peoplepower100
      @peoplepower100 8 месяцев назад

      Same, putting a spotlight on it like that also helps shifts the conversation into mainstream

  • @bobbywie
    @bobbywie 9 месяцев назад

    Geez this talk packs an emotional punch. He's absolutely right though, about asking the hard questions and then helping them to find the right help.

    • @simonoshlor
      @simonoshlor 8 месяцев назад

      Yeah I think it's important when someone opens up to you you don't just coddle them, you actually help

  • @LocomateMachine
    @LocomateMachine 7 месяцев назад

    I hope that enough people start realizing this is an issue, maybe it could help change some peoples perspectives and attitudes around what men actually go through

  • @Cheyenne1989
    @Cheyenne1989 6 месяцев назад

    If we are the combination of the 5 people we spend the most time with, and we spend the most time at work.... well it makes sense for us to try and make those relationships as positive, joyous and supportive as possible.

  • @phillipnorris3rd
    @phillipnorris3rd 10 месяцев назад +2

    My dad took his own life, it took me years to deal with it, and maybe I still am. I'm not sure I would get my mom to watch, though I think it might help her. She never got over losing him.

    • @janetsplace1953
      @janetsplace1953 10 месяцев назад

      Thanks for sending this, yes I'll never forget Tim.

    • @jodikennedy8886
      @jodikennedy8886 9 месяцев назад

      This is really sad but good on you for taking steps to deal with it. A lot of men just steep in their pain and that doesn't help anyone

    • @DashiellAskin
      @DashiellAskin 9 месяцев назад

      I think it's important that you don't put pressure on yourself to "deal with it" - grief is not linear.

    • @frasernicholson8509
      @frasernicholson8509 9 месяцев назад

      You can move past the grief without moving on from the person.

  • @felipeecoelho
    @felipeecoelho 6 месяцев назад

    Wow I had no idea things were this bad in construction. Some of those stats are downright scary.

  • @Usyard
    @Usyard 8 месяцев назад

    Mental health is overlooked in a lot of workplaces and this just goes to show how detrimental that can be for the workers well-being.

    • @mintylava4123
      @mintylava4123 8 месяцев назад

      Yeah I think mental health is overlooked everywhere, if it was prioritized maybe it wouldn't be up to a workplace to have to manage it.

    • @AzimuthMindspace
      @AzimuthMindspace 7 месяцев назад

      @@mintylava4123 This is such a great point.... I think it speaks volumes about the work-life balance most people have if the workplaces have that much responsibility

  • @tyronecaojr
    @tyronecaojr 6 месяцев назад

    Sobering statistics. We need more awareness and action on this issue.

    • @RantrumDiva
      @RantrumDiva 5 месяцев назад

      I feel like those statistics don't even really reflect just how bad it is. Like it's a big number but when you've actually seen it in real time it's just... there are no words for it

  • @myfavoritestories
    @myfavoritestories 8 месяцев назад +1

    I hope others can learn from your experience.

    • @jasminelovell
      @jasminelovell 8 месяцев назад

      in my experience it's kind of impossible to learn from someone else's experience. The point of sharing stories is so people know they aren't alone, that other people experience similar things and it's normal

    • @kenfletcher1306
      @kenfletcher1306 7 месяцев назад

      @@jasminelovell I get what you're saying here but that shouldn't discourage people from sharing their experiences. We might not learn but we can still find solace in other people having gone through the same stuff

  • @vasttrouble5368
    @vasttrouble5368 8 месяцев назад

    How can we work towards changing societal expectations, especially in male-dominated industries? His experience definitely putting a spotlight on our need to perceive vulnerability as a strength.

    • @AzimuthMindspace
      @AzimuthMindspace 7 месяцев назад

      I agree! No idea how to go about changing that kind of stigma for industries though. I guess it would have to be brought in with the induction procedures? That's after pinpointing _why_ it's happening in the first place too

    • @kenfletcher1306
      @kenfletcher1306 7 месяцев назад

      I think just through talking about it, bringing awareness to it. I also think it's not just about the industries but about being a man in general. Lots of unhealthy opinions and behaviors around what it is to be a man

  • @WormholeHaven
    @WormholeHaven 8 месяцев назад

    The most important steps forward for mental health IMO are awareness and compassion. The more honest and pervasive about breaking the silence people become the more we'll come to realize just how much _everyone_ is struggling right now.

    • @rapid-transit
      @rapid-transit 8 месяцев назад

      I think you're right. I said it before but it's so easy to think other people don't have it tough - even more so when people aren't talking honest and openly about it

    • @sadfacesforall
      @sadfacesforall 8 месяцев назад

      💯💯💯💯

    • @simonoshlor
      @simonoshlor 8 месяцев назад

      This is both refreshing and scary to think about. The thought that everyone is struggling right now... that's a bit confronting. Why is everyone having such a hard time?

    • @AzimuthMindspace
      @AzimuthMindspace 7 месяцев назад

      Yeah this is what I'm starting to realize too, from these comments and some other talks I've seen it seems like pretty much everyone is struggling atm

  • @-joanna-wang
    @-joanna-wang 9 месяцев назад

    Communities need to step up. We can't just rely on workplaces. Churches, community centers, and local organizations should be involved in creating a supportive network for those in need.

  • @theclassicraphaelsanchez
    @theclassicraphaelsanchez 6 месяцев назад

    I used to really live by that quote from Rocky that goes like, "it's not about how hard you can hit, it's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward." I always thought it was not only cool but really summed up what strength means but what happens when you reach that point where you can't take anymore? If you've also been taught that you can't talk about your feelings or ask for help then yeah.. doesn't leave you with many options when that time comes

  • @my-own-boss
    @my-own-boss 5 месяцев назад

    I had a guy I worked with that was always sorta down and really quick to bite your head off... I still thought of him as a mentor though, he was a really great guy and then he was just really happy one day and brought in all these old silversmithing tools he had because he knew I wanted to get into it. That weekend he committed svicide and I can't believe I didn't put two and two together or just realize what was happening to him and try to be there for him more

  • @umitkrca
    @umitkrca 9 месяцев назад

    The statistics on suicide in the construction industry are staggering. Had no idea. Wow.

  • @meganfreed1989
    @meganfreed1989 8 месяцев назад

    I know I'm an extra sensitive person but there were so many moments during this talk that had me choked up. Surprisingly the 7:5 mark was the worst.

    • @sadfacesforall
      @sadfacesforall 8 месяцев назад

      oh my gosh saaaame!!

    • @mintylava4123
      @mintylava4123 8 месяцев назад

      It's an emotional talk that's for sure

  • @jodikennedy8886
    @jodikennedy8886 9 месяцев назад

    Ahhh I was not ready for him to go into it. When he said, "life can change" I knew it was about to get heavy but I was literally in tears by the time he got to the twin sons... so much pain for one family to endure.

    • @DashiellAskin
      @DashiellAskin 9 месяцев назад

      Yeah, I wasn't expecting that much loss.

  • @aaronsswank
    @aaronsswank 6 месяцев назад

    I left construction for these very reasons about 15 years ago, just zero support or understanding for when life hits you hard

  • @pagetderosier5267
    @pagetderosier5267 3 месяца назад

    I've never really though about the societal expectation on men to behave certain ways in terms of hiding their pain and emotions... didn't realize how tough it must be until he started talking about having to act macho at his fathers funeral.

  • @jessiesangster
    @jessiesangster 8 месяцев назад

    Oh man the call from his wife at the start... it's heartbreaking to think that she knew, so much so that she even knew where he was going to do it

    • @meganfreed1989
      @meganfreed1989 8 месяцев назад

      It had me in tears literally from the get go

  • @janetsplace1953
    @janetsplace1953 10 месяцев назад

    I never realised there was a specific study on this, and you know what? it's right that there is. Thank you, Vince!

    • @jodikennedy8886
      @jodikennedy8886 9 месяцев назад

      I agree, the more information we have about this stuff the more it helps us to understand what's really going on

    • @bobbywie
      @bobbywie 9 месяцев назад

      I think if anything we need more studies like this, so we can understand what's going on

    • @simonoshlor
      @simonoshlor 8 месяцев назад

      there are literally studies about shrimps walking on treadmills

    • @jasminelovell
      @jasminelovell 8 месяцев назад

      @@simonoshlor lol wtf?? what do you even mean