Healthy Communication // Season 3 Episode 6 | Honest Tea Talk
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- Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025
- When communication breaks down, we often hear things like "you're not listening." And when communication is lost, we might feel "they don't understand."
In today's episode, we uncover the causes of communication breakdowns while reflecting on ways in which we can become proficient in healthier communication, both verbal and non-verbal. We also discuss how to deal with conversations when they're heading south, how to clear up the confusion and curiosity through clarifying questions. Most importantly, we draw examples of effective, meaningful communication from the best of examples, our Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him.
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with Aliyah, LaYinka & Sumayah
Inspired by Jada Pinkett-Smith's 'Red Table Talk', 3 Muslim women have set up a platform to speak openly and honestly, giving viewers an unedited insight into the minds and life of Muslim women. Honest Tea Talk brings deep and often unspoken topics to the table to lay down our masks and start much-needed discussions about matters related to Muslim women and the ummah at large.
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Here are few points: 1. Communication is important but how you communicate is even more important. your tone, body language, facial expression, all convey meaning. 2. Listening is as part of communication as talking. So listen to understand and not react! Barak"Allahu feekum
I am a Christian sister and I love the content 🥰 I found this channel a while ago and I can't stop watching these videos. Super important topics and you all three seem so warm-hearted and beautiful people inside and outside. These videos has made me think a lot and I have already made important changes and decisions in my life. This beautiful community feels like a safe space for me too 🥰
Honestly, when I clicked to one of your videos by curiousity, was the best click in my whole RUclips history 😊
Ana Adriana so glad your here with us, Welcome. Yes, they are beautiful soul sisters, MashAllah ! I can feel where your coming from, (as a previous Christian myself, now Muslim,) I too found such
“ ideology/thinking” as this truly inspiring too.
@@celesteamarquez837 Thank you for your kind words 🥰
@@anaadriana2823 💐In sha Allah (God willing ) wishing you a very blessed and beautiful Friday !
@@celesteamarquez837 Thank you! Have a blessed day too 🌸
Hi Ana, as you are a Christian, I wanted to ask you about your understanding of Jesus - do you believe Jesus is God or somebody sent by God (like a prophet)? We Muslims see him as a prophet sent by Almighty God, just like prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), rather seeing him as God himself. And we believe Almighty God is one, perfect and the only one to be worshipped. God cannot be a man because God is eternal, independent and has no needs. Would you agree?
"The more you're communicating with Allah, the better your communication with His creation" Ma sha Allah! That's my take-home quote. I totally agree with this statement. It works for me!!
I'm glad you brought that up LaYinka, TEXTING is not an effective way to communicate . It doesn't convey tone and can be easily misinterpreted by the reader.
Very true, I’m guilty of always misinterpreting messages.
Yes this part 100% true I'm constantly saying this
I don’t know what I would do if you guys stop this series. So much needed to listen to Muslims discuss things like this. I don’t have a community of Muslims around me, so I look to you and Alhamdulillah for what do you do for us :)
Assalaamu ‘alaykum sister! I saw that Layinka started a program for sisters called Homecoming, maybe you can join that 😊. I am a member of the Mindful Hearts Academy where you can find a lot of support too inshaAllah if you want to take a look ♥️ May Allah guide you towards what is best and may you be surrounded by those Allah loves most ♥️
@@adrianac9180 thank you! I will check it out :)
@G. Galeev I don’t think they’re doing that actually. I’d very much rather NOT skip and listen instead :)
Healthy communication comes when we as a muslims our spiritual connection with Allah Azzawajjal is strong n i absolutely agree with sister aliya about our tongues gets automatically careful when we remember Allah Azzawajjal more..when we keep our tongue moist with the dhikr of Allah Azzawajjal....i personally expereinced this phase during my most beautiful n deepest n strongest imaan n ibadah days...i used to be very careful and used to think twice or thrice when talking to people...i was more cautious about my tone....
Spiritual distance from the creator can automatically make the tongue ignorant hence creating chaos in life whether its ours or others.....
This dhikr point hit me sooo hard that i paused video and started writing in the comment box so that i dont miss any points i wanted to share
This episode on healthy communication was a Top-notch. May Allah reward you all abundantly ❤
Regarding this issue of seeking clarification, sometimes when I feel offended by what someone said I would just be like “I feel insulted by your words” or I almost feel attacked and the person then usually quickly clarifies and then I completely move on. It really works for me.
I am here just to say I miss this weekly content. May Allah give you ease in your occupations. ❤
Warm selams from Bosnia and Herzegovina.
Ameen! That's a lovely du'a. 💛
Constant communication with Allah gives us this peace and calm that subsequently manifests in the way we communicate with His creation... The humility and decorum we use in communicating with Him becomes a part and parcel of our lives ❤️
I love you all for the sake of Allah. May Allah reward you and your families
My weekly therapy session 🤍🤍
The word bismillah just instantly brought tears to my eyes and I don't know why???.... 🌙 🎇🌙There are some wounds in life that are way,way beyond the subliminal understanding of one's mind!!..
Repetition! We discussed this at a workshop I attended under effective communication. You ladies are the best!
i really liked this one . i really felt it in my heart when Aliyah said that we should do dhikr and remember Allah and that the tongue shall be careful and soft with how we talk to others when we do that .
I like how Sumaiya added to that and said that it puts everything in context and reminds you that Allah is perfect and we're all flawed and that you're dealing with each other's hearts and we're all fragile and vulnerable . i love how she added about how we're curating each other's hearts and how we are protecting each other's hearts .
truly if we keep this in mind in both our romantic and other relationships in our lives, it'll make a massive difference .
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Am i the only who’s looking for new episodes every time?
jazakumullh kheiran,well done girls
Love how sumaya was talking about the souls love love love
Can you do an episode on how to form friendships at an older age, 25 and up?
Very important as you said as a practical way to deal with bad communication is to see where the other person is coming from, and understand that maybe they aren’t at the best place themselves. That will help you to breathe and take it more easy perhaps inshallah. May Allah bless us all with Sabr and the most beautiful way of communication to others Amin.
I loved hearing the part on self parenting. Asking yourself 'what do I want' What do i need?' and then 'What do I want' What do I need' from the other person
Aoa dear sisters.... new viewer here, i loved ur conversations.... kindly do make more.....When will your next episodes come ??
I Really Enjoy watch and listening, I hope all of you ladies are okay! Hope to hear more honest talks soon inshallah
Shukran for the beautiful talk ❤️. It was something I really needed to hear right now ✨
This episode was definitely for me and my situation right now. My chest feels so light. Thank you so much 😘😘😘😘😘😘
All of you have awesome, beautiful, smashing, impactful and feminine personalities.
If musmlim men are intimidated by such educated, self aware and eloquent women, they are lagging far behind in their standards of self development, satisfaction, and their roles in the development of the upcoming generation.
I would add to the slowing down & realizing who is talking part by advicing us all to realize when we have allowed our qareen to take over - once you are contious to the pattern you can put a stop to it. Always look within and seek refuge from Allah. From our own evil. Most ppl are oblivious to the enemy within. Don't ruin a relationship in moments of anger. Always calm down and approach things from a better place.
I love watching these videos, they look me very kind and sincere, even though i cant understand english well.. 😂
Masha Allah this is soo amazing. These topics are really needed for our muslim community
Thank you for who you are 🤍💚🌼🪻
Healthy communication is key to making relationships work effectively and efficiently. The best part is learn from your talk today is to communicate with Allah during such times, knowing that Allah is seeing and hearing everything you do. The fear in the creator will make people responsible and do things better
Thank you sisters for this i realy needed it .i always had problems when someone respond to me with high tone i feel hurt. Sometimes i chose to stay away from them
Very articulate, MashaAllah sisters!
I have a BSc and I am doing a masters in Comms but mehn😅 it’s still not the easiest thing for me to do. However, I am very self aware especially when it comes to communication, I think that’s a good start (if I can say so myself 😄)
❤beautiful talk
All Praise Is Due To Allah, All Three Of You Sisters, Is Special, Amazing And Is Royalty. I Ask Almighty Allah, To Continue To Bless And Protect You All and To Continue To Reward You All with Good Amin.
Beautiful episode mashaAllah💕 Going back to what Aliyah said regarding the work on healing the unresolved mess, which makes a lot of sense to me, I would like an episode that focuses on the healing itself and how it is done!!
Yes I will like that too
Love this channel.MashAllah keep up the good work.
Alhamdulillah! Jazakullah khair for sharing so much food for thought and practical wisdom that we can implement to improve our relationship with ourselves, others and our Lord! ❤️
I love this channel...ma sha Allah
Excellent tips MashaAllah. I would also mention that healthy communication is a two-way street. An invaluable skill to cultivate is to learn how to discern between people you can work with and those that who cannot. I wasted years of my life trying to sincerely communicate with people that couldn't care less. No reasoning or explanations even regarding the rules ordained by Allah can be effectively communicate to someone who doesn't want to hear it. Some people can be a little too forgiving and understanding about others. It was well-known that Umar ibn Khattib knew which people could be reasoned with and which people needed to meet his stick.
I love the timing it left us continue to figure out the rest for ourselves... thank you so much once again my beautiful sisters
I really loved this episode ...Jazakumullah khayran
From East Africa Mombasa Kenya we love you for the sake of الله
ShukarAlhumdullilah,you sisters have really touched on important topics,May Allah always keep you"'ll true and real as you'll are,ameen!for me communication is a skill which alot of people don't have!so workshops,lectures and programmes like yours are really important
All parts are welcome! I love it. Mashaallah.
I want to join you guys on that table!!!! Please save a cup for me!!!! 😂🥰 X
Me too😂🙌
Thank you so much❤
Assalamu Alaykum My Sister in Islam
I like the topic Me&My spouse have back and forth communication because we trust and have respect for each other in our personal things...We both have obligation to do pray to ALLAH🤲As a women I do so much homework.,But Nobody is perfect and no relationship is perfect as well in terms 0f argument yes somehow As human beings in my case I feel sometimes a feel loneliness,jealousy,anger,but not all the time...ALHAMDULILLAH am glad ALLAH he give me spouse he understand my mood swing,my jealousy behaviour,the trait a man wants is all in h!m...ALHAMDULILLAH 🤲😘🌹🌹🌹
Just to add, listening is very, very important in communication. Listen carefully, patiently and openly to what the other person has to say, so that there is no misunderstanding, miscommunication or wrong assumptions. And seek forgiveness from them even if you don't think you said or did anything wrong. We can say things without realising that we're offending them and when it's not even our intention.
I love how beautiful and fashionable the sisters look..all look so lovely. Love it.
As much as i love watching these videos and learning and be aware, i also feel it would be respectful if the ladies allowed Sommayah to speak without being interrupted. All love here
may allah increase your knowledge Ameen
Excellent conversation.
I just love these ladies, jazakamullahu khyran kaseera for bringing your confident selves and your informed views to us women who were really tired of others defining femininity for us, although nothing wrong with that, but it just doesn't give the whole picture as men\and others usually talk about what they want to see in women and vice versa.
A really Nice topic mashallah, jazakumullahu khiren.
Am Mohamed from I joined this channel last week I watched it much video Alhamdulilah keep going ❤❤
Loved this episode, love you for the sake of Allah sisters ♥️ You have truly impacted my life with your show ♥️
May almighty Allah bless y’all abundantly
What happened to this series? we are missing it every day.
Start with yourself, first 👍👍👍 good point.
This is a much needed topic 🙏🏾💕
Always question your assumptions. Qur'an 49:12 & 13 talks about us avoiding assumptions, and our differences as male and females being a catalyst for curiosity that should lead to understanding. In essence ask as many questions in order to understand, not to react.
Yayyyy new video 😃
Can we have an episode on Self Communication?
Methods other than Journalling...
Writing down what you think is really difficult sometimes...
28:22 most important part imo. Absolutly everything comes back to your thoughts and to your selftalk: How you view yourself, the world and especially Allah swt. Sometimes I think that our thoughts and the self talk are the main reason/source why a Person becomes sucessful and therefore enters Jannah. If you really think about it, islam is about teaching us first how to THINK about EVERYTHING and than putting it in practise.
By the way: does anybody know good books about kognitiv behaviour ( therapy) in combination with islam?
I think the key word is "customer service " everything you have described all falls under "customer service " . Empathy , understanding , emotional intelligence. Being calm and bringing the person on side rather than taking a stance of opposition . A good Moto is " winning the customer not the argument" defusing conflict and making them an ally or make yourself an ally to them . To tweak the mission statement so it's more relevant " winning the patient over and not the argument".
Which goes back to a previous response of mine in another video . We are advised to be water when someone is fire . Totally customer service, which in my opinion is the most valuable life skill becuase no matter what you do in life there is always a gateway person to interact with .
Edit : problem with Muslim youth today is they choose to belong and identify themselves part of a sub culture , a street culture . Way they dress , talk and act. The big issue this causes is alienation to the wider, broader society. This behaviour is not favoured in broader society , it's shunned to be honest. The slang and attitude alienates wider society which in turn feeds the narrative of "we don't fit in" . The huge problem is that our youth are alienating themselves to the "key holders" the key holders to doors of opportunity. Opportunities like jobs for example on the many fields. This is caused by lazy parenting and lack of knowledge tbh .
Please we would appreciate it if you talk about the process of one's healing! "Healing journey".
QT or question thinking is key to changing one's life, and that of his/her surroundings.
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله
Very good topic indeed needed. Its really imp to listen specially when it comes to kids ,they need lending ears .
I request aliya team to have a topic on LGBT how to deal or how it effects community and in perspective of our dean.specially how to educate our teenage kids reg it .
بارك الله فيكن
Inner dialogue importance sooooo true Layinka
I see it from Kazakhstan
Betrayal love this topic cant wait to see what you sisters have to say in sh Allah!
With every passing episode am getting even more excited about further one's...what will be the topic next??..whats next coming on the table for us??...HTT is similar to me the way a chocolate is to kids😁😁😁..i may not comment regularly but i always enjoy watching u sisters talk...thats my fav thing....
Love girls😊🙌
Hanane from somalia🇸🇴❤
I'll have to relisten to this one lol
topic on inlaws interference PLEAAASEE
I second that inlaws episode.
Me too
You guys should teach communication as it is discussed in the Qu'ran, not the science of communication via the Dunya (I have a communications degree, scholarship student, Greenspun Media Las Vegas),
I find communication very difficult besides with my blood relatives who know me. I usually I stay quiet not offend people around me, because I find when I share my thoughts, people find it hard to follow and in default they are defensive, I think my delivery must be bad or my expressions are not really conveying my tone properly. Maybe I am too blunt sometimes. Most of the time I do not realise.
Please discuss about relationship with in laws.. PLEASEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!
We'll consider it for a future season, inshaAllah.
Jazakallahu khair ❤️
Life suppose to be easy if u follow the rule of Allah & it is also learn to compromise with ur spouse. Be the easy one that goes both ways now, where r those women live by the rule of Allah & hungry for communication
Any chance these talks can be uploaded to SoundCloud or a similar platform in audio format?
Check on your favourite podcast platforms like Spotify or Apple podcasts.
أحب متابعتكم وتعجبني همتكم .. لكن لا أفهم الإنجليزية جيدا
انشاء الله ستفهم لكن استمع وشاهد الحلقات كثير من الوقت وانا لا أعرف العربية لكن انا متفائلة انا عندي ثقة انو يوم من الأيام سأتكلم مثل ما انا اتكلم باللغة الانجليزية
تماما ذاك ما أفعل ....وإن كنت فتاة وأردت مني أن أساعدك على تعلم اللغة العربية فمرحبا بك أختي
@@khawlaer-rahmouni7006 thank you so much شكرا جزيلا اختي ،اقدر ذالك عندي واتساب ،وهذا رقمي +٢٥٢٦٣٣١٤٦٠٣٢
Layinka sounds so nigerian with the different tones she used in the 'What'🤣🤣
Firstly, I sincerely apologise to any who subscribe to Honest Tea Talk and have been offended by any of my comments.
I mean well; however, diplomacy is not my forté.
Communication via text messages is only partially clear: no body language is observable, and as SaLynka said, 'the tone can speak volumes'!
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Can the next topic be about friendships ,
what if they want to shelf it for good without working on it
This is off topic but curious are they American la or UK citizens. This is more to feed my curiosity! I think I hear accents but I listen to a lot of UK speakers that sometimes I no longer hear British accents even though I am American
We're all UK citizens, and Sumayah is American. 🙂
Who is speaking
Very important question!!!
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"You can always ignore my comments and focus on what is said by Honest Tea Talk!"
What’s the background nasheed?
A questions not asked, is a door or opportunity not opened.
هذا الفيديو مفيد جدا
allah bless you
Let's not forget that women wear rings on certain fingers and men on others
اشتقت لكن🌹🌹🌹
😘💓😘💓😘💓
You all are lovely girls.
I don’t know how to approach y’all man you get me confused should I be aggressive or nice more western or traditional y’all change I don’t know what you guys want Abyo
Just be yourself, a humble submitter to God.