Thank you for talking about this!! I couldn't understand what was happening; I kept trying but it destroyed me. 4 years later and Im a shell of the formerly strong, happy, capable person I was before him and his addiction. I didn't know the signs, I didn't know this could even be an addiction! He blamed me, he set expectations and moved the goal posts so I could never reach them. He felt it wasn't cheating but it cheated us out of true connection, intimacy, a bond, a healthy relationship. He felt it was "only" porn not drugs but it was a true dopamine response the same way any drug is and I felt betrayed the same way any cheated woman would. He became a product of big business porn industry, a brainless shill, I lost respect, and trust watching him so easily controlled like some type of beta simp. I'm gonna miss him forever, the real him. Please keep talking about this.
If the man refuses to give it up or he starts denying or making excuses, then just leave him. Stop wasting your time trying to convince em. If he chooses porn over them, then break up and let him to waste his life on porn.
Started relationship 4 years ago. Told me I am not adventures in bed. Noticed his lack of climax. Was asked My fetishes. found porn and more. He denied addiction. Laughed at me. Agreed to stop. Found it again. Denied it. Excuses. Said I over react. Broke up wih him. Went to Therapy. Agreed to check devises. Found it again. Found Nude pics of exes and females body parts. I am jealous he said. Insecure he said. Broke up with him. Said he will join a Group. He denied saying it. Said it stopped. Learn to hide it. I shared info and help sites. I Trued not to judge. He got more defensive. Reminded me of his goodness. Minimised it. Recently found audio porn Bullshit excuses. I Gave him one more chance to come clean get help he denied having a problem, so Four years of torture, broken trust and hyper vigilance , blamed etc. I feel totally insulted with his pathetic lies and excuses and giving him the benefit of doubt. I am both angry and hurt. After 43 years with an alcoholic and narcissist, this is where I end up at 64.
My bf of 6 six months told me he was addicted to porn. I stayed with him 2 1/2 more weeks, even after he said he stopped. I don’t want to police him and wonder what he’s up to all the time. It wasn’t fun at all. ED never wanted to be intimate. I even asked him if he was rapped or something traumatic happened to him. So when he finally told me it all made sense. Adios
Every word you said was my past 2 yr relationship. He even became physically abusive, always angry, moody, detached, quiet. A complete stranger. I felt i and my child were in imminent danger. I had no idea what was going on, i thought i wad going crazy. I then had D DAY. And that was that, painful, disgusted, bretrayed... he refused to get help, and the grusome things i had to live thru i don't wish upon anyone. He made me sad, depressed, lonely, hurt, and abandoned. Im happy now. Piece of advice if youre in this situation, just get out asap and NEVER LOOK BACK!
Same here! Mine would turn the volume up so I could here. Very low tho. I heard moans of other woman. I confronted, he denied, deemed me crazy and hearing voices, and continued jerking off. Time and time again. Im leaving for the 2nd time, bc he didnt learn the 1st time. I hate him 4 this pain. Lack of remorse too.
currently crying myself to sleep because he's addicted to porn and won't give me any attention or intimacy whatsoever. He denies everything even though i've literally seen him do it. I'm at a loss of what to do.
yhea ok kevin i'm married to him and living in japan so that isn't an option. I just don't get it he's obsessed with video games and doesn't even want time with his newly wedded wife
Those are the signs of a very addicted person. He doesn't want to have sex anymore he'd rather look at hentai, AND he refuses to give it up or entertain the idea that its a problem? You better be careful living in Japan, if hes not indulging already, addiction can lead to prostitutes. If you are military wife go find out your rights when you want a seperation over seas, you'll probanly get a complimentary flight home.
Hun I've been there I feel your pain.ive cried so much we are not together now because of his porn addiction absolutely gutted. Why a fantasy world over real life. I don't get it
JK what do u do if one week he says he sees the problem & admits he's an addict but the next week he changes his mind. I believe it could be but I find it an excuse to continue acting out. After years of abuse & 6month separation I'm ready to give up.
I have caught evidence of porn on my husband's phone, TV and discovered another phone that was for porn. He doesn't won't admit that he's doing it but doesn't say that he isn't watching porn and gets very angry at me at times when I bring up the subject. Sometimes he just listens with this look of guilt on his face like he's sorry for hurting me and sometimes it's like he has no remorse for the damage that it's caused me. I'm still seeing all of these signs that you've mentioned in this video. I'm at my wit's end with it. It's destroying our marriage and my self-esteem. How can I help my husband with this cancerous addiction?
Thank you!! I needed this...My selfesteem is so damaged. I'm lost due to his porn addiction. (p.s.) I am a female and my boyfriend is male - We share a RUclips account
Porn addiction in my experience, existed say before any Internet existed. My ex made no attempt to hide his addiction. In fact, he paraded it before me in an insulting and degrading manner.
I have tried what u said about sitting down with ur partner but he screams at me and says idk y ur making it a big deal and I just look at him with hurt and he doesn’t see it so I let it go
@@katerinalazarou436 yep. Mine won't stop. I keep hearing moans of other woman and I confront,,and he denies, and continues. Deems me as psycho hearing voices. Brought me limp dik last nite and he hasn't touched me in over a week. Y was he limp? Porn was chosen over me.
Yeah how does one do this when the betrayed is chronically ill here. I have not one but 2 traumas now as well as all the many other things that come along with all this.
Yes it sure does ,definitely reduced in quality. I felt I wasn't attractive enough. I was never enough never. Definitely detached yes he never acknowledged it. I always felt I was needy.we are not together now.he wanted a fantasy world more than a real life great relationship with a great gal ! I'm really shocked.
That's how I feel. I don't understand that he wants to b w his hand rather than having decent sex with me but he does. He keeps doing it 2. He knows it hurts me, makes me suicidal and OCD, yet he carries on so it must b worth losing me. It must b better than me, and obviously it's worth losing me over. Shit hurts. He couldn't wait until I left the house today so he could jerk off to porn when I was gone... Than he suggests sex than says he don't really want it or is to tired for it. I'm cutting him off. He's lucky I already moved on and Kno wut to expect.
How do I get the difference between "watching porn" and "porn addiction"? Where is the cut-off-value? I hate my bf for watching porn (especially with him knowing of my body dismorphic disorder), but I am not sure if it is him oder my instability...
My husband chooses work and porn over me. It is heart crushing. I cover myself and even my face when I sleep because I know he no longer feels any attraction to me because I cannot compete with the porn girls. He even got erectile medication to last longer for his porn. 😢
Thank you for talking about this!! I couldn't understand what was happening; I kept trying but it destroyed me. 4 years later and Im a shell of the formerly strong, happy, capable person I was before him and his addiction. I didn't know the signs, I didn't know this could even be an addiction! He blamed me, he set expectations and moved the goal posts so I could never reach them. He felt it wasn't cheating but it cheated us out of true connection, intimacy, a bond, a healthy relationship. He felt it was "only" porn not drugs but it was a true dopamine response the same way any drug is and I felt betrayed the same way any cheated woman would. He became a product of big business porn industry, a brainless shill, I lost respect, and trust watching him so easily controlled like some type of beta simp. I'm gonna miss him forever, the real him. Please keep talking about this.
Hi i just caught my boyfriend doing it too
Hope your OK
If the man refuses to give it up or he starts denying or making excuses, then just leave him. Stop wasting your time trying to convince em. If he chooses porn over them, then break up and let him to waste his life on porn.
Started relationship 4 years ago.
Told me I am not adventures in bed.
Noticed his lack of climax.
Was asked My fetishes.
found porn and more.
He denied addiction.
Laughed at me.
Agreed to stop.
Found it again.
Denied it.
Excuses.
Said I over react.
Broke up wih him.
Went to Therapy.
Agreed to check devises.
Found it again.
Found Nude pics of exes and females body parts.
I am jealous he said.
Insecure he said.
Broke up with him.
Said he will join a Group.
He denied saying it.
Said it stopped.
Learn to hide it.
I shared info and help sites.
I Trued not to judge.
He got more defensive.
Reminded me of his goodness.
Minimised it.
Recently found audio porn
Bullshit excuses.
I Gave him one more chance to come clean get help he denied having a problem, so
Four years of torture, broken trust and hyper vigilance , blamed etc.
I feel totally insulted with his pathetic lies and excuses and giving him the benefit of doubt.
I am both angry and hurt.
After 43 years with an alcoholic and narcissist, this is where I end up at 64.
@@carolashlee8002 I left and I cheated, nothing worked. Im having 2 leave again bc he won't stop!
My bf of 6 six months told me he was addicted to porn. I stayed with him 2 1/2 more weeks, even after he said he stopped. I don’t want to police him and wonder what he’s up to all the time. It wasn’t fun at all. ED never wanted to be intimate. I even asked him if he was rapped or something traumatic happened to him. So when he finally told me it all made sense. Adios
You are spot on. And, no, he was in denial and would avoid discussions about his addiction. Thank you for validating what I had been feeling/thinking.
Same Im on his acct
Well said hun absolutely!
it's destroying our marriage and he's in denial and lies about it anyways
Same
Every word you said was my past 2 yr relationship. He even became physically abusive, always angry, moody, detached, quiet. A complete stranger. I felt i and my child were in imminent danger. I had no idea what was going on, i thought i wad going crazy. I then had D DAY. And that was that, painful, disgusted, bretrayed... he refused to get help, and the grusome things i had to live thru i don't wish upon anyone. He made me sad, depressed, lonely, hurt, and abandoned. Im happy now. Piece of advice if youre in this situation, just get out asap and NEVER LOOK BACK!
Same here! Mine would turn the volume up so I could here. Very low tho. I heard moans of other woman. I confronted, he denied, deemed me crazy and hearing voices, and continued jerking off. Time and time again. Im leaving for the 2nd time, bc he didnt learn the 1st time. I hate him 4 this pain. Lack of remorse too.
currently crying myself to sleep because he's addicted to porn and won't give me any attention or intimacy whatsoever. He denies everything even though i've literally seen him do it. I'm at a loss of what to do.
set boundaries and if still no changes u may have to leave to get his attention
yhea ok kevin i'm married to him and living in japan so that isn't an option. I just don't get it he's obsessed with video games and doesn't even want time with his newly wedded wife
Those are the signs of a very addicted person. He doesn't want to have sex anymore he'd rather look at hentai, AND he refuses to give it up or entertain the idea that its a problem? You better be careful living in Japan, if hes not indulging already, addiction can lead to prostitutes. If you are military wife go find out your rights when you want a seperation over seas, you'll probanly get a complimentary flight home.
I keel hearing mine do it. I hear the moans of other woman. It's fucking sik!
Hun I've been there I feel your pain.ive cried so much we are not together now because of his porn addiction absolutely gutted. Why a fantasy world over real life. I don't get it
Porn addiction can destroy intimacy between a husband and wife.
JK what do u do if one week he says he sees the problem & admits he's an addict but the next week he changes his mind. I believe it could be but I find it an excuse to continue acting out. After years of abuse & 6month separation I'm ready to give up.
I have caught evidence of porn on my husband's phone, TV and discovered another phone that was for porn. He doesn't won't admit that he's doing it but doesn't say that he isn't watching porn and gets very angry at me at times when I bring up the subject. Sometimes he just listens with this look of guilt on his face like he's sorry for hurting me and sometimes it's like he has no remorse for the damage that it's caused me. I'm still seeing all of these signs that you've mentioned in this video. I'm at my wit's end with it. It's destroying our marriage and my self-esteem. How can I help my husband with this cancerous addiction?
Thank you!! I needed this...My selfesteem is so damaged. I'm lost due to his porn addiction. (p.s.) I am a female and my boyfriend is male - We share a RUclips account
Im on my mans acct also these videos have really helped me I wish he would watch these!
thank you so much for these videos, they opened my eyes t a lot of deep horrible pain I've dealt with
How do I get him to be honest?? 😔😔😔 he says he hasn’t for a full year but still never wants sex
Porn addiction in my experience, existed say before any Internet existed. My ex made no attempt to hide his addiction. In fact, he paraded it before me in an insulting and degrading manner.
Omg that's awful. Currently just split up it hurts why porn over real life I don't get it at all
I have tried what u said about sitting down with ur partner but he screams at me and says idk y ur making it a big deal and I just look at him with hurt and he doesn’t see it so I let it go
@@katerinalazarou436 yep. Mine won't stop. I keep hearing moans of other woman and I confront,,and he denies, and continues. Deems me as psycho hearing voices. Brought me limp dik last nite and he hasn't touched me in over a week. Y was he limp? Porn was chosen over me.
Yeah how does one do this when the betrayed is chronically ill here. I have not one but 2 traumas now as well as all the many other things that come along with all this.
Is it possible that these symptoms are also from another underlying issue?
Definitely. Very possible.
My x and current are these people but blames me for it
Yes it sure does ,definitely reduced in quality. I felt I wasn't attractive enough. I was never enough never. Definitely detached yes he never acknowledged it. I always felt I was needy.we are not together now.he wanted a fantasy world more than a real life great relationship with a great gal ! I'm really shocked.
That's how I feel. I don't understand that he wants to b w his hand rather than having decent sex with me but he does. He keeps doing it 2. He knows it hurts me, makes me suicidal and OCD, yet he carries on so it must b worth losing me. It must b better than me, and obviously it's worth losing me over. Shit hurts. He couldn't wait until I left the house today so he could jerk off to porn when I was gone... Than he suggests sex than says he don't really want it or is to tired for it. I'm cutting him off. He's lucky I already moved on and Kno wut to expect.
How do I get the difference between "watching porn" and "porn addiction"? Where is the cut-off-value? I hate my bf for watching porn (especially with him knowing of my body dismorphic disorder), but I am not sure if it is him oder my instability...
6:28 can relate sooooo much
Thankyou❤️
My husband is so addicted to porn but he gives it to me everyday more if I'd give it to him. Idk I still feel very hurt.
true ..
Finding out about my husbands massive porn use and strippers has made me so self confidence I cant even take off my clothes around him
Me, too. I even cover my face when I sleep. When I can, I will move to another bedroom.
My husband chooses work and porn over me. It is heart crushing. I cover myself and even my face when I sleep because I know he no longer feels any attraction to me because I cannot compete with the porn girls. He even got erectile medication to last longer for his porn. 😢
@@Robroy13 I’m sorry to hear that. Why are you still with him?
How to spot a narcissist? Look for a cop as it is 90% accurate
100% my dude. Sex sucks, his eyes are closed no kissing, everything is wrong with me & everything else you're saying
Is my is my mother goose club out.