1.Emotional maturity ✔️- learn to separate emotions from facts💯 2.Heal from your childhood traumas✔️ 3.Focus on increasing your worth✔️: If you want to date better, be better. 4.Self love🎤🎤- you're the most important person in your life.✔️ Stop putting yourself on fire to keep other people warm. 5. Don't play games.✔️Nobody is a mind reader. 6. Set & communicate your STANDARDS.✔️ Know what you want and communicate it, if someone isn't willing to respect them, walk away.🏃 7. Don't commit too early, when you barely know yourself.✔️ Not earlier than 24 🚫 8. Pray for your spouse even before you meet him.✔️ 9. Express your femininity.✔️ Be vulnerable. Vulnerability is not an indicator of weakness but strength. Ladies, remember YOU ARE THE PRIZE 🏆. Pure gems.
A good man and a good woman comes from the lord.kuna ata huoana wakiwa pure bt pple change..there is nothing like a full package trust me...kuri atumia ngatha fiu..my opinion..simply pray pray pray.
I have never felt this pressure as a woman either from myself or from my family. From society I dnt even give it airtime. Got married at 31 and now expecting a child at 36. I have always believed things will fall in place in Gods time.
Thank you Muthoni, am a new you tuber, I felt like I found such a sister!!! I’ve been a victim several times but from now on , I choose to be better, put myself first, work on my healing and aim at choosing the right person for me by God’s grace! I love your vulnerability and openness. Blessings in your forthcoming marriage mrembo ❤️
To be honest the message is enough and satfying.wow!!we have enough comedians,singers etc but what our gal is doing we need it most than anything else..Be blessed and may God grand you more to always deliver to us..
Muthoni, I want you to know that you've been a blessing in my life. A great timely blessing. You have provided solutions to problems I never knew I could get out of. Thank you!
Thanks Muthoni. I am your senior by age, experience and by training in these matters but I can tell you that you are doing a great job. I love the way you are insisting on changing self to attract your kind. I encourage you to get professional training so that you can actually become an authority by experience and by training. Come to Pan Africa Christian University where I lecture for a degree in Marriage and Family Therapy or Counseling Psychology. Ignore the naysayers on your Facebook wall. You are doing well. Kudos!!
In here I found a big sister that I never had. I love how the knowledge comes out with ease. And am camping here forever because self development is a lifetime role on me for me. Thanks Muthoni, barikiwa Sana🙏
This video inspired me? Am 27 now and am learning to love myself...and working on myself.... hoping to get a husband... from my mouth to God's ears..amina
Newly single and in my mid twenties now. This could not have come at a perfect time. Thank you for this, I was really a people pleaser and now I'm starting the journey of self 💕
The book you recommended last time' You can heal your life'is such a gem. It talks about most things you mentioned on self love. I highly recommend it 💯💯
You're inspiring girl l learn alot through this Chanel before I used to blame myself for everything now I know how to love myself end go out my self buying gift end happiness ❤️❤️
yes thats true, and we are many out here with different ambitions and the way you run your life is the determinant of what path we will take in your life. meaning if your self esteem is low, we walk over you, coz we dont want to waste time raising it up, if you are poor in making choices and decisions then we manipulate you and deny you choices, thats where toxicity starts, if you dont value your dignity, then we will help in marketing that commodity, and thats where a man takes better advantage of you.
@@23568982 I did not mean it that way. I am sure she wasn’t desperate. I think she is a good lady, just not with enough marital experience to advise on the same. She is very wise though and I watch her videos diligently.
Am still wondering why people are so bitter about this video. This is the best advice ever I've learnt a lot. I think they didn't understand the content or the title of the video.
Muthoni, I also had the tantrums, drama and I was so emotional. I sacrificed my happiness and peace for them for years but now, I'm so strong that I don't entertain such and I'm grateful for you Muthoni, you've taught me alot of selfworth😊🙏
Thanks for reminding me to always pray I've been really desperate calling everyone in my phone book but they don't come by... Prayers are always answered at some point.🙏
More louder please! This video should go viral💞 Great mentorship for gal child 👌i hope gals are listening 👂it's time women stopped settling en putting up with disrespect. I love love love ladies with standards💃I've never understand how women move in with men🙄it have never crossed my mind.
Namesake , aky! si the best thing i did this year is finding you, u've really helped me in time i needed most, i am not that open to talk of my problems.thanks for your talks motivations aky uve beening a big sister who i have never had. DONT STOP !
There is one who told me we should move in to test whether we are good for each other, I told him to find other women to carry out marriage tests with. He thought I was joking, its 3 months now now he is waiting for me to test. The audacity some men have!!!
Good message Mso, Be leaving the links to your previous videos that you keep referring to. It will really help many of us. Otherwise good job. Thumbs up. GOD bless you.
Turning 30 early next year. I wanted to settle down before 30 and i was in a toxic relationship i was forcing to work out just to achieve my dream. I decided to quit last month.
It's sad.ive seen young people rush into marriages dysfunctional marriages forcing issues and becoming divorcees very early. Thank God we now have such platforms to educate us better
This is my first time here and am in love with you muthoni, I have now watched like 50%of your videos and it is very educative, to me I have always hard disfunctional relationships and I always blamed people
Thanks msoo for good advice...I'm on my early twenties and am greaful for the way you are preparing for us when the time comes.things we were never taught at school n home🥰
The lady may not be very experienced in as far as marriage is concerned but she has some facts..... lets work on improving our selves, thank you baby girl
You just did this at a time i need to hear it.. Its worth waiting not settling just for anything just coz we are miserable or desperate. The positive energy you show here is such an inspiration. It is never too late
I am just here after the fuss in social media and bloggers madness.. But seriously where is this gal advising people in marriage?! What is the meaning of all the fuss.. Is this what is called cyber bullying?!people in their thousands attack someone for what she has not said! Mwathani!!!!! 😱😱😱😱 I am so surprised
Hae muthoni I love your advise and topic they are so educative, kindly touch on the topic of how to deal with your ex when you working at the same place when you keep seeing them everyday at work
Thank you Muthoni for such a wonderful help to many!!! Wooow! I love the way you use self-disclosure because it makes all the difference! Self-love and setting standards, amazing!! May God bless you for sharing.
Muthoni I decided to watch all your vedios all day long since 4pm since am on leave and am like why did I miss your vedios😭😭😭You such an inspiration love
🤣🤣the text is longer than the duration of the relationship🤦. So bad. But really, to get a great man, Mind your own business. Work on your personal growth you will meet them on your purpose path. Don't chase attract!
You are talking out of excitement girl, maliza honeymoon and start marriage life it's too early to charge. Love is blind but marriage is the eye opener!
1.Emotional maturity ✔️- learn to separate emotions from facts💯
2.Heal from your childhood traumas✔️
3.Focus on increasing your worth✔️: If you want to date better, be better.
4.Self love🎤🎤- you're the most important person in your life.✔️
Stop putting yourself on fire to keep other people warm.
5. Don't play games.✔️Nobody is a mind reader.
6. Set & communicate your STANDARDS.✔️ Know what you want and communicate it, if someone isn't willing to respect them, walk away.🏃
7. Don't commit too early, when you barely know yourself.✔️ Not earlier than 24 🚫
8. Pray for your spouse even before you meet him.✔️
9. Express your femininity.✔️ Be vulnerable. Vulnerability is not an indicator of weakness but strength.
Ladies, remember YOU ARE THE PRIZE 🏆.
Pure gems.
Yes, you are the prize. Thanks for watching.
@@muthonismission Thankyou for always sharing. Your wisdom is much needed in our generation.❣️
I love this
Wow thanks for this
A lot of wisdom
I watched this video so I am able to become a good man to my wife and a better father to my daughters. Thanks, Muthoni. You are an inspiration.
This makes me happy. Thank you for watching.
Wow!
A good man and a good woman comes from the lord.kuna ata huoana wakiwa pure bt pple change..there is nothing like a full package trust me...kuri atumia ngatha fiu..my opinion..simply pray pray pray.
I have never felt this pressure as a woman either from myself or from my family. From society I dnt even give it airtime. Got married at 31 and now expecting a child at 36. I have always believed things will fall in place in Gods time.
As it should be. Thanks for watching.
This is so tourching and good
Thank you Muthoni, am a new you tuber, I felt like I found such a sister!!! I’ve been a victim several times but from now on , I choose to be better, put myself first, work on my healing and aim at choosing the right person for me by God’s grace! I love your vulnerability and openness. Blessings in your forthcoming marriage mrembo ❤️
Thank you. All the best.
When Muthoni talked about breaking down in the car that hit me thanks God He has fullfilled your heart desires
To be honest the message is enough and satfying.wow!!we have enough comedians,singers etc but what our gal is doing we need it most than anything else..Be blessed and may God grand you more to always deliver to us..
Thank you so much.
Muthoni, I want you to know that you've been a blessing in my life. A great timely blessing. You have provided solutions to problems I never knew I could get out of. Thank you!
You are more than welcome.
Thanks Muthoni. I am your senior by age, experience and by training in these matters but I can tell you that you are doing a great job. I love the way you are insisting on changing self to attract your kind. I encourage you to get professional training so that you can actually become an authority by experience and by training. Come to Pan Africa Christian University where I lecture for a degree in Marriage and Family Therapy or Counseling Psychology. Ignore the naysayers on your Facebook wall. You are doing well. Kudos!!
Thank you
I fully concur with this sentiment. You would make an excellent counselor, should it ever tickle your fancy
Wow. I want too
Thanks for watching ❤..instagram.com/muthonismission?
Kindly follow our new insta page
I love how you insist on not playing the victim & working on ourselves to be better .... You looking beautiful Msoo❤
Thank you
I found you Muthoni,I found myself .Thank you for the mission may God please bless you alot.🙏
Thank you too
In here I found a big sister that I never had. I love how the knowledge comes out with ease. And am camping here forever because self development is a lifetime role on me for me.
Thanks Muthoni, barikiwa Sana🙏
That is awesome! Karibu
"Let's take take the focus off the man
Let's focus on ourselves
We can only control ourselves" 🤩
Precisely.
yes, thats true, you have to learn to control yourself before getting a beast in your home, otherwise the beast will kill you.
This video inspired me? Am 27 now and am learning to love myself...and working on myself.... hoping to get a husband... from my mouth to God's ears..amina
Me too
Amen. Wishing you the best.
All the best
Newly single and in my mid twenties now. This could not have come at a perfect time. Thank you for this, I was really a people pleaser and now I'm starting the journey of self 💕
Thanks for watching. Wishing you the best.
The book you recommended last time' You can heal your life'is such a gem. It talks about most things you mentioned on self love. I highly recommend it 💯💯
Yes it does. Thanks for watching.
Where can I get the book
Our female Benjamin Zulu🥰I love your hair 😍😍
Thank you.
You're doing a great job Muthoni 👏
You're inspiring girl l learn alot through this Chanel before I used to blame myself for everything now I know how to love myself end go out my self buying gift end happiness ❤️❤️
I'm glad I could help. Thanks for watching.
Cheers gal,me here
Me too I learn a lot and I see changes on myself through your videos . God bless you
My take home: You attract different kinds of men but YOU CHOOSE who stays.
Precisely
👌
yes thats true, and we are many out here with different ambitions and the way you run your life is the determinant of what path we will take in your life. meaning if your self esteem is low, we walk over you, coz we dont want to waste time raising it up, if you are poor in making choices and decisions then we manipulate you and deny you choices, thats where toxicity starts, if you dont value your dignity, then we will help in marketing that commodity, and thats where a man takes better advantage of you.
I won't say much "I love you muthoni" such a nagget of wisdom you got mamaa❤️
Thank you.
My take is, you get married, go through storms of life, then know “How to find a good man”.
Thanks for watching.
She is just excited after been desperate now she got someone
She need.to take time. And see
@@23568982 I did not mean it that way. I am sure she wasn’t desperate. I think she is a good lady, just not with enough marital experience to advise on the same. She is very wise though and I watch her videos diligently.
Negative energy
You are thick if you got mislead by the title,the message is more about self awareness and for many it's home as intended!... @Muthoni keep up mama
The title is abit.... ...... but what u are talking about is GOLD!. Selfcare!! Girls!! Umeongea ukweli
Thanks for watching.
As you are improving yourself, know that God created the best, you are amaizing. Whatever God created is good... You are good...
Muthoni, kindly share some of the videos you watch for self-growth
I will definitely do that.
Yeah I support you in that please do
We need that actually.
Absolutely
Am still wondering why people are so bitter about this video. This is the best advice ever I've learnt a lot. I think they didn't understand the content or the title of the video.
Thanks for watching.
Here as well but single looking for this good man coz I deserve it in God time thanks mso we have x but not good story one day we be narrated
All the best.
Muthoni, I also had the tantrums, drama and I was so emotional. I sacrificed my happiness and peace for them for years but now, I'm so strong that I don't entertain such and I'm grateful for you Muthoni, you've taught me alot of selfworth😊🙏
Karibu
Thanks for reminding me to always pray I've been really desperate calling everyone in my phone book but they don't come by... Prayers are always answered at some point.🙏
I love this wisdom,please take mic and shout to this generation.
Wow this message is home. Who I am is a reflection of what I attract
Thanks for watching.
More louder please! This video should go viral💞 Great mentorship for gal child 👌i hope gals are listening 👂it's time women stopped settling en putting up with disrespect. I love love love ladies with standards💃I've never understand how women move in with men🙄it have never crossed my mind.
Thanks for watching.
Namesake , aky! si the best thing i did this year is finding you, u've really helped me in time i needed most, i am not that open to talk of my problems.thanks for your talks motivations aky uve beening a big sister who i have never had. DONT STOP !
There is one who told me we should move in to test whether we are good for each other, I told him to find other women to carry out marriage tests with. He thought I was joking, its 3 months now now he is waiting for me to test. The audacity some men have!!!
Good message Mso,
Be leaving the links to your previous videos that you keep referring to. It will really help many of us. Otherwise good job. Thumbs up. GOD bless you.
I will do that, Thank you.
Turning 30 early next year. I wanted to settle down before 30 and i was in a toxic relationship i was forcing to work out just to achieve my dream. I decided to quit last month.
It's sad.ive seen young people rush into marriages dysfunctional marriages forcing issues and becoming divorcees very early.
Thank God we now have such platforms to educate us better
I'm glad you made the right decision.
Thank you
Same here
Congrats
This is my first time here and am in love with you muthoni, I have now watched like 50%of your videos and it is very educative, to me I have always hard disfunctional relationships and I always blamed people
Welcome to the family Ryma, I hope the videos help. Thank you for watching.
Waow ❣️ I was also ready for drama but nowadays I did change, we need more of this girl 💘 you blessed girl
Thank you for watching.
You and Benjamin Zulu should do a collabo. Same school of thought, same profound knowledge. I cannot wait!
Thanks for watching
The number you have called yourself crazy is this video is so relatable 😁😁 to me
Thanks msoo for good advice...I'm on my early twenties and am greaful for the way you are preparing for us when the time comes.things we were never taught at school n home🥰
Thanks muthoni
It's quite encouraging.
I would like to get contact of a good therapist to handle and save someone in such problems
Wueh! Why did it take me too long to come here aki?... Thanks alot Msoo.. You are doing a great job
Welcome!!
MSO....I don't only love ur encouraging words...but also ur characters...I admire how u express ur message....be blessed mommy...u r my role model...
Thank you
You inspire me,, by encouraging women to love themselves.and raise their standards
Glad I can help.
Glad I can help.
I LOVE THIS! Thank you for your beautiful words. You are one wise woman. Continue sharing.
You are welcome
Your content matches your beauty. May God give you more wisdom, strength and finances koz u have a big heart.
Thank you Tabitha.
Aki and the way i have watched this video keenly to know where you went wrong becoz of some hearsay nimeskia kwa social media.
You are very right gal.
Thanks for watching.
The lady may not be very experienced in as far as marriage is concerned but she has some facts..... lets work on improving our selves, thank you baby girl
Thank you for watching Ssonni.
This advice earns 20 out of 10. Awesome!!
This is so helpful to us especially we girls who are in our early 20.be blessed.
Karibu, I'm glad I can help. Thanks for watching.
You just did this at a time i need to hear it..
Its worth waiting not settling just for anything just coz we are miserable or desperate. The positive energy you show here is such an inspiration. It is never too late
Karibu
Oh my God I just realized I don't love myself at all....I have a long way to go...finding myself. Thanks for sharing this.
You got this!
You are really a big sister to me. Your videos had really healed me Keep the fire burning gal.
waiting for more from you
You are welcome
For sure your mission is to make us be better people in the society and separate emotions with reality. I can listen to this everyday.
Thanks for watching.
Setting my standards and improving on myself are the most important key words that I have learned... Thankyou maah for the advice😍😍
Welcome
omg i feel inspired Muthoni...you are such a great inspiring lady....you are the best...today i just feel like am the one whom you are advising
I am glad I could help. Thanks for watching the video.
This is so true and spot on . When you have standards , automatically the man will level up .
True
Very true
Yani the insults pale fb because of this video is in vain. It's educative keep going Muthoni. 100k subs on the way
Thank you Mwai. Let's get to 100K
I get so emotional every time I watch your videos but in a good way because i relate. Thank you Muthoni
You are welcome Winnie.
I am just here after the fuss in social media and bloggers madness.. But seriously where is this gal advising people in marriage?!
What is the meaning of all the fuss.. Is this what is called cyber bullying?!people in their thousands attack someone for what she has not said! Mwathani!!!!! 😱😱😱😱
I am so surprised
Thanks for watching.
Some people are just bitter .
Well said Muthoni I think I have a long journey to work on myself .
...thanks alot
Hey young girl, where did you get all this wisdom? It cannot be said more.,, Good job, Keep it up!
Thank you for watching.
I pray to be adequate and i am praying
for him,meanwhile i am waiting for God's time😍😍thankyou Muthoni
You got this!
Hae muthoni I love your advise and topic they are so educative, kindly touch on the topic of how to deal with your ex when you working at the same place when you keep seeing them everyday at work
Great suggestion!
Thank you Muthoni for such a wonderful help to many!!!
Wooow! I love the way you use self-disclosure because it makes all the difference!
Self-love and setting standards, amazing!!
May God bless you for sharing.
You are so welcome
I am happy to know yearning for affection is normal.. I really love this..
Yes it is. Thanks for watching.
True Mso...always giving advice coming from a place of pure intentions..thanks girl!
You are so welcome
Muthoni I decided to watch all your vedios all day long since 4pm since am on leave and am like why did I miss your vedios😭😭😭You such an inspiration love
Thank you Eunice
Actually am still here and carefully listening for I am almost feed up bt, for now I will collect up myself again
Thanks for watching.
@@muthonismission together my dear
My wife come and see this one day marriage advising 20 years couple who bewitched kenyans
Thanks for watching.
Can people listen to her before judging. Content is top notch.
I feel like there should be a sadaka basket passing around because Amen sister, to everything you have said. So much wisdom 🙌 🙌
Subscribed.
😂😂😂😂 wow. Thanks for the love
Wow God bless you gal for the inspiring videos,they are soo powerful.
Good work Muthoni. Just to add.... when one decides to get a child out of wedlock, let them think of the child's welfare as well.
True
I can't explain how much your videos have helped me grow myself. You are my big sister!!!. 💗💗
🤗🤗🤗
Thank you so much muthoni your message is so much helpful to me i have nothing much to say but you are a messagers God sent me.
Muthoni please talk about "Introvert" especially those who are always indoors and single.
Will do that.
Thanx muthoni for your advice..actually its u r talking about me,Cz right now am in that situation😓n I need help...keep the fire burning🔥🔥
All the best
Wow, you’re doing good Muthoni, keep it up👏🏾👏🏾
Thank you, I will
Muthoni you are a gem in this generation.
Thank you.
I will start knowing myself
Eeeish!! Casual waaart!! Haha my gal, hugs, hugs mammie.
Thank you.
Hi Muthoni can you also talk about traits of a good man. Thank you
Sure
I am taking my time being 21hehehe I can't all Ur saying I huv done weh but I thank God I decided to focus 1st I have met pipo
🤗🤗🤗
Thank you,,,I will keep pushing,,he will come
You got this!
This is powerful. Continue doing the great job that you do. I started watching this channel some weeks ago and I'm here to stay.
Welcome aboard!
Msoo you are just amazing...you make so much sense. I love love your shows...
Thank you so much!
I have the courage to work on myself now. Thanks Muthoni 😊
You are welcome
Theres no formula for choosing a partner. We are all different
Thanks for watching.
I like your solid, practical and wise advice.
Thank you
🤣🤣the text is longer than the duration of the relationship🤦. So bad. But really, to get a great man, Mind your own business. Work on your personal growth you will meet them on your purpose path. Don't chase attract!
Thanks for watching.
Waow mammie you such a blessing i thought am the only one who just break down at times aww thank you now am gentle to myself
Not only you but many
Glad you are learning. Thanks for watching.
You are talking out of excitement girl, maliza honeymoon and start marriage life it's too early to charge. Love is blind but marriage is the eye opener!
Lol. Your experience is not everyone's experience. Thanks for watching the video.
You are a blessing in my life...God bless and keep you
You are so welcome
Wow,, Muthoni you are God sent. Great wisdom here.
Thanks for watching
Wooooi emotional maturity is the key
Yes it is.
This is nice content. I hope these men are there for us older women 40 and above 😊
Thank you for watching.
This message is so powerful...my role model 😊
My namesake...we can only control ourselves
True
Do not worry Abt biological clock!!God will bring yours!!! Hugs
Thank you for watching.❤❤❤