@@adia990 well now she is going to have cats. 😂 dis respect is never a part of any culture. in fact she is telling the world why no one should marry Western women.
After many years on earth, I've come to realize that divorce is not necessarily bad. In fact, I'd be very happy if we could ever de stigmatized it and not always think hurt and remorse with it. But instead, view it as a learning opportunity that can help us grow as individuals. To each their own
No entendí: por qué pides perdón? PD: Agradezco a todos los que se tomaron la molestia de responder mi inquietud. Ya entendí 😆 Lo entendí en realidad con la primera explicación que me dieron, a la cual le puse el correspondiente "me gusta" De nuevo: gracias, ya no es necesario que sigan explicándolo. Y si alguien tiene la misma inquietud que tuve yo, lea a los que me respondieron. Buena vida!
@@DandelionsrukMHI yeah it depends. I’m a Christian, divorcing on any grounds outside of your spouse cheating on you is definitely prohibited in the bible. So to me it’s a big deal
Shared humor is EVERYTHING in a long term relationship. Not looks, not money, not even common interests (though they are still important). A good laugh gives people hope in the darkest of times, and so a shared sense of humor plays a major role in keeping love alive.
Absolutely. It’s crucial to have the SAME sense of humour, otherwise you’ll just irritate each other with jokes that aren’t funny to the other partner.
So true. I am Jamaican my husband is English our sense of humour is sooo different....its was hard for me in the beginning but now I am use to it... Not gonna lie....marriage thought me alot and its a process....we are still together 20 years
Honestly, a person's sense of humour plays a HUGE role in relationships. There's nothing like being with someone who gets your sense of humour, it's awesome really.
She would like to "Banter & roast", in English that's called "Take the piss!!" we are masters at it & it gets you through the day. We don't take it personally, just laugh!!. If you can't handle it it just proves you are a "Light weight!"
I'm a Greek fellow, living in the UK. I used to work in a restaurant and one of my colleagues (brought up in the UK) was wondering if his language skills were a factor of the tips he received. What I explained to him is that language doesn't matter that much. What does is culture compatibility. I may be able to speak perfect English in terms of grammar vocabulary and syntax, but this doesn't make me a native speaker. What makes a native speaker is culture, humour, experiences, references to music, shows, movies, politics, philosophy etc; grammar and syntax come second. Also, things that can differentiate one native speaker from another can be slang, accent, mindset, the time, place and way one was brought up. People who have never studied a second language really struggle to get this, not because they are stupid or something, they just were never exposed to such experiences.
British dry humor is very unique...roasting others is part of it......and Asian men are raised in a culture where women are demure.. So I can see how hard it was for him to understand
@@LorothsNope, that's someone who doesn't like to play the blame game would do. Someone with some level of maturity and grace that people who always feel the need to make someone else the bad guy just won't reach.
@@Lorothsno cause playing the blame game is childish, and we should all grow out of it as adults. If there are differences, then say there's differences. Nobody got time for mind games and I commend her for not trying to make her ex husband look like a bad person.
My gf was Korean. We had the same issues as this woman. She took my jokes as being serious especially over text. It got lost in translation. She was a good woman. She said she was liberal but it was how Koreans defined liberal. Here she is more conservative than a u.s. liberal and far more conservative than a far lest liberal. She was a one man woman, loyal, wanted the guy to lead the relationship, cooked, cleaned. Things that would be conservative here in the u.s. We had good memories. I wish her the best in life.
I can’t tell if ppl in this comment section are being dshonest or something… I mean just look at her LITERALLY LOOK AT HER you think she was a good w ife or good w ife material?? She looks like she’s stuck in those teen and early tween early and she can do what eve she wants and never grew up. And listen to what she’s saying ‘banter’ she’s leaving it very ambiguous, I don’t think she was bantering, I think she was straight up disrespecting ppl or being rude, otherwise why would her husband say that. I feel sorry for the guy and I hope she can let him have his divorce in peace and hopefully his opinion of wmn or western wmn hasn’t been ruined too much by her. He made a mistake marying a wstrn wmn, rule number 1 about wstrn wmn you can have a good time with them date s leeep or just be friends but that’s it you don’t go any further than that. European wmn probably make better wfes cuz they are somewhat still traditional. I got a feeling the moment ppl read Korean, they just assumed ah it must be Asian man. Ppl don’t hold back criticism Asian mn but you know they’ll never do it with other races like blks.
@TomHardyHardly Of course she is, but she was honest about her experience being negative, and that's all that matters. She didn't give some long speel or anything. Str8 to the point. It's rare that a British person connects with an Asian person that's not from India or some Southeast Asian country like that instead of Korea or Japan.
@cerovk6000 dude she's single and on the prowl now, free from the disapproval of some controlling insecure dude. She'll have tats for the rest of her life so no judgement applies there. She seems rather smart.
@@the80386 unfortunately we live in a world where bashing our ex's is more common than not because people don't have the decency of accepting that there are 2 people in a bad relationship, so all one hears is how "horrible the ex is" versus "how horrible we both were in the relationship" so yes, if the standards have fallen it's because that is the standard.
Like you would do, so you are saying? You and all of you self entitled women think that you can act like C#*ts with out any repercussions? Enjoy your life of loneliness once guys don't want what you are trying to sell.
@@galadis123 you know, I can't help but wonder why so many narrow-minded people think they are allowed to judge people's personal choices concerning their looks. People critisize clothes, hairstyle, piercings, tattoos, being a bit chubby, being too muscular, being too skinny and a thousand other things. Does it even occur to you that there is a lot about you other people don't find great? The thing is, even if you don't like other people's personal choices, it's JUST your personal opinion which ultimatelty does not matter, not a universal truth. Who are you to tell other people what is right or wrong? Concentrate on yourself instead.
I respect her honesty. Also she didnt say nothing crazy about her ex-husband, I def respect that. I hope she finds happiness and her ex-husband does as well.
I have ZERO issue with anybody marrying anybody as long as parties are consenting (and able to consent), but I feel like acknowledgement of cultural differences can be misconstrued as coming from a place of xenophobia or racism. For sure, cultural differences can be really rough especially if you broaden the definition of culture to include stuff like socio-economic or political divides. I think divides can be bridged it just takes work.
At least her Western culture & ex-husbands Eastern culture shared 1 thing in common. Both cultures found all those tattoos on both woman GROSS AS-F. Because placing Such permanent "marks of the beast" & "scarlet letters" on ones temple (body) symbolizes a life full of poor decisions, trauma, low class upbringing & behavior.. Such "voluntary self-placed ink scars" are almost always relegated to ppl in society considered outcastes, Lepers, & untouchables in both cultures 😂😅😢!!
@emuhunter1 Yea, anybody saying that has never married someone from a different culture😂(the xenophobia crap). My wifes brazilian and the difficulties definitely come from the cultural differences. That being said, I knew we could figure them out. I'm not surprised her marriage failed tho. Western women from the UK and US tend to think they'll be able to implement their culture equally or theirs will take priority. That usually isn't the case with foreign men. I bet you 5 bucks she had heated arguments over how she communicates isn't disrespectful in her country and him being aggravated saying "this isn't your country". When I visit Brazil, I assimilate while I'm there. When my wifes in the US we still celebrate brazilian holidays and eat brazilian food, but we're in the US, you have to deal with US people and implementing brazilian values will literally piss everyone off that works any form of customer service
It's funny you mention that it has to do with western women marrying out.@@Joshpower57 Because I've noticed the same. Usually when it's the man that's western, he's likely to far more easily accommodate for the foreign lifestyle.
People underestimate racial differences. I know southern italians who were born in northern lands and they behave as the classical stereotype of southerns. Mass immigration of southerns is the main reason of "racism" here, especially toward our heritage, and, as a response, Lombardia keeps wanting to be independent from the state of Italy.
Had a bit of this experience in Korea. I lived there for four years and met some amazing friends, but for the most part just found it easier to date other expats because of the way that our cultures clicked. I wish I’d met more Korean people who had grown up overseas- it would have been really cool to talk with them about their experiences and thoughts on life there.
as an asian who dated an english man, the cultural differences are huge and exactly as she said. a lot of our arguments were also about how we spoke. basically westerners are way more frank/direct and for an east asian it's very rude, vice-versa he always found me too indirect when other asians would easily have known what i meant.
I am dating an asian right now. The way I deal with cultural differences is to let her takeover. I take her shopping exclusively in chinatown. Sometimes I just give her 10-$30,000 on a particular month so she can buy what she wants. Almost 1 year of dating so far. She is happy.
She's explaining how she was a C#*t and you give her respect. She's in a another country and she didn't want to accept or respect their culture, but she's the good one... Idiot mindset.
The tattoos and her dress are why she hasn't had Mr RIGHT yet Take it from an older male Would these young good church going or honest blue collar men want you NO They both look like they lived in the red light district which is unattractive to take home n show her to family
I’m in an interracial marriage. It’s not easy especially in the beginning because of cultural differences but we were able to manage our differences. We’ll be 25 years this coming Sunday! ❤
I personally feel cultural differences can be overcome by talking it out and trying to understand one another in full. But never ever allow yourself to be disrespected. The respect for each others culture should go both ways. @aycin1730
@@lisabeaumont Ideally, your partner is your #1 supporter in life. At least anecdotally, it seems that most people do not want to hear their #1 supporter regularly being negative about them, even in a joking way. Life is hard enough without anyone saying anything negative. I recently met a Scot at a Euros game who had the best bagpipe cover I had ever seen, and we talked about it for a minute (he had made it from a polar bear plush toy). He said his wife had commented: "Yer on telly with yer bagpipe AGAIN!" That was truly a masterclass in banter, because she wasn't bringing him down; she was telling him that "people love your bagpipe so much that you've been on television a lot with it, and journalists want to share this cool thing you made with more people."
@@lisabeaumont I do not want my spouse bantering with me. I don't want her talking s**t roasting people. My spouse brings me calm and harmony. I do not want a negative spouse who talks bad about people (unless its true).
@@azntactical6487 I hear you, and of course you're not alone in that, although she's not saying that she talks shit about people nor that her roasting it's done in a negative way - it's a form of humour. Banter isn't straight insults, it's a form of playful teasing designed to provoke playful interaction. My point is that this humour is really normal and widely accepted in the UK.
I feel like this is one of the dangers of dating when you’re in a foreign country. People feel relief to meet someone who is kind to them, who they have a good time with in a foreign place, and forget to do the usual homework of making sure there is true compatibility, similar underlying values, even the same sense of humor. I really hope they both end up happy with someone they’re more compatible with.
My late Chinese/Thai wife and I were having supper with her cousin. We were both disabled,her in a gunfight and myself in a construction accident. He remarked that we were a good couple. I said couple? We have three of everything. Three feet,three legs,three arms,and three ears. My wife burst into laughter holding on to me as I too laughed. Her cousin smiled and remarked it was fortunate we found each other, nobody else would share our madness.
Why would she get tattoos n dress like that She could have looked all natural n got ANY MAN SHE EVER WANTED Alot of good guys YOU WOMEN WANT N SEE don't want you because you are too slutty n have tattoos and those MR RIGHTS have female n male family members they LOOK UP TOO n were raised by Would they want to bring home someone who doesn't value herself NO because it's dishonor to then n their family to do so
I’m Filipino but migrated to the US when I was 10,I can match your energy and vibe I love and enjoy bantering that’s what me and my siblings and cousins it’s all fun and games we don’t find it disrespectful we have thick skin we’re not sore losers 🤣🤣
Same I'm Filipino too but living in the Philippines. Me and my cousins are like that too. Make a lil bit offensive jokes but as long as it's between us lol were taught to have thick skins indeed 😂
This is about culture, not race. An elderly black friend of mine who is married to a black woman for over 40 years said when his wife first met his family she ran out of the house crying because she wasn’t used to people being so blunt and how everyone clowned each other. But they made it work and are happy.
You can tell that she loves the man. How ? She self harmed. Her body is full of tattoos... and that is whereby, she avoided speaking up... and then harm her beautiful look.... and this is a sign, isn't it ?....She looks like a Korean mafia.. and doesn't realise this is affecting her so much as well.
Well when you're the issue you probably wouldn't tell strangers with a camera that. She's a Walking Red Flag, once you work at a Red Light District you can Never Leave!
They knew each other for a year before getting married and divorced after 3. It took 3 years before they fully couldn’t take it anymore how incompatible they were. If they had dated for compatibility instead of wanting a marriage fantasy, they would’ve avoided all the legal stress. I don’t understand how people get married so soon.
Gee. It's almost like cultural hemogeny and preservation of it, and sovereign peoples wanting to keep together with their people for the very reason to keep the world diverse and interesting is a thing. The late great Muhammad Ali and Malcolm X knew it. Find their interviews and listen to their messages. "The k A L 3rgi plan" is real and has been happening over the past 100 years to destroy western civilization and there's way too many people falling for it which is why we're done for. There is a small, very small group of racial supremists who want this and are orchestrating it. There once was a people with a leader who stood against it, and their punishment was near extinction. there's a documentary you need to see: E V R O P A: The Final Battle
It is a cultural difference, eastern women are expected to be more subservient as well as modest and reserved something that does not include “banter” I couldn’t date a traditional eastern women because I prefer that western culture
@@elliotcarter2242 they dated for a year before getting married to be honest just looking at her there are a lot of red flags and I’m genuinely curious how much they hid from each other prior to getting married. I find it hard to believe the behavior her husband disliked was know over the course of the one year dating and if he hated it why get married. If she was hiding her true self that would cause any marriage to fail regardless of culture.
No shit, even a small tattoo in Korea is a black list to 90% of jobs. Parents literally rejected their kids if they decided to do a tattoo cause its associated with criminal and antisocial behavior +strong influence of patriarchy +being a foreigner in a above average racist country, the guy she married must have been desperate...
I’m a Chinese, moved to USA when I was 16, meet my Puerto Rican wife when I was 17 in high school, now I’m 29.. been married for 6 years and now we have 2 kids and living in a blessed life, culture conflict is definitely there but understanding each other is the key.
Well, Malaysia is a multicultural country but I guess thats what make her to a bit more accepting to cultural differences I guess... But congratulations for your still strong marriage...
No it's proof they should have spent more time together before getting married, so they would have a better understanding each other and the challenges of the relationship.
She is very direct, but the way she delivers her speech is very polite and that's a good thing. Because some people when they are too honest, just speak in a very unpleasant way to hear. She is honest and, direct but at the same didn't use any unnecessary tone or be harsh about it
I struggle with this thanks for a new prospective. Was raised to be very honest and blunt but calling people out for being disingenuous comes off as judgmental and perhaps it is. I was raised by “saints” from the hood around “devils”.
probably in the interview she remained a bit reserved, but she did say she liked banter (which i also find fun), but i could see where a normally really reserved person may find bluntness and/or banter disrespectful.
@@emyf9197 yeah because people automatically know how getting into a relationship with someone of a different culture will play out. Sometimes it’s fine and other times it’s not. Just like relationships in general.
She also didn’t highlight her faults. You see she said she wants a westernized Korean. She must’ve not been able to use her western witchery on him. She doesn’t like the way his upbringing made him to be a more strict and respectful person. She has to use jokes as a form of abuse and then hide it behind the idea that it’s “a joke”. She was trying to do it for 4 years it seems
@shakebackj9362 She didn't highlight his faults either. She didn't place blame on either of them and was super respectful. She even still called him her husband, she clearly loved/loves him. She just pointed out that there were cultural differences between them, that often led to conflict, and eventually caused a big rift. And because of that, she wouldn't want to date a Korean man again unless he was more versed in western culture. Saying she uses jokes as a "form of abuse" is outlandish. I couldn't imagine a relationship where I wasn't able to poke fun of my girlfriend and bully her a bit. And I expect the same back. It's light-hearted good natured fun. It's a cornerstone of most male friendships and if properly done it'll strengthen your relationship with a woman. Stop fetishizing Korean culture and hating on western culture to the point where you're gonna be blatantly misogynistic and hateful for no reason.
Roasting back at her would be pretty personal for me -- “sorry, I wasn’t listening to you at all… I was busy wondering if your two year old niece drew these on your skin” 😉. We wouldn’t have been together a night before she was out of there
I think the point is that if two people were raised in the same area but have different skin color it’s just interracial. That’s a huge difference from dating someone who was raised across the world with completely different values
But it is interracial marriage? And you don't need to be Across the world to have completely different value. Just look at the red and blue. But seriously the whole thing is on Korean men who purpose to her. She's full of tattoo and it would be extremely dumb if he expect her to be anywhere near traditional wife material
I am German and my spouse Chinese. The biggest challenge is eating habits for us, sometimes I like to cook my comfort food she doesn't enjoy as much. Occasionally she would cook soups for breakfast which I am not used to eat early in the morning. When she first met my parents she felt they were a bit "cold" towards her as in china you give more attention to a daughter in law, this was a big disappointment for her but I explained that in Germany people open up a bit slowly not like in other parts of the world. Apart from that we are happily married and follow the universal rule of mutual respect 🙏
It’s the seemingly ‘small’ things I wouldn’t think about. How you seen Uyen’s channel? I can’t remember the full name. She is Vietnamese dating a German guy and living in Germany - a lot of what you shared reminded me of them
@patrickcutsis9929 I had one Best Friend since i was 21 met my husband when I was 26, we were so close, we’d always spend alone time from our partners and go to clubs together (funny we never danced, just liked the music and atmosphere) and we’d hold hands a lot but we honestly were just friends. I never was attracted to him physically just not my type (my husband and him are like night and day in every aspect. Down to height, culture, language, etc) but anytime I was with him I felt 5, like I was in kinder and he was a friend. That’s how innocent our friendship was. We spoke about our issues sometimes but his form of therapy is just sitting in peace and I provided that for him, we didn’t need to say anything, he just wanted peace and happiness and so most of our hang outs were this way. I am now a momma so he lost that time with me since then. almost 10 years ago; I got more into my career, my marriage and being a momma but we still talk and we still go out on occasional “dates”. He is a family friend and comes to a lot of our family events and is greatly loved by my family and my husband and my child. I think these clean and innocent platonic relationships do exist, it’s just not common.
@@weareirishdogsas a Chinese who grew up with other Chinese ppl, i can assure u that that's not normal. Only women hold each others hands and it's usually in a playful way or to keep each other safe while walking down the street. I'm sry that u got played by her. If she have any relatives that knew about this, she would be the hot topic among them for months, probably years depending on how scandalous it is💀 (good humiliation revenge of u ever want to)
@@GoldenTiger01This is not how she said it. You could also think it was her inability to be more tactful to her husband from what she told. There was no connotation that suggests one of these interpretations over the other.
@@GoldenTiger01sometimes my pretty cynical sense of humor can genuinely offend people and I've found that some people really don't like it. It's just the way it is. On my part I've tried to tone it down but it's just my personality so it'll slip through nonetheless.
English banter is on another level. I'm North European and I live in England. It took me a year to understand that my bfs father isn't a total rude b@stard. It's just high level English banter.
I despise that type of humor ! Wouldn't tolerate it for a day even. And if course I would NEVER dare to "roast" my significant other. It's just so rude!
@@Kathy_1991 i agree. People who frequently roast others dont even have bad intentions at all most of the times but the receiver might not always be in the mood. There are times when a word of support can mean a great deal but instead you most likely to be joked at, since thats their way of interacting, making you feeling even worse... "oh but its just a joke"... Really? You can be better than that
@@nunodfes2 Exactly. You put my thoughts into words better than I did! Maybe the word 'despise' is a bit strong 😄 But for sure it's not my type of humor! So I guess is very important to pay attention to those kind of things before starting a relationship with someone.
This is actually quite common, Alot of countries cultures struggle with English-British humour-banter and mannerisms especially in Marriages which leads to divorce sometimes.
It's true, and not just for marriages. Europeans and other foreigners are always sensitive to the banter that other English and Scottish people engaged in with me, and they prefer to use what the French call ‘mauvaise foi,’ which I can only describe as an infantile way of trying to protect people's feelings. To put it simply, British people banter by saying things which are true, most other cultures banter by saying things which aren't true.
@@AzUniverzumUraesParancsoloja I love Hungary; I'm a polyglot and Hungarian is a language I want to learn next, it's so unique (I guess because its origins aren't Indo-European)
Big time true, I'm with Vietnamese woman, I'm straight up American. I mean she was raised in Vietnamese but I have mad respect for her for all she's been through.
Her journey will lead her to cats and wine. No real man will accept continuous disrespect from their woman, just like no real woman accept continuous disrespect from her man. Mutual respect is the basis of any healthy relationship and she's clearly unable to have one.
I’m an English man married to an Iranian woman and both living in USA. Been with her for 20 years, been married for 17 years and it works. Just got to have patience, understanding of each others cultures and language. Her parents look at me as a son they never had and we couldn’t be happier!
To those saying it’s not about cultural differences, it absolutely is! Even in the USA, British international students are known for having cruel humour. It’s their standard but perceived as quite rude and abrasive everywhere else
This is a channel that appeals mostly to westerners. So naturally the audience will see nothing wrong with the westerner, but see everything wrong with the non-westerner.
to be fair, non westerners can get fucked for all anyone from the west cares for the most part. Westerners think truly they are the main character, specially americans@@willia3r
I think Europeans in general have a rather cruel sense of humour…and the further east you go, the more morbid it becomes. Except Germans ofc…their humour is no laughing matter xD
@willia3r idk just sounds like she's a disrespectful a-hole. RUclips comments are reflections of what is relatively diverse western opinions in real life. Goes for every stereotype we project from small sample of those prone to make comments.
@@ReapeX Correct, a lot of money thrown away just for a bunch of papers, a title and a party at which you can't let loose. I have never seen a man as excited for the wedding as a woman.
I'm Korean. I find that my attitude changes with the language I use. I tend to be extremely polite when I speak Korean, adhering to Korean culture. But whenever I speak English, my sarcasm cannon is back in full force.
@@msg4alexandreTrue, even though I speak mostly with my mother/first language, whenever I'm thinking about something most of the time my mind talks in English, not my mother language, I thought it was wierd as first but now I don't really pay much attention. I've also noticed that I mutter to myself in English more than my first language 😅
That's fairly common in multilingual people I'd say! I'm more outgoing in french, and I'm very shy in Spanish, even though I live in a Spanish speaking country and it's because I was socialized in french as a kid
Sense of humor has to match, absolutely. My husband and I are from two very different cultures (our families are), but we have a lot of common ground and our marriage is strong and so fun! I love how honest she was. I hope she finds the right fit for her
Finally a video about the difficulties of mixed marriages. Only love is actually not enough to keep a relationship. There are so many other angles to look at it to see if it will last.
Being in an intercultural relationship requires a lot of learning about each other, a LOT of willingness to compromise from both sides, respect for each other's views, lots of communication about how each culture does things, and a determination to keep working at it no matter what. It's not easy. Been married to my husband for 13 years. 3 kids later. We've both had to learn and grow a LOT to make it work. I'm bilingual. I know his food, customs, way of seeing the world, yet we STILL have things come up and conflicts over cultural differences. Its can be done. But it will require you to be willing to do the extra work that a couple from the same culture won't have to do
@@viciousrapeWhy do people always interpret this as a dig at normal couples and always respond with the same "normal couples do this too" like where did the original comment say normal couples don't also have challenges? My partner was brought up in the same country as me and even I can acknowledge that there are different struggles inter-cultural couples face that I don't even have to think about in my day to day life.
Thanks for this analysis! Having lived abroad for years, all this rings true. I’m curious as well to hear what you consider advantages of cross-cultural relationships. I find that, when you don’t share the same mother tongue, you make fewer assumptions and really dig deep (assuming both ppl are open-minded and willing to do that). As such, while it does require more work, there’s also the potential for a deeper connection and richer understanding… seeing the world through a different lens. What do you think?
@@viciousrapeyes but for totally different reasons. The being from different culture adds a whole new level of stress. If you marry someone with similar attitudes, morals, values, etc it’s easier.
She seems very honest, and perhaps a lesson learned that before two individuals get married, they really need to understand each other, and then decide if they are compatible.
They dated for 4 years that's enough time to know each other. Well divorce rate is very high among westerners so it's normal. In America they are getting divorced all the time and they share same culture
@@amirastar8924 they should have went to counseling, and if her personality/behaviors annoyed him, he communicated this to her, yet she was unwilling to understand/modify, then I would assume that would always be a "bone of contention" (impasse in the relationship).- Jen Gable (Justeson)
She married a korean sugar daddy. Nice british girl like her knows her way around town. Although Idk why she would ruin herself with these tattos it’s shameful
Woow RUclips is censoring my comment when I didn’t say anything offensive and was completely on topic.. ok weirdos .. guess i got a bit too political idk what that was about. very strange
My wife is American but was brought up in Mexico and the US. I am German and I was brought up in Italy/Germany & Mexico. We just celebrated our 14 anniversary 🤟
well the difference is you guys are 18 strong that means 2006 so you guys are 80-90s a very commited kinda well raised generations and this girl is about 25-26
The point wasn’t to bash.. or say she’s wrong. Some differences are just unreconcilable. The point is that they are still tough to deal with and even after 18 years it’s tough to deal with sometimes.
@@SoA-Horseman It may be tough to deal with, but do you guys find a way to work things out and become better people because of them mostly...? Lots of people rather not work or talk it out and split without barely trying.
I’m from Finland and my husband is American. Our languages are very different, it helps that my husband has learned Finnish well so he understands how the language works. But there is definitely times when I speak English very direct, forget all the politeness haha, like we do in Finland. Thankfully he understands and helps me get better haha. Languages work differently and you might sound rude or unpolitical even if you don’t mean it, that’s why is important to study the culture and language your partner is from.
Finns and Americans probably aren't even half as different as Koreans and English. Korean culture is basically the opposite of most British people's culture and personality. Koreans love "respect" and seniority, in England it can be considered haughty and arrogant to demand respect the way Koreans do. Especially someone like this lady, who's clearly more of a free spirit than most.
Learning to do small talk as a finn is a real struggle. It feels so pointless to me. A ritual of meaningless questions no one even cares about, but just for the sake of it. But life more than just what i see and feel right, there are other people with cultural backgrounds and habits.
So relatable; we're an interracial couple as well and fell in this trap. We thought "cultural difference" are almost philosophical in nature and we could tackle them. Turns out they are almost invisible: it's the little shait like the way you phrase criticism, which observations you keep to yourself, how you introduce each other to friends and so on. We also almost divorced because it seemed hopeless, the endless little disrespects that turned out to be a cultural difference. Though we made it, going strong into year 7 ... still, we have to communicate a LOT to make it work. Depending on your personality or lifestyle, I can see that being to much :o
Sorry for my bad English. I am French and so is my partner, but his parents are Moroccan. He therefore has a dual culture. And even though he was born and raised in France, he carries the weight of his parents' traditions and sometimes benefits a lot from them. For example, he was used to his mother and sister doing all the household chores at home. And when we moved in together, he expected me to cook all his meals, wash and put away his clothes, etc. Only that's not how my parents operated when I was a child. . They share all the household chores and my father never treated my mother like a housewife. So obviously I expect the same respect from my partner. We argued a lot the first year because of that. But luckily today he understood all that. I have a much more demanding job than his (I'm a nurse). And I work a lot of overtime. So everyone does their share of household chores, also depending on their schedule. The good thing is that he stands up to his parents on a lot of things. Indeed, we do not want to get married right away and prefer to devote our money to the well-being and future education of our soon-to-be-born daughter. And his parents don't understand, they harass us to get married before birth. But my partner doesn't give in on this point, a marriage is expensive to organize and that's not what will offer us a better future. And my parents only got married after 10 years of living together, after having 4 children together and are still together after 38 years (28 years of marriage). My in-laws told us the other day that if we don't get married, they will look at our daughter as a bastard. My partner told them that if they react like that and disrespect us and our daughter, they are not ready to see us again. It is they themselves who are punishing themselves because they will no longer see their son, and will never meet their only grandchild.
Married to my Belarusian Wife 17 years now. If you're going to marry a person from another culture it can't just be your way or their way. As with any marriage that works, it takes a lot of communication, compromises, and strength. Marriage is supposed to be the culmination of two people to one. There are things I'm far better than my Wife and she follows behind me in those instances. Just the same there are things my Wife is far better at and I follow her at those times which don't happen without discussions. In this way we support each other. It gets multiplied with us being from different culture's which is part of our discussion. As everyone should be doing, you discuss bringing your experience and knowledge to the table just as your partner does, make the best decision you can and move forward. It really isn't difficult when egos aren't allowed.
I am also married to a Belarusian beauty. 1 year and 4 months. The bicultural aspect was definitely a challenge at first, and coupled with completely opposite personalities, it has taken a lot of work for us both to come to the middle with each other. Blessings to you and yours
@@obesedog23why did you decide to marry someone with a personality that is the polar opposite of yours? I’d think that’s the first thing to check for, compatible personalities.
@@Tammy8823 my wife and I are also opposites. That does clash sometimes but having two very energetic and headstrong personalities is IMHO way worse than just one of them and the other being much more mellow. Perhaps not opposite, but different.
Honestly, a lot of people believe sarcasm is playful but many fail to realize that sarcasm to an extent can be honest and thus hurtful. When it is honest, it is the equivalent of digging up old bones and tormenting. To an extent, it is a sign of emotional immaturity.
Life and marriage is so hard that couples NEED to develop, cultivate and master their sense of humor. It makes everything better not to take things personal and too serious. Laughter is a must in relationships.
She grew up in a very feminists and female dominated country of England, while he grew up in a very male dominated country of South korea. They will disagree!!
People So often, this idea of roasting blows up in people's faces. I don't know where this idea of being unkind to your friends is good. I see my niece doing it. And it leads to so much drama and falling out. People have to cultivate their own sense of humor as well. Instead of expecting whatever they say to be found funny, or gotten. And humor isn't necessary at all times. One problem I see, especially with young people. It's always been an issue I think in the US it was from sitcoms and now tiktok skits ect. People think it's suppose to be like comedy shows. Anyway sometimes the jokes don't work and you have to adapt to how the person takes them and think of how to make better jokes. If it's just for yourself and you're literally insulting your friends and lover, then you're just being a jerk.
That is a cultural difference. Seriousness is taken as a priority in Korea culturally. The U.K. the banter is non-stop, nothing is taken seriously minus a few things. Then again, most of the British I met were glass cannons. They love to give it, but they can't take it.
@@the_greatest_unicorn "Not every marriage will work unfortunately" Then why marry? Did you know when you marry you have to say "till death do us apart" like it is a mantra? I believe that mantra of till death do us apart is a general "language" on every countries about marriage!
@@the_greatest_unicornthere is no f*cking learning curve. Years of life pass by and you get closer to death. Better you think before you act, stick to your decisions and don't waste your life away with reckless action.
My hubby and I are from totally different cultural backgrounds …. We have been married for 20 years …. You know why ? The first time I bantered and roasted him… he simply smiled and gave me back …. Double …we sat down and decided not to do things that would hurt our sentiments…. Our respect for each other grew and we have lasted since ….
Love this! Once I realized the way I tried to lovingly tease/banter with my husband hurt him I stopped. Banter is fun but it's not fun enough to sacrifice a relationship over it. Respecting the other person's feelings and boundaries really makes a difference!
@@InsouciantPlatypusI’d like a relationship where there’s a lot of banter. She should’ve shown that side of her before getting married so he can realize she may not be the right one for him.
Together for 4, married for 3. 1 year of dating before marriage isn’t really a great setup for success lol. It makes me wonder if she married him to get to stay there and not go back to her home country.
@@Timbermannetjein this economy, it’s hard for people to raise children in a good environment. There are wars nearby, house prices are expensive, grocery as well etc. Plus because of capitalism and social media, people are focused on wanting to make luxury money and spend it only on themselves. They do not want to share money with their children.
British humor is fun, the repetitive snarky comments by a intentionally mean Brit is sooo worn out after hearing 5 decades of it as an American traveler. I just had to be breathing and the nearest American in their vicinity for SOME Brits. Same ancient trope, different day, week, decade, lifetime. At the age of 63, it's so low in the humane scale, bottom of the barrel by now, it sounds like an inherent disease in their DNA. We don't even like to talk about it American to American, it's far too ignorant for a country that is known for its excellent educational opportunities. I don't think some of the young acting talent in Britain realize that they are insulting the very USA fans that also help to make them famous. We call it, " Biting the hand that feeds you". 🙄
Well, it all happened in Korea. So, she has to know that she has to be the one to adapt to the culture, unless an agreement is set before marriage. If the husband went to England instead, it would be his fault for not getting UK way of humour
The struggle is real. I had the same (but different cultures), and while the cultural difference was not the main issue, at times, it felt like it was up there. Personally, I wouldn't write off dating someone from the same culture, but I'd definitely have my reservations.
As an American who dated a girl from the UK for 6 years, they do like their banter. I spent a lot of time with her plus other people in England who would talk shit as a normal conversation instead of small talk or topics of interest, I swear. I had to get used to it and I was a heroin addict criminal, not a softie.
Obviously I don't know her or her husband. But I think I can definitely understand what kind of difficulties they had in the relationship. I am Korean and was born and raised in Korea. Now I'm married to a British wife. We lived in Korean for the first 2 years of our time together and moved to UK. Now we're into the 7th year of our marriage. The cultural difference is huge. Before moving to UK we used to argue more. Now that I think of it the main reason was me not understanding my wife's culture. Like this person said the way people talk is completely different between Koreans and British. There are plenty other examples, for example, Koreans value their career a lot. Don't get me wrong, people here take their career seriously, but it's another level in Korea seriously. And the unreasonably strong hierarchy in work places combined with the obsession to their career of Koreans(guys), causes a lot of problem in international marriages. I think the best decision I've ever made is to move to UK, it definitely played a huge role to keep our relationship strong and healthy.
perhaps Korean men like to be "real men" as per their cutural heritage, and in the west men tend to be a little too efeminate compared to our asiatic upbringing and tradition. I'm not Korean, but Malaysian men (I am a Malay) aren't too different with their traditional role and expression. to many this isn't PC, but the entire world isn't a reflection of the western norms and customs. if one or both partners have conflict due to inability to compromise from time to time, then it's bound to end sooner than later.
Guys I’ve known here in the UK are real men in their own way, just like Korean men are in their cultural context, as far as I can see. I think it’s just the difference on what’s perceived as manly.
Lmfao you're joking, right? Being obsessed with your career and putting it above your wife and family is being a "real man"? Please. Men in the west are "too effeminate" yet took over the entire world, including both your country, and Korea. Being a "real man" means taking care of your family over EVERYTHING else, not letting b(_)IIsh!+ traditions and work tear it apart.
Billions of couples centuries & eons ago have gone thru the same thing. Both parties need to be on the same page, about anything & everything. Money, vacation, where to live, etc. My sister & her husband, brother & his wife, are going thru the same exact thing. They constantly argue about how to spend money, this n that. That's why I'm single. No woman to constantly nag me, about anything.
I'm very traditional and I met a traditional Korean woman. There are cultural differences but we basically never argue. Been together over two years now, will get married next year.
Wrong. Moral of the story is: you’re gonna have a lot problems if you are too culturally different. Like she said, she wouldn’t date any more Korean guys, but not a problem if the guy was raised in a western country.
roasting is not joking. The difference is massive. If you guys like to be an asshole under the guise of joking, go to an island all together and leave the rest of the planet alone. oh, wait, England is an island!
I empathise with the situation despite my Korean wife being a first generation born Australian. My issues I had when we were first married was my mother in law, and her uncle. But, stayed married since 2007. It's been a bumpy road, but it's definitely workable, and everyone loves each other now, I wish her all the best ❤
She grew up in a very feminists and female dominated country of England, while he grew up in a very male dominated country of South korea. They will disagree!!
@@jeffjohnson5053 Spot on. This is what so many people are missing, she was being polite saying it was cultural differences. When she said she would date a Korean man from the West it gave away. The cultural difference she is talking about is the level of misogyny.
Brutally honest and realistic. Even in countries with mass migration like Canada, people brought up in vastly different family cultures can clash. Cross cultural marriages can be very successful of course, but if there is a clash during dating, it should not be overlooked.
You think an American/Canadian couple would have many culture issues. Feels like we do a lot of similar things culturally. But if you put gravy on my fries we’re done!
@@Chris-qg2un But yeah, American/Canadian culture is mostly the same. Northern US and Canada is more similar than Northern US and the Deep South for example. The major differences are opinions on health care, immigration and gun control I would think.
My country's newspaper interviewed a Chinese lady who married an Indian who offended her parents when he 1st visited her house, since he started eating before them, because while in Indian culture, guests eat before the hosts, but in Chinese culture, more senior people eat 1st instead
I'm from Texas and I married an Okie and the cultural differences are really rough...especially on OU-Texas football weekend lol. Seriously....the two "cultures are very similar. It's just that Okies have the American Indian element...TX does not. Texas has its proud Confedereate past....Okies have no clue about that. Both cultures generally vote Republican...both are big on oil and gas both know 😅 what horses and cattle are for lol.
As an American married to a Salvadoran, there are mini communication and cultural differences. It makes the important part of communication in a marriage even more critical. I can say a word and use it how I was brought up to use it and she could find it incredibly offensive and if we don’t talk about it and she doesn’t bring it up. She’s hurt and I think everything’s fine.
Isn't that just the usual shit besides it happening more often? Like I experienced thinking everything was okay but the woman just never spoke up and instead told me everything was okay. How am I supposed to know?
I am not surprised at all.No offense. I’m an American I married my wife from China and what has kept us together now for 25 years is the fact that I learned all of the nuances of her culture. When we met, I spoke her language fluently, and because of the mutual respect and effective communication, we are still together till this day.
Yeah, this girl clearly wanted the Korean guy to throw off his culture and follow her western (lack of) social values. Eventually the sexual flame went out and they were left with nothing to show for.
Communication is the most important thing a a human... Speaking andrelayin thoughts into other people's minds, and that they understand, is one of the most important factors of being human. Bad language and negativity in speech is de-evolutionary. Learning high intellectual words... (beyond the "thousand word" vocabulary) this also helps humanity grow.
As someone who is married to someone from a different culture, it is extremely challenging but extremely rewarding because one constant through all cultures is love. If you are able to listen, be open minded, compermise, accept you may be wrong, understand, and care, then it makes that loving bond ever stronger. The longer I’m married to her the more I learn and the more I love.
My husband is English and I am from the Philippines. In December 2023 we celebrated our 31st wedding anniversary. Communication and understanding are two of the many reasons why like yours our marriage has worked.
@@davawenyabarnt3234 Communication only works if both sides are willing to listen. When one side always thinks he/she is the correct one, welp. That's as far as communication can help. Narcissists are everywhere.
@@davawenyabarnt3234I'm sure Filipina woman just choosing white foreign men just to have access abroad and have permanent residency abroad, facts!, That's why most Filipina woman just endure it to have a decent and formal life in a foreign country even though the relationship is too toxic
@@allhailriseTruth, just because there's a communication or what's so ever and the culture is completely different there's no such thing will work, you only endure it😂😂, the longer you live the more you realized that you choose a path where it makes your life complicates🤣🤣
The banter thing is very relatable. I’m British in Japan and had to really tone it down, not only with my Japanese friends and acquaintances but with ex-pats from other countries too. The Aussies and Kiwis are always down though. 🇦🇺 🇳🇿
I'm. an American man dating a woman in the Philippines for 2 years and I can relate to this woman's experience. I found that in most Asian cultures they really don't enjoy verbal banter that is questioning or a little sarcastic
Yup and facts calmly stated and possible alternative solutions are also anger magnets... there's a real guilt blame product culture here. If it's angrily states they tend to find it less offensive if you have to do it. It gets better results even though it contrary to a calm mature well developed persona of a westerner. It's fuckikg maddening Everything that is mature wise real and signs of a develope personality of use is literally the bane of an ant colony mind set...
ur woman is most probably one of the conservative quiet ones. Pinays are generally ok with " karinyo brutal" and can banter, not unless ur "jokes or bantering" is condescending. I know many foreigners, especially from western countries, whose superiority complex" comes up, totally not funny jokes at all.
@@jettereq272 superiority complex ?????? Maybe Piniys need to look in the mirror and address their culture of being sensitive to any constructive criticism and thier lack of any accountability for their actions
Yeah, many latino communities also have it and they take it to the level where people have permanent nicknames for a defining characteristic or a trait they’re missing. Like “Fat” “Ugly” “Skinny” “Man who’s wife chested on him” you name it, but that type of humour is often associated by some other people within the same community as “lowly” behavior and got rid of it completely.
Because if you do that in a nation that is still very much a real country, you get stabbed up by the man's family. Orientals look out for each other no matter how civilised they seem to western eyes. They are civilised, but not doormats like our western men have become.
As an Englishman myself and dating a Taiwanese girl while living in Taiwan, the problem is that we’re supposed to show love and support to our partners so banter or “roasting” may at times contradict that demonstration of support or care. Both sides should adapt to save any misunderstandings or misinterpretations.
She was married to an Asian man living in an Asian country acting like a Brit while interacting with his Asian peers. It was bound to fail. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
@@GoogleIsNotYourFriendI think that’s what he said 😂 did you not read his comment. You’re supposed to compromise. Unless you’re saying he’s a man and that’s why it’s working and she’s a woman and she’s too emotional.
@@GoogleIsNotYourFriend there are a lot of issues being a man from a liberal culture dating/marrying a woman from a conservative culture. Not only the mutual hurt feelings, disrespect and outright rejection of your values, but you don’t even qualify as a man in the eyes of her family.
@@aliciatargaryen Facepalm. If you are going to make a snarky comment like "did you not read his comment" you should really make sure that you understand the conversation. so you don't look like a fool. The point is that they couldn't compromise because the level of misogyny in Korean culture made them incompatible. She was being polite when she said "cultural differences" and that they had arguments about her "banter" because he felt it was "disrespectful". Same reason she said she would date a Korean man from the West. Nothing to do with her being a woman and too emotional. 🤡
I like that she didn't drag him, she just acknowledged there were cultural differences and sometimes it's too much.
But she still didn’t take accountability for her actions. Feminism at its finest!
@@Jack_rabbits_sage_brushshe doesn’t need to stop the banter for the man. Thats her personality lmfao don’t bring buzz words into this
@@Jack_rabbits_sage_brush FML! 🙄
@Jack_rabbits_sage_brush typical man who doesn't understand feminism or how good relationships work
@@adia990 well now she is going to have cats. 😂 dis respect is never a part of any culture. in fact she is telling the world why no one should marry Western women.
The dude is really strong for listening to British jokes for 4 years
Good thing she wasn’t American, he’d be bored listening to how magnificent they were🤣
this in itself is a very british joke tbh
Love in it😭😂
@@jamjam2833excuse you? That’s true, but excuse you?
7 years actually
This is very realistic and honest. Sorry for getting a divorce. Thats not easy
True
After many years on earth, I've come to realize that divorce is not necessarily bad. In fact, I'd be very happy if we could ever de stigmatized it and not always think hurt and remorse with it. But instead, view it as a learning opportunity that can help us grow as individuals. To each their own
Lol sorry for getting divorce? This are just dum ppl who just didnt make the righy choice
No entendí: por qué pides perdón?
PD: Agradezco a todos los que se tomaron la molestia de responder mi inquietud.
Ya entendí 😆
Lo entendí en realidad con la primera explicación que me dieron, a la cual le puse el correspondiente "me gusta"
De nuevo: gracias, ya no es necesario que sigan explicándolo.
Y si alguien tiene la misma inquietud que tuve yo, lea a los que me respondieron.
Buena vida!
@@DandelionsrukMHI yeah it depends. I’m a Christian, divorcing on any grounds outside of your spouse cheating on you is definitely prohibited in the bible. So to me it’s a big deal
Shared humor is EVERYTHING in a long term relationship. Not looks, not money, not even common interests (though they are still important). A good laugh gives people hope in the darkest of times, and so a shared sense of humor plays a major role in keeping love alive.
Absolutely. It’s crucial to have the SAME sense of humour, otherwise you’ll just irritate each other with jokes that aren’t funny to the other partner.
@@lisabeaumont. I’m autistic, so unless I’m with another one, my jokes are too out there!
Completely agreed! My long term bf and I share the exact same sense of humor and it really helps during difficult times
No no no she would try and roast him she said, and he obviously was more mature than her and she didn't like being told what to do
So true. I am Jamaican my husband is English our sense of humour is sooo different....its was hard for me in the beginning but now I am use to it...
Not gonna lie....marriage thought me alot and its a process....we are still together 20 years
Honestly, a person's sense of humour plays a HUGE role in relationships. There's nothing like being with someone who gets your sense of humour, it's awesome really.
She would like to "Banter & roast", in English that's called "Take the piss!!" we are masters at it & it gets you through the day. We don't take it personally, just laugh!!. If you can't handle it it just proves you are a "Light weight!"
Men with balls don’t take kindly to their mrs taking the piss out of them, it is disrespectful especially if it’s done in public
@@kevinparker461as an American, I wish I could do that. People here are way too sensitive to joke with.
Cultural Differences 🤯
@@f1rebreather123maybe the people you’re around but i do it with everyone i know
A compatible sense of humor is an often overlooked but crucial feature of any relationship
100% that's how i make friends
@@thesheriff720 This is why I don't have any friends.
I'm a Greek fellow, living in the UK. I used to work in a restaurant and one of my colleagues (brought up in the UK) was wondering if his language skills were a factor of the tips he received. What I explained to him is that language doesn't matter that much. What does is culture compatibility. I may be able to speak perfect English in terms of grammar vocabulary and syntax, but this doesn't make me a native speaker. What makes a native speaker is culture, humour, experiences, references to music, shows, movies, politics, philosophy etc; grammar and syntax come second. Also, things that can differentiate one native speaker from another can be slang, accent, mindset, the time, place and way one was brought up. People who have never studied a second language really struggle to get this, not because they are stupid or something, they just were never exposed to such experiences.
absolute truth!
British dry humor is very unique...roasting others is part of it......and Asian men are raised in a culture where women are demure..
So I can see how hard it was for him to understand
I can see how mature she is as she does not say who's right or wrong, but the differences between two cultures.
That's what someone in the wrong might do 😂
@@LorothsNope, that's someone who doesn't like to play the blame game would do. Someone with some level of maturity and grace that people who always feel the need to make someone else the bad guy just won't reach.
@@Lorothsno cause playing the blame game is childish, and we should all grow out of it as adults. If there are differences, then say there's differences. Nobody got time for mind games and I commend her for not trying to make her ex husband look like a bad person.
@@pan364 I agree 100%
@@Lorothsfor all we know its the korean culture might be wrong. They are conservative.
My gf was Korean. We had the same issues as this woman. She took my jokes as being serious especially over text. It got lost in translation. She was a good woman. She said she was liberal but it was how Koreans defined liberal. Here she is more conservative than a u.s. liberal and far more conservative than a far lest liberal. She was a one man woman, loyal, wanted the guy to lead the relationship, cooked, cleaned. Things that would be conservative here in the u.s. We had good memories. I wish her the best in life.
She sounds like a great woman
How did you all broke up?
She was a good woman because she cleaned, cooked and let you take the leadership 😒🙄🤐
@@FRIDA.13 the "because" is enterily yours.
@@FRIDA.13ahhahaha sound weak
She's being as realistic as it gets. No sugarcoating. Credit goes to her for the clarity of her response and explanation.
She's a 304
I can’t tell if ppl in this comment section are being dshonest or something… I mean just look at her LITERALLY LOOK AT HER you think she was a good w ife or good w ife material?? She looks like she’s stuck in those teen and early tween early and she can do what eve she wants and never grew up. And listen to what she’s saying ‘banter’ she’s leaving it very ambiguous, I don’t think she was bantering, I think she was straight up disrespecting ppl or being rude, otherwise why would her husband say that. I feel sorry for the guy and I hope she can let him have his divorce in peace and hopefully his opinion of wmn or western wmn hasn’t been ruined too much by her. He made a mistake marying a wstrn wmn, rule number 1 about wstrn wmn you can have a good time with them date s leeep or just be friends but that’s it you don’t go any further than that. European wmn probably make better wfes cuz they are somewhat still traditional. I got a feeling the moment ppl read Korean, they just assumed ah it must be Asian man. Ppl don’t hold back criticism Asian mn but you know they’ll never do it with other races like blks.
@TomHardyHardly
Of course she is, but she was honest about her experience being negative, and that's all that matters. She didn't give some long speel or anything.
Str8 to the point.
It's rare that a British person connects with an Asian person that's not from India or some Southeast Asian country like that instead of Korea or Japan.
Big agree with this statement
@cerovk6000 dude she's single and on the prowl now, free from the disapproval of some controlling insecure dude. She'll have tats for the rest of her life so no judgement applies there. She seems rather smart.
To be fair British humor isn’t everyone’s cup of tea.
😂
Well done.
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Yes
Very true even though I live in Australia ;)
Mad respect for not bashing her ex. She just told it as it is. May they both find happiness elsewhere
Quit roasting dude
If she bashes her korean husband she will get bash later on.
'mad respect' for doing the bare minimum? our standards have fallen, haven't they?
@@the80386 unfortunately we live in a world where bashing our ex's is more common than not because people don't have the decency of accepting that there are 2 people in a bad relationship, so all one hears is how "horrible the ex is" versus "how horrible we both were in the relationship" so yes, if the standards have fallen it's because that is the standard.
Like you would do, so you are saying? You and all of you self entitled women think that you can act like C#*ts with out any repercussions? Enjoy your life of loneliness once guys don't want what you are trying to sell.
I love how honest she is not afraid at all !
if she was fearless then she wouldn't have tattoos. she would be a brave big girl and love her skin and body
This could be 30 seconds of lies for all u know mate
People are so quick to draw conclusions on these shorts- it's insane
What would she be afraid of?
@@galadis123 you know, I can't help but wonder why so many narrow-minded people think they are allowed to judge people's personal choices concerning their looks. People critisize clothes, hairstyle, piercings, tattoos, being a bit chubby, being too muscular, being too skinny and a thousand other things. Does it even occur to you that there is a lot about you other people don't find great? The thing is, even if you don't like other people's personal choices, it's JUST your personal opinion which ultimatelty does not matter, not a universal truth. Who are you to tell other people what is right or wrong? Concentrate on yourself instead.
I respect her honesty. Also she didnt say nothing crazy about her ex-husband, I def respect that. I hope she finds happiness and her ex-husband does as well.
wat bout u bruh quit worrying bout other ppl
@@woodyskywalker your comment is worrying about their comment xD
@@woodyskywalkeryou first
Probably because she f*cked something up.
Yeah probably because she's the "crazy x" not him lol
People underestimate cultural differences.
They think the honeymoon phase will last forever 😢
I have ZERO issue with anybody marrying anybody as long as parties are consenting (and able to consent), but I feel like acknowledgement of cultural differences can be misconstrued as coming from a place of xenophobia or racism.
For sure, cultural differences can be really rough especially if you broaden the definition of culture to include stuff like socio-economic or political divides. I think divides can be bridged it just takes work.
At least her Western culture & ex-husbands Eastern culture shared 1 thing in common. Both cultures found all those tattoos on both woman GROSS AS-F. Because placing Such permanent "marks of the beast" & "scarlet letters" on ones temple (body) symbolizes a life full of poor decisions, trauma, low class upbringing & behavior.. Such "voluntary self-placed ink scars" are almost always relegated to ppl in society considered outcastes, Lepers, & untouchables in both cultures 😂😅😢!!
@emuhunter1
Yea, anybody saying that has never married someone from a different culture😂(the xenophobia crap). My wifes brazilian and the difficulties definitely come from the cultural differences. That being said, I knew we could figure them out. I'm not surprised her marriage failed tho. Western women from the UK and US tend to think they'll be able to implement their culture equally or theirs will take priority. That usually isn't the case with foreign men. I bet you 5 bucks she had heated arguments over how she communicates isn't disrespectful in her country and him being aggravated saying "this isn't your country". When I visit Brazil, I assimilate while I'm there. When my wifes in the US we still celebrate brazilian holidays and eat brazilian food, but we're in the US, you have to deal with US people and implementing brazilian values will literally piss everyone off that works any form of customer service
It's funny you mention that it has to do with western women marrying out.@@Joshpower57 Because I've noticed the same. Usually when it's the man that's western, he's likely to far more easily accommodate for the foreign lifestyle.
People underestimate racial differences. I know southern italians who were born in northern lands and they behave as the classical stereotype of southerns.
Mass immigration of southerns is the main reason of "racism" here, especially toward our heritage, and, as a response, Lombardia keeps wanting to be independent from the state of Italy.
Had a bit of this experience in Korea. I lived there for four years and met some amazing friends, but for the most part just found it easier to date other expats because of the way that our cultures clicked. I wish I’d met more Korean people who had grown up overseas- it would have been really cool to talk with them about their experiences and thoughts on life there.
This is not about interracial challenges, it's about cultural differences.
It’s about jumping too fast into marriage without taking the time to see if the couple is compatible or not.
very well said by both of you. one doesn't exclude another.
@@seraphinajadeite Sure, but that happens when a couple shares the same culture aswell.
I was coming in to say that. But I think the second poster is right too. Marrying after a year is a thing we probably shouldn't do
@@Midnightvthere are people who marry after a week and 30 years later they're still happily together
This quickly went from awww 🥰 to awww 😢
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Am really sad about this u fell in love with someone today and the next day u want nothing to do with that same person anymore
To oh shit
This is the stuff people don’t often talk about when it comes to topics like these. I admire and respect her honesty.
She is why western men prefer asian women.
Cultural differences can be a big issue especially when you want to have kids. Most people in these relationships don’t talk about that
My comment got deleted when i said western men can’t stand western women either.
WHAT? you loser. She is a massive toxic failure all over dude!
Is it honesty, or self-serving delusion?
I've been in an interracial/cultural relationship for 3 years. I can confirm that its very challenging at times. I commend her for talking about it.
Talk with your partner why dont you sort things out?
as an asian who dated an english man, the cultural differences are huge and exactly as she said. a lot of our arguments were also about how we spoke. basically westerners are way more frank/direct and for an east asian it's very rude, vice-versa he always found me too indirect when other asians would easily have known what i meant.
I am dating an asian right now. The way I deal with cultural differences is to let her takeover. I take her shopping exclusively in chinatown. Sometimes I just give her 10-$30,000 on a particular month so she can buy what she wants.
Almost 1 year of dating so far. She is happy.
Still dating a wonderful asian woman. I simply give her what she wants. I even told her that after my promotion she can quit her job if she wants
My GF speaks very little english. So we communicate via Google Translate. Chivalry helps alot. I paid all of her bills last month. She is happy
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@@legacytv2453 $10-30k would keep anyone happy!
Respect to her for how she respectfully told the whole story from a neutral point hats off to you and good luck for life ahead. 🙏🏻
She's explaining how she was a C#*t and you give her respect. She's in a another country and she didn't want to accept or respect their culture, but she's the good one... Idiot mindset.
The tattoos and her dress are why she hasn't had Mr RIGHT yet
Take it from an older male
Would these young good church going or honest blue collar men want you
NO
They both look like they lived in the red light district which is unattractive to take home n show her to family
The whole story? Lol.
I’m in an interracial marriage. It’s not easy especially in the beginning because of cultural differences but we were able to manage our differences. We’ll be 25 years this coming Sunday! ❤
Wow congrats
I got married with a Korean 1 month ago. And already started to see some cultural differences strongly. I need some advice😓
@@aycin1730 its ok, it happens. Where there is love there are some of adjustments to be made on both sides for better life.
@@originalghostrecon5077 Thank you🌸
I personally feel cultural differences can be overcome by talking it out and trying to understand one another in full. But never ever allow yourself to be disrespected. The respect for each others culture should go both ways. @aycin1730
"I love to banter and roast people". That was all we needed to hear on why their marriage failed.
That would work really well with most British guys, but (clearly) not with a Korean.
@@lisabeaumont Ideally, your partner is your #1 supporter in life. At least anecdotally, it seems that most people do not want to hear their #1 supporter regularly being negative about them, even in a joking way. Life is hard enough without anyone saying anything negative. I recently met a Scot at a Euros game who had the best bagpipe cover I had ever seen, and we talked about it for a minute (he had made it from a polar bear plush toy). He said his wife had commented: "Yer on telly with yer bagpipe AGAIN!" That was truly a masterclass in banter, because she wasn't bringing him down; she was telling him that "people love your bagpipe so much that you've been on television a lot with it, and journalists want to share this cool thing you made with more people."
@@lisabeaumont I do not want my spouse bantering with me. I don't want her talking s**t roasting people. My spouse brings me calm and harmony. I do not want a negative spouse who talks bad about people (unless its true).
@@azntactical6487 I hear you, and of course you're not alone in that, although she's not saying that she talks shit about people nor that her roasting it's done in a negative way - it's a form of humour. Banter isn't straight insults, it's a form of playful teasing designed to provoke playful interaction. My point is that this humour is really normal and widely accepted in the UK.
She's very honest.
How do you know?
Disrespecting the culture is good ? 🤔
@@Sanatanixxhow did she disrespect the culture?
@elizabethrose92 watch the video again nicely
She also has a disgusting amount of tatoos. Dont go near women like this lol
I feel like this is one of the dangers of dating when you’re in a foreign country. People feel relief to meet someone who is kind to them, who they have a good time with in a foreign place, and forget to do the usual homework of making sure there is true compatibility, similar underlying values, even the same sense of humor. I really hope they both end up happy with someone they’re more compatible with.
My late Chinese/Thai wife and I were having supper with her cousin. We were both disabled,her in a gunfight and myself in a construction accident. He remarked that we were a good couple. I said couple? We have three of everything. Three feet,three legs,three arms,and three ears. My wife burst into laughter holding on to me as I too laughed. Her cousin smiled and remarked it was fortunate we found each other, nobody else would share our madness.
@@martinsaunders7925 I love that! I’m so glad it worked out for you and your wife and that you had something special. My condolences.
@@toordog1753 I mean, obviously not 😐 (did you watch the vid?)
Yup, this certainly happens. Just because you get along with someone doesn’t mean the relationship will work.
They married after 1 year of dating... I don't want to sound like a D, but I seriously don't understand how people can make such bad choices.
Just as I was thinking they're not going to last she says the divorce thing 😭
I was your #300th fuck given (like)
Why would she get tattoos n dress like that
She could have looked all natural n got ANY MAN SHE EVER WANTED
Alot of good guys YOU WOMEN WANT N SEE don't want you because you are too slutty n have tattoos and those MR RIGHTS have female n male family members they LOOK UP TOO n were raised by
Would they want to bring home someone who doesn't value herself
NO because it's dishonor to then n their family to do so
Yeah man, the writing was on the wall
She talked in past tense so I was not surprised xD
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I’m Filipino but migrated to the US when I was 10,I can match your energy and vibe I love and enjoy bantering that’s what me and my siblings and cousins it’s all fun and games we don’t find it disrespectful we have thick skin we’re not sore losers 🤣🤣
Same I'm Filipino too but living in the Philippines. Me and my cousins are like that too. Make a lil bit offensive jokes but as long as it's between us lol were taught to have thick skins indeed 😂
Her ex-husband was not a sore loser necessarily. Sometimes, “humor” can be harsh.
This is about culture, not race. An elderly black friend of mine who is married to a black woman for over 40 years said when his wife first met his family she ran out of the house crying because she wasn’t used to people being so blunt and how everyone clowned each other. But they made it work and are happy.
To be fair, every single 'racial' issue is a cultural issue.
Black man married to a black woman has cultural differences?
@@adam7349 There is a stark difference between banter and verbal abuse
if it isnt , then why bring it up ? noone asked
Rude
She was very honest in this interview. I liked her demeanor about it. She talked about the struggle without bitterness.
Kris is that you in the vid
You can tell that she loves the man. How ? She self harmed. Her body is full of tattoos... and that is whereby, she avoided speaking up... and then harm her beautiful look.... and this is a sign, isn't it ?....She looks like a Korean mafia.. and doesn't realise this is affecting her so much as well.
Because she doesn giv a fck ,lok at her tatoos sth not right connected
I see bitterness or maybe it's just her demeanor
Now that’s a respectful separation. She never bad mouthed her soon to be ex husband. They saw their differences and realized it wasn’t working.
...Or she did and it was edited out for legal purposes.... This obviously has tons of cuts 🤦🏻♀️
Well when you're the issue you probably wouldn't tell strangers with a camera that. She's a Walking Red Flag, once you work at a Red Light District you can Never Leave!
You get all that from a 2 minute chat? How do you know how things went in their private day-to-day life?
They knew each other for a year before getting married and divorced after 3. It took 3 years before they fully couldn’t take it anymore how incompatible they were. If they had dated for compatibility instead of wanting a marriage fantasy, they would’ve avoided all the legal stress. I don’t understand how people get married so soon.
Most likely she was the problem. Korean people are pretty conservative in their ways and she looks pretty wild. Starting with those tattoos.
This doesn’t even sound entirely like a cultural difference issue but rather the two of them not knowing how different they were.
Gee. It's almost like cultural hemogeny and preservation of it, and sovereign peoples wanting to keep together with their people for the very reason to keep the world diverse and interesting is a thing.
The late great Muhammad Ali and Malcolm X knew it. Find their interviews and listen to their messages.
"The k A L 3rgi plan" is real and has been happening over the past 100 years to destroy western civilization and there's way too many people falling for it which is why we're done for.
There is a small, very small group of racial supremists who want this and are orchestrating it.
There once was a people with a leader who stood against it, and their punishment was near extinction.
there's a documentary you need to see:
E V R O P A: The Final Battle
It is a cultural difference, eastern women are expected to be more subservient as well as modest and reserved something that does not include “banter” I couldn’t date a traditional eastern women because I prefer that western culture
@@elliotcarter2242 they dated for a year before getting married to be honest just looking at her there are a lot of red flags and I’m genuinely curious how much they hid from each other prior to getting married. I find it hard to believe the behavior her husband disliked was know over the course of the one year dating and if he hated it why get married. If she was hiding her true self that would cause any marriage to fail regardless of culture.
Yeah marriage after a year lol
@@mikeyman1974green card duh😅 lol
English teacher like a gang star 😂
No shit, even a small tattoo in Korea is a black list to 90% of jobs. Parents literally rejected their kids if they decided to do a tattoo cause its associated with criminal and antisocial behavior +strong influence of patriarchy +being a foreigner in a above average racist country, the guy she married must have been desperate...
Any way she was right:East and West clashes were evident
I’m a Chinese, moved to USA when I was 16, meet my Puerto Rican wife when I was 17 in high school, now I’m 29.. been married for 6 years and now we have 2 kids and living in a blessed life, culture conflict is definitely there but understanding each other is the key.
Wish you and your family all the happiness in life ❤
Beautiful
ccp spy? 👽
@@BxBxProductions 👈🏻 found the racist.
ugh, shut up
"I like to banter and he would find it offensive"
How in the world did you two get married in the first place
Citizenship. I bet this women was pressured by other people in her life as well.
She’s a k-boo
She also said she likes to roast people too.
I was wondering that too. That’s such a huge difference 💔
By ignoring the issues - this will work out blah blah. No it wont.
I'm english married to a malaysian chinese woman we have 2 great kids,there are cultural differences,we argue but have been married 32 yrs now
Well, Malaysia is a multicultural country but I guess thats what make her to a bit more accepting to cultural differences I guess... But congratulations for your still strong marriage...
What a nightmare
Married to a Brit 25 yrs ago. Couldn’t agree with Courtney enough . Korean culture is so different from others.
Malaysia is multiracial. They wont be racist hahaha
Malaysia have mosre than 3 race. It wont be a problem
Proof different culture marriage is 90% bad idea. Glad she’s divorcing early unlike stuck around for 10 years and still think it was a bad idea.
No it's proof they should have spent more time together before getting married, so they would have a better understanding each other and the challenges of the relationship.
@@TheDraykonno he is rigjt
Her British accent is so strong my coffee turned to tea
🤣😂🤣😂😂 Spot on ol chap! Cheerio!
Cheers mate
Her accent is thick and from Northern England.
Hahahahahahaha 😂😂😂😂😂
Cheers mate
She is very direct, but the way she delivers her speech is very polite and that's a good thing. Because some people when they are too honest, just speak in a very unpleasant way to hear. She is honest and, direct but at the same didn't use any unnecessary tone or be harsh about it
Then again, she is giving an interview. Maybe in everyday life situations that is not the case.
Glad that you approve of the way she explained all that
I struggle with this thanks for a new prospective. Was raised to be very honest and blunt but calling people out for being disingenuous comes off as judgmental and perhaps it is. I was raised by “saints” from the hood around “devils”.
And you could tell all that from an 60 second interview? Pleassssseee.😂😂
probably in the interview she remained a bit reserved, but she did say she liked banter (which i also find fun), but i could see where a normally really reserved person may find bluntness and/or banter disrespectful.
She was honest and realistic: relationships with many cultural differences are not easy.
Then why get into one? Ppl nowadays really don't know boundaries to set with dating n asking n considering the right questions..
Since when being an asshole is a cultural difference?
@@Jet_Set_GoSince it's become socially acceptable for women to be assholes.
I agree. But the part I don't get is why marry the person.
@@emyf9197 yeah because people automatically know how getting into a relationship with someone of a different culture will play out. Sometimes it’s fine and other times it’s not. Just like relationships in general.
Koreans from the west won’t marry the ones from the far east either. It’s weird they say
She seems like a genuinely nice person. She never said anything bad about her ex.
She also didn’t highlight her faults. You see she said she wants a westernized Korean. She must’ve not been able to use her western witchery on him. She doesn’t like the way his upbringing made him to be a more strict and respectful person. She has to use jokes as a form of abuse and then hide it behind the idea that it’s “a joke”. She was trying to do it for 4 years it seems
@@shakebackj95Life does get better after being hurt, with therapy and time. Spreading hate online doesn't help you or anyone else mate
@@shakebackj95western witchery lmao
@@shakebackj95holy shit take your meds
@shakebackj9362 She didn't highlight his faults either. She didn't place blame on either of them and was super respectful. She even still called him her husband, she clearly loved/loves him. She just pointed out that there were cultural differences between them, that often led to conflict, and eventually caused a big rift. And because of that, she wouldn't want to date a Korean man again unless he was more versed in western culture. Saying she uses jokes as a "form of abuse" is outlandish. I couldn't imagine a relationship where I wasn't able to poke fun of my girlfriend and bully her a bit. And I expect the same back. It's light-hearted good natured fun. It's a cornerstone of most male friendships and if properly done it'll strengthen your relationship with a woman. Stop fetishizing Korean culture and hating on western culture to the point where you're gonna be blatantly misogynistic and hateful for no reason.
These two ladies are living advertisement for Tattoo makers 😂
I thought maybe they joined the Yakuza.
they all good girls😅@@mikewilcox9348
Roasting back at her would be pretty personal for me -- “sorry, I wasn’t listening to you at all… I was busy wondering if your two year old niece drew these on your skin” 😉. We wouldn’t have been together a night before she was out of there
@@mikewilcox9348 in korea? lmao
All of their tattoos are shitty
There’s a big difference between just an interracial marriage and CROSS CULTURAL one
yeah. Dude prolly got rid of her cuz she looks like anelementary school table
Uh huh... English and Koreans ARE different races though... so what's your point?
I think the point is that if two people were raised in the same area but have different skin color it’s just interracial. That’s a huge difference from dating someone who was raised across the world with completely different values
But it is interracial marriage? And you don't need to be Across the world to have completely different value. Just look at the red and blue.
But seriously the whole thing is on Korean men who purpose to her. She's full of tattoo and it would be extremely dumb if he expect her to be anywhere near traditional wife material
@@nateasonjames What maxhovorka4074 said.
As soon as she said she liked to banter and he thought it was disrespectful, I knew it wouldn’t last
I am German and my spouse Chinese. The biggest challenge is eating habits for us, sometimes I like to cook my comfort food she doesn't enjoy as much. Occasionally she would cook soups for breakfast which I am not used to eat early in the morning. When she first met my parents she felt they were a bit "cold" towards her as in china you give more attention to a daughter in law, this was a big disappointment for her but I explained that in Germany people open up a bit slowly not like in other parts of the world. Apart from that we are happily married and follow the universal rule of mutual respect 🙏
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It’s the seemingly ‘small’ things I wouldn’t think about. How you seen Uyen’s channel? I can’t remember the full name. She is Vietnamese dating a German guy and living in Germany - a lot of what you shared reminded me of them
@@weareirishdogsI hope you're joking. This has got to be satirical right? If not you're being played hard lil buddy. 😂😂
@patrickcutsis9929 I had one Best Friend since i was 21 met my husband when I was 26, we were so close, we’d always spend alone time from our partners and go to clubs together (funny we never danced, just liked the music and atmosphere) and we’d hold hands a lot but we honestly were just friends. I never was attracted to him physically just not my type (my husband and him are like night and day in every aspect. Down to height, culture, language, etc) but anytime I was with him I felt 5, like I was in kinder and he was a friend. That’s how innocent our friendship was. We spoke about our issues sometimes but his form of therapy is just sitting in peace and I provided that for him, we didn’t need to say anything, he just wanted peace and happiness and so most of our hang outs were this way. I am now a momma so he lost that time with me since then. almost 10 years ago; I got more into my career, my marriage and being a momma but we still talk and we still go out on occasional “dates”. He is a family friend and comes to a lot of our family events and is greatly loved by my family and my husband and my child. I think these clean and innocent platonic relationships do exist, it’s just not common.
@@weareirishdogsas a Chinese who grew up with other Chinese ppl, i can assure u that that's not normal. Only women hold each others hands and it's usually in a playful way or to keep each other safe while walking down the street.
I'm sry that u got played by her. If she have any relatives that knew about this, she would be the hot topic among them for months, probably years depending on how scandalous it is💀 (good humiliation revenge of u ever want to)
Her honesty and her way of expressing herself from a neutral point speak very well of her. I hope you both have a great future in your lives.
Honest, maybe? But I wouldn't call it neutral when she makes it seem like his inability to take tolerate banter was the main reason they're divorcing.
@@GoldenTiger01This is not how she said it. You could also think it was her inability to be more tactful to her husband from what she told. There was no connotation that suggests one of these interpretations over the other.
More divorces on her way.
She looks like a 302
@@GoldenTiger01sometimes my pretty cynical sense of humor can genuinely offend people and I've found that some people really don't like it. It's just the way it is. On my part I've tried to tone it down but it's just my personality so it'll slip through nonetheless.
English banter is on another level. I'm North European and I live in England. It took me a year to understand that my bfs father isn't a total rude b@stard. It's just high level English banter.
Could you give an example of his humour that you found offensive?
Yes. This is how we Brits are. It’s all in jest. Makes the miserable weather not quite so miserable. 😂
@@blythemajors9193 I wouldn't offended by that..
yes I want to hear some examples please
Whatever you have to tell yourself
7 years of relationship gone because she can stop roasting people 😅
He had difficulty with her CONSTANTLY ROASTING HIM 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ikr. Who wants a partner who shits on them constantly?!?
I despise that type of humor ! Wouldn't tolerate it for a day even. And if course I would NEVER dare to "roast" my significant other. It's just so rude!
@@randomsomeone18923frr
@@Kathy_1991 i agree. People who frequently roast others dont even have bad intentions at all most of the times but the receiver might not always be in the mood. There are times when a word of support can mean a great deal but instead you most likely to be joked at, since thats their way of interacting, making you feeling even worse... "oh but its just a joke"... Really? You can be better than that
@@nunodfes2 Exactly. You put my thoughts into words better than I did! Maybe the word 'despise' is a bit strong 😄 But for sure it's not my type of humor! So I guess is very important to pay attention to those kind of things before starting a relationship with someone.
This is actually quite common,
Alot of countries cultures struggle with English-British humour-banter and mannerisms especially in Marriages which leads to divorce sometimes.
I know plenty of British women married to non British, non European that don’t engage in that behavior.
I love the humour lol 😂
It's true, and not just for marriages. Europeans and other foreigners are always sensitive to the banter that other English and Scottish people engaged in with me, and they prefer to use what the French call ‘mauvaise foi,’ which I can only describe as an infantile way of trying to protect people's feelings. To put it simply, British people banter by saying things which are true, most other cultures banter by saying things which aren't true.
Come and live in Hungary! We have Monty Python humour in our veines!
@@AzUniverzumUraesParancsoloja I love Hungary; I'm a polyglot and Hungarian is a language I want to learn next, it's so unique (I guess because its origins aren't Indo-European)
She is very truthful 😊. The cultural differences are real. Hope everything works out with them on their new journeys .
Big time true, I'm with Vietnamese woman, I'm straight up American. I mean she was raised in Vietnamese but I have mad respect for her for all she's been through.
“What cultural differences led to arguments?”
“Like whether or not we should eat our dog”
@@andrewferguson8032 lol
Agreed! They try to break you and mold you into what they’re used to! It’s never gonna work unless you’re willing to lose a backbone and just obey!
Her journey will lead her to cats and wine. No real man will accept continuous disrespect from their woman, just like no real woman accept continuous disrespect from her man. Mutual respect is the basis of any healthy relationship and she's clearly unable to have one.
That took a big turn really quick lmfao
I’m an English man married to an Iranian woman and both living in USA. Been with her for 20 years, been married for 17 years and it works. Just got to have patience, understanding of each others cultures and language.
Her parents look at me as a son they never had and we couldn’t be happier!
Did you convert to Islam?
Bro Iranian ? That’s easy mode !
@@gcanzano36She could also not be muslim. Many aren’t bc of how twisted and oppressive the new government was/is
@@fallen1805right lol this mans got it made
@@faarisrana3815 true
To those saying it’s not about cultural differences, it absolutely is! Even in the USA, British international students are known for having cruel humour. It’s their standard but perceived as quite rude and abrasive everywhere else
This is a channel that appeals mostly to westerners.
So naturally the audience will see nothing wrong with the westerner, but see everything wrong with the non-westerner.
to be fair, non westerners can get fucked for all anyone from the west cares for the most part. Westerners think truly they are the main character, specially americans@@willia3r
I think Europeans in general have a rather cruel sense of humour…and the further east you go, the more morbid it becomes.
Except Germans ofc…their humour is no laughing matter xD
@willia3r idk just sounds like she's a disrespectful a-hole. RUclips comments are reflections of what is relatively diverse western opinions in real life. Goes for every stereotype we project from small sample of those prone to make comments.
huh@@willia3r
People love weddings, but hate marriages
Not people only women
The excitement is like an adrenaline rush. But when it all settle down... kaput
Oh I didn't know men cried about wanting a wedding...
@@aaronbutler2541 incorrect
@@ReapeX Correct, a lot of money thrown away just for a bunch of papers, a title and a party at which you can't let loose. I have never seen a man as excited for the wedding as a woman.
She ain’t dragging him, tells you she knows it was her fault.
That make sense.
I'm Korean. I find that my attitude changes with the language I use. I tend to be extremely polite when I speak Korean, adhering to Korean culture. But whenever I speak English, my sarcasm cannon is back in full force.
That's is very common with people who speaks different languages, in the second language I normally more direct, and honest..
@msg4alexandre I wasn't aware that it was a common phenomenon! Is English your second language? If not, what is it?
@@msg4alexandreTrue, even though I speak mostly with my mother/first language, whenever I'm thinking about something most of the time my mind talks in English, not my mother language, I thought it was wierd as first but now I don't really pay much attention. I've also noticed that I mutter to myself in English more than my first language 😅
ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 좀 공감갑니다 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
That's fairly common in multilingual people I'd say! I'm more outgoing in french, and I'm very shy in Spanish, even though I live in a Spanish speaking country and it's because I was socialized in french as a kid
Sense of humor has to match, absolutely. My husband and I are from two very different cultures (our families are), but we have a lot of common ground and our marriage is strong and so fun! I love how honest she was. I hope she finds the right fit for her
Her right fit is Tattoo artist
She is hot af @@maaki3389
Stfu.. trying to justify her actions in one video is fucking stupid and cringe… typical treesh broad answer 🤦🏽♂️😪
@@maaki3389It might be. There’s more to a relationship than tattoos though.
@@El3ctr0Lun4 Uncle that was a joke....................are you looking for more to relationship on RUclips comment section???
Finally a video about the difficulties of mixed marriages. Only love is actually not enough to keep a relationship. There are so many other angles to look at it to see if it will last.
Oh yes! I learned this the hard way. I should have done pre-marriage canceling. Would have flushed out some important things.
Facts. Couldn't deal with mines family drama and drinkin..
Whotes are xenophobic 😂 is facts
Yeah, just goes to show how wrong it is
Mixed foreign marriages** u should specify lol kinda seemed like u were against interracial couples for a second😅
I'm single... white.. tattooed 😂
Being in an intercultural relationship requires a lot of learning about each other, a LOT of willingness to compromise from both sides, respect for each other's views, lots of communication about how each culture does things, and a determination to keep working at it no matter what. It's not easy. Been married to my husband for 13 years. 3 kids later. We've both had to learn and grow a LOT to make it work. I'm bilingual. I know his food, customs, way of seeing the world, yet we STILL have things come up and conflicts over cultural differences. Its can be done. But it will require you to be willing to do the extra work that a couple from the same culture won't have to do
@@viciousrapeWhy do people always interpret this as a dig at normal couples and always respond with the same "normal couples do this too" like where did the original comment say normal couples don't also have challenges? My partner was brought up in the same country as me and even I can acknowledge that there are different struggles inter-cultural couples face that I don't even have to think about in my day to day life.
Thanks for this analysis! Having lived abroad for years, all this rings true.
I’m curious as well to hear what you consider advantages of cross-cultural relationships.
I find that, when you don’t share the same mother tongue, you make fewer assumptions and really dig deep (assuming both ppl are open-minded and willing to do that).
As such, while it does require more work, there’s also the potential for a deeper connection and richer understanding… seeing the world through a different lens.
What do you think?
@@viciousrapeyes but for totally different reasons. The being from different culture adds a whole new level of stress. If you marry someone with similar attitudes, morals, values, etc it’s easier.
koreans are hard to coop up with.I mean not as friends...you should try..😂😂
Even your way of looking at this, the "the compromise", "communication" etc are still unfortunately very western views.
She seems very honest, and perhaps a lesson learned that before two individuals get married, they really need to understand each other, and then decide if they are compatible.
She’ll think twice before making small penis jokes again
They dated for 4 years that's enough time to know each other. Well divorce rate is very high among westerners so it's normal. In America they are getting divorced all the time and they share same culture
@@amirastar8924 they should have went to counseling, and if her personality/behaviors annoyed him, he communicated this to her, yet she was unwilling to understand/modify, then I would assume that would always be a "bone of contention" (impasse in the relationship).- Jen Gable (Justeson)
She married a korean sugar daddy. Nice british girl like her knows her way around town. Although Idk why she would ruin herself with these tattos it’s shameful
Woow RUclips is censoring my comment when I didn’t say anything offensive and was completely on topic.. ok weirdos .. guess i got a bit too political idk what that was about. very strange
That was a roller coaster of emotions.
My wife is American but was brought up in Mexico and the US. I am German and I was brought up in Italy/Germany & Mexico. We just celebrated our 14 anniversary 🤟
No one cares. 😮
That's great. Congratulations and wish you both more happy years ahead ❤
@@mrBDeyeYou do, you commented. Lol
some people can overcome the differences and embrace them. others get hung up on them and let it break the relationship like the couple in the video
@@Devinn504 My comment was to let the narcissist know that no one cares.
I married an Indonesian and yeah those cultural differences are real and oftentimes a struggle to deal with. We are going 18 years strong.
well the difference is you guys are 18 strong that means 2006 so you guys are 80-90s a very commited kinda well raised generations and this girl is about 25-26
The point wasn’t to bash.. or say she’s wrong. Some differences are just unreconcilable. The point is that they are still tough to deal with and even after 18 years it’s tough to deal with sometimes.
@@SoA-Horseman It may be tough to deal with, but do you guys find a way to work things out and become better people because of them mostly...?
Lots of people rather not work or talk it out and split without barely trying.
@@SoA-Horseman may I ask what kind of differences that make you feel uncomfortable?
Woww 18yrs and still.. it must be hard!
I’m from Finland and my husband is American. Our languages are very different, it helps that my husband has learned Finnish well so he understands how the language works. But there is definitely times when I speak English very direct, forget all the politeness haha, like we do in Finland. Thankfully he understands and helps me get better haha. Languages work differently and you might sound rude or unpolitical even if you don’t mean it, that’s why is important to study the culture and language your partner is from.
I think here in America they worry about political correctness, maybe just western countries too and I think it’s BS.
Finns and Americans probably aren't even half as different as Koreans and English.
Korean culture is basically the opposite of most British people's culture and personality.
Koreans love "respect" and seniority, in England it can be considered haughty and arrogant to demand respect the way Koreans do.
Especially someone like this lady, who's clearly more of a free spirit than most.
Learning to do small talk as a finn is a real struggle. It feels so pointless to me. A ritual of meaningless questions no one even cares about, but just for the sake of it. But life more than just what i see and feel right, there are other people with cultural backgrounds and habits.
Is Finland an European country?🤔
Sounds like nice guys Finnish first. Or something
The CIRCUS must be in TOWN. I think they both work there.
So relatable; we're an interracial couple as well and fell in this trap. We thought "cultural difference" are almost philosophical in nature and we could tackle them. Turns out they are almost invisible: it's the little shait like the way you phrase criticism, which observations you keep to yourself, how you introduce each other to friends and so on. We also almost divorced because it seemed hopeless, the endless little disrespects that turned out to be a cultural difference. Though we made it, going strong into year 7 ... still, we have to communicate a LOT to make it work. Depending on your personality or lifestyle, I can see that being to much :o
Gorgeous! Always love to hear stuff like this
next time don't marry an npc. marry a real person, they're beyond culture, religion, and environment they grew up in.
CONGRATS, it’s beautiful to see couples that do whatever they need to make the relationship work
Sorry for my bad English.
I am French and so is my partner, but his parents are Moroccan. He therefore has a dual culture. And even though he was born and raised in France, he carries the weight of his parents' traditions and sometimes benefits a lot from them. For example, he was used to his mother and sister doing all the household chores at home. And when we moved in together, he expected me to cook all his meals, wash and put away his clothes, etc. Only that's not how my parents operated when I was a child. . They share all the household chores and my father never treated my mother like a housewife. So obviously I expect the same respect from my partner. We argued a lot the first year because of that. But luckily today he understood all that. I have a much more demanding job than his (I'm a nurse). And I work a lot of overtime. So everyone does their share of household chores, also depending on their schedule. The good thing is that he stands up to his parents on a lot of things. Indeed, we do not want to get married right away and prefer to devote our money to the well-being and future education of our soon-to-be-born daughter. And his parents don't understand, they harass us to get married before birth. But my partner doesn't give in on this point, a marriage is expensive to organize and that's not what will offer us a better future. And my parents only got married after 10 years of living together, after having 4 children together and are still together after 38 years (28 years of marriage). My in-laws told us the other day that if we don't get married, they will look at our daughter as a bastard. My partner told them that if they react like that and disrespect us and our daughter, they are not ready to see us again. It is they themselves who are punishing themselves because they will no longer see their son, and will never meet their only grandchild.
This os why stick to your own kind/race.
Marriage means sacrifice from both partners, mutual respect and understanding each other.
Christian marriages are like this... i wound't say this for other cultures.
"sacrifices" have a limit. Your partner eating your dog is too much to tolerate
@@Dr.Pancho.Tortilla Ma guy that's China not Korea xD
@@Dr.Pancho.Tortillahahahahahaha
😂😂😂@@Dr.Pancho.Tortilla
Married to my Belarusian Wife 17 years now. If you're going to marry a person from another culture it can't just be your way or their way. As with any marriage that works, it takes a lot of communication, compromises, and strength. Marriage is supposed to be the culmination of two people to one. There are things I'm far better than my Wife and she follows behind me in those instances. Just the same there are things my Wife is far better at and I follow her at those times which don't happen without discussions. In this way we support each other. It gets multiplied with us being from different culture's which is part of our discussion. As everyone should be doing, you discuss bringing your experience and knowledge to the table just as your partner does, make the best decision you can and move forward. It really isn't difficult when egos aren't allowed.
Wise words. Thank you for sharing your experience.
I am also married to a Belarusian beauty. 1 year and 4 months. The bicultural aspect was definitely a challenge at first, and coupled with completely opposite personalities, it has taken a lot of work for us both to come to the middle with each other. Blessings to you and yours
@@obesedog23 Best to you and yours Congratulations
@@obesedog23why did you decide to marry someone with a personality that is the polar opposite of yours? I’d think that’s the first thing to check for, compatible personalities.
@@Tammy8823 my wife and I are also opposites. That does clash sometimes but having two very energetic and headstrong personalities is IMHO way worse than just one of them and the other being much more mellow. Perhaps not opposite, but different.
Honestly, a lot of people believe sarcasm is playful but many fail to realize that sarcasm to an extent can be honest and thus hurtful. When it is honest, it is the equivalent of digging up old bones and tormenting. To an extent, it is a sign of emotional immaturity.
Exactly, imagine disguising your sarcasm behind a facade of emotional incompetence.
Life and marriage is so hard that couples NEED to develop, cultivate and master their sense of humor. It makes everything better not to take things personal and too serious. Laughter is a must in relationships.
She grew up in a very feminists and female dominated country of England,
while he grew up in a very male dominated country of South korea.
They will disagree!!
@@jeffjohnson5053 well, not like western men last long with western women either lol
People
So often, this idea of roasting blows up in people's faces.
I don't know where this idea of being unkind to your friends is good. I see my niece doing it. And it leads to so much drama and falling out.
People have to cultivate their own sense of humor as well. Instead of expecting whatever they say to be found funny, or gotten.
And humor isn't necessary at all times. One problem I see, especially with young people. It's always been an issue I think in the US it was from sitcoms and now tiktok skits ect.
People think it's suppose to be like comedy shows.
Anyway sometimes the jokes don't work and you have to adapt to how the person takes them and think of how to make better jokes.
If it's just for yourself and you're literally insulting your friends and lover, then you're just being a jerk.
laughter means nothing if you have no communication overall
That is a cultural difference. Seriousness is taken as a priority in Korea culturally. The U.K. the banter is non-stop, nothing is taken seriously minus a few things.
Then again, most of the British I met were glass cannons. They love to give it, but they can't take it.
Sacrifice needs to be shown in a marriage or relationship. The cultural difference is not easy to deal with definitely
No wonder most people date around their race/culture
I think its not always the culture. I mean, look at that. She's look like walking grafitti
@jmgonzales7701 yeah, plus you're probably already right there near people like yourself.
@@ZhovtoBlakytniy yeah. Thou im kinda odd because my wife is a foreigner.
@@Nobodyss21 its definetly also cultural. People who tolerate tattoos are also determinant by culture
Seems like she learned a hard lesson in life,, she seems honest and open about it,,, she will survive,,, congrats..
Congrats? She is getting a divorce.
What's there to congregate?
It's a learning curve. Not every marriage will work unfortunately. That's just how life is.
@@the_greatest_unicorn "Not every marriage will work unfortunately" Then why marry? Did you know when you marry you have to say "till death do us apart" like it is a mantra? I believe that mantra of till death do us apart is a general "language" on every countries about marriage!
@@the_greatest_unicornthere is no f*cking learning curve. Years of life pass by and you get closer to death. Better you think before you act, stick to your decisions and don't waste your life away with reckless action.
Sounds like she learned nothing. Hopefully HE learned not to marry a masculine woman.
Korean dude didn't dodge this bullet.
My hubby and I are from totally different cultural backgrounds …. We have been married for 20 years …. You know why ? The first time I bantered and roasted him… he simply smiled and gave me back …. Double …we sat down and decided not to do things that would hurt our sentiments…. Our respect for each other grew and we have lasted since ….
Love this! Once I realized the way I tried to lovingly tease/banter with my husband hurt him I stopped. Banter is fun but it's not fun enough to sacrifice a relationship over it. Respecting the other person's feelings and boundaries really makes a difference!
@@InsouciantPlatypusI’d like a relationship where there’s a lot of banter. She should’ve shown that side of her before getting married so he can realize she may not be the right one for him.
Flamed yo.silly ass. Lol.
We dont care
Do you have an example of this banter or roasting that escalated to a point of having to have a sit down >?
My asian brain thought after 3 years they were planning on trying to have kids, not divorce😭 I hope for the best to both of them
I thought the same thing 😂
Together for 4, married for 3. 1 year of dating before marriage isn’t really a great setup for success lol. It makes me wonder if she married him to get to stay there and not go back to her home country.
@@imagummybearr I’d say 2 years bare minimum but hey there is no given number. People are together for 5 years and still break up
People don’t get kids anymore
@@Timbermannetjein this economy, it’s hard for people to raise children in a good environment. There are wars nearby, house prices are expensive, grocery as well etc. Plus because of capitalism and social media, people are focused on wanting to make luxury money and spend it only on themselves. They do not want to share money with their children.
Man couldn't take the British humour
CALL RESPECT! NOT HUMOUR...
No it is humor but to a non-British or even UK person it is hard to tell when they are joking vs being serious (rude).
British humor is fun, the repetitive snarky comments by a intentionally mean Brit is sooo worn out after hearing 5 decades of it as an American traveler. I just had to be breathing and the nearest American in their vicinity for SOME Brits. Same ancient trope, different day, week, decade, lifetime.
At the age of 63, it's so low in the humane scale, bottom of the barrel by now, it sounds like an inherent disease in their DNA.
We don't even like to talk about it American to American, it's far too ignorant for a country that is known for its excellent educational opportunities. I don't think some of the young acting talent in Britain realize that they are insulting the very USA fans that also help to make them famous. We call it, " Biting the hand that feeds you".
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Well, it all happened in Korea. So, she has to know that she has to be the one to adapt to the culture, unless an agreement is set before marriage.
If the husband went to England instead, it would be his fault for not getting UK way of humour
Lol my joke went famous 😂 I also wrote it for meme purpose chill out guys.
The struggle is real. I had the same (but different cultures), and while the cultural difference was not the main issue, at times, it felt like it was up there.
Personally, I wouldn't write off dating someone from the same culture, but I'd definitely have my reservations.
As an American who dated a girl from the UK for 6 years, they do like their banter. I spent a lot of time with her plus other people in England who would talk shit as a normal conversation instead of small talk or topics of interest, I swear. I had to get used to it and I was a heroin addict criminal, not a softie.
Same as New Zealand/Australia we enjoying talking shit
Ahhh addict? Hope you have passed that phase! Not a good habit to have!
Sounds like a cool TV show. Hope you're off the dope man.
Seems she had things to get used to as well. Damn.
Southern Europeans are the same 😂
Obviously I don't know her or her husband. But I think I can definitely understand what kind of difficulties they had in the relationship. I am Korean and was born and raised in Korea. Now I'm married to a British wife. We lived in Korean for the first 2 years of our time together and moved to UK. Now we're into the 7th year of our marriage.
The cultural difference is huge. Before moving to UK we used to argue more. Now that I think of it the main reason was me not understanding my wife's culture. Like this person said the way people talk is completely different between Koreans and British. There are plenty other examples, for example, Koreans value their career a lot. Don't get me wrong, people here take their career seriously, but it's another level in Korea seriously. And the unreasonably strong hierarchy in work places combined with the obsession to their career of Koreans(guys), causes a lot of problem in international marriages. I think the best decision I've ever made is to move to UK, it definitely played a huge role to keep our relationship strong and healthy.
perhaps Korean men like to be "real men" as per their cutural heritage, and in the west men tend to be a little too efeminate compared to our asiatic upbringing and tradition. I'm not Korean, but Malaysian men (I am a Malay) aren't too different with their traditional role and expression.
to many this isn't PC, but the entire world isn't a reflection of the western norms and customs.
if one or both partners have conflict due to inability to compromise from time to time, then it's bound to end sooner than later.
Guys I’ve known here in the UK are real men in their own way, just like Korean men are in their cultural context, as far as I can see. I think it’s just the difference on what’s perceived as manly.
Lmfao you're joking, right? Being obsessed with your career and putting it above your wife and family is being a "real man"? Please.
Men in the west are "too effeminate" yet took over the entire world, including both your country, and Korea.
Being a "real man" means taking care of your family over EVERYTHING else, not letting b(_)IIsh!+ traditions and work tear it apart.
Billions of couples centuries & eons ago have gone thru the same thing. Both parties need to be on the same page, about anything & everything. Money, vacation, where to live, etc.
My sister & her husband, brother & his wife, are going thru the same exact thing. They constantly argue about how to spend money, this n that. That's why I'm single. No woman to constantly nag me, about anything.
Amen
I'm very traditional and I met a traditional Korean woman. There are cultural differences but we basically never argue. Been together over two years now, will get married next year.
Same here but with a Japanese. We get married next week. Been together for 5 years
It’s a little different when the Asian one is female
You cannot compare Korean male vs korean female because men and women are not the same
@@PurpleDoritos666 I never compared them. Just wanted to share.
Wait until you have kids and be together for over 8-10 years.This is when things get tough
Together for 4 and married for 3. That's what's wrong with marriage today, it means nothing. It's something you just jump into for shits and giggles
- Moral of the story. Match with someone who you can roast/joke and they can roast/joke you back and you'll live happily ever after.
Wrong.
Moral of the story is: you’re gonna have a lot problems if you are too culturally different.
Like she said, she wouldn’t date any more Korean guys, but not a problem if the guy was raised in a western country.
@@Floralsicknessyes but you know they are not all the same, right?
@@DessaZendhow were they wrong? He can take whatever he wants from it. I agree, find someone not as sensitive.
@@johnnyblazers I didn't say that, but ok
roasting is not joking. The difference is massive. If you guys like to be an asshole under the guise of joking, go to an island all together and leave the rest of the planet alone. oh, wait, England is an island!
I empathise with the situation despite my Korean wife being a first generation born Australian. My issues I had when we were first married was my mother in law, and her uncle. But, stayed married since 2007. It's been a bumpy road, but it's definitely workable, and everyone loves each other now, I wish her all the best ❤
Congrats on the length of your marriage. South Koreans can be rather racist.
Asian family dynamics are fucking weird. I make sure anyone I date has a healthy relationship with their family.
People sure love to move to different a country these days and bring their old school ways with them.
She grew up in a very feminists and female dominated country of England,
while he grew up in a very male dominated country of South korea.
They will disagree!!
@@jeffjohnson5053 Spot on. This is what so many people are missing, she was being polite saying it was cultural differences.
When she said she would date a Korean man from the West it gave away. The cultural difference she is talking about is the level of misogyny.
Brutally honest and realistic. Even in countries with mass migration like Canada, people brought up in vastly different family cultures can clash. Cross cultural marriages can be very successful of course, but if there is a clash during dating, it should not be overlooked.
Canada has been conquered. Rip canadians
You think an American/Canadian couple would have many culture issues. Feels like we do a lot of similar things culturally. But if you put gravy on my fries we’re done!
@@Chris-qg2un loll. I'm from Montreal. Damn straight I'll put gravy, AND CHEESE CURDS. I'll gladly sign the divorce papers! Now gimme my poutine!!
@@Chris-qg2un But yeah, American/Canadian culture is mostly the same. Northern US and Canada is more similar than Northern US and the Deep South for example. The major differences are opinions on health care, immigration and gun control I would think.
@@Chris-qg2un woahh this is super duper duper funny, man
Why does she look like a professional sketch book ?
My country's newspaper interviewed a Chinese lady who married an Indian who offended her parents when he 1st visited her house, since he started eating before them, because while in Indian culture, guests eat before the hosts, but in Chinese culture, more senior people eat 1st instead
So he offended them in Indian and Chinese?
Doubt he was older than her parents
Why were they offended then, if in Indian culture guests eat first, and he was their guest, and he ate first?
Because the Indian guy is less senior that the lady's parents, who in their culture expect to eat before him
@lzh4950 oh my apologies, reading comprehension isn't my strong suit today. I had the nationalities reversed.
I'm from Texas and I married an Okie and the cultural differences are really rough...especially on OU-Texas football weekend lol. Seriously....the two "cultures are very similar. It's just that Okies have the American Indian element...TX does not. Texas has its proud Confedereate past....Okies have no clue about that. Both cultures generally vote Republican...both are big on oil and gas both know 😅 what horses and cattle are for lol.
As an American married to a Salvadoran, there are mini communication and cultural differences. It makes the important part of communication in a marriage even more critical. I can say a word and use it how I was brought up to use it and she could find it incredibly offensive and if we don’t talk about it and she doesn’t bring it up. She’s hurt and I think everything’s fine.
Isn't that just the usual shit besides it happening more often? Like I experienced thinking everything was okay but the woman just never spoke up and instead told me everything was okay. How am I supposed to know?
I am a Salvadoran with a French and same... it takes some time to actually settle and understand the others person "language" I think
What are your thoughts on pupusas ? You like ?
You mean white
El savreikes smell like beans
I am not surprised at all.No offense. I’m an American I married my wife from China and what has kept us together now for 25 years is the fact that I learned all of the nuances of her culture. When we met, I spoke her language fluently, and because of the mutual respect and effective communication, we are still together till this day.
Yeah, this girl clearly wanted the Korean guy to throw off his culture and follow her western (lack of) social values. Eventually the sexual flame went out and they were left with nothing to show for.
Same with my wife she's filipina we have our moments but I learn from them over the 7 years we been married
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When you say you are an American what is your parent background ? Native American, African American, Asian, Hispanic... ?
Communication is the most important thing a a human... Speaking andrelayin thoughts into other people's minds, and that they understand, is one of the most important factors of being human.
Bad language and negativity in speech is de-evolutionary.
Learning high intellectual words... (beyond the "thousand word" vocabulary) this also helps humanity grow.
So you just able as a teacher overcome cultural differences - good choice 👍 proud that your are part of the people teaching kids
As someone who is married to someone from a different culture, it is extremely challenging but extremely rewarding because one constant through all cultures is love. If you are able to listen, be open minded, compermise, accept you may be wrong, understand, and care, then it makes that loving bond ever stronger. The longer I’m married to her the more I learn and the more I love.
My husband is English and I am from the Philippines. In December 2023 we celebrated our 31st wedding anniversary. Communication and understanding are two of the many reasons why like yours our marriage has worked.
@@davawenyabarnt3234 Communication only works if both sides are willing to listen. When one side always thinks he/she is the correct one, welp. That's as far as communication can help. Narcissists are everywhere.
@@davawenyabarnt3234Not gonna long last though🤣🤣
@@davawenyabarnt3234I'm sure Filipina woman just choosing white foreign men just to have access abroad and have permanent residency abroad, facts!, That's why most Filipina woman just endure it to have a decent and formal life in a foreign country even though the relationship is too toxic
@@allhailriseTruth, just because there's a communication or what's so ever and the culture is completely different there's no such thing will work, you only endure it😂😂, the longer you live the more you realized that you choose a path where it makes your life complicates🤣🤣
The banter thing is very relatable. I’m British in Japan and had to really tone it down, not only with my Japanese friends and acquaintances but with ex-pats from other countries too.
The Aussies and Kiwis are always down though. 🇦🇺 🇳🇿
Well you went there. You adjust to their culture.
Same thing in 🇺🇸 usa.. Westerners are confrontational by nature/culture
@@PureJmisttruth
U r very banter and it is not cool to be honest
@@PureJmist Yeah. I know. That’s what I said.
I'm. an American man dating a woman in the Philippines for 2 years and I can relate to this woman's experience. I found that in most Asian cultures they really don't enjoy verbal banter that is questioning or a little sarcastic
Yup and facts calmly stated and possible alternative solutions are also anger magnets... there's a real guilt blame product culture here. If it's angrily states they tend to find it less offensive if you have to do it. It gets better results even though it contrary to a calm mature well developed persona of a westerner.
It's fuckikg maddening
Everything that is mature wise real and signs of a develope personality of use is literally the bane of an ant colony mind set...
We are roasting everyone everywhere here in indonesia 😂 humor level are hillarious 😂😂😂
ur woman is most probably one of the conservative quiet ones. Pinays are generally ok with " karinyo brutal" and can banter, not unless ur "jokes or bantering" is condescending. I know many foreigners, especially from western countries, whose superiority complex" comes up, totally not funny jokes at all.
@@jettereq272 superiority complex ?????? Maybe Piniys need to look in the mirror and address their culture of being sensitive to any constructive criticism and thier lack of any accountability for their actions
Not at all dude. People are the same all around the world. They are just less familiar with English.
Lives in korea but still manages to say "like"😮😅😊 before every sentence
I’m a black American and I’ve always hated roasting banter in our communities, Ive never found it cute or funny and it’s akin to bullying in my mind
Same.
Yeah i agree for sure. Sometimes black american roasting is either a hit or extremely cringy. Its never in between lol
Yeah, many latino communities also have it and they take it to the level where people have permanent nicknames for a defining characteristic or a trait they’re missing. Like “Fat” “Ugly” “Skinny” “Man who’s wife chested on him” you name it, but that type of humour is often associated by some other people within the same community as “lowly” behavior and got rid of it completely.
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Agreed
I like when people speak truthfully. There are cultural differences even just between working class and quote unquote white collar working individuals
You know you can actually put quotes since you're typing
@@MobikSaysStuff literally what i was going to say. idk how this comment went 3 days without anyone else saying something.
Fun fact: The overseas influencer " Toyz " juz got his head smashed by a local rich KOL and his gang , just for trying to be this lady in video 😂
Who wants to go through that? lol.
Props for her not slighting his name, still being respectful and just understanding that they couldn't overcome the differences
Because if you do that in a nation that is still very much a real country, you get stabbed up by the man's family. Orientals look out for each other no matter how civilised they seem to western eyes.
They are civilised, but not doormats like our western men have become.
This usually just means she cheated
@@connorbanepoop They both look like train wrecks with all those Tats. Just wait until they get older no guy with any self respect will wife them up.
@@connorbanepoopincel moment
She didn't even talk about his 4 incher
These two are definitely friends
As an Englishman myself and dating a Taiwanese girl while living in Taiwan, the problem is that we’re supposed to show love and support to our partners so banter or “roasting” may at times contradict that demonstration of support or care. Both sides should adapt to save any misunderstandings or misinterpretations.
The difference is that you are a man from a more liberal country...not a man from a more conservative country dating a liberal woman.
She was married to an Asian man living in an Asian country acting like a Brit while interacting with his Asian peers. It was bound to fail.
When in Rome, do as the Romans do.
@@GoogleIsNotYourFriendI think that’s what he said 😂 did you not read his comment. You’re supposed to compromise. Unless you’re saying he’s a man and that’s why it’s working and she’s a woman and she’s too emotional.
@@GoogleIsNotYourFriend there are a lot of issues being a man from a liberal culture dating/marrying a woman from a conservative culture. Not only the mutual hurt feelings, disrespect and outright rejection of your values, but you don’t even qualify as a man in the eyes of her family.
@@aliciatargaryen Facepalm. If you are going to make a snarky comment like "did you not read his comment" you should really make sure that you understand the conversation. so you don't look like a fool.
The point is that they couldn't compromise because the level of misogyny in Korean culture made them incompatible. She was being polite when she said "cultural differences" and that they had arguments about her "banter" because he felt it was "disrespectful". Same reason she said she would date a Korean man from the West.
Nothing to do with her being a woman and too emotional. 🤡