"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" - Buddha. "Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured" - Mark Twain. .
Anger is conflict between what we think it should be and what exactly is. So anger start always in our mind. So if we don't act upon on our mind, nothing can make us angry. What make us angry is expectation how situation should be. Isn't possible to be angry in present moment, when you are free of all imaginations what should be or shouldn't be.🙏🏻❤️
gosh !How I disagree. I'm always present with my anger, well nearly always... As with Sadness, and other feelings... It is wonderful, and Buddhism calls it mindfulness-of-feeling, but I would add a self-caring element is there is crucial!
As someone who experiences explosions when angry I can honestly say it took me years to learn this. I had IED when I was a teenager and I'm glad to say I grew out of it half way. The other half I had to do on my own and I was never a physically violent person towards others I abused myself most of the time. It was terrifying and I'm glad to say that I still get angry but it's very very rare and I'm glad that I learned this years ago and found ways to distract and relax my mind.
It sounds like our perception of "anger" is largely connected to our attachment to the ego. Master Shi in many ways is saying we need to do much work to not associate with ego, to prevent anger in the first place.
I wonder if the Breath can help....breathe it in.....breathe it out...until your able to control your anger....always walk away from a negative or nasty situation regarding words........even if u gotta run...Peace, Love and Understanding is best....and most difficult
I totally agree. Decisions made out of intense emotion tend to be devoid of logic and common sense. It’s out of the desire for an immediate fix and it doesn’t fix, it causes more problems.
I have a postcard with various Bruce lee sayings one is "anger blinds walk on" And something I was told by an old workmate "an angry mind is a tired mind". Two things I live by. If someone says something you dont like who cares it dented your ego maybe or hurt your feelings but at the end of the day they are the one with the problem, they are the one who has to try to belittle or put down if only to make them feel or look good, but by turning the other cheek you prove you're better than them. That's how I look at things.
Anger needs to be handled very carefully. By reacting to the anger it often makes the situation worse (unless if it's a life or death situation), but anger is telling you something is wrong and you need to defend yourself. And I think this is best done by calming yourself, take a few deep breaths, get regulated and then respond in a calm but firm manner. Easier said than done though. But practice is key to everything.
If you find yourself in a situation where you are supposed to get very angry and react strongly ... take your ego out of it. Now should you react strongly.
Interesting the monk mentions that one shouldn’t make decisions under the influence of any emotion. Normally, anger is the most common emotion spoken of that suggests people should control before reacting. During a Leadership course I learned not to make decisions while ANY emotion has control over me. Decisions made while an emotion is controlling me will undoubtedly cause me to make a decision I’ll most likely regret. Get control of the emotion first.
How I control my anger is through self-discipline and release it into the universe. I also use meditation. hug my plush teddy bear real tight. Coddle my critters. Llisten to music! And Sometimes I walk in the rain. And when all else fails, I take a psych pill. 😁
I would put back to M. YI that even if, for exemple, I would enter his temple and start screaming that what he is doing is bullshit, a lot of nonsense. Then I would go in the monastery's kitchen to make myself a tea, spilling this around, cursing people, what would he do ?
Some of the best advice I ever received was from a Blackfeet elder. He said to not live your life angry. I had a hard time forgiving the betrayal of a friend. And, I was pretty angry. Then, I remembered that Jesus was betrayed, too.
So very true. People who make decisions in a blind rage are a danger to themselves and the people they act upon. I never act out of anger. I never direct volatile anger twords the people I love.
@@NoahMarcay I will believe that this is positive and not ment to be condescending. My perspective comes from being a member of a family that rips each other apart emotionally through aggressive outbursts of anger. I have personally suffered by such outbursts.
I'm quite certain that you are not the author of all things. I'm quite certain that you are not the author of all not yet things. I'm quite certain that you are not the author of all that is and forever shall be. I'm quite certain that the One.... of Unfathomable Mercy and Grace dwells within you.... as you.
Don't ASS-U-ME.... If you assume you make an ass out of you and me. Buddhist? Taoist? A Jew, just as Yeshua? I may have been to Mecca more than once. Where was your son of God between 13 and 30? If you answer correctly then I will believe.
Once read; the only way to save yourself from a warring Samurai is to spit in his face. It will make him angry; and hence he naturally restraints himself from killing you.
Ooh! While I appreciate his genuineness, I find Buddhist's viewpoints on anger (most of what I see) quite, even very deeply disappointing: firstly anger is seen as violence, even here.... Secondly, it implies it is wrong... Like it is a shame... And thirdly, it is our 'ego' that is hurt... For me, ego is the false notion of self; it is not sentient... But our attachment to this 'me' can, sure; but I would suggest it is rather our Boundaries that have ben infringed...But as reasonable people, we don't lash out to people: they very probably do/did not know; but we take it seriously-enough! So it is both-and, indeed, the middle way: it is neither indulging nor downplaying/repressing them. It can be tricky to get that 'balance', but oh so good when we sort of find it! So,...I disagree with both these three things I mentioned after really working with my own anger, intimately... From many years of caring for and feeling into my feelings, I have to say OUT LOUD, that anger, tho a Self-Serious emotion, is based on Love... (It is light years away form hatred, its essence is warm, wanting to resolve something) We can't really 'master' it but can have a good co-operation with it, a good relationship with it. To 'master' something, it is in our apparent 'control'; we are its superior; this is NOT The attitude that I can have if I am to successfully be aware of them in the right way (They are alive, part of aliveness; we have to treat them like something living (almost like living creatures); they have a right to be... And this attitude makes all the difference) I think it was secular-enough (tho for me, by implication, it was spiritual) assertiveness-classes -which I heard about, who instead of shaming anger, honoured it. And that is certainly the way to go... This does not mean giving into it; and I DO agree that decisions should not be usually based on emotions, but when we are PRESENT with anger, we are present with sadness, we CAN make decisions too! Emotions give our Hearts information!) Anger , that is not based on shame or fear, is a kind of 'yang' form of Love. All mammals have anger available for reason... We are also mammals, and our emotions are very similar in this mammalian kingdom... Looking Deeply into it, one finds Love, Passion and Care... And a very tender kind of love. This is ... repeated, living experience that I have witnessed with my own heart + mind! Yes, it seems very serious, but that is the nature of it (It is almost cute, you now?) I would suggest taking care of it -with self care and curiosity, like a Healthy Parent would do in their beloved child -and looking after it/oneself, and then miraculous things can happen: we see the Innocence of anger (It has NOTHING to do with Violence, has anger from the Heart, so I don't think his talk of us getting ready for a fight is that due; that is anger -maybe that we are not taking care of... When we honour and respect (but not overly-honour/respect), our feelings, it is quite amazing the freedom one gets... We are alive inside (we don't repress, from any shame, the feelings in themselves); but we are not out of control... I wish I could show people all these things, but they have to see it for themselves)
Haha, exquisite. That was brilliant. Yea, I did learn something. He helped me to realize that when someone attacks your ego and you are irked, it is because some monster wants to feed off your energy, and if you respond then it's only to illusion because no one is actually harming your life, therefore you're safe, but if you do respond TO that ego irk, then you are in fact losing some of your life essence because you've given it up for that monster creature to eat up!
We were given eyes in the front of our face to look forward in life. We were also given a hole in our butt where all the aholes and shit belongs. It is to hard to look back. It is easier to look for to your well-being.
Anger was overpowering my life. At the last moment Dolly Lama put a message on my Facebook. He told me we all have anger we cannot allow anger to control our emotions. We have to learn how to control it instead of it controlling us. His words of wisdom saved my life.
WHAT ABOUT FOCUSING ANGER THE RIGHT WAY AND NOT LETTING THAT ENERGY FROM ANGER TO DESTROY YOU AND INSTEAD TO BE ABLE TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THAT ANGERNESS AND FOCUSING THAT ENERGY TO BE ABLE TO CONTROL IT AND USE IT THE RIGHT WAY,I BELIEVE SOMEBODY TAUGHT ME THAT IN THE PAST!!🙏🙏🤔🤔
I respect your opinion I used to get a quick temper lately I have tried to think of something funny but it doesn’t always work but has helped quite a bit. I really like your videos and I think self control is very important in everyone
Hmmm. I think self-control is quite illusory: How we meet the emotions, like how we meet Life, is something however that we do have a handle on! But to think we can control emotions is not honouring the life inside us; they are alive... But they also need guidance; it is a Balance! I would suggest taking time out and looking deeply with your heart and mind into your anger! I have had amazing perceptions from this! But we all have different approaches
Merci a vous les frères Mulligan d'avoir trouvé ce personnage qu'es Maître SHI HENG Yi...j'en suis enchantée car malgré mon âge terrestre actuel je continue à apprendre, et ce sujet sur la colère l'interpelle..parce qu'aujourd'hui j'en suis sorti car dans ma famille elle remonte a des générations..ou j'ai vu mon père,ma grand-mère dans des colères inimaginables aujourd'hui et que j'avais reproduit avant de connaître l'explication de ses colères
I envy people that can be a 1-5 angry and pass thru it. On the otherhand, I am super chill till my verrry long wick is burned, then there is all consuming rage. Needless to say, knowledge of self is key, if not paramount. What are your triggers? The five W's. Learning HOW to be a functional confrontarion when necessary. Just my 2 cents.
I've made some good decisions while I was angry, so don't listen to his advice about anger. Anger in the right context is always good, but in the wrong context it's always destructive.
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You burn the wood you saved for many many days in one night, that hit me hard👋🏼🙏🏽
"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"
- Buddha.
"Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured"
- Mark Twain.
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The message I got is to calm your mind first, then the body follows. Controlling anger is one of the hardest things to do.
sure is, it's a prehistoric animalistic instinct to react, like an animal, thousands of years ago, but now ,it's not very socially accepted.
Anger is conflict between what we think it should be and what exactly is. So anger start always in our mind. So if we don't act upon on our mind, nothing can make us angry. What make us angry is expectation how situation should be. Isn't possible to be angry in present moment, when you are free of all imaginations what should be or shouldn't be.🙏🏻❤️
gosh
!How I disagree.
I'm always present with my anger, well nearly always... As with Sadness, and other feelings...
It is wonderful, and Buddhism calls it mindfulness-of-feeling, but I would add a self-caring element is there is crucial!
As someone who experiences explosions when angry I can honestly say it took me years to learn this. I had IED when I was a teenager and I'm glad to say I grew out of it half way. The other half I had to do on my own and I was never a physically violent person towards others I abused myself most of the time. It was terrifying and I'm glad to say that I still get angry but it's very very rare and I'm glad that I learned this years ago and found ways to distract and relax my mind.
It sounds like our perception of "anger" is largely connected to our attachment to the ego. Master Shi in many ways is saying we need to do much work to not associate with ego, to prevent anger in the first place.
I wonder if the Breath can help....breathe it in.....breathe it out...until your able to control your anger....always walk away from a negative or nasty situation regarding words........even if u gotta run...Peace, Love and Understanding is best....and most difficult
I totally agree. Decisions made out of intense emotion tend to be devoid of logic and common sense. It’s out of the desire for an immediate fix and it doesn’t fix, it causes more problems.
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Thank you 🙏
Anger is dangerous. Think about the con
sequences.
Many dramatique thinks happened because of anger. People must learn discipline. ❤
I have a postcard with various Bruce lee sayings one is "anger blinds walk on"
And something I was told by an old workmate "an angry mind is a tired mind".
Two things I live by.
If someone says something you dont like who cares it dented your ego maybe or hurt your feelings but at the end of the day they are the one with the problem, they are the one who has to try to belittle or put down if only to make them feel or look good, but by turning the other cheek you prove you're better than them.
That's how I look at things.
Thank you so much. Love the wisdom.
Anger needs to be handled very carefully. By reacting to the anger it often makes the situation worse (unless if it's a life or death situation), but anger is telling you something is wrong and you need to defend yourself. And I think this is best done by calming yourself, take a few deep breaths, get regulated and then respond in a calm but firm manner. Easier said than done though. But practice is key to everything.
thanks for the great insightful content.one love
If you find yourself in a situation where you are supposed to get very angry and react strongly ... take your ego out of it. Now should you react strongly.
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Use the anger in a proper way, temper it, transmute it into physical energy and use it for ur next Workout
Interesting the monk mentions that one shouldn’t make decisions under the influence of any emotion. Normally, anger is the most common emotion spoken of that suggests people should control before reacting.
During a Leadership course I learned not to make decisions while ANY emotion has control over me. Decisions made while an emotion is controlling me will undoubtedly cause me to make a decision I’ll most likely regret. Get control of the emotion first.
💭🙏🙇🏼♀️The EGO 🎯
How I control my anger is through self-discipline and release it into the universe. I also use meditation. hug my plush teddy bear real tight. Coddle my critters. Llisten to music! And Sometimes I walk in the rain. And when all else fails, I take a psych pill. 😁
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The camera is a little bit lower than where you are looking in the intro. Just a heads up.
I would put back to M. YI that even if, for exemple, I would enter his temple and start screaming that what he is doing is bullshit, a lot of nonsense. Then I would go in the monastery's kitchen to make myself a tea, spilling this around, cursing people, what would he do ?
He would probably ask you to think about why you were being such a brat
Some of the best advice I ever received was from a Blackfeet elder. He said to not live your life angry. I had a hard time forgiving the betrayal of a friend. And, I was pretty angry. Then, I remembered that Jesus was betrayed, too.
"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"
- Buddha.
So very true. People who make decisions in a blind rage are a danger to themselves and the people they act upon. I never act out of anger. I never direct volatile anger twords the people I love.
Good for you.
@@NoahMarcay I will believe that this is positive and not ment to be condescending. My perspective comes from being a member of a family that rips each other apart emotionally through aggressive outbursts of anger. I have personally suffered by such outbursts.
“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:” - Ephesians 4:26
"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die"
- Buddha.
Anger cannot be controlled. With love there is no anger. Follow me and return to Father.
??? That's why you flipped the money changers table over and threw them out of the temple?
@@garyelliot5533 if you think I did that out of anger, you also probably think that I'm God.
I'm quite certain that you are not the author of all things. I'm quite certain that you are not the author of all not yet things. I'm quite certain that you are not the author of all that is and forever shall be. I'm quite certain that the One.... of Unfathomable Mercy and Grace dwells within you.... as you.
@@garyelliot5533 unless you return to Father you are as lost as the Buddhist.
Don't ASS-U-ME....
If you assume you make an ass out of you and me. Buddhist? Taoist? A Jew, just as Yeshua? I may have been to Mecca more than once.
Where was your son of God between 13 and 30? If you answer correctly then I will believe.
Once read; the only way to save yourself from a warring Samurai is to spit in his face. It will make him angry; and hence he naturally restraints himself from killing you.
Ha I love it! When ur so badass youre peaceful
Logisch. Kann es auch genetische Ursachen haben ?
Ooh! While I appreciate his genuineness, I find Buddhist's viewpoints on anger (most of what I see) quite, even very deeply disappointing: firstly anger is seen as violence, even here.... Secondly, it implies it is wrong... Like it is a shame... And thirdly, it is our 'ego' that is hurt... For me, ego is the false notion of self; it is not sentient... But our attachment to this 'me' can, sure; but I would suggest it is rather our Boundaries that have ben infringed...But as reasonable people, we don't lash out to people: they very probably do/did not know; but we take it seriously-enough!
So it is both-and, indeed, the middle way: it is neither indulging nor downplaying/repressing them. It can be tricky to get that 'balance', but oh so good when we sort of find it!
So,...I disagree with both these three things I mentioned after really working with my own anger, intimately... From many years of caring for and feeling into my feelings, I have to say OUT LOUD, that anger, tho a Self-Serious emotion, is based on Love... (It is light years away form hatred, its essence is warm, wanting to resolve something) We can't really 'master' it but can have a good co-operation with it, a good relationship with it. To 'master' something, it is in our apparent 'control'; we are its superior; this is NOT The attitude that I can have if I am to successfully be aware of them in the right way (They are alive, part of aliveness; we have to treat them like something living (almost like living creatures); they have a right to be... And this attitude makes all the difference)
I think it was secular-enough (tho for me, by implication, it was spiritual) assertiveness-classes -which I heard about, who instead of shaming anger, honoured it.
And that is certainly the way to go... This does not mean giving into it; and I DO agree that decisions should not be usually based on emotions, but when we are PRESENT with anger, we are present with sadness, we CAN make decisions too! Emotions give our Hearts information!)
Anger , that is not based on shame or fear, is a kind of 'yang' form of Love. All mammals have anger available for reason... We are also mammals, and our emotions are very similar in this mammalian kingdom...
Looking Deeply into it, one finds Love, Passion and Care... And a very tender kind of love.
This is ... repeated, living experience that I have witnessed with my own heart + mind!
Yes, it seems very serious, but that is the nature of it (It is almost cute, you now?)
I would suggest taking care of it -with self care and curiosity, like a Healthy Parent would do in their beloved child -and looking after it/oneself, and then miraculous things can happen: we see the Innocence of anger (It has NOTHING to do with Violence, has anger from the Heart, so I don't think his talk of us getting ready for a fight is that due; that is anger -maybe that we are not taking care of...
When we honour and respect (but not overly-honour/respect), our feelings, it is quite amazing the freedom one gets... We are alive inside (we don't repress, from any shame, the feelings in themselves); but we are not out of control...
I wish I could show people all these things, but they have to see it for themselves)
Hi i m from pakistan....very well done for ur effort...really enjoyed tge talk with master ans kindly write your insta gram link
Haha, exquisite. That was brilliant. Yea, I did learn something. He helped me to realize that when someone attacks your ego and you are irked, it is because some monster wants to feed off your energy, and if you respond then it's only to illusion because no one is actually harming your life, therefore you're safe, but if you do respond TO that ego irk, then you are in fact losing some of your life essence because you've given it up for that monster creature to eat up!
We were given eyes in the front of our face to look forward in life. We were also given a hole in our butt where all the aholes and shit belongs. It is to hard to look back. It is easier to look for to your well-being.
Anger was overpowering my life. At the last moment Dolly Lama put a message on my Facebook. He told me we all have anger we cannot allow anger to control our emotions. We have to learn how to control it instead of it controlling us. His words of wisdom saved my life.
With anger you will get one answer, without it, you will get a better answer.
WHAT ABOUT FOCUSING ANGER THE RIGHT WAY AND NOT LETTING THAT ENERGY FROM ANGER TO DESTROY YOU AND INSTEAD TO BE ABLE TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THAT ANGERNESS AND FOCUSING THAT ENERGY TO BE ABLE TO CONTROL IT AND USE IT THE RIGHT WAY,I BELIEVE SOMEBODY TAUGHT ME THAT IN THE PAST!!🙏🙏🤔🤔
If have english subtitle i think there will be much more views
I searched this video specifically because I had a bad experience with a parent that's been going on for many years
wait, that's the wrong mulligan brother?? who's this guy? lol JK. Thanks for the awesome content again guys. I needed this, this morning.
There Is No ANGER Little Boy.
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I respect your opinion I used to get a quick temper lately I have tried to think of something funny but it doesn’t always work but has helped quite a bit. I really like your videos and I think self control is very important in everyone
Hmmm. I think self-control is quite illusory: How we meet the emotions, like how we meet Life, is something however that we do have a handle on!
But to think we can control emotions is not honouring the life inside us; they are alive... But they also need guidance; it is a Balance!
I would suggest taking time out and looking deeply with your heart and mind into your anger! I have had amazing perceptions from this!
But we all have different approaches
He avoided the answer either on purpose or from lack of experience fortunately. Blessed are those who didn't meet anger until now.
Merci a vous les frères Mulligan d'avoir trouvé ce personnage qu'es Maître SHI HENG Yi...j'en suis enchantée car malgré mon âge terrestre actuel je continue à apprendre, et ce sujet sur la colère l'interpelle..parce qu'aujourd'hui j'en suis sorti car dans ma famille elle remonte a des générations..ou j'ai vu mon père,ma grand-mère dans des colères inimaginables aujourd'hui et que j'avais reproduit avant de connaître l'explication de ses colères
I envy people that can be a 1-5 angry and pass thru it.
On the otherhand, I am super chill till my verrry long wick is burned, then there is all consuming rage.
Needless to say, knowledge of self is key, if not paramount. What are your triggers? The five W's. Learning HOW to be a functional confrontarion when necessary.
Just my 2 cents.
WOW 🙏🌟❤️
The Holy Bible is a battle plan book but you have to know the code to decipher to leave and never follow could be concealed as anger
Can we leave the bible out of this?
I've made some good decisions while I was angry, so don't listen to his advice about anger. Anger in the right context is always good, but in the wrong context it's always destructive.