My husband, who is a pastor now, got sexually abused as a kid. Grateful for therapy! I was raised as a protected pastor's kid and never understood the value of therapy and kinda judged people who needed therapy until I met my husband. Boy, I just had no clue! So true about finding the deeper issues and exposing thinking patterns that are wrong. I'm so grateful for therapists and hope it becomes normal for churches to talk about this and offer professional help.
Amen, Amen! I agree with you 100%. In 2019 I had a miscarriage and when that lead to a suicidal thought, I knew I needed someone to talk to. I feel, I was spiritually lead to my therapist. I needed a therapist that could include my spiritual side into our sessions. She happens to be a co-pastor of a church/licensed therapist! I'm now pregnant with our 6th child/1st daughter. And this has brought up a lot of fear for my daughter from my own past traumas that I thought I had handle on my own. No one close to me (mom/dad/husband) could understand why I couldn't just be happy even though they knew the reasons for my fear. So after breaking down and sharing my trauma with my therapist. She was able to relate on a personal level, validate my fears and concerns, help me start the process of healing, all while reminding my of God's promises in my life. No one should ever feel ashamed or be shamed for seeking counseling or medication for mental and emotional issues. I'm sure no one told you to just walk off that knee pain, to just stop worrying about it, or just pray about it more. Mental health shouldn't be any different. Thank you Ruslan, for this video. ❤
Getting a biblical counselor was the second best thing to ever happen to me (surrendering my life to Jesus obviously takes #1). My counselor is so wise and helpful and his wisdom has really helped me in my walk.
Should Christians go to therapy for trauma? As a Christian who has experienced extensive childhood sexual trauma: 🔊📢📣📯🎙🎤 A RESOUNDING YEEESSSSSSSS!!!!!!!
So good! What you've proven here is life is complicated and we need specific help for specific issues! I am a Christian Therapist and 100% agree with seeking treatment from someone who shares a Biblical worldview! 👏🏻
I agree Ruslan. I felt lead to share a testimony... Before I got saved I had 2 abortions, some time went past and I got saved. Then a sister in Christ dreamt of me, manifesting. And that demons name was Murder. When she told me her dream, immediately I was reminded of those abortions. So I had to repent for murder, and get delivered. Actually have murder cast out. Therapy is extremely beneficial, particularly if it's biblically based. I felt lead to share that testimony, after prayer this morning. It may help someone.
Excellent!! A good therapist helps you find your way to why you make choices that are often self defeating and self-negating (despite the Holy Spirit in our lives)....and will do it in alignment with our core beliefs. For years I exhausted myself in service (and depression) as I focused on "seeing others as better than myself". It was a therapist who reminded me to "love your neighbour as yourself" and how much my "worth" was tied up in what I gave out.....unable to receive. Co-dependant in a nutshell, but that was the way I was raised - your worth was measured by your work/education etc....and it was never enough so even my interpretation of scripture came through that lens and the "I can do ALL things through Christ that strengthens me", which gave me no escuse for failure. Thank GOD that He allowed me to hit a bottom that forced me into therapy. It's taken years (and yes, a little medication), but today I KNOW in the depths if my knowing, that I am LOVED by my Lord - no matter how imperfect I am; no matter how many times I slip up in my walk with Him....He ALWAYS has my back..
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 yes! Thank you for this video Ruslan! I once had to reject a statement a former therapist made. One thing that has helped me when it comes to finding a good therapist now is that I stick with a Christian therapist, but I make sure I still read my word and allow the spirit of discernment to be active in me. 🙏🏾
God bless you Ruslan, God is using you to reach the nations! I like your advice on leaving bibles around the house to read when you’re in any room. I think I have enough bibles to cover that 💜.
@@amys5087 As Christians we can't ignore stuff that helps, but use them and then have Christians in those fields to make them even more redemptive for the Kingdom of God... It be so great to have more Christian psychiatrists to help people!!
@@amys5087 Medicine for Bipolar is so helpful and can truly help someone live such a better more productive life.. As Christians we need to help people get there.
@@amys5087 I am sorry to hear that about your life and why you left the church. I hope you and your family can find community soon to heal! I actually just started this channel to help believers that don't have the resources possibly in a good bible believing church to help live out their faith. I just started and only have one video but maybe it could be something that can bless you as you seek to heal from all the pain the church has caused your family. I am so sorry to hear all that you have gone through with your family and I am praying for you and them to find balance and healing through all the resources out there! 🙏
Ruslan, I am in my 58th year and am Hoping deeply that I find a Christian Counselor here in my City in Northern Ireland. I had childhood traumas, school trauma, social group trauma, a parent that never acknowledged their trauma and their responsibilities to family and God to get Therapy/ extended Prayer Ministry for it, workplace trauma. I am not exaggerating as I know now mid-July 2024 that I have to stop and find someone to help. The hard part is my Church and Churches where I live across the ocean do not have the facilities that your Church has. This is not my judgement of them, it is what it is. How I dealt with all this was several physical pursuits to keep me above water so to speak. The regular movement and exercise came to a dramatic reduction of activity when it was discovered I was bone-on-bone in 2012. I did the best I could do to maintain movement, and JESUS quietly helped me by dramatically reducing the intense pain of bone-on-bone knees. The part that I did not expect was in November 2014, my pain spread throughout my body and my Church and the NHS simply did not have the resources to come alongside me immediately to deal with the root issues that caused one area of pain to become chronic pain. I stayed in Work until the end of June and now have a generous redundancy payment to take the time to find someone (HOLY SPIRIT, HELP) to sort out the entangled and enmeshed reactions that occur in my brain before I can cast them at the feet of JESUS. Thanks for Sharing your life story until now and the Therapies and Activity you did to achieve freedom in areas that help you now. God Bless All x!
Even before watching this my answer is yes! I was fortunate in that my counselor, while not advertising as a Christian counselor, he was a Believer and that helped immensely.
I would be very interested if you and your mates would do the verse “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle..” as someone who has experienced a lifetime of severe trauma and physical /mental health issues, I had heard this verse countless times. Eventually I studied enough and learned enough to know the real truth but I am sure there are many out there that are being subjected to this verse being taken out of context and used on them as well.
@RUSLAN KD, (catching up on ruslan day) anyways, a sincere thank you for doing your part in de-stigmatizing issues in mental health. Many churches pray and speak about cancer, back pain, and arthritis but rarely do they speak on mental health. And when they do, ur right, they spiritualize it; only making those who suffer with it much worse after prayers and casting out demons didn’t help Thx again
....I worked about two years with World Relief refugee services about 18 years ago, counselor/therapist now. People definitely need someone to help them unpack all they are dealing with and provide insight. I will say people do need to know the worldview of their counselor. Some do slip in some questionable therapies. Really good video on this, Ruslan. I had no idea what you went through.
I was also sexually abused as a child. Now I'm a mother to a todler, he is my only child. Some of his family on his dad's side gets upset because I wont let them take him by their self. Me being sexually abused at a young age help me to be more aware of the things that are really out here.
Hey @Ruslan, First of all, great video! I was curious if I can access that “Men’s Skills” program/curriculum at all? As a pastor, one of the ministries I enjoy personally being involved in is investing in our late teen and young adult men. Thanks!
I was really depressed going to church and reading the Bible , and majority of what was prescribed to me was “Your depressed because of your sin, or because you are not putting Christ first, or God is enough be satisfied in him alone, or glorify God in your depression” and not seek medical or counseling. Which as a by product has made me numb to Christianity, like I don’t hold any resentment at this point but don’t really care for the things of God because I didn’t think God cared for the things of me. Being fake deep can really damage a person
We need Jesus... AND therapy lol! Preferably a therapist who is Christian, or of any faith - in my experience even people of other religion's are able to give me better spiritual advice than when I had an atheist as my therapist. She wasn't really able to empathise with me or properly understand the dynamics of growing up in a heavily faith-based family.
After a church like that you need therapy. I agree with you, go to therapy but if it goes against the Word of God, reject it. I worked for a mental health facility for three years. There are those who are possessed but most people are lonely. They need someone to talk to and hear and understand their problems. We have a problem doing that in our world. We need to be as loving toward others as Jesus is. He wants to love us and we want to be judgmental and punish others. If you need someone to talk out your problems and give you constructive, Biblical advice on how to deal with them, I think it's a good thing.
Medication helps with true chemical imbalances, which can be genetic or as a side effect of long term drug abuse (illegal or prescribed). That's why its why we can't demand God heal us the way WE want rather than seeking wisdom and following suggestions like this.
DANG, RUSLAN! You were able to get a GALLUP POLL done on your channel? I mean...maybe you are a member of the illuminati after all...hmmm. LOL; JK! As a person who's studying mental health counseling, I really appreciate your take here. Godspeed!
Bible says you should have one wife. It also says the only reason for divorce should be for aldutery. I wouldn't say it says you shouldn't remarry. His dad divorced because of adultery. So he never had more then one wife at a time and got divorced for the right reason, according to the Bible.
@@kevingarbo7688 What if you want to divorce your wife/husband because they’re abusive, narcissistic, and/or manipulative? I always used to wonder this when I lived in a dv home.
@@JesusChristForEternity not divorcing doesn't mean staying in the same household. Sometimes separation and not enabling that behaviour (especially with the effect it can have on children) can be "the come to Jesus", they need....and anyone in an abusive situation definately needs guidance and support from trained people - not just have scripture verses quoted to them.
My husband, who is a pastor now, got sexually abused as a kid. Grateful for therapy! I was raised as a protected pastor's kid and never understood the value of therapy and kinda judged people who needed therapy until I met my husband. Boy, I just had no clue!
So true about finding the deeper issues and exposing thinking patterns that are wrong. I'm so grateful for therapists and hope it becomes normal for churches to talk about this and offer professional help.
Amen, Amen! I agree with you 100%. In 2019 I had a miscarriage and when that lead to a suicidal thought, I knew I needed someone to talk to. I feel, I was spiritually lead to my therapist. I needed a therapist that could include my spiritual side into our sessions. She happens to be a co-pastor of a church/licensed therapist! I'm now pregnant with our 6th child/1st daughter. And this has brought up a lot of fear for my daughter from my own past traumas that I thought I had handle on my own. No one close to me (mom/dad/husband) could understand why I couldn't just be happy even though they knew the reasons for my fear. So after breaking down and sharing my trauma with my therapist. She was able to relate on a personal level, validate my fears and concerns, help me start the process of healing, all while reminding my of God's promises in my life.
No one should ever feel ashamed or be shamed for seeking counseling or medication for mental and emotional issues. I'm sure no one told you to just walk off that knee pain, to just stop worrying about it, or just pray about it more. Mental health shouldn't be any different. Thank you Ruslan, for this video. ❤
Getting a biblical counselor was the second best thing to ever happen to me (surrendering my life to Jesus obviously takes #1). My counselor is so wise and helpful and his wisdom has really helped me in my walk.
Should Christians go to therapy for trauma?
As a Christian who has experienced extensive childhood sexual trauma: 🔊📢📣📯🎙🎤 A RESOUNDING YEEESSSSSSSS!!!!!!!
I am so sorry for what you went through. I hope you’re okay❤️.
@@prettybird8839 Its a process. Some days are good. Some days are bad.
As someone who is a Christian and becoming a therapist. There are plenty of faith based therapists out there
So good! What you've proven here is life is complicated and we need specific help for specific issues!
I am a Christian Therapist and 100% agree with seeking treatment from someone who shares a Biblical worldview! 👏🏻
I agree Ruslan. I felt lead to share a testimony...
Before I got saved I had 2 abortions, some time went past and I got saved. Then a sister in Christ dreamt of me, manifesting. And that demons name was Murder. When she told me her dream, immediately I was reminded of those abortions.
So I had to repent for murder, and get delivered. Actually have murder cast out.
Therapy is extremely beneficial, particularly if it's biblically based.
I felt lead to share that testimony, after prayer this morning. It may help someone.
Excellent!! A good therapist helps you find your way to why you make choices that are often self defeating and self-negating (despite the Holy Spirit in our lives)....and will do it in alignment with our core beliefs. For years I exhausted myself in service (and depression) as I focused on "seeing others as better than myself". It was a therapist who reminded me to "love your neighbour as yourself" and how much my "worth" was tied up in what I gave out.....unable to receive. Co-dependant in a nutshell, but that was the way I was raised - your worth was measured by your work/education etc....and it was never enough so even my interpretation of scripture came through that lens and the "I can do ALL things through Christ that strengthens me", which gave me no escuse for failure. Thank GOD that He allowed me to hit a bottom that forced me into therapy. It's taken years (and yes, a little medication), but today I KNOW in the depths if my knowing, that I am LOVED by my Lord - no matter how imperfect I am; no matter how many times I slip up in my walk with Him....He ALWAYS has my back..
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 yes! Thank you for this video Ruslan! I once had to reject a statement a former therapist made. One thing that has helped me when it comes to finding a good therapist now is that I stick with a Christian therapist, but I make sure I still read my word and allow the spirit of discernment to be active in me. 🙏🏾
God bless you Ruslan, God is using you to reach the nations!
I like your advice on leaving bibles around the house to read when you’re in any room. I think I have enough bibles to cover that 💜.
So many people leave the church because they do not get help from Christians in finding the right care they need for themselves mentally.
@@amys5087 As Christians we can't ignore stuff that helps, but use them and then have Christians in those fields to make them even more redemptive for the Kingdom of God... It be so great to have more Christian psychiatrists to help people!!
@@amys5087 Medicine for Bipolar is so helpful and can truly help someone live such a better more productive life.. As Christians we need to help people get there.
@@amys5087 I am sorry to hear that about your life and why you left the church. I hope you and your family can find community soon to heal! I actually just started this channel to help believers that don't have the resources possibly in a good bible believing church to help live out their faith. I just started and only have one video but maybe it could be something that can bless you as you seek to heal from all the pain the church has caused your family. I am so sorry to hear all that you have gone through with your family and I am praying for you and them to find balance and healing through all the resources out there! 🙏
Great video dude thanks for being willing to break the stigma I just started counseling myself and there is no shame
You got this!
Ruslan, I am in my 58th year and am Hoping deeply that I find a Christian Counselor here in my City in Northern Ireland. I had childhood traumas, school trauma, social group trauma, a parent that never acknowledged their trauma and their responsibilities to family and God to get Therapy/ extended Prayer Ministry for it, workplace trauma. I am not exaggerating as I know now mid-July 2024 that I have to stop and find someone to help. The hard part is my Church and Churches where I live across the ocean do not have the facilities that your Church has. This is not my judgement of them, it is what it is.
How I dealt with all this was several physical pursuits to keep me above water so to speak. The regular movement and exercise came to a dramatic reduction of activity when it was discovered I was bone-on-bone in 2012. I did the best I could do to maintain movement, and JESUS quietly helped me by dramatically reducing the intense pain of bone-on-bone knees. The part that I did not expect was in November 2014, my pain spread throughout my body and my Church and the NHS simply did not have the resources to come alongside me immediately to deal with the root issues that caused one area of pain to become chronic pain. I stayed in Work until the end of June and now have a generous redundancy payment to take the time to find someone (HOLY SPIRIT, HELP) to sort out the entangled and enmeshed reactions that occur in my brain before I can cast them at the feet of JESUS. Thanks for Sharing your life story until now and the Therapies and Activity you did to achieve freedom in areas that help you now. God Bless All x!
Even before watching this my answer is yes!
I was fortunate in that my counselor, while not advertising as a Christian counselor, he was a Believer and that helped immensely.
I would be very interested if you and your mates would do the verse “God doesn’t give you more than you can handle..” as someone who has experienced a lifetime of severe trauma and physical /mental health issues, I had heard this verse countless times.
Eventually I studied enough and learned enough to know the real truth but I am sure there are many out there that are being subjected to this verse being taken out of context and used on them as well.
@RUSLAN KD, (catching up on ruslan day) anyways, a sincere thank you for doing your part in de-stigmatizing issues in mental health. Many churches pray and speak about cancer, back pain, and arthritis but rarely do they speak on mental health. And when they do, ur right, they spiritualize it; only making those who suffer with it much worse after prayers and casting out demons didn’t help Thx again
This is crazzzzzzzy, I've been thinking about this.
This pandemic has made me face things that I've swept under the rug. I started therapy in October.
💚 Thank you for this video. As a prospective LMHC this message s needed for the Body of Christ. Therapy is necessary!
You are 100% correct Ruslan! Thank you!
....I worked about two years with World Relief refugee services about 18 years ago, counselor/therapist now. People definitely need someone to help them unpack all they are dealing with and provide insight. I will say people do need to know the worldview of their counselor. Some do slip in some questionable therapies. Really good video on this, Ruslan. I had no idea what you went through.
Can’t tell you how on time this message was for me thank you for sharing, I’ve been trying to seek therapy, thank Rus 👍🏻👍🏻
This was well done! God bless you and thank you!
I was also sexually abused as a child. Now I'm a mother to a todler, he is my only child. Some of his family on his dad's side gets upset because I wont let them take him by their self. Me being sexually abused at a young age help me to be more aware of the things that are really out here.
we don't leave our son alone with anyone... he's 6 and has had maybe 3 sleep overs total. maybe been left alone without us a dozen times.
Because his dad's side is still in the world, it's hard trying to get them to understand why I only leave him with few people.
You've got nothing to apologize for. Be strong!
Hey @Ruslan, First of all, great video! I was curious if I can access that “Men’s Skills” program/curriculum at all? As a pastor, one of the ministries I enjoy personally being involved in is investing in our late teen and young adult men. Thanks!
This video was a blessing bro 🤙
Just thank you for sharing bro!!
I was really depressed going to church and reading the Bible , and majority of what was prescribed to me was “Your depressed because of your sin, or because you are not putting Christ first, or God is enough be satisfied in him alone, or glorify God in your depression” and not seek medical or counseling. Which as a by product has made me numb to Christianity, like I don’t hold any resentment at this point but don’t really care for the things of God because I didn’t think God cared for the things of me. Being fake deep can really damage a person
We need Jesus... AND therapy lol!
Preferably a therapist who is Christian, or of any faith - in my experience even people of other religion's are able to give me better spiritual advice than when I had an atheist as my therapist. She wasn't really able to empathise with me or properly understand the dynamics of growing up in a heavily faith-based family.
@Ruslan KD Have you done EMDR? Any thoughts on it if you have?
After a church like that you need therapy. I agree with you, go to therapy but if it goes against the Word of God, reject it. I worked for a mental health facility for three years. There are those who are possessed but most people are lonely. They need someone to talk to and hear and understand their problems. We have a problem doing that in our world. We need to be as loving toward others as Jesus is. He wants to love us and we want to be judgmental and punish others. If you need someone to talk out your problems and give you constructive, Biblical advice on how to deal with them, I think it's a good thing.
I agree we need to get to the root, I do question how does medication help us get there or deal with the issue when it’s mental?
Medication helps with true chemical imbalances, which can be genetic or as a side effect of long term drug abuse (illegal or prescribed). That's why its why we can't demand God heal us the way WE want rather than seeking wisdom and following suggestions like this.
Good stuff
Your a Man of God for real 😧
Ayo ruslan you hoop? 🤯 Who’s your favorite player bro
California
DANG, RUSLAN! You were able to get a GALLUP POLL done on your channel? I mean...maybe you are a member of the illuminati after all...hmmm. LOL; JK! As a person who's studying mental health counseling, I really appreciate your take here. Godspeed!
😂😂😂
Again we are so on the same page. Twins??? LoL
Hold up, you’re not suppose to remarry?
Bible says you should have one wife. It also says the only reason for divorce should be for aldutery. I wouldn't say it says you shouldn't remarry. His dad divorced because of adultery. So he never had more then one wife at a time and got divorced for the right reason, according to the Bible.
@@amys5087 yes it’s an interesting question
@@kevingarbo7688 What if you want to divorce your wife/husband because they’re abusive, narcissistic, and/or manipulative? I always used to wonder this when I lived in a dv home.
@@JesusChristForEternity not divorcing doesn't mean staying in the same household. Sometimes separation and not enabling that behaviour (especially with the effect it can have on children) can be "the come to Jesus", they need....and anyone in an abusive situation definately needs guidance and support from trained people - not just have scripture verses quoted to them.
@@gaynorkelly9413 Yeah I agree! But it honestly sucks when you can’t leave the situation.
Jesus told the leper to go show yourself to the priest!!