@@Mensdivorcecoach Everything is great. I am fully in control of my emotions. The blue pill sucker that I was is no more. I don't hate women, I understand them. When you understand them, you can't love them. It is something in between.
Avoiding conflict creates disconnection, and disconnection leads to resentment and eventual failure of a relationship. Both partners need to learn to resolve conflict in a way that has empathy, respect, and a mutual desire to meet the needs of both partners.
@ アナグマ this is why studies are so unreliable. Finding yourself is NOT a reason women leave but rather a vague explanation to cover up the real reason you left. In a study you can write down this “explanation” and walk away but in real life no woman would accept that as a real reason. I’m a nurse who has worked mainly with women and I have never heard this as a reason for leaving a spouse. Perhaps a cover up for abuse infidelity etc. Women want our relationships to work. We don’t leave on a whim and as far as needing your money. I have worked with many single STNA/ nursing single moms who work full time jobs (and do jobs you couldn’t fathom)to take care of their children. They don’t need your money. They just want out or have been abandoned. Think before you assume you know all or even most women. It is easy to take sides when you are angry but understanding goes so much further.
Modern western women are incentivised and encouraged to divorce by the media and government so courts can make money. Look at all the hollywood movies where men initiate divorce vs women initiate divorce. It is so ingrained in western culture that lesbian marriages end up in divorce 2-3x more often than gay marriages.
You're delusional: Women file divorce because they're totally illiterate dummies who don't work out. don't initiate sex, need constant "affirmation", can't really cook, don't get drunk or stoned, and just kind of wither away until one of their friends suggests ambushing their husband with an order of protection, and then finding a scumbag lawyer who will destroy everyone for money.
I know its hard for Men to accept the reality. STOP GETTING MARRIED CONTRACTUALLY.. The 40's and 50's is over. Either learn to play the game or dont play at all. Not tryna sound cold, we just gotta move forward...
Women get a deal thats hard to turn down. She gets the house, land,children, savings, alimony, furniture, tv and child support. It cost about 25 % of the support to raise them. They get 75 % for a new car and clothes. And the courts uses the mans money to pay for it all. Young men think the sex is more important than this risk.
You live in a fantasy. 99% of divorced women live below the poverty line. Child support doesn't come close to covering the costs and men can remarry and do immediately. Most divorced women are stuck raising your kids while aging out of getting a new life.
You have stats to support this theory? I’m interested in whether divorced women on average live off less. I wonder if studies show many women would rather live under a bridge than remarry
@@shellylenWomen do get more, on average, in divorce as most men actually own the assets in the relationship. Don't care about who makes more money, but who's money is actually buying the furniture, cars, and houses? Usually the man. Not even coming from a "hate women" attitude, it's just reality. Also cmon... do I really have to bring the stats about the role of children in divorces? Women always get the kids.
If a woman has stayed at home there are many stories online where the dude gets all, not the woman. Some of you need to seek therapy instead of listening to dudes online like this.
The reason people get divorced is to their hardness of hearts, disfunctionality, and emotional immaturity. An issue not mentioned in the comments feed is in our cultures mindset is the complete lack of accountability in the minds of those divorcing to extended family memers, children and God. Every woman who divorces a man hurts another mothers Son. Every man who poorly treats a wife and divorces her disrespects her parents and the trust the put in man. Society needs a rethink on on dealing with rekationship breakdowns and how to proceess issued. There should be huge repussions for those who bail out without facing a panel of older and wiser jury panel to gain approval based on a defined "Just Cause". The cost to everyone and society is huge
Men only act right when women leave them. Men don't think they need to act right if women are still staying with them. So, women have to leave to remove that poor behavior from their lives.
Women initiate divorces more because they usually hold onto grudges while men move on. On the same token, they get fed up with tolerating problems that shouldn't be tolerated. Beyond this, it's interesting how gay men have the lowest divorce rates while lesbians have the highest divorce rates. I wonder if it's because women are initially too eager to commit & force relationships that should have been examined closely.
very interesting take. by chance do you have any articles and studies you can link? Id be interested on reading more into this. what youre saying makes sense.
Probably has to do with tolerating infidelity. Gay marriage is never exclusive. The lesbians still try to have kids or come with kids. They still expect exclusivity.
The sentiment that you are asserting is good, and I admire your positivity. However, in actuality, you seem to be making the best case for a man to not get married in the first place...because no matter how good he is or can become as a man, it will most probably never be good enough to discourage his wife from divorcing him anyway. The system has encouraged and financially incentivized women to divorce for cash and prizes if they become bored or feel that their expectations (no matter how unrealistic they may be) are not being met. Therefore, many men are finding that the uncertainty of actually having a successful marriage is just too great and the risks too high in a postmodern world.
I have that somewhere but going strictly off memory, it's in the 70%. Something like 73%. What I can tell you is only 6% do go on and marry their paramore
I watched NAT Geo a strong lion killed a weak lion and its offsprings while lionesses just watch and do nothing. What I've learned from this is women are easily persuaded by strong evil men. Women are quite emotional but not for very long unlike men who never forget their beloved wives. Man is a farmer and his wife a barren land which he cultivates and grow fruits with his own seeds on it. If wife leaves him one day his hard work and investment goes down the gutter. Thats why it's too painful for men to divorce.
Well, hypergamy on steroids because women now have more options, including taking half the man's assets. Women are WAY too picky for their own good. It doesn't register on them that their sexual market value decreases with age.
I appreciate your comment and your anger is noted. Many gents believe in the redpill and it becomes dogmatic for them. I too was angry, scared and looked for answers for their actions rather than my own. RUclips recommended channels that you directly quote from: "Entrepreneurs in Cars" etc. They helped, at first. I too was used. I was used for money. It took me a very long time to recognize and say that publicly. In all honesty, I think this is the first time I'm saying it publicly. It took me a while because it didn't matter her why. What mattered is how to make sure this very expensive (and I don't mean it literally) lesson doesn't get repeated. In time, I realized that I can stay angry, blame her and other women for my downfall or I could surrender to my new reality: That I was given a bad hand and still went all in at a poker table I should not have even bought into. I trust myself enough to say with confidence, it won't happen again. I think with the red pill the assumption is made that all we have to offer is money and I'm much more than that. I also think because you brought their SMV, and if you agree with Rollo's calculation, they have zero in their early 40s that they have more to offer us than just kids. My S.O. she hates admitting it but of course my looks attracted her (but then, that's neither red nor blue pill, just black pill) but what kept her and keeps her next to me is my emotional intelligence. Be better brother. You want to win? Walk away and be that Mother F-er that you want to become. That's how you win. Give her your scraps and feel sorry for her because, one day, she'll pay in dividends because nothing is free, it's just borrowed. As I told my ex, you can have my money but I'll have your soul. In the end, she did pay, much faster and more expensive than I expected and she never did get my money. Bless, your friend, Rene.
@@Mensdivorcecoach Well, it's not anger with me. Just interesting observations and maybe a little generic, non personal, sadness. I'm 61 years old and have a girl friend. Although I observe that in general female SWV decreases with age, I personally like older women. But I've never been married because I never wanted to be. Too much risk and I enjoy my independence. Had plenty of opportunities. A 20 year military career got me hooked on bachelorhood and used to it. Not too angry at women. Although their hyper selectivity and hyper hypergamy is sad for them, younger men, and society in general. I am angry at modern feminism which is basically misandry at its core.
THe primary reason why things are so bad now, is women, indeed, have FAR too many options and are willing to settle for mediocre treatment from a "very hot guy". A married woman would rather be in the harem of a "very hot guy" than be married to her faithful husband that she only has like 70% attraction towards... And they don't feel anything when they leave you. They do it with ease.
You should make a video of numbers how many women get remarried after a divorce? How many do they divorce second marriage? Stats that could better understand if it is or if it isn't better on the other side
I looked for data on that and couldn't find any. In the FB Group I can do a survey but it wouldn't be statistically significant. Are you part of the group? I remember being told by my 2nd spouse, I left my husband who I had kids with, you think I wouldn't leave you? Gosh what a simp.
@@Mensdivorcecoach no I am not part of a group. I just think that there isn't a lot of information out there of what happens after getting a divorce for women.. I more youtubers showed results of divorced women staying single or the percentage of divorce after your first marriage and finances I believe that less women would choose divorce.
I work way too fucking hard on mind, body and soul to settle for that. When I was single, there were quite a bit of them and I'm grateful they were upfront. I just asked if it looks like I'm in need of a sugar baby or if it looks like I can take care of myself. I do understand your point though. Men are getting raped in the court system. Women's DiVo coaches are aggressive. Tried to collaborate with a few and from the get go, it was clear that it would have caused them more harm than good. Other women also encourage divorce to other women which is rather disgusting. A guy asks me and I say it's not for me to decide but them. A women asks and they hear "go for it girl".
@@Mensdivorcecoach you’re absolutely right about that. My neighbor got a divorce recently and threw a “divorce party” and got pissed when I turned down her invitation. Why in the heck would anyone in their right mind want to celebrate having a broken home? He never hit her and was always working. She divorced him because he was too “vanilla”. I almost couldn’t believe her reasoning. I could never see my mother leaving my father because things were too “vanilla” and they were married for 50+ years (until death did them part)! I blame modern day feminism.
women leave because 1) they are paid to 2) the have all the power and nothing to lose (they think) 3) they think they can do better or 4) they already have found somebody you just dont know 5) your money is "OUR " money but their money is theirs- even after you get broken up with.- in your example why the HELL would someone making 250K need deserve or get alimony- but we all know she would. why?? she "wants needs and deserves" the LIFESTYLE even though she isnt the one that earned the money!!!
When I was married, I was supposed to clean, feed the children, cook, do all the homework, and do all stereotype things that are typically gender role. I quit after 2 years. I think many men keep a woman as a very cheap home slave. Like you own a dog or something. I am doing now the things that I like and have hobbies that I like; I will never clean and cook for a men again!
Glad to hear you had enough insight to know there was something wrong with what you were "supposed" to do. Hope you can find new ways of connecting with men that do not involve following that particular marriage script.
@@Meandyouisnusright, because always putting yourself first as a woman is always best for your family. And what’s good for you is good for your family👍
Bcz she knows, she’ll get huge amounts of alimony or maintenance. She’ll be free from all responsibilities and be independent. And enjoy at cost of alimony.
@@rickboiardimindshiftingaca6975 Aw man, I love their dialogue there. That's what got me. Tis was me, that is Alex, and my three drooges, and we strolled around the corola milk bar drinking milk pluss. I knew that movie by heart.
Family law experts previously told Insider that the first fight in the case would likely be over which state had jurisdiction: California or Texas. The outcome of that fight could have major consequences for Musk, thanks to the different child support caps in California and Texas. Texas caps monthly child support payments at $2,760 for three children, which is how many Musk and Grimes share. California however has no limit, meaning a person like Musk - the richest in the world - could be ordered to pay an extremely high amount. Why????$$$$$$$$ More money more problems....
@@patty518 It's one thing to support one's child. It's another to "keep a child for ransom" via legal system. The court system and vindictive/ narcissistic ex wives tend to do the latter. Also, having lived in California, this is ...tax revenue.
Men file at a lesser rate because we’re taught to eat 💩since we’re children. We don’t necessarily expect to be happy and accept life how it is rather than how we wish it was
Who in the hell wants to live with a TOLERABLE LEVEL OF UNHAPPINESS? That’s horrible @6193drizzle AND Women aren’t taught to eat shit since we’re children, SO yeah we’d rather leave, forget you and your TOLERABLE LEVEL OF UNHAPPINESS, women shouldn’t have to put up with that kinda thought process from her husband OR ANY MALE😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒
@@adenise__122😳🤣.....AND WOMEN are not abusive...?!?....include nagging and Emotional abuse ......? Women never abuse men, right......🤣👍🤣......Muhu HahaHa
Absolutely right; women decide they are feed up with the marriage many years before they notify the husband. Men will stay in a relationship if it is just good enough or mediocre and make no effort to improve the relationship. So right men are too lazy to work on the marriage and refuse to listen or pay attention to the fact that she has been checked out for many years.
initiating a divorce is the worst thing a man can can do because he will simply go bankrupt after the divorce. The divorce laws are completely biased towards men. Even a carrot can figure this out.😂
Women leave because they have too many options. Men are like candy to them, it's widely available and they can get them whenever they want. Most men are desperate, starved of love and of course have a comparatively much higher sex drive. So is it any wonder that they are so easy? Men lack value, no matter the man, inherently, in a woman's eyes. This is caused largely by simping which is inherent to men when perceiving and dealing with women. This is the fundamental reason why women "fall out of love" so easily. They don't actually "fall in love" with men - what they actually "love" is what that man is AT THAT POINT IN TIME, and on top of that, he has to be that thing, in relationship to how she is feeling. It still baffles me that men can commit to a creature who's feelings for you can change from one hour to the next. But simps will never learn I guess.
This sounds like a youth problem, like dating scene problem. Sorry, I feel bad for young men cos it must be really difficult. The discussion here is about divorce though, and it sounds like you haven't got a clue. It's a whole other story, when you've been with someone 15, 20 years, and things start to go to shit. Has nothing to do with what you're on about. Yours if a whole other beast, one that I'm so happy I don't have to deal with anymore. Best of luck.
Let me think. Pay someone half of what you have worked for your entire life and then be surprised when they leave. I got it. 1. Money 2. Real estate 3. Retirements funds
I mean, if men start listening to their wives and treating them like human beings with real thoughts and feelings instead of a live-in maid, nanny, and booty-call, maybe women wouldn’t initiate divorce as much. Just a thought 🤷♀️
But your opinion does not take adequate consideration of reality. Women are by and large unreasonable, and blame the husband for things that aren't supported by the evidence.
Your comment is bull. You assume men are not treating women like humans. You have some guys like me that has bought her a car, supported 80% of all bills for 12 years, supported 100% for 6 years, never cheated, never lied, does 50%+ of all kid and housework, yet she leaves. Women are confused and don’t know what they want. Men should not get married
So infidelity doesn't play a part? Most men will be in multiple relationships while married, they don't leave because they are able to have their cake and eat it too. Selfish
Data is now showing married in their early 30s cheat more often than men. I try to remain neutral. If you were cheated on, I understand your anger. So was I.
Pick up a womens magazine and read it Watch the soap operas geared towards women For women marriage is a to upgrade When they do marry they keep looking towards their next upgrade
Problem is one party has no skin in the game. Women with money are a dime a dozen. Just refuse to marry unless her career is better....be willing to go MGTOW. Have her pay you spousal support.
Men will usually not want to divorce. Yes , Its the “good enough” or have a “too inconvenient” mentality. Women are comparison minded but we are socialized to be…attractiveness, clothes, being attentive. We also tend to be more detail oriented and multi-tasking because of these things. While men tend to be creatures of simplicity and comfort…they work, generally like a girl, get married and thats it, what else?
Men understand there are no incentives involving cash and prizes for a man to divorce. My brother’s wife divorced him. She moved back with her multiple divorced mother and step dad. She uses the child support $ and alimony for lavish vacations, new cars etc. while he struggles.
@@joncarbone This is really all it boils down to. Women like to use word salads to explain things away when in reality if you remove the incentives that they receive for divorcing, all of a sudden, they wouldn't do it anymore.
Cha-ching. Most of the time, women are given financial incentive to break the marriage. Money talks in a lot of things in life, and divorce is just another aspect.
I'm a 41 yr old woman about to file: 1. I grew, he didn't. I grew in every single way. He didn't. I grew academically, getting a MS in engineering during the pandemic while home schooling 2 kids and working full time.... i asked if he wanted to go back or pursue something else.... the post kept getting moved. Now it's he can't go back to school and work... 2. I BEGGED him to go to the doctor, to a therapist, anyone... please!! He didn't, until i asked for a separation. 3. He has never answered why i worked 2 jobs for 3 years, while he only worked 1....i missed my toddlers early years He was there... but i was working 2 jobs to make ends me: substitute teaching and bartending. 4. I'm no longer attracted to him intimately, romantically, or physically... I've been trying for so long to b reduce it or fake it, and i can't anymore. There are others... but i tried for a LONG time before i got to this point.
Thank you for your comment and this, what you wrote is extremely common. You continued, you outgrew him. That's a huge flaw amongst men. We like being comfortable. We need to continue to develop. As you notice, I don't put the blame on the women, not usually anyways. If anything I do blame the men. WE need to wake the fuck up. We need to stop wasting that one little life of ours. Again, very much appreciated and yes, this is extremely common and well written.
Bro, you made me listen to myself to see where I mention she didn't sign up for this? There's no place. Also, I address "the accountability factor" here. I agree 100% with you to both and maybe I'll use your line "she literally did sign up for this". You don't sound like you're doing well. Please heal.
Bruh,,, why you giving away the ending? Haha. Yes, of the men I coach the guys usually fall into 2 categories. The first category and I include myself here was that of a simp. The other is that of the guy with regrets but those guys with regrets end up from regret to anger so my strategy is to get them there faster. Which category were you? Remember I used the usually.
@@Mensdivorcecoach I got divorced this month. I got angry. Courts are now involved and it woke me up. She is long gone. We have 2 kids, houses, dogs, the whole “dream” so it made me upset she has the power to take that all away but your video just emphasized everything I shouldn’t have done and did anyway and now I’m facing a court date next month. I’m now realizing screw that, I’m moving on. Im getting on a dating app so I can just keep my mind off her. Im taking care of my kids when it’s my turn and manning the F up!! So I’m excited. Just when the court date comes along just explain I’m Over it and we all just need to move on so I don’t end up at court again wasting peoples time honestly.
That's very true and unfortunate. If that happened to you, I'm terribly sorry. My intent is not to be anti women but rather pro growth and understanding. I know I speak for many females when I say that much of this can be applied to women also but because I research men, I can be more accurate in what I say. You know one of the first person I ever interviewed was a female and it was because her husband left for another woman. It was 2 years later and she hadn't recovered. Thank you for your comment and know that I call out men probably more than I call out women. It would be easier to call out women, to say they're XYZ. It would make it so much easier to gain subscribers and move up the ranks but that's not what I'm about.
Soon no women want marriage anymore so we can spare men from the pain of divorce.. And some men just get sugar baby until they run out of fund and still no love 😁😁🤣 I cant wait till men understand that the only way marriage will work if you keep ensuring you love the women without being taken advantage. Its like firm hold yet love Women have hearts. So no matter how toxic we all are, we wont move IF we know we are loved. But it came back to the women. Usually married women do want family. So family mindset
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I'm 52m never married and *learned* from other people's mistakes. It's just too risky -- particularly when you have lots to lose.
My wife also divorced me. She thought the grass was greener on the other side of the fence. It was actually Astroturf.
How you holding up?
@@Mensdivorcecoach Everything is great. I am fully in control of my emotions. The blue pill sucker that I was is no more. I don't hate women, I understand them. When you understand them, you can't love them. It is something in between.
@@davec3487 You get it...
I’m sure the astroturf is much better than the real grass when she was with you
Naaaah....The real reason why the grass is greener on the other side of the fence,is because there is more SHIT there.....
Avoiding conflict creates disconnection, and disconnection leads to resentment and eventual failure of a relationship. Both partners need to learn to resolve conflict in a way that has empathy, respect, and a mutual desire to meet the needs of both partners.
She wants to find herself but needs your money to do it.
Unfair isn't it? Then they say stuff like "You aint my daddy".
@@Mensdivorcecoach so your misogynistic and blame women?
@ アナグマ this is why studies are so unreliable. Finding yourself is NOT a reason women leave but rather a vague explanation to cover up the real reason you left. In a study you can write down this “explanation” and walk away but in real life no woman would accept that as a real reason. I’m a nurse who has worked mainly with women and I have never heard this as a reason for leaving a spouse. Perhaps a cover up for abuse infidelity etc. Women want our relationships to work. We don’t leave on a whim and as far as needing your money. I have worked with many single STNA/ nursing single moms who work full time jobs (and do jobs you couldn’t fathom)to take care of their children. They don’t need your money. They just want out or have been abandoned. Think before you assume you know all or even most women. It is easy to take sides when you are angry but understanding goes so much further.
If you married it is not yours. It belongs to both
‘Find myself’ = already involved or interested in another man. Very few women leave a relationship to be alone.
I think that “marriage“, as a concept, needs to be updated.
The person who initiates the divorce is not the person who files for divorce. It is the person who is first to violate his or her marriage vows.
Modern western women are incentivised and encouraged to divorce by the media and government so courts can make money. Look at all the hollywood movies where men initiate divorce vs women initiate divorce.
It is so ingrained in western culture that lesbian marriages end up in divorce 2-3x more often than gay marriages.
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@@evelynm2530 YES
You're delusional:
Women file divorce because they're totally illiterate dummies who don't work out. don't initiate sex, need constant "affirmation", can't really cook, don't get drunk or stoned, and just kind of wither away until one of their friends suggests ambushing their husband with an order of protection, and then finding a scumbag lawyer who will destroy everyone for money.
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I know its hard for Men to accept the reality. STOP GETTING MARRIED CONTRACTUALLY.. The 40's and 50's is over. Either learn to play the game or dont play at all. Not tryna sound cold, we just gotta move forward...
Women get a deal thats hard to turn down. She gets the house, land,children, savings, alimony, furniture, tv and child support. It cost about 25 % of the support to raise them. They get 75 % for a new car and clothes. And the courts uses the mans money to pay for it all. Young men think the sex is more important than this risk.
You live in a fantasy. 99% of divorced women live below the poverty line. Child support doesn't come close to covering the costs and men can remarry and do immediately. Most divorced women are stuck raising your kids while aging out of getting a new life.
You have stats to support this theory? I’m interested in whether divorced women on average live off less.
I wonder if studies show many women would rather live under a bridge than remarry
@@shellylenWomen do get more, on average, in divorce as most men actually own the assets in the relationship. Don't care about who makes more money, but who's money is actually buying the furniture, cars, and houses? Usually the man. Not even coming from a "hate women" attitude, it's just reality. Also cmon... do I really have to bring the stats about the role of children in divorces? Women always get the kids.
If a woman has stayed at home there are many stories online where the dude gets all, not the woman. Some of you need to seek therapy instead of listening to dudes online like this.
And also, other women brain wash and encourage the other.
The reason people get divorced is to their hardness of hearts, disfunctionality, and emotional immaturity. An issue not mentioned in the comments feed is in our cultures mindset is the complete lack of accountability in the minds of those divorcing to extended family memers, children and God. Every woman who divorces a man hurts another mothers Son. Every man who poorly treats a wife and divorces her disrespects her parents and the trust the put in man. Society needs a rethink on on dealing with rekationship breakdowns and how to proceess issued. There should be huge repussions for those who bail out without facing a panel of older and wiser jury panel to gain approval based on a defined "Just Cause". The cost to everyone and society is huge
Take away financial incentives to divorce without proving infidelity, and remove social welfare benefits and watch marriage rates skyrocket.
Well said
I'm twice divorced and a statistical anomaly because I filed both times. Guess how bad it has to be for the man to file twice.
Men only act right when women leave them. Men don't think they need to act right if women are still staying with them. So, women have to leave to remove that poor behavior from their lives.
Women initiate divorces more because they usually hold onto grudges while men move on. On the same token, they get fed up with tolerating problems that shouldn't be tolerated. Beyond this, it's interesting how gay men have the lowest divorce rates while lesbians have the highest divorce rates. I wonder if it's because women are initially too eager to commit & force relationships that should have been examined closely.
very interesting take. by chance do you have any articles and studies you can link? Id be interested on reading more into this. what youre saying makes sense.
gay men have the lowest divorce rates because we fight for the marriage
Good insight.
Probably has to do with tolerating infidelity. Gay marriage is never exclusive. The lesbians still try to have kids or come with kids. They still expect exclusivity.
What an astute perspective...
The sentiment that you are asserting is good, and I admire your positivity. However, in actuality, you seem to be making the best case for a man to not get married in the first place...because no matter how good he is or can become as a man, it will most probably never be good enough to discourage his wife from divorcing him anyway. The system has encouraged and financially incentivized women to divorce for cash and prizes if they become bored or feel that their expectations (no matter how unrealistic they may be) are not being met. Therefore, many men are finding that the uncertainty of actually having a successful marriage is just too great and the risks too high in a postmodern world.
The answer is menopause. Most of divorces are initiated during and due the perimenopause and menopause.
What are the stats for affairs failing after a marriage breakdown?
I have that somewhere but going strictly off memory, it's in the 70%. Something like 73%. What I can tell you is only 6% do go on and marry their paramore
How true, I do feel pity BUT I am very happy with my new, cooking, cleaning, bad ass life. Thank you for another informative and outstanding video.
Thanks Brother. I felt this piece was different because I had to interpret other people's information but it made sense.
I watched NAT Geo a strong lion killed a weak lion and its offsprings while lionesses just watch and do nothing. What I've learned from this is women are easily persuaded by strong evil men. Women are quite emotional but not for very long unlike men who never forget their beloved wives. Man is a farmer and his wife a barren land which he cultivates and grow fruits with his own seeds on it. If wife leaves him one day his hard work and investment goes down the gutter. Thats why it's too painful for men to divorce.
😂 whoa, funny you didn't learn men are vicious killers from that NAT geo scene.
`Please` stay away from women.
(Not a plead, it's an order)
On today's episode, women are lions 😅😅
Well, hypergamy on steroids because women now have more options, including taking half the man's assets. Women are WAY too picky for their own good. It doesn't register on them that their sexual market value decreases with age.
I appreciate your comment and your anger is noted. Many gents believe in the redpill and it becomes dogmatic for them. I too was angry, scared and looked for answers for their actions rather than my own. RUclips recommended channels that you directly quote from: "Entrepreneurs in Cars" etc. They helped, at first. I too was used. I was used for money. It took me a very long time to recognize and say that publicly. In all honesty, I think this is the first time I'm saying it publicly. It took me a while because it didn't matter her why. What mattered is how to make sure this very expensive (and I don't mean it literally) lesson doesn't get repeated. In time, I realized that I can stay angry, blame her and other women for my downfall or I could surrender to my new reality: That I was given a bad hand and still went all in at a poker table I should not have even bought into. I trust myself enough to say with confidence, it won't happen again. I think with the red pill the assumption is made that all we have to offer is money and I'm much more than that. I also think because you brought their SMV, and if you agree with Rollo's calculation, they have zero in their early 40s that they have more to offer us than just kids. My S.O. she hates admitting it but of course my looks attracted her (but then, that's neither red nor blue pill, just black pill) but what kept her and keeps her next to me is my emotional intelligence. Be better brother. You want to win? Walk away and be that Mother F-er that you want to become. That's how you win. Give her your scraps and feel sorry for her because, one day, she'll pay in dividends because nothing is free, it's just borrowed. As I told my ex, you can have my money but I'll have your soul. In the end, she did pay, much faster and more expensive than I expected and she never did get my money. Bless, your friend, Rene.
@@Mensdivorcecoach Well, it's not anger with me. Just interesting observations and maybe a little generic, non personal, sadness. I'm 61 years old and have a girl friend. Although I observe that in general female SWV decreases with age, I personally like older women. But I've never been married because I never wanted to be. Too much risk and I enjoy my independence. Had plenty of opportunities. A 20 year military career got me hooked on bachelorhood and used to it. Not too angry at women. Although their hyper selectivity and hyper hypergamy is sad for them, younger men, and society in general. I am angry at modern feminism which is basically misandry at its core.
THe primary reason why things are so bad now, is women, indeed, have FAR too many options and are willing to settle for mediocre treatment from a "very hot guy". A married woman would rather be in the harem of a "very hot guy" than be married to her faithful husband that she only has like 70% attraction towards... And they don't feel anything when they leave you. They do it with ease.
It is not the man’s assets, it is both your assets. What is confusing about this?
what a sad life it must be if this is the way in which you see people.
Women are super loyal….to their feelings.
You should make a video of numbers how many women get remarried after a divorce? How many do they divorce second marriage? Stats that could better understand if it is or if it isn't better on the other side
I looked for data on that and couldn't find any. In the FB Group I can do a survey but it wouldn't be statistically significant. Are you part of the group? I remember being told by my 2nd spouse, I left my husband who I had kids with, you think I wouldn't leave you? Gosh what a simp.
@@Mensdivorcecoach no I am not part of a group. I just think that there isn't a lot of information out there of what happens after getting a divorce for women.. I more youtubers showed results of divorced women staying single or the percentage of divorce after your first marriage and finances I believe that less women would choose divorce.
Sorry buddy, don't understand your comment. There's so much more literature on post divorce women than men by far. So much I have to develop my own.
@@user-xl6vt7ev2s 😂😂😂 most women do not get remarried as they do not want to make the mistake of living with a man again
Women tend to not want to ever remarry after they’ve been set free. Maybe there are stats to support this. Marriage tends to be a burden for women.
It's cheaper to get a sugar baby than get married a second time lol
I work way too fucking hard on mind, body and soul to settle for that. When I was single, there were quite a bit of them and I'm grateful they were upfront. I just asked if it looks like I'm in need of a sugar baby or if it looks like I can take care of myself. I do understand your point though. Men are getting raped in the court system. Women's DiVo coaches are aggressive. Tried to collaborate with a few and from the get go, it was clear that it would have caused them more harm than good. Other women also encourage divorce to other women which is rather disgusting. A guy asks me and I say it's not for me to decide but them. A women asks and they hear "go for it girl".
@@Mensdivorcecoach you’re absolutely right about that. My neighbor got a divorce recently and threw a “divorce party” and got pissed when I turned down her invitation. Why in the heck would anyone in their right mind want to celebrate having a broken home? He never hit her and was always working. She divorced him because he was too “vanilla”. I almost couldn’t believe her reasoning. I could never see my mother leaving my father because things were too “vanilla” and they were married for 50+ years (until death did them part)! I blame modern day feminism.
Money and her friends comparing... tell her over and over again to leave.
women leave because 1) they are paid to 2) the have all the power and nothing to lose (they think) 3) they think they can do better or 4) they already have found somebody you just dont know 5) your money is "OUR " money but their money is theirs- even after you get broken up with.- in your example why the HELL would someone making 250K need deserve or get alimony- but we all know she would. why?? she "wants needs and deserves" the LIFESTYLE even though she isnt the one that earned the money!!!
Dan, with respect how about we don't do that. Let's stop the blaming. Lets move forward.
When I was married, I was supposed to clean, feed the children, cook, do all the homework, and do all stereotype things that are typically gender role. I quit after 2 years. I think many men keep a woman as a very cheap home slave. Like you own a dog or something. I am doing now the things that I like and have hobbies that I like; I will never clean and cook for a men again!
Glad to hear you had enough insight to know there was something wrong with what you were "supposed" to do. Hope you can find new ways of connecting with men that do not involve following that particular marriage script.
U realize u didn’t have to do those things right ?
So happy for you. Women should learn to decenter men and put themselves first
What would you guess your ex man’s complaints were about what he had to do to keep a house running? Did you work a regular job and pay all the bills?
@@Meandyouisnusright, because always putting yourself first as a woman is always best for your family. And what’s good for you is good for your family👍
Bcz she knows, she’ll get huge amounts of alimony or maintenance. She’ll be free from all responsibilities and be independent. And enjoy at cost of alimony.
I got $1000 a month. Still had 6 kids living at home. Been married 31 years. Too old to start a career.
Clockwork Orange by the way
LOL. That's in the affirmative. Good call and good movie.
@ReneSanceMan Viddy well
@@rickboiardimindshiftingaca6975 Aw man, I love their dialogue there. That's what got me. Tis was me, that is Alex, and my three drooges, and we strolled around the corola milk bar drinking milk pluss. I knew that movie by heart.
@@Mensdivorcecoach same here, great movie
Singing in the Rain is never the same after you see the movie. Best social satire ever made. @@Mensdivorcecoach
Women MAY do the majority of the housework B U T men do more work overall. It's not even close. The spread is around 60 to 40 overall. So...
Family law experts previously told Insider that the first fight in the case would likely be over which state had jurisdiction: California or Texas. The outcome of that fight could have major consequences for Musk, thanks to the different child support caps in California and Texas.
Texas caps monthly child support payments at $2,760 for three children, which is how many Musk and Grimes share. California however has no limit, meaning a person like Musk - the richest in the world - could be ordered to pay an extremely high amount.
Why????$$$$$$$$ More money more problems....
Thanks for this. Please keep us updated. The way I've seen it work is by living in a state for so long and first to file.
So divorced men want to support their children as little as possible? I find that herd to believe.
@@patty518 It's one thing to support one's child. It's another to "keep a child for ransom" via legal system. The court system and vindictive/ narcissistic ex wives tend to do the latter. Also, having lived in California, this is ...tax revenue.
Men file at a lesser rate because we’re taught to eat 💩since we’re children. We don’t necessarily expect to be happy and accept life how it is rather than how we wish it was
Who in the hell wants to live with a TOLERABLE LEVEL OF UNHAPPINESS? That’s horrible @6193drizzle AND Women aren’t taught to eat shit since we’re children, SO yeah we’d rather leave, forget you and your TOLERABLE LEVEL OF UNHAPPINESS, women shouldn’t have to put up with that kinda thought process from her husband OR ANY MALE😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒😒
men abuse women most of the time and then get shocked when she isnt gonna deal with it anymore
@@adenise__122exactly cus ever since the feminist movement domestic violence has had a major decrease
@@adenise__122😳🤣.....AND WOMEN are not abusive...?!?....include nagging and Emotional abuse ......? Women never abuse men, right......🤣👍🤣......Muhu HahaHa
@@adenise__122Source?
Why would a father teach his daughter such nonsense
Absolutely right; women decide they are feed up with the marriage many years before they notify the husband. Men will stay in a relationship if it is just good enough or mediocre and make no effort to improve the relationship. So right men are too lazy to work on the marriage and refuse to listen or pay attention to the fact that she has been checked out for many years.
The man has too much to lose in a divorce. He works hard to keep the marriage going.
initiating a divorce is the worst thing a man can can do because he will simply go bankrupt after the divorce. The divorce laws are completely biased towards men. Even a carrot can figure this out.😂
I think of it differently my friend, the worst thing a man can do is stay in a place where they're locked up just to save a few bucks.
@@Mensdivorcecoach absolutely brother, only fools stay!
@@JohnFRambo Naaah...only fools get married,actually😎😎😎
@@gerhardvanderpoll7378👍🔥
Incorrect, Eye kept 99.9% of My Assets & Eye Filed 1st.
I am the one who told my wife that i want to divorce her.
Rare
What marriage are you talking about? I'm almost 60 happily NEVER married.
Clearly not yours then correct?
Women leave because they have too many options. Men are like candy to them, it's widely available and they can get them whenever they want. Most men are desperate, starved of love and of course have a comparatively much higher sex drive. So is it any wonder that they are so easy? Men lack value, no matter the man, inherently, in a woman's eyes. This is caused largely by simping which is inherent to men when perceiving and dealing with women. This is the fundamental reason why women "fall out of love" so easily. They don't actually "fall in love" with men - what they actually "love" is what that man is AT THAT POINT IN TIME, and on top of that, he has to be that thing, in relationship to how she is feeling. It still baffles me that men can commit to a creature who's feelings for you can change from one hour to the next. But simps will never learn I guess.
I want a family. I want a kids. If only it was possible without having to commit to women
@@brokenbutterfly3178 It is, you can marry a man and hire a surrogate or adopt.
This sounds like a youth problem, like dating scene problem. Sorry, I feel bad for young men cos it must be really difficult. The discussion here is about divorce though, and it sounds like you haven't got a clue. It's a whole other story, when you've been with someone 15, 20 years, and things start to go to shit. Has nothing to do with what you're on about. Yours if a whole other beast, one that I'm so happy I don't have to deal with anymore. Best of luck.
😂😂😂 who hurt you
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Let me think. Pay someone half of what you have worked for your entire life and then be surprised when they leave. I got it.
1. Money
2. Real estate
3. Retirements funds
I mean, if men start listening to their wives and treating them like human beings with real thoughts and feelings instead of a live-in maid, nanny, and booty-call, maybe women wouldn’t initiate divorce as much. Just a thought 🤷♀️
Curious if you think I put blame to anyone on this video. Thank you for your comment though.
Absolutely right!
did not matter in my case
But your opinion does not take adequate consideration of reality. Women are by and large unreasonable, and blame the husband for things that aren't supported by the evidence.
Your comment is bull. You assume men are not treating women like humans. You have some guys like me that has bought her a car, supported 80% of all bills for 12 years, supported 100% for 6 years, never cheated, never lied, does 50%+ of all kid and housework, yet she leaves. Women are confused and don’t know what they want. Men should not get married
Course, how many guys mentally checked out of the marriage before she did and for how long before she did all that?!
Easy, its about what u do get in the end. Most likely in less than 20% of the cases the men gets advantage
"Its not them its you"
They just dont want relationships.
Women initiate divorce even when they don't.
Because they get cash and prizes on the way out.
You said it women value superficiality
So infidelity doesn't play a part? Most men will be in multiple relationships while married, they don't leave because they are able to have their cake and eat it too. Selfish
Data is now showing married in their early 30s cheat more often than men. I try to remain neutral. If you were cheated on, I understand your anger. So was I.
Pick up a womens magazine and read it
Watch the soap operas geared towards women
For women marriage is a to upgrade
When they do marry they keep looking towards their next upgrade
Problem is one party has no skin in the game.
Women with money are a dime a dozen. Just refuse to marry unless her career is better....be willing to go MGTOW. Have her pay you spousal support.
They want to be free
Look what happened when we let me vote
Men will usually not want to divorce. Yes , Its the “good enough” or have a “too inconvenient” mentality.
Women are comparison minded but we are socialized to be…attractiveness, clothes, being attentive. We also tend to be more detail oriented and multi-tasking because of these things.
While men tend to be creatures of simplicity and comfort…they work, generally like a girl, get married and thats it, what else?
Men understand there are no incentives involving cash and prizes for a man to divorce. My brother’s wife divorced him. She moved back with her multiple divorced mother and step dad. She uses the child support $ and alimony for lavish vacations, new cars etc. while he struggles.
@@joncarbone This is really all it boils down to. Women like to use word salads to explain things away when in reality if you remove the incentives that they receive for divorcing, all of a sudden, they wouldn't do it anymore.
This is a generalization men can be complex and women can be simple sure certain things are true in general but there will always be exceptions
Cha-ching. Most of the time, women are given financial incentive to break the marriage. Money talks in a lot of things in life, and divorce is just another aspect.
I'm a 41 yr old woman about to file:
1. I grew, he didn't. I grew in every single way. He didn't. I grew academically, getting a MS in engineering during the pandemic while home schooling 2 kids and working full time.... i asked if he wanted to go back or pursue something else.... the post kept getting moved. Now it's he can't go back to school and work...
2. I BEGGED him to go to the doctor, to a therapist, anyone... please!! He didn't, until i asked for a separation.
3. He has never answered why i worked 2 jobs for 3 years, while he only worked 1....i missed my toddlers early years
He was there... but i was working 2 jobs to make ends me: substitute teaching and bartending.
4. I'm no longer attracted to him intimately, romantically, or physically... I've been trying for so long to b reduce it or fake it, and i can't anymore.
There are others... but i tried for a LONG time before i got to this point.
Thank you for your comment and this, what you wrote is extremely common. You continued, you outgrew him. That's a huge flaw amongst men. We like being comfortable. We need to continue to develop. As you notice, I don't put the blame on the women, not usually anyways. If anything I do blame the men. WE need to wake the fuck up. We need to stop wasting that one little life of ours. Again, very much appreciated and yes, this is extremely common and well written.
Because they're worthless.
Naw ... she literally did sign up for this !!! It's ok to change your mind. But take responsibility
Bro, you made me listen to myself to see where I mention she didn't sign up for this? There's no place. Also, I address "the accountability factor" here. I agree 100% with you to both and maybe I'll use your line "she literally did sign up for this". You don't sound like you're doing well. Please heal.
@@Mensdivorcecoach Nice shaming tactic ;)
So basically don’t become a 😺and women leave your ass up to 90% of the time. Got it ✅
Bruh,,, why you giving away the ending? Haha. Yes, of the men I coach the guys usually fall into 2 categories. The first category and I include myself here was that of a simp. The other is that of the guy with regrets but those guys with regrets end up from regret to anger so my strategy is to get them there faster. Which category were you? Remember I used the usually.
@@Mensdivorcecoach I got divorced this month. I got angry. Courts are now involved and it woke me up. She is long gone. We have 2 kids, houses, dogs, the whole “dream” so it made me upset she has the power to take that all away but your video just emphasized everything I shouldn’t have done and did anyway and now I’m facing a court date next month. I’m now realizing screw that, I’m moving on. Im getting on a dating app so I can just keep my mind off her. Im taking care of my kids when it’s my turn and manning the F up!! So I’m excited. Just when the court date comes along just explain I’m Over it and we all just need to move on so I don’t end up at court again wasting peoples time honestly.
Many men leave their wives especially after long relationships due to their infidelity. They get bored of their wives.
That's very true and unfortunate. If that happened to you, I'm terribly sorry. My intent is not to be anti women but rather pro growth and understanding. I know I speak for many females when I say that much of this can be applied to women also but because I research men, I can be more accurate in what I say. You know one of the first person I ever interviewed was a female and it was because her husband left for another woman. It was 2 years later and she hadn't recovered. Thank you for your comment and know that I call out men probably more than I call out women. It would be easier to call out women, to say they're XYZ. It would make it so much easier to gain subscribers and move up the ranks but that's not what I'm about.
you are delusional. The divorce stat is 70% initiated by women you plonker
Can't be that many given how its the women who are initiating divorce 80% of the time
Actually a lot of women do that too..
Or the wives simply withdraw sex and affection from the marriage (more and more common). You can only starve a person for so long
People get divorced because of religion!!!! 😂😂😂
Soon no women want marriage anymore so we can spare men from the pain of divorce..
And some men just get sugar baby until they run out of fund and still no love 😁😁🤣
I cant wait till men understand that the only way marriage will work if you keep ensuring you love the women without being taken advantage.
Its like firm hold yet love
Women have hearts. So no matter how toxic we all are, we wont move IF we know we are loved.
But it came back to the women. Usually married women do want family. So family mindset