Truth is that when one loose the spouse, it's not easy to forget about him/her,all in all the victim meaning that who he/she was left behind should take enough time before remarrying because if you rush to get married again soon then you will be commiting a big mistake.
I think when you meet one and he/she's willing to replace it's good for you to talk about it and also don't rush allow one to heal then you can move on.
The man hasn't healed and he rushed to a marriage he wasn't ready for. I became a widower fifteen years now. I never remarried for fear of this kind of a situation.Youngest kid was 3yrs and today was his 18th birthday. I entirely depended on support from my siblings and my mother in bringing up four children. My last born did kcse last yr and headed to campus. Now my children are grown and are asking that i think of getting someone as soon i will face an empty nest syndrome. I am glad i made the right decision for the kids and sacrificed myself for them. That man hasn't moved on he needs to take time otherwise he will lose his own children.
This man should have put the pictures in kids room and albums for them to remember.girl they can’t call u mummy,the kids are grown up at least auntie,some time people expect too much
This guy should finish mourning for his dead wife. Lady, move on. This guy has more than enough issues to deal with. This guy is not ready for remarriage
She can’t be like your late wife because she isn’t her.. nor is your late wife her… and there’s no woman out here who will ever b like your late wife sadly.. that’s something this man needs to know… otherwise.. he better stay single.. cause no woman will b okay with being compared even with a dead person
@ErnestNgaire there's a good reason why men in certain communities were allowed to marry sisters. She's the only woman who can take good care of her late sister's children.
The guy MUST move on or stay with his late wife's memories juu no woman can stand being compared with an Ex leave alone the dead, a ghost! If died of cancer and you're hear kumuongelea coz cancer is the devil, when my dad died of cancer, i thanked God for resting his soul juu the pain my dad had was deep!.. The guys children are also mannerless and no woman can stand such! To the lady, if it's NOT working, just walk away, no need to cheat, just go stay with that guy you're cheating with, period!
Ladies when a man loses his wife it takes time to heal if you accept him and the kids you must know there is sacrifice to make. Give him time support him don’t push him to forget everything that happened to him if you try that method trust me he will move on and invest in you in
@@janicekola7244 But at least you can understand the other lady's position. It is like the man is with her physically but his heart is still with the dead woman. She should have moved on long ago. Let her walk off now.
Bro, my late wife was the best, in fact I was her first man. She left me with my two year old daughter and four year old son. Five years later I remarried my current wife and we have been together for the last three years. We have been pretty good, never compared her with my late wife coz I had completely healed. Everybody has their own characters bro, you need to move on.
The man needs to remain single for long enough to reconcile the loss of his first wife. Otherwise, this girl should go be with the person she's cheating with. This is the only solution in this situation.
Kupoteza bibi mama Baba ama mtoi it's hard to accept I lost my mom april 2023 Na lemme say everything changed I even ask God why? My mom was everything to me she was my supporter My mom could not even allow me to travel abroad she could even bribe me reason I was the only kid. Now today am just alone family mambers now it's almost two years even a single call akuna juu sina kitu ya kuwapea but the time mom was there calls messages wueeeh
The lady is right in her way. This man is with her physically but mentally and spiritually he is still with late wife. The kids disrespect her and he just watches on. This woman has endured a lot. This man should never marry again. Let him remain to be looked after by the spirit of his wife. This woman should have move on long ago.
the best healing,, is to stay away from any sexual relationship, just dedicate yourself to work, health, mentally n support your kids or kid. don't rush immediately after breakup or mayb after your spouse has died
Girl congratulations for doing that! Just walk away you are young to handle such nonsense. Let him heal and grow up bado hajakomaa. And hes not a man with voice if he cant even protect you from the children he wants you to bring up. Just go and have your family dont waste time na hii dude 😢
Walai i feel for this girl hakuna vile utakaa na mtu hajamove on yaani hadi pictures za late wife bado ziko kwa wall...babie girl run for ur life u r too young and beautiful to go through such
Cheating is wrong and no reason is enough for cheating better walk away.However if the guy will not learn from his mistake,if he remarries he will recycle the pain.
I understand your pain if its true the kids disrespect yu and it wasnt right for this man to remarry before fully healed,however thats not the way to deal with such issues cheating on such a person wasn't Godly at all at all
This guy will never move on if he keeps comparing people with the dead and he is not accepting his shortcomings. This lady has really tried, Girl go n don't look back The guy will come to regret, cz him alone hajiamini he can raise kids alone
Two years madam umejaribu, mm kama kuna kitu nachukia ni mtu kunicompare na wengine, like unanicompare na mtu alikuwa older kuniliko and the fact is that the person hatawai rudi, huyu atafute househelp amlele watoi , this is bullshit , mm ningekuwa nimetembea kitambo walai
Enda tu baby gal they will judge you but the wont understand ungekuwa unatesa hao watoto ulipata hapo singeona uzuri wako those others things naona ni minor mngesolve na maisha isonge baby boy now its either u take care of ur kids ,u employ house gal to take care of them lakini bibi no 3 hapana unaweza ruka mkojo ukanyage mavi streets ni chafu.
Only God understands their situation my dad even sits by the grave side and weep. My mom's pic cannot be removed from the wall. NEVER. But we don't mistreat the step coz of taking care of the home and dad. Healing is a process
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The way the lady is cool listening to all the lectures coming from the husband is a clear picture that the lady is respectful, she is just tired
Respectful !!! Haven't you seen the first episode?
Unless this man change, not many humans can stand this
A cheater is a cheater that's not enough reasons for her to cheat,
Ongea tu kama huwezi kufa ukaacha watoto wako... Selfish rat
The biggest mistake this guy did is to remarry when actually he had not healed from the death of his wife.
And then he went for Genz and he is GenX..atawezana??
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Young girl, run for your life. Let this man eat his spirits that makes him a live.
this man needs serious counselling, he is the one with the problem
Very true
I now understand why it's important to listen to both sides
This guy is mean mean mean. Lady run run🎉
Infact kama huyu dem anasema ukweli about babies disrespect😢 I feel this lady for sure 😢😢😢😢
Hiyo ndio reason ya kucheat?
The man is going to dump her as well
@@Handloid ndoa nzuri ni ile uko peke yako
@philipjacknatunga4804 sio reason but nikama alikua amechoka na hiyo ndoa
@@Handloid hanging on marriage coz of money
Let the Man remain single and let the photos of your wife and the spirit of your wife whom his heart is still attached to raise his kids.
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Huna huruma 😂
Well said and direct
Truth is that when one loose the spouse, it's not easy to forget about him/her,all in all the victim meaning that who he/she was left behind should take enough time before remarrying because if you rush to get married again soon then you will be commiting a big mistake.
Girl, run and don't look back. He needs to heal on his own
Honestly leaving with a widower is a big problem its always a difficult situation
I think when you meet one and he/she's willing to replace it's good for you to talk about it and also don't rush allow one to heal then you can move on.
You can't have your late spouse's photos on the wall with a new partner in the same house!
@@theinfinitymatrix. the lady before aolewe angesema anataka nyumba yake hakusema from the start
Please remove the photos or lady move out
This lady is one in a million!!!!
Now i understand what pushed the lady to do such tabia mbaya
Indeed she was humiliated
People grieve differently, the man needs more time....
Huyu mzee still love the late wife huyu alimchukua kama wa kulea watoto.
Angelitafuta maid to take care of the kids na he heals ama aoe the late wife's ghost
😂😂😂😂😂i think Kenyans are funny your comment looks Okey but the end of it got me down 😅
The man hasn't healed and he rushed to a marriage he wasn't ready for. I became a widower fifteen years now. I never remarried for fear of this kind of a situation.Youngest kid was 3yrs and today was his 18th birthday. I entirely depended on support from my siblings and my mother in bringing up four children. My last born did kcse last yr and headed to campus. Now my children are grown and are asking that i think of getting someone as soon i will face an empty nest syndrome. I am glad i made the right decision for the kids and sacrificed myself for them. That man hasn't moved on he needs to take time otherwise he will lose his own children.
Pole sana and thanks kwa kupenda watoto wako 👏👏👏👏 kuoa wakiwa wadogo wangeteseka aki wee💪💪🙏🙏
This man should have put the pictures in kids room and albums for them to remember.girl they can’t call u mummy,the kids are grown up at least auntie,some time people expect too much
This guy should finish mourning for his dead wife.
Lady, move on. This guy has more than enough issues to deal with. This guy is not ready for remarriage
I think this man together with his children needs prayers and spiritual healing
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This man is not looking at the issues on his side. That isn't right!
@@theinfinitymatrix. if she wanted to cheat she should have left the narriage
My fellow woman....run run.
@@cynthiasilvia2830 alikua msichana yet anaenda kuolewa na mtu amefiwa ama aliona gari
She can’t be like your late wife because she isn’t her.. nor is your late wife her… and there’s no woman out here who will ever b like your late wife sadly.. that’s something this man needs to know… otherwise.. he better stay single.. cause no woman will b okay with being compared even with a dead person
She is a good woman
The way she talk She is not good as a stepmother
Bro raise your kids alone
No woman can take care of another woman's kids especially a cheater
@ErnestNgaire there's a good reason why men in certain communities were allowed to marry sisters. She's the only woman who can take good care of her late sister's children.
@Evans-u6i nowadays even those relatives are worse...there before maybe in 70's people hard hearts
Lies there are blood sisters who are more evil than strangers
Well stated, this gal needs to mature up to be able to handle those kids and a widower. Man take your time, heal then look for a more mature woman.
The guy MUST move on or stay with his late wife's memories juu no woman can stand being compared with an Ex leave alone the dead, a ghost! If died of cancer and you're hear kumuongelea coz cancer is the devil, when my dad died of cancer, i thanked God for resting his soul juu the pain my dad had was deep!.. The guys children are also mannerless and no woman can stand such! To the lady, if it's NOT working, just walk away, no need to cheat, just go stay with that guy you're cheating with, period!
This is why I am not remarried since my wife died 7 years ago because so many ladies are not trustful. Lemme take care of my children alone.
What u need to do,put camera n connect wth ur fon.whatever is going on in ur house,u wll b able to c everything
10 years down the line,just focusing on my future and the future of my kids,
Aaaaiìii this man is also wrong ukweli usemwe
The guy needs to man up 😞
Ladies when a man loses his wife it takes time to heal if you accept him and the kids you must know there is sacrifice to make. Give him time support him don’t push him to forget everything that happened to him if you try that method trust me he will move on and invest in you in
He needs to take time and heal and stop comparing the living and the dead.. he probably should look for a widow
She takes care of your children well, she has never disrespected you though she cheated..
Guy mistake he didn't engage his kids about bringing a mother figure. He hasn't healed yet
The dressing code speaks it all the way to the streets.
This man needed mother to his kids...NOT a wife
He needs to heal first..pole for this ugly situation.
Withtime they will be back and survive this
This man is deeply traumatised for the loss of his first wife. He needs counselling, really.
She is just a bad fit guy is ok
Let us be honest. The man is also wrong to keep referring to his dead wife and comparing this other lady to her. I think this marriage cannot work.
I thinkhe cant help it..kucompare inakuja automatically...thats why he should hve taken time to heal first..though ni ngumu
@@janicekola7244 But at least you can understand the other lady's position. It is like the man is with her physically but his heart is still with the dead woman. She should have moved on long ago. Let her walk off now.
@PaulWabwiiyi true
Bro, my late wife was the best, in fact I was her first man. She left me with my two year old daughter and four year old son. Five years later I remarried my current wife and we have been together for the last three years. We have been pretty good, never compared her with my late wife coz I had completely healed. Everybody has their own characters bro, you need to move on.
I wish him the best as a single dad😢
This guy hasn't healed. He made a mistake marrying without healing. I totally understand this young lady. Run for your life gal😢
Bro.your past is history,your future is a mystery ,today is your gift,focus on now.
huyu dem ashadevelop chuki kabisa towards the man just from the look of things.
That lady is out, Mzee jipange wake up hii NI hatari kibia
The man needs to remain single for long enough to reconcile the loss of his first wife.
Otherwise, this girl should go be with the person she's cheating with. This is the only solution in this situation.
Kupoteza bibi mama Baba ama mtoi it's hard to accept
I lost my mom april 2023 Na lemme say everything changed I even ask God why?
My mom was everything to me she was my supporter
My mom could not even allow me to travel abroad she could even bribe me reason I was the only kid.
Now today am just alone family mambers now it's almost two years even a single call akuna juu sina kitu ya kuwapea but the time mom was there calls messages wueeeh
Woie sorry 😢😢😢😢
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@@joycemwangi1232 🙏
Sorry for your loss
This guy is defending himself, madam run, kumbe n jinga hivi shenzi sana man,,
The lady is right in her way. This man is with her physically but mentally and spiritually he is still with late wife. The kids disrespect her and he just watches on. This woman has endured a lot. This man should never marry again. Let him remain to be looked after by the spirit of his wife. This woman should have move on long ago.
This man should be left alone afufue huyo bibi yake asipatie wengine stress...
This man should know we only learn how to live with death because life has to move on despite what,
the best healing,, is to stay away from any sexual relationship, just dedicate yourself to work, health, mentally n support your kids or kid. don't rush immediately after breakup or mayb after your spouse has died
Madam move on,toka hapo utapata mtu nzuri,rem you are beautiful huwezi kosa mtu
Baby gal run 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ to ur life.hapa hakuna ndoa.ur there for them like maid.
20:09 she has given up! The guy needs to heal first
Girl...RUN OOOHHH!!!
At some point I think the girl was wrong but this man is a no,,he married when he was not ready
This guy married a school girl. Maturity matters when choosing a partner.
The man has bigger issue with himself
The lady is so right, this guy is the problem. But cheating haina excuse
But you proved them right...these 2 should never reconcile..this woman might harm the kids or him..
Girl congratulations for doing that! Just walk away you are young to handle such nonsense. Let him heal and grow up bado hajakomaa. And hes not a man with voice if he cant even protect you from the children he wants you to bring up. Just go and have your family dont waste time na hii dude 😢
Even BMS Ameshindwa awaambie nini 😒😒
Walai i feel for this girl hakuna vile utakaa na mtu hajamove on yaani hadi pictures za late wife bado ziko kwa wall...babie girl run for ur life u r too young and beautiful to go through such
Cheating is wrong and no reason is enough for cheating better walk away.However if the guy will not learn from his mistake,if he remarries he will recycle the pain.
I understand your pain if its true the kids disrespect yu and it wasnt right for this man to remarry before fully healed,however thats not the way to deal with such issues cheating on such a person wasn't Godly at all at all
Let the man stay with the spirit of his late wife
This guy will never move on if he keeps comparing people with the dead and he is not accepting his shortcomings.
This lady has really tried, Girl go n don't look back
The guy will come to regret, cz him alone hajiamini he can raise kids alone
Everybody in that house,kids included need therapy tukianza na huyo cate
Two years madam umejaribu, mm kama kuna kitu nachukia ni mtu kunicompare na wengine, like unanicompare na mtu alikuwa older kuniliko and the fact is that the person hatawai rudi, huyu atafute househelp amlele watoi , this is bullshit , mm ningekuwa nimetembea kitambo walai
Enda tu baby gal they will judge you but the wont understand ungekuwa unatesa hao watoto ulipata hapo singeona uzuri wako those others things naona ni minor mngesolve na maisha isonge baby boy now its either u take care of ur kids ,u employ house gal to take care of them lakini bibi no 3 hapana unaweza ruka mkojo ukanyage mavi streets ni chafu.
The man needed to heal before remarrying.
I am so sorry for him, but he needs to move on. Maybe he needs conselling to help him in the journey.
My dear sister run for your life akuna doa hapa
Steve, you as the mediator should tell this guy the truth. No woman will stand him
True
Na c aoe hiyo spirit ya the late wife ako na ujinga mm this is the reason why mama wa kambo hupiga watoto ma kuua
My first time to side with a cheater 😢madam ruuun once someone disrespect
Will never respect
She could have move on and leave this man if she is not comfortable
I don support cheating but bro ata wewe move on hakuna mwanaume utawai oa and you keep making them feel sec to your late wife na muishi na yeye
Problem is from the Man nt this girl cz i see sense and respect from her.. very humble nvile was suffering from inside hakusema..
Huyu ni baba talisha mwingine kama naye kila saa ni kwa kaburi tu hata wakikosana kidogo,mtu kama huyu hanaga time ya mwenye ameoa
He is so unreasonable
But huyu jamaa ako n shida, though the lady waaaaaah 😢
Mwanaume ugeoa rika Yako Wachana na Hawa wasichana Tena heal first
Still anampenda watarundiana tu😂😂
Huyu jamaa ni fala go girl you have a life to live Wacha na huyu burukenge
It was a big mistake to enter another marriage just immediately after the wife's death
This man just wanted a mother for his kids
Wueeh...hata amejaribu...I personally can't take this crap
Siwaii date mwanaume bibi yake alikufa kaa bdo ni young nlidate mmoja nliona shidaa ..
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Its so painful to loose your partner only to replace with acheater take time before you remarry😢😢
Very true @pamelamudogo😮😢
But why do I feel the man is the cause of these problems?
@@arodiboyiBecause he look drunk
This lady felt disrespected can do the same even worse
5yrs now.. sijapata😊
Huyu manzi na dedicate kwake all alone in love ya Mariah carey
Dude look for a baby sitter to sit your kids.. you not ready for a wife.. you need to heal first ..
I feel for this lady
Hiii apana huyu jamaa anafaa kuachwa......he can't heal
Only God understands their situation my dad even sits by the grave side and weep. My mom's pic cannot be removed from the wall. NEVER. But we don't mistreat the step coz of taking care of the home and dad. Healing is a process
Babygal, ruuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuun, and run away from this selfish man and his family.
Hao Watoto ningekua NI Mimi ningewafunza adhabu,huu ujinga siesani mim.woa Huyo aliakufa
This guy has to move on with life or he will end up a lonely man
The way the lady ana snear woi 😢
Ata time this man was with the late wife may be he was not appreciating her
I feel sorry for this lady better kutoka kwa hiyo ndoa
Weee aki hii kesi ni ngumu kabisa but uyu mzae akae tu single na watoto wake
Hii ndio sura ya huyu madam ama ana ingine