Healing Family Wounds Without Bulldozing Yourself
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- When healing family trauma and wounding we often have two parts of ourselves. The part that deeply loves our family and the part that has been wounded by them. Teal Swan teaches us how to talk with both parts of ourselves to find a 3rd option and a middle ground in order to resolve issues with not only with our family but with ourselves.
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Oh wow, so I‘m the girl Teal talked to in this Video and I totally didn‘t expect that she would upload it to RUclips! 😂 But thank you guys for the nice comments, and it’s amazing to see, how many people relate to this situation! We‘ll all gonna heal :)
how did you get the chance to speak to teal?❤️❤️
She did an online synchronisation workshop, I send a question, and she picked my question, so I got to talk to her. That was so unreal 😂
You did great. I hope you continue with your path of healing. ❤️✌️✨
Did she give you any hint of uploading it? I wouldn’t have been happy about that personally, especially if I was trying to work through things that had to do with family members, and so family members could have a chance at finding this. I mean that in and of itself can be a negative or positive thing for different people, but I would prefer that Teal let’s you know before uploading it. It would just be more honest and upfront, which is important for so many reasons really.
That being said, this video has helped me and so many others. If this really is you, you’re awesome!
Edit: yeah I think it really is you btw
Amber Stark No that it is going to be on RUclips I didn‘t knew. I just knew that it is going to be uploaded to Teal Swan premium. But I mean there wouldn’t have been a way for them to reach out to me I think. But if I would have something against it, I could just contact her team. At first I didn‘t know what to think about it but all those comments of people relating to this situation and saying that this helped them so much just made me very happy and I knew that this was just meant to be :)
I saw myself in this 100%, made sense completely and brought me clarity. I am in a similar age with the girl even. Thank you Teal!
Familywounds can have a great influence in our lives. Thank you so much for this great video and advice!
I'm in the same boat. Except my family expects me to meet their emotional needs without giving back .... So it's tough.
Same ..:(
Lighthouses stand alone. It can be so damn painful, however, also can propel us so far. It’s always during my greatest pain that I have my greatest growth. We’ve got this! Shine on!
Something just shifted into place like a session with a chiropractor/osteopath. Thanks to both women for this content ...exposing the intangible virus that infects generation to generation on a loop
She’s so talented at therapy;If only my therapist had only a fraction of this insight , true visionary and so sincere what a rare combination. Love teal she’s my favourite spiritual teacher.
This reality it’s a mirror of our thought patterns. I love that she was smiling in the end of this session.
This triggered me a whole lot more then I thought it would and now have been crying for about 2 hours. Apparently I needed to see this. Thanks for sharing.
Wow, that was intense, I needed that,thank you I'm going through the same thing with my family.
11:50 The emotional connection she wants to experience in all of her relationships will elude her until she resolves this internal conflict of love/hate around her most fundamental relationships to her family and to herself and her parts.
I am starting to understand how this parts work works. This is encouraging! I am grateful for having seen this. Thank you.
Acceptance followed by forgiveness appears to be her/my exit from this cycle
My issue is I'm in a vulnerable state constantly.. I just want to be free, be allowed to have boundaries💔
I want to commit to my inner children
This was so pure and authentic thank you for share 1💜
Teal is so beautiful, intelligent and strong
Thank you for sharing this video. I hope the young lady knows that there is no judgement and this session helps many people like myself. I sort of have a good idea on what to do in my own situation but I am an Aries and so damn stubborn.
You are a huge inspiration to me for the last 6 years. You are a beautiful soul...This is amazingly accurate and you have inspired me with my own readings. Thank you I am a big fan and I hope my channel becomes as popular as yours.
Please comment and share her videos and support...Share the love to teal xxx
Teal thank you for posting this video.
Love you Teal😁💖
What a blessing this video was
I have learned so much from this conversation thanks a stack. What a very special blessing you are.
Also people who were raised by their grandparents feel the need many times unconsciously to forever be thankful that they took the place of her parents and was adopted by them and not abandoned. The issue here is not comparable with whom were raised by their real parents. There is a responsibility added to this. In this case maybe her genuine feelings and needs many time felt small compared with her grandparents labor. Also, the education style exert and influence . There is a bigger age gap between the child and their grandparents, therefore less conexión in all aspects. But yes I get they get a good education. This is not a rule only a suposición. But we all shall remember, all strong needs should eventually get met otherwise they leak out where you not expect them. She maybe needs more fun time, enjoying life, boyfriend time, express herself. I’m sure she is a responsible independent girl. Just she shall be careful with guys who maybe too quiet and presumedly good listeners, cause she is willing to talk and express all emotions, bad boys sometimes are emotional vampires, because they lack that and soon when they know everything about you they start using it against you. So, please avoid more pain to you, find a emotional partner just like you, who displays optimistic and happy behavior before knowing you, make sure his empathetic and not cinical at all. Bad boys, wrong sign! Good luck in all precious girl!
Thank you Teal ... I love you 💕
Teal you are just an amazing person!
I can't believe I came across this video! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
This was enlightening.
Teal we need you! Please carry on, we have your back we love you. I replace it; I have your back, I love you, pple sending me here all the time, thank you I am ocvering and sharing the videos you make for a few year.s
Teal have you done a video on Spiritual Attacks? If not Please do one, I need one really bad. It took many years to even acknowledge that's whats going on in my life. I would dismiss it as just challenges, obstacles oh its just a test. But No at this point it is ruthless and relentless Spiritual Attacks almost like the Devil is just following me around wreaking havoc. Thankfully I get some relief from positive experiences with high vibration positive, genuinely loving and caring people who have the ability to show empathy and sympathy to keep me from becoming overwhelmed with these seem to be never ending attacks. I don't know why it's happening.
AllAboutMeNU I just told my friend the same thing yesterday . Your are not alone . I hear usually that happens when your are about to have a break through. I hope she does a vid on that too.
@@julissabetancourt5244 It's comforting to know I'm not alone. Cause it can feel that way. The people around you have no idea what's going on with you and why so many forces are coming your way. The breakthrough in your life that could be taking place would be a wonderful end to it all
Teal ❤️is so beautiful, sometimes I have to rewatch because I’m just watching her 😍
Not only her physical appearance, her beautiful soul and aura!!
This is amazing
She needed to be touched. A video call only goes so far.
Thank you 🙏🏾🙏🏾💕
I’m a girl who’s living in the Middle East , I struggle everyday with my family and society they’re strict and very religious people I feel I’m a prisoner here I can’t live the life I want they force me to follow their rules and for a girl there’s too much pressure and rules we can’t do anything without parents permission doesn’t matter how old I am , I’m trying to get my freedom by working on my inner self but this is very hard and I failed every time I’m thinking to escape but this also very difficult for me I get depression because of my miserable life and I have suicidal thoughts from time to time .
I’m sorry you have to go through this.. I hope you find a solution.
Hi Teal, I have been following your RUclips channel for years now and I'm a great admirer of your content. Your teaching comes from a very authentic intuitive place that you don't often see. Most teachers out there are just regurgitating what they've read before, but you are gifted with that otherness or awareness that is rarely seen. I have a special request that you post a vlog based on your cosmic Art. I'm an artist myself and have often wondered how I could translate the imagery that I sense when opening up my third eye, (which is indigo). The 'Maya' that I sense is quite vivid, however, when I attempt to articulate it visually on canvas it becomes contrived. I'm fascinated to know just how you manage to depict that wonderful connection between the spirit center and the rational mind. Does it flow from you through to the paper intuitively or do you paint to the beautiful imagery while in a meditative state. When I am painting regular portraits and landscapes I can experience what is sometimes refered to as 'the flow'. Is this something you are familiar with while painting. Look forward to any reply, thank you for taking the time to read this, and hope it finds you well. Kind regards, Suzette
So great Teal!😊
Thing is, if i recognize that i have been a snapping turtle and now isn't the case anymore then the question would still be "why are they snapping turtles?" which will keep me around them and somewhere hoping for the potential even while recognizing the current snapping turtles situation. How do you manage the hoping for the potential while knowing that that hope isn't completely misleading?
Lol lately Teals videos have been so useful for me lately
I wish I could have a consultation with you. I'm am suffering PTSD from my previous marriage from physical abuse and mental and emotional abuse and possibly emotions from childhood. It is affecting my relationship with my current husband and my relationship with all three of my children by my ex husband in a very unhealthy negative way.
Thank you.
But then... what if I understand them and have done that instead for years?
Is it time to just let go?
I wood like u to come to. Trinidad to give some of your wisdom thank you
Thank you so much
🤘❤️🦁 I'm with you 🤗
Thank you 🙏🏽💕🌈✨🌟🙏🏽
Much love
How do I get a session like this with Teal?
I wish we could talk too.... A lot of mess happening inside me
Thank you beautiful:))))))
the auto undertitles are realy helarious this time ;) "Met your Meat"
Hi Teal! Is there a way that I can clear my AURA? I've been sensitive to low vibes since October and getting attachments constantly by just thinking of someone who has one. i have learned how to clear my aura with the violet flame and golden light all day as it flips from me to my cat to electrical things and the space etc. Thank you for all that you do! This video is so helpful as both my folks are narcissists and i have detached from them since my brother passed in 2012.
Oops i meant to say SEAL MY AURA, i have been clearing it but oh so often. Hoping SEALING it will protect me for longer from other's thought forms. xo
Who thumbed down this?!? If it's anyone other than the granparents - not cool..
Does this work if it was my husband?!
❤️🙏
Bingo!!!!!
I know the title about this video
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This is IFS Therapy in a nutshell
How do you deal with strict parents man 😭 especially while still living with them I feel like I get no sense of freedom
So painful to watch this beautiful girl... It brought up my own deep hurt. Metaphorically,I WAS PAID (GRATIFIED EMOTIONALLY & FINANCIALLY) FOR WHAT I DIDN'T DO (my parents' ideal of me)AND UNPAID, UNACKNOWLEDGED (EVEN UNSEEN) FOR WHAT I REALLY DID (how I really was and what I stood for)...
Interestingly, now it plays out in my professional life as adult
Wow must be so hard for her to be in the same house and feel the energy. Hope she can leave.
sweet resolve!
Teal does one on one video calls?
No that was a online synchronisation Workshop
👍💖
What I would give to do this with teal...
please O wish I could see the famliy that DNRed my mom without our consent or knowledge, its those whom want control...>Teal please appear with Raph again. I will never be heard but I speak up and out all the time. I cant walk in moms and dads footrprints, I can only walk in mine
This is 100% me with my parents. Everything this woman said rang true. Very helpful strategy for forward motion. Thank you!
I did this process in therapy for my family and it was the most beneficial thing I've ever done in my life. No longer expecting emotional needs to be met by family has changed everything ❤️
How does your emotional need is being met then?🤔
I want to get out of my parents house. I am destroyed inside and I was about to kill myself but a friend convinced me to not do that so.
Please, send me positive energies. I need right now. I am so miserable living with my toxic family. Please, I want to get away from here.
Evandro Redfield I send you positive energy, it’s hard for me to encourage people because I myself have been feeling super down, but know I believe you will one day get of that situation. I send love and happiness to you ❤️
Don't give up!!!!! I can totally relate!!!!!!
@@daisyluna2261 Thank you. You can see that what Im going through is hard that even this is important to me. Thank you so much.
I wish you overcome what you're going through as well
Sending you all the love, you are worth and beautiful soul who deserve to be happy and find your place with right people on this earth 💛💛💛
Thank you guys. I will overcome this situation. Thank you so much!!!
oh God, I will overcome this
I cried the entire video. Now I have a better understanding of what I need to do! 🤯
Teal, you are patient and a great listener. "Stop trying to be loved by them so hard...and start trying to understand them." "I want you to start working with these two parts...they're both fine."
Hmmm by n huh
"Stop trying so hard to be loved by them, and stop trying so hard to love them. Instead, learn to understand them."
I love how authentic this girl is
100%
I recognized that each of my parents appreciated a different part of me, but it seemed to be very conditional and I never felt seen or heard as my own person. Sooner did they focus on what they perceived were my problems - rushing me to therapists and telling me that I had THIS or THAT problem... I grew up feeling like I was messed-up and wrong, and I'd go to one parent or the other depending on what I needed. My Mom was emotionally distant and emotionally immature, and my Dad was very sensitive, needy, had an angry and aggressive side. They'd shout at each other and us kids. But none of us thought anything was wrong. I just grew up thinking that's how people were. I grew up, in many ways, very inbalanced with my internal energy, and very confused about where I stood. I recall in adult life, having other people outside of me really help me outside of my shell and understand that I was "okay" as I was and the things I'd been hiding about myself were perfectly alright. I felt, when outside of my family, that I'm in fact a very strong individual and very much attuned to who I am but there IS still that wound in regards to the dynamic between us all. My Dad seems to want to control my actions and never seems to care about my artistic talents or any of my accomplishments... My mom has shown she has little faith and treated me as if I was incapable of anything, like I was defective and couldn't do anything myself. I was treated like I was stupid and "problematic" and that hurt, and made me very defensive and internally conflicted and I've come a LONG way in a short amount of time on this journey, but I attest to the fact that I have at many times wanted to disconnect with everyone from my family and from my past and really just re-configure the way I see myself in different dynamics, really just remove myself entirely from that narrative so it's easier to continue what I have been doing - rewriting my relation to the external and changing the story within. This totally resonates and it's such an important discussion.
Healing is so important when it comes to transformation
How to heal ??
@@Sd-zy6vo
Lots of drugs
Just kidding
@@Sd-zy6vo I've been there, stop asking that and start understanding each part of you and the different patterns in your life that indicate a need that is being met indirectly. Sit with yourself and breath deeply through your lower back and sit with what comes up- you can try the completion process
The thing is, what i believe, is that often times we can't completely understand something until we're 30 yards ahead of it.
@@Sd-zy6vo start by learning about shadow work. That will give you a good place to start. I have videos on the subject and Teal has some great ones
Glad this video posted! At a time of my life when I'm desperately trying to understand my relationship with family and how I constantly feel squashed and emotionally in pieces....
I don't have that EXACT wounding with my family, but watching this little session has generated so much CLARITY within me that I feel super empowered right now to interact with people in my life. Thanks a lot, Teal and the wonderful attendee who raised that question!
Oh gosh I can so much relate to that girl. I know exactly what that inner tugowar is like. But when the family is emotionally gaslighting and using us as dumpsters then all the financial support in the world can not weigh that emotional abuse off. No abuse is justified for any money or any services. We need to be the strong ones who show the abusers boundaries and we do that by walking away.
@Lady, Lady I totally relate! Thanks for this comment. Going through this emotional abuse from an elder sister whom I live with and she's financially in control. Such a tough spot! but I'm working on getting savings and move out soon. Love to all!
Perfect timing! Right after Mother's Day! I will move through my habitual patterns of resistance and seek to understand my mother more; fortunately I dont have as much need to be loved by her anymore. Hopefully this will dissolve my pattern of conflict with women in my life. Thank you, Teal!
I feel like this video was a therapy session for me. I answered teals questions to her myself and I cried a lot this video. I'm not finished yet but I want to see what else happens
OMG SAMEEEEEEEEEE
I’m so happy Teal Swan did a video on this!
Proof the Universe is talking to me...this video shows up in my suggestions just as I’m having a similar issue. Ty Teal.
Me too!
Just got done having a four hour discussion with my mom about relationships and ours , and this pops up. Love Teal
Proves device listens to you but still works out positively this time. Haha. 💖💖💖💖
Wow, that is quite my situation atm. Stuck with my parents bc I don’t have income during quarantine & beeing super confused about my 3 me‘s in my head:
1. they neglected you. Let‘s do the same ! I am independent af(living at their house currently..)
2. Mom says it is mean of me to have received her mean & kind of scary when I was a child (told her about my true feelings why I thought smt was wrong with me all my life & that it was linked to her) Maybe she is right, I could be the mean one.. was my perception even right?!
3. They did so much for me & I get about fullfilling all their needs and expectations of me bc I need their validation & love so badly.
And then I practice loving myself every day (365 days of asking me what would someone do who loves themselfes) -> got me to cook dinner for my family bc I found out I loved to cook! -> dinner on the table & me in my head: do they deserve to eat my meal cooked with LOVE??
I personally thank you for uploading this session. Felt like I was talking to you Teal. Gave me a lot of clarity. Really appreciate that 🦋
PS: I drank 3 cups of water after projecting love into it (+the energy of boji stones) & it is super powerful🌹
Leonie S define love.
Love is defined differently to each human.
When you can define what love means to you in a relationship, you will then be able to define the relationships and create appropriate boundaries based on how you define love.
If love meant abuse, confusion, anger, gaslighting etc...then you will think that is love in your subconscious mind and play that role until you redefine it and program it in your mind.
The confusion stems from confusing what love means to you, and what love means to someone else.
A lot of the older generation view love as conditional.
Conditional love means there are strings attached to the love. I did this for you, I provided for you, I raised you, so you must love me.
When in reality, those are expected to be provided to a child out of survival.
Unconditional love means, I cared for you, I provided for you, I payed for you I kept you safe and no matter what happens in your life I will love you and accept you for who you are. I will get to know you on a deeper level and you will always feel loved. I will never try to make you feel like your a burden. For I chose to have you and I am accountable for the way I raised you. You can open up to me and tell me how I hurt you when you were a child, because you were a child and you didn’t know any better. I chose to bring you into this world, so I am choosing to be accountable for that choice. I love you and there is nothing you could do or say to change that and I hope you feel like your good enough just being you.
That is called unconditional love acceptance and compassion for your child. This is my personal definition bc I have been able to define love myself and I started writing about it in my journal.
It will be different for you, so you need to define what is conditional love ‘if I do this say this or act this way I will be loved’ and what is unconditional love. ❤️🧡
I am going to be a psycho therapist and this exercise I made up and it changed my life.
You will now have boundaries and be able to define what you will tolerate and not tolerate in all your relationships and no one can ever ‘manipulate’ you with ‘their definition of ‘love’ again.❤️
Humans are not perfect and their love is flawed bc we are flawed so it’s ok to mess up but be open to being accountable for the hurt we cause others bc it’s inevitable. Gods love is the only perfect love and the only love we should be seeking is our higher power, not our parents bc they are flawed and will never be able to fill the holes in our hearts from the past.
Give your frustration to God give your worries and confusion to a higher power of your own understanding because we are not perfect and some things only God can truly forgive in this world.
At least her family can attend to her financial needs, some families cant do that either
I'm sure she'd prefer having emotional support rather than financial...
Let's be our own cute, little family
Vulnerability, openness & authenticity shows incredible strength & empowerment for healing.. Teal thank you to you both for being willing to share such a valuable learning tool to help others...🙏🌏💖👑
i cant believe i live in a time like this. im so thankful for you teal. wow
This reminded me so much about the book „the five love languages“ it sounded like the grandparents love languages were gifts and acts of service and she needed words of affirmation and quality time. They were expressing their love differently. I love how Teal made her realise that
Richtig! :D
What a sweetheart.
Wow. Maybe I get so angry at my parents and family because I keep wanting emotional intimacy with them too.. I gotta think this one over...
Wow! This is or me entirely I had the same struggle as she does with her family . I have the same behaviors and thoughts ! This was so so awakening to me and help me see more about myself too ! Emotional intimacy is what I wanted and cared from my parents and didn’t feel that I got it . I struggle with emotional intimacy now in my relationships
Thank you very much for sharing.. this is very helpful
I think there was a bit of a language barrier, but I really needed to see this now. It was very timely. I am in a similar relationship with my mother. I don't get financial support from her, but I feel a great sense of duty toward her. Every time we are together she discounts my feelings and accomplishments. Everything is about her. She lies constantly about past events, remembers things however she wants to. But she satisfies my need to love her and to do the right thing. It is difficult to put up with the constant conflict and veiled insults. I need to just accept her for what she is and the value she does add to my life, and stop expecting validation and support from her. Not going to happen.
You are right. Manage your expectations x
Sending love to this little girl 🥺❤🧡💜💙💚💛
This helped me so much! I have a very aggressive side and a very passive side. Through this exercise, I realized the aggressive side is actually trying to hurt me and make me suffer. That's why the passive side is struggling with distrust and fear. I don't trust myself because of this split. It's time for the passive side to integrate with the aggressive side and let her know she's safe and she's seen.
i have the same thing! I think that my aggressive side is still trying to help me, just using a different method. like teal said before, nothing that u do is coming from a place of trying to make yourself feel worse. what's helped me is trying to find my motivation for doing things that i may have seen as resulting in destruction. because the aggressive part of us is still us, it is still trying to meet its needs.
it has the same needs we do
Incredible
This changed my whole perspective
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
We cannot run from ourselves, like putting the head in the sand.
*You have to feel it - to heal it.*
I swear to god I see you everywhere :D Guess we like the same content
This woman has literally saved my life .. her and eckhart .. but the no bs directness that some may feel resistance towards was exactly what opened my eyes and actually kept me alive still, so I thank you 🙏🏽 so much Teal and wish and hope all the best for you and your career. Also I hope I can join your sessions at Costa Rica one day.
Peace and love
All the way from
Dk scanidinavia
It's a little triggering that you didn't ask permission to her to upload the video to RUclips even if she after allowed. I would liked to watch these video if it was consensual and respectful. I wouldn't liked that this happened to me and I think that's not the way
I think people who attend these workshops are aware of the fact that the sessions are recorded and can be uploaded in the channel.
I resonate a lot to this talk. The problem for me is that I get impatient talking to my parents easily. Sometimes it’s because the questions they ask, and sometimes it’s because my dad likes to talk loud as if everyone around him is deaf, though his intention is good. This impatience coming up easily when I’m with them....
Dang, Blake is real talented with his music making!
Once again, loved one, this is perfect timing.
There are phrases in the dialogue that are *verbatim* to things I said yesterday in a session to unwind where im currently stuck.
This is the exact scenario im in the process of diving into, the family split, the acceptance of differing perspectives, the challenge of not identifying with my own family & the struggle to own it & take responsibility for my emotional wellbeing.
Loves !!
Great analogy on the snapping turtle at the pond. I realized a year ago that I didn't want to be bitten so I kept my distance. It is so much healthier, although other relatives have frowned upon distancing myself from my sister. They just don't know who she was when with me. Thank you and peace to all!