Listen, the mac n cheese lady is allowed to eat whatever she wants, but it doesn't mean she can force others to like it. Food is literally up to individual TASTE.
@@madeline6951 I had some breakfast sausages left overs one day that I was making a lasagna, so I put some in it... now I just can't make a lasagna without it, it NEEDS breakfast sausages in it.
People are different, and one mans dish of a life time, is another mans sewer trash. ...IMO The problem in that story has nothing to do with the dish itself, its the whole bit about OP not liking it, and being treated poorly just for that You dont CHOSE what you like, whether thats food, hobbies, or hell even sexual interests, you dont get to chose what you like, the only control you have, is whether you follow what you like, or not.
Had a pregnant woman who was the wife of a former friend (that's another story) that would not eat a dish I made at thanksgiving because it was heavy on the garlic. I didn't get butt hurt about it she had plenty of other options to choose from. I liked the dish and so did everyone else. But to her the smell just made her stomach do loopy loops so she politely passed on it. A year later after she'd had the kid the sense memory of how it made her feel still made her a little queezy and she tried to beg my forgiveness. I told her not to worry I understood. I got Food poisoning from a run down ghetto McD's as a kid and to this day I can't smell a Big Mac without a slight gag. The sense of smell is a POWERFUL trigger to the body.
Thing is, some of those things work paired together. Kimchi and pineapple is actually pretty good together and I can see how a Japanese inspired Mac with nori seaweed, black sesame seed and garlic can work if you like those flavors like I do... but all those things together plus salmon, onion and whatever else was listed sounds like assault 🤢
Please stop cutting out takes when the comments don’t agree with you. Rslash, you are allowed to have different opinions! We listen to you for those opinions! Even if we disagree we still want to hear your opinion and reasoning. Please stop cutting them out after some people disagree with you because your ratings and reasoning are literally my favorite part. Often i listen to these after work and get so sad when i hear it go straight from one story to the next without your opinion/rating and i feel like its been happening more often recently.
Yea i often binge listen to all these on Saturday at work and always disappointed when it gets cut. Having different views of seeing things is a good thing. And if he misread the situation instead of cutting it, a pinned comment explaining it was a bad take is better. Cutting it makes it seem like hes hiding his mistakes which isnt good. Its ok to learn from mistakes not hide from them.
Rslash. You do realize that rather than most people saying to themselves they agree/disagree, removing a bad take forces them to go to the potentially toxic comments to find your take. It's healthier for everyone to leave it all in.
So dude just abandons his kid on his brother's doorstep in order to try to get laid, already knowing the brother doesn't want to babysit, and somehow the brother is at fault for informing the proper authorities of this abandonment? What world am I living in?
and not only that, the biggest reason other than op's "no" is that they don't know how to care for children! you can't just dump your child on someone who doesn't know how to care for them. even if its only a few hours, a lot can go wrong in mere minutes.
Story 1: how do you know if the whole family loves it if no one's allowed to tell her it's bad? And you shouldn't have to be forced to eat it because she can't take criticism, some people aren't going to like her Mac and cheese, and bast on the ingredients she wasted those years because that doesn't sound like the perfect mac and cheese.
We know the husband legitimately likes it. I just see this as a cultural dish that doesn't have an appeal to everyone. Op shouldn't be forced to eat it and people who enjoy it should still be able to eat it.
@@Tues48 lol. Disagree. The husband isn't somehow immune to lying. Also.....that's a crap excuse for "cultural differences". Screw that. This family is either great at lying (why not, they love their mom and don't want to hurt her feelings) or they have strange AF tastes. There's also recipes my mom made when I was a kid that everyone else I've ever met thought sounded horrible but everyone in our family LOVES. They're just a bunch of freaks. Has nothing to do with culture.
@@Tues48 I do agree with the second part of what you said though. If you like it eat it and if you don't don't. I don't know why people harass other people about their personal food tastes. Nobody has the same taste buds! Eat what you like and leave other people alone LOL
@@peterhobson3262 if they like it by all means, but I specified “make people eat” because some things just pass a boundary of “well at least try it to be polite” by description alone.
It was so incredibly weird until she finally said they were Korean, then it all made sense. Adding fish, kimchi, seaweed and bitter greens and something sweet, yup that's just korean that she threw into the mac and cheese. I'm surprised there's no corn in there. haha but their taste palet is completely opposite most in the west.
At least the garlic or garlic juice from a press should work in M&C... And there is the improbably rich five cheese mac & cheese. Likely not to Korean taste, as it's heavy on the butter.
Rslash: "Remember everyone, boundaries are super important and so is respecting them" Rslash in the babysitting story: "To be honest OP, you sound like a jerk because you won't let your brother trample your boundaries!"
It isn't boundaries, it is childish discomfort that needs to be challenged, especially because op's spouse is there. 2 different things. OP is selfish, rslash gave the correct scores.
@@dudeorduuude5211 I wonder if we can apply your logic to other situations like "Oh, you don't like my mac and cheese? Well shut the f*** up and eat it!!"
I’m guessing the reason why story 3 commentary is gone is because rslash looked his rose colored glasses as a father and destroyed op. Rslash is big on boundaries. This is op boundary. If someone doesn’t like kids, and refuses to watch your kid, why do people need to press the issue? I get the dad was desperate. Desperate enough to leave his child on the doorsteps without anyone knowing. Father of the year 🙄
Are you serious? Again? This is getting ridiculous! r/Slash should've just made an updated version of this video instead of hiding his commentary in this video like a coward because all it does is make the situation worse for him as a RUclipsr. I can't go back to certain videos r/Slash made because of how his opinions as a father ruin those videos for me. I hate how in one video r/Slash would defend an OP for enforcing their boundaries only for r/Slash to be a hypocrite in videos like this one. At best it's ignorant in the sense that r/Slash should've done more than one take before posting and at worst it's dangerous in the sense that opinions like the ones in videos like this can encourage people to not take actual victims seriously. People are going to unsubscribe if this keeps up and I will not blame them one bit.
@@chippy2023i would actually love a video of him re visiting his opinions and if he still stands by them or another point of view has changed them or an updated changed the situation or anything of that sort. Because yeah we aren’t going to all agree on everything and our individual situations changes how we see the stories. I don’t think anyone wants to rally up and cancer rslash or anything but it would be more nuanced and productive to see the insight behind his bad takes rather than just making them disappear.
@@crizmeow8394 Yeah. It's just frustrating, ya know? There are videos that I do revisit sometimes, but for the most part it wasn't this bad until I started to notice more and more via reading the comments.
Honestly, I would have worlds more respect for someone who could say that they might have gained new insight or a different perspective from comments (whether he agreed with them or not or if he thought they were dead wrong) instead of trying to hide them like a little kid who hit a wild animal and then cried to mommy that it just bit him for no reason in the world whatsoever. The only person he's fooling is himself.
Story 3: abandoning your kid on someone's doorstep in hopes of forcing them to babysit is ALWAYS a bad choice. It doesn't matter what that person's relationship is to you or the child. No other context is needed. OP is not the asshole.
Both are the A. Dad for leaving his daughter at his brother's without confirmation or contact first. OP is the A for being a bad brother, he could have helped out in other ways than baby sitting, offer to pay half and half etc. Family help eachother out, and yeah he doesnt have to help, but by not, he's pushing his brother away.
im defending the 27 year old a bit. yes both brothers are AH, but don't forget OP's partner was willing to help watch his niece. Most of "I dropped off child stories" come from entitled parents abusing relationships and inconveniencing family doing anything. Boundaries were crossed and a reason to have said boundary made sense. but OP was being vague on purpose, It feels sus
Story 3: thats an automatic 5/5 for the brother, abandoned his child and playing the victim, and guilting op because hes a widower, nah man, being a widower doesn't give rights to abandon their kids and op being a bad uncle? Come on, when brother left her kid out in the open, op took her in for a bit, a true horrible brother would have just left her
Yeah, I haven't even gotten to that part of the video yet and I'm still going to agree with you. The thumbnail basically said it all about what I'm about to listen in the story about the Mom's cursed mac & cheese.
Judging from the comments, RSlash made a bad take on the Babysitting Story and deleted it to cover his ass instead of taking the L like a mature adult.
3rd story: Hey Rslash, I am someone who can barely take care of themselves because of my depression and anxiety plus balancing work and workhunting, not to mention I am terrible at babysitting and I feel repulsed by children, would you entrust a child to me? No, right. Besides OP established boundaries about not being good at handling kids and aren't you, Rslash, someone who makes emphasis on boundaries? So, what was that about.
3rd story: just cause op cant support his brother in one way doesnt mean hes a bad brother. If youre not good with kids then its irresponsible to be left with a kid. There is more than 1 solution to the babysitting problem for the dad, so putting all the blame on op is awful. As someone who does not like kids to the same extent, opinions like this are what feed my anxiety that my family will reject me for my life choices
Let's not forget bro abandoned his kid on ops porch and that this was over getting laid. It's so easy to get a kid to go to bed and get laid afterwards. I'm overtly against the bro on this.
Your anxiety needs to be challenged. Same with OP's. You baby yourself and fear life. Watching a family member is not a big deal, especially because OP has a spouse. Let the brother have a boink, it has been 4 years ffs.
@dudeorduuude5211 well the brother could've just worn a condom and not had to deal with his obvious burden that is his child Nobody owes a parent anything. If you think they do then get help
@dudeorduuude5211 its not the anxiety of having children around. Im not going to go out of my way to avoid them, because thats unreasonable. It's the fear that my family and people around me will reject me for having this specific boundary. The brother didn't care about ops boundary, and I fear most people don't either.
Hey @rslash, stop deleting your commentary with jump cuts. Own your opinions and stand by them or at least acknowledge you were wrong and don’t just sweep it under the rug.
Sometimes he won't it was a few weeks ago but he decided that his opinion on one story was wrong but he didn't cut it out I don't know if he forgot or he has his own rules when it comes to cutting out his takes
I don’t see how deleting his takes ISN’T an admission that he was wrong. Like why do you care so much? Go off on something that matters instead, like any of the reasons our world is terrible right now.
@@Tustin2121 it's pretending he didn't say what he said. He's acknowledging that he's getting bad commentary for what he said but he's not owning up to it or correcting himself. Besides, it's super obvious when a take was cut out so everyone who watches after that point is going to notice and go to the comments to piece together what that take was, which means they might even come to a worse conclusion than what rslash actually said. Rather than running from his mistakes, he should prove to people that he knows he's wrong and he will learn from it. It's not that hard to leave the footage in then write a comment apologising for/correcting the mistake
Story 3: the issue here is that the brother *didn't ask* before leaving his daughter with OP. He straight up just abandoned his kid on his sibling's doorstep. What if OP hadn't been home and no one else in the house was either? His kid would literally just have been standing there and anything could have happened. Obviously, he knew OP would say no, and while I do think it's good to help others, especially people you care about, if someone says "No, I can't/won't do that", then the best thing to do is not try to force them to do it anyway. Sure, it sucks but you'd be well within your rights to decline to help them in turn. But trying to make them do it anyway is either just going to (1) make them resent you; (2) things could go very wrong in a great variety of ways, including involvement in the authorities in a case like this. Also, what about the other sibling? If they're so enthusiastic about the brother having a date and time off, why don't *they* take the kid.
rslash I really wish you would keep your opinions in the video even if everyone says you're wrong. It's ok to be wrong and the best thing to do is to accept it and take it in stride
@thisname3749 opinions can be wrong. like people have the opinion that black people are lesser. thats a wrong opinion. You're opinion isnt a neutral statement. it can be wrong or right
Seriously, I'd have tons more respect for someone who could say that they might have gained new insight or a different perspective from comments instead of trying to hide them like a little kid who hit a wild animal and then cried to mommy that it just bit him for no reason in the world whatsoever. The only person he's fooling is himself.
but maybe the comments changed his mind. if i changed my mind on the topic, i wouldnt want to keep my original opinion in the video either as it would no longer reflect how i feel.
2nd story - can I just say how happy I am that these guys worked out their differences and are still friends? I also know a lot of people who will cut others out of their lives for no reason at all, and I’m so happy it didn’t happen to these dudes. Very rare that these stories have any lesson to learn other than “don’t be a butthole”
I was surprised at the lack of comments on this story. I agree. They'll handled it great and I think I can completely understand where each of them is coming from. Likely, the friend still has trauma and anxiety from growing up poor. He probably feels both anxiety at the thought and jealous at the decisions she's making. The truth is he could do the same and be ok, but I doubt he feels that way. And on OPs end, they decided that selling their soul wasn't worth it. They would rather scrape by and be happy then push themselves to be something they're not. I relate to both of them. But I decided I couldn't make it in Corporate world either.
@@johanhalvarsson2148 him not being a pushover that’s completely obedient to his brother doesn’t make him a bad brother. The brother is an horrible sibling for trying to destroy his brothers boundaries by force and an even worse father for leaving his kid outside a house completely unattended
@@cosmically4286 it was ONE time! If you can't babysit one time because you "don't feel like it" then you are a bad brother. We all babysit even though we don't feel like it. He seems to be an entitled brat from what I can tell and that's from when he was the one doing the talking, making himself look "good".
@@johanhalvarsson2148 if you think it's fine to drop off a kid (and leave said kid alone to wander off close to a street) to someone who admits they won't do a good job at it because you don't value their boundaries and opinions all just so you can get laid I hope you neither have siblings or children
Story 4: This is a bad situation. Like, their response to the donation is to joke that OP sleeps with her boss? That's a serious low blow right there. Honestly, OP is better off without the family, just leave them. If OP ends up breaking from the pressure and revealing the source of the money, I think the family is going to start hounding the BIL, and OP will REALLY need to run
That or imply they were cheating, the sister will latch onto that and here you have the "victim" being vindicated in her cries of entitledment, demands that the divorce settlement be revisited and try to use it as a means of why the marriage ended. OP's just better off telling them "How I got this is none of your business. If you can't respect the fact that I'm uncomfortable with your insinuations means you need to be out of my life. Be it for now or forever is your pick on choosing to drop this now and accept it or continue on and loose my family forever."
The third story is so outrageous it's baffling you gave such biased low rating. The brother is scum of the Earth for putting his brush wet before caring for his child.
@@blackbirds318he's done that lately and when he has a response that no one likes. This is the third one I remember in the last month though I can't remember the other stories. But it seems to me those other two were also in a video that was in the 14-minute range so keep an eye out for that.
Story 1: the SECOND the mom questioned OP for turning down the Mac n cheese, it became NTA. I thought OP was just going to blurt out that she hated it, but the mom basically forced her to put her foot down!
@@lorilancaster5917yeah, I’ve got multiple questions involving the pineapple ( I’m aware it’s probably a cultural thing) but pineapple and Mac and cheese shouldn’t mix.
My old babysitter used to make us mac and cheese. She would boil the noodles and then add all the ingredients before she strained the water out of it. It was so bland. One time I offered to make it and she got so mad telling me that she knows how to read directions. 😂
OP1: We're missing a major point here. MIL offered the M&C. OP politely declined. Then... MIL pushed. OP wasn't insulting, she just said she didn't care for it. Then MIL had an ego tantrum. Eff her.
Nah it's honestly probably somewhat a matter of culture and, moreso, a matter of personal taste. Some people like a bunch of different flavors in their food. Some people like food to taste like the item of food they're eating as they're used to having it taste. From the sound of it, OP is just the latter. Some cultures have certain foods more common in their diet than others, and therefore having those more common foods be used in other foods is like certain places in North America deep frying things that other places consider it ridiculous to deep fry. Once something is more of a staple in your diet, you can more easily accept it being added in places you're not used to seeing it, while still seeing is as trying a new, more exotic dish.
I always get excited to check the comments when a response is cut.🤣 I can't believe you sided with the dad on that story. We read so many stories of crazy moms dumping their kids on people. Why all of a sudden was this guy allowed to dump his kids to go out and have fun when we have given a butthole score to so many others for the same thing?🤣
Yep. Story 3 he was acting like OP (who is a guy) was out of line for having boundaries, but OP in story 4 (who is a girl) needs to set her own and be firm. Dude is a hypocrite, a white knight, and for deleting his take on story 3, a coward.
@@justasentientmclarenp1879 Because he has taken more and more of the stance of "family matters more than anything", taken to a toxic degree over the years since becoming a father.
Story 4: OP's family is consistantly insinuating that she's a whore. Even jokingly, that's pretty messed up. The fact that OP is accepting help from exBIL while trying to preserve her sister's feelings is admirable, but her family really sucks
Mm, yeah. Everything clicked into place when OP said her husband's family is Korean. It might seem odd, but all those flavours mixed together are VERY Korean. I would even say quintessentially Korean. OP certainly wasn't rude for refusing the dish. She made her preference known in a very polite way. I think OP's mom is a little rude for the way that she reacted, but you know. I hope everything can cool down, and OP's MiL can come to understand that what is good to her Korean family's palate simply doesn't agree with her western DiL's palate and that that is okay.
Leaving your child on a doorstep is one of the ultimate entitled parent moves. When OP refused they may have gone out and left the house for whatever they already had planned potentially, and you have a child just left out in the world with no protection. It's dangerous and insane.
For the babysitting story, I would've said no too. I'm not good with kids either. Op's brother on the other hand, was being a negligent father. What if Op wasn't hone? The kid would've been alone for hrs, vulnerable for kidnapping. Op deserves 0/5 buttholes and the brother 4.5/5 buttholes.
Story 1: Anyone remember that facebook mac n’ cheese war between two sisters? Winner gets to cook their recipe at thanksgiving. Basically both of their dishes were noodles drowning in hot milk and burnt cheese. Basically a guy in the comments said “Y’all should be in prison.” Eat what you want, but it’s not cool to force others to partake. I guess I would’ve said “Sorry, the pregnancy is messing with my sense of taste and smell” … buuut that would probably subject OP to more casserole after the baby pops out.
OP3: Family or no family, dropping a child off without consent deserves the threat of law enforcement. Also, no Rslash, being a good brother does NOT include being guilted into doing something you don't want to. Brother's behavior after his inexcusable action proves he deserves no such consideration.
I am pretty sure everyone agrees, where op is an ahole though is because his own brother lost his wife and the mother of his child and the story comes across as though he doesn't have a single sympathetic bone in his body for this brother's situation. For the incident in question, Op has no blame whatsoever. That said, as a family member over all, not wanting to spend any time getting to know his niece, not helping his brother at all when he's clearly struggling, it paints him in a really bad light. If any of my siblings were in this kind of situation, you'd better believe I'd find a way to help them out if and how ever I could. To not want to help out makes him a bad brother. I'm not saying at all that he has to watch the niece, just that you can't be a good sibling if you're not willing to do a single thing to help your sibling in question out.
@@paranoiarpincess Why is he expected to show sympathy to a selfish father? “Hadn’t had sex since my wife died” isn’t the point, the point is that he didn’t have to get OP involved and did it anyway because he feels like his tragedy makes him specially entitled to whatever he wants Plus, why are we assuming OP isn’t helping in other ways? The brother could easily be and probably is one of those people who try to guilt trip you by acting like you don’t love them at all because you wouldn’t do one thing for them This really feels like grasping at straws in an attempt to salvage RSlash’s take when no, he wasn’t “wrong in some areas but had a point here”. He was literally just wrong
As someone that threw up by smell alone while pregnant, I can totally understand the first OP. Heck, the smell of Chex Mix Bold was enough to induce vomiting from me which is my mom's favorite kind. She'd roll the windows down in her car any time she wanted to enjoy them while on the road with me, it was that bad. I honestly expected more from OP's MIL as someone who also experienced pregnancy.
I have sensory issues, and I don't doubt looking at the latest dish let alone smelling it would have made me sick. The smell of normal cherrios sometimes sends me gagging lol And I love alot of Asian and Korean cuisine. But Mac and cheese isn't Asian cuisine lmao
The other day my mom and sister had kimchi; and the smell was SO strong. I had to step back a few feet to talk to my mom because I was overwhelmed. Imagine what a pregnant lady felt after smelling that concoction.
Story 3: Idk how you missed the mark so hard with this one rSlash, you've covered this exact same scenario multiple times and (correctly) stated its child abandonment and a shitty parental thing to do, what makes this one different? OP said that they aren't experienced with childcare, so going from no experience to an OVERNIGHT STAY is ENORMOUS, especially with zero warning, zero supplies, zero list of things kid likes to eat/doesnt eat and the routine, etc. Like, what because the brothers a widower and wants to get laid it makes it better?
Story 3: You hard missed the mark. The thing about being a parent is making sacrifices for your children. OP said he doesn't really know how to care for children which is valid. It isn't OP's problem that his brother can't afford a babysitter. If his brother can't afford a babysitter he can't afford dates either in reality, plus, abandoning your child basically on a doorstep on the hope you force your brother to care for her? Lol... no. Op's brother is the bad brother here and a terrible father on top of it. Abandoning your child basically just to get laid, widow or not, is a terrible excuse and reason.
@@damitafrost4228it's his favorite new thing to do. Finds out his views don't match the comments and removes his comments on that video to staunch the bleeding of bad comments calling him out.
@@damitafrost4228I have only ever seen him delete his commentary when he realizes he's in the wrong. I think there's only been one other time. Otherwise he leaves it. Usually he comes back in another video and explains that he realizes he was wrong. So hopefully that's the situation.
Story 3: op is not wrong in any facet because even as a brother I wouldn't expect my brother to watch his niece just because I need him to, if I want a night off I have to save for the babysitter or find an alternative.
I wonder if the lady he was going on a date with knows he has a kid. Also, alternatively, he could have asked if they could do dinner at his house and he cooks or buys out fancy. This way, he's saving on a babysitter that he doesn't have the money for. But if you don't have the money for a babysitter, how do you have money for a date? That math ain't mathing.
Story 3. Your siblings are not your babysitting service. You CAN'T just dump your kid on someone and drive away. That's a crime (child abandonment). That mac and cheese sounds gross. I wouldn't eat it either. No one can demand you eat their food, especially if it makes you sick. I've had people tell me 'You're just being picky" when they give me food that I'm mildly allergic (or I have a really bad reaction to it) and they demand to eat it. My father and mother did this and so did my ex-stepmother. Never mind that it makes me puke. Sheep meat makes me sick. I wouldn't eat, so it would be put in front of me for days. I told my dad it made me sick. He told me to just eat the potatoes and carrots. Umm, it's cooked with the meat and covered with lamb gravy, no, I can't eat it. "You're just being picky!" No, I don't like puking.
damn, rslash really had a story at the end where he insisted on respecting boundries right after calling the uncle a bad uncle for standing firm on his
Story 1: When my brother and I were kids, my dad made us macaroni and mustard. It was a lot of mustard. My brother and I called it the worst Mac and Cheese on earth and will throw it in my dad's face, despite him saying it's gourmet. After listening to this story, I apologized to my dad for that
@@RavenholmZombie my aunt made mac and cheese with ... ugh.. Kraft Singles laid on top and microwaved (the mac was cooked normally)... It was disgusting. I took one bite and barely managed to swallow it. I tossed the rest of it out after that single bite... ugh, it still makes my stomach churn thinking about it.
I put powdered mustard in my macaroni, but it's only a few sprinkles. You can barely taste it. Okay, so I also grate cauliflower and put that into the macaroni, and often onions, but the thing is, the onion adds flavour and you can't taste the cauliflower at all, so it's just a way to eat extra vegetables (cauliflower cheese is a thing).
A small amount of mustard can bring out cheese flavour in stuff like cheese sauce and cheese muffins but it's only a small amount. To the point you have no taste of mustard
it feels like now theres one bad take for each episode. story 3, dude, how is op the AH when he's terrible with kids and probably isn't ready to take on the responsibility? its irresponsible to mindlessly hand off a child to someone who you know isn't good with kids. his brother ABANDONED his daughter on his doorstep so he could get laid. but yeah, sure, op is the selfish one. jesus christ man. you need another break, cuz the first one clearly didn't work.
The babysitting story is Another one Rslash is gonna have to redact. Bad call dude, its not the brothers responsibility to assist when he's made it clear he doesn't want to. You said it yourself, the absense of nice is not being mean, its just not being nice. Likewise the absense of generosity not selfishness, he's just not being generous
And it’s not like the brother needs OP to babysit because of his job or an emergency. He wants to get laid. Which if he can’t afford a sitter then he cannot afford to get laid. Also OP has the right to have boundaries.
Agreed. My sister had 2 kids and always tried to pawn them off on me to babysit and I hated it... I didn't get paid and was a teen so had my own shit to do. Yes I babysat once and awhile but you having kids doesn't mean I have to watch them. How does rslash know the brother hasn't babysat a lot before and simply didn't want to this time? His choice to have kids and if he can't find a babysitter then guess he doesn't go out that night eh... Us childfree people do enjoy our own time and shouldn't be frowned upon when we don't want to babysit especially for free !!!
I was hoping someone would say something. Like it's not like the brother kept the child outside he let her inside. If his brother gave him a heads up and said no last minute then yeah I would understand, but if he just dumped her there without telling OP then the brother is an arse for wanting to get his rocks off and abandoning his child.
I interpreted what Rslash said more as “while it isn’t your responsibility, if you can’t help your brother once you’re a bad brother” though that may be my coloring of the statement. Eitherway, I feel his opinion is valid. My opinion is ESH and I honestly would give the OP a small AH score. Again my opinion given the situation
You need to listen properly. He gave the brother a high ah score. Yes, the brother is selfish. And frankly, you and your generation are bad citizens and family members. Very entitled. The brother is nervous around kids, that is no reason not to help his brother and niece for a few hours, especially because his spouse is there. Grow up.
Gives me the ick that op's brother in the third story abandonned his 4yo daughter in front of a house that could've been empty for all he knew, because he "hadn't had sex since his wife died". Every comment i read seem to say the date was a one night stand, but no one stops to think that maybe the woman didn't expect it to go that route and thought it was a legitimate date...what a way to treat women, and what an example he sets for his daughter...
Story 3: I think you mightve been too harsh with Op. Granted, yes, it's not great the brother lost his wife, and OP may have overreacted and may not be the best because he's never babysitted her, but just dumping a kid off at your brother's place and vanishing is not appropriate. What of OP had a dangerous house? What if OP is autistic and simply *can't handle children* when alone and knows he might lash out at them? A 4 year old can very easily get into things and hurt themselves. OP told his brother *in advance* that he doesn't have the experience to deal with kids and simply doesn't want to and it should've ended at that. His brother could've asked friends, other family, but instead he tried to force his brother into it. OP has no experience, what if something happened to the daughter and OP didn't know how to help her? If she was just dumped off that means OP has no toys, no clothes, no blankets, no bedding, no food she might eat either, nothing to give her baths, he doesn't know a bedtime routine, he has no contact with the brother if there's an emergency and I doubt other family members might know, not only that but how can OP know when his brother will come back? Is she staying overnight? Into the next day? He's not getting paid for it either, if OP had work is he expected to just ditch work? Ditch his own friends or date because his brother didn't prepare? Why is OP the bad brother for simply refusing to put himself in a situation that could end dangerously because he doesn't want to and doesn't have the experience to account for a child in his life? Rslash, I think you forget some people just don't want kids in their life and they're entitled to have their *own home* be child free. Just as the brother is entitled to his date, OP is entitled to refuse and keep his home as his own and that doesn't make him a bad person. Just because you enjoy having your kids and other kids around doesn't mean others enjoy being around kids and their home is the only concrete space they won't encounter children.
Honestly as someone who is on the higher end of the autism spectrum and also hates little children, if my brother abandoned his kid on my doorstep i'd fucking call him to pick up his crotch goblin because there is no way I'm putting up with a screaming child for god knows how long.
Rslash is just so into kids and women and defending them even when it makes no sense. Having a kid himself skewed his perception...which sucks when your job is to give fair unbiased views for a living lol
I had the same thought RE autism. OP may not be comfortable sharing that kind of info, may not realize that's where this is coming from to think to mention it, or they may not even KNOW, since plenty of neurodivergent people don't get diagnosed or get diagnosed later in life (I was 31). It can be so hard to try to express why you can't do something that other people have no problem with when you only know that you can't.
I’m on OP’s side in the babysitting post. He outright stated he’s not sure how to even care for a kid. If he doesn’t know how to care for a kid, what’s he supposed to do? And what if the kid needed some sort of medication or supply? The brother is a jacka** of a tall order.
Yeah I agree. Op said over and over that he doesn't know how to take care of kids. Out of every uncle I have, I wouldn't say they are bad uncles for not babysitting me in the past (only 2 out of the 5 have from what I've been told)
Story 3: Op is NOT a bad brother. Dude, you can't just demand someone babysit for you so you can go fuck some random chick you found. In fact, it's even more irresponsible for the brother to keep pushing it after OP stated he has no idea how to take care of a child. WHY WOULD YOU EVEN LEAVE YOUR KID WITH SOMEONE WHO SAYS THEY CAN'T PROPERLY TAKE CARE OF THEM? As a parent who has NO VILLAGE at all, a night out sounds like HEAVEN but I would never expect my family (if I had any) to do it for free and especially wouldn't demand them when they stated they were uncomfortable. Dad doesn't get a "pass" just because his wife died. Like he's trying to get LAID, not even an emergency or a job related thing. No, he wants to fuck someone. If you can't afford proper childcare, you can't afford to fuck. In fact, he obviously gives zero fucks about his daughter's safety since he was a) willing to leave her with someone who didn't even know how to care for a child and b) literally left her on the doorstep so he could get some woohoo. Like nah. Op is NOT a bad brother but OP's brother is a fucking awful dad. Sorry, but that's what happens when you are a parent. Your child comes first and foremost that often means leaving a personal life behind.
Honestly, unless RSlash is developping a brain tumor thats altering his personality, at this point I'm convinced he's deliberately throwing the AITA videos to drive engagement on these videos. There's no way he'd come to that conclusion under normal circumstances. What I will say is that I'm at the point where I check the comments BEFORE watching his AITA posts to see if its worth it. 😂
I mean his posts arnt super long anyway so it would probably take you longer to read the comments then just listen to the thing. I also listen to Markee who also does AITA etc and his posts are usually 1.5 hours long...
@@seraphiccandy21 I typically check to see if he has a pinned comment about his bad take... normally within the first 2 comments I can tell if the video goes south so I don't risk the irritation. I watch Markee and like that he gives a whole bunch of comments from other redditors before he gives his verdict. He typically goes with the general viewpoints but I've noticed that Rslash will deliberately go against the grain sometimes and make outlandish takes... which 8/10 times irritates his viewers.
He'll say "down in the comments, most people are saying X but I must say I disagree and go on to give a very odd take + "justification" based a lot of the time, in speculation. There are a few times where it works but most times... it's him eroding his own beliefs based on his past takes. Those posts annoy me the most because it feels manufactured.
Babysitter story: I'm honestly shocked and appalled at rSlash's response to this story. OP set completely reasonable boundaries, and even after the brother abandoned his own kid and tried manipulating OP to feel bad, he seriously thinks OP is in the wrong? Not only is it completely within OP's right to refused unpaid labor, but it could potentially be DANGEROUS for him to have had said yes. OP said in the post that he didn't know how to take care of kids, so knowing that, saying yes could've ended up in the niece getting seriously hurt. I don't imagine OP's house is kid-proofed, nor should he need to kid-proof his house since he doesn't have any kids of his own. Four year olds are a lot of work, and I don't think OP could have reasonably cared for her at his own house with no experience. Not only that, but the brother saying OP "failed as an uncle" despite completely failing as a parent himself is laughable. He abandoned his only child just so he could "have some fun".. is that not disgusting to you? He left his only child completely alone just so he could get laid. Imagine if OP wasn't there that day (because he said no to babysitting) and came back to his niece sitting on his porch crying her eyes out because her father abandoned her without a second thought. Imagine if she were KIDNAPPED because of his negligence! And after all that, even after abandoning his own child in favor of a one-night-stand (presumably), he decided to gaslight and manipulate OP into thinking HE was the one at fault. He literally tried to say that OP didn't love his niece, typical manipulation tactic, when in reality the BROTHER is probably the one who doesn't even love his own child. So, rSlash, do you seriously think a man who abandoned his own child to get laid deserves sympathy? Do you seriously think someone with zero experience who isn't getting paid should care for a 4-year-old child alone? Do you seriously think OP is in the wrong here? I'm honestly disappointed at your response.
For story 3, I feel like OP's brother should be a 5/5 butthole. He literally abandoned his daughter on his brother's doorstep. That is a terrible parent right there. That girl could have gotten kidnapped. I honestly don't understand how OP is even a bad brother and uncle. He did nothing wrong. If someone doesn't want to babysit, even if their brother is a widow, it doesn't make them a bad person. The brother is the bad brother and a bad father. He obviously doesn't even love his own kid because he cares more about getting laid over his own child's safety.
Far as we can tell OP has done nothing to help ease his Brother's burden during the four years he's been grieving. It's been four years and he can't watch his niece for one night?
Never mind the parent brother then taking the opportunity to accuse his brother of not loving his niece. That's just what he's saying to the brother, what's he saying to the 4 year old daughter? "Your uncle doesn't love you or care about you, sorry kiddo!"
Also it feels weird that there's literally no other choice but for the brother to babysit, like where's the mother/father? Or other family? Other friends? And if he's unlucky and doesn't have any of that in his life then suck it up until you can afford a babysitter.
Story 1: I'm not a fan of mac&cheese, but the mix of ingredients in the MIL's version made me feel absolutely sick. It really seems like she makes it to clean her fridge from all the leftovers. I truly admire OP for eating that garbage food for so many years. If it was me, I would flat out refuse to even try it. I don't even want to imagine how it smells... ugh Story 3: As a person who was forced to watch over my little cousins when I was still in an elementary school while their parents were just sitting at the table with other adults during a party at my house, completely ignoring their offsprings from hell [and I had to watch them also so they wouldn't steal or destroy anything in the house], I'm 100% on OP's side. He refused to babysit, he said he's unable to provide care for such a little kid, but his brother only thought with what he had in his pants. Seriously?! That doesn't make him a bad brother/uncle. When will people with kids finally understand that there are also people who aren't good with kids so they shouldn't force them to deal with the little ones. My cousins' behavior and their parents entitlement traumatized me enough to not ever having kids of my own and not to ever again let anyone dump their children on me. And if the brother can't afford a babysitter then he should ask his other family member, in-laws, some friends who like kids, not OP who has been repeatedly saying that he doesn't want to babysit. Story 4: OP, shut down your siblings' abusive comments. Either they stop spreading their stupid assumptions or they will not longer be in your life. It's their choice. What they say is extremely, extremely rude and it shouldn't go unpunished. Also, I wouldn't tell anyone who donated the money to the college fund and let them boil from curiosity.
I remember when I had to babysit my little cousin when I was only 8. Luckily he didn't like how I babysit her so he never asked again. But again come on, I was 8 and easily distracted, what did he expect?
RSlash already cut the judgment on story 3, but I think in the past he would have sided with OP, so I'm curious what changed his mind this time. Anyway, yeah, even if it's annoying that OP won't babysit, who the heck just drops their kid off like that?! That dad is definitely TA.
I guess Rslash realized he had a bad take for the babysitting story because it seems like he cut out his take on it. I think it's kinda funny that he'd get rid of his opinion because people didn't like it. Even if you have a bad take, its best to own it and not just pretend like it didn't happen which is essentially what he's doing.
I feel like Rslash's take on story 3 is kind of moot. The op said they don't know much about kids at all, he'd be expected to take care of this kid from anywhere from two hours to twelve depending how long his brother is gone on his 'date'. Especially when the brother is implying he very specifically wants to get laid on his date. And op wouldn't even be paid back for his time based on the fact the brother doesn't even have money for a baby sitter, so how would he even make it up to op for doing him this solid? Not to mention, the brother DELIBERATELY tried to force op into a situation he couldn't get out of, not thinking op would go to an extreme. He fucked around and found out. The brother put HIS CHILD in danger on the whim OP was home, let alone even realize there's a meek four year old outside. It's irresponsible. Rslash's take feels very, "BUT FAAAAMILYYYY", It doesn't matter if they were family. If op were just a really good friend, would he still be a shitty person for not wanting to watch someone else's kid after repeatedly saying they're not comfortable with that citing multiple reasons, one of which being they don't know how to take care of a kid?
Nah, you are missing the point I think. It sound like OP never babysit the kid in his life. This was a one off ask, not a regular thing. He could have made him that favor. And he could have ask the father how to care for the kid for that one night. small kids sleep fairly early anyway. The guy lost his wife and it sound like he didn't had time to rebuild his life at all. 100% focusing on the kid and work and still doesn't have extra money. So OP is kind of a AH to not have made a exception that one time as a gift for his brother. (well, assuming his brother his a decent person of course. If he isn't then sure... OP is in the clear). But the brother is an even bigger asshole for trying to force it. You can't force people to take care of your responsibilities. And attempting to emotionally blackmail the person into doing it is simply despicable to me. So it's an Everyone sucks scenario to me but yeah, the brothers is more of an AH that OP for sure. Don't get me wrong, OP doesn't owe him anything, he is not entitled to his help. But you can still be a bit of an AH when not doing it depending on the context. Try to imagine yourself in the shoes of the brother for a second. you spend what... 4 years with basically no free time and no money and you ask that one favor to your brother and he flat out refuse to help you out for a few hours that one time. You would be disappointed as well. But of course, you have no right to try to force it.
@@Ruchunteurop isn't the ah for not taking care of a kid that isn't his, especially when he explicitly said he doesn't know how to take care of kids, nor does he want to. Family or not, there's no obligation
@@futureblade6099 I think you are confuse about what is an AH. It have nothing to do about obligations. He for sure had no obligation but he did lack compassion and understanding. As far as we now it was a one time thing. He could have been nice. He didn't have too though, you right about that. Just like you don't have to be polite to people. Still though, if you are rude people are gonna think you are en AH. It doesn't excuse in any way the brother reaction though. He should just have give OP the stink eye and left it at that.
@@dudeorduuude5211So just dumping your kid on a relative's porch is being a good family member...? Let alone a good parent? Yes, it takes a village to help with a kid, but they didn't ask to be born and typically no one else makes someone have kids, therefore it's ultimately up to the parents. Bottom line.
Hell, I'm going to be controversial and say that, depending on the cheese used with the mac, the pineapple could be a pretty good addition, even. But all in the same dish? I have an open mind, but it's not quite that open. Several things about that make it a horrendous mix.
I assumed a bad take happened cause the commentary was gone for the 3rd story, good thing there’s a comment section. Damn. Edit: Omg, I just heard RSlash’s commentary on the 4th story and the HYPOCRISY telling Op to set boundaries with the ‘jokes’ and probably said something infuriating about Op in the 3rd story about setting his boundaries. Also stop removing your bad takes from the videos, you’ve already uploaded it; you made your bed now lay in it.
Story 3: I can see if the brother said that there was some kind of emergency situation like something happened to the house or he’s hurt or something like that and needs to go to the hospital, then OP would’ve been an AH since it was an emergency. But this is a date, which it isn’t an emergency.
What part about being related gives Story 3 OP obligation to care for a kid when he doesn't want to. He doesn't, sure hes not being overly generous or nice, but that doesn't make him a bad person. Remember how people would say oh yeah don't drop kids off with strangers they could be a secret p3d0 or something. Ok, take the same energy and say. dont drop your kid off with someone who is clearly not interested because neglect could occur. You don't know OP's life. What if OP had plans, what if OP was a swinger? OP shouldn't have to suck it up because he's related. RSlash, I get you have a family and you're happy and stuff, but... sometimes you forget not everyone thinks like you. Not everyone is family oriented. Your siblings are not obligated to be godparents or free babysitters solely because they are related to you. I feel you keep this happy family mindset a little too closely you judge too harshly with people who do not hold the same mindset.
Story 3 would OP be a "bad brother" if they moved to another City the Brother didn't live in? What if they refused to move to a City that the brother moved to? How are either of those different from refusing to babysit?
12:11 Whenever R/Slash has a horrendously bad take he just deletes his commentary. I feel like it's been happening a lot recently. Maybe he should stick to subreddits where he doesn't have to give a judgment, because his has come across as hypocritical lately.
Story 3 - Be better, Rslash. Mister Rogers would be disappointed in you for thinking the OP is the AH. They specified their boundaries and said they didn't know how to take care of a child, and the brother LEFT HIS CHILD OUTSIDE SOMEONE'S HOME WHO SAID THEY DID NOT CONSENT TO BABYSITTING, WITHOUT MAKING SURE SHE GOT INSIDE SAFELY. I'm putting this in all caps to show how SERIOUSLY WRONG that is. Would you do that with your daughter? I certainly hope not!! I get that you probably sympathize with the brother for multiple reasons, but sometimes your life changes drastically when you have a child. Sometimes your social and adult fun time life is severely impacted. And, if the brother can pay for a date, he can pay for a babysitter.
Story 1; my dad was raised by a single mother, my grandmother that passed before I was born, and he told me stoies about how he and his siblings would have leftovers for dinner and school lunches sometimes for multiple days especially after the big holidays (Sicilian families don't go lightly on the food!). Somedays would be a mixture of different things, think thanksgiving turkey/leftovers as a sandwich or soup. But never in my life have I ever heard something like this being done! Especially to Mac & Cheese! What did they do to your MIL to do something like this?! 😭😭
Story 3: R/ your being really soft today. Just because it's the nice thing to do doesn't make him a hole, and I would rather someone just come out and say they don't want to do it because they don't know what they're doing, then come back to a disaster because they tried.
@@Sailor-Khione We don't know that. In a story like this, the narrator will always be unreliable. There is always more to a story than what's on the surface
Do you know why it’s called mac and cheese? Because the ingredients are MACARONI and CHEESE. You can add like…2 things that make sense (broccoli, bacon, maybe garlic or something) and still call it mac n cheese. Whatever that lady made is an abomination, not mac n cheese. If you want to be polite you could call it “kitchen sink lasagna” because at that point it’s lasagna, and she threw everything in it but the sink.
You can't force somebody to care for a child if they're uncomfortable and unskilled with doing it. OP's brother is TAH for dumping his child on OP on the night he wanted to have passionate hugging. OP is NTA, even if he acts like a "bad brother and uncle". The niece isn't going to remember the whole thing unless OP's brother poisons her mind and makes OP sound unloving toward her.
There is nothing wrong with not wanting to babysit. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to babysit. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to babysit. Get it straight, or slash! If someone doesn't want to babysit, it doesn't matter if the parent has just lost their wife. That is not a reason to force a child on to someone else to babysit. Especially since there's no mention in here about the brother being paid to babysit. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to babysit.
Is that what Rslash said? What does he by "just lost his wife"? OP said that the child's mom died from complications of child birth. This means that she died when his niece was a newborn baby and she's four now. Did Rslash just ignore the part where OP's brother just dropped off his four year old child and left without even making sure OP was home?
@@uselessinformation1988 no, our slash is basically giving both of them a butthole score. However the Opie does not deserve a butthole score just because he doesn't want to babysit the four year old.
@@uselessinformation1988 and in my post I should have phrased that better. I should have phrased it as it doesn't matter if the person's wife just died or died 10 years ago
In the babysitting story, NO! They set clear boundaries "I don't want to take care of them", and their brother just stepped over the boundaries because "I want to party". The only bad sibling in this story is the brother, just because someone close to them died, doesn't mean they can do anything they want.
It wasn’t just because “I want to party”. This man has been a single dad for 4 years and hasn’t been a single date for that time because he can’t afford a babysitter and he doesn’t have anyone to look after his child. He wanted to take care of himself a little bit and get back into the dating game. But he doesn’t have the opportunity because the one person he knows well enough to take in his daughter for a little bit, refused. Just absolutely refused, not even a smidge of compromise. Simply because “I don’t want to take care of them”. While that is his prerogative, it is a little selfish. He did set up boundaries but he could have been a little more considerate to his widowed brother
@professorp1 it isn't selfish. It's not the brothers responsibility to take care of the kid. Just because caring for the child and helping out his brother would be the nice thing to do, DOESN'T mean saying no is mean. Just because he isn't being nice, does not mean he's being mean.
@@amyschildgamerlive4519 you must've misread my comment. That's what I'm saying, they did nothing wrong. They didn't want to take care of them, but their brother just left them at their door
@@amyschildgamerlive4519 I think in most cases to determine whether something is selfish or not you have to look at whether the other person’s woes outweigh the ones you would have if you did such action. In this case the brother lost out on his first date in years, and OP would have lost like 4 hours of peace. So I would say that by not agreeing to babysit would make OP selfish since he wouldn’t lose much compared to his brother. Yes, even though it wasn’t OP’s responsibility. If it was OP’s responsibility and he said no, he would be negligent, like the brother was. So yeah, OP was kind of selfish.
R/slash: You can't force anyone to eat something they don't like! Also R/slash: If you don't suck it up and do what your brother says, you're the asshole! Wow R/slash, a bit of an hypocrite there, aren't you? No one should bend and babysit for someone else's child with no prior warning especially when you don't have any prior knowledge about caring for children. Op isn't the asshole and the brother is selfish. You don't realize that a parent's decision to have a child is on their shoulders, not their family. Also, little side note, if the brother has enough money for a date, he can pay for a babysitter, so it's definetly fishy that he is too short on money just for the babysitter and uses that argument to try and force Op's hand into agreeing, the brother is incredibly selfish and self-centered and Op is NOT the asshole for not going along with someone that tramples all over his bondaries and then tries to guilt trip him into submission by USING HIS OWN DAUGHTER AS A GODDAMN WEAPON. This is a really bad take on your part, An easy comparison that could be made is this: If a family member can't take your house, they don't have a right to take your time ESPECIALLY when Op makes it clear that he says NO. YOU are showing entitled behavior here R/slash, please change your stance on this.
I'm going to assume that, due to the lack of input from Rslash on the babysitting story, that he had another very bad take on it and he went back and edited it out. Again. As far as I'm concerned, it was generous of OP to give his brother a warning before calling the cops. He doesn't have enough for a babysitter, but he has enough to go out and impress a woman enough that she'll tame his dragon? No, he's just being cheap. We've seen stories like this hundreds of times, on this channel alone. If you give him one freeby, he'll never stop doing this. The fact that he dropped and ran on OP was a sign that he was a male Karen at heart. That's a CLASSIC Karen move!
Even though some said op got 0/5, rslash still blew up at OP and ended it with saying he didn't want op as a brother. From what I remember, he didn't even go that hard at the neglectful father for leaving his daughter unattended and then shaming his own brother and using the classic guilt trip that most entitled parents use when someone doesn't want to watch a kid.
LMAO NO @Story 3 He outright said he's not comfortable babysitting because he doesn't know how to take care of a child and genuinely, he doesn't have to do that either. That doesn't make him a bad brother or person. I babysit my nieces all the time because I want to. If I said I didn't, absolutely nobody would crawl up my ass and call me a bad person because of it. Like wtf???
It's funny how he read a similar story about op not being comfortable with watching kids and rslash said that it would probably be best if someone with no child care experience doesn't watch someone else's kids. Or something like that.
Story 3: absolutely NTA. He drew a line in the sand. He laid out the rules, and the rules were crossed. rSlash, you take the L calling him a bad brother since he was sticking to his boundaries and was willing to enforce consequences. If it was the case his wife died, or was in the hospital, or he desperately needed a day to look for work, I'd get it. The brother was just trying to get laid. That's not an excuse to abandon your child with someone without their permission.
No childcare = bad brother 😂. Makes perfect sense. That means anyone that has boundaries being child free automatically makes them a bad brother and uncle.
I mean, given the list of ingredients, it no longer even qualifies as mac and cheese anymore. That’d be like offering someone rice and handing them a bowl of jambalaya.
Story 3: mildly surpris rslash talked himself into giving a 1.5, but not so surprised at the badmouthing OP(theres always one Story per Episode for aggression these days). But there have been other stories, a few very recently where OP has stated they don't want to take care of their niece/nephew as their sibling tried to pawn them off. Rslash applauded the OPs in those stories for setting boundaries that should be respected. Much like this story, where OP says they aren't experienced with kids and don't really want to do it. Commentary-wise, rslash gets a 1.5 for being inconsistent and aggressive 😂
Those stories were very different. In those cases the OP was constantly made into a babysitter. In this case, the brother asked for _one_ night. Also, you can be in the right and still be an asshole about it. OP has literally no empathy for his brother's circumstances. Even the boyfriend thinks OP is an asshole and was willing to help. Meaning OP wouldn't have been alone in wat hing the kid.
@@Ikajoplease don't ignore the fact he literally left his daughter at the door step of his brother's house without checking if he was there or not to go on a date. No family emergency, no job interview. Just a night of fun. That's very irresponsible of him.
Its also a big 180, Rslash usually doesn't get heated over enforcing boundaries. Like he saved the rage at a guy not letting his boundaries get stomped over, so his brother can get laid Not the guy who left his kid without checking he was home first....to get laid I thought I was having a stroke with the "He's awful for just leaving his kid....but hes left the kid there now and you're home, so give him what he wants or you're a monster" WHAT?!
@@MiraTheWarlock yeah there's even stories where the parent just dropped their kid off and left and rslash raged at them. And he usually doesn't side with "I need passionate hugging" excuses
Rslash, as someone who actually did babysit for her sisters kids, it sucked. I loved my neice and nephews but waking up @12pm only to find my sister gone and the kids with no breakfest or clean diapers, sucked. I had to start my day taking care of them and end my day doing the same thing because she wouldn't come home until 3am. If Op accepted it this time, whats to say the brother wouldnt keep doing it and on top of that his brother didnt even offer to pay.
@@JHyde-tv3if I got paid but she paid me in alcohol which lead to a really bad addiction for 6 months. I finally quit when I met my current husband. He was worried for me because I would drink 3-4 bottles of vodka and then have have other drinks on top of that, I was only 19/20. I'm glad I got out there because now she doesn't have any of her kids except the newest one and even then CPS is getting involved
@@mrsminininja2618 I am really glad you got yourself out of that and got help. I am proud of you. Some siblings are really entitled and shitty. Even if he offered 20 bucks, that's SOMETHING but I would never ever do it for free again and not for anything other than cash. I made that mistake too many times
Rslash for story 3 the brother was not mourning he was horny looking to passionately hug someone so he out of desperation dumped the child with op. As you have stated in the past where going to the hospital, doctors appointments, or other forms of emergency would be oki yet you have said that if it's not an emergency then it's on the parents of the child to look after the child.
And even if it was an emergency, you don’t dump your kid on the porch and drive off. You go in, apologize for the inconvenience and ASK whether your child can stay as a one-off extenuating circumstance.
Story 3 babysitting: I’m not good with kids. However I do watch kids for a few hours at family gatherings because IMO the kids need a break from their parents. I think for me what exonerated OP from being a bad brother is the fact that the brother is the one who took the nuclear route. If he had been the 1 to knock and say “hey, I know you aren’t good with kids but I really need a break tonight and there is no one else” and had brought over everything he could to keep the niece happy then they could have talked. I would then think that OP would have been a bit selfish (not necessarily in the wrong) then. But since his brother didn’t do that, he fought fire with fire which is what I would do in that situation.
Story 2: it’s horrible to be friends with a socially resented person (don’t know if this translates well), but just as you can’t judge a person who grows up poor you shouldn’t judge a person who grows up middle class or rich. It’s not their fault. If they’re assholes it’s because they’re assholes, not because of their socioeconomic class. It’s like saying that bullying someone fat is bad, but bullying someone skinny is ok. People have to grow up and make peace with their past, more so if you’re in a better position now. I literally had to end a “friendship” for something similar. I live in NY, grew up in DR. My parents were poor growing up, we were even poor when my brother and I were kids but they put themselves through college and worked hard and we climbed the economic ladder if you will. Here I made a friend, also from DR… everything went well until I told her what my parents did for a living. She would always give me crap for not wanting to spend unnecessary money because “your parents can pay for it”, even though she knew I came here by myself and was supporting myself at 17, thank you very much. And whenever someone tried to discuss any sociopolitical issue in DR she would dismiss me because “I was to privilege to know anything about that”. News flash, she was the equivalent of a rich girl in the countryside - while I was middle class in the capital- and she was super controlling and entitled to everyone around her… but she could only see other people’s “privilege”. 🙃
I think you mean resentful, but I get what you're saying And you're right. I have many friends with so much more privilege than me. I don't feel resentful of them, because well, I love my friends, I don't want them to struggle like I am. I'd prefer they do well.
there is a truth that people who grew up wealthy have trouble understanding what being poor means, but it is also true that people have the ability to educate themselves and learn about other lifestyles. it is the assholes who refuse to educate themselves about how the world works and who aren't worth much besides their bank account.
@@MiraTheWarlock thanks for correcting me. Yeah, like why would you want others to struggle? Plus she moved here with her family, who paid rent, while I was all alone renting rooms in bad places trying to make my own way. That’s why I don’t agree with r/slash on this one. The friend was an AH. Ok he was having issues, that’s not an excuse to be an AH. But the good thing is that they made up.
this definitely. as a 15 yr old whos family has always been p poor, its something you need to learn to look past. as a kid i was pretty jealous and resentful of people, but as you grow up, its like... thats life. you have to learn to move past that. ppl often see privilege as an exclusively bad thing, but as u said in a reply, why would you WANT people to struggle?? nowadays most of my friends are better off than me, and im HAPPY for them that they dont have to struggle and have people to rely on. learn to be happy for other people, bitter animosity over others good fortune is just gonna make you a jerk lol
I see in the comments that Rslash gave the non-babysitting uncle a butthole score. Apparently, Rslash got tired of being roasted, because there is absolutely no commentary after that story ends. I agree with the commenters who say that the dad of the 4 yr old is a bad father, and OP is the good guy. I, too, know nothing about sitting kids and I would be really pissed if a kid were dropped off on my doorstep, too.
I disagree with Story 1's judgment. I think it's a NAH situation and I'll explain why: - OP has been trying to keep the peace for years and has a right to eat what she thinks tastes good. And I'm a man, so I don't know about what food is good to eat while pregnant, but I doubt even normal man and cheese is and you definitely don't wanna eat something you don't enjoy. And what OP eats also goes to the baby, so she has the right to refuse something she dislikes and be honest about it - OP's MIL: Why is she TA? Cuz she got upset with OP's opinion? Keep in mind, that she's assumed for TWO YEARS that OP, like everyone else who's eaten the Mac N Cheese, enjoys it too. And she's spent years "perfecting" it, meaning she's gone through different recipes. So, from her point of view, she's been making this dish for who knows how long, and her daughter in law who's been eating it for two years, tells her it's bad. After she's been cooking it for OP for two years, under the belief that OP enjoyed it, only to find out she was only pretending. I'd be mad too in that scenario. And it's not like she continued to push OP to eat it, she just got mad and ignored her. Is that so unreasonable given her POV? While I personally wouldn't eat that dish, I can understand both points of view and think both deserve 0/5 AHs
Babysitting: Are you serious r/Slash? OP's niece is *NOT* OP's responsibility! Like you said before what OP's brother did was toxic and dangerous, why are you blaming OP as well??? If OP doesn't want to help his brother then he has the right to not help his brother! Let's not forget that there could be other family members that OP's brother could've gone to instead of harassing OP and then abandon his own child without checking to see if OP was even home. Something bad could've happened to OP's niece if OP wasn't home and it would've been OP's brother's fault for not doing his do diligence to make sure that his daughter was gonna be safe while he was gone doing goodness knows what. The only reason why OP would be the A.H. is because he didn't call the police within 15 minutes like he had warned his brother through text that he would if his brother didn't come back in 15 minutes. In fact OP should've still called the police regardless and *(if possible)* requested that the police do a Wellness Check on his brother since what his brother has done is *NOT* normal behavior and that he's concerned that his niece may not be living in a safe environment. That's literally it. Also the way OP's brother handled the situation made it worse in my opinion because I wouldn't be surprised if he was the golden child in the family solely based on how he behaves. OP is not at fault for any of what has happened because outside of not getting the police involved OP shouldn't even have to do what he did in the retelling of the event in his Reddit Post if his brother had just listened in the first place. Edit #1: I forgot to mention that OP had explained he has no experience in childcare and feel that he shouldn't babysit as a result because no sane person would leave their children with someone that has no experience in childcare, as far as I *(and many others)* could tell that's should be a good enough reason to leave OP alone about babysitting in general. Also if OP's Brother was tight on money then why is he even going out in the first place??? I swear if you do not have the money to pay a babysitter then you shouldn't have enough money to go out and eat with a woman *(who may or may not cheat on you if y'all dated)* in a restaurant. Edit #2: Found out not too long ago that r/Slash decided to be a coward and cut his commentary on the babysitting story because of how almost everyone that made a comment about what he had said pretty much blasted him for being a hypocrite and just plain wrong. Hey r/Slash if you're reading this far, do us a favor and just start making separate videos where you correct your mistakes like the ones in this video! Stop getting rid of the commentary like it would fix anything!
Babysitting story: brother wants to get his sausage wet so he drops his child on a door and runs off (I hope he knew op was home). Its not about taking a day off, its about passionate hugging, because otherwise the date money would go to a proper sitter and then he would just go to take some air.
That's what I'm thinking. If he can afford a date night, he can afford a babysitter. And for those who suggest that maybe he didn't trust a stranger, he certainly didn't have a problem leaving his child on his brother's doorstep without knowing if he was truly there or not. You know, because a stranger could have easily snatched her up.
Story #3, that dad is a horrible dad. His brother tells him no and he still drops off the kid. I'd hate to date a guy who doesn't take no for an answer. OP is so not the AH. Brother gets 5/5 for child abandonment.
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Listen, the mac n cheese lady is allowed to eat whatever she wants, but it doesn't mean she can force others to like it. Food is literally up to individual TASTE.
Also, to be fair, dumping leftovers together is often how recipes were created.
@@madeline6951 I had some breakfast sausages left overs one day that I was making a lasagna, so I put some in it... now I just can't make a lasagna without it, it NEEDS breakfast sausages in it.
People are different, and one mans dish of a life time, is another mans sewer trash.
...IMO The problem in that story has nothing to do with the dish itself, its the whole bit about OP not liking it, and being treated poorly just for that
You dont CHOSE what you like, whether thats food, hobbies, or hell even sexual interests, you dont get to chose what you like, the only control you have, is whether you follow what you like, or not.
Had a pregnant woman who was the wife of a former friend (that's another story) that would not eat a dish I made at thanksgiving because it was heavy on the garlic. I didn't get butt hurt about it she had plenty of other options to choose from. I liked the dish and so did everyone else. But to her the smell just made her stomach do loopy loops so she politely passed on it. A year later after she'd had the kid the sense memory of how it made her feel still made her a little queezy and she tried to beg my forgiveness. I told her not to worry I understood. I got Food poisoning from a run down ghetto McD's as a kid and to this day I can't smell a Big Mac without a slight gag. The sense of smell is a POWERFUL trigger to the body.
Thing is, some of those things work paired together. Kimchi and pineapple is actually pretty good together and I can see how a Japanese inspired Mac with nori seaweed, black sesame seed and garlic can work if you like those flavors like I do... but all those things together plus salmon, onion and whatever else was listed sounds like assault 🤢
Please stop cutting out takes when the comments don’t agree with you. Rslash, you are allowed to have different opinions! We listen to you for those opinions! Even if we disagree we still want to hear your opinion and reasoning. Please stop cutting them out after some people disagree with you because your ratings and reasoning are literally my favorite part. Often i listen to these after work and get so sad when i hear it go straight from one story to the next without your opinion/rating and i feel like its been happening more often recently.
Yes, 💯!
his cuts are just him influencing the algorithm, drives up comments
I agree with you so much, it's his channel and I think he should be allowed to keep stuff like that in!
Yea i often binge listen to all these on Saturday at work and always disappointed when it gets cut. Having different views of seeing things is a good thing. And if he misread the situation instead of cutting it, a pinned comment explaining it was a bad take is better. Cutting it makes it seem like hes hiding his mistakes which isnt good. Its ok to learn from mistakes not hide from them.
100% agree. We all have opinions and we aren’t all going to agree. So I look forward to hearing his opinion. I feel like he’s cut more and more lately
Rslash. You do realize that rather than most people saying to themselves they agree/disagree, removing a bad take forces them to go to the potentially toxic comments to find your take. It's healthier for everyone to leave it all in.
Rslash: Respect boundaries
Also Rslash: No, not you...
THIS
So dude just abandons his kid on his brother's doorstep in order to try to get laid, already knowing the brother doesn't want to babysit, and somehow the brother is at fault for informing the proper authorities of this abandonment? What world am I living in?
and not only that, the biggest reason other than op's "no" is that they don't know how to care for children! you can't just dump your child on someone who doesn't know how to care for them. even if its only a few hours, a lot can go wrong in mere minutes.
So Rslash decided that OP was the bad guy here? What did he say?
RSlash covered a similar story to this and gave OP in that story NTA
Story 1: how do you know if the whole family loves it if no one's allowed to tell her it's bad? And you shouldn't have to be forced to eat it because she can't take criticism, some people aren't going to like her Mac and cheese, and bast on the ingredients she wasted those years because that doesn't sound like the perfect mac and cheese.
Exactly what I was thinking. Nobody likes that s***
We know the husband legitimately likes it.
I just see this as a cultural dish that doesn't have an appeal to everyone.
Op shouldn't be forced to eat it and people who enjoy it should still be able to eat it.
@@Tues48 lol. Disagree. The husband isn't somehow immune to lying. Also.....that's a crap excuse for "cultural differences". Screw that. This family is either great at lying (why not, they love their mom and don't want to hurt her feelings) or they have strange AF tastes. There's also recipes my mom made when I was a kid that everyone else I've ever met thought sounded horrible but everyone in our family LOVES. They're just a bunch of freaks. Has nothing to do with culture.
I think the perfect Mac and cheese is the one with cheddar cheese.
@@Tues48 I do agree with the second part of what you said though. If you like it eat it and if you don't don't. I don't know why people harass other people about their personal food tastes. Nobody has the same taste buds! Eat what you like and leave other people alone LOL
Story 1: While I would just blame it on the baby, that MAC and Cheese is LITERALLY A CRIME TO MAKE PEOPLE EAT. Absolutely not. Just no.
You'd be right except for the point that some people, like OP's husband, like MIL's mac and cheese. So you're wrong.
@@peterhobson3262 if they like it by all means, but I specified “make people eat” because some things just pass a boundary of “well at least try it to be polite” by description alone.
It was so incredibly weird until she finally said they were Korean, then it all made sense. Adding fish, kimchi, seaweed and bitter greens and something sweet, yup that's just korean that she threw into the mac and cheese. I'm surprised there's no corn in there. haha but their taste palet is completely opposite most in the west.
At least the garlic or garlic juice from a press should work in M&C...
And there is the improbably rich five cheese mac & cheese. Likely not to Korean taste, as it's heavy on the butter.
But not m&c with all the other crapola in it. Besides, I don't remember him actually *saying* he liked it....
Rslash: "Remember everyone, boundaries are super important and so is respecting them"
Rslash in the babysitting story: "To be honest OP, you sound like a jerk because you won't let your brother trample your boundaries!"
It isn't boundaries, it is childish discomfort that needs to be challenged, especially because op's spouse is there. 2 different things. OP is selfish, rslash gave the correct scores.
@dudeorduuude5211 no it does not
He has no obligation to watch anyone's child ever
@@dudeorduuude5211I hope you get forced to babysit when you don't want to, just to feel like OP
@@dudeorduuude5211 So you're saying if OP doesn't want to babysit, he should just shut the f*** up and do it anyway? Oh yeah, that sounds 100% fair
@@dudeorduuude5211 I wonder if we can apply your logic to other situations like "Oh, you don't like my mac and cheese? Well shut the f*** up and eat it!!"
I’m guessing the reason why story 3 commentary is gone is because rslash looked his rose colored glasses as a father and destroyed op. Rslash is big on boundaries. This is op boundary. If someone doesn’t like kids, and refuses to watch your kid, why do people need to press the issue? I get the dad was desperate. Desperate enough to leave his child on the doorsteps without anyone knowing. Father of the year 🙄
Are you serious? Again? This is getting ridiculous! r/Slash should've just made an updated version of this video instead of hiding his commentary in this video like a coward because all it does is make the situation worse for him as a RUclipsr.
I can't go back to certain videos r/Slash made because of how his opinions as a father ruin those videos for me. I hate how in one video r/Slash would defend an OP for enforcing their boundaries only for r/Slash to be a hypocrite in videos like this one.
At best it's ignorant in the sense that
r/Slash should've done more than one take before posting and at worst it's dangerous in the sense that opinions like the ones in videos like this can encourage people to not take actual victims seriously. People are going to unsubscribe if this keeps up and I will not blame them one bit.
@@chippy2023i would actually love a video of him re visiting his opinions and if he still stands by them or another point of view has changed them or an updated changed the situation or anything of that sort. Because yeah we aren’t going to all agree on everything and our individual situations changes how we see the stories. I don’t think anyone wants to rally up and cancer rslash or anything but it would be more nuanced and productive to see the insight behind his bad takes rather than just making them disappear.
@@crizmeow8394
Yeah. It's just frustrating, ya know? There are videos that I do revisit sometimes, but for the most part it wasn't this bad until I started to notice more and more via reading the comments.
Honestly, I would have worlds more respect for someone who could say that they might have gained new insight or a different perspective from comments (whether he agreed with them or not or if he thought they were dead wrong) instead of trying to hide them like a little kid who hit a wild animal and then cried to mommy that it just bit him for no reason in the world whatsoever. The only person he's fooling is himself.
@@Brigand231
My thoughts exactly.
Man I hate when he deletes his bad takes. His commentary on them, whether good or bad are my favorite parts.
Story 3: abandoning your kid on someone's doorstep in hopes of forcing them to babysit is ALWAYS a bad choice. It doesn't matter what that person's relationship is to you or the child. No other context is needed. OP is not the asshole.
I think that in that situation op is not the AH, but I think he definitely is a AH in general
@@kristine9182 A little bit, yeah. Try some empathy, dude. But even so, the boundary was clear, and his brother still violated it.
Both are the A. Dad for leaving his daughter at his brother's without confirmation or contact first.
OP is the A for being a bad brother, he could have helped out in other ways than baby sitting, offer to pay half and half etc. Family help eachother out, and yeah he doesnt have to help, but by not, he's pushing his brother away.
im defending the 27 year old a bit. yes both brothers are AH, but don't forget OP's partner was willing to help watch his niece. Most of "I dropped off child stories" come from entitled parents abusing relationships and inconveniencing family doing anything. Boundaries were crossed and a reason to have said boundary made sense. but OP was being vague on purpose, It feels sus
Both are. OP for his callous refusal, his brother for dumping the kid.
Story 3: thats an automatic 5/5 for the brother, abandoned his child and playing the victim, and guilting op because hes a widower, nah man, being a widower doesn't give rights to abandon their kids and op being a bad uncle? Come on, when brother left her kid out in the open, op took her in for a bit, a true horrible brother would have just left her
Story 1: As a mac and cheese lover, I can confidently say that is a disgrace to mac and cheese!
I can’t even eat Mac and cheese anymore (bc reasons) and I can also say, it is a disgrace to mac and cheese everywhere
Yeah, I haven't even gotten to that part of the video yet and I'm still going to agree with you. The thumbnail basically said it all about what I'm about to listen in the story about the Mom's cursed mac & cheese.
I agree, and I eat mine with ketchup.
Agreed
I got nauseous reading the ingredients. Mac and cheese doesn’t need to be treated as and “everything but the kitchen sink” kind of recipe
Judging from the comments, RSlash made a bad take on the Babysitting Story and deleted it to cover his ass instead of taking the L like a mature adult.
He seems to do that alot. It's making me lose respect for him
3rd story: Hey Rslash, I am someone who can barely take care of themselves because of my depression and anxiety plus balancing work and workhunting, not to mention I am terrible at babysitting and I feel repulsed by children, would you entrust a child to me? No, right. Besides OP established boundaries about not being good at handling kids and aren't you, Rslash, someone who makes emphasis on boundaries? So, what was that about.
3rd story: just cause op cant support his brother in one way doesnt mean hes a bad brother. If youre not good with kids then its irresponsible to be left with a kid. There is more than 1 solution to the babysitting problem for the dad, so putting all the blame on op is awful.
As someone who does not like kids to the same extent, opinions like this are what feed my anxiety that my family will reject me for my life choices
Let's not forget bro abandoned his kid on ops porch and that this was over getting laid.
It's so easy to get a kid to go to bed and get laid afterwards. I'm overtly against the bro on this.
Your anxiety needs to be challenged. Same with OP's. You baby yourself and fear life. Watching a family member is not a big deal, especially because OP has a spouse. Let the brother have a boink, it has been 4 years ffs.
@dudeorduuude5211 well the brother could've just worn a condom and not had to deal with his obvious burden that is his child
Nobody owes a parent anything. If you think they do then get help
@dudeorduuude5211 its not the anxiety of having children around. Im not going to go out of my way to avoid them, because thats unreasonable. It's the fear that my family and people around me will reject me for having this specific boundary. The brother didn't care about ops boundary, and I fear most people don't either.
Exactly I suck with kids but that doesn't mean I'm a bad brother to my sister, sounds a bit like rslash is become a toxic redditor.
Hey @rslash, stop deleting your commentary with jump cuts. Own your opinions and stand by them or at least acknowledge you were wrong and don’t just sweep it under the rug.
Exactly!!!! I hate it when he does that!
Sometimes he won't it was a few weeks ago but he decided that his opinion on one story was wrong but he didn't cut it out I don't know if he forgot or he has his own rules when it comes to cutting out his takes
I don’t see how deleting his takes ISN’T an admission that he was wrong. Like why do you care so much? Go off on something that matters instead, like any of the reasons our world is terrible right now.
@@Tustin2121 Hey buddy, guess what? These things aren't mutually exclusive and people can focus on different things lol...
@@Tustin2121 it's pretending he didn't say what he said. He's acknowledging that he's getting bad commentary for what he said but he's not owning up to it or correcting himself. Besides, it's super obvious when a take was cut out so everyone who watches after that point is going to notice and go to the comments to piece together what that take was, which means they might even come to a worse conclusion than what rslash actually said. Rather than running from his mistakes, he should prove to people that he knows he's wrong and he will learn from it. It's not that hard to leave the footage in then write a comment apologising for/correcting the mistake
Story 3: the issue here is that the brother *didn't ask* before leaving his daughter with OP. He straight up just abandoned his kid on his sibling's doorstep. What if OP hadn't been home and no one else in the house was either? His kid would literally just have been standing there and anything could have happened.
Obviously, he knew OP would say no, and while I do think it's good to help others, especially people you care about, if someone says "No, I can't/won't do that", then the best thing to do is not try to force them to do it anyway. Sure, it sucks but you'd be well within your rights to decline to help them in turn. But trying to make them do it anyway is either just going to (1) make them resent you; (2) things could go very wrong in a great variety of ways, including involvement in the authorities in a case like this.
Also, what about the other sibling? If they're so enthusiastic about the brother having a date and time off, why don't *they* take the kid.
rslash I really wish you would keep your opinions in the video even if everyone says you're wrong. It's ok to be wrong and the best thing to do is to accept it and take it in stride
Ikr also its not wrong its an opinion. I wouldve probably agreed with him for the most part but i dont know because he deleted it.
@thisname3749 opinions can be wrong. like people have the opinion that black people are lesser. thats a wrong opinion. You're opinion isnt a neutral statement. it can be wrong or right
Seriously, I'd have tons more respect for someone who could say that they might have gained new insight or a different perspective from comments instead of trying to hide them like a little kid who hit a wild animal and then cried to mommy that it just bit him for no reason in the world whatsoever. The only person he's fooling is himself.
but maybe the comments changed his mind. if i changed my mind on the topic, i wouldnt want to keep my original opinion in the video either as it would no longer reflect how i feel.
@@ImpeccableRainnIn this medium it's still better to acknowledge it than to try to sweep it under the rug and pretend it never happened.
2nd story - can I just say how happy I am that these guys worked out their differences and are still friends? I also know a lot of people who will cut others out of their lives for no reason at all, and I’m so happy it didn’t happen to these dudes. Very rare that these stories have any lesson to learn other than “don’t be a butthole”
I was surprised at the lack of comments on this story. I agree. They'll handled it great and I think I can completely understand where each of them is coming from. Likely, the friend still has trauma and anxiety from growing up poor. He probably feels both anxiety at the thought and jealous at the decisions she's making. The truth is he could do the same and be ok, but I doubt he feels that way. And on OPs end, they decided that selling their soul wasn't worth it. They would rather scrape by and be happy then push themselves to be something they're not. I relate to both of them. But I decided I couldn't make it in Corporate world either.
For story 3: Have a dead wife doesn’t mean you get to start using people for free labor
Amen!!!
Didn't OP say that the wife died from complications of child birth? OP's niece is 4, that means she died four years earlier.
"No." is a complete sentence. The uncle that didn't want to babysit the 4 year old niece is not a "bad brother/uncle" because he has boundaries.
No, he is a bad brother because he doesn't help his brother.
@@johanhalvarsson2148 him not being a pushover that’s completely obedient to his brother doesn’t make him a bad brother. The brother is an horrible sibling for trying to destroy his brothers boundaries by force and an even worse father for leaving his kid outside a house completely unattended
@@cosmically4286 it was ONE time! If you can't babysit one time because you "don't feel like it" then you are a bad brother. We all babysit even though we don't feel like it. He seems to be an entitled brat from what I can tell and that's from when he was the one doing the talking, making himself look "good".
@@johanhalvarsson2148 seems like someone is resentful that they had to babysit in the past and didnt have a choice about it lol
@@johanhalvarsson2148 if you think it's fine to drop off a kid (and leave said kid alone to wander off close to a street) to someone who admits they won't do a good job at it because you don't value their boundaries and opinions all just so you can get laid I hope you neither have siblings or children
Story 4: This is a bad situation. Like, their response to the donation is to joke that OP sleeps with her boss? That's a serious low blow right there.
Honestly, OP is better off without the family, just leave them. If OP ends up breaking from the pressure and revealing the source of the money, I think the family is going to start hounding the BIL, and OP will REALLY need to run
And at this point they will likely think OP is seeing the ex BIL
That or imply they were cheating, the sister will latch onto that and here you have the "victim" being vindicated in her cries of entitledment, demands that the divorce settlement be revisited and try to use it as a means of why the marriage ended. OP's just better off telling them "How I got this is none of your business. If you can't respect the fact that I'm uncomfortable with your insinuations means you need to be out of my life. Be it for now or forever is your pick on choosing to drop this now and accept it or continue on and loose my family forever."
@@lorilancaster5917 a now ex family member doesnt just give away thousands of dollars to their ex's sister.
The third story is so outrageous it's baffling you gave such biased low rating. The brother is scum of the Earth for putting his brush wet before caring for his child.
Where is R slashes response? What did he say about it as it seems it was deleted
What did he say?
My man tripping
@@blackbirds318he's done that lately and when he has a response that no one likes. This is the third one I remember in the last month though I can't remember the other stories. But it seems to me those other two were also in a video that was in the 14-minute range so keep an eye out for that.
But Dabney didn't say anything about it, it just cut into the next story...
Story 1: the SECOND the mom questioned OP for turning down the Mac n cheese, it became NTA. I thought OP was just going to blurt out that she hated it, but the mom basically forced her to put her foot down!
You know how they say a dish was “made with love”?
That Mac and cheese was made with the burning hatred of a thousand suns.
Along with nausea I got heartburn reading the ingredients. Can’t imagine the taste. Don’t want to 🤢
@@lorilancaster5917yeah, I’ve got multiple questions involving the pineapple ( I’m aware it’s probably a cultural thing) but pineapple and Mac and cheese shouldn’t mix.
@@jeanbean7183I love them separately, but the thought of them combined sounds repulsive to me.
The family being forced to eat that thing be like: --"God bless us everyone we're broken people living under loaded gun"
My old babysitter used to make us mac and cheese. She would boil the noodles and then add all the ingredients before she strained the water out of it. It was so bland. One time I offered to make it and she got so mad telling me that she knows how to read directions. 😂
I knew someone who didn’t know you could make the cheese sauce with milk🤢
Bruh I understand being out of milk, but NEVER using it????
DISGUSTANG
OP1: We're missing a major point here. MIL offered the M&C. OP politely declined. Then... MIL pushed. OP wasn't insulting, she just said she didn't care for it. Then MIL had an ego tantrum. Eff her.
If she's immediately that upset by someone not liking her "Mac and cheese" I think she knows it's bad
Nah it's honestly probably somewhat a matter of culture and, moreso, a matter of personal taste. Some people like a bunch of different flavors in their food. Some people like food to taste like the item of food they're eating as they're used to having it taste. From the sound of it, OP is just the latter.
Some cultures have certain foods more common in their diet than others, and therefore having those more common foods be used in other foods is like certain places in North America deep frying things that other places consider it ridiculous to deep fry. Once something is more of a staple in your diet, you can more easily accept it being added in places you're not used to seeing it, while still seeing is as trying a new, more exotic dish.
I always get excited to check the comments when a response is cut.🤣
I can't believe you sided with the dad on that story. We read so many stories of crazy moms dumping their kids on people. Why all of a sudden was this guy allowed to dump his kids to go out and have fun when we have given a butthole score to so many others for the same thing?🤣
Stop being a hypocrite, boundaries and boundaries. If they are not comfortable watching a kid then that is the boundary they set.
Yep. Story 3 he was acting like OP (who is a guy) was out of line for having boundaries, but OP in story 4 (who is a girl) needs to set her own and be firm. Dude is a hypocrite, a white knight, and for deleting his take on story 3, a coward.
@@kiracarosowhat was his take for story three?
@@comet9864 He said that OP was at fault, a bad brother and uncle, and that he would not want to have him as a brother and gave him a 2/5 AH score.
RSlash has covered many stories where a parent dumped their child on someone who doesn’t want to babysit. How is this one even different?
@@justasentientmclarenp1879 Because he has taken more and more of the stance of "family matters more than anything", taken to a toxic degree over the years since becoming a father.
Story 4: OP's family is consistantly insinuating that she's a whore. Even jokingly, that's pretty messed up. The fact that OP is accepting help from exBIL while trying to preserve her sister's feelings is admirable, but her family really sucks
Mm, yeah. Everything clicked into place when OP said her husband's family is Korean. It might seem odd, but all those flavours mixed together are VERY Korean. I would even say quintessentially Korean. OP certainly wasn't rude for refusing the dish. She made her preference known in a very polite way. I think OP's mom is a little rude for the way that she reacted, but you know. I hope everything can cool down, and OP's MiL can come to understand that what is good to her Korean family's palate simply doesn't agree with her western DiL's palate and that that is okay.
Leaving your child on a doorstep is one of the ultimate entitled parent moves. When OP refused they may have gone out and left the house for whatever they already had planned potentially, and you have a child just left out in the world with no protection. It's dangerous and insane.
For the babysitting story, I would've said no too. I'm not good with kids either. Op's brother on the other hand, was being a negligent father. What if Op wasn't hone? The kid would've been alone for hrs, vulnerable for kidnapping. Op deserves 0/5 buttholes and the brother 4.5/5 buttholes.
💯👍 agreed
Story 1: Anyone remember that facebook mac n’ cheese war between two sisters? Winner gets to cook their recipe at thanksgiving. Basically both of their dishes were noodles drowning in hot milk and burnt cheese.
Basically a guy in the comments said “Y’all should be in prison.”
Eat what you want, but it’s not cool to force others to partake. I guess I would’ve said “Sorry, the pregnancy is messing with my sense of taste and smell” … buuut that would probably subject OP to more casserole after the baby pops out.
No, tell me
OP1 still had an out after, say the pregnancy warped her sense of taste after all of it and she still can't stand the family mac
OP3: Family or no family, dropping a child off without consent deserves the threat of law enforcement. Also, no Rslash, being a good brother does NOT include being guilted into doing something you don't want to. Brother's behavior after his inexcusable action proves he deserves no such consideration.
I am pretty sure everyone agrees, where op is an ahole though is because his own brother lost his wife and the mother of his child and the story comes across as though he doesn't have a single sympathetic bone in his body for this brother's situation. For the incident in question, Op has no blame whatsoever. That said, as a family member over all, not wanting to spend any time getting to know his niece, not helping his brother at all when he's clearly struggling, it paints him in a really bad light. If any of my siblings were in this kind of situation, you'd better believe I'd find a way to help them out if and how ever I could. To not want to help out makes him a bad brother. I'm not saying at all that he has to watch the niece, just that you can't be a good sibling if you're not willing to do a single thing to help your sibling in question out.
What was the take? rSlash removed it from the video and I was too late to hear it.
Funnily enough, when the exact same story happened with a female OP. She wasn’t the A-hole
RSlash is a simp, confirmed
@@shadeaubetoile9799 Oh yeah, I remember that story, wasn't the person that left the child a stranger/neighbor/someone similar or was it still family?
@@paranoiarpincess Why is he expected to show sympathy to a selfish father?
“Hadn’t had sex since my wife died” isn’t the point, the point is that he didn’t have to get OP involved and did it anyway because he feels like his tragedy makes him specially entitled to whatever he wants
Plus, why are we assuming OP isn’t helping in other ways? The brother could easily be and probably is one of those people who try to guilt trip you by acting like you don’t love them at all because you wouldn’t do one thing for them
This really feels like grasping at straws in an attempt to salvage RSlash’s take when no, he wasn’t “wrong in some areas but had a point here”. He was literally just wrong
As someone that threw up by smell alone while pregnant, I can totally understand the first OP. Heck, the smell of Chex Mix Bold was enough to induce vomiting from me which is my mom's favorite kind. She'd roll the windows down in her car any time she wanted to enjoy them while on the road with me, it was that bad.
I honestly expected more from OP's MIL as someone who also experienced pregnancy.
I have sensory issues, and I don't doubt looking at the latest dish let alone smelling it would have made me sick. The smell of normal cherrios sometimes sends me gagging lol And I love alot of Asian and Korean cuisine. But Mac and cheese isn't Asian cuisine lmao
The other day my mom and sister had kimchi; and the smell was SO strong. I had to step back a few feet to talk to my mom because I was overwhelmed. Imagine what a pregnant lady felt after smelling that concoction.
Story 3: Idk how you missed the mark so hard with this one rSlash, you've covered this exact same scenario multiple times and (correctly) stated its child abandonment and a shitty parental thing to do, what makes this one different? OP said that they aren't experienced with childcare, so going from no experience to an OVERNIGHT STAY is ENORMOUS, especially with zero warning, zero supplies, zero list of things kid likes to eat/doesnt eat and the routine, etc. Like, what because the brothers a widower and wants to get laid it makes it better?
Story 3: You hard missed the mark. The thing about being a parent is making sacrifices for your children. OP said he doesn't really know how to care for children which is valid. It isn't OP's problem that his brother can't afford a babysitter. If his brother can't afford a babysitter he can't afford dates either in reality, plus, abandoning your child basically on a doorstep on the hope you force your brother to care for her? Lol... no. Op's brother is the bad brother here and a terrible father on top of it. Abandoning your child basically just to get laid, widow or not, is a terrible excuse and reason.
If he really wanted to do this, he should have waited years until his daughter was old enough to take care of herself
Did he seriously delete his commentary on that? Ugh
@@damitafrost4228 so i wasnt the only one to catch that there was a jump cut there
@@damitafrost4228it's his favorite new thing to do. Finds out his views don't match the comments and removes his comments on that video to staunch the bleeding of bad comments calling him out.
@@damitafrost4228I have only ever seen him delete his commentary when he realizes he's in the wrong. I think there's only been one other time. Otherwise he leaves it. Usually he comes back in another video and explains that he realizes he was wrong. So hopefully that's the situation.
RSlash: “Okay, we have an update!”
Ad Break a Moment Later: “Running a business takes grit and determination!”
Story 3: op is not wrong in any facet because even as a brother I wouldn't expect my brother to watch his niece just because I need him to, if I want a night off I have to save for the babysitter or find an alternative.
Exactly.
I wonder if the lady he was going on a date with knows he has a kid. Also, alternatively, he could have asked if they could do dinner at his house and he cooks or buys out fancy. This way, he's saving on a babysitter that he doesn't have the money for. But if you don't have the money for a babysitter, how do you have money for a date? That math ain't mathing.
Story 3. Your siblings are not your babysitting service. You CAN'T just dump your kid on someone and drive away. That's a crime (child abandonment). That mac and cheese sounds gross. I wouldn't eat it either. No one can demand you eat their food, especially if it makes you sick. I've had people tell me 'You're just being picky" when they give me food that I'm mildly allergic (or I have a really bad reaction to it) and they demand to eat it. My father and mother did this and so did my ex-stepmother. Never mind that it makes me puke. Sheep meat makes me sick. I wouldn't eat, so it would be put in front of me for days. I told my dad it made me sick. He told me to just eat the potatoes and carrots. Umm, it's cooked with the meat and covered with lamb gravy, no, I can't eat it. "You're just being picky!" No, I don't like puking.
damn, rslash really had a story at the end where he insisted on respecting boundries right after calling the uncle a bad uncle for standing firm on his
Story 1: When my brother and I were kids, my dad made us macaroni and mustard. It was a lot of mustard. My brother and I called it the worst Mac and Cheese on earth and will throw it in my dad's face, despite him saying it's gourmet. After listening to this story, I apologized to my dad for that
Macaroni and... _mustard?_ Dear god...
@@RavenholmZombie yeah, I know 🙄 I hate mustard. No, I am not the OP RSlash keeps referring to in r/bestof everytime a picky spouse/partner comes up.
@@RavenholmZombie my aunt made mac and cheese with ... ugh.. Kraft Singles laid on top and microwaved (the mac was cooked normally)... It was disgusting. I took one bite and barely managed to swallow it. I tossed the rest of it out after that single bite... ugh, it still makes my stomach churn thinking about it.
I put powdered mustard in my macaroni, but it's only a few sprinkles. You can barely taste it. Okay, so I also grate cauliflower and put that into the macaroni, and often onions, but the thing is, the onion adds flavour and you can't taste the cauliflower at all, so it's just a way to eat extra vegetables (cauliflower cheese is a thing).
A small amount of mustard can bring out cheese flavour in stuff like cheese sauce and cheese muffins but it's only a small amount. To the point you have no taste of mustard
it feels like now theres one bad take for each episode.
story 3, dude, how is op the AH when he's terrible with kids and probably isn't ready to take on the responsibility? its irresponsible to mindlessly hand off a child to someone who you know isn't good with kids.
his brother ABANDONED his daughter on his doorstep so he could get laid. but yeah, sure, op is the selfish one. jesus christ man. you need another break, cuz the first one clearly didn't work.
The babysitting story is Another one Rslash is gonna have to redact. Bad call dude, its not the brothers responsibility to assist when he's made it clear he doesn't want to. You said it yourself, the absense of nice is not being mean, its just not being nice.
Likewise the absense of generosity not selfishness, he's just not being generous
And it’s not like the brother needs OP to babysit because of his job or an emergency. He wants to get laid. Which if he can’t afford a sitter then he cannot afford to get laid. Also OP has the right to have boundaries.
Agreed. My sister had 2 kids and always tried to pawn them off on me to babysit and I hated it... I didn't get paid and was a teen so had my own shit to do. Yes I babysat once and awhile but you having kids doesn't mean I have to watch them. How does rslash know the brother hasn't babysat a lot before and simply didn't want to this time? His choice to have kids and if he can't find a babysitter then guess he doesn't go out that night eh... Us childfree people do enjoy our own time and shouldn't be frowned upon when we don't want to babysit especially for free !!!
I was hoping someone would say something. Like it's not like the brother kept the child outside he let her inside. If his brother gave him a heads up and said no last minute then yeah I would understand, but if he just dumped her there without telling OP then the brother is an arse for wanting to get his rocks off and abandoning his child.
I interpreted what Rslash said more as “while it isn’t your responsibility, if you can’t help your brother once you’re a bad brother” though that may be my coloring of the statement. Eitherway, I feel his opinion is valid. My opinion is ESH and I honestly would give the OP a small AH score. Again my opinion given the situation
You need to listen properly. He gave the brother a high ah score. Yes, the brother is selfish. And frankly, you and your generation are bad citizens and family members. Very entitled. The brother is nervous around kids, that is no reason not to help his brother and niece for a few hours, especially because his spouse is there. Grow up.
Why is it when people find out you're child free they see "free child care" and not "I don't like kids and don't want that responsibility"
Gives me the ick that op's brother in the third story abandonned his 4yo daughter in front of a house that could've been empty for all he knew, because he "hadn't had sex since his wife died". Every comment i read seem to say the date was a one night stand, but no one stops to think that maybe the woman didn't expect it to go that route and thought it was a legitimate date...what a way to treat women, and what an example he sets for his daughter...
Story 3: I think you mightve been too harsh with Op. Granted, yes, it's not great the brother lost his wife, and OP may have overreacted and may not be the best because he's never babysitted her, but just dumping a kid off at your brother's place and vanishing is not appropriate.
What of OP had a dangerous house? What if OP is autistic and simply *can't handle children* when alone and knows he might lash out at them? A 4 year old can very easily get into things and hurt themselves. OP told his brother *in advance* that he doesn't have the experience to deal with kids and simply doesn't want to and it should've ended at that. His brother could've asked friends, other family, but instead he tried to force his brother into it. OP has no experience, what if something happened to the daughter and OP didn't know how to help her? If she was just dumped off that means OP has no toys, no clothes, no blankets, no bedding, no food she might eat either, nothing to give her baths, he doesn't know a bedtime routine, he has no contact with the brother if there's an emergency and I doubt other family members might know, not only that but how can OP know when his brother will come back? Is she staying overnight? Into the next day? He's not getting paid for it either, if OP had work is he expected to just ditch work? Ditch his own friends or date because his brother didn't prepare? Why is OP the bad brother for simply refusing to put himself in a situation that could end dangerously because he doesn't want to and doesn't have the experience to account for a child in his life?
Rslash, I think you forget some people just don't want kids in their life and they're entitled to have their *own home* be child free. Just as the brother is entitled to his date, OP is entitled to refuse and keep his home as his own and that doesn't make him a bad person. Just because you enjoy having your kids and other kids around doesn't mean others enjoy being around kids and their home is the only concrete space they won't encounter children.
Honestly as someone who is on the higher end of the autism spectrum and also hates little children, if my brother abandoned his kid on my doorstep i'd fucking call him to pick up his crotch goblin because there is no way I'm putting up with a screaming child for god knows how long.
Rslash is just so into kids and women and defending them even when it makes no sense. Having a kid himself skewed his perception...which sucks when your job is to give fair unbiased views for a living lol
It's funny how he does his answers and simply delete them whenever people don't like, he should accept the crowd's reaction instead of backtracking
I had the same thought RE autism. OP may not be comfortable sharing that kind of info, may not realize that's where this is coming from to think to mention it, or they may not even KNOW, since plenty of neurodivergent people don't get diagnosed or get diagnosed later in life (I was 31). It can be so hard to try to express why you can't do something that other people have no problem with when you only know that you can't.
@@KaylarsTheTerribleYou don't have to have autism to dislike children. I'm not neurodivergent at all and I've never wanted kids.
I’m on OP’s side in the babysitting post. He outright stated he’s not sure how to even care for a kid. If he doesn’t know how to care for a kid, what’s he supposed to do? And what if the kid needed some sort of medication or supply?
The brother is a jacka** of a tall order.
Right if OPs brother can't afford a babysitter, he can't afford to go on dates.
Plus he shouldn't be forced to babysit.
@careleo "let me just put my kid in a dangerous situation to go on a date and hopefully get my dong sucked"
Basically OPs brother
rslash reading so many gaslighting stories now hes also a gaslighter
Yeah I agree. Op said over and over that he doesn't know how to take care of kids. Out of every uncle I have, I wouldn't say they are bad uncles for not babysitting me in the past (only 2 out of the 5 have from what I've been told)
Story 3: Op is NOT a bad brother.
Dude, you can't just demand someone babysit for you so you can go fuck some random chick you found. In fact, it's even more irresponsible for the brother to keep pushing it after OP stated he has no idea how to take care of a child. WHY WOULD YOU EVEN LEAVE YOUR KID WITH SOMEONE WHO SAYS THEY CAN'T PROPERLY TAKE CARE OF THEM?
As a parent who has NO VILLAGE at all, a night out sounds like HEAVEN but I would never expect my family (if I had any) to do it for free and especially wouldn't demand them when they stated they were uncomfortable. Dad doesn't get a "pass" just because his wife died. Like he's trying to get LAID, not even an emergency or a job related thing. No, he wants to fuck someone.
If you can't afford proper childcare, you can't afford to fuck. In fact, he obviously gives zero fucks about his daughter's safety since he was a) willing to leave her with someone who didn't even know how to care for a child and b) literally left her on the doorstep so he could get some woohoo. Like nah. Op is NOT a bad brother but OP's brother is a fucking awful dad.
Sorry, but that's what happens when you are a parent. Your child comes first and foremost that often means leaving a personal life behind.
Honestly, unless RSlash is developping a brain tumor thats altering his personality, at this point I'm convinced he's deliberately throwing the AITA videos to drive engagement on these videos.
There's no way he'd come to that conclusion under normal circumstances. What I will say is that I'm at the point where I check the comments BEFORE watching his AITA posts to see if its worth it. 😂
I mean his posts arnt super long anyway so it would probably take you longer to read the comments then just listen to the thing. I also listen to Markee who also does AITA etc and his posts are usually 1.5 hours long...
@@seraphiccandy21 I typically check to see if he has a pinned comment about his bad take... normally within the first 2 comments I can tell if the video goes south so I don't risk the irritation.
I watch Markee and like that he gives a whole bunch of comments from other redditors before he gives his verdict. He typically goes with the general viewpoints but I've noticed that Rslash will deliberately go against the grain sometimes and make outlandish takes... which 8/10 times irritates his viewers.
He'll say "down in the comments, most people are saying X but I must say I disagree and go on to give a very odd take + "justification" based a lot of the time, in speculation. There are a few times where it works but most times... it's him eroding his own beliefs based on his past takes. Those posts annoy me the most because it feels manufactured.
'A Frankenstein of leftover dishes' made my day 😂😂😂!
I'm definitely gonna use that
Babysitter story: I'm honestly shocked and appalled at rSlash's response to this story. OP set completely reasonable boundaries, and even after the brother abandoned his own kid and tried manipulating OP to feel bad, he seriously thinks OP is in the wrong?
Not only is it completely within OP's right to refused unpaid labor, but it could potentially be DANGEROUS for him to have had said yes. OP said in the post that he didn't know how to take care of kids, so knowing that, saying yes could've ended up in the niece getting seriously hurt. I don't imagine OP's house is kid-proofed, nor should he need to kid-proof his house since he doesn't have any kids of his own. Four year olds are a lot of work, and I don't think OP could have reasonably cared for her at his own house with no experience.
Not only that, but the brother saying OP "failed as an uncle" despite completely failing as a parent himself is laughable. He abandoned his only child just so he could "have some fun".. is that not disgusting to you? He left his only child completely alone just so he could get laid. Imagine if OP wasn't there that day (because he said no to babysitting) and came back to his niece sitting on his porch crying her eyes out because her father abandoned her without a second thought. Imagine if she were KIDNAPPED because of his negligence!
And after all that, even after abandoning his own child in favor of a one-night-stand (presumably), he decided to gaslight and manipulate OP into thinking HE was the one at fault. He literally tried to say that OP didn't love his niece, typical manipulation tactic, when in reality the BROTHER is probably the one who doesn't even love his own child.
So, rSlash, do you seriously think a man who abandoned his own child to get laid deserves sympathy? Do you seriously think someone with zero experience who isn't getting paid should care for a 4-year-old child alone? Do you seriously think OP is in the wrong here?
I'm honestly disappointed at your response.
Rslash gave a mother a butthole score for a similar story and the relative nothing. Rslash is a hypocrite.
He deleted his commentary. what did he say, if you remember?
He called the OP a bad brother and uncle for not watching his niece and gave him 1/5 butthole score saying the op isn't a good person
I think he has some bias as a parent tbh
@@hoper1294 yikes. this isn’t even the first story like this we’ve had. rslash has been having some pretty bad takes recently
For story 3, I feel like OP's brother should be a 5/5 butthole. He literally abandoned his daughter on his brother's doorstep. That is a terrible parent right there. That girl could have gotten kidnapped. I honestly don't understand how OP is even a bad brother and uncle. He did nothing wrong. If someone doesn't want to babysit, even if their brother is a widow, it doesn't make them a bad person.
The brother is the bad brother and a bad father. He obviously doesn't even love his own kid because he cares more about getting laid over his own child's safety.
Far as we can tell OP has done nothing to help ease his Brother's burden during the four years he's been grieving.
It's been four years and he can't watch his niece for one night?
Absolutely. Can't imagine what the hell rslash is thinking
Parents don't get to be entitled assholes and just get away with it
@@GamerGrovyleso? It's still not his child
If he couldn't deal with it he should've put her up for adoption
Never mind the parent brother then taking the opportunity to accuse his brother of not loving his niece. That's just what he's saying to the brother, what's he saying to the 4 year old daughter? "Your uncle doesn't love you or care about you, sorry kiddo!"
Also it feels weird that there's literally no other choice but for the brother to babysit, like where's the mother/father? Or other family? Other friends? And if he's unlucky and doesn't have any of that in his life then suck it up until you can afford a babysitter.
Story 1: I'm not a fan of mac&cheese, but the mix of ingredients in the MIL's version made me feel absolutely sick. It really seems like she makes it to clean her fridge from all the leftovers. I truly admire OP for eating that garbage food for so many years. If it was me, I would flat out refuse to even try it. I don't even want to imagine how it smells... ugh
Story 3: As a person who was forced to watch over my little cousins when I was still in an elementary school while their parents were just sitting at the table with other adults during a party at my house, completely ignoring their offsprings from hell [and I had to watch them also so they wouldn't steal or destroy anything in the house], I'm 100% on OP's side. He refused to babysit, he said he's unable to provide care for such a little kid, but his brother only thought with what he had in his pants. Seriously?! That doesn't make him a bad brother/uncle. When will people with kids finally understand that there are also people who aren't good with kids so they shouldn't force them to deal with the little ones. My cousins' behavior and their parents entitlement traumatized me enough to not ever having kids of my own and not to ever again let anyone dump their children on me. And if the brother can't afford a babysitter then he should ask his other family member, in-laws, some friends who like kids, not OP who has been repeatedly saying that he doesn't want to babysit.
Story 4: OP, shut down your siblings' abusive comments. Either they stop spreading their stupid assumptions or they will not longer be in your life. It's their choice. What they say is extremely, extremely rude and it shouldn't go unpunished. Also, I wouldn't tell anyone who donated the money to the college fund and let them boil from curiosity.
I remember when I had to babysit my little cousin when I was only 8. Luckily he didn't like how I babysit her so he never asked again. But again come on, I was 8 and easily distracted, what did he expect?
RSlash already cut the judgment on story 3, but I think in the past he would have sided with OP, so I'm curious what changed his mind this time. Anyway, yeah, even if it's annoying that OP won't babysit, who the heck just drops their kid off like that?! That dad is definitely TA.
I guess Rslash realized he had a bad take for the babysitting story because it seems like he cut out his take on it. I think it's kinda funny that he'd get rid of his opinion because people didn't like it. Even if you have a bad take, its best to own it and not just pretend like it didn't happen which is essentially what he's doing.
I feel like Rslash's take on story 3 is kind of moot. The op said they don't know much about kids at all, he'd be expected to take care of this kid from anywhere from two hours to twelve depending how long his brother is gone on his 'date'. Especially when the brother is implying he very specifically wants to get laid on his date. And op wouldn't even be paid back for his time based on the fact the brother doesn't even have money for a baby sitter, so how would he even make it up to op for doing him this solid? Not to mention, the brother DELIBERATELY tried to force op into a situation he couldn't get out of, not thinking op would go to an extreme. He fucked around and found out. The brother put HIS CHILD in danger on the whim OP was home, let alone even realize there's a meek four year old outside. It's irresponsible. Rslash's take feels very, "BUT FAAAAMILYYYY", It doesn't matter if they were family. If op were just a really good friend, would he still be a shitty person for not wanting to watch someone else's kid after repeatedly saying they're not comfortable with that citing multiple reasons, one of which being they don't know how to take care of a kid?
Rslash always has shitty takes when it comes to kids after his own was born
It's amazing really because you'd expect the opposite lol
Nah, you are missing the point I think. It sound like OP never babysit the kid in his life. This was a one off ask, not a regular thing. He could have made him that favor. And he could have ask the father how to care for the kid for that one night. small kids sleep fairly early anyway. The guy lost his wife and it sound like he didn't had time to rebuild his life at all. 100% focusing on the kid and work and still doesn't have extra money.
So OP is kind of a AH to not have made a exception that one time as a gift for his brother. (well, assuming his brother his a decent person of course. If he isn't then sure... OP is in the clear).
But the brother is an even bigger asshole for trying to force it. You can't force people to take care of your responsibilities. And attempting to emotionally blackmail the person into doing it is simply despicable to me. So it's an Everyone sucks scenario to me but yeah, the brothers is more of an AH that OP for sure.
Don't get me wrong, OP doesn't owe him anything, he is not entitled to his help. But you can still be a bit of an AH when not doing it depending on the context.
Try to imagine yourself in the shoes of the brother for a second. you spend what... 4 years with basically no free time and no money and you ask that one favor to your brother and he flat out refuse to help you out for a few hours that one time. You would be disappointed as well. But of course, you have no right to try to force it.
I think three out of five buttholes is a low score for this particular butthole.
@@Ruchunteurop isn't the ah for not taking care of a kid that isn't his, especially when he explicitly said he doesn't know how to take care of kids, nor does he want to. Family or not, there's no obligation
@@futureblade6099 I think you are confuse about what is an AH. It have nothing to do about obligations. He for sure had no obligation but he did lack compassion and understanding. As far as we now it was a one time thing. He could have been nice. He didn't have too though, you right about that. Just like you don't have to be polite to people. Still though, if you are rude people are gonna think you are en AH.
It doesn't excuse in any way the brother reaction though. He should just have give OP the stink eye and left it at that.
I'm with OP on the babysitting. OP isn't a bad brother or person for not being comfortable having a child dumped on him.
Yeah, I think rSlash would have had a very different take before his daughter was born, he's letting his dad brain talk for him.
Did he remove his reaction? It just jumps to the 4th story.
@@An0nymous_L0gic Yeah he cuts it out if he gets shit on for it too much
@@LordBummingtonThe3rd and you revealed you don't have kids and don't know how to be part of a family.
@@dudeorduuude5211So just dumping your kid on a relative's porch is being a good family member...? Let alone a good parent? Yes, it takes a village to help with a kid, but they didn't ask to be born and typically no one else makes someone have kids, therefore it's ultimately up to the parents. Bottom line.
Okay I love kimchi in mac n cheese it's so good. But throwing everything bit the kitchen sink in there with it is a depressing war crime
The kimchi makes sense. The salmon even makes sense.
But... everything else? Absolutely not.
@@JHyde-tv3if100% agree. At this point its more of a casserole than Mac and cheese too
@@JHyde-tv3ifthat sounds like the start of a salmon casserole and I want to stay away from it
Hell, I'm going to be controversial and say that, depending on the cheese used with the mac, the pineapple could be a pretty good addition, even. But all in the same dish? I have an open mind, but it's not quite that open. Several things about that make it a horrendous mix.
@@YourWaywardDestiny No. No. You do not put pineapple in a mac&cheese. Get out
I assumed a bad take happened cause the commentary was gone for the 3rd story, good thing there’s a comment section. Damn.
Edit: Omg, I just heard RSlash’s commentary on the 4th story and the HYPOCRISY telling Op to set boundaries with the ‘jokes’ and probably said something infuriating about Op in the 3rd story about setting his boundaries.
Also stop removing your bad takes from the videos, you’ve already uploaded it; you made your bed now lay in it.
Story 3: I can see if the brother said that there was some kind of emergency situation like something happened to the house or he’s hurt or something like that and needs to go to the hospital, then OP would’ve been an AH since it was an emergency. But this is a date, which it isn’t an emergency.
What part about being related gives Story 3 OP obligation to care for a kid when he doesn't want to. He doesn't, sure hes not being overly generous or nice, but that doesn't make him a bad person.
Remember how people would say oh yeah don't drop kids off with strangers they could be a secret p3d0 or something. Ok, take the same energy and say. dont drop your kid off with someone who is clearly not interested because neglect could occur. You don't know OP's life. What if OP had plans, what if OP was a swinger? OP shouldn't have to suck it up because he's related.
RSlash, I get you have a family and you're happy and stuff, but... sometimes you forget not everyone thinks like you. Not everyone is family oriented. Your siblings are not obligated to be godparents or free babysitters solely because they are related to you. I feel you keep this happy family mindset a little too closely you judge too harshly with people who do not hold the same mindset.
Story 3 would OP be a "bad brother" if they moved to another City the Brother didn't live in? What if they refused to move to a City that the brother moved to? How are either of those different from refusing to babysit?
12:11 Whenever R/Slash has a horrendously bad take he just deletes his commentary. I feel like it's been happening a lot recently.
Maybe he should stick to subreddits where he doesn't have to give a judgment, because his has come across as hypocritical lately.
Story 3 - Be better, Rslash. Mister Rogers would be disappointed in you for thinking the OP is the AH. They specified their boundaries and said they didn't know how to take care of a child, and the brother LEFT HIS CHILD OUTSIDE SOMEONE'S HOME WHO SAID THEY DID NOT CONSENT TO BABYSITTING, WITHOUT MAKING SURE SHE GOT INSIDE SAFELY. I'm putting this in all caps to show how SERIOUSLY WRONG that is.
Would you do that with your daughter?
I certainly hope not!!
I get that you probably sympathize with the brother for multiple reasons, but sometimes your life changes drastically when you have a child. Sometimes your social and adult fun time life is severely impacted.
And, if the brother can pay for a date, he can pay for a babysitter.
Story 1; my dad was raised by a single mother, my grandmother that passed before I was born, and he told me stoies about how he and his siblings would have leftovers for dinner and school lunches sometimes for multiple days especially after the big holidays (Sicilian families don't go lightly on the food!). Somedays would be a mixture of different things, think thanksgiving turkey/leftovers as a sandwich or soup. But never in my life have I ever heard something like this being done! Especially to Mac & Cheese! What did they do to your MIL to do something like this?! 😭😭
Story 3: R/ your being really soft today. Just because it's the nice thing to do doesn't make him a hole, and I would rather someone just come out and say they don't want to do it because they don't know what they're doing, then come back to a disaster because they tried.
OP wouldn't been alone though, considering that his boyfriend was willing to help.
@@Ikajodoesn't matter a single bit
@@Ikajostrange that he didn't speak up until things settled down.
@@Sailor-Khione We don't know that. In a story like this, the narrator will always be unreliable. There is always more to a story than what's on the surface
rSlash boutta get ratio'd in the babysitting story for sure
Edit: rSlash boutta get ratio’d for removing his commentary on story 3
There's no way in hell Gordon Ramsay would approve of the MIL's "Mac and Cheese".
Do you know why it’s called mac and cheese? Because the ingredients are MACARONI and CHEESE. You can add like…2 things that make sense (broccoli, bacon, maybe garlic or something) and still call it mac n cheese. Whatever that lady made is an abomination, not mac n cheese. If you want to be polite you could call it “kitchen sink lasagna” because at that point it’s lasagna, and she threw everything in it but the sink.
You can't force somebody to care for a child if they're uncomfortable and unskilled with doing it. OP's brother is TAH for dumping his child on OP on the night he wanted to have passionate hugging. OP is NTA, even if he acts like a "bad brother and uncle". The niece isn't going to remember the whole thing unless OP's brother poisons her mind and makes OP sound unloving toward her.
I think the brother will do that
There is nothing wrong with not wanting to babysit. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to babysit. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to babysit. Get it straight, or slash! If someone doesn't want to babysit, it doesn't matter if the parent has just lost their wife. That is not a reason to force a child on to someone else to babysit. Especially since there's no mention in here about the brother being paid to babysit. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to babysit.
Ctfo sheesh!!
Is that what Rslash said? What does he by "just lost his wife"? OP said that the child's mom died from complications of child birth. This means that she died when his niece was a newborn baby and she's four now. Did Rslash just ignore the part where OP's brother just dropped off his four year old child and left without even making sure OP was home?
@@uselessinformation1988 no, our slash is basically giving both of them a butthole score. However the Opie does not deserve a butthole score just because he doesn't want to babysit the four year old.
@@uselessinformation1988 and in my post I should have phrased that better. I should have phrased it as it doesn't matter if the person's wife just died or died 10 years ago
In the babysitting story, NO! They set clear boundaries "I don't want to take care of them", and their brother just stepped over the boundaries because "I want to party". The only bad sibling in this story is the brother, just because someone close to them died, doesn't mean they can do anything they want.
It wasn’t just because “I want to party”. This man has been a single dad for 4 years and hasn’t been a single date for that time because he can’t afford a babysitter and he doesn’t have anyone to look after his child. He wanted to take care of himself a little bit and get back into the dating game. But he doesn’t have the opportunity because the one person he knows well enough to take in his daughter for a little bit, refused. Just absolutely refused, not even a smidge of compromise. Simply because “I don’t want to take care of them”. While that is his prerogative, it is a little selfish. He did set up boundaries but he could have been a little more considerate to his widowed brother
@professorp1 it isn't selfish. It's not the brothers responsibility to take care of the kid. Just because caring for the child and helping out his brother would be the nice thing to do, DOESN'T mean saying no is mean. Just because he isn't being nice, does not mean he's being mean.
@@amyschildgamerlive4519 you must've misread my comment. That's what I'm saying, they did nothing wrong. They didn't want to take care of them, but their brother just left them at their door
@@amyschildgamerlive4519
I think in most cases to determine whether something is selfish or not you have to look at whether the other person’s woes outweigh the ones you would have if you did such action. In this case the brother lost out on his first date in years, and OP would have lost like 4 hours of peace. So I would say that by not agreeing to babysit would make OP selfish since he wouldn’t lose much compared to his brother. Yes, even though it wasn’t OP’s responsibility. If it was OP’s responsibility and he said no, he would be negligent, like the brother was.
So yeah, OP was kind of selfish.
R/slash: You can't force anyone to eat something they don't like!
Also R/slash: If you don't suck it up and do what your brother says, you're the asshole!
Wow R/slash, a bit of an hypocrite there, aren't you? No one should bend and babysit for someone else's child with no prior warning especially when you don't have any prior knowledge about caring for children. Op isn't the asshole and the brother is selfish. You don't realize that a parent's decision to have a child is on their shoulders, not their family.
Also, little side note, if the brother has enough money for a date, he can pay for a babysitter, so it's definetly fishy that he is too short on money just for the babysitter and uses that argument to try and force Op's hand into agreeing, the brother is incredibly selfish and self-centered and Op is NOT the asshole for not going along with someone that tramples all over his bondaries and then tries to guilt trip him into submission by USING HIS OWN DAUGHTER AS A GODDAMN WEAPON.
This is a really bad take on your part, An easy comparison that could be made is this: If a family member can't take your house, they don't have a right to take your time ESPECIALLY when Op makes it clear that he says NO. YOU are showing entitled behavior here R/slash, please change your stance on this.
I'm going to assume that, due to the lack of input from Rslash on the babysitting story, that he had another very bad take on it and he went back and edited it out. Again.
As far as I'm concerned, it was generous of OP to give his brother a warning before calling the cops. He doesn't have enough for a babysitter, but he has enough to go out and impress a woman enough that she'll tame his dragon? No, he's just being cheap. We've seen stories like this hundreds of times, on this channel alone. If you give him one freeby, he'll never stop doing this. The fact that he dropped and ran on OP was a sign that he was a male Karen at heart. That's a CLASSIC Karen move!
according to another comment, yes. He called OP a bad brother and said he was selfish or something. yikes
@@0ctov1us Christ. Wtf is up with him lately? Does he need another break, or something? Maybe he should go on another break.
@stanjoannis3757 a jerk, a bad brother, a bad uncle, even a bad person 😂
Even though some said op got 0/5, rslash still blew up at OP and ended it with saying he didn't want op as a brother. From what I remember, he didn't even go that hard at the neglectful father for leaving his daughter unattended and then shaming his own brother and using the classic guilt trip that most entitled parents use when someone doesn't want to watch a kid.
@@Sailor-Khione For fuck's sake... What the hell is up with the absolute dog-water takes he's had lately?!
Minimum, he needs another break.
LMAO NO @Story 3
He outright said he's not comfortable babysitting because he doesn't know how to take care of a child and genuinely, he doesn't have to do that either. That doesn't make him a bad brother or person. I babysit my nieces all the time because I want to. If I said I didn't, absolutely nobody would crawl up my ass and call me a bad person because of it. Like wtf???
It's funny how he read a similar story about op not being comfortable with watching kids and rslash said that it would probably be best if someone with no child care experience doesn't watch someone else's kids. Or something like that.
@@Twinklethefox9022he's just pulling anything out of his hat these days...
Story 3: absolutely NTA. He drew a line in the sand. He laid out the rules, and the rules were crossed.
rSlash, you take the L calling him a bad brother since he was sticking to his boundaries and was willing to enforce consequences.
If it was the case his wife died, or was in the hospital, or he desperately needed a day to look for work, I'd get it.
The brother was just trying to get laid. That's not an excuse to abandon your child with someone without their permission.
No childcare = bad brother 😂. Makes perfect sense. That means anyone that has boundaries being child free automatically makes them a bad brother and uncle.
I mean, given the list of ingredients, it no longer even qualifies as mac and cheese anymore. That’d be like offering someone rice and handing them a bowl of jambalaya.
Story 3 What if OP hadn't been home? I really hope the a-hole brother at least made sure someone was home before abandoning his daughter.
Probably not, chasing two legged deer seemed way more important than his daughter
Story 3: mildly surpris rslash talked himself into giving a 1.5, but not so surprised at the badmouthing OP(theres always one Story per Episode for aggression these days).
But there have been other stories, a few very recently where OP has stated they don't want to take care of their niece/nephew as their sibling tried to pawn them off. Rslash applauded the OPs in those stories for setting boundaries that should be respected. Much like this story, where OP says they aren't experienced with kids and don't really want to do it.
Commentary-wise, rslash gets a 1.5 for being inconsistent and aggressive 😂
Those stories were very different. In those cases the OP was constantly made into a babysitter. In this case, the brother asked for _one_ night.
Also, you can be in the right and still be an asshole about it. OP has literally no empathy for his brother's circumstances. Even the boyfriend thinks OP is an asshole and was willing to help. Meaning OP wouldn't have been alone in wat hing the kid.
@@Ikajoplease don't ignore the fact he literally left his daughter at the door step of his brother's house without checking if he was there or not to go on a date. No family emergency, no job interview. Just a night of fun. That's very irresponsible of him.
Its also a big 180, Rslash usually doesn't get heated over enforcing boundaries.
Like he saved the rage at a guy not letting his boundaries get stomped over, so his brother can get laid
Not the guy who left his kid without checking he was home first....to get laid
I thought I was having a stroke with the "He's awful for just leaving his kid....but hes left the kid there now and you're home, so give him what he wants or you're a monster" WHAT?!
@@MiraTheWarlock if it was an emergency or necessity then Rslash may have a point. But getting laid is neither.
@@MiraTheWarlock yeah there's even stories where the parent just dropped their kid off and left and rslash raged at them. And he usually doesn't side with "I need passionate hugging" excuses
Rslash, as someone who actually did babysit for her sisters kids, it sucked. I loved my neice and nephews but waking up @12pm only to find my sister gone and the kids with no breakfest or clean diapers, sucked. I had to start my day taking care of them and end my day doing the same thing because she wouldn't come home until 3am. If Op accepted it this time, whats to say the brother wouldnt keep doing it and on top of that his brother didnt even offer to pay.
As someone who went through the same, UNPAID, I can say brother would have absolutely kept doing it. You give them a finger, they take the whole hand
@@JHyde-tv3if I got paid but she paid me in alcohol which lead to a really bad addiction for 6 months. I finally quit when I met my current husband. He was worried for me because I would drink 3-4 bottles of vodka and then have have other drinks on top of that, I was only 19/20. I'm glad I got out there because now she doesn't have any of her kids except the newest one and even then CPS is getting involved
@@mrsminininja2618 I am really glad you got yourself out of that and got help. I am proud of you. Some siblings are really entitled and shitty. Even if he offered 20 bucks, that's SOMETHING but I would never ever do it for free again and not for anything other than cash. I made that mistake too many times
Rslash for story 3 the brother was not mourning he was horny looking to passionately hug someone so he out of desperation dumped the child with op. As you have stated in the past where going to the hospital, doctors appointments, or other forms of emergency would be oki yet you have said that if it's not an emergency then it's on the parents of the child to look after the child.
And even if it was an emergency, you don’t dump your kid on the porch and drive off. You go in, apologize for the inconvenience and ASK whether your child can stay as a one-off extenuating circumstance.
12:20 Did I just catch an unpopular opinion from rSlash that he deleted?
Dabney: Oh did I have a bad take? Welp, better erase It from the video, no one can know I made a bad call
Story 3: not his circus, not his monkeys. Brother clearly showed his taking advantage of OP, so...
Story 3 babysitting: I’m not good with kids. However I do watch kids for a few hours at family gatherings because IMO the kids need a break from their parents. I think for me what exonerated OP from being a bad brother is the fact that the brother is the one who took the nuclear route. If he had been the 1 to knock and say “hey, I know you aren’t good with kids but I really need a break tonight and there is no one else” and had brought over everything he could to keep the niece happy then they could have talked. I would then think that OP would have been a bit selfish (not necessarily in the wrong) then. But since his brother didn’t do that, he fought fire with fire which is what I would do in that situation.
Story 2: it’s horrible to be friends with a socially resented person (don’t know if this translates well), but just as you can’t judge a person who grows up poor you shouldn’t judge a person who grows up middle class or rich. It’s not their fault. If they’re assholes it’s because they’re assholes, not because of their socioeconomic class. It’s like saying that bullying someone fat is bad, but bullying someone skinny is ok. People have to grow up and make peace with their past, more so if you’re in a better position now.
I literally had to end a “friendship” for something similar. I live in NY, grew up in DR. My parents were poor growing up, we were even poor when my brother and I were kids but they put themselves through college and worked hard and we climbed the economic ladder if you will. Here I made a friend, also from DR… everything went well until I told her what my parents did for a living. She would always give me crap for not wanting to spend unnecessary money because “your parents can pay for it”, even though she knew I came here by myself and was supporting myself at 17, thank you very much. And whenever someone tried to discuss any sociopolitical issue in DR she would dismiss me because “I was to privilege to know anything about that”. News flash, she was the equivalent of a rich girl in the countryside - while I was middle class in the capital- and she was super controlling and entitled to everyone around her… but she could only see other people’s “privilege”. 🙃
I think you mean resentful, but I get what you're saying
And you're right. I have many friends with so much more privilege than me. I don't feel resentful of them, because well, I love my friends, I don't want them to struggle like I am. I'd prefer they do well.
there is a truth that people who grew up wealthy have trouble understanding what being poor means, but it is also true that people have the ability to educate themselves and learn about other lifestyles. it is the assholes who refuse to educate themselves about how the world works and who aren't worth much besides their bank account.
@@MiraTheWarlock thanks for correcting me. Yeah, like why would you want others to struggle? Plus she moved here with her family, who paid rent, while I was all alone renting rooms in bad places trying to make my own way. That’s why I don’t agree with r/slash on this one. The friend was an AH. Ok he was having issues, that’s not an excuse to be an AH. But the good thing is that they made up.
@@abiean222 I agree 100% with you!
this definitely. as a 15 yr old whos family has always been p poor, its something you need to learn to look past. as a kid i was pretty jealous and resentful of people, but as you grow up, its like... thats life. you have to learn to move past that. ppl often see privilege as an exclusively bad thing, but as u said in a reply, why would you WANT people to struggle??
nowadays most of my friends are better off than me, and im HAPPY for them that they dont have to struggle and have people to rely on. learn to be happy for other people, bitter animosity over others good fortune is just gonna make you a jerk lol
I see in the comments that Rslash gave the non-babysitting uncle a butthole score. Apparently, Rslash got tired of being roasted, because there is absolutely no commentary after that story ends. I agree with the commenters who say that the dad of the 4 yr old is a bad father, and OP is the good guy. I, too, know nothing about sitting kids and I would be really pissed if a kid were dropped off on my doorstep, too.
Even though he got 0/5, rslash still went hard on op and then ended with rslash not wanting op as a brother.
@@Sailor-KhioneThank you for the info!
I disagree with Story 1's judgment. I think it's a NAH situation and I'll explain why:
- OP has been trying to keep the peace for years and has a right to eat what she thinks tastes good. And I'm a man, so I don't know about what food is good to eat while pregnant, but I doubt even normal man and cheese is and you definitely don't wanna eat something you don't enjoy. And what OP eats also goes to the baby, so she has the right to refuse something she dislikes and be honest about it
- OP's MIL: Why is she TA? Cuz she got upset with OP's opinion? Keep in mind, that she's assumed for TWO YEARS that OP, like everyone else who's eaten the Mac N Cheese, enjoys it too. And she's spent years "perfecting" it, meaning she's gone through different recipes. So, from her point of view, she's been making this dish for who knows how long, and her daughter in law who's been eating it for two years, tells her it's bad. After she's been cooking it for OP for two years, under the belief that OP enjoyed it, only to find out she was only pretending. I'd be mad too in that scenario. And it's not like she continued to push OP to eat it, she just got mad and ignored her. Is that so unreasonable given her POV?
While I personally wouldn't eat that dish, I can understand both points of view and think both deserve 0/5 AHs
If you gave that brother one night watch his daughter, he will always dump her on you. Set your boundaries and enforce them.
Babysitting: Are you serious r/Slash? OP's niece is *NOT* OP's responsibility! Like you said before what OP's brother did was toxic and dangerous, why are you blaming OP as well???
If OP doesn't want to help his brother then he has the right to not help his brother! Let's not forget that there could be other family members that OP's brother could've gone to instead of harassing OP and then abandon his own child without checking to see if OP was even home. Something bad could've happened to OP's niece if OP wasn't home and it would've been OP's brother's fault for not doing his do diligence to make sure that his daughter was gonna be safe while he was gone doing goodness knows what.
The only reason why OP would be the A.H. is because he didn't call the police within 15 minutes like he had warned his brother through text that he would if his brother didn't come back in 15 minutes. In fact OP should've still called the police regardless and *(if possible)* requested that the police do a Wellness Check on his brother since what his brother has done is *NOT* normal behavior and that he's concerned that his niece may not be living in a safe environment. That's literally it.
Also the way OP's brother handled the situation made it worse in my opinion because I wouldn't be surprised if he was the golden child in the family solely based on how he behaves. OP is not at fault for any of what has happened because outside of not getting the police involved OP shouldn't even have to do what he did in the retelling of the event in his Reddit Post if his brother had just listened in the first place.
Edit #1: I forgot to mention that OP had explained he has no experience in childcare and feel that he shouldn't babysit as a result because no sane person would leave their children with someone that has no experience in childcare, as far as I *(and many others)* could tell that's should be a good enough reason to leave OP alone about babysitting in general. Also if OP's Brother was tight on money then why is he even going out in the first place??? I swear if you do not have the money to pay a babysitter then you shouldn't have enough money to go out and eat with a woman *(who may or may not cheat on you if y'all dated)* in a restaurant.
Edit #2: Found out not too long ago that
r/Slash decided to be a coward and cut his commentary on the babysitting story because of how almost everyone that made a comment about what he had said pretty much blasted him for being a hypocrite and just plain wrong. Hey r/Slash if you're reading this far, do us a favor and just start making separate videos where you correct your mistakes like the ones in this video! Stop getting rid of the commentary like it would fix anything!
What kind of family did OP marry in? A family where everyone has a genetic disorder of having no taste buds
Mentioned Korean. And I suggest you look up Korean Army Stew.
Babysitting story: brother wants to get his sausage wet so he drops his child on a door and runs off (I hope he knew op was home). Its not about taking a day off, its about passionate hugging, because otherwise the date money would go to a proper sitter and then he would just go to take some air.
That's what I'm thinking. If he can afford a date night, he can afford a babysitter. And for those who suggest that maybe he didn't trust a stranger, he certainly didn't have a problem leaving his child on his brother's doorstep without knowing if he was truly there or not. You know, because a stranger could have easily snatched her up.
Story #3, that dad is a horrible dad. His brother tells him no and he still drops off the kid. I'd hate to date a guy who doesn't take no for an answer. OP is so not the AH. Brother gets 5/5 for child abandonment.
Story 1: My jaw literally dropped at those ingredients. WHAT IN THE ACTUAL FUCK?!