My father battled cancer, and its side effects, on and off for more than 20 years. My mother and I battled with him. When in the end the battle was done and there was no hope left, he made the so very brave decision to die with dignity and on his own terms. It was a very beautiful and peaceful proces. With the wonderful help of our family doctor he died as a man in charge of things, in his own home, surrounded by the people he loved, not letting cancer get him first. Could not have been more proud of him that day.
@@Brandi.65 Are we talking about the same God who gives brain tumors to 6 month old babies and makes them suffer until they die from pressure in their heads? If he created the world in 7 days but doesn't manage to save so many innocent people from an awful death, it's probably fair to ask where people see him as a good God. Maybe there is no god. Not for me. Or what did the 6 month old child do, to have to die like that. Oh yes, it died for the original sin of its parents. According to the Bible, they themselves are to blame for their sins. Yes it also says in the bible that it is a sin to kill yourself and there is written much more terrible things in it. It is not a peace-loving God. It is ruled with fear and violence to make us docile and obedient, so we shouldn't learn to think for ourselves.
I dislike the fact this video was flagged as a video relating to self harm: those taking control of their own lives and choosing to end their lives is not self harm. Its the opposite - its ending harm. Smh.
Same. Mine came with the flag and a suicide prevention number at the top. I'm not considering euthanasia but if I was this would make me awful to have to go through these tags.
Its because the government does everything they can to make everyone believe population control is not the ultimate goal, but thats what it is. Its exactly why they throw me in a psych ward full of the most heartless, careless staff they could find every time I try to take my own life. I hate this world very much, I just want out. That's why I'm researching this so much.
@@minkaduchatiyep, and dare contact one of these "prevention lines". They'll throw your ass in the most depressing place they could possibly design, where you can no longer even exit this world. Ur there til they say, no mercy, no love.
We do it for our pets and other animals who are suffering extreme pain or incurable illness , why must humans suffer ? A peaceful and painless death is what I hope for. I need to make my wishes know now , I don’t want to be on a ventilator if it means never coming off of it. I’d rather go peacefully in my sleep surrounded by family
@@myapologiesmissgurl5069I have medical power of attorney and my wants are covered there. I have had this set up the last 15 yrs. I have been sick 19 yrs. There's no cure for what I have and it's progressive. As a retired hospice and psych nurse (my specialties) I have worked everywhere in the hospital. I have seen it left up to patients family and it's horrible bc they don't know their family members wishes. Or worse patients families are fighting with each other. Make sure you have it registered at your doctor's office, hospital and others no where a copy is. So there's no issues. Medical bracelet is also helpful
New Zealand has now made this an option. My partners dad chose this for himself and passed peacefully last week. He had a beautiful last day. The weather was perfect with sun shining and not too hot or too cold, especially considering the weather days prior and post his passing was rainy and cloudy. He happily watched his favourite rugby team win. He had his family around him, chatting, having a beer and listening to his favourite music. He passed fast and peacefully, all on his own terms. He had been suffering the past 5 years and had gotten to a point where , though he was mentally fit, his body was rapidly failing him and there was no medical treatments left for him to try. The only other option was for him to go into a rest home and wait until his body eventually gave in. He didn’t want to suffer anymore and he wanted to be in a place that made him happy. It was an incredibly sad but beautiful experience to witness. Rest in paradise Paul ❤️
I lost my Dad (we are in NZ too) about three months ago to cancer. The thing that really haunts me is that when we got to the palliative care and hospice stage, everyone led us to believe that his pain would be controlled and that it would basically be quite lovely and peaceful. Sadly, for nearly three months they did not have his pain under control and he suffered terribly 😔. Also, they don't tell you that there's no help to be had on the weekends. We had to call ambulances if his pain spiralled on the weekend. Anyway, I just wish people had maybe been a little more honest about these things so he could have truly made an informed decision. I'm happy for your partner's dad, that there didn't have to be suffering.
@@haleyanderson573 I’m so sorry that you and your dad had to experience this. It’s such an awful way to spend the rest of your days in so much pain and as a family member to witness your loved on going through that. My partners dad was much the same with not being able to get his pain under control. He tried morphine and oxy, which only temporarily relieved the pain. There were days he was keeled over because he hurt so much. If he would’ve gone into palliative care, it’d only be the same temporary relief until his last day. The option to have an assisted death gave him the opportunity to have an incredible last day and that was such an amazing experience to witness. Sending my condolences to you and your family, it must have been horrible for both you and your family.
Yes, that's my point. Here they always told us that controlling the pain would be no problem, but they can't guarantee that, so they shouldn't have said that. My Dad needed honesty so he could weigh things up and make a decision he was comfortable with. They sugar coated every part of his end stage and even as his carer I wasn't prepared for some of the common symptoms that occurred.
@@haleyanderson573I completely understand. Having witnessed a cancer patient at the end of her life on her deathbed, struggling, I have nothing against euthanasia.
Wrong. We have watched our loved ones die the way God allowed them to die and at the time God destined them to die. God created life. This is a Luciferian death cult.
My MIL got her wishes overruled by her own daughter. The daughter said she 'didn't want that'. The mother had requested all care be stopped. She has end-stage Parkinsons. So I'd advise people to be careful of who their power of attorney is.
ABSOLUTELY!! I've been through it twice.Watching peopaul take over another person's life specifically where there is money involved in making some terrible calls.. I'm so sorry that you had to go through this.@angelagendreau3586
I used to work as a hospice volunteer and we had several people choosing this to end their life. Personally I found it difficult to say goodbye knowing he or she would be gone soon and on the other hand I fully understood and felt great respect for them.
I’m so glad to see she was happy and smiling at the end surrounded by family! God bless her and the people who provided her dignified and personalized last moments… well done all!
@@dawnricherson2604 Roman Catholic I suppose. Brain washed zombies. I believe in Jesus, I am a committed Christian. Jesus understands dying, in suffering, pain and despair, way more than we do! Didn't HE die such a death, on the Cross? God gave us free will,and knows everything that is in our hearts , minds and spirits .He will weep for anybody who suffers, to the point of feeling this despair! And feel nothing but compassion for their plight. To say He will think euthanasia is a sin, is a lie!! You know NOTHING about the depth of God's Grace and love, if you think this way. I wish Medicine could advance, further, in the methods of properly stopping pain. That way, many people wouldn't fear the end of their lives. If they knew they'd be able to be pain free , and lucid, they would probably want more time, with loved ones, on Earth. As a Nurse, death is not foreign to me. To witness any unnecessary, suffering is totally heartbreaking.
I watch my beloved Aunt take her last few breaths dying from cancer. She was barely recognizable not even a shell of her former self. She was in unbearable pain and would moan and cry all the time. Her last few moments she struggled to breath, there is nothing humane about watching someone go that way.
As someone who suffers severe depressions, i think for me the time will come when i think its enough. The endless strugles in an ugly world. I hope by then i can go quietly and on my own terms. I suppose thats my one luck, living in NL.
I’m Brazilian. In Brazil, death is something scary and funerals are always full of desperation and screams…As death is there. I moved to the Netherlands 7 years ago and my perspective of death and my view of it has changed COMPLETELY. Death didn’t become something nice or something I’m expecting to live…Noth at all. But, Now I see it as a process we all will have to deal with. So, why not trying to see it under a better perspective? The funerals here are beautiful…The friends choose songs that reminds the person. They read poems, they write experiences and jokes about the person…They show videos and photos…Everything is just beautiful and a celebration of life. At its end…why not remembering how amazing it was? Today I understand who chooses to have a better end. Surrounded by their loved ones and without suffering. Thank you Netherlands for this…🩶
As an American, we have a really weird relationship with death.It's like we don't talk about it until we have to deal with it.People don't come to visit the sick person, but they're crying at the funeral.It's just so bizarre here. I've lost 10 people this year.My uncle passed away on January 1st and that kind of set the tone.And my whole View point on death has totally changed.It's more in line with your new thinking. We're lucky not to face it with such fear.
After watching my beautiful best friend die in excruciating pain from cancer earlier this year I know which way I’d rather go. RIP dear lady. No more pain. ❤
Respect is at the heart of this, what a well made film. Sending my deepest sympathy to the family and friends of this lady or anyone else who has this experience.
I have a painful disease that causes more and more of my body to shut down. Unless you have experienced this type of suffering its hard to imagine but giving people the choice when their bodies give them no choice is a beautiful and peaceful thing.
We put our beloved pets who are suffering to sleep in a gentle, calm manner...we should be allowed to do the same for people who are suffering as well. Be well, Alein.
@@Stefanie2530It's only " gentle and calm " if it's done in your home. The vets office is very stressful for a pet. The smells, sounds, pet owners upset etc.
@@icookmyfood7363 lol thankfully im not at that stage in my journey. However one day if I know only pain it would be right to give me that choice. It can be a hard concept to grasp though when you have never been chronically ill.
I am a nurse, and our first natural actions are to "save" people. In the US, death is considered "taboo" and not talked about unless you are dying. I do believe that people should have the choice on how they want to leave the world. If they have a terminal illness and your choice is slow and painful, or quick and peaceful, we all try to go to peaceful. I have worked hospice, and there have been times you wish a patient would just let go and die already. It breaks your heart to watch them dying and suffering because there comes the time when no matter what you, you can't help the person get any more comfortable. I think if the person is able to make their own decisions and wants to die on their terms and in their way they should be allowed to do it. What does it really heart if grandma dies from state 4 liver cancer today pain free and happy or dies in 2 months in so much pain and wasting away. We treat dogs better than we treat people. Dog has cancer and they can't operate the give the decision usually right then and there to put the dog to.sleep.
I would like to add that the ambulance taking people to a special place as their last wish, stichting AmbulanceWens (Foundation AmbulanceWish) is a non profit organisation run by volunteers. It is founded by a ambulance driver who took a old sailor/boat guy he needed to transport to the harbour to see boats one last time. The reaction of the guy gave the driver a new purpose in life.
I have watched my mother be taken by cancer. I wish she had this option. Watching a disease take over someone you love and making their end miserable is one of the hardest things
I'm a nurse and I've had some patients BEGGING me to give them "something" to unalive them, because they couldn't handle the pain anymore. Truly horrifying. Thank god i work in cardiology and not in some palliative care, or i would loose my mind.
My Dad, in the last weeks of dying of cancer at home, said two things that stand out for me. 1. He woke from a semi comatose state and asked my mother/ "Why am I still here?" 2. . A few days later,, during his brief spells od being conscious, he told her/ "please help me go".
You don't know what it's like until you suffer with severe pain 24/7. Let your Loved One die with dignity. Help them end their constant suffering . Allow them the release and freedom from this personal hell. They will Thank you for understanding, for your compassion, and for your Love. May the Lord Bless those who are soon to come Home Bless those left behind till we meet again. Amen ~~
When my mom was dying of lung cancer, she looked me straight in the eye and asked me to shoot her. I don’t think she wanted to die, but she was dead serious. I was 23 years old. I am now 45 and it’s still the most sorrowful experience I have ever been through.
I live in America and I’m all for this! If an animal is in pain and won’t live, the vet doesn’t allow the animal to suffer but humans don’t get that opportunity 😢
@@dawnricherson2604your right most humans are demons. The animals in the Bible are talking about wolfs in she's clothing.human body does not make you a human. The truth hurts.
@@dawnricherson2604 You are sadly incorrect, humans and "animals" as you say are the same. We are in fact animals after all, more specifically mammals.
@@dawnricherson2604 Tell me please the difference between humans and animals that makes imposible for a person to make an individual choice about his final moments? It's his body, it's his life. Please explain.
Gosh the Netherlands are so advanced and well developed...even the comments from Dutch people are reflective their balanced views and emotional well-being....no drama, but well thought through, well reasoned and respectful input 👏
I can't tell if you are beeing sarcastic or not. But this is a emotional subject for most. Almost everybody who is an adult knows someone who has died of cancer. What is a terrible way to go most of the time. For those people to have the option to end their live at a moment of their choosing, and not have to suffer anymore makes me happy to live here.
@janharml Not sarcastic at all....I actually wish that I could move there. I'm from South Africa and even though our ("Afrikaner") ancestry are Dutch its too distant to enable citizenship
I can understand the choice my wife just passed away from cancer on the 31/07/23 she suffered through hell morphine every 4 hours and bed ridden she wanted to die seeings her suffer was hard on my mind 😔 but she now is at peace🙏
We live in Canada and attended my brother’s end-of-life gathering in 2019. I was so surprised how moved I was by this experience. Many of us shared our feelings and expressions of love …. It was so wonderful to be able to tell my brother how appreciated he was and how he effected our lives. We all cried when he breathed his last breath … but the emotion of my crying was intermingled with happiness for the end of my brother’s suffering.
Seeing people watching a musical in their hospital beds and Femmie visiting the tulips was beautiful and respectful, it says a lot about a culture that embraces death, that the dying can have their last trips facilitated rather than being locked away in hospice care which is suitable for some but not others
Actually, my hospice has a program called "Final Wish" and we do everything we can to accommodate patient's last wishes. I can't really say "locked away" is a good descriptor of being on hospice.
Kudos to the Netherlands. No one has any right to prevent any human being from making their own decision. I think there should be a “Switch off Centre” where we can go into a into a lovely room and watch a lovely video, get some painless help to leave this planet whilst we listen to our favourite music. It is our right. NOT anyone else’s. God knows why this is just a contentious issue. Death comes to us all. I hate the people, disease free, who say “patients must wait - a cure could come along”. THET DO NOT.
There are euthanisia clinics but you can also doing it at home. It is going very fast. Docter is also aking if you want to keep sitting on the couch or any place is fine. You can find documentaries in YT about how it is going.
yes as long as the person is of sane mind and there in is the issue. Many are so far gone they can't decide alone. When Doctors decide we have to ask why?
This issue should be a part of every advance directive/living will, that way the decision is made in advance to be carried out at a point predetermined by the patient. Mine states that if I become unable to care for myself due to mental decline all medical treatments of all types are to be halted, with exceptions only for pain and anxiety. @@ridingtheroad185
@@TryingtoTellYouactually we are mammals making us animals as well so stop with the oh your not a dog bs we can all experience the same pain as a dog or cat or any animal would suffering is the same as well
@@TryingtoTellYou oh yes they do, you talking to someone who has bachelor degree in animal science and behaviours so nice try, same as cats know as well both dogs and cats know when death is imminent and no humans actually don’t suffer more, can we not control pain on our own by taking pills? Can animals do that? Unless someone helps an animal in pain via vets they stay suffering more until death with no pain relief, it’s actually animals that suffer more
Even in the end she has a sparkle that cancer cannot take away from her. I'm sure she was an absolutely amazing person in her prime. She probably saw a few people take the slow descent into a painful passing. If you have never experienced that firsthand as a primary caregiver, then you should have nothing negative to say about this choice. It changes you forever. I'm sure she didn't want her kids to go through it.
No one can escape death. Therefore everyone ought to able to have some decisions regarding the manner of their death. No one should be left incapable, helpless and in pain when it is not necessary. She is a lucky woman to have had such a choice.
Well said. Death is nothing to fear, it's the final frontier. Either there is nothing, in which case we won't care, or there is something magnificent. Either way, it's part of life, for everyone.
My brother opted for assisted suicide. He had Huntington’s Disease which is terminal. He passed surrounded by his wife and teenage children around him.
I know this is a very hard subject to talk about but as a person that works in hospic care, I watch a lot of people live grate and happy lives despite their conditions but then there are those few that reach that point where it isn’t quality of life. They can’t do anything but sit there and stare out in space and at times with pain. So seeing this it makes me happy to see a opportunity for that person to make that choice where they can choose to leave while they are in a state where they are not suffering like that is amazing. I respect everyone’s views but to me to see someone unnecessarily suffer like that when all they want is peace is I feel a true sin.
@@peetabrown5813they do, but if you choose to go before that horrific end, you can, which is the humane way to go. If you live in a intelligent country.
I think that the decision to end your life on your own terms to avoid more suffering and agony is also a great opportunity to give your loved ones the chance to keep you in their memory in a beautiful way, as happy and comfortable as possible, and not as the person that only knew suffering til the very end. I think it makes the grieving process a little bit more bearable, to know that they made the right decision for themselves.
@Wicker_ Except for the fact that it IS respected, especially by the medical profession, especially in the Netherlands. What's extremely childish is to think that every country is like your own.
I'm for it. I always thought that if a person chooses not to live, no one has the right to stop them. I too, have for many years, even when I was young thought a person has the right to choose to live or die. I'm very healthy 61 year old, I don't even get flus or colds, but just the same I am all in for end of life therapy. I wish this lady a beautiful transition.
Next week the whole family gathers to mark the 50th wedding anniversary of my termernally ill uncle and my aunt. He's been wanting to hang on for that but will choose to end his life by euthanasie soon after, ending his suffering on his own terms rather than chocking to death due to his longs failing. It is a sad time, but I fully respect his wish to choose a more peaceful end.
I was born in the Netherlands and grew up in America. People should be free to choose both if they want to end their life and if they want to give life. I am so glad I kept my Dutch citizenship.
My dearest friend suffered for eleven years from cancer. In her last year she put in place everything she needed to end her suffering. Horrifyingly, she became immobilized in her last month and could not access her drugs. She had the death she feared. No one who knew could help her.
@@leighleigh747no one can help as they could, and people have been, charged with murder. There have been UK high court cases when people, who knew they would become incapacitated due to their illness, asked that if anyone helps them, or travels with them to a country which does allow it, that they aren’t charged. It’s been turned down. This results in the person having to make the decision sooner, before they lose control of their body, or they have to travel to a different county, alone, to face the end
My mom chose the passive euthanasia. About a month before she died she went off of all medications. (This was the beginning of May and she died June 14.) The only thing she took was pain meds. She had a major stroke the morning that she died and for the rest of the day my father just pumped morphine into her and she left the earth around 7pm.
This happened to my husband here in the states. Per hospice I pumped the drugs all day and into the night. I still have a hard time with the memory of that. it has been 2 years
Im sorry maybe you shouldnt say your father pumped morphine into her, people may not know who you are, but it could start something bad for your father.
I am sorry for your loss. Our friend with CA passed that way. The caregivers were just giving her morphine to alleviate the pain but her days were numbered. She went less than 2 weeks after entering hospice.
@@kennethnaish3100 please know that you absolutely did the right thing. Your husband was dying regardless, and you kept him comfortable in the process.
There's a point where medical intervention becomes inhumane and cruel. You cannot escape death, but if you have the option to not go out in agony and mental stress, it should be available. There is no point in making people suffer for a few extra weeks or days when the patient has declared they have had enough. I would hope the option is open to me, if I was in this position, it would also allow me to get everything in order to take that off my loved ones shoulders.
I live in the United States and wish they would do this. I have told my daughters that I do not want to be left on tubes and machines. I went through cancer treatments and was blessed to have no evidence of disease at this time. I don't believe anyone should suffer in immense pain if terminally ill. They should have a choice to die in peace and pain free.
I wish we could do this as well. I'm also in the US and have personally watched my parents in law died at home in pain/agony. We had in home hospice care, but I'd sit daily by their bedside talking with them, I was the one who delivered my FIL's morphine as that was something the caregivers weren't allowed to do. I sat up the entire night before my MIL passed trying to comfort her. Her pain was so great that she couldn't sleep. She had a hospice care giver who could adjust the meds she was receiving by IV. Unfortunately, the meds really weren't strong enough to completely relieve her suffering.
I definitely want a choice. I'm in the US and I think 11 states are legal to do this, but it needs to be adjusted. There are people here who say Pro choice or my body my decision, but are against death with dignity. Idiots
@@dulcilass I am sorry that you had to go through that. I believe that the only way your pain is gone is if the doctors give you so much it knocks you out. If you are terminal & the doctors say they can't do anymore for you, you should be able to choose to die before pain is terrible. If I was a doctor and I was allowed to help my Terminal patients to die, I would do it, if my patient wanted to.
I was in a similar situation, myself, when am5 weeks after his retirement, my husband of 41 years, was diagnosed with metastatic Pancreatic cancer. The best he could hope for was to go into remission. However, this never happened for my husband. We live in Western Austtalia, and Voluntary Assusted Dting was being discussed but was not legal. We discussed his choices at the time, and the necessary legal documents were completed. Because we discussed things, I do know that if Voluntary Assisted Dying was an option, he would have taken that option. It is now a legal option here in Western Australia.
With the right to have a humane life, comes the right to have a humane death. It's crazy that in this modern time, in modern countries. People have to suffer a long and painful death bed
@@SpeccyMan I'm male. I am already called a dog on a daily basis. I'm also treated like a dog in that I have to watch idly by why my child is murdered by a "doctor" because he or she was too inconvenient for their mother.
Thankfully here in Canada, we can have this now. The final bill was passed in 2021. I've been a smoker for 47 years. I don't have cancer, but I already signed up for this as I have no desire to burden the medical system financially should I ever get cancer. It's not fair to those who really deserve chemo and radiation, etc. I die on my terms and no one elses. 😊
I truly wish my father could’ve had this choice available to him, he would’ve happily chosen this path rather than the six weeks of agony he went through in front of us. I would’ve gladly helped him. True angels the drivers who volunteer to take their patients anywhere for their last ride.
My grandpa died of kidney failure because of cancer and it was horrible to see him in his last days.. He didn’t look the same at all. If I ever go through illness like this and they tell me treatment is futile I hope something like this is available for me. We do this to put animals out of their misery, why can’t we do the same ❤
Euthanasia happens in the US under the guise of ‘keeping the patient comfortable’. My mom had a situation where gangrene had spread into her abdomen. The doctor talked with us and then turned up the morphine drip. It took a couple of minutes. Her breathing slowed further and further until she took a last breath.
Did your Mom even have a say in the decision? If not, then you just admitted that your family and you conspired with the doctor to kill your mother by increasing the morphine drip dosage.
I work in health care in The Netherlands. The process of requesting an euthanasia is lengthy and even when approved still has several stages before it actually takes place. So for all of you out there freaking out about how "easily we assist ppl" just please calm down. It's still heavily regulated, and change of heart is constantly possible, at any stage, even the final one.
We have this in Canada too. A co-worker of mine was feeling bad over the weekend (otherwise, young, healthy and had his last physical a month earlier) he went to the hospital and discovered he had stage 4 pancreatic cancer. The oncologist gave him up to six weeks. The following weekend, his family assisted him at his home and bid him farewell. The best way to go is so that your family has good memories of what and who you were instead of wasting away in a shell, unrecognisable in some hospital or palliative care centre.
We have euthanasia in Australia now. I think it should be an individual choice. It’s a hell of a thing to put people through hell when they could go peacefully on their own terms. Lost my best friend to cancer in may. She died in excruciating pain after waiting almost 5 hours for an Ambulance. She didn’t deserve that hell. ❤
@@lks6248 That is correct. How can people be so damned blind and stupid that they cannot see this and that this is how any such program in any country inevitably ends?
Before my dad passed he asked for an injection from the palliative care nurse of course legally in Ireland you can't I think it's inhumane to let people suffer
I’ll never forget when my friend was on palliative care for like 48 hours as she very slowly died. She was on so much pain medication she was unconscious but not enough to actually stop her pain (they still limit how much they’ll give you) so as she slowly died she was still wincing and you could see it in her eyebrows and hear it in her breathing. It was absolutely traumatic to watch. I don’t know if she would have chosen an option like this but I sure would if I came to this situation.
All of this. I experienced all of this with my mom on Dec. 18, 2022. It was so painful for me to watch the strongest person i knew wither and leave this world in agony. When she was no longer conscious, her last words were "help me, help me" and this crumbles my heart every time I think of that.
@@cynthiaa7791 Holy hell, dude. That is brutal. It hurt me just reading it, imagining being in your shoes. It's reading things like this that make me want to give random people on the internet a big hug. In lieu of that, I'll just say that hopefully you don't dwell on it too much.
I highly recommend watching the documentary "Choosing to Die" by Terry Pratchett. In 2010, he explores euthanasia in Switzerland and follows the journey of a man choosing that route due to terminal illness. The man takes the drink and passes away on camera. It was insightful, sad and beautiful all at the same time.
As difficult as it would be knowing my loved ones had a date of when they’d be saying goodbye…the idea that I could choose to go on my terms and not be victim to an wretched illness brings me so much peace. Cancer often kills who your are long before your body dies. I like the idea of my family remembering me as ME, and not watch my wither away and lose every bit of what makes me who I am. ❤
Inspiring.. I hope my country will consider this perspective (USA). A life well lived, a death with open arms and dignity when that time comes because it will come for all of us. So much more compassionate to allow people that choice. ❤
I live in the US, currently California, Oregon and I believe Washington state all allow assisted suicide. Medication can be prescribed by a doctor and taken by the patient, or with the assistance of a health professional. 💙
We do have this option here it just isn’t widely accepted. Here we call it assisted suicide. I think the issue here is the fact that it’s called assisted suicide. People are seeing/hearing the word suicide and it’s a no go. I think that’s because we’ve been told for long that suicide is morally wrong, which in many cases it is, that anything besides that one word makes it evil or something. They don’t want to see that we do the very same thing to people on death row. Or that it’s done every day to end the suffering of severely ill pets.
It's insane to me how we deal with death right now in the states. All of my relatives who've died "the natural way" we didn't get to plan on having a final fairway, they suffered immeasurably, and it doesn't come off like it's out of compassion. It's just because no one knows what to do and everyone fears death.
I have PD myself and if thigns ever got that far, perhaps I would likely understand how your dad would have felt but as a Christian who lays all things at the feet of Jesus Christ I know I would still tell anybody who brings this up with me to take their drugs and go do something unmentionable with them
I took care of my aunt here in the USA who was terminal and hospice did a wonderful job keeping her comfortable and passed peacefully. Ireally have mixed feelings about this. I would not want to suffer for yrs knowing the end result. We have a DNR in the states that we can sign and my brother and mother both were on life support and it was an awful feeling to be the one to say yes pull the plug. But, I did it twice I knew there was no hope. I believe everyone should have a DNR if they are terminal.
A DNR is something different, here in the Netherlands when you have a terminal disease you would never be resuscitated. Euthanasia is more like when you put your dog or cat to sleep.
💯 agree with this choice for those with terminal illnesses. People should not have to suffer, my sister and brother both died of Huntingtons and to watch them loose their dignity, identity and to see them suffer and wither away till literally their last breaths was hard not just for us who witnessed it but for them mostly….
As long as it is the persons choice and that the doctors and specialists in charge have the experience and knowledge and correct skills to diagnose properly then I see no why not to let people choose to end their suffering. Out of my 5 dogs, I put down 2 because of seizures and another being constantly in pain, the vet said their was nothing that could be done to help them at that point. If having the option I would support this as long as it is the patients choice when they are in the right state of mind.
@Wicker_ a person with dementia, or other conditions that affect memory in my opinion, this sort of situation would constitute someone to contemplate for a bit. Conditions like dementia I think in my opinion would be counter productive to that.
@Wicker_ It is why their doctor has to ensure that the decision to end their life was made when they were of sound mind. The doctor should know if a person actually wants to die by knowing social cues.
@Wicker_ You did not comprehend what I said. It is the job of the doctor(s) to ensure that the patient made the call for euthanasia in the right state of mind. Doing this is not a one time, let’s do it an hour later type of thing. It requires 3 consults, with time spaced in between, to ensure that this is what they want. They go through a process to ensure that the patient is in the right state of mind. This can be stopped at any point in time. I have gone through this process with a friend who wanted it after a stage 4 cancer ruined his life. The 3 doctors consulted him, and those in his close circle of life. Not once did they suspect any sort of pressure from them. Not once in their evaluation did they see that my friend was pressured to do this. Your conspiracist theories that the doctors just want to end it because it is more convenient for them is simply just your own. And if you don’t have any faith in humanity or those who work in healthcare, then that’s just your own problem.
@Wicker_ One may have the papers that you want to undergo euthanasia for specific circumstances, but at the moment you take the discussion, a doctor has to decide you are clear of mind. Doctors are not to proceed, when someone is not clear of mind. That is the difficult dilemma for applicants. The euthanasia has to be done in a state, that one actually feels ok and would like to spend time with loved ones. But if one waits the situation might deteriate so quickly , that you are unfit to say 'yes' in the eye of a doctor. And euthanasia is not allowed to do.
I think it's wonderful that in the Netherlands they allow people the dignity to die without forcing them to be in prolonged pain (mental or physical) and medical debt. I don't think I could voluntarily end my life, but death is inevitable. It's good to allow people the choice to go out the way they want.
I have been having sever abdominal pain, it’s equivalent of having contractions, it hurts so very bad and I’m only 39 years old, the pain just comes out of no where, it’s been going on for at least 3 years, but with all of that Being said: IF A PERSON GETS TO THE POINT WHERE THE PAIN IS SO UNBEARABLE WITH NOTHING TO EASE THE PAIN OR GET RID OF IT ALL TOGETHER, Then people should have the option to do what is best for them, especially if it’s an incurable disease 💯
You have to be terminally ill to be given the option of euthanasia. This has to be verified by two or more Doctor"s...that you have six months or less to live. This is required here in America..in the States that have accepted euthanasia.
Im happy i was born in the netherlands. If im ever very sick it comforts me to know i have this option. No suffering. Just a quite beautiful goodbye with my loved ones around me.
Years ago I saw an American politician on tv telling older people in the Netherlands were begging not to kill them and they killed them anyway. I Couldn't believe my eyes and ears. Because I am Dutch, and I know what happens here. My own mother was in the proces, but suddenly died a lot faster and with a lot less pain than expected. Do not make this political, give people the choice. Doctors also. My personal doctor wil not do it because of his beliefs. But there are others, if it comes to that.
@@DutchEVP He has his own wikipedia page. A friend of Pete Hoekstra I see. The former US ambassadeur to the Netherlands. Who also made some wilde claims.
I’m American, and if there is one thing I can stress in life to stay happy, educated and sane it’s to ignore everything our politicians say-it’s all useless noise to make themselves seem important and no one will remember them when they pass and they bring no joy or peace to any of us sadly.
My mom chose to have euthanasia, but cancer took her before the day of the injection. I fully supported her choice, as someone who's been suicidal and depressed in the past, I fully understand not wanting to go through suffering every day. I was at peace with her decision. But sadly, had to rush to the hospice at night so I could be there for her in her final moments. Those final moments will forever be in my mind
@@CCisRight I totally agree with you. If a person is not right with the Lord before passing and they pass away much sooner than need be, how horrible. Not saying this is the case with all people, of course. Perhaps the extra few days or weeks allows a person to make peace with themselves and the Lord. Not all people have lived a good, wholesale life. Many of my own family fit in the catagory of not living a Christian life, being far from it at best. Some sold drugs, some stole constantly, everywhere all the time. Some sold hard core drugs. I could go on and on. I hope they made peace with God and asked for forgiveness before passing. I wasn't able to be there physically when many of them passed unfortunately, or I could have prayed with them.
I think if we had an extreme illness & felt this woman's hourly pain we may reconsider our religious beliefs with how much pain can we stand day after day and how much can we put on our families emotionally & physically we put them through it too nit just ourselves. It's draining and emotional for the whole family.
I heard from nurses that patients with some types of cancer and terminal desease suffer intense pain while in hospitals that no matter how many fentanyl or morphine they inject into their bodies after it that they still scream loud because of the pain excruciating 😢
I’m 100% all for this, I do appreciate this service that some countries offer, this is what we all want,a peaceful pain-free death. Instead of waiting for this disease to completely render you house bound and hooked to a hospital bed 24/7 in more pain than you can ever imagine. This is a alternative for you and for family to seek help with.
@@TryingtoTellYou no, there is a strict bunch of rules and procedures that you have to go through, including 2 doctors who agree on your diagnosis etc.
I’m terminal and wish so much to at least have this choice 😞 I’m destitute, incurable, might have 6mo or 6yrs and all alone. No one should be forced to live this way. Illness is dehumanizing enough; having no choice but to wait it out is evil.
This is a wonderful and beautiful gift to be able to choose how one life ends in cases with terminal out come. Seem it adds to the peace and power of how one choose to go
I agree with euthenasia, your passing is more peaceful and your choice. I watched my dad take a long time to die from cancer and he suffered more than he should have, this would have been a much kinder choice, RIP dear Femmie, deepest condolences to your family ❤
I did hospice care as a cna years ago. We had one lady that had lived a full beautiful life. I was taking care of her in her home. She went into a coma and was still living after 2 weeks she would not let go. We were giving her pain meds . I was sent home by her daughter one night and she died early in the morning. I know in my heart her daughter helped her along with a little more morphine but thats ok. If we had this choice here in the United States it would ease alot of suffering
Someone in a coma seemingly wouldn't be suffering any longer. Why would anyone need help along at that point? In active suffering I can see... But already in a coma?
@@laurah6381 WRONG! (I'm a Nurse) Morphine is a respiratory depressant. It's used as pain relief , as I'm sure you know. If given in large enough doses, Morphine will cause breathing to stop.( put short and simply ) So, giving more than the prescribed dose, as possibly happened In this case, will indeed kill the patient !! That's why, in palliative care, the balance of the dose is essential. And why pain may not be effectively treated, as we can't give excess Morphine. Many patients have, over the years, been given bigger doses to control pain. Family members need to understand that death may come soon after
@@laurah6381an overdose can. I am sure the mother discussed it with her daughter. In my family my mother discussed it with my sister and so, when her heart gave way, they did not use any extra life saving procedures to resuscitate her. Our doctor had also discussed that issue with us and what he should do, just two days prior. I wasn't ready to let go but i trusted my sister as she and mom were very close. She was in the ICU with complications from Lupus. It made it easier for us. When her Will was read much later, she had indeed specified it in there as well.
This is so beautiful. We don't have this in the US, but I wish we did. My dad suffered horribly before he died. He begged the doctors to help him die. Every part of me wished he had that choice. Kudos to you for allowing people to die with dignity and peace.
Thanks for sharing this and bringing awareness to this topic. Thanks to Femmie and her family as well for sharing. Euthanasia is a personal choice and one that all should have a right to.❤
I lost my dog to a tumour 2 weeks ago, I let him go as he was on the cusp of truly suffering, his ability to eat (his favourite thing) began to rapidly diminish, amongst other physical issues he was beginning to have. We gave him a great day before we let him go. I just don’t understand why we can’t give all humans the same choice.
So sorry for your loss,they give us so much in such a short life. It's only right we repay them in any way we can. I've been there so many times with my dogs,it never gets any easier,but if it's the last thing we can do to make the pain go away it's our last act of kindness for them. Like the saying goes you wouldn't put a dog through all that pain so why should we not be able to do it for a loved human.
California: The California End of Life Option Act went into effect on June 9, 2016. Revisions to the law were approved and are effective 1/1/2022. This law allows a terminally ill adults who are California residents to request a medication from his or her physician that will end his or her life.
I think the State of Maine passed this law a few years ago. However...you must have a terminal illness, verified by two Doctor's.. My State of Massachusetts has a huge amount of people trying to get this law passed.. Sadly...religious fanatics are trying to prevent this from happening.😩
My boss was from the Netherlands. She passed at the age of 100. We were very close, it would have been hard to do this, but given a choice I think she would have done it. We're only left with our memories and every day with them is a blessing. It's a lose, lose situation. There's no winners here, accept the government coffers. My dog is old and his quality of life deteriorated, ppl told me to euthanize him, I couldn't do it. When I finally made the difficult decision to take him to the vet on the Monday after the weekend, he recuperated. I love him too much, but I would have done it for him. I gave him my best and prayed for him, he's all good and well now he might just outlive me.
I wish this was available in America. So many people suffer everyday with extreamly painful terminal illnesses. I know first hand. I care for them every single day..😢
My husband works in medicine. He’s told me about the cancers that are hopeless. I will get the strongest drugs for pain and get my affairs in order. I won’t suffer through treatments. Recently my former employer suffered terribly getting treatment for pancreatic cancer.
Life is so delicate not everyone gets a full long 99 years of great living be thankful for being young when you still are and take good care of yourself as you get older rest well ma'am 😢
"Dutchy.".. meen je dit nou echt? Wat een bizarre manier om je Nederlandse nationaliteit weer te geven in het Engels. Ben je 12 jaar oud? 'Dutchie' is infantiel en direct afgeleid van 'Aussie'. De originaliteitsprijs ga je er niet mee winnen. Hou ermee op.
@@hansolo2121 oh ja ik was ff vergeten dat jij de main character bent, en alles op jouw deftige manier moet gaan🤣 ms moet jij gewoon ff uit de bijstand gaan en een baan gaan zoeken. Bij de Wener hebben ze zat plek voor types zoals jij, kan je toch nog wat bijdragen aan de maatschappij.
@@hansolo2121 Deze reactie plaatsen bij een serieus en emotioneel onderwerp is pas infantiel! Jezelf @hansolo noemen is uitermate kinderlijk, ben je 6 jaar ofzo? Laat iedereen in zijn/haar waarde and ga iets doen met je leven!!
My mother was given 1 year to live after getting a cancer diagnosis in 92. This was the height of the scandal surrounding Jack Kevorkian. I was spending the afternoon with her and watching the news when she said" I can understand why someone would do this now"after chemo and radiation 5 days a week for 3 months.
This should never have been a question. Why would you suffer through imaginable pain if you are going to die anyway? It is ironic that pets have more rights than humans in that matter.
Its not about what the person is doing. Its about that person having the freedom to do it. This is what both sides of this debate should be talking about.
No debate should be needed in a really advanced Humanity: the individual decision *should be exactly that...* individual and irrefutable, but here we are, fighting monks, people scared of d3th and bible-boys to decide over our own path, body and suffering.
A dear friend of my family was forced to starve himself and cease drinking in order to end his own suffering. It was heartbreaking. It would have been a great kindness to him to go peacefully.
😢 It was very emotional video, but I do understand the circumstances. I think the Netherlands is great democracy that even in cases like this one, you still have the right to choose what you want to do with your life. We are from such an important thing here in the U.S. i lived in the Netherlands years ago, and I still miss the advanced minds those people have. Rest in peace lady, you made the right decision. Live from Daniel .😊
Euthanasia in the Netherlands is well-thought over, by the people of the Netherlands, and transformed into carefully crafted laws by the Dutch government. It is nót "an easy way out", but to put it simply, a well chosen humanistic way to end personal human suffering in any form. You can't just apply for it, it is a personal desire put before a commission and doctors, with well documented medical and physical history of a patient, where it becomes clearly that being alive is a long and suffering path with an even painful end. Euthanasia is humain, and can be done planned. In that way, a person can say their goodbyes to loved ones, partner, and for one last time visit animals, gardens or an event like a concert or a sports event. Euthanasia may give people outside of the Netherlands chivers, but as a Dutchman i can only say that it is done with the most respect, the process for applying to the real ending takes months, and the person can take time to change their minds, or take time to say their final goodbyes. I sincerely hope that our Dutch way of humain ending of life with all the procedures in place will one day be adopted by more countries. No living being deserves to suffer endlessly and have indescribable pain with no healing or cure in sight. Give them the right to go out on their own terms.
I don't see any problems with this at all. It's your life so you should have a day so. I watched my aunt suffer through breast cancer for many many years. Over 26 chemo treatments. I'll remember our last trip to the beach forever that was the last time she was herself. Not long after her husband my uncle passed away after a battle with liver disease. Then I had to watch my childhood best friend and her dear family which felt like my own suffer through this horrible disease cancer. I was also fighting cancer at the time. I really thought we would both make it she was so strong. It was a year ago this past august. What I do not want this to be used for is younger ppl who are depressed or mental illness to be able to choose this without being given some types of help first. Life is precious live it to the fullest. My heart goes out to everyone struggling and fighting ❤
Should be available worldwide if no way of living without cure. My uncle has cancer in is wind pipe already has a trackey inserted but the tumor is growing and will eventually block his airway completely and suffocate him. 😢 He should be able to choose when he passes not suffering like he is. A dog would be put to sleep so they don't suffer but we as humans have to suffer until we die a painful death.
Thank you for the video. So brave Dutch people. Ultimate respect for their sincere and honest approach to the most complex issue in life. In the US, unfortunately ultra hypocrisy and evangelical madness are currently sweeping through, no honest and intelligent debate for this very important topic is possible.
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My father battled cancer, and its side effects, on and off for more than 20 years. My mother and I battled with him. When in the end the battle was done and there was no hope left, he made the so very brave decision to die with dignity and on his own terms. It was a very beautiful and peaceful proces. With the wonderful help of our family doctor he died as a man in charge of things, in his own home, surrounded by the people he loved, not letting cancer get him first. Could not have been more proud of him that day.
Beautiful. How fortunate he is to die on his own terms. I'm sorry for your loss.
That’s sad in my opinion and God’s not for doing suicide.
@@Brandi.65 Are we talking about the same God who gives brain tumors to 6 month old babies and makes them suffer until they die from pressure in their heads? If he created the world in 7 days but doesn't manage to save so many innocent people from an awful death, it's probably fair to ask where people see him as a good God. Maybe there is no god. Not for me. Or what did the 6 month old child do, to have to die like that. Oh yes, it died for the original sin of its parents. According to the Bible, they themselves are to blame for their sins. Yes it also says in the bible that it is a sin to kill yourself and there is written much more terrible things in it. It is not a peace-loving God. It is ruled with fear and violence to make us docile and obedient, so we shouldn't learn to think for ourselves.
@@Brandi.65it's so kind of God to allow people to languish in agony
@@Brandi.65how do you know that GOD feels that way about suicide….did you and GOD meet and discuss that. I hate when people use GOD in their comments
I dislike the fact this video was flagged as a video relating to self harm: those taking control of their own lives and choosing to end their lives is not self harm. Its the opposite - its ending harm. Smh.
Same. Mine came with the flag and a suicide prevention number at the top. I'm not considering euthanasia but if I was this would make me awful to have to go through these tags.
Its because the government does everything they can to make everyone believe population control is not the ultimate goal, but thats what it is. Its exactly why they throw me in a psych ward full of the most heartless, careless staff they could find every time I try to take my own life. I hate this world very much, I just want out. That's why I'm researching this so much.
@@minkaduchatiyep, and dare contact one of these "prevention lines". They'll throw your ass in the most depressing place they could possibly design, where you can no longer even exit this world. Ur there til they say, no mercy, no love.
I find it more inhumane to allow someone to suffer until they die than to allow them to make the choice to not suffer and die peacefully 🖤
We do it for our pets and other animals who are suffering extreme pain or incurable illness , why must humans suffer ? A peaceful and painless death is what I hope for.
I need to make my wishes know now , I don’t want to be on a ventilator if it means never coming off of it. I’d rather go peacefully in my sleep surrounded by family
How about God taking people on HIS terms alone? Dont you know the evil Dutch govt allows euthanasia of children?
@@myapologiesmissgurl5069I have medical power of attorney and my wants are covered there. I have had this set up the last 15 yrs. I have been sick 19 yrs. There's no cure for what I have and it's progressive. As a retired hospice and psych nurse (my specialties) I have worked everywhere in the hospital. I have seen it left up to patients family and it's horrible bc they don't know their family members wishes. Or worse patients families are fighting with each other. Make sure you have it registered at your doctor's office, hospital and others no where a copy is. So there's no issues. Medical bracelet is also helpful
This so called ‘choice’ is not ours to make . Eternity is where everyone should be concerned . Not this short ‘life time’ on earth .
@maryisabell8760. G-d gave mam free will. People have the ability to choose.
Saying goodbye when you can is a gift. We treat our animals better than our relatives. A sad legacy to the human race.
New Zealand has now made this an option. My partners dad chose this for himself and passed peacefully last week. He had a beautiful last day. The weather was perfect with sun shining and not too hot or too cold, especially considering the weather days prior and post his passing was rainy and cloudy. He happily watched his favourite rugby team win. He had his family around him, chatting, having a beer and listening to his favourite music. He passed fast and peacefully, all on his own terms. He had been suffering the past 5 years and had gotten to a point where , though he was mentally fit, his body was rapidly failing him and there was no medical treatments left for him to try. The only other option was for him to go into a rest home and wait until his body eventually gave in. He didn’t want to suffer anymore and he wanted to be in a place that made him happy. It was an incredibly sad but beautiful experience to witness. Rest in paradise Paul ❤️
I lost my Dad (we are in NZ too) about three months ago to cancer. The thing that really haunts me is that when we got to the palliative care and hospice stage, everyone led us to believe that his pain would be controlled and that it would basically be quite lovely and peaceful. Sadly, for nearly three months they did not have his pain under control and he suffered terribly 😔. Also, they don't tell you that there's no help to be had on the weekends. We had to call ambulances if his pain spiralled on the weekend.
Anyway, I just wish people had maybe been a little more honest about these things so he could have truly made an informed decision. I'm happy for your partner's dad, that there didn't have to be suffering.
@@haleyanderson573 I’m so sorry that you and your dad had to experience this. It’s such an awful way to spend the rest of your days in so much pain and as a family member to witness your loved on going through that. My partners dad was much the same with not being able to get his pain under control. He tried morphine and oxy, which only temporarily relieved the pain. There were days he was keeled over because he hurt so much. If he would’ve gone into palliative care, it’d only be the same temporary relief until his last day. The option to have an assisted death gave him the opportunity to have an incredible last day and that was such an amazing experience to witness. Sending my condolences to you and your family, it must have been horrible for both you and your family.
@@haleyanderson573Hospice does what is legally possible to control pain, but that doesn't mean it always works.
Yes, that's my point. Here they always told us that controlling the pain would be no problem, but they can't guarantee that, so they shouldn't have said that. My Dad needed honesty so he could weigh things up and make a decision he was comfortable with. They sugar coated every part of his end stage and even as his carer I wasn't prepared for some of the common symptoms that occurred.
@@haleyanderson573I completely understand. Having witnessed a cancer patient at the end of her life on her deathbed, struggling, I have nothing against euthanasia.
People who are against it have never watched someone die an insufferable death or are sadists.
Wrong. We have watched our loved ones die the way God allowed them to die and at the time God destined them to die. God created life. This is a Luciferian death cult.
My MIL got her wishes overruled by her own daughter. The daughter said she 'didn't want that'. The mother had requested all care be stopped. She has end-stage Parkinsons. So I'd advise people to be careful of who their power of attorney is.
Not true we are not animals we are beings of God
He makes the calls not us
@@meganr4352 you’re delusional
ABSOLUTELY!! I've been through it twice.Watching peopaul take over another person's life specifically where there is money involved in making some terrible calls.. I'm so sorry that you had to go through this.@angelagendreau3586
I used to work as a hospice volunteer and we had several people choosing this to end their life. Personally I found it difficult to say goodbye knowing he or she would be gone soon and on the other hand I fully understood and felt great respect for them.
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No dont like this at all not for me
@@sheilabogan4703Nothing wrong with that so long as you don't try and forse that on others.
I am interested to know in which country you live. ❤
Proud Luke the choice
I’m so glad to see she was happy and smiling at the end surrounded by family! God bless her and the people who provided her dignified and personalized last moments… well done all!
God doesn’t bless suicide. It’s not in his nature to bless sin.
@@dawnricherson2604 Roman Catholic I suppose. Brain washed zombies. I believe in Jesus, I am a committed Christian. Jesus understands dying, in suffering, pain and despair, way more than we do! Didn't HE die such a death, on the Cross? God gave us free will,and knows everything that is in our hearts , minds and spirits .He will weep for anybody who suffers, to the point of feeling this despair! And feel nothing but compassion for their plight. To say He will think euthanasia is a sin, is a lie!! You know NOTHING about the depth of God's Grace and love, if you think this way. I wish Medicine could advance, further, in the methods of properly stopping pain. That way, many people wouldn't fear the end of their lives. If they knew they'd be able to be pain free , and lucid, they would probably want more time, with loved ones, on Earth. As a Nurse, death is not foreign to me. To witness any unnecessary, suffering is totally heartbreaking.
I watch my beloved Aunt take her last few breaths dying from cancer. She was barely recognizable not even a shell of her former self. She was in unbearable pain and would moan and cry all the time. Her last few moments she struggled to breath, there is nothing humane about watching someone go that way.
As someone who suffers severe depressions, i think for me the time will come when i think its enough. The endless strugles in an ugly world. I hope by then i can go quietly and on my own terms. I suppose thats my one luck, living in NL.
Yes,
So true, go through all these struggles to live in this hell. I would rather die peacefully❤
I feel the same way. I have yhe neighbours from hell and I would rather be dead than alive.
Absolutely. 100% agree, and understand. Wish I could take yours away, but at least know there will be a day when we have no more of this pain.
I’m Brazilian. In Brazil, death is something scary and funerals are always full of desperation and screams…As death is there.
I moved to the Netherlands 7 years ago and my perspective of death and my view of it has changed COMPLETELY. Death didn’t become something nice or something I’m expecting to live…Noth at all. But, Now I see it as a process we all will have to deal with. So, why not trying to see it under a better perspective? The funerals here are beautiful…The friends choose songs that reminds the person. They read poems, they write experiences and jokes about the person…They show videos and photos…Everything is just beautiful and a celebration of life. At its end…why not remembering how amazing it was?
Today I understand who chooses to have a better end. Surrounded by their loved ones and without suffering.
Thank you Netherlands for this…🩶
As an American, we have a really weird relationship with death.It's like we don't talk about it until we have to deal with it.People don't come to visit the sick person, but they're crying at the funeral.It's just so bizarre here. I've lost 10 people this year.My uncle passed away on January 1st and that kind of set the tone.And my whole View point on death has totally changed.It's more in line with your new thinking. We're lucky not to face it with such fear.
After watching my beautiful best friend die in excruciating pain from cancer earlier this year I know which way I’d rather go. RIP dear lady. No more pain. ❤
Respect is at the heart of this, what a well made film. Sending my deepest sympathy to the family and friends of this lady or anyone else who has this experience.
I have a painful disease that causes more and more of my body to shut down. Unless you have experienced this type of suffering its hard to imagine but giving people the choice when their bodies give them no choice is a beautiful and peaceful thing.
We put our beloved pets who are suffering to sleep in a gentle, calm manner...we should be allowed to do the same for people who are suffering as well. Be well, Alein.
@@Stefanie2530It's only " gentle and calm " if it's done in your home. The vets office is very stressful for a pet. The smells, sounds, pet owners upset etc.
But how are you now if you would have chosen that path you wouldn't be here messaging in comments
@@icookmyfood7363 lol thankfully im not at that stage in my journey. However one day if I know only pain it would be right to give me that choice. It can be a hard concept to grasp though when you have never been chronically ill.
Amen
I am a nurse, and our first natural actions are to "save" people. In the US, death is considered "taboo" and not talked about unless you are dying. I do believe that people should have the choice on how they want to leave the world. If they have a terminal illness and your choice is slow and painful, or quick and peaceful, we all try to go to peaceful. I have worked hospice, and there have been times you wish a patient would just let go and die already. It breaks your heart to watch them dying and suffering because there comes the time when no matter what you, you can't help the person get any more comfortable. I think if the person is able to make their own decisions and wants to die on their terms and in their way they should be allowed to do it. What does it really heart if grandma dies from state 4 liver cancer today pain free and happy or dies in 2 months in so much pain and wasting away. We treat dogs better than we treat people. Dog has cancer and they can't operate the give the decision usually right then and there to put the dog to.sleep.
I would like to add that the ambulance taking people to a special place as their last wish, stichting AmbulanceWens (Foundation AmbulanceWish) is a non profit organisation run by volunteers. It is founded by a ambulance driver who took a old sailor/boat guy he needed to transport to the harbour to see boats one last time. The reaction of the guy gave the driver a new purpose in life.
Thank you!
I have watched my mother be taken by cancer. I wish she had this option. Watching a disease take over someone you love and making their end miserable is one of the hardest things
I'm a nurse and I've had some patients BEGGING me to give them "something" to unalive them, because they couldn't handle the pain anymore.
Truly horrifying.
Thank god i work in cardiology and not in some palliative care, or i would loose my mind.
Their agony really stays in your memories for long time.I work in psychiatry,lost around 6 patients always cried and couldn't forget.
I am also an RN.
My field is neuro.
I’ve also had patients beg to for me to give them something to end suffering.
Unalive. Never heard that word. Why not use correct English. Its kill.
My Dad, in the last weeks of dying of cancer at home, said two things that stand out for me. 1. He woke from a semi comatose state and asked my mother/ "Why am I still here?" 2. . A few days later,, during his brief spells od being conscious, he told her/ "please help me go".
You don't know what it's like until you suffer with severe pain 24/7. Let your Loved One die with dignity. Help them end their constant suffering . Allow them the release and freedom from this personal hell. They will Thank you for understanding, for your compassion, and for your Love. May the Lord Bless those who are soon to come Home Bless those left behind till we meet again. Amen ~~
When my mom was dying of lung cancer, she looked me straight in the eye and asked me to shoot her. I don’t think she wanted to die, but she was dead serious. I was 23 years old. I am now 45 and it’s still the most sorrowful experience I have ever been through.
I am so sorry ❤
i am heartbroken for you, and her as well. Wishing she had such humane options available to her
sending you (all of you) love
I live in America and I’m all for this! If an animal is in pain and won’t live, the vet doesn’t allow the animal to suffer but humans don’t get that opportunity 😢
Humans and animals are not equal.
Oregon is legal
@@dawnricherson2604your right most humans are demons. The animals in the Bible are talking about wolfs in she's clothing.human body does not make you a human. The truth hurts.
@@dawnricherson2604 You are sadly incorrect, humans and "animals" as you say are the same. We are in fact animals after all, more specifically mammals.
@@dawnricherson2604 Tell me please the difference between humans and animals that makes imposible for a person to make an individual choice about his final moments? It's his body, it's his life. Please explain.
Gosh the Netherlands are so advanced and well developed...even the comments from Dutch people are reflective their balanced views and emotional well-being....no drama, but well thought through, well reasoned and respectful input 👏
I can't tell if you are beeing sarcastic or not. But this is a emotional subject for most. Almost everybody who is an adult knows someone who has died of cancer. What is a terrible way to go most of the time. For those people to have the option to end their live at a moment of their choosing, and not have to suffer anymore makes me happy to live here.
@janharml Not sarcastic at all....I actually wish that I could move there. I'm from South Africa and even though our ("Afrikaner") ancestry are Dutch its too distant to enable citizenship
@janharml By the way my one uncle's full name is Jan Harm Fourie 😃
@@mesmerise1 my name is to. But it was already in use. So I took the first letter of my last name.
We have MAID, Medical Assistance in Dying, in Canada too.
I can understand the choice my wife just passed away from cancer on the 31/07/23 she suffered through hell morphine every 4 hours and bed ridden she wanted to die seeings her suffer was hard on my mind 😔 but she now is at peace🙏
Its disgusting refusing morphine as needed not every 4 hrs to comply with an effing law made by stupud bureaucrats.
So sorry for your loss 😢
I am sorry for your loss. It is not fair... to watch someone you love so dearly suffer.
Thank you for your comments it is appreciated 🙏
We live in Canada and attended my brother’s end-of-life gathering in 2019. I was so surprised how moved I was by this experience. Many of us shared our feelings and expressions of love …. It was so wonderful to be able to tell my brother how appreciated he was and how he effected our lives. We all cried when he breathed his last breath … but the emotion of my crying was intermingled with happiness for the end of my brother’s suffering.
Seeing people watching a musical in their hospital beds and Femmie visiting the tulips was beautiful and respectful, it says a lot about a culture that embraces death, that the dying can have their last trips facilitated rather than being locked away in hospice care which is suitable for some but not others
Actually, my hospice has a program called "Final Wish" and we do everything we can to accommodate patient's last wishes. I can't really say "locked away" is a good descriptor of being on hospice.
Kudos to the Netherlands. No one has any right to prevent any human being from making their own decision. I think there should be a “Switch off Centre” where we can go into a into a lovely room and watch a lovely video, get some painless help to leave this planet whilst we listen to our favourite music. It is our right. NOT anyone else’s. God knows why this is just a contentious issue. Death comes to us all. I hate the people, disease free, who say “patients must wait - a cure could come along”. THET DO NOT.
There are euthanisia clinics but you can also doing it at home. It is going very fast. Docter is also aking if you want to keep sitting on the couch or any place is fine. You can find documentaries in YT about how it is going.
Quality of life not quantity, but then capitalism would suffer. I mean where ever would all those Medical corp get more money from sick folks.
Ah the slippery slope.
yes as long as the person is of sane mind and there in is the issue. Many are so far gone they can't decide alone. When Doctors decide we have to ask why?
This issue should be a part of every advance directive/living will, that way the decision is made in advance to be carried out at a point predetermined by the patient. Mine states that if I become unable to care for myself due to mental decline all medical treatments of all types are to be halted, with exceptions only for pain and anxiety. @@ridingtheroad185
When my pet dog was dying in pain i brought him to the vet to end his suffering.why can't we do this for human beings in pain from a terminal ilness .
Exactly, how can anyone tell us what we can and can't do with our own bodies?!
Because you are not a dog...
@@TryingtoTellYouactually we are mammals making us animals as well so stop with the oh your not a dog bs we can all experience the same pain as a dog or cat or any animal would suffering is the same as well
@@AstridrAnffinson Dogs do not have a concept of imminent death. I think I am well within reason to state that humans suffer more than dogs.
@@TryingtoTellYou oh yes they do, you talking to someone who has bachelor degree in animal science and behaviours so nice try, same as cats know as well both dogs and cats know when death is imminent and no humans actually don’t suffer more, can we not control pain on our own by taking pills? Can animals do that? Unless someone helps an animal in pain via vets they stay suffering more until death with no pain relief, it’s actually animals that suffer more
What a bittersweet moment 🎭 Femmie is such a brave woman, may she rest in eternal peace 🕊️
She has such a beautiful smile.
Even in the end she has a sparkle that cancer cannot take away from her. I'm sure she was an absolutely amazing person in her prime. She probably saw a few people take the slow descent into a painful passing. If you have never experienced that firsthand as a primary caregiver, then you should have nothing negative to say about this choice. It changes you forever. I'm sure she didn't want her kids to go through it.
No one can escape death. Therefore everyone ought to able to have some decisions regarding the manner of their death. No one should be left incapable, helpless and in pain when it is not necessary. She is a lucky woman to have had such a choice.
Well said. Death is nothing to fear, it's the final frontier. Either there is nothing, in which case we won't care, or there is something magnificent. Either way, it's part of life, for everyone.
My brother opted for assisted suicide. He had Huntington’s Disease which is terminal. He passed surrounded by his wife and teenage children around him.
@@kerrythorn8575what if it’s something horrible?
My sentiments exactly!
@@Cristina-zb2lfI guess we will all find out soon enough.
I know this is a very hard subject to talk about but as a person that works in hospic care, I watch a lot of people live grate and happy lives despite their conditions but then there are those few that reach that point where it isn’t quality of life. They can’t do anything but sit there and stare out in space and at times with pain. So seeing this it makes me happy to see a opportunity for that person to make that choice where they can choose to leave while they are in a state where they are not suffering like that is amazing. I respect everyone’s views but to me to see someone unnecessarily suffer like that when all they want is peace is I feel a true sin.
They should allow pain relief to any extent the person requests until there is no pain
@@peetabrown5813they do, but if you choose to go before that horrific end, you can, which is the humane way to go. If you live in a intelligent country.
@@happydays59 unfortunately a lot of not humane countries
I think that the decision to end your life on your own terms to avoid more suffering and agony is also a great opportunity to give your loved ones the chance to keep you in their memory in a beautiful way, as happy and comfortable as possible, and not as the person that only knew suffering til the very end. I think it makes the grieving process a little bit more bearable, to know that they made the right decision for themselves.
It's the patient's choice, especially if they are suffering.
@Wicker_ That's specifically against the law in the Netherlands. Learn about the subject before making inane statements.
@Wicker_ Except for the fact that it IS respected, especially by the medical profession, especially in the Netherlands.
What's extremely childish is to think that every country is like your own.
@@JesusSavesTheDay96 Maybe in the US. Not in the Netherlands. We actually have a functional healthcare system as opposed to a health industry system.
Only GOD can decide our death!!!!
@@batmeme9349OK, carry on believing that.
I'm for it. I always thought that if a person chooses not to live, no one has the right to stop them. I too, have for many years, even when I was young thought a person has the right to choose to live or die. I'm very healthy 61 year old, I don't even get flus or colds, but just the same I am all in for end of life therapy. I wish this lady a beautiful transition.
You are a wonderful human being, best of life's wishes for you. 🩷✌🏻🇨🇦
Next week the whole family gathers to mark the 50th wedding anniversary of my termernally ill uncle and my aunt. He's been wanting to hang on for that but will choose to end his life by euthanasie soon after, ending his suffering on his own terms rather than chocking to death due to his longs failing. It is a sad time, but I fully respect his wish to choose a more peaceful end.
I was born in the Netherlands and grew up in America. People should be free to choose both if they want to end their life and if they want to give life. I am so glad I kept my Dutch citizenship.
My dearest friend suffered for eleven years from cancer. In her last year she put in place everything she needed to end her suffering. Horrifyingly, she became immobilized in her last month and could not access her drugs. She had the death she feared. No one who knew could help her.
That is so sad 💔 i am so sorry for your loss !
I'm sorry that happened to your friend.
That is so sad if someone has that in place a doctor should be able to help or a family member
@@leighleigh747no one can help as they could, and people have been, charged with murder. There have been UK high court cases when people, who knew they would become incapacitated due to their illness, asked that if anyone helps them, or travels with them to a country which does allow it, that they aren’t charged. It’s been turned down. This results in the person having to make the decision sooner, before they lose control of their body, or they have to travel to a different county, alone, to face the end
My mom chose the passive euthanasia. About a month before she died she went off of all medications. (This was the beginning of May and she died June 14.) The only thing she took was pain meds. She had a major stroke the morning that she died and for the rest of the day my father just pumped morphine into her and she left the earth around 7pm.
I am sorry for your loss. My prayers go out to you and your loved ones
This happened to my husband here in the states. Per hospice I pumped the drugs all day and into the night. I still have a hard time with the memory of that. it has been 2 years
Im sorry maybe you shouldnt say your father pumped morphine into her, people may not know who you are, but it could start something bad for your father.
I am sorry for your loss. Our friend with CA passed that way. The caregivers were just giving her morphine to alleviate the pain but her days were numbered. She went less than 2 weeks after entering hospice.
@@kennethnaish3100 please know that you absolutely did the right thing. Your husband was dying regardless, and you kept him comfortable in the process.
My grandma stopped treatment. She didn’t last long after, she went out like a gladiator, I could only dream of being so strong.
Prayer's ❤
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There's a point where medical intervention becomes inhumane and cruel. You cannot escape death, but if you have the option to not go out in agony and mental stress, it should be available. There is no point in making people suffer for a few extra weeks or days when the patient has declared they have had enough. I would hope the option is open to me, if I was in this position, it would also allow me to get everything in order to take that off my loved ones shoulders.
I live in the United States and wish they would do this. I have told my daughters that I do not want to be left on tubes and machines. I went through cancer treatments and was blessed to have no evidence of disease at this time. I don't believe anyone should suffer in immense pain if terminally ill. They should have a choice to die in peace and pain free.
They do this in a few states already one of them is California you can look it up online it is called death with dignity
I think its legal in washington state
I wish we could do this as well. I'm also in the US and have personally watched my parents in law died at home in pain/agony. We had in home hospice care, but I'd sit daily by their bedside talking with them, I was the one who delivered my FIL's morphine as that was something the caregivers weren't allowed to do. I sat up the entire night before my MIL passed trying to comfort her. Her pain was so great that she couldn't sleep. She had a hospice care giver who could adjust the meds she was receiving by IV. Unfortunately, the meds really weren't strong enough to completely relieve her suffering.
I definitely want a choice. I'm in the US and I think 11 states are legal to do this, but it needs to be adjusted. There are people here who say Pro choice or my body my decision, but are against death with dignity. Idiots
@@dulcilass I am sorry that you had to go through that. I believe that the only way your pain is gone is if the doctors give you so much it knocks you out. If you are terminal & the doctors say they can't do anymore for you, you should be able to choose to die before pain is terrible. If I was a doctor and I was allowed to help my Terminal patients to die, I would do it, if my patient wanted to.
I was in a similar situation, myself, when am5 weeks after his retirement, my husband of 41 years, was diagnosed with metastatic Pancreatic cancer. The best he could hope for was to go into remission. However, this never happened for my husband. We live in Western Austtalia, and Voluntary Assusted Dting was being discussed but was not legal.
We discussed his choices at the time, and the necessary legal documents were completed.
Because we discussed things, I do know that if Voluntary Assisted Dying was an option, he would have taken that option.
It is now a legal option here in Western Australia.
With the right to have a humane life, comes the right to have a humane death. It's crazy that in this modern time, in modern countries. People have to suffer a long and painful death bed
We allow our pets to have a painless and peaceful death, yet we deny human beings this same dignity.
Yes, I've always dreamed of being treated like a dog.
@@TryingtoTellYouMaybe the day will come when you beg to be treated like a dog. Think about that!
Euthanasia is cheaper than treatment, that is why alot of dogs get euthanized
@@SpeccyMan I'm male. I am already called a dog on a daily basis. I'm also treated like a dog in that I have to watch idly by why my child is murdered by a "doctor" because he or she was too inconvenient for their mother.
Thankfully here in Canada, we can have this now. The final bill was passed in 2021. I've been a smoker for 47 years. I don't have cancer, but I already signed up for this as I have no desire to burden the medical system financially should I ever get cancer. It's not fair to those who really deserve chemo and radiation, etc. I die on my terms and no one elses. 😊
Whether to die or not is the person's choice, no one else. Thank you for this documentary.
I truly wish my father could’ve had this choice available to him, he would’ve happily chosen this path rather than the six weeks of agony he went through in front of us. I would’ve gladly helped him. True angels the drivers who volunteer to take their patients anywhere for their last ride.
My grandpa died of kidney failure because of cancer and it was horrible to see him in his last days.. He didn’t look the same at all. If I ever go through illness like this and they tell me treatment is futile I hope something like this is available for me.
We do this to put animals out of their misery, why can’t we do the same ❤
I agree. I wish my family member had the choice
This is the best way to let people going through a terrible situation to have the choice on how they want to pass away.
Euthanasia happens in the US under the guise of ‘keeping the patient comfortable’. My mom had a situation where gangrene had
spread into her abdomen. The doctor talked with us and then turned up the morphine drip. It took a couple of minutes. Her breathing slowed further and further until she took a last breath.
Based on what the video said, passive euthanasia is used everywhere in the US. Active euthanasia is only legal in Oregon if I remember correctly
This is also how my mother passed 🙏
@@ProdavackaDivu
Turning up a morphine drip on a conscious patient would seem to be an example of the active sort.
Same in UK, they give them end of life drugs, hmmmm
Did your Mom even have a say in the decision? If not, then you just admitted that your family and you conspired with the doctor to kill your mother by increasing the morphine drip dosage.
Everyone should be able to die with dignity, instead of having to suffer with pain. 💔💔My heart goes out to this lady and her family.💔💔
This, absolutely agree.
I work in health care in The Netherlands. The process of requesting an euthanasia is lengthy and even when approved still has several stages before it actually takes place. So for all of you out there freaking out about how "easily we assist ppl" just please calm down. It's still heavily regulated, and change of heart is constantly possible, at any stage, even the final one.
We have this in Canada too. A co-worker of mine was feeling bad over the weekend (otherwise, young, healthy and had his last physical a month earlier) he went to the hospital and discovered he had stage 4 pancreatic cancer. The oncologist gave him up to six weeks. The following weekend, his family assisted him at his home and bid him farewell. The best way to go is so that your family has good memories of what and who you were instead of wasting away in a shell, unrecognisable in some hospital or palliative care centre.
We have euthanasia in Australia now. I think it should be an individual choice. It’s a hell of a thing to put people through hell when they could go peacefully on their own terms. Lost my best friend to cancer in may. She died in excruciating pain after waiting almost 5 hours for an Ambulance. She didn’t deserve that hell. ❤
@@lks6248you don't have a clue. Why comment such stupidity.
@@lks6248 That is correct. How can people be so damned blind and stupid that they cannot see this and that this is how any such program in any country inevitably ends?
@@lks6248 are you saying that in Canadian anyone can request to die by euthanasia?
@@KiwiDh383 No you have to have a condition that warrants it. You can't just end it the doctors are in this process.
Before my dad passed he asked for an injection from the palliative care nurse of course legally in Ireland you can't I think it's inhumane to let people suffer
I’ll never forget when my friend was on palliative care for like 48 hours as she very slowly died. She was on so much pain medication she was unconscious but not enough to actually stop her pain (they still limit how much they’ll give you) so as she slowly died she was still wincing and you could see it in her eyebrows and hear it in her breathing. It was absolutely traumatic to watch. I don’t know if she would have chosen an option like this but I sure would if I came to this situation.
That is sad.
All of this. I experienced all of this with my mom on Dec. 18, 2022. It was so painful for me to watch the strongest person i knew wither and leave this world in agony. When she was no longer conscious, her last words were "help me, help me" and this crumbles my heart every time I think of that.
@@cynthiaa7791 That is just SO wrong. I am sorry you had to see her like that.
@@cynthiaa7791 Holy hell, dude. That is brutal. It hurt me just reading it, imagining being in your shoes.
It's reading things like this that make me want to give random people on the internet a big hug. In lieu of that, I'll just say that hopefully you don't dwell on it too much.
If the person was unconscious, how would you KNOW that person was still in pain? You can't possibly know what her body was feeling.
PLEASE respond.🤔
I highly recommend watching the documentary "Choosing to Die" by Terry Pratchett. In 2010, he explores euthanasia in Switzerland and follows the journey of a man choosing that route due to terminal illness. The man takes the drink and passes away on camera. It was insightful, sad and beautiful all at the same time.
As difficult as it would be knowing my loved ones had a date of when they’d be saying goodbye…the idea that I could choose to go on my terms and not be victim to an wretched illness brings me so much peace. Cancer often kills who your are long before your body dies. I like the idea of my family remembering me as ME, and not watch my wither away and lose every bit of what makes me who I am. ❤
Inspiring.. I hope my country will consider this perspective (USA). A life well lived, a death with open arms and dignity when that time comes because it will come for all of us. So much more compassionate to allow people that choice. ❤
I live in the US, currently California, Oregon and I believe Washington state all allow assisted suicide. Medication can be prescribed by a doctor and taken by the patient, or with the assistance of a health professional. 💙
Oregon state has adopted euthanasia
We do have this option here it just isn’t widely accepted. Here we call it assisted suicide. I think the issue here is the fact that it’s called assisted suicide. People are seeing/hearing the word suicide and it’s a no go. I think that’s because we’ve been told for long that suicide is morally wrong, which in many cases it is, that anything besides that one word makes it evil or something. They don’t want to see that we do the very same thing to people on death row. Or that it’s done every day to end the suffering of severely ill pets.
Stay away from the Bible belt.
No thks theirs no dignity in taking your life just keep me comfortable let me go naturally 😢😢😢😢
It's insane to me how we deal with death right now in the states. All of my relatives who've died "the natural way" we didn't get to plan on having a final fairway, they suffered immeasurably, and it doesn't come off like it's out of compassion. It's just because no one knows what to do and everyone fears death.
I wish my dad had this option. He suffered greatly before dying from complications of late stage Parkinson’s disease.
I have PD myself and if thigns ever got that far, perhaps I would likely understand how your dad would have felt but as a Christian who lays all things at the feet of Jesus Christ I know I would still tell anybody who brings this up with me to take their drugs and go do something unmentionable with them
I took care of my aunt here in the USA who was terminal and hospice did a wonderful job keeping her comfortable and passed peacefully. Ireally have mixed feelings about this. I would not want to suffer for yrs knowing the end result. We have a DNR in the states that we can sign and my brother and mother both were on life support and it was an awful feeling to be the one to say yes pull the plug. But, I did it twice I knew there was no hope. I believe everyone should have a DNR if they are terminal.
A DNR is something different, here in the Netherlands when you have a terminal disease you would never be resuscitated. Euthanasia is more like when you put your dog or cat to sleep.
💯 agree with this choice for those with terminal illnesses. People should not have to suffer, my sister and brother both died of Huntingtons and to watch them loose their dignity, identity and to see them suffer and wither away till literally their last breaths was hard not just for us who witnessed it but for them mostly….
I'm so sorry for your losses.
@@standup2982 thank you
As long as it is the persons choice and that the doctors and specialists in charge have the experience and knowledge and correct skills to diagnose properly then I see no why not to let people choose to end their suffering. Out of my 5 dogs, I put down 2 because of seizures and another being constantly in pain, the vet said their was nothing that could be done to help them at that point. If having the option I would support this as long as it is the patients choice when they are in the right state of mind.
@Wicker_ a person with dementia, or other conditions that affect memory in my opinion, this sort of situation would constitute someone to contemplate for a bit. Conditions like dementia I think in my opinion would be counter productive to that.
@Wicker_ It is why their doctor has to ensure that the decision to end their life was made when they were of sound mind. The doctor should know if a person actually wants to die by knowing social cues.
@Wicker_ You did not comprehend what I said. It is the job of the doctor(s) to ensure that the patient made the call for euthanasia in the right state of mind. Doing this is not a one time, let’s do it an hour later type of thing. It requires 3 consults, with time spaced in between, to ensure that this is what they want. They go through a process to ensure that the patient is in the right state of mind. This can be stopped at any point in time. I have gone through this process with a friend who wanted it after a stage 4 cancer ruined his life. The 3 doctors consulted him, and those in his close circle of life. Not once did they suspect any sort of pressure from them. Not once in their evaluation did they see that my friend was pressured to do this.
Your conspiracist theories that the doctors just want to end it because it is more convenient for them is simply just your own. And if you don’t have any faith in humanity or those who work in healthcare, then that’s just your own problem.
@Wicker_ One may have the papers that you want to undergo euthanasia for specific circumstances, but at the moment you take the discussion, a doctor has to decide you are clear of mind. Doctors are not to proceed, when someone is not clear of mind.
That is the difficult dilemma for applicants. The euthanasia has to be done in a state, that one actually feels ok and would like to spend time with loved ones. But if one waits the situation might deteriate so quickly , that you are unfit to say 'yes' in the eye of a doctor. And euthanasia is not allowed to do.
@Wicker_ Are you an American ? That would explain your reasoning.
I think it's wonderful that in the Netherlands they allow people the dignity to die without forcing them to be in prolonged pain (mental or physical) and medical debt.
I don't think I could voluntarily end my life, but death is inevitable. It's good to allow people the choice to go out the way they want.
Having cared for patients at the end of their lives. I believe that those suffering should be allowed to choose when they end their lives
I have been having sever abdominal pain, it’s equivalent of having contractions, it hurts so very bad and I’m only 39 years old, the pain just comes out of no where, it’s been going on for at least 3 years, but with all of that Being said: IF A PERSON GETS TO THE POINT WHERE THE PAIN IS SO UNBEARABLE WITH NOTHING TO EASE THE PAIN OR GET RID OF IT ALL TOGETHER, Then people should have the option to do what is best for them, especially if it’s an incurable disease 💯
You have to be terminally ill to be given the option of euthanasia.
This has to be verified by two or more Doctor"s...that you have six months or less to live.
This is required here in America..in the States that have accepted euthanasia.
Ask your doctor about adhesions. They are very painful.
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Im happy i was born in the netherlands. If im ever very sick it comforts me to know i have this option. No suffering. Just a quite beautiful goodbye with my loved ones around me.
Years ago I saw an American politician on tv telling older people in the Netherlands were begging not to kill them and they killed them anyway.
I Couldn't believe my eyes and ears. Because I am Dutch, and I know what happens here. My own mother was in the proces, but suddenly died a lot faster and with a lot less pain than expected.
Do not make this political, give people the choice. Doctors also. My personal doctor wil not do it because of his beliefs. But there are others, if it comes to that.
@janharml Dat was Rick Santorum!
@@DutchEVP He has his own wikipedia page. A friend of Pete Hoekstra I see. The former US ambassadeur to the Netherlands. Who also made some wilde claims.
American politicians are notorious for lying. They made their biggest liar the 45th president.
@@DutchEVP Sanctorum and other us conservatives support euthanasia only if it's done with guns.
I’m American, and if there is one thing I can stress in life to stay happy, educated and sane it’s to ignore everything our politicians say-it’s all useless noise to make themselves seem important and no one will remember them when they pass and they bring no joy or peace to any of us sadly.
My mom chose to have euthanasia, but cancer took her before the day of the injection. I fully supported her choice, as someone who's been suicidal and depressed in the past, I fully understand not wanting to go through suffering every day. I was at peace with her decision. But sadly, had to rush to the hospice at night so I could be there for her in her final moments. Those final moments will forever be in my mind
That was a grace from God
@@CCisRight Imagine reacting to my post like that, how utterly heartless you can be. Learn to have empathy
@Stroopwafe1 you're not the only one who has had mothers die of cancer.... glad you were at peace, hoping she is at peace.
@@CCisRight I totally agree with you. If a person is not right with the Lord before passing and they pass away much sooner than need be, how horrible. Not saying this is the case with all people, of course. Perhaps the extra few days or weeks allows a person to make peace with themselves and the Lord. Not all people have lived a good, wholesale life. Many of my own family fit in the catagory of not living a Christian life, being far from it at best. Some sold drugs, some stole constantly, everywhere all the time. Some sold hard core drugs. I could go on and on. I hope they made peace with God and asked for forgiveness before passing. I wasn't able to be there physically when many of them passed unfortunately, or I could have prayed with them.
I could never do this because of my beliefs, but for those who choose this glad there are places to help them.
I think if we had an extreme illness & felt this woman's hourly pain we may reconsider our religious beliefs with how much pain can we stand day after day and how much can we put on our families emotionally & physically we put them through it too nit just ourselves. It's draining and emotional for the whole family.
I heard from nurses that patients with some types of cancer and terminal desease suffer intense pain while in hospitals that no matter how many fentanyl or morphine they inject into their bodies after it that they still scream loud because of the pain excruciating 😢
That is unfortunately true. 😢
Sadly, that's true, because if pain is great enough, painkillers are not strong enough to cover the pain.
What a strong beautiful Lady. May she rest in peace without pain.
I’m 100% all for this, I do appreciate this service that some countries offer, this is what we all want,a peaceful pain-free death. Instead of waiting for this disease to completely render you house bound and hooked to a hospital bed 24/7 in more pain than you can ever imagine. This is a alternative for you and for family to seek help with.
I applaud the Netherlands. This is the most personal decision that a person can make. One that he or she should be able to make.
Canada started allowing this about 5-7 years ago. Great option for those who choose it.
@@snowwhite2709 Great for government too. Less homeless people straining the social welfare syste- oh shit you weren't meant to see that
@@TryingtoTellYou that's not how it works
@@snowwhite2709 It certainly seems to be how it works in Canada.
@@TryingtoTellYou no, there is a strict bunch of rules and procedures that you have to go through, including 2 doctors who agree on your diagnosis etc.
I'm for it. I do not want to prolong my agony if ever I am so sick.
I’m terminal and wish so much to at least have this choice 😞 I’m destitute, incurable, might have 6mo or 6yrs and all alone. No one should be forced to live this way. Illness is dehumanizing enough; having no choice but to wait it out is evil.
Aww I'm so sorry to hear. Sending love and hugs from Illinois
Praying for you 🙏🏼
@MariaArriaga so sorry, you're in my prayers. You're coming out of it.
This is a wonderful and beautiful gift to be able to choose how one life ends in cases with terminal out come. Seem it adds to the peace and power of how one choose to go
I agree with euthenasia, your passing is more peaceful and your choice. I watched my dad take a long time to die from cancer and he suffered more than he should have, this would have been a much kinder choice, RIP dear Femmie, deepest condolences to your family ❤
I did hospice care as a cna years ago. We had one lady that had lived a full beautiful life. I was taking care of her in her home. She went into a coma and was still living after 2 weeks she would not let go. We were giving her pain meds . I was sent home by her daughter one night and she died early in the morning. I know in my heart her daughter helped her along with a little more morphine but thats ok. If we had this choice here in the United States it would ease alot of suffering
Someone in a coma seemingly wouldn't be suffering any longer. Why would anyone need help along at that point? In active suffering I can see... But already in a coma?
What do you mean “helped her along?” Morphine doesn’t make you die
@@laurah6381it certainly can. Morphine and all opioids can suppress respirations. If given too much it will completely stop your breathing.
@@laurah6381 WRONG! (I'm a Nurse) Morphine is a respiratory depressant. It's used as pain relief , as I'm sure you know. If given in large enough doses, Morphine will cause breathing to stop.( put short and simply ) So, giving more than the prescribed dose, as possibly happened In this case, will indeed kill the patient !! That's why, in palliative care, the balance of the dose is essential. And why pain may not be effectively treated, as we can't give excess Morphine. Many patients have, over the years, been given bigger doses to control pain. Family members need to understand that death may come soon after
@@laurah6381an overdose can. I am sure the mother discussed it with her daughter. In my family my mother discussed it with my sister and so, when her heart gave way, they did not use any extra life saving procedures to resuscitate her. Our doctor had also discussed that issue with us and what he should do, just two days prior. I wasn't ready to let go but i trusted my sister as she and mom were very close. She was in the ICU with complications from Lupus. It made it easier for us. When her Will was read much later, she had indeed specified it in there as well.
This is so beautiful. We don't have this in the US, but I wish we did. My dad suffered horribly before he died. He begged the doctors to help him die. Every part of me wished he had that choice. Kudos to you for allowing people to die with dignity and peace.
Thanks for sharing this and bringing awareness to this topic. Thanks to Femmie and her family as well for sharing. Euthanasia is a personal choice and one that all should have a right to.❤
I lost my dog to a tumour 2 weeks ago, I let him go as he was on the cusp of truly suffering, his ability to eat (his favourite thing) began to rapidly diminish, amongst other physical issues he was beginning to have. We gave him a great day before we let him go. I just don’t understand why we can’t give all humans the same choice.
So sorry for your loss,they give us so much in such a short life. It's only right we repay them in any way we can. I've been there so many times with my dogs,it never gets any easier,but if it's the last thing we can do to make the pain go away it's our last act of kindness for them. Like the saying goes you wouldn't put a dog through all that pain so why should we not be able to do it for a loved human.
This needs to be allowed in America. Only Oregon allows it as far as I know 🕊
no, many more other states allow it now
California: The California End of Life Option Act went into effect on June 9, 2016. Revisions to the law were approved and are effective 1/1/2022. This law allows a terminally ill adults who are California residents to request a medication from his or her physician that will end his or her life.
I think 10 states already participate in a program called death with dignity, look it up online
Several states offer Death with Dignity for an adult with a terminal illness with less than 6 months to live
I think the State of Maine passed this law a few years ago.
However...you must have a terminal illness, verified by two Doctor's..
My State of Massachusetts has a huge amount of people trying to get this law passed..
Sadly...religious fanatics are trying to prevent this from happening.😩
My boss was from the Netherlands. She passed at the age of 100. We were very close, it would have been hard to do this, but given a choice I think she would have done it. We're only left with our memories and every day with them is a blessing. It's a lose, lose situation. There's no winners here, accept the government coffers. My dog is old and his quality of life deteriorated, ppl told me to euthanize him, I couldn't do it. When I finally made the difficult decision to take him to the vet on the Monday after the weekend, he recuperated. I love him too much, but I would have done it for him. I gave him my best and prayed for him, he's all good and well now he might just outlive me.
I wish this was available in America. So many people suffer everyday with extreamly painful terminal illnesses. I know first hand. I care for them every single day..😢
My husband works in medicine. He’s told me about the cancers that are hopeless. I will get the strongest drugs for pain and get my affairs in order. I won’t suffer through treatments. Recently my former employer suffered terribly getting treatment for pancreatic cancer.
We should all be so lucky to go with grace like that.
She chose her own terms.
Life is so delicate not everyone gets a full long 99 years of great living be thankful for being young when you still are and take good care of yourself as you get older rest well ma'am 😢
To me as a Dutchy, this is what freedom also encompasses, having the choice to a dignified end of your pain/ life!
"Dutchy.".. meen je dit nou echt? Wat een bizarre manier om je Nederlandse nationaliteit weer te geven in het Engels. Ben je 12 jaar oud? 'Dutchie' is infantiel en direct afgeleid van 'Aussie'. De originaliteitsprijs ga je er niet mee winnen. Hou ermee op.
@@hansolo2121 Je druk maken om een afkorting is pas infantiel.
@@hansolo2121 oh ja ik was ff vergeten dat jij de main character bent, en alles op jouw deftige manier moet gaan🤣 ms moet jij gewoon ff uit de bijstand gaan en een baan gaan zoeken. Bij de Wener hebben ze zat plek voor types zoals jij, kan je toch nog wat bijdragen aan de maatschappij.
@@hansolo2121 Deze reactie plaatsen bij een serieus en emotioneel onderwerp is pas infantiel! Jezelf @hansolo noemen is uitermate kinderlijk, ben je 6 jaar ofzo? Laat iedereen in zijn/haar waarde and ga iets doen met je leven!!
My mother was given 1 year to live after getting a cancer diagnosis in 92. This was the height of the scandal surrounding Jack Kevorkian. I was spending the afternoon with her and watching the news when she said" I can understand why someone would do this now"after chemo and radiation 5 days a week for 3 months.
Carol, I just didn't like the way Jack Kevorkian promoted Medical Aid in Dying (MAID).
I don't know if I'd take this route but I think the final trip to do something wonderful is absolutely amazing.
This should never have been a question. Why would you suffer through imaginable pain if you are going to die anyway? It is ironic that pets have more rights than humans in that matter.
100% agree.
Its not about what the person is doing. Its about that person having the freedom to do it. This is what both sides of this debate should be talking about.
Exactly!
No debate should be needed in a really advanced Humanity: the individual decision *should be exactly that...* individual and irrefutable, but here we are, fighting monks, people scared of d3th and bible-boys to decide over our own path, body and suffering.
I’m so glad to find this. I am passing it on to many friends and family. In USA and wish so much for this sane procedure.
A dear friend of my family was forced to starve himself and cease drinking in order to end his own suffering. It was heartbreaking.
It would have been a great kindness to him to go peacefully.
if I get alzheimers I'll probably do the same.
how terrible. I agree that if it is their decision it should be done.
😢 It was very emotional video, but I do understand the circumstances. I think the Netherlands is great democracy that even in cases like this one, you still have the right to choose what you want to do with your life. We are from such an important thing here in the U.S. i lived in the Netherlands years ago, and I still miss the advanced minds those people have.
Rest in peace lady, you made the right decision.
Live from Daniel .😊
I feel we hang on to life far to vigorously. When or if I am coming to my end of this life, I will be gone at my own choosing.
This is a beautiful story, if this is what people want to do I believe it’s your right!
Euthanasia in the Netherlands is well-thought over, by the people of the Netherlands, and transformed into carefully crafted laws by the Dutch government. It is nót "an easy way out", but to put it simply, a well chosen humanistic way to end personal human suffering in any form. You can't just apply for it, it is a personal desire put before a commission and doctors, with well documented medical and physical history of a patient, where it becomes clearly that being alive is a long and suffering path with an even painful end.
Euthanasia is humain, and can be done planned. In that way, a person can say their goodbyes to loved ones, partner, and for one last time visit animals, gardens or an event like a concert or a sports event.
Euthanasia may give people outside of the Netherlands chivers, but as a Dutchman i can only say that it is done with the most respect, the process for applying to the real ending takes months, and the person can take time to change their minds, or take time to say their final goodbyes. I sincerely hope that our Dutch way of humain ending of life with all the procedures in place will one day be adopted by more countries.
No living being deserves to suffer endlessly and have indescribable pain with no healing or cure in sight. Give them the right to go out on their own terms.
"Well thought over"??? NO IT BLOODY ISNT! Have you ever tried reading their laws?
I don't see any problems with this at all. It's your life so you should have a day so. I watched my aunt suffer through breast cancer for many many years. Over 26 chemo treatments. I'll remember our last trip to the beach forever that was the last time she was herself. Not long after her husband my uncle passed away after a battle with liver disease. Then I had to watch my childhood best friend and her dear family which felt like my own suffer through this horrible disease cancer. I was also fighting cancer at the time. I really thought we would both make it she was so strong. It was a year ago this past august. What I do not want this to be used for is younger ppl who are depressed or mental illness to be able to choose this without being given some types of help first. Life is precious live it to the fullest. My heart goes out to everyone struggling and fighting ❤
Farewell Femmie, truly inspirational, may your transition be peaceful. God bless xx
Should be available worldwide if no way of living without cure. My uncle has cancer in is wind pipe already has a trackey inserted but the tumor is growing and will eventually block his airway completely and suffocate him. 😢 He should be able to choose when he passes not suffering like he is. A dog would be put to sleep so they don't suffer but we as humans have to suffer until we die a painful death.
Thank you for the video. So brave Dutch people. Ultimate respect for their sincere and honest approach to the most complex issue in life. In the US, unfortunately ultra hypocrisy and evangelical madness are currently sweeping through, no honest and intelligent debate for this very important topic is possible.