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  • Опубликовано: 16 июл 2022
  • This is second part of the interview with Shamsa Araweelo. After suffering FGM (female genital mutilation) Shamsa came back to Somalia for her gap year - there she was married to a man against her will, who then continuously physically and sexually abused her.
    Shamsa tells us her escape story and what kept her going....
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  • @LADbible
    @LADbible  Год назад +720

    Thanks to Shamsa for taking part!
    You can follow her here:
    instagram.com/shamsaaraweelo/
    instagram.com/gardenlocks
    www.tiktok.com/@president.araweelo
    ruclips.net/channel/UCjgdl-fJEiLy2FFi0i1bLhQ

    • @TristanBehrens
      @TristanBehrens Год назад +20

      I hope you have started paying your guests for their time, or at the very least covered their costs of travel, because they're the only things that make these videos interesting and we're aware you weren't in the very recent past.

    • @joshmajor8662
      @joshmajor8662 Год назад

      You are beautiful pretty lady, I hope you know that. That said, why the hell are you wearing that ridiculous head wrap haha 😂 atleast you fixed it a few mins in Lol I didn’t think that was meant to be in your face, glad I was right haha 😉👍 good luck in life!!

    • @philobetto5106
      @philobetto5106 Год назад +8

      Shamsa Araweelo, God made you strong... 'so strong, 'you will be the one people will turn too
      you know this in your heart

    • @robertletsch6714
      @robertletsch6714 Год назад +48

      @@joshmajor8662 Pay attention to her story Josh. Never mind her head wrap. It's her story of horror that she went through that's important.

    • @user-cy4vw1qj9m
      @user-cy4vw1qj9m Год назад +11

      A beautiful woman who has suffered so much.

  • @neoni6540
    @neoni6540 Год назад +6513

    She didn't drop a tear telling about her own physical pain but immediately broke up when she started talking about her mother. So much trauma caused to this girl...

    • @neoni6540
      @neoni6540 Год назад +126

      In fact I was expressing the opposite - this girl is so vulnerable. When she broke into tears it was obvious that her trauma is still with her.

    • @Qadromustaf123
      @Qadromustaf123 Год назад +40

      She😢 has a tiktok telling her all story and companing

    • @knaesh
      @knaesh Год назад +15

      @@Qadromustaf123 do you know what the account is called?

    • @ThePrincessAnmol
      @ThePrincessAnmol Год назад +25

      @@knaesh Shamsa.araweelo

    • @k.lorraine
      @k.lorraine Год назад +6

      woman.

  • @Jackdelfranco68
    @Jackdelfranco68 Год назад +4199

    I cannot believe that fathers, mothers and family would let this happen to their daughters. This FGM is evil!

    • @MSH786
      @MSH786 Год назад +2

      Exactly! And I cannot believe that the Uncle forced her to marry her cousin and the cousin ended up brutally raping her multiple times and also, by the orders of her Uncle, he physically abused her as well!

    • @bridgetmusoki2092
      @bridgetmusoki2092 Год назад +184

      You would be surprised about what culture can do to people

    • @promisealexander3952
      @promisealexander3952 Год назад +98

      @@bridgetmusoki2092 truly..i know a fam where the mother is aware the husband molest the daughter but does nothing about it.

    • @truman5838
      @truman5838 Год назад +89

      “The Prophet [ﷺ] married Aisha when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old.” - The revered Sahih al-Bukhari, 5134; Book 67, Hadith 70.
      Mohammed ra.ped a 9 yr old Aisha. Forced marriage. A 6 yr old cannot consent to marriage. And a 9 yr old cannot consent to sex. Common sense. Simple logic.
      Narrated 'Urwa:
      The Prophet (ﷺ) asked Abu Bakr for `Aisha's hand in marriage. Abu Bakr said "But I am your brother." The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "You are my brother in Allah's religion and His Book, but she (Aisha) is lawful for me to marry."
      حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، حَدَّثَنَا اللَّيْثُ، عَنْ يَزِيدَ، عَنْ عِرَاكٍ، عَنْ عُرْوَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم خَطَبَ عَائِشَةَ إِلَى أَبِي بَكْرٍ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَبُو بَكْرٍ إِنَّمَا أَنَا أَخُوكَ، فَقَالَ ‏ "‏ أَنْتَ أَخِي فِي دِينِ اللَّهِ وَكِتَابِهِ وَهْىَ لِي حَلاَلٌ ‏"‏‏.‏
      Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 5081In-book reference : Book 67, Hadith 19.
      Aishas father didn't even approve of Mohammed marrying Aisha.
      Sunan Abi Dawud 2147
      Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab:
      The Prophet (ﷺ) said: A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife.
      حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ، حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ، حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ، عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الأَوْدِيِّ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الْمُسْلِيِّ، عَنِ الأَشْعَثِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ، عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ ‏ "‏ لاَ يُسْأَلُ الرَّجُلُ فِيمَا ضَرَبَ امْرَأَتَهُ ‏"‏ ‏.‏
      Grade: Da'if (Al-Albani) ضعيف (الألباني)حكم :
      Reference : Sunan Abi Dawud 2147In-book reference : Book 12, Hadith 102English translation : Book 11, Hadith 2142
      Hitting your wife is acceptable.
      Surah 3:151: "We shall cast terror into the hearts of those who disbelieve (all non-Muslims) …"
      Surah 2:191: "And kill them (non-Muslims) wherever you find them … kill them. Such is the recompense of the disbelievers (non-Muslims)."
      Surah 9:5: "Then kill the disbelievers (non-Muslims) wherever you find them, capture them and besiege them, and lie in wait for them in each and every ambush …"
      Sahih al-Bukhari 304
      Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri:
      Once Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) of `Id-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) ?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ﷺ)! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion."
      حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي مَرْيَمَ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ، قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي زَيْدٌ ـ هُوَ ابْنُ أَسْلَمَ ـ عَنْ عِيَاضِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ، عَنْ أَبِي سَعِيدٍ الْخُدْرِيِّ، قَالَ خَرَجَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم فِي أَضْحًى ـ أَوْ فِطْرٍ ـ إِلَى الْمُصَلَّى، فَمَرَّ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ فَقَالَ ‏"‏ يَا مَعْشَرَ النِّسَاءِ تَصَدَّقْنَ، فَإِنِّي أُرِيتُكُنَّ أَكْثَرَ أَهْلِ النَّارِ ‏"‏‏.‏ فَقُلْنَ وَبِمَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ ‏"‏ تُكْثِرْنَ اللَّعْنَ، وَتَكْفُرْنَ الْعَشِيرَ، مَا رَأَيْتُ مِنْ نَاقِصَاتِ عَقْلٍ وَدِينٍ أَذْهَبَ لِلُبِّ الرَّجُلِ الْحَازِمِ مِنْ إِحْدَاكُنَّ ‏"‏‏.‏ قُلْنَ وَمَا نُقْصَانُ دِينِنَا وَعَقْلِنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ ‏"‏ أَلَيْسَ شَهَادَةُ الْمَرْأَةِ مِثْلَ نِصْفِ شَهَادَةِ الرَّجُلِ ‏"‏‏.‏ قُلْنَ بَلَى‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ فَذَلِكَ مِنْ نُقْصَانِ عَقْلِهَا، أَلَيْسَ إِذَا حَاضَتْ لَمْ تُصَلِّ وَلَمْ تَصُمْ ‏"‏‏.‏ قُلْنَ بَلَى‏.‏ قَالَ ‏"‏ فَذَلِكَ مِنْ نُقْصَانِ دِينِهَا ‏"‏‏.‏
      Reference : Sahih al-Bukhari 304In-book reference : Book 6, Hadith 9USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 1, Book 6, Hadith 301 (deprecated numbering scheme)
      Mohammed women are deficient in the mind.
      Let's not forget the women recently killed for simply not having their head covered.
      I live in Toronto Ontario Canada and a Muslim man and his son pushed a car into a lake drowning his daughters because his eldest daughter was talking to boy and her sisters knew about it but didn't tell him. She brought shame to the family. It was an honor killing.
      She's doing Muslim women a huge disservice by saying Islam doesn't teach men they can rape and abuse their wife/wives. They can also have sex slaves on the side. The verses I posted above are just a few examples.

    • @truman5838
      @truman5838 Год назад +52

      ​@@promisealexander3952 Why don't YOU say something? Notify authorities!

  • @adanibrahim9402
    @adanibrahim9402 Год назад +1441

    As Somali man I am deeply saddened to see our girls go through this kind of abuse can’t stop my tears 😭

    • @davidz3879
      @davidz3879 Год назад +95

      Have you told your family & friends that you oppose it?

    • @HA-jq1mu
      @HA-jq1mu Год назад +66

      @@davidz3879 its not really that common, so why are you acting as if his family does the same thing. As a Somali I’ve never know someone who has gone through this.

    • @lolaispure4296
      @lolaispure4296 Год назад +106

      @@HA-jq1mu really? Its your culture though. Ar are you so segregated from women you are oblivious to their struggles?

    • @firdosabashir6585
      @firdosabashir6585 Год назад

      do u even know what youre saying sexual abuse or domestic abuse isnt somali culture but early marriage it is

    • @cocobrowny
      @cocobrowny Год назад +1

      @@lolaispure4296 No, it’s not ‘his culture’. It’s the culture of SOME Somali Muslims. You saying that would be like some white person saying it’s black men’s culture to abandon their children, join gangs and go around killing each other. You can’t ascribe what a minority or section of a community/culture does to the whole damn community/culture

  • @Activisnbeams
    @Activisnbeams Год назад +2576

    As a person whose sister got sexually abused by a stepfather, I want to tell my story. When I was 17(20 now) I lived with my sister(14 at the time) , my mum, and my stepfather. Around this time I had 12+ years of kickboxing, boxing, and BJJ training experience so I was well-fit and capable of protecting myself and my sister. One night at 2 am while I was fast asleep my stepfather must've planned on assaulting my sister(For years he was known as a creep and a pervert towards her). He snuck into her room which is across the hall from where mine was and held a knife to her while he began to assault her. The ruckus they made woke me up and I turned on my bedside lamp. I forever think about what would've happened if I didn't. This caught his attention and he came into my room and stood over me as I was still adjusting to the light he stabbed me with the knife in my side( I assume he knew that with my fighting background I could fuck him up in a fair fight if I found out), just missing vitals but leaving the knife wedged in as I managed to push him away with my legs. My first instinct was to get up and out of there but he was literally in between the door and myself. He cursed me out and went to grab the knife again(i assume that's what he tried) but I shoved him against my desk and let off a 1 2 to his chin hoping to rock him enough to GTFO. I grabbed my sister who was standing in the hall screaming and hobbled to the kitchen to grab my phone and car keys(I was losing blood by the second). my sister helped me into the passenger side of the car and she started to drive(we lived outside of town) us into town while she called the cops and struggled to explain what had happened. At this time I had pretty much passed out from shock and blood loss. The rest I was told by my sister, I ended up in hospital while the police caught him at the house trying to manipulate my mother on what had happened. He ended up getting massive prison time for attempted murder and rape and I have some pretty gnarly scars to show from it. I probably wouldn't be in good shape if my sister wasn't as strong and brave as she was 3 years ago and if I didn't have as much training as I have I probably would've been dead and my sister seriously hurt. My heart goes out to all of the brave women who have to deal with these monsters.

    • @AtheneHolder
      @AtheneHolder Год назад +166

      I wish you and your sister well...

    • @slmdnkasr
      @slmdnkasr Год назад +127

      Damn. I hope the best for you and your family. That’s fucked up dude.

    • @Activisnbeams
      @Activisnbeams Год назад +155

      @@AtheneHolder thank you. We are doing very good. We are actually going to have lunch together this weekend.

    • @allysatmospheres
      @allysatmospheres Год назад +67

      I wish you nothing but the best for your future. Sending lots of love!! You and your sister are so strong.

    • @truman5838
      @truman5838 Год назад

      @@Activisnbeams That's your moms fault for not leaving him or kicking him out years ago.

  • @sarahillingworth9257
    @sarahillingworth9257 Год назад +5466

    This woman is so beautiful in so many ways. She is so emotionally intelligent and a survivor of pure horror. Her honesty is humbling and her strength an inspiration. I’m so glad she has a daughter to teach and I hope her voice is heard every place it’s needed.

    • @cherylobinque1239
      @cherylobinque1239 Год назад +28

      I agree with you...

    • @yyg4632
      @yyg4632 Год назад +51

      true. i hope she can heal. with her intelligence and self awareness it seems like shes definitely capable of great things and a lot of love.

    • @paulinehigham900
      @paulinehigham900 Год назад +40

      I can't even imagine going through that procedure, it's sounds horrific , why would they still behave in that way , I hope and pray for all the women and especially the young girls , that somehow this will change for them .

    • @bernitacenteno1326
      @bernitacenteno1326 Год назад +16

      Your courage and smarts are outstanding and truly inspire me. 👏👏👏👏👏

    • @mr.mrs.d.7015
      @mr.mrs.d.7015 Год назад +14

      I love her

  • @meshezza
    @meshezza 5 месяцев назад +164

    This woman is an absolute QUEEN. Beautiful, intelligent. strong, resilient and a mother. So glad she getting to tell her story. So sorry she went through that

  • @Mia-zx7nn
    @Mia-zx7nn Год назад +223

    can't believe that fathers, brothers, uncles, and cousins could do this to theirs own family. Sending so much love to this lovely woman.

    • @johnfone758
      @johnfone758 Месяц назад +1

      Religeon seems evil to me

    • @echo5935
      @echo5935 18 дней назад +4

      @@johnfone758she literally said it had nothing to do with islam

  • @edzbienen
    @edzbienen Год назад +3642

    The fact that this woman is about to cry the moment when she thinks about her mother's loss and NOT when she mentions everything she's been through it leaves me speechless she is a force of nature !

    • @edzbienen
      @edzbienen Год назад +31

      @@whitneyharris6162 Life was really hard with her. She could have given up when she lost her, idk how she didn't snap (excuse my english)

    • @saida817
      @saida817 Год назад +9

      You’re so right

    • @kostapapa1989
      @kostapapa1989 Год назад +19

      Nah, she is just coping. She is repressing those emotions because she can't face them.

    • @theprimitivista
      @theprimitivista Год назад

      this is the same mother that allowed her to be cut fgm at 6 and then didn't tell her ten years later that it would be a terible idea to travel alone to a foreign culture and that she would be married off to her first cousin who would ass@ult her constantly? Everyone in her family, mother included, KNEW what their kinsman and culture were capable of and what was to be expected. they conveniently didn't inform her, or supported this cultural practice. I just don't understand how the girl was so clueless. There wasn't a travel advisory not to travel to one of the poorest most dangerous places on earth for a female, and to go there ALONE as a teenager? something's missing.

    • @yourmajesty8742
      @yourmajesty8742 Год назад +4

      What a monster smh bless her heart ❤️

  • @amiejobe7010
    @amiejobe7010 Год назад +1980

    I was married off to an old man at age 8 at age 12 second marriage. This has to end. We have to speak out and people have to take this seriously to safe people from this nightmare

    • @Dalabombana
      @Dalabombana Год назад +108

      So sorry you had to go through this. It’s just not right children go through this when they should be protected. You should have been protected. I hope we find a way to end this horror and I sincerely hope and wish you all the healing and love in the world. ♥️

    • @exwaifupillow
      @exwaifupillow Год назад +33

      Do you know of a way anyone on the outside can help?

    • @isabellamedina5443
      @isabellamedina5443 Год назад +24

      So sorry you had to experience such things, sending you lots of love ❤️

    • @TheLala3000
      @TheLala3000 Год назад +13

      I am so so sorry that has been done to you. I don't think that the soul ever heals from that. But I hope you have good people around you and the best life possible.

    • @shireenramnarain4005
      @shireenramnarain4005 Год назад +13

      I dont think anyone can help
      BUT THERE IS "SOMEONE" OUT THERE WHO WILL COME TO HELP 🙏
      JUST BELIEVE

  • @Aishah-
    @Aishah- 5 месяцев назад +163

    As someone who’s undergone FGM type 4 everything she said is true😢 I’m also from Somalia and I remember I ran away when it was my turn and one of my aunts bit me with stick and they grabbed me and I was laid on the table screaming and shouting helplessly 😢 I cursed the day I was born😢 i also underwent Marital Rape and violation luckily I escaped to survive and I’m a single mom of a beautiful 5 year old daughter too.

    • @namjesus3789
      @namjesus3789 5 месяцев назад +18

      Im so sorry dear. I hope you are doing fine now. Sending love all the way from India💓

    • @missjo2036
      @missjo2036 3 месяца назад

      I wish I could hug you in person, but online will have to do. 🫂 🫂🫂🫂🫂🫂

    • @deedeemonroe1076
      @deedeemonroe1076 2 месяца назад +4

      Sending you and your body love today 💞 thank you for sharing your story

    • @bellaboo6098
      @bellaboo6098 24 дня назад +2

      😭

  • @brigittegouwy1366
    @brigittegouwy1366 Год назад +420

    Very strong of you to share your story with us. Your story touched me deeply and I wished I could give you a BIG BIG HUG. ... Leaving the past behind is indeed the best for your mental health. Pressing the 0 button and start a new life, as your mother adviced. Remember you are not alone. Hugs and love

  • @af3893
    @af3893 Год назад +1458

    Best advice to any person in an abusive situation, do not let your abuser know you're leaving. I slept with him, smiled, cooked, everything and I escaped because he let his guard down. This woman is so strong and talking about it takes more bravery than anyone knows.

    • @adrianeelise3849
      @adrianeelise3849 Год назад +53

      Sounds like the best plan ever.

    • @jesussaves2322
      @jesussaves2322 Год назад +15

      All have done evil “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23) The penalty for sin is hell (Revelation 21:8). Because of Gods love for us Jesus Christ came down from heaven to take the punishment for our sin on the cross in which he was spat on, beaten, mocked and laughed at.
      Christ died for the sins of the world and The third day God raised him from the dead (Praise God). This was done so that those who believe on Christ will not perish (hell) but have life everlasting (heaven); be justified by Gods grace through redemption in Christ (John 3:16) (Romans 3:24).
      The blood Jesus shed on the cross washes away our sin if we Believe in The Son of God and his finished work (ordained by God) on the cross. When this happens the believer receives the righteousness of Christ in place of their own unrighteousness (all sins are forgiven) and this makes them saved (going heaven) and they are born again as a Christian. (Romans 3:25-26)

    • @katiegraham6149
      @katiegraham6149 Год назад +53

      I did exactly this when I left my ex. I was afraid of what he would do so I waited until my family was pulling into the driveway to help me move out to tell him. The most important thing is your safety, and even if you're a little afraid you should just put yourself first and get yourself in a safe situation before leaving.

    • @LearnMarketingChannel
      @LearnMarketingChannel Год назад +11

      The true face of the ‘Religion of peace’

    • @vestinemusanabera5327
      @vestinemusanabera5327 Год назад +27

      Exactly what my mother did...I fear marriage because people are cruel and wicked...

  • @mattm2025
    @mattm2025 Год назад +3086

    As a white Canadian guy I don't even know the correct way to comment to something like this..
    I wanted many times to turn this interview off because it was so upsetting, but I felt it was important to watch. Her story needs to be heard.
    If it was me, I'd bring us both back in time and I would walk every step with her, and dispatch all the shitty people, that betrayed her, into the afterlife.
    She's amazing. She's beautiful. And there love in my heart for her. A remarkable woman.

    • @lourdesprudencio5647
      @lourdesprudencio5647 Год назад +107

      Love your statement, omg. People are so cruel...

    • @lisaMmango84
      @lisaMmango84 Год назад +121

      Your sentiment sounds sincere & beautiful. We cannot go back in the past but we can support people through their recovery with love, compassion and positive words/acts of kindness/Etc.

    • @astrohitter1791
      @astrohitter1791 Год назад +22

      Its the more brutal, savage version of the morman situation

    • @Indiemakeuplover
      @Indiemakeuplover Год назад +30

      I could not have said this better.

    • @mattm2025
      @mattm2025 Год назад +11

      @@lisaMmango84 excellent point

  • @alankatz7819
    @alankatz7819 Год назад +62

    She’s actually having therapy just by doing this interview. Extremely powerful.

  • @saracrane7244
    @saracrane7244 Год назад +71

    I have never wanted to hug someone so much before. Thank you for telling your story

  • @nahlamaterne7369
    @nahlamaterne7369 Год назад +1768

    Shamsa is a Beautiful, Strong, and Resilient Woman. The fact that she is able to relive her trauma by telling us what she's been through is Courageous. She deserves earth, the moon, and the stars !!!!

    • @kimberlyspiegelhalter467
      @kimberlyspiegelhalter467 Год назад +18

      …along with the respect she deserves.

    • @marymwasaru7983
      @marymwasaru7983 Год назад +4

      I honestly Love you shamsa, I feel so so sorry for you but am relieved: that your daughter will not go through it like you, Cursed are those men who sexually and physically assault women lots of hugs shamsa for your bravery and courage to speak out this evil spell,

  • @libz-
    @libz- Год назад +2487

    im somali male myself and im completely against forced marriage and FGM. this hurts because the same thing happened to my older sister , i hate myself cause I couldn't protect her i was too young .

    • @mytruecrimelibrary
      @mytruecrimelibrary Год назад +350

      It wasn't your fault. 💔

    • @thatsthat2612
      @thatsthat2612 Год назад +335

      The lady above is right. It wasn't your fault, you were just a kid. youre speaking up now and not being a part of it and that's worth everything

    • @mytruecrimelibrary
      @mytruecrimelibrary Год назад +78

      @@thatsthat2612 beautifully said ❤

    • @horizonblack
      @horizonblack Год назад +182

      I am sorry for your sister, but you didn't have the power to stop a cultural practice. If you can, stand up for women now. Thank you for your honesty.

    • @8Kyt
      @8Kyt Год назад +27

      God bless hope the best prayers

  • @MilesOBryan
    @MilesOBryan Год назад +133

    A powerful telling of horror rape and ongoing abuse that touched me so deeply. Thank you Shamsa for your courage and sensitivity in using your voice. Your voice is powerful. YOU are powerful. I don't know or when or how we will be able to change the culture of male privilege, assumed belief men have been taught that part of our "privilege" is the domination and abuse of women, but it must change. I try to try and keep on trying to do my part every day. I send you love and prayers.

    • @janetblanc7658
      @janetblanc7658 Год назад +4

      Miles, on behalf of women thank you for trying.

    • @janetblanc7658
      @janetblanc7658 Год назад +1

      @William Tell as a woman my experience has been that fathers teach their sons respect for their womenfolk, not mothers. A young man who sees his father mistreating his mother will often go on to repeat the bad behaviour. My father was so courteous to my mother and we grew up with his values. And believe me, there are a lot of men - at least here in Switzerland - who like to bully women. Fortunately, the majority are decent and respectful.

    • @agnescraig2912
      @agnescraig2912 9 месяцев назад

      This domination of women is still a work in progress. Iran with hijab, Afghanistan with burkas, Middle East with hijab Niqab selling girls to old men in marriage and on and on it goes. Muslim women in the West never question these cultural traditions which are barbaric

  • @BracerJack
    @BracerJack Год назад +69

    She is SO STRONG to be able to "keep it together" to tell her story.
    WHY are we living in a world where this could happen ?
    Why are we bringing new life into a world where this could happen ?

  • @melancholiccatharsis9914
    @melancholiccatharsis9914 Год назад +2806

    My sister was a victim of this too , we are refugees who lived in somalia decades ago. Unfortunately , she was killed by her husband after a family dispute we had. He sent a video of her getting raped by multiple men to my mum. She still hasn't recovered from it . I still haven't recovered . The worst part of it all is the fact that the man is out there now living his life to the fullest

    • @youknowme1475
      @youknowme1475 Год назад +246

      Damn that is sad

    • @thearmchairjournalist566
      @thearmchairjournalist566 Год назад +319

      My heart breaks for you and your family, my god the grief you must be bearing would be horrendous 💜

    • @CashanovaXTREME
      @CashanovaXTREME Год назад +448

      He will pay for his evil acts, if not in this life in the next. The karmic toll is real and people will have to deal with it, one way or another.

    • @itsjust_deanna
      @itsjust_deanna Год назад +136

      I’m so sorry and I hope your sister is at peace 🙏🏼

    • @user-cj4fu8qq9b
      @user-cj4fu8qq9b Год назад +11

      is she alive?

  • @0ChildStar
    @0ChildStar Год назад +1294

    I went to school with a girl who had FGM done to her. This was 1994, girls in the class brought her homework assignments, snacks and support. She missed 3 1/2 months worth of school. I was shocked no teacher reported this to CPS. This happened here in America. ☹

    • @redsqrds3980
      @redsqrds3980 Год назад +63

      They probably didn't give a damn

    • @isabellecasier5702
      @isabellecasier5702 Год назад

      Ignorance is the ultimate crime.
      Woman are at the end of the violence, the mutilation goal is to degrade your strenght. Men believe that part of your body represents everything over them, so they need to distroy it. It is cultural, religion is the excuse and lie.
      They forget one thing, our strenght does not come from our genitals but from our hart and will to survive. we and only we we can give life, jalousy I supose.
      How horified I am, I also admire this woman. Take care of yourself and your daughter. I also hope you did get to that hospital, they can realy help you reconstruct physicly, mentally is whole other can of worms. But let it end with you 🙏

    • @shillelaghhines3748
      @shillelaghhines3748 Год назад +34

      Totally legal if they say its cultural

    • @nutanbyakod2781
      @nutanbyakod2781 Год назад

      Fundamentalists don't let the school run dear..they start protesting outside schools. Violence erupts they start throwing stones..they say their culture is more important than education.they stop sending their children if the school authorities report it to police. Every country has a group called liberals...they start shouting govt is depriving girl child's right to education...They make it international issue. Politici ans politicise the issue.. Even the fundamentalists use such issues for there personal benifit..
      That's what happened in India karnataka... The school authorities asked the students not to wear hizab in the class room because it is not part of the school uniform code. During this tug of war between school authorities and fundamental ists other students suffered a lot.. So your school authorities didn't report it to police.. Very smart move by your school authorities dear,

    • @0ChildStar
      @0ChildStar Год назад +6

      @@nutanbyakod2781 This happened in 1994.

  • @jhanvijamwal
    @jhanvijamwal Год назад +55

    her story shook me to the core , the strength that this women carry in herself is commendable

  • @rubysparkles3194
    @rubysparkles3194 Год назад +65

    This is one of the most powerful stories I've heard in my life. I'm so glad she escaped and has managed to make a good life for her and her daughter. Absolutely no one deserves to go through this.

  • @keatonscreations
    @keatonscreations Год назад +992

    I just want to hug her. It’s so clear that she has overcome so much and is so strong, yet is still carrying so much pain and weight. The way she stalled between details, seeing it in her mind and trying to find words to explain the horror… I hope she gets the therapy she is seeking. She deserves all the support and healing!!

    • @angelladavis2250
      @angelladavis2250 Год назад

      That is what pisslam does to girls and women.

    • @noelgibson5956
      @noelgibson5956 Год назад +7

      I'm an Australian male. I could never sleep, or be involved with a woman who wasn't a willing participant. The joy of marriage and sex is when both sides are happy with it.

    • @ACXIAO666
      @ACXIAO666 Год назад

      Hi i was just wondering , will she also be doing this FGM procedure to her daughter when she reaches 6 ?

    • @petehira1594
      @petehira1594 Год назад

      Who could do such as thing let alone her own family this is horrendous evil ! I hope she gets the best from life with the such good attitude she has.

  • @Yaya88007
    @Yaya88007 Год назад +561

    When she said that the best thing she did was to move away from the toxic people and their culture and start somewhere else new where no one knew her.... It hit me real hard.....
    She is a survivor and I'm so proud to hear her voice

    • @creativeschool5232
      @creativeschool5232 Год назад +10

      It takes enormous courage to share such a painful story. She's an anazing human being.

  • @kimberlydavis5034
    @kimberlydavis5034 Год назад +46

    Your mother gave you excellent advice before she past. To move away from all the toxic unhealthy abusive relationships is the best thing you did for yourself. I'm going to move also and go somewhere no one else knows me and start over after the years and years of abuse I went through in my lifetime.

  • @finechina.
    @finechina. 9 месяцев назад +47

    MAN! This girl has been through alot. On top of this 24 minute video there's ANOTHER almost 24 minute video of her surviving FGM. I hope she's doing well ❤️❤️ That's too much suffering, she's so strong.

  • @Sophie-pv5jo
    @Sophie-pv5jo Год назад +725

    Shamsa’s story is horrific, and it’s even more tragic that I’ve heard this same EXACT story a million times. Girls who’ve grown up in a western country are either convinced to visit their birth country to meet their relatives or they’re physically kidnapped and brought there. Once they’re in their birth country they’re forcibly cut and married off. It’s just a HORRIFYING practice and even more horrifying is I have no idea how to help end it except to say do not go back to that country of your free will. It is not worth the risk of this happening to you

    • @davidz3879
      @davidz3879 Год назад +34

      In most cases, it's their families who do this to them.

    • @bonnylouwho76
      @bonnylouwho76 Год назад

      Sophie, thank-you, I just feel so sick about this violent and unrighteous mutilation, forced child-marriage and child-rape. You have said the facts, given the warnings, this is what you can do. When another opportunity presents where you can speak out, do that too. That is how we do it, once shout-out, one supportive statement, one affirmation at a time. Thank-you.

    • @dylandonaghue6750
      @dylandonaghue6750 10 месяцев назад +2

      I guess in your country of residence (not the country of origin), form a support group for young females coming of age so they have someone to turn to if their family is starting to pressure them, or if they fear that will happen. That would be my only suggestion. I feel frustrated that this is going on in the world. I would love to help if I could

    • @hamdiyazid200
      @hamdiyazid200 6 месяцев назад +2

      Well my mother too went through FGM. She was young and thought it was a good thing needless to say she went through a lot of pain. I grew up in America (my mother is from Somalia) and she tells us even if we were born here she would never do that to us even snipping a little bit

  • @PieterBreda
    @PieterBreda Год назад +689

    What goes into men's mind to mutilate their children like that? It is dark, twisted and hateful.

    • @helgaotto7801
      @helgaotto7801 Год назад

      Ok simp

    • @ari_jean
      @ari_jean Год назад

      Today - tradition.
      Originally - need to control female's sexuality so that she only belongs to one man.

    • @PieterBreda
      @PieterBreda Год назад +62

      @@fritnat Good point. Maybe also their mother.

    • @PieterBreda
      @PieterBreda Год назад +46

      @@fritnat Thanks. This culture is so distant from mine that I can't fathom it

    • @PieterBreda
      @PieterBreda Год назад +11

      Well. In the past all marriages were business arrangements and had nothing to do with love.

  • @ElisabethBusse
    @ElisabethBusse 5 месяцев назад +12

    And here she is ... speaking out loud to save others from suffering this pain. She uses her voice the best way she can. ... ❤

  • @kydramanuel
    @kydramanuel Год назад +125

    This is absolutely heartbreaking. I wonder if any of them have bleed to death. Because of this.. there is a special place in hell for everyone that has caused trauma like this on other girls/women.

    • @85amil
      @85amil Год назад +16

      Absolutely there’s many stories like that.

    • @Violetbunnyfish
      @Violetbunnyfish Год назад +2

      I have heard of a case where a young girl bled to death after being mutilated like that. I know she isn't the only one.

    • @AngelOfMusic9430
      @AngelOfMusic9430 Год назад +2

      In part one of this, she talks about how so many girls bleed to death as a result of FGM

  • @kyla6538
    @kyla6538 Год назад +425

    Her mom was able to rescue her baby girl before she left this world. A mother will fight until the very end for her children.

    • @deeqohassan9182
      @deeqohassan9182 Год назад +9

      Sorry our mother’s believe a woman has to be married or be in the grave

    • @marilynegli1779
      @marilynegli1779 Год назад

      Maybe I misunderstood but didn’t her mother approve of the original brutality to her genitals?

    • @deeqohassan9182
      @deeqohassan9182 Год назад

      Her mother was great mother she even help her to scape but I am talking about majority of mothers they will not help you some will even tie you a robe on top of the bed so that it will be easy for him to have sex with you

    • @LionIron447
      @LionIron447 Год назад +14

      Unfortunately not all mothers will Protect their children, some are cruel and among the perpetrators 😟

    • @Erika-gm2tf
      @Erika-gm2tf Год назад +1

      Mothers that fight to the very end for their children do fight to the very end for their children. That's certainly not all mothers and doesn't seem to even be the majority of mothers. Many mothers are twisted, psychotic monsters that perpetrate systems like the one here that Shamsa speaks out against.

  • @fahdiarfah2428
    @fahdiarfah2428 Год назад +1194

    I had it done at age 4 I still remember the pain I felt .my heart goes out to all the young girls who went through that trauma .

    • @Peace704032797
      @Peace704032797 Год назад +32

      😢😢

    • @emilieaustin7527
      @emilieaustin7527 Год назад +61

      Sending hugs and prayers to you sister :(🤍🕊

    • @janetblanc7658
      @janetblanc7658 Год назад +60

      Sweet girl, at four years of age? That is so cruel. You were still just a baby. Who decides on this, the men or the women? Don't mothers stand up for their little girls? I am so so sorry for the pain you went through. Please be safe and happy from now on. ❤️

    • @cynthiakeller5954
      @cynthiakeller5954 Год назад +50

      @@janetblanc7658 The women make a party of it. They went through it and find it acceptable. May the girls find the strength to stand against it and not do it to their daughters when they have them.

    • @janetblanc7658
      @janetblanc7658 Год назад +34

      @@cynthiakeller5954 Some party, watching a tiny child in agony. I don't get it but it's just a different culture. As you say, let's hope the new generations reject it.

  • @jessmc6243
    @jessmc6243 Год назад +19

    Shamsa is one of the strongest women I've ever seen. And she is doing so much to fight against FGM practices now, so incredibly inspiring.

  • @angelcoyote9802
    @angelcoyote9802 Месяц назад +4

    “If you have a voice, use it.”
    Beautiful, powerful interview.
    I’m so glad you got free!

  • @RAGEHXARAGO
    @RAGEHXARAGO Год назад +650

    I’m a Somali man, and I can tell you only this my sister, well done. Your a hero, and your brave and amazing Allahumabarik, your safe now Alhamdulilah, may Allah grant your mother jannah, and give you and your family ease. Allah will hold those monsters accountable. The younger generation ie me and you will fight this sick tradition. Thank you for clearing that FGM has NOTHING to do with Islam my dear sister. Keep shinning. 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

    • @shork1847
      @shork1847 Год назад +94

      We cannot stop this without the support of men like you. Thank you so much for commenting this.

    • @user-zc3tn2we1g
      @user-zc3tn2we1g Год назад +49

      Dear brother, may Allah bless you for this comment. Let's fight for our sisters.

    • @yyg4632
      @yyg4632 Год назад +27

      thank you sir. you could just sit back and relax but you chose to care and thats a great thing.

    • @cwhit8481
      @cwhit8481 Год назад +8

      And just because someone seems to be for you, could be an enemy trying to attack you because you are speaking out. Don't be deceived.

    • @saida817
      @saida817 Год назад +1

      🤲

  • @clionamoore8365
    @clionamoore8365 Год назад +829

    This is still happening on a daily basis all over the world . It’s so important to hear a woman like this speak out . We’ve been so indoctrinated to not question multi cultural practices that it silences victims and disables potential allies from other communities from fighting against these violent backward cultures .

    • @lavish_1717
      @lavish_1717 Год назад +19

      You will be labeled ray cyst for questioning these beliefs

    • @olenavoynich5852
      @olenavoynich5852 Год назад +16

      I agree. And this poor girl was fooled by her parents who let her go to this terrible place to "embrace her culture". But also by England, that should have prevented this by at least providing fair information on what could she expect from her amazing culture and marvelled country (bare in mind, she was underage when she left). I can't imagine and comprehend what she went through. She is incredibly courage to speak out about her story and I just hope that her story at least prevents other girls like her who live in developed civilized countries from terrible cases like this. And yes, there is nothing wrong to call countries, where the rights of their citizens are protected, civilized.

    • @noraa.616
      @noraa.616 Год назад

      Very, very true! And actually, traditions are forbidden in Islam (so ‘cultures are forbidden’), which is good, because so many girls are being harmed because of m!sogynist ‘cultural' nonsense that God didn't approve of. Evidence that 'culture/traditions' is something that God is against, is in verse 2:170 in the quran. If we made this information go viral, then girls can better be protected from the psych0s that want to hurt them. It is also forbidden to care about what people say (which is fantastic because many ‘families’ unfortunately care about what people say, but, if those families respect God, then they shouldn’t care about what people say, because he ordered people not to care about what people say, and to fear him instead, the scripture is in 2:150). Also, anyone that harms women and girls will burn in hell forever (Since an atom's size of arrogance will make a person burn in hell forever, according to what the prophet of Islam said, and forced ‘marriage’ is both arrogant & forbidden; honor killings are also both arrogant & forbidden in Islam, and abuse is an arrogant behavior, too). So any male that harms women and girls will burn in hell forever. 1 in 3 women suffers from physical or sex*al v!olence from a male intimate partner so we need to raise awareness to help them. And the prophet himself married divorced women (and widowed women, too), as a clear sign that women had the right to divorce and get married again to someone else, too, if they wanted. His adopted son’s wife divorced his adopted son without giving any reason for the divorce and the prophet allowed that, so clearly, no one has a right to pressure a woman to stay in a marriage that she doesn’t want. And, any forced ‘marriage’ is invalid so any children born from it are illegitimate according to Islam (because the actual consent of the woman is essential to make a marriage valid). And FGM is an arrogant psych0tic practice (and arrogant people burn in hell forever, in islam). And child ‘marriage’ is forbidden because God ordered for fairness, and it is unfair for the girl to be tortured and tormented for the sick pleasure of the weak male (and he is weak, since he is exploiting and torturing a girl or a woman), and Aisha never got pregnant so it is unfair to compare her situation to the rest of her gender (Aisha is the third wife of the prophet that males like to imagine she was 9 when she got married, but, she never got pregnant, so males are very illogical and sick for comparing her to the rest of her gender; she never went through the difficulties of pregnancy and she never gave birth, so she never dealt with vaginal tears and she never got continence that often happens to girls who give birth. Again, God ordered people to be fair, so it isn’t fair to compare Aisha to the rest of her gender, since most of her gender can get pregnant unlike her, so child ‘marriage’ is forbidden because it is forbidden to be unfair). Do you believe that sharing this info would make the world a better place for girls and women? Would you please share such info with journalists?

    • @divine9100
      @divine9100 Год назад +3

      Yes revealing is healing✨ The silence of wickedness is a disservice to one "Soul"
      all evil doers will be dealt with Ase'

    • @justfarmin1711
      @justfarmin1711 Год назад +8

      if you want to ''know'' a People... observe how they treat their most vulnerable (BARBARIOUS is the only word to describe them)

  • @lounaperez7275
    @lounaperez7275 Год назад +37

    What a brave and beautiful lady she is. I sincerely hope that one day she will meet a person who she could love, and trust and who give her a happy life. 🙏

    • @hospice4206
      @hospice4206 Год назад +2

      She needs to learn to provide her own happiness and contentment. That's the problem, boys and girls are made to believe that someone needs to want to think them worthy of happiness which gives others power over their quality of life and thus happiness is a carrot on a stick.

  • @norahtchuba8480
    @norahtchuba8480 Год назад +16

    It has taken me a week to finish this video. Everytime I cry thinking of my 4yrs old daughter. Samsha, your beautiful, your beyond strong. No one deserves such an experience. Reading through the comments and learning that the first procedure is actually done by being pinned down by your own mother, my God! My heart pours out. To both the mother and the daughter. No mother can not feel the pain of hurting her own flesh and blood regardless of culture. Lord have mercy 🥺

  • @maishafarjanamridul
    @maishafarjanamridul Год назад +438

    She talked about everything so gracefully but ended up crying for her mother! 💔
    I’ll be praying for you and your daughter you beautiful girl!

  • @johnnyjoestar7143
    @johnnyjoestar7143 Год назад +1008

    You know you've crippled women really badly when it comes to the point where they are spreading the ideology to another woman. Luckily for us, my mum ensured that FGM ended with her but some of her family judged her for that and continue to inflict it to their kids. I have a memory of being bathed by a female family member and being told mine will grow into a penis one day cuz it wasn't cut, I had a lot of nightmares.
    I can't thank my mother enough for protecting me and as more of us protect our own children this stupid tradition will go away soon inshallah.

    • @2degucitas
      @2degucitas Год назад +53

      The same lie is told in Mali.

    • @user-ov7gl4cd3t
      @user-ov7gl4cd3t Год назад +38

      Allhamdulliah my parents didn't mutilated us either 🙏🙏

    • @jessicanhlapo9339
      @jessicanhlapo9339 Год назад +52

      Women must realize who they are. It's not being rebellious. Subservience does not mean that you should become an animal to society. No wonder some cultures do not want women to be educated. Oppressed by insecure men.

    • @Jg-rv5oj
      @Jg-rv5oj Год назад +10

      ohhhhh my God!!!!! what!!!! this backwards way of thinking!!!!!

    • @emilyb5278
      @emilyb5278 Год назад +1

      That's horrendous. The clit is their for orgasms and health. It cures period cramps. Allows blood and oxgygen all over your body and helps relaxation. There are so many health benefits. It's monstrous to do this to a girl.

  • @melliulynn
    @melliulynn Год назад +19

    I cannot wrap my mind around how she survived all that! This is unbelievable!! Nothing but love for her. I hope she can heal!!

  • @petercarr6599
    @petercarr6599 Год назад +45

    What an angel, hope you receive all the help you need. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @victoriahiley8395
    @victoriahiley8395 Год назад +336

    May the women of Somalia rise up and stop this barbaric practice and may the men who are aware bloody well help them!

    • @fanskate2744
      @fanskate2744 Год назад

      Impossible. They are a demographic of low IQ people.

    • @karenalves1156
      @karenalves1156 Год назад +12

      Cultural thing is hard... Remind her talking about how other women there were like "oh you pleased your husband, that's awesome"... I've always thought about one thing: patriarchy only succeed due to much women's help or permission, we've not came to this point only by male's hands, therefore we will not be able to leave this position with only women's hands too, both genders need to be envolved in every sort of change or nothing will really change.

    • @fanskate2744
      @fanskate2744 Год назад

      @@karenalves1156 if the men are tyrannical there is nothing women can do. Somalian men are primitive and women are raised by them and thus follow suit and that is their problem. Responsibility doesn’t lie with the women who are amenable but with the men.

    • @berrybloom2000
      @berrybloom2000 Год назад +4

      And may the men RESPECT women as they respect their MOTHERS..! May sexism end and stop now! May child all forced labor and sexual acts come to an end!

    • @michiga5220
      @michiga5220 Год назад +1

      🤣🤣🤣BS its women in our country who propagate this practice

  • @thearmchairjournalist566
    @thearmchairjournalist566 Год назад +509

    To have gone through FGM and then this would break most people!! You are a strong woman and I think a role model for young women today 💜

    • @ACXIAO666
      @ACXIAO666 Год назад

      Hi i was just wondering , will she also be doing this FGM procedure to her daughter when she reaches 6 ? or did she already do it to her

    • @Africanquueen
      @Africanquueen Год назад +1

      @@ACXIAO666 Why would she do it to her daughter after what she has been through. Stop being ignorant n asking stupid questions.

  • @cgorman036
    @cgorman036 Год назад +21

    don’t know if Shamsa will see this or not, but i want her to know her story stopped me in my tracks. being a SA survivor myself, i am so proud of her for sharing everything she did. she is beyond strong, beyond brave, and i hope everything in her life falls into place perfectly. she deserves the world and so much more ❤

  • @mooka4515
    @mooka4515 Год назад +5

    Shamsa is one of the most incredibly strong human beings I've ever seen. Thank you for sharing her amazing story of resilience.

  • @chants_22
    @chants_22 Год назад +270

    She didnt let a man reduce her to tears, only crying for her sick mother -- that in itself shows how strong women are emotionally and physically but have been re-branded by men as weak and full of emotion. The men is this story never stood up for her and their only strength was physical violence, which is actually a huge weakness. Her story tells you all you need to know about not only her as a person but societies constructs and how it has allowed the patriarchy to get exactly what they want -- this has to stop

    • @annaabugre6391
      @annaabugre6391 Год назад +6

      Well said, this is soo true women are actually emotionally strong.

  • @chrisgray8666
    @chrisgray8666 Год назад +385

    As an 19 year old man I am in shock at this. I have no words. I cannot even explain how bad I feel for this girl. Heartbreaking

    • @waynexl2641
      @waynexl2641 Год назад +12

      Lol 19 year old man 😂

    • @Freiya2011
      @Freiya2011 Год назад +24

      @@waynexl2641 What is ridiculous???

    • @Laura-sg6ss
      @Laura-sg6ss Год назад +4

      @@waynexl2641 🤣🤣yeah ikr, reading that made me giggle a little but I mean 🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @waynexl2641
      @waynexl2641 Год назад

      @@Freiya2011 don’t worry about it…

    • @Freiya2011
      @Freiya2011 Год назад +3

      @@waynexl2641 I don't worry. I asked a question. Are you not able to answer?

  • @sjpaswett7942
    @sjpaswett7942 Год назад +10

    What a strong lady. Its difficult trying to imagine the pain she went through. Not easy to sit so firmly and stately to speak about such a thing. Hats off to you Shamsa ! Keeping you and your baby girl in Prayers every minute and I'm sure your daughter will grow up like a female warrior under your care, love and guidance. May God be with you both every second of your life. 🙏

  • @h.bobomb
    @h.bobomb Год назад +10

    What an honor to hear her story. I bet she is a fantastic mother. Wishing her hope and happiness :) One of the strongest women I've ever seen.

  • @kyla6538
    @kyla6538 Год назад +400

    I feel so much RAGE toward her rapist!!! I just cannot put into words the anger I feel toward him. I hope karma gets him and tortures him every bit as bad as he did her and I hope it lasts the rest of his miserable life. What a sack of sh!t waste of a human life. I hope it eats at him every day that she got away from him. She is so brave strong and beautiful, she isn't a victim anymore, she is a survivor now.

    • @krislatoya7556
      @krislatoya7556 Год назад +57

      And it's crazy to know he was ONLY 16. Extremely disturbing.

    • @yyg4632
      @yyg4632 Год назад +23

      its so sad that so many rapists, all over the world never, ever get justice. even in the west. ESPECIALY in countries like that where its literally the "culture". i really don't know if karma is real, I really don't.

    • @judithryle2113
      @judithryle2113 Год назад

      Is her rapist husband the father of her child

    • @aliciachristopher6506
      @aliciachristopher6506 Год назад +5

      I'm sure he didn't think he did anything wrong.

    • @barbarella.artist
      @barbarella.artist Год назад +11

      Girl. He is 15… he is a victim too: a victim of brainwashing and a lack of understanding.. his brain isn’t even fully developed yet
      His parents / the culture / the community is to blame for this horrible situation

  • @caseydixon2001
    @caseydixon2001 Год назад +288

    What an insanely strong woman. Seeing her get upset about her mother, and taking a deep breath and pressing on..... What an inspiration. She's so resilient.

  • @Ohcurlygirl9611
    @Ohcurlygirl9611 Год назад +72

    Incredible brave lady, live a beautiful life with your little daughter xx

  • @rhiannonr
    @rhiannonr Год назад +9

    My heart hurt so, so, so much hearing this. Like it's physically being squeezed. Thank you Shamsa for sharing your story. x

  • @annabellw865
    @annabellw865 Год назад +276

    It's almost like her mum was waiting for her to make it back and be safe again before she passed away. This young lady is so strong and I'm glad that she could at least say goodbye to her mother. I wish her all the best in her healing journey

  • @fadumoisse6481
    @fadumoisse6481 Год назад +573

    What I can get over as Somalia woman is that our mothers and grandmothers hold us down while parts over our body is being chopped off and few years letter expect us to go through all that pain all over again for some so called husband’s pleasure and when we say no or try to talk about our experiences we become the problem in our society.

    • @lisalove6739
      @lisalove6739 Год назад +18

      It's the fact it already hurt and then with that procedure it multiplies by 1000

    • @nutanbyakod2781
      @nutanbyakod2781 Год назад +8

      Yes dear.. You will be considered as shameless and burden to the family .

    • @bellaolum9768
      @bellaolum9768 Год назад +14

      They don't know any different life, that is all they have ever been exposed to. So sad!

    • @latifah008
      @latifah008 Год назад +10

      It’s so hard being a Somali woman, everything is our fault, hadii lugu furo it’s your fault if you get raped waa qaladkeena… somaali men ma qaldamaan

    • @nutanbyakod2781
      @nutanbyakod2781 Год назад +5

      @@francescabuonanno2333
      Every culture has its own social problems.Iam from India.. We to have so many problems.. We r sincerely trying to overcome those problems.. And I proudly say we have completely overcome some problems.. But I am proud of my culture.. Every one should be of proud of their culture..

  • @MEL-xn4yt
    @MEL-xn4yt Год назад +145

    Her story, her truth, is gut wrenching. I feel that as many people as possible must see this & share this. We live in a society of young people that are never happy, never appreciative & yet think they are owed everything. This woman sheds light on the real atrocities faced by some in this world & yet she does it with grace. I’m in awe of her strength. To the filmmaker, thank you for giving these women a platform to use their voices. They deserve to be heard.

    • @user-uh9bl6lg8w
      @user-uh9bl6lg8w Год назад

      Its in their faith K uur aann..

    • @dia4729
      @dia4729 Год назад +5

      You shouldn't disvalue nobody's feelings! Very unnecessary. Just because others are going through more difficult situations doesn't mean they aren't also going through difficult ones. Other than that I agree this woman is an example and most people should hear about this situation.

  • @kosipova01
    @kosipova01 6 месяцев назад +5

    What a terrible turn of events during your gap year. I’m so happy you are working thru the trauma and towards healing. ❤

  • @englishquran3964
    @englishquran3964 Год назад +685

    And this actually still happens till this day and will carry on 😣. Absolutely barbaric.
    I wouldn’t encourage anyone to go visit “family” in such countries or embrace that “ culture “ I wouldn’t even call that a culture. It’s shame we can still see that happening…

    • @thatsthat2612
      @thatsthat2612 Год назад +5

      @@chipcook5346 excellent idea although I think the Americans would benefit more. Theyre far more insular

    • @shyeahright
      @shyeahright Год назад +23

      This isn’t the entirety of the culture. If you can’t understand that then you can’t understand wanting to connect with something more than yourself.

    • @teosandell4278
      @teosandell4278 Год назад +45

      @@chipcook5346 That mentality is the exact same as saying that you can't be sad because other people are sadder, or that you can't be happy because other people are happier.

    • @muffincandle1413
      @muffincandle1413 Год назад +22

      Backwards countries like that should be boycott.

    • @sharondanya
      @sharondanya Год назад

      the anti-culture

  • @fathimaumar3988
    @fathimaumar3988 Год назад +321

    For the first time in life I heared about FGM, through this video. Out of curiosity I googled what it was and saw the pictures. I'm a 24 year old woman and I am crying my hell out of. Now I can really imagine the internal and external trauma you had had.

    • @ItzMinniieJ
      @ItzMinniieJ Год назад +10

      Me too 😢I had no idea they did this to girls, for practically NO reason just for their beliefs 😑

    • @idontknow1630
      @idontknow1630 Год назад

      @@ItzMinniieJ We dont do stuff like this for our beliefs, theres just sick fucks out there who for some reason find this appropriate

    • @quangurl6905
      @quangurl6905 Год назад +3

      Oh my me tooo very cruel 😔😔😔😔😞😞😞😭😭

    • @misst.e.a.187
      @misst.e.a.187 Год назад +1

      Where have you been?

    • @tayalysse3
      @tayalysse3 Год назад

      Made me cry when I learned of it last yr as well

  • @tinaplunkett8795
    @tinaplunkett8795 7 месяцев назад +13

    Condolences on losing your mom after only being back for 7 days.
    I’m sorry for what you have endured

  • @anyapavlenko9981
    @anyapavlenko9981 Год назад +12

    Thank you for sharing your story. I’ve experienced things in my life in which I can relate to you. I knew what it’s like to be held against my own will, to be raped, beaten, abused mentally and emotionally. I’ve struggled with ptsd, anxiety and depression b/c of all that trauma. Most of it happened around age 6. Sometimes I feel so depressed and i’m so much pain from that stuff that I don’t want to be here anymore, but I remind myself that better days are coming and I keep going. I don’t know if I’ll completely heal from that stuff, but I’m working thru it. It’s difficult to forgive those people and I pray about that b/c I want to be free of the hatred I have towards them. The shame I feel to this day is hard to shake off but it’s a relief to know there’s other people out there who can understand these experiences.

  • @shyeahright
    @shyeahright Год назад +188

    This woman is so strong and so brave. I hope that she writes a book. She has a compelling story that needs to be told to EVERYONE.

  • @maxgilmour4322
    @maxgilmour4322 Год назад +180

    and the fact she’s still here to tell all this this had me in tears

  • @Pollyjisdabest
    @Pollyjisdabest Год назад +58

    God bless this woman 🙏 She is beautiful inside and out. May she heal and live in peace

  • @watercongas
    @watercongas Год назад +12

    You can see how strong she is when she only started tearing up talking about her mother having a brain tumor. Before that, she managed to tell her story and talk about the abuses and her abuser all while keeping he composure

  • @yyg4632
    @yyg4632 Год назад +334

    I'M SO DAMN GLAD HER MOM WAS THERE FOR HER. I can't imagine how many people have 0 people to turn to in this situation. Who's families support the abuser. Thank God because thats probably the only reason this woman is still here today.

    • @chants_22
      @chants_22 Год назад +45

      wasn't it her mother that made her have FGM though? Was she really there for her?

    • @tymakaeli1480
      @tymakaeli1480 Год назад +8

      @@chants_22 right that's what I'm thinking idk who rescue her but glad she was and hopefully she's getting the therapy and help she needs to continue on 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 sounds so horrifying I really can't put my head around what she went through FGM sounds so evil, lord have mercy

    • @jesussaves2322
      @jesussaves2322 Год назад +1

      All have done evil “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23) The penalty for sin is hell (Revelation 21:8). Because of Gods love for us Jesus Christ came down from heaven to take the punishment for our sin on the cross in which he was spat on, beaten, mocked and laughed at.
      Christ died for the sins of the world and The third day God raised him from the dead (Praise God). This was done so that those who believe on Christ will not perish (hell) but have life everlasting (heaven); be justified by Gods grace through redemption in Christ (John 3:16) (Romans 3:24).
      The blood Jesus shed on the cross washes away our sin if we Believe in The Son of God and his finished work (ordained by God) on the cross. When this happens the believer receives the righteousness of Christ in place of their own unrighteousness (all sins are forgiven) and this makes them saved (going heaven) and they are born again as a Christian. (Romans 3:25-26)

    • @keithfaulkner6319
      @keithfaulkner6319 Год назад

      Except her mother is the one who butchered her in the first place.

  • @joshuareed3999
    @joshuareed3999 Год назад +343

    I can't imagine the fear she must have felt. As a man it is really strange to me when I try to wrap my head around her experience being what men preferred of their spouse at some point in history. Someone thought this was a good idea? I wouldn't be able to live with the shame of hurting someone like this. Bless you. I hope you find true love and peace.

    • @yyg4632
      @yyg4632 Год назад +37

      its just that theyre really taught from childhood that women are so much lower. dont listen to them, doesnt matter what they say. Their pain isnt valid, its normal, fine. i know there are good Somali men who have inherent empathy and logic to know this isnt true, some are in these comments. but yes. its easy to ignore the suffering of someone whos basically an object to you. There are so many countries like this and so many people in every country who think like this. its just shit.

    • @saeedaitunes4474
      @saeedaitunes4474 Год назад +9

      To endure all that pain 💔.
      What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.

    • @lavish_1717
      @lavish_1717 Год назад +3

      Unfortunately they follow weak Hadiths

    • @user-un7yy3rh6h
      @user-un7yy3rh6h Год назад +11

      @@yyg4632 yeah, you said it very well. once someone dehumanizes another person, in their thoughts, it would become that much easier to not treat them humanely. it's absolutely horrible since this type of mindset is perpetuated by those around them, patriarchy, government, etc.

    • @werdacommunityprojectproje9194
      @werdacommunityprojectproje9194 Год назад

      @@yyg4632 😪😪😭😢😥😰

  • @maryjanekapteyn8964
    @maryjanekapteyn8964 Год назад +4

    Thank you for sharing your story- I can only imagine the courage it took to survive but then forge ahead. I wish you healing and happiness. You have a beautiful joy in her and an opportunity to break unhealthy cycles. In protecting her from similar violations and trauma - you will heal yourself. Much love ❤️

  • @mahazaou190
    @mahazaou190 4 месяца назад +3

    Shamsa you are so brave! Thank you for sharing your story and to educate.
    Awareness on FMG is so important, we can't have enough spreading the word on this topic. A woman is a treasure not a property!❤😊

  • @myfamilycomputer4638
    @myfamilycomputer4638 Год назад +390

    I needed so much to hear this. Im 28 and was sexually abused as child and grew up in a horrible home full of fear and abuse. Now at 28 ive relapsed and my mental health is wreck once again I cant seem to be able to move on. Idk why its so hard for me, all I do is blame my mom for not protecting me from the abuse and hate my dad for it. Hearing her story makes question myself if she can move on so can I. Even though I dont know i hope i can so that my future wont be as much torture as the past 28 years have. Thank you so much for this

    • @stingyrich3900
      @stingyrich3900 Год назад +20

      You are strong and I’m so proud of you ❤

    • @devynthomas8207
      @devynthomas8207 Год назад +12

      Stay strong girl!! Push forward so you're the winner in your equation. Prayers for you!!

    • @ira-pr4cl
      @ira-pr4cl Год назад +10

      You are strong women
      Sister I'm soo proud of you

    • @jennytaylor3324
      @jennytaylor3324 Год назад +15

      Never be ashamed for not getting well yet. It's not what happens, it ho w it makes us feel, and every person reacts differently to trauma. I think you might find Marilyn Van Derbur's story inspiring and interesting. It's all here on Utube.

    • @jennajoseph893
      @jennajoseph893 Год назад +6

      Much Love to you. 💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

  • @katrinarepine3879
    @katrinarepine3879 Год назад +300

    I’m not of the same culture or religion but I have experienced marital rape and being raped by a person I was dating. I’ve also experienced being shamed for what they both did to me and also told never to talk about it because nobody is going to want to be with a rape victim or domestic violence victim. It took years for me to understand none of it was my fault and it IS ok to talk about it especially if it helps with the healing process. I also learned that the people who claimed nobody would ever love me or want to marry me because I’m a victim are so full of $hit! I’m not a victim, I’m a survivor and been married for over 8 years now and he accepts me for me, scars and all. To anyone out there too scared to talk, you’re not at fault and are allowed to speak up. There’s so many support groups out there and if that’s too much you can talk to me. I’m not a therapist but I am a survivor and willing to listen.

  • @claretreacy2013
    @claretreacy2013 Год назад +4

    She is such a fantastic speaker… she should use this power. She is powerful. Inspirational. So sorry this happened you you xxx

  • @puccipower
    @puccipower 6 месяцев назад +3

    She’s such an awesome person and it makes me so sad she had to go through this. She deserves the world. She’s got a gorgeous soul and she’s also just beautiful in general. She seems like she has a lot of stamina to stand up for herself and speak naturally and I admire that.

  • @yyg4632
    @yyg4632 Год назад +155

    Listen to her, she's so smart, witty, strong, to speak on all this trauma. Imagine thinking someone like her, everyone who has her gender, has no worth other than a maid and sex doll.

  • @cheekiereynolds
    @cheekiereynolds Год назад +150

    I cried the whole time listening to her story. I am too a survivor and the second pain never leaves.

    • @s.525
      @s.525 Год назад +10

      sending you sm love, you're so strong

    • @emilieaustin7527
      @emilieaustin7527 Год назад +6

      Sending love and prayers your way sister 🤍

  • @patriciakelly2714
    @patriciakelly2714 Год назад +10

    I am so shocked that you suffered at the hands of a family who were supposed to love you and protect. I can’t imagine the pain and the trauma that took place. It needs to stop. I hope by sharing your story that families will understand this is abuse in it’s worst form. I’m soo glad your mum lived long enough to help you escape, without her you would be dead I’m sure of it. I hope that you are recovering and getting the help you need. I’m soo sorry that this was your experience from vile men.

  • @vxnillapie
    @vxnillapie Год назад +3

    She is such a strong soul for speaking out and trying to heal herself. I wish her the best. In everything. She deserves it all, so do all the other girls and women who have to go through this as well. We have to continue the fight against this, we cannot he silenced.

  • @marysheehy4733
    @marysheehy4733 Год назад +170

    As a Emergency nurse and later a nurse practitioner I have witnessed two who had FGM. Horrible !! One woman in ER was screaming in pain-brought in after she was opened for husband. Will never forget

    • @gloriapichardo3310
      @gloriapichardo3310 Год назад +4

      How do they pee or have a period?

    • @lilyhawthorne1196
      @lilyhawthorne1196 11 месяцев назад +19

      ​@@gloriapichardo3310 When they're sewn a small hole is left for urine and period blood, however it's too small for penetration. But due to its small size it makes peeing and periods uncomfortable at best, agonizing at worst.

  • @GoodLuck-hy1qu
    @GoodLuck-hy1qu Год назад +128

    Imagine growing up in Somalia and being a small girl and having to deal with this.I would be petrified at the thought of anybody doing this to my body! She’s a beautiful soul inside and out.!

    • @Raas639
      @Raas639 Год назад +5

      I grew up in Somalia and I had never had Fgm. FGM is only practised in rural/small towns.

    • @GoodLuck-hy1qu
      @GoodLuck-hy1qu Год назад +7

      @@Raas639 Thank you so much for the information I didn’t know that. My heart goes out to all these girls who had had this done! So thankful that it didn’t happen to you🙏🏻❤️

    • @ravenwalker9225
      @ravenwalker9225 Год назад +1

      It happens in America too.

    • @TheeBlackRapunzel
      @TheeBlackRapunzel Год назад +2

      Millions got it and they still do this today in other places too

    • @517oceanfront
      @517oceanfront Год назад +1

      Daughters bring dowry payments, their outer parts are sliced off,extreme clitoral removal,because women having any pleasure,ever is evil,then you are sewn up and barely able to pee,to prove you are a virgin,and married off to men at the age of 6! All these cutters were cut themselves,and known the pain,but insist they have to do it.

  • @s.payton5326
    @s.payton5326 Год назад +2

    Heart breaking story. You are such a strong person and I wish you nothing but love, strength, healing and hope that you will one day over come this trauma ❤

  • @silent-ghost
    @silent-ghost Год назад +9

    Shamsa, I'm in tears....
    I'm feeling angry and sorry about your story and what you had to endure, but also shocked and mismerised by how strong and beautiful you are even after all the ordeal you have been forced to!
    Women are amazing and should be loved, appreciated and cherished! Anybody that doesn't do that and relies instead to force, violence and humiliation is only reflecting his onw incapacity and limitations! It was never about you Shamsa, your only guild was your beauty and the way you have probably incited little men to lie to themselves that they are not little because they can force their will.
    I know by now that you are a smart woman and my words might sound childish but I still feel I should enforce this small hope for love so I promise you that not all men are like that. I'm so sorry you had the worst of men.
    I hope you get to experience the love of a real man, a man that will not feel weak/challenged/incapacitated by your amazing beauty. A man that wouldn't hesitate to give his life to save yours.
    Maybe you feel like you never want to deal with men again but I believe there is one rule in this world that remains universal no matter the context: ballance. So try to remain ballanced, I think it might have saved your life already. Take your time but don't cast your judgement on all of men for there are some that might amaze and show you men can also be beautiful/strong and eventually loveable.
    I would so much love to hear good news from you! I'm sending you all my positive energy and thoughts!
    With love and respect,
    Vlad
    Loving husband and father

  • @TreeFreak
    @TreeFreak Год назад +66

    When my mother worked for DHS, she was assigned to an international airport. While working incoming flights, she would take young women aside additional search procedures. She took them to a private room and would explain to them that they were safe and if they needed to escape, to let her know now, and they would be freed. She caught more than one kidnapper this way. It was almost always 50+ yr old men with 16-19 yr old "brides." It would blow you away to know how many of these people have come to America and not known they could truly escape. We have entire organizations whose whole purpose is to hide these women from their families and kidnapper's family. If you suspect something is off with a female friend/acquaintance whatever have you, mention it. Gently.

  • @xnx2158
    @xnx2158 Год назад +166

    So happy for her and her daughter being able to start a new life. I hope she is able to find a therapist that can help her continue to heal. She is such a strong woman.

  • @yveslife836
    @yveslife836 6 месяцев назад +2

    So sorry you went through that horrible tragedy and trauma. Praying for your healing and recovery. 🙏🥺

  • @aleksandral1024
    @aleksandral1024 7 месяцев назад +4

    I'm terribly sorry that there are people in the world who can do such terrible things as they did to you. I am full of admiration that you have overcome it and are telling others about it. thank you for sharing your story.

  • @Sg-gs
    @Sg-gs Год назад +50

    Why did her parents ever allowed her to go back to Somalia in the first place? I cannot imagine what I would do if my brother had done this to my child. What sick practice and mindset of some people, they will literally not care if their own daughters, wives or nieces are going through torture.

    • @inthahous87
      @inthahous87 Год назад

      She went voluntarily for a gap year I understand

    • @Sg-gs
      @Sg-gs Год назад +9

      @@inthahous87 I get that but she also grew up in the UK, I don’t understand why the parents would even agree it would be a good idea for her to return to the country in the first place

    • @AlmightyAphrodite
      @AlmightyAphrodite Год назад +1

      Was wondering the same!

    • @CH-ub3ix
      @CH-ub3ix 12 дней назад

      I was wondering the same. It was a dangerous time for women to go there.

  • @aggy8886
    @aggy8886 Год назад +228

    I was 13 when I first heard about this. I haven’t learned to stop feeling rage whenever I hear about this crime being done against girls and women. It was probably the first time I actually wanted to kill to protect - without even understanding what that means. I hope more survivors will come out to educate the world about the truth of this evil being done. I really commend her and other women like her who survived. I can only imagine what kind of trauma would have overwhelmed me if it happened to me.

    • @noraa.616
      @noraa.616 Год назад

      So, so true! And the thing is, traditions are forbidden in Islam (so ‘cultures are forbidden’), which is good, because many so many girls are being harmed because of m!sogynist ‘cultural' nonsense that God didn't approve of. Evidence that 'culture/traditions' is something that God is against, is in verse 2:170 in the quran. If we made this information go viral, then girls can better be protected from the psych0s that want to hurt them. It is also forbidden to care about what people say (which is fantastic because many ‘families’ unfortunately care about what people say, but, if those families respect God, then they shouldn’t care about what people say, because he ordered people not to care about what people say, and to fear him instead, the scripture is in 2:150). Also, anyone that harms women and girls will burn in hell forever (Since an atom's size of arrogance will make a person burn in hell forever, according to what the prophet of Islam said, and forced ‘marriage’ is both arrogant & forbidden; honor killings are also both arrogant & forbidden in Islam, and abuse is an arrogant behavior, too). So any male that harms women and girls will burn in hell forever. 1 in 3 women suffers from physical or sex*al v!olence from a male intimate partner so we need to raise awareness to help them. And the prophet himself married divorced women (and widowed women, too), as a clear sign that women had the right to divorce and get married again to someone else, too, if they wanted. His adopted son’s wife divorced his adopted son without giving any reason for the divorce and the prophet allowed that, so clearly, no one has a right to pressure a woman to stay in a marriage that she doesn’t want. And, any forced ‘marriage’ is invalid so any children born from it are illegitimate according to Islam (because the actual consent of the woman is essential to make a marriage valid). And FGM is an arrogant psych0tic practice (and arrogant people burn in hell forever, in islam). And child ‘marriage’ is forbidden because God ordered for fairness, and it is unfair for the girl to be tortured and tormented for the sick pleasure of the weak male (and he is weak, since he is exploiting and torturing a girl or a woman), and Aisha never got pregnant so it is unfair to compare her situation to the rest of her gender (Aisha is the third wife of the prophet that males like to imagine she was 9 when she got married, but, she never got pregnant, so males are very illogical and sick for comparing her to the rest of her gender; she never went through the difficulties of pregnancy and she never gave birth, so she never dealt with vaginal tears and she never got continence that often happens to girls who give birth. Again, God ordered people to be fair, so it isn’t fair to compare Aisha to the rest of her gender, since most of her gender can get pregnant unlike her, so child ‘marriage’ is forbidden because it is forbidden to be unfair). Do you believe that sharing this info would make the world a better place for girls? Would you please share such info with journalists?

    • @alias201
      @alias201 Год назад +18

      We should never stop feeling rage about this.

    • @alissalatour7332
      @alissalatour7332 Год назад

      But are you okay with male genital mutation? Like circumcision ? Not nessasary just mutilates

    • @GlennaVan
      @GlennaVan Год назад +4

      @@alissalatour7332Sadly, it is needed in some cases. My stepbrother was finally taken to the doctor when he was 11 or 12 because of constant infections. His anatomy did not allow him to properly clean to prevent infections. The doctor said he should be circumcised though limitedly because they would continue and even get worse as he got older. However, the doctor said for it not to be done until he was through his teen years because it would cause him too much emotional trauma. Hopefully, he was later able to practice hygiene in such way it was never needed.
      With the said, I've always understood the ONLY reason for FGM is to reduce the amount of pleasure a woman can have with sex so she will not be unfaithful to her husband! In other words, one more way for men to control women.
      In both the case of FGM and circumcision, it is like removing the appendix - totally unnecessary unless there is a specific problem. (However, if doctors are performing an abdominal surgery, they will take the appendix if convenient "to prevent problems later!" Now they have learned the appendix is an important part of our immune system.)

    • @nutanbyakod2781
      @nutanbyakod2781 Год назад +4

      @@alissalatour7332 I don't know why circumcision is done on men... But FGM is done on women to deprive her from the enjoyment..its done not once but many times..circumcision is done only once..

  • @teemarie5478
    @teemarie5478 Год назад +46

    I have two daughters that are 17 and 19 years old and I can never in my life imagine a parent putting their kid through any of this. I’d go straight to prison before something like this would happen to them. I’m so sorry this happened to you 😭🙏🏼

    • @belindahutchinson5333
      @belindahutchinson5333 2 месяца назад +1

      It is normalised in their country..as she said in her last video it's just like going to the dentist.. normal procedure.

  • @PlanetYokoshima
    @PlanetYokoshima Год назад +13

    Her bravery of coming out is cosmic. I wish the best for her, poor woman is so bright like a literal shams (sun) and it's upsettting she had to go through darkness

  • @ChillBunn
    @ChillBunn Год назад +119

    I am in complete awe of this gorgeous woman's mental and physical strength. She is a huge inspiration to women and brings to light things that are hard to hear but need to be known. I hope she is able to heal from her painful journey and keeps spreading awareness. Women are people not possessions.

  • @katem2411
    @katem2411 Год назад +168

    I'm crying listening to your story. I'm so glad you were able to find the strength and support to live through it all. My father literally sold me and I spend my teenage years being raped by a neighbor, and the physical/mental trauma was intense, but it was nothing compared to knowing that my family had turned their backs on what I was going through. I'm so sorry you went through this and I wish you and your daughter nothing but love and healing ❤️

    • @candaceneal7638
      @candaceneal7638 Год назад +14

      I am so sorry for what you went through as well. I wish I could hug you both and take all that pain away.

    • @elessargilraen5465
      @elessargilraen5465 Год назад +7

      I am sorry that this happened to you. Thankfully you were able to get out of that.

    • @2degucitas
      @2degucitas Год назад +1

      Did they pay for their crimes?

    • @jennaalcindor7208
      @jennaalcindor7208 Год назад +5

      I'm crying so much for both of you! There are no words that I could come up with that would change what happened to you, however just know that I admire your strength and tenacity to be here today after what you've gone through. You are strong, you definitely don't need pity but if you are in need of some encouraging words here they go......Your story touched a stranger, yes a total stranger and she thinks you're strong, and just dope all around! That is the worst thing that could happen to you in this life so rest assured there is no need for fear. Nothing can hurt as bad as the pain you've already experienced! If you got through that, you can get through anything!!!

    • @emilyb5278
      @emilyb5278 Год назад +2

      Are you ok now,? My heart goes out to you your very strong

  • @Sheeemsa
    @Sheeemsa Год назад +4

    This needs so much courage, sitting and speaking of such a private, traumatic episode of your life is beyond difficult.

  • @amarahsrabbitry1073
    @amarahsrabbitry1073 7 месяцев назад +3

    Stories like hers feel impossibly heartbreaking. Words cannot explain nor minds fathom what she has gone through. I had a mild form of fgm after giving birth-where I was stitched too tight to even attempt sex and required a revision surgery. Doctors denied fault or issue. My story is FARRR more mild than hers. But I experienced a tiny measure of that pain and shame. The ob field is sadly still filled with people who won’t help or listen. It’s terrible and not ok. My heart goes out to this woman. I am absolutely amazed that she lives today and has found some happiness. Wishing her some healing and peace after all the trauma and abuse.

  • @madamehopee
    @madamehopee Год назад +51

    Shamsa!!!! Oh my God!!!! The strength you have while narrating your story is overwhelming. I do pray your voice brings more awareness to many people
    You're really an amazing lady

  • @kezzokav5905
    @kezzokav5905 Год назад +141

    Poor thing. She must have extensive primary and secondary vulvodynia from this experience, as well as vaginismus and her bladder issues. My heart goes out to her ❤️ Thank you for speaking out. She is extremely strong and powerful. I can't believe she didn't cry when speaking about the rapes. I want to hug her so bad xx

  • @missKC19
    @missKC19 Год назад +177

    Wow! That she felt fondly about her mother, even though her mother allowed her to suffer FGM.

    • @ingridcalixto9746
      @ingridcalixto9746 Год назад

      Maybe she was adopted, that's why she was living in the UK, so her mother was not the birth mother who did FGM to her.

    • @Ana-ly5ek
      @Ana-ly5ek Год назад +5

      @@ingridcalixto9746 in the video about her fgm she said her father lived in the uk and some family

    • @nargis.m3115
      @nargis.m3115 Год назад +4

      Fgm is extremely common practice in Somalia and thus it’s normalised, her mother did what she thought was best. Doesn’t mean she was a horrible mother.

    • @person35790
      @person35790 Год назад +5

      It is very possible her mother had no other choice. Consider what you just heard about her own marriage and consider what a woman who could not call her mother to escape would endure.

    • @secretaardvark679
      @secretaardvark679 Год назад

      @@ingridcalixto9746her mother had it done as well. These women are restricted from all education and autonomy. You are not a human, you are a piece of meat put on this earth to tame beasts that look like men.

  • @akashsridhar
    @akashsridhar Год назад +5

    Bless her soul, my heart goes out to her and her daughter. Hope they live a wonderful life