for those curious about the meaning about the song: will wood is cis and the song is describing his experience with gender identity and femininity! interpret it for yourself as you want, but be aware of that/don't insist will is trans. here's his whole statement about it if you're interested: "Some fans have started to harass me and my friends believing that this song is an expression of some kind of transphobia. I normally try to ignore fan harassment, but I find the idea of this particularly disgusting. This song is, as I’ve said, about my experiences with my gender identity. It’s none of your business, but I once identified as genderqueer, until I realized that my attraction to traditionally feminine things did not interfere with my identity as a man. I didn’t want to define non-binary with my good old-fashioned cross-dressing, because I don’t want to speak for anyone else. I came to realize that my refusal and/or failure to meet the behavioral standards of my gender role did not make me less of a man, and anyone (cis or trans) who tells me that wearing makeup now and again makes me less of a man can shove it. After struggling for some time, I realized that my genderqueer identity wasn’t necessary for me, that I was wearing it as a prop in order to serve a purpose. The song is about my experiences and any amount of satire or targeted poking fun it does is at people who are doing what I know I did at the time. Partially in the hopes of drawing people away from that toxicity like I wish something had for me at the time. I admit that some lyrics were added after fans started refusing to accept that I am not trans, even going so far as to tell me to my face that I am regardless of what I tell them, and would not listen to my explanations of the song. My frustration with the fact that there were far more non-binary people refusing to accept my cisgender identity than there ever were cisgender people refusing to accept my genderqueer identity likely had me writing with a little more venom than I would have otherwise - but the target is still, when it comes down to it, myself. Also, I was tripping balls at a casino, leave me alone. To boil it down, the song is about how I respond to my frustration with the limitations of the male gender role, the maladaptive ways I’ve coped with that frustration, and trying to figure out if this experience or any other regarding my gender can or should define me. It reaches the same conclusion that most of my work does - and that is that nothing is real and that if something is hurting us we have the power to cast it off. As I said with my entire second album, clinging too hard to one’s identity in the wrong way can hurt oneself and others, and I know for sure that’s what I was doing - and anyone who has attacked me or my friends over it is likely doing that too. Seriously at least have the basic human decency to leave my friends out of it if you can’t resist abusing me. I, as I’ve said clearly, wholly and firmly support the movement for the acceptance on non-binary gender identities. I myself would call myself cisgender, but I believe it’s incredibly important that we as a society move toward a place where gender roles no longer limit us, control us, and hurt us. I can only clarify so much better without just repeating what I’ve already written, so I’ll leave it at that. Thanks for listening, hope this suffices, join my Patreon."
Love the multiple interpretations in this song. A guy who just wants to like girly things without getting judged by society, a trans woman expressing herself, a gay guy wishing he was just a woman so his crush loves him, and plenty more I saw in the comments.
Happy to hear that this is about a cis man's experience with gender. If we're in a time when cis men can explore, then we are going in the right direction.
This song gave me a smile, I'm a guy, that likes to be clean and hairless, I shower everyday and hate feeling icky, I don't wearing the same cloths, and I LOVE Leggings. Go right ahead, be a woman with masculine traits or a man with feminine traits, or a transgender person with the traits of your former gender, or a person who doesn’t Identify as either borrowing traits from both genders. just be a good person. No Matter what.
(im late but whateverr) fun fact : Will Wood (the artist who made this song etc) said that “i/me/myself is about how i am displeased with the male gender role. so like if im male, i hate how im not allowed to do anything even slightly feminine. this song wasnt supposed to be taken as transphobia or abt me being trans, it was just abt how im displeased with gender roles and gender norms.” (but he also says if it helps for people who are trans then thats good but the point of the song was that)
i love the 'say my name like a slur' line, it can relate to being called your deadname but also when people mockingly call you your chosen name as if they're making fun of you
AND THEN IT HITS YOU WITH THE "AND REALLY I'D PREFER IT IF YOU WOULD USE I/ME/MYSELF / AM I PRETTY ENOUGH?? AM I PRETTY ENOUGH TO FUCKING DIE??" GOD THAT LINE HURTS BUT I LOVE IT SO
I was born a guy. I've always been apathetic and indifferent about gender. I've never actively wished to *not* be a guy, but at the same time, I feel as if I were to wake up tomorrow as a woman I'd kind of just go "huh, neat" and life would go on. I've always just seen masculinity and femininity as vestigial leftovers from when men would hunt and women would forage. I'm not trans, at least I don't think I am. And while I do consider myself male, I don't consider the fact I am male to be a core part of my identity. I'm just me, plain and simple. And me is wonderful.
Research "gender apathetic" or "agender", if you'd like a label. If you don't, more power to you! Also, I'm mostly like you. The only reason I don't assume either of those labels is that I get some visceral pleasure from crossdressing, so... I have no idea what I am, really, but I like it fine :)
Literally same exact hat except I'm born female. Feels weird ticking the female box on medical forms but not weird enough to like, do anything about it. I dress girl, I use she her, I have a girl name, but I really don't have any loyalty to it. I just don't have any particular inclination to change anything either
Yeah. I've come to realize that while my gender does dictate some parts of my life, i can't just change it to make my problems go away. I'm a girl. That's it, nothing more or less to that gender identity. Whatever.
I feel the exact same except I was born female. Being a girl always felt like… if me as a person was a bag, and all the things that make me up are in/on the bag, being female would be an easily removable keychain hanging off the strap. It’s not part of the bag, but many people focus more on it than the bag (person). Honestly, I’m just me, before any gender or pronouns. And that’s what’s important. Me and you are wonderful to be!
now listen- ik will wood wrote this song aimed at himself regarding his own identity , him enjoying feminine things and therefore identifying as nonbinary for a while before realising actually ! he can be a cis man and still enjoy feminine things ! but i must say as a ftm trans guy i Also relate to this a lot because. i do infact identify as a man , but i still enjoy skirts and dresses on occasion and i have long hair- and sometimes i think man , maybe im Not really trans. maybe i coulda lived my life as a woman happily- but then i remember how terrible i feel when even Thinking too much about my body in that way and how it feels like missing a step on the stairs whenever i so much as read my deadname.. and it makes me realise that yeah , just like this song says i can still be a man and enjoy feminine things ! i can still be interested in makeup and wear floral print and have long pretty hair and _none_ of that invalidates my being a man :)
thats parta what i love sm ab will woods music- a song could be about pretty much the Opposite of what you go through and youll still relate to it somehow , therell be ways to interpret it differently fr ppl frum all walks of life n i think thats super cool !!!!
"say my name like a slur, but i've been called worse" sometimes the way others say my name feels like they're only using it to mock me and i've never seen a sentence explain something i feel so perfectly,, (edit- spelling error)
i’m so glad i’m not alone feeling like this. even people who didn’t know me before i socially transitioned, it just feels wrong the way they say my name :(
Gender isn't fluid. You're either a man or a woman all your life, trans or not. (Not enough research to see if nonbinary is real) Masculinity/femininity is bs though.
I freaking love "all identities are invalid" because it really made me see from a different perspective. Gender and identity are made up by us and there arent identities that are 'right" or "wrong". And the song encourages to let go of them and think outsise the box
@@dameslayer Fair. To explain a bit, pangender is a label that basically says "Hey, I have a lot of genders!" and xenogenders are pretty much these neat fancy genders.
when will wood said i wish i could be a girl i felt it not in a "i wish i was cis" and definitely not in a detransition way but there's some weird ENVY in that phrase
I think it's they way cis men (and sometimes trans women too) can actually desire womanhood, while we just can't enjoy it because we felt pressed into fullfilling a role that just isn't for us, I also feel this sometimes when cis feminists talk about how "beautiful and magical" it is to be a woman, I wish I could enjoy this body and role in society but I just can't
As a gender non conforming female I really relate to this song. Am I cis? Sure. But I’ve never felt as feminine or “girl” as other girls. Sometimes I find myself yearning to be a girl in the way they are, and this song really captures it for me
As an also gender non conforming cis female, same. I love dressing and looking androgynous to the point where my gender is unrecognizable, but also love being feminine and beautiful sometimes. In the past, I have always taken pride in being a tomboy and physically keeping up with or even overpowering boys my age, but I have also fought major insecurity about my body not being "feminine enough" and yearned for it.
@@danielugirne7122 internalized transphobia is when you kinda like can't accept yourself with your gender identity :] at least that is the best way for me to explain it
@@danielugirne7122 it's like when you know your trans, but because if how you grew up you have a hard time accepting you are trans, and in some cases be internally transphobic to other trans people (this is my experience with it it can be different for others)
trans fems: we relate to this song trans mascs(me): we relate to this song Trans enbys: we relate to this Cis girls: we relate to this song Cis boys: we relate to this song Literally everyone: *WE RELATE TO THIS SONG*
It's like the smallest line in the song but "taxonomize our differences" hits so hard for me, like, the idea that every differenxe in body type and gender expression needs to be categorized and labeled and stereotyped and we can't just all be human
Great comment, I didn't think much of that line until now. That fits in with the theme of "Why can't you just let me be me without forcing me into a label?" this whole song is about.
As an AMAB non-binary person, this song goes hard. A lot of times I wish I could just be a girl instead of non-binary, since it would make things easier. And “am I pretty enough” is something I ask myself all the time, haha. Because I’m not sure I’ll ever be feminine enough.
you got this! i relate but the opposite way. im Non binary afab and sometimes i just wish i was born a man, then i could wear makeup and people would still perceive me as a man or androgynous
@@cloudsprite8349 yep same! I would like loop this song for a few days. Ik it wasn’t written to be about the trans experience but it is really relatable
this makes a lot of sense in a really sad way; i'm an afab nonbinary guy and in an unconventional way, theres a lot of privilege that comes in that. its all "you don't have to pass, you're valid however you look!" until the person is amab. amab people have to try so incredibly hard to present how the world wants in order to be addressed correctly. its just misogyny tbh, they need people who arent men to fit into the male gaze :/ im sorry abt it, and ik you've probably internalized that you aren't pretty enough, but you're beautiful :)
Love how both binary trans people, nonbinary people, gender nonconforming people, unlabeled people, detransitioners, and even cisgender people (and everything else in between) can relate to this song
The “I am quantum physics” line really hits me personally. I’m agender in a way where I don’t even think about what qualities I have someone might use to (mis)gender me until there are others around. When I’m alone, I don’t really feel like I even HAVE a gender, but the presence of others seeing me as something, ANYTHING, is what gives me dysphoria. Will Wood really has a way with words.
Now that I start thinking, I feel the exact same. I am quite feminine and people often use she/her for me (completely fine by me) but sometimes I just wish everyone used he/him for me. It gives me that electric rush of pure shock, in the best possible way. I feel so drawn to this song but I really don’t know why? Lol this was kind of a word mush
This song perfectly encapsulates what it's like being a detrans MtFtM boy, and I thank Will Wood for sharing his perspective since it's often an overlooked one. I'm a gender non-conforming male who was a transgirl for a long time, because I was taught that I was too feminine to be a boy. Everyone either told me that I was a boy and so should act more manly, or that I was really a girl on the inside. Even now I get people saying I'm an egg (trans in denial) because of my femininity
@@mewyorkcityf46607 identity is fluid and someone who once identified as something can change over time. that's why i dislike the notion of "you were never x, you were always y". Why does it need to fate? Why can't we let people change labels and learn more about themselves without invalidating their past trials and labels?
@@mewyorkcityf46607 Doesn't his experience have a lot in common with the trans experience though? I see your point but I think we shouldn't knee jerk deny detransitioners a place in the trans community at the same time, they have a unique perspective worth listening to.
the quantam physics line is so fucking clever,, like the thing with quantum physics is that the particals act differently when being actively observed which is also how i feel about gender
God, Will is such a brilliant writer! “I am quantum physics, my witness brings me to existence” We are all just particles arranged in a clever way, our conscience was created as just another step of evolution. But even the theory of quantum physics wouldn’t exist without us humans to perceive it, just how Will and so many of us are reliant on people to perceive us in order to feel alive.
@@staringatchairs7844 Thank you for the compliment. My original intent was a sort of "destroy the perception of the self in order to experience gender euphoria" kind of way but now I think I like your reason better
i have no gender, so much so to the poiny where it feels that where gender would be is just a void, being referred to as any gender is uncomfortable and i WISH I COULD BE A GIRL-
Humans weren’t meant to be labeled, you are who you think you are and who you want to be. Clothes, attitude, your interests, none of that makes you this or that or in denial of some label people think you are. You are you
Everyone is talking about how this can fit transmasc people and transfemmes, but as a non-binary person it also fits with me :) because I’m AFAB, the “I wish I could be a girl” really hits hard because I wish I was cis so that I wouldn’t have to deal with all of the dysphoria, misgendering, confusion, etc. :D edit: hey!! this is the most attention any of my comments has gotten and I’m honestly glad. I’m here for all of you, and I hope you’re doing fine!! :D
I know this song is more about being gender non-conforming than anything, but I really relate as a genderfluid AFAB person. Don't get me wrong, I'm proud of my identity, but sometimes I wish I *didn't* have the gender dysphoria, and that I could just be a cis girl. After all, it would save me a lot of confusion and discomfort, not to mention not having to explain your identity to those who won't believe you, or having to fear coming out. (I'm not fully out to my parents, but they would support me no matter what, thank God.) EDIT: I made this comment not too long after I had figured out I was genderfluid, and I’m dealing with a lot less issues surrounding my gender now. Over the past few months, I’ve been able to embrace my gender more, and I’m much more confident in my identity now. Still, though, seeing quite a few other people relate to my struggles is both a little saddening and very relieving. Thank you guys for sharing your feelings, and I’m glad we’re all in this together :)
First of all, Will Wood is my gender Secondly, this song makes me cry, which I know it isn’t supposed to, but this is actually me as gay transmasc guy God fucking damnit William I’m balling
Another gay trans masc guy checking in to say that yep, this makes me cry too. I've fallen for a straight man and lamented my identity *one* too many times for me to be able to listen this song normally.
I do have something to say, but i don't know how to or what to say. I don't know how to get what i feel and want to say out of my brain or how to even get to the why of this. I'll be back.
This song hits so hard as a trans femboy. For so long I was convinced my feminimity somehow made me less valid and struggled deeply with it, but fuck gender roles! If a cis man wearing a dress gets "yass queen break gender roles" why should it be any different for me? Only you and you alone can define who you are :) if I want to wear a maid dress then I will god damn it!!! A piece of cloth doesn't define you! You look fine as hell in what you feel good in! Edit: since posting this comment I've actually realized that I'm nonbinary, but my point still stands. Any non-cis person can wear whatever they want and act however they want!!! You will always be valid!! Be yourself
holy shit. you've described how i feel. it's so validating to see other ftm trans people like this. i've been told a lot that i act too feminine to be a trans man, which has given me a lot of self-doubt. so thank you for sharing, you've made my day.
This song is free therapy. I'm non-binary AFAB and sometimes I feel like if I was a cis girl everything would be easier? Idk. Having to explain to everyone about well I'm not a girl but I'm also not a man. And dealing with the insecurity of whether I still be non-binary if I was amab.
My brain goes through this thought process way too often (also afab enby) and whenever it does I just get this song stuck in my head and then I have to go listen to it
@mister_dadstersays_hi7372 what's with the keyboard spam little Twitter kids do nowadays? just say what you mean instead like the rest of us instead of typing out among us lobbys goddammit that's annoying
ive seen very little lesbians in this comment section so hi! i see this song as wishing womanhood wasnt based around loving men, wanting to be a girl the way straight girls are and feeling like being lesbian is a whole different identity than being a woman if that makes any sense idk
I understand completely. I’ve heard of a lot of women needing to dress a certain way in order to “pass” as a lesbian. The heteronormative expectation is frustrating to say the least.
As a bisexual, I always felt very isolated from straight girl peers for a similar reason. However, I've always felt alienated by lesbians as well. Not just because of a lot of the rigid classifications they use (although that is a part of it), but this vibe of disapproval/disappointment/we'd-prefer-you-didn't-exist that makes it very hard for me to relate to them in any way. For me, it's always been almost impossible to see any lesbians talking about their own experiences without putting down non-lesbian sapphics in some way. Those who do are far few and in-between.
The work lesbians have accomplished to redefine womanhood and just for the LGBT+ community in general is often not talked about enough. Gay trans guy here, we appreciate ya'll.
Yo homies in the comment section, everyone has a different view on this song! There is a story behind this song mainly about Will just liking feminine things but getting confused along the way but finding his way back! But there are some people that put their own experience in here be it that they’re Trans and other things! Make sure that you understand that people will have different view points no matter what, and you know what? That’s okay and it should be appreciated. I personally like seeing people talk about their own story when listening to this song, be it Will’s own story about how he doesn’t really care about gender norms and such to how a trans person found their way through their own life and becoming happy with themselves or even something completely different! But just remember, be kind to each other no matter who the other person is and what they’ve experienced, judge a person by their character and not their identity. Enjoy this fucking rad song!
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who thinks of that!!! This one also gives me msm vibes ruclips.net/video/OfYvUyOJHIA/видео.html (Don’t worry it’s safe /srs)
I THOUGHT SO TOO OMG i was hoping i wasn't the only one who thought that?? I think I actually saw someone remake the beginning in my singing monsters on one of their composer islands i think
fellow trans people, i love yall, have a lovely day :] im an afab enby, and i really feel this song. sometimes being trans can be super hard, u just wish u could "fit in" w a society that seems so intimidating and all-encompassing. it can be easier to just pretend to be someone ur not, just to please cis people, but it comes at the price of ur happiness and comfort. (ofc i know this song isnt about being trans, but i think its cool that this song has made trans people of all different genders come together and know were not alone)
i'm still baffled by the fact that this appeals to trans people without being about trans people, it's amazing, i hope people get the true meaning while still being able to find comfort in the lyrics since i personally agree with the song's message 100% while still feeling the confusing trans vibes coursing through my cis-woman veins
i reckon the cleverest thing about this song is that the top note that he keeps going back to in the chorus is clearly in an uncomfortably high part of his range especially in the cutesy way he's trying to sing it and his voice keeps cracking over it, which in the context of this song subtextually implies it's to do with obsessing over wanting to sound more conventionally traditionally socially acceptably "girly"
To everyone who is wondering what the song is about, here is what Will Wood himself said : " Hey everyone, WW here. Some fans have started to harass me and my friends believing that this song is an expression of some kind of transphobia. I normally try to ignore fan harassment, but I find the idea of this particularly disgusting. This song is, as I’ve said, about my experiences with my gender identity. It’s none of your business, but I once identified as genderqueer, until I realized that my attraction to traditionally feminine things did not interfere with my identity as a man. I didn’t want to define non-binary with my good old-fashioned cross-dressing, because I don’t want to speak for anyone else. I came to realize that my refusal and/or failure to meet the behavioral standards of my gender role did not make me less of a man, and anyone (cis or trans) who tells me that wearing makeup now and again makes me less of a man can shove it. After struggling for some time, I realized that my genderqueer identity wasn’t necessary for me, that I was wearing it as a prop in order to serve a purpose. The song is about my experiences and any amount of satire or targeted poking fun it does is at people who are doing what I know I did at the time. Partially in the hopes of drawing people away from that toxicity like I wish something had for me at the time. I admit that some lyrics were added after fans started refusing to accept that I am not trans, even going so far as to tell me to my face that I am regardless of what I tell them, and would not listen to my explanations of the song. My frustration with the fact that there were far more non-binary people refusing to accept my cisgender identity than there ever were cisgender people refusing to accept my genderqueer identity likely had me writing with a little more venom than I would have otherwise - but the target is still, when it comes down to it, myself. Also, I was tripping balls at a casino, leave me alone. To boil it down, the song is about how I respond to my frustration with the limitations of the male gender role, the maladaptive ways I’ve coped with that frustration, and trying to figure out if this experience or any other regarding my gender can or should define me. It reaches the same conclusion that most of my work does - and that is that nothing is real and that if something is hurting us we have the power to cast it off. As I said with my entire second album, clinging too hard to one’s identity in the wrong way can hurt oneself and others, and I know for sure that’s what I was doing - and anyone who has attacked me or my friends over it is likely doing that too. Seriously at least have the basic human decency to leave my friends out of it if you can’t resist abusing me. I, as I’ve said clearly, wholly and firmly support the movement for the acceptance on non-binary gender identities. I myself would call myself cisgender, but I believe it’s incredibly important that we as a society move toward a place where gender roles no longer limit us, control us, and hurt us. I can only clarify so much better without just repeating what I’ve already written, so I’ll leave it at that. Thanks for listening, hope this suffices, join my Patreon. Wood has publicly explained the meaning behind this song, and has done so phrase by phrase in his patreon-exclusive blog, “the Stethoscope.” He has given permission to share it to this page. The title of the song is “A play on how people list their pronouns online. Using first person pronouns that are also a play on the phrase "me, myself, and I.” I/Me/Myself is, according to Wood, about his exploration of his gender identity, and how people cope with the limitations of their assigned gender roles. In his breakdown of the lyrics in his patreon blog, Wood says the song is a satire of “…problematic proponents of the gender identity movement, (let me be clear, I am a firm supporter of the movement as a whole) who co-opt queer spaces and language as a means of finding that validation they are denied in their assigned gender roles…” and “the encroachment of cultural spaces set aside for those who are genuinely very deeply oppressed and abused at large.” Like much of Wood’s work, the song is self-critical, as Wood is known for having gender non-conforming tendencies. However, Wood is not trans, nor does he identify as non-binary. In 2016 he came out to NJ.com as “pansexual” and a “mild transvestite” but hasn’t talked about it publicly since. He concludes this entry with “Man, woman, cis, trans, non-binary, whatever- our identities are constructions of the ego, and illusions. We’re not even truly separate organisms, no more so than one brain cell is from another in the same brain. We’re all part of The One that is everything, we’re all hallucinations. No one is "valid,” and someday we’ll all truly realize that the self in its entirety is unnecessary."" Of course , this is just the "canon" explanation - and nothing stops you interpreting/"headcanon-ing" it as you wish.
I see why he was pissed off by some of the response to this song. It irritates me too, a lot of the people who would say my transmasc ass is still valid when I wear makeup would call Will Wood an "egg" for doing the same. I wish more people would keep that energy for cis gnc people
@@kellanlevi5663 yeah !! i feel the same , honestly :( there is some people that often tries to break the stereotypes when it comes to trans/nb people , but ends up forcing those same stereotype to cis ( gnc ) people - and not realize how harmful it can be to them as well ... like you said, i wished that people had this same energy for cis gnc people as well
This song means so much to me as a trans gay guy. Specifically the chorus, because I genuinely wish that I felt at home in my afab body, so then maybe, more guys would take me seriously and genuinely love me not just for my body, but for who I am as a person. Much love 💖💖
I am crying to this song while walking down the street at 10 pm. For clarification I figured out I was a Demi girl just a few weeks ago and I have never ever been happier. I have always felt that I was different and that something was wayy off. I am literally crying tears of pure relief because today was the first day I actually saw myself as a demigirl
im a generic cis white guy who somehow dodged being a member of any minority ever and have never had to face any problems relating to my identity but this song slaps.
i'm not non-binary nor transgender. at first i thought this song was for trans and nb people but now that i found the lyrics i found myself relating to it to.. im cis and straight but act like a tomboy. In my country, people like feminine and soft-spoken women, while i am loud and brash. my mom says no guy will love me because dating me will be like dating a guy.. the 'i wish i could be a girl' part really speaks to me because i really do wish i was more feminine so that people would love me i guess :(
@@protagonistakun2407 well, it's their words, not mine. Maybe it's not on 'acting masculine' but more like 'it's a stereotypical trait for guy bc a girl should be like this'
As a cis girl who considered genderfluidity for a short amount of time, due to the fact that I enjoy being called "sir" and dress as masculine as possible to trick people into thinking I'm a boy so I can snicker and smile at it- but decided that even though I enjoy being masculine, I am still happy as a female and wouldnt want to be a man, I really love this song. I heavily relate to the line "all identities are equally invalid, don't you think that there's a chance that you could live without it?" If more people had this mentality, then there would be a lot less hate and dysphoria. Sorry this is so long and deep lmao
I’m a cis woman who sometimes likes to be seen as a boy/gender ambiguous. I don’t have physical dysphoria but I do have occasional social dysphoria, but that doesn’t make me trans. I’ve struggled with gender for a long time because I’ve never found something that I thought fit me, I thought that if I felt this way then I MUST be some form of genderqueer/trans, but I’m coming to terms with the fact that I can just be cis and feel this way. I don’t HAVE to be anything.
I'm a cisgender man, and I've had the same experience. My long hair has caused confusion for a lot of people and I kind of like it, but it doesn't make me trans, and that fine. You and your experiences are valid!
I am a cis girl and i was transphobic, but this song and these comments made me reconsider. I nearly cried listening and reading that. Though i still don't really understand how is it - feeling that your body is wrong, i wish all queers here very good life and i wish y'all love yourselves... And i hope once our world will become less cruel and more kind to you. Be happy please. Find something nice in that day to smile before falling asleep. ❤️ upd. i realized i am nonbinary and that i was transphobic only towards myself. lol.
@@spoon3073 thanks! It is really a long way for me, i still don't understand everything but i would respect people who respect me (hypothetical me). May i ask you a question, how should i use they/them pronounces (though i don't know what pronounces are yours i guess you know more about it)? Does it go with "are" or with "is"? "They are my friend/they do everything at home" or "they is my friend/they does everything at home"? I'm not English, sorry, i know how to use they/them in my native language (though it sounds kinda weird and in my country it is usually a phase of teenagers who wanna be a part of lgbtq+ but who can't change their orientation hah...) but other languages are mystery yet.
that “my witness brings me to existence” line struck a chord with me-im a girl, and have been all my life, but i sometimes believe i am a blank slate for others to project their ideal friend, family member, or person onto. my witness brings me to existence.
this song hits hard for me as a trans demiboy who can't come out to hit family because they're all transphobic christians. ive struggled with internalized transphobia for a long time, and I refused to allow myself to be trans for a long even when I knew I was, and after coming out to my friends, I felt like it was wrong and I attempted to 'not be trans' which utterly failed. so now im just trying to keep it all together while I get deadnamed and misgendered every day. i cant wait until I hit 18 in two years so i can move out immediately and actually start being myself edit - about a yearish later i came out to my family. it didn't go well, but im alive and im okay. this song gas helped me so much as well as every other will wood song. im not a demiboy anymore, i identify as binary male. my two best friends of several years are now my queerplatonic partners, and they have helped me hang on so much. if you're struggling to stay alive due to oppression in your family, i promise it will get better. you just need to hold on until it does. remember you're valid no matter what anyone in your family tells you, and i love you too.
Wasn't the whole point of this song just that genders are concepts we've invented to confine ourselves into? Just be you Who cares how much hair is there on your face or what's in your pants. Detach your self-identity from this sack of meat that you inhabit!
okay but can we talk about this as a gender fluid point of view too? being born a girl and hating it sometimes and loving it sometimes, and just sometimes getting the sudden urge to grab a pair of scissors and cut all your hair off and be a boy too, finding your body unbearable. Sometimes I wish I could be a pretty, feminine girl who can walk around in a small, cute skirt and sometimes I wish I could be a pretty boy with fluffy black hair who can dress as he pleases without thought because he knows it suits him. It’s always the thought of “am I pretty enough?” No matter how you look like and regardless if your actually good looking or not , it sometimes feels it’ll never be enough. And the feeling of getting gender envy all the time from pretty boys and girls who can pull off looking like a boy hurts as well, it’s never enough. You’ll never just be HAPPY with yourself no matter how you look like sometimes
EXACTLY!! whenever I listen to this song this exact experience is what I’m feeling. I’m still new this whole finding a gender identity thing but this comment literally ticks off all the marks
im afab and i want to be both a boy and a girl genderly, but only use he/him, but sometimes i wanna only be a boy then only be a girl, yknow? i think im bigender, but im just confused
@@sugarrushqwq4163 personally I think you should give yourself as much time as you want, these things shouldn’t be rushed at all. And having come from an Arab household, i could understand where your coming from as well, trust me
I always go so fucking ham singing “my witness brings me to existence!” because it’s exactly what I wanted to scream back when my dad kept trying to get me to prove my transness. “How do you know you aren’t a girl?” “You were always fine with it before.” “NEVER stop questioning or you’ll do something stupid.” I am this way because I fucking said so.
this song hitting all ends of the trans spectrum I'm agender and I came out to my mum last year before Christmas, she said she supported me but I've found screenshots on her phone of a book which speaks the opposite, all her arguments against me being trans are pure TERF rhetoric I wish sometimes that I was just cis (i'm AFAB), so then I wouldn't be such a disappointment to her and that I could just be happy with the body I was born in, but I can't, and she doesn't understand that
It's hard and so very complicated to grieve not only your appearance as cis/life before confronting your identity but also the relationships that suffer as a result. Ultimately, it's not your job to make your mom understand or earn her love. I'm enby and had a similar experience, something that isn't talked about enough is just the deep sadness of losing people in your life- remembering good moments on repeat and the aching need we all have to connect as humans with one another. You deserve love, respect, family. I'm so sorry you have to experience this, best of luck friend
@@rachelc6443 This is definitely true and a big issue socially, but being uncomfortable with how your body is treated/how it matches up to social norms (while still painful and difficult) is different from gender dysphoria on a very base level
Sorry that happened to you, when I came out my mother literally interrogated me like a cop. (like not only with that now they do it every time I talk about what I like on walks like a normal child parent relationship, but instead they question me on it like a pop quiz it makes me feel weird like a baby who doesn't know anything) 🙁
I love this song, especially when he sings it that one time with the “MY PRONOUND ARENT YOUR BUSINESS SHIT LORD” because now that i know the backstory of the song, makes so much sense. As a demi girl who goes by she/her it makes me so happy, because it reminds me that even if i go by she/her doesnt correlate anything to me being a demi girl/ potentially non-binary
It's so interesting how I relate to this song so hard, but in such a different way than most. It perfectly sums up how my identity disturbance manifests in my mental illness. Obviously not how the song was intended to be interpreted, but shows how skilled will wood is at crafting lyrics
"All identities are equally invalid, don't you think that there's a chance that you could live without it?" - Will Wood Might be my favorite song lines.
I don't know how people would interpret this as transphobic, he's singing from experience. It's like, people act like they want you to explore yourself and discover who you are, but if you do and decide that you're happy the way you are and don't feel any need to change yourself (or if someone wants to remain unlabeled and just live without worrying about all that), they get all upset. A lot of people have the mindset that cis=transphobic and straight=homophobic when that's not usually the case. They also like to act like it's homophobia/transphobia whenever a cishet person feels invalidated. He tried out different labels and stuff and came to the conclusion that he's just a cis man that enjoys feminine things, and then people kept telling him that he was trans or nonbinary, or whatever, so he felt invalidated, so they called him transphobic. And if they think the i/me/myself is mocking people who use different pronouns, then they clearly aren't paying attention, because that's obviously referring to how people kept saying things like "YOU aren't cis", "YOU should know this about YOURSELF", things like that. He's simply saying to speak for themselves because he knows who he is and doesn't need them telling him who they think he is
i really feel like the line: “i wish I could be i girl in the way I wish I could be your girlfriend/boyfriend” sums it up for a lot of trans people. it’s something that you really long for and know that it would bring you so much happiness to have but at the same time feels impossible to accomplish or have. and for anyone who needs to hear this, no matter if you are in a place where people accept you or not it’s all about you, you decide your gender and sexuality because that’s your decision no matter what anyone says about it. and even if you are in a bad place right now just know that I accept you. ❤️
what I gathered from the comment section: transwomen, cis mlm men, and nblm amab people who wish the sex they were assigned allowed them the ability to easily be romanced by men the way cis woman are 🤝 afab transmasc, transmen, and afab nblm people who wish they still had the ease they would've had being romanced by men as they would've had if they were their assigned sex, even if some of these people definitely don't want to *be* cis and/or straight
When I first heard this song in a random queer playlist, I admittedly assumed the singer was a transgender woman- after all, that's what I am. I heard masculine vocals, and I related to a lot of what this dude was saying. Aha! this is clearly about exploring femininity and figuring out that you are transgender! Surely she's just like me!? This isn't usually my genre, but I really enjoyed the song, had the tune stuck in my head, so I looked up the lyrics online- and I was kinda hurt to read the surrounding stuff about people insisting the artist MUST BE TRANS because they were too feminine to identify as a guy. I made the same assumption, but I would never insist on it when corrected. Labels can be helpful for figuring out where you stand, but they should never be restrictions imposed onto someone. It's all bullshit. I have spent my life dealing with gender dysphoria- but that doesn't change the fact that being feminine doesn't automatically mean you must be a girl. being masculine doesn't force you to be a man. He says he's a guy. So he's a guy. He's obviously just a particularly cool cis guy haha. Invalidating that because of your own expectations of gender? It's just the other side of the coin to what I deal with as a trans woman, constantly being told that I can't be *really* be transgender, because no matter how feminine I am, I'm always going to be a bit of a tomboy. "Oh you are constantly crushing beers?, how very ladylike! /s"- "oh you still enjoy all of those nerdy male-coded hobbies?, kinda letting *the side* down on that one, girl."- "oh you didn't immediately drop your factory job when you came out? shouldn't you be casting it all aside and pining for a life as a demure housewife?- some woman you are!"- "this whole angry punk rocker thing? that's kinda boyish, are you sure you are really trans?" Oh sure, you've lasered your face, you've started hormones- but you still talk like you used to- seems kinda suspect! The dude isn't transgender, and I am. but I can still massively relate to this- I've maintained a lot of the interests I held as the man I used to be- because I'm the same person? I'm just more open about being a girl now. Because that's what I've always wanted to be, and that's my business not yours. He's obviously just as pissed off with the bullshit expectations imposed on his gender as I am of mine. Maybe we should just discard the whole gender thing? that sounds pretty cool.
My favorite thing about this song it how differently people can interpret it. I’ve heard so many different ideas from people with all sorts of identities, and even experiences beyond that! I’m a demigirl so to me personally the sentiment “I wish I could be a girl” feels like wishing I could just fit cleanly into that box and figure things out (not knowing whether to check female or other/nonbinary on things asking your gender gang where we at lol). Beyond that part of me, though, I’m aromantic and have had struggles with self esteem/being “ugly”. So the lines about being pretty enough to love hit home with my experience of thinking my aromanticism was actually just undesirability. My point is I love this song lol
Well, i had my gender crisis locked in a box inside my head, acknowledging it only after 4am, and umm, this song came up on spotify and decided that boxes were for the inferior, and it wasn't inferior so I've been hate-loving the song pretty much since i found the album until it just hit what will was saying. So anyways, I'd like my box back please. Turns out it's pretty much infinite so i need it for storage of the tears and the original purposes.
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for those curious about the meaning about the song: will wood is cis and the song is describing his experience with gender identity and femininity! interpret it for yourself as you want, but be aware of that/don't insist will is trans. here's his whole statement about it if you're interested:
"Some fans have started to harass me and my friends believing that this song is an expression of some kind of transphobia. I normally try to ignore fan harassment, but I find the idea of this particularly disgusting.
This song is, as I’ve said, about my experiences with my gender identity. It’s none of your business, but I once identified as genderqueer, until I realized that my attraction to traditionally feminine things did not interfere with my identity as a man. I didn’t want to define non-binary with my good old-fashioned cross-dressing, because I don’t want to speak for anyone else. I came to realize that my refusal and/or failure to meet the behavioral standards of my gender role did not make me less of a man, and anyone (cis or trans) who tells me that wearing makeup now and again makes me less of a man can shove it. After struggling for some time, I realized that my genderqueer identity wasn’t necessary for me, that I was wearing it as a prop in order to serve a purpose. The song is about my experiences and any amount of satire or targeted poking fun it does is at people who are doing what I know I did at the time. Partially in the hopes of drawing people away from that toxicity like I wish something had for me at the time.
I admit that some lyrics were added after fans started refusing to accept that I am not trans, even going so far as to tell me to my face that I am regardless of what I tell them, and would not listen to my explanations of the song. My frustration with the fact that there were far more non-binary people refusing to accept my cisgender identity than there ever were cisgender people refusing to accept my genderqueer identity likely had me writing with a little more venom than I would have otherwise - but the target is still, when it comes down to it, myself.
Also, I was tripping balls at a casino, leave me alone.
To boil it down, the song is about how I respond to my frustration with the limitations of the male gender role, the maladaptive ways I’ve coped with that frustration, and trying to figure out if this experience or any other regarding my gender can or should define me. It reaches the same conclusion that most of my work does - and that is that nothing is real and that if something is hurting us we have the power to cast it off.
As I said with my entire second album, clinging too hard to one’s identity in the wrong way can hurt oneself and others, and I know for sure that’s what I was doing - and anyone who has attacked me or my friends over it is likely doing that too. Seriously at least have the basic human decency to leave my friends out of it if you can’t resist abusing me.
I, as I’ve said clearly, wholly and firmly support the movement for the acceptance on non-binary gender identities. I myself would call myself cisgender, but I believe it’s incredibly important that we as a society move toward a place where gender roles no longer limit us, control us, and hurt us.
I can only clarify so much better without just repeating what I’ve already written, so I’ll leave it at that. Thanks for listening, hope this suffices, join my Patreon."
That's understandable
that’s so dumb why would you send hate over that
@@goobigi FR LMAOO
@@Sidney_Leniwiec can and will
what does cis means? (sorry)
Love the multiple interpretations in this song. A guy who just wants to like girly things without getting judged by society, a trans woman expressing herself, a gay guy wishing he was just a woman so his crush loves him, and plenty more I saw in the comments.
that’s the definition of art - everyone sees themself
also trans guys with internalized transphobia like me
Or a trans-masc wishing they could’ve just been girl instead of being trans
It resonates with everyone that was able to find it. How is that even possible??
Ikr
Happy to hear that this is about a cis man's experience with gender. If we're in a time when cis men can explore, then we are going in the right direction.
When I antagonize CIS men, I'm talking about
🤢 CIS men
I'm not talking about
✨ cis men ✨💅
@@rinsekai big different between cis men and cis men™️
@@magicallydelicious1673 LITERALLY LOL
@@rinsekai a high heeled boot is still a boot.
@@anti_fragile yeah but a high heeled boot looks hotter
This song gave me a smile, I'm a guy, that likes to be clean and hairless, I shower everyday and hate feeling icky, I don't wearing the same cloths, and I LOVE Leggings.
Go right ahead, be a woman with masculine traits or a man with feminine traits, or a transgender person with the traits of your former gender, or a person who doesn’t Identify as either borrowing traits from both genders. just be a good person. No Matter what.
the world needs more of u
@@spooky.dorito Ssstop It! You are making me blush! :3
man this made me tear up , appreciate seein this :))
King
I mean, that's obviously valid and great and all, but like... is it unusual for men to be clean? And to shower? I'd certainly hope not...
this song gives me a sorta "gender is a sham. i'm abandoning it" feel and honestly i love it
(im late but whateverr) fun fact : Will Wood (the artist who made this song etc) said that “i/me/myself is about how i am displeased with the male gender role. so like if im male, i hate how im not allowed to do anything even slightly feminine. this song wasnt supposed to be taken as transphobia or abt me being trans, it was just abt how im displeased with gender roles and gender norms.” (but he also says if it helps for people who are trans then thats good but the point of the song was that)
Gender is a scam made by bathroom companies to sell more toilets
i love the 'say my name like a slur' line, it can relate to being called your deadname but also when people mockingly call you your chosen name as if they're making fun of you
I’ve had someone say my new name as a joke and that shit feels great
@@Noname-cx6kz yeah it’s like a backhanded compliment that ends up actually being alright. Still feels off though.
I told someone that I go by Rae now and they decided “Rae Rae” basically treating it as a joke even though I told them not to and just to call me Rae
@@LuciferisReal1 at least they aren’t dead-naming you
@@maple22moose44 Well they called me Rae Rae for like a day and now they’ve gone back to using my deadname
"Say my name like a slur, but I've been called worse"
This is exactly I feel when I get deadnamed
RIGHT?!
I AGREE
Love your ena pfp!
same that part is relatableee
Literally
I like how this song apeals to both Trans Women and Trans Men.
transfemmes transmascs
🤝
this song
Some enby’s as well haha
@@aristo_art9305 yep
Also Genderfluid people but technically they're under the trans umbrella-
@@_REMUS_ i wonder if demigirls count? im a demigirl and this song is one of my biggest comforts
The fact that this song can be relatable to everyone despite gender identity, cis, nb or trans, really is amazing
I just listen to it cause its catchy lmfao, i dont really get involved in gender identities so ya
LEGIT LMAO
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3:19
THIS PART IS SO ADDICTING I'M GONNA SCREAM, THE WAY IT BUILDS INTO CHORUS
FRRRR
YESSS
BRUH SO TRUE
among us 💀💀💀💀
Remy
I WISH I COULD BE A GIRL AND THAT WAY YOUD WISH I COULD BE YOUR GIRLFRIEND/BOYFRIEND. AM I PRETTY ENOUGH TO LOVE BACK ?? NO NOT YET
GETS ME EVERYTIME
GOD FR
FRFR
AND THEN IT HITS YOU WITH THE "AND REALLY I'D PREFER IT IF YOU WOULD USE I/ME/MYSELF / AM I PRETTY ENOUGH?? AM I PRETTY ENOUGH TO FUCKING DIE??"
GOD THAT LINE HURTS BUT I LOVE IT SO
FOR REAL 👏
AM I PRETTY ENOUGH TO FUCKIN DIEEEEEE
I was born a guy. I've always been apathetic and indifferent about gender. I've never actively wished to *not* be a guy, but at the same time, I feel as if I were to wake up tomorrow as a woman I'd kind of just go "huh, neat" and life would go on. I've always just seen masculinity and femininity as vestigial leftovers from when men would hunt and women would forage.
I'm not trans, at least I don't think I am. And while I do consider myself male, I don't consider the fact I am male to be a core part of my identity. I'm just me, plain and simple. And me is wonderful.
Research "gender apathetic" or "agender", if you'd like a label. If you don't, more power to you!
Also, I'm mostly like you. The only reason I don't assume either of those labels is that I get some visceral pleasure from crossdressing, so... I have no idea what I am, really, but I like it fine :)
Literally same exact hat except I'm born female. Feels weird ticking the female box on medical forms but not weird enough to like, do anything about it. I dress girl, I use she her, I have a girl name, but I really don't have any loyalty to it. I just don't have any particular inclination to change anything either
Yeah. I've come to realize that while my gender does dictate some parts of my life, i can't just change it to make my problems go away. I'm a girl. That's it, nothing more or less to that gender identity. Whatever.
I feel the exact same except I was born female. Being a girl always felt like… if me as a person was a bag, and all the things that make me up are in/on the bag, being female would be an easily removable keychain hanging off the strap. It’s not part of the bag, but many people focus more on it than the bag (person). Honestly, I’m just me, before any gender or pronouns. And that’s what’s important. Me and you are wonderful to be!
@@seineeveeoh my god, you’ve just explained my life. thanks
now listen- ik will wood wrote this song aimed at himself regarding his own identity , him enjoying feminine things and therefore identifying as nonbinary for a while before realising actually ! he can be a cis man and still enjoy feminine things !
but i must say as a ftm trans guy i Also relate to this a lot because. i do infact identify as a man , but i still enjoy skirts and dresses on occasion and i have long hair- and sometimes i think man , maybe im Not really trans. maybe i coulda lived my life as a woman happily-
but then i remember how terrible i feel when even Thinking too much about my body in that way and how it feels like missing a step on the stairs whenever i so much as read my deadname.. and it makes me realise that yeah , just like this song says i can still be a man and enjoy feminine things ! i can still be interested in makeup and wear floral print and have long pretty hair and _none_ of that invalidates my being a man :)
thats parta what i love sm ab will woods music- a song could be about pretty much the Opposite of what you go through and youll still relate to it somehow , therell be ways to interpret it differently fr ppl frum all walks of life n i think thats super cool !!!!
yes B)/gen
I don't think I've ever related to a comment more than this
Even though I’m not a cis or trans man, I relate to this a lot (it makes more sense in my head lol)
THIS THIS THIS THIS AS A FTM TRANS I JUST
"say my name like a slur, but i've been called worse"
sometimes the way others say my name feels like they're only using it to mock me and i've never seen a sentence explain something i feel so perfectly,,
(edit- spelling error)
i’m so glad i’m not alone feeling like this. even people who didn’t know me before i socially transitioned, it just feels wrong the way they say my name :(
SAME
BROVROROBROBRO SAMEEE IT'S LIKE ID RATHER YOU JUST DEADNAME ME THAN RUIN THE ONE GOOD THING I THOUGHT WAS UNTOUCHABLE
same!
No cuz I feel the exact way
My motto in life is "Identity is fluid, gender is performative, listen to i/me/myself by will wood".
this is a valid approach to life
Gender isn't fluid. You're either a man or a woman all your life, trans or not. (Not enough research to see if nonbinary is real) Masculinity/femininity is bs though.
@@bloddrinkeraka But there is
It’s been around for centuries
I freaking love "all identities are invalid" because it really made me see from a different perspective. Gender and identity are made up by us and there arent identities that are 'right" or "wrong". And the song encourages to let go of them and think outsise the box
Or alternatively. Hoard all the identities! /hj but I'm FTM and pangender with 28 xenogenders because they all catch my attention lmao
@@dameslayer Fair. To explain a bit, pangender is a label that basically says "Hey, I have a lot of genders!" and xenogenders are pretty much these neat fancy genders.
@@spoopyvirgil4944bringing out the good and funny genders around anyone who will accept it
yes i love it so much we are alreddy perfect perfect ourselves
@@casriaAmarel cracking open a good ol' micro-label/xenogender in good company like a it's a fine wine 😂
when will wood said i wish i could be a girl i felt it
not in a "i wish i was cis" and definitely not in a detransition way but there's some weird ENVY in that phrase
Like you wish you didn't have to go through it all and just be what society expects you to be...I totally get that
Ok Dave strider /j
But in all seriousness same
lol hi dave
I think it's they way cis men (and sometimes trans women too) can actually desire womanhood, while we just can't enjoy it because we felt pressed into fullfilling a role that just isn't for us, I also feel this sometimes when cis feminists talk about how "beautiful and magical" it is to be a woman, I wish I could enjoy this body and role in society but I just can't
I want to be a girl in the way that a cis man wants to be a girl
As a gender non conforming female I really relate to this song. Am I cis? Sure. But I’ve never felt as feminine or “girl” as other girls. Sometimes I find myself yearning to be a girl in the way they are, and this song really captures it for me
Femininity and masculinity are a set of stereotypes
i feel the same way!! i know i'm a girl, but i feel like i'm doing it wrong
You just described how i feel to a tea
As an also gender non conforming cis female, same. I love dressing and looking androgynous to the point where my gender is unrecognizable, but also love being feminine and beautiful sometimes. In the past, I have always taken pride in being a tomboy and physically keeping up with or even overpowering boys my age, but I have also fought major insecurity about my body not being "feminine enough" and yearned for it.
@@obscurahistoria6276 As somebody who uses he/him as a girl, You’re always “girl enough.” Remember that!
As a trans guy with a ton of internalized transphobia THIS SONG BE HITTIN ME IN THE FEELS-
What's that?
@@danielugirne7122 internalized transphobia is when you kinda like can't accept yourself with your gender identity :] at least that is the best way for me to explain it
The Logan pfp!!!!!!
@@danielugirne7122 it's like when you know your trans, but because if how you grew up you have a hard time accepting you are trans, and in some cases be internally transphobic to other trans people (this is my experience with it it can be different for others)
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trans fems: we relate to this song
trans mascs(me): we relate to this song
Trans enbys: we relate to this
Cis girls: we relate to this song
Cis boys: we relate to this song
Literally everyone: *WE RELATE TO THIS SONG*
as a person, i relate to this song 👍🏾
As a "Ah yes, grender" person, I relate to this song.
As a Homo sapien, I agree.
...
Are you a cis girl now?
@@ImTired17well well well, look what the cat dragged in
It's like the smallest line in the song but "taxonomize our differences" hits so hard for me, like, the idea that every differenxe in body type and gender expression needs to be categorized and labeled and stereotyped and we can't just all be human
Great comment, I didn't think much of that line until now. That fits in with the theme of "Why can't you just let me be me without forcing me into a label?" this whole song is about.
*tries to hold back the urge to play this on loop so i don’t get sick of it*
literally same though, the urge won though but luckily I'm not sick of it yet after 3 days which is epic
yes!!!
Dude I play this on loop every chance I get and it’s been a month. There is no getting tired of this song
*yes*
LITERALLY
As an AMAB non-binary person, this song goes hard. A lot of times I wish I could just be a girl instead of non-binary, since it would make things easier. And “am I pretty enough” is something I ask myself all the time, haha. Because I’m not sure I’ll ever be feminine enough.
you got this! i relate but the opposite way. im Non binary afab and sometimes i just wish i was born a man, then i could wear makeup and people would still perceive me as a man or androgynous
I feel this comment hard. When I found this song I listened to it on repeat.
@@cloudsprite8349 yep same! I would like loop this song for a few days. Ik it wasn’t written to be about the trans experience but it is really relatable
It's a really complex song ngl. Like there's just so much to unpack.
this makes a lot of sense in a really sad way; i'm an afab nonbinary guy and in an unconventional way, theres a lot of privilege that comes in that. its all "you don't have to pass, you're valid however you look!" until the person is amab. amab people have to try so incredibly hard to present how the world wants in order to be addressed correctly. its just misogyny tbh, they need people who arent men to fit into the male gaze :/ im sorry abt it, and ik you've probably internalized that you aren't pretty enough, but you're beautiful :)
Love how both binary trans people, nonbinary people, gender nonconforming people, unlabeled people, detransitioners, and even cisgender people (and everything else in between) can relate to this song
hello >:)
Why must you make me have another egg moment
i interpret it as when i was young wanting to be this ****PRETTY**** girls bf (I'm female and now a lesbian )
Wait I'm a trans guy so do I take my tea with casualdejekyll instead of formaldehyde
It's almost as if gender was making everyone uncomfortable.
me, a bisexual transmasc dude: yuhhh bump this shit!!
SAME
SAME WHAT
LMFAOO so we all here huh 🧍🏼♂️
YESYESYES
Same here
Blasting this while crying and eating a bagel with the led lights flashing at 3 am is a vibe
im doing that rn without the bagel jdjdsj
what bagel was it? Also I hope you feel better!
@@SirFigBar it was a toasted bagel with strawberry cream cheese and it was deliciously salted with my tears. Also I’m much better now thank you
@@AriLolzz That's good! Im glad you are feeling better, and you have good taste in bagels, my friend
I’ve never had this happen to me but yet I relate
The “I am quantum physics” line really hits me personally. I’m agender in a way where I don’t even think about what qualities I have someone might use to (mis)gender me until there are others around. When I’m alone, I don’t really feel like I even HAVE a gender, but the presence of others seeing me as something, ANYTHING, is what gives me dysphoria. Will Wood really has a way with words.
i literally feel exactly the same
How- how did you explain exactly how I feel??
what pronouns do you go by?
@@janthanadanjerie817 they/them, thank you for asking!
Now that I start thinking, I feel the exact same. I am quite feminine and people often use she/her for me (completely fine by me) but sometimes I just wish everyone used he/him for me. It gives me that electric rush of pure shock, in the best possible way. I feel so drawn to this song but I really don’t know why? Lol this was kind of a word mush
This song perfectly encapsulates what it's like being a detrans MtFtM boy, and I thank Will Wood for sharing his perspective since it's often an overlooked one. I'm a gender non-conforming male who was a transgirl for a long time, because I was taught that I was too feminine to be a boy. Everyone either told me that I was a boy and so should act more manly, or that I was really a girl on the inside. Even now I get people saying I'm an egg (trans in denial) because of my femininity
actually please don’t say you were trans! you were never trans you just thought you were
@@mewyorkcityf46607 Dude let him label himself with what he feels comfortable with
@@mewyorkcityf46607 identity is fluid and someone who once identified as something can change over time. that's why i dislike the notion of "you were never x, you were always y". Why does it need to fate? Why can't we let people change labels and learn more about themselves without invalidating their past trials and labels?
@@giggling_stars huh... hearing this about ex christians and now this. yeah, yeah i actually agree with this. thanks, i think i grew a little.
@@mewyorkcityf46607 Doesn't his experience have a lot in common with the trans experience though? I see your point but I think we shouldn't knee jerk deny detransitioners a place in the trans community at the same time, they have a unique perspective worth listening to.
i feel so safe in this comment section tbh
same it's a refreshing break from "the boys"
Happy 69 likes!
happy 169 likes 😌
same, it's comforting
yeah, I keep feeling like there are going to be transphobic comments but I'm pleasantly suprised
the quantam physics line is so fucking clever,, like the thing with quantum physics is that the particals act differently when being actively observed which is also how i feel about gender
Oh god thats neat
this tune gives me such happy vibes and sounds like it should belong in a musical.
it should be stuck into like something with andrew ranolds in it
@certified emmett forrest lover omg, idk if this isn't appropiate tbh, but I'd love to listen to that playlist if ou could share it in some way.
@certified emmett forrest lover I just checked and I can't find it :c it must be set to be private
Cis men 🤝 Cis women 🤝 Trans Fems 🤝 Trans Mascs 🤝 Nonbinary people
*THIS SONG*
universal agreement
I cannot agree more
This is the gender anthem, basically
Bigender🫱🫲
as a transman this song is very mood lifting especially this part 3:21 - 3:44 it kinda quickens the pace of the song and its such a bop
God, Will is such a brilliant writer! “I am quantum physics, my witness brings me to existence” We are all just particles arranged in a clever way, our conscience was created as just another step of evolution. But even the theory of quantum physics wouldn’t exist without us humans to perceive it, just how Will and so many of us are reliant on people to perceive us in order to feel alive.
The quantum physics line hits so deep in my soul that every time I hear it I have the strongest urge to smash a mirror
..In which way?
@@staringatchairs7844 I mean I'm smashing a mirror so I'd have to move forward a bit I guess?
@@ButchBirdie are you smashing the mirror because your reflection is sexy and hot? That's what I got
@@staringatchairs7844 Thank you for the compliment. My original intent was a sort of "destroy the perception of the self in order to experience gender euphoria" kind of way but now I think I like your reason better
@@staringatchairs7844 the way this made me cackle
me: im a guy, im a man, i want to be perceived only as a man, i-
this song: 0:55
me: OH SHIT TURN IT UP
i have no gender, so much so to the poiny where it feels that where gender would be is just a void, being referred to as any gender is uncomfortable and i WISH I COULD BE A GIRL-
@@cloudygreyskies KJDHG
Is that gerry keay in your pfp?
@@nataliem5425 sí
yES but we can also see it like "I wish I could live as a girl. if I was a girl it'd be more simple. but I'm a man"
so
I WISH I COULD BE A GIRL-
Humans weren’t meant to be labeled, you are who you think you are and who you want to be. Clothes, attitude, your interests, none of that makes you this or that or in denial of some label people think you are.
You are you
I'm more of a 'V' than a 'U,' but I guess we can chalk that up to a difference in _orthography_ than anything substantive or substantial.
how to summon trans people
step1: make a song about having complicated feelings about gender
step 2: include bangin sax solo
LMAO
Why, why is this so true
@@wileatsglass because jazz
*That's all it takes*
so true
Everyone is talking about how this can fit transmasc people and transfemmes, but as a non-binary person it also fits with me :) because I’m AFAB, the “I wish I could be a girl” really hits hard because I wish I was cis so that I wouldn’t have to deal with all of the dysphoria, misgendering, confusion, etc. :D
edit: hey!! this is the most attention any of my comments has gotten and I’m honestly glad. I’m here for all of you, and I hope you’re doing fine!! :D
same! im still not sure if im nonbinary or genderfluid:[ but i get you :]
Same here, yet somehow the chorus helps me make fun of people who outwardly assume i'm female when im not. Feels really cool and empowering
in the same exact little boat and this song encompasses all these feelings for me. we arent alone :)
✋✋I am the same as you m8 🧡
I love this song bc of how many people can relate to it (:
I’m a cis female, but this song FUCKING SLAPS
you dont have to be any gender or sexuality to enjoy a song!
@@somewhatrealpurevanilla9691 true
@@imnotgaybut6408 i am demigirl and i enjoy this song!
.......???? youre allowed to be cis and like this song????? huh LMFAO
My sister agrees 👍 😌
No matter what this song is about, I think we can all agree that is an absolute banger.
Obviously!
I know this song is more about being gender non-conforming than anything, but I really relate as a genderfluid AFAB person. Don't get me wrong, I'm proud of my identity, but sometimes I wish I *didn't* have the gender dysphoria, and that I could just be a cis girl. After all, it would save me a lot of confusion and discomfort, not to mention not having to explain your identity to those who won't believe you, or having to fear coming out. (I'm not fully out to my parents, but they would support me no matter what, thank God.)
EDIT: I made this comment not too long after I had figured out I was genderfluid, and I’m dealing with a lot less issues surrounding my gender now. Over the past few months, I’ve been able to embrace my gender more, and I’m much more confident in my identity now. Still, though, seeing quite a few other people relate to my struggles is both a little saddening and very relieving. Thank you guys for sharing your feelings, and I’m glad we’re all in this together :)
I am also a genderfluid AFAB being, and you just put all of my thoughts into words, thank you
I've never related to a comment so much in my life
I'm an enby AFAB and it feel so good to read people who relate it the same way as me
Transmasc afab here, I like this song in a "this song has great vibes" way and in an "I wish I was cis" way
LITERALLY SAME
this song makes me so happy, “i don’t want gender to define me as a person and how i should act and what i should wear” is how i imagine this
First of all, Will Wood is my gender
Secondly, this song makes me cry, which I know it isn’t supposed to, but this is actually me as gay transmasc guy
God fucking damnit William I’m balling
I hear you, I'm a trans girl and by the end of this song I had to pause the album and cry. It's nice to know I'm not alone though
Another gay trans masc guy checking in to say that yep, this makes me cry too. I've fallen for a straight man and lamented my identity *one* too many times for me to be able to listen this song normally.
Yeah. Nonbinary entity here, who’s had one to many identity crises.... this song really makes me feel something.
I do have something to say, but i don't know how to or what to say. I don't know how to get what i feel and want to say out of my brain or how to even get to the why of this. I'll be back.
@@mewse14 hi, i'm a trans girl too and i'm just curious, why exactly do u want to be a girl? because i have a very particular reason
This song hits so hard as a trans femboy. For so long I was convinced my feminimity somehow made me less valid and struggled deeply with it, but fuck gender roles! If a cis man wearing a dress gets "yass queen break gender roles" why should it be any different for me? Only you and you alone can define who you are :) if I want to wear a maid dress then I will god damn it!!! A piece of cloth doesn't define you! You look fine as hell in what you feel good in!
Edit: since posting this comment I've actually realized that I'm nonbinary, but my point still stands. Any non-cis person can wear whatever they want and act however they want!!! You will always be valid!! Be yourself
holy crap you just described my whole life thank you so much internet stranger 5 months ago
@@wubbiessss you're so welcome internet stranger 8 hours ago 😌
as another ftm femboy this hits hard for me man :” thank yo
Same lol
holy shit. you've described how i feel. it's so validating to see other ftm trans people like this. i've been told a lot that i act too feminine to be a trans man, which has given me a lot of self-doubt. so thank you for sharing, you've made my day.
me, a trans girl who wishes she was cis so guys would like me: ouch :(
If he doesn't like you because you aren't cis, he's not worth it 😩✋
@@SaferWafer i try to tell myself that but it's hard finding someone who's not like that where i live lol
Girl, if you watch Wonder Egg Priority and listen to will wood, your taste is far too good to cry about some cis loser guys
Idk if you’re into girls/non-binary ppl but as a non-binary lesbian, I think you’re beautiful
HIII MOMOE PFP
"all identities are equally invalid"
It isn't sexism if you hate everyone.
Hmm
As long as you don't hate on any type of gender identity and hate everyone as a person then that's alright .
It’s hard to argue with his assessment
Wait THATS WHAT ITS SAYING AT THE END????
@@oliviarettberg7173 the lyrics are litterally onscreen??
This song is free therapy.
I'm non-binary AFAB and sometimes I feel like if I was a cis girl everything would be easier? Idk.
Having to explain to everyone about well I'm not a girl but I'm also not a man.
And dealing with the insecurity of whether I still be non-binary if I was amab.
My brain goes through this thought process way too often (also afab enby) and whenever it does I just get this song stuck in my head and then I have to go listen to it
i’m an afab he/they and i get that but also being fem is so nice (i’m so stereotypically girly, hearts and all) but i wanna be femininely masculine
@@rachelc6443 it’s when a cis dude can dress vry feminine, how i dress atm but still be perseived as a dude or masculine
I'm trans a guy to girl and I got my first bra yesterday and I've been listening to this all day.
YWNBAW
@mister_dadstersays_hi7372 what's with the keyboard spam little Twitter kids do nowadays? just say what you mean instead like the rest of us instead of typing out among us lobbys goddammit that's annoying
W
@@mister_dadstersays_hi7372funny because they literally are a woman, even by your backwards ass standards
missed your chance dude lmao
@@mister_dadstersays_hi7372imagine being such a sad person that you have to make an acronym to make your bigotry faster. That's genuinely really sad
ive seen very little lesbians in this comment section so hi! i see this song as wishing womanhood wasnt based around loving men, wanting to be a girl the way straight girls are and feeling like being lesbian is a whole different identity than being a woman if that makes any sense idk
I understand completely. I’ve heard of a lot of women needing to dress a certain way in order to “pass” as a lesbian. The heteronormative expectation is frustrating to say the least.
As a bisexual, I always felt very isolated from straight girl peers for a similar reason. However, I've always felt alienated by lesbians as well. Not just because of a lot of the rigid classifications they use (although that is a part of it), but this vibe of disapproval/disappointment/we'd-prefer-you-didn't-exist that makes it very hard for me to relate to them in any way. For me, it's always been almost impossible to see any lesbians talking about their own experiences without putting down non-lesbian sapphics in some way. Those who do are far few and in-between.
The work lesbians have accomplished to redefine womanhood and just for the LGBT+ community in general is often not talked about enough. Gay trans guy here, we appreciate ya'll.
I'm a guy, but can I hang with _you all?_
...Please? Straight women are _scary..._
Yo homies in the comment section, everyone has a different view on this song! There is a story behind this song mainly about Will just liking feminine things but getting confused along the way but finding his way back! But there are some people that put their own experience in here be it that they’re Trans and other things! Make sure that you understand that people will have different view points no matter what, and you know what? That’s okay and it should be appreciated. I personally like seeing people talk about their own story when listening to this song, be it Will’s own story about how he doesn’t really care about gender norms and such to how a trans person found their way through their own life and becoming happy with themselves or even something completely different! But just remember, be kind to each other no matter who the other person is and what they’ve experienced, judge a person by their character and not their identity. Enjoy this fucking rad song!
This is the best comment. B)
Thank you, random citizen!
YUH SPEAK THAT SPEAK RANDOM PERSON! /POS
BEST COMMENT BEST COMMENT
This ☝
The being of this song(before the words) gives me my singing monster vibes
I’m so glad I’m not the only one who thinks of that!!! This one also gives me msm vibes ruclips.net/video/OfYvUyOJHIA/видео.html
(Don’t worry it’s safe /srs)
That game was my childhood is it still around
Ur right- BHAHHA
I THOUGHT SO TOO OMG i was hoping i wasn't the only one who thought that?? I think I actually saw someone remake the beginning in my singing monsters on one of their composer islands i think
@@haveagoodmourning it is!
The way the music sounds when he says "I, me, myself" at the end feels like such a powerful statement for me
Me, a bisexual girl that’s been questioning her gender for a while now: damn this shit hits different
lowkey me but im questioning being bi too ✌️😔
Yo bi guy here doing the same thing lol my gender is so confusing rn
Also I love the ghost pfp
are you me- legit my situation rn
as someone who's done questioning xyr gender, good luck guys =]
This song makes my gender go 📈📉📈📉📈📉 (I'm genderfluid btw)
SAME LMAO
your gender...is like stocks....upppy dooownn...
literally same
Omnigender
But same
SAME LOL
My crush told me to listen to this song and now I’m obsessed- and can’t stop thinking about them when I listen 😭😭😭
Damn ur crush has good music taste
marry ur crush
ur pfp looks rlly cool
I love the energy in this replies section
ask them out
as someone who is high key questioning my gender, that i/me/myself line really hits
fellow trans people, i love yall, have a lovely day :]
im an afab enby, and i really feel this song. sometimes being trans can be super hard, u just wish u could "fit in" w a society that seems so intimidating and all-encompassing. it can be easier to just pretend to be someone ur not, just to please cis people, but it comes at the price of ur happiness and comfort. (ofc i know this song isnt about being trans, but i think its cool that this song has made trans people of all different genders come together and know were not alone)
Thank you fellow trans person shin tsukimi 😳
Have a lovely day too!
*vibechecks you* why...why are you made of the heart emoji...
@@calentinestrider8368 ur so sweet omg 😭
i so much appreciate that it's shin tsukimi telling me this
i'm still baffled by the fact that this appeals to trans people without being about trans people, it's amazing, i hope people get the true meaning while still being able to find comfort in the lyrics since i personally agree with the song's message 100% while still feeling the confusing trans vibes coursing through my cis-woman veins
i reckon the cleverest thing about this song is that the top note that he keeps going back to in the chorus is clearly in an uncomfortably high part of his range especially in the cutesy way he's trying to sing it and his voice keeps cracking over it, which in the context of this song subtextually implies it's to do with obsessing over wanting to sound more conventionally traditionally socially acceptably "girly"
everyone in this comment section has been hit with the transgenderification beam
TRANSGENDERINATOR
Ah, hello there platypus nemesis! I have forgotten your name and would never stoop so low as to deadname you, can you please remind me?
TRANSGENDERATOR
THATS SO GENDER
Me wishing I was trans because I love trans culture so much but I’m cis so I’ll never really be able to fully relate to trans people
@@derpymule7977 that’s not a cis thing to think…. 😀
To everyone who is wondering what the song is about, here is what Will Wood himself said :
" Hey everyone, WW here. Some fans have started to harass me and my friends believing that this song is an expression of some kind of transphobia. I normally try to ignore fan harassment, but I find the idea of this particularly disgusting. This song is, as I’ve said, about my experiences with my gender identity. It’s none of your business, but I once identified as genderqueer, until I realized that my attraction to traditionally feminine things did not interfere with my identity as a man. I didn’t want to define non-binary with my good old-fashioned cross-dressing, because I don’t want to speak for anyone else. I came to realize that my refusal and/or failure to meet the behavioral standards of my gender role did not make me less of a man, and anyone (cis or trans) who tells me that wearing makeup now and again makes me less of a man can shove it. After struggling for some time, I realized that my genderqueer identity wasn’t necessary for me, that I was wearing it as a prop in order to serve a purpose. The song is about my experiences and any amount of satire or targeted poking fun it does is at people who are doing what I know I did at the time. Partially in the hopes of drawing people away from that toxicity like I wish something had for me at the time. I admit that some lyrics were added after fans started refusing to accept that I am not trans, even going so far as to tell me to my face that I am regardless of what I tell them, and would not listen to my explanations of the song. My frustration with the fact that there were far more non-binary people refusing to accept my cisgender identity than there ever were cisgender people refusing to accept my genderqueer identity likely had me writing with a little more venom than I would have otherwise - but the target is still, when it comes down to it, myself. Also, I was tripping balls at a casino, leave me alone. To boil it down, the song is about how I respond to my frustration with the limitations of the male gender role, the maladaptive ways I’ve coped with that frustration, and trying to figure out if this experience or any other regarding my gender can or should define me. It reaches the same conclusion that most of my work does - and that is that nothing is real and that if something is hurting us we have the power to cast it off. As I said with my entire second album, clinging too hard to one’s identity in the wrong way can hurt oneself and others, and I know for sure that’s what I was doing - and anyone who has attacked me or my friends over it is likely doing that too. Seriously at least have the basic human decency to leave my friends out of it if you can’t resist abusing me. I, as I’ve said clearly, wholly and firmly support the movement for the acceptance on non-binary gender identities. I myself would call myself cisgender, but I believe it’s incredibly important that we as a society move toward a place where gender roles no longer limit us, control us, and hurt us. I can only clarify so much better without just repeating what I’ve already written, so I’ll leave it at that. Thanks for listening, hope this suffices, join my Patreon. Wood has publicly explained the meaning behind this song, and has done so phrase by phrase in his patreon-exclusive blog, “the Stethoscope.” He has given permission to share it to this page. The title of the song is “A play on how people list their pronouns online. Using first person pronouns that are also a play on the phrase "me, myself, and I.” I/Me/Myself is, according to Wood, about his exploration of his gender identity, and how people cope with the limitations of their assigned gender roles. In his breakdown of the lyrics in his patreon blog, Wood says the song is a satire of “…problematic proponents of the gender identity movement, (let me be clear, I am a firm supporter of the movement as a whole) who co-opt queer spaces and language as a means of finding that validation they are denied in their assigned gender roles…” and “the encroachment of cultural spaces set aside for those who are genuinely very deeply oppressed and abused at large.” Like much of Wood’s work, the song is self-critical, as Wood is known for having gender non-conforming tendencies. However, Wood is not trans, nor does he identify as non-binary. In 2016 he came out to NJ.com as “pansexual” and a “mild transvestite” but hasn’t talked about it publicly since. He concludes this entry with “Man, woman, cis, trans, non-binary, whatever- our identities are constructions of the ego, and illusions. We’re not even truly separate organisms, no more so than one brain cell is from another in the same brain. We’re all part of The One that is everything, we’re all hallucinations. No one is "valid,” and someday we’ll all truly realize that the self in its entirety is unnecessary.""
Of course , this is just the "canon" explanation - and nothing stops you interpreting/"headcanon-ing" it as you wish.
This is an extremely good explanation of his thoughts but "Also, I was tripping balls at a casino. Leave me alone" fucking sent me into orbit
I see why he was pissed off by some of the response to this song. It irritates me too, a lot of the people who would say my transmasc ass is still valid when I wear makeup would call Will Wood an "egg" for doing the same.
I wish more people would keep that energy for cis gnc people
@@kellanlevi5663 yeah !! i feel the same , honestly :(
there is some people that often tries to break the stereotypes when it comes to trans/nb people , but ends up forcing those same stereotype to cis ( gnc ) people - and not realize how harmful it can be to them as well ...
like you said, i wished that people had this same energy for cis gnc people as well
@@kellanlevi5663 i laughed a lot when i saw that part too DJFGSHDFJGSJDF i wasnt expecting to see it when talking about such serious topic --
this song made me truly realize I was nonbinary and it's such a bop when it comes on to be like aw yeah turn up that gender !
wait actually same what the honk
For me it's gender go ?_($?2?($?$
@short_ rat ayup fellow dsmp fan
Sorbet shark pfp 😎
@@ribs5659 oh yeah B]
This song means so much to me as a trans gay guy.
Specifically the chorus, because I genuinely wish that I felt at home in my afab body, so then maybe, more guys would take me seriously and genuinely love me not just for my body, but for who I am as a person.
Much love 💖💖
I am crying to this song while walking down the street at 10 pm. For clarification I figured out I was a Demi girl just a few weeks ago and I have never ever been happier. I have always felt that I was different and that something was wayy off. I am literally crying tears of pure relief because today was the first day I actually saw myself as a demigirl
im a generic cis white guy who somehow dodged being a member of any minority ever and have never had to face any problems relating to my identity but this song slaps.
this is the funniest comment on this video hands down
All the power to you
You're the only one I've seen brave enough to be g r o n g l u s. You're doing a good job, lad. Keep at it.
Same here lol
😂😂😂
I'm a cis female and I think this song has the best music out of all the songs on the album. "Doo ahh baba Doo ahh."
this song gives me huuuge Lemon Demon vibes and some Tally Hall vibes
neil cicierega⁉️😱 NEIL CICIEREGA‼️‼️‼️😍😍😍😱😱🥰🥰🥰☺️☺️☺️ /c
I kinda agree
SAME AND I ADORE ALL THOSE BANDS
ah yes the gender identity crisis trinity: lemon demon, tally hall and will wood
@@mutated_mutt I literally listen to all of those and I'm having a gender crisis 😧
the most gender ever
truly the most
God it sure is
Off topic I love your homura pfp
runs around in circles i really like this song
joins you me 2
(watching you two run around in concentric circles) (nods in agreement)
*sipping fruit loops* it is a good song, yeah
Lowkey unrelated but as a Nonbinary person I noticed ur profile picture has the same colours as my flag :)
Lowkey? That's highkey unrelated, m8, but congrats on the lack of binaries either way.
i can't believe will wood invented gender! good for him!
(jokes aside I love this song it's very relatable)
Thank you, this song hits close to home, thank you
i'm not non-binary nor transgender. at first i thought this song was for trans and nb people but now that i found the lyrics i found myself relating to it to..
im cis and straight but act like a tomboy. In my country, people like feminine and soft-spoken women, while i am loud and brash. my mom says no guy will love me because dating me will be like dating a guy.. the 'i wish i could be a girl' part really speaks to me because i really do wish i was more feminine so that people would love me i guess :(
that's cool and all, but like wdym "act like atomboy" if you present masculine is one thing, but there is no such thing as "acting masculine" /lh
@@protagonistakun2407 well, it's their words, not mine. Maybe it's not on 'acting masculine' but more like 'it's a stereotypical trait for guy bc a girl should be like this'
@@protagonistakun2407 a tomboy most definitely is a thing??
@@cursedkomodo i naver said it wasn't?????? /gen
@@protagonistakun2407 I JUST REALISED I MISREAD YOUR MESSAGE
As a cis girl who considered genderfluidity for a short amount of time, due to the fact that I enjoy being called "sir" and dress as masculine as possible to trick people into thinking I'm a boy so I can snicker and smile at it- but decided that even though I enjoy being masculine, I am still happy as a female and wouldnt want to be a man, I really love this song. I heavily relate to the line "all identities are equally invalid, don't you think that there's a chance that you could live without it?" If more people had this mentality, then there would be a lot less hate and dysphoria.
Sorry this is so long and deep lmao
holy shit I've never seen someone else feel EXACTLY the way I do about my gender holy shit I'm flabbergasted
@@weeniewilsonshomeofpeppero1699
Oh my goodness y e s-
@@allizathemomfriend8627 RIGHHT like, king? yes! sir? yes! brother? yes! Am I a boy? No, I'm just a guy living her life! She's the man!
I’m a cis woman who sometimes likes to be seen as a boy/gender ambiguous. I don’t have physical dysphoria but I do have occasional social dysphoria, but that doesn’t make me trans. I’ve struggled with gender for a long time because I’ve never found something that I thought fit me, I thought that if I felt this way then I MUST be some form of genderqueer/trans, but I’m coming to terms with the fact that I can just be cis and feel this way. I don’t HAVE to be anything.
I'm a cisgender man, and I've had the same experience. My long hair has caused confusion for a lot of people and I kind of like it, but it doesn't make me trans, and that fine. You and your experiences are valid!
I am a cis girl and i was transphobic, but this song and these comments made me reconsider. I nearly cried listening and reading that. Though i still don't really understand how is it - feeling that your body is wrong, i wish all queers here very good life and i wish y'all love yourselves... And i hope once our world will become less cruel and more kind to you. Be happy please. Find something nice in that day to smile before falling asleep. ❤️
upd. i realized i am nonbinary and that i was transphobic only towards myself. lol.
nice glow up >:]
if you ever have any questions about it feel free to ask me
man, love the character development
Character development
@@spoon3073 thanks! It is really a long way for me, i still don't understand everything but i would respect people who respect me (hypothetical me). May i ask you a question, how should i use they/them pronounces (though i don't know what pronounces are yours i guess you know more about it)? Does it go with "are" or with "is"? "They are my friend/they do everything at home" or "they is my friend/they does everything at home"? I'm not English, sorry, i know how to use they/them in my native language (though it sounds kinda weird and in my country it is usually a phase of teenagers who wanna be a part of lgbtq+ but who can't change their orientation hah...) but other languages are mystery yet.
that “my witness brings me to existence” line struck a chord with me-im a girl, and have been all my life, but i sometimes believe i am a blank slate for others to project their ideal friend, family member, or person onto. my witness brings me to existence.
i’m a gnc girl- the way i’m relating to will’s confirmation of what the finalized version of the song means but backwards 😍😍😍
same bestie
this song hits hard for me as a trans demiboy who can't come out to hit family because they're all transphobic christians. ive struggled with internalized transphobia for a long time, and I refused to allow myself to be trans for a long even when I knew I was, and after coming out to my friends, I felt like it was wrong and I attempted to 'not be trans' which utterly failed. so now im just trying to keep it all together while I get deadnamed and misgendered every day. i cant wait until I hit 18 in two years so i can move out immediately and actually start being myself
edit - about a yearish later
i came out to my family. it didn't go well, but im alive and im okay. this song gas helped me so much as well as every other will wood song. im not a demiboy anymore, i identify as binary male. my two best friends of several years are now my queerplatonic partners, and they have helped me hang on so much. if you're struggling to stay alive due to oppression in your family, i promise it will get better. you just need to hold on until it does. remember you're valid no matter what anyone in your family tells you, and i love you too.
Wasn't the whole point of this song just that genders are concepts we've invented to confine ourselves into? Just be you
Who cares how much hair is there on your face or what's in your pants. Detach your self-identity from this sack of meat that you inhabit!
Jesus
hope you're doing good now
Thank you, Hunter, I'm glad you're doing okay (as much as anyone can be in that circumstance)
okay but can we talk about this as a gender fluid point of view too? being born a girl and hating it sometimes and loving it sometimes, and just sometimes getting the sudden urge to grab a pair of scissors and cut all your hair off and be a boy too, finding your body unbearable. Sometimes I wish I could be a pretty, feminine girl who can walk around in a small, cute skirt and sometimes I wish I could be a pretty boy with fluffy black hair who can dress as he pleases without thought because he knows it suits him. It’s always the thought of “am I pretty enough?” No matter how you look like and regardless if your actually good looking or not , it sometimes feels it’ll never be enough. And the feeling of getting gender envy all the time from pretty boys and girls who can pull off looking like a boy hurts as well, it’s never enough. You’ll never just be HAPPY with yourself no matter how you look like sometimes
EXACTLY!! whenever I listen to this song this exact experience is what I’m feeling. I’m still new this whole finding a gender identity thing but this comment literally ticks off all the marks
im afab and i want to be both a boy and a girl genderly, but only use he/him, but sometimes i wanna only be a boy then only be a girl, yknow? i think im bigender, but im just confused
@@jeefburky YES THANK YOU, i never really thought about my sexuality but now im even struggling with what I want or think I am
@@sugarrushqwq4163 personally I think you should give yourself as much time as you want, these things shouldn’t be rushed at all. And having come from an Arab household, i could understand where your coming from as well, trust me
I have never felt as seen from a youtube comment im crying holy shit
I always go so fucking ham singing “my witness brings me to existence!” because it’s exactly what I wanted to scream back when my dad kept trying to get me to prove my transness. “How do you know you aren’t a girl?” “You were always fine with it before.” “NEVER stop questioning or you’ll do something stupid.”
I am this way because I fucking said so.
I’ve found it. The most confusing trans song yet the one that makes the most sense. I went from he/him to she/her real quick.
As a genderfluid person this really hits🔥❤😊
Im agender but i agree
It’s my identity crisis I get to choose the music
Oh, you're trans too?
What are the odds! :)
this song hitting all ends of the trans spectrum
I'm agender and I came out to my mum last year before Christmas, she said she supported me but I've found screenshots on her phone of a book which speaks the opposite, all her arguments against me being trans are pure TERF rhetoric
I wish sometimes that I was just cis (i'm AFAB), so then I wouldn't be such a disappointment to her and that I could just be happy with the body I was born in, but I can't, and she doesn't understand that
I’m sorry that happened. :(
It's hard and so very complicated to grieve not only your appearance as cis/life before confronting your identity but also the relationships that suffer as a result. Ultimately, it's not your job to make your mom understand or earn her love. I'm enby and had a similar experience, something that isn't talked about enough is just the deep sadness of losing people in your life- remembering good moments on repeat and the aching need we all have to connect as humans with one another. You deserve love, respect, family. I'm so sorry you have to experience this, best of luck friend
@@rachelc6443 This is definitely true and a big issue socially, but being uncomfortable with how your body is treated/how it matches up to social norms (while still painful and difficult) is different from gender dysphoria on a very base level
Sorry that happened to you, when I came out my mother literally interrogated me like a cop. (like not only with that now they do it every time I talk about what I like on walks like a normal child parent relationship, but instead they question me on it like a pop quiz it makes me feel weird like a baby who doesn't know anything) 🙁
I love this song, especially when he sings it that one time with the “MY PRONOUND ARENT YOUR BUSINESS SHIT LORD” because now that i know the backstory of the song, makes so much sense. As a demi girl who goes by she/her it makes me so happy, because it reminds me that even if i go by she/her doesnt correlate anything to me being a demi girl/ potentially non-binary
'All identities are equally invalid
. Don’t you think that there’s a chance that you could live without it?' IS SO JASHBDKAJ I really like this song
It's so interesting how I relate to this song so hard, but in such a different way than most. It perfectly sums up how my identity disturbance manifests in my mental illness. Obviously not how the song was intended to be interpreted, but shows how skilled will wood is at crafting lyrics
I'd love to know more about what you mean and also OMIGOD IT'S THE NAMELESS NARCISSIST HIMSELF!
Oh definitely
"All identities are equally invalid, don't you think that there's a chance that you could live without it?" - Will Wood
Might be my favorite song lines.
i know that theres a lot more to it, but “id prefer it if you would use i/me/myself” is such a fun way of saying mind your own business
I don't know how people would interpret this as transphobic, he's singing from experience. It's like, people act like they want you to explore yourself and discover who you are, but if you do and decide that you're happy the way you are and don't feel any need to change yourself (or if someone wants to remain unlabeled and just live without worrying about all that), they get all upset.
A lot of people have the mindset that cis=transphobic and straight=homophobic when that's not usually the case. They also like to act like it's homophobia/transphobia whenever a cishet person feels invalidated. He tried out different labels and stuff and came to the conclusion that he's just a cis man that enjoys feminine things, and then people kept telling him that he was trans or nonbinary, or whatever, so he felt invalidated, so they called him transphobic.
And if they think the i/me/myself is mocking people who use different pronouns, then they clearly aren't paying attention, because that's obviously referring to how people kept saying things like "YOU aren't cis", "YOU should know this about YOURSELF", things like that. He's simply saying to speak for themselves because he knows who he is and doesn't need them telling him who they think he is
I'd never thought of the I/me/myself line that way! I always read it as a way of saying "my gender is *me*," but I like this interpretation too!
0:50 ugh felt
As a cis man, I find this song extremely relatable in the fact that even though I am cis, that doesn't mean I can't be in touch with my feminine side.
Yeah... I’m Christian and I find myself talking like a girl and I like putting bows on my head
i really feel like the line: “i wish I could be i girl in the way I wish I could be your girlfriend/boyfriend” sums it up for a lot of trans people. it’s something that you really long for and know that it would bring you so much happiness to have but at the same time feels impossible to accomplish or have. and for anyone who needs to hear this, no matter if you are in a place where people accept you or not it’s all about you, you decide your gender and sexuality because that’s your decision no matter what anyone says about it. and even if you are in a bad place right now just know that I accept you. ❤️
what I gathered from the comment section: transwomen, cis mlm men, and nblm amab people who wish the sex they were assigned allowed them the ability to easily be romanced by men the way cis woman are 🤝 afab transmasc, transmen, and afab nblm people who wish they still had the ease they would've had being romanced by men as they would've had if they were their assigned sex, even if some of these people definitely don't want to *be* cis and/or straight
0:11 Spongebob!?
BAHAHAHHA yes it is I SPONGEBOB SQUAREPANTS me and Will Wood are (click) tight
Hey, everyone, just so you know, this goes with the Macerena really well
Lol what
Nice
your right
thanks
remix when
When I first heard this song in a random queer playlist, I admittedly assumed the singer was a transgender woman- after all, that's what I am.
I heard masculine vocals, and I related to a lot of what this dude was saying. Aha! this is clearly about exploring femininity and figuring out that you are transgender! Surely she's just like me!?
This isn't usually my genre, but I really enjoyed the song, had the tune stuck in my head, so I looked up the lyrics online- and I was kinda hurt to read the surrounding stuff about people insisting the artist MUST BE TRANS because they were too feminine to identify as a guy.
I made the same assumption, but I would never insist on it when corrected.
Labels can be helpful for figuring out where you stand, but they should never be restrictions imposed onto someone. It's all bullshit. I have spent my life dealing with gender dysphoria- but that doesn't change the fact that being feminine doesn't automatically mean you must be a girl. being masculine doesn't force you to be a man.
He says he's a guy. So he's a guy. He's obviously just a particularly cool cis guy haha.
Invalidating that because of your own expectations of gender? It's just the other side of the coin to what I deal with as a trans woman, constantly being told that I can't be *really* be transgender, because no matter how feminine I am, I'm always going to be a bit of a tomboy.
"Oh you are constantly crushing beers?, how very ladylike! /s"- "oh you still enjoy all of those nerdy male-coded hobbies?, kinda letting *the side* down on that one, girl."- "oh you didn't immediately drop your factory job when you came out? shouldn't you be casting it all aside and pining for a life as a demure housewife?- some woman you are!"- "this whole angry punk rocker thing? that's kinda boyish, are you sure you are really trans?"
Oh sure, you've lasered your face, you've started hormones- but you still talk like you used to- seems kinda suspect!
The dude isn't transgender, and I am. but I can still massively relate to this- I've maintained a lot of the interests I held as the man I used to be- because I'm the same person? I'm just more open about being a girl now. Because that's what I've always wanted to be, and that's my business not yours.
He's obviously just as pissed off with the bullshit expectations imposed on his gender as I am of mine.
Maybe we should just discard the whole gender thing? that sounds pretty cool.
YWNBAW
@@mister_dadstersays_hi7372 What does this even mean lmao
@@batt300 oh lol
I think they are a bit late for that one hahaha!.
@@PumkRockI think it’s God’s name in ancient Hebrew, idk why that’s relevant right now tho
As a trans boy
Ouch
y same i cry to this
Ikr
My favorite thing about this song it how differently people can interpret it. I’ve heard so many different ideas from people with all sorts of identities, and even experiences beyond that! I’m a demigirl so to me personally the sentiment “I wish I could be a girl” feels like wishing I could just fit cleanly into that box and figure things out (not knowing whether to check female or other/nonbinary on things asking your gender gang where we at lol). Beyond that part of me, though, I’m aromantic and have had struggles with self esteem/being “ugly”. So the lines about being pretty enough to love hit home with my experience of thinking my aromanticism was actually just undesirability. My point is I love this song lol
not me finding this song during my gender crisis
I’m still in my gender crisis 😭😭
@@r0tt3n_milk 3 months later and i still am too 🕺
@@kaitphobic sadness
Well, i had my gender crisis locked in a box inside my head, acknowledging it only after 4am, and umm, this song came up on spotify and decided that boxes were for the inferior, and it wasn't inferior so I've been hate-loving the song pretty much since i found the album until it just hit what will was saying. So anyways, I'd like my box back please. Turns out it's pretty much infinite so i need it for storage of the tears and the original purposes.
@@kaitphobic 5 months later lmfao
we're figuring it out slowly ok ✋✋