I’m so sorry you went through that friend. I completely understand how uncomfortable it was for you to try brush off the comments because you really didn’t expect that & weren’t prepared for it, and on the other hand you just wanted to be respectful. I hope you find ways to set clear boundaries, to protect you & the kids as well❤️
Yhoooo friend, this literally sums up my feelings so well. Its like how do you call old people out when you expect better from them? I hope I do too friend. Thank you so much
I'm so sorry you went through that. Most time when people body shame, they are projecting their own insecurities. Its so sad how a woman's value is determined by her desirability and that bigger women are hardly ever desired. That time you're glowing and look so fabulous.
It is very unfortunate. And what is a perfect body anyway? people need to learn to embrace others without imposing their own perception about what a great body is. Thank you so much Jay Ray 😊
I normally just keep quiet when I am body shamed. I keep quiet but I become super hurt and cry about it. Thereafter I become resentful and distance myself… I know it’s not healthy, but it works for me because I’m avoiding clapping back in an even more harmful manner than they initially addressed me because I know that afterwards I’ll always be regarded as that rude and disrespectful person who clapped back (even though I was the one who was initially wronged). 🌻🍃
It's so sad how you are put in this position by those who don't care about hurting yourself. It is not impossible to clap back but for the sake of peace, we keep quiet. It is not fair, nobody deserves it. Strength to you for choosing peace and distancing yourself from toxicity ❤️
My sister is just like that. She says these things & acts like we're exaggerating when we call her out. I now know, such people know exactly what they're doing. I now know, you need to "turn back" immediately, when people start saying that. When I appear, and people say "O nonne jwang", I immediately turn back, won't even enter the house
This has literally been how people react to my body my entire life and I find it so weird because how is everyone still shocked 27 years later 😒😒😒😒, im sorry you had to go through that , families can be very insensitive, block who you need to block and clap back they never expect that .
Thank you so much girl. Our families contribute to our self esteem and there are many young people who have struggled to love themselves because they have endured years of bullying and teasing. We have a lot to teach people and hopefully, the coming generations won't have to go through this
I am so sorry that you experienced that especially from family. We need to do better as people, and be mindful of our thoughts and words towards others. You are allowed to keep your distance from them, just because they are family does not obligate you to tolerate their hurtful remarks. Protect your peace! ❤
The cycle of toxicity 💔 we need to end this ..with family and friends ...as well as people we aren't lose with... If people comment on my weight I look at them ..with no expression.. our daughters should never suffer with this issue.. I experienced this alot when I was growing up...they'll compare me with Mt twin brother saying I look older...
Imagine comparing two unique individuals to one another. It does not even make sense. I wish for our kids to experience better and be treated with grace. The entitlement of people to our bodies is shocking and should really end
Omgee, I am so sorry you had to experience such violence. I feel like us Africans actually have a lot of emotional growing up to do. Family is always so judgmental and do not care how damaging it is to us. Worst part, it’s always from women, mxm. Sending you hugs momma 🫶🏽🌻🍃
Thank you Wandile. There is a lot of toxicity and bullying that we experience from our black families. I hope we teach ourselves and others how to be kind, gentle and overall good people. I believe we can really do better
Mna, I’ve stopped visiting family. I stay home. Christmas I was in my home with my husband and son, and I was very content. I learnt the hard way. Learning to love myself daily, it takes work. 🌻🍃
Thank you so much sis. They nearly succeeded at pulling me down but I have beautiful people around me such as yourself to remind me of how stunning I am ❤️❤️❤️😍
I love this Vlog and fact that you are showing vulnerability. A lot of us relate to your experience even though it may not be about "weight" but people make horrible remarks about other people just to feel good about themselves. Personally I look up to you and I think you very beautiful🥰
thank you Ntshepiseng. it's always so refreshing coming across people who still believe in kindness. Thank you for being the light on this channel, I wish you more kindness in return. You have made my day 🙂
Yooh i am so sorry that you went through that....for us who knows you its not like you were thin person to start with,this is what all of us going through everytime we visit home...the only weapon i am using to them is that i wake up with plate of becon and cheese...and as soon as i said that they keep quiet....They dont know what we are going through trying to lose weight
I am glad that you said that. I've never been skinny and it's shocking when people act like I should be a size 8 all of a sudden. People are so hurtful and sometimes I think it's intentional
Hi Simps, I am so sorry that you experienced that hate and belittling from the people you love. I've been going through this my whole teenage years until mid twenties and I realized they really don't love me and as such they don't deserve any kind word of respect from me. I think the difference is , I was body shamed by my older cousin sister , so I started setting bounding and responding to their mean comments. To this day, there is a big gap full of silence and I am happy with just greetings when we meet and it ends there, unless there is something important to discuss. We love you and Appreciate you.
imagine going through your teenage years trying to figure yourself out and deal with this amount of bullying. It is a reason why some people go through depression from a young age. It appears that keeping a distance from toxic people seems to be a solution that most people use. I will definitely do this to protect my peace. Thank you so much for the love and for sharing your story
I am so sorry you went through that, Simps. Yes, people will project their own insecurities onto you to hurt you intentionally. I’m glad you picked up on this and are doing what’s best for you. You are incredibly beautiful, btw. ❤❤❤
oh girl, this means so much to me, thank you. I had to really realize that it is not about me but people deal with their own insecurities by making you feel how they don't want to feel. It is so bizarre.
Eish old people or people who aren't well informed thinks it is an acceptable behavior to comment on someone's weight. We often punt into a corner because we grew up with this shame. Actually it's okay to stop that there so that they know exactly how you feel.
I’m so sorry you went through that friend. I completely understand how uncomfortable it was for you to try brush off the comments because you really didn’t expect that & weren’t prepared for it, and on the other hand you just wanted to be respectful. I hope you find ways to set clear boundaries, to protect you & the kids as well❤️
Yhoooo friend, this literally sums up my feelings so well. Its like how do you call old people out when you expect better from them? I hope I do too friend. Thank you so much
I'm so sorry you went through that. Most time when people body shame, they are projecting their own insecurities. Its so sad how a woman's value is determined by her desirability and that bigger women are hardly ever desired. That time you're glowing and look so fabulous.
It is very unfortunate. And what is a perfect body anyway? people need to learn to embrace others without imposing their own perception about what a great body is. Thank you so much Jay Ray 😊
I normally just keep quiet when I am body shamed. I keep quiet but I become super hurt and cry about it. Thereafter I become resentful and distance myself… I know it’s not healthy, but it works for me because I’m avoiding clapping back in an even more harmful manner than they initially addressed me because I know that afterwards I’ll always be regarded as that rude and disrespectful person who clapped back (even though I was the one who was initially wronged). 🌻🍃
It's so sad how you are put in this position by those who don't care about hurting yourself. It is not impossible to clap back but for the sake of peace, we keep quiet. It is not fair, nobody deserves it. Strength to you for choosing peace and distancing yourself from toxicity ❤️
My sister is just like that. She says these things & acts like we're exaggerating when we call her out. I now know, such people know exactly what they're doing. I now know, you need to "turn back" immediately, when people start saying that.
When I appear, and people say "O nonne jwang", I immediately turn back, won't even enter the house
I absolutely love how you handle this situation. Bullies do not deserve your kindness.
Please, your makeup is always so lovely! I’m obsessed. Umhle, umhle, umhle!!! This glow, I am always here for it 🌻🍃
thank you for appreciating my 10 minutes makeup look sis, I rushed through it💗💗
This has literally been how people react to my body my entire life and I find it so weird because how is everyone still shocked 27 years later 😒😒😒😒, im sorry you had to go through that , families can be very insensitive, block who you need to block and clap back they never expect that .
Thank you so much girl. Our families contribute to our self esteem and there are many young people who have struggled to love themselves because they have endured years of bullying and teasing. We have a lot to teach people and hopefully, the coming generations won't have to go through this
I am so sorry that you experienced that especially from family. We need to do better as people, and be mindful of our thoughts and words towards others. You are allowed to keep your distance from them, just because they are family does not obligate you to tolerate their hurtful remarks. Protect your peace! ❤
I love and I agree with this Nyakallo. I'm learning to choose those who care about my feelings and who are just good people. You are spot on 💕💕
Im so sorry you went through that i know how belittling those remarks can be.
They are inhumane sis, it's the kind of energy that leaves us feeling depressed and depleted. Thank you 💕
The cycle of toxicity 💔 we need to end this ..with family and friends ...as well as people we aren't lose with... If people comment on my weight I look at them
..with no expression.. our daughters should never suffer with this issue.. I experienced this alot when I was growing up...they'll compare me with Mt twin brother saying I look older...
Imagine comparing two unique individuals to one another. It does not even make sense. I wish for our kids to experience better and be treated with grace. The entitlement of people to our bodies is shocking and should really end
Omgee, I am so sorry you had to experience such violence. I feel like us Africans actually have a lot of emotional growing up to do. Family is always so judgmental and do not care how damaging it is to us. Worst part, it’s always from women, mxm. Sending you hugs momma 🫶🏽🌻🍃
Thank you Wandile. There is a lot of toxicity and bullying that we experience from our black families. I hope we teach ourselves and others how to be kind, gentle and overall good people. I believe we can really do better
Mna, I’ve stopped visiting family. I stay home. Christmas I was in my home with my husband and son, and I was very content. I learnt the hard way. Learning to love myself daily, it takes work. 🌻🍃
Good for you for choosing peace and choosing to protect your space. I need to put in the work and with time, I will get there 💛
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. , I hope you know you’re drop dead gorgeous ❤️.
Thank you so much sis. They nearly succeeded at pulling me down but I have beautiful people around me such as yourself to remind me of how stunning I am ❤️❤️❤️😍
Your feelings are valid sis 🙏🏾🌻🍃
oh thank you so much sis😘
You look stunning, as usual!! 🥰🥰🥰
Love your background 🌻🍃
Thank you sis😘
I love this Vlog and fact that you are showing vulnerability. A lot of us relate to your experience even though it may not be about "weight" but people make horrible remarks about other people just to feel good about themselves. Personally I look up to you and I think you very beautiful🥰
thank you Ntshepiseng. it's always so refreshing coming across people who still believe in kindness. Thank you for being the light on this channel, I wish you more kindness in return. You have made my day 🙂
Yooh i am so sorry that you went through that....for us who knows you its not like you were thin person to start with,this is what all of us going through everytime we visit home...the only weapon i am using to them is that i wake up with plate of becon and cheese...and as soon as i said that they keep quiet....They dont know what we are going through trying to lose weight
I am glad that you said that. I've never been skinny and it's shocking when people act like I should be a size 8 all of a sudden. People are so hurtful and sometimes I think it's intentional
I am sorry 😢. I know exactly what you are talking about. At some point I had so much anxiety about going home.
I'm sorry that you have also experienced this sis, it's unfair and very rude. I hope we get healed ❤️
Hi Simps,
I am so sorry that you experienced that hate and belittling from the people you love.
I've been going through this my whole teenage years until mid twenties and I realized they really don't love me and as such they don't deserve any kind word of respect from me.
I think the difference is , I was body shamed by my older cousin sister , so I started setting bounding and responding to their mean comments. To this day, there is a big gap full of silence and I am happy with just greetings when we meet and it ends there, unless there is something important to discuss.
We love you and Appreciate you.
imagine going through your teenage years trying to figure yourself out and deal with this amount of bullying. It is a reason why some people go through depression from a young age. It appears that keeping a distance from toxic people seems to be a solution that most people use. I will definitely do this to protect my peace. Thank you so much for the love and for sharing your story
I am so sorry you went through that, Simps. Yes, people will project their own insecurities onto you to hurt you intentionally. I’m glad you picked up on this and are doing what’s best for you. You are incredibly beautiful, btw.
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oh girl, this means so much to me, thank you. I had to really realize that it is not about me but people deal with their own insecurities by making you feel how they don't want to feel. It is so bizarre.
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This is soo close to home for me.😪
We appreciate you mommy😘😘
Keya leboha sis ❤️
Eish old people or people who aren't well informed thinks it is an acceptable behavior to comment on someone's weight. We often punt into a corner because we grew up with this shame. Actually it's okay to stop that there so that they know exactly how you feel.
Yhoooo Nthabi, it's the highest form of disrespect. We must really speak out to ensure that we are not disrespected and shamed
I’m sorry that happened to you simps…. You are beautiful don’t ever let someone make you think otherwise ❤
thank you sis, I wish you kinder circles as well 💞
Yho hectic! I'm so sorry, Simps. 🚫
Thank you so much Bey, I am feeling better after opening up about my feelings
You have nice teeth
Thank you so much ❤️
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Thank you ❤️