It's not called being nice. It's called living or operating in your masculine energy. In all these stories these ladies were in doing mode not in receiving mode....ladies you need to lean back..
If you are nice because that is who you are and the guy left you because of that, then let him be gone forever! It is not your lost but his. And if he returns back to you. Don’t ever take the shit back! Stand for who you are and be who you are! Don’t change yourself just to be loved by the unworthy. That’s my principle in dealing with relationship.
Exactly, a man who would hate you for being nice (being normal) is the wrong man. dump the garbage! But ladies should also be careful not act like a mother to their men, let him be the man!
this is true I was seeing a guy and I ignored him for a month I was just busy and he called and invited me to dinner with his friends and he was like are you seeing someone else and his coworkers told me he loves me a lot and was showing my picture before I came... then he was like mi amor telling me romantic things in Spanish and how he wants a family with me... i was like wow and i did nothing.... i always use to chase and tell a guy I love him and I bought him things and he didnt care.. and when he went on vacation away from me too he started to come towards me and be more romantic. I guess I just have to ignore him and pretend I dont care which I think this makes no sense
Exactly... with every guy who pursues me... who I'm not that interested in, I'm 100% feminine so to speak and let him be masculine.. But if there's one guy I finally like after years, I'm way too eager, enthusiastic, and not anything to pursue@ all.
yeah i think there were studies that showed that the relationships that work best are those where the man feels that the woman is more attractive than him only then does he feel like doing more for her and he should love her more too for it to work
@@vanirose yes exactly but even if you're as beautiful as him, he needs to show aa much affection as you, meet your love needs, give those words or displays of affirmation as much as you or much more, he needs to show and tell... and keep making efforts and women need to keep their standards all thru out, and not forgive things because they're in a commitment... he needs to consistently support the relationship...
Yeah dang it...sad and cruel truth I just gave him my heart but he thought it was too much then he pulled away and dumped me. Why is me being nice ending up like this..... just so pissed off and don’t want to believe it ; first I think it’s just he that is a jerk,but after I learn about relationships, I just can’t believe most men are like that🙄 it’s not me that like to play hard to get now and play all the “games” ; it’s just if I’m not doing it this time to protect my heart, I’ll just end up being hurt again🙄🙄🙄
not true, you can be madly in love and play this game, its really wonderful actually and it works. it can be someone you are totally in love with and it just makes it really fun...
The third scenario is true to me. After buying birthday present and traveling to visit my ex on his birthday, 3 months later was mine and this guy never called, texted or did anything to make me feel needed. I called to be sure nothing happened to him and behold he was good and told me how he was out playing and watching football. I expressed my pain of him not showing any gestures on my birthday, he told me he was sorry and never did anything to show how important I was to him. I broke up with him because of that and he was mouth battering me and I couldn't bear it. from that relationship, I made up my mind never to do anything for men.
Unless he contacts you on his birthday for some reason, do not wish a man a happy birthday until the next time he contacts you after it has passed. Then you can say, “oh by the way, I hope you had a good birthday last weekend!”
My boyfriend was broke and needed groceries, so I thought it would be nice if I bought him a couple bags of groceries and dropped them off at his place (his back door was unlocked). He was pissed that I came in his house and broke up with me. If it was him doing that for me I would have been thrilled, but men are different than women, they don't like to be taken care of.
jazzy Angel lol not all men are ha! Most, yes! But that was pretty insane, however we're only seeing it from the prespective as a woman who wants to nurture and care for others.
@@Jazminfields I don't think he was a jerk, I think by buying his groceries I hurt his pride. Looking back, I can see I was care-taking him, and to men that can be a turn-off, like Greta explains in the video. Men have different needs than women, they don't want a mother.
I totally agree. Still, you cannot make him hunt you a whole life. Eventually, a relationship will be created. What happens then? How to keep the "mistery"? Can you suggest some ideas?
iuliaioana.bliss Always give him a 5% of ur life whilst u live ur 95% n he will always pursue u... make him ur 95% when u got him and he’s gone!! It works like this only heard it from an expert & psychologist
Having a colourful life that you enjoy - hobbies, friends and travels without him too. The more abundant your life is outside of the relationship, the more you love yourself, the less you are focused on him all the time - the more he will love you even in a long term relationship/ marriage. Never doo too much for a man.
Women are literally the exact same. I sure as hell know that I don't want to be treated bad and don't want to treat anyone else bad (if I do get treated bad by someone I treat them like they should suffer PTSD)
I am NOT nice! I call men out and I am not afraid to set boundaries and say no and men can’t stay away ! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 I DO NOT tell men how I feel. I just enjoy the time I spend with a man.
Ok I had you playing in the background and I dozed off to your soothing voice but when you said "YOU CHASE YOUR GOALS YOU CHASE YOUR DREAMS, LET MEN CHASE YOU". My eyes opened wide.. that was AWESOME! I never thought of it this way before, and you say this all the time, but a light bulb went off this time!😅
I’ve been focusing on this bad trait I’ve had for years since my youth especially in meeting guys. Ive been watching various videos on this subject. I have a history of being nice and being with guys, being too available, devaluing myself, tolerated being ghosted and disrespected. Never again.
You know, in the past 3 months I've learnead so much from your videos, and definetly one should be more subtle with affectionate gestures towards a guy, specially if you are just starting out, being too intense will scare away any man, high value or not. But also, while hearing these stories I find that many of the men who we think are high value because of status might not be so much, because their reactions are those of an insecure man. And the worst of all is the guy who doesn't have the guts to break things off, that is not a nice man, that is cowardly. To this point, your second story reminded me of that of a friend who did something similar: in the begining of their relationship (they now have been together for 4 years after this) she organized a surprise party for her boyfriend, the main difference in the end was that the next day he told her though her gesture was well-meaning he hated parties in general but surprises make him very uncomfortable, he prefers small gatherings or just doing stuff with her. So there you go, he was mature and comunicated with her rather than just dump her. Look for a guy that reacts this way...that right there is a keeper and a true quality man. Because we all make mistakes, if he doesn't over-react that is a real man right there. Of course, this doesn't mean that if a woman already knows being too nice is a no-no and still does it, then that is being doormaty...and it means she needs to work on her self-esteem fast.
This is true. I did something similar to the power point presentation. I made a video of my favorite moments of our trip..i spent hours editing hahaha. Next week he got distant..later he broke up with me... this was years ago. I have come a long way since then. Thanks Gretta! You are amazing!
This reminds me of one of the scene from the movie '" The Break-up" when Jennifer Anniston was crying in her room as she was telling him how she was doing everything for him but he did not appreciated her and that she didn't know how they got to the point of breaking up.
Being to nice is like a sickness It feels like if you not gonna please others you Not gonna be loved.,, makes you feel like you’re inside a mouse trap....🤷♀️How to avoid to feeling this way...It is so hard 😟
Greta, you should make another media inspired video. You should talk about women who helped their men build empires or stayed by there side than ended up leaving them for younger women. Like Jeff bezos and wolf on wall street.
Hey Greta, I'm just watching your content about a girl being too nice is a tuning-off for man. I would like to add one cent to the overall idea. From my perspective being a man and evaluating those men who declined for those girls, I would say most of the blame is not on those ladies; for me it was just a justification just to quit the relationship. A real grown up man looks all his life for such kind of women, and also knows that girls in general show their affection is those ways and that is perfectly OK; one person cannot judge or disqualifies another person for they way they expresses love. The problem is not being too nice, the real problem lies on who you are nice to.
This is actually what I'm going thru.. I know I am way too nice to everyone and there's this guy I like and I've been getting mixed signals and I finally went and tell him that I know he knows I like him and if he fell the same and he says "you are nice but I'm not attracted" So yes.. It's sad... Don't know what to do next especially when I thought he felt the same because he acts different with me... But idk Guys are riddles..
I’m watching this to look for advice on how to deal with my girlfriend who does not understand these things. It’s a complete turnoff for me and I’m dreading I’m going to have to break up with her. She’s such a sweet woman and I hate to break her heart but it is what it is. Thanks for the insight. Driving
So basically I’m recently single because I pushed him away .. did wayyyy to much for him ... he even said after I broke it off with him that he didn’t know how much I cared til he I got my keys back and my caring for him- it’s overwhelming to the least aaaaand then he forced me to break it off with him. 🙈🙈 I suck at dating. Things have got to change😔 probably would still be with if I didn’t scare him away. He started losing interest and I started doing more and now he’s gone. Wish I would have seen These videos back in November when all my poor decisions were made. Smh.
Omg! You are so right! I get it now! It's crazy men are this way, but I guess it's in their genes. Thank you Greta! I just subscribed, you are amazing and you give valuable information and I've learned more from you in one video than any other videos! You bring something different to the table, thank you!
So cooking a meal for your man or giving him massages after work is like being too nice too?? Also thank you so much for these advices.. currently I'm single but I gotta learn these kind of stuff before a new relationship, and your videos are really helpful! Hugs from Mexico
How do I respond when the guy I’m in a relationship with wants me to send him sexy messages? I change the subject when he says that, and he accuses me of escaping from him all the time.. do I send him those type of messages? I’m uncomfortable with such things.
Stacy Telefo 1. You don’t let a man call you a bitch... if he does it again. Not only that he won’t get the parties ... he won’t get to see you either 💖
Greta Bereisaite oh I broke up immediately, deleted his number and blocked on social media. Your videos are the best, you're the Best coach out there and I've seen eeeeevery coaching video. I've liked all of your videos, your advice is the best
Greta I have been following you for so many days.. I love your content and the fact that it really works makes me feel amazing.. It feels like I have figured out something quite complicated.. All thanks to you.. I want you to make a video for girls on how to react and what to do when a guy is pursuing you and doing things to make you happy..
I'm not sure nice is being used in the right way here. What you are describing is what these women did that was so nice, was them being nice in a kind of take charge masculine energy. Instead be nice to your man in a feminine way. I would not want my woman to throw a big party for me. Or give me a dozen roses. The power point sounded nice in a good way. I also disagree that the woman needs to be the pursued what seems like indefinitely. Yes that aspect is true in the beginning. But sometime after mutual commitment is made, there shouldn't be a reason to continue to make him go through so much effort. By then just enjoy each other's company and love. But yes it is best to let him plan events for the most part. Then you can support him and be receptive to his plans. Or if you do have an idea for big plans, just bring it up to him and work on the plans together. Instead of a big "surprise" party as in two of the examples.
Almost four minutes in, heard some examples of "being too nice", but I haven't heard anything that's too nice. Organizing parties with loads of people around is not, let me repeat not, being nice. It's you who are desired and putting the town hall between you and your partner is distancing. It's not being nice. You can be nice. Even more, if you're not nice, there's no long term perspective. Just realize that in order to be nice, you should first learn and understand what being nice actually is. Also uncertainty is not a love need in a relationship, trying that is ultimately destructive to the relationship. Because you make the relationship one-sided. It's terrible advice. Don't think "me", don't think "him", think about the relation.
Greta a guy has been chasing me( i felt like.) for 7 months...finally he kissed me when iv started to giving up on him.I do really like him since the beginning but we are in a difficult situation.What shall i do now? Its so hard to wait but after listening your advices i dont want to chase not even ask him about his feelings.Thank you if you can give me advice))
I started “overprotecting him” by telling him that he shudn’t drink much nor smoke much to go easy... n he snapped at me n said he doesn’t needs another mother n he will drink as much as he wants! Definitely if u love them too much, care for them or try to “protect them” they treat u like shit! We broke up after that... as more fights followed...N im still very hurt...😒 Never Again!
Hi i appreciate your videos and efforts so this is not a criticism but my opinion and i would love a reply if possible. What you describe is true and more often than not what happens and women may not be aware so its nice of you to “wake them” to it. However this does not mean it is right what these men are doing and we (society) should not accomodate to it, is my opinion. Women have as much of a need and right to express their feelings and love without being made to feel like a baffoon or that they made a mistake. The women in these stories are not the ones who did something “wrong”, its the men. I am very interested and open to your thoughts on what i am saying Greta? Thanks, best
Yeahhh men hate being treated like child. Same with you being hate to always being equipped by your parents when you can do things alone. The thing is people have bad communication skill so they don't tell that directly to you
Chasing is for children. Men actually hate having to play the chase game, which is all it is, a game. Unless they're a pick up artist whos only looking for pump and dump. But that's not exactly the type of guy a woman actually wants unless she's just crazy and drawn to negative experiences if thats all she knows.
@@NOCOBE I didn't say anything about what women wanted, just a possibility of what they don't want. The only women that want pickup artist pump n dumpers, are also pickup artist pump n dumpers themselves lol or "sluts" as some people may rudely and hypocritically call them while praising a man for sexual conquests. And logically, if a woman can't provide for herself without a man then that's a good reason for a man to not be interested in her. I personally don't want children, and I don't chase. I only go for the most intelligent logical women that I can. Someone who gives the same energy that I do, because that's a balanced relationship. We do not live in a state of society where women must be provided for to have the same quality of life as a man. If you want to be provided for, cool. But don't expect the exact man they want if they aren't willing to give the same energy. If only on can substantially provide anything, it is an unbalanced relationship and they should find someone who's on their level. Fairs fair. If a woman doesn't want to go 50/50 then expect a man to be just the same. Treat others how you want to be treated. Gender roles do not statically apply to human beings as we have an advanced sense of abstract thought and self-awareness as well as the ability to make vastly different decisions. And by my experience it looks like my ideology is sound. My current gf is a scientist, with actual ambition. She has no requirement of a partner, she WANTs me. Not needs me, and vice versa. We go 50/50 on everything, never expect any sort of gender-based bias from the other. We never fight, only politely disagree. We discuss everything beforehand. And never make the other feel bad on purpose or use the "you always" attack. Balance is the key to a happy relationship.
@@mordredoforkney6185 it's ok...the man who cant provide isn't good with this approach. But honestly that kind of man isn't worth and we dont care about his opinion..btw...please let me.know how your relationship ends because I know isn't going to work..
Jesus i did this video presentation thing, with music and shit, when we were on the rocks. Months later he told me he never watched it. We are married now, i guess he saved us by just ignoring the file!
STFU 😂 started laughing remembering how Greta said a women would fall for it but not a man. When we now better we do better. Happy for you that it still went well!
i know a freind whose girl constantly grills him chases him takes him out buy him things and he loves it-she texts him she does for him always and is always available for him-he still with her!!! she is damaged and broken-he feels like a hero and a king-how do U explain this??
@@kristenmoonrise i think a lot of guys r not men-they need to feel needed by a woman-and needy clingy women r broken and make thier guys feel like heroes-these guys need that-they have little else-saldy a strong man wants a strong women, a broken man wants a broken woman
@Ti Ya thank you beautiful he’s always very supportive caring and always there for me ! Mostly he will always get my surprises when he’s coming back from work so think with a man like that it’s not bad for him to receive love and caring in return
sounding like my brother's girlfriend. She was a great career, makes good money. She buys him fantasy Gifts, over the top vacations, only been dating 6 months. She too is singing his praises All over Facebook. Upset cuz he hasn't proposed. He starting to sees her as being manipulative she's doing all this so he'll have to love her and marry her. He's asked her to stop but she's not stopping. Told him she can do what she wants with her money. He's seen her house in total disarray. Very much in need if repair. Instead of spending all that money on him she should be investing her money in her house to make a better life for herself. he thinks that she's going to try to use him as an escape from her own life and he has legitimate concern I think. Take care of yourself first ladies. Don't play wife to somebody that's not your husband.
A point of view from an Egyptian man, not all men are like that, those four women chose the wrong guys. Those four women have no confidence in themselves. Such stories make women act foolishly with all men.
I totally agree! its only the wrong man that would disregard you for being a good person! you shouldn’t do too much when he is so relaxed, its a give and take...you shouldn’t even be with a man who doesn’t appreciate you anyway, A real man should adore his woman. You can always tell right from the start of a relationship ....End the relationship when you are the one putting the most. Some women just hang on all in the name of " i have a man" its not worth it.
You are suggesting tactics to keep insecure men around. Might work for a while but then they will scoot eventually when they get bored of treating you like a queen. If you are a generous, nurturing woman by nature, there is nothing wrong in showing up authentically. Let it drive the wrong men away sooner rather than later even if it is painful at that moment. The good relationships I know of did not involve men thinking the women were "too nice" or "too much" .
Hey dear, I hope u can answer me I have a friend but he's so deferent he is a drama queen , hes needy he cry easily , he asking for hugs I think hes not so muscling if I ever treat him like this he gonna die 😂 Also he really want to love and be loved but hes afraid , he had a bad experience before with an ex he don't love her no but he so scared to love again , anyway to help him !
No, he has too many problems that aren’t your doing nor are they your responsibility to deal with or fix......I had a guy friend like that and it is like being friends with a whiny woman....he absolutely exhausted me with his two hour “woe is me” sessions....I finally had to remove him from my life because he was driving me crazy and he really enjoyed being a victim, it was how he identified himself.....
Damn. I demanded having him on his birthday. Wanted him to take me to the restaurant than sex at mine. He wanted to change plans because his bosses invated him for a drink... Of caurse I've said I go first! This night he said that maybe he wants to have children and than started to pull away meaning texting but having trouble to txet back as I was responding..... What the Heck is happening here? BTW I broke up the sex with heim he wants be friends
It's not called being nice. It's called living or operating in your masculine energy. In all these stories these ladies were in doing mode not in receiving mode....ladies you need to lean back..
Preachhhh 🙏
Gonna do it like Fat Joe - Lean back.
Exactly!
If you are nice because that is who you are and the guy left you because of that, then let him be gone forever! It is not your lost but his. And if he returns back to you. Don’t ever take the shit back! Stand for who you are and be who you are! Don’t change yourself just to be loved by the unworthy. That’s my principle in dealing with relationship.
Perfect response!
Exactly, a man who would hate you for being nice (being normal) is the wrong man. dump the garbage!
But ladies should also be careful not act like a mother to their men, let him be the man!
feel real bad for the girl who throw the massive party for her boyfriend and he still broke up with her!
this is true I was seeing a guy and I ignored him for a month I was just busy and he called and invited me to dinner with his friends and he was like are you seeing someone else and his coworkers told me he loves me a lot and was showing my picture before I came... then he was like mi amor telling me romantic things in Spanish and how he wants a family with me... i was like wow and i did nothing.... i always use to chase and tell a guy I love him and I bought him things and he didnt care.. and when he went on vacation away from me too he started to come towards me and be more romantic. I guess I just have to ignore him and pretend I dont care which I think this makes no sense
This does work and congratulations on your ring.
They are prize hunters by nature 🤷♀️
That’s why you can only be with men who you don’t care for so much. It’s hard to be so cool about everything if you are head over heals for the guy. 😐
Exactly... with every guy who pursues me... who I'm not that interested in, I'm 100% feminine so to speak and let him be masculine.. But if there's one guy I finally like after years, I'm way too eager, enthusiastic, and not anything to pursue@ all.
yeah i think there were studies that showed that the relationships that work best are those where the man feels that the woman is more attractive than him only then does he feel like doing more for her and he should love her more too for it to work
@@vanirose yes exactly but even if you're as beautiful as him, he needs to show aa much affection as you, meet your love needs, give those words or displays of affirmation as much as you or much more, he needs to show and tell... and keep making efforts and women need to keep their standards all thru out, and not forgive things because they're in a commitment... he needs to consistently support the relationship...
Yeah dang it...sad and cruel truth
I just gave him my heart but he thought it was too much then he pulled away and dumped me. Why is me being nice ending up like this..... just so pissed off and don’t want to believe it ; first I think it’s just he that is a jerk,but after I learn about relationships, I just can’t believe most men are like that🙄 it’s not me that like to play hard to get now and play all the “games” ; it’s just if I’m not doing it this time to protect my heart, I’ll just end up being hurt again🙄🙄🙄
not true, you can be madly in love and play this game, its really wonderful actually and it works. it can be someone you are totally in love with and it just makes it really fun...
The third scenario is true to me. After buying birthday present and traveling to visit my ex on his birthday, 3 months later was mine and this guy never called, texted or did anything to make me feel needed.
I called to be sure nothing happened to him and behold he was good and told me how he was out playing and watching football. I expressed my pain of him not showing any gestures on my birthday, he told me he was sorry and never did anything to show how important I was to him. I broke up with him because of that and he was mouth battering me and I couldn't bear it.
from that relationship, I made up my mind never to do anything for men.
never do anything for a man
I agree
Unless he contacts you on his birthday for some reason, do not wish a man a happy birthday until the next time he contacts you after it has passed. Then you can say, “oh by the way, I hope you had a good birthday last weekend!”
My boyfriend was broke and needed groceries, so I thought it would be nice if I bought him a couple bags of groceries and dropped them off at his place (his back door was unlocked). He was pissed that I came in his house and broke up with me. If it was him doing that for me I would have been thrilled, but men are different than women, they don't like to be taken care of.
jazzy Angel lol not all men are ha! Most, yes! But that was pretty insane, however we're only seeing it from the prespective as a woman who wants to nurture and care for others.
@@Jazminfields I don't think he was a jerk, I think by buying his groceries I hurt his pride. Looking back, I can see I was care-taking him, and to men that can be a turn-off, like Greta explains in the video. Men have different needs than women, they don't want a mother.
@@JosannaMonik i see, ig everything is a learning experience but that sounded pretty harsh how he did you.
Did he return the groceries?! Let me guess......... NO.😒
@@chelabuford7106 😂
I totally agree. Still, you cannot make him hunt you a whole life. Eventually, a relationship will be created. What happens then? How to keep the "mistery"? Can you suggest some ideas?
iuliaioana.bliss Always give him a 5% of ur life whilst u live ur 95% n he will always pursue u... make him ur 95% when u got him and he’s gone!! It works like this only heard it from an expert & psychologist
Having a colourful life that you enjoy - hobbies, friends and travels without him too. The more abundant your life is outside of the relationship, the more you love yourself, the less you are focused on him all the time - the more he will love you even in a long term relationship/ marriage. Never doo too much for a man.
It sounds like men just want to be treated bad
I agree, the dating system is confusing
Never understood this dating game!😂
Hahaha true ... Lol
Whenever I have treat him bad , he started to chasing me lol😆😆😆
Women are literally the exact same. I sure as hell know that I don't want to be treated bad and don't want to treat anyone else bad (if I do get treated bad by someone I treat them like they should suffer PTSD)
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I am NOT nice! I call men out and I am not afraid to set boundaries and say no and men can’t stay away ! 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 I DO NOT tell men how I feel. I just enjoy the time I spend with a man.
This is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo powerful!!!!!! You never get this kind of info anywhere!
am also so surprised,its basically like, am not supposed to do anything for a man. just do nothing... i love it
Absolutely powerful
Ok I had you playing in the background and I dozed off to your soothing voice but when you said "YOU CHASE YOUR GOALS YOU CHASE YOUR DREAMS, LET MEN CHASE YOU". My eyes opened wide.. that was AWESOME! I never thought of it this way before, and you say this all the time, but a light bulb went off this time!😅
I’ve been focusing on this bad trait I’ve had for years since my youth especially in meeting guys. Ive been watching various videos on this subject. I have a history of being nice and being with guys, being too available, devaluing myself, tolerated being ghosted and disrespected. Never again.
This is great info, Greta but can you make a video on how to show a guy we care without overdoing it when he is treating us right.
You know, in the past 3 months I've learnead so much from your videos, and definetly one should be more subtle with affectionate gestures towards a guy, specially if you are just starting out, being too intense will scare away any man, high value or not. But also, while hearing these stories I find that many of the men who we think are high value because of status might not be so much, because their reactions are those of an insecure man. And the worst of all is the guy who doesn't have the guts to break things off, that is not a nice man, that is cowardly.
To this point, your second story reminded me of that of a friend who did something similar: in the begining of their relationship (they now have been together for 4 years after this) she organized a surprise party for her boyfriend, the main difference in the end was that the next day he told her though her gesture was well-meaning he hated parties in general but surprises make him very uncomfortable, he prefers small gatherings or just doing stuff with her. So there you go, he was mature and comunicated with her rather than just dump her.
Look for a guy that reacts this way...that right there is a keeper and a true quality man. Because we all make mistakes, if he doesn't over-react that is a real man right there.
Of course, this doesn't mean that if a woman already knows being too nice is a no-no and still does it, then that is being doormaty...and it means she needs to work on her self-esteem fast.
This is true. I did something similar to the power point presentation. I made a video of my favorite moments of our trip..i spent hours editing hahaha. Next week he got distant..later he broke up with me... this was years ago. I have come a long way since then. Thanks Gretta! You are amazing!
Alicia M wow! Thanks for sharing 😘
yeah it's the old adage - treat em mean keep em keen
How did you recover?
@@vaniroseAny helpful tips to pass on please. Thank you 🙏🏼
You have to be a challenge, high value, not too nice but not too bad. You have to have self-confidence and keep your distance but also care. Ugh!
dang this is eye-opening.
seriously.
small gestures only, and only if he deserves it.
thank you.
Not gonna lie - Im exhausted!
This reminds me of one of the scene from the movie '" The Break-up" when Jennifer Anniston was crying in her room as she was telling him how she was doing everything for him but he did not appreciated her and that she didn't know how they got to the point of breaking up.
Being to nice is like a sickness It feels like if you not gonna please others you
Not gonna be loved.,, makes you feel like you’re inside a mouse trap....🤷♀️How to avoid to feeling this way...It is so hard 😟
Look into healing what’s called the “abandonment wound” ❤️
@@dawnacoxon3111 I will Thank you for advice
A power point presentation...wow. But it’s still crazy that he didn’t want to get married anymore. This psychology is so interesting
U r saviour of women...lol
U r the best.❤
Queen of Swords thank you 💖
Greta Bereisaite U must be very lucky in ur Love life! 😉 I bet ur happily married!
Greta, you should make another media inspired video. You should talk about women who helped their men build empires or stayed by there side than ended up leaving them for younger women. Like Jeff bezos and wolf on wall street.
Hey Greta, I'm just watching your content about a girl being too nice is a tuning-off for man. I would like to add one cent to the overall idea. From my perspective being a man and evaluating those men who declined for those girls, I would say most of the blame is not on those ladies; for me it was just a justification just to quit the relationship. A real grown up man looks all his life for such kind of women, and also knows that girls in general show their affection is those ways and that is perfectly OK; one person cannot judge or disqualifies another person for they way they expresses love. The problem is not being too nice, the real problem lies on who you are nice to.
Very true girl , I totally agree
I need a dream lover so I don’t have to dream alone ~Paul Anka
This is actually what I'm going thru..
I know I am way too nice to everyone and there's this guy I like and I've been getting mixed signals and I finally went and tell him that I know he knows I like him and if he fell the same and he says "you are nice but I'm not attracted"
So yes.. It's sad... Don't know what to do next especially when I thought he felt the same because he acts different with me... But idk
Guys are riddles..
Crazy how I experienced this. No more, forget me trying to love a man anymore
Match his energy. Watch his steps. If possible, keep an excel spreadsheet recording his actions.
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I’m watching this to look for advice on how to deal with my girlfriend who does not understand these things. It’s a complete turnoff for me and I’m dreading I’m going to have to break up with her. She’s such a sweet woman and I hate to break her heart but it is what it is. Thanks for the insight. Driving
Thank you so much for your honesty!
je&moi-meme * I’m sorry you feel that bad to help full or appropriate comment. I hope you find a way to like yourself more.
Cycle It Up! Yeah I thought about that but if I have to explain this basic concept to a woman I’d rather find someone else.
je&moi-meme * #trollsneedlovetoo
je&moi-meme * that’s hilarious. Ha ha.
Omg where was i all this time ?? I just found you today and love you and advice and your beautiful voice
So basically I’m recently single because I pushed him away .. did wayyyy to much for him ... he even said after I broke it off with him that he didn’t know how much I cared til he I got my keys back and my caring for him- it’s overwhelming to the least aaaaand then he forced me to break it off with him. 🙈🙈 I suck at dating. Things have got to change😔 probably would still be with if I didn’t scare him away. He started losing interest and I started doing more and now he’s gone. Wish I would have seen These videos back in November when all my poor decisions were made. Smh.
being too nice and all lovely jubbly is such a turn off ew
Aw my gosh what’s the point I’ve been in love it happened very naturally I jumped in with both feet so did he.
It was beautiful 💖
That awkward moment when I question myself if I might just be lesbian haha
You're advice are spot on!
“ The man needs to like you a little more than you like him” - Ne Ne Leakes
Great...short, straight to the point and eye opening!
Omg! You are so right! I get it now! It's crazy men are this way, but I guess it's in their genes. Thank you Greta! I just subscribed, you are amazing and you give valuable information and I've learned more from you in one video than any other videos! You bring something different to the table, thank you!
I love your outfits and nails.. you look put-together always.
You are spot on! I am picking up pieces from me giving too much 😢
You are very wise in this area. Been using you advice and it’s worked pretty well. Thank yiu
You are always helpful Greta!!!
Men like to be treated badly
Why ?
Idk why, but this made me laugh badly! Such a crispy truth.
@@babitaa2481 hey it's not truth
Are you a guy @lokesh khola?
@@babitaa2481 yes
Omg this is so true Greta really enjoyed watching the video
Thanks.
Natasha Lacassie thank you 🥰
wow this is total revelation and dawn on me... cant thank you enough Greta💖
so practical stories and advice. with more of these, i can be the strongest woman i have always wanted to be
Greta, ive really got to hand it to you 🙌🏽 you are delivering information on these topics in a much needed way.
Thank you! 💗🌸💐
Greta, brilliant as usual! ❤
membering 🥰💖
Greta..you are beautiful.
David Culp aww thank you
Thank you, so true and needs to be clarified as you so beautifully have done!
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So cooking a meal for your man or giving him massages after work is like being too nice too??
Also thank you so much for these advices.. currently I'm single but I gotta learn these kind of stuff before a new relationship, and your videos are really helpful! Hugs from Mexico
Make sure he's investing you plenty before you do that.. he needs "to be giving"
Don’t do it unless he puts a ring on your finger.
Those are amazing ladies cause I hardly show emotions 😁😁😁,people think am cold hearted but I just don't want to be dissapointed
I have listened the exact same kind of stories the other way round: He's been too nice and she broke up, so the lesson is don't be nice :)
Hey! U r really cool!! 🥰 By the eay- i’m your “neighbour”- from latvia 😘 keep up the great job and txs!!
Greta, I hate being single but I genuinely don't like dating. How can I change my mindset in regards to dating? Maybe I approaching dating wrong?
Wonderful message
How do I respond when the guy I’m in a relationship with wants me to send him sexy messages? I change the subject when he says that, and he accuses me of escaping from him all the time.. do I send him those type of messages? I’m uncomfortable with such things.
Carina Rose keep changing the subject or don’t reply or escape you are busy you can’t speak
Greta Bereisaite thank you so much for the reply.. I will keep avoiding the sexting issue as I’m pretty uncomfortable with it
Don’t send him anything you don’t want him to post on social media when the relationship is over.......ever heard of revenge porn?????
Kimberly Gould Not explicit pics, he wants me to sext. Anyway, it’s been over a year. I’m done with him and moved on 😂
Dont do I did this before but I regretted it
Love you videos!!!!! You are Fabulous! Greta!!!! Eye opener.... Please do more videos on how guys psychology....
But Greta, I stopped throwing birthday parties to my bf and he called me a cold-hearted bitch :-( How does a high value woman be nice? 🤔😬
Stacy Telefo 1. You don’t let a man call you a bitch... if he does it again. Not only that he won’t get the parties ... he won’t get to see you either 💖
Greta Bereisaite oh I broke up immediately, deleted his number and blocked on social media. Your videos are the best, you're the Best coach out there and I've seen eeeeevery coaching video. I've liked all of your videos, your advice is the best
Stacy Telefo thank you 🙏🏻😍👑👑
Greta is an angel ❤
This is so hard Greta. So many rules, so many plans... Now we cannot be too nice.:(
Greta I have been following you for so many days.. I love your content and the fact that it really works makes me feel amazing.. It feels like I have figured out something quite complicated.. All thanks to you.. I want you to make a video for girls on how to react and what to do when a guy is pursuing you and doing things to make you happy..
Rumour Patrol thank you 💖
well explained ! awesome said ! 🖒🖒🖒🖒🖒🖒🖒🖒🖒🖒
I'm not sure nice is being used in the right way here. What you are describing is what these women did that was so nice, was them being nice in a kind of take charge masculine energy. Instead be nice to your man in a feminine way. I would not want my woman to throw a big party for me. Or give me a dozen roses. The power point sounded nice in a good way. I also disagree that the woman needs to be the pursued what seems like indefinitely. Yes that aspect is true in the beginning. But sometime after mutual commitment is made, there shouldn't be a reason to continue to make him go through so much effort. By then just enjoy each other's company and love. But yes it is best to let him plan events for the most part. Then you can support him and be receptive to his plans. Or if you do have an idea for big plans, just bring it up to him and work on the plans together. Instead of a big "surprise" party as in two of the examples.
Amazing great perspective ♥️
This is the Best video ever n so True!!! You couldn’t explain it better... Thank you Greta you are GREAT!!!!🤗👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
Excellent facts
Almost four minutes in, heard some examples of "being too nice", but I haven't heard anything that's too nice. Organizing parties with loads of people around is not, let me repeat not, being nice. It's you who are desired and putting the town hall between you and your partner is distancing. It's not being nice. You can be nice. Even more, if you're not nice, there's no long term perspective. Just realize that in order to be nice, you should first learn and understand what being nice actually is.
Also uncertainty is not a love need in a relationship, trying that is ultimately destructive to the relationship. Because you make the relationship one-sided. It's terrible advice.
Don't think "me", don't think "him", think about the relation.
Hi how would I let my crush know I like him,without looking desperate
Nura Rich he needs to let you know he likes you
Drop the proverbial handkerchief
Love this video 🥰
Thank you ❤❤
What should you give him then as a birthday gift? Nothing? Forget the day or ...?
You are very gorgeous Greta! Love you and thanks for the nice tips
Greta a guy has been chasing me( i felt like.) for 7 months...finally he kissed me when iv started to giving up on him.I do really like him since the beginning but we are in a difficult situation.What shall i do now? Its so hard to wait but after listening your advices i dont want to chase not even ask him about his feelings.Thank you if you can give me advice))
You are amazing 😉
I started “overprotecting him” by telling him that he shudn’t drink much nor smoke much to go easy... n he snapped at me n said he doesn’t needs another mother n he will drink as much as he wants! Definitely if u love them too much, care for them or try to “protect them” they treat u like shit! We broke up after that... as more fights followed...N im still very hurt...😒 Never Again!
Chica Zen sound like he has mother issue "ManChild". Please love yourself first
Jocelyn Ortega Ya... I do... I don’t want him back anymore! :-)
And he also is an alcoholic, RUN!!!
Can you give tips on how to fulfill a man's love needs?
Arianna Caldwell Please just get a puppy for your heart sake.
Hi i appreciate your videos and efforts so this is not a criticism but my opinion and i would love a reply if possible. What you describe is true and more often than not what happens and women may not be aware so its nice of you to “wake them” to it. However this does not mean it is right what these men are doing and we (society) should not accomodate to it, is my opinion. Women have as much of a need and right to express their feelings and love without being made to feel like a baffoon or that they made a mistake. The women in these stories are not the ones who did something “wrong”, its the men. I am very interested and open to your thoughts on what i am saying Greta? Thanks, best
Yeahhh men hate being treated like child. Same with you being hate to always being equipped by your parents when you can do things alone. The thing is people have bad communication skill so they don't tell that directly to you
Thank you
i am ur new subscriber😊
i hope none of your videos ever by pass me. that bell should ring louder every other time
Chasing is for children. Men actually hate having to play the chase game, which is all it is, a game. Unless they're a pick up artist whos only looking for pump and dump. But that's not exactly the type of guy a woman actually wants unless she's just crazy and drawn to negative experiences if thats all she knows.
Not really.. we really want the provider..because we found the provider as very masculine. If a.man cant provide we just get a big deception
@@NOCOBE I didn't say anything about what women wanted, just a possibility of what they don't want. The only women that want pickup artist pump n dumpers, are also pickup artist pump n dumpers themselves lol or "sluts" as some people may rudely and hypocritically call them while praising a man for sexual conquests.
And logically, if a woman can't provide for herself without a man then that's a good reason for a man to not be interested in her. I personally don't want children, and I don't chase. I only go for the most intelligent logical women that I can. Someone who gives the same energy that I do, because that's a balanced relationship. We do not live in a state of society where women must be provided for to have the same quality of life as a man. If you want to be provided for, cool. But don't expect the exact man they want if they aren't willing to give the same energy.
If only on can substantially provide anything, it is an unbalanced relationship and they should find someone who's on their level. Fairs fair. If a woman doesn't want to go 50/50 then expect a man to be just the same. Treat others how you want to be treated. Gender roles do not statically apply to human beings as we have an advanced sense of abstract thought and self-awareness as well as the ability to make vastly different decisions.
And by my experience it looks like my ideology is sound. My current gf is a scientist, with actual ambition. She has no requirement of a partner, she WANTs me. Not needs me, and vice versa. We go 50/50 on everything, never expect any sort of gender-based bias from the other. We never fight, only politely disagree. We discuss everything beforehand. And never make the other feel bad on purpose or use the "you always" attack. Balance is the key to a happy relationship.
@@mordredoforkney6185 a womAn who can provide for herself wants a provider..if the man cant provide this kind of woman will be very disappointed
@@NOCOBE Sounds fair, but unfortunately for some reason there's quite a bit of people who don't think that's fair.
@@mordredoforkney6185 it's ok...the man who cant provide isn't good with this approach. But honestly that kind of man isn't worth and we dont care about his opinion..btw...please let me.know how your relationship ends because I know isn't going to work..
Jesus i did this video presentation thing, with music and shit, when we were on the rocks. Months later he told me he never watched it. We are married now, i guess he saved us by just ignoring the file!
STFU 😂 started laughing remembering how Greta said a women would fall for it but not a man. When we now better we do better. Happy for you that it still went well!
Lol
Only if she is being too nice in word without deed. In other words - a player
i know a freind whose girl constantly grills him chases him takes him out buy him things and he loves it-she texts him she does for him always and is always available for him-he still with her!!! she is damaged and broken-he feels like a hero and a king-how do U explain this??
I guess there are always exceptions to the rule.
@@kristenmoonrise i think a lot of guys r not men-they need to feel needed by a woman-and needy clingy women r broken and make thier guys feel like heroes-these guys need that-they have little else-saldy a strong man wants a strong women, a broken man wants a broken woman
@@michellefalco9773 you are right..hopefully it won't end badly for her.
Bravo
Please want to know if it’s okay to be too nice to my husband ???
@Ti Ya thank you beautiful he’s always very supportive caring and always there for me ! Mostly he will always get my surprises when he’s coming back from work so think with a man like that it’s not bad for him to receive love and caring in return
I agree
sounding like my brother's girlfriend. She was a great career, makes good money. She buys him fantasy Gifts, over the top vacations, only been dating 6 months. She too is singing his praises All over Facebook. Upset cuz he hasn't proposed.
He starting to sees her as being manipulative she's doing all this so he'll have to love her and marry her. He's asked her to stop but she's not stopping. Told him she can do what she wants with her money.
He's seen her house in total disarray. Very much in need if repair. Instead of spending all that money on him she should be investing her money in her house to make a better life for herself. he thinks that she's going to try to use him as an escape from her own life and he has legitimate concern I think.
Take care of yourself first ladies. Don't play wife to somebody that's not your husband.
Love it
Whitney K thank you 💖
My friend had surgery so I sent him some nice things on line on his apps like flowers .
A point of view from an Egyptian man, not all men are like that, those four women chose the wrong guys. Those four women have no confidence in themselves. Such stories make women act foolishly with all men.
I totally agree! its only the wrong man that would disregard you for being a good person! you shouldn’t do too much when he is so relaxed, its a give and take...you shouldn’t even be with a man who doesn’t appreciate you anyway, A real man should adore his woman. You can always tell right from the start of a relationship ....End the relationship when you are the one putting the most. Some women just hang on all in the name of " i have a man" its not worth it.
You are suggesting tactics to keep insecure men around. Might work for a while but then they will scoot eventually when they get bored of treating you like a queen.
If you are a generous, nurturing woman by nature, there is nothing wrong in showing up authentically. Let it drive the wrong men away sooner rather than later even if it is painful at that moment.
The good relationships I know of did not involve men thinking the women were "too nice" or "too much" .
Hey dear, I hope u can answer me
I have a friend but he's so deferent he is a drama queen , hes needy he cry easily , he asking for hugs I think hes not so muscling if I ever treat him like this he gonna die 😂
Also he really want to love and be loved but hes afraid , he had a bad experience before with an ex he don't love her no but he so scared to love again , anyway to help him !
No, he has too many problems that aren’t your doing nor are they your responsibility to deal with or fix......I had a guy friend like that and it is like being friends with a whiny woman....he absolutely exhausted me with his two hour “woe is me” sessions....I finally had to remove him from my life because he was driving me crazy and he really enjoyed being a victim, it was how he identified himself.....
Happy 3 year anniversary
you are so pretty
💯 agreed
I love you
love you too :D
Damn. I demanded having him on his birthday. Wanted him to take me to the restaurant than sex at mine. He wanted to change plans because his bosses invated him for a drink... Of caurse I've said I go first! This night he said that maybe he wants to have children and than started to pull away meaning texting but having trouble to txet back as I was responding..... What the Heck is happening here? BTW I broke up the sex with heim he wants be friends