No she in all actuality she probably wore light makeup to bed was because the moisturizer in those days had strong lighteners in them, one's that are banned now because they were so strong. It wasn't abnormal for woman to want that very bisque, porcelain look so I don't think it was so much that because she definitely looking white in all other ways!
Exactly. I think many people are overly judgmental of her mother...it was extremely painful for her to go through life hiding. She gave up a lot in a trade that she should’ve never had to feel she needed to make. “She never could be her truly authentic self,” as her daughter says. It’s tragic.
It’s important to remember that this woman’s mother didn’t just pass, she escaped life as a black personality in the Jim Crow South. That’s huge. It’s also heartbreaking and courageous.
Yes it is, she had to leave all of her loved ones, reject her ancestors, deal with everyday challenges and for sure the anxiety that comes with it. It may not fit everyone’s values but she but she did what she had to do with her ressources to live a better life in this time and place
The fact they vote Democrats is also telling in keeping up with their racism. Democrats had one drop of racism rule. More racist than the 1/4 racism rule that nazi had.
So maybe in USA she felt white people had more opportunities. So she was trying to have a better life. I'm in South Africa so would be better to pass as black. But I can't seem to get away with that and get more opportunities. Anyway, I appreciate peaple telling their authentic stories because it helps us learn and have more understanding and compassion for each other and the insecurities plus perceived and real life situations
My mother's family were all "passing" when my mother was born... my mom was too dark skinned to pass so when she was around 7 years old her family abandoned her in Maryland. Just left her in a foreign state. Alone. Before they abandoned her they treated her like a "found child" that they were taking care of... even now whenever I think about this it breaks my heart.
My great grandmother identified as black and so did her entire family. But she was very fair skinned with a straighter hair texture due to her mixed race heritage. Sometimes she passed for white when she needed to. My great grandfather (a black man) often had her do many business transactions or meetings for his business because people thought she was white and they’d give her an easier time. They even had a landlord that thought she was white and that my grandfather was the “help” 🤦🏽♀️.
À mistake that people make when it comes to black people, they judge by features. There's more than one way to be black, we come in different shades and textures.
by your comment it appears that you are trying to level up, lol! It's ok boo everyone eats chocolate 😋 he leveled up........ Probably didn't know why it was so good to his bigoted butt😂😂😂😂
My grandma "passed" but even she didn't know that at first. The identity of her great grandfather had long been a secret. Her older sister found out in the mid fifties. I think that is one reason my family moved out west. Micegenation was still considered a crime, and gramma could conceivably been accused. It is sad, because my family has a rich history and a big gap in that history. I would have liked having a photo, or even a name, but they buried it all. 😰
Very true. I discussed this with my mom. A family with that 1% of black never knows what color their child may come out to be, their eye color, or the texture of their hair. I always can tell when a person is "color struck" when they start in worrying about how "dark or light" someone is or when a baby is born.
How heartbreaking for her mother. To be so ashamed of herself. "how would I hold my head up around my friends". that made me cry. May she rest in peace.
I think if she would have gone to her friends at the end of her life and would have said: "Angela, Doris: I have to say something about myself which I always have hidden. I am a mixed woman, I am half black. If you still wanna be around me, I would appreciate this, if not, then our friendship wasn't true from the beginning on, but at least I would know now" ...It would have been such a release for her, if her friends would have responded positively to it.
While growing up neither my father or grandmother would talk about family history. When I started doing research I pieced together many of the hints they both had given me but also knew that they wanted to keep hidden. My great-grandmother was born a slave in 1860. She wanted a better life so she passed and moved to PA to find a white husband. She was lucky to find a man whose wife had died leaving him with an infant and had returned from TX to find a mother for his child. They ended up having 12 children. Looking at old photos of grandmother and her siblings you can pick out some faint Black characteristics. For several years after I found out this history I was bitter that part of my heritage had been stolen from me. I now realize that they were reacting to our society at that time and attempting to make a better life for themselves and their children. So after growing up believing that I was Irish/Scottish/English I am now proud to say I am mixed race and appreciate what my ancestors went through.
@@darrenclayton8246 I do remember my father saying that if I dug too deep in the family history I might find "a N in the wood pile." I have used that quote many times.
My grandmother once told me that a lot of black people that looked white did pass for white back in those days for a better life due to the segregation era/ Jim Crow!
saundra brown A lot of Hispanics too is what my grandma tells me. She was living in Mexico at the time of segregation, but she knew people who went to America as well and passed as white because of their skin color.
My Grandmother was Cherokee and you could tell but ppl really thought she was just very tan. Her skin would darken quickly with just a few minutes of sun! She passed as white as well. All her life. She was so beautiful! I miss my beautiful grandmother!
The saddest thing is that finding out you are half african american is so shocking. If you found out you were half Norwegian, you wouldn’t be on a talk show.
Sonya Walker white females for sure aren’t the same!! Some of us can handle anything and everything. Others don’t believe in suicide. Some of us are all 3.
A racist married a colored woman, didn't even know it, and loved her for years. Ohhhh the irony. I DON'T THINK PEOPLE UNDERSTOOD MY COMMENT. It's IRONY -- meaning something that seems deliberately contrary to what one expects" Meaning, her husband looked like a complete fool (at least to me). Racism is disgusting and my comment doesn't mean I disagree with that.
Race and gender passing are selfish acts; especially in mate selection. Deceiving a person to be with a mate that they don't want is immoral and disgusting.
@@allrightsreserved4m1 Exept that he did want her as a mate, as they were married and their daughter is there to prove so. What is immoral is not wanting to be with someone purely because they are the "wrong color". The proof that racism is pure ignorance in one's mind is that this gentleman was obviously very compatible and able to live/love/form family with a "black woman", simply because once he was unaware of it, his mind constructions didn´t get in the way of black and white having a respectful, loving relationship. This was like a social experiment proving that the difference between us and the black people is very irrelevant and skin deep.
This poor woman lived with so much anxiety about her skin color that she tried to pass for what she wasn't.. I can't even imagine the toll that must take on you mentally to do that for your whole wife.
The saddest part of this story is what her mother thought of herself and that she asked her daughter not to disclose her race until AFTER she has died.
Kathy Coleman why did you write this as a response to what I’d said? My comment had ZERO to do with religion and furthermore, her feelings were about HERSELF, not a deity. I’m quite sure a deity wouldn’t deny someone a blessed afterlife because the person in question has a poor sense of self worth and/or self esteem.
This is a very interesting story but also very sad that her mom chose to deny knowing her family and not allow her children to know their family & heritage. 😢
There's an instance where a man killed his wife and child because the child came out "dark". Well after he murdered them he learned that it was him that was mixed race. He killed his wife for his family's secret.
@@oliviarogers3559 Well, actually she wasn't forced to leave. She took her husband's dismissal, as him not wanting her there. He didn't force her to leave.
My great grandmas uncle passed as a white man and move up north. His wife and kids had no idea. He would secretly visit his parents because he didn’t want his family to know his secret
Well, she didn't look black which is what is important. As the lyrics from the Phantom of the Opera read: "In the dark, it is easy to pretend that the world is what it out to be."
I know what it's like to deny yourself the freedom of fully being your true self. I can't imagine how hard that must have been for her mother. & how lonely, never having someone to confide in!
Wow. This is powerful… I cannot imagine the fear the mother felt when pregnant…scared to think that the child may come out , “too dark”… 😞…she had to “pass” the line from black , to white, in a time of Jim Crow laws… a dangerous and scary time for black Americans …. A sad sad story of having to hold who you are, in the depths of your core…because of fear 😢
It's so many folks in Louisiana where I live who look like her but is back It was a culture shock for me. They kept their distance from black folks and lived near family.
There's a recent, heartbreaking movie about a subject like this called "Passing" It's just the same story about a lady passing as white when actually being black I highly recommend it to anyone interested
She didn't 'feel the need' to do that to 'survive'. This was not about survival. What it tells us is that, right or wrong, she chose to sever ties with those who loved her in order to pursue what/who was most important to *her*.
It so sad to have to deny your race in this way in order to be treated like a human being and even so she’s a woman so she is still oppressed but much freer than a black woman
@Duck Supremacy He didn't just "prefer his own people" His daughter states very clearly that her father had prejudice opinions, and would regularly make racist comments.
Yes, you do need ID to get a birth certificate, at least in Louisiana, and an adult child is legally allowed to obtain one for their parents. But the penalty for “posing” as someone else or lying on your application is $10,000 or 5 years in jail so the most shocking part to me was the fact that she went on national tv and admitted to posing as her mother when she was legally allowed in the first place.
This is so amazing, it describes perfectly how being black is enough to not be accepted. Shameful and hurtful to live a life hiding your own heritage. Welcome to the family sis 🤗
I noticed a woman in the background shaking her head in disbelief throughout the program. Although I respect her disapproval of prejudice towards others on the basis of their race, at some point her disapproving sentiment seems to become artificial. Being that she is well-dressed and shows good intentions, she seems like a good woman to me. As someone who values truth though, this artificiality that I notice in people’s behavior from time to time troubles me. I say that we should all be mindful enough to make sure our thinking matches with our feeling in our behavior.
This reminds me of the woman in India, who cut her hair short, put on men's clothing and pass herself off as a man, so that it was easier for her to find a good job, and be safer (and her young child) , and be treated with more respect. She said it gave her a better life than as a woman, and so she never wanted to look like a woman again.
This makes me sad. So many women back then couldn’t pass as white and were condemned to a life of being discriminated against. This woman could pass as white and still she was so scared. Humans can be so evil.
Don’t think she was that scared. Fear makes you run not build roots. Having your own self hate is a normal thing In America. This is just one of those hey I am 1% this kinda story nothing more.
Fear is one of the reasons why people lie, no matter what the intent, good or bad, behind the lie. Passing happened a lot and maybe some people think this story is totally rare, but it’s not that rare. What’s rare is people coming out with their families stories of passing. I hope people can listen to these stories without attacking. Times were completely different back then and it’s so easy for people to put their 21st century logic onto the past, no matter how recent the past is.
@@gregorywright9971 Bruh, wtf are you going on about? You do realize a lot of people who white pass did this right? Even more so, those who became historical figures. Like be quiet because you’re being mad disrespectful now. That wasn’t her “self hate,” that was her trying to survive in a world/country that didn’t like her in any means necessary. Also, it isn’t a “I’m 1%” story, it’s about a woman talking about what her mother went through.
@@gregorywright9971 actually she'd feared. There were several clues in the video. Her being afraid to tan in the sun. She was also trying to survive. This was during Jim Crow, where sadly, passing was very common.
Her mother looked white when she was older but when she was young I think she still looked mixed. There is no way her dad didn't know, he probably accepted it and kept it quiet.
We'll never know for sure, but he definitely knew that she wasn't pure Anglo Saxon. People would've been more suspicious of her in a country like Germany, she fits the image of the people they targeted. Germans were more serious about purity & eugenics.
My great grandfather changed his name from Youngbear Redblood to "Charles Red" he married a Norwegian woman and told her that he was tan from working the fields. He made my grandma and her siblings wear long-sleeved shirts and large brim hats when they worked outside. My grandma went to California to visit her moms family, and she remembers walking up the driveway and her family asking why her children are so dark and their hair looks like "engine hair." When my mom was in her mid 20s and was learning about scrolls and natives around the area ( NW Arkansas) changing their names to give their families a better chance. My mom found scrolls in the basement of a library that kept the names that were changed, and there she found grandpa charles (Youngbear Redblood.) She was able to find photos of our family as well and brought them to grandpa, he wept seeing his dad. It was a photo of him in a war bonnet/ headdress. His dad was a tribal chief! I wish I knew more about my family than just the photots we have and a few stories that my great grandpa finally shared. =(
@My account so I'm a child because I asked you a question? Ok also my father, mother, grandfathers and grandmothers talked about that era, to me and living in philly and then atco NJ they told me what they went through. Also if you're gowing to dis someone atleast know how to enunciate the English language. Its were not where. When you're saying they were around that era.
That’s so sad cause she not only isolated herself from her family but in turn robbed her daughter of getting to grow up with and know her relatives for so many years…
@@kanikagaral7637 If he knew his beloved wife's secret (and I believe he did), he wasn't phased by it so he wasn't, at heart, a bigot by any stretch of the imagination. As for his racial slurs, whether we like to admit it or not, during that time, there were many 'racial slurs' being thrown about by all for all.
Krystal Janigan she shaking her head in pure disgust now I don't know if it's disgusted that this black lady past is white and lied about it or the fact that she's a black lady who couldn't admit that she was black but I'm going to go with the first thing that I said lol
It's not hate. My grandmother is listed as Hispanic/Native American on her wedding certificate. She was actually Black/White but in the 1920s that was the only way she could marry her White husband since it was against the law. My grandfather of course knew his wife's background since they grew up in the same neighborhood. People did what they could to survive because of love. Unfortunately at the time that is how you had to work the system.
They didn't necessarily hate her, that is an assumption. We don't know what they would have thought because they never knew. When you love somebody that makes you reexamine social ideas you may have previously had in a different light. It may have highlighted the uselessness of the prevailing bigotry of the time, which was how they were taught to think. We shouldn't underestimate the goodness of people.
Good gracious look at the stupid remarks about the woman BEHIND the guest. She is an actress and her name is Dee Wallace. The only movies I remember her being in were horror movies.
@@VolumeEleven I just know you lying 😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀. Every one body has different percentages of races in them. Mam, you are Not black lol. Ah being one percent is irrelevant. Not trynna be mean but having your username be “ new African” and the playlist of “ your people” showing black people and you clearly having a white face is......a bit disturbing ngl
There are so many stories like this. I have a great-great grandmother that did the same to help free her family from habitual SA during the era of slavery.
This is the generational trauma that is now being uncovered and healed, thanks to the progress of our modern society. We fall short in many categories, but my reaction to this is one of sadness for her mom. To have to live your whole life pretending. That is torture. I am so sad and sorry for her. God bless her in Heaven. This journey was criminal. Why a society can hate someone for something so innate is beyond me.
That would have been hilarious. I've seen it happen with redheads, it can happen with black couples and white couples. Sometimes with mixed race couples, the kids come out looking like they are from totally different races and even different nationalities tgan the parents.
I was surprised that no one mentioned how genuine Gail seem. It doesn’t seem like she has a craving for being black or anything like that. Just sounds like a young woman who wanted to really learn who her mom is. RIP to her mother.
This really saddens me. Her mother could not live as her true self her ENTIRE life. The anxiety she must have had.. I'm surprised she didn't have a heart attack while pregnant just hoping her baby wouldn't be of dark skin. Wow..
@@Kathy-pr4wu I’m sure it wasn’t that she didn’t want to live as her true self. Her life was no doubt worlds easier being able to pass as white back in those days 😞
The fact the racist dad married a women who was mixed raced and didn’t know but still loved her shows the pointlessness of racism 😂
Seriously 😫😅😂😂😂
Right?!🤣🤣🤣
for real
RACISM ISNT POINTLESS !!
FLAT EARTH disliking someone purely because of the colour of their skin and not because of their personality or traits seems extremely pointless to me
She wasn't wearing makeup to look good at the hospital, she was wearing makeup so she could get treated at the hospital.
No she in all actuality she probably wore light makeup to bed was because the moisturizer in those days had strong lighteners in them, one's that are banned now because they were so strong. It wasn't abnormal for woman to want that very bisque, porcelain look so I don't think it was so much that because she definitely looking white in all other ways!
She doesn’t look Col. or B. I look more col. than she does. DNA.
As soon as I read it....it was occurring the same time.
@NSA This is the day of Covid! Treatment at the hospital is the same for everyone! Stay home, if you can!😷
Exactly. I think many people are overly judgmental of her mother...it was extremely painful for her to go through life hiding. She gave up a lot in a trade that she should’ve never had to feel she needed to make. “She never could be her truly authentic self,” as her daughter says. It’s tragic.
It’s important to remember that this woman’s mother didn’t just pass, she escaped life as a black personality in the Jim Crow South. That’s huge. It’s also heartbreaking and courageous.
Jim Scarecrow's laws caused a lot of misery in America's Deep South at that time.
Courageous?????
Yes it is, she had to leave all of her loved ones, reject her ancestors, deal with everyday challenges and for sure the anxiety that comes with it. It may not fit everyone’s values but she but she did what she had to do with her ressources to live a better life in this time and place
It's cowardly lol
The fact they vote Democrats is also telling in keeping up with their racism. Democrats had one drop of racism rule. More racist than the 1/4 racism rule that nazi had.
the white woman behind her in the purple feels everything this woman is saying. the guilt, the grief, the sadness... all of it.
I noticed that too
So maybe in USA she felt white people had more opportunities. So she was trying to have a better life. I'm in South Africa so would be better to pass as black. But I can't seem to get away with that and get more opportunities. Anyway, I appreciate peaple telling their authentic stories because it helps us learn and have more understanding and compassion for each other and the insecurities plus perceived and real life situations
Man she was cracking me up 😂 she’s so invested
💀she did not
She is a bubble head 😂
she just glossed over the fact that she pretended to be her mother to get the birth certificate. savage and worth it
White privilege
Donnell Evans How does that play into white privilege
That’s scary that people can get your birth certificate easily like that
Jd Bryant it doesn’t LFMAOFJWHFW
I thought the same thing lol. She said it so passively like it’s okay to do in order to get answers 😂
The saddest part is that she had to pretend to be fully white just to survive and live a normal American life
Yes it’s sad how this is our history..and how it still continues.
It’s not sad , it is what it is. But why would you want to lay with your oppressor?
Nothing has changed today.
@@live2fishlove2fish10 it is sad how she wanted to be someone she’s not..
@@wasupman2284 Yeah man, all those current Jim Crow laws, legal race based discrimination, and legal segregation are really impeding peoples lives.
My mother's family were all "passing" when my mother was born... my mom was too dark skinned to pass so when she was around 7 years old her family abandoned her in Maryland. Just left her in a foreign state. Alone. Before they abandoned her they treated her like a "found child" that they were taking care of... even now whenever I think about this it breaks my heart.
😮😮😮
My great grandmother identified as black and so did her entire family. But she was very fair skinned with a straighter hair texture due to her mixed race heritage. Sometimes she passed for white when she needed to. My great grandfather (a black man) often had her do many business transactions or meetings for his business because people thought she was white and they’d give her an easier time. They even had a landlord that thought she was white and that my grandfather was the “help” 🤦🏽♀️.
No such thing is fair or unfair skin.
Girl ´fair’ means ´light’ 🙄 Y’all be reinventing the vocabulary.
Wth
À mistake that people make when it comes to black people, they judge by features. There's more than one way to be black, we come in different shades and textures.
@@Awilliinew to english?
A racist man marries a mixed woman, and doesn’t even know it! How ironic is this 😂 lol
They were probably doing it in the dark. As you do, as you do.
She was lightening
LOVE IT!!
Examples like these prove the fluidity of race and racial classifications. Racial differences are based almost exclusively on visual perception.
read passing by nella larson
And she would’ve gotten away with it too, if it wasn’t for her meddling kid!
Sanbika lol
Kids always meddle
Zoinks! LOL
Sanbika lmao 🤣🤣🤣
Lolol
Made me cry to think that the mother spent her whole life hiding who she is. ❤️
Literally sleeping with the enemy
@@Cnt_btuchd6268 she leveled up and left 🥷
by your comment it appears that you are trying to level up, lol! It's ok boo everyone eats chocolate 😋 he leveled up........ Probably didn't know why it was so good to his bigoted butt😂😂😂😂
I would too if I knew my father were black
@@uhjeff3651 same.
HER MOTHER WASN'T THE ONLY 1 THAT DID THAT 🙏🏼🙏🏼
Many women who " passed " never had kids .They were too afraid of having a baby that actually looked Black .It's a sad situation , all around .
Facts
My grandma "passed" but even she didn't know that at first. The identity of her great grandfather had long been a secret. Her older sister found out in the mid fifties. I think that is one reason my family moved out west. Micegenation was still considered a crime, and gramma could conceivably been accused. It is sad, because my family has a rich history and a big gap in that history. I would have liked having a photo, or even a name, but they buried it all. 😰
Very true. I discussed this with my mom. A family with that 1% of black never knows what color their child may come out to be, their eye color, or the texture of their hair. I always can tell when a person is "color struck" when they start in worrying about how "dark or light" someone is or when a baby is born.
Yep, the "risk" of genes skipping a generation!
Lol lol lol
The blonde woman in the background really wants to be a part of the story.
Yes HAHAHA
That's literally what I thought this entire time
Haha🤦🏾♀️
Yes!!!!!
If she shake her head on mo time 🤣🤣🙄😒
How heartbreaking for her mother. To be so ashamed of herself. "how would I hold my head up around my friends". that made me cry. May she rest in peace.
It wasn’t a matter of being “ashamed.” She did it to protect herself from racism.
At that point I wouldn't even care what my "friends" thought.
I think if she would have gone to her friends at the end of her life and would have said: "Angela, Doris: I have to say something about myself which I always have hidden. I am a mixed woman, I am half black. If you still wanna be around me, I would appreciate this, if not, then our friendship wasn't true from the beginning on, but at least I would know now"
...It would have been such a release for her, if her friends would have responded positively to it.
Why would you be friends with a bigot who would hate who you truly are? Her mother was a coward.
@@r.m.90thank you so much
While growing up neither my father or grandmother would talk about family history. When I started doing research I pieced together many of the hints they both had given me but also knew that they wanted to keep hidden. My great-grandmother was born a slave in 1860. She wanted a better life so she passed and moved to PA to find a white husband. She was lucky to find a man whose wife had died leaving him with an infant and had returned from TX to find a mother for his child. They ended up having 12 children. Looking at old photos of grandmother and her siblings you can pick out some faint Black characteristics. For several years after I found out this history I was bitter that part of my heritage had been stolen from me. I now realize that they were reacting to our society at that time and attempting to make a better life for themselves and their children. So after growing up believing that I was Irish/Scottish/English I am now proud to say I am mixed race and appreciate what my ancestors went through.
Amazing wow
If this is true you can say the n word
@@darrenclayton8246 why would you want to?
@@darrenclayton8246 I do remember my father saying that if I dug too deep in the family history I might find "a N in the wood pile." I have used that quote many times.
@@ilenestrong7471so your father was a racist man? why is he saying the N word
cool story though
That wearing light makeup to sleep and being treated better at the hospital literally went over their heads.
:(
Watching this interview made me feel like I was in the twilight zone...
I hope not. If that went over their heads, we're in deep do do.
Yes it did....they laughed but it wasn't funny at all....
Yes it did....they laughed but it wasn't funny at all....
My grandmother once told me that a lot of black people that looked white did pass for white back in those days for a better life due to the segregation era/ Jim Crow!
saundra brown A lot of Hispanics too is what my grandma tells me. She was living in Mexico at the time of segregation, but she knew people who went to America as well and passed as white because of their skin color.
@@izzyy87 hispanic is not a race tho
k a r m a ok, That’s my bad. Ik race and ethnicity is a different thing, woops. I’m talking abut Mexican..
@@izzyy87 mexican is a nationality not a race either
k a r m a that is also my bad, I’m sorry. 😕 Ethnicity, race, and nationality is confusing to me
My Grandmother was Cherokee and you could tell but ppl really thought she was just very tan. Her skin would darken quickly with just a few minutes of sun! She passed as white as well. All her life. She was so beautiful! I miss my beautiful grandmother!
The saddest thing is that finding out you are half african american is so shocking. If you found out you were half Norwegian, you wouldn’t be on a talk show.
Imagine the amount nervousness and stress that woman felt while pregnant
Word lol but the daughters nose says a lot as a little girl
I know Right!!!!! I was just thinking the same thing.
It rarely works that way though.
Well if she found out and didnt like it - she could easy have taken her life with pills - white females do this when they find out things they don't.
Sonya Walker white females for sure aren’t the same!! Some of us can handle anything and everything. Others don’t believe in suicide. Some of us are all 3.
A racist married a colored woman, didn't even know it, and loved her for years. Ohhhh the irony.
I DON'T THINK PEOPLE UNDERSTOOD MY COMMENT. It's IRONY -- meaning something that seems deliberately contrary to what one expects" Meaning, her husband looked like a complete fool (at least to me). Racism is disgusting and my comment doesn't mean I disagree with that.
Ironic, but she shouldn't have helped him procriate.
Her mother was a racists too. She hated black skin.
Race and gender passing are selfish acts; especially in mate selection. Deceiving a person to be with a mate that they don't want is immoral and disgusting.
@@allrightsreserved4m1 Exept that he did want her as a mate, as they were married and their daughter is there to prove so.
What is immoral is not wanting to be with someone purely because they are the "wrong color".
The proof that racism is pure ignorance in one's mind is that this gentleman was obviously very compatible and able to live/love/form family with a "black woman", simply because once he was unaware of it, his mind constructions didn´t get in the way of black and white having a respectful, loving relationship.
This was like a social experiment proving that the difference between us and the black people is very irrelevant and skin deep.
R.L. you literally just basically took another comment
So sad. That that was such a shame.!!! Be proud of who you are!!!
This poor woman lived with so much anxiety about her skin color that she tried to pass for what she wasn't.. I can't even imagine the toll that must take on you mentally to do that for your whole wife.
So true. Trying to pass as white was a 9-5 job it sounds like.
The saddest part of this story is what her mother thought of herself and that she asked her daughter not to disclose her race until AFTER she has died.
Yes, so sad. She had a goodly heritage and she blew it
It broke my heart... I cant imagine
Yes... Never accept herself
I agree! Also how she abandoned her family. So sad.
Kathy Coleman why did you write this as a response to what I’d said? My comment had ZERO to do with religion and furthermore, her feelings were about HERSELF, not a deity. I’m quite sure a deity wouldn’t deny someone a blessed afterlife because the person in question has a poor sense of self worth and/or self esteem.
"My mom was this absolutley stunning, beautiful woman."
"My dad... He had a good sense of humor."
LOL
She basically called her father ugly lmaoooo
Lol
@@samanthasy9290 let guess because she was black your people a joke the mom was better looking cuz she was half white
Ward Cleaver bruh that comment was clearly not racist plenty of people would say that about their dads
I NOTICED THAT TOO ASDFSKJDJ
This is a very interesting story but also very sad that her mom chose to deny knowing her family and not allow her children to know their family & heritage. 😢
My great grandmother did the same, I understand now she didn't feel she had a choice. Times were definitely different back then.
Don't blame her blame this sick country we live in.
charles stevens trump makes it even sicker, he funds KKK groups and trump himself is part of KKK. Look it up. Sad place for America.
Exactly!!!!
@@northstarmn crap
This will never end racism sad
I know exactly! I wish more people would see it the way you do!
There's an instance where a man killed his wife and child because the child came out "dark". Well after he murdered them he learned that it was him that was mixed race. He killed his wife for his family's secret.
Very unfortunate. Racism makes no sense to me. Why does it even exist?
I read that in a literature book
@@sandyluis7547 yes story is Desiree's Baby
What the heck?
@@oliviarogers3559 Well, actually she wasn't forced to leave. She took her husband's dismissal, as him not wanting her there. He didn't force her to leave.
My great grandmas uncle passed as a white man and move up north. His wife and kids had no idea. He would secretly visit his parents because he didn’t want his family to know his secret
This is exactly what went on in my family and it’s so mysterious
I don’t have any answers and would love to know
The irony a racists married a black / mixed Woman he loved for years and never knew 😂😂👏👏👏
The last laugh was on the bigot...He was making biracial children and didn't even noticed!
Well, she didn't look black which is what is important. As the lyrics from the Phantom of the Opera read: "In the dark, it is easy to pretend that the world is what it out to be."
That good good had him whipped.
@@thelovelyjerald -. What makes you think that, Tyrone?
I think that's awesome!! lol
"Passing" is something a lot of lighter/mixed black people did bc it was another way of surviving at that time.
that’s scary because i would’ve had to do that if i grew up back then
And I don't think anyone can question why. It was survival
ScaryEducatedChic S ST grr deerskin I was
Or for privilege..
Shani Voss truth I heard stories about that
Heartbreaking. Her decision to hide her race until her death is so incredibly culturally potent.
Asian ladies: wearing 50 spf sunscreen, wide hats, sunglasses, long sleeves, gloves, and umbrellas
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She knew something was up when she seasoned her food with more than salt and pepper
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crazypianolady lmaooooooo
Salt n pepper is not seasoning🙄
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“My mom was an absolutely stunning woman. My dad...... he had a great sense of humor.”
Josh Cash ...I’m the dad
That "....." pause was everything lol
Lolll
Lmaooo im the dad
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It is so sad. What her mother had to go through.
Where's the second half of the video? I want to see the family.
Well she really found out her moms true colours
I’ll leave
Shelby Creed lmao 😂
I-
go home 😂😂
😂I’m not laughing
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So lemme get this straight her dad was a racist who married a sista.... Bruh loooool
Fam, she scammed him hard!!!
She is Joanne the scammer of the past. Glamorous and caucasian 😂😂😂( look up on youtube who Joan the scammer is)
She probably had a big booty too
greedy greedy
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I'm trying to pass as rich .
Do you define yourself as rich, though?
@@hypsyzygy506 i identify as wealthy, affluent and opulent.
I know what it's like to deny yourself the freedom of fully being your true self. I can't imagine how hard that must have been for her mother. & how lonely, never having someone to confide in!
Hello Molly, how are you doing today, hope you’re fine and safe from the Virus??
Imagine if Gail came out the womb with 4c hair 🤣
😂😂😂😂😂😂
That could have been dangerous...
And the crazy thing is that it actually could have happened
There are whites with very curly hair 4a some. Mostly 3b's are EVERYWHERE lol that's why flat irons are big sellers worldwide.
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"My mother was stunningly gorgerous"
"My dad.....had a great sense of humor"
I'm sorry I laughed so hard at that.
😂😂
Darling Light 🤣😂😂😂
The shade lol
Her father was handsome though! But that was funny.
I don’t get it
Wow. This is powerful… I cannot imagine the fear the mother felt when pregnant…scared to think that the child may come out , “too dark”… 😞…she had to “pass” the line from black , to white, in a time of Jim Crow laws… a dangerous and scary time for black Americans …. A sad sad story of having to hold who you are, in the depths of your core…because of fear 😢
It's so many folks in Louisiana where I live who look like her but is back
It was a culture shock for me. They kept their distance from black folks and lived near family.
So we gonna act like they didn’t plant the lady in the back to be a bobblehead
Yoooooooooo loool
HA HA 😂 🤣😆😂
I was watching for her reactions 😄
Lmao!! Right!! Very distracting !
I AM DEAD 😂😂😂😂😂
,, she wore makeup to bed"
Me, a skincare addict:🤯🤯🤯
LITERALLY like no baby...... every night???
Me tooo 😂 I cringed 😖
ONG! I made your comment to 1K!
And her skin didnt even look bad😆howw?
LMAO SAME like I dont have skin care products i just use rice and honey and stuff like that on my face and i FREAKED OUT when i heard that
Colour is only a shade of humanity never BE ashamed of who you are
There's a recent, heartbreaking movie about a subject like this called "Passing"
It's just the same story about a lady passing as white when actually being black
I highly recommend it to anyone interested
"You have to promise me you wont tell anyone until I die"
*comes out on national television
After she died lol
@@tiab8310 yes lol
And she told EVERYONE!
Made that book money baby!!!
😂
The fact that she felt she need to do that to survive is should tell you about all you need to about America.
She didn't 'feel the need' to do that to 'survive'. This was not about survival. What it tells us is that, right or wrong, she chose to sever ties with those who loved her in order to pursue what/who was most important to *her*.
A B thats correct if youre talking about in today’s world. Her case is different.
@@BNA_Est.1988 How is her case different? What has changed in the world that makes my statement correct now but incorrect then?
A B umm Jim Crow? Segregation? Red lining? Civil rights?
A B wait, this is troll account.. bye
It so sad to have to deny your race in this way in order to be treated like a human being and even so she’s a woman so she is still oppressed but much freer than a black woman
What people find to be ashamed about is mind boggling. Some “secrets” we just don’t need to carry.
The joke was on that bigoted father. Married a black woman and didn’t know it.😎
@Duck Supremacy He didn't just "prefer his own people" His daughter states very clearly that her father had prejudice opinions, and would regularly make racist comments.
Raceception
#finessed 😜
@Duck Supremacy STFU YOU DEVIL!
Nature finds a way...too many inbred genes ,,,biology brought him to her.
The lady in the back be like:
↪️👩🏼↩️,🙄,👀,👁👄👁,↕️👩🏼↕️
hahaha
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I was waiting to see this comment🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
She knows she’s on camera 🙄
Sad and hurtful for her mom - happily we’ve gone beyond that for most people.
Her mother does looks white I was very thrown off by this story so the question is was she biracial?
Imagine if her daughter would’ve pulled grandpas genes. She’d have a lot of explaining to do to her husband.
Forreal i read a book where that actually happened
@@shanspatrece_xo8890 What is the name of the book?
The books called Family tree by Barbara delinsky
Timothy Njomo What’s common?
It's sad that she probably did live with such underlying fear.
The fact she was able to pose as her mother and attain her birth certificate so easily was the most shocking part of this video.
@Marion Raimey They dont ask for id for this?!
@@PersonWithStupid37 No, you only need info on the person and your relationship.
Yes, you do need ID to get a birth certificate, at least in Louisiana, and an adult child is legally allowed to obtain one for their parents. But the penalty for “posing” as someone else or lying on your application is $10,000 or 5 years in jail so the most shocking part to me was the fact that she went on national tv and admitted to posing as her mother when she was legally allowed in the first place.
This woman’s mother was born in Louisiana so Ohio is irrelevant.
@@krische5752 no you don’t it’s public record
that bobble head in the back ground is driving me insane.
This is so amazing, it describes perfectly how being black is enough to not be accepted. Shameful and hurtful to live a life hiding your own heritage. Welcome to the family sis 🤗
Nothing about her is black
@@Sunny-zo2cb- oh? Got a definition, clever clogs?
except the fact that she's bi-racial! @@Sunny-zo2cb
@@Sunny-zo2cb She kinda has an afro @ 0:28.
She is whitr
I noticed a woman in the background shaking her head in disbelief throughout the program. Although I respect her disapproval of prejudice towards others on the basis of their race, at some point her disapproving sentiment seems to become artificial. Being that she is well-dressed and shows good intentions, she seems like a good woman to me. As someone who values truth though, this artificiality that I notice in people’s behavior from time to time troubles me. I say that we should all be mindful enough to make sure our thinking matches with our feeling in our behavior.
Vernon Schillinger lmfaoooo
Vernon Schillinger as soon as i saw your comment i noticed her shaking her head
Vernon Schillinger Lmfaoooo
annoying
Vernon Schillinger 😂😂
"my mom was an absolutely stunningly beautiful woman...my dad, he had a good sense of humor" lol
Lottie M i don't see stunningly beautiful but ok lol
Her mom looks like a plain Jane, white woman. Nothing spectacular about her.
Hahahahaha same thing I thought
Lottie M
I peeped that too. Didn't have much of a description of ole daddio. 😂😂😆😂🤣
we all know what that means hahha
Is it weird that I find it somewhat impressive that she was able to conceal her race for so many decades from everybody?
This reminds me of the woman in India, who cut her hair short, put on men's clothing and pass herself off as a man, so that it was easier for her to find a good job, and be safer (and her young child) , and be treated with more respect. She said it gave her a better life than as a woman, and so she never wanted to look like a woman again.
This makes me sad. So many women back then couldn’t pass as white and were condemned to a life of being discriminated against. This woman could pass as white and still she was so scared. Humans can be so evil.
Don’t think she was that scared. Fear makes you run not build roots. Having your own self hate is a normal thing In America. This is just one of those hey I am 1% this kinda story nothing more.
Fear is one of the reasons why people lie, no matter what the intent, good or bad, behind the lie. Passing happened a lot and maybe some people think this story is totally rare, but it’s not that rare. What’s rare is people coming out with their families stories of passing.
I hope people can listen to these stories without attacking. Times were completely different back then and it’s so easy for people to put their 21st century logic onto the past, no matter how recent the past is.
@@gregorywright9971 Bruh, wtf are you going on about? You do realize a lot of people who white pass did this right? Even more so, those who became historical figures. Like be quiet because you’re being mad disrespectful now. That wasn’t her “self hate,” that was her trying to survive in a world/country that didn’t like her in any means necessary. Also, it isn’t a “I’m 1%” story, it’s about a woman talking about what her mother went through.
@@gregorywright9971 actually she'd feared. There were several clues in the video. Her being afraid to tan in the sun. She was also trying to survive. This was during Jim Crow, where sadly, passing was very common.
OMG
The woman constantly shaking her head in the background is just a whole mood
Ikr
She’s so annoying
Is that her daughter?
All she’s needs is a bag of popcorn!
It was so distracting.. like pipe down lady all u have to do it sit there
Her mother looked white when she was older but when she was young I think she still looked mixed. There is no way her dad didn't know, he probably accepted it and kept it quiet.
We'll never know for sure, but he definitely knew that she wasn't pure Anglo Saxon. People would've been more suspicious of her in a country like Germany, she fits the image of the people they targeted. Germans were more serious about purity & eugenics.
Such a wonderful woman I really enjoyed her story!
"B" does that mean Bllllllllaaaack?
One drop rule. She was creo. It's called Passe blanc
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danny solis yes
danny solis 😂😂😂😂😂
Always wore makeup, stayed out of the sun, secretive about her past... vampire?
I think you hit the nail on the head. Definitely a vampire. No wonder she didn't want people to know! Are you kidding me!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You made my day 😂😂😂😂😂
Sounds like Michael Jackson
EternalDensity She didnt want to tan.
I wonder how the mother’s parents would feel if they knew how ashamed their daughter was of her race Ana heritage.
My great grandfather changed his name from Youngbear Redblood to "Charles Red" he married a Norwegian woman and told her that he was tan from working the fields. He made my grandma and her siblings wear long-sleeved shirts and large brim hats when they worked outside. My grandma went to California to visit her moms family, and she remembers walking up the driveway and her family asking why her children are so dark and their hair looks like "engine hair." When my mom was in her mid 20s and was learning about scrolls and natives around the area ( NW Arkansas) changing their names to give their families a better chance. My mom found scrolls in the basement of a library that kept the names that were changed, and there she found grandpa charles (Youngbear Redblood.) She was able to find photos of our family as well and brought them to grandpa, he wept seeing his dad. It was a photo of him in a war bonnet/ headdress. His dad was a tribal chief!
I wish I knew more about my family than just the photots we have and a few stories that my great grandpa finally shared. =(
Imagine the only way you could escape racism was to escape your own race and marry a racist... seesh I wouldn't wish this on anyone
At that time 99% of the white people were racists, so it's not like it was easy for that mixed woman to find a good white man
John Bainivanua I wouldn’t either
@My account really? Were u born during that time? If not how could u tell?
And still end up not happy
@My account so I'm a child because I asked you a question? Ok also my father, mother, grandfathers and grandmothers talked about that era, to me and living in philly and then atco NJ they told me what they went through. Also if you're gowing to dis someone atleast know how to enunciate the English language. Its were not where. When you're saying they were around that era.
The Aunt in the back is still shaking the head till this day
She's black too 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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ImJustSayin RealTalk 🤣🤣🤣
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That’s so sad cause she not only isolated herself from her family but in turn robbed her daughter of getting to grow up with and know her relatives for so many years…
wow. What a story I want to read this book
I really wished she could tell her father that. The look on his face would have been priceless.
@Jason Diaz I know right.
Same
I wish she would've too. I think she would've found out that he already knew.
@@ab6565 maybe possible he kept up the bigoted act to not get ostracized by his own people.
@@kanikagaral7637 If he knew his beloved wife's secret (and I believe he did), he wasn't phased by it so he wasn't, at heart, a bigot by any stretch of the imagination. As for his racial slurs, whether we like to admit it or not, during that time, there were many 'racial slurs' being thrown about by all for all.
The nodding woman in the background is killing me. Lol
Krystal Janigan I want to kick her
Deon Idlett 👐😂😂
Krystal Janigan she shaking her head in pure disgust now I don't know if it's disgusted that this black lady past is white and lied about it or the fact that she's a black lady who couldn't admit that she was black but I'm going to go with the first thing that I said lol
omg same lol
Words Retain Power ikr, I’m not white but I hate how people assume all white people are racists, it’s sooo annoying
In La. one could be octoroon (one-eighth) black and assigned by the state as "black."
This is like my grandmother. She didn't want anyone to know. We didn't find out until after she passes away.
Legend has it the lady in the back is still shaking her head ...😏
UTURN 😂
The Truth So what how is my comment going to effect you so bad you have to reply lol being corny is played out
UTURN
😁 lol
UTURN 😂😂
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Imagine making friends and marrying people that hate you? That hate your child? So sad.
NEVER!!!!!!!!
No, horrible
It's not hate. My grandmother is listed as Hispanic/Native American on her wedding certificate. She was actually Black/White but in the 1920s that was the only way she could marry her White husband since it was against the law. My grandfather of course knew his wife's background since they grew up in the same neighborhood. People did what they could to survive because of love. Unfortunately at the time that is how you had to work the system.
YES ! I HAD A BLACK FRIEND WHO RELIZED I WAS PART WHITE AND ABANDONED ME !
They didn't necessarily hate her, that is an assumption. We don't know what they would have thought because they never knew. When you love somebody that makes you reexamine social ideas you may have previously had in a different light. It may have highlighted the uselessness of the prevailing bigotry of the time, which was how they were taught to think. We shouldn't underestimate the goodness of people.
Good gracious look at the stupid remarks about the woman BEHIND the guest. She is an actress and her name is Dee Wallace. The only movies I remember her being in were horror movies.
The blonde woman in the back is going through all the emotions!!!
@@VolumeEleven you’re not black just because you have 1 percent African dna.
@@VolumeEleven I just know you lying 😂😂😂😂💀💀💀💀. Every one body has different percentages of races in them. Mam, you are Not black lol. Ah being one percent is irrelevant. Not trynna be mean but having your username be “ new African” and the playlist of “ your people” showing black people and you clearly having a white face is......a bit disturbing ngl
She’s playing to the camera!!
@@VolumeEleven girl you ain’t black and what’s with your name?
@@DiamondHenry321 not the 1 percent XD as a 100% black person im very offend by her randomness
"B....does that mean black" *dramatic music*
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Jordan L 😂😂😂😂😂😂😱
Jordan L 😂🤣😂🤣
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YO I DIED AT THAT POINT AHAHAH
There are so many stories like this. I have a great-great grandmother that did the same to help free her family from habitual SA during the era of slavery.
This is the generational trauma that is now being uncovered and healed, thanks to the progress of our modern society. We fall short in many categories, but my reaction to this is one of sadness for her mom. To have to live your whole life pretending. That is torture. I am so sad and sorry for her. God bless her in Heaven. This journey was criminal. Why a society can hate someone for something so innate is beyond me.
The nodding lady behind her is driving me nuts.
she just has a lot of feelings
Oh no I didn't notice till now... thanks -_-
It's always the lady's in the back
She doing too much lol😆
Why? All she is doing is nodding lol... not a reason to get irritated.
What if the dad and mother were both hiding being black and then BOOM they have a dark skined baby 😂😂
Skinned*
That would have been hilarious. I've seen it happen with redheads, it can happen with black couples and white couples. Sometimes with mixed race couples, the kids come out looking like they are from totally different races and even different nationalities tgan the parents.
😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
THAT has happened before. It's crazy. You never know how DNA will express itself. Best to be honest upfront.
You laugh, but surely this has happened to folks on several occasions. The Appalachian Mountains have been loaded up with these types!
Bless her Sorry Soul may she find PEACE now R I P🙏♥️🙏
I had chills
I was surprised that no one mentioned how genuine Gail seem. It doesn’t seem like she has a craving for being black or anything like that. Just sounds like a young woman who wanted to really learn who her mom is. RIP to her mother.
"Craving for being black" what the f does this mean?
@@marisamendes6894 I think they mean that a lot of people try to prove that they’re not racist because they have black grandparents
@@marisamendes6894 bro it just means she wasn’t over obsessed with being black 🤦🏽♀️
@@Itsmeealiciaa_ Exactly I have a little African DNA, and I see it as just a part of what makes me, me!
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Woman in the back ends racism with each nod of her head
A. A. V ❤️❤️
A. A. V 😂😂😂😂😂
Lmfaooooo 😂😂😂😂
LMAOOOO THOUGHT. I WAS THE ONLY ONE WHO NOTICED
gaby nieves
Lol😃 i thought i was the only one that notice it
Hey I want to see the rest of the show.
I enjoyed watching, very entertaining. THANK YOU 🌷 👌🏽
This really saddens me. Her mother could not live as her true self her ENTIRE life. The anxiety she must have had.. I'm surprised she didn't have a heart attack while pregnant just hoping her baby wouldn't be of dark skin. Wow..
@@Kathy-pr4wu I’m sure it wasn’t that she didn’t want to live as her true self. Her life was no doubt worlds easier being able to pass as white back in those days 😞
@@Kathy-pr4wu you are certainly right about that!
I feel like saying being black was her true self is adherring to the one drop rule. Why is it that she's black? WHY can't she be white?
@@rubenaalexander5007 ... because she isn't white lol
@@rubenaalexander5007 you don't choose race honey