Why Cultural Differences can Break a Relationship

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  • Опубликовано: 26 ноя 2024

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  • @royk4480
    @royk4480 6 месяцев назад +40

    As an American with a Norwegian girlfriend but have dates a Swede, lemme tell ya 😂😂 You’re spot on, but I respect it and love it. It’s odd shutout works for us, I’m typical American; gregarious and super extroverted and handle all of the talking, appointments and reminders of “Sir, her steak is over cooked…” 🤭 She makes sure we’re on time, hyper organized and meticulously structured.
    I’m as southern as the day is long, drawl and all, so manners are king; “yes ma’am, no ma’am, yes sir, no sir..”, opening doors, pulling chairs and giving her my jacket if it’s raining or she gets cold. I love every second of it
    I’m so glad you made this, as too many folks see the “sexy” side of dating other cultures, but man, there’s A LOT of nuance and other things that can break both of you if you’re not careful and deliberate in your learning how to love him/her. It works for us 🇺🇸 🇳🇴🙌🏽

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +3

      Yes exactly. I think a lot of times we are drawn to the sexy side of another culture but a relationship with them shows us we have too many incompatibilities to make it work.

    • @trevordaviesable
      @trevordaviesable Месяц назад

      @@DatingBeyondBordersit might be difficult but its doable. There are much worse hurdles to overcome. Consistency might be a measure of lasting love . Taking for granted would possibly be the doom over a longer term. However, there is a worse possibility……

  • @missadventure4688
    @missadventure4688 6 месяцев назад +23

    I'm dating a Mexican man, and I absolutely love how he pulls out the chair and opens the doors for me. I'm a Canadian-Asian, but I definitely appreciate how he treats me. I love his family values and protectiveness. 😊

    • @trevordaviesable
      @trevordaviesable Месяц назад

      His consistency will show his real humanity.

  • @TiemposDePaz
    @TiemposDePaz 6 месяцев назад +28

    I met a Belgian (from the French side)guy online here in NY and when I expected to meet just him, it was him and his friend at the bar, and his friend stayed with us the rest of the night. He said he would take me to lunch the following day, and surprise, his friend was also there too. Luckily I enjoyed his friend. However, when he didn't try kiss me, which is something most guys try to do, I was a bit disappointed. The next day he wanted us all to go out again and we spent every day together (when I wasn't working). I was wondering if I was in the friendzone. We did meet on a dating app, which would have beeen misleading on his part. However, when we went to a concert he finally made a move and held me close. We continue to get to know each other everyday, he is good at keeping in touch. I read up if this was crazy behavior to hang out as a group, not to be kissed. The answer is yes. Its pretty normal to do have friends be introduced early to those they date. Learning that kissing is a major step in their culture, where it isn't in America, as a sign of commitment. It made me understand that I was in a rush to make it all happen fast. He isn't. We will be spending more time together soon. Hopefully with no friends and more kissing. Yes it is a good idea to know how people court in their culture because they will do things differently.

    • @MrAbrazildo
      @MrAbrazildo 6 месяцев назад +3

      It's rude to write "NY" thinking everybody knows what the crap this is. To anyone who doesn't, it means Not Yankee.

    • @TiemposDePaz
      @TiemposDePaz 6 месяцев назад +8

      @@MrAbrazildo how obtuse of you. Get a dictionary

    • @scotthearts9634
      @scotthearts9634 5 месяцев назад +1

      ​@MrAbrazildo it's means New York 😅

    • @camilar3273
      @camilar3273 5 месяцев назад +1

      @TiemposdePaz Not sure if that's your situation. But I heard before from a person who did that, not Belgian though, that he preferred dating this way to not look so shy and have the time to know more about the other person. Maybe bringing up your wish may make him more comfortable? Who knows! All the best to you in having that mystery solved! 😊

    • @yvettakollega5791
      @yvettakollega5791 Месяц назад

      Also, in Greece first few meetings/dates are meant to be with friends around. I am half-Greek and found that very risky. What happens if the friend clicks with your date instead of you? I prefer to go out with a guy on my own and I definitely don't expect to be kissed. But having the exclusive attention means that you get to know each other better.

  • @Joe-eg7ml
    @Joe-eg7ml 6 месяцев назад +51

    Im a filipino male married to a Lebanese/Armenian lady from Sweden. Our cultures are somewhat similar. Been married for 19yrs. It's an odd pairing since most Lebanese girls don't marry outside their cultures.

    • @Koshkinayekaterina
      @Koshkinayekaterina 5 месяцев назад +1

      Lebanese and Armenian isn’t Swedish

    • @Joe-eg7ml
      @Joe-eg7ml 5 месяцев назад

      @Koshkinayekaterina I didn't say she was swedish. I said she is from Sweden but is accustomed to their culture, food, tradition, etc since she is born and raised in Sverige. She has mannerism of a swede..

    • @Koshkinayekaterina
      @Koshkinayekaterina 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@Joe-eg7ml She’s not from Sweden if there is nothing Swedish about her. Don’t offend pure Europeans

    • @Joe-eg7ml
      @Joe-eg7ml 5 месяцев назад +1

      @@Koshkinayekaterina "pure europeans".....😆

    • @Koshkinayekaterina
      @Koshkinayekaterina 5 месяцев назад

      @@Joe-eg7ml Exactly

  • @joanofarcxxi
    @joanofarcxxi 6 месяцев назад +28

    I am Latina and was with a Swedish man for 14 years, and we have a child. I don't think I'd want another Swede. Think twice before committing to someone from a very different culture.

    • @cool_cat007smoove3
      @cool_cat007smoove3 6 месяцев назад +2

      You are absolutely correct 💯💯. The problems that you are having, I have as well.

    • @carolynslap4150
      @carolynslap4150 5 месяцев назад +2

      What cultural differences did you experience?

    • @esmeralda6111
      @esmeralda6111 4 месяца назад +1

      Scandinavians- no thank you. The no effort people, stingy in any meaning of this word.

    • @Salvatoreluciano.
      @Salvatoreluciano. 3 месяца назад

      Do blonde hair blue eyed Swedish women like Mexican Men that have brown hair & brown eyes?

    • @esmeralda6111
      @esmeralda6111 3 месяца назад

      @@Salvatoreluciano. Do brown hair/ eyes mexican men like swedish women? Stupid question. People are more than their hair/ eyes colour. BTW soon u will not meet many of light colour people in Sweden. Answering your question, women prefer tall men and as far I know Mexicans are short.

  • @heriport6654
    @heriport6654 6 месяцев назад +13

    Toronto guy here….. trust me it is fun to date outside your comfort zone

  • @Wooist
    @Wooist 6 месяцев назад +29

    i've been thinking about this topic recently and its amazing how clear you're able to articulate cross culture dating

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +3

      Thank you!

    • @Wooist
      @Wooist 6 месяцев назад +1

      Also I’m an Asian American born in the US and my wife is from Eastern Europe (Bosnia)

    • @tarik6990
      @tarik6990 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@Wooist How's the relationship going? I'm also from Bosnia :)

    • @Wooist
      @Wooist 6 месяцев назад +2

      @@tarik6990 we just got married recently and I was just came back from Bosnia 🇧🇦 for our family celebration 2 weeks ago !!! Bosnians are great 🙂

    • @tarik6990
      @tarik6990 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@Wooist Čestitam!

  • @marthazmarathon1315
    @marthazmarathon1315 6 месяцев назад +14

    Cross-cultural communication video yes please! and I LOVE Your Content So Much!!! Can't wait for the culture-specific guides ♥

  • @asolaris6470
    @asolaris6470 6 месяцев назад +16

    Unless the couple can work around each other's culture, that relationship has to be reconsidered.

  • @fredricc5771
    @fredricc5771 6 месяцев назад +5

    I’m a Swedish man. Now I understand the reason why I’m unable to find love in my country. Completely agree with this..

  • @castalianightwish8751
    @castalianightwish8751 6 месяцев назад +4

    This "guide" will totally take away the surprise and the pleasure to get to know each other's culture. The process is enchanting. Of course for Marina it's business and she's trying to make you think otherwise.. my mum is Brazilian and in the 60s there already existed mixed couples. One of her friends was married to a Japanese. It's all about communication in the couple. You don't need a guide.

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +6

      Oh you are more than welcome to keep it a surprise if you want. But a lot of people struggle when moving to another country and it helps to know where to meet people or any cultural quirks to expect. I always say that you shouldn't lose your identity to try to accomodate any culture so that can be the risk with knowing too much, but better be prepared in any case.

    • @castalianightwish8751
      @castalianightwish8751 4 месяца назад

      @@DatingBeyondBorders you're deviating the subject, this video is not about "moving to another country" but "dating someone from a different nationality", they are two very different things . I was dating my partner in a foreign country to mine and to his, and we had a great and fun time analysing and discovering each other, I would never ever want to go back in time and get your "guide" to ruin the best love and getting to know each other journey of my life!

  • @einunbekannter498
    @einunbekannter498 6 месяцев назад +7

    I especially feel that "not feeling belonged to your own culture" part.
    I'm the child of a german man and a romanian woman and grew up my whole life in Germany, Munich to be more precise.
    I've only been to Romania during the holidays obviously.
    I must say that I actually hated most of the time I living in Munich. The peoples mentality, mood and arrogance there was/is a pain in the ass and I think the experience there shaped my personality in a bad way.
    Since then it's hard for me to be open for Germans at my age (both men and women) that have no foreign background.
    On the other side I always could get along pretty well with foreigners in Germany, Romania or also Colombia recently.
    And thus I see that the probability of being together with someone from Romania or Colombia e.g. is higher than being with someone from Germany.
    I even prefer paying the bill, even though officially it's common to split it.
    But I'd feel strange and uncomfortable when I'm not allowed to pay.
    Most people I know never let me invite/pay for them. Not even the smallest things.

    • @Kiki67Cappi199
      @Kiki67Cappi199 Месяц назад

      Hai acasă:)

    • @dickthebirthdayboy2132
      @dickthebirthdayboy2132 4 дня назад

      Krauts are closet xenophobes/racist. If you're not 100% German you will always be considered an outsider. You being a man who is part Romanian is like painting a cross around you.

  • @felipechaves6100
    @felipechaves6100 6 месяцев назад +4

    I’m Brazilian from the south, living and dating in Japan, and while my last girlfriend love PDA, my current one doesn’t as much. At times I do miss it, but I understand it and we kinda compromise in between. Behind close doors, Japanese girls are super affectionate though!
    Now I can see how someone from Rio, as you mentioned, would struggle a lot more with this relationship dynamic!
    (Btw, a lot of the German immigration in Brazil was not really related to WW2, it predates that)

  • @johngonzalez4298
    @johngonzalez4298 6 месяцев назад +6

    Happy Friday, Marina! As an American 🇺🇲 born of Colombian 🇨🇴 and Honduran 🇭🇳 heritage, I usually prefer dating European women and Latina women although both types have different personalities. My personality is more easy going, go with the flow type and the last few women I have dated have been Europeans as my last girlfriend was a Spanish 🇪🇸 woman but I personally think that dating women from other cultures is a good eye opener to me as it's good to learn about other cultures and backgrounds. If we vibe, we vibe and if we don't vibe, we don't. I do like a feminine woman. This is a great video Marina and sending my love ❤
    If you are ever back in Miami in the future, dinner is on me Marina 😊

    • @NoctLightCloud
      @NoctLightCloud 6 месяцев назад +2

      "European" is very broad. Have you learned nothing from watching this channel?

    • @Nogoodalvarez
      @Nogoodalvarez 6 месяцев назад +1

      it’s the same things with Cubans in Cuba and Cubans living in foreign countries they love is stereotypical things on different people and also it happens in Latin Americans and Caribbean countries with other Latin America and Caribbean countries that will use the stereotypical against each other.

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks John 🙂

  • @americanexpat8792
    @americanexpat8792 6 месяцев назад +4

    Having done business in 25 countries and been in another 15 for personal reasons, I can relate to everything you have said in this video. Yes, cross cultural communication is critical. Please, create a video on that topic.

  • @pattiderosamusic3292
    @pattiderosamusic3292 5 месяцев назад +1

    Consider using the phrase “emotionally expressive vs. emotionally restricted” rather than “emotional vs rational”. The former is more descriptive (just describing the behavior) while the latter is more evaluative (assigning meaning to the behavior through a cultural lens). Both parties have emotions but it’s really more a question of HOW emotions are expressed, not about being “emotional” vs. “rational”.

  • @yunleung2631
    @yunleung2631 6 месяцев назад +6

    3:35
    As an Asian American guy in the US, the past 2 years or so of me dating has basically seen me end up with one of the 3 categories:
    1. fans of anime
    2. fans of K Pop and K drama
    3. Theater/Lord of Ring fans/tends to be bisexual too
    There are overlaps with all 3, but generally, I found the girls in category 3 to be the most normal in terms of their interests.
    I'm looking forward to doing my master's in Europe. The girls I connected with in Europe for some reason just seem way more varied in interest compared to the American ones I met online.
    Edit: when I say online, I meant dating apps. People I met in real life are generally more normal.

    • @aaron4848
      @aaron4848 6 месяцев назад +2

      i am a chinese guy who has lived in 10 countries including 3 years in the usa. i think your problem is "dating apps". do some cold approach in chinatown or korean town and you will find many normal non-asian girls.

    • @Joe-eg7ml
      @Joe-eg7ml 6 месяцев назад

      Filipino American, I married a girl from Sweden. Resided in Sweden for a bit. Really never intended to marry someone from there but things just happen for the better good.

    • @yunleung2631
      @yunleung2631 6 месяцев назад

      @@aaron4848 True. True. I don't believe in cold approaches. I rather just do things I like and meet people normally that way.
      Also... True. when I was dating my barista for a bit, it was decent for the little bit it lasted.

    • @yunleung2631
      @yunleung2631 6 месяцев назад

      @@Joe-eg7ml nice!
      Obviously Europeans aren't ONLY good, it depends on the person. But I found the way they communicate in Germanic countries to be way better

    • @woutertron
      @woutertron 6 месяцев назад +1

      lmao poor guy, I can just imagine the types in category 1 and 2. I mean, I'm sure they're fine people, but anime nerds can be a bit much even when you don't need to worry that they're fetishizing you for looking vaguely like Goku or whatever.
      Then again, imagine what Asian girls go through with male weebs...

  • @nimarastegar2785
    @nimarastegar2785 6 месяцев назад +7

    I don't identify with most of the social norms in my culture (Iran) , but the emotional thing is spot on. I don't date Iranian women because generally the expectations they have, do not match what they can offer and what I value in a relationship.
    But for me it's difficult to find someone since I want to show affection and emotions but it is considered unmanly unless I'm dating someone from similar cultures e.g latins. I'm currently in Germany and I think it's the worst possible place for a guy like me to try and date :)

    • @einunbekannter498
      @einunbekannter498 6 месяцев назад +6

      Yes, I have a german father and a romanian mother.
      And the difference between those 2 countries is as different as day and night.
      In Germany I often hear if you show affection/emotions "too early" then you're "needy" or something. I don't like that. If I have sympathy or feelings for someone, why shouldn't I show that?
      In Romania it's the opposite. We're not even talking about relationships yet over there, but the romanian people are always more social, emotional, friendlier and happier in general than the Germans.
      Reconsider your thoughts. In Germany you have plenty of people with different foreign backgrounds who certainly don't act that german when it's about dating and realationships. Turkish, Polish, Czech, Romanian, Serbian, Albanian,...
      Otherwise yes man, I agree. When it's about showing affection/emotions, especially in the beginning, I think it can be hard, but not impossible.

    • @estebq2762
      @estebq2762 6 месяцев назад +2

      try to date a south european woman, they are very emotional and touchy but at the same time they are very independent, in Germany there are a lot italians ans spanish

  • @anthonysakin1151
    @anthonysakin1151 6 месяцев назад +2

    One of your best videos. So well done! I'm kind of American but have lived (and dated) all over the world. This is the best explanation I've ever seen.

  • @anandadaquino3604
    @anandadaquino3604 6 месяцев назад +38

    4:16 I'm Brazilian, from SP. The "who pays the bill" in my social circle is still the man. Not because we are poor girls needing a man, struggling, or whatever... it's just being polite. I'm 31 and to be honest I feel insulted when a man wants to split the bill, which just started to happen recently, btw, and very rarely. Even at a young age, in my early teens, hanging out with friends after school, the boys always "provided" for the girls. And when I say provide I mean: they used to pick us at home, walk us to our house... I would say they are very protective? Even my dad said to me once: "don't pay for the boys, never"...
    So growing up in this enviorement when the boys were always protective, worried, when I split the bill I just feel "yeah, not the right person"... it's def not for the money and it happens with friends, too. You don't need to be on a date, if you have a close friend, he is likely to pay the bill.
    I'll give you an example, real thing: couple months ago I got reconnected to a friend and he messaged me inviting me to go to a bar, I wasn't sure, and he said: "send me your adress, I'm sending you an uber", we went to the bar, we had some drinks, we went to his place to drink more, nothing happened, I slept over there because we were drunk... next day I woke up and there was a message of him "I needed to go out to pick my daughter, please let me know when you wake up so I can book you an uber". And I know him since I was 16y old. That's how "proper men" behave in Brazil. I didn't need the uber, I ordered myself, but that's how men take care of us. Unfortunelly in the recent years there are some girls using the good will of men.
    That being said I should say that I grew up in a privileged group, went to private school, the people are more conservative, so this is my small bubble.

    • @amiquigonzales7917
      @amiquigonzales7917 6 месяцев назад +8

      Um verdadero cavalheiro. Saudaçoes do Perú, com muita enveja

    • @legolas7r
      @legolas7r 6 месяцев назад +6

      That's exactly 💯 how it always should be.

    • @anandadaquino3604
      @anandadaquino3604 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@amiquigonzales7917 hehehe e veja que eu disse que ficamos "borrachos".

    • @Maria-oh1nq
      @Maria-oh1nq 6 месяцев назад +2

      Por favor tem auto respeito, ninguem problem com dinheiro

    • @Edgardo-by7dn
      @Edgardo-by7dn 6 месяцев назад

      Your sexual market value has been lowered, especially you're now in your 30s. If you were ugly when you were young this reality you're living now would have happened sooner.

  • @robertoibarra3900
    @robertoibarra3900 6 месяцев назад

    I’m Mexican American (26 years old) and I currently live in Australia but I have travelled much of the world and I just to say that when it comes to dating and even meeting others it’s my Mexican culture that makes me click with people. It’s a beautiful experience as well cooking Mexican dishes and seeing the shock on people’s face when they hear me speak English and Spanish.

  • @ChrisKim-l2f
    @ChrisKim-l2f 5 месяцев назад +2

    I'm a Korean man. I think women "lusting over Korean men," are one, exaggerated, and two, temporary. I warn Korean men to not rely on these fantasies which shows you more about these women more than Korean men, since the phase will fade soon. By the way, why isn't Dating Beyond Border doing anything like, "You know you are dating a Korean man when..."?

  • @tommyvercetti9434
    @tommyvercetti9434 5 месяцев назад +2

    I'm a Spanish guy dating a German girl and while I don't like to make plans I do like having plans so I know what to expect for the week so my German girl planning our week and then asking for my input is perfect for me lol

  • @leongeorge_life
    @leongeorge_life 3 месяца назад

    Loving your videos. I am a UK man who for ages, found it so difficult to get into dating, until i started meeting more european girls. I generally find that the average British girl comes across as a bit fake where as when i’ve dated european girls, i find it much easier to be direct and have more honest and meaningful interactions. I am a big believer in dating someone from another country as it gives you both so much more to learn about which ultimately i believe leads to a stronger bond

  • @countryclub1113
    @countryclub1113 6 месяцев назад

    My father is German-Norwegian and my Mother is Mexican-Portuguese. They are complete opposites in pretty much everything (the way they think, act, etc.). They want to do everything completely different, don't agree on hardly anything... you get the picture. My father and his side of the family are introverted, very structured, plan everything, and do everything on-time. My mother's side is extroverted, unstructured, and usually don't keep definite plans or times for things, but they are fun.
    Me, my sister, and my cousins are all mixed-race. Some of us are more like the German-Norwegian-Dutch side, and others more like the Mexican-Portuguese side. I fall into the group who' s more introverted and likes to plan and do things on-time. I've learned that I can't do what my parents do. The people I date have to be the more introverted, planned, doing things on-time personality and life-style type, and their family needs to be that way too or it just won't work for me. But, it works for my parents somehow, because they love each other, do things for each other, and always make each other laugh. So, I guess they prove that "opposites attract" for some people 😊

  • @linanafie8571
    @linanafie8571 2 месяца назад

    I'm Egyptian/French and dating an Australian, it overall works super well, we learn a lot about each other all the time! But some moments were trickier when he'd do something considered normal in Australia but is seen as extremely rude in France or Egypt

  • @jasminekbackstrom
    @jasminekbackstrom 6 месяцев назад +5

    Super interesting topic and would love to know more! I also liked that you touched on the fact that not all feel like they belong to the culture they grew up in. Would be interesting to hear your perspective on that, or in interviews with people. ❤️

    • @originalmix2546
      @originalmix2546 6 месяцев назад +2

      I second this, coz it's my case as well. I don't feel belonging anywhere and to anyone.

    • @einunbekannter498
      @einunbekannter498 6 месяцев назад +1

      Yep, same here. Growing up in Germany under a german father and romanian mother. But I already felt as a child that I might want to emigrate one day bcz I can't see myself acting like a "real German" by 100%.

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +2

      Yes that is interesting 🤔 will keep it in mind

    • @jasminekbackstrom
      @jasminekbackstrom 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@einunbekannter498 yeah, I feel like nobody recognize or talk about this. You can truly find your place in the world if you discover more cultures. Even though I of course have many typical Swedish traits as a Swedish person, I did find a place that could match good with my non- Swedish traits as well as my Swedish traits 🙌

  • @avecnayo
    @avecnayo 6 месяцев назад +9

    Great video. I think people should be mindful about their partners cultures. Also I guess the key for some people, is to try and date cultures that might be similar to yours, or a culture you personally would like to assimilate to as well.

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +1

      Yes 🙌

    • @einunbekannter498
      @einunbekannter498 6 месяцев назад +3

      It's hard for me.
      My father is German, my mother Romanian. The difference between those 2 countries is like day and night.
      But I prefer dating someone who's attitude is similar to Romania.
      Like Colombia recently. I visited that country and fell in love with its people, attitude, nature, food, music,...
      And sometimes I felt like I was in Romania when I was around the people or when I saw the beautiful landscape of theirs.

  • @5566letslearnEnglish
    @5566letslearnEnglish 6 месяцев назад +3

    Well done you Marina..you explained everything in detail..Your videos help us to know other cultures very well..

  • @WellitaMartins
    @WellitaMartins 6 месяцев назад +1

    Please!! I need a cross-cultural communication video!! I'm brazilian and my boyfriend it's swiss. We have a a lot of communication problems with so much cultural differences... I loved this video ❤

  • @Pewtah
    @Pewtah 6 месяцев назад +2

    That video is already a classic! It could be a TED Talk. Thanks for such a summary!

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +1

      Can you now email TED talks and tell them about me? 🤣 But you just inspired me to apply

  • @RylandLu-w1n
    @RylandLu-w1n Месяц назад

    Would be interesting if you did an explainer on cultural differences between American regions as a follow up to your project. Americans are commonly portrayed as uniformly direct, open, and individualistic but in California (where I live) and much of the Midwest, the culture tends to be quite indirect (or "nice") and spontaneous and there is more social distance. As a someone who likes to plan things out and state their opinion, I feel quite out of place--especially at work where many of my colleagues are from the Midwest haha. I traveled through Central Europe and the Balkans this summer and really liked how direct and to the point people were. Kind rather than nice. The Balkans were particularly enjoyable because it felt like there were elements of both Slavic directness and Mediterranean hospitality/openness.

  • @Mead33
    @Mead33 6 месяцев назад +2

    I really love your videos, it’s makes me more aware of why some of date don’t work. Because of your videos I can now search partners that fit me better!

  • @inferno0020
    @inferno0020 6 месяцев назад +11

    As a loser anywhere, women treated me universally as a loser :D

    • @cocoloco65482
      @cocoloco65482 6 месяцев назад +4

      You're a King. Believe in Yourself.
      Work towards it....

    • @Laurita-ev8me
      @Laurita-ev8me 6 месяцев назад +1

      Don't think about yourself in this way. Btw, if you don't mind, may I ask wby, in what way you see yourself as a loser? Do u mean financially or aesthetically?

    • @jiribb9300
      @jiribb9300 4 месяца назад

      You don't know him. Maybe he IS a loser ​@@cocoloco65482

  • @JF-wp2rz
    @JF-wp2rz 3 месяца назад

    That's really interesting because when I was dating a Finn he kept complaining how long everything here in Austria takes because of the constant smalltalk and chit chat we apparently engage in with nearly everyone we meet. I have never dated anyone from Greece but I have quite a few friends who came here from Greece and they complain about the exact opposite. That we're so cold and don't talk to anyone. It really is a matter of perspective.

  • @BH6242KCh
    @BH6242KCh 6 месяцев назад +1

    Some are touching on it in the comments, but another dynamic is a culture within a culture. Particularly in US and Canada, everyone is from somewhere; a Mexican-American or Chinese-Canadian. Some retain cultural traditions more than others, some are more influenced by one over the other. In my case, an American Jew, living in a state heavily settled by Northern Europeans, the culture is stoic, private, and non-confrontational, while the Jewish People are the other end of the spectrum. Then, being a less than 0.2% minority in the state, I have very little contact with my own ethnic group. So, if I meet a Jewish girl from the UK (for example), there would be the entire set of national cultural similarities and differences, yet within the same ethnic culture.

    • @Steven-gg1bn
      @Steven-gg1bn 6 месяцев назад +2

      This is probably true with any nation or group of people who have experienced some sort of displacement or diaspora to far flung corners of the globe. ie: jews, roma (gypsies), or people of African descent in the Americas. There will be plenty of nuance between us, but there will be cultural ties that connect us despite the distance and time spent apart

  • @osvaldogalaz7655
    @osvaldogalaz7655 6 месяцев назад +4

    this is a very professional analysis!... shout out!!!!!

  • @leehossain8339
    @leehossain8339 Месяц назад

    This is very good. As generalisations go this is quite accurate. Well done.

  • @Juan-cx7rc
    @Juan-cx7rc 6 месяцев назад +8

    Yes Mexican decent and my first date was with an Irish girl and she was shocked because I treated her like a lady

    • @5566letslearnEnglish
      @5566letslearnEnglish 6 месяцев назад +8

      İt is weird that some women find normal gestures not normal..

    • @amiquigonzales7917
      @amiquigonzales7917 6 месяцев назад +5

      She's lucky and she doesn't realize 🤔

    • @Joe-eg7ml
      @Joe-eg7ml 6 месяцев назад +3

      Make her some birria tacos and she urs forever...lol

    • @toomuchinformation
      @toomuchinformation 6 месяцев назад +2

      ​@@5566letslearnEnglishNo, it's sad.

    • @artguz5807
      @artguz5807 6 месяцев назад +3

      @@5566letslearnEnglish "normal" in your culture, but not on other cultures

  • @Minareso
    @Minareso 3 месяца назад

    In Iran, the debate over who should pay for the first date is still hot, even though society is moving towards modernity. Many believe the cost should be equally shared between the guy and the girl, but this topic remains intriguing and controversial in shows like Blind Date

  • @silviosantos6553
    @silviosantos6553 5 месяцев назад +1

    Intercultural relationships are so interesting but also challenging.

  • @rebekadoetsch
    @rebekadoetsch 6 месяцев назад

    I enjoyed this video so much and can relate to and agree with all your insights here, which are so wonderfully articulated and put forward in a very neutral way. More people need to see your content. Thank you ❤️

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you! I am so happy you liked it. It was a lot of information so I feel like I ran through it 😂

    • @rebekadoetsch
      @rebekadoetsch 6 месяцев назад

      @DatingBeyondBorders No, not at all. It's such a huge topic and you covered the various aspects well :)

  • @amiquigonzales7917
    @amiquigonzales7917 6 месяцев назад +1

    You always hit on the nail Marina, thank you again.

  • @meastucerinnee
    @meastucerinnee 6 месяцев назад +1

    I wish these videos had subtitles in other languages, so that I could show them to my wife (Colombian) and friends from other countries

  • @osagiee.guobadia-secondytc4624
    @osagiee.guobadia-secondytc4624 6 месяцев назад +3

    This is educational for me to learn more about dating different women from all around the world. I met this person in college who is a female. I wonder if she is born in America or born from a different country. ☺️😳🤔

  • @larsegholmfischmann6594
    @larsegholmfischmann6594 4 месяца назад

    I'm Danish and last year I dated a Ukrainian woman, and I have to say that some of the differences was really nice (e.g. I could be a gentleman for once), and others were a little challenging (language barrier). The relationship ended for other reasons than problems arising from cultural differences. She was really nice though. Sad it didn't work.
    In my life I've spent time with women from all over Europe and I think I like the Spanish the most. Love how affectionate they can be.

  • @cool_cat007smoove3
    @cool_cat007smoove3 6 месяцев назад +4

    Fantastic Video. I believe that another video is required.

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +1

      Ok will definitely consider that. Thanks!

    • @cool_cat007smoove3
      @cool_cat007smoove3 6 месяцев назад

      @@DatingBeyondBorders You touched on a lot of things that people don't think about when dating outside their culture.

  • @rafae5902
    @rafae5902 Месяц назад

    Even though things are slowly degrading thanks to feminism, Brazil still has one of the best dating cultures IMO.

  • @kylesavage4525
    @kylesavage4525 6 месяцев назад

    Awesome video Marina. So much information condensed into such a short video.
    And yes we do want a video exclusively about communication in couples with different cultures. Can u also do one about cheating? I remember u did one about it a while ago but just for some European countries i believe.

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +1

      Thanks! Have been wanting to make a video on this for a while. I have also considered one about cheating. Might be tough to find up to date and accurate statistics but it would be interesting to chat about the way cheating is perceived around the world.

  • @woutertron
    @woutertron 6 месяцев назад +3

    About Dutch weddings: obviously there is also usually a group of guests who stay for the entire event, ceremony, reception, dinner, etc. These tend to be close family and friends. But an aunt or cousin who you've barely spoken to for two years? People from work? Why would they want to even stay for the party? You invite them for the ceremony and then let them get on with their day.
    It should also be noted that gifts aren't expected or customary at our weddings, so it's not like you're asking someone to drop off a €200 dinnerware set and then F off.

    • @camilar3273
      @camilar3273 5 месяцев назад

      May I ask you if that response of other "not so close people to leave", to move on with their day, is about not wanting to cause any disturbance in their own schedule, or not seeing that that should not be that relevant in their own schedule? If it is not that, another possible interpretation would be that they are not welcome to stay longer. But I don't think that that's the idea you convey. Am I correct?

  • @Steven-gg1bn
    @Steven-gg1bn 6 месяцев назад

    I really love this video, informative and accurate. Of course you had to talk about stereotypes and generalizations but without being offensive or disrespectful. Wonderful

  • @tsquier30
    @tsquier30 5 месяцев назад +1

    I'm engaged to a cuban. She's coming to the US this summer!

  • @machodossantos7443
    @machodossantos7443 4 месяца назад +1

    I love this channel you do such an amazing job. I am curious what made you so Interested In Sweden per se as a country to speak about their Romance and sexual activity as much you do ???

  • @annastayziaa
    @annastayziaa 6 месяцев назад +1

    I adore you ♥️ tysm for this video 🥹

  • @kbbarton1
    @kbbarton1 6 месяцев назад +2

    Love your videos! I look forward to the UK dating guide. ☺

  • @QjonesX
    @QjonesX 6 месяцев назад +4

    What I would like to see on this channel is a video about skin color and dating from other countries and how it impacts their lives and relationships, if any, due to the racial cultural stigma .

  • @carolinenz7937
    @carolinenz7937 5 месяцев назад

    We need to add New Zealand to your scope! Happy to help ☺️

  • @LaLeoRonroneo
    @LaLeoRonroneo 5 месяцев назад

    Wow! Amazing video. I appreciate the details. As a mixed race woman this topic is always a challenge in my dating life

  • @ricardoglover3449
    @ricardoglover3449 6 месяцев назад

    My favorite video so far. Loved it!

  • @madinaa3868
    @madinaa3868 6 месяцев назад +1

    Great overview Marina ❤

  • @johndewey6358
    @johndewey6358 5 месяцев назад

    I think most of what you said in this video is true. But, childish behavior is childish behavior regardless of cutural background. I believe we should communicate mre to minimize misunderstandings that can lead to hurt feeling.

  • @scotthearts9634
    @scotthearts9634 5 месяцев назад +2

    0:38 idk about gender roles but in my opinion he was being a gentlemen 🤷😅

  • @hanahana0329
    @hanahana0329 5 месяцев назад

    I am a Japanese.🇯🇵when I had genetic test recently.
    I had thought I’m 100% Japanese.
    But the test said about me that I have a little British🇬🇧blood.
    In 1850s,Many British trade men came to Japan,so maybe it was mixed then.
    Maybe they came from UK to Japan by ships,not airplanes.
    It is very strange for me that I have island-state bloods of the edges of both the East and the West.
    It's not good to decide things for 100%.
    I can only say that everything depends on the person.

  • @pedrofreitas4627
    @pedrofreitas4627 5 месяцев назад

    I felt I didn't belong to my own culture as a Brazilian before knowing my gf who is Bulgarian. Nowadays I see that I belong to this cultural, but in a different level mainly due to people around me, I spontaneously picked some stuff from my gf's culture. However, there is in facta lot of Brazilian, Latin American, and Mineiro(regional) in me.

    • @rafae5902
      @rafae5902 Месяц назад +1

      I'm Brazilian too.
      Can you explain in more detail what are the differences?
      Do you mean that your GF is more traditional than Brazilian girls?

    • @pedrofreitas4627
      @pedrofreitas4627 Месяц назад

      @@rafae5902 Not only more traditional in the Western way of thiking, but also centered in the Eastern European Culture (her own culture).

  • @grizmba
    @grizmba 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you for your sharing of information.

  • @toyboy51funorb
    @toyboy51funorb 3 месяца назад

    Very accurate vid lol. Belgian n indian here 😂 went through many of these n found middle ground n happily married

  • @uiuc007
    @uiuc007 4 месяца назад

    Question for you. If Scandinavians are considered the loneliest, why do they always rank highest on the happiness index scale. I never understood that.

    • @rafae5902
      @rafae5902 Месяц назад

      It's an average.
      Their society is more equal, which means there are less people struggling with the basic stuff.
      It doesn't mean that you will be happier if you live there though.

  • @Bamdad-k6b
    @Bamdad-k6b Месяц назад

    The answer to my quiz was Finland.
    But I expected Dutch.
    Do you think this test is valid?

  • @MRZE506
    @MRZE506 6 месяцев назад

    Absolutely when i was in latam i didnt like paying for the date everytime was annoying

  • @apelsinovich4391
    @apelsinovich4391 6 месяцев назад +1

    Спасибо за прекрасное видео! Мне кажется все эти темы полезно обсуждать не только в мультикультурных но и вобще в любых отношениях. И чем раньше тем лучше.

  • @isabarros_
    @isabarros_ Месяц назад

    Hey! Which podcast of the Brazilian who is married to a British is that one?

  • @lulloa47
    @lulloa47 6 месяцев назад +1

    Have you watch the movie “The Lobster” (2015)? That’s dating in Sweden in a nutshell. You have been warned.

  • @mouradabdi2207
    @mouradabdi2207 22 дня назад

    Hi, sorry to point this out to you, but at minute 7:53 the Moroccan flag (generated by AI I think) is wrong, thanks.

  • @Laurita-ev8me
    @Laurita-ev8me 6 месяцев назад +1

    I think there are many differences inside the USA between the Northern and Southern States. Regardless of their ethnic background, the Southern men tend to be more protecting, caring and romantic and they generally have no hesitation to show their feelings, whether it is love, affection, friendship, caring and also the opposite. If they dislike you, you "feel" it. On the other hand, Norherns are more introverted and "self-controlling" and for this they may appear more "cold" and emotionally detached

  • @oceanlagoon7733
    @oceanlagoon7733 5 месяцев назад

    People now days don't care if there's nothing in common, it's really odd.

  • @tobiojo6469
    @tobiojo6469 6 месяцев назад +1

    Interesting video

  • @MB-rr5xz
    @MB-rr5xz 6 месяцев назад

    That was awesome

  • @adamnesico
    @adamnesico 6 месяцев назад

    When you are authist, everyone looks, rather than from another culture, more like from another planet.

  • @Limpi43
    @Limpi43 6 месяцев назад +1

    Gender roles are outdated (like chaperone or dowry), don't force people to stick to it if they don't want to.
    Spontaneity looks fun, but in the long run planning is more efficient.
    Indirect speech is very likely leads to misunderstanding. Direct is NOT equal rude.
    Emotions usually give bad advices, rationality seldom.
    Only an insecure person is jealous, and jealousy poisons relationships.
    Personal space is important, you cannot be together 24/7.
    Marriage is getting outdated, but the "I find an other one when I got bored with this one" method is the real problem.

  • @antoniohagopian213
    @antoniohagopian213 6 месяцев назад +1

    Guide for psychopaths(that don't want to lie) would be hilarious.

  • @willileo2373
    @willileo2373 6 месяцев назад +5

    I’ve suffered racism from the females in my country and that’s what has pushed me forward to follow your channel and thinking seriously about finding a girl from other countries

    • @siddharthtripathi5806
      @siddharthtripathi5806 6 месяцев назад +2

      Which country are you from?

    • @Nogoodalvarez
      @Nogoodalvarez 6 месяцев назад +1

      it’s the same things with Cubans in Cuba and Cubans living in foreign countries they love is stereotypical things on different people and also it happens in Latin Americans and Caribbean countries with other Latin America and Caribbean countries that will use the stereotypical against each other.

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад +3

      Racism from women in your country? Where are you from?

    • @willileo2373
      @willileo2373 6 месяцев назад

      @@DatingBeyondBorders I’m from Iraq, the females here extremely hate white men especially Blonde men. Blonde men that prefer blonde girls have little chance but blonde men who like brunettes have almost zero chance to get accepted. This situation is getting worse by time because our girls have copy paste preferences and they consider dark men as trend and more masculine than white men and also the other reason they have xenophobia towards western world (Blonde man is an icon of western world)

    • @willileo2373
      @willileo2373 6 месяцев назад

      @@siddharthtripathi5806 Iraq

  • @filmonmeshesha8
    @filmonmeshesha8 6 месяцев назад

    I have Questions I’m from Ethiopia and I’m dating Mexican women but I want to know more about Mexico dating from Africa?

  • @Gguy061
    @Gguy061 3 месяца назад +1

    I just look at the taxes and regulations in Sweden and how afraid they are of being vulnerable for being judged by others and I just die laughing when anyone would call that "individualistic". Guess I can't die my hair blue, or people will think I'm trying to be better than them. No sir. The law of Jante wants you to keep your head down and be like everyone else! I think the word you're looking for is "non-commital"

    • @cc-so8di
      @cc-so8di 2 месяца назад

      Not only, that not true that Finn and Sweds don't yell, outside they won't do but in their home aren't so different from italian parents. They are anxious, there isn't completely gender equality, a lot of swedish woman told me that swedish man are possessive and controlling and not so open minded

  • @truthtellerb
    @truthtellerb 6 месяцев назад +1

    From 🇧🇷 and I can confirm; in a relationship we want to share 2 bodies and 1 soul 🥹

  • @meastucerinnee
    @meastucerinnee 6 месяцев назад

    I wish these videos had subtitles in other languages, so that I could show them to my wife (Colombian) and friends from other countries

  • @RuthParodies
    @RuthParodies 5 месяцев назад +3

    How about african countries? 🤔 - a dutch gal

  • @nabilrise1551
    @nabilrise1551 6 месяцев назад +2

    This makes for a good argument against intermixing

  • @helveciog
    @helveciog 6 месяцев назад

    I want to visit some eastern countries and meet some people there. I feel like I won't find a partner in Brazil.

  • @heriport6654
    @heriport6654 4 месяца назад

    I love Russian ladies, latino here.

  • @artguz5807
    @artguz5807 6 месяцев назад

    This is F A N T A S T I C

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад

      Thank you! Have been wanting to make a video on this topic for a while

    • @artguz5807
      @artguz5807 6 месяцев назад

      @@DatingBeyondBorders I see that this kind of content Is More fulfilling for you and to be honest I hope there's more of this anthopological work

  • @luispimenta59
    @luispimenta59 6 месяцев назад +1

    can you do how is dating in gay world? Is very interesting ❤

  • @K-wx6ki
    @K-wx6ki 6 месяцев назад +2

    love italian guys haha

  • @trevordaviesable
    @trevordaviesable Месяц назад

    You have a great idea but I think that culture might be the second level to form a long lived relationship. Firstly, culture difference can be accommodated by intelligent people but the lack of empathy can never be attained and will result in unrewarding relationships. Sexual compatibility is relatively short lived. Look firstly for humanity that shows empathy. Look for it ,test for it but try not to be seduced by it.
    These sites are swimming with these people. Often charming and good looking and they use these attributes to seduce the unsuspecting.. By the way, they are mostly unconscious of what they are doing as they skate on the surface of life. However, eventually perhaps one would be taken for a ride of bad consequences. We are living in a sea of predatory fish. Sex should be the difficult net that they use, so watch out.

  • @Gruezi583
    @Gruezi583 6 месяцев назад

    I like swiss girl

  • @estebq2762
    @estebq2762 6 месяцев назад

    Germans are very emotional and the can feel entitled to shout at you, they are not very rational, and they are very dramatic in some aspects, but be friendly is something very difficult for them

    • @DatingBeyondBorders
      @DatingBeyondBorders  6 месяцев назад

      I have definitely seen emotionally angry Germans.. and very happy (but usually when they drink!)

    • @estebq2762
      @estebq2762 6 месяцев назад +1

      @@DatingBeyondBorders that's nasty

    • @Julia-kg5vu
      @Julia-kg5vu 6 месяцев назад

      Hör auf die deutschen schlecht zu machen 😂

    • @estebq2762
      @estebq2762 6 месяцев назад

      @@Julia-kg5vu I did not say something wrong

    • @scotthearts9634
      @scotthearts9634 5 месяцев назад

      It can't be said about everyone! 😂😅

  • @montedreams1
    @montedreams1 4 месяца назад

    Hello, I am seriously thinking about moving to Albania. I am from the US; white male; 53 yrs old. What are your feelings and thoughts on Albanian women and a very honest, affectionate man from the US dating? I appreciate total honesty. Thank you, Monte

  • @thieres
    @thieres 6 месяцев назад

    Been called a macho by a girl is such an compliment for me

  • @legolas7r
    @legolas7r 6 месяцев назад +4

    HOW how on earth the Brazilian 🇧🇷 guy managed to get into a relationship with a Japanese 🇯🇵 woman ?
    The culture difference is beyond huge.

    • @cocoloco65482
      @cocoloco65482 6 месяцев назад +5

      Japanese and Jewish, are large migrant groups in Latin America..

    • @Jean-rg9zg
      @Jean-rg9zg 6 месяцев назад +4

      it's pretty normal in brazil actually

    • @anandadaquino3604
      @anandadaquino3604 6 месяцев назад +5

      @@Jean-rg9zg They might be descent of Japaneses, but they are Brazilians. We share our culture.

  • @Van_lewis_
    @Van_lewis_ 6 месяцев назад +1

    😂 Im a Indian man But I never dated a Indian girl in my whole life. I dated all women are European girls

  • @Nogoodalvarez
    @Nogoodalvarez 6 месяцев назад

    it’s the same things with Cubans in Cuba and Cubans living in foreign countries they love is stereotypical things on different people and also it happens in Latin Americans and Caribbean countries with other Latin America and Caribbean countries that will use the stereotypical against each other.