The middle child usually is the most observant, as they get to notice things that are easily overlooked by everyone else. Or so that was my cousin's experience, at least.
@@trinaq Ah, so he became an accountant to finally get some attention for his "skills"? Sounds like the perfect way to stand out when you're sandwiched between two sisters.
The eldest is often very observant as they have to look after the younger siblings and often grow earlier than the rest due to their sense of responsibility
as the middle child who is the only one living in a different state of the country and who grew up as an overachiever... this resonates especially the part about being able to have a broader perspective of the family. i was the first one to get therapy, managed to get my little brother to do it too and also convinced my older sister
I'm the stereotypical middle child. I have anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder, smarter than my siblings. My sister was a star ballot dancer, and my brother was super hyperactive. She got the praise he got the attention.
Well, maybe you're just too focused on being the "middle child" and not realizing that your problems and feelings are more a result of your perception than reality. We all face difficulties, but sitting and making excuses with the "middle child syndrome" probably won't help.
i’m painfully stereotypical as a middle kid: academically gifted, band nerd, black sheep, my older & younger sisters were both popular cheerleaders and younger sis was also the ballet dancer. i was always ‘so-and-so’s sister’, learned to be quiet so my more outspoken siblings could get what they needed. at 26 i was diagnosed autistic and adhd, and unfortunately also cptsd after going my whole life undiagnosed/unaccommodated. it makes so much of my life make so much sense and my psychiatrist has been incredibly helpful in managing my symptoms ❤
You’re showing incredible strength by coming to terms with these challenges and receiving diagnoses that finally explain so much of your life. It’s a huge accomplishment to find support and professional help, and I’m confident that with your approach and determination, you’ll be able to handle any obstacles. Wishing you the best of luck on this journey - may each step bring you closer to a more peaceful and balanced life! You’re strong, never forget that. 💙
Being the oldest and being the youngest each have their own unique set of benefits and drawbacks. Statistics show that first borns usually have higher I.Q.'s than their younger siblings. That is a benefit to being the oldest sibling, that middle kids and last borns will not experience. However, being the oldest is not all rainbows and lollipops. Oldest siblings are sometimes parentified. Furthermore, oldest siblings often struggle to share mom and dad's love and attention with a new arrival. You do not have to worry about this as a youngest sibling. When you are the middle child, it is the worst of both worlds. The burden of looking after your youger sibling(s) is placed on your shoulders (as is the case withe the oldest) but unlike the oldest, you never got to experience being an only child. Obviously being parentified is an issue for first borns just as much as it is for middle kids if not more, but at least the oldest gets to be left in charge when mom and dad are not home. You experience the responsibility without the freedom and power when you are the middle child.
It seems like you're too fixated on your role in the family and how you feel you lack attention and privileges. Sure, it's tough - being the middle or oldest child - but that doesn't justify getting stuck in these feelings. You talk about the "parentified" role of the oldest, but doesn't that make you question your own independence? And why are you so focused on what you didn’t get, thinking you should have? That just strengthens your role as the "responsibility bearer" in the family, rather than as an individual. You say you feel a lack of freedom, but maybe it's not that you don’t have it, but rather that you don't know how to claim it? Perhaps it's time to look at these feelings from a different perspective and try to find your own path, instead of staying stuck in old roles.
Speaking as the quote unquote "baby" I was never afforded these luxuries you speak of, I was actually treated as the one who all of the pressure was put on to "do good" while my 5+ year old brother was coddled. I will say one thing about us "babies" we tend to be the rebellious ones though. True for me, and many I know. We also are the ones (well rounded or not) who end up being unique and rather different from our f*ck*d up families.
I’m the middle child, my dad a middle child (also with an older brother and younger sister) and his dad a child of many. Every now and then I’d get a wink, a nudge, A free pass or a “just don’t tell x”. Only ever by them. Despite having little else in common… As we know well, a middle child is only usually advocated for by the middle child. I was just lucky there was another in the house, I suppose!
Well, maybe it's not as bad as you're making it out to be. Perhaps you should just try solving the problem with alcohol - relax, forget everything, and enjoy the moment.
Middle child *raises hand*. Two older brothers, a year apart and two twin younger sisters (much worse them being twins.). So my two brothers would stick together and my two younger sisters would stick together and I was just kinda there 🙈
@@PrincessLioness Dick Grayson was the first so the big bro the gold standard, Jason was next in line, Tim was the one who actively chose to be Robin after Jason died. And that was the status quo for a long time until Damian. Even still Jason is still the most well rounded the one who doesn’t have a standout trait like his ‘brothers’ do. Dick has charisma and leadership, Tim is the most brilliant even Batman envies his detective skills, and Damian is the most skilled warrior.
This video got so many things wrong. I am so sick and tired of the eldests being portrayed as the one who grows up too fast and carries all the burden, the broken one, etc and the youngests as the ones with the sweet spot and all the love. From this video one would think the world is soo black and white, when the reality of so many eldests and youngests is soo different. While so many eldests do deal with too much too early on, many of them abandon their responsibilities, many of them do lack maturity, many of them are a nightmare sibling, not a saint. Yes, many of them are so caring and helpful etc, many of them couldn't care less, many of them use the eldest position as a priviledge ( not the youngest ! ). I am so tired of especially eldest daughters pretending like all of them are the only traumatised and broken family member, many of them had a normal family and they will never admit it, never. The youngests on the other hand get so much rep as a nightmare child, as a slacker, as the one who gets away with everything. Especially youngest boys are always stereotypicaly dumb. This is unfair, because many of them end up having to gather the pieces after the eldest if it's 2 of them. Many of them get told to do the eldest's chores, many of them end up in the shadow, many of them are brilliant and many of them are just as traumatised as the eldests and are just as much of a solid rock and an angel as the eldests. See, I say this as a middle child. Life is not black and white, not all families are the same, not all sibling dynamics are the same as one would think from this video, given it only mainly focuses on 2 things and the battered ones as well. Middle children aren't just the " overlooked ones " or " overachivers for attention / neglect " etc. While I agree that we do get a confusing feedback this video just further adds to the echochamber of middle children only having the same 3 struggles / mutual experience. We are much more than just the sibling who didn't get the stick, there's much more that impacts us in good and bad ways.
This is going to be a personal rant so feel free to skate on by and enjoy the rest of the comments, there are a lot of really cool ones. I've watched the eldest child episode and now I've watched the middle child episode and i can't help but feel after reading so many comments in both videos that, i just don't have a regular family. Because my older brothers and sisters don't act at all like how most older siblings act and the same goes for the middle children. I'm the youngest and i never got all the love and attention, always being taken care of an babied. I was always left alone and ignored, if anything my older sister was given everything and moon all the time, nothing i did was good enough and nothing i did was ever praised. when ever i did do something i felt was right for me i was treated poorly because of it, it made it hard to establish boundaries through out my life because I'm always trampled on. I wish i could watch these videos and feel seen but i just can't.
You have a different dynamic because yours is not typical. Gleaning from your statement, your family revolves around your older sister (is she the eldest, by any chance?) - it might be a case of some form of narcissistic tendencies going on within your family dynamic (Golden Child / Scapegoat Child / Invisible Child). I feel you, you are not alone. Carry on and do your own thing and be brilliant! 😉 ~ from a middle child / truth seer / scapegoated (black sheep & proud) adult child of that kind of family
I was the baby for 11 years, the middle child for 8 years and the oldest for the last 15 years. Hands down being the middle child was the absolute worst. With a sick older sister and a little baby I was like a ghost in my house. An over achieving ghost but a ghost nonetheless.
Was the middle child until my parents got divorced always thought Id get more attention from them after they separated then when my mom got married to my step dad I got two step siblings and a half brother always felt neglected and felt like I had to raise and take care of myself always felt like they never had time for me unless it was about school or sports
I feel that my family dynamic is kind of opposite to the stereotype. I am the youngest of 3 kids of straight boomer parents so you’d think we’d fit into the typical archetypes. But we don’t. My mom had her first son with her hs bf who was not a good person and she escaped him with my half brother a year later. Then she put herself through college and grad school while working as a single mom. My oldest brother has ADHD and unfortunately absorbed a lot of the toxicity from his dad’s influence and was a very troubled child, getting detention, bad grades, and being a bully despite my mom’s best efforts. My mom met my dad when she was 25 and they married 2 years later. My second brother was born in ‘96 when my half brother was 10 and I was born in ‘98. I’m the only girl. My dad did his best with my oldest brother, but he continued to be very troubled. He was constantly in trouble, he barely managed to keep his grades high enough to stay on the swim team, and by the time he graduated, my mom had sent him to live with his dad multiple times because she had found him being physically abusive to his dog and to me and my other brother. Later, he went to college on a swim scholarship. He’s married now to an equally heinous wife and I haven’t spoken to him in years because he’s literally the impetuous of my PTSD. My second brother is really smart and creative and he’s a talented musician and athlete. He’s also a space cadet and too trusting and by high school, his previously successful academics were failing, he was really depressed due to this, and was being influenced by really awful people in his friend group. My parents were more strict and vigilant after my oldest brother’s misbehaving, but he brought it to a whole new level. He had a possession charge by age 17 and got expelled and barely passed getting a GED when he had previously been getting straight A’s at a college prep academy. By the time I, the only girl, came along, my parents were extremely strict and they expected perfection. While my older brother was allowed to go unchaperoned with his friends at 12, I was only allowed to go unchaperoned with my friends at 16. When my dad taught my half brother to drive at 14, and let him go driving alone with only a permit, my parents wouldn’t let me drive alone until I’d had my license for over a year. My grades were better than my brothers. I studied more than my brothers. I had more extracurriculars than my brothers. At 19, my oldest brother had a torn rotator cuff, no swim scholarship, and was flunking out of college. At 19, my middle brother was taking a class at ASU (and failing) and working at a circle K and giving Bob Marley a run for his money. At 19, I graduated with 4.0 GPA with honors, matriculated to cu Boulder with a full ride, had danced professionally with ballet Austin for 6 months while finishing my junior year of hs online until a broken spine ended my ballet career (but I still managed to make varsity swim my senior year), and had gotten an internship at the German embassy as translator. Today, I and my partner rent a house together. It’s super clean and I’m an amazing vegan home cook, I’ve rescued 3 cats, I’ve sold a cook book, I speak 3 languages, and I’m a successful yoga instructor. Oh, and I do fitness modeling on the side for extra cash. My brothers are both total messes the oldest keeps getting fired from jobs that have nothing to do with his expertise because he’s a jerk, his wife is the meanest person I’ve ever met, and he is incapable of being in a room with me without insulting my appearance or lifestyle for longer than 5 minutes. My other brother just got a DUI, is taking horrible care of himself, and I have to go to his house once a week to bring him healthy food and clean up his house because otherwise he just eats fast food and leaves everything dirty. And do you want to know who my parents constantly pester about not living up to their expectations? Me. “Why did you leave the church?” “Why aren’t you dating a nice Mormon boy” “If you insist on being with that Persian heretic, can’t he at least marry you?” “When will you have babies?” “I miss when you weren’t vegan” “Its sweet that you took 3 years to veganize the family cook books, but it’s just not as good. Can’t you just use real meat and dairy when you cook thanksgiving dinner?” “You had such a promising career in interpretation, I’ll never understand why you gave up on your degree to be a yoga teacher. Oh it’s because you were diagnosed with PTSD and social anxiety and your therapist recommended that you don’t pursue a career that requires traveling all the time and talking to people all over the world including diplomats, military leaders, and traveling to war zones? Well, I don’t know if therapy is all that, maybe if you prayed more you’d me more comfortable interpreting for natural gas executives in Switzerland.” “When are you going to have grandkids? You’re not getting any younger!” I’ve talked to one of my brothers about this. He doesn’t get ANY of the same pressure. And he feels really bad for me and even a little guilty because he thinks that if he’d been a little more successful, my parents would put less pressure on me. I might be the youngest. And I might even be my parents’ favorite. But I have all the responsibilities and expectations. When I told my mom that my career goal with my partner was to buy a ranch in Montana and turn it into an animal sanctuary, she said “make sure there’s a room in the house for me!” She expects that I’m the one who’s going to take care of her. Which is fine, I love my mom, but also… haven’t I done enough?
Yes I wish they talked about the last hope trope more. Youngest children only get to be carefree if their older siblings aren’t considered screw ups. I had friends in high school who were over achievers because they were seen their parents last hope for a successful child.
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@@queenemma5823Hmm, they did an eldest video, and middle video, so nope! Looks like they're not going to ever do youngest I guess! It doesn't seem like they're going in order or anything! 😂 You're definitely the youngest child lol
Honestly, the first middle child I ever actually liked was Corey Matthews from Boy Meets World, but the onscreen middle child I identify with most is actually Piper Halliwell from the original Charmed series
As a Southeast asian Middle child, I found joy in invisibility..i like my own company too much.. having a husband who is the eldest still finds it weird..
Honestly surprised that Lisa Simpson wasn’t featured here. True, she’s been analyzed to death and other places, but she would’ve been a perfect fit for this video.
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The middle child usually is the most observant, as they get to notice things that are easily overlooked by everyone else. Or so that was my cousin's experience, at least.
It's interesting that your cousin's "observational" skills are so well-developed, yet he still ended up as the middle child.
@T.U.G._Alétheon Yep, he's the only boy between two sisters, and he grew up to be an accountant, which is all about noticing details.
@@trinaq Ah, so he became an accountant to finally get some attention for his "skills"? Sounds like the perfect way to stand out when you're sandwiched between two sisters.
@@T.U.G._Alétheon Yes, precisely. They're more loud and creative, while he balanced them out by being quieter and logical.
The eldest is often very observant as they have to look after the younger siblings and often grow earlier than the rest due to their sense of responsibility
as the middle child who is the only one living in a different state of the country and who grew up as an overachiever... this resonates
especially the part about being able to have a broader perspective of the family. i was the first one to get therapy, managed to get my little brother to do it too and also convinced my older sister
Oh, you're a real manipulator! But I must admit, you handle the situation well.
I’m the middle child and it’s awesome. My sister and brother are my best friends
Same!! ❤😊
I’m the youngest and my siblings are my favorite people ever!!
I'm the stereotypical middle child. I have anxiety, Borderline Personality Disorder, smarter than my siblings. My sister was a star ballot dancer, and my brother was super hyperactive. She got the praise he got the attention.
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Well, maybe you're just too focused on being the "middle child" and not realizing that your problems and feelings are more a result of your perception than reality. We all face difficulties, but sitting and making excuses with the "middle child syndrome" probably won't help.
i’m painfully stereotypical as a middle kid: academically gifted, band nerd, black sheep, my older & younger sisters were both popular cheerleaders and younger sis was also the ballet dancer. i was always ‘so-and-so’s sister’, learned to be quiet so my more outspoken siblings could get what they needed. at 26 i was diagnosed autistic and adhd, and unfortunately also cptsd after going my whole life undiagnosed/unaccommodated. it makes so much of my life make so much sense and my psychiatrist has been incredibly helpful in managing my symptoms ❤
You’re showing incredible strength by coming to terms with these challenges and receiving diagnoses that finally explain so much of your life. It’s a huge accomplishment to find support and professional help, and I’m confident that with your approach and determination, you’ll be able to handle any obstacles. Wishing you the best of luck on this journey - may each step bring you closer to a more peaceful and balanced life! You’re strong, never forget that. 💙
As a middle child this is very true in my life. Lisa Simpson, Laura and Malcolm got me through childhood.
I'm sure it developed in you the ability to seek comfort in fictional characters because the real world wasn't always that attentive.
Great video. I can't believe Lisa Simpson was left out - classic middle child 🙂
Being the oldest and being the youngest each have their own unique set of benefits and drawbacks.
Statistics show that first borns usually have higher I.Q.'s than their younger siblings. That is a benefit to being the oldest sibling, that middle kids and last borns will not experience. However, being the oldest is not all rainbows and lollipops. Oldest siblings are sometimes parentified. Furthermore, oldest siblings often struggle to share mom and dad's love and attention with a new arrival. You do not have to worry about this as a youngest sibling.
When you are the middle child, it is the worst of both worlds. The burden of looking after your youger sibling(s) is placed on your shoulders (as is the case withe the oldest) but unlike the oldest, you never got to experience being an only child. Obviously being parentified is an issue for first borns just as much as it is for middle kids if not more, but at least the oldest gets to be left in charge when mom and dad are not home. You experience the responsibility without the freedom and power when you are the middle child.
It seems like you're too fixated on your role in the family and how you feel you lack attention and privileges. Sure, it's tough - being the middle or oldest child - but that doesn't justify getting stuck in these feelings. You talk about the "parentified" role of the oldest, but doesn't that make you question your own independence? And why are you so focused on what you didn’t get, thinking you should have? That just strengthens your role as the "responsibility bearer" in the family, rather than as an individual.
You say you feel a lack of freedom, but maybe it's not that you don’t have it, but rather that you don't know how to claim it? Perhaps it's time to look at these feelings from a different perspective and try to find your own path, instead of staying stuck in old roles.
Speaking as the quote unquote "baby" I was never afforded these luxuries you speak of, I was actually treated as the one who all of the pressure was put on to "do good" while my 5+ year old brother was coddled. I will say one thing about us "babies" we tend to be the rebellious ones though. True for me, and many I know. We also are the ones (well rounded or not) who end up being unique and rather different from our f*ck*d up families.
We dont say "quote unquote" in written communication as you can actually see the quotes 😂😂😂
This is a unique feature in verbal communication
I’m the middle child, my dad a middle child (also with an older brother and younger sister) and his dad a child of many.
Every now and then I’d get a wink, a nudge, A free pass or a “just don’t tell x”. Only ever by them. Despite having little else in common…
As we know well, a middle child is only usually advocated for by the middle child. I was just lucky there was another in the house, I suppose!
To be fair the youngest does get infantilized and our older siblings resent us for things our parents did
Well, maybe it's not as bad as you're making it out to be. Perhaps you should just try solving the problem with alcohol - relax, forget everything, and enjoy the moment.
Middle child *raises hand*. Two older brothers, a year apart and two twin younger sisters (much worse them being twins.). So my two brothers would stick together and my two younger sisters would stick together and I was just kinda there 🙈
Vanessa Huxtable was one of the greatest middle child characters ever.
Should've included Kerry from "8 Simple Rules" and Corey from "Boy Meets World".
Especially Kerry
Well, just go ahead and add them, what are you waiting for?
This is why Jason Todd is my favorite of Batman’s Robins.
Isn’t Tim Drake also a middle child? I feel like the dynamic is different when there more than 3 kids.
@@PrincessLioness Dick Grayson was the first so the big bro the gold standard, Jason was next in line, Tim was the one who actively chose to be Robin after Jason died. And that was the status quo for a long time until Damian. Even still Jason is still the most well rounded the one who doesn’t have a standout trait like his ‘brothers’ do. Dick has charisma and leadership, Tim is the most brilliant even Batman envies his detective skills, and Damian is the most skilled warrior.
sad Sue from The Middle wasn’t here
Why haven’t you not included Greg Heffley from Diary Of Wimpy Kid ?
This one hits home for me because I was the 5th child out of 10.
This video got so many things wrong. I am so sick and tired of the eldests being portrayed as the one who grows up too fast and carries all the burden, the broken one, etc and the youngests as the ones with the sweet spot and all the love. From this video one would think the world is soo black and white, when the reality of so many eldests and youngests is soo different. While so many eldests do deal with too much too early on, many of them abandon their responsibilities, many of them do lack maturity, many of them are a nightmare sibling, not a saint. Yes, many of them are so caring and helpful etc, many of them couldn't care less, many of them use the eldest position as a priviledge ( not the youngest ! ). I am so tired of especially eldest daughters pretending like all of them are the only traumatised and broken family member, many of them had a normal family and they will never admit it, never.
The youngests on the other hand get so much rep as a nightmare child, as a slacker, as the one who gets away with everything. Especially youngest boys are always stereotypicaly dumb. This is unfair, because many of them end up having to gather the pieces after the eldest if it's 2 of them. Many of them get told to do the eldest's chores, many of them end up in the shadow, many of them are brilliant and many of them are just as traumatised as the eldests and are just as much of a solid rock and an angel as the eldests.
See, I say this as a middle child. Life is not black and white, not all families are the same, not all sibling dynamics are the same as one would think from this video, given it only mainly focuses on 2 things and the battered ones as well.
Middle children aren't just the " overlooked ones " or " overachivers for attention / neglect " etc. While I agree that we do get a confusing feedback this video just further adds to the echochamber of middle children only having the same 3 struggles / mutual experience. We are much more than just the sibling who didn't get the stick, there's much more that impacts us in good and bad ways.
I will never see Dawn Wiener without feeling deep sadness.
U should mention stuck in the middle and loud house those shows are about that
I feel that,the story of my life in a nutshell
But I am proud to be one for good reasons
This is going to be a personal rant so feel free to skate on by and enjoy the rest of the comments, there are a lot of really cool ones.
I've watched the eldest child episode and now I've watched the middle child episode and i can't help but feel after reading so many comments in both videos that, i just don't have a regular family. Because my older brothers and sisters don't act at all like how most older siblings act and the same goes for the middle children. I'm the youngest and i never got all the love and attention, always being taken care of an babied. I was always left alone and ignored, if anything my older sister was given everything and moon all the time, nothing i did was good enough and nothing i did was ever praised. when ever i did do something i felt was right for me i was treated poorly because of it, it made it hard to establish boundaries through out my life because I'm always trampled on.
I wish i could watch these videos and feel seen but i just can't.
You have a different dynamic because yours is not typical. Gleaning from your statement, your family revolves around your older sister (is she the eldest, by any chance?) - it might be a case of some form of narcissistic tendencies going on within your family dynamic (Golden Child / Scapegoat Child / Invisible Child). I feel you, you are not alone. Carry on and do your own thing and be brilliant! 😉 ~ from a middle child / truth seer / scapegoated (black sheep & proud) adult child of that kind of family
@@ALDAPalda10 you're so sweet, thank you, that really made my day
@@pamtown666 Ditto. You're welcome!
Me waiting to see Junior from Black-Ish
He is not the middle child anymore
Do more Malcolm in the middle video please!
I was the baby for 11 years, the middle child for 8 years and the oldest for the last 15 years.
Hands down being the middle child was the absolute worst. With a sick older sister and a little baby I was like a ghost in my house. An over achieving ghost but a ghost nonetheless.
Was the middle child until my parents got divorced always thought Id get more attention from them after they separated then when my mom got married to my step dad I got two step siblings and a half brother always felt neglected and felt like I had to raise and take care of myself always felt like they never had time for me unless it was about school or sports
Thank you, i am feeling….seen
I feel that my family dynamic is kind of opposite to the stereotype. I am the youngest of 3 kids of straight boomer parents so you’d think we’d fit into the typical archetypes. But we don’t. My mom had her first son with her hs bf who was not a good person and she escaped him with my half brother a year later. Then she put herself through college and grad school while working as a single mom. My oldest brother has ADHD and unfortunately absorbed a lot of the toxicity from his dad’s influence and was a very troubled child, getting detention, bad grades, and being a bully despite my mom’s best efforts.
My mom met my dad when she was 25 and they married 2 years later. My second brother was born in ‘96 when my half brother was 10 and I was born in ‘98. I’m the only girl. My dad did his best with my oldest brother, but he continued to be very troubled. He was constantly in trouble, he barely managed to keep his grades high enough to stay on the swim team, and by the time he graduated, my mom had sent him to live with his dad multiple times because she had found him being physically abusive to his dog and to me and my other brother. Later, he went to college on a swim scholarship. He’s married now to an equally heinous wife and I haven’t spoken to him in years because he’s literally the impetuous of my PTSD.
My second brother is really smart and creative and he’s a talented musician and athlete. He’s also a space cadet and too trusting and by high school, his previously successful academics were failing, he was really depressed due to this, and was being influenced by really awful people in his friend group. My parents were more strict and vigilant after my oldest brother’s misbehaving, but he brought it to a whole new level. He had a possession charge by age 17 and got expelled and barely passed getting a GED when he had previously been getting straight A’s at a college prep academy.
By the time I, the only girl, came along, my parents were extremely strict and they expected perfection. While my older brother was allowed to go unchaperoned with his friends at 12, I was only allowed to go unchaperoned with my friends at 16. When my dad taught my half brother to drive at 14, and let him go driving alone with only a permit, my parents wouldn’t let me drive alone until I’d had my license for over a year. My grades were better than my brothers. I studied more than my brothers. I had more extracurriculars than my brothers. At 19, my oldest brother had a torn rotator cuff, no swim scholarship, and was flunking out of college. At 19, my middle brother was taking a class at ASU (and failing) and working at a circle K and giving Bob Marley a run for his money. At 19, I graduated with 4.0 GPA with honors, matriculated to cu Boulder with a full ride, had danced professionally with ballet Austin for 6 months while finishing my junior year of hs online until a broken spine ended my ballet career (but I still managed to make varsity swim my senior year), and had gotten an internship at the German embassy as translator. Today, I and my partner rent a house together. It’s super clean and I’m an amazing vegan home cook, I’ve rescued 3 cats, I’ve sold a cook book, I speak 3 languages, and I’m a successful yoga instructor. Oh, and I do fitness modeling on the side for extra cash. My brothers are both total messes the oldest keeps getting fired from jobs that have nothing to do with his expertise because he’s a jerk, his wife is the meanest person I’ve ever met, and he is incapable of being in a room with me without insulting my appearance or lifestyle for longer than 5 minutes. My other brother just got a DUI, is taking horrible care of himself, and I have to go to his house once a week to bring him healthy food and clean up his house because otherwise he just eats fast food and leaves everything dirty. And do you want to know who my parents constantly pester about not living up to their expectations? Me.
“Why did you leave the church?” “Why aren’t you dating a nice Mormon boy” “If you insist on being with that Persian heretic, can’t he at least marry you?” “When will you have babies?” “I miss when you weren’t vegan” “Its sweet that you took 3 years to veganize the family cook books, but it’s just not as good. Can’t you just use real meat and dairy when you cook thanksgiving dinner?” “You had such a promising career in interpretation, I’ll never understand why you gave up on your degree to be a yoga teacher. Oh it’s because you were diagnosed with PTSD and social anxiety and your therapist recommended that you don’t pursue a career that requires traveling all the time and talking to people all over the world including diplomats, military leaders, and traveling to war zones? Well, I don’t know if therapy is all that, maybe if you prayed more you’d me more comfortable interpreting for natural gas executives in Switzerland.” “When are you going to have grandkids? You’re not getting any younger!”
I’ve talked to one of my brothers about this. He doesn’t get ANY of the same pressure. And he feels really bad for me and even a little guilty because he thinks that if he’d been a little more successful, my parents would put less pressure on me. I might be the youngest. And I might even be my parents’ favorite. But I have all the responsibilities and expectations. When I told my mom that my career goal with my partner was to buy a ranch in Montana and turn it into an animal sanctuary, she said “make sure there’s a room in the house for me!” She expects that I’m the one who’s going to take care of her. Which is fine, I love my mom, but also… haven’t I done enough?
Yes I wish they talked about the last hope trope more. Youngest children only get to be carefree if their older siblings aren’t considered screw ups. I had friends in high school who were over achievers because they were seen their parents last hope for a successful child.
Jan Brady!
The middle child in Disney shows are either evil or mischievous
omg. im not alone
Thanks so much for watching! If you're a Middle Child, which on screen middle child do *you* most relate to?
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Lisa Simpson ❤
Y’all gonna do the youngest child at some point? I think there’s a lot there to discuss (but I’m also the youngest, so I’m biased)
@@queenemma5823Hmm, they did an eldest video, and middle video, so nope! Looks like they're not going to ever do youngest I guess! It doesn't seem like they're going in order or anything! 😂 You're definitely the youngest child lol
Honestly, the first middle child I ever actually liked was Corey Matthews from Boy Meets World, but the onscreen middle child I identify with most is actually Piper Halliwell from the original Charmed series
This video didn’t have the associated shows/movies named in the bottom corner as you usually do. I’m curious what many of these clips are from!
As a Southeast asian Middle child,
I found joy in invisibility..i like my own company too much.. having a husband who is the eldest still finds it weird..
It feels weird having “Stuck in the Middle” in the title, but not talking about the show “Stuck in the Middle”.
Now hear me out; the middle child who is also autistic :=)
Let's not do abelism
@@MakaylaWilliams-y3c What do you mean by this?
@ajhebb you're not a doctor
@@MakaylaWilliams-y3cThey're not diagnosing anyone, just saying what about middle children who ARE ALSO Autistic.
Don’t get me started
Middle millennial homies where y'all at?
Maturity is admitting that Alex was the hot Dunphy sister
Honestly surprised that Lisa Simpson wasn’t featured here. True, she’s been analyzed to death and other places, but she would’ve been a perfect fit for this video.
I’m not really a middle child. My brother is a year older and he is middle. I feel I should relate be middle child but no genius.
Im my family, we have the youngest chils syndrome ( me) cause i always get left out
Where piper Halliwell for charmed
where is Lisa Simpson in this video?
I can't relate cause I was the youngest in my family.