The Power of Modest Clothing
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Every now and then something will occur that will incite a debate about modesty in clothing in our culture and this is important because most of us can agree that modesty is a good thing and the reason we know it’s a good thing is because we hate it when people act immodestly around us based on whatever standard we uphold.
We don’t like it when others act arrogantly in proximity to ourselves. Nobody likes it when someone else boasts or brags excessively or flagrantly attempts to capture any and all attention for themselves leaving nothing for the rest of us.
Like for example, nobody likes the person with the one-up story. You know who I mean by this? Like when you’re in a group and you tell a story that you think people will find interesting and then they jump in right after yours with an, “Oh ya, well one time I did something even better.”
So I hope we can all admit that modesty in its various forms is something we can all appreciate as a good that helps us all get along as a society. But what about modesty in how we present ourselves physically and especially in the way we dress?
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Modesty, not just in dress, but in speech & behavior & attitude is a very good thing. The world could do with more temperance. We are too quick to act, react, brag, complain.
RubyLovesRocket
Definitely character is above all
dressing modest
Is a cherry on cake 🌺
@Channy Whocares I was referring more to what we say, not how much we say. But in a way, yes. If we were more thoughtful and careful with what we say, where we say it, how often, etc, that is a form of modest behavior. It's all about considering God above others, others above self, and thinking of self last.
That's how Islam describes modesty aswell
modesty actually has nothing to do with the clothing but with the rest of the things you've mentioned.
It's about our presentation whether in form of our language, actions, behaviour and of course dressing.
Modesty is not about being ashamed of our body. Its about revealing your dignity and not showcasing your body for every random person to have a free view. It's personal and private part and must me private
My modest boyfriend likes to put Hershey’s kisses up my bum and pretend he’s eating my poo while I push it back out.
Biblical modesty is a lot about not showing off wealth, too. That’s important. And applicable to all genders.
@Irina Popa I think he means both, LOL.
Primus Pilus 14 no they mean all of them
Irina Popa there are infinite genders but 3 biological sexes
@@kennedyturner2067 There are only 2 sexes for humans. The moment you have an Y chromosome you are an Y (male). It doesnt matter whether you are an XY, XXY or XXXY.
BlackSpades there is intersex but i understand how you feel
I'm Muslim and I LOVE dressing modestly. It makes me feel powerful knowing that my beauty is consealed from evil eyes and pervs who don't deserve to see whats I hold most intimate. Along with modesty also comes with being modest on the inside. How you speak or treat others, how you handle situations etc.
Your husband is a lucky man. In the West, many women have been corrupted by feminism which turned them into the kind of woman you don’t want to have children with. In this respect, moderate Islamic societies are healthier than our own, right now.
I completely agree! I’m Christian, and I love dressing modestly. It also makes me far more confident! I love the fact that I won’t be getting any looks for the wrong reasons.
Yes! It’s so unpopular and it’s (modesty) so pleasing to Father God; “An excellent wife, who can find for her worth is far above jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her and he shall have no lack of gain. She does him good and not evil all the days of her life. ………for charm is deceitful and beauty is vain but a woman who fears the Lord, let her works praise her in the gates.”
Proverbs 31. Be blessed in your modesty’s! You and yours are in my Eternal prayer basket. Courage!
@@kiara2583
Are you of the view that the government should make it mandatory for women to dress modestly?
@@technoloverish Just as the government has no business restricting our access to firearms, they have no business restricting our clothing choices. And just as the freedom to own firearms comes with responsibilities (leaning how to safely and responsibly handle said firearms), the freedom to dress how we choose should involve a desire to appear decent and modest in public.
I dislike the fact that people nowadays dislike Muslim women's modesty and personal choice and automatically assume it is oppression rather than a personal choice and taking pride in the religion.
It's weird because I know personally women and men who dress modestly but inside they have no modesty and the way they dress makes people automatically assume that they are good God fearing people. Modesty is not just what you wear on the outside it starts within your heart the heart that God sees because you could be covered from head to toe and not be a good person. I agree with dressing modestly but I would never judge a person on what they are wearing because clothes do not make the man.
Other contradictions...the one that says they are god fearing, but the beat you. The pit bull attacks a baby, then everyone jumps up and defend the pit bull because its the baby's fault. You make about as much sence.
@@dogie1070 your analogy is what makes no sense.
Great point.
I’ve read that we must adopt habits and then the mentality will join.
For example...you want to be happy. You practice smiling, soon you find others smiling back and you find happiness.
@Eva maria ...rules of modesty is found in Orthodox Judaism= Torah.
That’s so true - ‘strangers don’t love you.’ Why give them things for free? I love keeping God in my thoughts when I dress. It’s not as restrictive as people think!
I love your name! It fits so well with thus video😁. If we keep God in our thoughts at all times, there is never anything to fear. And it's true! We can still look dang good while dressing modestly😎
@@shelbypontious7616 thank you so much 😊and absolutely! I think it’s more our insecurity or fear of what ppl will think that holds as back from dressing our best.
Modesty does not mean boring, frumpy, ugly and old-fashioned clothing. One can dress modestly, but classy and timeless without being revealing. Unfortunately, much of our culture has not only become slutty but sloppy in the name of being casual.
Agreed
Exactlyyy
What's wrong with old fashioned clothing?
I believe modesty should be more normalised in our current society. i’ve heard people shame other women for dressing in long skirts or covering up which really sucks. HOWEVER, I think it’s hypocritical to then force modest clothing upon others and shame them for how they dress. A persons outfit shouldn’t be used to make shallow assumptions about them.
It bugs me though that it seems like 99% of the obligation to be modest is about covering women's bodies. I don't hear nearly as much about men's obligation to be modest.
Himaryous which is weird . Fun fact It’s mentioned within the Muslim community tho as men and women should be modest in the way they dress and act. I agreeee! It should be talked about when it comes to men cause outside the Muslim community ...I don’t hear anyone else talk about it ❤️
Sorry I'm late. Amen!! We blame SO much on guys and how they shouldn't be looking, but who is the one dressing like that? Yes it is 50/50 guys shouldn't be looking and girls shouldn't be dressing inappropriately. We can be confident without wearing revealing clothing!!!! Also this whole body positivity is DESTROYING modesty!!!! You are seeking approval from other people online, instead you should be seeking approval from God. If you aren't doing it to seek approval online and from other people I can assure you that someone is going to lust by looking at your body positive trend. Yes stretch marks are normal and body fat is normal and we should take care and be confident in the body that God gave us but we should be showing off our heart's because the heart is more important than the body. I am a girl and I struggled with this too. We should be sympathetic towards guys and guys should be sympathetic towards girls too. Just think of how many more relationships would last longer if we ALL dressed modestly because there are guys who have a relationships with people just because of the body and it's awful. This is going to be awkward but I have to say this. Guys and girls have SO MUCH access to porn, inappropriate content, inappropriate pictures on insta, and litterally anywhere else on social media, this is because of lust and inappropriately dressed MEN and WOMEN. Even with bikinis just because you are swimming doesn't mean it's okay to dress lile that. Bikinis are inappropriate and even 1 pieces are inappropriate too (some of them and most of them). I wear a t-shirt and shorts to swim in because protection of someone's heart is more important than comfort. Even if you don't wear a bikini to make people lust or anything else like that it WILL make people lust!!!! I love you girls and guys so so so so much!!!! Guys and girls NEED to dress appropriately because it affects the heart and leads them to the wrong path. Love all of you!!!! I hope you all have a blessed day!!!
@@Leah-kx9to men shouldn’t look at women like a piece of meat regardless of what they are wearing... I was 9 and I was wearing jeans and a hoodie when a man touched me. It’s not about the clothing it’s about these men who don’t know how to keep their hands to themselves
@@Leah-kx9to
Are you saying bikinis should be illegal?
I look back at the 1940 and '50s and I love the fact that women dressed so elegantly and modestly. It would be great to have a wide variety of clothing and styles that are modest and elegant in stores today.
There are plenty of brands and store that do sell the 40's-50's style clothing. I wear them every day, and do you know what I get compliments every day on how womanly I dress without showing everything. Now it has nothing to do with any of the issues or ideas of what this man is sprouting. It has to do with me wanting to be just me and love the feel how it makes me feel.
It's there depends where you look! Try eBay for clothes that match your personal choice. I've found everything thing on eBay and opportunity shops, in bins, on the road, clothes are discarded like bubblegum in spoilt western cultures...I bet half of landfill is mass produced by China and other "cheaper manufacturer ing" countries , and I love Saris, flowing material and natural material is best cotton silk hemp bamboo and loads more...as I am if you aren't comfortable in it you won't wear it anyway so silly are high heels and stilettos the clothes for pain doesn't work at all...I could go on and on but won't😛 blessings
The funny thing is that during the 1920's to 1940's when some women were dressing more modestly and elegantly, this is when the baby boom (out of wedlock) increased.
@Vanessa Shimoni Well said! Now all we see are short-shorts, booty shorts, and those satanic leggings. It's incredibly shameful and depraved.
I cannot image how saddened Jesus and the Blessed Mother are by the immodest clothing there is these days.
@@Kueytwo ....the baby boom began after WW2 ended and soldiers returned home and began families.
I came here ready to fight you for trying to tell women what they can or can't wear. You totally defied my prejudiced expectations, and what you said was actually thoughtful, balanced, and sensible.
That means a lot! Thanks for telling me!
Yes, actually Brian spoke up in defence of women. Hearing such talk from a man gives me hope. And just to add to what you said about women’s fashion, the tight trousers are just so uncomfortable and frankly unhealthy, just to consider how they impact blood circulation.
@@annat4209 "Brian spoke up in defence of women. Hearing such talk from a man gives me hope."
Are we such dangerous and disgusting creatures? Do you dislike us so much ?
Stop playing the victim feminist, it's getting old.
Read this comment and decided to watch. Glad I did!
I only dressed immodestly when my self-esteem was very low. Due to a rough childhood, I didn't understand how to find love or a sense of belonging. When I started healing, I learned to love, value, and respect myself. I now am most comfortable dressing modestly. I find modesty to be a sign of healthy boundaries.
That is an excellent insight... And me too... Not sure if I love myself per se but I see my younger sister going through a similar thing and it makes me so mad and sad. It is not fair... Thank you for your comment. xxxx
True
Absolutely right
Great to know you respect yourself! God bless!
The way a person chooses to dress does not equivilate to the respect they have for themselves. In some places, nudity is the norm; do they not respect themselves?
It’s so hard to find modest clothes these days. Every dress or skirt that I like always has a long slit on the side, exposing so much that I don’t want to be exposed. Not that I’m uncomfortable with my body but I believe that my body is only for me and not the whole world needs to see it
I mean if u shop at cheap marketplaces yeah, if u take time to find your clothes, or invest more than 10 dollars in it, it’s really not hard, I covered myself from my hair to my knees for about a year and honestly just go into those religious shops or even just shop online, most of what I got was from online
Try looking at muslim woman’s fashion, they are mostly online and instagram. There are some really cute and nice dresses skirts ect that don’t have slits 😊
Try Value Village and Goodwill. Lots of different styles/vintages plus you can take some "fashion risks" since the prices are so low. I don't really follow modesty rules but I do consider myself the Queen of ankle-length skirts :).
Finding modest clothing is not a problem, finding pretty but modest clothes, now that's hard to find.
Shop at shein! Lots of beautiful modest dresses
True story.
My then 18 year old daughter came home from an evening out at the pub. She banged excitedly on my bedroom door.
"Mum! Mum! You were right! You were right!"
She launched through the door and landed in a happy heap on my bed. Beaming.
She had been out with a friend who dressed very provocatively. My daughter dressed well, but modestly. The girls had been joined by a group of young men. They were like bees round a honeypot to her friend, not paying much attention to my daughter. The friend then went to the bathroom. A handsome young man apologised to my daughter for not getting so much attention. The young man explained that the boys all had just one thing in mind with her friend. He then said:
"But every one of us would be proud to have a girl like you as our girlfriend". The other young men nodded in agreement.
"You see, Mum" my daughter said solemnly, "Girls who dress all tarty get loads of attention off boys, but it's the wrong type of attention. Was that what you meant?"
I struggled not to laugh "Something like that, darling, yes"
Well, there's two sides to this.
True ❤️
I love this!
an 18 year old said "tarty"... sure
@@josephbrandenburg4373 Sounds like this family lives in Great Britain. They probably still use that word
Modestly dressed ladies are still judged ,insulted ,raped ,abused and murdered .I understand your
aim ,only the reality is ,that no matter how modestly a lady dresses ,she is subject to a vast array
of behaviours from others and their particular misplaced beliefs and mind sets .
Pamela Smith` yes I agree, but better safe than sorry, “it lessens the chances but it does not eliminate the threat. “. The real threat is beliefs and mindset. We must erase perverse and abusive mindset . Being modest is a plus though .
@C G it only lessons societal responsibility for being decent to one another and by providing an excuse for the guilty and blame on the victim. AGAIN.
@@natureloves1888 It does not lessen the chance. Did you know they did a study on rapists, and found what most of them (talking opportunist rapists) look for personality. They look for girls that are smaller than them, look lost, look intoxicated or shy, with their heads down or headphones in. Traffickers look for the same type. They don't look at what they're wearing, they're predators looking for easy prey. A girl alone in an alley? Perfect victim, no matter if she's wearing a burqa or a tight dress. The reason drunk party girls get raped on the way home is not because of what they're wearing, it's because they're easy prey. Intoxicated, alone, usually out late. Makes them easy to overpower. However this study did find that women with long hair and especially in a pony tail get raped most of the time, while short hair (boy short) girls almost never get victimized by opportunists. So if you wanna be safe, cut that hair. Also a different study found that most women that are raped are single girls or widows, married women are way less likely to be assaulted by strangers. The same thing with clothing not mattering goes for victims where the assailant know his victim, he has then planned the assault and it doesn't matter what she's wearing. Rape is about power and dominance, not sexual attraction. What you're wearing does not matter. End of story.
Noelle i agree with you but for me I think modesty is a plus , but like I said we should erase the perverse abusive and dominant mindset of men , I think rapist should life sentenced . I feel sorry for the victims; oh and women too can rape but mostly it’s men because they have strength advantages and a culture that encourages them that rape is ok like some places in India.
Nature Love if you like what you’re wearing, that’s great! You do you! But don’t let anyone else forced you to wear something you don’t want to or force anyone else to wear something they don’t want to, and we’re fine.
Ego trap = thinking you’re better than someone for being modest.
@Anton Babani no you're not though. 😂🤷♀️😂 All sins are equal in gods eyes.
You are both wrong
@Amina K how people choose to judge you based on aesthetics says more about them than the person being judged.
Amina K no it’s not! You can be completely the opposite of how others choose to interpret your physical appearance.
Stephanie Moore that’s egoistic and follows the idea that what you believe is what’s true for everyone. And it’s not.
I found this to be one of the most thoughtful, intelligent discussions about modesty I've viewed. Thank you!
Me as well Pam. Truly one of the best, and best explained
Me, also Pam. I am so glad this video is out there.
I agree
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, character does.*
THANK YOU! I grew up wearing baggy things, trying to be comfortable, and my parents (bless them, I love them dearly) pushed me to wear short skirts and tight pants and low-cut tops. They merely wanted me to blend in and be fashionable, but I felt nothing save discomfort-physically and otherwise. My male classmates, even as young as middle school, looked at me differently. Grown men would leer. In college I fell for the liberal idea that I could dress however I wanted and it wouldn't affect others' perception of me, but after bring treated like garbage and groped and harassed, I realized that wasn't true. I discovered that, contrary to what I was taught, I *could* dress modestly without people picking on me. I could dress in a way that was comfortable, that wasn't revealing, and that I didn't have to meet any earthly expectations of beauty. (Besides, women's modern fashion changes so quickly. Terrible for the environment and the pocketbook!)
Thank you for this. ✨
I can relate! I hate shopping for clothes I keep the same clothes till they fall apart
I only want my husband to know I have legs. If my financial adviser knew I had them I'd feel so powerless.
This comment is underrated 😂
@Mme they were joking and using sarcasm to.point out the flaws in this videos argument
Best comment 💯💯💯
Sure just use a wheelchair :) cuz obviously women shouldn't have legs :)))
Everyone knows you have legs. Should they be permitted to see and observe each inch of those legs?
I tried to dress like the other girls when i was a younger woman and was very insecure. Now that i am older, i embrace modesty and feel so much more confident about my appearance. I try to encourage the young women and girls at church to embrace modesty.
Yes, isn't it interesting how nowadays so many girls are so insecure about their weight, their cellulite, their body hair, etc. etc. when all of these things can easily be covered or masked by clothing and never have to be publicly discussed? It's a public conversation because we MAKE it one every time we wear something revealing. Many women think it is their right to freely dress how ever they want, but never take into consideration that there could ever be consequences to that, AND are unwilling to accept the consequences when they do come.
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, character does.*
@@starhunter9085 actually, yes and no. This is worthy of more discussion. Unfortunately, my husband recently passed away and i haven't the time to discuss it at length. First, i would assume that you are very young and have no children of your own. When we get older and have children of our own, we begin to think differently. Your worldview matters and you are not the same person at all that you will be ten years from now.
@@cynthiamoyers9805 *Sorry about your husband, I'll leave things as they are now out of respect for your situation.*
@@starhunter9085 Thank you. I am not actually a computer person. I prefer handwriting my letters. I am sure that we would get along well if we ever met. I hope that you have a blessed day.
I find your arguments interesting but I disagree. I personally dress modestly because I enjoy it. But if I get too hot, I will not hesitate to be comfortable. I do not believe that our physical bodies represent who we are, truly.
But I enjoyed your reflection
Thank you :)
I agree. As much as I enjoyed the video the entire time I kept thinking, "dressing modestly just feels good." I just enjoy the privacy. Nothing more. I don't care if others wear more or less than I do.
I only agree to an extent. The old saying always stands that the cover doesn’t represent the book but I believe that the way we present ourselves reflects our subconscious intentions even if that is as simple as being comfortable.
@Paddy234 Interesting thoughts. I've met a few Western men recently and their tight t-shirts and tank tops showing off their muscles is actually off-putting and distasteful to me... A good quality, fitted but not skin-tight shirt and good posture is enough to indicate good physicality I think! To me the crazy tight tops and tank tops indicates insecurity and lack of true confidence and that is what is most repelling. Competence, confidence, good humour and social sense as well as a kindly spirit -- that is very attractive....!!
@Paddy234 Exactly.
The clothes help us to show who we are. It is not the most important thing in our life but it is necessary to us for love more God, because it give to us the possibility to reflect a few of His beauty. ( Still working on my English) .
I've always dressed modestly but honestly I think its just more aesthetically pleasing to me to do so. I'm from a religious background but I also grew up obsessed with victorian literature so I've always had a modern victorian vibe.
I used to enjoy seeking attention from men by the way I dressed. Thankfully, God changed my heart. I now enjoy dressing modestly and I've been sanctified to hate being immodest; it disgusts me now when men stare at me. I love trying to live a modest and moral life for Jesus Christ.
Jane, that you for your honesty. This applies to me as well, and I have never been happier as I am now.
@Jane Ainsley ...the rules of modesty comes from Orthodox Judaism=Torah.
Having a idol such as jcpenney makes you an enemy of GD.
Interestingly men still look at me and I dress modestly. I don't find it disgusting at all because my hunch is that they are attracted in a very positive way to seeing a ladylike woman that draws their attention because men are designed by God to find women beautiful and captivating.
Dressing modestly only affects the person wearing the clothes, vast majority of the time. Saturday was rainy, but I still needed to go grocery shopping. I wore regular flowy pants, rain boots, a crew neck tee shirt(that wasn't remotely tight), and a rain jacket. I just wore a wide headband to covery hair, as it doesn't behave in the rain. I wore minimal makeup(basically natural brows, and brown mascara). And STILL a creepy guy followed me around the toothpaste and soap aisle, asking for my number, and making stalker-ish comments. I wasn't dressed immodestly, not remotely. I don't understand why so many people think they can control the reactions of other people by their clothing alone.
リズLiz | exactly. I hope you’re ok though. That sounds scary D :
I am a Muslim woman and I believe I don't need to give my personal information to strangers walking down the streets..and I feel you are an orthodox christian gentleman ..and I must tell that I just loved your thought process.
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, character does.*
@@starhunter9085 Modesty is essence of being human...human live in society..for a society to work human need to be beyond animal nature (food and sex)..if u start walking naked then be ready for animal nature of men to come in action.. just like a dogs never ask for consent of a bitch.
So God gave u animal bodies and instincts with angelic soul..and he gave u the guidance to rise to angelic side of u..but one can chose to stay stuck with animal nature..then one will be no different than a donkey or a dog.
@@openupyoureyes9230 *Spiritual modesty (humble and meek character) is what God values. Physical modesty is a man made concept that we put priority in.*
*But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7*
@@starhunter9085 What you claim is man made...what comes from God comes from his book..and you are misinterpreting a bible verse to back up man-made claim..the mother of Jesus was a modest woman so I will look upto her instead of u.
@@openupyoureyes9230 *The Bible says that God had us naked with no shame and then WE decided to put clothes on because WE decided it was shameful.*
WOW. This. Was. Amazing! Sadly, the topic of modesty has become so "taboo" even among fellow devout Catholics. This video did an excellent job of really getting at the heart of the issue. Modesty is spectacularly beautiful and, as a 25 year old woman, the beauty and freedom there is in modest dress is indescribable. I don't understand how us women gave up our dresses and skirts and fell for the lie that in doing so we have become more "liberated" and "equal". What a crying shame. Thank you Brian Holdsworth for yet again another incredible video!!
All Christians should worship in the nude. If nude statues and paintings are good enough for the Sistine Chapel, they are good enough in real life. Pope John Paul II even endorsed nudism as a Christian value.
Ive literally been mocked for dressing modestly for the past year since converting to Catholicism. My mom has called me an old lady and a Mormon because of the clothes ive been newly interested in. Just last monday a male friend called me a Mormon for my high coverage, baggy dress. Why is it the stereotype that Mormons dress modestly and not the rest of us Christians? And why does it make more sense to mock someone for covering their body than it does to mock someone for being indecent in a public place?
Because people expect women to look attractive, to reveal some skin to give benefit to those around them viewing it. If anyone judges you for being more modest they themselves have an issue with sexuality.
Dressing modestly doesn't mean frumpy or sloppy without style!My mother dressed well and classy, never inappropriate.People admired and respected her. I was so very proud of her and miss her so much.
Excellent video!
I have a complaint. Women's available fashions have gotten tighter and more revealing over the last 25 years. Much of it is "barely there", missing half of it, "peekaboo", even see-through. The pants are spray on and deliberately shredded and torn. I have been utterly disgusted trying to shop for clothing for my teenaged daughters. It is to the point that it is almost impossible to find decent, reasonably stylish and appropriately modest clothing for older girls and young women.
I was a teenager in the 1980s, and everyday clothing for both sexes (unless you were Madonna or a stripper) was generally very modest. Everyone wore loose shirts (polos, button-downs, or a heavy cotton t shirt) tucked in, with jeans or pants, which were heavier material and straight-legged, often with a belt. Dresses were long enough to wear without leggings. No rips, no visible bra straps, black lace, spandex, no yoga pants outlining your privates in public, no men with their butts hanging out of their shorts.
I would really like to see women start saying "no" to the fashion industry that is pushing increasingly immodest clothing that degrades women and robs our dignity.
I hate it too.. I go to a public high school and our only dress code rule is "Stomachs covered", but I saw at least three belly buttons today. It just makes me sad. Sometimes I close my eyes in the hallway or look at the ceiling because I find it so indecent.
@Jack Russell -- if it were "faking the size," women would go larger...unless there were serious psychological issues going on where larger sizes caused hysteria. I've always known that I have to look at the actual fit, not the size. I shop thrift stores and sometimes come across very expensive clothing with a tiny Barbie Doll size label that fits me, but when I buy clothes from the cheap discount mart I head to the bigger size labels. Equal sizes different numbers on the label.
Sweet Harmony THIS!!!! It is sooo exhausting and impossible trying to find modest clothes. SO hard. I hate this part of our culture, most things are sheer I have to buy extra bandeaus and tank tops just for so many individual tops. I have no idea where people shop to easily find normal clothes. Ughhh.
We need to start making our OWN clothes again.
@Jack Russell the Amish do a lot of things right.
I disagree with men dressing modestly. Men *should* dress modestly and men need to think about this too. If a guy walks around in a tight, sleeveless shirt, showing off his muscles, then he is making the wrong decision and is not demonstrating proper values. Why dress like that? And you can't tell me you don't know what I'm talking about. It was *never* the norm for men to walk around essentially topless, often while wearing form-fitting pants, until recently. In the 50s, men in their 20s were often in suits. Now, men in their 20s wear pants that expose their underwear and form-fitting shirts with no sleeves. It is disgraceful.
I don't think this video says anything that disagrees with that. I mean when he talked about modest mens clothing he spoke about how his shirt didn't expose anything including the muscles he may or may not have. As far as the underwear exposure and sagging goes I don't believe that he spoke to that because he was going off the assumption that the basic mens style involves properly wearing a belt. Which is what most of the country does, and more than likely most of his audience. So I doubt he finds that acceptable, however he probably didn't think about it. As to why he focused on women, I would assume it likely has to do with my previous comments about not thinking about those who sagg their pants and because frankly men are the ones who typically take more sexual pleasure from the visual. I mean that exact reason is why I tend to try to date modest women. They aren't showing the world what they have so I take them more seriously, as I expect them to take themselves more seriously and their life choices more seriously than a woman who can't wait to buy that see through top. But yeah you can say the same for men. I mean who would you take more seriously, the man walking around the neighborhood shirtless or the man wearing a suit?
@rachel hutchinson yeah I can understand the underdressed person who is new to church, but for those who go on a regular basis I believe you should show some respect and dress as though you are ready to show your ap6 for God and worship him.
@Patz13 He spoke to what made his clothing modest. He could have went into it more but he did cover what made it modest wear. As for praising himself, I honestly don't see it that way. Pointing out that you do something doesn't mean that you're praising yourself.
Patz13 stop whining men and women are DIFFERENT our bodies are inherently sensual and beautiful we are the lures! We have that power and men DONT! That’s why we have to carry ourselves with dignity!
@Patz13 Yeah but women hold a lot more power over the visual, because men take the visual much more seriously. Which is why women's laungerey is so much larger of an industry than it is for men. Why women are the large majority of strippers in the world and so on. All don't call names that's just uncalled for. I mean we're all adults here let's not start acting like we're 12. I know what she said and understand how that could be construed as offensive but there are other ways to handle it.
The answer is not for women to change how they want to dress. We should be able to wear exactly what we want. What makes us feel good. Whether that is long dresses, liberating short dresses, tight jeans, baggy jeans. The answer is for men to be taught from childhood to respect everyone, (female or male alike). As so should women! This annoys me. I’m 67 years old. I lived through the 60’s, and wore mini skirts etc. I loved them. Not because I was wanting to draw attention to myself or attract men, I met my husband aged 15 and we’re still Happily married. I wore them because they were a freeing compared to the longer dresses and trousers/Jeans and I loved the changing fashions. Still do!
We brought our son up to respect women (and men) and to treat them as he would like to be treated. I’m sure there a lot of men who feel a little intimidated when out in public too. Not all men are bigger than women. There is also the problem of ignorant people attacking gay people, verbally or physically. Again it’s education that is needed. Not for people to change how they dress.
Treat others as you wish to be treated. I (a man) wouldn't ever want to dress in a way that distracts/creates an uncomfortable situation for women because I know how it feels to be put into that situation by some women who dress like that. Education won't solve it alone. Looking out for you fellow man/woman by minimizing temptation should at least be considered when men/women choose what they want to wear.
For example, why should a woman be able to wear exactly what she wants to wear, no consequences, yet I can't order a coffee in nothing but a speedo. What if butt-naked except a speedo is what I want to wear in public?
Yay!! Finally, a man explains clothes to me and how I should feel about them! 🤗
TrinityTheOnly mansplaining!😂
A woman being shrewish about men, who would have thunk it! You realize you’re being very sexist to disregard his words because of his gender, right?
@@happiness7808 "shrewish"?! 😂😂
@@happiness7808 You need to look up what 'sexist' and 'false equivalency' mean before making stupid, irrelevant comments!
@@happiness7808 "Thunk it"?
As a Muslim modesty is part of our faith, you covered this topic so beautifully, thank you for sharing your thoughts, much appreciated 😊🌹
As a non-Muslim who lived in a Muslim country for work, I loved the modest clothing and manner of the women I met.
E Mack , thank you for sharing your positive experience, much appreciated 😊🌹
Me too
This video is something else, we don't hear people talk ab this these days, I am so glad there still some out there share & call for modesty in the sea of today's fashion's dirt
Is H , absolutely couldn’t agree more 😊🌹
I love the way this gentleman approached the topic of modesty. Most women are so caught up in fashion they don't think about how lewd and ridiculous some of the clothes look, just blindly following trends.
This is amazing, Brian! You captured it perfectly at 6:46 - 6:53.
I was raised to dress modestly for church, but then I thought, if I wouldn't wear it to church, why would I wear it anywhere else?
"Clothes are meant to cover the body, not to serve your vanity."
The early Christians used to fellowship butt naked as well as have naked weddings and baptisms.
title: the power of modest clothing
me: /laughs in muslim/
Yeah, we may be sworn enemies but they can learn a lot from you people.
@@wouldyouliketomeetkenbamba9495 We don't have to be sworn enemies, and we aren't. People just exaggerate things✨
@@lolwr4566 period. 💕☺️✨
@@wouldyouliketomeetkenbamba9495 honestly in this day and age we should be united more than ever against those who don't believe in God and the ones who are destroying everything that is moral and nobel. We should try our best to show others the right way but it's up to them to follow it or not. Media & social media don't make this easy at all though.
@@stand4justice4867 Just leave people be. If they want to believe they will. And if they won't, they won't.
I disagree with a number of the things he said in this video, starting with the original notion that we should only show people close to us parts of our body out of what seems to be other peoples fear (particularly the guy in this video) that they can "use it against us" in some way shape or form.
That's the equaivalent of saying that you should wear make up so people don't think you're ugly and treat you differently because of it. Because they definetly will. But you can't let that control you. That's not modestly it's vanity. You should work to be less caught up in what other people think of you. You shouldn't abide by their judgement.
Beyond that, the end of the video where he talked about how women don't wear pants the same way men do really annoyed me. He ignored the picture of the man with skinny jeans right underneath the pictures he was showing and then proceded to show the tightest womens pants there were.
That didn't annoy me quite as much as when he started highlighting what he considered to be better options for women. I take it this man has never tried to do anything in a dress before? I find them to be inconvienent and uncomfortable. And I'm not alone in that either. I'm more likely to see a girl casually wearing baggy pants than I am in a dress so I know it isn't just a matter of a lack of modesty.
If a dress is long and tight, it restricts your range of motion, if it's long and loose, it gets in the way, if it's short you have to keep pulling it down and you have to pay closer attention to the way you sit than you would in jeans. I really hate dresses. I do not wear jeans because I want people looking at my body. I wear them because they're a lot easier to wear than anything else. If people looking at your body makes you insecure then cover it up, but don't expect the same from other people. Not everyone has to be insecure.
exactly!!! and you shouldn't have to justify your choice of clothing to anyone, unless it's in your intention to tell them more about you & your identity. I think are reflective of our identity, but they also exist for comfort reasons and I don't think anyone cares when a man wears shorts to a beach but when a woman wears a bikini (or at least within cultures i've been exposed to) she's TRYING to be seductive, she WANTS something. I feel like, if anything, it's immodest to try to tell someone how to dress and on top of that the type of person you mirror if you dress in a way that is immodest.
The reason why I'm so angry, is even if these arguments about little things don't appear to be dangerous, they are. For instance, the type of underwear a woman has worn in the past has been reason to justify rape because she was "asking for it". In Iran, women are killed for not covering their entire body. Young girls self worth is brought down and they are shamed for wanting to express theirselves in the way they feel comfortable with because they're afraid of being seen as too bold or they're scared of creepy men and it's just not right.
Complaining about wearing a dress just shows how much less tolerant we women are today. Women from the past were so much tougher and refined at the same time. Continue ruining society feminists! But not me, I am a proud feminine woman who married a masculine man who likes me to protect my beauty and cover for others. It’s special just for him and it feels so good. He can’t stand it when he sees western women on tv or out in public, he either turns off the tv or looks the other way. He’s a very handsome guy so it must frustrate the women so much that he doesn’t give them that kind of attention. Not to mention how comfortable he makes me feel because he’s not starring at women like a lot of western guys do, sorry western guys but the majority of you have no self control or discipline with this.
@@amandah1875 this is so ignorant of you. Bet you never picked up a book on academic feminism. The reason why you're allowed to even have a RUclips account is because of the gradual feminine emancipation that a minority of women advocated, even when their kind (like you) did not put faith in them.
You cannot generalize a "step out of modesty" as something immoral. What is "immoral" to you might be empowerment to some. Rather ask the intent of the proponents of modest and "immodest" (though they arent) culture and what is their intent, and even then that is very complex and calls for a multi-faceted approach to just even understand half of it.
Before imposing how terribly good you are because you're "modest", and chastising other people for not following suit, ask yourself would people be more decent when you take away their freedom, or instead advocate a rights-based model that encapsulates decency and respect.
Sniker Dood God taught us to be modest, I didn’t decide that. Of course there are issues in our society because of immodesty. If Jesus came back to the earth today, I know how he would prefer to see us dressed. You will never agree with me I’m sure. I never said I am good, but Atleast I can follow the guidance of our creator to know that I’m trying.
Amanda H we used to walk around naked. Adam and Eve. I don’t think Jesus would care about the way we are dresses. Clothes are vanity made by humans to cover their bodies cuz they became ashamed once they ate the fruit. If one feels like walking out naked that should not automatically mean they are immoral because we used to roam around naked and are the ones who decided to start dressing. The only thing that makes it bad is the intent behind dressing such a way. Femininity is not all about wearing dresses and skirts either. Men used to wear skirts and dresses.
Ain't nothing modest about this guys hair my goodness please do a hair video coz I have natural curly hair and I need to know ur routine
My wife loves my naturally curly hair but sadly as i get older its starting to straighten out
@Frances Van Siclen Me too!
I don’t think this guy is going to have a curly girl routine ! 😂🥴
John Freidas mousse for curls is great!
I use DevaCurl products but they are expensive so if you can’t afford it try not washing your hair (I know how gross it sounds) with shampoo but just massage your scalp and use conditioner. Try using mousse or hair gel and scrunching your hair up towards your scalp as it air dries
The fact that “modest culture” is always pushed more heavily on women than it is on men is why I will never be able to even pretend to take it seriously. The real motivation behind it is that men want women to carry the responsibility for THEIR uncontrolled impulses and inability to control their own thoughts. In some cultures my hair is considered vulgar, in others bare breasts carry no sexual connotation and instead bums are sexualized, the body parts deemed “bad” are often incredibly arbitrary and vary from culture to culture. The fact is that no matter what I as a woman wear or don’t wear I will never be able to manage a man’s impulses for him. A woman in Saudi Arabia in a full burka with mesh covering her eyes is still more likely to get raped today than I am in Canada wearing a crop top and jeans on my way to class. This is because men in Canada receive slightly more social pressure to control themselves and are usually raised to see women as people who they should empathize with. Plus, the more we force women to cover up, and the more we treat men like impulsive apes who need to be shielded from normal human body parts, the less men will need to control their impulses. A Canadian man is probably used to seeing a woman’s abs peaking over her pants, or seeing a woman in a bikini at a beach. Yet there are many grown Muslim and evangelical men who barely even know the basic shape of a woman’s body because they have been so incredibly sheltered, these sheltered men are much more likely to do harm. By being so sheltered they have never had to take responsibility for their own impulses and something as simple as an ankle could trigger them to act disrespectfully or even violently. My body is not evil or shameful and my skin showing is not a valid reason for someone to disrespect my humanity or hurt me. Modesty culture and purity culture have hurt and continue to hurt so many people in this way. You can dress it up with pretty words all you want but at it’s core it’s meant to frame female bodies as shameful and hyper sexual at all times and it’s meant to remove personal responsibility from men and pile it onto the shoulders of women and girls.
Well said 👏👏👏
thank you. I agree 100%
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It is not just for men though. Women lust as well over other women. And it could be a stumbling block for a Christian woman to be around women with low cut shirts and things like that. It is not just men who have lustful thoughts. When we dress so as not to garner attention towards our bodies we are being respectful of others. At the church I go to therea re women who literally dress as if it's a night club. I believe this is disrespectful to those around you.
"Humility, humility and humility"
Gabiafterhours’ video on the Rosary, Humility, and modesty are the best! I especially recommend his video on the Entire Rosary!
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, character does.*
This assumes that we should be shameful of our bodies and that we only dress/look the way we do for the attention of others. This is also a bit toxic in that it further pushes that people cannot help themselves because we allow ourselves to be vulnerable in front of strangers. People should dress how they want and what makes them comfortable no matter what gender they are and society around them should learn to get over it and mind their own business. If dressing modestly makes you happy, awesome, but don't judge someone else because they want to wear a shorter skirt.
I also assume this is directed only towards female projecting persons as men's bodies are not as over sexualized and they can dress however they want with no one batting an eye.
Jennabelle Wingless "female projecting persons"? You can't spell "girl"?
@@DP-jy2ge There are people who project femme who do not identify with being a "girl"
Jennabelle Wingless Oh please. Enough with the loony toons talk.
@@DP-jy2ge If you disagree you're behind on the times.
I absolutely agree. People should wear what they want and are comfortable with and nobody should be judging, modest or not.
I love the way you approached this subject! I think modesty is natural. I think we have to be taught to be immodest.
Wow!!!! Love that. So true
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, character does.*
This has been proven time and time again. Babies develop a sense of natural modesty after a few years. People have to be sexualized and brainwashed to become immodest.
@@starhunter9085 You could have just posted your own comment instead of pasting this in reply to everyone else's
@unironicuwubunny666 Babies just out of the womb don't have feelings about this yet.
Despite the language used in this video, this is still perpetuating a double standard. Let’s also point out the cherry picking in these points. There are multiple styles of jeans available to women, not just skinny or straight cut. Not everyone enjoys wearing dresses or skirts. Why is it impossible for people to just let everyone wear what they enjoy wearing? The clothing choices of other people have absolutely no impact on your life. Lastly, this vague discussion of differing body types between men and women, see it for what it is. Sexualization of women’s bodies. Point blank. That alone should derail this man’s argument.
Wear what you want. If someone else is bothered by it, it’s probably a them problem.
Like if modern hypersexualized culture is not shaping our lives. Of course clothing is a factor, or let's say is a product/sympthom that displays the predominant values of a society.
Watch the most popular songs and "role models" that we have today, it is sexualized and vulgar to the core.
This goes for both men and women.
He is not demanding people to change their way of dressing by force, that would not make sense. We are talking about how a healthy society would be dressing like.
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Probably when the majority of the society (not by force) stops loving one-night-stands, macho-men, and club culture. And we start rejecting the hyper hedonistic culture we have, we will have many things changing too, not just clothing.
Morali39 If you don’t enjoy or aren’t interested in those things, you have the option to not participate. Other people’s actions in this regard have no impact on your life. Why do you care?
@@1229mariah "you have the option to not participate"
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That,,, was beautifully said
This guy reminds me of a serious, intelligent, and nicer version of JP Sears. Great thoughts on the topic, bro
Really ? Seriously ? Is it the hair ?
This is a well-reasoned argument not only for modesty, but for a return to historical ideas of privacy as opposed to modern 'glass box' living.
I know I'm just some random guy, who would definitely be labeled as a traditionalist, just to give you insight into my personal bias, but I find women to be far more attractive when they veil and cover their beauty. I find their modesty to be a virtue that I deeply respect and love. And if I'm being honest, its simply beautiful. And it can be done in so many different ways such that there is flexibility and options for everyone. At Liturgy we veil and cover the things we find the most sacred. I think in how we treat our bodies we should do the same. Our bodies are sacred, lets veil and cover that which we find to be the most beautiful, leaving it as a mystery to give to the person we are united to in a sacramentally valid marraige.
Edit: I'm seeing a lot of people who seem to misunderstand my position this is to clarify so as not to cause a stumbling block for my brothers and sisters. the idea of veiling is not about being covered in a burka, nor is it having head to toe covered. It means seeing the beauty and sacredness of oneself. Men are called to modesty just as women are. I'm speaking about women because being Male means that is where my interest lies. Nothing I said is normative, just my own humble opinion, but it is most certainly not about oppressing women. Quite the opposite, it is about helping myself, others, and themselves acknowledge their sacred beauty which is a gift from God
Completely agree
Eduardo Valentin-Morales
Beautiful!!! Now , if mothers and fathers could raise their sons to appreciate and highly value that beauty , the culture could change. And mothers must model that modesty and beauty by their dress and example to their daughters to emulate . May we look to Our Holy Mother for her excellent example.
I agree for modesty as long as it does not call for the face to be hidden for God does call for our light to shine and smiling at people and knowing when they are sad and need a loving word is important. I think the modesty should not be to the point of being invisible or unrecognizable but I do not think that is what you are talking about. There are some people who just take modesty (especially for women) too far. Again that is not the impression I get from you. It is just that you used the word veil and I really dislike face veils and feel that is only for people in the snow or for criminals.
Suzanne, he wrote the word "veil" not as a LITERAL....VEIL, but as a metaphor, as in "being covered. At least that's how I understand it. It was actually a beautifully written statement. Indicative of someone who is well read. It wasn't meant in a "Muslim" tital covering type of way. I could be wrong of course, but I don't think he meant any harm.
@Eduardo Valentin-Morales I'm never really sure how I feel about this, but you're perspective was beautifully put.
Imagine trying to policy other people's clothes and justifying it with humility.
i dont think that’s what he was trying to do
It's a dumb video to. It was on my recommendation list and I gave it a try. He literally basically implied that women should wear dresses... I'm a mom and dresses are the worst to clean in, go out in, sit in. He also uses the fact that he had daughters too 🙄🙄🙄
@Amina K what do you even mean? 😂😂😂 Women need to wear dresses every single day? That showing skin is sin?
I love dressing modestly for this very reason. I have full control over what strangers get to see and not see.
Good video. You did it without the immense loads of Shame and violence (veiled....and not) that usually accompanies this topic. Women find this topic disgusting, because it is put across as a demand and with vile arrogance, and because it forces us to make a sex object of ourselves, when we are just trying to be comfortable with our own bodies (and not made into a walking "Sin") , as men are allowed to be. You did it with sensitivity, which I find is lacking more and more with the "Rad Trads", who fail to apply intelligence, humility or compassion to any topic, let alone to topics involving women. Thank you.
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, character does.*
@@starhunter9085 in genesis, once Adam and Eve realized they were naked, they naturally felt shame and tried to cover up and God gave them modest clothing to wear instead. Nakedness has always been sin unless in private. God only allowed them to remain naked initially, because they were ignorant of the fact that they were indeed nude.
@@juanesia7512 *So if nudity was always a sin, why would God have allowed it in His perfect world? That's like saying He'd allow rape or genocide as long as you're not aware of these things. If it's immoral, God won't allow it at all so the fact that our nudity was proudly displayed and not shameful before the fall, it isn't shameful afterwards. That was God's Word before the fall and God's Word is eternal.*
@@starhunter9085 one thing to consider is, since humans weren't depraved yet, we wouldn't have the desire to hurt others. I'm sure God left us nude because physically speaking, we were perfect that way as long as there was no sin as far as lust and other horrible things. At the end of the day, God still clothed them once they realized they were naked so there's no debating the fact that he wanted them clothed.
@@juanesia7512 *There is debating the point. That verse in is in the context of God cursing the world 🌎 not blessing it. Clothing was at the core of this broken world 🌎. God gave them "better" clothing as a sign of our disconnect with Him since our bodies are made in His image and sinning was us falling away from Him and therefore falling away from our nature and purpose to be one with Him as art and artist. This wasn't a time of joy for God, it was a time of brokenness.*
*The problem is most people don't even know what lust is. You probably think lust and sexuality are the same thing...guess what?...THEY'RE NOT. Sexuality is completely natural, healthy and proven to lengthen a life span. Lust is a manipulation of sexuality that harms yourself and others. Having a sexual feeling for someone isn't "lusting" after them. God created us to be sexual beings, that's why He gave us genitals and sex hormones. Also it's clinically proven that we benefit from daily masturbation meaning we benefit from sexual urges further proving that we're supposed to, by God's design, embrace our sexual nature. So even if someone is dressing to be enticing and turn heads, that's completely natural.*
I have just recently started wearing only dresses to Mass. The dresses are very modest.
Interesting commentary.
Last winter I was very down and wearing not immodest but inappropriate clothes for mass. I know this because God was sending me hints. Easter I started veiling at mass and very recently I ve started wearing skirts or dresses to mass. This is so freeing and fills me with confidence. I put this enlightenment down to an amazing and grace filled visit to the Holy Land last year.
Exactly and it can be really hard to find the right dress. Especially here in UK but it s a work in progress for me which I m enjoying.
@@jenyoung2473
Amen!!
@@jenyoung2473 i find it nearly impossible to find modest clothing for my age (50 ish ) in the uk i still want to look feminine but respectful and modest and do not want to look like a frumpy granny 🤣 any ideas or suggestions of any good shops or on line shops i could use ??? Many blessings x
Catholic Cat1125 me too. I only wear long skirts.
This was one of the most levelheaded, even-handed, "modest" exhortations to modesty I have heard. The flow of your reasoning from first to last was excellent. Fantastic work.
Scott Jones for real!
Very true.
Couldn't agree more :-) well said!
What do you think of bodybuilders getting on stage in posing briefs?
I think...it’s just the show off culture of the event. Masculinity isnt sexualized the way being feminine is. You’re not going to see a buff masculine women on the cover of play boy lol even most women don’t really care to see men that are overly muscular🤷🏽♀️
Not great at all
@@MJBlueThunder Modesty isn't only about sex and it certainly isn't about what is considered sexual by most women. It's the opposite of pride; it's about practising humility in how one dresses and behaves.
Travis Kraft bodybuilding with either men or women shouldn’t be sexually they wear the briefs to make their physique more appealing to judges and more defined it’s like how in running you don’t expect someone to wear a dress because it would hinder their performance
I disagree, it could be for glorifying self and there are certainly women who lust after men’s flesh, that’s why there are male strippers who wear similar amounts of clothing as body builders, I try and make sure to glorify God in everything I do now, so even if I’m going to skate, I’m using a praise and worship song.
Traditional values and Christian influences shaped a wonderful nation with great morals and strong families. I just want God now. This new world is cold.
It's too late 😪
Living according to the law of God the almighty, is the best thing you could do in this life!
@George Askeladd incorrect
@George Askeladd as if women are not oppressed in the modern world!
@George Askeladd that's not true!
Women in the modern western society are oppressed!
The reason why men and woman should be modest with their clothing is to help this fallen society better cope with their jealousy and sexual drives. In the old days you never saw your neighborliness's wife naked or close to naked (bikini). And there was no tv and magazines to consistently force you to compare her or your body to the ideal. The Amish I think has coped the best with it in their strange way. Every woman and man basically wears the same outfits and pretty modest at that. It helps reign in that monster inside us all. I hate this modern world for the simple fact it woke up something inside of me that I wish never existed. But it's there. I cannot deny it or snap my fingers and take it away. I just need to help myself and others cope with our fallen state as well as possible. It's only a few decades you need to hold out... compared to eternity. ;)
It's ideal to control yourself whether you're in the modern world or not.
Wonderful ❣️ post
@R J I was talking about people controlling your urges.
But.. If you look at stats is says that less and less people are having sex. You okay buddy? Even back then there was such things as this. The records are just crappy and people were having more sex than us. They just hid it better lol.
@@zombivomit4138 Ok then.
I disagree entirely with what this man has said in his 1st argument. He is basically saing that if you reveal things about yourself through your fashion, people will judge you and be hateful becasue as he said, "stangers don't love you" even though that is somewhat true and there are jugdmental people out there, that is not reason JUST to dress modest.
So his suggestion is to hide your personality, your style, your comfort, your expression, and cast away your body and true style out of shame & insecurity of strangers opinions and reserve it for those who you already trust enough. That is toxic advice. My personal fashion style is bold and colorful. I like standing out and letting the world know what I'm about through how I dress.
Personally I am happy in my skin and do not let the others opinions control me. That is better advce to give, that people should be themselves.
minted oil I concur! It is like he’s telling us to worry about how others judge us according to how we dress.
I don’t feel his views are balanced at all.
No one should ever worry about how someone else sees them 💯
Psychologists studied children in low achieving schools and found that when the kids wore a school uniform they performed better in school, but also less bullying, more cooperation, better behaved. Clothes are important.
you want to stand out and show the world what you are about??? guess what, the world don’t care about you!!! strangers don’t care about you!!! you trying to impress people that don’t care about you is so needy thirsty and pathetic. everything this man said just went completely over your head you are obviously very immature to understand the message. let me ask you something. do you care about what clothing i use??? because let me tell you i could care less what clothing you use. nobody cares.
@@diocalavera9415 true lol
Researchers have discovered that we are how we dress. It makes us feel like that
Um. No. I’ll wear what I want to wear. I’m comfortable with my body. I’m not gonna hide. Judge me or not. I don’t care what you think. I majored in theoretical physics and applied mathematics and I’m a programmer. People who show me they’re going to judge me do me the great favor of showing me who I should ignore.
As a man, I wouldn't want to dress in a way that distracts/creates an uncomfortable situation for women, as I know of the disctracting/uncomfortable situations that immodestly dressed women can put me in. At least from my end of the stick, it's "Treat others as you wish to be treated" more than "I can wear what I want".
@@user-ck7tg1dq9y Boys and men need to be desensitised to the female human body, especially in school by doing nude art classes and nude phys ed with the girls.
Modesty is almost always pushed on women making it an inherently sexist idea. Women shouldn't have to dress "modest" because it is "beautiful" in a male's eyes. Women should dress for themselves and what makes them happy not for an outdated societal ideal.
I absolutely agree with you. All this bullshit about "modesty" is another way to control women and to justify men. "oh, he would not rape her if she would wear modest clothes..." Really? Not because it is disgusting and bad to rape, but because of what your victim is wearing???
Hanako Ricci Women should dress for the glory of God. Not for themselves. She should respect God first and then her husband. God sets boundaries for us out of pure love.
I would beg to differ. Now that I am a middle aged woman, I realize that society's rules of modesty actually helps women more then it harms them. I cannot compete with a 20 year old young woman, if she flaunts her sexuality. Modest clothing is a great equalizer.
You do realize you cannot compete with them no matter what they are wearing? :D The only way to prevent your husband from gawking at them is to put them under a burka.
@@user-qd1ud3ib9i Good thing I'm an atheist :)
It's all a facade. The people around me has shown that dressing modestly doesn't mean shit. It doesn't show the moral character of a person. To me everyone should dress according to their own personal style. As long as they don't look vulgar. If you think hiding your insecurities will make them go away is not healthy. Shitty people will point out your flaws even if you are wearing a niqab. Modesty is cultural too. Also men can also dress in a vulgar way.
Agreed
I love your expression at 1:15... like you're about to get in big trouble...😉
Sweet Harmony It IS a dangerous thing these days to suggest that we should dress modestly. You could offend someone! 😡
Hey sweet harmony carolyn from HHL here also watching !!!!!! Great minds watch and think alike !!!! I have great problems in the uk to find feminine modest acceptable clothing that isnt horrible and ugly any ideas x
@@carolynx9126 you can find modest clothing on online shops try modanisa, it's has muslim clothing but there are also some clothes any woman can wear i know it's hard to find modest clothes nowadays i hope you'll find suitable clothes for you :) good luck
Started my modest journey a year ago. I’m so grateful that He set that seed in my heart. I dressed so immodestly for years and modesty is just so awesome.
*The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it's just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing does not influence bad actions, character does.*
@Flow :0 *There are 2 types: Spiritual and physical. Spiritual modesty is real, physical modesty is man made garbage 🗑.*
@Sanyog Patial *What are you saying?*
@@starhunter9085 Man, unlike other animals, was created nude, because (s)he has a brain to invent and create his clothes. Man is an unachieved creature - a project, not a fact. Animals are perfect because there is nothing about them that they should be and that they aren’t already. But humans live in an imperative mood of “shouldness”m perpetual self-definitiin, self-determination and self-building. This is the challenge of being a human - one can be either a god or a devil. Never just an innocent animal.
@@Soundofmusic777 *Man was created nude because we were perfect that way. Our bodies are a symbol of the masterful creation of our God just as the Bible tells us when it says we're "fearfully and wonderfully made". We've lost sight of that due to sin but the truth (God's truth) remains the same. Our bodies are the image of God so when you say showcasing the body is shameful, you're saying that showcasing His image is shameful.*
I find your hair immodestly beautiful. You might want to cut it.
Hilarious!
Lol!
Lol I can go out displaying my body and i don't care at all about people assessing my body.
Go ahead.
@@anyapi987 thanks
Melissa , if you knew what REALLY goes on in men’s minds you would care believe me.
@@noellealyagout1669 trust me I KNOW. and trust me, I DONT CARE.
@Paddy234 I advocate STRONGLY for all humans having intrinsic value. Nothing can take away from a person's value. Not even our naked bodies. I have dignity walking around naked and having sex with whoever I choose whenever they enthusiastically consent and are of age. That will NEVER take away from my value. Everyone is worthy of respect no matter who they are or what they do or what kind of sickness they may have. That will never take away from them deserving of respect. Whether or not I decide to be monogamous doesn't take away from my value.
I disagree with the idea of someone having earned your modesty. No one is owed your vulnerability that is a choice of the person not an expectation of the receiver. No matter how much they love you, your body and character is your own never theirs. You can never earn someone.
I mean your acting like boyfriend jeans and loose cut jeans don't exist, and like they aren't pretty popular. You also totally ignored when super skinny jeans were popular for men. Slim fit shirts also do a pretty good job of revealing what men look like. There is an obvious lack of knowledge of fashion here. Both for woman's and men's fashion. Also what information are you giving out when you are modestly vs modestly dressed? How you might look like naked? Is that what you are getting at here? That someone could guess what you look like naked and use that against you? I'm genuinely confused by what you are getting at here.
Thank you! The normalization of the average body should be a thing too.
You should rewatch the video and look at the comments. You're missing all his points.
I find that a lot of what is trendy now is about comfy baggy unisex clothing and that's actually what I love about fashion trends now...
You can find all types of clothes, very short tight stuff that looks like lingerie or just huge sweaters
As a girl though, I disagree with this video. I’m Christian and live in a Christian home. Skinny jeans are normal, just as normal as a guy wearing jeans. It’s all about what you’re comfortable in. If someone tried to stuff me in a big dress, i would be literally so uncomfortable and I’d never forgive them for it. I love dark ripped skinny jeans, especially because I play punk music, its just my style. I also wear a lot of boys clothes, so what? Does that make me any less of a female? No. Grow up, this isn’t the 1600s.
It’s not about what you’re comfortable in and men’s jeans and women’s jeans are diffrent
@@memesfeast7688 the only thing men and women's jeans have is the built on the crotch. both, women and men's fashion have baggy, standard straight leg and skinny super tight jeans.
You are a Christian who listens to punk.
Im a Christian who gave up rock and punk because it doesnt glorify my God nor does it give me fulfillment.
My point is what you choose to do as a Christian says more about you, not your religion or God, so saying you're a Christian but you do this and that is completely irrelevant
@@aboveaveragejane3126 rock and punk are just genres, there is a lot of types of it. look at skillet, they arr christian band, though not christian like me can enjoy them too because they lyrics can be interpreted without involving religion in it. tons of rock and punk music talks about freedom, justice, love. or simply tells a story or a legend in the form of song, it's not a " satanic evil music". insinuating someone is not as good christian as you because they like a certain music genre is ridiculous.
@@nessyness5447 You didnt understand my comment, I suggest you reread.
I listen to skillet, and I intend on playing electric guitar. Ofc I know those things dont make me satanic nor would the music I play be satanic.
My point is, because you're a Christian that does caz, doesn't make you a prototype Christian. It doesnt mean that what you're doing represents christianity or God.
I love this so much! I've always dressed in what most Catholics would see as "modest" (no sleeveless shirts/dresses or tank tops, no short shorts of short skirts, leggings aren't pants, etc.), but over the past year I've really started to pay a lot more attention to what I wear and have really ramped up that self-awareness, and ever since then I have been a huge advocate for dressing modestly! At this point in time, I always wear long skirts, long sleeved shirts, dresses, and I always cover my hair. If I do wear pants, they're VERY loose. You know those soft flowey pants? Those ones. Nothing that would show off my figure. I was never the type of person to wear makeup all the time in the first place, so that wasn't really an issue for me. I do wear makeup for special events and business stuff, but other than that I pretty much go bare-faced all the time. And I also emphasize that modesty is a lifestyle, not just a dress code. I really try to prescribe to the idea of the "Marian modesty" movement.
All of a sudden modesty doesn't apply to your hairdo 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ whatever
When I was a police officer i wore a fitted, tailored uniform everyday. By wearing this uniform i was not giving away too much information.... I was wearing a Fitted uniform to show I had a commitment to being neat, healthy, and structured in appearance. Why do we allow these passive pathetic men to give opinion on subjects they obviously know nothing about? Wake up people..
It sucks that the people who really need to hear this, would never click on this kind of video. -.-
People who initially disagree with the idea from the thumbnail and then almost don’t watch the video because they see it’s from some kind of christian channel? Here
We're just not fond of people telling us what to do with our bodies because we don't even share the same values as you and therefore wouldn't waste my time watching.
@@Alsyoutubeaccount the way he talks about grooming, brushing your hair and doing make up makes me think, that he has the same reacton to those things as I have when ever I see posts about bible study: whyyy??
@@thatvampigoddess926 So why did you watch anyway?
Great video. Btw we’re “equal” in the sense that we’re complementary... men and women complete each other.
But they can also be gay...
Maybe, it’s not really relevant. The majority of men and women need reassurance and a guiding principle to bring peace in these divisive days.
9:45 Womens jeans leave nothing to the imagination? This boi has NEVER seen youth leaders in skinny jeans then 😂😂😂
Exceptions to the rule only reinforce the rule. And I prefer *skaterboi if you will.
I usually wear a jacket, or cardigan to cover my butt. (If I'm wearing skinnies) Or I choose a straight leg jean that doesn't show too much of the figure.
@@BrianHoldsworth You’re a fraud.
please post your study about men vs women when it came to the 75% vs 0%. I would love to see that.
I don't honestly agree with you, but I don't dislike you. I think your ideology is flawed and poorly researched. I think it's emotionally driven.
I don't think *you're* honestly modest, which makes this whole thing odd to me. You put on godly music in your opening, giving me the impression that you believe that you have some sort of spiritual authority though you claim not to have a moral one (directly pointing out that you're trying to empower me in some way in the next sentence - you have no empowerment to give me). Having said that it doesn't bother me in the ways you're assuming it would. I don't think you're awful, just flawed. Everyone is.
I'm a woman. A well liked one that is in a great marriage to the person I chose to explore sex with. I am not a feminist because I think the ideology is flawed, but I am a person that enjoys a great amount of respect from my peers and seniors.
I'm happily secure, but I am not overly interested in my appearance. I'll wear the same outfit I would wear around the house that I would wear out. I love art, so I choose colors I find appealing to me and shapes I find appealing on my body while maintaining comfort. I groom myself for hygiene. I don't wear makeup, don't shave, and don't wear perfume. Because I'm confident I am very well liked and often flirted with. I think that's very nice even though I have no temptation.
I have a great body. It does what I need it to do. People giving me compliments on my body doesn't bug me. I loved it when I was overweight, I love it now that I'm fit.
I don't care if people love or don't love me beyond my spouse and friends. I love me just fine, and that's all that matters at the end. I am open. I am honest. I give very open access to my life on an information level though I am not someone that enjoys physical communication. None of this has hindered me. I've been praised for my emotional intelligence.
I think you are looking for purity of body and mind, but you display a lot of sexualization and implications that a woman is only valued for certain aspects. I believe your views are not pure, and that doesn't bother me, because sexuality is great. I just think you're projecting your list on to others instead of acknowledging that it's okay to be horned up, and your arousal is your responsibility.
What about someone like me? I found a spouse that sought out a dominant partner. I'm well educated, participate in charity, I follow an ethical code, and my appearance doesn't matter to me in the way it seems to matter to you. How I see me matters to me, how my partner sees me matters to me, but I don't see any need to hide who I am, including flaws. I am not as vulnerable as you seem to be. I'm not meek or weak.
I wear pants and I have a physical job because I like it. I educate myself because I enjoy evidence based science, peer review, and I am particularly passionate about philosophy and questioning.
No I don't walk around in a bra or halter top because *I* don't like the way it looks on me (for me, I don't care if anyone else feels that way), but I would feel fine in a nudist colony because this is my body and I was born with it.
I acknowledge that there are clothing standards in the legal and communal sense socially and I will wear buisnes attire to a business related event, but I think you're taking it to another level that I find to not only be silly, but overly complicated.
Wear what you think is appropriate, not what other people want you to wear.
What if someone does want casual sex? Let them dress to attract it. Their sex isn't your business. You aren't God.
What if someone wants to dress sexually because they love the way their body looks in those clothes? Again, not your business. That person either has learned or will learn to turn down advances they aren't interested in.
I think your idea of how people need to be tells me more about how you view the world than it tells me about the world itself. I have the impression that you are very interested in sex, but that you view that as a bad thing.
I think being sexually irresponsible is in poor choice, but I absolutely love sex and am not ashamed of it.
I hope for you that one day you'll be comfortable when a pretty girl arouses you and you won't see it as anything but human nature. I hope one day you won't blame the girl, and that you'll acknowledge that no matter what someone wears sex appeal will always come through for some people.
Your comment was all about you as evidenced by your use of the pronoun "I" which you used seventy (70) times to compliment your own character and appearance and performance which is conceited and the antonym of modesty.
@@faymikiska7519 I worked hard on being someone I can be proud of. I don't need to live in shame about who I am. Is that what you want?
My comments are about me because I can speak on myself best and I feel that I'm a strong example here. I was raised in an extremely religious household and am familiar with this.
I can only speak from my point of view. You can only speak from yours. That proves nothing but our own self awareness.
I don't understand how having the self confidence to want a better healthier life than the one suggested here *with statistics that are not sourced* is negative.
Well. This was his opinion. And of course why would someone who enjoys casual sex even watch this video about dressing modestly. You can't really dictate others what to wear but you can make them think about it. There are unbelievers who dress modestly at the same time as believers who don't care at all. No one can judge others by Christian standards, whatever their beliefs might be.
Every human being should learn how to control themselves, and it is totally normal that we as people find someone else sexually attractive.
I do agree that it takes more than clothes, it's also charisma of the person. Overall I think you misunderstood him. Sorry, but it's funny that you wrote such a long post praising yourself😅. Kinda missed a point of doing that.
www.sciencefriday.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/04/gender-differences-in-receptivity-to-sexual-offers.pdf I think it’s referring to this study, there’s quite a few like it. It was really quite a famous study
There’s also this one from 2013, one of the same researchers I believe worked on this study as well www.researchgate.net/publication/274130223_Gender_Differences_in_Receptivity_to_Sexual_Offers_A_New_Research_Prototype
@@faymikiska7519 It sounds the wrong way about, but using 'I' phrases rather than 'You' phrases actually tends to indicate a less narcissistic personality.
We are responsible for our own thoughts. I don’t make you think something by what I wear. That’s all you my friend. The bigger issue here here is we need to stop caring what another thinks about us. Stop trying to have everybody love you. That is impossible and its way to much work. If I could tell my younger self one thing it would be “accept yourself, love yourself” and a second thing “be kind to others”. That’s what has taken me my life thus far to understand. I wasted so much time trying to fit a mold not made for me. Dress modestly sounds good but its just another tool to fit in to yet another mold not made for you unless you are doing it for you and not another person. The POWER is not in clothing its in self acceptance.
The only way you're informed that a woman is feminine is by how she dresses?
I consider myself to be a modest dresser as its in my nature, but to link modesty (dresses only, going by the montage at the end of the video) to vulnerability is a bit... misleading.
lavinder11 I was once in an airport where two teenage girls were traveling with their family. These girls were scantily dressed in short shorts and revealing tops; and two airport maintenance workers were watching everything these girls did. Their father was completely unaware. This is a very good reason to dress modestly. It can invite unwanted attention.
@@SteviePaints yeah, and I was walking down 5th Avenue as schools were being let out. These teenaged girls were wearing skirt uniforms down to their knees and men were still looking at them because they were little girls.
I don't agree with people wearing revealing clothing, but even so, your response didn't answer the question I posed.
@@SteviePaints Yet when I was 14, wearing just jeans and a hoodie, a man shouted out his car window calling me a slut
When I was 16, wearing a long sleeve high cut shirt, a classmate 3 years older than me would grope me. He told me I should appreciate the attention because noone else would give it to me
I've dressed 'modestly' all my life because of insecurities and believe me, I wish it stopped unwanted attention, but it doesn't.
@@Jordan-db2og i think this is why the problem is the perverts and child molesters not the way were dressing ultimately. Without them we could dress however and it wouldnt be a problem for people to "get information from us" by the way we dress/look.
@@SteviePaints Please don't make women responsible for the sins of men. That's how you end up with burkhas.
I'm pushing 50. I regret all the years I didn't value my dignity and worth as a woman by wearing tight fitting clothes. I was honestly looking for a husband. I wanted to be a wife and mother so desperately that I thought tight clothing would expedite the process. Guess what....it didn't!! I got married at 32. Still got married later in life. I met my husband later than most. Moral of the story. Keep it classy ladies!
So getting married early is the definition of success in life according to you?
@@malgorzatawojtys9846 depends. There are men who like modest women as there are women who like modest men.
I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this. For women's pants though-I wear many different cuts of pants including a loose and flattering cut of "boyfriend" jeans, tailored flowy pants that give room around the legs but still look polished, as well as wide pants that conceal what my leg shape is really well :) I feel like there is a TON of options readily available in the degree of fitting and looseness, as well as shape of pants for women right now.
To be clear I love the Lord, I have always had a strong relationship with God. Some of my outfit choices you would consider immodest, some you would consider Modest. I dress for me. I wear what I feel good in, not for attention. I don't judge how others dress. There is no humanly possible way to truly know what is happening in a persons heart. I am happily married and if I want to wear a tight dress and heels, on a date with my man because it makes me feel pretty, I will. Regardless of other's feelings on it. To sum it all up, don't judge people on their outfit choice, you don't know why they chose it and treat everyone the way you would want to be treated. Ladies wear whatever you feel confident in because you are beautiful and disregard others judgments. Also I love skinny jeans, I'm tiny and petite and baggy pants make me look like a little boy, I'm a woman who loves my body and just because someone can imagine what I look like underneath gives them absolutely NO POWER over me. I know my identity in God, I know who I am, and thats all that matters.
You say you love the Lord. You say that you’ve always had a strong relationship with the Lord. So I would consider it appropriate to assume that you also believe in God’s word (the bible). You say you will wear what you want because it makes you feel good. You encourage others to wear whatsoever they desire as long as it makes them feel good. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is contrary to what the bible says. Nowhere, at anytime, ever did the bible say this. God has a way for women to dress and it wasn’t according to how they felt or how it made them feel. In fact, the bible wasn’t written for us to feel good. It was written for us to obey. The bible is against our flesh and what we want to do. (Romans 8:1-13 and Galations 16-18) What you are telling people is erroneous. Jesus said if you love me, keep my commandments. I dont mean this with any disrespect or centempt. I say this in love and am trying to correct that which is crooked.
@@shibumiserum Hi. Please do not be offended. You may find it useful to know that the spelling 'where' is for when you are talking about location, for example, "Where are my car keys?" When we are talking about things we put on, like clothing, the spelling we need is 'wear'. I hope this information will be useful to you. I know it sounds like the same word but it is not. All the best.
Sarah Strong You’re right. These homophones, man.🤦🏿♂️
Ok don't be so sure sister, because the Bible says in 1 thesalon 5--23- 24....your spirit , soul and your body must be saint. Even your body.
@Rocko Doyle Too bad that Jesus wasn't a girl. All these discussions would have been solved out long time ago.
Thanks for mansplaining why I should wear dresses. How about you watch your own bobber k?
I respect your opinion and approach and I like how thoughtful you seem. I have nothing against people who choose to dress modestly, and I myself subconsciously do it most of the time bc I like the physical comfort of not so formfitting clothes!
BUT...
Still there are a couple of problems with your train of thought, I think!
Is it not just another way to think of your outer appearance in a too emphasised way if you think of revealing clothing as a revealing your soul and make yourself vulnerable? I agree that your outer self shows your inner self to some degree but I think most people spend too much time thinking about their outer self and not who they are insight. And by focusing on what you wear, you kind of nourish this way of thinking! I think we as a society should learn to put less emphasis on our outer appearance, starting with ourselves! And i don’t think there is equality in people judging others purely by what they choose to wear and condemn them for it!
Another thought is, that in cultures where it’s more common for woman to dress „modestly“ there is not less harassment or other violence against women, so it’s not really true what you say that this way of dressing safes you as a woman!
What alternate reality are all of you people living in? Why do you care so much about how others dress? I completely respect your decision to dress however you want to, but to pretend that dressing a certain way has moral implications is just stupidly ridiculous. Please, consider that society has progressed to the point of letting women express themselves in any way, and maybe even try to understand that that is a good thing
Women should dress sexy. It’s usully unattractive women and men who want to tell women how to dress lol
I agree that strangers first assumptions about us is also made through our clothing style and that women should be as confortable as men in public. And women and men have different body types and shapes, and the fashion for women is often more revealing than mens fashion.
Men also often have a physical advantage over women and should not pressure for anything the women does not want.
But i do not agree with your take on modesty.
Firstly how you dress does not give real knowledge about you away. It gives just other people something to make assumptions about you based on your clothing. And they can make hurtful remarks about you no matter how you dress, even if you dress modestly.
But they do not get any knowledge about who you really are on the inside just by what you wear. They can not know your character, feeling or thoughts just by looking at you. Just because you show more skin does not mean a strager suddenly knows more about you than when you show less skin.
Just because i wear an tank top and you a shirt does not mean a stranger would know more about me than about you.
And fun fact about jeans fashion: there are skinny jeans for men also, and jeans styles like boyfriend jeans for women. And do you know how comfortable leggins are?! I am sincerely sorry that they are not fashionable for men also.
And if i decided to wear mens clothing(which i btw do sometimes), i would be still as feminine as i am in a dress. And i love pants and jeans. They are confortable and practical.
And what do you think women should wear? You never specifically said. You just showed pictures of some dresses. Some are kind of pretty, other i would only use as scrap fabric for upcyciling, sewing new items or to give to a theatre.
And what do you mean with "there is no sinful clothing/people should not be admonished for their clothing style... EVEN IF THAT IS TRUE"!? You said yourself that you have no moral authority and that the moral authority never defined modesty. But you still act like a moral authority.
I hope this makes some people think and was a constructive, helpfus criticism and not too much of a anger rant.
Modesty is a beautiful quality to have it defines one as a serious woman
And a god fearing woman .
And one that does not want to make any man stumble .
I love dressing modestly.
You can dress modest ,and really be beautiful .
Great you did this video .
I respect modest women from the bottom of my heart.
Make a man stumble?, I dress modest for myself, not because of men or a ‘god’.
...make a man stumble???? Please expound.
A man's thoughts and actions are his own responsibility. If he's thinking horrible things about another person based on clothing choices, or he does something unacceptable based on someone else's clothing, that is his own fault. If I were naked and a man came upon me it would be HIS responsibility to NOT RAPE ME. Putting the responsibility for men's actions on women is so messed up.
If a man stumbles, it's his own fault. He chose to do something wrong, whether that be to rape, molest, catcall, seduce, etc, another person.
FYI, women who are totally covered still get raped.
You can dress how you please and that is awesome. But do not do it for the men around you. You'd deserve respect regardless of your clothing. And god wouldn't love you any less whatever you wore.
I like dressing modestly but I'm not religious It just makes me comfortable and happiest.
Dress how you want 🤷🏼♀️ modest or immodest
Stella van Lambalgen Watch the video fully he doesn’t discriminate about how they dress, the just explains why some people dress modestly.
Brian, you look very Norse, very Viking, you know. Have you any Scandinavian, Irish or Scotch blood?
@Hugh Neek What a ridiculous question...
The Vikings had *Brian Holdsworth* blood.
He definitely has a mixture of British blood in him, Irish, Scottish, Welsh, some Saxon for sure and some Viking. But I'm sure most Americans do
He’s Canadian.
Yes... Scottish, English, and Irish. 🙂
@@BrianHoldsworth
So I was right, the name Holdsworth is I believe, originally Anglo Saxon in origin.
It really pisses me off the double standards in youtube's comment section.when a middle eastern dark skinned guy ask girls to dress modestly people can't save a degrading word against him. However when a white good looking guy say the same, he is wise, caring and insightful.
Its nuts
I wish weddings could go back to covered up shoulders. I hate all the bare shoulders on brides.
Agree especially in the church!! think it's kind of disrespectful (even as a muslim) that people don't cover up more in Gods house and in a place of worship.
Strange... I never see brides with shoulders uncovered in any wedding I've been to. Goes to show how different communities have different standards I guess.
@@user-ck7tg1dq9y True, I'm actually from Sweden so the protestant church isn't as conservative when it comes to modesty.
@@user-ck7tg1dq9y if you watch "say yes to the dress" or wedding videos on youtube, 95% of the brides and bridesmaids have bare shoulders.
Because you see my collarbone DOES NOT GIVE YOU POWER. I HAVE THE POWER. And if people mock, objectify, judge me, THEY ARE THE PROBLEM.
Period.
People are so beautiful, especially when they are proud of their selves. Pride can be healthy. However, I see that you are equating modest dressing with modest personalities, and that in itself is a logical fallacy. There are different levels of conditioning that we get used to due to limited group of people we are exposed to on a regular basis. If you are spending all of your time with like-minded, modestly-dressed people -- I suppose I can see how you would develop this false narrative. What you are describing is hurtful judgement, based solely on someone's anecdotal experiences. People who do this are actually the ones who must grow and change, not those who are comfortable in their bodies, and expressing some creativity through their appearance. Maybe spend some more time with people outside of your realm of comfort. Really get to know those people, and try to learn from them. You will realize that life is even more complex and -- as you say -- nuanced than these judgements that you are allowing yourself to perpetuate.
He pretty consistently takes modesty to be both inward and outward. I would watch the video again.
What do you mean “we all” hate it when someone acts immodest? Who is we all? You? Everyone’s definition of modest is different and by no means do we all hate the same things happening. Hopefully the rest of the video contains some facts lol.
Well, obviously not you. Why are you even watching this video?
Pancake Circus well I was hoping to hear some intelligent and well presented discourse on modesty! I definitely think there are many great reasons to choose to dress modestly. It can be very empowering. But instead of taking advantage of an opportunity to explore these concepts this man went for a shockingly childish “we all hate grandiose behavior” route and I was very disappointed
If you go back and listen to that potion of the video, you will find that he said everyone has a different standard of modesty at the point that standard becomes breached, they then become socially uncomfortable with that person modesty.
@@bemydinosaur13 his opinion, his channel. And he's getting a lot if interested visitors, which earns him money. Looks like anything that offends has a huge draw! How much is youtube paying you?
@@dogie1070 good try dodging my point by steering the conversation to a new topic, I don't care about his financials, and RUclips isn't my job or my goal job. Not sure who you think is offended since I've already mentioned that I'm a modesty fan. I'm just embarassed that he's representing this viewpoint so childishly
Eleanor Roosevelt said "No one can make you feel inferior without your permission." I don't care what others think of me as much as I care what I think about myself. I have also found that those others are very busy worrying what others think of them to care much about how I am dressed. I dress to do my job effectively. I am clean and smart. My style of dress reflects that.
Megan Potter that sounds modest to me 💪🏻
This is the best comment here. If somebody has the time to think about these standards, it's their decision and their time that's being used. You decide yourself that you don't care about them and then you feel free to wear whatever you wish. And honestly, we are here on earth to pretty much mind our own business so no one has actually any reason or right to say anything about the way you dress. That's just true.
I remember hearing that quote in a Barbie movie once 😂
I I I I I I I I I I I.
That’s your prefered letter , I.
Quit this egoistic, narcissistic approach to life.
@@sleepypanda9374 princess diaries, too!
Wow. Dude, this is the most lucid exploration on the subject of modesty (and how it relates to feminism) that I’ve ever seen. Bravo, and thank you. Subscribed!
This is inspiring as a teen in today’s world. People dress and express their style which is beautiful... but at the same time I’m not opposed to a dress code because there would be less judgement and pressure. It made me tear up when you talked about the fact that we are vulnerable with people we love, and that a man should earn that trust you give him with your body only after showing love and commitment. I believe in purity. Modesty to me is about honoring my husband, wherever he may be and whenever he will come into my life. I also cried at the end, when you pointed out the fact that we have been trying to make men and women equal but have done exactly the opposite.
I cannot stand immodest people who brag and want to one-up others. That is an unkindness of the spirit...which has NOTHING, zip, zero to do with people who dress "immodestly" (whatever that means to you). I don't even see how you can draw a parallel between the two.
BTW, is that a crusader's helmet in the background? Based on the bloody history of the crusades, you must realize how chilling that would be to a lot of people.
So what kind of power would someone have over me if they saw me in a summer dress vs a long more modest maxi-dress? That I'm a woman and have a 10th of their strength on my best day? That despite my modest dress I still can't get away from anyone that wants to hurt me?
Clothing is a form of communication. You're telling people how you expect them to see you and treat you.
Absolutely right
Shouldn't you guys be preaching "treat others how you would want to be treated"? What should clothing have to do with it?
People should be treated with the same amount of respect naked or dressed. Gymnophobia needs to go, just as racism, sexism and homophobia does.
I recently heard Andrew Klavan predict a future "Victorian" resurgence. So refreshing to hear and hope for. Loved your add.
Modesty is important for both women and men. Both genders can be a distraction to the opposite sex if they are immodest.
You dress how you like and let other people dress how they like. Everyone is different. Every culture is different. Stop judging people based on what you want for yourself.
thank you, this is what i needed to hear. i’m on a spiritual journey after struggling with borderline personality disorder and an eating disorder. i struggled with my body image and how i wanted to be perceived . i never felt comfortable wearing revealing clothes but i felt that was the only way to be seen as desirable/attractive. i thought being able to dress revealing was equality but i’ve never felt more in control and confident until i started dressing modestly.
So good to get a man's perspective. I am going to talk about this over on my channel soon as well. The Lord has really worked in my heart on this matter, and has caused me to feel shame for not being more reverent in this area. He is good though and has not condemned me, but instead taught me His ways.
God brings us into the world naked and says it is 'very good'. Satan created modesty and body shame.
One of the best explanations on modesty I’ve ever heard. Thank you for that 🙏🏻 Also liked the shirt change at the end of the video! 😆
“As a man, I can go out in public and not feel overly concerned or insecure about strangers assessing and judging my body because my clothing doesn’t give much away.” This is where I began to disagree with you. While I agree and respect that dressing modestly can be very empowering for many people, I have to disagree that this is what we should consider to be worthy of respect. Respect should be given by the content of one’s character, not by how they choose to present themselves. Honestly, I feel like this video is a roundabout way of shaming people, particularly women, for choosing to express themselves in a way that has (for once) not been approved by men first. Clothing is a form of personal expression. If dressing “modestly” is how someone wants to express their values, there is absolutely nothing stopping them and more power to them. But a person who chooses to dress in a way that you don’t consider to be modest is still worthy of respect and being treated with human decency. Men have been setting the standard for how women should dress for centuries and it seems that recently women are starting to dress how they want regardless of a man approves of it or not and I find that just as empowering as dressing modestly. The truth of the matter is, it does not matter what a woman is wearing, we will always feel unsafe around a stranger who makes sexual advances toward us because woman wearing a number of different outfits have been victims of assault. Whether she wears a crop top, short shorts, long sleeve blouse, long skirt, loosely-fitted dress, or even a burqa she is still at risk for being a victim. How is this something a woman can change? She can’t. Even with a feeling of empowerment in wearing modest clothes, we still have to be on guard. You also deliver facts but draw to your own conclusion without addressing the others. I read up on the study you mentioned, (Gender Differences in Receptivity to Sexual Offers, University of Hawaii at Manoa) and both men and women who were observed claimed they felt unsafe sleeping with a stranger, regardless of how many men said they would accept the offer. In reality, this study just highlights the scary reality of date rape culture, which is a completely different issue pertaining to both men and women and has nothing to do with how they are dressed. You only chose to cherry pick the fact that the women didn’t feel comfortable doing it to make your audience feel that it is only women who are in danger and must actively do something to change. Your intention to single women out is highlighted by the point you made about men’s fashion being more conventionally modest and women’s fashion “leaving nothing to the imagination.” Perhaps women should not be seen as objects of a man’s imagination but as equal human beings worthy of respect and the right to wear what they want, modest or “immodest.” I’m not writing this comment to say that your opinion is wrong or that modesty is bad. I can see that a lot of people in this comment section have found peace in their lives by dressing modestly, and to that I say amen. But I feel that some of your points could have been made without making it seem that people who choose to dress differently should expect to be negatively assessed and judged by others. We should be teaching people that respect is how we wish to be treated by others, not by how we assume their character is based off of how they are dressed. Everyone should be afforded the same human decency.
I was hoping that he would addressed men's fashion more, too. I could have also done without the music, also.
C G Your replies in this coment section are gibing me the capacity to sleep this night. I’m feling very disturbed to by this situation.
Completely agree, thank you for your courage to speak up and post this online 😋
Great comment! Everyone deserves respect.
Thanks you, luckily you're here.
This video is straight damaging propaganda and I'm only 39 seconds in 0.0