Mental Illness and Parents

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  • Опубликовано: 28 ноя 2024

Комментарии • 109

  • @heymrhimr
    @heymrhimr 7 лет назад +16

    I'm a psychology major in college specializing in abnormal psychology, and I'm glad that I've found your channel. It's one thing to read textbooks and listen to lectures of schizophrenia, but it's a whole different ballgame to hear your personal story on the topic. It's fascinating, but at the same time eye opening. People very easily define people by their disorders, especially in the case with schizophrenia, which almost depersonalizes the human. You're brave for being so public about this and being consistent with your stories. Basically what I am trying to say is, thank you for telling us about your life and experiences.

  • @rachelfoley7168
    @rachelfoley7168 6 лет назад +1

    My parents knew something was wrong with me. I went through trauma after and my parents divorced. My dad wasnt there for me at all. He laughed at me when I said my address was being said through the TV. Today I have never heard him say the word schizophrenia and he has never taught himself about it. My mom went to NAMI meetings and has been there for me through it all. I wouldnt be alive if it wasnt for my mom. My mom is everything to me.

  • @jamescastello2061
    @jamescastello2061 5 лет назад +2

    My parents were ashamed. they barely came to visit me in hospital and I was there for 4 years, friends pretty much became my family. My parents have always been so far up their own ass, looking back it's no surprise they didn't want to be know for "the schizophrenic son".

    • @KSWA1000
      @KSWA1000 5 лет назад

      James Castello that’s just not right

  • @bassmazekry678
    @bassmazekry678 7 лет назад +37

    i've tried to open up to my parents about suicidal thoughts and wanting to go see a psychologist, and it took a couple of years because of that scared/awkward feeling, once I got the courage to they just began always yelling at me to get over it and hang out with friends like everybody else, they grew up in a different country so it isn't really talked about there much idk

    • @kalemani676
      @kalemani676 7 лет назад +1

      Bassma Zekry hearing this makes me feels so grateful for my situation and to not take it for granted. My mother was so helpful and supportive of me when I told her about the stuff I think about and do to myself. It just make me think that not everyone has it good and not everyone will be accepting. I just hope your parents educated themselves on mental illness and I hope they become more supportive of you.

    • @bassmazekry678
      @bassmazekry678 7 лет назад

      lily Glad you have a great support system:)

    • @certifieddarkdrifter
      @certifieddarkdrifter 7 лет назад +3

      even though your parents might not support you or may not understand, know that there are so many people who can help you and want to support you, your never alone! there are always people willing to listen :)

    • @FernandaBarsor
      @FernandaBarsor 7 лет назад

      Hey i can listen to you :) call me your friend

  • @carmenapplin5247
    @carmenapplin5247 7 лет назад +19

    Jacob, as a parent of a son with a "brain illness" I really appreciate this video and you as an educator on mental illness. My son avoids family gatherings because he says he feels out of place and I notice how friends and relatives avoid him (maybe because he seems ill at ease and awkward) because they don't know what to say to him; this breaks my heart. He is no different then anyone else, he just has a more difficult time with controlling his thoughts. I just don't know what to do to educate others'... on treating him no different... he's still the same person. Thank you

    • @victoriaelwood1360
      @victoriaelwood1360 7 лет назад

      Carmen Applin Hi I am just going through the comments here and I came across yours. I have learning disabilities and difficulties and I have experienced discrimination throughout my school and college life. I have learned to stick up to the people and I know I'm not a parent but maybe you could ask his friends/relatives to talk to him so that he doesn't feel excluded like I did in my first school. If someone doesn't want to talk to your son, you could approach the person and ask them to give you a good enough explanation and as soon as they explain say what I always say to someone "he is no different from anyone, he is as human as you are, we come into this world on the same level and we go out on the same level, everything here is lent to us, it's not ours to keep, and we are all unique and we all deserve a chance, so please give him a chance" hopefully this will stun the person as it does when I'm saying it to someone when they discriminate against me. I don't know if you believe in God or not but I do, when I was younger, my mum felt annoyed and was asking God for an explanation for why it was happening to me and a family friend said to her "God gives special children to special parents, and God does not give you something cannot handle." I hope this helps you, I like to try and help people and make them feel happier.

    • @carmenapplin5247
      @carmenapplin5247 7 лет назад

      Victoria Elwood, thank you 😌

    • @herpsenderpsen
      @herpsenderpsen 7 лет назад

      Hi. I understand how that must be hard to deal with. I developed severe anxiety from the age of 9 and this made family gatherings complicated for me and my mom. She would try her best, not knowing what to do and once she couldn't deal with it anymore she would yell and ask me why i couldn't be 'normal'. Even though that was tremendously hurting for me to hear that at the time i can understand where her frustration came from. She told me a few years later that she felt guilty about my childhood; that she hadn't done enough. I know that there wasn't anything else she could've done better. With that i just want to say i hope you don't feel guilty about your situation. I can understand how difficult it must be. My mom chose to be open with our relatives about my mental problems. They were understanding, they would give me space and they would get to know me properly once i grew up and my anxiety eased. I had to get to know myself and learn how my mental problems worked against me before i could come out of my shell. Maybe, as your son ages, he'll also get to the point where he becomes comfortable enough to talk to your relatives and not feel out of place. Most of all it time that i needed to control the bad thoughts. An open dialogue with my mom was incredibly important for me.

  • @grilled_chez
    @grilled_chez 7 лет назад +4

    You have helped our family so much! My son was diagnosed this year but like you had symptoms since childhood. Your videos helped us understand him a lot more. I'm sure you have helped many people by sharing. Thank you!

  • @ShedonistaShamanatrix
    @ShedonistaShamanatrix 7 лет назад +39

    I think you're awesome! It's not easy to be so open about all these things, especially when people are so mean and pathetic, these "keyboard warriors" who have balls ONLY when they're behind the anonymity of a keyboard and screen.
    I admire you. You ARE brave. You're really well-spoken and attractive too. I just think you're all around rad, Man!😊

  • @prettyprrrrettaygood
    @prettyprrrrettaygood 7 лет назад +24

    your channel is awesome.
    and don't worry about the facial hair. you look adorable.

    • @wildmn1095
      @wildmn1095 7 лет назад

      that's love

    • @wildmn1095
      @wildmn1095 7 лет назад

      hahahaha, i was saying that's love to the beard rub across the butt

  • @oliviap9302
    @oliviap9302 7 лет назад +2

    i watched your video the day you uploaded it and you inspired me to come clean to my mom. i have a shitty dad, and his abuse resulted in sleep paralysis (everyday for a couple of weeks at its worst and occasionally now). i still have nightmares too and home isnt really the best place right now. however, i did tell her & she told me to get over it, which was a little disappointing but she did thank me for coming clean to her. so i guess your advice was right. even though nothing immediately changed, i think what i did was a step in the right direction. thank you for that.

  • @justaperson9155
    @justaperson9155 7 лет назад +3

    I know exactly the feeling you're talking about. I felt the same when I opened up to my parents about my mental health issues. You feel suddenly disconnected from your self. it's like you've been dealing and struggling with all these problems inside your head for so long and just don't want anyone to know or discuss it with anyone and then when you actually verbalize them, you feel a sense of judgement but also describing the thoughts and bringing them out of your head and into the real world, for me at least I could see how strange they sounded. It didn't necessarily help alleviate them internally, but it kind of snaps you in to reality a bit and you suddenly feel quite vulnerable. That initial coming out about mental illness is very hard and you feel very unsure in yourself, but it is SOOO important to talk about these problems and seek help, otherwise the internal anguish will only get worse and the rabbit hole your in, deeper. Medication helps but personally I found just talking about the thoughts and getting all that internal stuff out on a regular basis to people that will listen helps me the most. Maybe that's what a lot more people need. We should just be able to communicate what ever thought is on our mind and have people who can help address it. As a society, we have cultivated what I believe to be a pretty sick set of human "normals" that must be subscribed to. Making discussing pain you are feeling on the inside, (which often you just need to tell someone about to get immediate relief) something that makes you feel inferior or ashamed of, worsening the problem. Like what the hell. If 90% of prisoners had felt able to talk about what they were going through prior to a crime then I think majority of them would never have happened. Mental illness stigma needs to end.

  • @lookingforsomethingtodo5394
    @lookingforsomethingtodo5394 7 лет назад +2

    I have been watching your videos for a few years now and have found them so helpful. You are well-spoken and interesting. My son has mostly the negative symptoms of schizophrenia and has not able to express himself or talk about what he needed from us, mostly due to thought blocking. I researched and looked up as much information as I could find to help him and give me a better understanding of what he is going through. When I found your videos, it felt like I had finally found the personal point of view I needed to help him to become more independent and stable. Thank you for your help! I appreciate it!

    • @b52270
      @b52270 7 лет назад

      Sounds a lot like my son. I have no idea how to help him. He keeps denying he has anything more than a clinical depression, but he won't sign the hippa forms so that we can help him along as he gets therapy. I'm extremely concerned yet he is highly resistant to involving his parents in knowing any information about his condition.

  • @dorkcicle430
    @dorkcicle430 7 лет назад +4

    Thank you very much for making these videos. I feel very isolated from the rest of the world even my family, and most of it is my fault but these videos are very reassuring. Thank you so much

  • @klaudia9813
    @klaudia9813 7 лет назад +5

    Its cool to hear about this stuff "behind the scenes". Love from Poland, stay strong!

  • @TheKatyd123
    @TheKatyd123 7 лет назад +7

    I wonder if parent's just feel guilty...for either passing on the gene or inflicting their child? As a mother (with quite serious mental health issues) I can now reflect upon my own parent's issues with me as a young teenager, I said I was suicidal several times through my teens and it was hugely brushed off as me being melodramatic.....I was highly depressed and told to stop listening to the Beatles all day everyday in my room....I had no solid back up from them and believe they felt guilty in reflection. I'm now early forties and have noticed a few hints in my son and took him to the doctors way back when he was 8/9...we are now aware of his issues (including depression and Aspergic symptoms) and I monitor him all the time. But it's only from my own expierences that I really understand. I have a very supportive husband-but he had to learn the hard way to understand me, he told me to 'Get A Grip!' He won't do that again! Ensue massive meltdown!! The ONE thing I can't abide by is people saying "I don't get mental health...or (ironially) It's all in your head!!" I mean really?

  • @facetioustimes6211
    @facetioustimes6211 7 лет назад +6

    I HATE talking about it to my mom and family members, I am awkward as well. I talked to my therapist on the first day she told me to go to the Harris county psychiatric hospital for an evaluation that same day after I left because she as very concerned for my safety and for others safety but I couldn't because my mom had to go to work and then Hurricane Harvey happened and now I'm here waiting for all this shitty contaminated water to go down.

  • @callashab
    @callashab 7 лет назад +2

    I suffered from depression as a teenager and I was afraid to tell my parents about it. Though you described your experience in opening up to your parents as not necessarily being ashamed, I definitely felt ashamed and frightened to tell my parents. I wish I had the same courage as you as a teen to open up about a subject that's not so easy to explain!

  • @Thundersnowy
    @Thundersnowy 7 лет назад +4

    I would never throw my son out, tho I get accused of being an enabler. As a parent, I try to act on love, get all the information and advice I can from the psychology community, encourage him to try medicines that might help him, and suffer over his pain. I don't know what else I can do. I've had to temporarily move my daughter and myself out when he didn't seem safe for us. That is probably the nail in my coffin it is so painful. I never want to hurt him but people are mean to me if i don't take drastic measures. Inside that tortured mind is my son. The son who laughed and loved and was so kind and sensitive. I have no money so I can do very little to help him. Except show him I love him and won't give up on him.

    • @Dovenpeis
      @Dovenpeis 7 лет назад +1

      Just remember you can't sacrifice your own mental health and safety over someone else's mental illness, not even if it's your son. It doesn't help them, and it certainly doesn't help you. You have a daughter to think about too, don't forget about that either. If you futilely sacrifice your own mental health for your son, you are going to hurt your daughter's mental health as well. In the worst cases, a little distance from time to time is necessary to keep afloat.

  • @maxhunt1148
    @maxhunt1148 7 лет назад

    Thanks so much for your videos. My parents have called me selfish when I have panic attacks because of my social anxiety disorder, so it's hard for me not to be ashamed of mental illness. Your encouragement means a lot.

  • @caseywong4213
    @caseywong4213 7 лет назад +1

    thank you for uploading so many videos jacob, you helped me come to terms with my mental illness and made me feel less alienated about it

  • @baskefar5564
    @baskefar5564 7 лет назад +12

    Bless You IhaveSchizophrenia

  • @saids7737
    @saids7737 7 лет назад +1

    Thanks for sharing this with us Jacob. Keep doing you and I miss you

  • @domesdaylines
    @domesdaylines 7 лет назад +13

    Can you do a video on emotional flatness? I don't know how to tell if I have this symptom or not, since I still smile and on some days, it feels easier to emote and expose myself.

  • @psychedlicsouljam1995
    @psychedlicsouljam1995 7 лет назад +1

    My mom wants me on medication or to go to the hospital.. I feel like she's very ashamed of me. I can make my own choices. Here in Canada nobody can force medication on a mentally ill person unless, your being restrained at a hospital.

    • @Dovenpeis
      @Dovenpeis 7 лет назад +1

      More likely she is worried about you, and wants you to get better because that's good for you. That is why she wants you on medication. So I suggest you follow your mother on this, and consult with a psychiatrist.

  • @kyronnyoung4953
    @kyronnyoung4953 7 лет назад +1

    I love that you've shared your story with us, and i love that you are just wanting to help others. Its so nice of you. I love you, and don't shave (just trim when needed) its fucking cute.
    Thank you for this channel

  • @autumnlindseyart
    @autumnlindseyart 7 лет назад

    I make videos like this too where I talk about my mental illness. It is pretty difficult to get parents involved, especially if they're not very understanding. My parents don't know everything about my illness yet. I've told them about depression and anxiety but I haven't told them about my psychotic symptoms. So they don't know about my hallucinations and delusions. I've been wanting to tell them, but I don't know how. I'm planning on telling my dad about it next time we are alone.

  • @suzinaz2600
    @suzinaz2600 7 лет назад

    To be honest, I like you and your videos. Like, I'm sure that you did help too many people that you can't even imagine and even if I have not any mental problems sometimes I feel like I hate everyone and I don't want to talk with anyone. I don't know if it's a big deal or not but you really did help me to think about it. So I'm appreciate that you're doing youtube videos. I feel myself lucky to discover your channel. Love you :)

    • @karvast5726
      @karvast5726 7 лет назад

      if this is only that i think you are fine but i'm also not very social,but not only that i do have weird thing that i never told to amyone or that anyone don't see
      -i fake smile because i often don't have anh expression on my faces,but still have real one,thanks god
      -i just CAN'T keep eye contact with people when i talk to them,you will probably laugh but i feel like theh could read my mind trough my eyes,that is seriously what i feel ; . ;
      -i often feel followed watched espcially when i don't do anythink or just when i over thinking
      -always tell me how weird i am and other crazy thing that make me feel jealous about others people and felling bad about myself
      -i slightly thing that sometimes i can predict future like "i feel like this day gona be bad" and that ALWAYS confirm,damm i'm crazy ; . ;
      -hope you didn't laugh of those because i don't live them well,and i could probably make an way bigger list but i think you get it,are you even reading this ?

  • @bethanysworld6789
    @bethanysworld6789 7 лет назад +1

    Parent. I'm not ashamed and never will be.

  • @rebeccamendez2691
    @rebeccamendez2691 7 лет назад +1

    jacob - u are so smart and intelligent - i love listening to u and I'm so glad that for the most part u have been able to control ur illness- ur doing so well - im sure u have ur days ... thx for ur videos! 😊😊😊 🌟🌟🌟🌟

  • @SaucisseMerguez
    @SaucisseMerguez 7 лет назад +1

    Thanks for these videos! I wouldnt be able to do it with my thought disorders, I hope you will do a livestream soon!

  • @KatMarie
    @KatMarie 7 лет назад +1

    thank you for sharing! x

  • @djamac1664
    @djamac1664 7 лет назад

    I find it really inspiring to watch your videos. You're really strong. Take care. ☺✨👍

  • @xxplaguecatxx6344
    @xxplaguecatxx6344 7 лет назад +2

    I think I love you...

  • @LivingDead53
    @LivingDead53 4 года назад

    My mom was like, finally, damn. She's been waiting a while. My dad uses it against me, so I avoid him. I can only send him so many FOAD emails. He tried to have me locked up for disagreeing with him or threatens me with it. Okay, buddy, after you. Guess who took the DNA test? Oh yeah, I'm ratting you all out. They both said they screwed up though. My grandparents were like, we knew you were off. I never spoke and was strange. I've talked about the "them" several times in my life.

  • @AnnaBulaklak369
    @AnnaBulaklak369 2 года назад

    I dropped out of Nursing school and took a break from college for some years because of my Schizophrenia.

  • @gabuks1
    @gabuks1 7 лет назад +3

    Man I hate parents. Always telling me what to do and grounding me and stuff.

  • @JessicaNichoelFarley
    @JessicaNichoelFarley 6 лет назад

    i find myself embarrassed when i talk about my voices and other hallucinations.

  • @GloomyYumi
    @GloomyYumi 7 лет назад +1

    Can you do one about mental illness and education?

  • @rainyday56
    @rainyday56 3 года назад

    Thank you for sharing ..You have helped me understand

  • @KushWBush
    @KushWBush 7 лет назад

    great video, thank you

  • @nvmeverlou5494
    @nvmeverlou5494 7 лет назад +12

    When the voices tell you to do things, do you feel a need to do it?

    • @sims225
      @sims225 7 лет назад +1

      Yes.

    • @kalemani676
      @kalemani676 7 лет назад +6

      It's like an itch. Won't go away till whatever it is has been done.

    • @caseywong4213
      @caseywong4213 7 лет назад +1

      sometimes you don't even think about it. you only realize its happening when its about to happen, or has already been done

    • @laries9648
      @laries9648 7 лет назад

      Jessica White When you don't do the things or don't want to do the things or "create" conflicting voices you can be "stuck" for literally half of the day. I was diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder but I have been doing good. I have not heard the voices in weeks now but when I did it was a mental war against myself.

  • @tombowman3625
    @tombowman3625 7 лет назад +1

    Hey you should do a video on smoking and how to quit and stuff cheers

  • @LauraJayneWY79
    @LauraJayneWY79 4 года назад

    You speak wise words

  • @madkips
    @madkips 7 лет назад +1

    Haven't heard from you in awhile, hope you're doing OK

  • @LOVEAapjes
    @LOVEAapjes 7 лет назад +2

    good job

  • @julietabernal5448
    @julietabernal5448 7 лет назад

    Thank you!

  • @1OwenGoodwin
    @1OwenGoodwin 7 лет назад +1

    Is drinking not the best idea with schizophrenia?

  • @rainyday56
    @rainyday56 3 года назад

    Thank you

  • @Nakasasama
    @Nakasasama 7 лет назад +1

    Parents can sometimes be delusional when it comes to mental health of there children. In some cases they overlook obvious problems too. In my case it wasn't just bullying at school but bullying at home by a loser brother who was 12 years older than me. I had such as shit life between the ages of 12 and 14 that I finally had a complete mental break down. The problem with parents is they can overlook the obvious. In my case my brother kept bullying and harassing me like he was a douche bag from school. He'd even do shit to me just to fire me up. I finally came to a point when I was 16 that I said fuck it to the head doctor, the mellaril and the tegratol that i was on. It wasn't long after convincing my mother that I could go without it that I exploded in rage at my oldest brother. The funniest thing was when I did, I found out what a complete pussy my oldest brother was. How did I manage to get him to knock his shit off? Easy, ever see a bipolar person in the throws of mania grab a knife to go after a person? (in shitting your pants voice) "BAKER ACT HIM!!!!" Was the words out of my panicked brothers mouth when he saw that coming at him.

  • @lapluie29
    @lapluie29 6 лет назад

    you're awesome, i luv u

  • @patchoulicolt7093
    @patchoulicolt7093 7 лет назад +1

    who wants to be awkward with him in person?! We can just sit at a table and text each other. Lol!

  • @philipgroot7660
    @philipgroot7660 7 лет назад

    Love your shirt!

  • @ChilledSoul244
    @ChilledSoul244 7 лет назад

    what's the difference between schizophrenia, schizotypal and schizoid? can someone have all three?

  • @Temanvideos
    @Temanvideos 7 лет назад +1

    How do you got yourself diagnosed?

    • @Dovenpeis
      @Dovenpeis 7 лет назад

      By seeing someone who can diagnose you, a psychiatrist.

  • @gabriellelewis994
    @gabriellelewis994 7 лет назад +1

    It would be cool to hear some more of your personal experiences. You obviously dont have to tho

  • @itztomm8232
    @itztomm8232 7 лет назад +1

    What if they don't believe me?

    • @FernandaBarsor
      @FernandaBarsor 7 лет назад +1

      It's Tom well you make sure to articulate the exact words of what is going on and consider if still they don't believe could be blind love, must be hard to accept something you can't control. Get help if they believe you and Even if they don't. You go and get help. I AM right here to help :)

    • @itztomm8232
      @itztomm8232 7 лет назад +1

      Fernanda Barsor thanks a lot but they believed me thank god, I was just being paranoid

  • @mathewhill5556
    @mathewhill5556 7 лет назад +1

    Thanks for the videos. I enjoy the testimonials, you are rather coherent. Look into Dr. Jordan Peterson "Maps of meaning". He puts his lectures on RUclips.

  • @KSWA1000
    @KSWA1000 5 лет назад

    I like what you said at 8:40

  • @ekrem626
    @ekrem626 7 лет назад

    nice vid m8!

  • @submarine1090
    @submarine1090 7 лет назад +1

    Hey Jacob, where is your gf? Did you break up? Why?

  • @random-ft6nf
    @random-ft6nf 7 лет назад

    love

  • @psychedlicsouljam1995
    @psychedlicsouljam1995 6 лет назад

    U should do a beard tutorial if you ever get super desperate for video ideas LOL

  • @codergames
    @codergames 7 лет назад

    You should be proud of it, you're a unique branch of evolution!

    • @Dovenpeis
      @Dovenpeis 7 лет назад

      Endorsing a disease is really a liberal sickness, not evolution. It's quite the opposite of evolution, it's degeneration.

    • @codergames
      @codergames 7 лет назад

      +Dovenpeis wrote: "Endorsing a disease is really a liberal sickness, not evolution. It's quite the opposite of evolution, it's degeneration."
      It takes a bit higher IQ to understand that things humans label as diseases are an actual attempts of the cells at creating something better and more efficient. It's due to human lack of understanding we have so many wonderful things labeled as diseases. You see, human brain is a result of such attempts. Today we understand our environment better than solutions of other species, so schizophrenia and the likes are expected. The brain of such people is actually trying to understand reality better, but it only does so in some cases, eg. geniuses that are schizophrenics. They do understand reality better than the likes of you ever will.

    • @Dovenpeis
      @Dovenpeis 7 лет назад

      Don't try to spread the liberal sickness as science and evolution. It's quite the opposite, it's degeneration. Real science, though, focuses on curing schizophrenia and reverting the diseased brain back to normal functioning. You liberal fuck, however, want to endorse this disease and religiously justify the suffering of the affected individuals with liberal mumbo-jumbo.

    • @codergames
      @codergames 7 лет назад

      @Dovenpeis ... I don't understand what you mean by "liberal" and what you're talking about, but it seems that you're lacking sufficient intelligence or understanding of what I'm saying to engage in the conversation, so I'm not going to respond to you anymore.

    • @Dovenpeis
      @Dovenpeis 7 лет назад

      Probably for the best, since I utterly detest your liberal stance.

  • @reedpetro6127
    @reedpetro6127 7 лет назад

    Wassup dude

  • @perlasa990
    @perlasa990 5 лет назад

    💖

  • @DavidSilva-zd9sw
    @DavidSilva-zd9sw 7 лет назад

    hey man

  • @konstantinalk_7123
    @konstantinalk_7123 7 лет назад +1

    Omg you are sooooo attractive 😱😍 also you look like pewdiepie 😂❤ I love your videos the are really helpful❤

  • @panchotolayo4468
    @panchotolayo4468 6 лет назад

    Do u see faces in the air let me know cause I think I'm the only one

  • @eternal.prospect
    @eternal.prospect 7 лет назад +3

    God you're so gorgeous.

  • @philipgroot7660
    @philipgroot7660 7 лет назад +2

    Love your shirt!