No one understands her situation until you're in her shoes. It's easier said than done when you're in a domestic violence relationship and there's kids involved. She stayed because she didn't know how to leave any other way. She stays for the abuse because she's a selfless mother who's protecting her children. We just have to praise her for her survival, for we'll never know because we were never in her shoes.
There’s law and order. There’s restraint order to be placed from the beginning when he first meeting her and then throughout her abusive marriage. She didn’t say or budge. She was enjoying it as long as she still got a little of his dick.
Bull shit, she’s not protecting nobody she can’t even protect herself how the hell she’ll protect her child’s. She Shouldn’t have to drag this on for so long, but she choose to stay. Remember we’re in America not back in the mountains.
Was it that man so dumb in old school. I look at my lady, she looks more wonder every year even we are getting old and older we feel the life is so short.
People‼️ don't victim blame the person!! Abuse is a serious problem. People who haven't walked in her shoes cannot understand the depth. We've heard many stories about abuse, but it is always good to hear another one. We will never know if this story will inpsire a person. All we can do is hope. To the woman of this story, I commend your courage to leave him. You found your strength and you're alive. That is the key point here.
not blaming the victim, but she put herself in that situation. she knew he's toxic and abusive but she still married him. she's not helping herself so no one could help her. go to the police and deal with this guy.
This is what happened when people depend on Hmong OG to resolve their personal affair. Never depend or allow anyone to tangle with your personal affair.
I swear our Hmong women and moms are the most loyal and patience with loser husbands. Eventually everyone will need to fight for survival and I don't know why some moms choose to stay for so long. The sooner you close that door, the sooner a new door/opportunity will open up. Hopefully our younger generations are slowly getting away from these practices and realizing that life, survival, and happiness is all that matters at the end of the day.
Never underestimate the fear of a woman for a man. This is the force that keeps her in the relationship, even after abuse. Some women are not strong enough to stand up for herself or escape either. This man has threatened death on her and her family, and her family kept sending her back. Never judge someone until you are in their shoes. It’s not as easy as it is to think about.
Boy do I understand her!! Been there, done that. Best decision of my life was when I left him 20+ years ago. Sister, I'm so glad you found the courage to leave him. You deserve happiness and love.
I applaud you for having the courage to leave at last. You’re already a strong person for going through the abuse. No one understands it better than you who went through the abuse. Things are easier said then done. He was the problem. It was not your fault. People could victim blame all they want because they are not you. You are a survivor. You are strong and brave.
Omg these kids are traumatized for life. Thanks for sharing your story so other women can have the courage to leave a abusive relationship. So glad you celebrate 🎊 🎊 🎊 🎉 🎉 🎉 yes, must celebrate!!!
Cas yuav celebrate lig ua luaj. Ntaus kuv thawj zaug xwb ces nws mag nkuaj hnub ntawv los, thiab kuv twb dim hnub ntawv los lawm pob. I give you credit for being so patient for this abusers man. Glad you still alive lady!
Txiv neej ma thiaj txawj siab phem tiag22 li os tab si peb cov poj niam li tsi yog loj vim yog txiv neej li me lawm xwb xa kom zoo ma ua siab phem koj tia khoob loj muab rau lwm tu lawv tseem hai tiab zoo heev no
Y’all missing the point that she survived and is celebrating her best life now. This is why Hmong woman don’t leave right away because of judgmental people like you commenting how dumb she was for staying and all the red flags. No shyt hindsight is 20/20. Give her grace. Some woman never get to celebrate because they stay and end up in a murder-suicide.
No your missing the point. Don't blame the husband, blame her why , cause she knew how he was when they were dating ,she wanted a bad boy and then when she got him why complain. No shyt their was red flag but did she care no hahahaha
Zoo li no mas yog cov poj niam tsis muaj peev xwm ho cov neej tsa los neej tsa npua2 xwb thiaj li tsis pab ntxhais kuv cov lus no yeej muaj tseeb kuv tus poj niam mas yog tus poj rauj 2 zaug. Tiam sis lawv coj li cov neej tsa no hos kuv niag poj niam los coj li ni thiab.
Peb hmoob people need to stop telling couples to 'ua siab ntev'. This is why there is a lot of murder suicide situations. If they don't get along, let them go their own ways.
Tus txiv tshob cuab ces txawm yus muaj tub muaj ntxhais tibsi Los nws ywwj tshob cuab o...txhob khuv xim tus txiv siab phem quav dev li ntawd poj hmoob e....nws yeej tsis txog twg li o...nws tsuas zoo ntawm tus zoo poj niam txhais tes xwb...thaum dhau ntawm yus lawm ces nws yog khib nyiab lawm thiab xwb...txhob tu siab ..ua tsaug tshaj pkaws qhov nws nrauj yus...yus thiaj Kaj siab tsis tau uv tus txiv quav dev li ntawd o
One of the worst case of toxic relationship. Red flags right from the beginning and he is already show signs of a psychopath. Can’t believe you continued to stayed that long and took all his bs and beating. Another lesson that walking away as early as possible is the best solution to a toxic relationship.
Hmoob Cov nyuag neej tsa uas pheej hais tias “ib zaug xwb los yog nyuam qhuav zaum ob xwb es mloog peb hais es peb mam hais kom koj tus txiv txhob ua ntxiv lawm” quav dev tshaj plaws yeej tsis taug cai li tab yuam neeg los tag zog lov poj niam cai xwb. Yog hnub twg ib tug txiv neej yawg tsa nws ob sab tes ntaus koj, muab nws ob sab taw ncaws koj nqaij ntuag ntshav nrog, los nqaij doog thiab hwv tias yuav muab koj thiab koj cov menyuam tua ces ncaj qha mus rau cov neej tsa teeb liab teeb ntsuab xwb vim cov neej tsa Hmoob yeej pab tsis tau yus kiag. Tus me niam tsev pab tu siab tias koj thiab koj cov menyuam raug tsim ntev es tsis muaj neeg pab koj, tab sis zoo siab tias koj kuj muaj peev xwm khiav dim tus neeg siab phem tsim txom koj ntawv mus es koj kuj tau lub neej Kaj siab li ko. Proud of you!👏👏👏
I assure you that I definitely understand her shoe is. I will not tolerate men like this. We are in our level of strength. N O one can treat me like this man. Don’t find excuse for her.
Nco tia kwv tij will NEVER be on your side ladies. Love yourself.. men like this should not exist in this world. You are too blind by his sooo called love...Im not sorry but you havr no one to blame buy yourself sister. All the red flags there but still you choose to be around...
Not even your neej tsa is on your side. The only one that is on your side is the law, which many Hmong women don’t use enough. Don’t wait for others to rescue you, you rescue yourself!
Dumbest comment ever. Did you not listen to the story? He forced her to marry him by threatening to kill her previous boyfriend and her family. How the hell is it her fault?! Of course it's typical for Hmong people to blame the woman. It's always the women's fault, never the man.
@@GoodGollyMissMolly763 no comment is dumb, but we all can learn from it sis. Story like this just piss me off. There is law to protect but still marriage like this, women still stick around to carried the burden until it no longer had strength. As a hmong woman we all know the burden or txoj kev UA SIAB NTEV...until enough is enough than it will be too late..she smart to tell her story but stay for the sake of it until she no longer can. Just glad she found another man to love... 🙂
Tej no nws yog tim nej cov poj niam xwb yus yuav tau hlub yus tus kheej tsis txhob yug cov niag tsaub coob coob es thiaj li zoo rau yus nawb mog nej cov niam tsev
Txiv neej ces 8-10 leej minyuam ces txiv neej yavqws ces twb pib me lawm os, qhov loj Los vim thaub tsis caiv Kom puv hli ne ces loj xwb dr twb Kom caiv ces yog caiv Kom qhov me thuab cev rov zoo nws tsis tos ne ces ziag no xyov pog qhov loj Los xyov thaub yav me li lawm. Pojniam ruam ces tus txiv hais licas ntseeg li ntawv.
Everybody knows ppl always say they'll do stuff but when they're in that situation it's easier said than done. Glad you had the courage to leave. Best of luck to you!
Why wait so long to divorce him? Nothing to celebrate now that you've been his punching bag for so long and been miserable for so long and you're old now?! Mob laus tag lawm os! Should've left him the first time he abused you then you can celebrate with his child support and fix yourself up with his 401k and alimony! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🙄
😆 @ 4:24 ( Not to be mean, but just how May said it). He was NOT a good guy in the beginning. When someone really wants to be with you and later on hurt you, that's not love. No women deserve to be in an abusive relationship. I'm glad tus niam tsev found the strength to leave that ahole. You are a survivor.
Txiv tsev muaj poj niam tig ua hluas yeej ib txwm khom lus tsis haus nws tus poj niam vim nws xav mus uas hluas li nws yog ib tug hluas tsis tau muaj poj niam. Qhov no tsis yog cai rau tus txiv neej twg nyob ua neej, tab sis tus txiv neej no ntshaw tshaj plaws kom yog li ntawv. Case no mas tus txiv tsev ua hluas lawm ces nws muab txhua yam phem ntawm nws tus poj niam dig kom tawm los hais tib nws tus poj niam vim nws xav kom txhua yam cia nws yeej thiab dim kev mus ua hluas nkaus xwb.
You were young and naive and allowed him to intimidate you. Never marry someone who threatens you because it will only get worse. Hmong people need to learn about family planning. Ladies, love yourself and don’t have so many kids.
Its not because your children have no way out. It is because you have NO self love and you will have NO will power. You should have seek help through DV support and not allow your children to witness that ki nd of abuse. You should have a mother to ur children first. Hope that as the grow they will escape DV.
Koj niag qub txiv ntxim ntxub, tseem phem tshaj dab. Zoo tshaj plaws uas koj dim kiag, cia lwm tus ho los tsim nws, Sujsum!!! Nrog koj celebrate, cheers 🍻🥂
It's truly sad & hard to be in an abusive marriage. How many years you have wasted your life with this hateful man! I am so happy that you now have a happier life, sister.
Life with abusive is horrible but we lived in America we have the right to protect ourselves from relationship abusive only the laws in America will protect you!! If you allowed your husband hit you one time it will continue till you suffered your pains your feelings forever!! Call the cops teach him lessons put him in jail for few years don’t take him back if you do take him back he will kill you not only hit you!! Trust me don’t let him have second chance!! My girlfriend was lived in abusive relationships for five years the last time he choked her almost die she finally call the cops put him in jail and filed warrants and divorce on him and move on with her life. You got to loves you self!! Relatives don’t lives in your home wear your shoes they only want you to go back take more hits from your husband relatives can not save you!! You must save your life for your children!!! Some men are evils heart they only think what benefits them not their wife!! They want to cheated to fulfill their needs. Loves yourself for your kids.
Just started dating and he's already emotionally abusive and threatening to hurt you and your bf😳 then he slashed your bf tires? There are the red flags. Never marry a man who threaten you at the beginning. He's evil from the beginning. I'm glad you got away and stay away from him
I applaud you, sister of this story. Only those that have never been in your shoes would judge you. It took me 13yrs before I gained the strength to leave my abuser too. I didn't report him, therefore when I left, I was blamed but Karma is a bitch after all. Now, his new wife do him the way he did me. Not only does she abuses him, she abuses his parents too. She called the cops on him and his beloved father, put his mother in the hospital. They reap what they sow.
5 minutes into the story and I already see red flags. He threatens you and then you proceed to marry him still. I’m going to assume she was a child bride. Most teenagers would think this was love. It’s NOT.
Peb cov hmoob txoj niag kev caij qua dev tias phem zoo los ntua tej ntxhais rov qab mus tsuas kom txhob poob ntsej muag xwb na. Xum cia tus ntxhais mag Tua pom tseg es Media/ internet mam li take care xwb. Liam tshaj.
Koj ywb muaj tes thiab ...Cas pheej cia niag ntsej muag ncaj Siab khaus ntawd ntaus koj ua dabtsi ? Cas tsis ua neej raws txoj Cai..ces tsis tseg nws li thiab xwb ...li cas koj dim ces kav tsij ua Ntuj tsaug o poj hmoob e...niag txiv quav dev phem li ntawd nws yog khib nyiab xwb o
Wow why you knew in the beginning your husband is the kind of guy siab phem siab ceev but you still choosed him .poj niam muaj 1 txhia yeej g sawm zoo li txiv neej cem tiag thiab .
Why would you let him hit you all the time, are you still in Loas? Omg you can always run to the police and hide from him, when he have that woman that was the best chance for you to go.
Tus viv ncaus kuv mloog koj txoj neej neeg tsi tas ntshav siab dhau lawm. Txhua yam tim koj xwb. Ib tug txiv ntaus n tsim koj npaum li ko koj txaus siab nyob ces kuv tias tim koj 100%. Kuv tus no ces tsi tau nawb. Nws ntaus kuv ib zaug xwb ces mag nkuaj tas ces bye22 forever xwb ov. 😡😡😡😡
For this woman I don't have any sympathy for her . This man is bad to the Bone and she doesn't have any common sense of leaving in my opinion she deserved every bit of torture from this man put on her. She doesn't live in Laos or Thailand, no person here in the US can take that many years of abusive and still live with him. I think she's telling the truth 50% and lying 50%.
He threatened her life and her family’s life. Even her family sent her back. What is she supposed to do?? You have no sympathy until it’s someone you know. You’re just lucky its not your mom or sister.
I hope young girls will learn from stories like this. Girls....please do not rush into a marriage. Date for as long as you can until you know their personality
Some women enjoy getting beat up. If she did not enjoy getting beat up, she should have divorce on the first or second beating. Good thing at the end, she finally got some brain to move on.
Please, don't say that. No one enjoys a beating. That's how abuse victims behave. They don't have the courage to leave, especially when their family is not on their side. It takes a long time for them to process and figure out the abusive relationship is not good for them. It also takes a lot of courage to leave. Abused people don't think like others.
Wow... can't understand why men would physically abuse their wife and then expect to sleep with her again. 😕 very sad and very disappointing to hear these kind of stories. Pray you'll find the right guy sister.
The Hmong's division of power to men can be ethical if real consequences of abuse are also defined and applied in this life time. Leaving it to the understanding and wisdom of the self or passing it to the afterlife is dangerous and frivolous. Its' what happened here: the man used this power in hate and destroyed "good" all around him. What was he really afraid of.
Muab mloog mas koj ntshaws niag txiv dev no tshaj plaws koj thiaj raug tsim txom loj tag npaum no niag ntsej muaj laib cas koj yuav ntshaws nws ua luaj
Pojniam ruam los yog koj nco nws rab qau ma lov ? twb pom xeeb tuaj nyob lub tebchaws vam meej li no nej tseem ntshai ib tug neeg liam li tus txiv aub no thiab ? hmoob twb haistias tawv nyuj qhuav ces yuav cia rau txiv dev kaws, tus txiv neej hmoob phem li koj tus txiv dev no yuav tau tso rau tub ceev xwm muab nws caws.
No one understands her situation until you're in her shoes. It's easier said than done when you're in a domestic violence relationship and there's kids involved. She stayed because she didn't know how to leave any other way. She stays for the abuse because she's a selfless mother who's protecting her children. We just have to praise her for her survival, for we'll never know because we were never in her shoes.
No one understands her situation because ain't no one stupid like her, hahaha..
Exactly
There’s law and order. There’s restraint order to be placed from the beginning when he first meeting her and then throughout her abusive marriage. She didn’t say or budge. She was enjoying it as long as she still got a little of his dick.
That right
Bull shit, she’s not protecting nobody she can’t even protect herself how the hell she’ll protect her child’s. She Shouldn’t have to drag this on for so long, but she choose to stay. Remember we’re in America not back in the mountains.
It takes a strong woman to endure years of abuse BUT it takes an even stronger woman to LEAVE an abusive relationship.
Was it that man so dumb in old school. I look at my lady, she looks more wonder every year even we are getting old and older we feel the life is so short.
People‼️ don't victim blame the person!! Abuse is a serious problem. People who haven't walked in her shoes cannot understand the depth. We've heard many stories about abuse, but it is always good to hear another one. We will never know if this story will inpsire a person. All we can do is hope. To the woman of this story, I commend your courage to leave him. You found your strength and you're alive. That is the key point here.
not blaming the victim, but she put herself in that situation. she knew he's toxic and abusive but she still married him. she's not helping herself so no one could help her. go to the police and deal with this guy.
@@chouathao2122 you are already victim blaming her. Go re-read what you wrote
Is her own fault, she chose him. She knew how he was and wanted a bad boy.
So proud of you to learn to be strong enough to leave!! Protect yourself and your children. No one deserves being abused!
This is what happened when people depend on Hmong OG to resolve their personal affair. Never depend or allow anyone to tangle with your personal affair.
I hate og and hmong families throwing out their unrealistic bs and think it's marriage counseling
The Road is open to Laos again!!!…May just got back from SEA.She’s happy…👏👏👏👏
I swear our Hmong women and moms are the most loyal and patience with loser husbands. Eventually everyone will need to fight for survival and I don't know why some moms choose to stay for so long. The sooner you close that door, the sooner a new door/opportunity will open up. Hopefully our younger generations are slowly getting away from these practices and realizing that life, survival, and happiness is all that matters at the end of the day.
Y0g lawm zoo li kuv lub neej
Sister, I’m glad you got out alive. Many of our hmoob sisters didn’t. May those that didn’t REST IN PEACE.
Never underestimate the fear of a woman for a man. This is the force that keeps her in the relationship, even after abuse. Some women are not strong enough to stand up for herself or escape either.
This man has threatened death on her and her family, and her family kept sending her back. Never judge someone until you are in their shoes. It’s not as easy as it is to think about.
Boy do I understand her!! Been there, done that. Best decision of my life was when I left him 20+ years ago. Sister, I'm so glad you found the courage to leave him. You deserve happiness and love.
The law is there. Use it when necessary.
Peb cov me Viv ncaus yog koj tus txiv pom lwm tus zoo dua koj lawm muab nws nrauj kiag pov tseg mus txhob khuv xim nawb mog
I applaud you for having the courage to leave at last. You’re already a strong person for going through the abuse. No one understands it better than you who went through the abuse. Things are easier said then done. He was the problem. It was not your fault. People could victim blame all they want because they are not you. You are a survivor. You are strong and brave.
Omg these kids are traumatized for life. Thanks for sharing your story so other women can have the courage to leave a abusive relationship. So glad you celebrate 🎊 🎊 🎊 🎉 🎉 🎉 yes, must celebrate!!!
Cas yuav celebrate lig ua luaj. Ntaus kuv thawj zaug xwb ces nws mag nkuaj hnub ntawv los, thiab kuv twb dim hnub ntawv los lawm pob. I give you credit for being so patient for this abusers man. Glad you still alive lady!
Txiv neej ma thiaj txawj siab phem tiag22 li os tab si peb cov poj niam li tsi yog loj vim yog txiv neej li me lawm xwb xa kom zoo ma ua siab phem koj tia khoob loj muab rau lwm tu lawv tseem hai tiab zoo heev no
Y’all missing the point that she survived and is celebrating her best life now. This is why Hmong woman don’t leave right away because of judgmental people like you commenting how dumb she was for staying and all the red flags. No shyt hindsight is 20/20. Give her grace. Some woman never get to celebrate because they stay and end up in a murder-suicide.
No your missing the point. Don't blame the husband, blame her why , cause she knew how he was when they were dating ,she wanted a bad boy and then when she got him why complain. No shyt their was red flag but did she care no hahahaha
@@oraleholmes1263 Just stop. Your abusive tendencies are showing. You must be the husband’s relative living in 1975.
@semicharmedlife you just stop lol you must be the idiot that married some like that lol
Right
Zoo kawg uas Koj khiav dhau os tus me Niam tsev Yog vim li cas Koj yuav Tiv kev txom nyem ntev Ua luaj
There was red flags all over from the beginning with this guy but you chose him. Glad you learned to be strong and got out.
Cam luv neej yuag zoo lj kuv lj os tus siab kam ljj
It's hard when you have kids, I'm so happy for you! ❤️
Koj tus txiv yog zoo li cas rau koj na yog qau loj heev los yog zoo nraug heev na cas koj tab tham qhov koj Xav nrog txiv neej pw koj yog cov poj niam uas nyiam txiv neej heev
Yog lawm lau nrauj tag mas zoo siab kawg hos
Hahahh zoo li lom zem tiag2 li thiab lam yog movie mas ntshe zoo saib heev li
Zoo li no mas yog cov poj niam tsis muaj peev xwm ho cov neej tsa los neej tsa npua2 xwb thiaj li tsis pab ntxhais kuv cov lus no yeej muaj tseeb kuv tus poj niam mas yog tus poj rauj 2 zaug. Tiam sis lawv coj li cov neej tsa no hos kuv niag poj niam los coj li ni thiab.
Koj yug tau 10 tus tub mas zoo tiag tiag li os
Peb hmoob people need to stop telling couples to 'ua siab ntev'. This is why there is a lot of murder suicide situations. If they don't get along, let them go their own ways.
Vim koj tus txiv yob LOJ koj thiab uv ntev npaum ko na
Tus txiv tshob cuab ces txawm yus muaj tub muaj ntxhais tibsi Los nws ywwj tshob cuab o...txhob khuv xim tus txiv siab phem quav dev li ntawd poj hmoob e....nws yeej tsis txog twg li o...nws tsuas zoo ntawm tus zoo poj niam txhais tes xwb...thaum dhau ntawm yus lawm ces nws yog khib nyiab lawm thiab xwb...txhob tu siab ..ua tsaug tshaj pkaws qhov nws nrauj yus...yus thiaj Kaj siab tsis tau uv tus txiv quav dev li ntawd o
Tus poj nrauj los siab dawb kawg kiag thiab , yog tus poj nrauj siab zoo mas yeej tsis los nrog koj nyob ib lub tsev li
One of the worst case of toxic relationship. Red flags right from the beginning and he is already show signs of a psychopath. Can’t believe you continued to stayed that long and took all his bs and beating. Another lesson that walking away as early as possible is the best solution to a toxic relationship.
Cause women are stupid and desperate haha
When the player gets played. You wanted a gangster husband, so there you go. If you can't handle the pain, don't play. And 8 kids? GOD Damn!
Hmoob Cov nyuag neej tsa uas pheej hais tias “ib zaug xwb los yog nyuam qhuav zaum ob xwb es mloog peb hais es peb mam hais kom koj tus txiv txhob ua ntxiv lawm” quav dev tshaj plaws yeej tsis taug cai li tab yuam neeg los tag zog lov poj niam cai xwb. Yog hnub twg ib tug txiv neej yawg tsa nws ob sab tes ntaus koj, muab nws ob sab taw ncaws koj nqaij ntuag ntshav nrog, los nqaij doog thiab hwv tias yuav muab koj thiab koj cov menyuam tua ces ncaj qha mus rau cov neej tsa teeb liab teeb ntsuab xwb vim cov neej tsa Hmoob yeej pab tsis tau yus kiag.
Tus me niam tsev pab tu siab tias koj thiab koj cov menyuam raug tsim ntev es tsis muaj neeg pab koj, tab sis zoo siab tias koj kuj muaj peev xwm khiav dim tus neeg siab phem tsim txom koj ntawv mus es koj kuj tau lub neej Kaj siab li ko. Proud of you!👏👏👏
No one understand until they're in this lady's shoes. So happy that you are freed from him.
Well if you're to blind to realize how he was then you deserved it haha
I assure you that I definitely understand her shoe is. I will not tolerate men like this. We are in our level of strength. N O one can treat me like this man. Don’t find excuse for her.
Thank you for sharing. Hopefully this will encourage or help others in abusive relationships.
Kuv yog pojniam tabsis kuv ntxub cov pojniam es nyohau rau txiv neej ntau li koj tshaj tim pojniam pheej nyob rau nws tsim xwb nws thiab yus yog neeg ib yam
Nco tia kwv tij will NEVER be on your side ladies. Love yourself.. men like this should not exist in this world. You are too blind by his sooo called love...Im not sorry but you havr no one to blame buy yourself sister. All the red flags there but still you choose to be around...
Not even your neej tsa is on your side. The only one that is on your side is the law, which many Hmong women don’t use enough. Don’t wait for others to rescue you, you rescue yourself!
Dumbest comment ever. Did you not listen to the story? He forced her to marry him by threatening to kill her previous boyfriend and her family. How the hell is it her fault?! Of course it's typical for Hmong people to blame the woman. It's always the women's fault, never the man.
@@GoodGollyMissMolly763 no comment is dumb, but we all can learn from it sis. Story like this just piss me off. There is law to protect but still marriage like this, women still stick around to carried the burden until it no longer had strength. As a hmong woman we all know the burden or txoj kev UA SIAB NTEV...until enough is enough than it will be too late..she smart to tell her story but stay for the sake of it until she no longer can. Just glad she found another man to love... 🙂
Tej no nws yog tim nej cov poj niam xwb yus yuav tau hlub yus tus kheej tsis txhob yug cov niag tsaub coob coob es thiaj li zoo rau yus nawb mog nej cov niam tsev
Tsis yug tsam tsis tau qau lawm. Yug yug los qau khiav thiab.
Txiv neej ces 8-10 leej minyuam ces txiv neej yavqws ces twb pib me lawm os, qhov loj Los vim thaub tsis caiv Kom puv hli ne ces loj xwb dr twb Kom caiv ces yog caiv Kom qhov me thuab cev rov zoo nws tsis tos ne ces ziag no xyov pog qhov loj Los xyov thaub yav me li lawm. Pojniam ruam ces tus txiv hais licas ntseeg li ntawv.
Alot of men are selfish and greedy, you can never satisfy men like that. All you can do is just love yourself and live for yourself. 😢
Ha ha zoo kawg ntau2 poj niam ces mob tes ntag yom
Kuv mas Xav tau ib tug poj niam uas yug tau tub li tub li tub xwb mas Xav tau tshaj plaws li cas tsis paub koj thaum koj tsis tau mus yuav txiv na
Koj hais yog lawm, tab sis koj mag qws ntau dhau lawm xwb os...😂🤣😁😄😄😃👌👏👏
Everybody knows ppl always say they'll do stuff but when they're in that situation it's easier said than done. Glad you had the courage to leave. Best of luck to you!
Muab niag txiv dev no mus nyob zoo chaws xwb ces koj thiaj li tsis tuag
Koj mus yuav tau txiv dev txiv dab xwb koj thiaj li yug me nyuam coob tag npaum li koj twb tsis hlub koj tus kheej es luag yuav ua cas hlub koj na
Cas zaj neej neeg no es zoo li nyob tim plog teb xwb na los
Ua kom nws tuag kiag nram nkuaj xwb
Why wait so long to divorce him? Nothing to celebrate now that you've been his punching bag for so long and been miserable for so long and you're old now?! Mob laus tag lawm os! Should've left him the first time he abused you then you can celebrate with his child support and fix yourself up with his 401k and alimony! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🙄
Cause women are soo stupid and desperate
@@oraleholmes1263 I agree 💯🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Exactly!
😆 @ 4:24 ( Not to be mean, but just how May said it). He was NOT a good guy in the beginning. When someone really wants to be with you and later on hurt you, that's not love. No women deserve to be in an abusive relationship. I'm glad tus niam tsev found the strength to leave that ahole. You are a survivor.
Tiag tiag ces koj tus txiv nws txawj me los yog loj ntsws dhau lawn xwb. Txhob xav ntau sis, you are beautiful
Txiv tsev muaj poj niam tig ua hluas yeej ib txwm khom lus tsis haus nws tus poj niam vim nws xav mus uas hluas li nws yog ib tug hluas tsis tau muaj poj niam. Qhov no tsis yog cai rau tus txiv neej twg nyob ua neej, tab sis tus txiv neej no ntshaw tshaj plaws kom yog li ntawv. Case no mas tus txiv tsev ua hluas lawm ces nws muab txhua yam phem ntawm nws tus poj niam dig kom tawm los hais tib nws tus poj niam vim nws xav kom txhua yam cia nws yeej thiab dim kev mus ua hluas nkaus xwb.
You were young and naive and allowed him to intimidate you. Never marry someone who threatens you because it will only get worse. Hmong people need to learn about family planning. Ladies, love yourself and don’t have so many kids.
Its not because your children have no way out. It is because you have NO self love and you will have NO will power. You should have seek help through DV support and not allow your children to witness that ki nd of abuse. You should have a mother to ur children first. Hope that as the grow they will escape DV.
Luag 8 leej tub puas muaj neeg ntseeg koj os koj txhob dag dag li peb twb paub koj lub neej tas koj twb tseem tsis tau muaj txiv sav
Koj niag qub txiv ntxim ntxub, tseem phem tshaj dab. Zoo tshaj plaws uas koj dim kiag, cia lwm tus ho los tsim nws, Sujsum!!! Nrog koj celebrate, cheers 🍻🥂
Niag ntsej muag txiv neej ntawm ko es koj ho sim yug seb koj li pua ntuag os koj g paub tias lawv muab txoj sia mus pauv xwb
So the whole story is, you think married a Laib is so cool so you married him. Now 20 years later a Laib is still a Laib...a hard lesson learned
It's truly sad & hard to be in an abusive marriage. How many years you have wasted your life with this hateful man! I am so happy that you now have a happier life, sister.
Life with abusive is horrible but we lived in America we have the right to protect ourselves from relationship abusive only the laws in America will protect you!! If you allowed your husband hit you one time it will continue till you suffered your pains your feelings forever!! Call the cops teach him lessons put him in jail for few years don’t take him back if you do take him back he will kill you not only hit you!! Trust me don’t let him have second chance!! My girlfriend was lived in abusive relationships for five years the last time he choked her almost die she finally call the cops put him in jail and filed warrants and divorce on him and move on with her life. You got to loves you self!! Relatives don’t lives in your home wear your shoes they only want you to go back take more hits from your husband relatives can not save you!! You must save your life for your children!!! Some men are evils heart they only think what benefits them not their wife!! They want to cheated to fulfill their needs. Loves yourself for your kids.
Poj niam yeej sib txawv tiag thisb ov
may cas.es koj hais neej neeg es hais tib cov poj nrauj.thiab.yawg nrauj.nkaus nkaus xwb.na
Cov niag txiv dev koj tus no cia nws mus nws thiaj li dim
Just started dating and he's already emotionally abusive and threatening to hurt you and your bf😳 then he slashed your bf tires? There are the red flags. Never marry a man who threaten you at the beginning. He's evil from the beginning. I'm glad you got away and stay away from him
Twb tsis yog nyob Tim nplog nyob mekas teb nws heev ces nws mus nyob nkuaj xwb
If my father did that much to my mother. He would be out on the street with a ass whopping from us kids if he is still alive.
May aw... Cas kuv yuav laj hnov lawv cov life insurance no ua luaj li os.... thov tso 1 zaug 1 week xwb os
yug mivnyuas coob coob los ev ev xaws xais kuam tsis khoob khoob hab luas muas....hehe...
I applaud you, sister of this story. Only those that have never been in your shoes would judge you. It took me 13yrs before I gained the strength to leave my abuser too. I didn't report him, therefore when I left, I was blamed but Karma is a bitch after all. Now, his new wife do him the way he did me. Not only does she abuses him, she abuses his parents too. She called the cops on him and his beloved father, put his mother in the hospital. They reap what they sow.
phem tiag2 thag zoo li dag li yom.peb cov poj niam hmoob mas raug tswm heev tshaj. tau tub xwb log tsw zoo. tau ntxhaig log tsw zoo.tsw muaj me nyuam log tsw zoo.muaj ib pab log qhov loj dhau cov poj niam tib nej2 yim fuab muaj ntau phov rau peb tib nej nej heev neeg muaj heev neeg tswm koj niag txiv thov kom txom nyem siab nrwg tshaj koj ib 100 npaug thaum kawg npam nwg lawm kawg nyob tsev laug xwb2
Qhia rau koj paub tias tau tus Txiv lim hiam li Kojtus kod ces yus cov Neej tsa Yog teeb liab teeb Ntsuab xwb thiaj pab xwb nawb mog
5 minutes into the story and I already see red flags. He threatens you and then you proceed to marry him still. I’m going to assume she was a child bride. Most teenagers would think this was love. It’s NOT.
Peb cov hmoob txoj niag kev caij qua dev tias phem zoo los ntua tej ntxhais rov qab mus tsuas kom txhob poob ntsej muag xwb na. Xum cia tus ntxhais mag Tua pom tseg es Media/ internet mam li take care xwb. Liam tshaj.
Sis cas koj yuav xav tias koj lub qhov quav loj tsis yog nws niaj Yob nkaum meme lawm xwb.
Koj ywb muaj tes thiab ...Cas pheej cia niag ntsej muag ncaj Siab khaus ntawd ntaus koj ua dabtsi ? Cas tsis ua neej raws txoj Cai..ces tsis tseg nws li thiab xwb ...li cas koj dim ces kav tsij ua Ntuj tsaug o poj hmoob e...niag txiv quav dev phem li ntawd nws yog khib nyiab xwb o
Ntuj awwww ua cas yuav ruam UA luaj lis os. Yog kuv ces kuv hus police Thaum ntxov lawm os !
Wow why you knew in the beginning your husband is the kind of guy siab phem siab ceev but you still choosed him .poj niam muaj 1 txhia yeej g sawm zoo li txiv neej cem tiag thiab .
Koj yog ib tug poj niam uas ruam thiab ntshaws txiv tshaj plaws
Koj Yog ib tub txiv neej tsis muaj hlwb muaj siab
Ua cas koj cov nus ho tsis nrhia chaw rau koj tus txiv nyob ua ntej koj mus naw.
Why would you let him hit you all the time, are you still in Loas? Omg you can always run to the police and hide from him, when he have that woman that was the best chance for you to go.
Tus viv ncaus kuv mloog koj txoj neej neeg tsi tas ntshav siab dhau lawm.
Txhua yam tim koj xwb. Ib tug txiv ntaus n tsim koj npaum li ko koj txaus siab nyob ces kuv tias tim koj 100%. Kuv tus no ces tsi tau nawb. Nws ntaus kuv ib zaug xwb ces mag nkuaj tas ces bye22 forever xwb ov.
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For this woman I don't have any sympathy for her . This man is bad to the Bone and she doesn't have any common sense of leaving in my opinion she deserved every bit of torture from this man put on her. She doesn't live in Laos or Thailand, no person here in the US can take that many years of abusive and still live with him. I think she's telling the truth 50% and lying 50%.
Bruh that was the early 90s. Hmong people ain’t like what they are now
@@PhoHmooAmerica Bruh are you saying that early 90s they don't have law that protect women from violence and abusive at that time?
@@chongcha9347
I say law was better then
He threatened her life and her family’s life. Even her family sent her back. What is she supposed to do?? You have no sympathy until it’s someone you know. You’re just lucky its not your mom or sister.
@@Faifferz The relative call cop they can help
I hope young girls will learn from stories like this. Girls....please do not rush into a marriage. Date for as long as you can until you know their personality
Something about girls, soon as get got f.cked, they hooked, regardless of its being abusive.
When he dies, his relatives will contact your sons to be responsible for his funeral. Make sure u don't let that happens.
Don't understand why you stay in this abusive relationship for that long.
Saws tau nom phaj tus kwv ne?????
Uacas nej yuav xav tau ibtug dab noj nyoog haus txia lino na muab nws kaw xwb loma ! Maka twb tuaj tuaj ne tog ne uacas pheej uv ?
Why stay with this guy so long any man who beat up his wife or girlfriend is no more no less than a dog
Then why marry him when you knew that from the beginning haha..don't blame him blame her haha
Why not calling the police to get you out and leaving early and have him pay support? I'm glad he didn't kill you.
That is an evil husband. I feel for you but you must make the ultimate decision.
Some women enjoy getting beat up. If she did not enjoy getting beat up, she should have divorce on the first or second beating. Good thing at the end, she finally got some brain to move on.
Yes she likes a bad boy, cause she knew how he was when they were dating. Why complain when you got a bad boy. So stupid and desperate haha
@@oraleholmes1263
Bad boy banged harder so she liked more, and kept for 8 kids later and multiple bangs with broken nose
@@ThePrincessWorrior 😆
Please, don't say that. No one enjoys a beating. That's how abuse victims behave. They don't have the courage to leave, especially when their family is not on their side. It takes a long time for them to process and figure out the abusive relationship is not good for them. It also takes a lot of courage to leave. Abused people don't think like others.
Wow... can't understand why men would physically abuse their wife and then expect to sleep with her again. 😕 very sad and very disappointing to hear these kind of stories. Pray you'll find the right guy sister.
The Hmong's division of power to men can be ethical if real consequences of abuse are also defined and applied in this life time. Leaving it to the understanding and wisdom of the self or passing it to the afterlife is dangerous and frivolous. Its' what happened here: the man used this power in hate and destroyed "good" all around him. What was he really afraid of.
I hate to say this, it isn't because your big it's because he's small
Muab mloog mas koj ntshaws niag txiv dev no tshaj plaws koj thiaj raug tsim txom loj tag npaum no niag ntsej muaj laib cas koj yuav ntshaws nws ua luaj
Yus pheej yuav ruam ua luaj li os niag dab ntxwj nyoog phem li tsi tag fwm los hawm nws li nawb tus ntxhais aw. Muaj tseeb kawg li os.
Nev tau niag laus tsoob tsis taus, thiab twb tsis yuav saw kub rau lawv thiab ua web xwb kom tau lub chaw tuag
Pojniam ruam los yog koj nco nws rab qau ma lov ? twb pom xeeb tuaj nyob lub tebchaws vam meej li no nej tseem ntshai ib tug neeg liam li tus txiv aub no thiab ? hmoob twb haistias tawv nyuj qhuav ces yuav cia rau txiv dev kaws, tus txiv neej hmoob phem li koj tus txiv dev no yuav tau tso rau tub ceev xwm muab nws caws.
Don’t take her side to soon always two of story i don’t her only
Yes don't take her side at all period because no one force her to marry him when he was already like that when they were dating haha