Thanks for watching! EDIT*** Here are the ingredients I used for the tahini dressing. I don't have measurements. Tahini Soy Sauce Ginger Juice or Grated Ginger Sesame Oil Chili Paste Vinegar (whatever kind you have) Honey or any sweetener you prefer Granulated Garlic Fish Sauce (optional)
I ❤ watching your channel. Please do more cooking videos. I really do follow your recipes. Thank you. And you were spot on with the cop. He was actually kind of scared of you. 😂 But calling you homeless was #overthetop!!!! You were smart by going to the police station, showing your face, and making your own report. That was excellent. I’m glad you got of that situation safely. 🙏🏾
I love to cook have you thought about sharing more recipes for your subscribers?? I just subscribed to your channel. You cook exceptionally well. Maybe it might generate more subscribers for you. You and one other person. I will watch video A day.
💯💯💯💯💯 Exactly. She reacted completely appropriately, and MILES better and more calm than that little bish cop did. (And I hope she does see that cop pass her by again. 😂)
Just FYI - I didn't hear the officer identify himself as police when he approached your vehicle. That you had to look out to see who it was tells me he didn't They are required to identify themselves as police. I too would be cautious in opening my window or answering the banging on my car. He certainly didn't handle it professionally. But, in the end I do think you were right to go to the police station and speak to someone about it. Good job!
Do y’all get how it looks when a person is sitting in a cargo van not a regular car or SUV with blackened windows and not tinted windows how sketchy that is🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️💁🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️???!!! It’s the disingenuous tone deaf comments!!!!!
That cop was a disrespectful, sassy lil bish. I would say more but it would DEFINITELY get deleted so anyway enjoy the park and your meal, I was taking notes. Thank you for being you.
You handled yourself like the class act you are. You let him know the facts, respectfully, in a strong manner. You didn’t curse at him, or call him names. You didn’t leave with your tail between your legs. You let him know the rules, since he clearly didn’t know, and he was extremely unprofessional. If you were my daughter, I would tell you I’m proud of you. Much love and blessings to you.
It's not just Racist white cops, Black male cops are hostile to Black women as well. Black males want white acceptance and they will deliberately harm BW to get it.
What a disgusting way for that cop to spend his time! I’m so sorry you experienced that. Instead protecting and serving, he’s harassing a women that’s alone in her car during daylight hours in a public space. SMH 🤦🏾♀️ then to threaten to tow your car for getting out to utilize the park like he wanted you to so so badly? Just wow 😮
Wow, are you kidding me? Was that a security guard? A cop? Do you know how many times I've gone to my local park and pulled over, ate lunch, and afterward fell fast asleep. And what the heck did he mean by you weren't using the facilities. Like it's winter. What does he want you to do, get out and use the picnic tables and BBQ grills 😮 That's really rank, and I'm so sorry that happened to you dear.
Even if you live in your van, you are allowed to park between a certain time and as long as you arrive and leave between that time, and you can nap in your vehicle too. You aren’t squatting and weren’t there over night. I think a less angry cop would have been willing to check your dash cam footage and made it a conversation instead of threatening you if you didn’t immediately leave.
How unfortunate that you had that experience. The fact that someone infringed on your right to exist in a public space is disappointing. I respect how you handled yourself in that situation.
You are a gentle and polite soul. To witness the unjustified, oppressive and discriminatory tactics of that police officer was infuriating. Peaceful people minding their business get harassed, while hardened and repeat criminals are released with no bail every day. This society is truly upside down. Keep on being a beautiful spirit. Your presence is much appreciated.
You reacted appropriately. That Sassy COP was an 🤬. He straight up, lied. If I'm at a public park, for however long and reason, why would I not park in its parking lot? Good on you for standing up for yourself. I would've been crying mad, too. I'm pissed right now. Yes, he was rude, unprofessional, threatening, willing to file a false report, and tow her vehicle. Sorry, Joker. I am not looking forward to such situations. I hope I handle it as gracefully. Stay safe and TFS 🩶
I wonder did he do this because you’re Black or a woman! Even though he is Black, he still can be prejudiced against you! I don’t understand why some people hate people that live in their van! You’re not hurting anybody or trashing the place. Be careful out there, people are crazy❣️. I could never do this, because I would lose my shit and get arrested. I’m so proud of you, your very strong & beautiful 🤩 God Blessed you & keep safe🙏🏾💗
There were lots of accusations and no investigation. He didn’t announce himself and he didn’t lead by asking questions. It’s not only unprofessional, it’s lazy policing and it’s dangerous to accuse and assume something of someone because someone else said so. I’m grateful all turned out well. ❤
Bet the Boss of your life, and the officer was lying on you and making your life miserable. The officer you spoke to at the station was very nice and i hope you never encounter the first type of officer ever again. Much Love
You handled the interaction properly. Banging on someone's vehicle, even if they suspect urban parking, is harassment. I'm glad you went to the station because, even though he was on the wrong, he can and often will continue to harass you.
"A park is a place where people from all walks of life can come together and find common ground." -- Frederick Law Olmsted (who created public spaces in cities in the 1800's) -- that police officer came on way too strong & good for you for going in & letting them know you are going to enjoy the park as it was intended to be used...
The officer was very dismissive and not listening to you at all! Good for you for standing up for yourself. They tend to criminalize people who practice alternative living. Then he made the assumption that you were camping there. It’s frustrating I would have cried too lol.
I am so proud of you! You were 10000% right in standing your ground. He had NO reason to bang on your vsn. He could have politely, but assertively knocked on your window. He was using his so-called power to scare you into submission & let you know he was the one with the power. There was NO proof that you were camping, and, even if you were, he should have handled things better. As a police officer sworn to 'protect & serve', he showed no care, concern, or anything for you as a human, let alone a woman, and most certainly not 'skinfolk'. YOU HANDLED IT WELL THE 1ST DAY AND THE 2ND DAY. Please ask yourself WHY you feel like you didn't handle it well. Was it because you've been taught to respond a certain way that appeased others versus your authentic way? Stay true to you, beautiful, and continue to be safe!!!
Yes, Liberty! That was my question. Why would she even think that she didn’t handle it well?😮 Because of some outside pressure. I was there for the majority of my child and adult life. Trust me! My parents were leaders in the church, so I chose to run their program, but I now know that I was not put on this earth to run someone else’s program. I run my own now! She was perfect in how she defended herself, and I am proud!🌻
I don't know...I think it's all the comments I received on some other videos. The "Trucker Approached Me" video and the video about the guys who basically stole my campground. I received a ton of supportive comments on those videos, but also a good number of criticism for how I handled those situations. A few people on those videos told me they were unsubscribing because I "don't make smart decisions" and I'm "just asking for trouble with the situations I put myself in". I don't care about a person unsubscribing, and I don't dwell on any of the negativity, but with the amount of criticism I receive online, it's just best for me to expect the worst, lol. I should've known you all would come through with the support. Thank you 😊.
I have lived for a few months in my van and like you, I am a woman. I love your way of thinking and the way you feed yourself. I take this opportunity to say: Ramadan mubarak.
I personally think that you kept your cool way better than MANY people do when it came to your interaction with that (trifling) cop. And you handled yourself expertly when you were down at the station talking to the sergeant. Vloggers always say "this is just my own personal situation so don't necessarily do what I do" but I watched this vlog with one of my brothers who's a lawyer and he said to "ABSOLUTELY do what this young lady did!" if I ever found myself in that specific kind of situation. All of that aside, this vlog introduced me to a new recipe that I'm super excited to try out! Thanks a milli for showing how/what you cook- you're teaching and providing inspiration at the same time. Much love to you.
girl, watching that park incident had my blood boiling! if that had been me i would have reacted in the same way, including frustration crying afterwards LOL i cant stand it when people lie on me. that cop was NOT professional or helpful at all, he came on you all aggressive, for NO reason at all. and you did the right thing by filming the whole thing. praying for your safety ♥♥♥️
You were a 100% correct in your assessment of the situation and in your debate with that officer and you did the right thing by going to the police dept to inform the Sgt of your situation. Good for you!
The very same thing happened to me at a park I was there for three or four hours in the broad daylight and this guy whipped around my car and went back and called the cops and said I have a bed in my shuttle bus. So the cop showed up and I told him I come here just for this week a few hours a day to the park because I was taking everything out of my storage, and would be moving up north with it. The cop was super sweet! I had told him I had lived and worked in this area for 17 years. We had a really nice chat.
I watch your videos and see how you take care of yourself and plan a foreseeable future to be debt free. The sacrifices you’re making are awe inspiring and inspiring. I truly would have been terrified to open the door he never identified himself. Your reaction was warranted. I think it was great you went to the station and identified yourself. I personally don’t see anything wrong with you eating, sleeping, working, relaxing in your van during posted hours. I live on the Oregon Coast. We have gorgeous parks with ocean views. I have stayed at them all day doing everything you did and left when it was time to go. You did nothing wrong. Be blessed.
This is the perfect reason to save up money and get away from these evil ego driven zombies. Buy land, work for yourself and remain low contact from these enforcement folks. Hive mind country we live in now!
Next time that happens. Request a supervisor on the spot. Many dont know this but you cannrequest and someone has toncome out. Usually supervisors know more unfortunately. Cops need better training.
Girl!! You handled that well especially going to the police station to explain things and so that they know you have nothing to hide. I love your channel. TFS. Be well and safe.
THANK YOU for fighting your battles for nomadic folks everywhere. The encounter with the cop tipped off by a "Mr. Karen" was sad. I suspect he (that cop) MAY be fighting his own battles for acceptance in his community and of himself, and he thought he would take THIS opportunity to show how tough he was. Wrong choice. I was proud of how you represented, especially at the station! God bless you in all your travels 🙏🏼💖
You were absolutely right about that situation. Instead of getting your side of the story, the cop took citizen white over anything explanation you offered. It's a shame that this was a Black officer. Never apologize when you're right.
As a POC, you should not feel bad about how you first reacted in your situation. Due to events that are similar to yours that ended badly, you were protecting yourself. I agree that I would go back to that park too. Please continue on your amazing journey.
In fact, it is always good to be careful when dealing with kitchen knives. A friend of mine, who loves cooking, bought a glove made of soft steel that allows her to cut everything without fear of cutting herself, which is an ingenious solution by the way.
Hunny I am FURIOUS that you were treated that way !!! 🔥🤬 I wish I would have been parked in that lot with you that day !!! GOOD GIRL FOR STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF 🌸👍👍
Oh my goodness, Monique! I am SO sorry for your experience! 😣You were NOT “doing the most”!!! YOU ABSOLUTELY HAVE THE RIGHT TO DEFEND YOURSELF, just the way you did- perfect! (I am a 50+ single woman, never been married, no kids.) So I am the one to defend myself. I am also gentle, friendly, and loving, and I speak up for myself when needed. When we women assert ourselves, sometimes it is perceived as being aggressive or being “too much”, that we are hormonal, moody, and emotional. When, if a man did the same thing, no one would think a second thought. Did the cop identify himself? And yes, he was aggressive. Follow your spirit, hunny, and don’t allow other people’s (even the ones we love) programming to be imprinted onto you and how you run your life. You were not born to run someone else’s program. Peace, love, and light, Sister💚💚💚
Thanks, sis ❤️. I hate that it's 2024 and we still have that double standard. No, he did not identify himself. Thanks for the encouragement, as always 😊😊💛.
You handled the situation as you should have. It’s obvious you were being harassed he wasn’t trying to hear what you were saying he clearly was taking the other persons story over yours. People just need to learn to mind they own business. So glad you’re safe and well. Prayerful and safe travels to you always.
Also My Friend, When Someone Takes A Picture Or A Video Of Your License Plate for no reason, Then Take A Video Of Them Doing And Send It To The Police Station, And The Police Force Should Track The People Who Is Doing This To For Real.
Good for you for going into the police department, but you should have filed a complaint. I get his frustration because people toss trash out of their vehicle homes, but he was blaming the wrong person.
That cop in the parking lot was extremely unprofessional. Sorry about that. Most of my run ins with the cops have been positive with the exception of one VERY bad experience where I was falsely accused of something and the situation really deteriorated and it was scary. But we need to stand our ground and stand up for our personal rights. Great video!
My husband and I just love your videos. I am also very tender hearted and i applaud every good day and cried when your freezer wasn’t working. That you talk about your blue days is helpful, because you seem to have a - this too will pass attitude that helps people in their sad days. I sure get them. My husband and I lived in an RV for 5 years in the SE and I was in a beautiful tent for 2 years. I would love to get back on the road, but I take care of my 91 yr old mom. Being plant based is a good idea when living in a van, keeping meat from going bad is not easy. My husband and I think you are beautiful, and a wonderful example of courage. It is harder for women to feel safe doing solo van life, then add being Muslim and black - probably comes with its own challenges in certain areas. If you ever come to southern Oregon I have land you can stay on. Water, electric and a dumping spot for black water, grey can just water something. ❤❤❤
Woah! The cop definitely tried to intimidate you but you handle that very well. I recently started to live in my car and I go to the park and chill during down time doing gig work. There’s a few vans and homeless people that sit at the park all day. Even sleep at the park. The police occasionally come and will see but do nothing. So that cop was completely wrong. Someone called the police on me last night for sleeping on a public road near a gated apartment complex. I had to move because I was there for a couple of days. Remind you there was someone else parked right behind me who lives in her car but I was the only one told to leave. I didn’t know people really call the cops on people who lives in cars/vans. Like mind your business nobody is doing anything to disturb you.
I don’t blame you one bit. How rude he was! That was smart of you to go to the station and state your case. You’re lucky he was not an evil man like some but I’m proud of you for your guts. Some people! They really think they own the world videoing you like that
You probably know that every state has its own laws regarding window tinting. I hear that usually it’s not a problem, but you never know. It’s a pain.😊 🐈 ❤
So sorry. That cop was unnecessarily aggressive. He didn’t go to find out if what he was told was the truth. He went with an attitude. ✅ You did good girl, going to the police department to clear things up!!! Hang in there. 😃👍 ❤
I am so proud of you! You were 10000% right in standing your ground. He had NO reason to bang on your vsn. He could have politely, but assertively knocked on your window. He was using his so-called power to scare you into submission & let you know he was the one with the power. There was NO proof that you were camping, and, even if you were, he should have handled things better. As a police officer sworn to 'protect & serve', he showed no care, concern, or anything for you as a human, let alone a woman, and most certainly not 'skinfolk'. YOU DID HANDLE IT WELL THE 1ST DAY AND THE 2ND DAY. Please ask yourself WHY you feel like you didn't handle it well. Was it because you've been taught to respond a certain way that appeased others versus your authentic way? Stay true to you, beautiful, and continue to be safe!!!
I’m glad you’re safe and that you’ve cleared it up with them. I’m sorry this happened to you but I’m glad that you have a dash cam so you can prove that you’re not overnight parking or urban camping. Love your videos. Have a great day.
Here are the ingredients I used for the tahini dressing! I don't have measurements. I just put the ingredients in the jar, tasted it, and adjusted the flavor to my liking. Tahini Soy Sauce Ginger Juice or Grated Ginger Sesame Oil Chili Paste Vinegar (whatever kind you have) Honey or any sweetener you prefer Granulated Garlic Fish Sauce (optional)
I love your basic living to buy land, to be selfreliant and selfsufficient. Good choices in your food selections, I'm a Dietitian. Don't let anyone thrash your dreams and aspirations. Look for land that has a right of way, it's usually cheaper. I researched land for a friend with a brook and right of way 2 years ago and with negotiation the price dropped $7,000. All in all, this depends on the State you live in. Also, if you have a 401k, if its applies to you, you can do a first time home buyer's loan. You say you intend to build a structure. The best part of this, is you pay yourself back with interest.
You handled the police situation very professional and I would have handled it differently. I would have told him to call a tow truck bcuz they can't tow your vehicle if you're inside it. And I wouldn't have gotten out
To be honest, I probably would have reacted the exact same way. I also would have cried after the interaction as well. But I would have filed a complaint against the officer because I'm not good at letting things go. If someone lies about me and makes up stories that simply aren't true, I will complain, especially if it's a police officer. You were a much better person than I would have been in that situation. BTW: The base of that dressing, was that Tahini? It looks delicious!! (And yeah, I love fish sauce too!) Peanut butter, honey, and yogurt is a family favorite for us and it adds a bit more protein and fat. I also love a little granola in my yogurt or currents with pecans, but apples and walnuts are crazy good! Any fresh or even frozen fruit in yogurt is always a great "go-to", sometimes I'll even add cereal flakes (like special K or a Quinona/Spelt/Millet blend flake - they are sold by different names depending on the store) I just love a little crunch!
oh my goodness, I was nervous for you! I don't like Liars either. I thought the Cop was a woman; until you showed him on camera lol.... Sorry Monique, be safe out there. I am glad you had him on camera.....
You’re human.. you’re gonna have feelings and emotions and will react..I’m so glad you went in to talk to the sheriff.. that was a very smart move.. they need to know what went down in case other situations come up. Stay safe out there! New subbie btw and I am enjoying your content🫶🏽
Save your seeds from the seeded fruits and vegetables. Once dried they last for a while and you can grow your own fruit and vegetables. Put it in the front window to grow ( or non covered window).
I’m so proud that you stood up for yourself, you actually did a great job. Did you ever hear back from them? If not, next time file a complaint, these police forces need to be accountable for their day to day interaction with the community. Also, if he lied about this minor interaction just imagine what he is capable of if the offense were serious. I really enjoyed your video and I’m glad I stumbled across your channel.
The lies are even worse when they come from the people who are sworn to protect and serve “WE, the PEOPLE.” Crying is my way to release my anger and frustration also. Stay with it, Monique, you’re living life on your terms. GOOD for YOU, for standing up for yourself.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 Btw, your meal looked AMAZING, made me SO hungry!😋🤤
You know your dish is so yummy because you need to use two utensils 😻 I love hearing the pitter-patter of the rain on your roof, it's so soothing! Glad you got video of the cop trying to illegally tow your van and the person at the station was respectful when listening to you and what happened. There's legit no reason why a van with covered windows can't be at a park during daylight hours. Glad you know your rights!
That officer came across as if you interrupted his lunch. 😂 I probably would’ve answered the same way; dared him to tow my vehicle. 🚙 But, in the end, going to the police station, explaining the situation was smart. Proud of you! 👐🏽
I was watching your video and wanted to share my information based on the restrictions of any form of urban camping. I fully understand how scary your experience was, however, the cop offered you an alternative option to park because whether or not you are in agreement with him and or his mannerism…he was addressing the called complaints and stated the true guidelines of the noticeable situation. I would hope that you stay safe, within the guidelines of where you can legally park, and definitely what’s urban camping. Take care.
I wasn’t urban camping. The cop was wrong. Cops aren’t always correct. Many times, they don’t know the law. The sergeant let me know I was allowed to be there. I’ve been back many times with no problems 🙂.
Thanks for the response, however, your explanation to the sergeant was completely truthful but I do understand trying to stand your ground. I do believe that you felt mistreated and possibly embarrassed but I have a family member who is an officer, so I was only sharing what I know to be truthful. Despite how some cops handle a call, we may need them and would hope that they are willing to do the right thing on our behalf. I really hope the best for you.
Yes, as you wrote, my explanation to the sergeant was completely truthful 🙂. I’m not homeless (homelessness isn’t a choice & my lifestyle is a choice), I wasn’t urban camping, and I wasn’t sleeping in my van when he arrived.
You handled it 100% appropriately. A lot of people would have been much more hot than you were. The only thing I would have done differently is request a supervisor. I hope that cop on his power trip gets some retraining. The fact that he rolled up hot may mean that something happened in his day that made him mad and he took it out on you, which is hella unprofessional. You did everything correctly. Be safe out there.❤
Monique 🖤 Good Morning and Happy Sunday ☀️. As always, I’m glad you posted another video and I got a chance to sit back, watch, and enjoy it on my Sunday morning 😌. I’m sorry you had to go through that madness at a public park. It’s crazy because instead of assuming, the guy who called the cops could have easily tried asking first. I understand being concerned about your neighborhood, but perception isn’t necessarily reality and that’s why it’s important to ask. The police should have used his interviewing skills and asked questions in order to get to the bottom of things and de-escalate the situation. You shouldn’t just go off of what was reported because it might be completely wrong. There’s always three sides to most stories… his side, her side, and then the truth. Nonetheless, I’m glad it was handled and didn’t go too far left. Your safety is most important. Anyhow, I wish you a fantastic rest of the day, and an amazing upcoming week. I look forward to tagging along during your next adventure. Be safe, stay positive, and please keep smiling… because it looks AMAZING on you 🙏🏿 🖤
I agree with you. There are always 3 sides to a story and it was unfair of him not to listen to my side. But, life isn't fair and that's something I have to remind myself. You be safe, as well!
Thanks for watching! EDIT*** Here are the ingredients I used for the tahini dressing. I don't have measurements.
Tahini
Soy Sauce
Ginger Juice or Grated Ginger
Sesame Oil
Chili Paste
Vinegar (whatever kind you have)
Honey or any sweetener you prefer
Granulated Garlic
Fish Sauce (optional)
I ❤ watching your channel. Please do more cooking videos. I really do follow your recipes. Thank you. And you were spot on with the cop. He was actually kind of scared of you. 😂 But calling you homeless was #overthetop!!!! You were smart by going to the police station, showing your face, and making your own report. That was excellent. I’m glad you got of that situation safely. 🙏🏾
i dont do measurements either LOL thanks for sharing!
Came for the van life. Stayed for the recipes. Thank you for sharing 🫶🏽🍲🌦️🩵
Thanks I would try making as soon I can complete my ingredients.
I love to cook have you thought about sharing more recipes for your subscribers?? I just subscribed to your channel. You cook exceptionally well. Maybe it might generate more subscribers for you. You and one other person. I will watch video A day.
You didn't overreact, he was clearly harassing you. So, glad you stood up for yourself. You didn't deserve that.
This is what I'm sayin!
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Exactly!!
💯💯💯💯💯 Exactly. She reacted completely appropriately, and MILES better and more calm than that little bish cop did. (And I hope she does see that cop pass her by again. 😂)
Just FYI - I didn't hear the officer identify himself as police when he approached your vehicle. That you had to look out to see who it was tells me he didn't They are required to identify themselves as police. I too would be cautious in opening my window or answering the banging on my car. He certainly didn't handle it professionally. But, in the end I do think you were right to go to the police station and speak to someone about it. Good job!
I want to be fair, but if officer said there was a parking spot where you would be fine...why didn't you comply???
Because she was in a public park@@brooklynhomesteader3721
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Because she wasn’t breaking any laws and wasnt going to let an ignorant cop tell her what to do
Cop was biased and unprofessional
Do y’all get how it looks when a person is sitting in a cargo van not a regular car or SUV with blackened windows and not tinted windows how sketchy that is🤷🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️💁🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️???!!! It’s the disingenuous tone deaf comments!!!!!
That cop was a disrespectful, sassy lil bish. I would say more but it would DEFINITELY get deleted so anyway enjoy the park and your meal, I was taking notes. Thank you for being you.
Omg I'm dying 😂😂😂. He was Sooo rude
@@mstiniquesjourney6139 I don’t like bullies lol
There is nothing worse than a blk cop. To the readers who are insulted feel free to report this but I said what I said.
I hate to say it but he was Definitely Sassy. Soon as he saw it was a woman he started to flex his bully muscles.
He was rude from the jump. Very sassy.
You handled yourself like the class act you are. You let him know the facts, respectfully, in a strong manner. You didn’t curse at him, or call him names. You didn’t leave with your tail between your legs. You let him know the rules, since he clearly didn’t know, and he was extremely unprofessional. If you were my daughter, I would tell you I’m proud of you. Much love and blessings to you.
Amen!
Thank you ❤️
It's not just Racist white cops, Black male cops are hostile to Black women as well. Black males want white acceptance and they will deliberately harm BW to get it.
At 🥰59 yrs old I am FINALLY NOT ACCEPTING BEING UNFAIRLY TREATED 💯❣️
It’s not too late! Go you….🎉
not accepting but definitely expected, unfortunately 😕
What a disgusting way for that cop to spend his time! I’m so sorry you experienced that. Instead protecting and serving, he’s harassing a women that’s alone in her car during daylight hours in a public space. SMH 🤦🏾♀️ then to threaten to tow your car for getting out to utilize the park like he wanted you to so so badly? Just wow 😮
You reacted because he violently banged on your window like a mad man. That will piss anybody off! I love the way you handled yourself!
That part!
You're right. He didn't identify himself or anything.
@@simmpleenough He's a Jerk!
Wow, are you kidding me? Was that a security guard? A cop? Do you know how many times I've gone to my local park and pulled over, ate lunch, and afterward fell fast asleep. And what the heck did he mean by you weren't using the facilities. Like it's winter. What does he want you to do, get out and use the picnic tables and BBQ grills 😮
That's really rank, and I'm so sorry that happened to you dear.
lol, exactly. He was a cop.
Even if you live in your van, you are allowed to park between a certain time and as long as you arrive and leave between that time, and you can nap in your vehicle too. You aren’t squatting and weren’t there over night. I think a less angry cop would have been willing to check your dash cam footage and made it a conversation instead of threatening you if you didn’t immediately leave.
How unfortunate that you had that experience. The fact that someone infringed on your right to exist in a public space is disappointing. I respect how you handled yourself in that situation.
You are a gentle and polite soul. To witness the unjustified, oppressive and discriminatory tactics of that police officer was infuriating. Peaceful people minding their business get harassed, while hardened and repeat criminals are released with no bail every day. This society is truly upside down. Keep on being a beautiful spirit. Your presence is much appreciated.
You reacted appropriately. That Sassy COP was an 🤬. He straight up, lied. If I'm at a public park, for however long and reason, why would I not park in its parking lot? Good on you for standing up for yourself. I would've been crying mad, too. I'm pissed right now. Yes, he was rude, unprofessional, threatening, willing to file a false report, and tow her vehicle. Sorry, Joker. I am not looking forward to such situations. I hope I handle it as gracefully. Stay safe and TFS 🩶
You didn’t overreact at all … you were better than most
I wonder did he do this because you’re Black or a woman! Even though he is Black, he still can be prejudiced against you!
I don’t understand why some people hate people that live in their van! You’re not hurting anybody or trashing the place. Be careful out there, people are crazy❣️. I could never do this, because I would lose my shit and get arrested.
I’m so proud of you, your very strong & beautiful 🤩
God Blessed you & keep safe🙏🏾💗
I would have called the state troopers on him ! I don’t trust any police but the troopers are usually more respectful and more important, INTELLIGENT
There were lots of accusations and no investigation. He didn’t announce himself and he didn’t lead by asking questions. It’s not only unprofessional, it’s lazy policing and it’s dangerous to accuse and assume something of someone because someone else said so. I’m grateful all turned out well. ❤
Bet the Boss of your life, and the officer was lying on you and making your life miserable. The officer you spoke to at the station was very nice and i hope you never encounter the first type of officer ever again. Much Love
I hope I don’t either. Thank you!
You handled the interaction properly. Banging on someone's vehicle, even if they suspect urban parking, is harassment. I'm glad you went to the station because, even though he was on the wrong, he can and often will continue to harass you.
You spoke your truth, you weren’t wrong and you’re not petty , he was petty , you did the right thing…imo. Sorry to leave so many comments.
Thanks!
😮😮 Thank you SO MUCH ❤️❤️. Wow.
Thank you for sharing. I don’t think you overreacted with the cop. You stood up for yourself.
"A park is a place where people from all walks of life can come together and find common ground." -- Frederick Law Olmsted (who created public spaces in cities in the 1800's)
-- that police officer came on way too strong & good for you for going in & letting them know you are going to enjoy the park as it was intended to be used...
I've never heard this quote before, but I love it. That cop did not get the memo.
Thank you ❤️
Remember that you are not homless. 😊Your home is your Wonderful van.♥️ The cop was not a good cop.Hello from Norway.😊
In my opinion going to the police station was a good move! Stay blessed.
The officer was very dismissive and not listening to you at all! Good for you for standing up for yourself. They tend to criminalize people who practice alternative living. Then he made the assumption that you were camping there. It’s frustrating I would have cried too lol.
lol, thank you 😊
Crazy thing is that they have cameras in those parks. The police knows better
Monique. I am glad you are safe. I pray 🙏 for you ❤each day.
I am so proud of you! You were 10000% right in standing your ground.
He had NO reason to bang on your vsn. He could have politely, but assertively knocked on your window.
He was using his so-called power to scare you into submission & let you know he was the one with the power.
There was NO proof that you were camping, and, even if you were, he should have handled things better.
As a police officer sworn to 'protect & serve', he showed no care, concern, or anything for you as a human, let alone a woman, and most certainly not 'skinfolk'.
YOU HANDLED IT WELL THE 1ST DAY AND THE 2ND DAY. Please ask yourself WHY you feel like you didn't handle it well. Was it because you've been taught to respond a certain way that appeased others versus your authentic way?
Stay true to you, beautiful, and continue to be safe!!!
Yes, Liberty! That was my question. Why would she even think that she didn’t handle it well?😮 Because of some outside pressure. I was there for the majority of my child and adult life. Trust me! My parents were leaders in the church, so I chose to run their program, but I now know that I was not put on this earth to run someone else’s program. I run my own now! She was perfect in how she defended herself, and I am proud!🌻
I don't know...I think it's all the comments I received on some other videos. The "Trucker Approached Me" video and the video about the guys who basically stole my campground. I received a ton of supportive comments on those videos, but also a good number of criticism for how I handled those situations. A few people on those videos told me they were unsubscribing because I "don't make smart decisions" and I'm "just asking for trouble with the situations I put myself in". I don't care about a person unsubscribing, and I don't dwell on any of the negativity, but with the amount of criticism I receive online, it's just best for me to expect the worst, lol.
I should've known you all would come through with the support. Thank you 😊.
I have lived for a few months in my van and like you, I am a woman. I love your way of thinking and the way you feed yourself. I take this opportunity to say: Ramadan mubarak.
Shams, what’s mubarak?
@@texasgoddess323 Bless / happy, more or less.
Thank you ❤️. Ramadan Kareem!
I personally think that you kept your cool way better than MANY people do when it came to your interaction with that (trifling) cop. And you handled yourself expertly when you were down at the station talking to the sergeant. Vloggers always say "this is just my own personal situation so don't necessarily do what I do" but I watched this vlog with one of my brothers who's a lawyer and he said to "ABSOLUTELY do what this young lady did!" if I ever found myself in that specific kind of situation.
All of that aside, this vlog introduced me to a new recipe that I'm super excited to try out! Thanks a milli for showing how/what you cook- you're teaching and providing inspiration at the same time. Much love to you.
Thank you so much ❤️!!
girl, watching that park incident had my blood boiling! if that had been me i would have reacted in the same way, including frustration crying afterwards LOL i cant stand it when people lie on me. that cop was NOT professional or helpful at all, he came on you all aggressive, for NO reason at all. and you did the right thing by filming the whole thing. praying for your safety ♥♥♥️
One day I wanna see but not today
Thank you ❤️
You were a 100% correct in your assessment of the situation and in your debate with that officer and you did the right thing by going to the police dept to inform the Sgt of your situation. Good for you!
The very same thing happened to me at a park I was there for three or four hours in the broad daylight and this guy whipped around my car and went back and called the cops and said I have a bed in my shuttle bus. So the cop showed up and I told him I come here just for this week a few hours a day to the park because I was taking everything out of my storage, and would be moving up north with it. The cop was super sweet! I had told him I had lived and worked in this area for 17 years. We had a really nice chat.
The brother should be ashamed of himself. I am embarrassed by and for him. I feel bad you were treated that way.
What brother? I seen a sister in a uniform
I watch your videos and see how you take care of yourself and plan a foreseeable future to be debt free. The sacrifices you’re making are awe inspiring and inspiring. I truly would have been terrified to open the door he never identified himself. Your reaction was warranted. I think it was great you went to the station and identified yourself. I personally don’t see anything wrong with you eating, sleeping, working, relaxing in your van during posted hours. I live on the Oregon Coast. We have gorgeous parks with ocean views. I have stayed at them all day doing everything you did and left when it was time to go. You did nothing wrong. Be blessed.
I think you stood up for yourself, then listened to your family, and got his number. Good for you.
This is the perfect reason to save up money and get away from these evil ego driven zombies. Buy land, work for yourself and remain low contact from these enforcement folks. Hive mind country we live in now!
I'm glad you stood up for yourself. I would have filed a complaint so I think you showed a lot of restraint.
Next time that happens. Request a supervisor on the spot. Many dont know this but you cannrequest and someone has toncome out. Usually supervisors know more unfortunately. Cops need better training.
May Allah protect you, guide your way & keep you safe during your travels as well as in life. Ameen Ramadan Mubarak ❤
Ameen. Thank you ❤️. Ramadan Kareem.
I would’ve done the same things, only difference is I would’ve cried at the police station too 😂😂😂😂😂 and then cringe about it later 😩
lol!
Hi Monique... You're very brave to have stood up for yourself. May the road rise to meet you.
Selah, I second that!🌻
Hey Selahbrooke! Thank you 💛.
Girl!! You handled that well especially going to the police station to explain things and so that they know you have nothing to hide. I love your channel. TFS. Be well and safe.
I also don’t think you overreacted. You stood up for yourself!
THANK YOU for fighting your battles for nomadic folks everywhere. The encounter with the cop tipped off by a "Mr. Karen" was sad. I suspect he (that cop) MAY be fighting his own battles for acceptance in his community and of himself, and he thought he would take THIS opportunity to show how tough he was. Wrong choice. I was proud of how you represented, especially at the station! God bless you in all your travels 🙏🏼💖
Thank you ❤️.
You were absolutely right about that situation. Instead of getting your side of the story, the cop took citizen white over anything explanation you offered. It's a shame that this was a Black officer. Never apologize when you're right.
I hate this world sometimes! I hope you find your home/land soon!
As a POC, you should not feel bad about how you first reacted in your situation. Due to events that are similar to yours that ended badly, you were protecting yourself. I agree that I would go back to that park too. Please continue on your amazing journey.
Absolutely, crazy how people just automatically assume the worst of people. And then get the cops involved! I am so sorry you had to go through that.
In fact, it is always good to be careful when dealing with kitchen knives. A friend of mine, who loves cooking, bought a glove made of soft steel that allows her to cut everything without fear of cutting herself, which is an ingenious solution by the way.
Hunny I am FURIOUS that you were treated that way !!! 🔥🤬
I wish I would have been parked in that lot with you that day !!!
GOOD GIRL FOR STANDING UP FOR YOURSELF 🌸👍👍
It’s a public place,you can park,you can stay overnight unless something else posted with signs and proper reasons like construction,.etc.
I cry when I get mad!!! That would have pissed me off as well. I’m glad you went to the station.
You’re my hero!!
Proud of you baby girl. Don’t back down 😊
Thank you ❤️
Oh my goodness, Monique! I am SO sorry for your experience! 😣You were NOT “doing the most”!!! YOU ABSOLUTELY HAVE THE RIGHT TO DEFEND YOURSELF, just the way you did- perfect! (I am a 50+ single woman, never been married, no kids.) So I am the one to defend myself. I am also gentle, friendly, and loving, and I speak up for myself when needed. When we women assert ourselves, sometimes it is perceived as being aggressive or being “too much”, that we are hormonal, moody, and emotional. When, if a man did the same thing, no one would think a second thought. Did the cop identify himself? And yes, he was aggressive. Follow your spirit, hunny, and don’t allow other people’s (even the ones we love) programming to be imprinted onto you and how you run your life. You were not born to run someone else’s program. Peace, love, and light, Sister💚💚💚
Thanks, sis ❤️. I hate that it's 2024 and we still have that double standard. No, he did not identify himself. Thanks for the encouragement, as always 😊😊💛.
@@simmpleenough Always!💕
You handled the situation as you should have. It’s obvious you were being harassed he wasn’t trying to hear what you were saying he clearly was taking the other persons story over yours. People just need to learn to mind they own business. So glad you’re safe and well. Prayerful and safe travels to you always.
Also My Friend, When Someone Takes A Picture Or A Video Of Your License Plate for no reason, Then Take A Video Of Them Doing And Send It To The Police Station, And The Police Force Should Track The People Who Is Doing This To For Real.
Good for you for going into the police department, but you should have filed a complaint. I get his frustration because people toss trash out of their vehicle homes, but he was blaming the wrong person.
That cop in the parking lot was extremely unprofessional. Sorry about that. Most of my run ins with the cops have been positive with the exception of one VERY bad experience where I was falsely accused of something and the situation really deteriorated and it was scary. But we need to stand our ground and stand up for our personal rights. Great video!
My husband and I just love your videos. I am also very tender hearted and i applaud every good day and cried when your freezer wasn’t working. That you talk about your blue days is helpful, because you seem to have a - this too will pass attitude that helps people in their sad days. I sure get them. My husband and I lived in an RV for 5 years in the SE and I was in a beautiful tent for 2 years. I would love to get back on the road, but I take care of my 91 yr old mom. Being plant based is a good idea when living in a van, keeping meat from going bad is not easy. My husband and I think you are beautiful, and a wonderful example of courage. It is harder for women to feel safe doing solo van life, then add being Muslim and black - probably comes with its own challenges in certain areas. If you ever come to southern Oregon I have land you can stay on. Water, electric and a dumping spot for black water, grey can just water something. ❤❤❤
Thank you, so much.
Woah! The cop definitely tried to intimidate you but you handle that very well. I recently started to live in my car and I go to the park and chill during down time doing gig work. There’s a few vans and homeless people that sit at the park all day. Even sleep at the park. The police occasionally come and will see but do nothing. So that cop was completely wrong.
Someone called the police on me last night for sleeping on a public road near a gated apartment complex. I had to move because I was there for a couple of days. Remind you there was someone else parked right behind me who lives in her car but I was the only one told to leave. I didn’t know people really call the cops on people who lives in cars/vans. Like mind your business nobody is doing anything to disturb you.
How crazy! I'm so glad you called him on that!
Good for you! Stand up for yourself, this is still America 😊
Good for you for standing up for your self 🎉
I don’t blame you one bit. How rude he was! That was smart of you to go to the station and state your case. You’re lucky he was not an evil man like some but I’m proud of you for your guts. Some people! They really think they own the world videoing you like that
I think you reacted well. If the park was not closed, he had no right to evict you.
Im so grateful I found your channel...
Thank you ❤️
I cry when things like that happen to me also!
You were SUPERB at the police station! EMPOWERING!
Thank you!
you are my hero. "sweetness" was definitely in the wrong, a liar knowing he was being recorded. we have to stand up for ourselves. you did good 👍🏾 👏🏾
You handled that well even in the moment. Honestly, he was on a power trip.
You probably know that every state has its own laws regarding window tinting. I hear that usually it’s not a problem, but you never know. It’s a pain.😊 🐈 ❤
So sorry. That cop was unnecessarily aggressive. He didn’t go to find out if what he was told was the truth. He went with an attitude. ✅ You did good girl, going to the police department to clear things up!!! Hang in there. 😃👍 ❤
I am so proud of you! You were 10000% right in standing your ground.
He had NO reason to bang on your vsn. He could have politely, but assertively knocked on your window.
He was using his so-called power to scare you into submission & let you know he was the one with the power.
There was NO proof that you were camping, and, even if you were, he should have handled things better.
As a police officer sworn to 'protect & serve', he showed no care, concern, or anything for you as a human, let alone a woman, and most certainly not 'skinfolk'.
YOU DID HANDLE IT WELL THE 1ST DAY AND THE 2ND DAY. Please ask yourself WHY you feel like you didn't handle it well. Was it because you've been taught to respond a certain way that appeased others versus your authentic way?
Stay true to you, beautiful, and continue to be safe!!!
Thank you, both!
When confronted by an "aggressive? policeman u can demand to have their NAME and BADGE NUMBER. They cannot refuse to give this info.
I’m glad you’re safe and that you’ve cleared it up with them. I’m sorry this happened to you but I’m glad that you have a dash cam so you can prove that you’re not overnight parking or urban camping. Love your videos. Have a great day.
also: please share that tahini dressing recipe! spicy tahine sounds amazing!
Here are the ingredients I used for the tahini dressing! I don't have measurements. I just put the ingredients in the jar, tasted it, and adjusted the flavor to my liking.
Tahini
Soy Sauce
Ginger Juice or Grated Ginger
Sesame Oil
Chili Paste
Vinegar (whatever kind you have)
Honey or any sweetener you prefer
Granulated Garlic
Fish Sauce (optional)
thanks! @@simmpleenough
The cop was disgusting. I'm glad you're safe.
I love your basic living to buy land, to be selfreliant and selfsufficient. Good choices in your food selections, I'm a Dietitian. Don't let anyone thrash your dreams and aspirations. Look for land that has a right of way, it's usually cheaper. I researched land for a friend with a brook and right of way 2 years ago and with negotiation the price dropped $7,000. All in all, this depends on the State you live in. Also, if you have a 401k, if its applies to you, you can do a first time home buyer's loan. You say you intend to build a structure. The best part of this, is you pay yourself back with interest.
Thank you so much for these tips!
You handled the police situation very professional and I would have handled it differently. I would have told him to call a tow truck bcuz they can't tow your vehicle if you're inside it. And I wouldn't have gotten out
To be honest, I probably would have reacted the exact same way.
I also would have cried after the interaction as well.
But I would have filed a complaint against the officer because I'm not good at letting things go. If someone lies about me and makes up stories that simply aren't true, I will complain, especially if it's a police officer.
You were a much better person than I would have been in that situation.
BTW: The base of that dressing, was that Tahini? It looks delicious!! (And yeah, I love fish sauce too!)
Peanut butter, honey, and yogurt is a family favorite for us and it adds a bit more protein and fat.
I also love a little granola in my yogurt or currents with pecans, but apples and walnuts are crazy good!
Any fresh or even frozen fruit in yogurt is always a great "go-to", sometimes I'll even add cereal flakes (like special K or a Quinona/Spelt/Millet blend flake - they are sold by different names depending on the store) I just love a little crunch!
Thank you 😊. Yes, the base was tahini and thanks for the yogurt suggestions!
I’m glad things worked out OK sorry you were harassed. Stay blessed.
oh my goodness, I was nervous for you! I don't like Liars either. I thought the Cop was a woman; until you showed him on camera lol.... Sorry Monique, be safe out there. I am glad you had him on camera.....
You’re human.. you’re gonna have feelings and emotions and will react..I’m so glad you went in to talk to the sheriff.. that was a very smart move.. they need to know what went down in case other situations come up. Stay safe out there! New subbie btw and I am enjoying your content🫶🏽
Thank you very much ❤️
I don’t blame you Monique!!!
THEY needed to tell whoever reported you to call back if you’re still parked there BEYOND park hours 🤬
Exactly!!!
so glad i found this channel,,,,,you are a beautiful person,, with a contagious smile,,,be safe,,,
Thank you
Save your seeds from the seeded fruits and vegetables. Once dried they last for a while and you can grow your own fruit and vegetables. Put it in the front window to grow ( or non covered window).
I’m so proud that you stood up for yourself, you actually did a great job. Did you ever hear back from them? If not, next time file a complaint, these police forces need to be accountable for their day to day interaction with the community. Also, if he lied about this minor interaction just imagine what he is capable of if the offense were serious. I really enjoyed your video and I’m glad I stumbled across your channel.
I just discovered your channel. I am so happy that I did.
Glad to know someone else pulls from the back rows on the shelf! LOL
Lol, yup!
The lies are even worse when they come from the people who are sworn to protect and serve “WE, the PEOPLE.” Crying is my way to release my anger and frustration also. Stay with it, Monique, you’re living life on your terms. GOOD for YOU, for standing up for yourself.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Btw, your meal looked AMAZING, made me SO hungry!😋🤤
Thank you 😊
You know your dish is so yummy because you need to use two utensils 😻 I love hearing the pitter-patter of the rain on your roof, it's so soothing! Glad you got video of the cop trying to illegally tow your van and the person at the station was respectful when listening to you and what happened. There's legit no reason why a van with covered windows can't be at a park during daylight hours. Glad you know your rights!
lol! It was so good 😋. I love the sound of rain on my roof, too.
Thank you 😊
That officer came across as if you interrupted his lunch. 😂 I probably would’ve answered the same way; dared him to tow my vehicle. 🚙 But, in the end, going to the police station, explaining the situation was smart. Proud of you! 👐🏽
At the end of the video, I thought you were popping popcorn….and I was waiting to see you open the popcorn…. Then I realized it was raining…
lol 😂
I was watching your video and wanted to share my information based on the restrictions of any form of urban camping. I fully understand how scary your experience was, however, the cop offered you an alternative option to park because whether or not you are in agreement with him and or his mannerism…he was addressing the called complaints and stated the true guidelines of the noticeable situation. I would hope that you stay safe, within the guidelines of where you can legally park, and definitely what’s urban camping. Take care.
I wasn’t urban camping. The cop was wrong. Cops aren’t always correct. Many times, they don’t know the law. The sergeant let me know I was allowed to be there. I’ve been back many times with no problems 🙂.
Thanks for the response, however, your explanation to the sergeant was completely truthful but I do understand trying to stand your ground. I do believe that you felt mistreated and possibly embarrassed but I have a family member who is an officer, so I was only sharing what I know to be truthful. Despite how some cops handle a call, we may need them and would hope that they are willing to do the right thing on our behalf. I really hope the best for you.
Yes, as you wrote, my explanation to the sergeant was completely truthful 🙂. I’m not homeless (homelessness isn’t a choice & my lifestyle is a choice), I wasn’t urban camping, and I wasn’t sleeping in my van when he arrived.
They make simple things so difficult...
You handled it 100% appropriately. A lot of people would have been much more hot than you were. The only thing I would have done differently is request a supervisor. I hope that cop on his power trip gets some retraining. The fact that he rolled up hot may mean that something happened in his day that made him mad and he took it out on you, which is hella unprofessional. You did everything correctly. Be safe out there.❤
Monique 🖤
Good Morning and Happy Sunday ☀️. As always, I’m glad you posted another video and I got a chance to sit back, watch, and enjoy it on my Sunday morning 😌.
I’m sorry you had to go through that madness at a public park. It’s crazy because instead of assuming, the guy who called the cops could have easily tried asking first.
I understand being concerned about your neighborhood, but perception isn’t necessarily reality and that’s why it’s important to ask. The police should have used his interviewing skills and asked questions in order to get to the bottom of things and de-escalate the situation.
You shouldn’t just go off of what was reported because it might be completely wrong. There’s always three sides to most stories… his side, her side, and then the truth.
Nonetheless, I’m glad it was handled and didn’t go too far left. Your safety is most important. Anyhow, I wish you a fantastic rest of the day, and an amazing upcoming week. I look forward to tagging along during your next adventure. Be safe, stay positive, and please keep smiling… because it looks AMAZING on you 🙏🏿 🖤
I agree with you. There are always 3 sides to a story and it was unfair of him not to listen to my side. But, life isn't fair and that's something I have to remind myself.
You be safe, as well!
Sue the guy also who called the police who filed a police report. These inside palm folk live out their cars and vans and nobody is harassing them.
And A Lot Of Those Palm Folks have RUclips Channels To.
I'm sorry you went through this love! Big hugs❤
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