@@DireNight_Drnt_ I think maybe cause if the friends sibling will become an ex, the friend won't wanna be around your family anymore cause her ex will be there.
I only get jealous when it feels like I'm being forgotten like when it's been months since we spent time together or when when they keep canceling plans on me to go do last minute plans with someone else. Then again I think that means I need new friends...
Felt that and they never even bothered to call and left you alone for months and then all of a sudden calls you out of the blue for something and you like nope because she was super toxic and always starting drama with me so I was like bye sorry it’s a really long story to explain lol but yes she always came up with other plans and canceled always last minute when we were going to hangout
@@lonelymunchii6569 but I recommend you leave toxic relationships or friendships even though it hurts like hell because even when you love them unfortunately they don’t love you because they are selfish and only care about themselves and not your well-being. This friendship was since kindergarten but I cutoff communication and relations with her in the beginning of senior year because I couldn’t stand her toxic behavior anymore because in the end I tried to bring her back by pleasing her and hoping she wouldn’t leave but she did but anyway enough about me if your friend continues to treat you like garbage just cut off relations because at the end of the day it will continue to hurt you more and bring you down constantly and you don’t need someone who is going to be negative in your life because you deserve better 🥰
@@yeetedunicorn4145 I think that it’s just that it makes the friend feel really uncomfortable knowing what you might be doing with their sibling. Unless they approve of it first, it would seem like you went behind their back
I get jealous because I have really bad attachment issues and separation anxiety due to drama. I always feel like I’m “the other friend” so ig like I try to not get too clingy but I always fail and then I just isolate myself for days on end 😭😭😭
very real. I would also say you could get into a similar situation if you like someone (i find this very prevalent in queer freindships). There are many different reasons people might get jealous of you having other friends, not always cause they suck
I was "friends" with these three girls in 7th grade and I thought they were very nice and trusting people but after a couple months pass, I start to notice they do not care about me at all. I was at my lowest and had no one to talk to about it because I thought that I was get bullied for it. They treated me badly and called me names as a "joke" and would hang out together without me and exclude me from everything. I became extremely insecure and hated myself. But yet I was still "friends" because I thought this was normal for me and for a friendship. After seeing your inspirational videos liek this one, I noticed that I will not be happy if I am with them. I ended that toxic friendship and found better friends that threat me right! Thank you so much for all your kind words and making me feel confident and amazing! I am more happy and better than ever. I couldn't tank you enough, thank you so much ❤
This was EXACTLY me in middle school. I swear maybe we're the same person because you just mirrored everything that happened to me exactly. Three girls, everything.
About the 1 one, I agree, I agree 100%! But, if they stop talking to you and just ignore you and hang out with their other friends, THEN you can get jealous, ig. It happened to me twice Edit: sorry for what happened to y’all!
Same!! Like that's literally happening to me currently and tbh i idk if I'm just over reacting like i have no problem with my friend having other friends going out with them or spending time with them but currently i have started to notice that she doesn't pay much attention to me as much as she used to do so and basically ignores me and spend most of her time with her new friends she recently even stopped calling me so I do feel bad can't say jealous tho
Lmao happened w me she was my bsf..always made up excuses to not meet me and went out with her other new friends and didn't care to even acknowledge my feelings so i left her..
My friend literally questioned me infront of my birthday. Do YoU lIkE mE oR yOuR oThEr UgLy FrIeNdS bEtTeR. honestly she never wants me to make more friends. When I call someone else my bff she just unfriends me but starts to talk to me later... She's honestly super annoying.
my brain: 1. give you up 2. let you down 3. run around 4. desert you 5. make you cry 6. say goodbye 7. tell a lie 8. hurt you edit: people are still replying to this? thank you! :)
Number 1 is always hard for me. I am younger and still learning that friendship is something that we all can share. I guess it just makes me feel insecure. But I always remember that the more the merrier. Even if I felt a tad salty at times I would never lash out or pick on my friends about it.
I get that. I'll too sometimes feel left out but i just bury that feeling and shake it off, so far I'm doing a pretty good job at that. Plus i had a friend who was (very rudely) jealous of me having other friends so i keep her as an example and tell myself "i dont want to be like her"
@plamiguha4263 that's a good way to be your best self when I was little I also felt jealous from not having a lot of friends like my few friends until I saw friendship as sum enjoyable for everyone to share :)
My best friend had other best friends that dont want to be friends with me. At first i was pretty ok with it but then she just stopped talking to me so it was hard for me to get used to that because she had been my best friend all my life.
You are so aggressively kind and supportive I love it so much! You give us such good advice and say it so fiercly and confidently people actually listen! You are the most inspirational and kindest person on youtube! ❤❤❤❤❤
imo i think ex’s and siblings are okay too because in my mind it’s just another person, and i wouldn’t care if a friend did that to me. however i feel before you date a ex you should ask your friend what they’re like yk? make sure they didn’t cheat or just a bad person.
I don't know is it great or not but I have to admit, the first one is my toxic trait.. I always get jealous if my bestie gets too close with someone else.. It's okay if it's my friend but I get jealous if my "bestie" gets close with someone other than me. Sometimes people even wonder if I have a "crush" on my bestie.. But I have to admit that I mainly gets jealous because I'm afraid I don't deserve my bestie.. My bestie is too pretty, kind, wonderful, amazing and all and I'm afraid that I don't deserve them.. I'm too insecure with myself that I'm afraid I won't have anyone left.. I've been trying so hard to control my toxic trait but I admit it's hard.. Edit 1: Well guys, my nightmare came true.. Idk if I've said this but I hv 3 bsfs.. Two of em r in another class and one is in my class.. Let's call her A.. A has been my bsf for more than 7 years but nowadays, i feel like she's going far away from me.. A doesn't like body contact that much so whenever i hug her, she just push me away and say eww.. But there's a girl in my class let's call her H. H is a close friend of mine and A's. But nowadays, A is too much close with H compared to me.. She always hugs H whenever H comes to class and idr the last time she hugged me.. Whenever the teacher allows us to change seat, i want to sit with her but she had already sat with H. During team games, when we hv to pair up in groups of 3, i wished tht i and her would be in team.. but then A, H, and H's bsf become a team and A be like "I forgot u, I'm sorry.. can u be in another team?" H, who hv been close with A for like, 1 year i think, knows many secret about A that A never told me. Ik I'm probably being hypocrite and ik what's gonna end up happening.. i just really wish that even if she forgets me, atleast she is happy.. I thought of sharing this story with u guys because when i was in my hard times, u guys were the only one to comfort me.. I'm still glad tht I still hv two bsfs who love and care for me.. Have a good day.. Edit 2: Everyone, I discussed bout this topic with her(A) and ya she feels regret and told sorry for making me feel left out.. Although we ain't _THAT_ close as before, we're still on pretty good terms.. I'm really thankful for all the considerate replies from you all. I believe everyone deserves a second chance and I gave her that chance.. I just hope she would not misuse it.. Once again, thanks for all the kind replies cuz idk what i would've done without all of yours kind words when i was in that situation.. Have a nice day..
Think those things about yourself too, there's a reason your best friend considers you are their best friend. I understand how you feel, I felt that way myself when I was a teenager, but as an adult I realise that there's no need to be jealous. We all have our good qualities, no need to compare. As they say, comparison is the thief of joy. You've got this! You're amazing too :)
@@doppelganger1997 Thanks a lot.. These words of yours are so kind and thanks you a lot.. I'll try my best to control my toxic trait and I'll start thinking I'm worthy haha.. Thanks a lot for your kind words>💙
I had a friend who was veryy similar to you! She made it VERY obvious to me that she didn't like me having other close friends apart from her. I just want to confirm to you that your bestie loves you and will always consider you as her best friend. Because I also always considered my "jealous" friend as my best friend. Don't consider yourself unworthy please ❤️ your bestie knows your worth and that's why she's friends with you. She will probably really appreciate it as well if you start being more confident in yourself and your abilities! All the best ❤️❤️
@@tithisings Thanks a lot for your kind words.. I admit it's hard changing my toxic trait haha but thanks a lot for your comment. Your comment made we feel worthy and loved.. Thanks a lot and I really appreciate your kind words 💙
I'm ok with the first one but recently in my trio the other 2 friends got really close and barely talk to me. Yeah i'm alright with them having their own friends but at this point I feel invisible in the trio.
Girl me too. A lot of people are like this towards me so I won't talk about other friends around the friend or friends I'm with. It's probably toxic. Idk... just keep it in your head "ima have other friends regardless."
I just got rid of a friend that does all of those things. I thought I wanted to be friends again, but at the end of a TikTok compilation video I had watched, it said “your only remembering the good time you had with them”. It was like a sign, and I knew that what was on the screen infront of me was true. I’m not going through that again.
I do not think that getting rid of them is the only way, It sometimes is their enviornment and things they have been through that make them like this , you should care about all the care they gave you and try to help them to get out of this concept or understand them and make them understand you. Be coperative and helping.
@@HiraTweny bro, I didn’t want to go into details but let me tell you she is a spoiled brat, and had the sweetest parents ever. To sweet really. She yelled at them when they wouldn’t buy her a journal right then and there, because I was with her. (She got the journal when I left though). I know your just trying to be fair but really it wasn’t. She lied about disorders she had, saying that she thinks it’s cool to have disorders. She expected me to pay for everything when we went to the mall. So in a way yes, it’s her environment, of being treated like a princess. So she expects everything to be done for her. Don’t make a comment like that unless your sure of what your saying. This is only 1/8 of what she did.
I'm pretty sure of what I am saying and as you have explained it it really didnt feel like you left a friend . And the thing I was telling was all about those genuine friends who invest and love you alot and care for you but are being left of just cz of a single bad .
@@HiraTweny she was using me. Stop assuming things, not everyone is a good person. She sexually abused me, and I told her from right and wrong but she would just get angry if I told her that. I was in a relationship I didn’t want to be in, nobody knew the truth of what happened so I was out in the wrong every time they heard we weren’t “besties” anymore. She always acted like the victim.
#1 was me growing up. I'd get really insecure about my friends choosing other friends over me. Taken me a while to get out of that habit and thankfully my one childhood friend has forgiven a lot of the BS i gave her back then.
Siblings are alright when they are okay with it.Exes try not to, but if the ex is on good terms. Maybe it’s not as bad. Others I completely agree with you.
i can't really help getting jealous, i can't control whether i feel that way or not. ofc i feel bad about it, but it's not like i can just pretend i'm not jealous
@@theresakendall2169 I know you're genuinely trying to help but the entire point of their comment is to say that yeah being jealous is normal and you genuinely can't control it sometimes and telling people to work on their own insecurities kind of pisses me off sometimes because insecurities don't disappear just like that
@@theresakendall2169 I know that obviously but that's not the point of my comment it's to say that people have insecurities and they never exactly go away some days those insecurities will pop right back into your head
I fully agree! Everyone should have more than just one person or just one aspect of life. Have a life outside of just one friend…have a life outside of work…outside or your significant other or spouse if you have someone…don’t expect others to pay for you, be very careful who you get involved with, romantically or even platonic relationships!
I think everything on this list is valid and that if your friends do these things or other toxic behaviors then that’s not good! BUT… I think it’s also important to remember that we are all growing, and that sometimes part of that growth is conversation. Instead of automatically cutting your friendship off, talk to them first. Try and work through the problem together because if the friendship makes it out, it will be stronger then ever!
At least your a good person. I just experienced a betrayal from my friend and hurt me and broke my heart 💔 so I'm glad you're a good person. I'm dropping a follow😊
Small reminder that not all people break up because they hate each other, cheated or something like that. They could just stop loving you, or like things weren't going alright. And the most important, your ex isn't your property, you can't just expect that your friends will stop talking to them because y'all broke up. You are mature enough for relationship, when you realize you can't be selfish, and need to talk with your partner to make things work. Coming from a person that is probably aromantic (but still wants to be in relationship, like I love the idea of being with someone), so I'm not blinded by toxic normalized love stereotypes.
idec if they dated someone for five seconds, im not dating my friends ex 😭 i’d feel too awkward. i’m not against the sibling thing personally, but i can understand why some are. especially if you’re really close with your sibling. or something goes wrong, it can be uncomfortable cause you won’t want to lose either of them. that being said, i wouldn’t encourage any of my friends to get w my brother 💀
Honestly yea but checking up and asking them and if they say yes then go. If you do it just cuz yall r compatible it's fine and if she gave the go signal. It's especially okay if they ended in good terms. You can also just avoid hanging out together. If they broke up they broke up but yea check with them first.
With the jealous thing I do get jealous when I see my friend hanging out with people but I'll never do anything about it I won't tell her that it hurts my feelings or anything cause it's wrong to want her to only hang out with me I just get a little jealous
I feel conflicted about something... So I didn't get the results I wanted for my exams due to my spiralling mental health leading up to them (depression and anxiety seriously messed me up badly for the exams) but all my friends did really well, I went out with them today and inevitably they were talking about their results. I didn't want to bring down the mood or make it about me so I just sat there congratulating them and hyping them up while trying my best not to tear up and keep a smile plastered on my face. Thing is, they know about my results but kept going on about them in front of me, even saying things like "it's so good to think we don't have to do maths again", knowing I'm planning on re-sitting maths next year. I did the right thing by keeping quiet about myself, right? It's not like I'm jealous, they worked hard and fully deserve what they've achieved but I can't help but feel they were a little insensitive. Does that make me the selfish one? Or were they partially in the wrong? But then they fully have the right to talk about their results and be happy, who am I to feel upset about that since I should be happy for them? So now I'm feeling like a bad person for feeling this way, it's not about me, it's about celebrating them, it's just tough luck that I didn't do as well and I should suck it up. Idk, am I a bad person? Sorry for the long comment, it just came to mind from this video and I've been kinda miserable since I got home from today, its been weighing on my mind amongst other things. It's just been a bad day I guess
I’m so sorry that happened, as someone’s who’s been in similar situations I know how terrible that must feel :( you’re not at all a bad person for being sad that you didn’t do as well as you’d hoped and could have if you didn’t have to deal with these problems. It sounds like your friends were a bit insensitive, but they were probably just excited about their results and you did amazing to support them and hype them up! I don’t know you but it sounds like you’re doing amazing. Dealing with mental health problems is terrible, especially at a time in your life when you need to be all there, and it’s so unfair that some people don’t have that type of problem. Keep going, you can resit whatever exams you need when you’re maybe doing a bit better. Help and support is out there, and I hope that things will turn out okay for you :)))) remember that doing your best is enough and you don’t have to be perfect all the time :))
Man I’d be conflicted too, but you’re completely allowed to feel your emotions. They’re there for a reason, it gives us information. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, but with the small chunk of info I got from you, you’re extremely strong and I’m proud of you for still being with us today. I don’t have good advice, and I may not know you, but a wise man once said “if one can hate a stranger for no reason, then one can love a stranger for no reason” and I love you stranger, keep holding on please
I totally relate, I honestly wouldn't have a "correct" answer for you, just that when I was going through something similar, while I was happy for my friends, I just used the fact that I was Slightly upset I wasn't there with them to motivate me more this time
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You shouldn’t at all feel like a bad person. Your friends are making it seem like it’s all about them and leaving you out when they could actually encourage you by saying that it’s ok.
I used to have a friend who would get EXTREMELY jealous when I would hang out with other people, like watch me from across the playground jealous. Long story short, we’re not friends anymore, she moved to a different state, and I love my big friend group I have now ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ
1 minute ago whaaaat crazy, but i just wanted to say heyyy spencer i hope your day has been great so far and keep up the fabulous amazing work on your videos
I love her facial expressions like some women are afraid to make facial expressions because of wrinkles or smth but she just so human like it helps me connect with her on a deeper level😊😊
Exactly, you should be able to date who you want to. My friends made fun of me for my crush and told me I shouldn’t date him but I didn’t care because they can’t tell me who and who not to date. And we’re still friends, so it’s fine.😊
Exactly, you should be able to date who you want to. My friends made fun of me for my crush and told me I shouldn’t date him but I didn’t care because they can’t tell me who and who not to date. And we’re still friends, so it’s fine.😊
Number 4, my friend I’ve known for 8 long years does this all the time, I’ve cried so much on call with her. Honestly we used to be close mows she so full of herself
i never dated my friends ex, but they were like “talking” and after a few months me and him started liking each other and i asked permission and everything and she shipped us tried to get us to talk to each other more (pretty much everything i did for) and i literally love her sm
I do get jealous when my friends get other friends mostly because I'm scared they'll have more fun with them and eventually leave me (it's happened too many times) but i don't EVER tell them that because I know that i dont own them and they're allowed to have friends other than me , but that feelings just there-
Your so pretty and your hair is gorgeous can I say that your the most confident person I have ever seen and really help me be more confident about myself I love you 💕
I liked this guy, who kind of liked me back and my ex friend was all like “I will help you get him” and “he likes you” and stuff. Little did I know she was talking behind my back to him and 4 days after he rejected me she starts dating him. I was in love with him and thought she was my friend 😭💔
About number 4, for me I struggle about not making it about me. I am working on it but I recently found out that all my life I’ve been losing friends often because I constantly made it about myself. I’ve worked on it and currently am so I sorry to anyone I did this to :(
The reason why I get mad on my friends is because they're touching too much of my personal stuff with their sticky and sweaty hands- like, Sabel, yes you Sabel, I do NOT want your hands with lotion on my stuff and then call me selfish for taking away my stuff. And then when it comes to quizzes and activities there's no more selfish miss gurl-
im sorry about that, im glad you dropped her and i hope ur better ♡♡ i have a similwr friend, literally everyone keeps telling me 2 just drop her but shes managed to ruin most of my friendships/ relationships so shes literally my only friend now, i already feel lile i have nobody but idk how 2 drop her because i dont want to be really alone.
does your friend know they did this to you? talk to them and gauge her feelings. if you open up, chances are your friend will be respectful and see for herself that the person probably wouldn't be a good friend to her either
most people don't want to be bullied LOL, so if she doesn't see that person as a walking red flag for her own self, she is probably very ignorant and doesn't trust your word, in which case - you should make a new friend!
My partner befriended his friends ex, who treated her like sh*t. I personally never thought it was alright, but my partner tends to befriend everyone, even if they're major idiots. I'm pretty sure his friend wouldn't be happy about it though.
bro why are you just so true about everything!!!! i have been really struggling with drama with this one girl and she does all of this!!! thank you so much for helping me!!!! ❤
I had one of those crushes from afar that I was never going to act on, but my friend got so pissed about it because he didn’t want his friend to date me because he wouldn’t get to spend time with his friend anymore. And the same friend would get jealous and irritated when I told him about cool things I got to do. I never talked about it all the time but when I would bring it up the one time after it happened he would get so pissed. He finally cut it off but made it seem like I was the problem even though he never tried to talk through our issues. I was always willing to talk about it but they never wanted to because they said I would “lash out”.
So there is this girl I know, and boy did she control me. She seriously messed me up. She would constantly pick fights with me, make me feel terrible about myself by referring to herself as the 'pretty best friend', would make herself the center of attention 24/7, get angry and make ME feel like the bad person if I hung out with someone other than her, she would go out to places with friends and not tell me on purpose, then proceeded to brag to me about how fun it was and how they all had such a great time (I know, I wasn't invited and that wasn't the only reason that I felt a bit left out, it was also because the people she hung out with treated me like dirt too). It was obvious that she didn't seem to like being my best friend. My mum got us one of those best friend necklaces (it was actually really pretty, with a crystal and a tiny thing that said best friends in it), and she took off the thing that said best friends and then wore it. She refused to wear any friendship things, as it was 'too cringe'. I guess it was different with those other girls, wasn't it? Oh yeah! And on my birthday last year, I told her that I was thinking about going ice skating or something like that with her and my only other friend. In the end I didn't, as my family was busy, and so I was a bit bummed about not going ice skating. So I didn't end up doing anything. Next thing you know, here comes her birthday. She tells me what she's doing for her birthday. Have a wild guess what she had planned! To go ice skating! I was so excited because I loved ice skating, but then she told me that I wasn't invited. It was going to be her and one of her friends. Oh yeah, she told me the whole plan that she made with her friend. So first they would go to the mall and go shopping, then they would go ice skating, then they would come back, I would give my present to her and go home, and the other girl would stay the night and together they would try and pull an all-nighter. Without me. Idk, I just felt kind of sad that I wasn't included, especially when after the other friend and the girl had a fight, the other girl came up to me and said "you know ----- doesn't actually like you..?" And that crushed me even more. All I replied with was "I know." Shes done more, but this year I decided that I'm not dealing with her shit anymore. And what do you know? I've felt the happiest I've been in years. YEARS! I've made friends who encourage me, accept me for who I am, make me laugh so much, and influence me in the best ways possible. My skin is glowing, I have a source of income, my hair is growing, my room is tidy, I have some nice clothes, etc. And guess where she's at? She's smoking, losing friends, shoplifting, and still judging me. She actually has the audacity to talk to my sister who is FULLY with me, and is happy that I'm not friends with this girl anymore, and she tells her "why isn't ----- hanging out with me anymore?" And "omg, I bet she's actually scared of me!!!" Like no, I'm not, I just learned that I should drop the toxic people in my life. All I'm doing is ignoring her, just so you know. TL,DR: I knew this girl who treated me like dirt, Im not friends with her anymore, Im so happy, im feeling great, and she's throwing her life away at the age of 12 ❤
The fact that my “friend” does the first one to me all the time when I hang out with my other friends especially my bsf and I tried throwing her in the garbage bin but she started getting toxic to me so yeah!
My friend always talks about me behind my back but we have a friend group and I don’t feel like causing so much drama in my friend group over her she’s not worth it. But it’s also so hard to have a normal conversation with her knowing she might talk about me again.
Nah, it's totally natural. Take it as a restart, a new beginning, like cleaning your house and bringing new furniture. Our lives sometimes get cleared out so we can go to the next level with new things.
I honestly feel like I am losing mine. We just haven't talked and it felt awkward the last time. I hope things get better for you! Maybe it was for the best and you can start a new journey in your life. :)
She didn’t want me to get with them because it was “unprofessional”…. Yelled at me constantly about it and then told me she needs to supervise my hangouts with people she knows. And would get horribly upset if I hung out with people that weren’t her. If it’s not their ex or best friend then it’s fair game. You can’t dictate someone’s life.
I have the same the best you can do is tho be alone for short amounts of time that get longer and longer or have a small teddy or rock with a face that’s what I do
I get offended when my besties care about their other friends more than they do about me. That's just my love style (yes its mania) AND NO I DONT HAVE ANOTHER LIFE OTHER THAN THEM 😭
I feel like siblings are ok sometimes, as long as the friend is ok with it.
I agree, one of my “friends” had a crush on my brother and it was fine until the only reason she came to my house was to be with him
ye i agree
@@mockingjay6923 oh my gosh that would suck! I’m sorry.
@@mockingjay6923 tbh it’s not that big of a deal
can someone tell me why people think its weird to date your friends sibling?
I wish I was best friends with Spencer! She seems like such a nice person!
I know right
Miss girl if I see you in one of her videos in the future give me a shoutout lol
Yeah!
She doesn't like people who likes the color red
Some of her videos are wack.
Lol 3. Cracks me up because my bestie wanted me to get with her brother. And now she’s my sister in law. 😂
Hence why I don't understand why people have such a problem with it! It's a reason to be family with said best friend
Damnn
@@DireNight_Drnt_ some people do but some dont
@@DireNight_Drnt_ I think maybe cause if the friends sibling will become an ex, the friend won't wanna be around your family anymore cause her ex will be there.
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Ok. I’m gonna go end things with like half of my childhood “friends”
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I only get jealous when it feels like I'm being forgotten like when it's been months since we spent time together or when when they keep canceling plans on me to go do last minute plans with someone else. Then again I think that means I need new friends...
Same :(
Felt that and they never even bothered to call and left you alone for months and then all of a sudden calls you out of the blue for something and you like nope because she was super toxic and always starting drama with me so I was like bye sorry it’s a really long story to explain lol but yes she always came up with other plans and canceled always last minute when we were going to hangout
@@ariannarivera8254 thats happening to me rn :((
@@lonelymunchii6569 oh I am so sorry 😢
@@lonelymunchii6569 but I recommend you leave toxic relationships or friendships even though it hurts like hell because even when you love them unfortunately they don’t love you because they are selfish and only care about themselves and not your well-being. This friendship was since kindergarten but I cutoff communication and relations with her in the beginning of senior year because I couldn’t stand her toxic behavior anymore because in the end I tried to bring her back by pleasing her and hoping she wouldn’t leave but she did but anyway enough about me if your friend continues to treat you like garbage just cut off relations because at the end of the day it will continue to hurt you more and bring you down constantly and you don’t need someone who is going to be negative in your life because you deserve better 🥰
“Get with their siblings”
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I didn't understand that point actually 😅
@@trishna03 Spencer’s saying that she’ll never date a friend’s sibling
@@nathalieng8079 what's wrong with getting with their sibling? am I missing something?
@@yeetedunicorn4145 I think that it’s just that it makes the friend feel really uncomfortable knowing what you might be doing with their sibling. Unless they approve of it first, it would seem like you went behind their back
@@nathalieng8079 oh I see 😅
I get jealous because I have really bad attachment issues and separation anxiety due to drama. I always feel like I’m “the other friend” so ig like I try to not get too clingy but I always fail and then I just isolate myself for days on end 😭😭😭
Real and perfect explanation. I won't tell them tho I'll just like keep it to myself unless I feel really confident lol
very real. I would also say you could get into a similar situation if you like someone (i find this very prevalent in queer freindships). There are many different reasons people might get jealous of you having other friends, not always cause they suck
well you have a point
You need Jesus Christ, ruclips.net/video/uZdv-TtiMkg/видео.htmlsi=I2s3DPiUciNxDjMF
“yOu’Re AsKiNg FoR dRaMa” really got me
Edit: tysm for 1.2k likes!!!
I thought they said trauma-
Ya
spencer you have no idea how much you have helped me with my body confidence and to be more positive ❤️❤️
I was "friends" with these three girls in 7th grade and I thought they were very nice and trusting people but after a couple months pass, I start to notice they do not care about me at all. I was at my lowest and had no one to talk to about it because I thought that I was get bullied for it. They treated me badly and called me names as a "joke" and would hang out together without me and exclude me from everything. I became extremely insecure and hated myself. But yet I was still "friends" because I thought this was normal for me and for a friendship. After seeing your inspirational videos liek this one, I noticed that I will not be happy if I am with them. I ended that toxic friendship and found better friends that threat me right! Thank you so much for all your kind words and making me feel confident and amazing! I am more happy and better than ever. I couldn't tank you enough, thank you so much ❤
This was EXACTLY me in middle school. I swear maybe we're the same person because you just mirrored everything that happened to me exactly. Three girls, everything.
Congrats! But i died at the typo of ‘threat’ for a sec i thought ur new friends threaten u-
i’m so sorry you had to go through that, they’re fake, just know that you’re loved and you are everything ❤❤❤
This has recently happened to me aswell
I’m so sorry - I had something like this in 6th grade. You don’t need them, beautiful person!
About the 1 one, I agree, I agree 100%! But, if they stop talking to you and just ignore you and hang out with their other friends, THEN you can get jealous, ig. It happened to me twice
Edit: sorry for what happened to y’all!
Same!! Like that's literally happening to me currently and tbh i idk if I'm just over reacting like i have no problem with my friend having other friends going out with them or spending time with them but currently i have started to notice that she doesn't pay much attention to me as much as she used to do so and basically ignores me and spend most of her time with her new friends she recently even stopped calling me so I do feel bad can't say jealous tho
Lmao happened w me she was my bsf..always made up excuses to not meet me and went out with her other new friends and didn't care to even acknowledge my feelings so i left her..
Same that's what I was about to say
My friend literally questioned me infront of my birthday. Do YoU lIkE mE oR yOuR oThEr UgLy FrIeNdS bEtTeR. honestly she never wants me to make more friends. When I call someone else my bff she just unfriends me but starts to talk to me later... She's honestly super annoying.
@@Amothe_cookie ig you guys should have a clear conversation regarding this as this thing can effect your social life too
my brain:
1. give you up
2. let you down
3. run around
4. desert you
5. make you cry
6. say goodbye
7. tell a lie
8. hurt you
edit: people are still replying to this? thank you! :)
6. Tell a lie
7. Hurt you
@@lighthouseraven Yup
@@lighthouseraven no he Rick rolled us 💀
@@sa7didi43 he rickrolled us too brah
@@lighthouseraven we do have to lie sometimes, it's for the best of everyone
Number 1 is always hard for me. I am younger and still learning that friendship is something that we all can share. I guess it just makes me feel insecure. But I always remember that the more the merrier. Even if I felt a tad salty at times I would never lash out or pick on my friends about it.
I get that. I'll too sometimes feel left out but i just bury that feeling and shake it off, so far I'm doing a pretty good job at that.
Plus i had a friend who was (very rudely) jealous of me having other friends so i keep her as an example and tell myself "i dont want to be like her"
@plamiguha4263 that's a good way to be your best self when I was little I also felt jealous from not having a lot of friends like my few friends until I saw friendship as sum enjoyable for everyone to share :)
My best friend had other best friends that dont want to be friends with me. At first i was pretty ok with it but then she just stopped talking to me so it was hard for me to get used to that because she had been my best friend all my life.
100% agree. I get kinda sad or jealous when my friends hang out without me but I don’t bring it up with them or horde them
same
“They r not ur freind you need to get rid of them like the trash sitting in ur garage!” 😅😂 that made me laugh so hard!
Same lol🤣😂
Same lol😂🤣
it was the sorry and giggle after for me 😂😂😂
You are so aggressively kind and supportive I love it so much! You give us such good advice and say it so fiercly and confidently people actually listen! You are the most inspirational and kindest person on youtube! ❤❤❤❤❤
You’re lashes are absolutely gorgeous!
your face is gorgeous
@@r_liliiiiii thank you
@@riceball4923 wait actually?
@@riceball4923 lol it ain’t me I’m nearly never on instagram
@@riceball4923 ok so?
“Like the trash. Sitting. In yur GRASHJEE” 😂
BEST COMMENT EVER
I'm ok with my friends wanting to date my siblings as long as that's not the only reason they're friends with me
imo i think ex’s and siblings are okay too because in my mind it’s just another person, and i wouldn’t care if a friend did that to me. however i feel before you date a ex you should ask your friend what they’re like yk? make sure they didn’t cheat or just a bad person.
This is so refreshing to hear! That kind of friend is rare nowadays! People, find yourself a Spencer!! 🥺
I don't know is it great or not but I have to admit, the first one is my toxic trait.. I always get jealous if my bestie gets too close with someone else.. It's okay if it's my friend but I get jealous if my "bestie" gets close with someone other than me. Sometimes people even wonder if I have a "crush" on my bestie.. But I have to admit that I mainly gets jealous because I'm afraid I don't deserve my bestie.. My bestie is too pretty, kind, wonderful, amazing and all and I'm afraid that I don't deserve them.. I'm too insecure with myself that I'm afraid I won't have anyone left.. I've been trying so hard to control my toxic trait but I admit it's hard..
Edit 1: Well guys, my nightmare came true.. Idk if I've said this but I hv 3 bsfs.. Two of em r in another class and one is in my class.. Let's call her A.. A has been my bsf for more than 7 years but nowadays, i feel like she's going far away from me.. A doesn't like body contact that much so whenever i hug her, she just push me away and say eww.. But there's a girl in my class let's call her H. H is a close friend of mine and A's. But nowadays, A is too much close with H compared to me.. She always hugs H whenever H comes to class and idr the last time she hugged me.. Whenever the teacher allows us to change seat, i want to sit with her but she had already sat with H. During team games, when we hv to pair up in groups of 3, i wished tht i and her would be in team.. but then A, H, and H's bsf become a team and A be like "I forgot u, I'm sorry.. can u be in another team?" H, who hv been close with A for like, 1 year i think, knows many secret about A that A never told me. Ik I'm probably being hypocrite and ik what's gonna end up happening.. i just really wish that even if she forgets me, atleast she is happy.. I thought of sharing this story with u guys because when i was in my hard times, u guys were the only one to comfort me.. I'm still glad tht I still hv two bsfs who love and care for me.. Have a good day..
Edit 2: Everyone, I discussed bout this topic with her(A) and ya she feels regret and told sorry for making me feel left out.. Although we ain't _THAT_ close as before, we're still on pretty good terms.. I'm really thankful for all the considerate replies from you all. I believe everyone deserves a second chance and I gave her that chance.. I just hope she would not misuse it.. Once again, thanks for all the kind replies cuz idk what i would've done without all of yours kind words when i was in that situation.. Have a nice day..
Think those things about yourself too, there's a reason your best friend considers you are their best friend. I understand how you feel, I felt that way myself when I was a teenager, but as an adult I realise that there's no need to be jealous. We all have our good qualities, no need to compare. As they say, comparison is the thief of joy. You've got this! You're amazing too :)
@@doppelganger1997 Thanks a lot.. These words of yours are so kind and thanks you a lot.. I'll try my best to control my toxic trait and I'll start thinking I'm worthy haha.. Thanks a lot for your kind words>💙
@@juliette_white 💗💗💗
I had a friend who was veryy similar to you! She made it VERY obvious to me that she didn't like me having other close friends apart from her. I just want to confirm to you that your bestie loves you and will always consider you as her best friend. Because I also always considered my "jealous" friend as my best friend. Don't consider yourself unworthy please ❤️ your bestie knows your worth and that's why she's friends with you. She will probably really appreciate it as well if you start being more confident in yourself and your abilities! All the best ❤️❤️
@@tithisings Thanks a lot for your kind words.. I admit it's hard changing my toxic trait haha but thanks a lot for your comment. Your comment made we feel worthy and loved.. Thanks a lot and I really appreciate your kind words 💙
I love you so much spencer you are literally such a beautiful human being and are so motivating. love youu
“I will NEeeEeeeEeEver get with them” got me😂
“like eww” at the end got me on the floor! 😂😂
I'm ok with the first one but recently in my trio the other 2 friends got really close and barely talk to me. Yeah i'm alright with them having their own friends but at this point I feel invisible in the trio.
SAME OMFG
That happened to me tooo
Ayo same. Outcasted children, shall we form a cult? 👀
OMFG THOS HAPPENED TO MEEE
@@HensChickens69YES LETS FORM A CULT WE WILL LIVE OVER ALL THE NORMIES AND OUTCASTS WILL LIVE ON FOREVER
Number 1 omg I always problems with friends like that what is wrong with me?? I want a friend like you 🥺
Girl me too. A lot of people are like this towards me so I won't talk about other friends around the friend or friends I'm with. It's probably toxic. Idk... just keep it in your head "ima have other friends regardless."
@@theresakendall2169 thanks 😊
My bf (bestfriend) does that to me and now we're not best friends anymore
@@helloquincy5944 you can use bff which is known for best friend(forever) so you dont need to specify
@@darknight3613 She didn't used it cz they're not together now like there's no forever 💀
I just got rid of a friend that does all of those things. I thought I wanted to be friends again, but at the end of a TikTok compilation video I had watched, it said “your only remembering the good time you had with them”. It was like a sign, and I knew that what was on the screen infront of me was true. I’m not going through that again.
I do not think that getting rid of them is the only way, It sometimes is their enviornment and things they have been through that make them like this , you should care about all the care they gave you and try to help them to get out of this concept or understand them and make them understand you. Be coperative and helping.
@@HiraTweny bro, I didn’t want to go into details but let me tell you she is a spoiled brat, and had the sweetest parents ever. To sweet really. She yelled at them when they wouldn’t buy her a journal right then and there, because I was with her. (She got the journal when I left though). I know your just trying to be fair but really it wasn’t. She lied about disorders she had, saying that she thinks it’s cool to have disorders. She expected me to pay for everything when we went to the mall. So in a way yes, it’s her environment, of being treated like a princess. So she expects everything to be done for her. Don’t make a comment like that unless your sure of what your saying. This is only 1/8 of what she did.
I'm pretty sure of what I am saying and as you have explained it it really didnt feel like you left a friend . And the thing I was telling was all about those genuine friends who invest and love you alot and care for you but are being left of just cz of a single bad .
@@HiraTweny she was using me. Stop assuming things, not everyone is a good person. She sexually abused me, and I told her from right and wrong but she would just get angry if I told her that. I was in a relationship I didn’t want to be in, nobody knew the truth of what happened so I was out in the wrong every time they heard we weren’t “besties” anymore. She always acted like the victim.
@@HxppyLyfeArt you did a right thing though, but why you think I'm assuming things? You might be wrong here.
#1 was me growing up. I'd get really insecure about my friends choosing other friends over me. Taken me a while to get out of that habit and thankfully my one childhood friend has forgiven a lot of the BS i gave her back then.
Siblings are alright when they are okay with it.Exes try not to, but if the ex is on good terms. Maybe it’s not as bad.
Others I completely agree with you.
Spencer you are so good for advice. I thank you so much because this video made me realise fake friends. You are so inspirational and motivating
"you're asking for drama like ew-" 😂😂
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And when u wear dresses you look so pretty i could never
Can we talk about how good her hair and makeup look
i can't really help getting jealous, i can't control whether i feel that way or not.
ofc i feel bad about it, but it's not like i can just pretend i'm not jealous
I understand but thats not on them. Maybe work on your insecurities. Much love
@@theresakendall2169 I know you're genuinely trying to help but the entire point of their comment is to say that yeah being jealous is normal and you genuinely can't control it sometimes and telling people to work on their own insecurities kind of pisses me off sometimes because insecurities don't disappear just like that
@@user-Dollette it takes time and effort but it can be done
@@theresakendall2169 I know that obviously but that's not the point of my comment it's to say that people have insecurities and they never exactly go away some days those insecurities will pop right back into your head
When she said the first one I instantly thought of Harry Potter dating and marrying Ron’s sister lol
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@@thatlittlecozycat2600
Did you really have to pull that one my guy ?
I fully agree! Everyone should have more than just one person or just one aspect of life. Have a life outside of just one friend…have a life outside of work…outside or your significant other or spouse if you have someone…don’t expect others to pay for you, be very careful who you get involved with, romantically or even platonic relationships!
i love this lady
I think everything on this list is valid and that if your friends do these things or other toxic behaviors then that’s not good! BUT… I think it’s also important to remember that we are all growing, and that sometimes part of that growth is conversation. Instead of automatically cutting your friendship off, talk to them first. Try and work through the problem together because if the friendship makes it out, it will be stronger then ever!
POV: these are 5 things that ur friends has done to you
that *everyone* does
@@Jessica-pb1os not everyone does these
@@Jessica-pb1os yikes, you’re an awful friend. Not even a friend, just entertained by their failure.
@@cambria2006 except for the 3 and 5 one but then it's everyone i have met, except for like this one girl.
@@Jessica-pb1os oof I’ve only ever met like 5 people like this 😳
At least your a good person. I just experienced a betrayal from my friend and hurt me and broke my heart 💔 so I'm glad you're a good person. I'm dropping a follow😊
Small reminder that not all people break up because they hate each other, cheated or something like that. They could just stop loving you, or like things weren't going alright. And the most important, your ex isn't your property, you can't just expect that your friends will stop talking to them because y'all broke up.
You are mature enough for relationship, when you realize you can't be selfish, and need to talk with your partner to make things work.
Coming from a person that is probably aromantic (but still wants to be in relationship, like I love the idea of being with someone), so I'm not blinded by toxic normalized love stereotypes.
idec if they dated someone for five seconds, im not dating my friends ex 😭 i’d feel too awkward. i’m not against the sibling thing personally, but i can understand why some are. especially if you’re really close with your sibling. or something goes wrong, it can be uncomfortable cause you won’t want to lose either of them. that being said, i wouldn’t encourage any of my friends to get w my brother 💀
Honestly yea but checking up and asking them and if they say yes then go. If you do it just cuz yall r compatible it's fine and if she gave the go signal. It's especially okay if they ended in good terms. You can also just avoid hanging out together. If they broke up they broke up but yea check with them first.
I dated my friends ex it wasn’t awkward 😭
With the jealous thing I do get jealous when I see my friend hanging out with people but I'll never do anything about it I won't tell her that it hurts my feelings or anything cause it's wrong to want her to only hang out with me I just get a little jealous
her eyes are sOOOOO PRETTYYY 👀💖
"they're praying on your downfall!"
Rose: "praying on my downfall many have tried baby"
Catch me when u hear my Lamborghini go vroom vroom vroom vroom~
When we pull up I know it’s a SHUT DOWN
I actually thought I was the only ones thinking of this
ur like my dream friend. I think anyone (especially me) would die to have you as their friend! 😃
No offense but she is sexist. She hates boys
I feel conflicted about something...
So I didn't get the results I wanted for my exams due to my spiralling mental health leading up to them (depression and anxiety seriously messed me up badly for the exams) but all my friends did really well, I went out with them today and inevitably they were talking about their results. I didn't want to bring down the mood or make it about me so I just sat there congratulating them and hyping them up while trying my best not to tear up and keep a smile plastered on my face. Thing is, they know about my results but kept going on about them in front of me, even saying things like "it's so good to think we don't have to do maths again", knowing I'm planning on re-sitting maths next year. I did the right thing by keeping quiet about myself, right? It's not like I'm jealous, they worked hard and fully deserve what they've achieved but I can't help but feel they were a little insensitive. Does that make me the selfish one? Or were they partially in the wrong? But then they fully have the right to talk about their results and be happy, who am I to feel upset about that since I should be happy for them? So now I'm feeling like a bad person for feeling this way, it's not about me, it's about celebrating them, it's just tough luck that I didn't do as well and I should suck it up. Idk, am I a bad person?
Sorry for the long comment, it just came to mind from this video and I've been kinda miserable since I got home from today, its been weighing on my mind amongst other things. It's just been a bad day I guess
Ur not a bad person I hope you feel better and meet more sensitive and caring people ❤
I’m so sorry that happened, as someone’s who’s been in similar situations I know how terrible that must feel :( you’re not at all a bad person for being sad that you didn’t do as well as you’d hoped and could have if you didn’t have to deal with these problems. It sounds like your friends were a bit insensitive, but they were probably just excited about their results and you did amazing to support them and hype them up! I don’t know you but it sounds like you’re doing amazing. Dealing with mental health problems is terrible, especially at a time in your life when you need to be all there, and it’s so unfair that some people don’t have that type of problem.
Keep going, you can resit whatever exams you need when you’re maybe doing a bit better. Help and support is out there, and I hope that things will turn out okay for you :)))) remember that doing your best is enough and you don’t have to be perfect all the time :))
Man I’d be conflicted too, but you’re completely allowed to feel your emotions. They’re there for a reason, it gives us information. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, but with the small chunk of info I got from you, you’re extremely strong and I’m proud of you for still being with us today. I don’t have good advice, and I may not know you, but a wise man once said “if one can hate a stranger for no reason, then one can love a stranger for no reason” and I love you stranger, keep holding on please
I totally relate, I honestly wouldn't have a "correct" answer for you, just that when I was going through something similar, while I was happy for my friends, I just used the fact that I was Slightly upset I wasn't there with them to motivate me more this time
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You shouldn’t at all feel like a bad person. Your friends are making it seem like it’s all about them and leaving you out when they could actually encourage you by saying that it’s ok.
Spencer you are so pretty!!! you had made my life so much better!!
I used to have a friend who would get EXTREMELY jealous when I would hang out with other people, like watch me from across the playground jealous. Long story short, we’re not friends anymore, she moved to a different state, and I love my big friend group I have now ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ
1 minute ago whaaaat crazy, but i just wanted to say heyyy spencer i hope your day has been great so far and keep up the fabulous amazing work on your videos
I love the “like ew” at the end 😂
I love her facial expressions like some women are afraid to make facial expressions because of wrinkles or smth but she just so human like it helps me connect with her on a deeper level😊😊
Respectfully, in regards to number 5, a friend cannot tell you who you should and shouldn’t go out with.
Exactly, you should be able to date who you want to. My friends made fun of me for my crush and told me I shouldn’t date him but I didn’t care because they can’t tell me who and who not to date. And we’re still friends, so it’s fine.😊
Exactly, you should be able to date who you want to. My friends made fun of me for my crush and told me I shouldn’t date him but I didn’t care because they can’t tell me who and who not to date. And we’re still friends, so it’s fine.😊
Number 4, my friend I’ve known for 8 long years does this all the time, I’ve cried so much on call with her. Honestly we used to be close mows she so full of herself
Damn you deserve better and better friends
i never dated my friends ex, but they were like “talking” and after a few months me and him started liking each other and i asked permission and everything and she shipped us tried to get us to talk to each other more (pretty much everything i did for) and i literally love her sm
You are so pretty and you are so encouraging ever since I subscribed to you I felt so much better about myself
the first insult was personal 😔✊
Ik like i don’t tell my friends when I feel this way but sometimes it just feels that way
She litteraly gives the best advice ❤❤❤
I do get jealous when my friends get other friends mostly because I'm scared they'll have more fun with them and eventually leave me (it's happened too many times) but i don't EVER tell them that because I know that i dont own them and they're allowed to have friends other than me , but that feelings just there-
Your so pretty and your hair is gorgeous can I say that your the most confident person I have ever seen and really help me be more confident about myself I love you 💕
For no. 5, unless they're a fake friend and want you to stay away from a guy so they can have him
This list literally described my "best friend".
that's not a best friend
“ You’re asking for drama, like ew!”😂
i can just tell ur a true one XD
I liked this guy, who kind of liked me back and my ex friend was all like “I will help you get him” and “he likes you” and stuff. Little did I know she was talking behind my back to him and 4 days after he rejected me she starts dating him.
I was in love with him and thought she was my friend 😭💔
What a witch . Girl you deserve better don't worry karma will get her fake ass.
I'm fine with my friends having other friends but when they interrupt me and my friends conversation then we have a problem
For the last one, you can't let someone tell you who or who not to get together with.
I love you x your so pretty Tysm for everything
the first two was accurate. my ex bff used to do that to me all the time and my other friends told me to cut her off😭
About number 4, for me I struggle about not making it about me. I am working on it but I recently found out that all my life I’ve been losing friends often because I constantly made it about myself. I’ve worked on it and currently am so I sorry to anyone I did this to :(
I always felt left out as a child, and one of the biggest things I did to get out of that situation was become friends with my friends’ friends lol
your hair looks so good!!
The reason why I get mad on my friends is because they're touching too much of my personal stuff with their sticky and sweaty hands- like, Sabel, yes you Sabel, I do NOT want your hands with lotion on my stuff and then call me selfish for taking away my stuff. And then when it comes to quizzes and activities there's no more selfish miss gurl-
Don't let Sebel see this comment
Okay, I just dropped my bff, and now that I think of it, she was all of these things
I'm sorry, but I hope your feeling better
im sorry about that, im glad you dropped her and i hope ur better ♡♡
i have a similwr friend, literally everyone keeps telling me 2 just drop her but shes managed to ruin most of my friendships/ relationships so shes literally my only friend now, i already feel lile i have nobody but idk how 2 drop her because i dont want to be really alone.
Is it okay to get frustrated with your friend for befriending somebody who bullied you for years? Asking for a friend.
does your friend know they did this to you? talk to them and gauge her feelings. if you open up, chances are your friend will be respectful and see for herself that the person probably wouldn't be a good friend to her either
most people don't want to be bullied LOL, so if she doesn't see that person as a walking red flag for her own self, she is probably very ignorant and doesn't trust your word, in which case - you should make a new friend!
@@catherinehaus we went to the same school where these girls had bullied me, and she saw them doing it herself
My partner befriended his friends ex, who treated her like sh*t. I personally never thought it was alright, but my partner tends to befriend everyone, even if they're major idiots. I'm pretty sure his friend wouldn't be happy about it though.
If they know about it then definitely yes.
Just because the world says so doesn't mean you HAVE to be okay with everything
bro why are you just so true about everything!!!! i have been really struggling with drama with this one girl and she does all of this!!! thank you so much for helping me!!!! ❤
I had one of those crushes from afar that I was never going to act on, but my friend got so pissed about it because he didn’t want his friend to date me because he wouldn’t get to spend time with his friend anymore. And the same friend would get jealous and irritated when I told him about cool things I got to do. I never talked about it all the time but when I would bring it up the one time after it happened he would get so pissed. He finally cut it off but made it seem like I was the problem even though he never tried to talk through our issues. I was always willing to talk about it but they never wanted to because they said I would “lash out”.
So there is this girl I know, and boy did she control me. She seriously messed me up. She would constantly pick fights with me, make me feel terrible about myself by referring to herself as the 'pretty best friend', would make herself the center of attention 24/7, get angry and make ME feel like the bad person if I hung out with someone other than her, she would go out to places with friends and not tell me on purpose, then proceeded to brag to me about how fun it was and how they all had such a great time (I know, I wasn't invited and that wasn't the only reason that I felt a bit left out, it was also because the people she hung out with treated me like dirt too). It was obvious that she didn't seem to like being my best friend. My mum got us one of those best friend necklaces (it was actually really pretty, with a crystal and a tiny thing that said best friends in it), and she took off the thing that said best friends and then wore it. She refused to wear any friendship things, as it was 'too cringe'. I guess it was different with those other girls, wasn't it? Oh yeah! And on my birthday last year, I told her that I was thinking about going ice skating or something like that with her and my only other friend. In the end I didn't, as my family was busy, and so I was a bit bummed about not going ice skating. So I didn't end up doing anything. Next thing you know, here comes her birthday. She tells me what she's doing for her birthday. Have a wild guess what she had planned! To go ice skating! I was so excited because I loved ice skating, but then she told me that I wasn't invited. It was going to be her and one of her friends. Oh yeah, she told me the whole plan that she made with her friend. So first they would go to the mall and go shopping, then they would go ice skating, then they would come back, I would give my present to her and go home, and the other girl would stay the night and together they would try and pull an all-nighter. Without me. Idk, I just felt kind of sad that I wasn't included, especially when after the other friend and the girl had a fight, the other girl came up to me and said "you know ----- doesn't actually like you..?" And that crushed me even more. All I replied with was "I know." Shes done more, but this year I decided that I'm not dealing with her shit anymore. And what do you know? I've felt the happiest I've been in years. YEARS! I've made friends who encourage me, accept me for who I am, make me laugh so much, and influence me in the best ways possible. My skin is glowing, I have a source of income, my hair is growing, my room is tidy, I have some nice clothes, etc. And guess where she's at? She's smoking, losing friends, shoplifting, and still judging me. She actually has the audacity to talk to my sister who is FULLY with me, and is happy that I'm not friends with this girl anymore, and she tells her "why isn't ----- hanging out with me anymore?" And "omg, I bet she's actually scared of me!!!" Like no, I'm not, I just learned that I should drop the toxic people in my life.
All I'm doing is ignoring her, just so you know.
TL,DR: I knew this girl who treated me like dirt, Im not friends with her anymore, Im so happy, im feeling great, and she's throwing her life away at the age of 12 ❤
One thing I would never do is I would NEVER point out my friends’ insecurities because that’s what my friends do to me and it’s awful
Spencer has such good advice and she seems like a great friend that I need!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
That's litterally what me and my best friend do to each other everytime 😭exept for 1 and 3 bc we only have each other
The fact that my “friend” does the first one to me all the time when I hang out with my other friends especially my bsf and I tried throwing her in the garbage bin but she started getting toxic to me so yeah!
as you should make sure to throw them a trash back and say thank you for being a toxic friend
Throw them in the trash and don’t look back, just ignore her or tell another closer friend about her!
@@weneedcookies4756 and @stxkiir Thank you lol, My school hasn’t started yet but the first day I’ll try to.
My friend always talks about me behind my back but we have a friend group and I don’t feel like causing so much drama in my friend group over her she’s not worth it. But it’s also so hard to have a normal conversation with her knowing she might talk about me again.
SHES SO PRETTY
i recently just lost my friends and have been feeling really down about it
Nah, it's totally natural. Take it as a restart, a new beginning, like cleaning your house and bringing new furniture. Our lives sometimes get cleared out so we can go to the next level with new things.
I honestly feel like I am losing mine. We just haven't talked and it felt awkward the last time.
I hope things get better for you! Maybe it was for the best and you can start a new journey in your life. :)
@@waterylemon6880 thank you
@@user-kd1lp4sv7k thank you
Ok thanks for telling me this bc my bsf is with my ex and I asked her not to date him and it’s not the fist time she has dated on of my exes.🌻
Noooo :(
Thats horrible
Just calling out Taylor in tsitp…and I’m here for it
omg yesss
Girl u r so pretty
“always canceling on them”
my ex bsf: no these things arent toxic!
She didn’t want me to get with them because it was “unprofessional”…. Yelled at me constantly about it and then told me she needs to supervise my hangouts with people she knows. And would get horribly upset if I hung out with people that weren’t her.
If it’s not their ex or best friend then it’s fair game. You can’t dictate someone’s life.
I LOVE YOUR ENERGY SO MUCHH ❤️❤️
JAZMINE TAN AND SPENCER NEED TO BE BESTIES THO LIKE FRFR..😂
YESS PLS JAZ AND SPENCER R MY GO TO MOMS
What advice would you give for someone with separation anxiety?
I have the same the best you can do is tho be alone for short amounts of time that get longer and longer or have a small teddy or rock with a face that’s what I do
@@issue43yt52 thankyou for that, I will try those, thanks for helping ^^
@@Your_local_fictionkin no problem and good luck it takes a while
@@issue43yt52 ^^ it'll be worth it in the end
@@Your_local_fictionkin ok I hope for the best 😊
I might do the first one but it’s because I get attached so easily.
i love how nice you are love your vides
I get offended when my besties care about their other friends more than they do about me. That's just my love style (yes its mania)
AND NO I DONT HAVE ANOTHER LIFE OTHER THAN THEM 😭
I have so many friends like this! You're amazing ❤
Omg your lashes!!!love it
omg totally unrelated but UR LASHES ARE STUNNINGGGG❤️❤️