To many women are willing to give the only thing they have, that these type of men want. A man who respects you as a person is not going to insist on sex the first time you meet. I never understand now a women can hop in the bed of some man you just met just because he bought you dinner and you you think he loves you. Talk about low self esteem. He just see you as a prostitute. What women do not understand you giving in like this, many men now see you as not marriage material. Sex material but not marriage. Of course they never look at what they are doing is the exact same thing. I heard one man who thinks women should just hop in the bed the first date with him, but women should only have a few sex partner, while he has had 1000's. Men are hypocrites. First of all who need the STD and men just really do not respect women. To many men are looking for a Mommy. Instead they think well if she that easy she might just do my friend next. The best way to find red flags is to say NO.
So true. I have a friend who is physically beautiful. She has a sweet heart, as well. She cannot get a 2nd or 3rd date. She shows all her cards. I know this because I introduced her to my attractive, single brother. They spent time at the pool and spent a few hours talking. When she left, my brother explained that she divulged her life story and explained all of her insecurities. She does it every single time she meets a potential man. I've tried to help her, yet she can't see it. She has depended on her nice looks for so long, that she has not developed a good conversation strategy. Thanks for this insight. I will pass it along, and absorb what I need .
if a woman cannot be vulnerable with you and you cant take it, what good are you for that girl. Its early good riddance for her. Those who can see vulnerable sides and accept you are those who will stand in thick and thin. We all willbe once ina while vulnerable to those who are around us for most of our times. if people cant take it on first day, they are really not for relationships. stop playing the mind games this peterson says. His life is a mess too. People who live in villages and are not knowing these psychological tricks are living happy wonderful lovely lifes making long lasting family with big gneration of grandkids
But then you miss the point of growing. Relationships are messy as is life. Yet beautiful, wonderful and full of awe. You help one another grow and you both learn when you rise to the occasion and learn. If you walk away just because it is hard you stay self absorbed, self centered and you will not grow. At least not as much if you willfully stay single cause you don’t want to sacrifice anything of yourself
Such amazing teaching and so true. At 76 years and 50 of them married to my teenage sweet heart and continuing, I can say that to keep your unique self with some hidden intrigue and surprises still to unfold even late in life, is what keeps a relationship alive. This comes from stretching out and continuing to grow no mater what age.
Please do not allow anybody to push You intro having sex. If he really cares for you, he Will wait until the moment is right for both of You. I agree with what Dr. Peterson says.
Thank you so much, internet dad ❤ I feel so absolutely blessed to have come across your wisdom, yet dually duped for not having been taught these seemingly simple truths before I was almost 50. I am working through not only forgiveness of my self for not having this understanding earlier, but also forgiveness for my biological family for not having the proper tools to equip their children for success in life and relationships. Thank you, Jordan-for putting this information out there for us to be educated to make better decisions moving forward in life ❤
This is helping me negotiate a difficult situation where a woman is undermining our relationship by initially offering support to me then becoming more uncertain in multiple areas of her life and undermining my sense of psychological safety... the very thing that gives me agency and potency
Wow. She actually needs to be a mature, self-regulating human with an internal locus of control in order to have a healthy relationship. Without that, she turns her relationships into an emotional addiction. This is a great video of things I've been trying to nail down in my own thinking regarding codependency. There is a lot of information about what codependency is, but not a lot out there about what it is not. This is good. Thanks. It seems to me, the root issue is managing your own emotional state. I think "needing" another person in your life for emotional regulation creates a lot of chaos, and it's basically an addiction, whether female or male. It probably plays out a little differently in male experience.
7:51 Emotional depth, insecurities, expectations. Trust- overtime respect, sharing time, safety meet with compassion and respect . In good time to not get overwhelmed pressure 20:33 -Authenticity- true to oneself and need and acknowledge other need in the dame dynamic
Back in the day, when I was “dating,” I didn’t date with expectations of exclusivity or marriage, I dated for discovery. I would not even allow intimate conversations until I knew them for a while, this goes with girlfriends too. I’d rather talk about ideas and work on projects together and give the relationship some time before determining what kind of relationship it will be… and if we fell in love, we fell in love. Now it seems that dating is a performance and a job interview with only one job position available and the qualifications are impossible , it’s almost like people are arranging their own marriages. Very sterile.
I agree in the beginning the relationship needs to be very authentic A woman should never tell a man her wants or needs She must WATCH the man CLOSELY if he does not have what she needs and wants she needs to get away from him asap
This is great advise, assuming this is general advice, allowing each person individually to grow naturally, to know when to reveal or not. It is a matter of personal integrity and balance, your instincts will help to guide that couple.
Very well articulated and wise. For a more powerful impact, I would cut it down by half. There is a lot of repetition of the same concepts and ideas and it starts to detract from the message.
How Absolutley Wonderful is this insight into Men and Women. The entrance to Divine growth while dancing on the path of Blooming together.. or not.. 🎶🔥🕺💗💃🎶
I agree it is important for a woman to manage her own emotions and not blurt them all over everyone else. However, if a woman does this, most likely her partner has a need to feel the way it makes them feel from wounding. The partner is just as responsible for managing how they receive a person. It is not about hiding oneself ever! If a man is overwhelmed it would be perfectly fine to communicate that. No one person should conceal themselves. Expectations should always be discussed and true communication builds bonds not hiding.
I used to listen to a lot of JP. Then realized he was just trying to promote a healthy version of the patriarchy, which is still patriarchy. And there is no healthy world where a man has power over a woman's economic security and she's solely responsible for the emotional management of the relationship. Start holding men responsible for equally processing tough emotions, and for the actions they take that create insecure relationships. Women wouldn't have whirlwind emotions if their partners were stable, faithful, and kind. Asking women to control the emotional response while men dictate the time and commitment level they can come forward with... is completely unreasonable. Women aren't attracting men with patience. Men are meant to attract women with their efforts.
So interesting, thanks for writing your opinion, it's making me think. "Men are meant to attract women with their effort" is also a facet of the patriarchy, any society that thinks that is misogynistic. I don't see something wrong with what he's saying in this video, although I don't consume his content, this is probably the first video I watch of his, idk how he operates. But what he's saying applies to both men and women, so him applying it to women is not, per se, wrong. It's not a woman's responsibility to emotionally manage a relationship, for sure. But me saying to my boyfriend at the 6 month mark that I'm ready for marriage and I'm super sure about him is overwhelming to him at least or puts unrealistic expectations on him at worst.
I absolutely agree with you!! My god he sounds so virtuous it is sickening. I'm in my 70's and have experienced a rich life. I would make Mr P blush but hell, I'm strong and interesting and capable and above all else, I'm a survivor of abuse from a vile father who nearly killed me. In MY opinion, men have a lot to learn. I don't need to spend my life with a sop, I need a man intelligent enough to laugh at my experiences and move on together making more experiences to laugh and share. Not sure you have my respect any more 'Mr P.
This Very Information is Not Outdated to a 20 year old woman or 25 .35. etc. Women are biologically equipped to handle deeper and more complex feelings than men. That is why women outlive men! Men are more focused on the Outer World. Where they need to Succeed and Compete to Support a Wife and children. We have different goals and different hormones. Respect the differences. Honor and Cherish Them ❤
I understand what you saying but more women hold on to grudges and more jealousy sometimes than men. I came across three testomines of 3 people experiencing hell for real. They said more women are in hell than men. Hmmm that's something to think about. They are too deep and emotional they should let it go because it will corrupt them within. When you facing Ahayah you can't have these traits carrying within while you enter the realm of the Most High.
"Women are biologically equipped to handle deeper and more complex feelings than men' makes sense but is this scientifically validated in any way? Just curious
Makes sense I'm not arguing his point of view what I am definitely arguing is that nobody could know the anatomy or the mental stage of a female because we're not all alike especially when a man will decide that he is the expert on our anatomy is like when were you a woman no disrespect
A woman should be open and the man should be respectful to receive and protect so there is a trusting and loving relationship earlier on. Man are not fools. They will play games until they known the woman is full in ❤ Not disclosing her full intentions causes caos. In this day and age man know more and find out for themselves before they meet thier desired woman. So there’s nothing to hide.
Sounds exactly like J Peterson. He is not using his Lecture voice in a classroom nor his Interview Voice hooked up to microphones but a Different recording device, maybe a Sound Booth. I love this style of speaking. Slower, easier to understand and great inflection. He has JP's raspy voice. It pulls me in. ❤
I'm getting a bad vibe from this one,while I respect this man ,I'm no expert what so ever yet biblical principles are very important to read and understand and have the holy Spirit guide there is no two women alike ,as there ain't no two man alike or how a relationship can unfold with 1 same person and two different partsers, I hope this
Yes. You are right. Peterson views and psychology is manipulative and is total opposite to Biblical values. He is depressed and he had failures and he writes from his expericences and not from how God made us. As for me, I stick to Bible. The man should be manly enough to see through everythng a wife goes through and love her and take care of her and not run away like a gutless man. These days men come in christian masks and 2 important questions as a christian believer from me help me understand if he is real capable man or christian or not. if a woman cannot be vulnerable with you and you cant take it, what good are you for that girl. Its early good riddance for her. Those who can see vulnerable sides and accept you are those who will stand in thick and thin. We all willbe once ina while vulnerable to those who are around us for most of our times. if people cant take it on first day, they are really not for relationships. stop playing the mind games this peterson says. His life is a mess too. People who live in villages and are not knowing these psychological tricks are living happy wonderful lovely lifes making long lasting family with big gneration of grandkids.He is telling men are not capable to deal with womens vulnerabilities. I wonder how still men think they are ego minded and stronger than women. Todays men are like this. They cannot be good husbands and fathers. Never trust such men who cannot take your care. When the man is not well equipped, he is like this. Such people arent meant to have a wife and child. They can never handle them
It is called over sharing to the point of emotionally dumping on others and being to clinging. I hate dating someone who thinks they need to share every little thing that happen in there day. It is not just women who do this either. But the reason why men and women do this type of behavior is for different reason. Many women are very insecure, so they are looking for approval and act like they are on egg shells. Women have been raised and condition to alway support her man, so she is side stepping around making sure he is happy, at the cost of her needs or mental health. Meanwhile for many men it is about control and filling some insane belief you are not a man without a women on your arm. Basically if you just met someone and went on one date it is not normal to get 70 texts from that person the next day. However getting one text saying something like I enjoy yesterday with you and I hope you had fun too. Would you be interesting in meeting again? That is normal. Basically most of my friend who have been married to the same person for decades usually met as friends before they were interested romatically. They usually have simular interest and common goals and ideas also. But they have there own friends and they trust each other. For example I belong to a camping group and we have one women in her 70's who loves to camp and her husband not to much. They have been married for 50 years. He will actually bring out the trailer, set it all up for her and then come back a few day later to take her home. Since we usually have loke 10 people meeting up if we decide to go somewhere we just car pool. The marriage work because the husband is not thinking oh there are single men around and she might run off with one. Well if you think that, your have a sick marriage anyway. But a relationship will not work is when a women see a marriage as a partnership and the man see the wife as a glorified servent who he can have sex with whenever he wants. You might want to find out before you marry someone what that future mate things what a women role is in a marriage to begin with. But people need to remember when you date someone you both tend to make extra effort to be more appealing to that person and that will change once you are married. Also any bad habit you will not be able to change. So do not marry someone thinking you can save them. You cannot save anyone including yourself unless you want that change to happen.
Like letting air in the soil so the plant can breathe. I’m learning to leave spaces and lessen explanations. 🥰 it makes sense now why women can meet their best friend and connect like superglue after disclosing every trauma on day one while men basically imagine our whole future the first month and get all keen about marriage then ghost completely despite nothing changing. It makes sense for women to be a bit overwhelming to them. 😏
Told by a man?? I rather stay alone with my fulnarability been through this already by not showing nothing and then get left. I no less then any men and as a libra I'm a male like zodiac so equality..no what about that??😅
This seems so simplified. Life is complicated and people aren't simple, they're complicated and individuals... Also yeah, this sounds like common sense... Seems excessive to say it over and over... At the assumption this is for a female audience, or self affirming for males???? Wtf even is this 😂
Relationships are way too complex and comes from selfishness mainly I believe. If both parties were selfless, there wudnt be any real issues. It’s because of hang ups like jealousy, domination, manipulation Selfishness Disrespect Dishonour Is what ruins relationships
Don't say, show! A picture is better than 1000 words. The more you talk, the more we want you to shut up! Use your mouth wisely. If he can't understand visually and with few wise words, would you like to teach him, like a kid? Women who teach their men become their 2nd mother and you lose attractiveness and guess what, he will cheat on you!
Ok…now can dr Peterson touch on speaking to men on how to cure their foot and mouth disease and start caring about OUR feelings and consider them as well pretty please instead of allowing them to continue to damage us
Putting all these stipulations on a woman instead of it being a mutual responsibility is very sexist. This to me proves men aren't good at emotional regulation or being held accountable. Now it's the woman's job to be the regulator. That's not healthy. How about everyone just control your own emotions and speak freely. If being honest is a burden you're with the wrong person.
These thoughts could be used to justify cheating and infidelity as some spouses need the space to experience their secret desires with another to protect the marital identity from damaging expectations.
There are appropriate timea and olaces tobshare things and vice versa. But hiding things from a serious partner is stupid. If you cant be vulnerable and open you cant be a good partner and that is especially true of men.
I respectfully disagree. Why is it up to the woman to maintain the relationship? What about the other person? I'd like to see your "vulnerability" checklist applied to the partner as well. With your agenda, we're back in the 1950's, when it was the woman's job to maintain the household.. You are simply substituting those chores and responsibilities from an earlier time, into emotional and psychological responsibilities, so the man doesn't have to see the woman, warts and all. According to you, she must still keep the relationship emotionally "clean" just like she mopped the kitchen floor.
Men have emotions too and , mature men can understand emotions. Mature men have emotions as do women. It’s not as r though men do not have emotions. Because they do have emotions. Yes, not everyone gets to hear your emotions, yet everyone has emotions. Some women can not or do not know what to do with a man’s emotions. Everyone’s 3motions are ar a different level. So , n share your emotions & match, or find out dis match. Stop pretending things don’t exist. Cause they do. Jordon you are right on about much and sometime, well, not so much. Thanks for what you are doing & appreciate maturity.
What rubbish! Why should we hide who we are? Is that not what a relationship is about, sharing who you are and moving comfortably around your partner? It's deceptive to hide stuff. I think it's better to be honest and then say, 'now I've shared that, you know and I don't have to keep bringing it up' and he should understand me better. I'm wondering if this is really the reflections of Mr Peterson at all???
🙄what i don't like about advice..take with a grain of salt. How a women should act narrated by a man. More like what a man wants is not always what he thinks.
Outdated advice. Probaley subjective . His take on relationships, with a certain amount of input from his client's What a dry life he has lived as an intellectual he needs to be in controll of the emotional landscape Interesting how he repeats the women should hold back. If men wont listen to thier partners inner life, it will be discussed with thier female freinds, leaving their partners out. I just thought this podcast was like a lecture . Most men are very open an sensitive in this day and age. Stop having a go at women Mr. P.
From old woman to young woman, be yourself and don't get into bed with any man till he "man-up" to accept the responsibility of marriage. Finish!
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Feline feminism.
To many women are willing to give the only thing they have, that these type of men want. A man who respects you as a person is not going to insist on sex the first time you meet. I never understand now a women can hop in the bed of some man you just met just because he bought you dinner and you you think he loves you. Talk about low self esteem. He just see you as a prostitute. What women do not understand you giving in like this, many men now see you as not marriage material. Sex material but not marriage. Of course they never look at what they are doing is the exact same thing. I heard one man who thinks women should just hop in the bed the first date with him, but women should only have a few sex partner, while he has had 1000's. Men are hypocrites. First of all who need the STD and men just really do not respect women. To many men are looking for a Mommy. Instead they think well if she that easy she might just do my friend next. The best way to find red flags is to say NO.
Excellent advice.
Celibacy is a powerful ability and a form of spiritual protection for oneself!
So true. I have a friend who is physically beautiful. She has a sweet heart, as well. She cannot get a 2nd or 3rd date. She shows all her cards. I know this because I introduced her to my attractive, single brother. They spent time at the pool and spent a few hours talking. When she left, my brother explained that she divulged her life story and explained all of her insecurities. She does it every single time she meets a potential man. I've tried to help her, yet she can't see it. She has depended on her nice looks for so long, that she has not developed a good conversation strategy. Thanks for this insight. I will pass it along, and absorb what I need
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if a woman cannot be vulnerable with you and you cant take it, what good are you for that girl. Its early good riddance for her. Those who can see vulnerable sides and accept you are those who will stand in thick and thin. We all willbe once ina while vulnerable to those who are around us for most of our times. if people cant take it on first day, they are really not for relationships. stop playing the mind games this peterson says. His life is a mess too. People who live in villages and are not knowing these psychological tricks are living happy wonderful lovely lifes making long lasting family with big gneration of grandkids
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Id rather be single rather go through all of this!!❤
Exactly!
me too
But then you miss the point of growing. Relationships are messy as is life. Yet beautiful, wonderful and full of awe. You help one another grow and you both learn when you rise to the occasion and learn. If you walk away just because it is hard you stay self absorbed, self centered and you will not grow. At least not as much if you willfully stay single cause you don’t want to sacrifice anything of yourself
facts ❤
Lol. Ditto!!!💟
Such amazing teaching and so true. At 76 years and 50 of them married to my teenage sweet heart and continuing, I can say that to keep your unique self with some hidden intrigue and surprises still to unfold even late in life, is what keeps a relationship alive. This comes from stretching out and continuing to grow no mater what age.
I don’t need to hide anything from anyone. I love who I am, and share that openly with those whom I choose to.
Men are not that simple as you say
Women are not as overwhelming as you say.
Please do not allow anybody to push You intro having sex. If he really cares for you, he Will wait until the moment is right for both of You. I agree with what Dr. Peterson says.
Thank you so much, internet dad ❤
I feel so absolutely blessed to have come across your wisdom, yet dually duped for not having been taught these seemingly simple truths before I was almost 50.
I am working through not only forgiveness of my self for not having this understanding earlier, but also forgiveness for my biological family for not having the proper tools to equip their children for success in life and relationships.
Thank you, Jordan-for putting this information out there for us to be educated to make better decisions moving forward in life ❤
Lost my wife after 30 years of a great marriage. Only then did I find out how open she was to spirituality. Great video!
The public persona and the authentic self share a common space in men and women. Marriage is a vow to extol the first and treasure the second.
Please, when editing, using the work/ideas of another. Provide the link to the original link/post/work. Thank you.
This is helping me negotiate a difficult situation where a woman is undermining our relationship by initially offering support to me then becoming more uncertain in multiple areas of her life and undermining my sense of psychological safety... the very thing that gives me agency and potency
I see it differently now
Your gut is telling you the necessary information. Going against it always comes with a big price tag. Take good care.
Wow. She actually needs to be a mature, self-regulating human with an internal locus of control in order to have a healthy relationship. Without that, she turns her relationships into an emotional addiction. This is a great video of things I've been trying to nail down in my own thinking regarding codependency. There is a lot of information about what codependency is, but not a lot out there about what it is not. This is good. Thanks.
It seems to me, the root issue is managing your own emotional state. I think "needing" another person in your life for emotional regulation creates a lot of chaos, and it's basically an addiction, whether female or male. It probably plays out a little differently in male experience.
Wow well responded. You have done some work!!!
7:51 Emotional depth, insecurities, expectations. Trust- overtime respect, sharing time, safety meet with compassion and respect . In good time to not get overwhelmed pressure
20:33 -Authenticity- true to oneself and need and acknowledge other need in the dame dynamic
45 years too late. Never hurts to share with our daughters and sons
Amen. Just realizing these at 58!! 😮
Back in the day, when I was “dating,” I didn’t date with expectations of exclusivity or marriage, I dated for discovery. I would not even allow intimate conversations until I knew them for a while, this goes with girlfriends too. I’d rather talk about ideas and work on projects together and give the relationship some time before determining what kind of relationship it will be… and if we fell in love, we fell in love.
Now it seems that dating is a performance and a job interview with only one job position available and the qualifications are impossible , it’s almost like people are arranging their own marriages. Very sterile.
I have seen with my eyes, men get confused and misunderstood than blamed for what wasn't true, so real
Humans are very complex
I agree in the beginning the relationship needs to be very authentic A woman should never tell a man her wants or needs She must WATCH the man CLOSELY if he does not have what she needs and wants she needs to get away from him asap
This is great advise, assuming this is general advice, allowing each person individually to grow naturally, to know when to reveal or not. It is a matter of personal integrity and balance, your instincts will help to guide that couple.
Very well articulated and wise. For a more powerful impact, I would cut it down by half. There is a lot of repetition of the same concepts and ideas and it starts to detract from the message.
I totally agree.
Love you Dr. Peterson , God bless you 🙏❤️
How Absolutley Wonderful is this insight into Men and Women. The entrance to Divine growth while dancing on the path of Blooming together.. or not.. 🎶🔥🕺💗💃🎶
I agree it is important for a woman to manage her own emotions and not blurt them all over everyone else. However, if a woman does this, most likely her partner has a need to feel the way it makes them feel from wounding. The partner is just as responsible for managing how they receive a person. It is not about hiding oneself ever! If a man is overwhelmed it would be perfectly fine to communicate that. No one person should conceal themselves. Expectations should always be discussed and true communication builds bonds not hiding.
I used to listen to a lot of JP. Then realized he was just trying to promote a healthy version of the patriarchy, which is still patriarchy. And there is no healthy world where a man has power over a woman's economic security and she's solely responsible for the emotional management of the relationship.
Start holding men responsible for equally processing tough emotions, and for the actions they take that create insecure relationships. Women wouldn't have whirlwind emotions if their partners were stable, faithful, and kind. Asking women to control the emotional response while men dictate the time and commitment level they can come forward with... is completely unreasonable. Women aren't attracting men with patience. Men are meant to attract women with their efforts.
So interesting, thanks for writing your opinion, it's making me think. "Men are meant to attract women with their effort" is also a facet of the patriarchy, any society that thinks that is misogynistic.
I don't see something wrong with what he's saying in this video, although I don't consume his content, this is probably the first video I watch of his, idk how he operates. But what he's saying applies to both men and women, so him applying it to women is not, per se, wrong.
It's not a woman's responsibility to emotionally manage a relationship, for sure. But me saying to my boyfriend at the 6 month mark that I'm ready for marriage and I'm super sure about him is overwhelming to him at least or puts unrealistic expectations on him at worst.
I absolutely agree with you!! My god he sounds so virtuous it is sickening. I'm in my 70's and have experienced a rich life. I would make Mr P blush but hell, I'm strong and interesting and capable and above all else, I'm a survivor of abuse from a vile father who nearly killed me. In MY opinion, men have a lot to learn. I don't need to spend my life with a sop, I need a man intelligent enough to laugh at my experiences and move on together making more experiences to laugh and share. Not sure you have my respect any more 'Mr P.
Perfectly stated. 😌
WOW...I am speechless. That's cut and dry, thank you so much
Thank you!
This is spot on
No wonder there’s so much divorce
This Very Information is Not Outdated to a 20 year old woman or 25 .35. etc. Women are biologically equipped to handle deeper and more complex feelings than men. That is why women outlive men! Men are more focused on the Outer World. Where they need to Succeed and Compete to Support a Wife and children. We have different goals and different hormones. Respect the differences. Honor and Cherish Them ❤
I understand what you saying but more women hold on to grudges and more jealousy sometimes than men. I came across three testomines of 3 people experiencing hell for real. They said more women are in hell than men. Hmmm that's something to think about. They are too deep and emotional they should let it go because it will corrupt them within. When you facing Ahayah you can't have these traits carrying within while you enter the realm of the Most High.
"Women are biologically equipped to handle deeper and more complex feelings than men' makes sense but is this scientifically validated in any way? Just curious
Makes sense I'm not arguing his point of view what I am definitely arguing is that nobody could know the anatomy or the mental stage of a female because we're not all alike especially when a man will decide that he is the expert on our anatomy is like when were you a woman no disrespect
A woman should be open and the man should be respectful to receive and protect so there is a trusting and loving relationship earlier on. Man are not fools. They will play games until they known the woman is full in ❤ Not disclosing her full intentions causes caos. In this day and age man know more and find out for themselves before they meet thier desired woman. So there’s nothing to hide.
Ok. So what are the things a man must hide from a woman ? What to hold back ?
What is a man to withhold??
His agenda.
Im finding out the odd way. Don’t depend upon the internet to find genuine Love unless that’s what you are trying to do online.
Who wrote the manual on all these tricks....and where to find it...?
This is NOT Jordan Peterson speaking...
I dislike when they use other people’s voices.
Sounds exactly like J Peterson. He is not using his Lecture voice in a classroom nor his Interview Voice hooked up to microphones but a Different recording device, maybe a Sound Booth. I love this style of speaking. Slower, easier to understand and great inflection. He has JP's raspy voice. It pulls me in. ❤
Maybe he had a sore throat😃
I'm getting a bad vibe from this one,while I respect this man ,I'm no expert what so ever yet biblical principles are very important to read and understand and have the holy Spirit guide there is no two women alike ,as there ain't no two man alike or how a relationship can unfold with 1 same person and two different partsers, I hope this
Yes. You are right. Peterson views and psychology is manipulative and is total opposite to Biblical values. He is depressed and he had failures and he writes from his expericences and not from how God made us. As for me, I stick to Bible. The man should be manly enough to see through everythng a wife goes through and love her and take care of her and not run away like a gutless man. These days men come in christian masks and 2 important questions as a christian believer from me help me understand if he is real capable man or christian or not. if a woman cannot be vulnerable with you and you cant take it, what good are you for that girl. Its early good riddance for her. Those who can see vulnerable sides and accept you are those who will stand in thick and thin. We all willbe once ina while vulnerable to those who are around us for most of our times. if people cant take it on first day, they are really not for relationships. stop playing the mind games this peterson says. His life is a mess too. People who live in villages and are not knowing these psychological tricks are living happy wonderful lovely lifes making long lasting family with big gneration of grandkids.He is telling men are not capable to deal with womens vulnerabilities. I wonder how still men think they are ego minded and stronger than women. Todays men are like this. They cannot be good husbands and fathers. Never trust such men who cannot take your care.
When the man is not well equipped, he is like this. Such people arent meant to have a wife and child. They can never handle them
It is called over sharing to the point of emotionally dumping on others and being to clinging. I hate dating someone who thinks they need to share every little thing that happen in there day. It is not just women who do this either. But the reason why men and women do this type of behavior is for different reason. Many women are very insecure, so they are looking for approval and act like they are on egg shells. Women have been raised and condition to alway support her man, so she is side stepping around making sure he is happy, at the cost of her needs or mental health. Meanwhile for many men it is about control and filling some insane belief you are not a man without a women on your arm. Basically if you just met someone and went on one date it is not normal to get 70 texts from that person the next day. However getting one text saying something like I enjoy yesterday with you and I hope you had fun too. Would you be interesting in meeting again? That is normal. Basically most of my friend who have been married to the same person for decades usually met as friends before they were interested romatically. They usually have simular interest and common goals and ideas also. But they have there own friends and they trust each other. For example I belong to a camping group and we have one women in her 70's who loves to camp and her husband not to much. They have been married for 50 years. He will actually bring out the trailer, set it all up for her and then come back a few day later to take her home. Since we usually have loke 10 people meeting up if we decide to go somewhere we just car pool. The marriage work because the husband is not thinking oh there are single men around and she might run off with one. Well if you think that, your have a sick marriage anyway. But a relationship will not work is when a women see a marriage as a partnership and the man see the wife as a glorified servent who he can have sex with whenever he wants. You might want to find out before you marry someone what that future mate things what a women role is in a marriage to begin with. But people need to remember when you date someone you both tend to make extra effort to be more appealing to that person and that will change once you are married. Also any bad habit you will not be able to change. So do not marry someone thinking you can save them. You cannot save anyone including yourself unless you want that change to happen.
But it ok for the man to unburden his own heart all at once, early in the relationship, right?
Yes so true,
Like letting air in the soil so the plant can breathe. I’m learning to leave spaces and lessen explanations. 🥰 it makes sense now why women can meet their best friend and connect like superglue after disclosing every trauma on day one while men basically imagine our whole future the first month and get all keen about marriage then ghost completely despite nothing changing. It makes sense for women to be a bit overwhelming to them. 😏
So basically a man cannot handle the emotional trauma of certain situations or all situations. Which in itself is growth
Always women have to adapt to men... never the contrary!
So it about new relationship
😂😂😂😂😂😂 You do you, Jordan ! Haha! So glad he will let the women know what to do.
Told by a man?? I rather stay alone with my fulnarability been through this already by not showing nothing and then get left. I no less then any men and as a libra I'm a male like zodiac so equality..no what about that??😅
Some men find that is holding back..
This seems so simplified. Life is complicated and people aren't simple, they're complicated and individuals... Also yeah, this sounds like common sense...
Seems excessive to say it over and over... At the assumption this is for a female audience, or self affirming for males???? Wtf even is this 😂
Relationships are way too complex and comes from selfishness mainly I believe. If both parties were selfless, there wudnt be any real issues. It’s because of hang ups like jealousy, domination, manipulation
Selfishness
Disrespect
Dishonour
Is what ruins relationships
Yeah i learned this the hard way.
I get bad vibes from all of his work.
Don't say, show! A picture is better than 1000 words. The more you talk, the more we want you to shut up! Use your mouth wisely. If he can't understand visually and with few wise words, would you like to teach him, like a kid? Women who teach their men become their 2nd mother and you lose attractiveness and guess what, he will cheat on you!
Relationships hold!!!
Ok…now can dr Peterson touch on speaking to men on how to cure their foot and mouth disease and start caring about OUR feelings and consider them as well pretty please instead of allowing them to continue to damage us
Interesting
WELL OUTDATED advises!!!
Wake up! Life & relationships have changed and so did men & women…
And for the men, the stark opposite. (emotions are welcomed)
This is utter nonsense! Please stop creating such videos that create so much of pressure and confusion!
Aka, "women, be more masculine to gel and thrive with your partner, you are the emotional provider, but don't tell me about those!!!
Putting all these stipulations on a woman instead of it being a mutual responsibility is very sexist. This to me proves men aren't good at emotional regulation or being held accountable. Now it's the woman's job to be the regulator. That's not healthy. How about everyone just control your own emotions and speak freely. If being honest is a burden you're with the wrong person.
These thoughts could be used to justify cheating and infidelity as some spouses need the space to experience their secret desires with another to protect the marital identity from damaging expectations.
That isn’t what he’s saying
No, that’s just evil doing
There are appropriate timea and olaces tobshare things and vice versa. But hiding things from a serious partner is stupid. If you cant be vulnerable and open you cant be a good partner and that is especially true of men.
Thank you at 8 minutes
I respectfully disagree. Why is it up to the woman to maintain the relationship? What about the other person? I'd like to see your "vulnerability" checklist applied to the partner as well. With your agenda, we're back in the 1950's, when it was the woman's job to maintain the household.. You are simply substituting those chores and responsibilities from an earlier time, into emotional and psychological responsibilities, so the man doesn't have to see the woman, warts and all. According to you, she must still keep the relationship emotionally "clean" just like she mopped the kitchen floor.
This is not JP. Its not the way he talks or his vocabulary.
It’s trying to manipulate others.
Cold and promoting manipulation as if talking to immaturity. So, welcome emotions.
Men have emotions too and , mature men can understand emotions. Mature men have emotions as do women. It’s not as r
though men do not have emotions. Because they do have emotions. Yes, not everyone gets to hear your emotions, yet everyone has emotions. Some women can not or do not know what to do with a man’s emotions. Everyone’s 3motions are ar a different level. So , n share your emotions & match, or find out dis match. Stop pretending things don’t exist. Cause they do. Jordon you are right on about much and sometime, well, not so much. Thanks for what you are doing & appreciate maturity.
What rubbish! Why should we hide who we are? Is that not what a relationship is about, sharing who you are and moving comfortably around your partner? It's deceptive to hide stuff. I think it's better to be honest and then say, 'now I've shared that, you know and I don't have to keep bringing it up' and he should understand me better. I'm wondering if this is really the reflections of Mr Peterson at all???
🙄what i don't like about advice..take with a grain of salt. How a women should act narrated by a man. More like what a man wants is not always what he thinks.
BOLLOCKS
repetitive
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Outdated advice. Probaley subjective . His take on relationships, with a certain amount of input from his client's
What a dry life he has lived as an intellectual he needs to be in controll of the emotional landscape
Interesting how he repeats the women should hold back.
If men wont listen to thier partners inner life, it will be discussed with thier female freinds, leaving their partners out.
I just thought this podcast was like a lecture .
Most men are very open an sensitive in this day and age.
Stop having a go at women Mr. P.