When Alphas Step: Shawntay Vaughn v Derrick Taylor S24 E41

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  • @ayesierramist
    @ayesierramist 2 года назад +459

    I like how she spoke about fear vs. respect in regards to parenting

    • @peterparker4342
      @peterparker4342 2 года назад +5

      Bs

    • @darriused1567
      @darriused1567 2 года назад +11

      It's facts and more parents need to realize it!

    • @teejaym101
      @teejaym101 2 года назад +9

      I was raised to respect my elders, it really has nothing to do fear

    • @crystalmarroquin777
      @crystalmarroquin777 2 года назад +3

      “There’s nothing going on but the RENT “You have to have a J.O.B. If you want to be with me.” By Gwen Guthrie. Words to live by

    • @crystalmarroquin777
      @crystalmarroquin777 2 года назад +3

      @@peterparker4342 That’s right!
      That’s why women should live by these words
      “There’s nothing going on but the RENT “You have to have a J.O.B. If you want to be with me.” By Gwen Guthrie. Great Song ! Love it.

  • @MrFancyjohnson1
    @MrFancyjohnson1 2 года назад +277

    She is just too smart for him and absolutely too good for that “alpha male”…the audacity to even say that and barely takes care of the home

    • @trishhur5035
      @trishhur5035 2 года назад +8

      He is NOT an Alfa male and he probably doesn't have a clue of the definition. He is a not a good man as he say heck if he is a good man please don't g8ve me a bad 1. As soon as she decided to put him out then he decided he was about to make things happen BOY BYE he definitely has the age of a man but he never grew up so sad😃😅🤣

    • @urkelsaloneurkelbeatz5287
      @urkelsaloneurkelbeatz5287 2 года назад +3

      @@trishhur5035 well she's not a Queen either and doesn't know the definition at all

    • @philsanon9965
      @philsanon9965 2 года назад

      What's wrong with this dude? Call himself Alpha male don't even have a roof on his own . He should be ashamed of himself. That's a disgrace to all the alpha male.

    • @philsanon9965
      @philsanon9965 2 года назад +3

      Some men just throw away a good relationship because they listen to some you tuber talking nonsense.

    • @urkelsaloneurkelbeatz5287
      @urkelsaloneurkelbeatz5287 2 года назад

      @@philsanon9965 nope. Women are the ones who throw away a good relationship because they either listen to other some (not all) women for bad advice or Steve Harvey

  • @fulanichick8108
    @fulanichick8108 2 года назад +170

    I get the last say because I’m a man but can’t take care of the household and be the provider 🤡

  • @mrspaceforever
    @mrspaceforever 2 года назад +310

    dang that made me sad when she was reciting the poem and he couldn’t continue it with her. “A man is supposed to be the head of the household” while letting your family become homeless, yeah OK! 😅🤣

    • @demonalphabet8813
      @demonalphabet8813 2 года назад +2

      Women do no wrong ever 😆
      it shouldn't even be questioned 🤕🤧

    • @deja14
      @deja14 2 года назад +19

      @@demonalphabet8813 he should have address what she did wrong. Instead he couldn’t. He couldn’t even match her effort and energy. I didn’t hear him say they were homeless because he got sick and she couldn’t pick up the slack. Why couldn’t he do what she did and provide a home like she did for 7 years?

    • @demonalphabet8813
      @demonalphabet8813 2 года назад +3

      @@deja14 Women tend to apply a pressure that causes immense lack of stability in us men and in this day and age a relationship is not fun it becomes a situation where particularly females like the enjoyment of picking out all the wrong a man has done and her weapons of choice are marriage , children this concept is built to give the woman equal standing and as men you see them move further and further away

    • @deja14
      @deja14 2 года назад +14

      @@demonalphabet8813 so because she expected him to help and do his part that was too much pressure and caused him to want out? But if a woman doesn’t want to deal w a man who can’t provide as a “alpha man” should she shouldn’t want out? A lot of men expect a woman to stick around if a man is “trying” and that’s ok but women can’t expect their man to do his job as a man because that’s too much pressure? Wow. We are doomed.

    • @BoomVinnie
      @BoomVinnie 2 года назад +1

      Alpha men don't let their women become home yeah, but you're just saying anything if you think he's less of a man for not finishing a poem lol

  • @a.m.8763
    @a.m.8763 2 года назад +203

    He's horribly selfish & irresponsible; thinks out the WRONG HEAD, & I'm glad she's done supporting his raggedy behind. She and her Daughters deserve SOOO much better! I got rid of MY Migraine Headache almost 37-years ago and NEVER Remarried! I'd rather be by myself than to be with someone who's taking me down the drain with them!

    • @Cartersjourney15
      @Cartersjourney15 2 года назад +5

      Good is relative…….. He doesn’t seem like a good person.

    • @THE_REAL_KiNGTOPNOTCH
      @THE_REAL_KiNGTOPNOTCH 2 года назад +1

      How cats and dogs have you ran through?

    • @d820m
      @d820m 2 года назад +1

      So what you're saying is you're an old crow whose stove ran out of heat long time ago? Duly noted.....🤣🤣

    • @sheilae.9670
      @sheilae.9670 2 года назад

      @@d820m calling someone a "crow" with your ugly, big headed looking profile picture 🙄 you got some damn nerve 🤡

    • @d820m
      @d820m 2 года назад

      @@sheilae.9670 you better believe it, sister, and i will keep that damn nerve until the day I'm 6 cold dead feet in my grave...but until then, i'll continue to not give a rats ass what a black b---h like you thinks about me ...now if you'll excuse me, the football game is about to come on,, so please hold all comments til the end of the game🤣

  • @82laina
    @82laina 2 года назад +79

    She's hurt, I get it.
    But the red flags were all there sis.
    Don't get with potential, it'll disappoint you every time. Hoping the best for her and her girls.

    • @loracro4284
      @loracro4284 2 года назад +3

      Right off the bat I saw red flags so I’m confused as to why she’s 40 and never say those flags. Is he the only guy in her neighborhood??

    • @trishell.longlastname
      @trishell.longlastname 2 года назад +2

      16:43 sis is woke now the words coming out her mouth sounds like reality setting in sm times the wake up call comes later on in maturity

  • @DreadlocDivaNextDoor
    @DreadlocDivaNextDoor 2 года назад +312

    He’s an “Alpha male”, but when his wife can’t work his entire family goes HOMELESS 🤔 …

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад

      What that mean people struggle sweetie, females call their selves Queens but have 3,4,5,6 different baby daddies n kids in living poverty under the government assistance smh

    • @paralegalkc
      @paralegalkc 2 года назад +23

      Chile!!!!! I said this too. Trying to bring the Bible into it🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @lavidaloca2344
      @lavidaloca2344 2 года назад +9

      Like Make it Make sense 😂😂😂

    • @Cmizz1
      @Cmizz1 2 года назад +4

      I thought the same thing!

    • @Cmizz1
      @Cmizz1 2 года назад +10

      @@paralegalkc Totally byassing the fact that the Bible also states that she is to be the "Help meet". Hence help HIM...not him helping HER!!! Sistas need to learn the Word so that when one of these half a Bible tottin jiggas come at them with this type of mess, they can be prepared to throw back what the Word says of THEIR duties as a man!!

  • @shanzi9009
    @shanzi9009 2 года назад +152

    He can't even pay for his own DNA test. Had to get it free yet still its mandatory for him

    • @d820m
      @d820m 2 года назад

      That's why you need The Maury Povich Home Paternity Test...because sometimes the bitch DOES try to play you like that🤣🤣

    • @crystalmarroquin777
      @crystalmarroquin777 2 года назад +3

      “There’s nothing going on but the RENT “You have to have a J.O.B. If you want to be with me.” By Gwen Guthrie. Words to live by

    • @mogetit5999
      @mogetit5999 2 года назад +2

      The audacity

    • @qt4everandever63
      @qt4everandever63 2 года назад +3

      Thank you!! I've been saying this since Maury.

    • @neeks3315
      @neeks3315 2 года назад

      Word

  • @minkki5656
    @minkki5656 2 года назад +145

    I think sometimes we as black women put ourselves in the position to accept any man, knowing he can't provide, but wanting to build a life with him? How can you build with someone that's broke? For seven years this went on. That's partially her fault. If a man can't take care of you when there's a financial interruption in the household, what is he there for?? He wants to be the Alpha Male, and be head of the household, when he can't even support the household. Damn shame. Good thing they're divorcing, because she just wasted 7 years in a struggle relationship.

    • @lionessbynature8007
      @lionessbynature8007 2 года назад +11

      Keep it real. Say it louder for those in the back.

    • @ceeceeclarke6130
      @ceeceeclarke6130 2 года назад +11

      Rite she tried to build-a-man. 🙄🌺🌸🌼

    • @LUVYGURL
      @LUVYGURL 2 года назад +7

      I totally 💯 agree women have to take accountability we pick them ain't no way we should look past a man who can't provide and don't have his own!

    • @JourneyingOtakuSoul8808
      @JourneyingOtakuSoul8808 2 года назад +1

      Bw statistically marry down when it comes to men. Bw tend to date and marry the men who are the poorest, non family oriented, etc. Other groups of women practice hypergamy. Bw are shame by the men in the community if they do.

    • @pvualpha1
      @pvualpha1 2 года назад +4

      This was a perfect response, as a man I wish more Black women would listen to what you said and stop getting with these guys that can’t take of themselves, living in there Momma basement waiting to be taken care of.

  • @briteinwilson8148
    @briteinwilson8148 2 года назад +44

    How can you say a Man should be ahead of the household and you can't pay your half of the bills?

  • @tierasprauve5876
    @tierasprauve5876 2 года назад +248

    I need people to stop saying stuff like: I don't beat her, I don't cheat on her, I dont cuss her out, I don't stab her, I don't shoot her....as if that is not the baseline of what you should be doing

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад +10

      He said that because when u hear most women tell their story that be the number one thing women bring up about their relationship 🤷🏿‍♂️ u barely hear a female say positive stuff about their relationship its always negative and what the men not doing or isn't doing 🤷🏿‍♂️

    • @jprice1928
      @jprice1928 2 года назад +17

      Exactly. How does that make u a good person cause u don’t treat someone terribly lol

    • @jprice1928
      @jprice1928 2 года назад +13

      @@shadthagod813 maybe if they weren’t doing those things it wouldn’t get brought up

    • @lionessbynature8007
      @lionessbynature8007 2 года назад +9

      They want brownie points for not being an abusive narcissist. I also can't stand it when guys list all the basic things they do for his kid and wife/girlfriend. You're supposed to do that stuff it's called adult responsibilities. Of being a parent of being husband/boyfriend. You don't get brownie points or to keep score on stuff you are supposed to be doing. Those are the qualifications that are required to have the title of a parent or husband/boyfriend. Can call yourself the boss when you only fit the requirements of a sales associate.

    • @yung1717
      @yung1717 2 года назад +2

      That’s what I said. Like that’s the lowest bar to cross

  • @sweetsweet81
    @sweetsweet81 2 года назад +69

    These alpha males slay me!!!! A real "Alpha" male, if we're gonna use that, doesn't go around telling other folks he's an alpha. it's gonna show in his actions across the board.
    This dude fell short. He was talking the talk, but wasn't walking the walk.

    • @aldrichthijs
      @aldrichthijs 2 года назад +6

      You forgot the part of letting his wife pay more than half of the household bills smh

    • @ChironAce
      @ChironAce 2 года назад +1

      Alpha males don't have to say that they're Alphas.

    • @sweetsweet81
      @sweetsweet81 2 года назад

      @@ChironAce exactly. It shows.

  • @shaybutter3403
    @shaybutter3403 2 года назад +228

    His voice 😵‍💫.. I'm sorry... I wanna give him a cough drop and a cup of tea.

    • @alan.jb_
      @alan.jb_ 2 года назад +7

      Byyyyye Shayyyy 😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @shaybutter3403
      @shaybutter3403 2 года назад +11

      @@alan.jb_ lol I'm solution oriented

    • @janettedesilier1018
      @janettedesilier1018 2 года назад +11

      Facts like clear your throat! 😅

    • @midnitemoon577
      @midnitemoon577 2 года назад +20

      Noooo gurrl, don't give him
      any little thing or else he'll come visit you and try to stay as many years as he can! You might never get this freeloader out your house! Lol

    • @yougogirl9050
      @yougogirl9050 2 года назад +6

      Lmao sounds like he smokes black n milds

  • @lydiasetordjiedaley3424
    @lydiasetordjiedaley3424 2 года назад +216

    This lady puts her case eloquently and articulately which is a rare thing on this show. She should shed him like a leopard shedding its skin!

    • @alkalinelifestyle638
      @alkalinelifestyle638 2 года назад +8

      No leopard ever shed it’s skin. S leopard never change its spots!🎯

    • @trishell.longlastname
      @trishell.longlastname 2 года назад +2

      @@alkalinelifestyle638 well I got confused what breed of leopard is this 😂

    • @puremotion2212
      @puremotion2212 Год назад

      If I remember correctly it is a serpent, isn't it, that sheds its skin ? We all remember why God smote the snake so that he would always be a crawler, n'est pas ?

    • @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare
      @TiktokIsTheNewWelfare 11 месяцев назад

      @@puremotion2212who cares

  • @rachelulale
    @rachelulale 2 года назад +42

    When a man wants you, he will do everything to make it known... AMEN... Keep moving Ma'am...

  • @lolab1917
    @lolab1917 2 года назад +99

    He knows he’s not good enough that’s why he believes that she cheated(even though he didn’t say it out loud)and had a baby outside. He is highly insecure.

  • @Awsumzoe
    @Awsumzoe 2 года назад +32

    How you supposed to have the last word but you can’t even take care of the last bill ?

  • @Apricityville
    @Apricityville 2 года назад +256

    This whole "alpha" conversation needs to be retired, once & for all. How do you think you're owed that title just bc you're FINALLY getting it together after all this time of coming up short? Imagine wanting a pat on the back for not beating your wife, cheating on your wife, or taking her car- things that should be automatic. He's a very bare minimum type of guy and feels he should get some sort of participation award for that.

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад +9

      And that's why she got what she got because he was what he was, she pick him 🤷🏿‍♂️ , if she didn't want a alpha male she should've got a beta male🤷🏿‍♂️

    • @justbusiness01
      @justbusiness01 2 года назад +37

      @@shadthagod813 😂 he’s not alpha. He can’t provide, they were homeless all proving he’s beta. Saying you’re alpha doesn’t make it so your actions have to line up.

    • @ANGELAKCLAY
      @ANGELAKCLAY 2 года назад +16

      He's really not even Bare Minimum. . . He's just BARE! Don't have nothing, not trying to get nothing unless You're Paying.

    • @deja14
      @deja14 2 года назад +13

      @@shadthagod813 how can you call a man like that an alpha male? 😂 he needed her for 7 years got his sht together and cut 😂

    • @yachtboy2718
      @yachtboy2718 2 года назад +3

      He’s the man of the house & money is man made meaning it’s fake love and family is more important

  • @Shinehigh228
    @Shinehigh228 2 года назад +52

    He's an extremely small and triflin man. He exposed hisself and now other women can avoid the trauma and struggle he brings.

    • @traceysbodytreats257
      @traceysbodytreats257 2 года назад +7

      He probably already has somebody now.

    • @Shinehigh228
      @Shinehigh228 2 года назад +7

      @@traceysbodytreats257 you know this!! A brotha once told me that triflin and broke dudes ALWAYS have a woman. No lies were told that day. Smh

    • @traceysbodytreats257
      @traceysbodytreats257 2 года назад +5

      @@Shinehigh228 they always keep a GOOD woman too.

    • @Shinehigh228
      @Shinehigh228 2 года назад +4

      @@traceysbodytreats257 that part! The bleeding heart gets folks in trouble and taken advantage of.

    • @qt4everandever63
      @qt4everandever63 2 года назад +1

      They won't there is an army of desperate broads out here.

  • @leeleegrace9015
    @leeleegrace9015 2 года назад +51

    So let me get this straight, this man walked out on this woman and her children, left her while she was having a miscarriage, questioned her integrity publicly by requesting a paternity test on her child, didn't even pay half the bills, can't even provide for a household and allowed her to be homeless, wants to use the alpha male trope to "keep her in her place" and silence her, is a terrible example of a man to her daughter's by allowing them to watch you struggle financially, and yet she came on the show trying to save her marriage to him? Ma'am! WTF?

    • @keishagulley8076
      @keishagulley8076 2 года назад +6

      Queen he went to go rap while she was having a whole miscarriage. I can't...this should not have been a 7 year relationship at all.

    • @d820m
      @d820m 2 года назад

      Yeah, pretty much 🤣

    • @SuperWoman_215
      @SuperWoman_215 2 года назад

      She gets what she gets and can't get upset. She chose to marry him knowing what she knew. Self inflicted womb.

    • @d820m
      @d820m 2 года назад

      @@keishagulley8076 not exactly sure where you saw a queen at?

    • @keishagulley8076
      @keishagulley8076 2 года назад +5

      @@d820m King, I was addressing the Queen that initially posted. But to answer your question I see King's and Queen's on the daily. Even when they don't see themselves as such and just maybe someone speaking into their live will add the increase. It may be easier to build strong children than it is to repair broken men/women doesn't we aren't worth the try. I'm sure someone as spoken into all our lives along the way and we didn't all get it or overstand the first time.

  • @tonyaharper2468
    @tonyaharper2468 2 года назад +173

    The audacity of him asking for a DNA test. These men can step so low and coldhearted when you took care of them

    • @zulu3274
      @zulu3274 2 года назад +24

      No matter what the circumstances were EVERY man has the right to KNOW if a child is biologically theirs and should not be shamed for that.... All those many NOT THE FATHER results we saw on Paternity Court with Judge Lauren and those women boldly standing there saying they was with no one else sexually.... yet we still think men aren't valid in asking for a DNA Test.......

    • @sagthenaturalsiren5997
      @sagthenaturalsiren5997 2 года назад +6

      Exactly why you should never take care of them. I don’t even give homeless MEN money. TF

    • @MrCeejaythadeejay
      @MrCeejaythadeejay 2 года назад +11

      DNA test should be mandatory for all births

    • @sheldondarryljohnson9651
      @sheldondarryljohnson9651 2 года назад +3

      @@zulu3274 Don't forget about Maury (pertaining to the " not the father " situation) lol. But on a serious note, you hit the nail on the head

    • @chinaredd1010
      @chinaredd1010 2 года назад

      All men should be given DNA test.

  • @greenqueen2673
    @greenqueen2673 2 года назад +28

    Typical dude that wants his wife to submit when he's not consistently meeting the husband standard of providing and protecting.

  • @jamaicaninthekitchen4358
    @jamaicaninthekitchen4358 2 года назад +55

    He wants to be head of the household and cant even take care of his family.

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад +1

      At least he was trying 🤷🏿‍♂️ alot of men don't try , but she still had a baby by him so he was doing something right o yea n she married him so

    • @curiouscupid9162
      @curiouscupid9162 2 года назад +10

      @@shadthagod813 are you secretly him? This the second comment I’ve seen of you taking up for him lmao.

    • @justbusiness01
      @justbusiness01 2 года назад +1

      @@curiouscupid9162 😂😂😂 💯

    • @islandgirlruby2750
      @islandgirlruby2750 2 года назад +14

      @@shadthagod813 you all up in the comments section, real men don’t try they do, lead from the front

    • @honeywest39j95
      @honeywest39j95 2 года назад +1

      @@curiouscupid9162 😅😅🤣

  • @northphillyp
    @northphillyp 2 года назад +30

    Been watching for over 10 minutes and still tryna figure out what marriage sis tryna save?I thought this was Divorce court,ain't heard shit worth salvaging

    • @kcdtaylor
      @kcdtaylor 2 года назад +2

      soon as he went around and said he didn't want the first baby I would have been gone

    • @northphillyp
      @northphillyp 2 года назад +2

      @@kcdtaylor exactly..especially if you cant keep a job,like he was something to hang that pregnancy on😂🤣..I can see she just wanted to be on tv with this one

  • @deja14
    @deja14 2 года назад +56

    I want men to really understand you are not an alpha male if you cannot provide. They ended up homeless because he couldn’t handle his responsibilities. How can a woman handle everything and keep them In a home but he cant? She gets sick and he can’t do what she’s done for years😂 oh ok he’s pathetic

    • @SuperWoman_215
      @SuperWoman_215 2 года назад +1

      And she knew that prior to marrying him

    • @deja14
      @deja14 2 года назад +1

      @@SuperWoman_215 she did. A lot a bm want bw to see them for their “potential” tho

    • @SuperWoman_215
      @SuperWoman_215 2 года назад +1

      @@deja14 that's fine as long as they know the loser that they chose and what level of care they'll get. Most women act like they didn't know and then when they can't change the man they become bitter. Smh makes no sense

  • @gracefromspace5502
    @gracefromspace5502 2 года назад +23

    That man is trash! Ms. Vaughn is a beautiful intelligent woman, who is raising amazing daughters! You got this Sis!

  • @whisperflame427
    @whisperflame427 2 года назад +73

    That wife is a Real queen!!! She deserves so much more!

    • @d820m
      @d820m 2 года назад

      Not sure where you saw a queen at🤔

    • @trishell.longlastname
      @trishell.longlastname 2 года назад +1

      @@d820m she is & she does deserve more than that waste of time of a man, that is a low effort man claiming to be alpha male smh

    • @d820m
      @d820m 2 года назад

      @@trishell.longlastname being an idiot who chose to ignore numerous red flags does not make her a queen

    • @fashionforwardmom
      @fashionforwardmom 5 месяцев назад

      @@d820m agree with you if i was a man i wouldn't want her nagging at me and cutting me down for everything i do and always telling me i am not good enough

    • @d820m
      @d820m 5 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@fashionforwardmom hence me saying that this old nag is nowhere near a queen

  • @pennidud4932
    @pennidud4932 2 года назад +62

    Typical..doing the least but wants credit for doing the most.

    • @robbbietheim2096
      @robbbietheim2096 2 года назад +9

      But she picked him she deserves some blame in this mess too 💯

    • @thetruth-zb7cj
      @thetruth-zb7cj 2 года назад

      Topical blk man. This is why women are starting to see that having them around is useless.

    • @thetruth-zb7cj
      @thetruth-zb7cj 2 года назад

      This is why blk men were only used as BUCKS. They should only be used to procreate with.

    • @goldiepatton8248
      @goldiepatton8248 2 года назад

      Right

  • @silkwrap7675
    @silkwrap7675 2 года назад +48

    Did y'all see how he stared off in space when his wife was calling him out? He couldn't even look her in the eye b/c he doesn't want to admit he's a piece of crap. Her mistake was being okay with building with a man. As you can see, that building, she did it all alone and where did it leave her? Alone and broken. And alpha male, any man that has to use that term to describe himself is usually weak and full of insecurities. A real man lets his actions speak louder than words.

    • @missjackie7983
      @missjackie7983 2 года назад +11

      remember this when seeking relationships. You're looking for an equal, not a project. You're looking for someone who takes care of themselves and has the capacity to take care of you too. Someone on your level that you can respect and vice versa. Don't fall in love with potential!!
      My table is SET and yours should be as well. you got to bring something to my table besides a fork and knife!

    • @silkwrap7675
      @silkwrap7675 2 года назад +2

      @@missjackie7983 💯💯💯

  • @ViSimon2
    @ViSimon2 2 года назад +20

    Bro sounds like he smokes 12 packs a day

  • @dspenderella9671
    @dspenderella9671 2 года назад +23

    "He needs to be rapping about getting a job" 😂😂😂Judge Star said that! I hope she does file too very child support for that beautiful baby girl! She's entitled to the support of both parents, not just mom.

  • @libras.groove.
    @libras.groove. 2 года назад +27

    He likes to talk, wants to be respected but got nothing to offer and doesn’t look out for her smh

  • @Rachel-ju5vt
    @Rachel-ju5vt 2 года назад +21

    If a man wants the "head of the household" status, he needs to act as though he's the head of the household. His wife shouldn't have to work, because he provides 100% of everything. He protects her. He would die for her. He would do whatever is necessary to prevent homelessness. A man must show that he is worth following. This man is none of those things.

    • @d820m
      @d820m 2 года назад

      She ain't worth dying for either🤣🤣

    • @cadillacdeville5828
      @cadillacdeville5828 2 года назад

      I say that all the time I refuse to follow someone off a bridge.

  • @daniellebutler7877
    @daniellebutler7877 2 года назад +36

    How can a man be “the alpha of his family” and don’t even pay HALF the bills🤔🤦🏾‍♀️

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад +1

      Alpha not all about paying bills smh🤦🏿

    • @oldwalt4645
      @oldwalt4645 2 года назад +1

      @@shadthagod813 then what's it about then?

    • @daniellebutler7877
      @daniellebutler7877 2 года назад +7

      @@shadthagod813 My comment said nothing about that’s all it’s about. BUT being an “alpha” requires financial stability of his home. He don’t have to pay ALL the bills but damn not even half??? You will never find a woman who pays all the bills for years by herself and still take this “alpha” man serious. But since you came on this comment tell us all what an alpha man is then….I’ll wait⏱

  • @coletteDJ33
    @coletteDJ33 2 года назад +17

    He’s a bum! Ma’am you lose nothing but a struggle

  • @manij1913
    @manij1913 2 года назад +29

    After the first baby situation there wouldn’t even be the possibility of a second . He’s highly insensitive , non dependent wants the benefits without putting in the work and sis is damn near in this marriage alone .
    “A man supposed to have the last say and lead his house” first you gotta show up as a man to make those type of demands

  • @climi681
    @climi681 2 года назад +44

    In this case, the judge needed more guts to speak to this guy, that's when I missed Judge Toler to give him a piece of her mind and make him an ass in front of everyone.

    • @missjackie7983
      @missjackie7983 2 года назад +21

      He didn't need any help looking like an ass. He did that quite well on his own LOL

    • @climi681
      @climi681 2 года назад

      @@missjackie7983 I know, but with judge Toler words and tone, he would really feels how dip in the ass he is..lol

    • @daffodil4500
      @daffodil4500 2 года назад +6

      Judge Star led him to make himself look like an ass. She asked him all the right questions.

  • @Mackenzibenzi
    @Mackenzibenzi 2 года назад +27

    Why struggle love will never be ok

  • @islandgirlruby2750
    @islandgirlruby2750 2 года назад +19

    Ladies you get the man you have not the one you think he can be and vice versa.

  • @Wink__
    @Wink__ 2 года назад +18

    She can’t completely be mad at him when she decided to make decisions with him based off potential that SHE felt was there. He’s not perfect, of course. But ma’am, you knew from the beginning what you were getting yourself into.

    • @SuperWoman_215
      @SuperWoman_215 2 года назад +1

      EXACTLY!! as I stated on my comment, self inflicted womb

  • @CK-yo7ub
    @CK-yo7ub 2 года назад +30

    These build-a-bear relationships never end well...😐

  • @Iphie2019
    @Iphie2019 2 года назад +35

    On an unrelated note, judge star always brings it with hair and outfits!!!! At this point we need the link up 😊😊😊.

    • @leelee185
      @leelee185 2 года назад +3

      So true, I only watch this show to see judge stars style not the couples lol.

    • @Iphie2019
      @Iphie2019 2 года назад +2

      @@leelee185 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Me and you both!!!!

    • @agadonk
      @agadonk 2 года назад +4

      And make up on point!

  • @robbbietheim2096
    @robbbietheim2096 2 года назад +81

    WHO THE HELL HAS A BABY WHILE THEY ARE HOMELESS, SMH 💯

    • @chocolateangel8743
      @chocolateangel8743 2 года назад +27

      @Robbie Theim A married woman shouldn't be homeless to begin with.

    • @highlander666
      @highlander666 2 года назад +11

      people with very poor decision making skills

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад +4

      (That part)and he said he don't want the baby ,thats how damaged and destroyed these women are ,these women will have a baby in any condition than Force the men to help lol

    • @goldiepatton8248
      @goldiepatton8248 2 года назад +12

      Being homeless doesn't stop u from being a human bein

    • @isthisreallystillathing5060
      @isthisreallystillathing5060 2 года назад +13

      It’s funny to me that bm talk this alpha shit but make poor decisions like impregnating a woman when he can’t keep a roof over her head.

  • @rhondabaldwin7529
    @rhondabaldwin7529 2 года назад +24

    I ABSOLUTELY LOVE The Honorable Judge Star!!!YAAASSAS

  • @keylacmckemp1309
    @keylacmckemp1309 2 года назад +32

    We are reciting poems when filing for a divorce. Interesting

    • @Dglv98
      @Dglv98 2 года назад +7

      This was definitely an awkward moment absolutely……

    • @robbbietheim2096
      @robbbietheim2096 2 года назад +4

      Cringeworthy 💯

    • @annettadavis569
      @annettadavis569 2 года назад +2

      I was dying laughing. He was like oh it's my go....lol....and she was all into it. THIS IS NOT ANOTHER LOVE POEM...LOL....CRICKETS!

  • @joannautry5323
    @joannautry5323 Месяц назад +1

    I love how clearly she is able to express how she feels - I feel sad that she doesn’t know her worth earlier.

  • @truthmatters7298
    @truthmatters7298 2 года назад +17

    People love repeating the Bible on marriage but no one repeats the Bible when it comes to living right.

    • @ThetaAlphaGamma
      @ThetaAlphaGamma 10 месяцев назад +1

      Correct but skim right over the part that says " submit to one another "!

  • @dspenderella9671
    @dspenderella9671 2 года назад +14

    Phone calls are not parenting 🤦🏾‍♀️. He's not locked up, so he can do more than that. Everything his wife is saying is making sense why she's fed up; she's actually being reasonable, which is surprising for this court. Definitely BEEN time for her to let this go...I hope she meets the bitterness/ resentment go too so she doesn't let it weigh her down nor take it into the next marriage...

  • @indigochild2453
    @indigochild2453 2 года назад +10

    He’s such a narc. Just because he’s able to easily get over stuff doesn’t mean she has to let it go

  • @andreawashington5430
    @andreawashington5430 2 года назад +7

    She’s has become strong within her pain… She spoke with so much conviction may she be blessed with the desires of her ❤️…

  • @quichequiche4274
    @quichequiche4274 2 года назад +12

    He didn't accuse her of cheating. If a man wants a DNA test for his peace of mind, there should be no question about it.

    • @serenity9205
      @serenity9205 2 года назад +14

      What would be the reason for a dna test within a marriage if there wasn’t doubt.

    • @cadillacdeville5828
      @cadillacdeville5828 2 года назад +1

      @@serenity9205 Exactly 💯

    • @Purplegirl-pi1jo
      @Purplegirl-pi1jo 7 месяцев назад

      It’s very insulting to your wife!!!

  • @KWin-ik5cl
    @KWin-ik5cl 2 года назад +6

    He does not want to be responsible, but wants to be the boss.

  • @xXLilSmurthXx
    @xXLilSmurthXx Год назад +4

    As Judge Lynn Toler said, "what we have here is a full plate of tacky with a side of hot mess."

  • @mschangingthegame425
    @mschangingthegame425 2 года назад +13

    Ladies don't do struggle love

  • @sagthenaturalsiren5997
    @sagthenaturalsiren5997 2 года назад +9

    If he was an alpha and the head of the household why does he need help with bills 🙃

  • @Ruthforme
    @Ruthforme 2 года назад +20

    He’s a jerk! She, as a mother, should be ashamed that she brought something like this around her children.🤦🏽‍♀️
    Get some self respect!!

  • @leighdomico7002
    @leighdomico7002 2 года назад +7

    You GO GIRL. Rooting for you and those babies .

  • @dannykchanell_
    @dannykchanell_ 2 года назад +35

    He's really a clown 🤡 broke with no care for anyone but himself you go girl you'll find your king 👑 God will see it through you didn't deserve this

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад +1

      Yeah but she married him n had a baby by that broke dude so ge must was doing something right 🤔🤷🏿‍♂️

    • @d820m
      @d820m 2 года назад

      @@shadthagod813 and i don't predict that any other SANE man is going to want to get with her and her baggage

  • @vashonjones5744
    @vashonjones5744 2 года назад +10

    7yrs she carried your sorry butt at least be a man and give her grace to sit down for the next plus years. These Hobosexuals just be out here finessing the hell out some Sistas.

  • @zulu3274
    @zulu3274 2 года назад +7

    No matter what the circumstances were EVERY man has the right to KNOW if a child is biologically theirs and should not be shamed for that.... All those many NOT THE FATHER results we saw on Paternity Court with Judge Lauren and those women boldly standing there saying they was with no one else sexually.... yet we still think men aren't valid in asking for a DNA Test.......

    • @taylortrotman9896
      @taylortrotman9896 2 года назад +1

      I wasn’t as much offended by the test as I was everything else compiled with wanting a test.

    • @zulu3274
      @zulu3274 2 года назад +1

      @@taylortrotman9896 💯...🙂I feel you and understand that he doesn't seem to be the best guy... But that doesn't mean she hasn't done sneaky things behind his back as well......... It's just an unfortunate reality we live in sometimes............

  • @bigdaddyromeo9631
    @bigdaddyromeo9631 Год назад +3

    My boy is a low-budget Trae the truth😂😂😂😂😂

  • @keyarafromkeycurves
    @keyarafromkeycurves 2 года назад +34

    So she stayed so long with a man she nor her kids respected. It’s not his fault for being himself. It’s hers for staying and having kids with someone who she had to provide for. Accountability is first. It’s easy to blame him but you ignored the red flags and let her daughter see her take care of a grown man. Kids do what they see not what you say.

  • @vlee7217
    @vlee7217 2 года назад +7

    Girl how could you stay that long with a man like that. Omg.

  • @mrc4u2cnnv
    @mrc4u2cnnv 2 года назад +2

    Judge said “he need to be rapping about getting a job” 😂☠️.

  • @sweetmarytime3360
    @sweetmarytime3360 2 года назад +8

    WOW! What a beautiful woman, he let go. What a fool!

  • @champoreloaded6019
    @champoreloaded6019 2 года назад +15

    Never thought I'd see the day.....Trae tha Truth on Divorce Court...

  • @jerricaholloway55
    @jerricaholloway55 2 года назад +3

    The keyword he said was I was trying to be the head of the household. Just because you are a man does not mean that you are equipped to be the head of the household.

  • @Dglv98
    @Dglv98 2 года назад +21

    “ I don’t go to my baby house cause she there” will sir the baby is a child and can’t pay bills, the mom has to be at the house with the baby 🧐🧐

    • @thessenceofconstance
      @thessenceofconstance 2 года назад +5

      I sure said how in the hell you gone even get the baby then.

    • @ruthlynaaron6725
      @ruthlynaaron6725 2 года назад +3

      When he said that I got irritated 😤 like where does he expect her to be 🤦🏾‍♀️ this guy is a fool and she's well rid of him!

    • @traceyleeann7582
      @traceyleeann7582 2 года назад +1

      Yeah that was some stupid s&!t he said.

  • @wins.8073
    @wins.8073 2 года назад +5

    Lesson. Don't try to level up anyone. Believe who they say they are and MOSTLY who they demonstrate themselves to be. If they are not what you want, let go EARLY and find someone who meets your standards.

  • @hiramabiff5236
    @hiramabiff5236 Месяц назад +1

    “I should have the last word… the man is the head of the household”
    FOH… if you’re not providing, how you heading anything? Come on dude. This dude is no good. It took this knukka 7 years to get his self together. This lady could not be a daughter of mine!

  • @jeremyjones8917
    @jeremyjones8917 2 года назад +19

    He don't wanna look sorry on TV but my guy you looking bad FAM

  • @pdonwarrior453
    @pdonwarrior453 2 года назад +3

    Beautiful woman
    I love what she said about a man getting his respect that really resonated with me.
    Wishing her all the best

  • @Peachpocket415
    @Peachpocket415 2 года назад +14

    He is representation of what men are like in 2022

  • @mal4348
    @mal4348 2 года назад +13

    Another example of a DUSTY man. SMH

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад

      And she's a dusty woman for marrying him n having a baby by him than by that logic ma'am o yea she pick also ,it seems like yall women love dusty men 🤷🏿‍♂️🤔

  • @leeleegrace9015
    @leeleegrace9015 2 года назад +3

    How are you an alpha male of a household you can't even provide for? So you want to be an alpha male when it comes to silencing your woman but when it comes to providing for the household, being there for your women and children, being a respectful male example, stepping up to the mantle of manhood, you don't want to do none of that right? Ladies I hope you're paying attention to this seriously

  • @reneejoseph5030
    @reneejoseph5030 7 месяцев назад +1

    Ive never seen an alpha male who dont take care of home

  • @justtracy7175
    @justtracy7175 2 года назад +8

    With much respect, No sister don’t be in a hurry trying to find another man continue to find yourself and be there for your children. if you rush you’ll end up getting the same type of man with a different nameRemember sista according to the Holy Bible Women don’t find men, men find women. I wish you both well🙏🏾

  • @jaeraee3437
    @jaeraee3437 2 года назад +13

    Question for women, why is ok to accept a man who can not provide, then complain? At a certain age we can not accept men who aren't able to provide for themselves then complain when they fall short of the bills. 😡😡😡😡. Love this judge. She said he showed the complete A@# he is. Yes ma'am.

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад

      I agree ,but that judge was wrong she shouldn't be talking to that men that way , and I also didn't see any accountability tors the women , I'm sorry but that judge was one sided the whole time and she cut him off a couple of times when he was talking, and also that man hold his self accountable and apologized when he was wrong , I didn't hear any apology from that woman smh , these court rooms are full of liberals and feminist they always wanna held the men accountable but not the women

    • @leeleegrace9015
      @leeleegrace9015 2 года назад

      I completely agree! The whole time I was just asking myself why were you even with him to begin with? Let alone marry him let alone have children with him and let alone stay this long? Smh

  • @keelovely8001
    @keelovely8001 Год назад +1

    Saying you suppose to be the head of the household but can’t cover the rent alone is insannnneeeee

  • @desimo9127
    @desimo9127 2 года назад +28

    Nothing wrong with wanting paternity test. I recommend and would never take offense.

    • @I2AmUS
      @I2AmUS 2 года назад

      This 🤡 clown is deflecting is inadequacy as a male. He is useless. She needs to also value herself and never should have gotten with the skinbag with a penis.

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад +4

      Yea but most women do take offense even tho the study show that almost 50% of babies that's born she don't know who their baby daddy is

    • @jasminegreene8159
      @jasminegreene8159 2 года назад +6

      I would take offense if my husband wanted a paternity test.

    • @ashley_always7850
      @ashley_always7850 2 года назад +4

      @@shadthagod813 50% seems a little steep. Lol

    • @islandgirlruby2750
      @islandgirlruby2750 2 года назад +3

      @@shadthagod813 CAP, no way 50%

  • @annettadavis569
    @annettadavis569 2 года назад +2

    She was all into it like...This is not another love poem.....lol....crickets. He was like oh it's my go....lmao......BALL DROP!....LOL 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣..I'M DONE...LOL

  • @WesleyLindsey
    @WesleyLindsey 2 года назад +3

    Notice how his quality of a "good" man is all of these bad things he isn't doing like beating her or cheating on her... He doesn't list positive traits that qualify him. He doesn't even know what a good man is. The bar is in HELL.

  • @deairascott9451
    @deairascott9451 2 года назад +10

    This sounds like my life if I would have stayed with my childs father 😂. Our daughter is 14 months old and he still doesn't have a job or steady income. He relys on women taking care if him. He makes you feel bad about his childhood which makes you want to have a baby with him. Not to mention very attractive lol but that's only because a baby is a insurance policy for him. As long as you take care of that baby he feels like you'll take care of him too. No not I said the fly , one month into pregnancy I dipped. I'm not about to live a life like this.

    • @agadonk
      @agadonk 2 года назад

      You dodged a bullet!

    • @Rodwill18
      @Rodwill18 2 года назад

      Yet that judge is Super single… women like you stay super single (Degree) and all… Ask Becky if she desired to get a degree & be strong…..peace

    • @virgochild4216
      @virgochild4216 2 года назад

      Typical dusty behavior

  • @jeanp1323
    @jeanp1323 2 года назад +4

    Judge Toler would have GATHERED his a$$ but Judge Star did a very good job, i like her style

  • @cherieshepherd3491
    @cherieshepherd3491 2 года назад +5

    You can’t be the alpha without being the alpha bruh

  • @derrickstingley6895
    @derrickstingley6895 2 года назад +12

    Why do people get married

    • @Dglv98
      @Dglv98 2 года назад +2

      That’s good question

    • @shadthagod813
      @shadthagod813 2 года назад

      Naw why do women get married because most divorces are filled by women not men all because their selfishness n hoe they feel

  • @vanessakenney3144
    @vanessakenney3144 2 года назад +2

    Sometimes if a man sees a woman is going to carry the weight financially, they're going to take advantage of it because they know they can.

  • @keyeviondavis9647
    @keyeviondavis9647 2 года назад +29

    She does sound very bitter towards the brother, even resentful divorce would best serve everyone involved, no child should have to grow up in such, a toxic/dysfunctional environment
    😠💯

    • @Mike198526sexy
      @Mike198526sexy 2 года назад

      its bcause she been carrying his ass for 7 years, what woman not gonna be bitter.

    • @NaomyP
      @NaomyP 2 года назад +23

      How does she sounds bitter but blatantly ignore his gaslighting and manipulation ? Y’all are just incredible

    • @islandgirlruby2750
      @islandgirlruby2750 2 года назад +13

      @@NaomyP other manipulators usually side with each other

    • @keyeviondavis9647
      @keyeviondavis9647 2 года назад +5

      @@NaomyP She picked him, man didn't lay down by himself, and have no baby, she has to eat some of that blame too, 💯

    • @thetruth-zb7cj
      @thetruth-zb7cj 2 года назад +6

      @@islandgirlruby2750 you are right. Those demons will always bond over bullshT

  • @cassleahg487
    @cassleahg487 Год назад +1

    He’s been turned out by the manosphere…he’s gonna need a passport soon 🤣
    Thankful this lady is holding her head high and teaching her daughters that they deserve better treatment 👏🏾

  • @authorlydiagreen1862
    @authorlydiagreen1862 2 года назад +11

    Woooo... Jesus!! That man is a hot MESS!!! I pray no one ends up with that foolishness!!

  • @colors5778
    @colors5778 2 года назад +1

    The judge got him at the end I thought that alpha going to cry 😂😅🤣.😎

  • @cynthiaward4512
    @cynthiaward4512 2 года назад +3

    She is beautiful and so well spoken..she needs to focus on herself and her children..let him alpha out there in the wilderness..

  • @howdyyall4352
    @howdyyall4352 2 года назад +2

    A real man Profess, Provides and Protects. This dude ain't it.

  • @john-rossevering5370
    @john-rossevering5370 2 года назад +6

    He looks like tray tha truth rapper

  • @DJ-vj4vi
    @DJ-vj4vi Год назад +1

    If the man don’t cheat on you and abuse you what is the problem? Nobody is perfect.

  • @opheliagoode3149
    @opheliagoode3149 2 года назад +6

    His walk at the end 😂😂😂😂 is the walk of an A hole 😂😂😂

  • @Candie4JC
    @Candie4JC Год назад +1

    Umm she’s very talented. I was loving that poem! Fantastic spoken word artist. I could listen and watch her all day! 👏🏾👏🏾

  • @grassh0pper
    @grassh0pper 2 года назад +3

    Right off the bat, she's too powerful for him.

  • @piggnorfleet3521
    @piggnorfleet3521 2 года назад +2

    She said " Trying to make him into the man we know he could be" and that's all you need to know he wanted somebody to take care of him and that's what she did for all this time.... Just wasting time with a nobody. Then she turns around and gets pregnant by him damn it just got worst the more I watched. Terrible

  • @indigochild2453
    @indigochild2453 2 года назад +3

    If you not paying all the bills get out my face talking about “you the man of the house”😂 act like the man of the house. Talking about some he needs to do bills 50/50