True. Things are changing. And even if they take care of you, are they happy doing that? Are they happy when you die? If I have no kids, my death doesn't cause them sadness.
@@evelyna_paula1747 our kids will be so busy with their own life that they wont have the time to take care of you its not the kids fault but when my sibling got kids we dont know or talk to each others anymore. Too busy and constantly pikced up fights with me and was so incredibly mean to me that I dont really wanna visit anymore
To those people who say "who's going to take care of you when you're old?", there's no guarantee that your children will take care of you when you're old. Most people nowadays put their elderly parents in an old folks' home.
I had my mother asked me the same thing, and when I visit nursing homes, their children never bother to visit them at the nursing home, unless it is the holidays.
sla cker no, i dont. Your genes die, you pay for others kids, if nations dont reproduce you get migration and issues that come with that. If all humanity acts this way, we are dying or will turn into a designed species that reproduces in laboratories... Like in the world of superman from man of steel. Doesnt have to be bad but still. And we are still far away from that
I agree completly. If you need a license to drive a car, to run a lemonade stand, or to fish in a lake, you should need one to raise and shape a entire human life.
Having children is seriously my worst nightmare.Yeah, I'm one of those people lol. I just don't see the fun in bringing up another human being. I honestly feel parenthood is for a select few. Many lie to themselves that they're happy as parents. Children aren't required for you to have a good life either. Just get a cat or dog if you really want to be responsible for another life. Or at least adopt a child. I feel we as human beings have successfully reproduced ENOUGH.
Rafael Serrano Just because someone made the conscious decision to not have kids, it doesn't mean they are irresponsible. What about paying the bills and going to work? Those aren't responsibilities? Are you kidding me? I as a CFBC (Child Free by Choice) individual have chosen not to have kids because it doesn't fit my lifestyle. CFBC people aren't obligated to have kids they don't want, nor do they owe anyone an explanation for their decision. If someone wants to be child-free (man or woman) it's their decision. It's nobody else's fucking business. I won't be miserable, I won't be lonely and I am not selfish for making this decision. I'm not obligated to have kids if I don't want to.
"You're selfish." "You're a terrible person." "You only want to live for yourself." "What are you going to do during the holidays!?" "You're going to be lonely and miserable." Ana, please stop impersonating my parents.
Not surprising at all. A year of next to no sleep, the baby screeching, hormones going crazy, stress, anxiety over anything the baby does.... Nope, motherhood isn't for me. I'll stick to having a cat, or two.
Maybe I just have an easy baby... I mean the average one year old sleeps 14 hours a day. I get plenty of sleep and me time. My hormones have always sucked and I’ve always had anxiety so nothing different there. The biggest difference is I get to laugh so much more than I ever have. It’s also so much fun showing him the world which has helped me appreciate the world even more. Do I think everyone NEEDS to have kids not at all.
***** highly depends on the amount. for a few millions, i would do it. then i could pay people to deal with a lot of stuff and i would not have to work. So i had enough time for children.
If mother's weren't burnt at the stake for telling the truth about motherhood, other people especially women could decide if it is what they want. Instead we are told that it is the most full filling thing they will do.. We are looked at like we have two heads if we even suggest that isn't what we want. Not to mention how ridiculously hard tubal ligation is to get. Allow mothers to tell the truth about motherhood. I'll go ahead and say it.. I do not find it fulfilling and would rethink the decision if given the opportunity. NOW. That being said, I love them unconditionally. I try my absolute best to do right by them.
100% agree. If I could go back in time and change it I would. I wish I didn't have children in 2022. I love them so much and that's why I don't want them. They make me stressed and worried and I can't just be.
Every one of my female friends who have children have told me that if they had to do it all over again, they would choose not to have kids. They love their children but have found that their lives to be more stressful and less fulfilling. My own father advised me when I was young to never have children. I saw parenting to be a source of unhappiness and stress while growing up. I'm very happy to have made a thoughtful choice to be childless. I get my maternal fix by showering my pets with love. It is a decision one should not make without much consideration.
Keith White ok this sounds super depressing and suffocating. I think the decision to have or not to have children should be decided mutually before two people tie the knot.
@@banupiriyaYou're right, this discussion should take place, but unfortunately women change their minds. Nowadays a woman in her 20s is all about education, career, adventure, travel and freedom. And that's great, these things make her an interesting person. But so many women hit their 30s and all that goes out the window. Biology, female nature, hormones, and the ancient undefeated imperatives catch up to them and rule the rest of their lives.
Keith White I’m not sure what the wife/husband has to do with your scenario. If the man isn’t sure about having kids, he shouldn’t have them just to make his wife happy. That was a poor decision he made and he needs to live with the consequences because children isn’t something that can be compromised. That situation is just as much his fault as it is hers.
Keith White Also, biology and female nature doesn’t “catch up to them.” The biological clock is proven to be a myth. The women who do change their minds give in to societal pressure.
I am in my 50s and SO glad I never had kids! I have watched people I know over the past many years who've had kids and they ALL say if they had to do it over again, they would NOT have had kids! They DO take away your dreams (unless you have someone at home who takes care of them full time so you can pursue your dreams), because your life takes a back seat.
M H So you’re having a child for the sole purpose of having them risk their lives in battle? Making that decision for them and assigning them a role when they don’t even exist yet? What if they don’t want to do that?
You are giving the gift of life to a new person - for their benefit (I'm guessing you value your life and think it's better to be alive than dead) you are also creating someone who will be giving back to society, paying taxes to support the elderly, you are creating someone's future husband or wife. You carry out all the tasks to raise that person so they are well rounded and if they appreciate your efforts, great. Many children won't ever appreciate the sacrifices required until they have children themselves.
Jennifer Hughes The gift of life? Life is filled with poverty, rape, depression and other mental illnesses, and the need to work until you die (especially in this economy). Let’s not forget about climate change. The kids born now are going to suffer so much because of how quickly the world is deteriorating due to climate change. This is coming from a woman who loves her life by the way. I am so happy to be alive, but let’s not be naive. The things you stated - those are not unselfish reasons to have biological kids.
Jennifer Hughes The planet is going to be unlivable in a few decades. Countries will be going underwater and there will be so many natural disasters. I did my thesis on what’s to come around 2050. Having children in this day and age is the most selfish thing a person can do.
I've known from a very early age that I don't want children. My parents are very decent, good people. They were never suited to parent children however. I will not be making the same mistake. Not everyone is suited to parenthood.
I have always known this, that’s why I’m childfree. I’m 44 now and never regretted my decision. Why would you screw up your life on purpose by having kids?
@@patricksaxon3983 47 now and still glad to be childfree and that I never listened to people like you who wanted to convince me otherwise. It’s MY life and you don’t have any say in it.
@@Skatamska You will have many regrets and you had never experienced the wonderful joys of parenthood, how sad for you. You will be all alone in the nursing home crying with much regrets.
@@patricksaxon3983 you don't talk like someone who has had wonderful joys of parenting. If anything you sound very bitter & lack empathy. How do you know if she will be alone in a nursing home? Kids are not insurance policy & surely they are susceptible to die before you. Life has no guarantees. Fantasies you have now about your future will one day unfold as a reality, I hope youll be ready.
@@nhl4264 Children has a responcibility to take care of their parents, did your parents take care of you when you were a child or did they abadoned you?
So true, nobody will ever outright admit to being miserable with children. Who would admit their child was the worst mistake they ever made? I have only ONE friend honest enough to tell it like it is and it's horrifying.
Everybody gets miserable with or without them. What's the difference? I have two children of my own, they annoy me some times but I exercise patience and never smacked them and practise what I say. I can hosetly say I have never regretted my children, that would be like wishing hem away, if I really didn't want children they would most certainly not be in my life. Not everyone regrets it. I would've failed as a human being if I didn't produce children
Andrew Dexter You know damn well that a big majority of people have kids, but, they were “unplanned.” I’m pretty sure that they wish they never had kids as time progressed. Also, good for you. May GOD be with you as you raise your children.
@@serenity3034 Thank you, May God bless you always. You are right about parents being a majority, that is why it is considered the norm, and statistically child free are certainly the minority, that is why they feel social pressure, planned or unplanned, responsible people accept it and take on the responsibility and not run away from it like some do. Some know the hard work it all entails and are fully prepared for it. For some, children enrich their lives and give them purpose to live.
Kids are a luxury. Who can realistically afford them anymore? I hate being beholden to people in general so being beholden to another child for at least 20 years, more like 30+ these days sounds like a nightmare to me. I'll keep my money and build an awesome life without having to spend 250k+ per.
There are just as many people with depression that don't have kids, that has actually nothing to with children, it's the way modern society is that makes us depressed, ironically
Message to all the breeders/future breeders who judge us non-breeders: Just because someone made the conscious decision to not have kids, it doesn't mean they are irresponsible. What about paying the bills and going to work? Those aren't responsibilities? Are you kidding me? I as a CFBC (Child Free by Choice) individual have chosen not to have kids because it doesn't fit my lifestyle. CFBC people aren't obligated to have kids they don't want, nor do they owe anyone an explanation for their decision. If someone wants to be child-free (man or woman) it's their decision. It's nobody else's fucking business.
You needed a study to prove this? LOL! In all seriousness, babies ruin everything. I'd rather have a cat than kids. I'd rather ruin my couch than ruin my life.
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Msminnie Don't have to. I'm a transsexual, so the hormone treatment killed my fertility. If I was concerned, I would have saved my jizz before starting.
lol, something i've known my entire life. something i've known since i was 5 years old and looking over at babies screaming in the grocery store and being intensely annoyed by them. something i've known when i was in elementary school and i watched kids who couldn't control themselves running around and bouncing off the walls. i've never wanted kids for this exact reason.
Amen!! Even when I myself was a kid, I didn't like kids! XD Especially babies and toddlers, OMG, people would leave me with their baby and it would be the worst hour of my life! XD I'd see all my girl friends make a big fuss around babies and say how cute they are and the only thing running through my mind was "It's a creature that screams and poops itself, how is that cute?!" And I hate how degrading society is to people who choose not to have kids! O_O I mean it is my freaking body and life, and so I think I earn a say in what I want to do with it. I mean why would you want someone who doesn't want kids to have them?! It would just ruin the person's life and probably the kid's as well! O_O
Same here. we would watch movies on movie day and everyone would laugh at the stupidest jokes. I would always wondered if I ever was an actual kid. I hated kids when I was a kid. hated kids movies when I was a kid. I lived for comedy though. especially the adult comedy. sincerely, an only child
So true. You know when I was a kid I thought other kids were going to be sweet and nice and well behaved because that’s how I was, turned out I was wrong. A lot of kids were assholes and I was surprised to see that behaviour. Not all kids are going to be “pure” even today as an adult I’m shocked to see how me as an adult I still seem more pure than some children, makes me not want to have kids. Maybe I was just born lucky or something, but seriously, a lot of kids are not these angels people talk about. Not at all.
I'm 66 years old, I had a vasectomy at 18 years old because I wanted my life for ME! My holidays? I travel, I'm quite happy doing my own thing abroad or hell even by myself as I am a misanthrope at heart.. And what if you get old? I'm in my 60's but look 35! And I'm not a health nut as I am an avid cigar smoker and beer enthusiast but the stress I saved by not committing to kids or a steady partner or wife in life saved me a lot of bullshit!
That is so sad for you, as you will never experience the wonderful life of parenting. I am surprized that the doctor did not try to talk you out of it.
@@beaulieuonnp593 But if you are engaging in sex, and using any forms of birth control, you are then sinning against God and those who choose not to obey God's command to be fuitful and multiply will end up in hell. Sex is strictly fror procreation only and it is your obligation as a married person to procreate and breed for the lord.
As a dad, I can say this is 100% true. The worst thing you can do for your personal happiness. You stop living for yourself and you start living for your child. Your romantic relationship with your partner takes a nose dive. You have no time for hobbies, entertainment, never sleep well again, and suddenly have huge costs in your budget you never had before. It all adds up! I love my kid but honestly your life changes. Single people are happier in general... Then again, my genes are moving on, and it's incredibly rewarding and satisfying on many levels. But it's not about your happiness, it's about your child's.
Except that you now just transferred your problems (fear of aging, fear of dying, fear of ANYTHING) onto your child, who did not give you their permission to be forced into existence against their will.
@@theultimatereductionist7592 My guess is that most people like life enough to stick around. Only a small number decide it's better to be dead. On those odds, I'd say its a fair assumption that most children are grateful they are here, not all but the vast majority. How the hell would you get consent from someone who doesn't exist yet?
I feel like so many people have kids just because they're afraid that when they get older there will be no one around to take care of them! -_- So it's funny how people with kids berate people who don't have any kids and call them selfish. When a huge number of people only have kids because they want a free caretaker when they get older. I mean how is that not selfish expecting your kid to give up their free time to become your own personal nurse?!! O_O
SilverBunnyStudios I think that is selfish. But in all honesty, it seems like most people just push their parents off to a nursing home when they're too old and not able for taking care of themselves becauase they have their own lives and probably their own kids too. Because taking care of a baby vs caring for an elderly man or woman is a lot different. And people have kids only to have someone to look after them in later life is selfish imo.
I personally HATE the thought of having kids. People keep telling me that I'm a woman and I MUST have kids. I'm sorry, say what? Oooh, you mean you want my partner to feel like a pencil through a hallway the next time we sleep together because yours already does? Just because you wanted to have kids doesn't mean the rest of the world has to. I want a free independent life, just like most other people do in the world. Besides....there are too many humans on this planet already.
s watson only in the first few years. not your fault though evolution took away human precociousness to make that big head fit through your mommy. i bet we would have been far mroe advanced now if humans laid eggs rather than have live birth. mother doesnt need to be home to tend to the baby because it is in its own little shell that just needs to be locked away till it hatches and the resulting baby would have been as intelligent as a 5 year old so no time wasted in trining motor skills just give basics which will be picke dup eaisly.
Vlavitir glutginskiya Abortion isn’t for everyone, but neither is children. You expect women to give birth to kids they never wanted and this in turn will end up with kids being abused and resented for their very existence. And where will you be? Will you be helping raise them? Helping to end poverty? Volunteering with kids in third world countries? No, you’ll be on the Internet spouting bullshit. Such lack of logic. Abortion does not affect you or your life in any way and it certainly doesn’t affect a clump of cells with no consciousness.
@@SJ-vv8vt If it's fine to kill an unborn child why is not ok to kill a toddler? If life gets inconvenient or the parents have a change of heart, why can they not arrange for them to be killed? If you support that logic I really worry about your mental health. It is never right to take someone else's life.
:) I dunno. I mean, I put the babies in the blender and added soy sauce like your recipe called for, but the blender blades broke and it was a real difficult mess. I didn't like the process of making babies one bit.
I am so glad I am a gay guy, I will NEVER have to worry about having children, especially accidents. If my partner ever tells me they want a child, I'm going to just flat out tell them no, I'm not, nor ever will be, interested. If they want to raise and take care of something, I'll get them a puppy. I'd rather ruin my carpet than ruin my life.
@@luzherrera4463 Exactly. I hold nothing against people who want kids, they have every right too. But I personally don't want any. Thats why if u found out my partner wanted kids we'd need have to talk about how important that factor is for them. Because I don't want to have to try and talk him out of it if becoming a dad is something he really wants. I'd rather us break up so he can find a partner that can give him what he wants over me making him miserable by refusing to adopt with him.
@@afairyist9981 You're an insane person. Taking on the responsibility of nurturing, educating and taking care of another human being for at least 18 years is the opposite of selfish. You have dumb opinions.
carmay3600 we're not adopting right away maybe a year or 2 later. (we're still young and want to do some travelling) But it is something that we both really want. :D
Sandra Balvert Good. You will need the time for yourselves. My husband and I got married within a year of meeting and waited 8 years (longer than normal) before we started having kids. Everyone pressured us to have kids right away but we resisted. lol had to get things situated first.
/ðəmaɪndɪzfɹi:/ Yep ana is known to love reporting news where she gets to masturbate while justifying her views. And when she has to do stories that goes against her views she gets all grumpy. For instance when they reported a story of a chinese guy who couldn't take any more of his girlfriends shopping addiction, and so jumped off of a building, she went off in a tangent and started bitching about how she wouldn't like her boyfriend to accompany her during shopping and how she hates his nagging etc., The narcissism and self-centered nature of this woman is just mind boggling to me. But who cares, she is a "progressive" right?
Garrick Groover: And some Parents think they can handle it and raise spoiled brats with an unearned sense of entitlement who grow up to be Sociopaths and just add to the problem. Or the flip-side you have Parents who physically, sexually and/or mentally abuse their children who grow up to be predators preying on Society. Just because you choose to procreate doesn't make you superior in any way or better than people who are childless. In fact most people become Parents either for selfish reasons (because let's face it, the world population is growing at leaps and bounds) or because they didn't use birth-control during the heat of passion. Even the simplest of lifeforms can procreate so don't break your arm patting yourself on the back for something that is ingrained in all living creatures' DNA.
There needs to be people who don't want kids. The world is over populated. I have kids and love them unconditionally and they bring pure happiness, more so than anything else ever has but yea the lack of sleep did suck when they were young. I do respect other people not wanting kids though.
@Roberto Murillo We can't develop every piece of pristine forest or grassland! Have you heard of an ecosystem? Humans are not the only species on this Earth. Humans are the biggest invasive species
It's incredibly difficult to find a woman who isn't baby crazy. You could travel the world, focus on a career, live comfortably without that stress and responsibility.. I've seen children being born that have destroyed relationships. people act like that's all there is in life.. some people can't even have kids
My mother always thought I would be child free. When I was married my husband and I decided to have children. I ADORE my sons. I guarantee you when I had my oldest I was terrified, there wasn't the in the movies feeling of instant love when I first saw him. We had to learn eachother, and I went into motherhood as a newbie, and my baby boy and I loved eachother. We went on road trips together (hubby didn't take off work to go), we shopped, moved to a new town, played cars and legos, and when we had our second baby he was such a lil pumpkin. Hollered a lot more and tempramental compared to my first but now he is 12 and has and is amazingly creative and a fantastic addition in my life. My oldest is a musician and taller than me, and will still hug me and tell me he loves me, and now is driving my car. Although my marriage sucked, my boys are wonderful. And I do not expect them to take care of my sorry ass in my old age. They need to grow and do and travel and raise families if they so choose, and I will be just fine. And for those who choose not to have kids, I am very proud of you for not conforming to societies expectations, because for one who swore until age 26 that she would never be a mom, it's not easy. I wouldn't change a thing, but you do right for yourself, not for what anyone else thinks.
On one hand having a family looks like it might be Too stressful Too expensive and Too hard in a world where you travel and work multiple jobs in order to survive. And marriage looks utterly Dangerous and DISASTROUS for men. *Alimony, Child support, FALSE rape claims, FALSE spousal abuse claims, child custody battle, etc.* On the other hand the future for societies that are having less children looks incredibly Bleak Expensive and Depressing. :-/
Baby is a living organism that has evolve to be self centered, ever demanding, inconsiderable, and ultimately selfish. A baby cannot consider if the parent is too tired to hug it, it cannot tolerant a late meal and immediately start wailing, it can only place it's own comfort in the first place and powerless to provide the same to others.
Do you think a baby would automatically know that? Babies are dependable on someone to take care of them, since babies aren't exactly able to take care of themselves right of the bat. Overall, babies are vulnerable and would have to be cared for like some animal species.
Helz no, no kids for me. Married 14 years and we have lots of fun just the two of us and our friends / family. Too much damn $ and work to have kids. I want to live life, not be a slave to it.
@Ghost Troupe no such thing being a slave to fun, because by definition it’s having “fun” and it’s a choice. I can have as much or little fun as I want. Children are not a choice once you have them, you’re stuck with a huge expensive time-sucking responsibility. But just my opinion, don’t mean any offense to anyone who feels differently.
Lucky you, at least your spouse didn't pressure you to have them. It's nice to have someone on board with you and just live a happy carefree life together.
So you are telling me a machine that makes lound noises every few hours, kills dreams, eats money and shits stress will make you less happy? Noooh! that can't be!
How the hell can I even raise a kid in this economy? I can't fucking find a job, the only ones available in my area are minimum wage, and they fire you if you even breathe the wrong way.
It's not wrong to have children and not to have children,I'm 38yr old Blackman and I have none and don't want any. Family with children isn't for everyone
This is just my two cents, a child is a very complicated thing. A decision to have a baby is one that should not be made lightly; a baby requires two devoted parents with stable incomes.
If you are narcisisstic, materialistic, and self-entitled then don't have children. I myself love children and had 3 of them. You don't have to be happy all of the time. The self-entitled generation cannot cope with any kind of difficulty.
I had my fist child at age 34, after partying, travelling and studying for all these years. initially I was with the 'I dont need/want a child in my life' crowd but after seeing her born and enjoying the simple things in life like a walk in the park with her or building a sand castle at the beach, I literally can't imagine my life without her. my point is that, a study on Germans is hardly a reflection on the rest of the world. the same goes with all studies that measure happiness. variations are quite noticeable across countries and all studies that rely on the 'self-reporting' should be taken with a grain a salt.
likeminas Germany is more advanced/liberal than the US . I know , I grew up there. They are just being honest and truthful. Building sand castles and walk in the park is not for everyone. You enjoy Mutterschaft ? fine , let others enjoy a peaceful life or a lifelong party.
Lechiffresix six unless we can get into their heads and know their thoughts we really can't tell how honest and truthful they are. That's the main weakness of a self-reporting survey. Most researchers know this, that's why they ended this study with the huge caveat: "This research should be considered alongside other qualitative work" Maybe there are other factors or circumstances influencing the sample of Germans answering this survey. I don't know. What I do know is that I wouldn't take this survey too seriously. It's certainly not reflection of other parents across the world and much less 'proof parenthood destroys.....' anything. As for your last statement, to each his own. I've never said other people should have children, so no disagreement there.
+likeminas You may be right about variations across cultures. Nevertheless, prove to me that there exists ANY culture where children granted permission to their breeder/parents BEFORE they were forced into this world against their will.
likeminas A child can make you happier. But you can also enjoy the simple things in life without a kid too. I know I can. With kids, I just don't know how to communicate with them because I feel like how I say things to them is "dumbing it down" and I don't want the kid to be offended by that. So, I think I prefer people my own age to associate with
likeminas That's because having a child changes your brain chemistry to make you love them and want to keep them. A small segment of women don't produce these hormones like they are supposed to after giving birth and they often end up depressed and hating their children (sometimes even murdering them).
Take that everyone who thinks I'm evil for not liking kids. They scream, need constant attention, they're dumb as hell, always dirty, always evil, plus we're at the point where there are too many humans to begin with so you can't even feel like you're helping the species cuz you're actually contributing to our downfall at this point. Children suck in the worst way possible and I'm not sorry for being the person that says it.
you need a vasectomy stat. many guys report having a gf who suddenly fell pregnant despite having discussed their desire to be childfree. don't get trapped! don't tell her you got it either
I'm immensely unhappy with the mere thought of having children and I don't care if it's selfish or not. If a woman can't be with me without having a child, then we're not good for each other.
Same here. I dated a girl last year. she hated the though of kids or marriage. they're out there. she was sexy as fuck too. oh well, she probably engaged now lol
My wife and I agreed on not having children ever. We love going on 3am fast food runs, and getting drunk while playing Borderlands. Rather focus on my wife and career instead of a child.
The lifetime earnings adjusted for inflation of the average person has decreased significantly since the 1950s. Having kids is a financial death sentence today!
To be able to afford a nice house in a nice location, and to put two kids through good schools/university is outrageously expensive, like you need both parents to be very high earners
Apart from losing your freedom and identity, there are many other factors that can affect how you feel about your life after kids, like social support from your social circles and government and money... I lost my home when I was pregnant through no fault of my own, and the following homelessness didn't particularly help when having a child. The depression didn't lift after having a home again but my doctor would not diagnose post natal depression because the cause was of course what happened before. My relationship with the father had gone to the rocks from early pregnancy so he wasn't around much and my family was in a different country as well as my friends: as the time was pre-Internet with only communication done by snail mail, I was practically without any support. I did have a health visitor for the first months but she made my life even more miserable: rather than agreeing to administer B12 injection (no drops available), she put my child on a watch list for negligence... I had been a vegetarian for a few years and I read everything I could about vegan nutrition for babies and children (I had a dairy allergy when I was a kid, as did my cousin's children.) and I could say that I knew about vitamins, minerals and proteins as much as she did, as a former sports woman and a health fanatic: I wasn't one of those hair brained women who suddenly get some wacko religious like ideas in their head. Anyway, with all this going on (one of my children has also slight learning difficulties that made his behaviour challenging) it took me YEARS of fighting depression and as much as I love my children, I did think about how negatively they had affected on my general happiness, especially as the traditional school hours prevented being able to do any kind full-time work. Now my son has very young kids and although his partner gets lots of support from family and friends, whenever I'm babysitting she makes excuses for staying out longer than necessary: it doesn't matter what your circumstances are, looking after small kids all day is F***ing stressful.
Let's be realistic, how many kids are really planed. Not many, having a child today is way to serious of a commitment,And that's an understatement. And for those who think it's a simply job are highly ignorant, that's not an understatement. I strongly believe people should be licensed today in order to have s child. Because not everybody should be producing. Too many people that are underpaid, undereducated and struggling raising kids. You have to at least be in a good financial place before you consider that. Kids are too expensive and it's a 24/7 gig, life changing. And I don't think people really consider that. I mean for the rest of your life that child is your responsibility, and for those who say "nah only for the next 18 years" shouldn't be having kids then. If you're not willing to devote your life to another human being then don't have a fucking child. Adoption agencies are already overwhelmed, we don't need RELIGIOUS hypocrites having kids and then giving them up.
What's hilarious is that people say that childfree people are selfish for not wanting children, yet my question is if I am so "selfish" why would you want a selfish person having children???? I don't want the added responsibility, the mental, physical, emotional, and financial strain and stress from a child. Parents that insult CF people just want others to join in on their misery. Being a parent IS your only identity, no thank you
"You dont have to loose you identity" 😒 as said by a man not the woman. Seriously. Yes you do loose your identity. And I can say after all my kids....I look back, and realize if I had to do it all over, I wouldnt have kids..... Took me being in my thirties to realize. .....
RIP to them who think their kids would take care of them when they are old 😂😂😂😂
they with if you raise them with good values which sadly most parent these days aren't willing to do
@@thatissoquebecishh2134no they won’t. not necessarily
how they would have time to take care of their parents when they likely have their own kids to take care of
True. Things are changing. And even if they take care of you, are they happy doing that? Are they happy when you die? If I have no kids, my death doesn't cause them sadness.
@@evelyna_paula1747
our kids will be so busy with their own life that they wont have the time to take care of you
its not the kids fault but when my sibling got kids we dont know or talk to each others anymore. Too busy and constantly pikced up fights with me and was so incredibly mean to me that I dont really wanna visit anymore
To those people who say "who's going to take care of you when you're old?", there's no guarantee that your children will take care of you when you're old. Most people nowadays put their elderly parents in an old folks' home.
I had my mother asked me the same thing, and when I visit nursing homes, their children never bother to visit them at the nursing home, unless it is the holidays.
Do you even take care of your parents?
@@azizaja8255 why should I
A Swaney they do...
But they pay to finance it.
Either themselves or through taxes
And by the way you shouldn't have children just because you want to have someone to take care of you when you're old
Pregnancy is the worst STD.
Pregnancy is literally the reason sex exists.
don't' have kids.....if you like to afford things and have free time
SquidkidMega amazing attitude.
SquidkidMega I couldn’t agree more
I am so happy that I can't have kids
krazee metal chick Stewart tell yourself that quietly.
Dont force it on others just bcs you cant.
@@kloschuessel773 she is not forcing anything, she is allowed to be happy over her life
People who criticize you for choosing not to have kids are just jealous that you are able to live for yourself and have more freedom in your life.
My divorced friends envey me for being single and not having to pay child support.
@@Nassi415 anyone can have children not anyone can become someone like Nikola Tesla for Leo no da Vinci
Tsubasa im interested in why ppl dont want to...
I have no children, but not wanting to reproduce is pretty crazy imo.
Amen
sla cker no, i dont.
Your genes die, you pay for others kids, if nations dont reproduce you get migration and issues that come with that.
If all humanity acts this way, we are dying or will turn into a designed species that reproduces in laboratories...
Like in the world of superman from man of steel.
Doesnt have to be bad but still.
And we are still far away from that
No kids for me thanks.
Same here
I think people should be licensed to have children...
Yes. No more than 2, and your IQ should be at least 85.
I agree completly. If you need a license to drive a car, to run a lemonade stand, or to fish in a lake, you should need one to raise and shape a entire human life.
AJ Haward and an income bracket high enough to ensure the sesulting child will be well tken care of.
Hell Yes!
Plebeian It's what I've been saying for a long time now. I see a lot of comments like this too.
We should bring this up to authorities somehow.
In other news: Grass is confirmed green...
Sultans Of Zing hayo ngandani e, wei😂
😂😂😂
LMFAO 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
So in other words: get a pet.
***** I agree
Or a nice house plant!
Kevin Cortes Pet rock.
Kevin Cortes I suggest a kitten. They are great at reminding people what crazy really looks like.
Kevin Cortes abort all of your babies would be their advice
Having children is seriously my worst nightmare.Yeah, I'm one of those people lol. I just don't see the fun in bringing up another human being. I honestly feel parenthood is for a select few. Many lie to themselves that they're happy as parents. Children aren't required for you to have a good life either. Just get a cat or dog if you really want to be responsible for another life. Or at least adopt a child. I feel we as human beings have successfully reproduced ENOUGH.
Have fun with 20 cats btw I feel the same way I rather have a litter of kittens then children
+Rafael Serrano My life is about being independant while you are just limiting yourself ;)
Rafael Serrano Just because someone made the conscious decision to not have kids, it doesn't mean they are irresponsible. What about paying the bills and going to work? Those aren't responsibilities? Are you kidding me? I as a CFBC (Child Free by Choice) individual have chosen not to have kids because it doesn't fit my lifestyle. CFBC people aren't obligated to have kids they don't want, nor do they owe anyone an explanation for their decision. If someone wants to be child-free (man or woman) it's their decision. It's nobody else's fucking business. I won't be miserable, I won't be lonely and I am not selfish for making this decision. I'm not obligated to have kids if I don't want to.
Rafael Serrano - I thought you were serious.. but then the conquer worlds part made it clear and stopped my head from hurting. Pretty funny.
Wallace Goromchevna the 6th If you adopt it will generally mean the kid is a bit older and is past the cry/poop all the time stage. Way easier.
"You're selfish."
"You're a terrible person."
"You only want to live for yourself."
"What are you going to do during the holidays!?"
"You're going to be lonely and miserable."
Ana, please stop impersonating my parents.
People who have kids want others to suffer the way they have.
True!
Apathy Man how is that then
:O
F&*K marriage, I think I rather have kids.
Apathy Man misery loves company
Not surprising at all. A year of next to no sleep, the baby screeching, hormones going crazy, stress, anxiety over anything the baby does....
Nope, motherhood isn't for me. I'll stick to having a cat, or two.
True there are other sides of medal your whole world will change
Then call me crazy cat guy because I completely agree with you.
I have 3 dogs and its still easier than having one baby. Love kids but no. Id rather get another dog.
Maybe I just have an easy baby... I mean the average one year old sleeps 14 hours a day. I get plenty of sleep and me time. My hormones have always sucked and I’ve always had anxiety so nothing different there. The biggest difference is I get to laugh so much more than I ever have. It’s also so much fun showing him the world which has helped me appreciate the world even more.
Do I think everyone NEEDS to have kids not at all.
Understandable & same 😁
Most people just have kids by accident and then expect others to help them with their burden.
agreed. So many oops babies
I wouldnt have kids if you paid me.
MarsGundam
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*****
Welfare moms.
***** I would but I'm already fucked I got 1 as is. lol
***** highly depends on the amount. for a few millions, i would do it. then i could pay people to deal with a lot of stuff and i would not have to work. So i had enough time for children.
***** I agree. not enough money in the world
If mother's weren't burnt at the stake for telling the truth about motherhood, other people especially women could decide if it is what they want. Instead we are told that it is the most full filling thing they will do.. We are looked at like we have two heads if we even suggest that isn't what we want. Not to mention how ridiculously hard tubal ligation is to get. Allow mothers to tell the truth about motherhood.
I'll go ahead and say it.. I do not find it fulfilling and would rethink the decision if given the opportunity. NOW. That being said, I love them unconditionally. I try my absolute best to do right by them.
100% agree. If I could go back in time and change it I would. I wish I didn't have children in 2022. I love them so much and that's why I don't want them. They make me stressed and worried and I can't just be.
Every one of my female friends who have children have told me that if they had to do it all over again, they would choose not to have kids. They love their children but have found that their lives to be more stressful and less fulfilling. My own father advised me when I was young to never have children. I saw parenting to be a source of unhappiness and stress while growing up. I'm very happy to have made a thoughtful choice to be childless. I get my maternal fix by showering my pets with love. It is a decision one should not make without much consideration.
Keith White ok this sounds super depressing and suffocating. I think the decision to have or not to have children should be decided mutually before two people tie the knot.
@@banupiriyaYou're right, this discussion should take place, but unfortunately women change their minds. Nowadays a woman in her 20s is all about education, career, adventure, travel and freedom. And that's great, these things make her an interesting person. But so many women hit their 30s and all that goes out the window. Biology, female nature, hormones, and the ancient undefeated imperatives catch up to them and rule the rest of their lives.
It needs a lots of energy and a lots of care sleeples nights and more
Keith White I’m not sure what the wife/husband has to do with your scenario. If the man isn’t sure about having kids, he shouldn’t have them just to make his wife happy. That was a poor decision he made and he needs to live with the consequences because children isn’t something that can be compromised. That situation is just as much his fault as it is hers.
Keith White Also, biology and female nature doesn’t “catch up to them.” The biological clock is proven to be a myth. The women who do change their minds give in to societal pressure.
this shit is so obvious. Notice how plenty of people were happy, but then they have kids and their relationships fall apart once they have kids
SKYNET #2025
I love misery
I am in my 50s and SO glad I never had kids! I have watched people I know over the past many years who've had kids and they ALL say if they had to do it over again, they would NOT have had kids! They DO take away your dreams (unless you have someone at home who takes care of them full time so you can pursue your dreams), because your life takes a back seat.
I bet you have lots of animals
here here! people are only "jealous" of the free life wev,e chosen! quote my earlier comment.....
Reproducing is overrated.theres like 7 billion people on the planet so go have some fun and give the planet a break.
Molten74 👍🏻
Thats how you loose the game.
Very true
Thank you.
yawn, you have no science to back your beliefs. Now you know, you're a delusional child living in a fantasy you can't prove in reality.
If I had a kid, my life would be destroyed.
Me too
thx good i finnaly have my penis under control with no kids
Mine was 😡
How do you know if you never had a child?
@@patricksaxon3983 by using my imagination.
I cannot for the life of me think of ONE non-selfish reason to bring a child into this world.
That’s because there aren’t any nonselfish reasons to bring a child into this world.
M H So you’re having a child for the sole purpose of having them risk their lives in battle? Making that decision for them and assigning them a role when they don’t even exist yet? What if they don’t want to do that?
You are giving the gift of life to a new person - for their benefit (I'm guessing you value your life and think it's better to be alive than dead) you are also creating someone who will be giving back to society, paying taxes to support the elderly, you are creating someone's future husband or wife. You carry out all the tasks to raise that person so they are well rounded and if they appreciate your efforts, great. Many children won't ever appreciate the sacrifices required until they have children themselves.
Jennifer Hughes The gift of life? Life is filled with poverty, rape, depression and other mental illnesses, and the need to work until you die (especially in this economy). Let’s not forget about climate change. The kids born now are going to suffer so much because of how quickly the world is deteriorating due to climate change.
This is coming from a woman who loves her life by the way. I am so happy to be alive, but let’s not be naive. The things you stated - those are not unselfish reasons to have biological kids.
Jennifer Hughes The planet is going to be unlivable in a few decades. Countries will be going underwater and there will be so many natural disasters. I did my thesis on what’s to come around 2050. Having children in this day and age is the most selfish thing a person can do.
I've known from a very early age that I don't want children. My parents are very decent, good people. They were never suited to parent children however. I will not be making the same mistake. Not everyone is suited to parenthood.
catquack BEWBS?
catquack same asf, i raised myself basically and i dont want the risk of my child having to go through that
Katrina Harvey You'd already be a better parent than your parents 'cause you'd care for your children.
Bartface Bottlemessi I'm not a morning person
Same.
I have always known this, that’s why I’m childfree. I’m 44 now and never regretted my decision. Why would you screw up your life on purpose by having kids?
You are almost towards the end of your stage of life to even be able to have children, you may regret your decision.
@@patricksaxon3983 47 now and still glad to be childfree and that I never listened to people like you who wanted to convince me otherwise. It’s MY life and you don’t have any say in it.
@@Skatamska You will have many regrets and you had never experienced the wonderful joys of parenthood, how sad for you. You will be all alone in the nursing home crying with much regrets.
@@patricksaxon3983 you don't talk like someone who has had wonderful joys of parenting. If anything you sound very bitter & lack empathy. How do you know if she will be alone in a nursing home? Kids are not insurance policy & surely they are susceptible to die before you. Life has no guarantees. Fantasies you have now about your future will one day unfold as a reality, I hope youll be ready.
@@nhl4264 Children has a responcibility to take care of their parents, did your parents take care of you when you were a child or did they abadoned you?
Children destroy your happiness, everybody knows that.
Then, WHY THE F did you even born, if having children is a mistake?
@@TheFirstGoomba well uhh, that's a very brutal answer....
Nahhhh
AMEN
My happiness increased, well not a child i birthed, but one I live with, so maybe for some it's true but for others it isn't
So true, nobody will ever outright admit to being miserable with children. Who would admit their child was the worst mistake they ever made? I have only ONE friend honest enough to tell it like it is and it's horrifying.
nsignific I admit it
True.
Everybody gets miserable with or without them. What's the difference? I have two children of my own, they annoy me some times but I exercise patience and never smacked them and practise what I say. I can hosetly say I have never regretted my children, that would be like wishing hem away, if I really didn't want children they would most certainly not be in my life. Not everyone regrets it. I would've failed as a human being if I didn't produce children
Andrew Dexter You know damn well that a big majority of people have kids, but, they were “unplanned.” I’m pretty sure that they wish they never had kids as time progressed. Also, good for you. May GOD be with you as you raise your children.
@@serenity3034 Thank you, May God bless you always. You are right about parents being a majority, that is why it is considered the norm, and statistically child free are certainly the minority, that is why they feel social pressure, planned or unplanned, responsible people accept it and take on the responsibility and not run away from it like some do. Some know the hard work it all entails and are fully prepared for it. For some, children enrich their lives and give them purpose to live.
People who have kids seem to be narcissistic, selfish, NOT eco-friendly obviously.
Eco friendly? 😂😂😂😂😂😂 Do you know what the heck you're talking about??
Kids are a luxury. Who can realistically afford them anymore? I hate being beholden to people in general so being beholden to another child for at least 20 years, more like 30+ these days sounds like a nightmare to me. I'll keep my money and build an awesome life without having to spend 250k+ per.
Yes, it is more like 30 plus. Tell me about it.
children cause depression? That's why the world is so bummed. Too many kids.
Nope, that is not true, children are a blessing and the more children you have, the more fulfilled in your life.
@@patricksaxon3983 YOU not other people .
There are just as many people with depression that don't have kids, that has actually nothing to with children, it's the way modern society is that makes us depressed, ironically
@@patricksaxon3983 They're only a blessing if it was wanted in the first place.
@@idotgotitme3280 In marriage, it is an obligation to God to procreate and breed for the lord. In Genesis: Be fruitful and multiply.
Having kids is a selfish act.
Yep pretty much
100% agree
Message to all the breeders/future breeders who judge us non-breeders:
Just because someone made the conscious decision to not have kids, it doesn't mean they are irresponsible. What about paying the bills and going to work? Those aren't responsibilities? Are you kidding me? I as a CFBC (Child Free by Choice) individual have chosen not to have kids because it doesn't fit my lifestyle. CFBC people aren't obligated to have kids they don't want, nor do they owe anyone an explanation for their decision. If someone wants to be child-free (man or woman) it's their decision. It's nobody else's fucking business.
Not to mention a million and one justice/political issues to fight, do battle with!!
You needed a study to prove this? LOL! In all seriousness, babies ruin everything. I'd rather have a cat than kids. I'd rather ruin my couch than ruin my life.
Maybe the ones you know....... Not the ones I know, the ones I know did the exact opposite
Agreed 👍
haha
there are no children zones in some city centre in Germany, it's amazing.
Jazz xander Germany is now officially the greatest country in the world.
Yea, and now Germany is importing the third world to offset its selfishness
***** Your move progtard, www.sezession.de/35410/deutschland-als-beutegesellschaft-kurdisch-libanesische-grosfamilien-und-die-hilflosigkeit-des-rechtsstaates.html
you are kidding me. I love Germany so much!
This comment is old af but.... boi....
That's amazing
I'm so glad I'm sterile.
***** Late 20's. I don't see what my age as to do with it.
Maria Valkyrie Keep lying to yourself. Maybe one day you will truly believe it.
Msminnie Don't have to. I'm a transsexual, so the hormone treatment killed my fertility. If I was concerned, I would have saved my jizz before starting.
Msminnie keep lying to onesself about being unable to have children? what are you tlaking about?
Msminnie bigot alert!
I don't want to have kids not because of myself but...This world is a HELLHOLE.
Yip I second that
lol, something i've known my entire life. something i've known since i was 5 years old and looking over at babies screaming in the grocery store and being intensely annoyed by them. something i've known when i was in elementary school and i watched kids who couldn't control themselves running around and bouncing off the walls. i've never wanted kids for this exact reason.
Amen!! Even when I myself was a kid, I didn't like kids! XD Especially babies and toddlers, OMG, people would leave me with their baby and it would be the worst hour of my life! XD I'd see all my girl friends make a big fuss around babies and say how cute they are and the only thing running through my mind was "It's a creature that screams and poops itself, how is that cute?!" And I hate how degrading society is to people who choose not to have kids! O_O I mean it is my freaking body and life, and so I think I earn a say in what I want to do with it. I mean why would you want someone who doesn't want kids to have them?! It would just ruin the person's life and probably the kid's as well! O_O
Same here. we would watch movies on movie day and everyone would laugh at the stupidest jokes. I would always wondered if I ever was an actual kid. I hated kids when I was a kid. hated kids movies when I was a kid. I lived for comedy though. especially the adult comedy.
sincerely,
an only child
I hear ya
You know you can teach them not be like that in 4 days at least
So true. You know when I was a kid I thought other kids were going to be sweet and nice and well behaved because that’s how I was, turned out I was wrong. A lot of kids were assholes and I was surprised to see that behaviour. Not all kids are going to be “pure” even today as an adult I’m shocked to see how me as an adult I still seem more pure than some children, makes me not want to have kids. Maybe I was just born lucky or something, but seriously, a lot of kids are not these angels people talk about. Not at all.
I'm 66 years old, I had a vasectomy at 18 years old because I wanted my life for ME! My holidays? I travel, I'm quite happy doing my own thing abroad or hell even by myself as I am a misanthrope at heart.. And what if you get old? I'm in my 60's but look 35! And I'm not a health nut as I am an avid cigar smoker and beer enthusiast but the stress I saved by not committing to kids or a steady partner or wife in life saved me a lot of bullshit!
That is so sad for you, as you will never experience the wonderful life of parenting. I am surprized that the doctor did not try to talk you out of it.
@@patricksaxon3983 you're not a good listener
@Ghost Troupe They can if they're childfree, since they're the biggest stressers in life.
@@patricksaxon3983 parenting is overrated. I love being Childfree, it is not a sad life at all.
@@beaulieuonnp593 But if you are engaging in sex, and using any forms of birth control, you are then sinning against God and those who choose not to obey God's command to be fuitful and multiply will end up in hell. Sex is strictly fror procreation only and it is your obligation as a married person to procreate and breed for the lord.
As a dad, I can say this is 100% true. The worst thing you can do for your personal happiness. You stop living for yourself and you start living for your child. Your romantic relationship with your partner takes a nose dive. You have no time for hobbies, entertainment, never sleep well again, and suddenly have huge costs in your budget you never had before. It all adds up! I love my kid but honestly your life changes. Single people are happier in general... Then again, my genes are moving on, and it's incredibly rewarding and satisfying on many levels. But it's not about your happiness, it's about your child's.
Except that you now just transferred your problems (fear of aging, fear of dying, fear of ANYTHING) onto your child, who did not give you their permission to be forced into existence against their will.
The Ultimate Reductionist I'm petitioning RUclips for a lmao like button just for this comment
Nobody cares about your
Genes
@@theultimatereductionist7592 My guess is that most people like life enough to stick around. Only a small number decide it's better to be dead. On those odds, I'd say its a fair assumption that most children are grateful they are here, not all but the vast majority. How the hell would you get consent from someone who doesn't exist yet?
Gods bitchass shouldnt of made kids the way they are then. Piece of shit god
I feel like so many people have kids just because they're afraid that when they get older there will be no one around to take care of them! -_- So it's funny how people with kids berate people who don't have any kids and call them selfish. When a huge number of people only have kids because they want a free caretaker when they get older. I mean how is that not selfish expecting your kid to give up their free time to become your own personal nurse?!! O_O
and there is no guarantee that their kids will stick around...
+ALLINKNOTS exactly, so why do they say:"but who will take care of you when you get older"
+SilverBunnyStudios How do you know they just want a caretaker?
SilverBunnyStudios I think that is selfish. But in all honesty, it seems like most people just push their parents off to a nursing home when they're too old and not able for taking care of themselves becauase they have their own lives and probably their own kids too. Because taking care of a baby vs caring for an elderly man or woman is a lot different. And people have kids only to have someone to look after them in later life is selfish imo.
Exactly!!!!!!!!!!
I personally HATE the thought of having kids. People keep telling me that I'm a woman and I MUST have kids. I'm sorry, say what? Oooh, you mean you want my partner to feel like a pencil through a hallway the next time we sleep together because yours already does? Just because you wanted to have kids doesn't mean the rest of the world has to. I want a free independent life, just like most other people do in the world.
Besides....there are too many humans on this planet already.
You are the reason mankind will not survive
White knights, another reason the human race won't survive for long.
Socrates one can only hope so.
Socrates 🤞🏽
@@socrates5806 how dare you his name
Sooooo, I guess my parents actually hate me
s watson only in the first few years. not your fault though evolution took away human precociousness to make that big head fit through your mommy.
i bet we would have been far mroe advanced now if humans laid eggs rather than have live birth. mother doesnt need to be home to tend to the baby because it is in its own little shell that just needs to be locked away till it hatches and the resulting baby would have been as intelligent as a 5 year old so no time wasted in trining motor skills just give basics which will be picke dup eaisly.
maybe
yes, your dad told me.
s watson They don't hate you. Just that they're parents. It's not personal.
David Morgan The lack of sleep was personal...
I've always known I don't want kids. I don't have the patience.
Same! Exactly my thoughts here.
Most people who are mad are either parents or they are still stuck in the fantasy of having children.
Well said.
Team pull-out in this bitch!
TopShelf Haha Team future baby daddy in this bitch!
Msminnie
LMAO Never!!!!!!!!
TopShelf I see you've never heard of contraception.
TopShelf Team can't get laid in this bitch.
markalexander774
I hope that comment made you feel better about your sex life.
do glad I don't have kids. I love my sleeping in on the weekends n going out whenever I want :)
Good thing I'm single and with no offspring.
Parents who berate single people for not having kids truly have no life.
I couldn't imagine, as a parent, doing that... why?
Just another reason I won't have kids.
Just more reasons to make sure that abortion stays safe and legal!
Boom! Logic. Done.
An alternative to abortion is birth control. Abortion is never safe and does not remove STD's like HIV/AIDS.
@@patricksaxon3983 Sex is never safe for women, actually.
Vlavitir glutginskiya Abortion isn’t for everyone, but neither is children. You expect women to give birth to kids they never wanted and this in turn will end up with kids being abused and resented for their very existence. And where will you be? Will you be helping raise them? Helping to end poverty? Volunteering with kids in third world countries? No, you’ll be on the Internet spouting bullshit. Such lack of logic. Abortion does not affect you or your life in any way and it certainly doesn’t affect a clump of cells with no consciousness.
@@SJ-vv8vt If it's fine to kill an unborn child why is not ok to kill a toddler? If life gets inconvenient or the parents have a change of heart, why can they not arrange for them to be killed? If you support that logic I really worry about your mental health. It is never right to take someone else's life.
No one wants children. People only want GRANDchildren and nieces and nephews.
THE BIRTH OF A CHILD IS THE DEATH OF A MARRIAGE.
I like the process of making the babies, the babies, not so much.
:) I dunno. I mean, I put the babies in the blender and added soy sauce like your recipe called for, but the blender blades broke and it was a real difficult mess. I didn't like the process of making babies one bit.
I am so glad I am a gay guy, I will NEVER have to worry about having children, especially accidents. If my partner ever tells me they want a child, I'm going to just flat out tell them no, I'm not, nor ever will be, interested. If they want to raise and take care of something, I'll get them a puppy.
I'd rather ruin my carpet than ruin my life.
Why do you want rights to adopt then?
@@emogirl6056 for the gay people who wants to adopt. He doesn't want to, but he respects if other gays want to
The alphabet people hating children, what a surprise
@@luzherrera4463 Exactly. I hold nothing against people who want kids, they have every right too. But I personally don't want any. Thats why if u found out my partner wanted kids we'd need have to talk about how important that factor is for them. Because I don't want to have to try and talk him out of it if becoming a dad is something he really wants. I'd rather us break up so he can find a partner that can give him what he wants over me making him miserable by refusing to adopt with him.
The best decision we ever made was to not have kids. It's just a cost/benefit analysis. The costs far outweigh the advantages.
@@mrsgolden6526 Exactly. If her parents thought like that she would not have the life she is trying to enjoy.
Must suck to live a lonely, selfish, empty, meaningless life like that.
@@pt17171 This argument is so funny no one is ever unhappy about not being born, what is even your point?
@@damienmulder909 I can't think of a single non selfish reason to have children, so it's really funny to me how people call childfree people selfish
@@afairyist9981 You're an insane person. Taking on the responsibility of nurturing, educating and taking care of another human being for at least 18 years is the opposite of selfish. You have dumb opinions.
this study is a surprise to no parent ever. :D
Do you have any kids? I don't. And I don't plan on it. Not much of a kid person in general.
Hezekiah Ramirez
after the wedding next year my wife and I plan to adopt. :D
+Sandra Balvert WOW you plan on adopting right after you get married. Have you guys been dating long?
carmay3600
we're not adopting right away maybe a year or 2 later. (we're still young and want to do some travelling) But it is something that we both really want. :D
Sandra Balvert Good. You will need the time for yourselves. My husband and I got married within a year of meeting and waited 8 years (longer than normal) before we started having kids. Everyone pressured us to have kids right away but we resisted. lol had to get things situated first.
In other news fire is hot
Ana, stop trying to justify your decision in every video. _It's ok that you don't want to have children._
Give it a few years. She'll change her mind. They all do. It's hard wired.
Danny Dinglehoff
Maybe she won't, it's ok. I'm just saying her insecurity regarding this matter is very obvious.
/ðəmaɪndɪzfɹi:/ it's ok, she has bewbs.
+Danny Dinglehoff tbh
/ðəmaɪndɪzfɹi:/ Yep ana is known to love reporting news where she gets to masturbate while justifying her views. And when she has to do stories that goes against her views she gets all grumpy. For instance when they reported a story of a chinese guy who couldn't take any more of his girlfriends shopping addiction, and so jumped off of a building, she went off in a tangent and started bitching about how she wouldn't like her boyfriend to accompany her during shopping and how she hates his nagging etc., The narcissism and self-centered nature of this woman is just mind boggling to me. But who cares, she is a "progressive" right?
never gana marry, no children, none, never gana have
Ulysses the courier but how about bewbs?
Yes i will get to havr sex but besides that no marriage, no kids
Wallace Goromchevna the 6th i know how kids are made, it's called a condom ill use if i don't want to have kids
Wallace Goromchevna the 6th depends on the type. Condoms are getting better then before
Cool name lol
I guess some people aren't made for parenthood.
***** Nobody is ready for it it changes your whole life cops use to fuck with me hard but now I'm too busy with my kid for cops to fuck with me. lol
***** Yeah, the vast majority.
***** But everyone is made for fucking.
Some children aren't made for childhood. Yet, stupid selfish breeders force them into it against their will, anyway.
Garrick Groover: And some Parents think they can handle it and raise spoiled brats with an unearned sense of entitlement who grow up to be Sociopaths and just add to the problem. Or the flip-side you have Parents who physically, sexually and/or mentally abuse their children who grow up to be predators preying on Society. Just because you choose to procreate doesn't make you superior in any way or better than people who are childless. In fact most people become Parents either for selfish reasons (because let's face it, the world population is growing at leaps and bounds) or because they didn't use birth-control during the heat of passion. Even the simplest of lifeforms can procreate so don't break your arm patting yourself on the back for something that is ingrained in all living creatures' DNA.
I have 2 kids.
If I could go back in time... FUCK YEAH I WOULD.
NEVER HAVE KIDS.
Shit sucks.
Nick do you still feel this way?
I dislike being a single parent and I am not happy who I had them from
Kids are a terrible idea, I have one was the worst thing that ever happened to me.
There needs to be people who don't want kids. The world is over populated. I have kids and love them unconditionally and they bring pure happiness, more so than anything else ever has but yea the lack of sleep did suck when they were young. I do respect other people not wanting kids though.
People die every day.
But more people are comming to the world every day.
@Roberto Murillo We can't develop every piece of pristine forest or grassland! Have you heard of an ecosystem? Humans are not the only species on this Earth. Humans are the biggest invasive species
@Roberto Murillo it is overpopulated
I am glad I am Childfree, as I would kick them out if they raped or murdered someone. I like to have boundaries
It's incredibly difficult to find a woman who isn't baby crazy. You could travel the world, focus on a career, live comfortably without that stress and responsibility.. I've seen children being born that have destroyed relationships. people act like that's all there is in life.. some people can't even have kids
move to a big city with lots of career women. fewer mombies
It doesn't destroy your happiness, it just periodically lowers it..
Exactly
My mother always thought I would be child free. When I was married my husband and I decided to have children. I ADORE my sons. I guarantee you when I had my oldest I was terrified, there wasn't the in the movies feeling of instant love when I first saw him. We had to learn eachother, and I went into motherhood as a newbie, and my baby boy and I loved eachother. We went on road trips together (hubby didn't take off work to go), we shopped, moved to a new town, played cars and legos, and when we had our second baby he was such a lil pumpkin. Hollered a lot more and tempramental compared to my first but now he is 12 and has and is amazingly creative and a fantastic addition in my life. My oldest is a musician and taller than me, and will still hug me and tell me he loves me, and now is driving my car. Although my marriage sucked, my boys are wonderful. And I do not expect them to take care of my sorry ass in my old age. They need to grow and do and travel and raise families if they so choose, and I will be just fine. And for those who choose not to have kids, I am very proud of you for not conforming to societies expectations, because for one who swore until age 26 that she would never be a mom, it's not easy. I wouldn't change a thing, but you do right for yourself, not for what anyone else thinks.
On one hand having a family looks like it might be
Too stressful
Too expensive and
Too hard in a world where you travel and work multiple jobs in order to survive.
And marriage looks utterly
Dangerous and
DISASTROUS for men. *Alimony, Child support, FALSE rape claims, FALSE spousal abuse claims, child custody battle, etc.*
On the other hand the future for societies that are having less children looks incredibly
Bleak
Expensive and
Depressing. :-/
Urhoboman5 Domestic violence happens a lot to women too.
Anthony Serocco
That's true. But I was focusing on why marriage is dangerous to men in the modern age.
Marriage isn't dangerous solely to men, and many men live happily while married.
+Anthony Serocco hey simp. that's not always the case. let's not act like men don't get fucked over by rotten bitches.
If you are worried about rape and abuse claimes, false or otherwise, I think it would be best if you didn't marry or have children, ever.
I will only have a child after I can afford a full time maid and nurse maid. So most likely never.
Having children is a very lucrative business ...... let's realize that's why it's so encouraged.
Baby is a living organism that has evolve to be self centered, ever demanding, inconsiderable, and ultimately selfish. A baby cannot consider if the parent is too tired to hug it, it cannot tolerant a late meal and immediately start wailing, it can only place it's own comfort in the first place and powerless to provide the same to others.
Do you think a baby would automatically know that? Babies are dependable on someone to take care of them, since babies aren't exactly able to take care of themselves right of the bat. Overall, babies are vulnerable and would have to be cared for like some animal species.
Helz no, no kids for me. Married 14 years and we have lots of fun just the two of us and our friends / family. Too much damn $ and work to have kids. I want to live life, not be a slave to it.
@Ghost Troupe no such thing being a slave to fun, because by definition it’s having “fun” and it’s a choice. I can have as much or little fun as I want. Children are not a choice once you have them, you’re stuck with a huge expensive time-sucking responsibility. But just my opinion, don’t mean any offense to anyone who feels differently.
Lucky you, at least your spouse didn't pressure you to have them. It's nice to have someone on board with you and just live a happy carefree life together.
I bet a lot of unhappiness can be related to having a child with the wrong partner.
I knew I never wanted children from being three years old. I have never wavered on that.
I am nearly 40 and don't have kids. I am so glad I don't. I couldn't tolerate the whinging and mess. I like to spend my money on me.
So you are telling me a machine that makes lound noises every few hours, kills dreams, eats money and shits stress will make you less happy?
Noooh! that can't be!
This is the number 1 reason to wear a condom
How the hell can I even raise a kid in this economy? I can't fucking find a job, the only ones available in my area are minimum wage, and they fire you if you even breathe the wrong way.
HighSkiez lmao!!!😂😂😂 I'm dead
It's not wrong to have children and not to have children,I'm 38yr old Blackman and I have none and don't want any. Family with children isn't for everyone
being the BF of Anna with no kids....sounds like heaven
This is just my two cents, a child is a very complicated thing. A decision to have a baby is one that should not be made lightly; a baby requires two devoted parents with stable incomes.
Why do we keep doing these studies asking questions with obvious answers?
Ikr?
Am I the only one who read the title as "Planned Parenthood Tanks Your Happiness"? Right-wing propaganda is starting to get to me.
Oh don't worry, I read it wrong too. And when I read it again, I swore they wrote it wrong lol
Omg I didn't even notice until I saw your comment I was like wth are they talking about
Dyslexia can sometimes be amusing.
TheTeeheeGuy I read it that way too.
ive read the same initialy. damn priming effect:(
2015 the year america was offended by literally everything. save us 2016
Heh heh.. doesn't get any better pal, say hello to the rise of Feminazis and TransTRENDers
If you are narcisisstic, materialistic, and self-entitled then don't have children. I myself love children and had 3 of them. You don't have to be happy all of the time. The self-entitled generation cannot cope with any kind of difficulty.
God help your kids if they refuse to have kids themselves. A lot of parents abuse and kill their kids, so that's ok then?
I had my fist child at age 34, after partying, travelling and studying for all these years. initially I was with the 'I dont need/want a child in my life' crowd but after seeing her born and enjoying the simple things in life like a walk in the park with her or building a sand castle at the beach, I literally can't imagine my life without her.
my point is that, a study on Germans is hardly a reflection on the rest of the world. the same goes with all studies that measure happiness. variations are quite noticeable across countries and all studies that rely on the 'self-reporting' should be taken with a grain a salt.
likeminas Germany is more advanced/liberal than the US . I know , I grew up there. They are just being honest and truthful. Building sand castles and walk in the park is not for everyone. You enjoy Mutterschaft ? fine , let others enjoy a peaceful life or a lifelong party.
Lechiffresix six unless we can get into their heads and know their thoughts we really can't tell how honest and truthful they are. That's the main weakness of a self-reporting survey. Most researchers know this, that's why they ended this study with the huge caveat: "This research should be considered alongside other qualitative work"
Maybe there are other factors or circumstances influencing the sample of Germans answering this survey. I don't know.
What I do know is that I wouldn't take this survey too seriously. It's certainly not reflection of other parents across the world and much less 'proof parenthood destroys.....' anything.
As for your last statement, to each his own. I've never said other people should have children, so no disagreement there.
+likeminas You may be right about variations across cultures.
Nevertheless, prove to me that there exists ANY culture where children granted permission to their breeder/parents BEFORE they were forced into this world against their will.
likeminas A child can make you happier. But you can also enjoy the simple things in life without a kid too. I know I can. With kids, I just don't know how to communicate with them because I feel like how I say things to them is "dumbing it down" and I don't want the kid to be offended by that. So, I think I prefer people my own age to associate with
likeminas That's because having a child changes your brain chemistry to make you love them and want to keep them. A small segment of women don't produce these hormones like they are supposed to after giving birth and they often end up depressed and hating their children (sometimes even murdering them).
Take that everyone who thinks I'm evil for not liking kids. They scream, need constant attention, they're dumb as hell, always dirty, always evil, plus we're at the point where there are too many humans to begin with so you can't even feel like you're helping the species cuz you're actually contributing to our downfall at this point. Children suck in the worst way possible and I'm not sorry for being the person that says it.
The people that hate other humans only cause they're in a different developmental stage are the ones who suck in the worst way possible
everyday my girlfriend wants to have a baby I say no and the video gives me a reason to keep saying no
Your girlfriend should leave you.
you need a vasectomy stat. many guys report having a gf who suddenly fell pregnant despite having discussed their desire to be childfree. don't get trapped! don't tell her you got it either
So, my parents were miserable after I was born? This, I knew.
So, if I want to stay on my current side of happy, I don't want kids? This, I also knew.
Parents are the worst things that could happen to a child🤦🏻♀️
Are you sure it's not abusive parents or caretakers?
@@jam5533 of course it is, and it is also the truth you can't deny
@@lonesurvivor815 Not denying.
I'm immensely unhappy with the mere thought of having children and I don't care if it's selfish or not. If a woman can't be with me without having a child, then we're not good for each other.
Same here. I dated a girl last year. she hated the though of kids or marriage. they're out there. she was sexy as fuck too. oh well, she probably engaged now lol
You have some problems then, you should get mental help to see why you're so incredibly self-centered.
My wife and I agreed on not having children ever. We love going on 3am fast food runs, and getting drunk while playing Borderlands. Rather focus on my wife and career instead of a child.
And that, ladies and gentlemen, is why I don't have kids.
Maternity leave, tax breaks aren’t enough to convince me to have kids
The lifetime earnings adjusted for inflation of the average person has decreased significantly since the 1950s. Having kids is a financial death sentence today!
To be able to afford a nice house in a nice location, and to put two kids through good schools/university is outrageously expensive, like you need both parents to be very high earners
Apart from losing your freedom and identity, there are many other factors that can affect how you feel about your life after kids, like social support from your social circles and government and money... I lost my home when I was pregnant through no fault of my own, and the following homelessness didn't particularly help when having a child. The depression didn't lift after having a home again but my doctor would not diagnose post natal depression because the cause was of course what happened before. My relationship with the father had gone to the rocks from early pregnancy so he wasn't around much and my family was in a different country as well as my friends: as the time was pre-Internet with only communication done by snail mail, I was practically without any support. I did have a health visitor for the first months but she made my life even more miserable: rather than agreeing to administer B12 injection (no drops available), she put my child on a watch list for negligence... I had been a vegetarian for a few years and I read everything I could about vegan nutrition for babies and children (I had a dairy allergy when I was a kid, as did my cousin's children.) and I could say that I knew about vitamins, minerals and proteins as much as she did, as a former sports woman and a health fanatic: I wasn't one of those hair brained women who suddenly get some wacko religious like ideas in their head. Anyway, with all this going on (one of my children has also slight learning difficulties that made his behaviour challenging) it took me YEARS of fighting depression and as much as I love my children, I did think about how negatively they had affected on my general happiness, especially as the traditional school hours prevented being able to do any kind full-time work. Now my son has very young kids and although his partner gets lots of support from family and friends, whenever I'm babysitting she makes excuses for staying out longer than necessary: it doesn't matter what your circumstances are, looking after small kids all day is F***ing stressful.
The first year was so bad I swore I'd never have another kid. That being said, every subsequent year, it's gotten better and better.
Pull out game is strong
But my vasectomy game ftw!!!!
Let's be realistic, how many kids are really planed. Not many, having a child today is way to serious of a commitment,And that's an understatement. And for those who think it's a simply job are highly ignorant, that's not an understatement.
I strongly believe people should be licensed today in order to have s child. Because not everybody should be producing. Too many people that are underpaid, undereducated and struggling raising kids. You have to at least be in a good financial place before you consider that. Kids are too expensive and it's a 24/7 gig, life changing. And I don't think people really consider that.
I mean for the rest of your life that child is your responsibility, and for those who say "nah only for the next 18 years" shouldn't be having kids then. If you're not willing to devote your life to another human being then don't have a fucking child. Adoption agencies are already overwhelmed, we don't need RELIGIOUS hypocrites having kids and then giving them up.
What's hilarious is that people say that childfree people are selfish for not wanting children, yet my question is if I am so "selfish" why would you want a selfish person having children????
I don't want the added responsibility, the mental, physical, emotional, and financial strain and stress from a child. Parents that insult CF people just want others to join in on their misery.
Being a parent IS your only identity, no thank you
No shit. Children are dream killers. Period.
"You dont have to loose you identity" 😒 as said by a man not the woman. Seriously. Yes you do loose your identity. And I can say after all my kids....I look back, and realize if I had to do it all over, I wouldnt have kids..... Took me being in my thirties to realize. .....
Thank you for being honest. It is still a taboo subject especially for a mother to regret having kids.