The Dangers of Daycare
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- Опубликовано: 17 дек 2023
- My thoughts on early childcare and what I'm doing with my kids.
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❤So beautiful, it's love from the first chat 🥰
Yes. Your situation is different than what I described above. I love, love, love that you have the ability to work a plan to have your precious baby with you
Well, I am pretty sure that having other women take care of your kids will have negative impacts on them, but you will see that, only with time and by the time you will see those negative impacts, it will be already too late, I wish I would be wrong, but I would be very wary of these dangers in your place ...
We raised 5 children on a shoe string budget. Still I stayed home and even home schooled. My children, blessings directly from The Creator, treasures to be trained and cherished.
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Love this. Pregnant with my third in under three years and it is hard. Hearing perspectives like yours somehow help me make it through. We plan to home school as well.
Please look into homeschooling specialists and stuff like integrative social programs if you can. I am the result of homeschool done terribly, even when my parents tried their best and I always had someone around. If you live in a good school district it may be a good idea to give it a shot as well. Best of luck and best wishes for your family! ❤ @@sarahp3144
Is that even responsible? You seem to say it as a very wise thing done. When you can’t afford living how are you bringing up more kids. It does not seem wise.
'my baby ate my brain' 😂
you make me laugh
the more you have the more brain cells you lose 😂
What most people need is a multi-generational household. New mothers need someone, be it grandma, aunt, cousins or paid help like a nanny.
Motherhood is very difficult but society has put more obstacles in the modern woman’s path.
Thats how it used to be. I'm nearly 70 and lived in Brooklyn when I was a child. Brownstones were filled with family, grandma on bottom floor, young family middle floor, sometimes other grandparents on top floor. Now families are living so far apart its impossible.
@@debjurgens6447my in laws and I are trying to keep it that way. When my husband and I conceive, I’ll have help and the baby will have his whole family nearby. They are from Brooklyn as well 😊
This old farmboy was raised in isolation by old school parents, dad was my hero, mother was a Saint, I only knew Love and safety.
Side effect, I never socialized as a child, was always the outsider, a lone wolf, a free thinker. ...hence, I ultimately was able to Awaken. (those were ruff years)
So is fatherhood. It’s a team don’t forget it.
I am only second generation American and grew up in a multi-generational household, as have my children. I have managed to retire early and now provide childcare for my grandchildren. I went back to college and got a MS in education so I would be able to homeschool them. There is NO WAY anyone in our family is going to allow our next generation anywhere near the monsters running government-funded daycares and schools.
No one will wish to have worked more on their deathbed, but most will regret not spending more time with their children. To our children what we do WITH them is more important than what we do for them!
My dad told me recently that he really regretted not being a father to me. Not being there to see me play sports, or getting to know who I was. Unfortunately he didn’t attempt that with me as an adult either. He’s a man filled with regret and that’s unfortunate.
I hated daycare as a child. Both of my parents worked long hours and it sucked being around strangers that didn’t give a damn about you.
same.
God bless you. I’m sorry you went through that.
Man I can imagine that would suck so bad 😢
Both your parents needed the money because your father probably didn't earn enough to provide for the whole family. So you should be thankful they put you through daycare, I was left at home ALONE when I was very little. How I'm still alive is beyond me since I was like 4, alone for several hours.
@@Ariana-wv4pf oh my goodness. I’m so sorry. That must have been really scary.
I worked at a day care when I was 18 years old. I worked in the baby room. There were 2 adults and 10 babies. So I was in charge of caring for 5 infants at a time. I LOVED those babies. I worked myself to the bone caring for them. I went home absolutely EXHAUSTED. I grew up and became an RN. I vowed to never put my children in day care because of that experience. As much as I loved on those kids, they didn’t get the care that they should have gotten. 5 infants and 1 adult is unacceptable. I have 2 kids (now 4 and 2 years old), and I was immensely blessed to be able to stay home with them.
Good for you for sharing this! Yes! Put your children first 😊
Yeah, because that daycare was not following the WAC's for child to adult ratio's! I ran my own in home childcare, and was only allowed 2 infants at on time, and 6 children in total. I eventually stopped taking infants, because of the constant care they demand, and I didnt feel I could keep up. So I only accepted pre-school through 6th grades. 😊
@@Heidishereandthere , maybe things have changed since then. This was back when I was 18, and I'm now almost 40. I'm very glad to hear that the guidelines have improved.
@@RNginadio
I ran my childcare from 2000 ~ 2012!! 👍 I'm in Washington State, and I know they are really strict here; which is good safety wise ☺️💖
my daughter stopped working in childcare a few years ago and said exactly the same things as you. She was quite traumatised by how difficult it was for many babies and children and the impact the stress has on them.
My wife is 100% time with my son and she is incredibly tired.
I can tell that being at work is easier than staying with kid. No wonder many women choose daycare to reduce the stress. But this comes at a cost of your child well-being. Your child needs mother, not someone else.
Have you offered to find a babysitter to give her a break? She might feel guilty asking.
@@Shortstacksandticktacks i did. She refused, saying she can't trust her child to someone else. She also refused for me to hire someone to be around and help with household stuff. I assume that the current level of stress is something she is willing to handle.
How is working all day then coming home to look after the child and do the household tasks less exhausting? She might just need small breaks
@@myday2704 That's what is happening right now.
@@myday2704as someone who has done both, work is considered a break. Yes you are working but you are working with someone following behind her constantly interrupting or needing you to do something for them. I don't mean this in a negative way it just is what it is. But I choose to stay home because I absolutely love it and can't imagine sending my kids to daycare. Even when I was work I was blessed enough to have grandparents watch the children for us
Most parents don’t care about childcare at all today. I’m a professional nanny in the Bay Area. Almost all parents (extremely wealthy) are putting kids in daycare or hiring a teenager instead of a professional nanny. This only started the last year. Extremely sad.
“Phuck them kids & phuck you too” 😂
A teenager... goosebumps...
Teenagers are better than the jaded old ladies. They can be like an older sibling.
I mean no disrespect but, isn't that what your husband is for? It's what I did. I continued working, I changed shifts from first to second, watched my boys the first 5 years during the day and worked nights while my wife worked days. I was getting up during the night to get the babies, take care of them or bring them to my wife for feedings. It's a partnership, you make it work and do whatever it takes. Whatever. It. Takes.
Same dude
Thank you for this; so often people forget that marriage is a PARTNERSHIP. Children are literally the future made flesh, so it is in both parents' interests to make sure those children get the best care possible.
👏👏👏👏 love your comment.
@@rathmither8830 I see. I’ve heard her talk about a guy before, I just assumed she was married. Also wasn’t aware she’s been divorced let alone twice. 🤷🏻♂️
We joked I was the kitchen(breastfeeding) and husband was the bathroom(diaper duty). We never lived on both our salaries only one even before kids on purpose so that it would not be a financial drain for living on one income.
we've been broke as heck for 3 years raising our kid and it's been so worth it to not send him to day care. his attitude and development are amazing and he's growing so quickly i wouldn't change that time for all the money in the world
As soon as I got pregnant with my first child, I quickly learned that everyone and their dad thinks they know everything about pregnancy and motherhood.
I am extremely fortunate that I was in a position to retire early to provide daycare for my grandchildren. It made the difference between my children having kids of their own and staying childless. No one in our immediate family has ANY trust in government-run/regulated daycare facilities, and most schools that accept government funds are also suspect. My heart breaks for parents who are forced to put their children in the hands of these monsters.
I wish my mother thought more like you, instead she tells me to send my toddler to daycare. Since I don’t trust most of our daycare facilities here where I live, I’m trying to juggle everything. It’s extremely exhausting to say the least. I spent 500 dlls for childcare and groceries for my mom since she took care of my son for a couple hours for a couple days. I ended up being unable to get an oil change for my car. Still haven’t gotten the oil change 😅. It’s been hard to get back on track since paying my mother. Mu dad tries to help me out when he can thankfully he doesn’t charge me. I pay him with coffee 😅
You parents right? They can be murderers too
It always amuses me when parents say oh i send my child to daycare because they love it...and they are like 6 mobths old and can't talk. Like how do they know? I think parents sometimes say that to make themselves feel better.
Because we have access to cameras and the daycare sends us pictures and videos of our children, who look like they are having a blast playing with other kids and jumping on the adults 😄 But I do agree with you, for some people, you could be absolutely right.
Most Americans can’t afford a $1000 emergency but are expected to be able to afford a stay at home job with a nanny.
What frustrates me to no end is the critiques of people opting NOT to have children because they look around and acknowledging being a child into their environment would not be good for them, they can’t afford them, don’t have the time, money or resources for them. Those that do choose to have children then get shamed for doing what they have to provide , place child in daycare to be able to provide.
@@rathmither8830
You must have reading comprehension issues.
Children are inexpensive. You don't need much to teach, care, and entertain them. You don't need fancy gadgets just give them the most valuable thing which money can't buy, which is love. If you send them to daycare then ofcourse you will pay those extra expenses. You will be working just to pay for someone else to watch them when you can do it yourself. Many stay at home moms are doing it on a budget and with only one income either self earned, from the spouse and with the help from others like family and community resources.
@@beautifulwonder398
Children are very expensive, im in a few community pages and everyday I see parents posting about needing diapers, formula, etc. A quick search and you can see almost 40% of all babies are receiving WIC.
Meaning, 40% of moms that can’t afford to feed their children or provide healthcare for them without government assistance. But sure, go on with your false belief that children are inexpensive.
Most Americans don’t have $1000 emergency fund because they live above their means and no clue on how to handle their finances. So maybe it’s best that they don’t raise another human being if they can’t even handle themselves wisely.
Obviously not all daycares are created equally. My wife and I toured/interviewed many daycare providers and we consider ourselves to be extremely fortunate in this regard. Our 2 year old son loves going to daycare everyday, the teachers love him and provide such great/personalized care...I don't think we've ever had one single tear shed when dropping him off in the morning. He is thriving and is way ahead of the other kids in his age group in cognitive and motor skills. Obviously some of that is due to his own ability, but I like to think that it is also in part to our own effort and involvement during non-work hours.
Same here. All the negative talk is interesting..I'm like, so no one has firsthand experience using a good daycare?? No?! Just me? Okay *shrugs*. My baby is thriving and always so excited. I'm the one suffering 😅
I'm sorry but the reality is that the less time you spend in physical contact with your baby, the more physical, emotional, psychological and attachment issues they will have as an adult, mothers are supposed to be in close contact with their children full time for at least the first few years until they are assured of themselves in the world and in the company of others
Most can't afford to have one parent at home. The economy is the problem. Plenty of women would love to stay at home.
I think if a couple re-thinks 0:18the cost of daycare & how much they can save by not putting a child in daycare, they’d stay home. If they still can’t afford to stay home, move in w/ family for at least the first 3 years of a child’s life. You are raising a human being. The first 3 years are critical to their long term emotional, mental, & physical health. God bless.
I’m saving my dreams and ambitions for when my children are older and physically need me less. I couldn’t imagine taking time away from my babies just to make money….it goes by so fast! Mothering is a difficult and selfless job but it compares to no other successes in life. Just my opinion!
Totally agree!
I highly recommend Erica Komisar for topics related to early childcare. The baby should be on your body the first year.
I think being a stay at home mom isn't the best option for some women. I've been for 14 years. Sometimes I hate it. I feel like a maid that no one listens to. BUT babies need moms. Not strangers. Your foundation of your relationship is built in the baby years. But it is important to take care of yourself. I wish I would have taken time for myself.
It sounds like you need more support. Its so easy to get overwhelmed home alone with children all day. We really werent meant to do it alone. I just know if i had extra help it would be so much easier.
That’s why I’m not getting married or having kids unless it’s to a millionaire or someone who can afford me having a like a staff of people/family who can help me. Raising a child is SO hard
I stayed home first seven years, and work from home. I’m so grateful I could! ❤️
I worked in day care and it broke my heart seeing the horrible impact it had on kids.
Those poor kids were stressed the whole time mom was away and when she came back to get then they would cling to her. I can tell you it just makes them have an insecure attachment style. They will be traumatized by being abomdoned for the rest of their lives. Oh and yes their moms came back but that doesn't mean there won't be consiquences.
Please don't put your kids through this.
Now there were kids who loved it. One kid wanted to stay because they wanted to hang out with me😁
You were giving those kids who wanted to stay something they didn't have at home. Attention
Normally we like ya, but this vid is neither good, nor helpful. The vast majority can’t afford a nanny.
Maybe not a nanny, but mom at home for at least the first 3 years is so crucial for a child’s development long term.
As a former daycare provider, kids screaming and crying at drop off is not necessarily a “damaging” event. Children learn early how to manipulate and the longer the parent hangs around the worse it is, not to mention bodily injury to the care provider. Better than 99% of the time the child calms down and is playing within 15-30 seconds. It is important to say goodbye, give a hug, and go. The next important step is for the care provider to give an honest report of the first 5 minutes of the child’s day to the parent. Only twice in four years (my college years) did I have to call a parent back because the child didn’t/couldn’t settle down and integrate into the day.
Have you done it recently? Because one in 34 Gen z & alpha have autism, and they usually HATE being left alone with strange people, noises, changes, etc. You can't assume most kids are just regular kids these days. They and their mothers wombs and milk are chemically damaged from parabens.
@@arwenstrong2818 parabens?? Not vaccines?
@@arwenstrong2818 why are you asking this? I already addressed my responsibility to report on the first five minutes of the child’s day. Typically a special needs child isn’t put into a mainstream childcare system just like they aren’t typically in a mainstream classroom without a one on one aid/helper.
Are used to work in a daycare for one year and I was in the toddler room and I have to tell you it’s not the fault of the staff, but I really would not put my kids in a daycare. It is the most stressful job I’ve ever had in my life, trying to care for that many toddlers at one time at every any given time at this daycare I worked at, there were at least three or four staff members on stress leave.
Making the choice to have an in home babysitter for our son instead of in daycare is something I am so grateful we chose even though the cost is higher. The one on one and peace of mind has helped me feel comfortable with continuing to work and he is thriving having someone else to play with and learn from. Can't agree with this message enough.
Not tryna hate on her because I respect her mind. But the help that she has isn’t feasible for +80% of normal people . They don’t have the financial means to. Obviously we’d all love to have that type of help. Maybe a relative, like a grandmother or aunt or close friend who is a stay at home mom or housewife could watch them. I’d choose that before any daycare. I don’t trust these people. They don’t give a fuck about the kids. Too many horror stories
@Mrs_Mikhaila._Peterson yea right. This has to be some type of bot
In my area (NYC metro) a nanny is $25 per hour (even untrained 15 year olds are requesting this). A post partum doula / night specialist ranges from $35-50 per hour. Even just 4 hours of child care in the day is $100, so monthly that would be $2000. A night care nurse would be something like $6400 per month. This “care” for 6 months postpartum help is more than an average American makes in a year. We can’t define “sane motherhood” options only for families that make over $250k per year. I am a stay at home mom, and I generally cannot afford help more than occasionally for when I’m really sick, overwhelmed or in need, and I’d put our family solidly in the upper middle class income range. I think the real conversation lies in the fact that only the top income earners in this country can afford early childcare that doesn’t traumatize your kids or totally drain the mother.
💯 the best gift my husband gave to us as parents is the ability to be the sole caregivers for our child . Hands down game changer - coming from a single parent latch key childhood - I am eternally grateful not to need to perpetuate that to the next generation
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Here in France it is pretty much Required! to put your children in public school age 3-17. I find 3 to be a little young to be schooling full time...
Since covid there are very few homeschool requests being passed, only if say your child is a high level athlete traveling lots.. or disabled.
Wooo. That is horrible! And scary! Man, I can't believe that so much of the world still does this craziness. Compulsory state-sponsored education is simply institutionalized mob think and family deterioration
My child loves his child care, but I chose a educational centre with ratios of only 4 kids per teacher. We also only do 8 hrs a day max usually 4 days a week. Thinking of a nanny but the cost is a lot higher
Thank you for this. So many throw down on single mom's and their choices, with little understanding or empathy. I know of single mother co-ops, Mothers at home with their children, found through church. What about women and men unexpectedly widowed? nearly 400,000 US children due to COVID, vaccine reactions, or denied care during so called pandemic. So I hear. Good to see a passionate reasoned response. Thank you Mikhaila. God blesses and furthers you.
We used to call them grandma’s but if you want to continue your wonderful work and are fortunate enough to afford professional care at home …
“I have no internal dialogue because my baby ate my brain” 🤣🤣 me, also third trimester, right now watching you resonating so hard with that!
What Mikaela does not know about many loving single parents who make hard decisions because they do not have any extra money for childcare is a lot. She is married and now has two incomes to work out her childcare choices. Maybe advise people to not make babies until they have options for childcare in a safe environment with a devoted father and mother in the center of their child's life. Stay at home father or mother is the safest way to raise your children in a safe emotional environment with mentally stable parents. Mentally stable is a key factor in making decisions. Casual sex has trapped more women in a life that doesn't suit everyone. Ladies, just say "No."
As an older woman I have heard many women say, "Don't get me wrong, I love my child, but if I knew then what I know now, I would NOT have had a child before I was in a committed and loving relationship. It is hard to raise a child alone. The child will suffer more than the parents. Naive women pick the wrong guy first time around. These ladies advise THIRTY YEARS OLD is a better age to date or marry. Once the deed is done, choices are narrowed immediately. If you want a career, do not have children until later. It is a lie that you can have both at the same time and do both well. Something has to take second place, I say don't let it be your child. Work while they are in school or asleep but one of the parents has to be present for their biological children at all times. Priorities. Career will be there forever but time with your children will not be forever. Keep your precious children well. They are the future.
I support career people who choose to not have children or wait till they are older to become a parent. Women have had healthy children into their fifties but we don't hear about that do we?
Thank you for your young opinion. 🇺🇲
Honestly none of your project are nearly as important than caring for your baby. Please cherish that time, babies need to form secure attachement and lots of time with mom.
It’s b true, but it’s a balancing act because mom’s mental health and sanity matters, and some women need to work even just a little to stay sane.
I stayed with my son until he was 6 a couple daycare days isn't bad but stay with your child as long as possible you got this Mikhaila & their grandpa will give them great insight prayers for a safe delivery ❤
This IS such an important Topic!!! Good Video!! Definetly more of that would be nice ❤ thank you for that. Maybe a Talk with a specialist with very Tricky Questions would be good ❤
Great advice regarding judging a child’s reaction after a couple of weeks. I had the joy of being a daycare/preschool teacher, and if they’re in great hands, they generally beam walking in and walking out. It helps to know teachers are limited to number of children per caregiver. Quality of environment, whether STA or daycare, above all.
Understand this. I know higher education doesn't cover this in great detail. Throughout history the mother's role was vitally important in order to be in the home. It's only in the last 100 years that women have ventured out and given motherhood to daycare and also live in nannies and such. The results is a class of children that are now adults that have lost value and moral compass so if you have an opportunity to see a stay-at-home mom I suggest you do so and that should be your main priority not your career
Last 50 years. Did not exist pre-1970
I'm not sure you're right. For a large chunk of history, you basically had two classes: upper class and working class. The peasants all worked. If it was a farm, not only did the wives work, but the children also worked from a very young age. The aristocracy employed platoons of servants, both men and women. The children may have been looked after by grandparents or older children. Very few women in the working class had the option to stay at home. They worked as maids or in mills or factories, or on the land. Everybody worked, and they worked hard as there were no vacuum cleaners, washing machines, or indoor plumbing.
@@Loruca
the aristocracy still employ servants they just have a different title.
My best friend is a qualified ece teacher. When the other teachers on break / toilet at times she looks after 7 kids aged 3 months to 18 months in one room.. she loves those babies like they're her own but she can't provide good care to SEVEN babies being ONE person..
If you’re only going to wake to breastfeed and have the nanny put the baby back down then why not just co sleep? You get soooo much more sleep this way and it’s the most natural way to tend to your baby. You can literally sleep while your’re nursing him. I was so much well rested after doing this.
Not every baby falls asleep after breastfeeding. Mine didn't
I always had to jump on fitness ball or rock her in a pram for hours when she woke up at night. Sometimes several times
@@sylwiaszymanska8898 hmmm…even when side lying nursing? I know it’s hard during the first 1-2 months if they are being swaddled. I would unswaddle to nurse then swaddle again and sometimes they would wake up..but if baby is lying right next to you unswaddled, their startle reflex usually won’t wake them because they can feel you right next to them. My baby is 3 months now and the only time he’s fully awake is when I have to change us diaper throughout the night…other than that he will start moving around when he wants to nurse then he goes right back to sleep…it’s usually a 10-15min process verses 2-3 hours sometimes if you’re getting up to nurse him then trying to rock him back to sleep..was the same with my other babies as well.
@@linnaeadominguez9898 I'm not talking 1-2 months (this wasn't the hardest for me actually), my daughter is almost 2yo now and she stills wakes up a couple of times in the night. Side-nursing rarely was a method to put her back to sleep. During the first year it was jumping on fitness ball or rocking her in stroller energetically (after nursing her). Now it's easier than that, but first one and half year was hell. During day naps I had to carry her in the sling, so I was marching for a couple of hours every day. If I sat down, she would wake up.
@@sylwiaszymanska8898 Ah, I see…maybe she had colic? Most babies want to nurse when they are tired and I feel like most momma’s get frustrated because they feel like they’re just their babies pacifier. All of my babies would pass out after a few minutes of nursing. It definitely gets harder as they get older as they go through different sleep regressions. I just thought I would mention this to Mikaila because co sleeping/bed sharing has saved me hours of sleep and I think it’s actually safer than sitting up to nurse. There were so many times that I would wake up while nursing sitting up…my neck would be killing me and my baby would be asleep on my nursing pillow which I think is actually much more dangerous than him lying next me. I can hear his every sound and feel him when he’s staring to wake up. I just roll over to nurse him and we’d both fall back asleep.
2:36 I'd argue that some people actually open daycares, or work there, because THEY LOVE being around kids (examples; my ex bff worked at one, and another close friend's mother owns and runs one). At 2:35 Mikayla mentions that it's a problem when daycares have 14 kids, between multiple workers, but what's ironic is that many far-right (especially Southern Baptist & Pentecostal) families advocate for having 10+ children. If daycares with lots of kids are always bad for a child's development, maybe families should be mindful of their family sizes, too. Just look at how many families like the Duggers have turned out...
I’m a single mom and have no choice. I’m thankful the daycare I have is full of amazing women. I dream of keeping my kids home with me but I haven’t the choice or finances yet. 😢
I worked at day cares all my life. Ive worked with so many women that HATED children. I rather have had 12- 2 year olds alone and my lunch during nap time and my two ten minute breaks while i went outside, because the women i worked with, complained about parents and children. I stayed FOR the kids and when it took its toll on me, i quit and i set up an in home day care. Im so much happier, i know the kids in my care are happy and safe! I have my 4 kids and are homeschooled
Thank you for explaining that there are different types of daycare.
Well done. Great women do it there way. Proud of you. Bay leaves under pillow to help you get to sleep. I put mine in small cloth bag.
Thank you for all your work.
Love watching and hearing your opinions. Cheers Christine.
My brother had his 3 year old daughter in daycare, one day she came back with bruises and scratches. They told him that she got into physical altercation with a 3 year old boy. She had so many scratches which means they let them fight for awhile !! So sad
This happened in Florida
Kids fight sometimes. Just like adults sometimes they don’t get along. That’s not really something to concern about. That’s how they learn their physical limitations, not to start fight with bigger kid, etc. Valuable life lesson.
Lila Rose just did an AMAZING and helpful podcast about this with the author of the book Being There
There is no ideal. Being a full stay at home mum with no support on a low income may stuff some families. I’m planning on staying home with bub if I can. There is no ideal baby wants mum 24/7 for the first year. But that can make mum go crazy. Every family situation is going to look different. I just don’t think daycare and a full time working mum is a good set up at all for baby. Especially under three but under one is just heartbreaking to me. I understand people get pregnant accidentally and have low income so they might not have a choice. I will never understand people who choose that lifestyle for a baby under one out of pure choice.
Congrats with your pregnancy. You could read into sleeping safe with you baby in the room or even in your bed? That can save you the money for the night baby specialist… and if you have problems with somebody else taking care of you baby in the day, why dont you have problems with somebody to take care of your baby in the night? For bonding the nights with a baby are the hardest but also the best! But above all things the best advice is: dont listen to parental advice! Do it as you wish and take responsibility for that choice.
Yes, this is so important. Mom and baby sleep better together…it’s just the way nature intended.
Not every baby falls asleep after breastfeeding. Mine didn't
@@brooketeague4985Not in my experience, unfortunately:/
I know sylvwia but you can still sleep together if you like. Every baby is different and thats okay. One off my baby’s didn’t want to sleep together so thats also an option :(.
@@nellski214 I actually don't like cosleeping (however, I prefer that to jumping on fitness ball in the middle of the night, but well, it wasn't my choice), it feels uncomfortable and it was super easy to wake my baby.
Yes, every baby is different and I just meant that by my first comment. There are no universal tips when it comes to parenting.
Im a nanny to a now three year old. It is the best job. Being able to help him grow, learn and reach his milestones is a wonderful experience.
What are the studies? I'm curious!
Hii can you make a video about the process of hiring a nanny. Do you use an agency? How do you vet the nanny? Interview questions? How do you find the nanny? ? You sound like a great mother ! ❤
I feel like keeping them out of daycare for at least a year is a good idea. So they get that strong bonding time with mom and dad.
I didnt put my son in daycare until he turned 3. We pulled him out due to some issues. Now i work full time 3 days a week on the weekend and my husband watches our son when he is off so we only need childcare for 1 day a week and i love what we have set up now.
I remember 20+ year's ago when my boy's mom and I had the kid's and it was cheaper for me to work two jobs while she stayed home with boy's instead of us both working and daycare rasing the kid's. We grossed more income at the end of day, I missed out on prescious time with the kid's, instead they got very tired grumpy dad and a mom who strayed cause she was bored. It works for some, I don't know
The first 3 minutes of this has every silent viewer thinking the same thing and I am with you
What about the Richard Tremblay interview your dad did and they spoke of the benefits of “good” daycare?
Luv this so much
I wish I had someone to support me, but even as a SAHM alone it is a full time job. I love being a mom, even when its stressful and difficult. I love that my husband can work and when he comes home the house is mostly in order and dinner is nearly done and he can relax. I prefer this dynamic where we are both appreciative of what the other contributes to the family. Doing it alone while pregnant is challenging though.
I can’t do that. I need money for my personal things and I like really expensive things…
@@mariuxicadena-salazar5813 Lol I've never had a taste for expensive things. I grew up middle class but my dad was always in debt so we didn't really buy many nice things. I grew up learning to make do with what we had, and I carried that into adulthood.
@@mariuxicadena-salazar5813tell your man to make more money 😂
My daughter went to an AMAZING Jewish nursery with the bessssst caretakers. I was extremely extremely fortunate. She loved it, and went year-round from ages 2-5.
I’m a SAHM of 5 kids whom I homeschool. It’s hard work, it’s often exhausting, it requires sacrifice and constant devotion, and it’s worth it.
No work is worth replacing your role as a mother.
Love your podcast! I am interested though what atrracted you to go to work so quickly particularly when you could barely afford a nanny which took up nearly all of your income? What was the incentive of working in that case? It would be understandable if your jncome was going towards rent/mortgage, living expenses but if its to pay the nanny then it seems pointless? One of my best friends hired a nanny & one of the issues she had is that her child bonded better with the nanny & was more responsive to the nanny than the parents. There are many pros & cons to daycare & nannys - but both are a gamble.
Homeschooling is a great option, and there are ways nowadays to earn from home as mums. That’s what I do and I help loads of others do the same.
Women need to raise their children when they’re young. They need to be near their moms.
I wonder how much being born to an rh- blood type mum has to do with the health issues. My mom and aunt have rh- blood type and us kids have a lot of similar health issues.
Back in the day, families stepped in to help with children. Now, many people are selfish with their time.
Erica Komodo on Lila Rose podcast gave the scientific answers to this question. Very worthwhile if you are wanting to know what’s best for babies. Wish I had known this information when I went back to work after on 6 weeks.
I watched that interview, and it was so eye-opening.
I'm a daycare teacher. I'm on board with what you're saying. But where I have to disagree is the " the teachers don't care about your kids" bit. There may be some teachers who are like that. But most of us out there love what we do and we love the kids, and we want them to be happy and healthy.
If you want to be a good stay at home mom, learn how to wake up early in the morning before your baby is ready to wake up for the day (~5am whenever your baby wants to nurse again)
go outside (oxygen)
and get sunlight in your eyes(sets body’s natural hormones and cortisol for the day)
and move your body for 10-15 mins(go for a walk or run).
Only drink caffeine 90-120 mins after you wake up.
Make sure you and your baby both get that early day sunlight and end of the day or evening sunlight.
This will help set your circadian rhythms.
This will save you from postpartum depression. I wish someone had told me sooner.
I went through the wringer as a first time mom and unfortunately did not have a mother figure who could teach me these things.
I used to struggle with thinking I was a terrible mom and wondering why it was so hard to control mine and my children’s focus, moods, and energy levels.
Now I do these things and not only do I feel normal, but I feel happy.
And so do my children. No more attention/ behavioral problems or appetite issues.
Never going back to sleeping in, and staying on my phone in bed in the morning.
Where i can find the studies that she spoke in this video?
I 100% agree with this message
I was a stay at home mom and I would never do it any other way! I know unfortunately some mothers are not able to afford it but there is also a lot of mothers that can’t afford it but choose not to. They’d rather still have the best car and the biggest house and get their nails done all the time etc. etc..
A lot of parents leave their kids with just whomever.dont do any background check, nothing.
Same with daycare.they have such high turnover rates they hire anyone.
And we hear horror stories about kids being drugged,fight clubs in daycare, kids being killed or worse.
If I had kids, I would work from home,so I can watch my kids.
I would also homeschool.
One of my earliest memories was crying and begging my mommy not to leave me at the sitters house 😢 spent every single day there.
My kids lived daycare
Jordan Peterson Says between 2 and 4 years old are important time to socialize your kids with other kids same age. how do you do that outside of daycare?
Playdates, playground, swimming class, Gymboree. Socializing after 3 y.o doesn't mean 10h a day in a daycare hearing other kids screaming etc.
I quit my union trade job to come and take care of my children full time. Best decision I've ever made. Children are miracle children.
@Mrs_Mikhaila._Peterson hello
Please get someone to help us u understand our options as lower income individuals that both parents work. Are we supposed to barely scrape by and keep someone home? Its worth it for the child’s sake but hard to live so minimal without massive income. Please guide us
Nanny, babysitter, grandmother, lose a piece of your brain, hair, sleep, driving on autopilot, oh- 5 out of 6 are sick. . . . It's OK mom is here!!!❤ Mom is finishing the winner while taking care off everyone because she is grateful since the last round she kept the family alive while being sick and taking care of everyone the last time.❤
My mum and dad shared the load as they should, both made the baby, both do their share of the work. Males can’t be ducking out of responsibility for their actions, being picky about what they do, because their narcissism makes them think they’re above basic tasks.
We decided it was financially better for me to stay home. I was never career-driven, anyway, so it was stupid for me to hold a mediocre job and put the kids in daycare, even subsidized daycare. Now, my son is close to getting married and his future wife may or may not choose to stay home. She hasn't decided, yet, as it would depend on a lot of things, like the state of the economy and housing costs. She may choose to work part of full time in order to achieve the ability to purchase a house. I have already told her that I will be happy to care for the children so she can do that and not have to put them in daycare or lose so much of her income to daycare costs.
Nanny au pair situation is best I don't trust daycare in the care of my child. I worked as a nanny for 2 families.
“Maybe don’t do that?” Hahaha your humor is too funny 😂. You’re right though, as a husband your family should be your greatest motivation. Do not sit here and have the newest iPhone and eat Uber eats 3x a week but not invest in your children in every arena. Normally it’s your priorities that are out of wack not your income.
The answer to why day care can be bad was not concrete here. It’s just that it “might traumatize your kid”.
I was fine with daycare if it's just not fulltime, if possible but also having read those studies I really don't wanna use daycare u til the kid is a year old. I'm still figuring out at what age daycare is a good idea because I want the kid to play with other kids at daycare. I have spoken to my fiance about it and he says if we are going to have multiple kids anyway, might aswell stop working all together and the you don't need daycare.
I would live one of those baby sitters who teach your kid a new language and is kind of like a teacher too. But that must be expensive but I think schola a rely teach anything and I think alot of early experience is important. Like tske my kid to the museum and talk to them about your knowledge. That seems lovely.
This is why you need a mother and a father to raise a child.
I'm sorry, but this is the most insane take EVER.
Being a mother is not a job, it is a sacred calling and duty. Thinking that some hired professional can do that "job" for you is an impoverished vision of reality.
Being a social media personality might be cool, but at what cost?
Ever hear of attachment parenting? How about ecological breast feeding? Hiring someone to bring you the baby at night?!? How about co-sleeping with a crib connected to the bed?
Women who sacrifice their children at the altars of Fama and Fortuna will grow old to discover that their children are equally willing to sacrifice their aging parents to the same gods!
Crazy!
This is the result of NOT having a deep Christian sacramental vision of reality.
In todays world where we don’t have multigenerational families and not the life style 50 years ago, may be think if you can afford to have children and bring them up responsibly. If you are are immature don’t bring another soul and make them suffer. Find certified day cares and personalities. Yes they are not cheap. Or make enough money and learn to live on one salary. Having 10 kids when you cannot afford even one just because you are staying home also does not make sense.
What is the point in having a child if you are just going to pay someone else to raise them for you. If they spend more time at daycare / with the nanny, than at home interacting with you, whose values and traits will they learn and follow.
@Mrs_Mikhaila._Peterson bahahaha
@Mrs_Mikhaila._Peterson bahahaaaaa
As a grandma who gave up her career to be home with hers, I now left it again to be with my grandchildren. My daughter needs her job, alongside her husband, to make a quality life for them. It now takes two incomes.
Now, is that always fun? Nope. I would not however change my decision.
I will always stay home while my babies are babies, my career can wait, I can always do little projects when they're little, especially at night, but naps are for showering and self care and eating. I've found that to be a good balance. I'm lucky I have a very social boy who isn't clingy at all so we go to the park for at least an hour a day, I think if I were to ever put him in anything It would be a home daycare so he can run and climb and play, he's a climber and a runner so I don't think I could ever force him to be inside all day. I'm lucky to be home with him so he has a lot of freedom, and I'm hoping to have another soon so that'll probably be 6 years at home, which isn't bad. I have a small business as well where I make children's aprons, just in my free time. If I could afford a nanny I definitely would!
I take melatonin to sleep and its helped tremendously.
If i wake up at night - i take another reduced dosage.
Now i never - simply lay there and worry hours on end.
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I am a SAHM because of what happened to me as a child in childcare. I homeschool for the same reason. A small town is safer overall but public schools in small towns are not well funded and so limited.
My Husband was fully aware of my intentions if we decided to have children. Right upfront week one we discussed all kinds of imports things. And today we are happy and our kids are safe with me. Also childcare is very pricy for the things that happen behind closed doors.
Amen! Thank God 🙏
Anyone know why Mikhaila is softer spoken and appears to be gagging slightly? Is this a postpartum thing?
I kind of wish it was said in this segment that sometimes having kids is not the right answer. We are living in a cost of living crisis, housing is out of reach for the average person and to tell people "Just make it work, just make different choices" is out of touch with the reality most people are living with right now. I agree that Daycares can be very traumatic and that people should try to avoid anything that could traumatize their children but I think some sound advice here would also be that if you can't afford to take care of your children properly then maybe don't have children.
I worked week ends when husband was home. But working from home is great.
Admiring you as a strong woman. Wish you a great day!
*wealthy