I think what she meant to say is.... Although there r other kids, she wants her current baby to have a sibling frm her so she has 2 kids... She jst didnt articulate it very well and it came out as though she's excluding others... Cuz reality is.. If she breaks up wit the guy, she's nt leaving with the other 5 kids now will she? So she jst feels tht her 1 child is not enough, she needs another 1
Khona I understand what she wants for her child but I soo wish she did not say that she has 1 child. It sounds mean to the other kids. I can't help but feel for them.
She just didn't articulate it well. I think she fears that her child might be treated differently because she/he doesn't share a mother with any of his other children. Children also tend to be closer to their mothers than their fathers. It's not that she isn't acknowledging his other children, she just wants to have another biological child. I think it would be different if those kids were being raised by her. The solution would be for her to have another baby. She also definitely wants to have another baby for reasons that have nothing to do with her husband of which it's good. She's would be doing it for herself and her existing child. It's better that he's not demanding for her to have another baby. They're in agreement on having another child both as a couple and individually.
I have a step daughter and I count her as our own not his own. When u marry someone with children, u need to be ready to see the children and treat them as urs. Well, that's just me
This is so unfair to Gcina, so she must have one child just because yena he decided to have 5000 kids with other women and doesn’t even stay with them.
I don't see her rudeness in all these. The guy shouldn't be shoving his kids on Gcina inculding his sister's. Where's the sister if I may ask? I feel she'll accept those kids better if she's also supported in having her own kids.
He probably is intelligent, and does not think he needs a woman with substance cause he already has one. Men like this tend to have other people outside of their marriage that they call always go back to. This lady could just be a trophy wife to him nothing more or less. And it seems like she's here for the money, and having this child is security for her.
Im a stepchild myself and my three other siblings are from the same mom but let me tell you the relationship is there but not the same. I love my siblings 💗 I wish my mom had given me a sister or a brother.
@@OnlyOneMellie but she doesn't know how the kids will turn out... They don't Even live with all the children yet... If it will get there... I doubt it will
She just didn't articulate it well. I think she fears that her child might be treated differently because she/he doesn't share a mother with any of his other children. Children also tend to be closer to their mothers than their fathers. It's not that she isn't acknowledging his other children, she just wants to have another biological child. I think it would be different if those kids were being raised by her. The solution would be for her to have another baby. She also definitely wants to have another baby for reasons that have nothing to do with her husband of which it's good. She's would be doing it for herself and her existing child. It's better that he's not demanding for her to have another baby. They're in agreement on having another child both as a couple and individually.
Treated differently how? Her wanting another baby with her husband is fine. But then whenever he says "we" she always ÿou" have 5 kids. That shows that she's not considering his other kids and God knows that if he was to die the kids would probably get nothing of their father.
@@lethaboignatius816 Treated differently in that you'll have a closer relationship with the siblings that you grow up with than those you only get to see once in a while. Also just because she doesn't see those kids as her own doesn't automatically mean she'll treat them badly. She just doesn't have that maternal/motherly feeling for them. She seems to feel more like she's their aunt rather than a mother. Trying to force that mother/child relationship/love on her won't work. It can create a very uncomfortable situation. She can still make them feel like a part of the family without acting like their second mom when they're visiting at home. She can function as another adult in the house instead of a third parent. Basically she can behave like she's their aunt. They can still build a healthy and functional family situation without forcing things on anyone. Also what do you mean she's not thinking of those other kids? She's not supposed to have another child and give the child she lives with a sibling to grow up with just because there are other existing kids? She doesn't have to feel maternal/motherly for those kids to treat them well. She just has to care about them and their well being.
@@lethaboignatius816 if this statement didn't make this guy reconsider or get themselves a counselor in dealing with this situation because sisters has not fully accepted her hubby to be's kids...
@@perfectlyimperfect1095 wow I so love your comment and articulation. You're right on point sis, I really don't understand this thing that people want of forcing matters. Relationships should form naturally and fact remains she doesn't have to feel that motherly if she feels like their aunt then what is wrong with that? The important thing here is that she treats them right, at the end of the day they have their own mothers and she has the right to want her own. Yini ihaba elingaka just to create a scenario that the lady is evil no man people need to be realistic and know not everybody is the same and what you feel is the right way to do things is not universal for everyone.
@@nonniengema536 reality is your body will never be the same after giving birth... All you do now is working with what you have now after the baby... If we start normalizing real life as opposed to Beyonce life who had a flat tummy 3 weeks after giving birth to twins.. We will be alright yaziii
I feel like this lady is not doing the ryt thing, remember when you are dating a man enabantwana kuba ngabenu noyi 2 so yena ubala owakhe qha uthini ngaba wabathola bekhona? Sabelo vuka please
I think what she meant to say is.... Although there r other kids, she wants her current baby to have a sibling frm her so she has 2 kids... She jst didnt articulate it very well and it came out as though she's excluding others... Cuz reality is.. If she breaks up wit the guy, she's nt leaving with the other 5 kids now will she? So she jst feels tht her 1 child is not enough, she needs another 1
But it feels rude to hear her excluding the other kids
Khona I understand what she wants for her child but I soo wish she did not say that she has 1 child. It sounds mean to the other kids. I can't help but feel for them.
She just didn't articulate it well. I think she fears that her child might be treated differently because she/he doesn't share a mother with any of his other children. Children also tend to be closer to their mothers than their fathers. It's not that she isn't acknowledging his other children, she just wants to have another biological child. I think it would be different if those kids were being raised by her. The solution would be for her to have another baby. She also definitely wants to have another baby for reasons that have nothing to do with her husband of which it's good. She's would be doing it for herself and her existing child. It's better that he's not demanding for her to have another baby. They're in agreement on having another child both as a couple and individually.
@@perfectlyimperfect1095 Gcina is not careful with her words around Sabelo and his family and she comes of as mean.
Akakhulumi kahle lomakoti
I have a step daughter and I count her as our own not his own. When u marry someone with children, u need to be ready to see the children and treat them as urs. Well, that's just me
Its a your choice. At the end of the day the child is not urs.
True coz it's not fair for a guy or girl to raise someone's child while he /she denys their partner's kids @Ag mik
@@rockymothupi6798 exactly cabanga uzobala bonke abantwana bangaka balendoda as ngabakho hayi ngekhe
@@snookieboo9307 true
She needs to learn from you. She's selfish
You know where the danger is
This is so unfair to Gcina, so she must have one child just because yena he decided to have 5000 kids with other women and doesn’t even stay with them.
I don't see her rudeness in all these. The guy shouldn't be shoving his kids on Gcina inculding his sister's. Where's the sister if I may ask? I feel she'll accept those kids better if she's also supported in having her own kids.
@@naremokgwele9246she should not have married him if she came with a child and he did not accepted her kids you will be singing a different tune
Girl ur married to Sabelo by mistake you wont last in this shipment
"Le, Ngaphandle?" He needs to drop her. He sounds like a deadbeat, so he'll miss that redflag
She does not have substance and the guy is not very intelligent either!
He probably is intelligent, and does not think he needs a woman with substance cause he already has one. Men like this tend to have other people outside of their marriage that they call always go back to. This lady could just be a trophy wife to him nothing more or less. And it seems like she's here for the money, and having this child is security for her.
@@lerandzotibane3150 a lot has happened, it's sad how the guy's family treats the girl and he does not stand up for her.
This is not a wife/mother...a mother/wife would acknowledge all those other kids from his previous relationships.She's childish.
He's missing the red flags
Im a stepchild myself and my three other siblings are from the same mom but let me tell you the relationship is there but not the same. I love my siblings 💗
I wish my mom had given me a sister or a brother.
Siblings from your own mother are different, the relationship is different. She's not denying the children, just making a valid point.
@@OnlyOneMellie but she doesn't know how the kids will turn out... They don't Even live with all the children yet... If it will get there... I doubt it will
@@beeelephant7898 which further proves her point.
What kind of a woman who accepts a man yet can't accept him with his child. This woman is not worthy.
Lol when you Mary and Instagram slay Queen😂🤣😂🤣
Lona akuyena umfazi ubhuti wadidwa ubuhle umqondo wakhe hhay awuphelele kahle crc uGlamor njey hhay umfazi
The other kids will never feel love from her. and she married him while she knew that he has kids.
She just didn't articulate it well. I think she fears that her child might be treated differently because she/he doesn't share a mother with any of his other children. Children also tend to be closer to their mothers than their fathers. It's not that she isn't acknowledging his other children, she just wants to have another biological child. I think it would be different if those kids were being raised by her. The solution would be for her to have another baby. She also definitely wants to have another baby for reasons that have nothing to do with her husband of which it's good. She's would be doing it for herself and her existing child. It's better that he's not demanding for her to have another baby. They're in agreement on having another child both as a couple and individually.
Treated differently how? Her wanting another baby with her husband is fine. But then whenever he says "we" she always ÿou" have 5 kids. That shows that she's not considering his other kids and God knows that if he was to die the kids would probably get nothing of their father.
@@lethaboignatius816 Treated differently in that you'll have a closer relationship with the siblings that you grow up with than those you only get to see once in a while. Also just because she doesn't see those kids as her own doesn't automatically mean she'll treat them badly. She just doesn't have that maternal/motherly feeling for them. She seems to feel more like she's their aunt rather than a mother. Trying to force that mother/child relationship/love on her won't work. It can create a very uncomfortable situation. She can still make them feel like a part of the family without acting like their second mom when they're visiting at home. She can function as another adult in the house instead of a third parent. Basically she can behave like she's their aunt. They can still build a healthy and functional family situation without forcing things on anyone. Also what do you mean she's not thinking of those other kids? She's not supposed to have another child and give the child she lives with a sibling to grow up with just because there are other existing kids? She doesn't have to feel maternal/motherly for those kids to treat them well. She just has to care about them and their well being.
@@lethaboignatius816 if this statement didn't make this guy reconsider or get themselves a counselor in dealing with this situation because sisters has not fully accepted her hubby to be's kids...
@@perfectlyimperfect1095 wow I so love your comment and articulation. You're right on point sis, I really don't understand this thing that people want of forcing matters. Relationships should form naturally and fact remains she doesn't have to feel that motherly if she feels like their aunt then what is wrong with that? The important thing here is that she treats them right, at the end of the day they have their own mothers and she has the right to want her own. Yini ihaba elingaka just to create a scenario that the lady is evil no man people need to be realistic and know not everybody is the same and what you feel is the right way to do things is not universal for everyone.
Hay loo mama unamanga akazifuni ezinye engane qhaa
How rich is this guy? Phela going under the knife is very much expensive
Close to a hundred thousand. He will have multiply it by 2🤭
Her reasoning is very alarming😢..when u marry..ushada kwasan yobambo lwakho
How old is Gcinile?
She's a slayqueen
Hai cc bonke bayi 6 ngabakho lomkwenyana u are NW family🙏
Example of an assertive female.
People don’t like that
N she's been called childish. I was gonna fall pregnant with or without the guys approval I promise u. I'm petty like that
So flat stomach is more fulfilling than having a baby
Yes for her, its her choice jahle kahke.
Every single woman wants to look and feel beautiful regardless of kids or not... So asinga jajini
@@nonniengema536 reality is your body will never be the same after giving birth... All you do now is working with what you have now after the baby... If we start normalizing real life as opposed to Beyonce life who had a flat tummy 3 weeks after giving birth to twins.. We will be alright yaziii
Gcina !
An then sabelo...a re I found a wife...ohk.
Intombazane eqhenyayo😂
Too focused on the child? No such thing u sound selfish
I feel like this lady is not doing the ryt thing, remember when you are dating a man enabantwana kuba ngabenu noyi 2 so yena ubala owakhe qha uthini ngaba wabathola bekhona? Sabelo vuka please
Hai dis 1 is not ready... hw cn she say she has 1.. shuthi she doesn't want ukuba step mom.
this girl is not ready for marriage
No my sister don't talk like that
ai ai this woman shame!!!!
This guy is not smart at ALL. I wonder how she puts up with him cos aowa banna