And Danielle Bregoli should absolutely be the first guest, followed by every single teenager that, that quack McGraw sent off to Turn About Ranch or any other facilities that’s making obscene amounts of money off of the “Trouble teen industry” I’d love to see those people held accountable for their inappropriate and sadly abusive behavior they inflicted on these kids under the guise of therapy.
Thirty-seven years ago , I married a man with a disability who needed care . He was also 24 years older than me , but it was the best decision I ever made . He was the kindest , gentlest and most loving man ever . We went on to have four beautiful children and I have never regretted a day. When I watch your videos, you remind me of us . I hope you two will have a long and happy life together xxx
My mom was bedridden for most of my parents marriage, with fibromayalgia and chronic fatigue which later in life turned into stroke and Parkinsons disease, needing caregiving 100% of the time. My dad worked and caretook a lot for my mom over 30+ years and now he does everything for her. My dad is our hero.
God bless your dad. I hope family and friends help in caregiving to allow him some time off each week. My husband had a stroke at 48 years old, ( now 66) it can be draining handling everything.
@Aron Toulouse Yes, unfortunately, things used to be more genuine, than they are now. From what I've heard from people in the show, the contract is _EXTREMELY_ important. The same thing with The Doctors. You can see what happened with a RUclipsr named Natural Kaos and The Doctors. It was crazy.
Thank you for saying "No" to Dr. Phil. I enjoyed him until i heard him say that "If you aren't having sex, you don't have a real relationship." There are a LOT of reasons a person/couple may not be willing/able to have sex, and i am directly affected by many of them (sexual orientation, disability, abuse issues). Our relationship is just as valid as any other - just as your relationship is valid.
Yeah... that’s like saying the four year relationship my husband and I had (without sex mind you) before we got married “wasn’t a relationship” at all.... though he would probably say that it’s because we met online and were long distance on top of that. Seemed to work out just fine for us.
While that statement is wrong by Dr. Phil, there is a bond that is created by having sex with your partner that can’t be forged in other ways. It’s biologically evident as well. Your brain sends all sorts of chemicals through your system that help create that bond and your brain literally associates that person with love and happiness. True, that can occur in other ways, but not to the same extent as with having sex. It doesn’t mean your relationship isn’t real, but it is a biological fact that sexual intercourse creates a stronger bond with your partner neurologically speaking.
@@dustinweaver5040 I agree that sex can create a unique bond between partners, it isn't necessary for a loving marriage. Lots of couples can't have sex for one reason or another - it doesn't make them any less committed to each other.
So proud of you both. It's hard to say "no" to what others would say is "success" -- brilliant that you checked in with yourselves and communicated your position. That's beautiful.
This is the first time I’ve seen your channel and can’t tell you how much respect I have for you. My son is 8 years old and is a very compassionate kid. Your message is the type of awareness I love him to be exposed to. Best wishes!
I saw that Dr Phil episode. You guys made the right choice not to go. This video should be shared with that couple and Dr Phil. You guys broke it down perfectly. I'm a C4 quadriplegic in a power wheelchair. Giving and receiving care when you are most vulnerable can be very endearing and is an act of love.
Just by seeing the title I knew you two made the right decision. People on his show (clips Ive seen) are very humiliated and ridiculed, it's sad it's all for entertainment.
I saw the couple on the episode you’re talking about, I have noticed Dr.Phil can been offensive and harsh with people, which is the WORST thing a therapist could do when you’re trying to help somebody
Once he did a show with a girl who has DiD and tried to make her talk about her trauma in front of EVERYONE. She started to have a panic attack. What kind of "Therapist" would do something like that??? Those people have DiD because their trauma was SO severe that they needed to protect themselves from it, why would she want to share it with the world? He is disgusting.
Sounds like they wanted you guys for the _wrong_ reasons. You two are worth so much more than just being a 'token' interabled couple. I love how respectful you guys are about the whole thing!
I DON’T WATCH HIM. Did for Years, but found Him too “HollyWood” after 50. Ha! You two did Your HomeWork: Crossed ALL The T’s & Dotted ALL The I’s! I am SO PROUD OF YOU! His LIFE is FAR AWAY from US. I am INVISIBLY DISABLED, married to an ABLED Man.***ALERT!*** Chris from SBSK NEEDS HELP!!!
@@matthewrandell5055 um.. It's a statistical fact that emotionally unstable people are typically unable to have stable relationships. That has nothing to do with physical disabilities.
merncat75 This a a little rude TBH. Its comparing apples to oranges. Their relationship works because they work for it. Simple as that. They work maybe harder because of Shanes limitations. And others with emotional problems maybe work harder because of their limitations. Its simple as that. Chill.
Unfortunately he didn’t start out that way 16+ years ago, but times have changed and TV ‘self help’ shows aren’t as focused on help anymore. A lot of things aren’t genuine anymore even on social media I take everything with a grain of salt.
U like both of them together but no shade Hannah could fatin him up a little more than what he is now, I think he would look great with a few extra pounds on him, no shade.. they both seem like great people ‼️💯🙏🏽👍🏾
Shane and Hannah, I have admired you and your approach to life and sharing your story with others, but I now have even MORE respect for you and the maturity you demonstrated with this decision. Keep doing what you are doing! You are educating and inspiring so many people!
Their level of maturity and the support of their families, are probably the main reasons their relationship works. Not everyone has that, disabled or not.
Just wanted to say that watching your videos has opened my mind so much about disabilities, I didn't realize all the prejudices/misconceptions that I had before. This channel is really a blessing!
I’m actually really glad you turned down the opportunity. It shows maturity. I love watching Dr. Phil, but ONLY for the drama. The show really does exploit people and try to create drama. It isn’t a professional environment. I really appreciate you both so much.
"Would you date someone in a wheelchair?" My answer: I need to know more. Is he nice? Do we have things in common? Do we click? Those things matter. Not whether or not he is in a wheelchair.
Thank you both so much for talking so honestly about your lives together it does help the ordinary folk understand that what you have for each other is real my partner has dimensia and has become nearly reliant with his daily needs because of a stroke which I guess is not as bad as having a lifelong disability but still has its difficulties but you guys are an inspiration I wish you all the best now and for your future years together real love like yours will alwys find a way god bless .
@@Jaaziar any advice will seem great to parents who doesn't know how to act like parents. Straight up stupid for anyone who believes that Dr Phil is their only hope.
So I loved Dr. Phil. (I was kind of blind to the problems in the show) and seeing this completely changed my perspective. I would have never looked at that episode that way without knowing about you two and hearing all of this. THANK YOU! I will not be supporting Dr. Phil anymore.
A physically disabled person made me feel better about myself. I have a hidden disability. I actually have two of them. I have been ashamed of my disabilities for decades. Thank you whoever you are for your kind compassionate words. Your words gave me hope like no one ever did.
I happened to see that Dr. Phil episode. The message needs to be LEAVE an abuser. Nothing to “work through.” It is not a girlfriend’s responsibility to train him how to behave in order to have a healthy relationship.
I seen this episode too!! I knew exactly what they were talking about when they were describing it. That’s so crazy that they were asked to be on there. I agree that that man was very abusive to his girlfriend. She did so much for him and he treated her like garbage.. smh
Well on it’s own it’s not a bad message. But the problem is the framing. Like it’s a bad thing in itself that she had to be his caretaker. And that’s just shitty and disrespectful.
THAT was the issue, not that she was taking care of him, but that he was abusing her and not being appreciative. No matter the situation, wheelchair or none, no one deserves to be abused.
That may be true, but abuse is a separate issue from disability. It sounds like Dr. Phil was saying that dysfunction is inevitable in inter-able relationships.
I am a forty-five year old former Marine and combat veteran who cares for a fellow Marine who is paralyzed/disabled because of a combat injury. Although we aren't lovers lol, he most definitely is my best friend and I would NEVER even think about turning my back on him! I lost my first wife to divorce partially because of the situation, but I am happily remarried to a wonderful woman that appreciates my loyalty to my friend. In no way do I think of him as a burden or a problem! It's unbelievable how out of touch Dr. Phil and other celebrities are with the common people. I caught a glimpse of Dr. Phil's personality years ago, and I did NOT like it at all. Anyway, I wish you two many, many happy and healthy years ahead. #Semper Fi
Agree, beautifully said and thanks for sharing. Also, sending my sincere appreciation for you and your friends service and sacrifice to our country 🙏🏼🥰
I saw that Dr. Phil episode and was thinking about you two and the fact that most of what Dr. Phil said was crap. Also, he seems to have specialised in EVERYTHING! Glad you didn’t get associated with him!
I thought about them too. He kept saying the girlfriend wasn’t qualified to take care of him mentally and physically, I would think she was perfectly qualified she was just burned out. I’m sure Hannah knows how to take care of Shane better than anyone as she does it day in and day out. As a nurse I always ask family and include them in care as they know what works for them because sometimes the way your taught in school isn’t always best or what works for them. In the same turn of his girlfriend was getting burned out he should have taken extra help, he was being selfish.
As someone who was in an abusive relationship, I don’t think there’s a way to come back from that kind of treatment of each other, so I do think the advice to break up was warranted in that case. It can actually be really dangerous when couples in abusive relationships seek out couples therapy because the goal is often to preserve the relationship. This has nothing to do with disability and caregiving though! Perhaps related, my abusive ex called me an “invalid” because I was going through a chronic pain flare up toward the end of our relationship. I had to exit that situation because I knew I couldn’t survive with someone who was unable to accommodate me or even just let me prioritize my own needs.
Turd Ferg It is their choice but not the kids choice. Some people go on last resort but I wouldn’t. My personal preference but I have problems like everyone else but prefer to be private.
This really bothers me!! My husband is wheelchair bound and I’m his caregiver. I’m not a fan of Dr. Phil!! Maybe it doesn’t work for everyone, but it works for us!! Man, I could go on and on about this!! Me being my husbands caregiver works great for both of us!! It actually works out great and we have a very healthy marriage!!💜💜
Does it bother you because of his ignorance or because there's some truth to it??What if another person was your husband's caregiver since day one , wouldn't your daily life be more convenient and less exhausting and frustrating??( Don't telle there's no frustration or exhaustion from being his caregiver)
@@Carousel5883 she said that it works out great for both of them and they have a very healthy marriage. You're choosing not to believe the words she has expressly and concisely worded. If somebody says they feel a certain way, don't go telling them they are wrong. They are the expert on their own feelings, not you. I think it speaks to your own beliefs that you cannot believe that an interabled relationship could be a happy one, even when somebody expressly says that it is. You have no information to go on except this person's words - no knowledge of the couple personally - and you leap to the conclusion that the relationship is unhappy. It's obvious that you're basing your verdict on your own biases, because there's nowhere else it could have come from!
OMG I am so glad you guys have shared this experience of yours. I teach in Mental Health (non-clinical) and I have to explain to classes that Dr Phil is not therapy! *face palm*. The disrespect he shows towards people who are obviously feeling vulnerable and helpless (because - let's face it, why would you go on Dr Phil if you weren't?) is *infuriating* !!! Thank you for respectfully calling Dr Phil out!
He's actually factually not a doctor. He's an actor (lmao). His name and title is Phil McGraw, actor and personality. I'd call him an author, but I question his writings because he probably didn't write it himself. He is wise, however.
Ok you can criticize him, but that is a BS criticism- he spent more time than most MD’s getting that particular doctorate. 14 years to become a psychologist and the admissions is highly competitive. So stop acting like a bully.
You had me at "if you are a fan of dr. Phil or of you are dr. Phil then you won't like this video" So love Hannah and Shane.. P.s. if dr. Phil is the advice giver why would they need yall??🤔🤔🤔 Things that make you go nope.
You two are such a "celebration of life and love". More power to ya' - and your example speaks volumes of wisdom to both interabled couples and others alike!
Not only did you make the right decision, but also your point about caregiving and being in a relationship being perfectly possible is so true. No one in a committed relationship knows what the next day will bring, perhaps your partner will get flu and you will need to nurse them, or for some people a dreadful illness like dementia or injury. If you love someone truly then being there to provide care for them if they need it is part of the deal. Also it is clearly not just one way in your relationship. Shane clearly cares for Hannah in many ways, even if he is limited in what he can do physically.
My aunt cared full time for her husband for nearly 40years after a motorbike accident and she loved him till the day he died! Was it easy...of course not! But she did a bloody brilliant job while also raising their two daughters. I am so glad you turned down his offer, you are an amazing couple and it just makes me smile when I see the clear love you have for each other! Hugs from Australia!
I have been with my bf for almost 16 years now and I have been disabled about 8 years of that. My bf is my caregiver and he also works a 40 hour week at his job. We have our ups and downs and yes I feel guilty and yes he gets burnt out sometimes but its never been abusive. It takes unconditional love and work on both peoples part, oh and LOTS of humor. We realized were both two imperfect people that arent willing to give up on each other.
Every relationship takes work and I commend both of you for sticking it out through all of the ups and downs life has thrown at you. People underestimate how much humor can get you through things. Hugs and positivity to both of you.
One of my best, most loving relationships was with my ex who had cerebral palsy. We hardly ever fought and we ended on good terms bcuz he didn't want to move back home with me. I couldn't stay and he couldn't go. I still cherish the memories. If your relationship is as toxic as the one on Dr. Phil... It's not the disability or caregiving, it's just a really bad relationship with two people who do not mesh.
I fell in love with the most amazing and hottest guy in college he was in a wheelchair and cerbal palsy, everyone wanted to date him and sadly he didn't have feelings for me but I talk to him now and then. Every person I have dated others with hidden disabilities like autism and they are the best I have had.
Congratulations Shane and Hannah for not going to Dr Phil's show! You are smart and I love the reasons why you decided not to go! Love you and admire you a lot!
There are also disabilities which aren’t congenital or the result of injury or disease. Can you even begin to guess the number of elderly couples who have become “interabled” over time?
That's really sweet that you wanted to help them on the phone and truly help them and that you were willing to let go being on a TV show you guys are very noble people
I heard Dr. Phil is a script show so if you went on, I bet you would have had a script and be told what to say. So glad you didn't do the show. I had a special needs daughter and hearing him say that they are a burden on everyone makes my blood boil!!! I would do tripple the work if I could have her back. She was never a burden and I don't see any person with disabilities as a burden. You guys are an inspiration and such a beautiful couple. Thank you!
It disgusts me when someone goes out of their way to say that a child is a burden on their parents. Like, if the parents are struggling with the kid, the kid probably already fears that it’s their fault to some extent, even though they aren’t to blame. Calling someone a burden is basically confirming that person’s insecurities, and that’s a horrible thing to do.
So glad you didn't go to his show. I used to watch his show, I'm a retired RN with experience in psychiatric mental disorders s and I hate the way he addressed this issues, he can be a bully, he ridicule people
I am so grateful that you turned down Dr Phil. Your honesty and compassion is just unmeasurable thank you for what you do and thank you for your love it's very inspiring
In this 15 min video you guys gave so much better advice than Dr. Phil ever did on his show.. I’m so glad you didn’t go on, you’re right it’s incredibly sensationalised and dramatic!!
That makes me sick as a disabled person with a lot of disabled friends. My best friend is caregiver to her blind boyfriend and they have been together 10 years and yeah they fight and have very normal issues like normal couples. Dr. Phil is a slime ball that has even said that he won’t help people on camera. Keep it up guys. Much love:
You guys are so smart to reach out to friends and families and then discuss together.....Your channel really goes beyond disability.....what a genuine caring relationship is like.
*Wow!* You two are great! Thirty years ago I fell in love with a man who was HIV positive and eventually married him and cared for him until he died of AIDS in 1995. It wasn't always easy, but it was always worth it and now I am a professional caregiver. I must say that I don't like taking care of people who are abusive, but that has *nothing* to do with their disability, just their attitude. Keep up the good work! 😊
This is my first introduction to you two. I have watched several videos and was really skeptical before I watched them. I am so happy I watched several videos. It is evident that you both love each other and it is not at all what I imagined. You both are equals in the relationship and know the importance of communication. It is obvious this is a special relationship. Not so much because any disability but because you both are in love and dedicated to each other. So great to see!!
@@juliehelms5727 like youve never hated someone. Dont act like youre so high and mighty. Dr. Phil is an uneducated twat that causes more harm than good.
@@juliehelms5727 so is judgment of someone's heart based on one statement about someone who repeatedly exploits and sensationalizes real people on national television for money
I've been watching Dr. Phil on and off for a long time out of pure fascination. There are SO many scenarios where he shames different types of lifestyles and relationships. This is the final straw for me. Absolutely ridiculous and not going to be giving him the views anymore. Really, really disappointing. Thank you for making this video!
Oh my god I saw their video this morning and it had me in tears. I feel so bad for Chris..he works too hard at what he does for youtube to pull this shit.
I've been disabled since 1998 and my husband has been right there with me. Thank God not everyone see's me as a burden, I don't what I'd do without my husband. Keep on smiling and being happy, your together because you honestly love each other and I think that's just beautiful.🤗🤗
I have a 3 year old son with cerebral palsy and although his disability is completely different than Shane’s seeing the two of you together gives me hope that he’ll be able to find an amazing person who looks past his disability and sees him for his personality. I love how well the two of you get along, keep up the amazing videos
Having a parent like you seem to be, who loves, cares and guides his way, makes him a very lucky human! So he learns that he is worth to be loved! That's all that matters to reach that goal for him! God bless you! Much love from Austria!
Thank youu, it’s him who makes me feel like the one who’s loved. Sometimes it’s hard not to worry about whether or not people will return the love he gives but then I’m reminded other people don’t matter
@@ginamendes560 Having such a great, loving and positive mommy is already more than a lot of people have. Your boy will have a very happy life with lots of love in it 💕
Hey he probably will!! My best mates fiance has severe cerebral palsy, her disability didn't stop her personality shining through and touching his heart, It isn't easy by any stretch her mobility is getting worse as we approach our 30's, but they make it work. I am hopeful your son finds the same!!
Calvo Tama love hearing that! It makes me happy to know it’s possible and not just a dream thanks for taking the time to tell me about your friend and his wife
I mean it's a certain degree of caregiving not to be negative. It seems all great because it is not a persons reality but it can be more than basic caregiving and takes a special kind of love to maybe wipe your lovers ass, dress them or other various care within the disability spectrum. Imagine possibly having children as well and balancing the two. It's way more complicated than what it seems.
Desmear Sanders yeah, that’s why I didn’t really think it was fair for them to judge people for not wanting a relationship with somebody who’s disabled.
@@BrainEatPenguin We might all be caregivers someday if something happened to a loved one, but I agree. Not everyone wants that in a relationship and thats fine.
@@-simplicity7551 at least not in an initial relationship you know? Once you get there, and you made the commitment, most people dont thinj twice about caring for a lover they've been with for like 20+ years. It's just the initial relationship that turns most people away, which is also fine. Not everyone is properly equipped to take care of others in such a way
@@akirashiori6265 Yep exactly. New relationships are alot as it is. Takes certain people, if theyre perfect for you and you make a good team, its alot easier.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Doesn't caregiving come up in all relationships, even if both partners are ablebodied? As you go through life together, it's only a matter of time before one partner needs physical or mental help with something... how the heck can you be expected to separate love from caregiving? Pretty sure that's conditional love...
Dr. Phil's "burden" comment made me...angry. To everyone with a disability: YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN. Actually, to every person: YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN! Ooooooh yowza that's infuriating.
@aimee glatt Phil did say that 100/100 interabled relationships fail. That is beyond inaccurate. He pulled that one out of his ass. I know many interabled couples where the individual has a significant disability and they have healthy, happy relationships that span decades. Phil used the disability as an exploitive platform, but this couple needed mental health help.
Dr Phil never said he was a burden. He was saying how the guy said he felt towards his girlfriend. Some people didn’t watch or pay attention obviously. Some things are true that they are critiquing but a lot of it is ridiculous and not even close to what dr Phil was telling this coupe.
You made a very wise decision! You definitely dodged a bullet! You both seem like you have a genuine care for people - much respect! I’ve subscribed :)
With the exception of their live streams I believe their videos are now all captioned. The last few have used more traditional closed captions rather than the subtitles they have historically used. Try turning captions on for older videos and you may be surprised.
It's a thoughtful thing that many big youtubers miss. Having a foreigner mother language made me value closed captions so much when I still couldn't watch videos without subtitles. Also is PERFECT for when you're eating crackers or cereal and you can't hear a thing! Thanks Hannah for puttin' the effort everytime.
@Kale Ling Yes that's really important! I feel like there's no such thing as too much inclusion, goes to show how much you can do as a creator and as general honorable person. I also found that I tend to focus more with captions on!
I feel so proud of you both for not getting lured into doing a tv show that just didn’t feel right. You both have integrity, which is something that’s drastically lacking in this day and age. Your integrity, authenticity, and focus on positivity and gratitude, and be so generous in offering to help others “off-camera” is so refreshing to see... and that’s why I love watching you both on RUclips. Please keep sticking to being your awesome selves!!!!
I'm very proud of you guys! I think you definitely made the right choice! Significant others take care of each other, for better or worse, sickness or health. You guys are great role models for ALL couples!
You guys did the right thing. I don’t like how they make drama out of people’s problems just for entertainment and shame ppl or go in to their Bussiness. It’s like putting down people that have problems. Your relationship is so positive and you guys have such a positive outlook on everything. You guys are amazing!!! Love you guys!!!
I went through dr. Phil's tagged photos on instagram today. It makes me so happy that they are now FULL of interabled couples calling him out. He needs to learn from this and DO BETTER.
@@littledeel joe b, you need some counselling so that you can curb your anger issues and the tawdry manner in which you display yourself on youtube. I'm quite certain that your physician will be able to recommend a therapist close to your home. Best wishes, because I do hope you get better soon.
@@littledeel yes Dr Phil may be a puppet as producers produce the show but, Dr. Phil's going along with it. There is way more worthy causes in the world to get riled up about rather than how you did for this issue. You could get your point across better if you didn't show so much anger and if you didn't have a potty mouth.
dr phil is practically a reality show where they push the most dramatic narrative they want to sell per episode! suddenly all these extremely bratty instagram girls (obvious trolls) are appearing 😕 they’re more focused on drama than real therapy, i’m glad u guys turned it down!!
Iqra MaIik i think the show started with good intentions, but after danielle went on the show and they saw their ratings and views skyrocket, they started focusing on drama and not caring if they spread false information. dr phil hasn't helped anyone that's been on his show lately.
Thank you so much for this, and for every episode you share! SO many of us with a disability feel like a burden and we don't need that validated! Every partnership involves caregiving and intimacy in some form. Whether it's making tea when your partner has a cold, or helping after your partner gives birth, or if they're injured, or if they're permanently disabled.
Don’t even understand why he felt like he was in the position to say that. Couples like these guys, Cole and Charisma, and many other intérabled couples prove that to be so so wrong.
@mike gallimore There are a lot of things about real life that aren't romantic and a "turn on". Being in a relationship isn't solely about turning your partner on and it's certainly not all about romance all the time. If that's what you think the reality of a partnership is- then sadly you'll be in for a rude awakening someday and you likely won't make it very long in your relationships. Having a true and authentic relationship with another person takes work. It can be messy. It can be hard. And it can become even more so if you have children. Do you think childbirth is a turn on? Or caring for a person during an illness or after a surgery or supporting them through the death of a loved one? They're not. But do you know what is? Having a partner that sticks by you anyways. One that is there for everything- not just the good times and the romance. A person that accepts all of you- even the parts that aren't picture perfect. That's a turn on.
@Black Widow There are plenty of "whole men" out there that are emotionally disabled and disconnected and don't have a clue what it takes to be a partner. You're looking at one aspect of a relationship, the physicality, and making it the full picture.
You guys are a really unique and interesting pair without "the chair..." I'm glad you decided not to become a "poster child," not to assume an "expert" or "consultant" position on dr. Phil...it seems your gut feeling WAS spot on.
I watched the episode and I wish I hadn’t. That poll literally made me cry. Thanks for reminding me that no man is going to want to take care of me for the rest of my life. It was like he was telling the audience, this is what will happen if you date someone who is disabled. You’ll both be miserable. Your channel makes me so happy, but I’m very aware that the chances of me finding a man who would be interested in me are very slim to none. Very disappointed he did that.
I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in 1996 and married my best friend in 2003. He provides care for me and has never once made me feel bad about it. After 15 years we are still best friends. It seems that most people feel a disabled person should feel lucky that someone wants them. ugh! I have reminded a few people over the years that he likes me as much as I like him. :) Keep your chin up; you never know what the future holds for you.
I just polled 12 friends in a room. 12 our of 12 said if they had chemistry with that person they would absolutely date them Thats a 100 percent over here. Xxx You are beautiful and you will find someone. Xx
Honestly, I feel like the "Tinder" context skewed the poll. Tinder is all about the illusion of endless options and swiping on many people fast without really learning much about them; so for someone who never met you in person and only sees you as a picture and a set of traits it's too easy to just swipe left because it's "easier" to date someone able-bodied, especially considering that most able-bodied people are ignorant about disability issues and might feel awkward and intimidated by the idea of approaching this topic. However, if you meet someone in real life and you two get to know each other well, establish nice connection and discover that you two have great chemistly - I'm pretty sure your disability is going to matter A LOT less by then, awkwardness will not be a fear anymore and it's probably going to be very easy for the other person to overlook whatever might be bothering them about your condition. At least that's how it seems to me honestly. I'm sure you and your person will find each other someday. Wishing you all the best!
I’m with Eden, many people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who was disabled if they had a genuine connection with them. You’ve got this Dara! ☺️
Dara It’s not true. I would gladly take care of my man for the rest of my life if he became disabled. I’ve cared for a disabled relative and more than one disabled pet before, and I know what is involved. Anyone who says otherwise is just a cynic.
Communication and respect is HUGE in any relationship. I am a c6-c7 quadriplegic and have been happily married since 1998. We love, respect, and communicate every day, and that's what makes it work.
Did you guys hear about the Special Books by Special Kids crap going? RUclips has disabled comments and they are not taking it well. I feel so bad and we really need to rally around the channel! Could you make some sort of announcement to give them a boost. Idk, I feel so helpless and so angry at RUclips. Love u guys. Cheers.
I also believe something that is forgotten here. Plenty of people become a caregiver to there spouse due to health issues or an accident. Does he think they have to divorce because they have been in love for years and have to become the persons caregiver also. That does not make any sense. Love you guys! Just keep up what you're doing.
Admitting that you aren't qualified to give advice to an interabled abuse couple is refreshing and honest. You made the right choice, in my opinion.
Dr Phil wasn't qualified to give them advice too.
Lol
There should be a tv show where a therapist helps people who were hurt by Dr Phil.
Like botched but for mental health. I love it
@@BriannaHeartsU I'd watch the fuck out of that.
I would actually watch that show.
And Danielle Bregoli should absolutely be the first guest, followed by every single teenager that, that quack McGraw sent off to Turn About Ranch or any other facilities that’s making obscene amounts of money off of the “Trouble teen industry” I’d love to see those people held accountable for their inappropriate and sadly abusive behavior they inflicted on these kids under the guise of therapy.
You nailed it!
Thirty-seven years ago , I married a man with a disability who needed care . He was also 24 years older than me , but it was the best decision I ever made . He was the kindest , gentlest and most loving man ever . We went on to have four beautiful children and I have never regretted a day. When I watch your videos, you remind me of us . I hope you two will have a long and happy life together xxx
What a beautiful life youve lived. ❤️
so he is like 80 now? is he still alive???
24 years your senior and disabled. Wow
My mom was bedridden for most of my parents marriage, with fibromayalgia and chronic fatigue which later in life turned into stroke and Parkinsons disease, needing caregiving 100% of the time. My dad worked and caretook a lot for my mom over 30+ years and now he does everything for her. My dad is our hero.
God bless your dad. I hope family and friends help in caregiving to allow him some time off each week. My husband had a stroke at 48 years old, ( now 66) it can be draining handling everything.
Wha a HERO your Dad is. He is a man and a husband according to God's intended creation of a Husband 🙏❤️
Wow. You guys aren't only strong individuals in an interabled relationship, you are WISER than most couples as well.
Wow.
My hats off to you both.
You guys DEFINITELY made the right choice.
Agreed
@Aron Toulouse
Yes, unfortunately, things used to be more genuine, than they are now. From what I've heard from people in the show, the contract is _EXTREMELY_ important. The same thing with The Doctors. You can see what happened with a RUclipsr named Natural Kaos and The Doctors. It was crazy.
Totally agree. Dr phil makes money off peoples struggles, its pathetic.
@@ebogar42
Yeah right...
Get a life, _LOSER!_
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Thank you for saying "No" to Dr. Phil. I enjoyed him until i heard him say that "If you aren't having sex, you don't have a real relationship." There are a LOT of reasons a person/couple may not be willing/able to have sex, and i am directly affected by many of them (sexual orientation, disability, abuse issues). Our relationship is just as valid as any other - just as your relationship is valid.
Keep on loving any way you can. Down with Dr. Drama for views.
People forget asexual is an identity many people have. Also there are good looking woman that are majorly attracted to personality, over looks or sex.
Yeah... that’s like saying the four year relationship my husband and I had (without sex mind you) before we got married “wasn’t a relationship” at all.... though he would probably say that it’s because we met online and were long distance on top of that.
Seemed to work out just fine for us.
While that statement is wrong by Dr. Phil, there is a bond that is created by having sex with your partner that can’t be forged in other ways. It’s biologically evident as well. Your brain sends all sorts of chemicals through your system that help create that bond and your brain literally associates that person with love and happiness. True, that can occur in other ways, but not to the same extent as with having sex. It doesn’t mean your relationship isn’t real, but it is a biological fact that sexual intercourse creates a stronger bond with your partner neurologically speaking.
@@dustinweaver5040 I agree that sex can create a unique bond between partners, it isn't necessary for a loving marriage. Lots of couples can't have sex for one reason or another - it doesn't make them any less committed to each other.
So proud of you both. It's hard to say "no" to what others would say is "success" -- brilliant that you checked in with yourselves and communicated your position. That's beautiful.
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This is the first time I’ve seen your channel and can’t tell you how much respect I have for you. My son is 8 years old and is a very compassionate kid. Your message is the type of awareness I love him to be exposed to. Best wishes!
Lisa Ackroyd I’m glad you’re aware of what you expose him to.
"Like validating feeling like a burden. That's the kind of feeling we need to fix in our society."
PREACH SHANE!
I literally said "PREACH" out loud 😂😂😂
I respect this couple for making ethical and moral decisions, and staying true to themselves in reference to not going on the Dr.Phil show.
I literally laughed out loud when Shane said “if you ARE DR. PHIL... you won’t like this”
I saw that Dr Phil episode. You guys made the right choice not to go. This video should be shared with that couple and Dr Phil. You guys broke it down perfectly. I'm a C4 quadriplegic in a power wheelchair. Giving and receiving care when you are most vulnerable can be very endearing and is an act of love.
Just by seeing the title I knew you two made the right decision. People on his show (clips Ive seen) are very humiliated and ridiculed, it's sad it's all for entertainment.
Oh maybe because there is truth to what they said
The show basically is therapy for entertainment.
I saw the couple on the episode you’re talking about, I have noticed Dr.Phil can been offensive and harsh with people, which is the WORST thing a therapist could do when you’re trying to help somebody
Once he did a show with a girl who has DiD and tried to make her talk about her trauma in front of EVERYONE. She started to have a panic attack. What kind of "Therapist" would do something like that??? Those people have DiD because their trauma was SO severe that they needed to protect themselves from it, why would she want to share it with the world? He is disgusting.
I can't stand him either.
For me, I think the Dr Phil show is no better than a gossiping, exploitative, fake guests show, so proud of you both
Sounds like they wanted you guys for the _wrong_ reasons. You two are worth so much more than just being a 'token' interabled couple. I love how respectful you guys are about the whole thing!
I believe he would have said something like these guys are beating the odds or something more slimy
I DON’T WATCH HIM. Did for Years, but found Him too “HollyWood” after 50. Ha! You two did Your HomeWork: Crossed ALL The T’s & Dotted ALL The I’s! I am SO PROUD OF YOU! His LIFE is FAR AWAY from US. I am INVISIBLY DISABLED, married to an ABLED Man.***ALERT!*** Chris from SBSK NEEDS HELP!!!
Shane and Hannah are so emotionally stable. I believe that’s why their relationship works.
EXACTLY
Most people have deep rooted issues
What do you mean by that though? That more emotionally unstable people can't have happy relationships? Or just emotionally unstable disabled people?
@@matthewrandell5055 um.. It's a statistical fact that emotionally unstable people are typically unable to have stable relationships. That has nothing to do with physical disabilities.
@@merncat75 statistics? What are you talking about? Where?
merncat75 This a a little rude TBH. Its comparing apples to oranges. Their relationship works because they work for it. Simple as that. They work maybe harder because of Shanes limitations. And others with emotional problems maybe work harder because of their limitations. Its simple as that. Chill.
Dr Phil uses shock to create entertainment. You don't need that 15 minutes of fame. Stick to youtube.
Dr phil is a phony....!!!!
Cash me owside, howbowda😂😂😂😝
Unfortunately he didn’t start out that way 16+ years ago, but times have changed and TV ‘self help’ shows aren’t as focused on help anymore. A lot of things aren’t genuine anymore even on social media I take everything with a grain of salt.
Bullshit, he's helped more people than you ever have
@Jason and Julie Smith Zaza
I love when Hannah gets defensive and sassy, her message is so important!
U like both of them together but no shade Hannah could fatin him up a little more than what he is now, I think he would look great with a few extra pounds on him, no shade.. they both seem like great people ‼️💯🙏🏽👍🏾
She’s very good, she talks very good
Shane and Hannah, I have admired you and your approach to life and sharing your story with others, but I now have even MORE respect for you and the maturity you demonstrated with this decision. Keep doing what you are doing! You are educating and inspiring so many people!
Laura Dalton ditto....exactly what I was thinking!
Their level of maturity and the support of their families, are probably the main reasons their relationship works. Not everyone has that, disabled or not.
Just wanted to say that watching your videos has opened my mind so much about disabilities, I didn't realize all the prejudices/misconceptions that I had before. This channel is really a blessing!
Wow I knew Dr. Phil was a hack but mannnnnn.
This stigma is gross and I feel gross knowing that he thought that was like an okay message to send.
The fact you two offered to still try to help that couple, whom you’ve never met, off camera, is a rarely matched level of kindness. ❤️❤️
Honestly you guys are one of the only RUclips couples with a healthy relationship.
Fraggel Rock lol hundred out of hundred ? Lol 🙈
do you know them to say that?
I'm sure THEY do but your statement is so FLAWED.
I’m actually really glad you turned down the opportunity. It shows maturity. I love watching Dr. Phil, but ONLY for the drama. The show really does exploit people and try to create drama. It isn’t a professional environment. I really appreciate you both so much.
"Would you date someone in a wheelchair?"
My answer: I need to know more. Is he nice? Do we have things in common? Do we click? Those things matter. Not whether or not he is in a wheelchair.
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@@JamButter123 Username checks out.
Vella Bella then why are you here?
@@JamButter123 he/she is not a pervert. Sex and intimacy also matters in a relationship.
You guys get on great...subbed👍
Respect to Hannah and Shane for living up to what they believe in, and not trying to achieve fame at the cost of their values. What a beautiful couple
Thank you both so much for talking so honestly about your lives together it does help the ordinary folk understand that what you have for each other is real my partner has dimensia and has become nearly reliant with his daily needs because of a stroke which I guess is not as bad as having a lifelong disability but still has its difficulties but you guys are an inspiration I wish you all the best now and for your future years together real love like yours will alwys find a way god bless .
Finally RUclipsrs who choose to stay away from Drama. THANK YOU ❤ edit: YES OMG 62 awesome people tinking the same way about Drama
ikr, pants off for Hannah.
George Sears uuuuy nice
Proud to be #413 person to agree
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Proud Number 461!
Bravo! I beleive that Dr. Phil began with good intentions, but this is long gone. So sad. You two are amazing! I really enjoyed watching.
I agree, I thought he really cared in the beginning.
@Joseph Alberto Brenes Campos Go to school. The fact you said "You dumb" shows how dumb you are.
But Dr. Phil gives his guests great solutions, like turnabout ranch for rebellious teenagers.
Dr Phil’s not even a licensed psychologist
@@Jaaziar any advice will seem great to parents who doesn't know how to act like parents. Straight up stupid for anyone who believes that Dr Phil is their only hope.
So I loved Dr. Phil. (I was kind of blind to the problems in the show) and seeing this completely changed my perspective. I would have never looked at that episode that way without knowing about you two and hearing all of this. THANK YOU! I will not be supporting Dr. Phil anymore.
Jordan Rose they called me to do a show and I am thinking about going on... this helps
@@Lillpixeychic why did they ask you to go on the show?
A physically disabled person made me feel better about myself. I have a hidden disability. I actually have two of them. I have been ashamed of my disabilities for decades. Thank you whoever you are for your kind compassionate words. Your words gave me hope like no one ever did.
I happened to see that Dr. Phil episode. The message needs to be LEAVE an abuser. Nothing to “work through.” It is not a girlfriend’s responsibility to train him how to behave in order to have a healthy relationship.
I seen this episode too!! I knew exactly what they were talking about when they were describing it. That’s so crazy that they were asked to be on there. I agree that that man was very abusive to his girlfriend. She did so much for him and he treated her like garbage.. smh
Well on it’s own it’s not a bad message. But the problem is the framing. Like it’s a bad thing in itself that she had to be his caretaker. And that’s just shitty and disrespectful.
THAT was the issue, not that she was taking care of him, but that he was abusing her and not being appreciative. No matter the situation, wheelchair or none, no one deserves to be abused.
Lm S I searched up Dr Phil and that episode was the first result. I definitely think she should’ve left him.
That may be true, but abuse is a separate issue from disability. It sounds like Dr. Phil was saying that dysfunction is inevitable in inter-able relationships.
I am a forty-five year old former Marine and combat veteran who cares for a fellow Marine who is paralyzed/disabled because of a combat injury. Although we aren't lovers lol, he most definitely is my best friend and I would NEVER even think about turning my back on him! I lost my first wife to divorce partially because of the situation, but I am happily remarried to a wonderful woman that appreciates my loyalty to my friend. In no way do I think of him as a burden or a problem! It's unbelievable how out of touch Dr. Phil and other celebrities are with the common people. I caught a glimpse of Dr. Phil's personality years ago, and I did NOT like it at all. Anyway, I wish you two many, many happy and healthy years ahead. #Semper Fi
This is beautiful to read. Its beautiful that friendship can be so strong and solid as well.
Agree, beautifully said and thanks for sharing. Also, sending my sincere appreciation for you and your friends service and sacrifice to our country 🙏🏼🥰
I saw that Dr. Phil episode and was thinking about you two and the fact that most of what Dr. Phil said was crap. Also, he seems to have specialised in EVERYTHING! Glad you didn’t get associated with him!
Dr Phil is an unqualified quack who exploits vulnerable people for TV viewership, I'm glad they declined. They deserve better.
I thought about them too. He kept saying the girlfriend wasn’t qualified to take care of him mentally and physically, I would think she was perfectly qualified she was just burned out. I’m sure Hannah knows how to take care of Shane better than anyone as she does it day in and day out. As a nurse I always ask family and include them in care as they know what works for them because sometimes the way your taught in school isn’t always best or what works for them. In the same turn of his girlfriend was getting burned out he should have taken extra help, he was being selfish.
🤣 Agreed- it does seem like Dr. Phil thinks he has specialized in everything - Negativity and How-To-Encite-Drama especially
Kristen S when was this Elton I would like to watch it
As someone who was in an abusive relationship, I don’t think there’s a way to come back from that kind of treatment of each other, so I do think the advice to break up was warranted in that case. It can actually be really dangerous when couples in abusive relationships seek out couples therapy because the goal is often to preserve the relationship. This has nothing to do with disability and caregiving though! Perhaps related, my abusive ex called me an “invalid” because I was going through a chronic pain flare up toward the end of our relationship. I had to exit that situation because I knew I couldn’t survive with someone who was unable to accommodate me or even just let me prioritize my own needs.
Made a smart move. Now he can’t exploit you. You guys can tell your story your way.
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Exactly
It's definitely not exploitation. His guests go on willingly and are offered help beyond the show. Help that most people could never afford.
Turd Ferg It is their choice but not the kids choice. Some people go on last resort but I wouldn’t. My personal preference but I have problems like everyone else but prefer to be private.
We heard the story now it's just exploiting.on your end.
You are both changing perspectives every day, thank you for this video.
And thank YOU for spelling "every day" correctly. That's only like the second time I've seen that on youtube. :) It just made me happy. :)
@@jennhoff03 Haha, you made my night :)
@@gretakruse6683 :D I'm so glad! :D You made me happy, too!
This really bothers me!! My husband is wheelchair bound and I’m his caregiver. I’m not a fan of Dr. Phil!! Maybe it doesn’t work for everyone, but it works for us!! Man, I could go on and on about this!! Me being my husbands caregiver works great for both of us!! It actually works out great and we have a very healthy marriage!!💜💜
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Does it bother you because of his ignorance or because there's some truth to it??What if another person was your husband's caregiver since day one , wouldn't your daily life be more convenient and less exhausting and frustrating??( Don't telle there's no frustration or exhaustion from being his caregiver)
@@Carousel5883 she said that it works out great for both of them and they have a very healthy marriage. You're choosing not to believe the words she has expressly and concisely worded.
If somebody says they feel a certain way, don't go telling them they are wrong. They are the expert on their own feelings, not you.
I think it speaks to your own beliefs that you cannot believe that an interabled relationship could be a happy one, even when somebody expressly says that it is. You have no information to go on except this person's words - no knowledge of the couple personally - and you leap to the conclusion that the relationship is unhappy. It's obvious that you're basing your verdict on your own biases, because there's nowhere else it could have come from!
OMG I am so glad you guys have shared this experience of yours. I teach in Mental Health (non-clinical) and I have to explain to classes that Dr Phil is not therapy! *face palm*. The disrespect he shows towards people who are obviously feeling vulnerable and helpless (because - let's face it, why would you go on Dr Phil if you weren't?) is *infuriating* !!! Thank you for respectfully calling Dr Phil out!
Good for you two. My respect went from 150% to 200%. You two are amazing.
I’m so glad you turned it down and I’m so happy you made this video! People need to know this
Dr Phil is barely a doctor. I’m not even sure if he’s a Phil. Frick.
75egcg 😂
😂😂😂 omg scrolling down the comments, hit this one & almost spit out my coffee, that was fricken funny my dude.
He's actually factually not a doctor. He's an actor (lmao). His name and title is Phil McGraw, actor and personality. I'd call him an author, but I question his writings because he probably didn't write it himself. He is wise, however.
Dr. Phil is no Dr. He's a plumber
Ok you can criticize him, but that is a BS criticism- he spent more time than most MD’s getting that particular doctorate. 14 years to become a psychologist and the admissions is highly competitive. So stop acting like a bully.
Oh My MY!!! How much do i love you both!!!! So Much!!! teaching the world to be REAL and what Love looks like, i admire your message so much!
I want this to go viral, you two are very well spoken! I will always support u 😊
You’re relationship is so beautiful. It’s so humbling to see a couple that provide such a positive message. 💙
S.A. Moore it’s not. It’s disgusting
Supervisor JD i mean they found love but you didn’t. Who’s really disgusting?
@@supervisorjd4458 you are discusting, shame on you
You had me at
"if you are a fan of dr. Phil or of you are dr. Phil then you won't like this video"
So love Hannah and Shane..
P.s. if dr. Phil is the advice giver why would they need yall??🤔🤔🤔
Things that make you go nope.
You two are such a "celebration of life and love". More power to ya' - and your example speaks volumes of wisdom to both interabled couples and others alike!
Also Dr Phil gets off on making people feel down. It’s a power trip for him. So disgusting.
What's name of episode? I can't find if
All Dr. Phil videos have disabled comments.
Deshina Rajeswari Nanthakumar I noticed that after I commented that. I can’t imagine why they’re all disabled. 🙄
Shana Hagan just search for dr Phil quadriplegic
He is such a bully!
Not only did you make the right decision, but also your point about caregiving and being in a relationship being perfectly possible is so true. No one in a committed relationship knows what the next day will bring, perhaps your partner will get flu and you will need to nurse them, or for some people a dreadful illness like dementia or injury. If you love someone truly then being there to provide care for them if they need it is part of the deal. Also it is clearly not just one way in your relationship. Shane clearly cares for Hannah in many ways, even if he is limited in what he can do physically.
My aunt cared full time for her husband for nearly 40years after a motorbike accident and she loved him till the day he died! Was it easy...of course not! But she did a bloody brilliant job while also raising their two daughters. I am so glad you turned down his offer, you are an amazing couple and it just makes me smile when I see the clear love you have for each other! Hugs from Australia!
I have been with my bf for almost 16 years now and I have been disabled about 8 years of that. My bf is my caregiver and he also works a 40 hour week at his job. We have our ups and downs and yes I feel guilty and yes he gets burnt out sometimes but its never been abusive. It takes unconditional love and work on both peoples part, oh and LOTS of humor. We realized were both two imperfect people that arent willing to give up on each other.
Enchanted Reveries
Love and respect to the both of you! 💙❤💚💜
Every relationship takes work and I commend both of you for sticking it out through all of the ups and downs life has thrown at you. People underestimate how much humor can get you through things. Hugs and positivity to both of you.
YOU should be on TV
You two are so wise. I am proud of you both Shane and Hannah. God bless you.
One of my best, most loving relationships was with my ex who had cerebral palsy. We hardly ever fought and we ended on good terms bcuz he didn't want to move back home with me. I couldn't stay and he couldn't go. I still cherish the memories.
If your relationship is as toxic as the one on Dr. Phil... It's not the disability or caregiving, it's just a really bad relationship with two people who do not mesh.
I fell in love with the most amazing and hottest guy in college he was in a wheelchair and cerbal palsy, everyone wanted to date him and sadly he didn't have feelings for me but I talk to him now and then. Every person I have dated others with hidden disabilities like autism and they are the best I have had.
Corine Hennesy thank you for sharing that, it’s a sweet story. ❤️
I bet the sex was shit lol
@@casey7128 You have alot of growing up to do if you think sex is everything.
Congratulations Shane and Hannah for not going to Dr Phil's show! You are smart and I love the reasons why you decided not to go! Love you and admire you a lot!
There are also disabilities which aren’t congenital or the result of injury or disease. Can you even begin to guess the number of elderly couples who have become “interabled” over time?
stvbrsn I never though about that, true af.
stvbrsn that part 🌱
I'm guessing 100 out of 100, too quote Dr. Phil.😂
Absolutely agree with you, @stvbrsn! Car wrecks, work accidents, etc.
Exactly!
That's really sweet that you wanted to help them on the phone and truly help them and that you were willing to let go being on a TV show you guys are very noble people
I heard Dr. Phil is a script show so if you went on, I bet you would have had a script and be told what to say. So glad you didn't do the show. I had a special needs daughter and hearing him say that they are a burden on everyone makes my blood boil!!! I would do tripple the work if I could have her back. She was never a burden and I don't see any person with disabilities as a burden. You guys are an inspiration and such a beautiful couple. Thank you!
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You seem like a very god parent Sheryl.
It disgusts me when someone goes out of their way to say that a child is a burden on their parents. Like, if the parents are struggling with the kid, the kid probably already fears that it’s their fault to some extent, even though they aren’t to blame. Calling someone a burden is basically confirming that person’s insecurities, and that’s a horrible thing to do.
Dr. Phil finds interesting situations to exploit for views. Good for you guys for setting an example and not getting caught up on the spotlight 👍😊
So glad you didn't go to his show. I used to watch his show, I'm a retired RN with experience in psychiatric mental disorders s and I hate the way he addressed this issues, he can be a bully, he ridicule people
I only watched a couple of his shows. I quit when I saw him humiliate one of his guests.
He really does. I thought it was just me, but yea, that's not normal for people whom work in health care of any sort.
Omg yeah
You are so right! He was really hard on her.
Nitza Munoz , I disagree! Dr. Phil cannot be a bully. He is a bully!
I am so grateful that you turned down Dr Phil. Your honesty and compassion is just unmeasurable thank you for what you do and thank you for your love it's very inspiring
In this 15 min video you guys gave so much better advice than Dr. Phil ever did on his show.. I’m so glad you didn’t go on, you’re right it’s incredibly sensationalised and dramatic!!
So true!
That makes me sick as a disabled person with a lot of disabled friends. My best friend is caregiver to her blind boyfriend and they have been together 10 years and yeah they fight and have very normal issues like normal couples. Dr. Phil is a slime ball that has even said that he won’t help people on camera. Keep it up guys. Much love:
I love that you stuck to your morals! It is always good to take a step back before signing on to something like that!❤❤❤❤ Love you guys!
You guys are so smart to reach out to friends and families and then discuss together.....Your channel really goes beyond disability.....what a genuine caring relationship is like.
Glad you took the high road and didn’t go on that trainwreck of a show
I actually like watching the show lol
He actually is a good guy
m whittaker Amen
*Wow!* You two are great! Thirty years ago I fell in love with a man who was HIV positive and eventually married him and cared for him until he died of AIDS in 1995. It wasn't always easy, but it was always worth it and now I am a professional caregiver. I must say that I don't like taking care of people who are abusive, but that has *nothing* to do with their disability, just their attitude. Keep up the good work! 😊
Ariel Klay 👏🏼♥️♥️
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Jordi P Thank you so much!
Tamara louisa Saintil thank you so much!
Hey, you’re amazing! & I hope life is being amazing to you.
You made the absolute best decision all that man does is exploit ppl for ratings he helps no one
This is my first introduction to you two. I have watched several videos and was really skeptical before I watched them. I am so happy I watched several videos. It is evident that you both love each other and it is not at all what I imagined. You both are equals in the relationship and know the importance of communication. It is obvious this is a special relationship. Not so much because any disability but because you both are in love and dedicated to each other. So great to see!!
Yesssss I'm a licensed Social Worker and I hate Dr Phil so much! Thank you for being awesome.
His solution is always to contact other sources that do all the work.. plus hes very judgemental
@@juliehelms5727 like youve never hated someone. Dont act like youre so high and mighty. Dr. Phil is an uneducated twat that causes more harm than good.
heykelly I was born with cerebral palsy use a wheelchair and was a licensed social worker for 15 years I just retired in 2017.
@@juliehelms5727 so is judgment of someone's heart based on one statement about someone who repeatedly exploits and sensationalizes real people on national television for money
@@witchywomynwheels6823 congratulations on the retirement! That's awesome. I would love to see more diversity within the social work profession
I've been watching Dr. Phil on and off for a long time out of pure fascination. There are SO many scenarios where he shames different types of lifestyles and relationships. This is the final straw for me. Absolutely ridiculous and not going to be giving him the views anymore. Really, really disappointing.
Thank you for making this video!
Will you be doing a video to help Special Books by Special Kids with there PETITION
We have been talking to Chris about it for the past few days, and we are definitely going to help!
@@SquirmyandGrubs RUclips doing too much
Squirmy and Grubs you two are amazing!!
What's happening with SBSK?
Oh my god I saw their video this morning and it had me in tears. I feel so bad for Chris..he works too hard at what he does for youtube to pull this shit.
I've been disabled since 1998 and my husband has been right there with me. Thank God not everyone see's me as a burden, I don't what I'd do without my husband. Keep on smiling and being happy, your together because you honestly love each other and I think that's just beautiful.🤗🤗
I have a 3 year old son with cerebral palsy and although his disability is completely different than Shane’s seeing the two of you together gives me hope that he’ll be able to find an amazing person who looks past his disability and sees him for his personality. I love how well the two of you get along, keep up the amazing videos
Having a parent like you seem to be, who loves, cares and guides his way, makes him a very lucky human! So he learns that he is worth to be loved! That's all that matters to reach that goal for him! God bless you! Much love from Austria!
Thank youu, it’s him who makes me feel like the one who’s loved. Sometimes it’s hard not to worry about whether or not people will return the love he gives but then I’m reminded other people don’t matter
@@ginamendes560 Having such a great, loving and positive mommy is already more than a lot of people have. Your boy will have a very happy life with lots of love in it 💕
Hey he probably will!! My best mates fiance has severe cerebral palsy, her disability didn't stop her personality shining through and touching his heart, It isn't easy by any stretch her mobility is getting worse as we approach our 30's, but they make it work. I am hopeful your son finds the same!!
Calvo Tama love hearing that! It makes me happy to know it’s possible and not just a dream thanks for taking the time to tell me about your friend and his wife
"If you are a big fan of Dr. Phil or are Dr. Phil you won't like this vid"
Me: *Immediately hits the like button
Lol same!
Same here!
Same 💯
Me too!
Are you Dr. Phil?
I'm sorry but there is caregiving in every relationship. Couples take care of each other!! Isn't that the way it's supposed to be?
I mean it's a certain degree of caregiving not to be negative. It seems all great because it is not a persons reality but it can be more than basic caregiving and takes a special kind of love to maybe wipe your lovers ass, dress them or other various care within the disability spectrum. Imagine possibly having children as well and balancing the two. It's way more complicated than what it seems.
Desmear Sanders yeah, that’s why I didn’t really think it was fair for them to judge people for not wanting a relationship with somebody who’s disabled.
@@BrainEatPenguin We might all be caregivers someday if something happened to a loved one, but I agree. Not everyone wants that in a relationship and thats fine.
@@-simplicity7551 at least not in an initial relationship you know? Once you get there, and you made the commitment, most people dont thinj twice about caring for a lover they've been with for like 20+ years. It's just the initial relationship that turns most people away, which is also fine. Not everyone is properly equipped to take care of others in such a way
@@akirashiori6265 Yep exactly. New relationships are alot as it is. Takes certain people, if theyre perfect for you and you make a good team, its alot easier.
Thank you for sharing your experience.
Doesn't caregiving come up in all relationships, even if both partners are ablebodied? As you go through life together, it's only a matter of time before one partner needs physical or mental help with something... how the heck can you be expected to separate love from caregiving? Pretty sure that's conditional love...
Yes, exactly well said 👏🏼 This comment deserves more likes!
I don't even have to watch the video to agree with your decision.
Dr. Phil is a quack.
Great adjective to describe him
I got the upload notification and I was like "Well of COURSE they did. "
@@ki4gmb ikr 🤣
lol awe
I was going to say the same thing 30 seconds into the video! He exploits people for views.
Dr. Phil's "burden" comment made me...angry.
To everyone with a disability: YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN.
Actually, to every person: YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN!
Ooooooh yowza that's infuriating.
Some people are most definitely burdens, my sociopath father is an example. A burden that had to be dropped.
Some people cant help but feel like a burden though. No matter how much u tell them..sadly :/
@aimee glatt Phil did say that 100/100 interabled relationships fail. That is beyond inaccurate. He pulled that one out of his ass. I know many interabled couples where the individual has a significant disability and they have healthy, happy relationships that span decades. Phil used the disability as an exploitive platform, but this couple needed mental health help.
Dr Phil never said he was a burden. He was saying how the guy said he felt towards his girlfriend. Some people didn’t watch or pay attention obviously. Some things are true that they are critiquing but a lot of it is ridiculous and not even close to what dr Phil was telling this coupe.
whimsikate he never even said that you idiot.
You made a very wise decision! You definitely dodged a bullet! You both seem like you have a genuine care for people - much respect! I’ve subscribed :)
Shane and Hannah... you are REAL people and have your souls in check! I love you both! You’re real people. Keep being beautiful you!! ❤️
Well done my dears. A very good decision not to participate and a very good interview shedding more light on this. You have your heads screwed on. x
FACT: Squirmy and Grubs gives much better advice than Dr.Phil about being an interabled couple.
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How did u come up with this name? It is too funny! Yall always make me smile with your kind hearts and understanding
your a rude dick head go watch something else then you bored loser
Amen!
Kiane Keo or any relationship. They are goals
Thanks for captioning again guys. :) It's much easier to watch that way.
I'd rather wait longer for videos than for them to be uncaptioned
With the exception of their live streams I believe their videos are now all captioned. The last few have used more traditional closed captions rather than the subtitles they have historically used. Try turning captions on for older videos and you may be surprised.
I love the fact it is
It's a thoughtful thing that many big youtubers miss. Having a foreigner mother language made me value closed captions so much when I still couldn't watch videos without subtitles.
Also is PERFECT for when you're eating crackers or cereal and you can't hear a thing! Thanks Hannah for puttin' the effort everytime.
@Kale Ling Yes that's really important! I feel like there's no such thing as too much inclusion, goes to show how much you can do as a creator and as general honorable person. I also found that I tend to focus more with captions on!
I'm so happy for you guys! I think that you made the right move. All the best from Finland, love, Aaron.
I feel so proud of you both for not getting lured into doing a tv show that just didn’t feel right. You both have integrity, which is something that’s drastically lacking in this day and age. Your integrity, authenticity, and focus on positivity and gratitude, and be so generous in offering to help others “off-camera” is so refreshing to see... and that’s why I love watching you both on RUclips. Please keep sticking to being your awesome selves!!!!
I'm very proud of you guys! I think you definitely made the right choice! Significant others take care of each other, for better or worse, sickness or health. You guys are great role models for ALL couples!
I'm in a interabled relationship. I'm a c 5,6 quad. We have been together for 13 years and have a 6 year old and a 1 year old.
Wow Congrats. Glad You Found Someone Who Truly Loves You For You!!! Best Of Wishes To The Both Of You 🙏❤️
Aww, sending positive energy to you and your beautiful family! :)
Thank yall. :)
You guys did the right thing. I don’t like how they make drama out of people’s problems just for entertainment and shame ppl or go in to their Bussiness. It’s like putting down people that have problems. Your relationship is so positive and you guys have such a positive outlook on everything. You guys are amazing!!! Love you guys!!!
“If you are doctor Phil don’t watch this 😂”
I hope the jackass does watch this video!
I went through dr. Phil's tagged photos on instagram today. It makes me so happy that they are now FULL of interabled couples calling him out. He needs to learn from this and DO BETTER.
Petra Jetra your stupid as fuck... dr Phil doesn’t pick and choose who he makes an episode with. HE GETS TOLD WHAT TO DO. He is a puppet.
@@littledeel *you're LOL
@@littledeel right cause telling someone they're stupid as fuck makes you reliable
@@littledeel joe b, you need some counselling so that you can curb your anger issues and the tawdry manner in which you display yourself on youtube. I'm quite certain that your physician will be able to recommend a therapist close to your home. Best wishes, because I do hope you get better soon.
@@littledeel yes Dr Phil may be a puppet as producers produce the show but, Dr. Phil's going along with it. There is way more worthy causes in the world to get riled up about rather than how you did for this issue. You could get your point across better if you didn't show so much anger and if you didn't have a potty mouth.
dr phil is practically a reality show where they push the most dramatic narrative they want to sell per episode! suddenly all these extremely bratty instagram girls (obvious trolls) are appearing 😕 they’re more focused on drama than real therapy, i’m glad u guys turned it down!!
Iqra MaIik i think the show started with good intentions, but after danielle went on the show and they saw their ratings and views skyrocket, they started focusing on drama and not caring if they spread false information. dr phil hasn't helped anyone that's been on his show lately.
@@eludeofsaturn i agree! the show has become a platform for these kids to launch their careers as opposed to getting help
Thank you so much for this, and for every episode you share! SO many of us with a disability feel like a burden and we don't need that validated! Every partnership involves caregiving and intimacy in some form. Whether it's making tea when your partner has a cold, or helping after your partner gives birth, or if they're injured, or if they're permanently disabled.
in the episode Dr Phil claims she can't be his caregiver and his girlfriend, you guys prove that wrong
Don’t even understand why he felt like he was in the position to say that. Couples like these guys, Cole and Charisma, and many other intérabled couples prove that to be so so wrong.
Dr. Phil is not qualified to make any medical advice as far as I am concerned he's not a licensed doctor
I saw that episode, and the young man was suffering from depression to begin with.
@mike gallimore There are a lot of things about real life that aren't romantic and a "turn on". Being in a relationship isn't solely about turning your partner on and it's certainly not all about romance all the time. If that's what you think the reality of a partnership is- then sadly you'll be in for a rude awakening someday and you likely won't make it very long in your relationships. Having a true and authentic relationship with another person takes work. It can be messy. It can be hard. And it can become even more so if you have children. Do you think childbirth is a turn on? Or caring for a person during an illness or after a surgery or supporting them through the death of a loved one? They're not. But do you know what is? Having a partner that sticks by you anyways. One that is there for everything- not just the good times and the romance. A person that accepts all of you- even the parts that aren't picture perfect. That's a turn on.
@Black Widow There are plenty of "whole men" out there that are emotionally disabled and disconnected and don't have a clue what it takes to be a partner. You're looking at one aspect of a relationship, the physicality, and making it the full picture.
You guys are a really unique and interesting pair without "the chair..." I'm glad you decided not to become a "poster child," not to assume an "expert" or "consultant" position on dr. Phil...it seems your gut feeling WAS spot on.
I watched the episode and I wish I hadn’t. That poll literally made me cry. Thanks for reminding me that no man is going to want to take care of me for the rest of my life. It was like he was telling the audience, this is what will happen if you date someone who is disabled. You’ll both be miserable. Your channel makes me so happy, but I’m very aware that the chances of me finding a man who would be interested in me are very slim to none. Very disappointed he did that.
I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in 1996 and married my best friend in 2003. He provides care for me and has never once made me feel bad about it. After 15 years we are still best friends. It seems that most people feel a disabled person should feel lucky that someone wants them. ugh! I have reminded a few people over the years that he likes me as much as I like him. :) Keep your chin up; you never know what the future holds for you.
I just polled 12 friends in a room. 12 our of 12 said if they had chemistry with that person they would absolutely date them
Thats a 100 percent over here.
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You are beautiful and you will find someone. Xx
Honestly, I feel like the "Tinder" context skewed the poll. Tinder is all about the illusion of endless options and swiping on many people fast without really learning much about them; so for someone who never met you in person and only sees you as a picture and a set of traits it's too easy to just swipe left because it's "easier" to date someone able-bodied, especially considering that most able-bodied people are ignorant about disability issues and might feel awkward and intimidated by the idea of approaching this topic.
However, if you meet someone in real life and you two get to know each other well, establish nice connection and discover that you two have great chemistly - I'm pretty sure your disability is going to matter A LOT less by then, awkwardness will not be a fear anymore and it's probably going to be very easy for the other person to overlook whatever might be bothering them about your condition. At least that's how it seems to me honestly.
I'm sure you and your person will find each other someday. Wishing you all the best!
I’m with Eden, many people would choose to be in a relationship with someone who was disabled if they had a genuine connection with them. You’ve got this Dara! ☺️
Dara It’s not true. I would gladly take care of my man for the rest of my life if he became disabled. I’ve cared for a disabled relative and more than one disabled pet before, and I know what is involved. Anyone who says otherwise is just a cynic.
Communication and respect is HUGE in any relationship. I am a c6-c7 quadriplegic and have been happily married since 1998. We love, respect, and communicate every day, and that's what makes it work.
Did you guys hear about the Special Books by Special Kids crap going? RUclips has disabled comments and they are not taking it well. I feel so bad and we really need to rally around the channel! Could you make some sort of announcement to give them a boost. Idk, I feel so helpless and so angry at RUclips. Love u guys. Cheers.
Why, what happened?
@@sweetgirl070707 ruclips.net/video/Wy7Tvo-q63o/видео.html
I actually came here to say the same thing! He got their platform going, time to help!
Thank you for your notification!
Totally agree with you!!
I also believe something that is forgotten here. Plenty of people become a caregiver to there spouse due to health issues or an accident. Does he think they have to divorce because they have been in love for years and have to become the persons caregiver also. That does not make any sense. Love you guys! Just keep up what you're doing.
You guys obviously have more sense and decency than Dr.Phil could ever hope for. Good call.
I know I’ve said this already but you guys are such a beacon of light
@LizzyFri um...what