She doesn't want you around her kids, she clearly doesn't want your money either. And she doesn't deserve it. If she wants money for private school she can get her own job. She's jealous, greedy, and abusive and is willing to destroy her family for her own issues. Op's son isn't any better- he has no spine and is willing to let his wife destroy the family. He will argue with his mom but not stand up for her or his kids.
MiL, don’t forget to re-write your Will, see an Estate Planner, create a Family Trust and put it out of DiLs reach, no Capital to Son or Grandchildren until Grandchildren reach 40 AND have Post-Graduate degrees in a STEM field.
So much bias toward STEM fields that is not warranted. The vast majority of careers are not STEM and many pay quite well. I would not make a family trust, just one for the grandchildren, and the trustee would be a law firm or the estate department of a financial institution. The grandkids could get a monthly stipend starting at eighteen, tuition for college or trade school paid directly to the school by the trustee. The only way the kids can access the fund completely before age thirty-five is if both their parents die before then.
@ Hello shells, I disagree, why would you give money to someone who hasn’t demonstrated capacity? 40 is about the right age to inherit, not younger, still immature and if older, too conservative.
Did wife ever get a job??? I think OP overindulged them so much they missed the fact they couldn't afford private school, the credit cards, and probably the mortgage. There's getting a little help versus living beyond their means. Sadly son needed to tell Mom no more before they became dependant on her
I have two common pieces of advice. The first one doesn’t fit in this scenario. I usually say, “Call the police.” This doesn’t help at all. So, next great advice. To that wife and her husband, “ “To the witch wife, “ Get a job!” Witch wife said she would go back to work when the youngest …. That happened. She still doesn’t go back to work. To that som, Reba McEntire told him what to do. She even made a hit song with the advice. “D I V O R C E”
Cathy and son looks like they really couldn't afford the lifestyle before the pandemic hit. Cathy needss to get off her ass and get a job also they probably need to look at downsizing lifestyle. Op son need to grow a pair and a backbone.
She still spending money wildly? Simple. Cancel all the cards, cut off her access, if she complains, it’s because all the money is going to bills, he’ll have receipts, so it’s not financial abuse.
The son knows that if he stands up to his wife she will leave him, take the kids and he will rarely see them. Easy to say he's weak and he is, but the biased court system would undercut him if the tried to take charge. His wife is the one responsible for this.
@@davidnash8208 So very not true. The courts would see that both parents are able bodied and the wife had been working full time in the past. Custody is almost always 50:50 for the past forty years, and spousal support is quite limited when the former non-working spouse is capable of outside work. Generally a maximum of four years while the custodial parent gets it together.
Daughter in law needs to grow up she can't get over that her children love their grandmother and that's just sad that she acts like that
She doesn't want you around her kids, she clearly doesn't want your money either. And she doesn't deserve it. If she wants money for private school she can get her own job.
She's jealous, greedy, and abusive and is willing to destroy her family for her own issues. Op's son isn't any better- he has no spine and is willing to let his wife destroy the family. He will argue with his mom but not stand up for her or his kids.
Wow this dil is such a POS. Stop giving them money. Your spineless doormat son is a grown ass man that doesn't deserve your money.
He too would lose the kids if he stood up to her.
MiL, don’t forget to re-write your Will, see an Estate Planner, create a Family Trust and put it out of DiLs reach, no Capital to Son or Grandchildren until Grandchildren reach 40 AND have Post-Graduate degrees in a STEM field.
So much bias toward STEM fields that is not warranted. The vast majority of careers are not STEM and many pay quite well.
I would not make a family trust, just one for the grandchildren, and the trustee would be a law firm or the estate department of a financial institution. The grandkids could get a monthly stipend starting at eighteen, tuition for college or trade school paid directly to the school by the trustee.
The only way the kids can access the fund completely before age thirty-five is if both their parents die before then.
@ Hello shells, I disagree, why would you give money to someone who hasn’t demonstrated capacity? 40 is about the right age to inherit, not younger, still immature and if older, too conservative.
Did wife ever get a job??? I think OP overindulged them so much they missed the fact they couldn't afford private school, the credit cards, and probably the mortgage. There's getting a little help versus living beyond their means. Sadly son needed to tell Mom no more before they became dependant on her
ask if she lets them meet her parents
Well if I can do without my grandkids she can do without my money.....
OP doesnt have issues with DIL, DIL has issues with OP. OP just doesnt want to deal with DIL's issue
I have two common pieces of advice. The first one doesn’t fit in this scenario. I usually say, “Call the police.” This doesn’t help at all.
So, next great advice. To that wife and her husband, “ “To the witch wife, “ Get a job!” Witch wife said she would go back to work when the youngest …. That happened. She still doesn’t go back to work.
To that som, Reba McEntire told him what to do. She even made a hit song with the advice.
“D I V O R C E”
You really forcing me shouting SIMP in the middle of the night.💀
Cathy and son looks like they really couldn't afford the lifestyle before the pandemic hit. Cathy needss to get off her ass and get a job also they probably need to look at downsizing lifestyle. Op son need to grow a pair and a backbone.
Why she have to give notice to her son. Where the heck does this happen?
Nice to see the AI make up a story from the MIL's POV for once. Finally getting creative with these POVs.
She still spending money wildly? Simple. Cancel all the cards, cut off her access, if she complains, it’s because all the money is going to bills, he’ll have receipts, so it’s not financial abuse.
Bye son
This seems like a knockoff of another one but that time OP was a man,and babysat his grandkids.
Fighting!😂😂
The son knows that if he stands up to his wife she will leave him, take the kids and he will rarely see them. Easy to say he's weak and he is, but the biased court system would undercut him if the tried to take charge. His wife is the one responsible for this.
What happened update?
Son is a doormat for wife, she wears the pants in the family
His wife has already used the kids against his mom, she wouldn't hesitate to do the same to him and the biased courts would freeze him out.
@@davidnash8208 So very not true. The courts would see that both parents are able bodied and the wife had been working full time in the past. Custody is almost always 50:50 for the past forty years, and spousal support is quite limited when the former non-working spouse is capable of outside work. Generally a maximum of four years while the custodial parent gets it together.