So basically everyone regrets having studied too hard or not hard enough. Having enjoyed the high school life too much or too little. This is very comforting because I could see that if I didn't have my regrets, I'd have others. So it's all good! We were all doing the best we could with what we knew. High school may seem easy but it's actually a very complex phase because we're forced into a little society and we don't have a strong sense of self yet. Let's just focus on being authentic now and making the best choices we can for our present 🌻
@@iamme25yagoThis makes you unique, and special. Math isn’t an easy thing. It doesn’t come “naturally” to a lot of people, and I’d say most don’t enjoy it because it’s so complex and complicated. So, from what you’re saying, I really really hope you’re doing something with it! ….And I’m super curious what you do/want to do?! 🩵👏
High school is such shallow water. And we’ve made it so important, this artificial complex little society. I feel bad for the kids I work around. There’s so much out there, and they seem completely unaware.
I regret that the only thing I can remember from graduation from high school is my mom, looking wistfully at the kids who were honor students, and saying, “I wish you’d been one of those kids.” I just felt so depressed. I was the first of my family to graduate from high school. I was so proud of myself. Until then. I still want to hear her say she’s proud of me. Now, she’s gone and it’s too late. Parents, tell your kids you’re proud of them. That’s what you want them to remember.
@@SongbirdCollageArts I’m sorry I just got notified there were responses! I’m so so sorry this happened. As the other poster replied, be proud of yourself. YOU accomplished it! I’M proud of you! And myself!
I had a friend who I hung out with from grades seven through high school. He was like a soulmate to me. But we were 'just friends'. In grade 11 he asked me to go to a wedding with him and I had just started dating someone else. I wish I had said yes and then seen where that stream of my life would have taken me. He was such a good friend and we shared so much together. We are so short-sighted when we're young. I'm in my sixties now and when I tried to look him up and find out what happened to him, I found out he had died at 38. Regrets! He was a special man even as a boy.
@@FallenAngel9979I am still searching to find out. Ancestry shows his years. I emailed the name overseeing that account twice. No response. I've researched newspapers. Googled his name. Searched funeral home obits too. All the relatives I knew he had are passed. I won't give up until I know. Next I'll go to the Ref librarian to see what they recommend. If all else fails, I'll pay the government service to get his death certificate. Thanks for asking.
My family was extremely strict growing up, so going out and dating was not a possibility. We had all AP courses, so it kept us busy anyway. Bullying had my sister and I keeping to ourselves most times. Hanging out with newfound friends wasn't a thing either because of trust issues and my parents being protective - honestly though, with future revelations rightly so. Either way, when my twin sister and I were Freshmen, there was a boy named Matt in his Junior year. He was so friendly to us both, handsome and sort of like the sun that starved flowers tend to stretch towards. After him, the bullying stopped because his popularity gave him quite the respect of the teenagers around us, and he used that to look out for my sister and I. He was impossible not to love, platonically or romantically, Matt was someone who made us feel welcome while enduring such a rough transition period in life. For months, Matt introduced us to his friend group and the AP teachers, greeting us both daily with fiercely warm hugs and a ready smile. As the seasons changed and headed towards Christmas, his diligence in asking my sister out only grew stronger, until he'd finally managed to convince her to give it a chance. Matt made plans to talk to my parents and start things off the proper way. I remember our last meeting so vividly. The 3 of us had a class together at the end of the day, it was slightly overcast but the air was wet and cold; strange for a Florida winter. Matt came into class wearing his leather jacket, a freshly shaved bald head, and his signature dimpled smile. He flirted with my sister all period while she desperately tried to take down notes, even got into trouble by the teacher. The thing is, he was just so damn charming that he always got out of trouble. The guy was hilarious, he would get us to laugh and the blame would pass onto us or someone else. Towards the end of the class though, Matt got real serious. He told my sister that he was going all in with this, and that he wasn't going to give up. He kissed her forehead and then gave me a big bear hug. Right before leaving he spun around and told us that he couldn't wait to give us both the gifts he'd gotten, that it had taken forever to think of what to do but that he'd figured it out and we would never forget it. He was excited to speak with my parents too, and told us it would go well, that there was nothing to worry about. After blowing air kisses to us Matt left, dimpled smile and all. Later that evening, my family was all in our living room. My dad was preparing for work, my sisters and I working on getting ready for orchestra practice, and my brother running around the couches. The news was on carrying the perfect background noise. I was putting on my socks when the news anchor mentioned an accident with a student from our school. A drunk driver hit a motorcyclist at a red light. My sister and I both looked up nervous. The woman continued to give small details, never giving much away about the person hurt. It wasn't until Matt's photo popped up that we both broke down. To this day I wish I'd been more bold. I wish I'd have been less afraid of rejection by peers and my family and that we had hung out all the times he asked us to. I wish that we had gone out to eat with him and his friends every time he asked. I wish that we had gotten to see him the next day so that my sister and I could surprise him with our gifts and laugh as he tore through the wrapping. I wish that Matt hadn't had to work that day that had him at the light. I wish that the world got to experience what a wonder of a person he was. There are so many regrets in my soul when it comes to Matt, but the biggest will always be not acting during the moments that seemed insignificant. The ones that would have let Matt know how much I cared for him like a brother.
Some people are put in this world to bring such light to others. Please,. don't feel guilty you were acting like many other teenagers. I'm sure you both brought joy and purpose and dreams to him.
I regret not telling anyone when I was assaulted. I feel like I could have processed way sooner in life and things would have been better. Now I am 40 and trying to fix the mess I became.
oh dear,same am 23yrs and ti happened when i was 14. I have had a rough time,i hated people and became so bitter, i know you understand how pitch dark that hole is and how tight that shoe is,,,i moved out two years ago and few days ago my mom found my journal.i used to write about it alot,am sure she isn't in a good place especially now that we haven't talked about it. Unfortunately am not really ready to do it.But emotionally i guess am fine i just wouldn't like digging it up
Your timing is perfect. It’s your personal journey and when I spoke out about it the news spread like wild fire and it was like I was the odd one out in my family. I kind of wish I waited but then again it wouldn’t have brought me to where I am today. So be kind to yourself and don’t regret anything because it was never your fault!
Be gentle with yourself ❤ I know it's hard but imagine yourself as your best friend and how you would comfort your best friend. Your journey is unique to you and you are going to be fine sweetheart ❤
I was very young when my brothers best friend did that, I swept it under a rug and now it's a shadow I can't escape.... Sending you hugs from South Africa 🤗💜🌻
The perfect summary of what her channel is about! Couldn't of phrased it better myself. I hope you all are having an amazing day☺️ Remember that it's completely ok to just exist. We are human beings, not human doings❤
I regret not being myself. My depression stole all my confidence. There were so many things I wanted to say, so many outfits I wanted to wear and so many people I wanted to talk to. I wish I could've talked back when I was mistreated, spoken my mind when I felt small and helped out other people who might've needed my help. I've been left feeling like arguments were never concluded because I was never able to say my part, I lost friends because I never told them when I was upset with them and I never went up to someone to try to befriend them. But oh well, I'm already 21 and my school life is over...
I'm sorry about that, i understand you, i also went through a tough time in highschool with mental health. Hope you manage to heal yourself and forgive yourself for all of that
@@lucindaneto2612 Thank you. It's a process; I'm still working on it. But I try not to take life too seriously anymore and live in the present more. Hope you are doing better as well.
I regret it too but I guess I just didn't know how to let the fears & doubts go. Nowadays I'm obviously working every day on doing what I can to not let negative thoughts get in my way.
you explained my feeling very well. this's also what I feel and going through from high school that I couldn't tell anyone. teenage depressed is so real and now I'm 23
The guy at the end is THE advice I was thinking the entire time. I tell the same thing to my niece all the time and remind her that the friends she's so worried about right now will most likely not be there for her when she's older.
When you're young you don't think so. They seem extremely important. Please don't say such things to young people, they won't understand anyways and it would only make them think that their feelings and problems are not important to you. Let them go through it, they'll understand later. And for now - just be there for them and support them, it's the best thing you can do:)
@@ВераЧукова-б7и I disagree, I get what you're saying but I wish I would have had someone say this to me. All the adults around me made me feel like those times of my life were so important, like they were the highlight of my life and if it didn't go perfect then the rest of my life would be terrible or suck. High school is not everything. It's a big part of our lives but it's definitely, most certainly not everything. And the people we meet in high school may or may not be there the rest of our lives so focusing so much of our time and energy on those people isn't worth it. While I don't regret the relationships that I formed in high school, I wish I would have focused more on learning and not worrying so much about what my peers thought of me. The clothes I wore, the way my hair fell out of place, the days I woke up late and didn't have time to do my makeup making the rest of my day miserable and I just tried to hide all day... nobody cared and I wish I had someone tell me that.
I regret letting my trauma get to me at that time. I couldn't study properly, had no real friends, and the faculty thought I was a lost cause. Thankfully I'm able to correct the academic mistakes now
I was abused horribly by my father and a member of my family. Because of my homelife my father forbid me to make friends or bring anyone around the house or to give out our telephone number. So, I kept myself distant from people because I knew it would be dangerous to be social. I regret not telling someone about the abuse and making friends.
I regret hanging with the wrong crowds, falling into a world of hard drugs and self harm etc. Those were the most painful years of my life. But at the same time, the only way through was through, I kind of "needed" to experience all this in order to get over it. I took a break from studying afterwards and just travelled (my parents supported me, that's my biggest chance). Went back to studying at 24 and even got a masters!
I regret no being more involved in school activities - sports, clubs, music etc. I also regret not being friends with people of diffrent races. However, the best thing about high school is that I have been married to my high school sweetheart for 31 years. Starting going out with her when we were 16 and 17. Been together every since. Our daughter just graduated high school. We supported every activity she wanted to indulge in. Now she is in college and we encourage her to spread he wings and meet interesting people. and travel.
At first I would say, I have no regrets in high school because I did my work, I had a few good friends and I was respectful. But when I think about it, my only regret was giving up on fluently learning Spanish. I allowed teachers and Latinos to discourage me. The Latinos and the African Americans would tell me that I am trying to be Latina because I want to become fluent in the language so I gave up. I finally got the balls to re-learn the language and become fluent three years ago. Now I will be getting my masters in Spanish Next year
I would have never thought that I would enjoy this channel so much, but I do. I learned a lot about myself watching this channel. I still have a hard time hugging people and saying ''I love you'', but, baby steps !!!...
I had a classmate in highschool who always had good grades and who I found annoying. There were a few moments where I said hurtful things to her, simply out of jealousy. It is not only my biggest highschool regret (more middle school, I was 10-12 years old or so), but my biggest life regret. I wish I could tell her how sorry I am.
I was in high school when it happened, but this is not directly associated with high school itself. My sister had been bugging me and teasing me one night and out of anger/annoyance I told her “You make me wish I were an only child” She was older than me and out of the house and she left to see a friend right after. She passed away that night and those were the last words I ever said to her.
I regret letting my parents own fears and isolating behavior rule me. In my eyes they weren’t just overprotective and strict, they were toxic and controlling and I felt like I had no control over my own life, I had no agency no will to love that was my own. They never hit me or kicked me out that type of cruelty, but i lived in intense and constant fear that making my own choices would result in their disappointment and disapproval and I would be punished emotionally. My parents told me not to trust people. They wouldn’t let me do things like hang out with friends And when I’d ask why they would say “because I said so”. That messed me up, because when I finally got to start making my own choices in college I was overwhelmed and was consumed by the anxiety that I didn’t know myself or my own body. My dad was toxic and controlling and my mom was just an extension of his ego. I know HS is such a small part of your life but I feel like I missed out on so much, and if I had felt alive for myself during those years I wouldn’t be so lost and struggling rn. And also I have so much anger and rage now because I never got to really experience those emotions then. I was the obedient and docile little doll creature my parents wanted me to be. Random anecdote about that time: when I was a junior I had to get my wisdom teeth out. It was the era where all those funny videos of kids after their wisdom teeth removal were all loopy and saying silly and dumb shit. I was so terrified of my parents that I was scared in my loopiness that I would accidentally admit I liked girls or something that big, I was scared that I would reveal my true self and be punished.
Ever think u might prefer girls b/c ur dad's ego was so overpowering? I figured out that that was my case. Didn't know if I liked men or women or y I liked them or not.
I wanted to type this My parents were like this to me and my twin sister. They still are. I'm struggling so much with my identity becoz of it I'm constantly being made fun of at work for not knowing certain things I was supposed to know at my big age (I'm 24). I hardly go out bcoz of it It's affecting me. But I'm trying to change that
I think that high school is one of the most highly concentrated collection of cruel people that we will encounter in our lives. There are too many socially unevolved people fighting their way through the pecking-order. I experienced both sides. The first couple of years, I had no friends. Junior and senior year, I was popular and it went to my head. In retrospect, I was running so desperately away from the pain of not being accepted that I became a sh**ty person. I wish that I had been a better person. The takeaway for me was how insidiously ego can poison your character when you're not paying attention. I am more careful with people now.
I regret not admitting my homosexuality at that time. I was terrified of what people would think. My circles were all evangelical christian conservatives so while I might have been in danger I feel I would have maybe even met someone who could have loved me at that time instead of waiting till my late 20s to start coming out.
I've gone thru many friends, and they always made me feel awkward if I ever talked about it. Until I met knew friends who, some r gay and others arent but they aren't afraid to joke about it, it's all normalised between us. Hope u find ur own supporters :)
as a conservative christian, I am so sorry if you actually really felt like your community endangered you. that is not how we are called to treat same-sex attracted people. I hope your encounters since with people like me have not been so hostile. take care
@@iamwinningrightnow I may have saved myself that but unlike everybody else I didn’t get a chance to know how to have a romantic relationship. It didn’t help me in the long run.
I wish to god it would have sunk into my brain in high school that it wasn't going to last forever because it always felt like hell for me. Just knowing that the world was so much bigger than my small little school would have saved me so much hardship.
I love the contrast in stories, what others regret, others don't. I feel like when you realise what could have been, one should be accepting of their past and present and love their younger self and embrace that they were young or they didn't know how not to be . I have no regrets
If you want to go to college go to college!!!! Yheres no age restriction and you can chose whatever you want to learn. Learn cooking or a language or touch up you math or whatever. Just go. Make it happin
I regret not standing up for myself, so now at 21 years old I’m working (slowly but still) on improving my confidence, trying to detach all the bad things bullies said about me and getting to know that I’m not that at all. So maybe in 5 or 10 years ahead I can say that I don’t really regret things in my early 20’s that everything was part of the learning and be so proud of how much I’ve worked to become who I really want to become. I want to be a person who my younger self would look with admiration and comfort
It is always fascinating how many people regret not taking their education more serious i know i do as well it just feels like theres so many doors out of reach because of the lack of trying when we had the chance
I had my daughter when I was a senior in high school and she is my world. I regret nothing because everything I did, the good and the bad, led me to having her. ❤
I regret not ending a toxic friendship sooner. I barely enjoyed high school because of that friendship. I was with them all the time instead of being with people that genuinely cared about my mental health and well-being. I'm still angry at myself for that and creating so much trauma. I hope someday i will be able to forgive myself.
I love how you create this contrast about topics, for example in this video by first showing someone who felt they didn't study hard enough and after that someone who suffered from anxiety etc because they studied too hard.
I regret that I missed the love of my life. I was a shy and introverted young man and she was a beautiful outgoing young woman and I wonder what my life would have turned out like had i realized that her love was real.
My biggest regret is not pushing through. I gave up, I quite when I was 14. I missed all the traditional High School things (and all the High School bullying). I never had a prom, I never earned any credits, I never walked the stage. I homes schooled, got my GED and said goodbye to school forever. Now, at 45, I sometimes think about going back to learn to be something better, but it's too late. I am the breadwinner now, and have no choice but to keep plodding away at work.
I love the people at the end because i feel like we're in such a minority. No, we dont want to go back to highschool. Leaving was the light at the end of the tunnel & personally was my escape from this hole of drugs, religious trauma, & becoming what i believed i could be. I didnt want to be like the people in my town. My regret is that i had to grow up there & struggle so much. I wanted to enjoy highschool so bad. Its just not so easy when everything is pit against you.
As someone who’s in high school rn, I already regret caring so much about what other people think of me and not giving a damn about everything else that was/is more important
I was born deaf and have a pair of hearing aids. So I was judged and that made me very quiet and a big introvert. So I regret not being a little more outgoing and finding more friends.
I have so much regrets i wouldnt even know where to start. Most having to do with getting appriciation from girls. I just want to cry thinking about it.
I've thought about this one a lot, and even though there are things like I wish I socialised more, or I wish I could have put some more effort into my final exams or whatever, the only thing I actually wish I could have changed is that I wish I had that lunch with my friend just before Christmas break, during which he passed. I was on my way over to him in the cafeteria because it had been a while since we ate together or spent time together just the two of us, but then two of my other friends who I usually had lunch with waved me over before I got to him. I hesitated for like 3 seconds before deciding to go over to them, and then I never got a chance to speak to him again. 2-3 weeks later, on the first day back in school after Christmas break when I got the news of him having died, that moment in the cafeteria was the first thing that came to my mind. I could have had one final conversation with him, got to spend some more time with him, but I didn't.
So many regrets are based around the way we treat other people. “I wish I said this to my mom” or “I wish I didn’t let this get in between me and this friend”. As I see it that is a beautiful opportunity for others to learn, grow, and develop kindness towards the people in our lives. Regret hurts. Being kind doesn’t hurt. Tell people you love them, and don’t let small stuff get between you and people you care about.
I regret not having the confidence to go out for the boys soccer team (because there was no girls team) when the boys coach had requested me to. I think that would have been a blast!
I regret not sneaking to raves even though my mom won’t let me, they don’t do those raves anymore, never going to be the same. I wish I was brave enough to be wilder.
I’m a woman but I have the same regret as the guy who said he wished he hadn’t been in a relationship with one person all of high school who ended up cheating anyway. Same thing happened to me. I taught my kids not to attach themselves to someone when they were young. So glad they didn’t!
For me, being weak and let them bully me. We are poor but my parents tried to provide us an education. I don’t want to let them down so I opt to be a good student. My group of friends always skip school and I didn’t join them since I do not want to have failing grades. Whenever they are at school they will not talk to me so I was left alone, but whenever they need to copy my homework, I always give them a hand. I regret to not stand on my own and there are other classmates that willing to be my friend but I chose to please my friends. I suffered the 2 years of my high school but when I transferred in other section, I do find real friends. But it left a scar in my heart.
Not having enough fun, being too worried about the future and then abandoned my dream to go to college after the first bump. Now I kinda hate my life and regret what could´ve been.
I left the city I was.in My homie committed suicide I wish I could've been there he was such a great person. But i can't change people's choices RIP SAM
There is nothing wrong with hanging out with your friends! We are too young in high school to even understand what those feelings are 😅 I personally wish I picked different friends and concentrated on more sports and school instead of seeking out love and being liked lol
I was talking to a boy from another school (this was 97’). We talked everyday and when we finally met, he was not what I expected. Nothing flourished and a few months after that, my friend and I played an April fools joke on him. I said that I wanted to give us a chance. As an immature 10th grader, I thought it was funny then!- as I got older, I realized how effing stupid I was and I wish I could apologize for my cruel behavior. Where ever John is at, I hope life has been kind to him and he’s happy and healthy!
My biggest regret was me bullying this one kid in high school that was quiet and nerdy. I used to bully him in PE class. He didn’t have any friends and I used to be a di@k to him for no reason. I think about it almost everyday because fast forward to present day my teenage son is autistic and has social anxiety and has no friends and I fear him getting bullied because I know from personal experience little kids like myself can be azzholes. I think about that kid a lot and I asked God to forgive me for it almost everyday and hope his doing good now 😔
I thought I would regret not coming out in high school and owning that power. It was a different life even back then, and not even all that long ago. People today take a lot of those things for granted. And a lot more people feel they are entitled because of it. I guess after this little reflection I am realizing I am who I am because of all these things I went thru, big OR little. Traversing those obstacles made me, ME! I like me, so no need to have any regrets! Embrace yourself and who you are!!!
I had a group of friends in high school. We spent all the time together, inside and outside of school, we hang out, played games online, I don't think I even did a lot of things without them. Then we finished high school and I never talked to them again (not just me, the whole group broke each on their own), but it was almost immediate, the week we finished, we stopped playing, hanging out, it was like we were never friends to begin with.
You might never read this , u might never see this but I hope my feelings are reaching you Thoraya , I lost nearly everything in this year including myself the love of my life and even my family. There are so many things that I regret and I will never have the chance to make up for all those things. I wanted to take my life because I lost my vision my purpose of living. I wanna thank you so much you helped me in a way i can not rly discribe, I felt seen watching your videos what you are doing is far more important then u might realize you are saving lifes and i am so thankfull for that maybe one day i have the chance to be a part of one of ur videos i thank you so much feel hugged and loved and yeah just great u are a HERO
I guess for me there're 2 things : - When professors told me that I could go in archeology like I wanted, but I would have to work really hard because it is a very select field, but that I totally had the capacity to to it, I kinda wished I'd listened to them, instead of feeling that this was going to be too much work and wanting to do something "easy". - I kinda wish I told one of my best friend at the time that I had a crush on her. I still think about it regularly, and always regret not having said it. Now that we live so far away from each other, we don't really keep in touch anymore, but I still think about her...
Thoraya! You know what i love LOVE about you, how you direct the person feeling something self-deprecating, to feeling something better about a past incident. I dont think the people that you interview even realize it. Everytime you ask someone a followup question, you are almost always nudging them to perceive their past incident in a different light. It is a subtle brainwash 😂 And it is beautiful. You are healing people you know 😊
I was hung up on the feeling of being lonely not realizing just how many people I had in my life that cared for me at the time i learned to appreciate all my friends since then and am much happier :D
I really like seeing how much the last two people vibe with the point of view they share. It really illustrates what they're talking about; that you'll eventually find people (hopefully!) who can understand and vibe with where you're coming from. Great to see. Also, "High really sucked. I'd never want to relive that again."
My regret was not being more involved with sports /clubs. I never really cared about anything other than passing my classes, going home and watch my favorite shows . My senior year was when I realized I liked dancing and wished I performed more in dance throughout my high school years. I tried out for soft ball and didn’t make the team but I never tried out after the for the next couple of years .
I regret not participating with anything, i was just there quietly watching everyone and I regret not letting myself experience all the things my friends/classmates/peers were experiencing because of the guilt I was feeling towards my grandparents living /working in a foreign country just to provide for us, despite their old age.... and I was too shy and was never confident... and now I ended up being an adult that is still shy, feeling inferior to everyone, and full of so much regrets, frustrations and unhappiness
I regret dropping out at the beginning of 9th grade. I was struggling with a lot of undiagnosed mental illness. I just wish I stuck it out. It's very hard to get anywhere without a degree. No jobs nor colleges will take you. Whenever I have dreams, my most visited place is school. It weighs on my conscious a lot.
I regret not changing schools. It was really destructive. Changing would have given me a positive high school experience and also saved me the 5 years it took me to heal from it
Hmmm. I suppose the only thing that I regret from high school was creating a cloud of chlorine gas in chemistry class. The classroom had to be evacuated and I ended up being removed from that class and put in a class that was only teaching chemistry theory and no practical experiments!
8:25 i really like what this dude said. Full accountability of his own issues and mistakes and wanted to forgive her for her issues and mistakes. I hope they are together for a long long time
My biggest regret in High School is being worried about what others think and being too shy. Now I'm older and I'm a really down to earth guy and feel many people may have liked that about me.
My takeaway from this video is that in life, there will always be something to love, and there will always be something to dread. Some said they regret not working hard enough while others regret not having fun enough. But I guess that most painful type of regret is not being able to do something and missing opportunities because it really haunts you about what could have been. Regretting something that you’ve done doesn’t last long, and sometimes it becomes a core memory.
i wish i were more extroverted. though in school, i was quite sociable, good academically and used to participate in various activities. i was comfortable on stage, except for dancing, which inexplicably scared me. despite initially loving dance and participating in groups solos until grade 4th-5th, i eventually quit, and i regret it. not because i wished to become dancer but because i really love how easy dancing moving comes to people now but it's not same case for me. and even though i have improved a lot, it still scares me.
Try little steps. Join a group, or a class and get comfortable with an audience watching you. And if you are not ready it is okay ❤ make little progress daily and when you feel ready, it will come to you. I'm 33 and am starting to shuffle dance, I've never had dance experience but I'm learning a new move weekly and practicing daily even if it's 15 min. I want to be able to do it freely when I am in a music festival ❤. I hope you get the courage to do what you want to in this life. We can dance just to make our heart content. Don't lose the little hobbies that make you smile ❤ sending love ❤
I think we all end up having regrets in some way or the other..is what I learn from this video , I'm still in high school next year will be my last year of High school..well i know there are things i may regret but the thing is that's what i find the most appropriate atm..Just like the experienced people in the video,some regret not having a boyfriend while other regret having them ,some regret studying really hard and getting into more activities while other regret not trying hard..i saw how each one of them regret not doing something while other regret doing it... still I'm really enjoying my life as a student and i am sure I'm making some real fun memories
For me, definitely not being more social with my classmates at the time probably could've had many friends and actually enjoyed my school years. Didn't really care about going out with others my age, just more focused with school work. But no, I have always been that shy girl (kind of a loner) haha since I was young. Now as an adult almost in my 30s, have learned to be more outgoing, and to just have fun enjoying life.
I regret going to an IB school and taking 7 APs on top of that. It was the most difficult experience of my life and it was completely unnecessary. I graduated with more college credits than any college would accept (about 90). I ended up graduating from college with a degree I don’t intend to ever use because I didn’t know what I wanted to do and just picked something. 🙃
@@gabriellameattray9778 I'm currently unemployed. 🤣💀I started making abstract art a couple months ago. Not sure whether I want to try and continue pursuing that. I enjoy it but I don't think that it will be easy to make a living doing it. 7APs was the minimum we were allowed to take. I took AP European History, AP Language, AP Literature, AP US History, AP Biology, AP French and AP Psychology. In some classes we were being taught two tests (AP & IB) at the same time (e.g. French).
@@sunmarshI also did full IB and though I wasn’t as successful as you seemed to get outta IB, it’s definitely made me want to pursue my dream of game dev instead of pursuing something I’m not that into. Like after grinding high school for everything I was like “nah am chill ima grind what I like” for college. Who knows, maybe you can pull up to some game jams too and incorporate some of your abstract art, random thought.
Listening to the opinions of others, when I felt a different way about the situation. Advice from other people can be good, but when it goes against everything you stand then it is not good. Not a regret: dropping out and doing running start so I could be 2 years ahead of all my classmates.
I definitely agree with the young lady about makeup being easier for the gen y and z crowd nowadays. RUclips tutorials have spared them from coming to school looking crazy.
I wish I had gotten my autism diagnosis in high school. I was always accused of doing things I didn’t do and had meltdowns often but I didn’t say anything. I’d always go nonverbal whenever I had the chance to explain.
10:32 I got bullied in school (gladly it was a rather short period of time) and someday I started to do exactly what she says in the video and it really helped so much
My biggest regret from high school is not keeping a very good friend of mine who had high functioning autism. He had been such a good friend to me and was always so eager to talk about our shared passion of animated shows and would always make me special handmade cards for every holiday. But I let my well-meaning mom and my lesser well-meaning friends dictate whether or not I'd stay friends with him. He would invite me over to his house with two of his friends who also had high functioning autism with his parents' attendance to play video games, and I never accepted due to fearing what the social higher ups of my high school and friends would say just because they were all boys and I was a girl. My friend would give me very excited hugs, speak 'too loudly' sometimes, and had a hard time understanding social cues and I had never minded those things because I could relate to him about those aspects, until I got insecure about how it looked to other students. The ending of that friendship in my sophmore year was severely damaged and messy and it was largely due to my part. I severely regret it to this day and was never able to mend that with him because my family moved the summer before my junior year. But even then, I don't think sixteen year old me would have had the guts to step out and try to fix things. Joshua from JHS of the Class of 2024, I'm so sorry. I hope you've found it in yourself to forgive me for the absolute mess I made of the two of us in our friendship, you meant the world to me and I should have honored the way I had internally always cherished it.
I also regret not trying harder. I could have been a straight A student but constantly was told I wasn’t good enough or that I wasn’t gonna make it in life.
Me too, I was too busy hanging with the guys, I was the tallest guy there I think, so I was kinda popular. Most of the rest had gfs and hanging with gfs, but I just liked talking to and hanging out with guys. I'm still like that
So basically everyone regrets having studied too hard or not hard enough. Having enjoyed the high school life too much or too little. This is very comforting because I could see that if I didn't have my regrets, I'd have others. So it's all good! We were all doing the best we could with what we knew. High school may seem easy but it's actually a very complex phase because we're forced into a little society and we don't have a strong sense of self yet. Let's just focus on being authentic now and making the best choices we can for our present 🌻
beautiful message! We can't always have it perfectly. the present is indeed all we got.
@@iamme25yagoThis makes you unique, and special. Math isn’t an easy thing. It doesn’t come “naturally” to a lot of people, and I’d say most don’t enjoy it because it’s so complex and complicated.
So, from what you’re saying, I really really hope you’re doing something with it! ….And I’m super curious what you do/want to do?! 🩵👏
Beautiful comment ❤
Very well said! I observed the same thing.
High school is such shallow water. And we’ve made it so important, this artificial complex little society. I feel bad for the kids I work around. There’s so much out there, and they seem completely unaware.
I regret that the only thing I can remember from graduation from high school is my mom, looking wistfully at the kids who were honor students, and saying, “I wish you’d been one of those kids.” I just felt so depressed. I was the first of my family to graduate from high school. I was so proud of myself. Until then. I still want to hear her say she’s proud of me. Now, she’s gone and it’s too late. Parents, tell your kids you’re proud of them. That’s what you want them to remember.
She, is proud of you. Best believe! ❤❤
Similarly, when i graduated and didn't get honours she said she was never more embarrassed in her life.
Be proud of yourself. Anyone can be a parent. It doesn't mean they are qualified.
@@zvw444x3zefa Amen to that!
@@SongbirdCollageArts I’m sorry I just got notified there were responses! I’m so so sorry this happened. As the other poster replied, be proud of yourself. YOU accomplished it! I’M proud of you! And myself!
The girl that regrets grinding and AP classes that cause her anxiety is so relatable.
Yup
Lol thought u meant u regret grinding at a school dance or smthg 🤣
SAME! 😩
@@MargauxNeedler😂😂
I had a friend who I hung out with from grades seven through high school. He was like a soulmate to me. But we were 'just friends'. In grade 11 he asked me to go to a wedding with him and I had just started dating someone else. I wish I had said yes and then seen where that stream of my life would have taken me. He was such a good friend and we shared so much together. We are so short-sighted when we're young. I'm in my sixties now and when I tried to look him up and find out what happened to him, I found out he had died at 38. Regrets! He was a special man even as a boy.
Oh how sad….so young! What happened??
Hugs
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@@FallenAngel9979I am still searching to find out. Ancestry shows his years. I emailed the name overseeing that account twice. No response. I've researched newspapers. Googled his name. Searched funeral home obits too. All the relatives I knew he had are passed. I won't give up until I know. Next I'll go to the Ref librarian to see what they recommend. If all else fails, I'll pay the government service to get his death certificate. Thanks for asking.
You must be Canadian
My family was extremely strict growing up, so going out and dating was not a possibility. We had all AP courses, so it kept us busy anyway. Bullying had my sister and I keeping to ourselves most times. Hanging out with newfound friends wasn't a thing either because of trust issues and my parents being protective - honestly though, with future revelations rightly so. Either way, when my twin sister and I were Freshmen, there was a boy named Matt in his Junior year. He was so friendly to us both, handsome and sort of like the sun that starved flowers tend to stretch towards. After him, the bullying stopped because his popularity gave him quite the respect of the teenagers around us, and he used that to look out for my sister and I. He was impossible not to love, platonically or romantically, Matt was someone who made us feel welcome while enduring such a rough transition period in life. For months, Matt introduced us to his friend group and the AP teachers, greeting us both daily with fiercely warm hugs and a ready smile. As the seasons changed and headed towards Christmas, his diligence in asking my sister out only grew stronger, until he'd finally managed to convince her to give it a chance. Matt made plans to talk to my parents and start things off the proper way.
I remember our last meeting so vividly. The 3 of us had a class together at the end of the day, it was slightly overcast but the air was wet and cold; strange for a Florida winter. Matt came into class wearing his leather jacket, a freshly shaved bald head, and his signature dimpled smile. He flirted with my sister all period while she desperately tried to take down notes, even got into trouble by the teacher. The thing is, he was just so damn charming that he always got out of trouble. The guy was hilarious, he would get us to laugh and the blame would pass onto us or someone else. Towards the end of the class though, Matt got real serious. He told my sister that he was going all in with this, and that he wasn't going to give up. He kissed her forehead and then gave me a big bear hug. Right before leaving he spun around and told us that he couldn't wait to give us both the gifts he'd gotten, that it had taken forever to think of what to do but that he'd figured it out and we would never forget it. He was excited to speak with my parents too, and told us it would go well, that there was nothing to worry about. After blowing air kisses to us Matt left, dimpled smile and all.
Later that evening, my family was all in our living room. My dad was preparing for work, my sisters and I working on getting ready for orchestra practice, and my brother running around the couches. The news was on carrying the perfect background noise. I was putting on my socks when the news anchor mentioned an accident with a student from our school. A drunk driver hit a motorcyclist at a red light. My sister and I both looked up nervous. The woman continued to give small details, never giving much away about the person hurt. It wasn't until Matt's photo popped up that we both broke down.
To this day I wish I'd been more bold. I wish I'd have been less afraid of rejection by peers and my family and that we had hung out all the times he asked us to. I wish that we had gone out to eat with him and his friends every time he asked. I wish that we had gotten to see him the next day so that my sister and I could surprise him with our gifts and laugh as he tore through the wrapping. I wish that Matt hadn't had to work that day that had him at the light. I wish that the world got to experience what a wonder of a person he was. There are so many regrets in my soul when it comes to Matt, but the biggest will always be not acting during the moments that seemed insignificant. The ones that would have let Matt know how much I cared for him like a brother.
what a story this is! i hope you find peace. it must be extremely tough, but i'm sure Matt knew exactly how much you cared for him. 🤍 stay strong!
Some people are put in this world to bring such light to others. Please,. don't feel guilty you were acting like many other teenagers. I'm sure you both brought joy and purpose and dreams to him.
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@@G_e_o_r_g_i_e was this really necessary to let us know? 🤦♀️
@@lilianaj.1108 No 😔
I regret not telling anyone when I was assaulted. I feel like I could have processed way sooner in life and things would have been better. Now I am 40 and trying to fix the mess I became.
oh dear,same am 23yrs and ti happened when i was 14. I have had a rough time,i hated people and became so bitter, i know you understand how pitch dark that hole is and how tight that shoe is,,,i moved out two years ago and few days ago my mom found my journal.i used to write about it alot,am sure she isn't in a good place especially now that we haven't talked about it. Unfortunately am not really ready to do it.But emotionally i guess am fine i just wouldn't like digging it up
Your timing is perfect. It’s your personal journey and when I spoke out about it the news spread like wild fire and it was like I was the odd one out in my family. I kind of wish I waited but then again it wouldn’t have brought me to where I am today. So be kind to yourself and don’t regret anything because it was never your fault!
Start nu seeing yourself not as a mess but a strong survivor. Despite everything you're still standing. Be proud of yourself. You deserve it! ❤
Be gentle with yourself ❤ I know it's hard but imagine yourself as your best friend and how you would comfort your best friend. Your journey is unique to you and you are going to be fine sweetheart ❤
I was very young when my brothers best friend did that, I swept it under a rug and now it's a shadow I can't escape.... Sending you hugs from South Africa 🤗💜🌻
when thoraya drops a new video I know its a good day
I just know I'm gonna cry my eyes out
For real! Thank you Thoraya!
No really
The perfect summary of what her channel is about! Couldn't of phrased it better myself. I hope you all are having an amazing day☺️ Remember that it's completely ok to just exist. We are human beings, not human doings❤
I regret not being myself. My depression stole all my confidence. There were so many things I wanted to say, so many outfits I wanted to wear and so many people I wanted to talk to. I wish I could've talked back when I was mistreated, spoken my mind when I felt small and helped out other people who might've needed my help. I've been left feeling like arguments were never concluded because I was never able to say my part, I lost friends because I never told them when I was upset with them and I never went up to someone to try to befriend them. But oh well, I'm already 21 and my school life is over...
I'm sorry about that, i understand you, i also went through a tough time in highschool with mental health. Hope you manage to heal yourself and forgive yourself for all of that
@@lucindaneto2612 Thank you. It's a process; I'm still working on it. But I try not to take life too seriously anymore and live in the present more. Hope you are doing better as well.
I regret it too but I guess I just didn't know how to let the fears & doubts go. Nowadays I'm obviously working every day on doing what I can to not let negative thoughts get in my way.
@@MargauxNeedler It's great that you're working on it. I am too.
you explained my feeling very well. this's also what I feel and going through from high school that I couldn't tell anyone. teenage depressed is so real and now I'm 23
The guy at the end is THE advice I was thinking the entire time. I tell the same thing to my niece all the time and remind her that the friends she's so worried about right now will most likely not be there for her when she's older.
When you're young you don't think so. They seem extremely important. Please don't say such things to young people, they won't understand anyways and it would only make them think that their feelings and problems are not important to you. Let them go through it, they'll understand later. And for now - just be there for them and support them, it's the best thing you can do:)
@@ВераЧукова-б7и I disagree, I get what you're saying but I wish I would have had someone say this to me. All the adults around me made me feel like those times of my life were so important, like they were the highlight of my life and if it didn't go perfect then the rest of my life would be terrible or suck. High school is not everything. It's a big part of our lives but it's definitely, most certainly not everything. And the people we meet in high school may or may not be there the rest of our lives so focusing so much of our time and energy on those people isn't worth it. While I don't regret the relationships that I formed in high school, I wish I would have focused more on learning and not worrying so much about what my peers thought of me. The clothes I wore, the way my hair fell out of place, the days I woke up late and didn't have time to do my makeup making the rest of my day miserable and I just tried to hide all day... nobody cared and I wish I had someone tell me that.
I wish someone would have said the same advice u just said to me about my older sister
I regret letting my trauma get to me at that time. I couldn't study properly, had no real friends, and the faculty thought I was a lost cause. Thankfully I'm able to correct the academic mistakes now
It’s really like one person’s tragedy is another person’s treasure.
“Take the risk or lose your chance” This has been my credo since high school. So I have no regrets. Thanks Thoraya 😊
I was abused horribly by my father and a member of my family. Because of my homelife my father forbid me to make friends or bring anyone around the house or to give out our telephone number. So, I kept myself distant from people because I knew it would be dangerous to be social. I regret not telling someone about the abuse and making friends.
you did the best you could with what you were experiencing. remember that
I regret hanging with the wrong crowds, falling into a world of hard drugs and self harm etc. Those were the most painful years of my life. But at the same time, the only way through was through, I kind of "needed" to experience all this in order to get over it. I took a break from studying afterwards and just travelled (my parents supported me, that's my biggest chance). Went back to studying at 24 and even got a masters!
I regret no being more involved in school activities - sports, clubs, music etc. I also regret not being friends with people of diffrent races. However, the best thing about high school is that I have been married to my high school sweetheart for 31 years. Starting going out with her when we were 16 and 17. Been together every since. Our daughter just graduated high school. We supported every activity she wanted to indulge in. Now she is in college and we encourage her to spread he wings and meet interesting people. and travel.
I love how for everything the opposite was was said at least once
At first I would say, I have no regrets in high school because I did my work, I had a few good friends and I was respectful. But when I think about it, my only regret was giving up on fluently learning Spanish. I allowed teachers and Latinos to discourage me. The Latinos and the African Americans would tell me that I am trying to be Latina because I want to become fluent in the language so I gave up. I finally got the balls to re-learn the language and become fluent three years ago. Now I will be getting my masters in Spanish Next year
congratulations!
Felicidades, tú puedes!!!
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I would have never thought that I would enjoy this channel so much, but I do. I learned a lot about myself watching this channel. I still have a hard time hugging people and saying ''I love you'', but, baby steps !!!...
My regret from school is that i never stood up for myself...
Had i done that, my bullies wouldn't have caused me to get brain-damage.
I had a classmate in highschool who always had good grades and who I found annoying. There were a few moments where I said hurtful things to her, simply out of jealousy. It is not only my biggest highschool regret (more middle school, I was 10-12 years old or so), but my biggest life regret. I wish I could tell her how sorry I am.
I've always wanted people who bullied me to apologize, but I've accepted that will never happen. ❤
I was in high school when it happened, but this is not directly associated with high school itself.
My sister had been bugging me and teasing me one night and out of anger/annoyance I told her “You make me wish I were an only child”
She was older than me and out of the house and she left to see a friend right after. She passed away that night and those were the last words I ever said to her.
I regret letting my parents own fears and isolating behavior rule me. In my eyes they weren’t just overprotective and strict, they were toxic and controlling and I felt like I had no control over my own life, I had no agency no will to love that was my own. They never hit me or kicked me out that type of cruelty, but i lived in intense and constant fear that making my own choices would result in their disappointment and disapproval and I would be punished emotionally. My parents told me not to trust people. They wouldn’t let me do things like hang out with friends And when I’d ask why they would say “because I said so”. That messed me up, because when I finally got to start making my own choices in college I was overwhelmed and was consumed by the anxiety that I didn’t know myself or my own body. My dad was toxic and controlling and my mom was just an extension of his ego. I know HS is such a small part of your life but I feel like I missed out on so much, and if I had felt alive for myself during those years I wouldn’t be so lost and struggling rn. And also I have so much anger and rage now because I never got to really experience those emotions then. I was the obedient and docile little doll creature my parents wanted me to be.
Random anecdote about that time: when I was a junior I had to get my wisdom teeth out. It was the era where all those funny videos of kids after their wisdom teeth removal were all loopy and saying silly and dumb shit. I was so terrified of my parents that I was scared in my loopiness that I would accidentally admit I liked girls or something that big, I was scared that I would reveal my true self and be punished.
Ever think u might prefer girls b/c ur dad's ego was so overpowering? I figured out that that was my case. Didn't know if I liked men or women or y I liked them or not.
I wanted to type this
My parents were like this to me and my twin sister. They still are.
I'm struggling so much with my identity becoz of it
I'm constantly being made fun of at work for not knowing certain things I was supposed to know at my big age (I'm 24). I hardly go out bcoz of it
It's affecting me. But I'm trying to change that
I think that high school is one of the most highly concentrated collection of cruel people that we will encounter in our lives. There are too many socially unevolved people fighting their way through the pecking-order.
I experienced both sides. The first couple of years, I had no friends. Junior and senior year, I was popular and it went to my head. In retrospect, I was running so desperately away from the pain of not being accepted that I became a sh**ty person. I wish that I had been a better person. The takeaway for me was how insidiously ego can poison your character when you're not paying attention. I am more careful with people now.
I regret not admitting my homosexuality at that time. I was terrified of what people would think. My circles were all evangelical christian conservatives so while I might have been in danger I feel I would have maybe even met someone who could have loved me at that time instead of waiting till my late 20s to start coming out.
Nothing before its time. High school years can be tough. I think you saved yourself a life time of pain by not coming out is high school. Take care.
I've gone thru many friends, and they always made me feel awkward if I ever talked about it. Until I met knew friends who, some r gay and others arent but they aren't afraid to joke about it, it's all normalised between us. Hope u find ur own supporters :)
as a conservative christian, I am so sorry if you actually really felt like your community endangered you. that is not how we are called to treat same-sex attracted people. I hope your encounters since with people like me have not been so hostile. take care
@@iamwinningrightnow I may have saved myself that but unlike everybody else I didn’t get a chance to know how to have a romantic relationship. It didn’t help me in the long run.
Same. ❤
I wish to god it would have sunk into my brain in high school that it wasn't going to last forever because it always felt like hell for me. Just knowing that the world was so much bigger than my small little school would have saved me so much hardship.
Wow-no regrets in HS; very few after-thanks for highlighting how blessed I’ve been!
I love the contrast in stories, what others regret, others don't. I feel like when you realise what could have been, one should be accepting of their past and present and love their younger self and embrace that they were young or they didn't know how not to be . I have no regrets
If you want to go to college go to college!!!! Yheres no age restriction and you can chose whatever you want to learn. Learn cooking or a language or touch up you math or whatever. Just go. Make it happin
I never usually comment but this video sparked something in me, thank you Thoraya!
I regret not standing up for myself, so now at 21 years old I’m working (slowly but still) on improving my confidence, trying to detach all the bad things bullies said about me and getting to know that I’m not that at all. So maybe in 5 or 10 years ahead I can say that I don’t really regret things in my early 20’s that everything was part of the learning and be so proud of how much I’ve worked to become who I really want to become. I want to be a person who my younger self would look with admiration and comfort
One of the things I love about your videos is all the beautiful faces. We are all so different. Everyone is beautiful.
My heart goes out to the man that squared up with what seems to be his childhood 'one that got away'. Regrettably, I really truly can relate.
It is always fascinating how many people regret not taking their education more serious i know i do as well it just feels like theres so many doors out of reach because of the lack of trying when we had the chance
I had my daughter when I was a senior in high school and she is my world. I regret nothing because everything I did, the good and the bad, led me to having her. ❤
I regret not studying hard so I get can have a better grades and have a better career in life. Now I'm just..
I regret not ending a toxic friendship sooner. I barely enjoyed high school because of that friendship. I was with them all the time instead of being with people that genuinely cared about my mental health and well-being. I'm still angry at myself for that and creating so much trauma. I hope someday i will be able to forgive myself.
I love how you create this contrast about topics, for example in this video by first showing someone who felt they didn't study hard enough and after that someone who suffered from anxiety etc because they studied too hard.
the content is just as beautiful as the lighting. their eyes❤ artist on all levels
I regret that I missed the love of my life. I was a shy and introverted young man and she was a beautiful outgoing young woman and I wonder what my life would have turned out like had i realized that her love was real.
My biggest regret is not pushing through. I gave up, I quite when I was 14. I missed all the traditional High School things (and all the High School bullying). I never had a prom, I never earned any credits, I never walked the stage. I homes schooled, got my GED and said goodbye to school forever. Now, at 45, I sometimes think about going back to learn to be something better, but it's too late. I am the breadwinner now, and have no choice but to keep plodding away at work.
You really bring smile to my traumatic past self. Thank you like really for doing this. You don't know how much good you bring to your viewers.
I love the people at the end because i feel like we're in such a minority. No, we dont want to go back to highschool. Leaving was the light at the end of the tunnel & personally was my escape from this hole of drugs, religious trauma, & becoming what i believed i could be. I didnt want to be like the people in my town.
My regret is that i had to grow up there & struggle so much. I wanted to enjoy highschool so bad. Its just not so easy when everything is pit against you.
As someone who’s in high school rn, I already regret caring so much about what other people think of me and not giving a damn about everything else that was/is more important
But high school is your present so you can change that
I was born deaf and have a pair of hearing aids. So I was judged and that made me very quiet and a big introvert. So I regret not being a little more outgoing and finding more friends.
I have so much regrets i wouldnt even know where to start. Most having to do with getting appriciation from girls. I just want to cry thinking about it.
I've thought about this one a lot, and even though there are things like I wish I socialised more, or I wish I could have put some more effort into my final exams or whatever, the only thing I actually wish I could have changed is that I wish I had that lunch with my friend just before Christmas break, during which he passed. I was on my way over to him in the cafeteria because it had been a while since we ate together or spent time together just the two of us, but then two of my other friends who I usually had lunch with waved me over before I got to him. I hesitated for like 3 seconds before deciding to go over to them, and then I never got a chance to speak to him again. 2-3 weeks later, on the first day back in school after Christmas break when I got the news of him having died, that moment in the cafeteria was the first thing that came to my mind. I could have had one final conversation with him, got to spend some more time with him, but I didn't.
I love the juxtaposition in this video, and the ending just wrapped it all up in a neat, comforting bow. Thoraya, youre so talented. Much love 💛💛💛✨️
So many regrets are based around the way we treat other people. “I wish I said this to my mom” or “I wish I didn’t let this get in between me and this friend”. As I see it that is a beautiful opportunity for others to learn, grow, and develop kindness towards the people in our lives. Regret hurts. Being kind doesn’t hurt. Tell people you love them, and don’t let small stuff get between you and people you care about.
I regret not having the confidence to go out for the boys soccer team (because there was no girls team) when the boys coach had requested me to. I think that would have been a blast!
I regret not sneaking to raves even though my mom won’t let me, they don’t do those raves anymore, never going to be the same.
I wish I was brave enough to be wilder.
I’m a woman but I have the same regret as the guy who said he wished he hadn’t been in a relationship with one person all of high school who ended up cheating anyway. Same thing happened to me. I taught my kids not to attach themselves to someone when they were young. So glad they didn’t!
I liked how the last guy gave a shout out that it all gets so much better.
For me, being weak and let them bully me. We are poor but my parents tried to provide us an education. I don’t want to let them down so I opt to be a good student. My group of friends always skip school and I didn’t join them since I do not want to have failing grades. Whenever they are at school they will not talk to me so I was left alone, but whenever they need to copy my homework, I always give them a hand.
I regret to not stand on my own and there are other classmates that willing to be my friend but I chose to please my friends. I suffered the 2 years of my high school but when I transferred in other section, I do find real friends. But it left a scar in my heart.
Not having enough fun, being too worried about the future and then abandoned my dream to go to college after the first bump. Now I kinda hate my life and regret what could´ve been.
6:52- honestly i felt like we all needed to hear that
4:09 What does his accent come from? I've never heard it before. It's attractive, but I struggle understanding what he was saying 😅
I left the city I was.in My homie committed suicide I wish I could've been there he was such a great person. But i can't change people's choices RIP SAM
Being too afraid to be myself, letting others walk over me and bottling all my emotions.
This video makes me feel better and also makes me relive my anxieties
Me too, I just regret not studying much, I was one of the guys always hanging out with the guys, I never had gf, I just liked the guys company
There is nothing wrong with hanging out with your friends! We are too young in high school to even understand what those feelings are 😅 I personally wish I picked different friends and concentrated on more sports and school instead of seeking out love and being liked lol
@@jamiesciortino oh yes, I was in my early 20s before I realized why I liked being with them. I didn't see it really before, or I was in denial.
I was talking to a boy from another school (this was 97’). We talked everyday and when we finally met, he was not what I expected. Nothing flourished and a few months after that, my friend and I played an April fools joke on him. I said that I wanted to give us a chance. As an immature 10th grader, I thought it was funny then!- as I got older, I realized how effing stupid I was and I wish I could apologize for my cruel behavior. Where ever John is at, I hope life has been kind to him and he’s happy and healthy!
My biggest regret was me bullying this one kid in high school that was quiet and nerdy. I used to bully him in PE class. He didn’t have any friends and I used to be a di@k to him for no reason. I think about it almost everyday because fast forward to present day my teenage son is autistic and has social anxiety and has no friends and I fear him getting bullied because I know from personal experience little kids like myself can be azzholes. I think about that kid a lot and I asked God to forgive me for it almost everyday and hope his doing good now 😔
Look him up and tell him this
@@ronbartyzel6266 my wife told me the same thing. Maybe I will soon.
I thought I would regret not coming out in high school and owning that power. It was a different life even back then, and not even all that long ago. People today take a lot of those things for granted. And a lot more people feel they are entitled because of it. I guess after this little reflection I am realizing I am who I am because of all these things I went thru, big OR little. Traversing those obstacles made me, ME! I like me, so no need to have any regrets! Embrace yourself and who you are!!!
I had a group of friends in high school. We spent all the time together, inside and outside of school, we hang out, played games online, I don't think I even did a lot of things without them.
Then we finished high school and I never talked to them again (not just me, the whole group broke each on their own), but it was almost immediate, the week we finished, we stopped playing, hanging out, it was like we were never friends to begin with.
You might never read this , u might never see this but I hope my feelings are reaching you Thoraya , I lost nearly everything in this year including myself the love of my life and even my family. There are so many things that I regret and I will never have the chance to make up for all those things. I wanted to take my life because I lost my vision my purpose of living. I wanna thank you so much you helped me in a way i can not rly discribe, I felt seen watching your videos what you are doing is far more important then u might realize you are saving lifes and i am so thankfull for that maybe one day i have the chance to be a part of one of ur videos i thank you so much feel hugged and loved and yeah just great u are a HERO
I guess for me there're 2 things :
- When professors told me that I could go in archeology like I wanted, but I would have to work really hard because it is a very select field, but that I totally had the capacity to to it, I kinda wished I'd listened to them, instead of feeling that this was going to be too much work and wanting to do something "easy".
- I kinda wish I told one of my best friend at the time that I had a crush on her. I still think about it regularly, and always regret not having said it. Now that we live so far away from each other, we don't really keep in touch anymore, but I still think about her...
I CAN NOT WAIT TO SHOW THIS TO MY HIGH SCHOOL KIDS ❤ they love your videos! Thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing with them!
Thoraya!
You know what i love LOVE about you, how you direct the person feeling something self-deprecating, to feeling something better about a past incident. I dont think the people that you interview even realize it. Everytime you ask someone a followup question, you are almost always nudging them to perceive their past incident in a different light. It is a subtle brainwash 😂
And it is beautiful.
You are healing people you know 😊
I was hung up on the feeling of being lonely not realizing just how many people I had in my life that cared for me at the time i learned to appreciate all my friends since then and am much happier :D
I really like seeing how much the last two people vibe with the point of view they share. It really illustrates what they're talking about; that you'll eventually find people (hopefully!) who can understand and vibe with where you're coming from. Great to see. Also, "High really sucked. I'd never want to relive that again."
My regret was not being more involved with sports /clubs. I never really cared about anything other than passing my classes, going home and watch my favorite shows . My senior year was when I realized I liked dancing and wished I performed more in dance throughout my high school years. I tried out for soft ball and didn’t make the team but I never tried out after the for the next couple of years .
love this! want to play it over bluetooth radio during my bus route driving high school students !
Me too, I have several regrets , especially the one about not asking a guy out
I regret not participating with anything, i was just there quietly watching everyone and I regret not letting myself experience all the things my friends/classmates/peers were experiencing because of the guilt I was feeling towards my grandparents living /working in a foreign country just to provide for us, despite their old age.... and I was too shy and was never confident... and now I ended up being an adult that is still shy, feeling inferior to everyone, and full of so much regrets, frustrations and unhappiness
I regret dropping out at the beginning of 9th grade. I was struggling with a lot of undiagnosed mental illness. I just wish I stuck it out. It's very hard to get anywhere without a degree. No jobs nor colleges will take you. Whenever I have dreams, my most visited place is school. It weighs on my conscious a lot.
Do not be embarrassed about not having a college graduation. If you work you are good.
I regret not changing schools. It was really destructive. Changing would have given me a positive high school experience and also saved me the 5 years it took me to heal from it
Hmmm. I suppose the only thing that I regret from high school was creating a cloud of chlorine gas in chemistry class. The classroom had to be evacuated and I ended up being removed from that class and put in a class that was only teaching chemistry theory and no practical experiments!
8:25 i really like what this dude said. Full accountability of his own issues and mistakes and wanted to forgive her for her issues and mistakes. I hope they are together for a long long time
Watching your videos is like made me live lots of other people's life for a moment there.. It's refreshing
My biggest regret in High School is being worried about what others think and being too shy. Now I'm older and I'm a really down to earth guy and feel many people may have liked that about me.
My takeaway from this video is that in life, there will always be something to love, and there will always be something to dread. Some said they regret not working hard enough while others regret not having fun enough.
But I guess that most painful type of regret is not being able to do something and missing opportunities because it really haunts you about what could have been. Regretting something that you’ve done doesn’t last long, and sometimes it becomes a core memory.
i wish i were more extroverted. though in school, i was quite sociable, good academically and used to participate in various activities. i was comfortable on stage, except for dancing, which inexplicably scared me. despite initially loving dance and participating in groups solos until grade 4th-5th, i eventually quit, and i regret it. not because i wished to become dancer but because i really love how easy dancing moving comes to people now but it's not same case for me. and even though i have improved a lot, it still scares me.
Try little steps. Join a group, or a class and get comfortable with an audience watching you. And if you are not ready it is okay ❤ make little progress daily and when you feel ready, it will come to you. I'm 33 and am starting to shuffle dance, I've never had dance experience but I'm learning a new move weekly and practicing daily even if it's 15 min. I want to be able to do it freely when I am in a music festival ❤. I hope you get the courage to do what you want to in this life. We can dance just to make our heart content. Don't lose the little hobbies that make you smile ❤ sending love ❤
I think we all end up having regrets in some way or the other..is what I learn from this video , I'm still in high school next year will be my last year of High school..well i know there are things i may regret but the thing is that's what i find the most appropriate atm..Just like the experienced people in the video,some regret not having a boyfriend while other regret having them ,some regret studying really hard and getting into more activities while other regret not trying hard..i saw how each one of them regret not doing something while other regret doing it... still I'm really enjoying my life as a student and i am sure I'm making some real fun memories
I am almost 52 and I too was so eager to fall in love and grow up. I wish I could have a do over!
currently in highschool, i regret not doing my work. it’s building up like hell and i don’t know if i’m gonna graduate. gonna be hell!!!!
Love the edit that put the women who regrets not going to college next to the one who regrets going.
The sarcasm one hits really hard as a teenager who uses sarcasm to hide what I'm truly feeling lol
I still think about my Middle School Experience especially June 6, 2019, Worst Day of My Life
What happened? ❤
For me, definitely not being more social with my classmates at the time probably could've had many friends and actually enjoyed my school years. Didn't really care about going out with others my age, just more focused with school work. But no, I have always been that shy girl (kind of a loner) haha since I was young. Now as an adult almost in my 30s, have learned to be more outgoing, and to just have fun enjoying life.
I regret going to an IB school and taking 7 APs on top of that. It was the most difficult experience of my life and it was completely unnecessary. I graduated with more college credits than any college would accept (about 90). I ended up graduating from college with a degree I don’t intend to ever use because I didn’t know what I wanted to do and just picked something. 🙃
Man I'm sorry, that sucks. I go to an IB school too and it's tough. I can't imagine taking AP's on top of that. What do you do now may I ask?
@@gabriellameattray9778 I'm currently unemployed. 🤣💀I started making abstract art a couple months ago. Not sure whether I want to try and continue pursuing that. I enjoy it but I don't think that it will be easy to make a living doing it.
7APs was the minimum we were allowed to take. I took AP European History, AP Language, AP Literature, AP US History, AP Biology, AP French and AP Psychology. In some classes we were being taught two tests (AP & IB) at the same time (e.g. French).
@@sunmarshwait, do you mean maximum or minimum?
Minimum. We were required to take 7APs.@@electricisnthereatthemomen6535
@@sunmarshI also did full IB and though I wasn’t as successful as you seemed to get outta IB, it’s definitely made me want to pursue my dream of game dev instead of pursuing something I’m not that into. Like after grinding high school for everything I was like “nah am chill ima grind what I like” for college. Who knows, maybe you can pull up to some game jams too and incorporate some of your abstract art, random thought.
Listening to the opinions of others, when I felt a different way about the situation. Advice from other people can be good, but when it goes against everything you stand then it is not good.
Not a regret: dropping out and doing running start so I could be 2 years ahead of all my classmates.
1:00 Exactly same experience. That’s crazy. They stayed friends. I changed school. I still think of them daily too.
She dose have the best I’ve ever seen. I love her and all the people she interviews. The very best.
Wasting so much time on trying to fit in. High school lasts only four years, and you won't see most of these folks ever again.
I regret it. I wish I could finish my high school.
I definitely agree with the young lady about makeup being easier for the gen y and z crowd nowadays. RUclips tutorials have spared them from coming to school looking crazy.
I wish I had gotten my autism diagnosis in high school. I was always accused of doing things I didn’t do and had meltdowns often but I didn’t say anything. I’d always go nonverbal whenever I had the chance to explain.
10:32 I got bullied in school (gladly it was a rather short period of time) and someday I started to do exactly what she says in the video and it really helped so much
My biggest regret from high school is not keeping a very good friend of mine who had high functioning autism. He had been such a good friend to me and was always so eager to talk about our shared passion of animated shows and would always make me special handmade cards for every holiday. But I let my well-meaning mom and my lesser well-meaning friends dictate whether or not I'd stay friends with him.
He would invite me over to his house with two of his friends who also had high functioning autism with his parents' attendance to play video games, and I never accepted due to fearing what the social higher ups of my high school and friends would say just because they were all boys and I was a girl. My friend would give me very excited hugs, speak 'too loudly' sometimes, and had a hard time understanding social cues and I had never minded those things because I could relate to him about those aspects, until I got insecure about how it looked to other students. The ending of that friendship in my sophmore year was severely damaged and messy and it was largely due to my part. I severely regret it to this day and was never able to mend that with him because my family moved the summer before my junior year. But even then, I don't think sixteen year old me would have had the guts to step out and try to fix things.
Joshua from JHS of the Class of 2024, I'm so sorry.
I hope you've found it in yourself to forgive me for the absolute mess I made of the two of us in our friendship, you meant the world to me and I should have honored the way I had internally always cherished it.
I'm glad I discovered this channel. These videos are really powerful.
I also regret not trying harder. I could have been a straight A student but constantly was told I wasn’t good enough or that I wasn’t gonna make it in life.
Me too, I was too busy hanging with the guys, I was the tallest guy there I think, so I was kinda popular. Most of the rest had gfs and hanging with gfs, but I just liked talking to and hanging out with guys. I'm still like that